When my children were little , my home was never tidy . Blink , and they've grown up and have homes of their own . I totally agree with you , dont stress , its all about the journey ❤. Lovely to see you 😊
I know I so try to say this to myself but it's hard when you are alone doing it all alone and you are in the thick of. I try my best in moment but then some how I find something to beat myself up about it and mom guilt about something. 😢
@gabriellecusson1400 I know , it's easy for me to say all this looking back , it's different at the time . But the years fly by so fast , make the most of them while they are young and try to enjoy life as much as possible. 🩵🩷
So true. Looking back, I would have drastically reduced the amount of toys the kids had so it was easier to maintain. But, we’re empty nesters now and grandparents to two beautiful boys. Hindsight is 20/20. Time flies. But one does live and learn. ❤
Honey, you think your house is a mess, but I don't see a mess. I see a mom who prioritizes her kids over the house. I don't think any mother can say anything is wrong with that. The amount of times this creeps up on so many of us, it just happens overnight it seems sometimes. You got this. You are truly an amazingly good human.
I thought I was the only one that waited all day for my appointment before doing anything else. REMI, thank you so much for saying out loud "I'm not crazy".😂
I've been feeling really extra mentally ill, not sleeping or eating well, but your videos motivate me so much and show me that it's okay to take my time and not feel guilty for being overwhelmed. ❤ Baby steps
Sent here by Midwest Cleaning. Into your video the first 2 minutes I knew I'd love you. Your voice is so calming to me and I just love you. New subscriber.
This makes me emotional 😢 you talking about how I feel with life ,Saturday I had 3 of my grandchildren and parents plus my son who lives with me who I care for, I made lunch,cut the grass, changed my bedding, put two lots of washing on line, ive done nothing since they all left Saturday its now Tuesday and my house is so messy ,I'm tired and just watching TV 📺 and doing diamond art ,I've not even had bath,im 53 and have always struggled with everything x I love your videos ❤️
Oh my word! I feel for you! I am 51 and EXACTLY the same! 😢 I find such comfort in Remi's videos!! She is s🎉o REAL!! Blessed to know we are not alone! ❤ Will be thinking of you as I try to get my mess and life sorted and will keep you in my prayers! 😊
I’m living for these voice overs today. After months of being in too much pain and overwhelmed to get more than the essentials done. Thank you for body doubling me today.
Agreed! I just made the weirdest noise when I saw you had uploaded a new video. I clicked on your channel so I could clean and declutter with you on in the background. I’m not watching this yet though, I’m going to save it for later to sit down and actually watch properly for once and enjoy. ❤
I totally agree, it’s not often I see someone wide as vertically challenged as I am, lol. I have all the things she talks about, waiting mode, executive dysfunction etc etc and on top of that, about 14 years ago I had accidents and not live in a disability pension. What’s incredibly frustrating about it if that even when I get motivated there are some things I just have to avoid doing. I have to ask someone else to help but the only people I know (I don’t really have any friends) are my grown up kids and they’re too busy living their own lives so things sit undone and I feel like crap (mental health wise) about not being able to do them myself anymore.
How do we fix this or is this just a permanent thing? Seriously I don’t know, do I need to get help or is this just a trait that is some of us have forever
Well, I think I love you. It’s not just the soothing nature of your voice, or the positive vibes you bring, and it’s not just because you inspire me to be better about my own procrastination in regards to cleaning. And though I can relate completely with your experiences and I find in you a kindred spirit, that still not why I love you. It’s bc I feel your genuine spirit coming through, your honesty and kindness. Despite your self doubts and fears, I hope you become more confident and secure with each passing moment. Thank you for all you do.
I love watching you achieve equilibrium 🦋 I lived with a mum who made us clean (from a very early age ) , my friends used to think we were like slaves lol Christmas memories were destroyed because of cleaning , we couldn’t go to bed until it was perfect. I had ocd tendencies & so many distorted beliefs because of this. I love seeing a home lived in and toys played with 🦋
I can definitely sympathize Remi. I needed a motivational video just like this ❤️👍🏻I was so excited to see a new video from you, have made my day🤗🌺maybe I can find a place in all my mess to get started. And I’m renaming my mess : My burnout challenge 👍🏻🙏
My mum accidentally got a kitchen bin that was far too small, so that we have to empty it at least once a day, often twice, because there's not much room in it. But it was a faff to replace it, so she just kept it 'for now'. Anyway, it turned out to be great and she hasn't gone back to a normal size bin, because nothing sits around long enough to smell!
I just wanted to thank you Remi - for getting me up off my bottom, and tackling those dirty dishes! For listening to your intelligent conversation, and for your positive attitude, even when you seem to have so much to do! You are a breath of fresh air - and the house has a breath of fresh air when you have cleaned it all. Blessings, and many thanks to you for being there, and for posting these positive videos, and for all your hard work in doing so. Blessings from a rather dark and dismill West Devon, England, and Jilly & Madge. xxx
Thank you for another great video. I'm a clean-as-you-go type, but I appreciate the insight into why this doesn't work for everyone. Some people just can't fathom that other people experience things differently, or as you said, they just don't want to understand. Thank you for explaining it to those of us who do want to understand.
