I've been feeling really extra mentally ill, not sleeping or eating well, but your videos motivate me so much and show me that it's okay to take my time and not feel guilty for being overwhelmed. ❤ Baby steps
When my children were little , my home was never tidy . Blink , and they've grown up and have homes of their own . I totally agree with you , dont stress , its all about the journey ❤. Lovely to see you 😊
I know I so try to say this to myself but it's hard when you are alone doing it all alone and you are in the thick of. I try my best in moment but then some how I find something to beat myself up about it and mom guilt about something. 😢
@gabriellecusson1400 I know , it's easy for me to say all this looking back , it's different at the time . But the years fly by so fast , make the most of them while they are young and try to enjoy life as much as possible. 🩵🩷
So true. Looking back, I would have drastically reduced the amount of toys the kids had so it was easier to maintain. But, we’re empty nesters now and grandparents to two beautiful boys. Hindsight is 20/20. Time flies. But one does live and learn. ❤
Remi I admire you so much! You are so knowledgeable about everything about yourself! I am a 58 year old mom of four adult children and two still live with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I wish I’d known sooner! It sure explained a lot! But I just love watching you! I think you are an amazing mom and wife! Please understand how very valuable you are to so many of us!
I just wanted to thank you Remi - for getting me up off my bottom, and tackling those dirty dishes! For listening to your intelligent conversation, and for your positive attitude, even when you seem to have so much to do! You are a breath of fresh air - and the house has a breath of fresh air when you have cleaned it all. Blessings, and many thanks to you for being there, and for posting these positive videos, and for all your hard work in doing so. Blessings from a rather dark and dismill West Devon, England, and Jilly & Madge. xxx
I thought I was the only one that waited all day for my appointment before doing anything else. REMI, thank you so much for saying out loud "I'm not crazy".😂
I am this way also. I thought I was crazy. I like to kinda plan out of my day in my mind. If there is something I have to do it seems like it ruined my whole day.
You explain mental stuff pretty well. The bit about ADD and leaving school work till the last minute and feeding off the rush to get it done, is me. My mother doesn't understand that. She forced me into college and I failed miserably after couple years. I burnt out and had zero desire to go back. I struggle with cleaning and keeping up with putting things away. I have severe depression and anxiety. Your video was so nice and you are delightful and caring. Thanks for sharing and do your best every day :3
Honey, you think your house is a mess, but I don't see a mess. I see a mom who prioritizes her kids over the house. I don't think any mother can say anything is wrong with that. The amount of times this creeps up on so many of us, it just happens overnight it seems sometimes. You got this. You are truly an amazingly good human.
You can do both. Having a clean home is also prioritising the kids. Anything else is just an excuse. Millions of people are neurodivergent. But us making excuses for our behaviour isn’t going to help. It takes harder work to create routines yes. But it’s not impossible. She is talking about one extreme to another. She needs to find the middle ground as she has said. There is a BIG difference between untidy and dirty. All kids deserve a clean home. It may be untidy at times, that’s life. But clean is really important for mental and physical wellbeing. Having people enable also isn’t helpful. Her house was in a real state. If social services was involved for any reason they would tell her she has to clean it more often. I can guarantee not all her time is focussed on the kids all the time. There will be lots of inactive time watching tv or other things. You have to make keeping your home one of your priorities. Not above your children, but alongside them. As a child who grew up in a dirty house I can tell you I was so embarrassed and it really affected my self esteem. I didn’t want friends over because I was ashamed. As someone who is on the spectrum I also know the difficulties. But I have also worked hard to overcome ones that can hurt not only my mental health, but they of my children.
@ obviously you’ve never been ill or not felt well. Instead of getting on your soap box try a little compassion. Not everyone needs or wants to be like you.
@@mummyloves5robson634 for many you are correct. However some battles are deeper than we can understand. Many people truly do have to choose where their energy goes because they just genuinely don't have the capacity for both.
Remi, I'm glad I found your channel. Wish I found it sooner, but I'm thrilled to have you in my life now. I love yours and your followers' attitudes: life happens and keep your family the priority. I was a single Mom and am proud of the relationship I built with my toddler into adulthood because the housework sometimes needed to wait. RUclips wasn't around back then so I carried the guilt of having a cluttered house. I didn't know that others went through the same struggles I did.
You motivate me every time Remi. Even though my child is grown up and gone I love watching your videos . When I feel low and can’t be bothered to do anything you always give me the impetus to get going. You’re an amazing young lady. Many thanks xxx
Sent here by Midwest Cleaning. Into your video the first 2 minutes I knew I'd love you. Your voice is so calming to me and I just love you. New subscriber.
This makes me emotional 😢 you talking about how I feel with life ,Saturday I had 3 of my grandchildren and parents plus my son who lives with me who I care for, I made lunch,cut the grass, changed my bedding, put two lots of washing on line, ive done nothing since they all left Saturday its now Tuesday and my house is so messy ,I'm tired and just watching TV 📺 and doing diamond art ,I've not even had bath,im 53 and have always struggled with everything x I love your videos ❤️
Oh my word! I feel for you! I am 51 and EXACTLY the same! 😢 I find such comfort in Remi's videos!! She is s🎉o REAL!! Blessed to know we are not alone! ❤ Will be thinking of you as I try to get my mess and life sorted and will keep you in my prayers! 😊
My mum accidentally got a kitchen bin that was far too small, so that we have to empty it at least once a day, often twice, because there's not much room in it. But it was a faff to replace it, so she just kept it 'for now'. Anyway, it turned out to be great and she hasn't gone back to a normal size bin, because nothing sits around long enough to smell!
