Once I started decluttering, I realized that many of us weren’t taught HOW to build a wardrobe for long term. I mean I get why, since our wardrobes for the first 12-18 yrs of our lives are disposable since we grow out of what we wear, but the underlying themes of basics and staples (for me) were completely missing. I think that’s why I always bought from a place of scarcity. If I had built a closet filled with high quality basics first, and figured out what my staples were, I don’t feel like I would’ve purchased as much. When you don’t have lots of pieces that actually pair well together, then it certainly does feel like you have gaps, probably because you do. But that would be easily fixed by building a solid foundation of basics and staples first.
Mandy, I think that is sooo true! And I want to add: I wish we would have been taught a lot of useful things like how to read a contract, how to apply for a job, what insurances to get or how to invest. Or just how to plug eyebrows. 😅🙈 I want to write a book: „What you need to know when you grow up“. Then I will include all the useful information you will need as a young adult. 🤩
Absolutely! But even knowing that you need to build a wardrobe on a foundation of staple pieces, it still takes time to learn which staples suit your lifestyle, colors and fits that suit your body shape and coloring, not to mention your own personal aesthetic. It's a journey!
@@theprousteffect9717 And May I add that we grow and our taste and style change with us I am originally from Morocco and we didn’t have much money to indulge in cloths and when I moved to Europe for study ? I still didn’t have money for that, I earned some money and indulged my self in cloths when sales period I stayed and worked in europe and was hungry for a lot of things.. I bought in thrift stores, sales…I moved to Canada for 7 years and now to France since pandemics…and during this confinement periods I had time to browse and watch videos on declutering…I think that everything come in time, we have to be ready for it and work for it I am near my fifties,my shape changed , ,my environment, my situation, my intersts, my mind…No body would have convinced me back in my twenties when I was hungry for cloths
Alot of the need for De-Cluttering is that we haven't been taught to Plan Ahead & Chose Wisely about ANYTHING! Seeing something someone else has & think "I should have that, too"! Then it doesn't fit OUR Life Style! Bummer! "I spent all that money on this but I don't Use it, Enjoy It, or Love it! 😟 So Now What??
Interesting how both shopping and decluttering might both be driven by a desire to fix something :O "You are already whole - so is your wardrobe" Love it!
Yes! It frees you deep down inside! I think it's only Americans for the most part that have such OVER-Abundance!! I don't think ppl are supposed to become so attached to their "THINGS"! We should be getting out & enjoying our Beautiful Surroundings & Learn to live with Gratefulness!!
Definitely recommend not decluttering with a number in mind. If minimalism is anything, it is about having more of what you love and less or nothing of what you don't like.
When it comes to basics I like to have duplicates that are exactly the same. I live in black skinny jeans outside and black mid rise leggings inside. Therefore I bought two of the same kind before the company decides to discontinue my favorite. Same thing with bras: If I tested one and like it, I will buy a duplicate. Many times I thought that I will buy a new item when the "old" one is falling apart, but then it is no longer available and the brand only has a version with a different fit, cut or material that I don't like as much.
That’s the story of my life everything I love Has been discontinued…. lipsticks, perfumes, clothing, hair products. unbelievable I felt really targeted for a while. That’s why I buy two of everything if I really love it I have a fear of it becoming discontinued because I know that’s what happens when I like something
I did that with nude bras I found at a big name supermarket/grocery store for £4, because as a black person that's like finding a unicorn at that price. 4 years later can't find those bras in store. I need to do the same with clothes, but I'm weird in the sense that I like my wardrobe to feel like a museum so I think I want only one so it's "special", I should probably look into which ones it makes sense to duplicate. Re-shopping is very tedious.
I find that I purge my closet in response to anxiety. It’s like it gives me a form of control when I feel out of control. Not the best way, I know, but I’m not totally upset with the result.
I used to anxiety purge, then I realised it was the panic of seeing a cluttered wardrobe full of things I couldn't even remember buying. So now I spend time just looking over my wardrobe everyday when I wake up. I've gotten to know my wardrobe better and reduced impulse buying coz I'm reminded everyday of what I already have.
Same. I had a traumatic experience two years ago which has deeply affected how I perceive myself. I go through my wardrobe when I feel as though I can't control my life.
The speed decluttering out of a desire to punish oneself for buying so much...! That really got me. Thanks for being so open and honest. Oh, and permission to store and revisit...so good.
The light bulb in my head (life) has finally gone on! I have spent waaayyyy too much on "curating" the perfect wardrobe. The result? Needless DEBT, piles of clothes everywhere (many unworn, with tags) and guilt/regret. I remembered a message in one if your recent videos...I wasn't ready to hear it then...but I AM now. Guilt, shame, debt...I am so ready to learn from you!!!! Thank you in advance for the being the beacon through the fog. I'm starting a first pass decluttering and, more importantly, a no-buy discipline to get myself "right." I'm watching your videos to follow your journey to guide and inspire my own.
I have learned I was addicted to the thrill of getting a deal. I would have been better off buying a one item that I loved than 10 items that were just okay. Shopping my own closet for over 2 years and declutter slowly! And YES to part 2.
