Sis you are preaching this whole video! Taking thoughts straight out of my mind 😂❤ God bless you...I can only imagine the effort it took to begin and keep contributing to this channel. I so appreciate you for fighting yourself to create encouragement that encourages you all the while. You're a hero! Thank you, this is so relatable ❤🙏
What an inspiring video! I loved what you said and it was so satisfying seeing your house magically go from messy to tidy. Thank you for the encouragement and well done ❤🙏
That's simply not true. People learn and grow all the time. Some may not get it now, but by keeping a warm heart toward them, they may came along and start to see your experience for what is in instead of what they think it will be. Hopefully, we can all extend that same empathy to others, as well
Cleaning videos like this, that are geared toward those of us that are distractable, depressed, perfectionistic-yet-never-get-anything-done… So, SO comforting ‘ helpful!
Absolutely 💯 I'm nodding my head in agreement here...I've always been called a 'procrastinator' but I love that "perfectionist-but-cant-get-things-done' sentence...100 percent 😢
This video speaks to me also. I have not seen this lady before. I will subscribe . My moods, routines and distractions, are challenges are common . I decided that I can turn challenges into pluses. I just need to work with what I'm like. But... that is something that is showing reasonableness, creativity, and kindness toward myself. And it's realistic , considering that my personality can only change so much.
Mac from Midwest Magic Cleaning said the sweetest thing about you this week. While recommending your channel to watch, he also said that even if your content was different than other cleaning channels , that your sweet personality was so lovely that his viewers should go check you out anyway! And i agree. Thank you for sharing yourself with us ❤
Midwest magic cleaning was my original favorite because he not only mentions the odd habits of people with adhd and light hoarding, but he explains the mindset we have too. Then I found REMI CLOG! ❤❤❤❤ it's like cleaning with a bestie that keeps talking so I can focus and not feel the need to talk too😂
I love hearing you speak. Your vice and accent somehow make it more interesting and enjoyable. You are sweet, wise, strong and sensitive. I am motivated to tidy up today. Thank you Remi
I got distracted from this video. Tidied my nightstand. Read a pamphlet on it. Looked up a salon. Looked up tanning salons. Messaged my friend. Ended up on facebook videos. Now I'm back🤣
Is anybody else just playing these videos or repeat when cleaning waiting for the next one? This is the only cleaning vlogger that fills me with motivation to get moving and sort the flat out 😊
What a surprise & pleasure to hear I’m not the only one with problem!My house is sooo depressing! You have given me hope!God bless you for doing this! I’m hooked & waiting for your next video!
I was watching your video and I didn't realise my 9 year old daughter could hear. She was listening to your voiceover and said "isn't she a lovely woman" I couldn't put it better myself ❤
I have been struggling with my depression. When I am depressed I don't clean. Your videos gave me the courage to tell my parent how I was feeling. My parent for the last month or so have finally understood how I struggle. They have helped me by bringing my laundry to me or helping to clean my dishes every now and then. Yesterday they brought me my washing and it motivated me to clean my room. Watching your video today in a clean space is so peaceful. Thank you for letting us know it is okay to fall and get back up! I am so proud of you for all that you have done! ❤
Oh my goodness, first of all I’m SO proud of you for being brave, talking to your parents and accepting help (I know that isn’t easily at all.) Secondly I’m so incredibly grateful for the super thanks, you really didn’t need to do that but I very much appreciate it 🥹 Sending you so much love ❤️
You did so good! I struggle with depression too, and just talking to a loved one and asking for help is the hardest part. You did it! From a random stranger on the internet - I'm proud of you!
no one has any right to call you lazy. when she calls you lazy make sure you tell her that you are NOT lazy and it's not acceptable for her to say that. You don't need anyone's negative comments. Tell her instead of making comments, she can HELP you, although you may not want her around for that LOL
I'm actually crying right now. I feel so validated! I'm 48 and have ADHD. What you said in this video was the story of my entire life! I had always been told that I needed to focus on one area at a time and that bouncing around from room to room meant I wasn't getting anything done. This video proved them all wrong! I'd already been learning, slowly, that I don't have to do all the dishes at one time and I don't have to put away the clean laundry the same day I washed it. But this just helped me realize I've been on the right path all along! Thank you so, so much! 💖
Yes! As long as you have little routines and habits in place that you do every day, it diesn't matter HOW you do them, if HOW you do them is helping you keep things from piling up without burning out. There IS no one way to manage our homes, exceept the way that works for you and your household
@katy8792 that's what I do. I actually use laundry sorters on wheels with hanging detachable bags, so I can choose to either roll the whole sorter (I'm on one floor), or just Take whichever bag want to do. Each sorter only has 2 bags, so our laundry is divided into bleach ables and non-bleachables. It's that easy. The only sorting that's done is we just toss each clothing item into the proper sorter when we get changed. I watch h for super delicate and hand wash items and leave them in the sorter intil I'm ready to fo the hand washable. Also, I even repursed the cute little canvas bagg thst my new dish cloths came in, found a spot in the kitchen to hang it in, and I use that as my kitchen linens laundry bag. I have a spot to hang the cloths if they're wet, let them dry, then put them in the bag. When the bag is full, it's time to run a load. Can you tell I hate sorting piles of laundry? Lol
Hi Remi! I'm the gal who left a comment a week or two ago about finding you early in the morning and having to get to sleep lol well, not only did I come back and watch that video, I kinda obsessively watched several more. What I'd like to tell you though is about my bathtub. Sounds simple and silly but as you yourself seem to understand, the simple and silly can be the hardest. Our town has mineral rich water and turns everything from orange to almost a black mold look. We have gone through so many sickness spells here that everyone had been using the tub non stop. Besides needing cleaned, the tub needed re caulking as well. For some reason, every time my kids were in the tub, the guilt and overwhelm would hit so much harder. I hated for them to be in something looking like that. The more guilt I felt, the more paralyzed I became about doing it. My younger son has severe asthma and I had to do it while he was at preschool so any fumes wouldn't bother him and the clock was ticking because he'd be out for summer soon. So one day, I started watching a video of yours and I decided from something you said, probably start small, or just with one part. That's what I did. I decided I'd just wipe the sides. Not use cleaner or strip the caulking, just a wet wipe while listening to your video. But the funniest thing happened. Between listening to you and just starting, I had momentum. Not only did I wipe, I stripped the caulking, I got out my power scrubber, I cleaned and re caulked. My tub is sparkling still!! It makes me so proud when I walk into the bathroom and see it. All of this just to say, thank you. It's not just the cleaning. It's the relatability. It's the permission you give to not be perfect. That you aren't a bad person when things look a certain way. You are magic ✨ Sending so much love 💕
I’m proud of you too! I’m in Kansas. I’m not sure where you are? We never hear people say they’re proud of us and that’s wrong. Too much. Hate not enough. Love in this world!💙❣️😊
You are making so much sense…from I have to remember to brush my teeth to bouncing from room to room. Sometimes I can set a timer and stay at one task or one room but most often I flit from room to room. I often “give up” because I don’t see the progress and get overwhelmed. I am late 60’s and raising three grandchildren, two of which are developmentally delayed and autistic. You cannot take your eyes off the youngest (almost 10) as he will bounce from thing to thing, or room to room, making mess after mess. I can walk in the kitchen and see the pantry doors are open and he is eating a bag of cookies while also leaving the fridge and freezer doors open, trash and food and toys all over the floor and furniture. All on the two minutes it took me to go to the bathroom. I am exhausted most days and overwhelmed and paralyzed by the magnitude of it all. I make grand plans in my head of what I need to get done but it usually doesnt come to fruition. Thank you for giving me permission to bounce from room to room and back again for o get it done. A little or moderate amount of progress is better than no progress.
Years ago I read someone say that if you tell a child, “ Go do this chore,” it becomes hard work for them but if you do it with them, it becomes a game and fun. You folding laundry with your son gives you a chance to talk with him and is good for your relationship. Good job.
I feel like crying I'm so grateful I've just found your videos. I am so overwhelmed but actually got something done while watching and listening to you this morning, and feeling more positive than I have for a long time. I didn't really know that anyone else got it, or that it was possible. Thank u so much xxxx
Your lovely home starts to feel a little more familiar every video - like the kitchen you’re tidying, that you decluttered weeks before and decorated for Christmas and so on. Hope this doesn’t sound creepy! I just like the thought of having a little familiar space in the World Wide Web to come back to - it’s like watching new episodes of “Friends”
Well done I’m in the middle of having todo the whole house as there is something moving about under the house. I’m finishing off the kitchen tonight after binning two black bags of tins past their date. Steaming the floor and gutting the rest of the cupboards. I’m lucky in that I can be utterly ruthless. Need it all done for Thursday night. Always amazed at how clean your cooker is. Mine is same one it I never seem keep the clean for long
You might be surprised to find that folding clothes together will be as fond a memory for your son as reading together. It’s one of my favorite childhood memories.
Thank you so much for these videos! I’m learning so much about myself. At almost 72, I’ve finally realised I have ADHD… I’m beginning to understand my struggle with organisation and cleaning. Thank you! ❤❤❤
@reefprayerresin I am 67 also. Recently, I went through all the testing to get a diagnosis. It is difficult waiting for results. However, becoming aware of some traits through online testing, reading info about non-typical adhd in women & a lifetime of frustration.... this is me! It is nice to know we are NOT alone!
@@gingersnapjudy - Non-typical adhd in women? It just get curiouser and curiouser….. I’ve never heard of this. Thanks for this, I’ll look into this some more.
@reefprayerresin typical adhd people think of the young boy bouncing around the classroom. Won't sit still. Jumping up to the window because something went by the window. Sits down.. only to jump up again... chattering.. general disturbance in class. Girls/ women are not generally the physically bouncy... It presents with constant scattered thoughts and tasks left half completed. Non-typical That is why it isn't diagnosed in girls as often... because like all fields of medicine... it is aimed at boys/ men. Ex... women that have heart attacks do not generally present with crushing chest pain/ or pain that radiates down the left arm. Those are typical MALE symptoms! Women can have severe indigestion. Pain in the back. Profuse sweating... ( can be confused with hot flashes) Non-typical symptoms.
@reefprayerresin I thought I had responded to your comment but I think I deleted it by accident. Cardiac symptoms are also non-typical in women... usually no crushing chest pain or pain radiating down left arm. Back pain, indigestion, profuse sweating... which can easily be confused with hot flashes. Most medical is based on men. So women issues are overlooked.
My sisters and I joke that this is how we clean our own houses. Bouncing from room to room because you make the bed, and take the sheets to the washing machine, and see clothes ready in the dryer. So you stop and fold those clothes and deliver to a bedroom where you find dishes so you take those to the kitchen and realize you need to empty clean dishes from the dishwasher. Next thing I know , I am redoing my kitchen cabinets and starting a donation box of old coffee mugs. We call it “ when you give a mouse a cookie” cleaning from the Laura J Nemeroff book.