I love watching you achieve equilibrium 🦋 I lived with a mum who made us clean (from a very early age ) , my friends used to think we were like slaves lol Christmas memories were destroyed because of cleaning , we couldn’t go to bed until it was perfect. I had ocd tendencies & so many distorted beliefs because of this. I love seeing a home lived in and toys played with 🦋
I grew up similar to you. Our house was almost model home quality. Dishes were done immediately after dinner and there was never a dish in the sink at bedtime. Though I was trained to keep a spotless house, it didn't carry over to my own home. I am cluttered but not dirty. The floors are constantly vacuumed because the dog sheds like crazy (love cordless stick vacuums). I try to keep the sink dish free but have no problem taking care of straggling dishes tomorrow. My adult son even washes his dishes as he goes so as not to have a bunch to do 😊 Now, the laundry is a different story....☹️
I can definitely sympathize Remi. I needed a motivational video just like this ❤️👍🏻I was so excited to see a new video from you, have made my day🤗🌺maybe I can find a place in all my mess to get started. And I’m renaming my mess : My burnout challenge 👍🏻🙏
"Task paralysis" describes my life as of late. I want to do something and yet I cannot seem to get started 😩 You're a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day, Remi ☀️ I love spending time with you watching your videos. 😊 ❤
Exactly what I'm in the mood for. Cleaning, but realistic and slowed down. Because I'm real and slowed down and as much as I enjoy the sppedy ones they can leave you feeling alienated if you're not feeling capable of doing a lot at once in your own home....going to finish watching after I refill my hot water bottle . Thanks Remi for providing me with the Remi Show! 🥰
I grew up in a household where we had to deep clean every week. But cleaning was considered punishment. It wasn't presented as a healthy principle. So as I became an adult, I struggled with cleaning because I detested it. I would stay up latecleaning everyday and run the rest of the day on little to no sleep. I had to teach myself to clean through daily small tasks so that I wasn't overwhelmed at the end of the week. And that taking a break and knowing when you need rest is important as well. Remi, I appreciate you sharing your life and your mind with us. Your cleaning videos help me so much ❤!
Thank you so much for explaining ED. I see myself in all of the examples you talk about, so thank you for normalizing it and making it feel doable. Plus: I'm binging your videos while getting tasks done🙏🏻
Thank you for another great video. I'm a clean-as-you-go type, but I appreciate the insight into why this doesn't work for everyone. Some people just can't fathom that other people experience things differently, or as you said, they just don't want to understand. Thank you for explaining it to those of us who do want to understand.
I really wish youtube had a little love 💕 button. I can't explain how comforted your channel makes me. Thank you you help more then you know. Gratefully yours.
Love that you're doing videos from this POV. As someone who has chronic pain, seeing people do massive cleans of their whole house can make me feel pretty useless. Seeing someone else pace themselves in a manageable load feels very comforting. Thank you❤
Hi Remi. Long time follower. I have ADHD, late diagnosed and you have well articulated my struggles. Thank you! I am now a declutter coach , trained by Dana K white and work with other ADHD folks. I figure I If I can turn it all, around, I can also help others to do the same.
You instantly brighten my day Remi when I see you’ve posted a new video! Watching you clean is like a warm hug from a friend who just GETS it!!! Thank you for being you! ❤❤❤
My house is always in a mess, no matter how much I do in a day 😅 It used to drive me crazy, and well, it still annoys me, but not as much as it used to. I've decided if I do one load of laundry, (hand) wash a load of dishes, and my kids and pets are fed, then I'm not doing too bad. The rest will wait until I get to it 🤷🏼♀️
OMG.. you just described me to a tea. I just finished my dissertation at uni and I swear it has caused me so much stress! I just couldn't function. Thank you so much for being so honest and amazing.
Remi, it’s like you’ve got a hidden to my life and you’re telling my story on RUclips. I love watching your videos. I’m currently in a difficult situation where I need to sell my home and move in to take care of my elderly father. I’m so overwhelmed by the pressure to get my house (that’s unbelievably messy) cleaned, packed up and ready to be sell. There’s additional pressure that I can’t leave him for long periods. I feel like if I could afford it, I’d pay for everything it would take to get you over to the USA to coach me. Unfortunately that’s not an option. But it would be a tremendous help for you and all your followers to say a word of prayer for my family. It feels almost impossible to find a way out of this hole I’m in. I’m so thankful for you and your content. It’s more relatable than you’ll ever know. God Bless you, Remi!!
@@customer5032 Believe me I would do that if he would go. He’s 91 and I respect him and love him more than anything. He won’t go and I’d never make him. But you’re sweet to take the time to first read my comment and then to comment. We lost my mom a little over a year ago. I’m sure he feels close to her here. We all do. I can give up my home easier that I could try to take him from here. I may not get much more time with him. Again very sweet suggestion.
I have only just found this video, so I don't know how your life has been progressing since, but I hope all is going well and I wish you strength for the tasks, and quietness of the soul to help you get through it all. Blessings from Wales for you and your father ShEmBecca xx
@ Thank you!! Hope things are going well in Wales. Nothing has changed except my dad’s health is getting worse. I’m moving forward with selling my house and I have peace with that. I can get started cleaning next week. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Agreed! I just made the weirdest noise when I saw you had uploaded a new video. I clicked on your channel so I could clean and declutter with you on in the background. I’m not watching this yet though, I’m going to save it for later to sit down and actually watch properly for once and enjoy. ❤
I totally agree, it’s not often I see someone wide as vertically challenged as I am, lol. I have all the things she talks about, waiting mode, executive dysfunction etc etc and on top of that, about 14 years ago I had accidents and not live in a disability pension. What’s incredibly frustrating about it if that even when I get motivated there are some things I just have to avoid doing. I have to ask someone else to help but the only people I know (I don’t really have any friends) are my grown up kids and they’re too busy living their own lives so things sit undone and I feel like crap (mental health wise) about not being able to do them myself anymore.
Remi, you are a "Bright Light" in my life !!! Thank you so very much !!! I'm Not feeling that great today, just so damn tired !!! I've got to put things to put away !!! 👍👍👍😎😎😎
Hi Remi, thank you so much for this video. ❤❤❤ It was very helpful to watch. Me as a single mom of 2 can relate to how mess can build up within only minutes. Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed is a daily issue. Although I have always been more in the OCD direction. But: having kids, divorce, depression phases have made me change. I love things neat and clean. At this point of my life it's really executive disfunction that happens to me. Upcoming deadlines really push me to get things done. I really love your words: neat is enough, it doesn't have to be perfect. 😊 I'm looking forward to the other parts of your series. Have a great week ❤❤.