Something that I am doing is printing pictures from Pinterest with similar items I have in my wardrobe and challenging myself to wear the items I never reach for so I can figure out why. I’ve learned: 1) I don’t like button-ups on me, 2) I don’t like shirts with collars, and 3) I very much reach for oversized tops and fitted bottoms and never looser bottoms and more fitted tops. YES to a part 2. Also another collaboration with Alyssa Beltempo!
I didn't learn too much about myself through decluttering my wardrobe, at first. But when I started decluttering my books? Wow. That was revealing. So many of my books were there to impress others. My keep-it-or-lose-it decision was based around a two-tier question: a) will I re-read it? If yes, will I be just as happy with it as an ebook? If yes, get the ebook and declutter the hard copy. If no, why not? b) If I'm not sure if I would re-read a book, am I inclined to keep it because it's meaningful to me / sparks joy just knowing that it's there on my shelf? Or, more often that I was happy to admit, am I keeping this book for bragging rights? What's so crazy about all this, is that my book case is in my bedroom, so very few people ever saw my books. But so many were there to show that I was "well read", had "intelligent" books, they were there to prove that I was "cultured" and "smart" = sophisticated. Which begged the question: just who is it I'm trying to impress? I eventually ended up going through a similar journey with my clothes. Decluttering was far more difficult and cathartic than I'd been prepared for. But what a relief to understand myself better and so gift myself the opportunity to grow. Thank you for talking so opening about your own experience! I don't have anyone IRL walking this path.
Literature degree here, and boy do I relate! A few years after I graduated I just finally admitted to myself I don’t like Tolstoy and I’m never going to read him again as long as I live, so it’s ok to declutter it, even if I’m a book-person. No one else cares whether I have Tolstoy on my shelf lol
@@jamie7002 LOL, I hear you! It's always the classics, right? One of mine was The Idiot by Dostoevsky. I was pretty impressed with myself for reading that one; I guess I thought everyone else should be too! (No one was because really, who's ever heard of The Idiot!?!) Amazing, isn't it, what we discover about ourselves when we really examine our behaviors! I had no idea my ego was tied to my bookshelf! :P
I enjoy these retrospective videos. They remind me that the personal style journey is just that, a journey. There is no "perfect" closet or one-and-done solution. It is an ever-evolving process that should be enjoyed. Your tip about playing dress-up rings true. It is something I have been doing recently in the hopes that I will start to really come into my own personal style. Thanks for taking the time to sit down and chat with us about a topic we all love.
Thankyou . I buy duplicates of things I like - I have 3 Bardot tops in different colours. Like you I have and wear alot of "work" clothes. I do dress up to go shopping, eat out , go out for the day, on holiday - so alot of my wardrobe is only worn occasionally and I definitely have favourites. I do wrestle with my inner " Golem" , my crazy alter ego that loves to shop, loves fashion, loves to say "f*CK it buy it" , so I try to pause and reflect if I need or have genuine use for an item. But I also have to not constrain myself too much otherwise my Golem can rebel badly to rules- so it's a delicate balance. Watching your videos helps me with that balance. X
I really liked the point of not aiming for an end game number. Instead just be flexible and open minded about what items come into our lives. We are dynamic as people so we should hold our items to the same standard, just in moderation. Love your advice on this video!
Well, I really appreciate how transparent you are when you talk about the whole process and what you learned. It's really making me think about how I curate my wardrobe. I've tried to gravitate towards a number but I don't think that's going to work for me, because I have so many style moods going on. Thank you!
I’ve tried to find the items that complete my wardrobe and make it perfect and enough. It’s never works and what you said about wardrobes being dynamic was really insightful
FINALLY found someone who's starting point was the same that mine is now! This gives me tons of hope that one day at a time I can get my spending, hoarding, and debt under control. It's hard to tell people I'm a shopaholic because they just laugh like it's a joke. It can truly take over and ruin your life when left unaddressed. Thank you for sharing these videos.❤️
Wow that was an amazing statement: decluttering as punishment. I have done that without naming it , but yes: swiftly and really with no compassion or thought just throwing the crap out.. and then once the dust settles I’d look around and think Oh heck what have I done 🥺
I’m still on my minimalist journey I started in 2015 when I discovered minimalist lifestyle and I did made the mistake of decluttering in bulk 😅 I’m much better now in what I really like but still make mistakes. You’re vidéos really help me recently with the spring coming and the urge to buy new spring clothes. I was a shopaholic too 😅. I would love to see a part two 🤗❤️
Love these tips. I have a holding tank for stuff I think I should let go of but can’t quite yet. It took 2 years but slowly over time I purged it. I brought a few things back, only to find out why I wasn’t actually wearing them. It’s empty now but I give myself grace to process the letting go slowly and thoughtfully. Layers of the onion, peeling back.
Thank you for this video. I'm in the process of doing this but at this point in my life I'm not ready to be so extreme. I work from home and "I dress up" everyday and I enjoy it. I love clothes and I enjoy having many options so for now I'm focusing on letting go of the things that don't bring me joy and having enough to keep my closet organized but I am not making myself feel guilty for having not being extreme with my process. You just validated what I've been thinking about these last 2 day. 🙂 Yes please, part 2!