I agree. This is how I clean my house too, or at least tidy up mess. Bounce from room to room, always moving to the place those things in my hand belong, dealing with those, then exiting that room with other things in my hand that have to go to another space, then dealing with those. If only I had 4 hands sometimes, LOL
I call it the Butterfly Method! I've used this all my life! (I'm now 63). It panders to my brain's hard-wired love of novelty. My personal tip for routines I want to stick to is lists in prominent places - and being accepting when I don't manage 100%. Loving your videos.
I never thought of simply embracing the side quests, it feels so much more natural. While staying on one task drains my energy. I need to just do that every time.
This makes me understand why my mother gave us chores as children. I had the living room, dining room, stairs and upstairs hallway, my siblings the kitchen and bathroom. Mom only cleaned on special occasions and made us wash baseboards and paint when needed. Watching you do this alone makes me proud to have been helping her out back then.❤
So glad your mum gave the children chores. We, too, were expected to clean up after ourselves. My mum would never do the cleaning up and tidying i see in this video (messes made by kids). If we didn't clean up our toys, they disappeared for a while. We learned to appreciate them and also experience how much work it was to keep things tidy.
Funny, I found your comment just as she was discussing modelling for kids. I didnt have good modelling, and haven't improved much over time. I'm perfectly honest with my kids about what kind of human I am. They are taught that I need the help, and that I want them to get the practice I never had. They switch off once in a while, so they understand why a sibling is nagging about something (hard to wipe the table when someone didnt pick up their dishes). Not feeling like everything was on me, like Inwas drowning, I was able to make headway on my responsibilities. Now, I am looking at taking back some of the ones they really balk at, and letting them practice something new. At 10, 6, 6 and 38 we are all just beginning to learn what it takes to keep a home
My mom yelled at me throughout my life to clean more while not cleaning often herself. When I would clean she’d tell me how awful I was at whatever task I was busy with. Now as a 45 yr old I. Do not like to clean when my husband is home. I’m scared he’ll think I’m “doing it wrong” because I clean like this. Bouncing around from one room to the next taking forever. If only she would have been kind and patient and taught me like mothers are supposed to do. I’ve had lots of therapy and have come a long way. I’m only half the time thinking I’m “in trouble” with somebody rather than 100% of the time. Kids with adhd get way more criticism than other kids. You had a good mama
Remi, I’m 62 with mild ADD. I struggled when our two sons were little but we got into a great rhythm for housekeeping when they were later grade school and up. But now that they’ve been gone for a few years, I’m just bored of cleaning. Tidying is fine but the baseboards and corners and top of the fridge, Ugh- put off, put off. I’m thrilled to have found you. Your gracious example and kind support are just what so many of us need. We’re in this together, right? Right! And yes! Keep reading to your sons! Great memory making!
When I worked, my house was spotless. Now I'm retired, 66yo, it's messy, dusty, and cluttered. My family keeps telling me I'm depressed. I don't feel depressed. I just have other things I want to do.
Same! It is such a delight i found her longer videos as someone with (mild) adhd and (severe) autism as well 💞 it is so empowering and motivating to hear her highlight the issue. If i would remember the put it back not down rule, i wouldnt need it, right? 😅 the big picture is, you're trying. thats why persistancy is more important than concistency. 😇
Between yours and Mack’s talks. I feel much more relaxed. I can’t help that I have ADHD. I’ve had it all my life. If I miss one day of cleaning and then things are out of hand, then I fell overwhelmed, and it’s so hard to get back on track. Y’all just encourage me so much!
It means everything to hear this!! So pleased to be able to be of some encouragement. And I absolutely adore Mack! He does the same for me, just brings me calm ☺️
OMG!!! I was thinking abt him too as I was listening to Remi!! Remi - I like his talks about different issues or disorders in addition to his helping clean out and make such a difference in someone's house who needs it ❤
These small English houses without a laundry make life so much harder. Young kids plus washing drying all over instantly makes a place look cluttered. It’s not your fault and I think you do extremely well considering you also keep down a job! ❤ thumbs up for doing what you do as well as you do. Great video Remi. 😊
Yes! Her house isn't that messy at all! If she didn't have to have laundry drying everywhere, she'd have so much more time, too. Why don't they have dryers?
@@CBMcDIwe have a similar sized home to Remi, with the washing machine in the kitchen. Some people do have driers here in the UK but they are very expensive to run (electricity is very costly here) and there’s often no space for one, or space for a dishwasher either. I’m just reading comments before watching the video so can’t comment on what Remi does, but for our family, we dry outside when it’s nice weather or we use a heated ‘clothes horse’/drying rails (the Lakeland one). Got it down to a fine art to know how much it can hold… takes about 7hrs to dry a load, so one load a day is easily manageable.
@@CBMcDI A few reasons. The environment, cost of electricity, limited space in our kitchens and also that a lot of us believe it is better for the longevity of clothes to air dry them.
You’re speaking to me here. “My household is all the same” coming from another neurodivergent household thank you for putting this content out here for us ❤
5:50 OMG!! everyone talks to me about habits and how powerful they are and no one has understood this, but this is EXACTLY what it’s like for me!! i feel a little validated
I really wished I could show you, how much your videos have helped me. I watch some every day, sometimes the same one three times or more. And I managed to scrub my complete kitchen, inside and out. I don't think it was this clean since I moved in here. I managed to get rid of furniture, and turned my living room into my dream craft room. This morning I watched this video, then I happily went outside and started in my garden. Now I am watching again, and am optimistic, again, that I can finish tomorrow. You are wonderful 😊
I figured out awhile ago that I am definitely a ping pong cleaner. Like you describe, if I focus on only one room, it will never get done. If I ping pong, everything is a little bit better. I do get frustrated by it, though, because at some point I go back to the original thing and go, "Ugh, this is what I need to focus on." That's not every day, just when for some reason, something needs to get finished that day.
Hi Remi, I just want to say I love what you do and how you do it. I am 57 and have in the last couple of years developed Peripheral Neuropathy possibly from auto immune malfunction from Covid Vax's. Anyway my whole world came crashing down around my ears, my favorite past times, travel, and keeping house. Things started getting on top of me. So I disappeared into the world of You Tube and like a beacon of light found your channel. You are an amazing woman, your upbeat sprightly style blended with a dose of real lfe chaos are a breath of freash air and helped me tackle my house hold chores, starting with one drawer or cupboard at a time. Slowly and surely I am having more rest which equals more energy which equals more satisfaction from completing little jobs...if you do enough little jobs the magic happens. So thank you xx keep being you...I love how you do your videos and feel privilaged to get to know your family too.❤
@@EconMBAStudent thank you so much. Still a day by day battle until I get to see a neurologist to confidently diagnose and point me in the direction of remedial cure. Fingers crossed not too much longer to wait :)
I struggle so hard with guilt when I don’t get anything done. I struggle with getting motivated and then find myself getting distracted or my husband asks me to help him with his projects and I get pulled away and then poof! I can’t start again. I love hearing your encouragement, same frustrations, and good self talk so it doesn’t feel like I’m the only one struggling!! ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video. This is how I clean but always feel guilty because most RUclips cleaning people tell you not to leave a space until your done. Then I would get frustrated and quit for the whole rest of the day. I really appreciated the statement you made in the beginning of just keep going. You are so sweet and inciteful and I love listening to your non-judgmental words of wisdom. Please don’t ever stop ❤
Literally every bit of what you’ve said here is my life to a T….. I cannot tell you how much of a comfort it is to see someone in my same mental state do cleaning and tidy videos. You’re amazing.
Oh my goodness, where have you been all this time? I only just found your channel and I'm in love. You're so honest, sweet, funny, well spoken, open minded and non judgemental. Thumbs Up to you girl!!!
Oh Remi. I literally live for these videos right now - you are such a ray of hope and inspiration. I have had some real struggles lately and hearing your voiceovers is so motivational. From the bottom of my heart - thank you for working to make these videos - they make a huge impact for us viewers❤
Thank you Remi! I see so much of myself in the video. I love your advice . I’m a 62 year old who has always struggled with cleaning,especially when my children were little. I also go from chore to chore as I get distracted easily so much of the time. It’s a relief to see I am not the only one.
Dear Remi, I am so there at the moment, I am a 50 year old mom living in South Africa, I feel so overwhelmed since October last year, we've had to move to a new house and even now living in our beautiful house, I just cannot seem to get myself motivated to get everything unpacked and sorted. This video was a suggestion by YT, I feel more hopeful and I can absolutely see the benefit of this method clear as day. Thank you so very much for this video and your narration. I am definitely going to give this a try tomorrow. My problem is the experienced trauma during this past 9 months and lack of interest in anything and mostly anxiety due to my current state. I know for a fact that the minute I have accomplished anything it will turn my mindset around, but getting there is 80% of my struggle, I feel really crippled by anxiety, depression and helplesness at the moment.
I too have moved many times and it is overwhelming. I am in the same place right now. Moved back to an old apartment after being gone for 9 months, experienced trauma due to too many moves in my life, wondering if I will ever be settled. Sorting, putting things away, goodwill this, throw away that, it is overwhelming and never ending. Moving trauma paralyzes me. I've moved too many times, not that I wanted to, it was due to trauma, family events, divorce, financial difficulties, etc. Other people have beautiful organized homes and it is my dream, it is so hard for me, I become paralyzed and hope this video and this way of working will work for me. I hate cleaning and I hate clutter more, it is a mental health issue, and an ADHD issue and trauma related. I too feel crippled by anxiety, depression, and lack of energy and motivation. It is so hard for me, hopefully this method will help. Remi understands and explains how difficult it is for some of us so well, I never put it together, I just thought I was incompetent. I will try this method tomorrow and pray I can get through this! I realized it is more than cleaning and organizing, it is sorting out my life, my things, and it triggers memories of past moves and depresses me. Alot has to do with broken relationships, and it goes way deeper than cleaning, wow, learning a lot. Good luck to you, we will get through this, you are not alone.
This method drove my brain crazy!! BUT... all 3 of my children and husband have brains like yours and not mine. When I took the time to really understand my husband's and my kids brain I understand why they seem like to me they are all over the place. My husband likened add or adhd to your brain being a TV and someone else has the remote changing the channels. Even though I can not relate I can understand and try to help them find ways to work around that. I think that's why I like your videos, other than me liking your personality, you are showing me ways I can help them. Lists have been a life saver for us. It's a team effort, my husband says an item he needs to do and I make him right then write it down or I write it down. He feels so accomplished when he marks things off. Bless you Remi.