It is a true gift to be able to let go and be comfortable. I’ve been fortunate enough to host large families in my home, Thankfully, this helped me get my priorities straight 🥰
I am disabled, and after a busy summer,with my 11yo great grandson,went back to Seattle, my place is a disaster,and my back, isnt letting me putter like i want to😊 new sub here from Spokane Valley Wa ❤ may this post incourage me,to get things done,and may this post find All well and blessed😊
I'm super excited about your book, Remi! I already know that I want multiple copies so I can give them to a few friends. No pressure to get it done quickly, we'll enjoy it whether it's ready in 3 months or 3 years.
I struggle with executive function all the things you mentioned and more. On top of that I have fibromyalgia, chronically pain/fatigue, menopause and other health issues !! It’s isolating, lonely, frustrating … I want to cry but I appreciate you talking about it angel Remi. Overwhelmed, stress and shame linked to cleaning you can’t get on top of and what it says about you as a person when you’re actually house proud as the next person 😢❤
You walking around with the packing peanuts stuck to your slippers is the realist thing on the Internet right now. 😂 For me it's been popcorn. It gets everywhere in our house 🍿🎉 Thanks for another video. Looking forward to the next one. 😊
“Trying to finish something that you can’t finish” is SUCH a great way to categorize housework! My jewel of a fiancé (who is washing dishes right now because my back is crushing me) said yesterday that very thing! At some point we traded housework for a watch he wanted (he went above and beyond in our joint effort to keep the house clean, in exchange for a new watch). I told him I think he got cheated; he said ‘no’ because housework is never-ending and can never be ‘finished.’ 😂
I love the way you explain things, changing our cleaning/tidying techniques based on our frame of mind is so true and it was you that helped me realise that I too struggle with executive dysfunction x
Well, I think I love you. It’s not just the soothing nature of your voice, or the positive vibes you bring, and it’s not just because you inspire me to be better about my own procrastination in regards to cleaning. And though I can relate completely with your experiences and I find in you a kindred spirit, that still not why I love you. It’s bc I feel your genuine spirit coming through, your honesty and kindness. Despite your self doubts and fears, I hope you become more confident and secure with each passing moment. Thank you for all you do.
thank you Remi for showing the real side of cleaning. I related a lot to the “dropping the ball once and falling off the cycle” part. it is so hard but u explain everything so well. ur voice is calming and comforting and i appreciate your videos so much!
Your videos always help me so much. It's so validating to hear I'm not the only one who deals with this all. I get so exhausted sometimes, but I still try. Thank you for being so relatable and willing to discuss these things while also being vulnerable enough to put yourself out there for us. ❤
My waiting paralysis happens on days when I am waiting for my Tesco shopping to be delivered. I have learnt to do earlier time slots so I can then get on with my day 😂
You put into words what I struggle with every single day so well. I wish I could articulate it this beautifully! Thank you for this video, so satisfying to watch and so much great information!!
How do we fix this or is this just a permanent thing? Seriously I don’t know, do I need to get help or is this just a trait that is some of us have forever
You have described perfectly what happens with my house and me. I have 4 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment. There is always something messy, no matter how hard I try. I beat nyself up mentally for not being able to do the things that need doing. I appreciate you so much for your honesty. It has helped me immensely just knowing imnot alone. Thank you!
Thank you for unlocking a mystery for me! If I know I have to be somewhere at lets say 3 I will literally wait the entire day for 3 even doing nothing, I just cant start another task until that 3 oclock task is done. You have explained so many things I struggle with and it makes me feel better knowing I am not crazy after all lol
I have recently found your videos, and oh my goodness everything you talk about is me! I struggle every single day but knowing I’m not the only one has really helped me! Thanks for doing what you do! Also good luck on your book, I will definitely be reading it when it’s all done!!
Hi, Remi. Thank you for the video and for being so supportive of people with different ways of dealing with cleaning, etc. you are very knowledgeable and well spoken about helpful ways of dealing with stress. I think you may have missed your calling to be a counselor. ❤. How often do you/your partner water the orchids? Thank you!
Remi Clog what a wonderful human you are! An inspirational teacher that I have learnt so much from. Thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there, you are doing a fantastic job and it is truly appriciated!
Hi Remi im I'm a mom from South Africa love your Chanel how I missed you. This is exactly what I needed missed you ❤. I've been feeling exactly like that overwhelmed so tired my body can't carry me thank you
@remiclog no, no, no sweet Poppet, THANK YOU! IF I had the full Vocabulary of the Dictionary to tell you HOW MUCH YOU MEAN to THE WORLD? I would 🎉 but thankfully I don't have to! The number of Subscribed folk you have speaks much more than I EVER could. I hope you read this ❤ Love from Australia 🇦🇺 .
@@remiclog I hope I managed to tag you. I'm not very good with this stuff lol so it did work!! Yay me!! *pat's self on back 😅 please read the above ❤
Thank you so much for your videos! It helps to know that there are others in this world that are tired but still keep trying... Thank you for sharing with us!
First of all, when you opened the back door to take your wastebasket out, I saw your GORGEOUS grass that you grew!! Oh, my! It’s the best yard of grass I think I’ve ever seen!! Then when you were talking about people who have an appt later in the day and can’t do anything else? I said, “Oh my God! That’s me!!!” I didn’t even realize it was a ‘thing’! And now to realize I have it! I’m going to have to think on that for the rest of the day!!😮
Thank you so much for these videos. Your cleaning videos are more helpful for me than any other I've ever watched, not only for the cleaning tips but also for helping me let go of the shame. Thank you.
i just want to say i love ur videos! i struggle with mental health and no matter how often i clean my room ends up looking similarly to ur house a day after i clean. i hate being messy, but i struggle so much with cleaning. your videos helped me so much with not feeling bad about letting my house get messy, and its the only motivation to help me clean. i religiously watch ur videos when i need to clean my room, ur soothing voice and energy is really calming like a mum was helping me go through it! thank you!
You’re doing great taking care of your family and home! None of us are perfect and never will be. We all just do the best we can. BTW, I have to say that each time we get a glimpse of your garden, I can’t believe how beautiful and green the grass looks! You’ve got to be so proud of your yard! ❤️
You are an exceptional mum ! ❤ currently 4 weeks postpartum with an active two year old boy , my anxiety usually leads to me not being able to stop and slow down I would spend all day cleaning . You always remind me that mess can be tidied any time but you won’t always have these moments with your babies ❤️ thank you definitely helped me through them baby blues !