I discovered your channel yesterday, and you have instantly become my favorite youtuber, ever. You're articulate and warm, and I just love the idea of "minimalist-ish" because that is EXACTLY where I'm at right now. Your comfort in your own skin and intention with your words and actions really comes through. Thank you for the inspiration, and for invalidating the "one size fits all" kind of minimalism that is so pervasive. Cheers!
Such. Good. Words. 1) Ive heard it called hemming, not humming, but you do you. 2) That hombre row of jeans is a thing of beauty. 3) Im still traumatized by when your maybe pile was told it was a no pile. 4) I only wear shades of white, blue, and pink- so yes, duplicates are a must. 5) I'm proud of your progress. You look incredible!
I love this. I’m about to do a spring clean /declutter of my wardrobe and put together a spring/summer capsule. Can’t wait for it to simplify my day to day
Your bit about guilt, our attempts to "fix" something, and gaining perspective is spot on.👍 Also, I appreciate you speaking about personalizing decluttering trends... taking on a copy/paste approach to any organizational trend does not work in the long term. 🤔🙅🏻♀
I have decluttered my closet and now I do it only at the beginning of fall/winter and spring/summer. Then I decide If I am REALLY missing something and keep a list.Then what I could add if I have a "coup de coeur" (like a summer dress as I rarely find dresses that I like). I definitely keep clothes for a while before getting rid of them: I don't want to have any regret anymore: this is especially true for classic pieces as sometimes it is just that I have worn them a lot and want a change but think I should have kept them when I look at photos of me and think: "I looked good and it would be perfect this season why did I let it go!!!"
This video was very helpful. I def went from clothing extreme to minimalist extreme trying to fix something and control peoples perception of me. It all boiled down to needed to accept myself for who i am and focus on what i actually like and use and not my fantasy self. Love your content!
I loved hearing you say duplicates are ok. I was thinking I am the only one thinking that. If I have only one of what I love, I end up “saving” it and never wear it!!
Well said! it can really help to have another pair of eyes - if they can be supportive and not pushy or indifferent.... My daughter helped me go through my closet a few months ago - (pruning and curating as I prep to move into a Grannie Flat!) ... and one of the phrases her hubby uses is, 'I like it, but it's kind of tried!' we'd use that, and, 'there are 3 of these - do you like/ need/ wear them all?' ... and sometimes when I'd try an item on, she'd say, 'I love that on you! Why don't I see you wearing Thomas like that more often?!' We were able to find tune the main closet (i also have a bunch of Square Dance outfits i need to paste down!) ... and at the end we ran the bags to the thrift store!! I keep a bag or bin in my closet for things I realize I'm just not likely to wear.
I tend to compare myself to what others are wearing or look like. I buy things I think I’ll look good in, but I don’t always look like I think I will and then I’m disappointed. I have a very casual style as well, but tend to feel under dressed. Although I think the under dressed feeling is just me being in my own head. Learning to be a little kinder to myself. Loving your content!
Another great video ✌🏼🌱💚 When I started minimalism 7yrs ago I learned I only wanted materials like organic cotton, linen and hemp in my clothing, bedding, and towels, and it might mean I have to buy less items because they cost a little more but i’m not itching and I’m not wearing cotton that was sprayed with pesticides or polyester made of oil which helps the planet as well 💜
This video really refocused me on my needs rather than wants. I’ve noticed that I’ve strayed from the path of building my basics. I have acquired most of them, but still looking for a few. I’m trying to only buy what I need and using a few fashion bloggers/vloggers for ideas. I noticed I saved clothes they featured to my wishlist. But after watching this I deleted a bunch of things bc I don’t need them. ❤️ thanks! And yes to part 2!!!
I would be interested in hearing about your declutter regrets and if you went out and bought that item/similar item again? I have been hainging onto a few expensive seasonal coats for that exact fear.
Wow this makes total sense to me. I have been trying to declutter and only buy what I need for about two years now. But boy I still make so many wrong purchases.
Love this video! Thank you. I’ve been learning about my real self vs my fantasy self, and that I can appreciate items but don’t need them as they aren’t part of my lifestyle. Also, I love your try ons
Really enjoyed this discussion, Christina. I'm really enjoying wearing the item that I'm not sure about for a day and then seeing whether I want to keep it or not ☺
Yes I would love a part two, I have been struggling with addiction to shopping for clothes for years, and now almost 58, i have sadly more shoes than I could count, more clothes than one person would ever need, and after 20 years of being a preschool teacher and taking a break for 3 months and working as a receptionist, I loved being able to dress up finally being able to use things I have collected for years, shoes, purses blazers, and my nice clothes, well tax season is almost over and my receptionist job was seasonal. So i will be starting a new job at a preschool a job where i have to wear uniforms, black work tee shirt with logo and black pants, sweats, leggings or shorts, I Literally have struggled with not taking this job finally with benefits {my past school jobs were usually churches and never had benefits} all because I don't want to wear a uniform. Sorry this is so long, but i really need to vent, and no one understands, I really need to get rid of 60 percent of my wardrobe and not let it control me any more. I use to shop when i was sad, and now i feel like i do it daily. thanks for listening .