Reading to your sons is fantastic, and I want to encourage you to keep it up. Their vocabulary is far ahead of their ability to read the smaller words in their current reading ability, if that makes sense. So, their comprehension will get so bored if they only read the limited list of words they are able to. You are encouraging, fantastic communication skills and ability to concentrate far more effectively than if you don’t read to them aloud. Well done, Remi!!!
Thank you Remi! You don’t know how much I love your videos! I get so happy when you post, because we all struggle one way or another another. I’m a 64 year old grandma and I babysit my grandkids and I know the deal with the toys. Thank you for your honesty ❤❤❤❤
You have no idea how much this helped me.... I'm 67 and I know I have a really bad ADHD. My house is beyond the beyond. When my kids were little I would make myself hyper-focus and I get one room clean; and in the meantime they would totally destroy the rest of the house. I didn't even hear them do it. I know that if somebody moves something, and it's not where I left it, I can't find it. Sometimes even if it's in plain sight. It sucks. But this was helpful, I know I can do this, at least as much as my asthma and my heart condition will let me. I am definitely encouraged and thank you!
I've been watching your videos for some months now and I finally mustered up the courage to say: thank you for doing them! I find myself nodding to the screen whenever you say "does anybody else feel this way?" haha. Coming from a household in which I was blamed by my mother in ways like "but how is it you CANNOT see the clutter/what needs to be cleaned?", I struggled to explain to her that I simply just... didn't see it. It didn't register into my brain. My ex-partner for 20 years was almost an exact copy of my mother in regards to these comments, and I always thought there was something fundamentally wrong in me and that I was an exception to an established normalcy. After being diagnosed with depression and currently checking if I might also have ADHD, I'm trying to accept myself and live my life in a way that works for me, and your videos are being a very big piece in this acceptance and understanding for this 41 y.o. person. Thank you so, so much, Remi.
Tip for children, just give them 1 thing to do off your list every day/week/month/year whatever date Then Add 2 When Ready XXXX❤ LOVE THIS CHANNEL AS YOU ARE SO REALISTIC & LOVE YOUR VOICE OVER AS IT HELPS LIKE A THERAPY SESSION WHILE I CLEAN XXXX❤❤❤
Wow I’ve watched a lot of cleaning videos but yours is the best one I’ve seen hands down. I’m so sick of watching “professional cleaners” clean other peoples homes and talk about their “condition” that made it so they couldn’t do it themselves when I really think their condition is not helped in any way by others doing it while criticizing or critiquing the persons “issue”.. your video is a breath of fresh air because I too have cleaned like this in the past and listening to you speak about it is almost reprogramming my mind from the horrid cleaning videos on here that make you feel you need some big bad plan and list and all cleaning products a tow as if you were going to perform a surgery or something.. I guess what I’m saying is you’ve brought this down to planet earth again in the best possible way and your logic and explanations actually have removed a large percentage of the anxiety I get when I watch the other videos hoping for inspiration/ motivation when I’m not in a cleaning mood so thank you for making this video and being so honest, it’s so refreshing
I love the title of your video it's so sweet you get me I don't know if I told you this but I'm 64 years old and I still can't get it together in my house and I've been retired for 1 year so go figure . I love the way you talk about your family it's so sweet to hear I'm so excited when I got to see Ike He's growing by leaps and bounds so that's so cool. I'm hoping you are well cuz you were complaining of as you were tired and chronic fatigue I hope all that has been taken care of for you and that you're doing well keep up the good work Remi, We need more people like you Love your voice love your videos keep up the good work .
I retired a year ago and thought my house would finally be clean and organized, it is so hard for me. Everything takes me forever and I get distracted. I hope this method helps. I plan to try it tomorrow. Don't let the balloon hit the floor! I love that, keep moving, that has to be the answer. I do have too much stuff and will be going around with a trash bag and goodwill bag and finish the job tomorrow. Good luck, I know you can do it, let's help each other stay motivated.
Thanks for sharing your ingenious system for tidying while “working with” your ADHD! Although I am a naturally tidy person who routinely brushes my teeth on autopilot, I can appreciate differences in the way we are all wired, and so develop compassion rather than judgement for those who are naturally messy🙀 Thanks so much for your wise perspective🥰 PS Could I encourage you to become a counselor (especially to and for those with attention deficits/differences); you’d be a natural at it😻
I mostly just love to hear you talk. And I am totally in love with the fact you call dishes 'pots'. Your voice and accent are so beautiful and so calming. You are a treasure! 💜👍💜
Thank you for helping me understand my pattern of working. I thought there was only one strick and "grownup " way and at 66 I had missed the point. But no its OK to flip from one room too another and I have been that way all my life watched so many videos on the subject. 🎉🎉🎉 penny dropped 😊 All the best now I found you I'll watch some more.❤
There is only one thing that works across the board to make a clean and tidy home easier to manage: get rid of stuff. We all have far too much in our homes. We've been conditioned our whole lives to buy in excess and it's a hard habit to break, and no matter how well you organise things, if you have too much, it gets messy again fast! I'm slowly working on getting rid of things and it's slowly making a difference. If our drawers and cabinets and closets are crammed full, we have too much stuff. If all the surfaces have things on them, we have too much stuff. If we bring new things in and don't get rid of something we already have, we're making it worse. It's not easy to get this part done, but I know it will absolutely make life easier!
I agree. I’m 80 now and when I was a child we had very few “things” so it was easy to tidy up and put clothes away. We didn’t have a washing machine so clothes were washed by hand and mum would do that every few days. She would say that we only needed three of every item of clothing (except underwear) “one to wear, one in the cupboard and one in the wash” and our clothes were only washed when they were dirty. We changed our knickers every day but not all our clothes!
This is EXACTLY how my mother managed a large, old Vicarage and 3 messy children! I try to do the same - but always make the mistake of sitting down, and then everything goes to pot. Thank you for your encouraging, inspiring videos! You're a 🌟
Remi, you literally helped me through washing up 2 days worth of dirty dishes. Thank you. I am so thankful for your videos. And I do see the mountains of progress you’ve made! My brain thinks exactly like you explained. My mom’s is the totally opposite. She would always say, “Pick up as you go along.” And guilt trip me. I tried and tried and tried and just couldn’t. I get so distracted and feel like I can’t do anything. And I burn out so easily. My brain shuts down and I can’t. But listening to you gets me in such a mood to clean. If I’m tempted to ignore the dishes when I know I should, I always come to you. I’m very easy overwhelmed (I have lymes disease which makes you so tired and irritable from the inflammation the lymes bacteria causes) and you not having music in your videos is so nice. I feel like I’ve found a cleaning channel I belong in. Thank you, Remi, for all your hard work. You’re making life better for not only your children, but my children as well.
I live in a tiny 30 foot camper/RV. I am naturally messy and with depression piled on top it is difficult to keep up with the mess . Everything you say about people like me is true. I'm going to try and do what you say. No guarantees though I'll probably forget tomorrow. Glad to know that I am not alone in this situation.
I love how encouraging you were about working WITH the ADHD tendencies and not against it forcing us to stay in one room till it’s complete. My husband will tell me the way I bounce around the apartment doing tasks that are next to each other drives him bonkers because there’s no method to the tidy. Now I’ll just have to tell him that it’s the keepy uppy method! 😂 I love it so much!!
I use a compromise between jumping from task to task as described here and deep clean a room. I start in the tidiest room (e.g. the bathroom) and take everything out of this room that doesn't belong in it. I carry it to the right room, but just leave it there on the floor. Then I put everything in it´s right place in the bathroom. Then I go to the second tidiest room and carry on like this. Whenever I carry something into a room that has already been dealt with, I tidy it up straight away. Once all the rooms have been tidied up, the reward comes: vacuuming, because now that goes really quickly.
My Momma read to me every night that she could, as a single mom of 2, and it is the most precious childhood memory that I have. I hope you keep it up. Even if it's just 5 minutes with a picture book or one chapter of a novel. It really is something they'll never forget 💕My head to her chest, hearing her heartbeat, breath, and voice through her chest...like being her lil baby all over again ☺
Holy motivation!! Thank you for sharing your story and making it NORMAL to bounce from area to area, room to room, task to task. I will use this tactic when I feel overwhelmed- which is most of the time in terms of cleaning the house.
10:57 (So Remi I don’t comment often, there are many people here who say you changed their life, I am also one of them) I am one of your biggest fans 😁lol. You are definitely the person cleaning/organizing/tidying with me. Listening to you has led me to this method. Highly effective, and you don’t have to wait until things become to big to handle or you don’t even know where to begin, and it keeps getting worse and worse. (So this method of tidying never leaves me, I keep it in my head as often as possible until it becomes the permanent habit, your in a room what do you see that does not belong in that room, grab it and that item (or multiple items) is catching a ride to where it’s supposed to go.) Also while listening to you I began thinking (this was awhile back) perhaps there is fear within me, fear that I won’t have anything to do if the whole house is tidy and clean all the time (slowly I am concurring that fear). Also listening to you I realized each system is a gear apart of your house or living space. Take laundry for example, I made the gear work in my living space, but I found there is no way I physically can make that gear functioning properly if I have to keep other gears going daily. So I observed that thought, amazingly my husband did huge furniture changes and I thought that was the perfect time to change the laundry system. So instead of me being the 1 large temperamental gear that has to on occasion have an outsourced maintenance crew come in to help ;) lol. We now have several gears working daily on the laundry system, and they are small gears so the “work” load is not much for anyone, it’s apart of life and it’s manageable. I don’t know If I ever would have got to this level of thinking without listening to your channel, so thank you thank you thank you 🙏 you are so much appreciated. ❤
It's so satisfying to watch along as you order up your lovely little home- and a blessing to listen to your kind and gentle words. If there's one thing I've realised along the way of life - like you - stripping yourself down with harsh words and ugliness doesn't bring you even one step closer to where you'd like to be. But, listening to yourself and understand how your brain works - to best get your task done - that's a massively effective life hack!
So true, we need to be kind to ourselves. I beat myself up because I don't get things done, after finding this video, I feel some hope. Tomorrow is a new day.