Hi Remi. Long time follower. I have ADHD, late diagnosed and you have well articulated my struggles. Thank you! I am now a declutter coach , trained by Dana K white and work with other ADHD folks. I figure I If I can turn it all, around, I can also help others to do the same.
You motivate me every time Remi. Even though my child is grown up and gone I love watching your videos . When I feel low and can’t be bothered to do anything you always give me the impetus to get going. You’re an amazing young lady. Many thanks xxx
I really wish youtube had a little love 💕 button. I can't explain how comforted your channel makes me. Thank you you help more then you know. Gratefully yours.
I struggle with executive function all the things you mentioned and more. On top of that I have fibromyalgia, chronically pain/fatigue, menopause and other health issues !! It’s isolating, lonely, frustrating … I want to cry but I appreciate you talking about it angel Remi. Overwhelmed, stress and shame linked to cleaning you can’t get on top of and what it says about you as a person when you’re actually house proud as the next person 😢❤
Love that you're doing videos from this POV. As someone who has chronic pain, seeing people do massive cleans of their whole house can make me feel pretty useless. Seeing someone else pace themselves in a manageable load feels very comforting. Thank you❤
Exactly what I'm in the mood for. Cleaning, but realistic and slowed down. Because I'm real and slowed down and as much as I enjoy the sppedy ones they can leave you feeling alienated if you're not feeling capable of doing a lot at once in your own home....going to finish watching after I refill my hot water bottle . Thanks Remi for providing me with the Remi Show! 🥰
"Task paralysis" describes my life as of late. I want to do something and yet I cannot seem to get started 😩 You're a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day, Remi ☀️ I love spending time with you watching your videos. 😊 ❤
I grew up in a household where we had to deep clean every week. But cleaning was considered punishment. It wasn't presented as a healthy principle. So as I became an adult, I struggled with cleaning because I detested it. I would stay up latecleaning everyday and run the rest of the day on little to no sleep. I had to teach myself to clean through daily small tasks so that I wasn't overwhelmed at the end of the week. And that taking a break and knowing when you need rest is important as well. Remi, I appreciate you sharing your life and your mind with us. Your cleaning videos help me so much ❤!
I am disabled, and after a busy summer,with my 11yo great grandson,went back to Seattle, my place is a disaster,and my back, isnt letting me putter like i want to😊 new sub here from Spokane Valley Wa ❤ may this post incourage me,to get things done,and may this post find All well and blessed😊
Remi, it’s like you’ve got a hidden to my life and you’re telling my story on RUclips. I love watching your videos. I’m currently in a difficult situation where I need to sell my home and move in to take care of my elderly father. I’m so overwhelmed by the pressure to get my house (that’s unbelievably messy) cleaned, packed up and ready to be sell. There’s additional pressure that I can’t leave him for long periods. I feel like if I could afford it, I’d pay for everything it would take to get you over to the USA to coach me. Unfortunately that’s not an option. But it would be a tremendous help for you and all your followers to say a word of prayer for my family. It feels almost impossible to find a way out of this hole I’m in. I’m so thankful for you and your content. It’s more relatable than you’ll ever know. God Bless you, Remi!!
@@customer5032 Believe me I would do that if he would go. He’s 91 and I respect him and love him more than anything. He won’t go and I’d never make him. But you’re sweet to take the time to first read my comment and then to comment. We lost my mom a little over a year ago. I’m sure he feels close to her here. We all do. I can give up my home easier that I could try to take him from here. I may not get much more time with him. Again very sweet suggestion.
I have only just found this video, so I don't know how your life has been progressing since, but I hope all is going well and I wish you strength for the tasks, and quietness of the soul to help you get through it all. Blessings from Wales for you and your father ShEmBecca xx
@ Thank you!! Hope things are going well in Wales. Nothing has changed except my dad’s health is getting worse. I’m moving forward with selling my house and I have peace with that. I can get started cleaning next week. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
My waiting paralysis happens on days when I am waiting for my Tesco shopping to be delivered. I have learnt to do earlier time slots so I can then get on with my day 😂
You instantly brighten my day Remi when I see you’ve posted a new video! Watching you clean is like a warm hug from a friend who just GETS it!!! Thank you for being you! ❤❤❤
Hi Remi, thank you so much for this video. ❤❤❤ It was very helpful to watch. Me as a single mom of 2 can relate to how mess can build up within only minutes. Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed is a daily issue. Although I have always been more in the OCD direction. But: having kids, divorce, depression phases have made me change. I love things neat and clean. At this point of my life it's really executive disfunction that happens to me. Upcoming deadlines really push me to get things done. I really love your words: neat is enough, it doesn't have to be perfect. 😊 I'm looking forward to the other parts of your series. Have a great week ❤❤.
OMG.. you just described me to a tea. I just finished my dissertation at uni and I swear it has caused me so much stress! I just couldn't function. Thank you so much for being so honest and amazing.
My house is always in a mess, no matter how much I do in a day 😅 It used to drive me crazy, and well, it still annoys me, but not as much as it used to. I've decided if I do one load of laundry, (hand) wash a load of dishes, and my kids and pets are fed, then I'm not doing too bad. The rest will wait until I get to it 🤷🏼♀️
Years ago I had a book that was written by two sisters called The Side Tracked Home Executive. Just like you’re talking. It’s how I am. You are an encouragement!