Maybe you can take the job for now but keep looking for one with benefits that allows you to wear that beautiful wardrobe and you'd be so happy you might not continue to overbuy... but just enjoy what you have. Best of luck to you on your journey!
You love dressing up and the items you have collected. You don't have to get rid of them. Pack away the excess in seasons. Once a month take out a bundle and pick out a few items to swop out and refresh your wardrobe. Wear them at home or weekends for your enjoyment. If you get rid of them there is a high chance they will end up in landfill. It's better to get the longest best wear you can out of your things.
Retired teacher here. I started in 1988 public school in Ohio. At least 75% wore dress clothes, heels. Men in ties. In my final 15 years I witnessed, teacher t-shirts, kakies, low cut tops, skin tight everything, flip flops. Ugg. I feel that we need to dress out of respect for students and ourselves. We should be models of correct attire. I feel your pain.
As long as you have room for them, keep them. You already own them and it's nobody else's business how many clothes, shoes, etc you have. If you do have items to discard, try to sell them or give to a church or charity based organization. I have alot too, as you may have guessed. I am now trying to sell my unused items on Poshmark. I have also given some away to those who could use them. Don't feel guilty!!
I feel your pain! I am a preschool educator too, and I hate to wear uniforms. I am lucky that I don't have to wear one where I work, but sure thing I need a wardrobe for work and one for going out ☺️ Keep your beautiful clothes if you love them, why not? But if you feel like decluttering, I guarantee you it will be difficult but soooo satisfactory
Thank you for the tips and reminders. I decluttered last year and gave away a few items I wished I hadn't. 😢 This time I'm going to put most things in storage bins and then when I'd like a change or variety I will shop my own bins and my stored clothes and jackets will be a pleasant surprise. I find that this method works best for me. I'm still sad over the clothes I miss because I gave them up without taking time to store them to see if i would miss them or not before letting them go. 💔
Just discovered your channel Christina, a lot of things you said are so true like feeling scared of having "less", thank you for beign so frank and saying what you feel, many of us just realized and connected with it!!!
I agree, organizing our stuff isn't about reaching an end game. It's in an ever changing state of flow. Like our lives, we're constantly evolving. I learned to ditch a scarcity mindset & adopt gratitude. It enlightened my perspective & I feel satisfied more often vs searching to fix, improve or fill a void. Also, if you have something that works, there's no need to justify it. If you have 8 pair of jeans, like the style, color, they fit & you'll likely wear them, keep them. Be grateful you already have plenty. When you stain, tear or ruin 1, you already have replacements. I appreciate you sharing this realistic approach of getting things in order to enjoy life more.
I started my journey with honesty of who I am and what I love, with minimalism all over the places I didn’t follow extreme declutter, instead analyzed where I’m and be mindful in my purchases and my wishlist have been my life saver; I have loads of screenshots and I checked regularly and suprise! Most of the items were added for impulse, doesn’t match with my lifestyle and delete. Like you said, is different for all of us but we Can find and adapt advices to live and enjoy.
I so relate to using wardrobe to communicate a kind of status. The beautiful irony is, that post declutter, Low Buy, etc, it feels so much more classy and rich. And look at you, CM. You look a trillion bucks, while looking like YOU. Massive win-win.
I love the way you explain your process and mindset. I got more motivated by watching your videos. So I bring a box home from work on the weekends. I pick a section or item like I went through my 13 white button downs. Pulled out about five. At least it is a start. The black jackets and blazers. Removed half of those. Either too small or the fit was not flattering. Baby step. And little by little it is getting easier. Thank you.
I just sent half of my clothes to a woman’s shelter and although o felt good about doing it. I was extremely sad. I’ve never seen you before but you appeared on my feed and I’m so happy I found you. I feel so much better and I’m a loyal follower.
I'm a jeans and t shirt woman also. I'm either in my work uniform or jeans. I love to be comfortable. I wish I had stored my tight jeans away instead of getting rid of them just because my weight fluctuates. I dont really go anywhere either apart from work😊
I really like what you said in the end about having enough and how you used to use your clothes to portrait some kind of self worth. I also come from this place and have also found it a sort of dark place to be in. Now I am genuinely content with what I have. When I feel like I 'need' something new or would like to add something else I am aware of the fact that it will not make me any happier than I am right now and not change me as a person. I'm just having fun with the things I have 😊 great video! 💐
I always love how real and authentic you are in your videos. Thank you for sharing this info! I am a duplicates person as well as I've found over the years certain pieces can be impossible to find again no matter how hard I try, lol.