@@jeanvreeland3179 Yes, absolutely right, take a minute to appreciate how wonderful you are and how much you love you! And love out to you from this internet stranger to a fellow traveller also trying to be a better person 😊🤗
You're just so lovely, remi! Thanks for the pep talk!🥰😍💖💖💖 I did want to share an analogy that was a game changer for me. Someone explained that adhd brains love projects. So start viewing tasks as projects. She was watching men build an addition on her house. She noticed that every day they did the same thing. Gathered materials, did the thing for the day, and then an hour before they had to leave cleaned up the job site so it would be ready to go for the next step tomorrow. I started doing this with cooking 🍳 and it worked so well that I started doing it with other chores around my house! Got the stuff needed for the task, did the thing, and then cleaned up at the end. So I didn't have to clear the way the next time I came back to do the thing again. Bc if I don't, I won't do the thing! And eating is kind of important. 😂
My husband doesn't get it and I've explained it a hundred different ways. He just cannot connect to it. With so many things... ah well. It is what it is. I feel like I'm having a therapy session listening to your videos. Your vibe is definitely connecting to me. Since I'm new to your channel, I have a whole bunch of other videos I can still watch. :)
🙋🏾♀️ 1. Hiiiii!!!! 2. I literally yelled “GURL! Where’ve you been?!” when I saw this video notification. YT hasn’t been showing your posts. Hoping you and the fam are doing ok. 3. This video was perfectly timed. My house is an absolute disaster. Used your timed cleaning sessions to tackle the kitchen and bathroom yesterday. I’m watch the rest of this while I do the living room and bedroom. 🤎🤎🤎
❤ You are delightful. I love listening to you chat “with me.“ Your delivery reminds me of what Mr. Rogers explained about his speaking focus on his show: he was always speaking to one child. Even though thousands were watching, each of them felt personally reached. You do that. I’ve been frustrated by having loud music drone on in a video called “clean with me.” If I wanted to clean to music I’d put on what I like. You feel like a friend, and I like it when you say that someone still watching is your bff. I am 66 and just retired in April. No one ever explained the nuances of differing brain capabilities like you have, and I see myself in some of your explanations. I’ve been struggling with my home and you’re really helping me to ease open the door and get a bit done. Thank you so much, and God bless you. With thanksgiving, Katharine
This is exactly how I clean. And exactly how I am. If I find something in the living room that belongs in the bathroom I spend 5 minutes doing a bit of cleaning, maybe the sink and the shelf over the sink . On the way back to the LR pass the bedroom, fuck in pick up a few things I need to toss out. BUT when I get tired, or my back hurts, I sit down, and then,,...disaster. This is the FIRST video I've found that fits me. At the moment it's 85 degrees and incredibly humid inside my apartment in Italy at 12: 30 at night. I just discovered you're in you're 30's. I'll be 78 in August. It DOES get harder with age. Nevertheless, I do try. Very grateful to have your video 🙏 PS. I note that you dry your clothes on the radiators and a drying rack. I assume you don't have a dryer. ME EITHER! Never, in the 21 years I've lived in Italy. And never in 20 years when I lived in NYC. Everyone in America has a dryer. They have no idea what it's like to live without one. I also see you don't have a dishwasher. Me either! How you do the dishes is how I do mine! Boy am I glad yo have found you! Thank you, thank you thank you😘
I really love your channel, Remi! You are so real and refreshing. Your kids are going to remember all the loving times you spent with them, snuggling together reading a book, not necessarily how clean the house is! You are investing your time in your children-well done!
You are so right. My son had the flu really bad when he was 17. And he asked me - I was flabbergasted - to tuck him in and read to him as I used to do when he was little. 😂😂😂. All his girlfriends were told, that they would never be able to reach onto the christmasses we had in our house. Quite a few of them were really upset, because they were very neat and clean - and I cannot keep up. Building fond memories doesn't really need the smell of desinfectant, right 👍🏽
Hi there, Remi! Just wanted to drop a note here to thank you for sharing your life so vulnerable with a bunch of strangers! I appreciate your efforts so very much. You give me inspiration, not only for tidying, but also to remember that I'm not alone in my struggles and that I'm doing ok. Your voice, your honesty and your humor help me feel better and do better. So, thank you!!
I love watching you pick up your children's toys! They are picked up, sorted, placed all at once! I know the boys pick up and one day they will handle it all but what you're doing is a lot of loving and respectful work! * When the kitchen gets bad I count the handwash items and do 1/3. It is do-able! I can DO 1/3! The idea is to come back in an hour and do the next 1/3. Man this helps me! * Realize what you do well. The shortfalls don't matter because you are already working to better them. But what you do well, other people may find those things hard to do. What you do well are your superpowers! Bravo!
After hearing your voice-overs and knowing the daily challenges you have... I have to say...I admire you so much...I see an absolute beautiful and caring mom that works to overcome life everyday. You inspire me to become a better person like you...Thank you so much for your video's.
Remi ... Midwest Magic Cleaning gave you a shout out on his channel and asked that we let you know if we came over to say hi. But I've already been a follower of yours just wanted you to know about it! ❤ And I told him the same... that you're so sweet and real and thanked him for telling his audience to visit your channel 😊
Thank you, Remi! What I’ve been doing recently when I need to clean my house is watch one of your videos while relaxing- from start to finish. Then I put on another one- probably one I’ve already watched- and put on my headphones and just listen while I actually clean my house. Your voice is lovely and your words are so motivating for this neuro spicy momma. Thank you! Love from Kansas!
Your videos are like that soft, cuddly blanket that makes us feel all cosy and warm❤. Thank you for making these lovely, motivational and therapeutic videos Remi for the ones that struggle to keep on top of it all. This means alot x
I loved listening to you while I’m working knowing I need to clean later. Everything you’ve said resonated with me. The irritation, the overwhelming feelings, the distraction… I appreciate it so much.
Remi, when I was growing up Me & my sister's Use to do just 1 thing. Like I would vacuum & My older sister would dust & My little sister would clean the bathroom. Now that Im going on 65 I notice that I get Tired Really Fast. My Mom would be so upset with me & How my Place looks like. Our House growing up was spotless & I Do LOVE A CLEAN HOUSE. but I have day's When I cant even get into & I just do not even have the energy!!! It does suck to get Get Old !!! Lol. I Love your Video's & This is my 2nd Video From you. Thank you !!!
I really liked this video. I've been struggling to add a couple of new habits to my Autopilot Routine and it's a pain - but there really is no better feeling than when you realise you've done that new habit without thinking about it ♥ I like the flow of this method; it's like a spring breeze or cool stream, moving where gravity takes it, gently freshening in its wake.
I love watching your videos while I'm cleaning or working out. It's like we're having a chat and I'm listening to a close friend while getting my stuff done at the same time you're getting your things done. Wishing you and yours the very best, you more than deserve it.
Thank you for being honest and so open about your struggles to clean. I am 74 and have been mentally beating myself up for not cleaning my house but I cant seem to get motivated. I always feel like I am the only person that has a messy house but when you told of your struggles, it helped me to know im not alone
Sis you are preaching this whole video! Taking thoughts straight out of my mind 😂❤ God bless you...I can only imagine the effort it took to begin and keep contributing to this channel. I so appreciate you for fighting yourself to create encouragement that encourages you all the while. You're a hero! Thank you, this is so relatable ❤🙏
One of my fave comments ever!!! Thank you so much!! ☺️❤️
@@remiclog 🤗❤️❤️❤️
What an inspiring video! I loved what you said and it was so satisfying seeing your house magically go from messy to tidy. Thank you for the encouragement and well done ❤🙏
Listening to you Remi is like your describing me 😂 I’m sure your my twin !!! Love your videos always come here for some inspiration ❤
Unbeleivable 🎉 hardworking 😮don t you have a househelp
Those that don't get it, never will. Your efforts to make the rest of us feel less alone makes this world a better place. Thank you Remi.
It means the world to hear that ❤️
So true Andrea. People can be so mean. Remis videos are a blessing. ❤
you are so right! I’m a gen x and we didn’t have all these clarifications, and now I know it explains so much and makes me feel less .. well crazy 😂
100%!
That's simply not true. People learn and grow all the time. Some may not get it now, but by keeping a warm heart toward them, they may came along and start to see your experience for what is in instead of what they think it will be. Hopefully, we can all extend that same empathy to others, as well
Cleaning videos like this, that are geared toward those of us that are distractable, depressed, perfectionistic-yet-never-get-anything-done… So, SO comforting ‘ helpful!
Yow, that sounds like me. 😮. I don’t think I’m depressed (rarely maybe) generally upbeat though. But the rest rings true 😅.
Absolutely 💯 I'm nodding my head in agreement here...I've always been called a 'procrastinator' but I love that "perfectionist-but-cant-get-things-done' sentence...100 percent 😢
This video speaks to me also. I have not seen this lady before. I will subscribe . My moods, routines and distractions, are challenges are common . I decided that I can turn challenges into pluses. I just need to work with what I'm like. But... that is something that is showing reasonableness, creativity, and kindness toward myself. And it's realistic , considering that my personality can only change so much.
ADHD people.
@b.t.taylor5936 Yep! One hundred 💯 percent agree
Mac from Midwest Magic Cleaning said the sweetest thing about you this week. While recommending your channel to watch, he also said that even if your content was different than other cleaning channels , that your sweet personality was so lovely that his viewers should go check you out anyway! And i agree. Thank you for sharing yourself with us ❤
Midwest magic cleaning was my original favorite because he not only mentions the odd habits of people with adhd and light hoarding, but he explains the mindset we have too. Then I found REMI CLOG! ❤❤❤❤ it's like cleaning with a bestie that keeps talking so I can focus and not feel the need to talk too😂
I love hearing you speak. Your vice and accent somehow make it more interesting and enjoyable. You are sweet, wise, strong and sensitive. I am motivated to tidy up today. Thank you Remi
Oh I love him! He’s so kind too!
Yes, this!😊^
He helped me so much, even when I just have it playing in the background while I’m cleaning. 🧼
I got distracted from this video. Tidied my nightstand. Read a pamphlet on it. Looked up a salon. Looked up tanning salons. Messaged my friend. Ended up on facebook videos. Now I'm back🤣
😂😂😂 Did we just become best friends?
Yep.
🤣🤣 absolutely mashed chaos🤣
Thats me 24/7 ❤
Welcome back 😄. This is so relatable.
Is anybody else just playing these videos or repeat when cleaning waiting for the next one? This is the only cleaning vlogger that fills me with motivation to get moving and sort the flat out 😊
This means the absolute world to hear! Thank you! A new one is coming soon ❤️
I agree!
What a surprise & pleasure to hear I’m not the only one with problem!My house is sooo depressing! You have given me hope!God bless you for doing this! I’m hooked & waiting for your next video!
Yes right now
Makes me want to get something done today!
I was watching your video and I didn't realise my 9 year old daughter could hear. She was listening to your voiceover and said "isn't she a lovely woman" I couldn't put it better myself ❤
♥
Remi has a great voice.
True@@dwt20125
Are you feeling better?