It is a true gift to be able to let go and be comfortable. I’ve been fortunate enough to host large families in my home, Thankfully, this helped me get my priorities straight 🥰
thank you Remi for showing the real side of cleaning. I related a lot to the “dropping the ball once and falling off the cycle” part. it is so hard but u explain everything so well. ur voice is calming and comforting and i appreciate your videos so much!
Your videos always help me so much. It's so validating to hear I'm not the only one who deals with this all. I get so exhausted sometimes, but I still try. Thank you for being so relatable and willing to discuss these things while also being vulnerable enough to put yourself out there for us. ❤
You have described perfectly what happens with my house and me. I have 4 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment. There is always something messy, no matter how hard I try. I beat nyself up mentally for not being able to do the things that need doing. I appreciate you so much for your honesty. It has helped me immensely just knowing imnot alone. Thank you!
I love the way you explain things, changing our cleaning/tidying techniques based on our frame of mind is so true and it was you that helped me realise that I too struggle with executive dysfunction x
Remi Clog what a wonderful human you are! An inspirational teacher that I have learnt so much from. Thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there, you are doing a fantastic job and it is truly appriciated!
Thank you so much for your videos! It helps to know that there are others in this world that are tired but still keep trying... Thank you for sharing with us!
Remi life happens. You are starting again and doing that is moving forward. Well done. Thanks for always keeping it real and reminding me and others to be kind and gentle with ourselves. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐
Thank you for unlocking a mystery for me! If I know I have to be somewhere at lets say 3 I will literally wait the entire day for 3 even doing nothing, I just cant start another task until that 3 oclock task is done. You have explained so many things I struggle with and it makes me feel better knowing I am not crazy after all lol
Wow, this video touched my heart! Your ability to convey such warmth and depth of feeling is truly incredible. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with all of us; it takes so much courage, and I appreciate your genuineness deeply. As someone with ADHD as well, your authenticity resonates with me profoundly. I’m so grateful to have this glimpse into your journey. Keep shining your light and spreading that goodness! Sending you all my love and support! 💖✨🙏🙏
You are an exceptional mum ! ❤ currently 4 weeks postpartum with an active two year old boy , my anxiety usually leads to me not being able to stop and slow down I would spend all day cleaning . You always remind me that mess can be tidied any time but you won’t always have these moments with your babies ❤️ thank you definitely helped me through them baby blues !
Hi Remy. What I love about your videos is that it's the real thing. Nothing's always sunshine and roses. Something's one room's more than enough to clean and declutter. Thanks for looking into your world. Have a wonderful week. Greetings from Germany.
Hi, Remi. Thank you for the video and for being so supportive of people with different ways of dealing with cleaning, etc. you are very knowledgeable and well spoken about helpful ways of dealing with stress. I think you may have missed your calling to be a counselor. ❤. How often do you/your partner water the orchids? Thank you!
I’m not sure why but watching this video I am actually in tears-what you are describing with having to put effort in to remember to do routines making you irritable is exactly me! It was like you were looking inside my head 😂I didn’t know other people felt like this. I’m so grateful for your videos and your honesty-I’m learning so much about myself and how to cope and you genuinely make me feel less alone. Thank you x
i just want to say i love ur videos! i struggle with mental health and no matter how often i clean my room ends up looking similarly to ur house a day after i clean. i hate being messy, but i struggle so much with cleaning. your videos helped me so much with not feeling bad about letting my house get messy, and its the only motivation to help me clean. i religiously watch ur videos when i need to clean my room, ur soothing voice and energy is really calming like a mum was helping me go through it! thank you!
Thank you for teaching me, my "something new" for the day; I was just talking with my best friend this weekend about "how do people schedule more than one event per day" because I struggle to relax in between...which sounds an awful lot like "waiting mode". Enjoyed today's video - carry on 😊
I can relate. Several appointments a week is like torture. And even only one...depends on the kind of event. But I'm mentally through with that day, no matter when it's scheduled.
I have recently found your videos, and oh my goodness everything you talk about is me! I struggle every single day but knowing I’m not the only one has really helped me! Thanks for doing what you do! Also good luck on your book, I will definitely be reading it when it’s all done!!
I have this thing too, where I really need to be alone. Sometimes it works out and sometimes I had something planned. I've had to cancel plans before because I really couldn't do it and I'm so glad my friends understood. And sometimes I push through and go because I think I should make an effort for them, just to show them I care about them and it's exhausting but I also enjoyed time with my friends and made memories.
You’re doing great taking care of your family and home! None of us are perfect and never will be. We all just do the best we can. BTW, I have to say that each time we get a glimpse of your garden, I can’t believe how beautiful and green the grass looks! You’ve got to be so proud of your yard! ❤️
I love watching your videos they are so relatable and most of the time give me the boost to get up and the cleaning done especially when I've been putting it off all day 😀
I felt so seen when I looked away from you picking the food out of the plug hole and then getting the 'apologies to anyone who doesn't like seeing food get picked out of the plughole' You are amazing at putting words to the things we struggle with in this house and I want to thank you for doing these ❤
Feeling so overwhelmed with housework and kids school stuff and life in general and your videos always remind me I’m not alone with this . Also have purchased some nematodes after spending lots of money on new turf in the summer . Thanks to your videos I may save my grass this year x
Today is the first time I came across your videos and you have inspired me so much. After watching a few videos today while cleaning, I have come to appreciate your words of encouragement and honesty. Life has been quite hard lately. Watching your videos helps me along. Thank you so much, Remi!