Hi Remy. What I love about your videos is that it's the real thing. Nothing's always sunshine and roses. Something's one room's more than enough to clean and declutter. Thanks for looking into your world. Have a wonderful week. Greetings from Germany.
Hi Remi, I spruced up the courage about 2 months ago to clean up living room and kitchen after watching your videos and I am now back to where I was. I hate being home every moment but all I would do is drone out the clutter and trash by simply ignoring it and escaping into virtual world. I am back here so that I can get some energy to clean up the rest of the house and actually deep clean!! Thanks for what you do!
Dear Remi,can I just pick up on one thing you said that my husband struggles with. - I don't put things away, I put them BACK where they belong, as everything has a home in my home! A concept he can't get into, as he often enough throws them in the next best cupboard. Then, later, askes me where he put it😠 Oh, the joys of married life😆😆
Omg when I read the title of the video I thought your sorting out the house that you had a fire in 🤦🏼♀️🙈 But hey I know what it's like...a couple weeks ago (and I just like with my cat) I BARELY functioned as I went down with massive gum/wisdom tooth infection AND sinusitis...I was put on strong antibiotics...that KNOCKED me for 6! I was LOOPY, forgetful, sleeping alot...and no energy... Everything went to pot...my brother was being meals in, and the kitchen got TRASHED, washing piled, dishwasher stank (I'd load it up, be so exhausted I'd forget to turn on) I at the time taking part in Cass from Clutterbug's 30 day Declutter challenge...which I had to stop doing and filming for even my channel... In that week of madness...I had dentist appointment on the Tuesday, doctors on Wednesday (the ear pain was extremely painful) Thursday emergency Maxiifacial orthodontics appointment at hospital...and on the Friday Blue cat at the vets... By Thursday and Friday the SICKNESS feeling was SOOO bad..I couldn't talk..so bro DID step up and help me with hospital and vets! I did eventually get my house back piece by piece... And today is my birthday week off...I filmed 3 decluttering videos on my channel!! Edited and uploaded!... But today my lounge is a mess as I have my car having some repairs done this week ..so I dumped everything in the lounge!!!... The kitchens fine, now the tiny lounge is one huge mess 🤦🏼♀️
When you're 59 and finally realise you have ADHD. I wondered why I felt like an alien all my life. I lost my job 9 months ago and I thought I would be all over the house work and hobbies and YT but because my structure went out the window, things just got WORSE. I'm the worst I've ever been. The less I do, the less I do. I've slowed right down but these last 3 months I'm an absolute potato. I have no deadlines at all. It's worse since I went on heart medication a couple of years ago. I'm too relaxed. Nothing feels urgent therefore nothing gets done. SIGH. Thanks as always x
I've been feeling really extra mentally ill, not sleeping or eating well, but your videos motivate me so much and show me that it's okay to take my time and not feel guilty for being overwhelmed. ❤ Baby steps
Oh bless you! You should never feel guilty. You’re so right, baby steps. I hope you’re feeling a lot better soon. ❤️
Is there a link to the vacuum cleaner? @@remiclog
When my children were little , my home was never tidy . Blink , and they've grown up and have homes of their own . I totally agree with you , dont stress , its all about the journey ❤. Lovely to see you 😊
I know I so try to say this to myself but it's hard when you are alone doing it all alone and you are in the thick of. I try my best in moment but then some how I find something to beat myself up about it and mom guilt about something. 😢
So true
@gabriellecusson1400 I know , it's easy for me to say all this looking back , it's different at the time . But the years fly by so fast , make the most of them while they are young and try to enjoy life as much as possible. 🩵🩷
Agree 💯
So true. Looking back, I would have drastically reduced the amount of toys the kids had so it was easier to maintain. But, we’re empty nesters now and grandparents to two beautiful boys. Hindsight is 20/20. Time flies. But one does live and learn. ❤
Remi I admire you so much! You are so knowledgeable about everything about yourself! I am a 58 year old mom of four adult children and two still live with me. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I wish I’d known sooner! It sure explained a lot! But I just love watching you! I think you are an amazing mom and wife! Please understand how very valuable you are to so many of us!
Waiting mode is horrible and so difficult to explain to people. Thank you for sharing it helps to feel seen and know I'm not the only one. ❤
I totally agree I think I have this and I never even realised 😂❤
I deliberately schedule my appointments as early in the day as possible to avoid this very thing! I feel so accomplished afterwards 😂
I didn't know there was a name for this, or that other people struggle with it!!
That's me too!! I procrastinate and it makes me feel really guilty
Me too !!
This is *exactly* what I need! We need more REALISTIC expectations. Thank you for seeing us and breaking the mold❤
Remi, thank you !
You are the only one you took away the fear of facing my messy house.
A real person , posting a video about real mess, it's refreshing :)
I just wanted to thank you Remi - for getting me up off my bottom, and tackling those dirty dishes! For listening to your intelligent conversation, and for your positive attitude, even when you seem to have so much to do! You are a breath of fresh air - and the house has a breath of fresh air when you have cleaned it all. Blessings, and many thanks to you for being there, and for posting these positive videos, and for all your hard work in doing so. Blessings from a rather dark and dismill West Devon, England, and Jilly & Madge. xxx
Rediscovering my ADHD now as an adult woman, your videos and reassurances have been like a balm for my mental health ❤
Remi...you are like a bandaid for my soul. Thank you❤
I thought I was the only one that waited all day for my appointment before doing anything else. REMI, thank you so much for saying out loud "I'm not crazy".😂
I do this too!
You really aren’t alone. I do the same thing and it can be rough😊
Me too! I don’t want to start something I’ll have to stop to go out
I am this way also. I thought I was crazy. I like to kinda plan out of my day in my mind. If there is something I have to do it seems like it ruined my whole day.