What a sweetie; your daughter and Remi😂
I have been struggling with my depression. When I am depressed I don't clean. Your videos gave me the courage to tell my parent how I was feeling. My parent for the last month or so have finally understood how I struggle. They have helped me by bringing my laundry to me or helping to clean my dishes every now and then. Yesterday they brought me my washing and it motivated me to clean my room. Watching your video today in a clean space is so peaceful. Thank you for letting us know it is okay to fall and get back up! I am so proud of you for all that you have done! ❤
Oh my goodness, first of all I’m SO proud of you for being brave, talking to your parents and accepting help (I know that isn’t easily at all.)
Secondly I’m so incredibly grateful for the super thanks, you really didn’t need to do that but I very much appreciate it 🥹 Sending you so much love ❤️
Well done for talking to loved ones about how you feel, it's taken a lot of courage.
You did so good! I struggle with depression too, and just talking to a loved one and asking for help is the hardest part. You did it! From a random stranger on the internet - I'm proud of you!
@@remiclogI really didn't know how else to say thank you. You have helped me more than I can express.❤❤❤ You got this Remi!
@@justjenny581it really was tough but it is getting a little easier everyday. Thank you so much! I hope you are doing well love! ❤
Remi, you deserve an award in social work or something. Your therapeutic commentary is amazing.
Amazing how her voice can lift our spirits.
I am a social worker andI can verify she does in fact deserve an award! THANK YOU REMI!
Agree!
I second that
Wow…. Killing me softly with her song, singing my whole life, with her words 🤯
❤❤❤
Right?! Like I'm a minute in and I feel like she's talking directly to my soul. What an incredibly insightful, kind, and compassionate lady!
and at the same time - Healing me softly with her song ♥
@@caldwell49rosette doesn’t it feel lovely to know we’re not “alone” in what feels like a constant uphill battle?
I had no idea, I thought I was alone, my mom calls me lazy. I'm not, it's just not the same for me as it is for her. Thank you for this wake up call.
no one has any right to call you lazy. when she calls you lazy make sure you tell her that you are NOT lazy and it's not acceptable for her to say that. You don't need anyone's negative comments. Tell her instead of making comments, she can HELP you, although you may not want her around for that LOL
I'm actually crying right now. I feel so validated! I'm 48 and have ADHD. What you said in this video was the story of my entire life! I had always been told that I needed to focus on one area at a time and that bouncing around from room to room meant I wasn't getting anything done. This video proved them all wrong! I'd already been learning, slowly, that I don't have to do all the dishes at one time and I don't have to put away the clean laundry the same day I washed it. But this just helped me realize I've been on the right path all along! Thank you so, so much! 💖
Yes! As long as you have little routines and habits in place that you do every day, it diesn't matter HOW you do them, if HOW you do them is helping you keep things from piling up without burning out. There IS no one way to manage our homes, exceept the way that works for you and your household
If you do one load of laundry a day and put it away, then it’s not a big job. I have ADHD. You can manage it.
@@lovefortruth3414that’s correct. The key word is everyday. You don’t let yourself off the hook because then your ADHD wins. I know.
Try placing a dirty clothes hamper in each room so they don’t have to be piled on the floors. Then you can take the hampers down to the washer.
@katy8792 that's what I do. I actually use laundry sorters on wheels with hanging detachable bags, so I can choose to either roll the whole sorter (I'm on one floor), or just Take whichever bag want to do. Each sorter only has 2 bags, so our laundry is divided into bleach ables and non-bleachables. It's that easy. The only sorting that's done is we just toss each clothing item into the proper sorter when we get changed. I watch h for super delicate and hand wash items and leave them in the sorter intil I'm ready to fo the hand washable. Also, I even repursed the cute little canvas bagg thst my new dish cloths came in, found a spot in the kitchen to hang it in, and I use that as my kitchen linens laundry bag. I have a spot to hang the cloths if they're wet, let them dry, then put them in the bag. When the bag is full, it's time to run a load. Can you tell I hate sorting piles of laundry? Lol
Hi Remi! I'm the gal who left a comment a week or two ago about finding you early in the morning and having to get to sleep lol well, not only did I come back and watch that video, I kinda obsessively watched several more. What I'd like to tell you though is about my bathtub. Sounds simple and silly but as you yourself seem to understand, the simple and silly can be the hardest. Our town has mineral rich water and turns everything from orange to almost a black mold look. We have gone through so many sickness spells here that everyone had been using the tub non stop. Besides needing cleaned, the tub needed re caulking as well. For some reason, every time my kids were in the tub, the guilt and overwhelm would hit so much harder. I hated for them to be in something looking like that. The more guilt I felt, the more paralyzed I became about doing it. My younger son has severe asthma and I had to do it while he was at preschool so any fumes wouldn't bother him and the clock was ticking because he'd be out for summer soon. So one day, I started watching a video of yours and I decided from something you said, probably start small, or just with one part. That's what I did. I decided I'd just wipe the sides. Not use cleaner or strip the caulking, just a wet wipe while listening to your video. But the funniest thing happened. Between listening to you and just starting, I had momentum. Not only did I wipe, I stripped the caulking, I got out my power scrubber, I cleaned and re caulked. My tub is sparkling still!! It makes me so proud when I walk into the bathroom and see it. All of this just to say, thank you. It's not just the cleaning. It's the relatability. It's the permission you give to not be perfect. That you aren't a bad person when things look a certain way. You are magic ✨ Sending so much love 💕
I’m proud of you too! I’m in Kansas. I’m not sure where you are? We never hear people say they’re proud of us and that’s wrong. Too much. Hate not enough. Love in this world!💙❣️😊
Great clean remi your the best 😊 xxxx
You are doing such a great job 👍 love watching your videos ❤
Oh I am so proud of you too!!! What relief you must of felt, I love to hear it! 😁 And thank you so much for sharing ❤️❤️❤️
You are making so much sense…from I have to remember to brush my teeth to bouncing from room to room. Sometimes I can set a timer and stay at one task or one room but most often I flit from room to room. I often “give up” because I don’t see the progress and get overwhelmed. I am late 60’s and raising three grandchildren, two of which are developmentally delayed and autistic. You cannot take your eyes off the youngest (almost 10) as he will bounce from thing to thing, or room to room, making mess after mess. I can walk in the kitchen and see the pantry doors are open and he is eating a bag of cookies while also leaving the fridge and freezer doors open, trash and food and toys all over the floor and furniture. All on the two minutes it took me to go to the bathroom. I am exhausted most days and overwhelmed and paralyzed by the magnitude of it all. I make grand plans in my head of what I need to get done but it usually doesnt come to fruition. Thank you for giving me permission to bounce from room to room and back again for o get it done. A little or moderate amount of progress is better than no progress.
Years ago I read someone say that if you tell a child, “ Go do this chore,” it becomes hard work for them but if you do it with them, it becomes a game and fun. You folding laundry with your son gives you a chance to talk with him and is good for your relationship. Good job.
Totally agree.
The person you explain in the start of this video is me 100% - Every attempt to clean up ends with extra chaos created while sorting and cleaning 😂
I feel like crying I'm so grateful I've just found your videos. I am so overwhelmed but actually got something done while watching and listening to you this morning, and feeling more positive than I have for a long time. I didn't really know that anyone else got it, or that it was possible. Thank u so much xxxx
Oh this has absolutely made my day!! Well done for getting something done! I’m so glad you’re feeling a little better for it ❤️
Your lovely home starts to feel a little more familiar every video - like the kitchen you’re tidying, that you decluttered weeks before and decorated for Christmas and so on. Hope this doesn’t sound creepy! I just like the thought of having a little familiar space in the World Wide Web to come back to - it’s like watching new episodes of “Friends”
This is honestly one of my favourite comments I’ve ever gotten!! Thank you! How lovely! I’m pinning it 🥰
Thank you. You could not have described me any better if you knew me. I appreciate someone who gets it
Missed your videos So Much!! So glad u posted new 1. What do u and Charley do at the grocery store u both work for?❤
Well done I’m in the middle of having todo the whole house as there is something moving about under the house. I’m finishing off the kitchen tonight after binning two black bags of tins past their date. Steaming the floor and gutting the rest of the cupboards. I’m lucky in that I can be utterly ruthless. Need it all done for Thursday night. Always amazed at how clean your cooker is. Mine is same one it I never seem keep the clean for long
Next comes the book & videos, then the book signings. I think this is one of your best ways to clean. Thanks for the inspiration.
You might be surprised to find that folding clothes together will be as fond a memory for your son as reading together. It’s one of my favorite childhood memories.
Thank you so much for these videos! I’m learning so much about myself. At almost 72, I’ve finally realised I have ADHD… I’m beginning to understand my struggle with organisation and cleaning. Thank you! ❤❤❤
@debbieidi5517 - Same here, at 67!!! 🤯🥹🙂
@reefprayerresin I am 67 also. Recently, I went through all the testing to get a diagnosis. It is difficult waiting for results. However, becoming aware of some traits through online testing, reading info about non-typical adhd in women & a lifetime of frustration.... this is me!
It is nice to know we are NOT alone!
@@gingersnapjudy - Non-typical adhd in women? It just get curiouser and curiouser….. I’ve never heard of this. Thanks for this, I’ll look into this some more.
@reefprayerresin typical adhd people think of the young boy bouncing around the classroom. Won't sit still. Jumping up to the window because something went by the window. Sits down.. only to jump up again... chattering.. general disturbance in class.
Girls/ women are not generally the physically bouncy...
It presents with constant scattered thoughts and tasks left half completed. Non-typical
That is why it isn't diagnosed in girls as often... because like all fields of medicine... it is aimed at boys/ men.
Ex... women that have heart attacks do not generally present with crushing chest pain/ or pain that radiates down the left arm.
Those are typical MALE symptoms!
Women can have severe indigestion. Pain in the back. Profuse sweating... ( can be confused with hot flashes)
Non-typical symptoms.
@reefprayerresin I thought I had responded to your comment but I think I deleted it by accident. Cardiac symptoms are also non-typical in women... usually no crushing chest pain or pain radiating down left arm.
Back pain, indigestion, profuse sweating... which can easily be confused with hot flashes. Most medical is based on men. So women issues are overlooked.
I’m happy to see that my house isn’t the only messy house around 😊 thank you for being genuine ❤
My sisters and I joke that this is how we clean our own houses. Bouncing from room to room because you make the bed, and take the sheets to the washing machine, and see clothes ready in the dryer. So you stop and fold those clothes and deliver to a bedroom where you find dishes so you take those to the kitchen and realize you need to empty clean dishes from the dishwasher. Next thing I know , I am redoing my kitchen cabinets and starting a donation box of old coffee mugs.
We call it “ when you give a mouse a cookie” cleaning from the Laura J Nemeroff book.
So true! 🤣
I agree. This is how I clean my house too, or at least tidy up mess. Bounce from room to room, always moving to the place those things in my hand belong, dealing with those, then exiting that room with other things in my hand that have to go to another space, then dealing with those. If only I had 4 hands sometimes, LOL
Yes! Exactly!