In this video you really helped me to understand my sister and why she is the way she is and how certain areas of her home become disaster areas so quickly. Best explanation I’ve ever heard.!!!❤️❤️❤️
Is so nice to ear you talk loud and clear about things i suffer and didn t know i am suffering them. I do spend the day waiting for an appointment, so much so sometimes i dont even sleep, thank you !!! Same to work for my shitf... love your channel, thank you!!! Even your dog bed is same to mine!! i can sign up every single word of what you say, you explain me soooo well !
Thank you, that's all I can say. As I watched and listened to the 2 parts of videos I got up and started tackling my own kitchen, something I'd put off for 5ish months. So thank you for being my kind of clean along buddy.
Thank you Remi, you explained so many things that I deal with daily, some of these behaviors started later in life for me but I didn't really know it was so so common...I spend all day "picking up, making sure everthing had a home" BUT I struggle big time with the stuff behind closed doors..the big tasks overwhelm me even tho at the end of it it didn't take long at all lol..Im 49 yrs old and just learned something new, so thank you .💙
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. Sometimes the mess that stresses is financial or medical or relationship related... But it's really all the same.
Oh boy, you just read my mail! I really appreciate you so much! I am one of those recovering messies, who feels like I am having to work hard to learn how to turn my greatest flaw into a great strength. Because I think like you, you’re easy for me to learn from! Onward and upward! May God bless you abundantly today!🎉🎉
Oh you just made my day!!! I just FINALLY did a big clean yesterday in my kitchen after putting it off for months. Got rid of all the old, unused bits and bobs, washed all the dishes, and scrubbed my floors. I thought, “Remi would be so proud of me!” 😂 I love listening to you and have been trying to get to the same mindset that I’ll do what I can when I can and not hate myself for not being perfect. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and struggles with us!
I have all of the things you mentioned, I thought it was just me and that I'm just useless at life. Thank you for making me feel not so alone and hopeless, I would definitely read your book ❤
Hi Remi im I'm a mom from South Africa love your Chanel how I missed you. This is exactly what I needed missed you ❤. I've been feeling exactly like that overwhelmed so tired my body can't carry me thank you
When my children were little , my home was never tidy . Blink , and they've grown up and have homes of their own . I totally agree with you , dont stress , its all about the journey ❤. Lovely to see you 😊
I know I so try to say this to myself but it's hard when you are alone doing it all alone and you are in the thick of. I try my best in moment but then some how I find something to beat myself up about it and mom guilt about something. 😢
So true
@gabriellecusson1400 I know , it's easy for me to say all this looking back , it's different at the time . But the years fly by so fast , make the most of them while they are young and try to enjoy life as much as possible. 🩵🩷
Agree 💯
So true. Looking back, I would have drastically reduced the amount of toys the kids had so it was easier to maintain. But, we’re empty nesters now and grandparents to two beautiful boys. Hindsight is 20/20. Time flies. But one does live and learn. ❤
Waiting mode is horrible and so difficult to explain to people. Thank you for sharing it helps to feel seen and know I'm not the only one. ❤
I totally agree I think I have this and I never even realised 😂❤
I deliberately schedule my appointments as early in the day as possible to avoid this very thing! I feel so accomplished afterwards 😂
I didn't know there was a name for this, or that other people struggle with it!!
That's me too!! I procrastinate and it makes me feel really guilty
Me too !!
Honey, you think your house is a mess, but I don't see a mess. I see a mom who prioritizes her kids over the house. I don't think any mother can say anything is wrong with that. The amount of times this creeps up on so many of us, it just happens overnight it seems sometimes. You got this. You are truly an amazingly good human.
I thought I was the only one that waited all day for my appointment before doing anything else. REMI, thank you so much for saying out loud "I'm not crazy".😂
I do this too!
You really aren’t alone. I do the same thing and it can be rough😊
I've been feeling really extra mentally ill, not sleeping or eating well, but your videos motivate me so much and show me that it's okay to take my time and not feel guilty for being overwhelmed. ❤ Baby steps
Oh bless you! You should never feel guilty. You’re so right, baby steps. I hope you’re feeling a lot better soon. ❤️
You would make a wonderful therapist Remi!
Yes agree
Her voice is lovely! ❤
Yes …. If you have a podcast I would love to listen to it remi 😊
@@JB-st9no An Audio of the book Remi is writing would be fab. Just plug her in and start on the housework!
Sent here by Midwest Cleaning. Into your video the first 2 minutes I knew I'd love you. Your voice is so calming to me and I just love you. New subscriber.
This makes me emotional 😢 you talking about how I feel with life ,Saturday I had 3 of my grandchildren and parents plus my son who lives with me who I care for, I made lunch,cut the grass, changed my bedding, put two lots of washing on line, ive done nothing since they all left Saturday its now Tuesday and my house is so messy ,I'm tired and just watching TV 📺 and doing diamond art ,I've not even had bath,im 53 and have always struggled with everything x I love your videos ❤️
Oh my word! I feel for you! I am 51 and EXACTLY the same! 😢 I find such comfort in Remi's videos!! She is s🎉o REAL!! Blessed to know we are not alone! ❤ Will be thinking of you as I try to get my mess and life sorted and will keep you in my prayers! 😊
Remi...you are like a bandaid for my soul. Thank you❤
I love how realistic and honest you are, Remi. Thank you for voicing my life in your words! xx
I’m living for these voice overs today. After months of being in too much pain and overwhelmed to get more than the essentials done. Thank you for body doubling me today.