You explain mental stuff pretty well. The bit about ADD and leaving school work till the last minute and feeding off the rush to get it done, is me. My mother doesn't understand that. She forced me into college and I failed miserably after couple years. I burnt out and had zero desire to go back. I struggle with cleaning and keeping up with putting things away. I have severe depression and anxiety. Your video was so nice and you are delightful and caring. Thanks for sharing and do your best every day :3
Honey, you think your house is a mess, but I don't see a mess. I see a mom who prioritizes her kids over the house. I don't think any mother can say anything is wrong with that. The amount of times this creeps up on so many of us, it just happens overnight it seems sometimes. You got this. You are truly an amazingly good human.
Perfectly said. I agree. She’s got her priorities straight. Her children will remember she was a wonderful mom who gave them the gift of her time! ❤❤❤
You can do both. Having a clean home is also prioritising the kids. Anything else is just an excuse. Millions of people are neurodivergent. But us making excuses for our behaviour isn’t going to help. It takes harder work to create routines yes. But it’s not impossible. She is talking about one extreme to another. She needs to find the middle ground as she has said. There is a BIG difference between untidy and dirty. All kids deserve a clean home. It may be untidy at times, that’s life. But clean is really important for mental and physical wellbeing. Having people enable also isn’t helpful. Her house was in a real state. If social services was involved for any reason they would tell her she has to clean it more often. I can guarantee not all her time is focussed on the kids all the time. There will be lots of inactive time watching tv or other things. You have to make keeping your home one of your priorities. Not above your children, but alongside them. As a child who grew up in a dirty house I can tell you I was so embarrassed and it really affected my self esteem. I didn’t want friends over because I was ashamed. As someone who is on the spectrum I also know the difficulties. But I have also worked hard to overcome ones that can hurt not only my mental health, but they of my children.
@ obviously you’ve never been ill or not felt well. Instead of getting on your soap box try a little compassion. Not everyone needs or wants to be like you.
@@mummyloves5robson634 for many you are correct. However some battles are deeper than we can understand. Many people truly do have to choose where their energy goes because they just genuinely don't have the capacity for both.
Remi, I'm glad I found your channel. Wish I found it sooner, but I'm thrilled to have you in my life now. I love yours and your followers' attitudes: life happens and keep your family the priority. I was a single Mom and am proud of the relationship I built with my toddler into adulthood because the housework sometimes needed to wait. RUclips wasn't around back then so I carried the guilt of having a cluttered house. I didn't know that others went through the same struggles I did.
You would make a wonderful therapist Remi!
Yes agree
Her voice is lovely! ❤
Yes …. If you have a podcast I would love to listen to it remi 😊
@@JB-st9no An Audio of the book Remi is writing would be fab. Just plug her in and start on the housework!
@@JB-st9no Yes a Podcast would be perfect!
You are so adorable, don’t listen to “the mean people”, just delete and block. I love your channel, it helps me so much!
You motivate me every time Remi. Even though my child is grown up and gone I love watching your videos . When I feel low and can’t be bothered to do anything you always give me the impetus to get going. You’re an amazing young lady. Many thanks xxx
I come here for the friendship and your wisdom, Remy! The cleaning is just a bonus to watch 😘
Oh thank you so so much! 🥹❤️
Sent here by Midwest Cleaning. Into your video the first 2 minutes I knew I'd love you. Your voice is so calming to me and I just love you. New subscriber.
This makes me emotional 😢 you talking about how I feel with life ,Saturday I had 3 of my grandchildren and parents plus my son who lives with me who I care for, I made lunch,cut the grass, changed my bedding, put two lots of washing on line, ive done nothing since they all left Saturday its now Tuesday and my house is so messy ,I'm tired and just watching TV 📺 and doing diamond art ,I've not even had bath,im 53 and have always struggled with everything x I love your videos ❤️
Oh my word! I feel for you! I am 51 and EXACTLY the same! 😢 I find such comfort in Remi's videos!! She is s🎉o REAL!! Blessed to know we are not alone! ❤ Will be thinking of you as I try to get my mess and life sorted and will keep you in my prayers! 😊
My mum accidentally got a kitchen bin that was far too small, so that we have to empty it at least once a day, often twice, because there's not much room in it. But it was a faff to replace it, so she just kept it 'for now'.
Anyway, it turned out to be great and she hasn't gone back to a normal size bin, because nothing sits around long enough to smell!
I actually love this!!! Little things like this, that you wouldn’t really consider, can make all the difference.
I've done the same. It saves loads of bin space in the outside bin. Big black bin bags fill the bin within no time
Thank you for what you do. Although we will never meet, your such a comfort for someone who lives deep in the heart of Texas.
I love watching you achieve equilibrium 🦋
I lived with a mum who made us clean (from a very early age ) , my friends used to think we were like slaves lol
Christmas memories were destroyed because of cleaning , we couldn’t go to bed until it was perfect. I had ocd tendencies & so many distorted beliefs because of this.
I love seeing a home lived in and toys played with 🦋
I grew up similar to you. Our house was almost model home quality. Dishes were done immediately after dinner and there was never a dish in the sink at bedtime. Though I was trained to keep a spotless house, it didn't carry over to my own home. I am cluttered but not dirty. The floors are constantly vacuumed because the dog sheds like crazy (love cordless stick vacuums). I try to keep the sink dish free but have no problem taking care of straggling dishes tomorrow. My adult son even washes his dishes as he goes so as not to have a bunch to do 😊
Now, the laundry is a different story....☹️
I can definitely sympathize Remi. I needed a motivational video just like this ❤️👍🏻I was so excited to see a new video from you, have made my day🤗🌺maybe I can find a place in all my mess to get started. And I’m renaming my mess : My burnout challenge 👍🏻🙏
Oh bless you!! Wishing you lots of luck with yours, you’ve got this! 💪🏼❤️
"Task paralysis" describes my life as of late. I want to do something and yet I cannot seem to get started 😩
You're a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day, Remi ☀️ I love spending time with you watching your videos. 😊 ❤
Exactly what I'm in the mood for.
Cleaning, but realistic and slowed down. Because I'm real and slowed down and as much as I enjoy the sppedy ones they can leave you feeling alienated if you're not feeling capable of doing a lot at once in your own home....going to finish watching after I refill my hot water bottle .