I so relate to your comments! 😅
I call it the Butterfly Method! I've used this all my life! (I'm now 63). It panders to my brain's hard-wired love of novelty. My personal tip for routines I want to stick to is lists in prominent places - and being accepting when I don't manage 100%. Loving your videos.
Butterfly Method 🦋🙌🏼 I really like that 🥰
I love the thoughtfulness, intelligence, and above all, kindness you are bringing to this important idea.
Thank you so much 😊
I never thought of simply embracing the side quests, it feels so much more natural. While staying on one task drains my energy. I need to just do that every time.
This makes me understand why my mother gave us chores as children. I had the living room, dining room, stairs and upstairs hallway, my siblings the kitchen and bathroom. Mom only cleaned on special occasions and made us wash baseboards and paint when needed. Watching you do this alone makes me proud to have been helping her out back then.❤
So glad your mum gave the children chores. We, too, were expected to clean up after ourselves. My mum would never do the cleaning up and tidying i see in this video (messes made by kids). If we didn't clean up our toys, they disappeared for a while. We learned to appreciate them and also experience how much work it was to keep things tidy.
Funny, I found your comment just as she was discussing modelling for kids. I didnt have good modelling, and haven't improved much over time. I'm perfectly honest with my kids about what kind of human I am. They are taught that I need the help, and that I want them to get the practice I never had. They switch off once in a while, so they understand why a sibling is nagging about something (hard to wipe the table when someone didnt pick up their dishes). Not feeling like everything was on me, like Inwas drowning, I was able to make headway on my responsibilities. Now, I am looking at taking back some of the ones they really balk at, and letting them practice something new. At 10, 6, 6 and 38 we are all just beginning to learn what it takes to keep a home
My mom yelled at me throughout my life to clean more while not cleaning often herself. When I would clean she’d tell me how awful I was at whatever task I was busy with. Now as a 45 yr old I. Do not like to clean when my husband is home. I’m scared he’ll think I’m “doing it wrong” because I clean like this. Bouncing around from one room to the next taking forever. If only she would have been kind and patient and taught me like mothers are supposed to do. I’ve had lots of therapy and have come a long way. I’m only half the time thinking I’m “in trouble” with somebody rather than 100% of the time. Kids with adhd get way more criticism than other kids. You had a good mama
I can’t watch someone picking up kids toys while the kid lies on a sofa in the same room watching cartoons.
@@GreenWhitePurplehe is sleeping…..
Remi, I’m 62 with mild ADD. I struggled when our two sons were little but we got into a great rhythm for housekeeping when they were later grade school and up. But now that they’ve been gone for a few years, I’m just bored of cleaning. Tidying is fine but the baseboards and corners and top of the fridge, Ugh- put off, put off.
I’m thrilled to have found you. Your gracious example and kind support are just what so many of us need. We’re in this together, right? Right!
And yes! Keep reading to your sons! Great memory making!
When I worked, my house was spotless. Now I'm retired, 66yo, it's messy, dusty, and cluttered. My family keeps telling me I'm depressed. I don't feel depressed. I just have other things I want to do.
Same! It is such a delight i found her longer videos as someone with (mild) adhd and (severe) autism as well 💞 it is so empowering and motivating to hear her highlight the issue. If i would remember the put it back not down rule, i wouldnt need it, right? 😅 the big picture is, you're trying. thats why persistancy is more important than concistency. 😇
Between yours and Mack’s talks. I feel much more relaxed. I can’t help that I have ADHD. I’ve had it all my life. If I miss one day of cleaning and then things are out of hand, then I fell overwhelmed, and it’s so hard to get back on track. Y’all just encourage me so much!
It means everything to hear this!! So pleased to be able to be of some encouragement. And I absolutely adore Mack! He does the same for me, just brings me calm ☺️
Who's Mack?
@@Betty_Spaghetti84 Midwest magic cleaning. 🧼
@@remiclog well, now you’ve made my day, your sweet soul! God bless you, Remi!💕🤗
OMG!!! I was thinking abt him too as I was listening to Remi!! Remi - I like his talks about different issues or disorders in addition to his helping clean out and make such a difference in someone's house who needs it ❤
These small English houses without a laundry make life so much harder. Young kids plus washing drying all over instantly makes a place look cluttered. It’s not your fault and I think you do extremely well considering you also keep down a job! ❤ thumbs up for doing what you do as well as you do. Great video Remi. 😊
Yes! Her house isn't that messy at all! If she didn't have to have laundry drying everywhere, she'd have so much more time, too. Why don't they have dryers?
@@CBMcDIwe have a similar sized home to Remi, with the washing machine in the kitchen. Some people do have driers here in the UK but they are very expensive to run (electricity is very costly here) and there’s often no space for one, or space for a dishwasher either.
I’m just reading comments before watching the video so can’t comment on what Remi does, but for our family, we dry outside when it’s nice weather or we use a heated ‘clothes horse’/drying rails (the Lakeland one). Got it down to a fine art to know how much it can hold… takes about 7hrs to dry a load, so one load a day is easily manageable.
@@CBMcDI A few reasons. The environment, cost of electricity, limited space in our kitchens and also that a lot of us believe it is better for the longevity of clothes to air dry them.
You’re speaking to me here. “My household is all the same” coming from another neurodivergent household thank you for putting this content out here for us ❤
5:50 OMG!! everyone talks to me about habits and how powerful they are and no one has understood this, but this is EXACTLY what it’s like for me!! i feel a little validated
I really wished I could show you, how much your videos have helped me. I watch some every day, sometimes the same one three times or more. And I managed to scrub my complete kitchen, inside and out. I don't think it was this clean since I moved in here. I managed to get rid of furniture, and turned my living room into my dream craft room. This morning I watched this video, then I happily went outside and started in my garden. Now I am watching again, and am optimistic, again, that I can finish tomorrow. You are wonderful 😊
I do the same, watch something that has a lot of helpful talk in it a couple few times to get it all in the coconut! 😊
Midwest magic cleaning mentioned you and im so happy! I found your channel years ago and lost it. Now im here to stay.
Same.
I was just checking your channel last night to make sure I hadn't missed anything. Thank you for another video Remi, we appreciate it deeply.
You’re so welcome!!! Thank you for being here! ☺️❤️
Just wondering about your FB account I think someone hacked your photos
Totally agree, Brian. A new Remi Clog Video Day! And Ike is getting so big!!! Love his "frequent unscheduled appearances."
I figured out awhile ago that I am definitely a ping pong cleaner. Like you describe, if I focus on only one room, it will never get done. If I ping pong, everything is a little bit better. I do get frustrated by it, though, because at some point I go back to the original thing and go, "Ugh, this is what I need to focus on." That's not every day, just when for some reason, something needs to get finished that day.
Hi Remi, I just want to say I love what you do and how you do it. I am 57 and have in the last couple of years developed Peripheral Neuropathy possibly from auto immune malfunction from Covid Vax's. Anyway my whole world came crashing down around my ears, my favorite past times, travel, and keeping house. Things started getting on top of me. So I disappeared into the world of You Tube and like a beacon of light found your channel. You are an amazing woman, your upbeat sprightly style blended with a dose of real lfe chaos are a breath of freash air and helped me tackle my house hold chores, starting with one drawer or cupboard at a time. Slowly and surely I am having more rest which equals more energy which equals more satisfaction from completing little jobs...if you do enough little jobs the magic happens. So thank you xx keep being you...I love how you do your videos and feel privilaged to get to know your family too.❤
What a beautiful comment, on board with all of your appreciation of Remi. Hope your condition improves.
@@EconMBAStudent thank you so much. Still a day by day battle until I get to see a neurologist to confidently diagnose and point me in the direction of remedial cure. Fingers crossed not too much longer to wait :)
You make me feel seen and known in way that no one ever has.
I struggle so hard with guilt when I don’t get anything done. I struggle with getting motivated and then find myself getting distracted or my husband asks me to help him with his projects and I get pulled away and then poof! I can’t start again. I love hearing your encouragement, same frustrations, and good self talk so it doesn’t feel like I’m the only one struggling!! ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video. This is how I clean but always feel guilty because most RUclips cleaning people tell you not to leave a space until your done. Then I would get frustrated and quit for the whole rest of the day. I really appreciated the statement you made in the beginning of just keep going. You are so sweet and inciteful and I love listening to your non-judgmental words of wisdom. Please don’t ever stop ❤
Literally every bit of what you’ve said here is my life to a T….. I cannot tell you how much of a comfort it is to see someone in my same mental state do cleaning and tidy videos. You’re amazing.
Oh my goodness, where have you been all this time? I only just found your channel and I'm in love. You're so honest, sweet, funny, well spoken, open minded and non judgemental. Thumbs Up to you girl!!!
I totally agree; I second that! I reckon she should be nominated for a special award
We adore you and your intelligent kindness. You are so loved!
That’s a great way of putting it: “intelligent kindness.” She is both intelligent and incredibly kind.❤
Oh Remi. I literally live for these videos right now - you are such a ray of hope and inspiration. I have had some real struggles lately and hearing your voiceovers is so motivational. From the bottom of my heart - thank you for working to make these videos - they make a huge impact for us viewers❤
How wonderful it would be to give Remi a huge hug for being such a lovely person.
Thank you Remi! I see so much of myself in the video. I love your advice . I’m a 62 year old who has always struggled with cleaning,especially when my children were little. I also go from chore to chore as I get distracted easily so much of the time. It’s a relief to see I am not the only one.
I married a hoarder. Help me.
Dear Remi, I am so there at the moment, I am a 50 year old mom living in South Africa, I feel so overwhelmed since October last year, we've had to move to a new house and even now living in our beautiful house, I just cannot seem to get myself motivated to get everything unpacked and sorted. This video was a suggestion by YT, I feel more hopeful and I can absolutely see the benefit of this method clear as day. Thank you so very much for this video and your narration. I am definitely going to give this a try tomorrow. My problem is the experienced trauma during this past 9 months and lack of interest in anything and mostly anxiety due to my current state. I know for a fact that the minute I have accomplished anything it will turn my mindset around, but getting there is 80% of my struggle, I feel really crippled by anxiety, depression and helplesness at the moment.