You are my favorite body double Remi❤
Absolutely means the world! Thank you ❤️
Agreed! I just made the weirdest noise when I saw you had uploaded a new video. I clicked on your channel so I could clean and declutter with you on in the background. I’m not watching this yet though, I’m going to save it for later to sit down and actually watch properly for once and enjoy. ❤
Ike loves those packing materials!!! 😂
She is mine too.
I totally agree, it’s not often I see someone wide as vertically challenged as I am, lol. I have all the things she talks about, waiting mode, executive dysfunction etc etc and on top of that, about 14 years ago I had accidents and not live in a disability pension. What’s incredibly frustrating about it if that even when I get motivated there are some things I just have to avoid doing. I have to ask someone else to help but the only people I know (I don’t really have any friends) are my grown up kids and they’re too busy living their own lives so things sit undone and I feel like crap (mental health wise) about not being able to do them myself anymore.
Omg remi I didn't even know it was a thing I can't plan anything if I have an appointment ❤
I'm the same. I get nothing done on garbage day until it's picked up. Feels stupid but it's reality.
How do we fix this or is this just a permanent thing? Seriously I don’t know, do I need to get help or is this just a trait that is some of us have forever
I’m the same way.❤
True! I should only make morning appointments.
@@sandrab.3538 That's a great idea!
This is *exactly* what I need! We need more REALISTIC expectations. Thank you for seeing us and breaking the mold❤
A real person , posting a video about real mess, it's refreshing :)
Well, I think I love you. It’s not just the soothing nature of your voice, or the positive vibes you bring, and it’s not just because you inspire me to be better about my own procrastination in regards to cleaning. And though I can relate completely with your experiences and I find in you a kindred spirit, that still not why I love you. It’s bc I feel your genuine spirit coming through, your honesty and kindness. Despite your self doubts and fears, I hope you become more confident and secure with each passing moment. Thank you for all you do.
I love watching you achieve equilibrium 🦋
I lived with a mum who made us clean (from a very early age ) , my friends used to think we were like slaves lol
Christmas memories were destroyed because of cleaning , we couldn’t go to bed until it was perfect. I had ocd tendencies & so many distorted beliefs because of this.
I love seeing a home lived in and toys played with 🦋
I can definitely sympathize Remi. I needed a motivational video just like this ❤️👍🏻I was so excited to see a new video from you, have made my day🤗🌺maybe I can find a place in all my mess to get started. And I’m renaming my mess : My burnout challenge 👍🏻🙏
Oh bless you!! Wishing you lots of luck with yours, you’ve got this! 💪🏼❤️
My mum accidentally got a kitchen bin that was far too small, so that we have to empty it at least once a day, often twice, because there's not much room in it. But it was a faff to replace it, so she just kept it 'for now'.
Anyway, it turned out to be great and she hasn't gone back to a normal size bin, because nothing sits around long enough to smell!
I actually love this!!! Little things like this, that you wouldn’t really consider, can make all the difference.
I've done the same. It saves loads of bin space in the outside bin. Big black bin bags fill the bin within no time
I just wanted to thank you Remi - for getting me up off my bottom, and tackling those dirty dishes! For listening to your intelligent conversation, and for your positive attitude, even when you seem to have so much to do! You are a breath of fresh air - and the house has a breath of fresh air when you have cleaned it all. Blessings, and many thanks to you for being there, and for posting these positive videos, and for all your hard work in doing so. Blessings from a rather dark and dismill West Devon, England, and Jilly & Madge. xxx
Hearing you talk about executive disfunction. Makes me wonder if I have it too. And I can't wait for your book!
Thank you for another great video. I'm a clean-as-you-go type, but I appreciate the insight into why this doesn't work for everyone. Some people just can't fathom that other people experience things differently, or as you said, they just don't want to understand. Thank you for explaining it to those of us who do want to understand.
Hi Remi. Long time follower. I have ADHD, late diagnosed and you have well articulated my struggles. Thank you! I am now a declutter coach , trained by Dana K white and work with other ADHD folks. I figure I
If I can turn it all, around, I can also help others to do the same.
This is amazing!!! I love that you’re using your obstacles to help others ❤️
Hi Melanie!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp hiya Bonnie! ❤️
Thank you for what you do. Although we will never meet, your such a comfort for someone who lives deep in the heart of Texas.
You motivate me every time Remi. Even though my child is grown up and gone I love watching your videos . When I feel low and can’t be bothered to do anything you always give me the impetus to get going. You’re an amazing young lady. Many thanks xxx
I come here for the friendship and your wisdom, Remy! The cleaning is just a bonus to watch 😘
Oh thank you so so much! 🥹❤️
Opens youtube hoping for some motivation to get my adhd ass into cleaning mode...
Remis new video pops up on my home page... 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Devine timing 😂
I really wish youtube had a little love 💕 button. I can't explain how comforted your channel makes me. Thank you you help more then you know. Gratefully yours.