Thanks Remi for providing me with the Remi Show! 🥰
I grew up in a household where we had to deep clean every week. But cleaning was considered punishment. It wasn't presented as a healthy principle. So as I became an adult, I struggled with cleaning because I detested it. I would stay up latecleaning everyday and run the rest of the day on little to no sleep. I had to teach myself to clean through daily small tasks so that I wasn't overwhelmed at the end of the week. And that taking a break and knowing when you need rest is important as well. Remi, I appreciate you sharing your life and your mind with us. Your cleaning videos help me so much ❤!
Thank you so much for explaining ED. I see myself in all of the examples you talk about, so thank you for normalizing it and making it feel doable.
Plus: I'm binging your videos while getting tasks done🙏🏻
You are a great mom and woman, a messy home isnt gonna change this. Just wanted to say this❤
Thank you for another great video. I'm a clean-as-you-go type, but I appreciate the insight into why this doesn't work for everyone. Some people just can't fathom that other people experience things differently, or as you said, they just don't want to understand. Thank you for explaining it to those of us who do want to understand.
I really wish youtube had a little love 💕 button. I can't explain how comforted your channel makes me. Thank you you help more then you know. Gratefully yours.
I love how realistic and honest you are, Remi. Thank you for voicing my life in your words! xx
Love that you're doing videos from this POV. As someone who has chronic pain, seeing people do massive cleans of their whole house can make me feel pretty useless. Seeing someone else pace themselves in a manageable load feels very comforting. Thank you❤
Hi Remi. Long time follower. I have ADHD, late diagnosed and you have well articulated my struggles. Thank you! I am now a declutter coach , trained by Dana K white and work with other ADHD folks. I figure I
If I can turn it all, around, I can also help others to do the same.
This is amazing!!! I love that you’re using your obstacles to help others ❤️
Hi Melanie!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp hiya Bonnie! ❤️
Hearing you talk about executive disfunction. Makes me wonder if I have it too. And I can't wait for your book!
You instantly brighten my day Remi when I see you’ve posted a new video! Watching you clean is like a warm hug from a friend who just GETS it!!! Thank you for being you! ❤❤❤
This has made my evening. Thank you!! ❤️
I feel the burnout! Working on my pantry today. Taking a break & found your new post! Just what I needed!!❤😊
My house is always in a mess, no matter how much I do in a day 😅 It used to drive me crazy, and well, it still annoys me, but not as much as it used to. I've decided if I do one load of laundry, (hand) wash a load of dishes, and my kids and pets are fed, then I'm not doing too bad. The rest will wait until I get to it 🤷🏼♀️
This!!! You’ve got the right attitude! ❤️
Mines, the same. I have 4 kids, and it doesn't matter how much I clean it. It never looks good. I've learnt to just accept it 😂
❤❤❤try to clean up a room a day
OMG.. you just described me to a tea. I just finished my dissertation at uni and I swear it has caused me so much stress! I just couldn't function. Thank you so much for being so honest and amazing.
Remi, it’s like you’ve got a hidden to my life and you’re telling my story on RUclips. I love watching your videos. I’m currently in a difficult situation where I need to sell my home and move in to take care of my elderly father. I’m so overwhelmed by the pressure to get my house (that’s unbelievably messy) cleaned, packed up and ready to be sell. There’s additional pressure that I can’t leave him for long periods. I feel like if I could afford it, I’d pay for everything it would take to get you over to the USA to coach me. Unfortunately that’s not an option. But it would be a tremendous help for you and all your followers to say a word of prayer for my family. It feels almost impossible to find a way out of this hole I’m in. I’m so thankful for you and your content. It’s more relatable than you’ll ever know. God Bless you, Remi!!
You are brilliant and caring you will come through,love from Germany ❤
Maybe he could move into your home, instead of you having to go through the drama of packing and selling yours? That would save you a ton of stress...
@@customer5032 Believe me I would do that if he would go. He’s 91 and I respect him and love him more than anything. He won’t go and I’d never make him. But you’re sweet to take the time to first read my comment and then to comment. We lost my mom a little over a year ago. I’m sure he feels close to her here. We all do. I can give up my home easier that I could try to take him from here. I may not get much more time with him. Again very sweet suggestion.
I have only just found this video, so I don't know how your life has been progressing since, but I hope all is going well and I wish you strength for the tasks, and quietness of the soul to help you get through it all. Blessings from Wales for you and your father ShEmBecca xx
@ Thank you!! Hope things are going well in Wales. Nothing has changed except my dad’s health is getting worse. I’m moving forward with selling my house and I have peace with that. I can get started cleaning next week. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
You are my favorite body double Remi❤
Absolutely means the world! Thank you ❤️
Agreed! I just made the weirdest noise when I saw you had uploaded a new video. I clicked on your channel so I could clean and declutter with you on in the background. I’m not watching this yet though, I’m going to save it for later to sit down and actually watch properly for once and enjoy. ❤
Ike loves those packing materials!!! 😂
She is mine too.
I totally agree, it’s not often I see someone wide as vertically challenged as I am, lol. I have all the things she talks about, waiting mode, executive dysfunction etc etc and on top of that, about 14 years ago I had accidents and not live in a disability pension. What’s incredibly frustrating about it if that even when I get motivated there are some things I just have to avoid doing. I have to ask someone else to help but the only people I know (I don’t really have any friends) are my grown up kids and they’re too busy living their own lives so things sit undone and I feel like crap (mental health wise) about not being able to do them myself anymore.
Remi, you are a "Bright Light" in my life !!! Thank you so very much !!! I'm Not feeling that great today, just so damn tired !!! I've got to put things to put away !!! 👍👍👍😎😎😎
Hi Remi, thank you so much for this video. ❤❤❤ It was very helpful to watch. Me as a single mom of 2 can relate to how mess can build up within only minutes. Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed is a daily issue. Although I have always been more in the OCD direction. But: having kids, divorce, depression phases have made me change. I love things neat and clean. At this point of my life it's really executive disfunction that happens to me. Upcoming deadlines really push me to get things done. I really love your words: neat is enough, it doesn't have to be perfect. 😊
I'm looking forward to the other parts of your series. Have a great week ❤❤.
Opens youtube hoping for some motivation to get my adhd ass into cleaning mode...
Remis new video pops up on my home page... 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Devine timing 😂
Every time I watch your videos I feel you saying exactly how I feel, do things and want to be. Thank you I'm not alone x
It is a true gift to be able to let go and be comfortable.