I too have moved many times and it is overwhelming. I am in the same place right now. Moved back to an old apartment after being gone for 9 months, experienced trauma due to too many moves in my life, wondering if I will ever be settled. Sorting, putting things away, goodwill this, throw away that, it is overwhelming and never ending. Moving trauma paralyzes me. I've moved too many times, not that I wanted to, it was due to trauma, family events, divorce, financial difficulties, etc. Other people have beautiful organized homes and it is my dream, it is so hard for me, I become paralyzed and hope this video and this way of working will work for me. I hate cleaning and I hate clutter more, it is a mental health issue, and an ADHD issue and trauma related. I too feel crippled by anxiety, depression, and lack of energy and motivation. It is so hard for me, hopefully this method will help. Remi understands and explains how difficult it is for some of us so well, I never put it together, I just thought I was incompetent. I will try this method tomorrow and pray I can get through this! I realized it is more than cleaning and organizing, it is sorting out my life, my things, and it triggers memories of past moves and depresses me. Alot has to do with broken relationships, and it goes way deeper than cleaning, wow, learning a lot. Good luck to you, we will get through this, you are not alone.
Thank you for putting words to my life long struggles and helping me feel not so alone in them.
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This method drove my brain crazy!! BUT... all 3 of my children and husband have brains like yours and not mine. When I took the time to really understand my husband's and my kids brain I understand why they seem like to me they are all over the place. My husband likened add or adhd to your brain being a TV and someone else has the remote changing the channels. Even though I can not relate I can understand and try to help them find ways to work around that. I think that's why I like your videos, other than me liking your personality, you are showing me ways I can help them. Lists have been a life saver for us. It's a team effort, my husband says an item he needs to do and I make him right then write it down or I write it down. He feels so accomplished when he marks things off. Bless you Remi.
Reading to your sons is fantastic, and I want to encourage you to keep it up. Their vocabulary is far ahead of their ability to read the smaller words in their current reading ability, if that makes sense. So, their comprehension will get so bored if they only read the limited list of words they are able to. You are encouraging, fantastic communication skills and ability to concentrate far more effectively than if you don’t read to them aloud. Well done, Remi!!!
Thank you Remi! You don’t know how much I love your videos! I get so happy when you post, because we all struggle one way or another another. I’m a 64 year old grandma and I babysit my grandkids and I know the deal with the toys. Thank you for your honesty ❤❤❤❤
67 yo grandma here, also watching my grandkids while their mom works (I live with them). They're definitely a handful! I love your channel, Remi! ❤❤❤
You have no idea how much this helped me.... I'm 67 and I know I have a really bad ADHD. My house is beyond the beyond. When my kids were little I would make myself hyper-focus and I get one room clean; and in the meantime they would totally destroy the rest of the house. I didn't even hear them do it. I know that if somebody moves something, and it's not where I left it, I can't find it. Sometimes even if it's in plain sight. It sucks. But this was helpful, I know I can do this, at least as much as my asthma and my heart condition will let me. I am definitely encouraged and thank you!
I love your attitude. I havent finished watching the video yet but already I feel grateful for your advice
Ahh thank you so much!! Very pleased to hear that 😊
I've been watching your videos for some months now and I finally mustered up the courage to say: thank you for doing them! I find myself nodding to the screen whenever you say "does anybody else feel this way?" haha. Coming from a household in which I was blamed by my mother in ways like "but how is it you CANNOT see the clutter/what needs to be cleaned?", I struggled to explain to her that I simply just... didn't see it. It didn't register into my brain. My ex-partner for 20 years was almost an exact copy of my mother in regards to these comments, and I always thought there was something fundamentally wrong in me and that I was an exception to an established normalcy. After being diagnosed with depression and currently checking if I might also have ADHD, I'm trying to accept myself and live my life in a way that works for me, and your videos are being a very big piece in this acceptance and understanding for this 41 y.o. person. Thank you so, so much, Remi.
If you take a photo it helps you to see the clutter.
Tip for children, just give them 1 thing to do off your list every day/week/month/year whatever date Then Add 2 When Ready XXXX❤ LOVE THIS CHANNEL AS YOU ARE SO REALISTIC & LOVE YOUR VOICE OVER AS IT HELPS LIKE A THERAPY SESSION WHILE I CLEAN XXXX❤❤❤
Who's here & SO happy they found you, thanks to Mack's recent shout out? ❤
Meeee! 👋🏽
Me also
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Can you please post the link of Mack's video that mentions this RUclips channel? Thanks!
YOUR NARRATION IS CALMING THANK YOU FOR SHARING AND TEACHING
Wow I’ve watched a lot of cleaning videos but yours is the best one I’ve seen hands down. I’m so sick of watching “professional cleaners” clean other peoples homes and talk about their “condition” that made it so they couldn’t do it themselves when I really think their condition is not helped in any way by others doing it while criticizing or critiquing the persons “issue”.. your video is a breath of fresh air because I too have cleaned like this in the past and listening to you speak about it is almost reprogramming my mind from the horrid cleaning videos on here that make you feel you need some big bad plan and list and all cleaning products a tow as if you were going to perform a surgery or something.. I guess what I’m saying is you’ve brought this down to planet earth again in the best possible way and your logic and explanations actually have removed a large percentage of the anxiety I get when I watch the other videos hoping for inspiration/ motivation when I’m not in a cleaning mood so thank you for making this video and being so honest, it’s so refreshing
Ahh what a great comment to open the app to! Thank you! I’m so glad the video was helpful for you! 😁
I love the title of your video it's so sweet you get me I don't know if I told you this but I'm 64 years old and I still can't get it together in my house and I've been retired for 1 year so go figure . I love the way you talk about your family it's so sweet to hear I'm so excited when I got to see Ike He's growing by leaps and bounds so that's so cool. I'm hoping you are well cuz you were complaining of as you were tired and chronic fatigue I hope all that has been taken care of for you and that you're doing well keep up the good work Remi, We need more people like you Love your voice love your videos keep up the good work .
I retired a year ago and thought my house would finally be clean and organized, it is so hard for me. Everything takes me forever and I get distracted. I hope this method helps. I plan to try it tomorrow. Don't let the balloon hit the floor! I love that, keep moving, that has to be the answer. I do have too much stuff and will be going around with a trash bag and goodwill bag and finish the job tomorrow. Good luck, I know you can do it, let's help each other stay motivated.
Thanks for sharing your ingenious system for tidying while “working with” your ADHD! Although I am a naturally tidy person who routinely brushes my teeth on autopilot, I can appreciate differences in the way we are all wired, and so develop compassion rather than judgement for those who are naturally messy🙀 Thanks so much for your wise perspective🥰 PS Could I encourage you to become a counselor (especially to and for those with attention deficits/differences); you’d be a natural at it😻
I mostly just love to hear you talk. And I am totally in love with the fact you call dishes 'pots'. Your voice and accent are so beautiful and so calming. You are a treasure! 💜👍💜
Thank you for helping me understand my pattern of working. I thought there was only one strick and "grownup " way and at 66 I had missed the point. But no its OK to flip from one room too another and I have been that way all my life watched so many videos on the subject. 🎉🎉🎉 penny dropped 😊
All the best now I found you I'll watch some more.❤
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This video brought tears. It’s honestly the first ever video I’ve seen that is completely relatable. I have ADHD. Thanks
I’m really glad it resonated with you ❤️
There is only one thing that works across the board to make a clean and tidy home easier to manage: get rid of stuff. We all have far too much in our homes. We've been conditioned our whole lives to buy in excess and it's a hard habit to break, and no matter how well you organise things, if you have too much, it gets messy again fast! I'm slowly working on getting rid of things and it's slowly making a difference. If our drawers and cabinets and closets are crammed full, we have too much stuff. If all the surfaces have things on them, we have too much stuff. If we bring new things in and don't get rid of something we already have, we're making it worse.
It's not easy to get this part done, but I know it will absolutely make life easier!
I agree. I’m 80 now and when I was a child we had very few “things” so it was easy to tidy up and put clothes away. We didn’t have a washing machine so clothes were washed by hand and mum would do that every few days. She would say that we only needed three of every item of clothing (except underwear) “one to wear, one in the cupboard and one in the wash” and our clothes were only washed when they were dirty. We changed our knickers every day but not all our clothes!
I've wanted to get rid of stuff for a while. I have boxes & boxes of 'stuff'. When I can't find stuff I buy more stuff. Ridiculous.
Stay out of dollar stores!
This is EXACTLY how my mother managed a large, old Vicarage and 3 messy children! I try to do the same - but always make the mistake of sitting down, and then everything goes to pot. Thank you for your encouraging, inspiring videos! You're a 🌟
Remi, you literally helped me through washing up 2 days worth of dirty dishes. Thank you. I am so thankful for your videos. And I do see the mountains of progress you’ve made!
My brain thinks exactly like you explained. My mom’s is the totally opposite. She would always say, “Pick up as you go along.” And guilt trip me. I tried and tried and tried and just couldn’t. I get so distracted and feel like I can’t do anything. And I burn out so easily. My brain shuts down and I can’t.
But listening to you gets me in such a mood to clean.
If I’m tempted to ignore the dishes when I know I should, I always come to you.
I’m very easy overwhelmed (I have lymes disease which makes you so tired and irritable from the inflammation the lymes bacteria causes) and you not having music in your videos is so nice. I feel like I’ve found a cleaning channel I belong in. Thank you, Remi, for all your hard work. You’re making life better for not only your children, but my children as well.
Eat off paper plates, paper cups for aWhile
I live in a tiny 30 foot camper/RV. I am naturally messy and with depression piled on top it is difficult to keep up with the mess . Everything you say about people like me is true. I'm going to try and do what you say. No guarantees though I'll probably forget tomorrow. Glad to know that I am not alone in this situation.
Ahh well I hope it does! Some days it works for me, some days it doesn’t 😊 either way, you are definitely NOT alone ❤️
I love how encouraging you were about working WITH the ADHD tendencies and not against it forcing us to stay in one room till it’s complete. My husband will tell me the way I bounce around the apartment doing tasks that are next to each other drives him bonkers because there’s no method to the tidy. Now I’ll just have to tell him that it’s the keepy uppy method! 😂 I love it so much!!
Absolutely lovely. You are so calm and affirming. You really gave voice to the struggle so many of us face. Thank you. ❤
I use a compromise between jumping from task to task as described here and deep clean a room.
I start in the tidiest room (e.g. the bathroom) and take everything out of this room that doesn't belong in it. I carry it to the right room, but just leave it there on the floor. Then I put everything in it´s right place in the bathroom. Then I go to the second tidiest room and carry on like this. Whenever I carry something into a room that has already been dealt with, I tidy it up straight away.
Once all the rooms have been tidied up, the reward comes: vacuuming, because now that goes really quickly.
My Momma read to me every night that she could, as a single mom of 2, and it is the most precious childhood memory that I have. I hope you keep it up. Even if it's just 5 minutes with a picture book or one chapter of a novel. It really is something they'll never forget 💕My head to her chest, hearing her heartbeat, breath, and voice through her chest...like being her lil baby all over again ☺
Holy motivation!! Thank you for sharing your story and making it NORMAL to bounce from area to area, room to room, task to task. I will use this tactic when I feel overwhelmed- which is most of the time in terms of cleaning the house.