I agree about declutter remorse ... I found decluttering after the time of the month or feeling “hormonal” is best. Not decluttering in haste is great advice ..little by little avoids second guessing yourself and feels empowering as your moving forward. Use it or lose it 👌 I found its best to know yourself and declutter based on what feels right or feels good for you. What feels right for one person may not feel right for another, knowing yourself is first & foremost ~ Cheers
I really love to do decluttering because it feels so good to get rid of things I don't really need any more. However the point is not to buy anymore things that one day have to be decluttered! So the consumtion with intention is the only way to go. If I think about what new things I would "need" in the next time, there certainly is nothing that is worth to buy, because I think we all have really enough to wear. BUT there is so much fun to try new styles sometimes, so the hard way is to find the "golden middel"
After a recent (healthy) weight gain I’m struggling with the temptation to declutter all of my now ill fitting clothing. I may not have any clothes left and can’t responsibly afford to go buy a whole new wardrobe. Plus with supply chain issues it’s a challenging time to find new clothes. Wish me luck.
I “discovered” your channel not too long ago and I really like it. Thank you for your input regarding living an intentional life. Some years ago I used to buy clothes because they made me feel good. Then I had financial challenges and I stopped. Later what I wore and it’s quality were no linger important to me; and although I didn’t buy a lot, I notice now, that I didn’t put to much intention to it. Things are different now and I am older and looking for my style and I love it. My wardrobe is intentional now! Finding my style has made a difference in my selections.
This was a Very Interesting Video! I've learned that "This is My Life & I have to De-Clutter My Way! My "Goals" are Self Imposed & will please ME! As I've been De-Cluttering I've be doing so out of Practicality & Comfort for Myself & My Needs! This has led to My Husband Clearing out the Garage & Organizing things better! "Stuff" needs to Serve you & when it loses that Practicality, then it needs to go! I've been Clearing out my Library Shelves & am donating almost all of my books (hundreds)!! I haven't read some of them in the 21 years we've been in this house! I loved them so much & identified with the times in the past that I read them! But now, I can get all of my Favorite books on my phone thru either Kindle or Google! I will be able to enjoy Art Pieces on the Shelves of the Book Cases, now! If one thing drives me it's this...will our sons be unhappy to have to sort thru all this "Stuff" if something happens to us? (we're in our 70s) This way I can be the one to decide what is of Value & what is just junk! It's Cleansing to our Souls as well as our Home! Meanwhile we've nearly completed a 5month Remodeling of our House, which has made it easier to Clear Unnecessary Items out once & for all!
While decluttering is definitely not a bad thing - and I certainly have more clothes than I need myself now is not the time to get rid of things that can be worn. We are seeing shortages of dry goods, appliances and furniture and even sometimes certain food items. Inflation and fuel prices are something we have have to pay attention to and supply chain situations are having a visible affect in many places. If the political climate worsens abroad- many many items will be very expensive if we can get them at all. I totally understand how wonderful the feeling of decluttering is, and minimalism is in no way a bad thing 😊 but wait until life normalizes before getting rid of things we simply don’t want. Carefully store what is not being used, mend anything that is wearable, carefully clean and store everything. Instead of going to the store we can look in our closets to freshen things up. One thing is for certain we most likely will not be able to replace clothes as easily as before. In addition it is certainly better for the environment. But the most important thing is to enjoy life and the things we have. I was so busy making my point I forgot to add that I loved your perspective on wardrobe and guilt. Especially feeling guilty. I would love to see part 2 and maybe a few thoughts on the current world situation versus our wardrobes and what we choose to bring in or take out.
Hey Christina, I’m so particular, that when I find something that works for me and that I really love, I do purchase duplicates. For example, I love the snakeskin Lauren wallet from Hobo International. Everyone in my family knows that when they come out w/a new one that I’m going to purchase it. Nobody gets why I do it, but I don’t care. I’m also super organized and have containers, totes, baskets, ottomans w/storage etc…to keep all of mine and my family’s possessions in. IMO, as long as u can afford it and u have a designated spot for that item and it brings u joy, then it’s worth it. I’m so happy that you’ve been able to self reflect, practice self control, get out of debt and b at peace. I’m in debt that I’m not comfortable with and I need to work on my self control. I’m doing better and better each day. We r all a work in progress. I think the biggest take away is to just learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them again if u can help it.
Thank you for your videos. I learnt a lot from you and what I like is the philosophy of moderation which always keep me on doing things until they became my habits and helped me stay disciplined.
Wonderful nuance and insight into some vexed recurrent challenges. I just found this channel and I’m grateful; I love being around the decluttering/conscious living conversation, but I’m over having singular rigid rules dictated. I really like this much more cerebral, dynamic approach. I’m a college professor and I cannot, nor do I wish to, cull my books, or my stationary supplies 🤦♀️ Love your aesthetic, too. 🙏❤️
👍I have this experience with style/fashion in general. All these lifestyle projects are too easy to fixate on, when they are in fact synergystic to the entire project of self improvement, which probably starts with spiritual confidence.
I've spent a long time trying to achieve minimalism (how I found your channel initially), and I love your honesty in recounting your journey. I have noticed a similar shift in myself. I now say I am striving toward "intentionalism" in my wardrobe and consumerism instead of minimalism because I love to collect and curate. Love this content!
I started decluttering because I'll be moving in the near future. I also determined that it's time to update my wardrobe to reflect my approaching season in life. I never realized how stressed, overwhelmed and guilty I felt about all my extra clothes until after I started packing things away. I'm so excited to sell and donate all my excess. And moving isn't nearly as scary as it was before. 😊 Your channel has been a big help, so thank you for all your content!!