I struggle with executive function all the things you mentioned and more. On top of that I have fibromyalgia, chronically pain/fatigue, menopause and other health issues !!
It’s isolating, lonely, frustrating … I want to cry but I appreciate you talking about it angel Remi.
Overwhelmed, stress and shame linked to cleaning you can’t get on top of and what it says about you as a person when you’re actually house proud as the next person 😢❤
You are a great mom and woman, a messy home isnt gonna change this. Just wanted to say this❤
You know you're a mom when you have packing peanuts stuck to the bottom of your slippers.😂😂
That was awesome! 😂❤
Sooooo funny 😂❤
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Love that you're doing videos from this POV. As someone who has chronic pain, seeing people do massive cleans of their whole house can make me feel pretty useless. Seeing someone else pace themselves in a manageable load feels very comforting. Thank you❤
Exactly what I'm in the mood for.
Cleaning, but realistic and slowed down. Because I'm real and slowed down and as much as I enjoy the sppedy ones they can leave you feeling alienated if you're not feeling capable of doing a lot at once in your own home....going to finish watching after I refill my hot water bottle .
Thanks Remi for providing me with the Remi Show! 🥰
"Task paralysis" describes my life as of late. I want to do something and yet I cannot seem to get started 😩
You're a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day, Remi ☀️ I love spending time with you watching your videos. 😊 ❤
As much as I adore your cleaning videos, I would love to see more of your mom’s home. It’s just fascinating and beautiful ❤
I feel the burnout! Working on my pantry today. Taking a break & found your new post! Just what I needed!!❤😊
I grew up in a household where we had to deep clean every week. But cleaning was considered punishment. It wasn't presented as a healthy principle. So as I became an adult, I struggled with cleaning because I detested it. I would stay up latecleaning everyday and run the rest of the day on little to no sleep. I had to teach myself to clean through daily small tasks so that I wasn't overwhelmed at the end of the week. And that taking a break and knowing when you need rest is important as well. Remi, I appreciate you sharing your life and your mind with us. Your cleaning videos help me so much ❤!
I am disabled, and after a busy summer,with my 11yo great grandson,went back to Seattle, my place is a disaster,and my back, isnt letting me putter like i want to😊 new sub here from Spokane Valley Wa ❤ may this post incourage me,to get things done,and may this post find All well and blessed😊
Remi, it’s like you’ve got a hidden to my life and you’re telling my story on RUclips. I love watching your videos. I’m currently in a difficult situation where I need to sell my home and move in to take care of my elderly father. I’m so overwhelmed by the pressure to get my house (that’s unbelievably messy) cleaned, packed up and ready to be sell. There’s additional pressure that I can’t leave him for long periods. I feel like if I could afford it, I’d pay for everything it would take to get you over to the USA to coach me. Unfortunately that’s not an option. But it would be a tremendous help for you and all your followers to say a word of prayer for my family. It feels almost impossible to find a way out of this hole I’m in. I’m so thankful for you and your content. It’s more relatable than you’ll ever know. God Bless you, Remi!!
You are brilliant and caring you will come through,love from Germany ❤
Maybe he could move into your home, instead of you having to go through the drama of packing and selling yours? That would save you a ton of stress...
@@customer5032 Believe me I would do that if he would go. He’s 91 and I respect him and love him more than anything. He won’t go and I’d never make him. But you’re sweet to take the time to first read my comment and then to comment. We lost my mom a little over a year ago. I’m sure he feels close to her here. We all do. I can give up my home easier that I could try to take him from here. I may not get much more time with him. Again very sweet suggestion.
I have only just found this video, so I don't know how your life has been progressing since, but I hope all is going well and I wish you strength for the tasks, and quietness of the soul to help you get through it all. Blessings from Wales for you and your father ShEmBecca xx
@ Thank you!! Hope things are going well in Wales. Nothing has changed except my dad’s health is getting worse. I’m moving forward with selling my house and I have peace with that. I can get started cleaning next week. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Hi Remi! Lovely to see you again. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
Every time I watch your videos I feel you saying exactly how I feel, do things and want to be. Thank you I'm not alone x
My waiting paralysis happens on days when I am waiting for my Tesco shopping to be delivered. I have learnt to do earlier time slots so I can then get on with my day 😂
Hmm wow this is a good idea, trying to schedule meetings and appts earlier when able. I'm going to try that!!
You instantly brighten my day Remi when I see you’ve posted a new video! Watching you clean is like a warm hug from a friend who just GETS it!!! Thank you for being you! ❤❤❤
This has made my evening. Thank you!! ❤️
Hi Remi, thank you so much for this video. ❤❤❤ It was very helpful to watch. Me as a single mom of 2 can relate to how mess can build up within only minutes. Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed is a daily issue. Although I have always been more in the OCD direction. But: having kids, divorce, depression phases have made me change. I love things neat and clean. At this point of my life it's really executive disfunction that happens to me. Upcoming deadlines really push me to get things done. I really love your words: neat is enough, it doesn't have to be perfect. 😊
I'm looking forward to the other parts of your series. Have a great week ❤❤.
OMG.. you just described me to a tea. I just finished my dissertation at uni and I swear it has caused me so much stress! I just couldn't function. Thank you so much for being so honest and amazing.