I’ve been fortunate enough to host large families in my home,
Thankfully, this helped me get my priorities straight 🥰
I am disabled, and after a busy summer,with my 11yo great grandson,went back to Seattle, my place is a disaster,and my back, isnt letting me putter like i want to😊 new sub here from Spokane Valley Wa ❤ may this post incourage me,to get things done,and may this post find All well and blessed😊
I'm super excited about your book, Remi! I already know that I want multiple copies so I can give them to a few friends. No pressure to get it done quickly, we'll enjoy it whether it's ready in 3 months or 3 years.
Hi Remi! Lovely to see you again. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
I struggle with executive function all the things you mentioned and more. On top of that I have fibromyalgia, chronically pain/fatigue, menopause and other health issues !!
It’s isolating, lonely, frustrating … I want to cry but I appreciate you talking about it angel Remi.
Overwhelmed, stress and shame linked to cleaning you can’t get on top of and what it says about you as a person when you’re actually house proud as the next person 😢❤
Remi it all happens to the best of us...glad were not alone!!❤😅 great job❤
I understand so well. I've spent much of this video nodding in agreement. Thank you, Remi ❤ You're a special person and I appreciate you.
I’ve just discovered your channel and I am binge watching lol. You are so motivational and it’s just lovely to listen to you. 🥰
Thank you Remi ❤ as always you are the best. So kind, compassionate and real!
Lovely to see you remi alwayes love your vlogs waiting patiently for the next one 😊
You walking around with the packing peanuts stuck to your slippers is the realist thing on the Internet right now. 😂 For me it's been popcorn. It gets everywhere in our house 🍿🎉 Thanks for another video. Looking forward to the next one. 😊
I love the idea of getting a room fully clean and then maintaining it with 10 minute speed cleans. That just might be the answer to my problems!
That gag at the bin! 😂 This is me every single time 😂
Thankyou so much for sharing.You have just described me to a T. I will definitely be buying your book!😊
“Trying to finish something that you can’t finish” is SUCH a great way to categorize housework! My jewel of a fiancé (who is washing dishes right now because my back is crushing me) said yesterday that very thing! At some point we traded housework for a watch he wanted (he went above and beyond in our joint effort to keep the house clean, in exchange for a new watch). I told him I think he got cheated; he said ‘no’ because housework is never-ending and can never be ‘finished.’ 😂
Hello! I love how you tackle your tasks with composure!👍 I loved how those "foam peanuts" clung to your pretty pink slippers for dear life! 🤣🤣🤣
As much as I adore your cleaning videos, I would love to see more of your mom’s home. It’s just fascinating and beautiful ❤
I love the way you explain things, changing our cleaning/tidying techniques based on our frame of mind is so true and it was you that helped me realise that I too struggle with executive dysfunction x
Hi ladies!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Hi Bonnie 😄 x
Well, I think I love you. It’s not just the soothing nature of your voice, or the positive vibes you bring, and it’s not just because you inspire me to be better about my own procrastination in regards to cleaning. And though I can relate completely with your experiences and I find in you a kindred spirit, that still not why I love you. It’s bc I feel your genuine spirit coming through, your honesty and kindness. Despite your self doubts and fears, I hope you become more confident and secure with each passing moment. Thank you for all you do.
The book! I'd forgotten you had talked about doing that. Yay you! Really good to see you today Remi.
thank you Remi for showing the real side of cleaning. I related a lot to the “dropping the ball once and falling off the cycle” part. it is so hard but u explain everything so well. ur voice is calming and comforting and i appreciate your videos so much!
You know you're a mom when you have packing peanuts stuck to the bottom of your slippers.😂😂
That was awesome! 😂❤
Sooooo funny 😂❤
😂😂😂❤
Your videos always help me so much. It's so validating to hear I'm not the only one who deals with this all. I get so exhausted sometimes, but I still try. Thank you for being so relatable and willing to discuss these things while also being vulnerable enough to put yourself out there for us. ❤
My waiting paralysis happens on days when I am waiting for my Tesco shopping to be delivered. I have learnt to do earlier time slots so I can then get on with my day 😂
Hmm wow this is a good idea, trying to schedule meetings and appts earlier when able. I'm going to try that!!
You put into words what I struggle with every single day so well. I wish I could articulate it this beautifully! Thank you for this video, so satisfying to watch and so much great information!!
Omg remi I didn't even know it was a thing I can't plan anything if I have an appointment ❤
I'm the same. I get nothing done on garbage day until it's picked up. Feels stupid but it's reality.
How do we fix this or is this just a permanent thing? Seriously I don’t know, do I need to get help or is this just a trait that is some of us have forever
I’m the same way.❤
True! I should only make morning appointments.
@@sandrab.3538 That's a great idea!
You have described perfectly what happens with my house and me. I have 4 kids in a 2 bedroom apartment. There is always something messy, no matter how hard I try. I beat nyself up mentally for not being able to do the things that need doing. I appreciate you so much for your honesty. It has helped me immensely just knowing imnot alone. Thank you!
Thank you for unlocking a mystery for me! If I know I have to be somewhere at lets say 3 I will literally wait the entire day for 3 even doing nothing, I just cant start another task until that 3 oclock task is done.
You have explained so many things I struggle with and it makes me feel better knowing I am not crazy after all lol
I have recently found your videos, and oh my goodness everything you talk about is me! I struggle every single day but knowing I’m not the only one has really helped me! Thanks for doing what you do! Also good luck on your book, I will definitely be reading it when it’s all done!!
Hi, Remi. Thank you for the video and for being so supportive of people with different ways of dealing with cleaning, etc. you are very knowledgeable and well spoken about helpful ways of dealing with stress. I think you may have missed your calling to be a counselor. ❤. How often do you/your partner water the orchids? Thank you!
Remi Clog what a wonderful human you are! An inspirational teacher that I have learnt so much from. Thank you for opening up and putting yourself out there, you are doing a fantastic job and it is truly appriciated!