I'm new to your channel. I have a spending issue when it comes to clothes. I know that my issue is related to my emotions and I would love to kick start decluttering but I don't want to go to the extreme. Your advice will help me.
Style is so dynamic and fluid… yes! That is why your point about storage is so helpful! I have stored things away recently to open at a later time and see if it’s something I’ll incorporate. I know those pieces stood out to me enough to purchase for a reason, and maybe I just need some time to let my style evolve until I’m truly ready to use them. I bought a ton of clothes over the last year to figure out my style… and I’m now in some debt to my savings for it 😣🥺. Now, I’m scaling back and leaving items I’m decluttering in a basket for a couple of weeks. Shoes has been a rough one for me too recently. I live in the Northwest where we get all kinds of weather, often in one day. I really like many of my shoes but just have more than I reasonably wear. So I put half of them in a quarantine bin by first selecting the shoes I’ve worn in the last two weeks. The rest went in a bin to store away and see if I miss them. This is a great tactic to curb shopping because if I feel a gap, I can go shop my storage! Same with other clothing items. I do have a few style moods I cater to so it’s a little interesting to see how my closet is evolving. Ah! And about fixating on a number of clothing items or hangers… I have a limited closet space to work with so I go based on space! Lately, I’ve had a stuffed closet to the point of not being able to scan the rack and see things, so I’ve had a bin holding overflow 😳. I decided enough was enough and started scaling back two days ago, working on it little by little. Those bins are now quarantine bins before reselling or donating.
I really needed to hear this. I’ve been trying to figure out how many pieces I actually need and in which combinations to have the perfect wardrobe. I love and live in jeans, so the thought of getting rid of any of them to get to a certain number was causing anxiety. Now I understand that ‘enough’ is different for everyone.
First time seeing you and I subscribed, even though I already watch a select few minimal/decluttering RUclips creators. You add a new slant to the underlying issues, in a way that is so wise, and your delivery is calm, yet motivating. Blessings to you 🙏
I am slowly learning that just because I think something is cute doesn’t mean it is my style. What I mean by that is when I put it on I may like it but never reach for it because I don’t feel like myself in it. So I am working on learning what makes me feel the most like me and the most confident and comfortable ❤️
So happy to have found you! Currently in the 2nd season of decluttering and that internal conversation of each piece of clothing always involves guilt! No more of it! Always wanting to save it for a special occasion or when I lose weight or it's perfectly usable I shouldn't discard it or else I'll have to replace it $$$. Love your style and the confidence it exudes! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 Looking forward to the next vid!
I'm not ashamed to admit I love shopping, but with intention makes it so much more fun. I can look past all the pretty colours, and stick to the colours I know I will wear and get the most use out of. I'm selling pieces I bought and never wore (yes it happens) and I love having empty hangers, but not ashamed to admit it's okay to fill some of them back up again. Thanks for your continued inspiro!
Enough in my definition is when you're closet has overflown and your not wearing it. You move in, you move out. Life style always changes! Love it so another one please!
Once I started decluttering, I realized that many of us weren’t taught HOW to build a wardrobe for long term. I mean I get why, since our wardrobes for the first 12-18 yrs of our lives are disposable since we grow out of what we wear, but the underlying themes of basics and staples (for me) were completely missing. I think that’s why I always bought from a place of scarcity. If I had built a closet filled with high quality basics first, and figured out what my staples were, I don’t feel like I would’ve purchased as much. When you don’t have lots of pieces that actually pair well together, then it certainly does feel like you have gaps, probably because you do. But that would be easily fixed by building a solid foundation of basics and staples first.
Mandy, I think that is sooo true! And I want to add: I wish we would have been taught a lot of useful things like how to read a contract, how to apply for a job, what insurances to get or how to invest. Or just how to plug eyebrows. 😅🙈
I want to write a book: „What you need to know when you grow up“. Then I will include all the useful information you will need as a young adult. 🤩
In my twenties, I surely was in desperate need of such a book … 😅
Absolutely! But even knowing that you need to build a wardrobe on a foundation of staple pieces, it still takes time to learn which staples suit your lifestyle, colors and fits that suit your body shape and coloring, not to mention your own personal aesthetic. It's a journey!
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And May I add that we grow and our taste and style change with us
I am originally from Morocco and we didn’t have much money to indulge in cloths and when I moved to Europe for study ? I still didn’t have money for that, I earned some money and indulged my self in cloths when sales period
I stayed and worked in europe and was hungry for a lot of things.. I bought in thrift stores, sales…I moved to Canada for 7 years and now to France since pandemics…and during this confinement periods I had time to browse and watch videos on declutering…I think that everything come in time, we have to be ready for it and work for it
I am near my fifties,my shape changed , ,my environment, my situation, my intersts, my mind…No body would have convinced me back in my twenties when I was hungry for cloths
Alot of the need for De-Cluttering is that we haven't been taught to Plan Ahead & Chose Wisely about ANYTHING! Seeing something someone else has & think "I should have that, too"! Then it doesn't fit OUR Life Style! Bummer! "I spent all that money on this but I don't Use it, Enjoy It, or Love it! 😟 So Now What??