My house is always in a mess, no matter how much I do in a day 😅 It used to drive me crazy, and well, it still annoys me, but not as much as it used to. I've decided if I do one load of laundry, (hand) wash a load of dishes, and my kids and pets are fed, then I'm not doing too bad. The rest will wait until I get to it 🤷🏼♀️
This!!! You’ve got the right attitude! ❤️
Mines, the same. I have 4 kids, and it doesn't matter how much I clean it. It never looks good. I've learnt to just accept it 😂
❤❤❤try to clean up a room a day
Remi it all happens to the best of us...glad were not alone!!❤😅 great job❤
Lovely to see you remi alwayes love your vlogs waiting patiently for the next one 😊
Thankyou so much for sharing.You have just described me to a T. I will definitely be buying your book!😊
Years ago I had a book that was written by two sisters called The Side Tracked Home Executive. Just like you’re talking. It’s how I am. You are an encouragement!
It is a true gift to be able to let go and be comfortable.
I’ve been fortunate enough to host large families in my home,
Thankfully, this helped me get my priorities straight 🥰
thank you Remi for showing the real side of cleaning. I related a lot to the “dropping the ball once and falling off the cycle” part. it is so hard but u explain everything so well. ur voice is calming and comforting and i appreciate your videos so much!
I love the idea of getting a room fully clean and then maintaining it with 10 minute speed cleans. That just might be the answer to my problems!
Your videos always help me so much. It's so validating to hear I'm not the only one who deals with this all. I get so exhausted sometimes, but I still try. Thank you for being so relatable and willing to discuss these things while also being vulnerable enough to put yourself out there for us. ❤
The book! I'd forgotten you had talked about doing that. Yay you! Really good to see you today Remi.
Thank you Remi ❤ as always you are the best. So kind, compassionate and real!
I’ve just discovered your channel and I am binge watching lol. You are so motivational and it’s just lovely to listen to you. 🥰
You have described perfectly what happens with my house and me. I have 4 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment. There is always something messy, no matter how hard I try. I beat nyself up mentally for not being able to do the things that need doing. I appreciate you so much for your honesty. It has helped me immensely just knowing imnot alone. Thank you!
I could listen to you all day, very therapeutic and just what we need sometimes. Thank you for being you, Remi 💛✨✨✨🏴
Thank you so much!! ☺️❤️
I love the way you explain things, changing our cleaning/tidying techniques based on our frame of mind is so true and it was you that helped me realise that I too struggle with executive dysfunction x
Hi ladies!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Hi Bonnie 😄 x
Remi Clog what a wonderful human you are! An inspirational teacher that I have learnt so much from. Thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there, you are doing a fantastic job and it is truly appriciated!
Thank you so much for your videos! It helps to know that there are others in this world that are tired but still keep trying... Thank you for sharing with us!
Remi life happens. You are starting again and doing that is moving forward. Well done. Thanks for always keeping it real and reminding me and others to be kind and gentle with ourselves. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐
Thank you for unlocking a mystery for me! If I know I have to be somewhere at lets say 3 I will literally wait the entire day for 3 even doing nothing, I just cant start another task until that 3 oclock task is done.
You have explained so many things I struggle with and it makes me feel better knowing I am not crazy after all lol
Wow, this video touched my heart! Your ability to convey such warmth and depth of feeling is truly incredible. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with all of us; it takes so much courage, and I appreciate your genuineness deeply. As someone with ADHD as well, your authenticity resonates with me profoundly. I’m so grateful to have this glimpse into your journey. Keep shining your light and spreading that goodness! Sending you all my love and support! 💖✨🙏🙏
You are an exceptional mum ! ❤ currently 4 weeks postpartum with an active two year old boy , my anxiety usually leads to me not being able to stop and slow down I would spend all day cleaning . You always remind me that mess can be tidied any time but you won’t always have these moments with your babies ❤️ thank you definitely helped me through them baby blues !
Hi Remy. What I love about your videos is that it's the real thing. Nothing's always sunshine and roses.
Something's one room's more than enough to clean and declutter.
Thanks for looking into your world.
Have a wonderful week.
Greetings from Germany.
Hi, Remi. Thank you for the video and for being so supportive of people with different ways of dealing with cleaning, etc. you are very knowledgeable and well spoken about helpful ways of dealing with stress. I think you may have missed your calling to be a counselor. ❤. How often do you/your partner water the orchids? Thank you!
I’m not sure why but watching this video I am actually in tears-what you are describing with having to put effort in to remember to do routines making you irritable is exactly me! It was like you were looking inside my head 😂I didn’t know other people felt like this. I’m so grateful for your videos and your honesty-I’m learning so much about myself and how to cope and you genuinely make me feel less alone. Thank you x
Hello! I love how you tackle your tasks with composure!👍 I loved how those "foam peanuts" clung to your pretty pink slippers for dear life! 🤣🤣🤣
i just want to say i love ur videos! i struggle with mental health and no matter how often i clean my room ends up looking similarly to ur house a day after i clean. i hate being messy, but i struggle so much with cleaning. your videos helped me so much with not feeling bad about letting my house get messy, and its the only motivation to help me clean. i religiously watch ur videos when i need to clean my room, ur soothing voice and energy is really calming like a mum was helping me go through it! thank you!