You’re so welcome! Really glad you resonated with it. (I’m overwhelmed with the housework the majority of the time too!) 😊
10:57 (So Remi I don’t comment often, there are many people here who say you changed their life, I am also one of them) I am one of your biggest fans 😁lol. You are definitely the person cleaning/organizing/tidying with me. Listening to you has led me to this method. Highly effective, and you don’t have to wait until things become to big to handle or you don’t even know where to begin, and it keeps getting worse and worse. (So this method of tidying never leaves me, I keep it in my head as often as possible until it becomes the permanent habit, your in a room what do you see that does not belong in that room, grab it and that item (or multiple items) is catching a ride to where it’s supposed to go.) Also while listening to you I began thinking (this was awhile back) perhaps there is fear within me, fear that I won’t have anything to do if the whole house is tidy and clean all the time (slowly I am concurring that fear). Also listening to you I realized each system is a gear apart of your house or living space. Take laundry for example, I made the gear work in my living space, but I found there is no way I physically can make that gear functioning properly if I have to keep other gears going daily. So I observed that thought, amazingly my husband did huge furniture changes and I thought that was the perfect time to change the laundry system. So instead of me being the 1 large temperamental gear that has to on occasion have an outsourced maintenance crew come in to help ;) lol. We now have several gears working daily on the laundry system, and they are small gears so the “work” load is not much for anyone, it’s apart of life and it’s manageable. I don’t know If I ever would have got to this level of thinking without listening to your channel, so thank you thank you thank you 🙏 you are so much appreciated. ❤
It's so satisfying to watch along as you order up your lovely little home- and a blessing to listen to your kind and gentle words. If there's one thing I've realised along the way of life - like you - stripping yourself down with harsh words and ugliness doesn't bring you even one step closer to where you'd like to be. But, listening to yourself and understand how your brain works - to best get your task done - that's a massively effective life hack!
So true, we need to be kind to ourselves. I beat myself up because I don't get things done, after finding this video, I feel some hope. Tomorrow is a new day.
@@jeanvreeland3179 Yes, absolutely right, take a minute to appreciate how wonderful you are and how much you love you! And love out to you from this internet stranger to a fellow traveller also trying to be a better person 😊🤗
You're just so lovely, remi! Thanks for the pep talk!🥰😍💖💖💖
I did want to share an analogy that was a game changer for me. Someone explained that adhd brains love projects. So start viewing tasks as projects. She was watching men build an addition on her house. She noticed that every day they did the same thing. Gathered materials, did the thing for the day, and then an hour before they had to leave cleaned up the job site so it would be ready to go for the next step tomorrow.
I started doing this with cooking 🍳 and it worked so well that I started doing it with other chores around my house! Got the stuff needed for the task, did the thing, and then cleaned up at the end. So I didn't have to clear the way the next time I came back to do the thing again. Bc if I don't, I won't do the thing! And eating is kind of important. 😂
Thank you, Remi. I thought I was the only one that did this. Nice to know I'm not.
Yes. I make lists and they help. But I also do this.
Me too!
My husband doesn't get it and I've explained it a hundred different ways. He just cannot connect to it. With so many things... ah well. It is what it is. I feel like I'm having a therapy session listening to your videos. Your vibe is definitely connecting to me. Since I'm new to your channel, I have a whole bunch of other videos I can still watch. :)
Ur home looks great. If that way of cleaning helps you, then thats obviously the best way for you ❤
Thank you ❤️
🙋🏾♀️ 1. Hiiiii!!!! 2. I literally yelled “GURL! Where’ve you been?!” when I saw this video notification. YT hasn’t been showing your posts. Hoping you and the fam are doing ok. 3. This video was perfectly timed. My house is an absolute disaster. Used your timed cleaning sessions to tackle the kitchen and bathroom yesterday. I’m watch the rest of this while I do the living room and bedroom. 🤎🤎🤎
Woohoo! Congrats on your progress! 🎉
❤ You are delightful. I love listening to you chat “with me.“ Your delivery reminds me of what Mr. Rogers explained about his speaking focus on his show: he was always speaking to one child. Even though thousands were watching, each of them felt personally reached. You do that.
I’ve been frustrated by having loud music drone on in a video called “clean with me.” If I wanted to clean to music I’d put on what I like. You feel like a friend, and I like it when you say that someone still watching is your bff.
I am 66 and just retired in April. No one ever explained the nuances of differing brain capabilities like you have, and I see myself in some of your explanations. I’ve been struggling with my home and you’re really helping me to ease open the door and get a bit done.
Thank you so much, and God bless you.
With thanksgiving,
Katharine
Any method that works cannot be called silly! You are an a azing human being, and thank you for helping so many people.❤❤
This is exactly how I clean. And exactly how I am. If I find something in the living room that belongs in the bathroom I spend 5 minutes doing a bit of cleaning, maybe the sink and the shelf over the sink .
On the way back to the LR pass the bedroom, fuck in pick up a few things I need to toss out.
BUT when I get tired, or my back hurts, I sit down, and then,,...disaster.
This is the FIRST video I've found that fits me.
At the moment it's 85 degrees and incredibly humid inside my apartment in Italy at 12: 30 at night.
I just discovered you're in you're 30's. I'll be 78 in August. It DOES get harder with age.
Nevertheless, I do try. Very grateful to have your video 🙏
PS. I note that you dry your clothes on the radiators and a drying rack. I assume you don't have a dryer.
ME EITHER!
Never, in the 21 years I've lived in Italy.
And never in 20 years when I lived in NYC.
Everyone in America has a dryer. They have no idea what it's like to live without one.
I also see you don't have a dishwasher. Me either!
How you do the dishes is how I do mine!
Boy am I glad yo have found you!
Thank you, thank you thank you😘
Thank you. I loved the video .I have tidied like this for years .I also do it when I'm waiting for the kettle to boil or food to cook .
Such a good idea to do mini timer challenges like that! 😊
Besides all the wise things you say, I love your voice. You would be an amazing motivational speaker!!
I really love your channel, Remi! You are so real and refreshing. Your kids are going to remember all the loving times you spent with them, snuggling together reading a book, not necessarily how clean the house is! You are investing your time in your children-well done!
You are so right. My son had the flu really bad when he was 17. And he asked me - I was flabbergasted - to tuck him in and read to him as I used to do when he was little. 😂😂😂. All his girlfriends were told, that they would never be able to reach onto the christmasses we had in our house.
Quite a few of them were really upset, because they were very neat and clean - and I cannot keep up. Building fond memories doesn't really need the smell of desinfectant, right 👍🏽
Hi there, Remi! Just wanted to drop a note here to thank you for sharing your life so vulnerable with a bunch of strangers! I appreciate your efforts so very much. You give me inspiration, not only for tidying, but also to remember that I'm not alone in my struggles and that I'm doing ok. Your voice, your honesty and your humor help me feel better and do better. So, thank you!!
Your intro…. Clearly you know me. Exact description of what happens to me. Very comforting that obviously I’m not the only one. ❤
I love watching you pick up your children's toys! They are picked up, sorted, placed all at once! I know the boys pick up and one day they will handle it all but what you're doing is a lot of loving and respectful work! * When the kitchen gets bad I count the handwash items and do 1/3. It is do-able! I can DO 1/3! The idea is to come back in an hour and do the next 1/3. Man this helps me! * Realize what you do well. The shortfalls don't matter because you are already working to better them. But what you do well, other people may find those things hard to do. What you do well are your superpowers! Bravo!
After hearing your voice-overs and knowing the daily challenges you have... I have to say...I admire you so much...I see an absolute beautiful and caring mom that works to overcome life everyday. You inspire me to become a better person like you...Thank you so much for your video's.
Your so right remi . It's hard to keep on routine and you try to keep on track. For me it's hard every day is different. Appreciate your channel ❤
The same for me too! I don’t know what each day will bring, I just try to roll with it as best I can. ❤️
Remi ... Midwest Magic Cleaning gave you a shout out on his channel and asked that we let you know if we came over to say hi. But I've already been a follower of yours just wanted you to know about it! ❤ And I told him the same... that you're so sweet and real and thanked him for telling his audience to visit your channel 😊
I second this comment I got so excited when he gave her a shout out I was like yesss I love her 😊❤
Me too.
Thank you, it feels like someone understands me, lots of love, IAM 💖
Thanks, Remi. Cheers from California!
You’re very welcome!! Thanks for watching ☺️
Thank you, Remi! What I’ve been doing recently when I need to clean my house is watch one of your videos while relaxing- from start to finish. Then I put on another one- probably one I’ve already watched- and put on my headphones and just listen while I actually clean my house. Your voice is lovely and your words are so motivating for this neuro spicy momma. Thank you! Love from Kansas!
Your videos are like that soft, cuddly blanket that makes us feel all cosy and warm❤. Thank you for making these lovely, motivational and therapeutic videos Remi for the ones that struggle to keep on top of it all. This means alot x
I loved listening to you while I’m working knowing I need to clean later. Everything you’ve said resonated with me. The irritation, the overwhelming feelings, the distraction… I appreciate it so much.
Remi, when I was growing up Me & my sister's Use to do just 1 thing. Like I would vacuum & My older sister would dust & My little sister would clean the bathroom. Now that Im going on 65 I notice that I get Tired Really Fast. My Mom would be so upset with me & How my Place looks like. Our House growing up was spotless & I Do LOVE A CLEAN HOUSE. but I have day's When I cant even get into & I just do not even have the energy!!! It does suck to get Get Old !!! Lol. I Love your Video's & This is my 2nd Video From you. Thank you !!!
I just watch so I can listen to you talk. You always have something inspiring to say. 💖
Ahh thank you! 😊
I really liked this video. I've been struggling to add a couple of new habits to my Autopilot Routine and it's a pain - but there really is no better feeling than when you realise you've done that new habit without thinking about it ♥ I like the flow of this method; it's like a spring breeze or cool stream, moving where gravity takes it, gently freshening in its wake.
I’m impressed by your courage to show your inside home and being honest and vulnerable. Respect and all the best!
I love watching your videos while I'm cleaning or working out. It's like we're having a chat and I'm listening to a close friend while getting my stuff done at the same time you're getting your things done. Wishing you and yours the very best, you more than deserve it.
Thank you for being honest and so open about your struggles to clean. I am 74 and have been mentally beating myself up for not cleaning my house but I cant seem to get motivated. I always feel like I am the only person that has a messy house but when you told of your struggles, it helped me to know im not alone
A wonderful video,with so much depth of thought,insight, and understanding! Thank you so much 🙏🏻. You are a blessing 👍🏻😊🙏🏻
Thank you so much!!! ☺️❤️