Interesting how both shopping and decluttering might both be driven by a desire to fix something :O "You are already whole - so is your wardrobe" Love it!
@cece you is smart you is kind you is important you is enough... Even if you had nothin... Even when naked :) just for breathing :)
Loved this insight!
@@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122 beautiful quote.
After decluttering over half of my wardrobe, I did another declutter recently. It amazes me my sense of freedom rather than deprivation.
Yes! It frees you deep down inside! I think it's only Americans for the most part that have such OVER-Abundance!! I don't think ppl are supposed to become so attached to their "THINGS"! We should be getting out & enjoying our Beautiful Surroundings & Learn to live with Gratefulness!!
Awesome to hear. 👏
"Honesty does not have to be mean."
"Guilt does not get to live rent free."
This hit home for me. New subscriber. Thank you.
Definitely recommend not decluttering with a number in mind. If minimalism is anything, it is about having more of what you love and less or nothing of what you don't like.
It’s hum and haw in British English.
Hem and haw in American English.
Being Canadian, I guess we get to choose whichever one we prefer. 🤷🏻♀️
When it comes to basics I like to have duplicates that are exactly the same. I live in black skinny jeans outside and black mid rise leggings inside. Therefore I bought two of the same kind before the company decides to discontinue my favorite. Same thing with bras: If I tested one and like it, I will buy a duplicate. Many times I thought that I will buy a new item when the "old" one is falling apart, but then it is no longer available and the brand only has a version with a different fit, cut or material that I don't like as much.
I do the same. I feel it saves money and time.
I do too, especially with pants, tees.
Agreed, same here. If I find the right fit and color you best believe I will buy 2 of same item because I know it’ll be sold out and or discontinued 🙄
That’s the story of my life everything I love Has been discontinued…. lipsticks, perfumes, clothing, hair products. unbelievable I felt really targeted for a while. That’s why I buy two of everything if I really love it I have a fear of it becoming discontinued because I know that’s what happens when I like something
I did that with nude bras I found at a big name supermarket/grocery store for £4, because as a black person that's like finding a unicorn at that price. 4 years later can't find those bras in store.
I need to do the same with clothes, but I'm weird in the sense that I like my wardrobe to feel like a museum so I think I want only one so it's "special", I should probably look into which ones it makes sense to duplicate. Re-shopping is very tedious.
I find that I purge my closet in response to anxiety. It’s like it gives me a form of control when I feel out of control. Not the best way, I know, but I’m not totally upset with the result.
omg! it is me! there are days I want to get rid of everything - those are days when I'm super stressed and my life slips out of my hands :/
so true so true
I used to anxiety purge, then I realised it was the panic of seeing a cluttered wardrobe full of things I couldn't even remember buying. So now I spend time just looking over my wardrobe everyday when I wake up. I've gotten to know my wardrobe better and reduced impulse buying coz I'm reminded everyday of what I already have.
Current situation
Same. I had a traumatic experience two years ago which has deeply affected how I perceive myself. I go through my wardrobe when I feel as though I can't control my life.
"I use my clothes as an expression of my contentment and joy." That's exactly how I feel about my clothes: they reflect me!
The speed decluttering out of a desire to punish oneself for buying so much...! That really got me. Thanks for being so open and honest. Oh, and permission to store and revisit...so good.
Having duplicates is fine, as long as they're worn - it'll just take a little longer to wear them out (which is great for those much loved pieces)!
Your last tip where you described feeling dissatisfied and needing to "fix something" really resonated with me.
The light bulb in my head (life) has finally gone on! I have spent waaayyyy too much on "curating" the perfect wardrobe. The result? Needless DEBT, piles of clothes everywhere (many unworn, with tags) and guilt/regret. I remembered a message in one if your recent videos...I wasn't ready to hear it then...but I AM now. Guilt, shame, debt...I am so ready to learn from you!!!! Thank you in advance for the being the beacon through the fog. I'm starting a first pass decluttering and, more importantly, a no-buy discipline to get myself "right." I'm watching your videos to follow your journey to guide and inspire my own.
It’s “Hemming and hawing” 😂. Great video. I’m working on this and can really relate to so much of what you talk about.
I have learned I was addicted to the thrill of getting a deal. I would have been better off buying a one item that I loved than 10 items that were just okay. Shopping my own closet for over 2 years and declutter slowly! And YES to part 2.
Im the same way
Same way for me! Love a good deal..
Buying one item that really works and paying more for it is more economical in the long run than buying a bunch of "bargains" that "make do."
You’re video shows how kind and realistic you are, and I love that you encourage us to be kind and realistic to ourselves.
Something that I am doing is printing pictures from Pinterest with similar items I have in my wardrobe and challenging myself to wear the items I never reach for so I can figure out why. I’ve learned: 1) I don’t like button-ups on me, 2) I don’t like shirts with collars, and 3) I very much reach for oversized tops and fitted bottoms and never looser bottoms and more fitted tops.