I love listening to you Remi.. so therapeutic. Can't wait for more cleaning videos to come.
Thank you for teaching me, my "something new" for the day; I was just talking with my best friend this weekend about "how do people schedule more than one event per day" because I struggle to relax in between...which sounds an awful lot like "waiting mode". Enjoyed today's video - carry on 😊
I can relate. Several appointments a week is like torture. And even only one...depends on the kind of event. But I'm mentally through with that day, no matter when it's scheduled.
I have recently found your videos, and oh my goodness everything you talk about is me! I struggle every single day but knowing I’m not the only one has really helped me! Thanks for doing what you do! Also good luck on your book, I will definitely be reading it when it’s all done!!
Thank you! Thank you so much! I cried watching this from feeling so seen and understood. I needed that so much. ❤
I have this thing too, where I really need to be alone. Sometimes it works out and sometimes I had something planned.
I've had to cancel plans before because I really couldn't do it and I'm so glad my friends understood.
And sometimes I push through and go because I think I should make an effort for them, just to show them I care about them and it's exhausting but I also enjoyed time with my friends and made memories.
You’re doing great taking care of your family and home! None of us are perfect and never will be. We all just do the best we can. BTW, I have to say that each time we get a glimpse of your garden, I can’t believe how beautiful and green the grass looks! You’ve got to be so proud of your yard! ❤️
I love watching your videos they are so relatable and most of the time give me the boost to get up and the cleaning done especially when I've been putting it off all day 😀
I felt so seen when I looked away from you picking the food out of the plug hole and then getting the 'apologies to anyone who doesn't like seeing food get picked out of the plughole'
You are amazing at putting words to the things we struggle with in this house and I want to thank you for doing these ❤
Feeling so overwhelmed with housework and kids school stuff and life in general and your videos always remind me I’m not alone with this . Also have purchased some nematodes after spending lots of money on new turf in the summer . Thanks to your videos I may save my grass this year x
Today is the first time I came across your videos and you have inspired me so much. After watching a few videos today while cleaning, I have come to appreciate your words of encouragement and honesty. Life has been quite hard lately. Watching your videos helps me along. Thank you so much, Remi!
In this video you really helped me to understand my sister and why she is the way she is and how certain areas of her home become disaster areas so quickly. Best explanation I’ve ever heard.!!!❤️❤️❤️
You're so spot on with understanding...love your insights....💟👏
Is so nice to ear you talk loud and clear about things i suffer and didn t know i am suffering them. I do spend the day waiting for an appointment, so much so sometimes i dont even sleep, thank you !!! Same to work for my shitf... love your channel, thank you!!! Even your dog bed is same to mine!! i can sign up every single word of what you say, you explain me soooo well !
Thank you, that's all I can say. As I watched and listened to the 2 parts of videos I got up and started tackling my own kitchen, something I'd put off for 5ish months. So thank you for being my kind of clean along buddy.
Me sitting here waiting for my mid morning Dr. appointment knowing I could get up and get some things done, but sadly no.
So glad I found your channel. Love your voice and tone & little gems of inspiration. 💜 Just what I needed today, thank you!
Thank you Remi, you explained so many things that I deal with daily, some of these behaviors started later in life for me but I didn't really know it was so so common...I spend all day "picking up, making sure everthing had a home" BUT I struggle big time with the stuff behind closed doors..the big tasks overwhelm me even tho at the end of it it didn't take long at all lol..Im 49 yrs old and just learned something new, so thank you .💙
Thank you. I needed to hear this today.
Sometimes the mess that stresses is financial or medical or relationship related... But it's really all the same.
Oh boy, you just read my mail! I really appreciate you so much! I am one of those recovering messies, who feels like I am having to work hard to learn how to turn my greatest flaw into a great strength. Because I think like you, you’re easy for me to learn from! Onward and upward! May God bless you abundantly today!🎉🎉
184k, YEAH, LOVE YOUR CHANNEL, you are wise beyond your years 😊
Ahh thank you so much!!! 😊
I hope you understand how much your videos inspire me ??? Love you plain speaking and motivational words ❤❤❤❤
Oh you just made my day!!! I just FINALLY did a big clean yesterday in my kitchen after putting it off for months. Got rid of all the old, unused bits and bobs, washed all the dishes, and scrubbed my floors. I thought, “Remi would be so proud of me!” 😂 I love listening to you and have been trying to get to the same mindset that I’ll do what I can when I can and not hate myself for not being perfect. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and struggles with us!
Remi, I love watching you. Your vocabulary is so broad, you clearly are very clever. I binged watched your videos. You are a warm lovely person.
Another wonderfully helpful video! Thank you!
Oh Remi, I’m so thankful for your videos ❤
Thank you, Remi! You cannot imagine how much I needed this today.
You're a gem!🤗
I have all of the things you mentioned, I thought it was just me and that I'm just useless at life. Thank you for making me feel not so alone and hopeless, I would definitely read your book ❤
Hi Remi im I'm a mom from South Africa love your Chanel how I missed you. This is exactly what I needed missed you ❤. I've been feeling exactly like that overwhelmed so tired my body can't carry me thank you
Came home from avoiding my housework... now I'm cleaning my kitchen too ❤ much love Remi