Hi Remi im I'm a mom from South Africa love your Chanel how I missed you. This is exactly what I needed missed you ❤. I've been feeling exactly like that overwhelmed so tired my body can't carry me thank you
Thank you for giving a name (and validation) to the cycle I have long struggled with and have beat myself up about, mercilessly-burnout! ❤
Another great video! Thank you for the inspiration. 😄
You SERIOUSLY are the BEST thing that's come from the Internet 💓
@@TheHellnfire this is such a huge compliment! Wow. Thank you 😭❤️
@remiclog no, no, no sweet Poppet, THANK YOU! IF I had the full Vocabulary of the Dictionary to tell you HOW MUCH YOU MEAN to THE WORLD? I would 🎉 but thankfully I don't have to! The number of Subscribed folk you have speaks much more than I EVER could. I hope you read this ❤ Love from Australia 🇦🇺 .
@@remiclog I hope I managed to tag you. I'm not very good with this stuff lol so it did work!! Yay me!! *pat's self on back 😅 please read the above ❤
Another wonderfully helpful video! Thank you!
Thank you so much for your videos! It helps to know that there are others in this world that are tired but still keep trying... Thank you for sharing with us!
First of all, when you opened the back door to take your wastebasket out, I saw your GORGEOUS grass that you grew!! Oh, my! It’s the best yard of grass I think I’ve ever seen!!
Then when you were talking about people who have an appt later in the day and can’t do anything else? I said, “Oh my God! That’s me!!!” I didn’t even realize it was a ‘thing’! And now to realize I have it! I’m going to have to think on that for the rest of the day!!😮
Thank you so much for these videos. Your cleaning videos are more helpful for me than any other I've ever watched, not only for the cleaning tips but also for helping me let go of the shame. Thank you.
Me sitting here waiting for my mid morning Dr. appointment knowing I could get up and get some things done, but sadly no.
i just want to say i love ur videos! i struggle with mental health and no matter how often i clean my room ends up looking similarly to ur house a day after i clean. i hate being messy, but i struggle so much with cleaning. your videos helped me so much with not feeling bad about letting my house get messy, and its the only motivation to help me clean. i religiously watch ur videos when i need to clean my room, ur soothing voice and energy is really calming like a mum was helping me go through it! thank you!
Great to see you again. Missed these vlogs. Can't wait to see the videos coming. 😊😊
I have a burnout house too! Watching as I get motivated to tackle mine. Thanks.
Yay top 289 comments. Love this channel. Best to you and your family. Thanks for making this video.
You’re doing great taking care of your family and home! None of us are perfect and never will be. We all just do the best we can. BTW, I have to say that each time we get a glimpse of your garden, I can’t believe how beautiful and green the grass looks! You’ve got to be so proud of your yard! ❤️
❤❤❤ you reallly need to read for Audible your voice is so soothing
You are an exceptional mum ! ❤ currently 4 weeks postpartum with an active two year old boy , my anxiety usually leads to me not being able to stop and slow down I would spend all day cleaning . You always remind me that mess can be tidied any time but you won’t always have these moments with your babies ❤️ thank you definitely helped me through them baby blues !
184k, YEAH, LOVE YOUR CHANNEL, you are wise beyond your years 😊
Ahh thank you so much!!! 😊
Hi Remy. What I love about your videos is that it's the real thing. Nothing's always sunshine and roses.
Something's one room's more than enough to clean and declutter.
Thanks for looking into your world.
Have a wonderful week.
Greetings from Germany.
We love you Remi!!❤😊
Hi Remi, I spruced up the courage about 2 months ago to clean up living room and kitchen after watching your videos and I am now back to where I was. I hate being home every moment but all I would do is drone out the clutter and trash by simply ignoring it and escaping into virtual world.
I am back here so that I can get some energy to clean up the rest of the house and actually deep clean!!
Thanks for what you do!
Dear Remi,can I just pick up on one thing you said that my husband struggles with. - I don't put things away, I put them BACK where they belong, as everything has a home in my home! A concept he can't get into, as he often enough throws them in the next best cupboard. Then, later, askes me where he put it😠 Oh, the joys of married life😆😆
Your videos always make me feel so seen and supported. I appreciate everything you do and you are definitely not alone.
Omg when I read the title of the video I thought your sorting out the house that you had a fire in 🤦🏼♀️🙈
But hey I know what it's like...a couple weeks ago (and I just like with my cat)
I BARELY functioned as I went down with massive gum/wisdom tooth infection AND sinusitis...I was put on strong antibiotics...that KNOCKED me for 6!
I was LOOPY, forgetful, sleeping alot...and no energy... Everything went to pot...my brother was being meals in, and the kitchen got TRASHED, washing piled, dishwasher stank (I'd load it up, be so exhausted I'd forget to turn on)
I at the time taking part in Cass from Clutterbug's 30 day Declutter challenge...which I had to stop doing and filming for even my channel...
In that week of madness...I had dentist appointment on the Tuesday, doctors on Wednesday (the ear pain was extremely painful)
Thursday emergency Maxiifacial orthodontics appointment at hospital...and on the Friday Blue cat at the vets...
By Thursday and Friday the SICKNESS feeling was SOOO bad..I couldn't talk..so bro DID step up and help me with hospital and vets!
I did eventually get my house back piece by piece...
And today is my birthday week off...I filmed 3 decluttering videos on my channel!! Edited and uploaded!...
But today my lounge is a mess as I have my car having some repairs done this week ..so I dumped everything in the lounge!!!... The kitchens fine, now the tiny lounge is one huge mess 🤦🏼♀️
I hope you keep feeling better. So much to deal with at once! ❤
When you're 59 and finally realise you have ADHD. I wondered why I felt like an alien all my life. I lost my job 9 months ago and I thought I would be all over the house work and hobbies and YT but because my structure went out the window, things just got WORSE. I'm the worst I've ever been. The less I do, the less I do. I've slowed right down but these last 3 months I'm an absolute potato. I have no deadlines at all. It's worse since I went on heart medication a couple of years ago. I'm too relaxed. Nothing feels urgent therefore nothing gets done. SIGH. Thanks as always x
and having fibromyalgia doesn't help
I’m 61 with mild copd so I can relate
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I’m 59 and lost my job a while back. It’s so easy not have that previous structure.
@@ashjoma Yeah it's really thrown me.