YES to a part 2. Also another collaboration with Alyssa Beltempo!
eeee! we might have something cooking for the future
Tip: I had been saving 2 pairs of naturally distressed jeans sitting in a drawer for years. I made them into cutoff shorts for gardening😊
I didn't learn too much about myself through decluttering my wardrobe, at first. But when I started decluttering my books? Wow. That was revealing. So many of my books were there to impress others. My keep-it-or-lose-it decision was based around a two-tier question: a) will I re-read it? If yes, will I be just as happy with it as an ebook? If yes, get the ebook and declutter the hard copy. If no, why not? b) If I'm not sure if I would re-read a book, am I inclined to keep it because it's meaningful to me / sparks joy just knowing that it's there on my shelf? Or, more often that I was happy to admit, am I keeping this book for bragging rights? What's so crazy about all this, is that my book case is in my bedroom, so very few people ever saw my books. But so many were there to show that I was "well read", had "intelligent" books, they were there to prove that I was "cultured" and "smart" = sophisticated. Which begged the question: just who is it I'm trying to impress? I eventually ended up going through a similar journey with my clothes. Decluttering was far more difficult and cathartic than I'd been prepared for. But what a relief to understand myself better and so gift myself the opportunity to grow. Thank you for talking so opening about your own experience! I don't have anyone IRL walking this path.
I can totally relate! Thanks for saying this!
I've the same issue with books so I totally understand your point, it's my next project!!
@@nml7750 Best of luck! :D
Literature degree here, and boy do I relate! A few years after I graduated I just finally admitted to myself I don’t like Tolstoy and I’m never going to read him again as long as I live, so it’s ok to declutter it, even if I’m a book-person. No one else cares whether I have Tolstoy on my shelf lol
@@jamie7002 LOL, I hear you! It's always the classics, right? One of mine was The Idiot by Dostoevsky. I was pretty impressed with myself for reading that one; I guess I thought everyone else should be too! (No one was because really, who's ever heard of The Idiot!?!) Amazing, isn't it, what we discover about ourselves when we really examine our behaviors! I had no idea my ego was tied to my bookshelf! :P
I enjoy these retrospective videos. They remind me that the personal style journey is just that, a journey. There is no "perfect" closet or one-and-done solution. It is an ever-evolving process that should be enjoyed. Your tip about playing dress-up rings true. It is something I have been doing recently in the hopes that I will start to really come into my own personal style. Thanks for taking the time to sit down and chat with us about a topic we all love.
I literally just did this to my closet and I felt so much better too!
Love it!!
Thankyou . I buy duplicates of things I like - I have 3 Bardot tops in different colours. Like you I have and wear alot of "work" clothes. I do dress up to go shopping, eat out , go out for the day, on holiday - so alot of my wardrobe is only worn occasionally and I definitely have favourites. I do wrestle with my inner " Golem" , my crazy alter ego that loves to shop, loves fashion, loves to say "f*CK it buy it" , so I try to pause and reflect if I need or have genuine use for an item. But I also have to not constrain myself too much otherwise my Golem can rebel badly to rules- so it's a delicate balance. Watching your videos helps me with that balance. X
There was so much packed in here. Going through so much of the same steps. Content with room for enthusiasm and inspiration is a great place to be.
I really liked the point of not aiming for an end game number. Instead just be flexible and open minded about what items come into our lives. We are dynamic as people so we should hold our items to the same standard, just in moderation. Love your advice on this video!
Well, I really appreciate how transparent you are when you talk about the whole process and what you learned. It's really making me think about how I curate my wardrobe. I've tried to gravitate towards a number but I don't think that's going to work for me, because I have so many style moods going on. Thank you!
Me too!!
I’ve tried to find the items that complete my wardrobe and make it perfect and enough. It’s never works and what you said about wardrobes being dynamic was really insightful
I believe in having a slowly curated wardrobe of the best items you can afford!!!
FINALLY found someone who's starting point was the same that mine is now! This gives me tons of hope that one day at a time I can get my spending, hoarding, and debt under control. It's hard to tell people I'm a shopaholic because they just laugh like it's a joke. It can truly take over and ruin your life when left unaddressed. Thank you for sharing these videos.❤️
Wow that was an amazing statement: decluttering as punishment. I have done that without naming it , but yes: swiftly and really with no compassion or thought just throwing the crap out.. and then once the dust settles I’d look around and think Oh heck what have I done 🥺
I’m still on my minimalist journey I started in 2015 when I discovered minimalist lifestyle and I did made the mistake of decluttering in bulk 😅 I’m much better now in what I really like but still make mistakes. You’re vidéos really help me recently with the spring coming and the urge to buy new spring clothes. I was a shopaholic too 😅. I would love to see a part two 🤗❤️
Love these tips. I have a holding tank for stuff I think I should let go of but can’t quite yet. It took 2 years but slowly over time I purged it. I brought a few things back, only to find out why I wasn’t actually wearing them. It’s empty now but I give myself grace to process the letting go slowly and thoughtfully. Layers of the onion, peeling back.
Thank you for this video. I'm in the process of doing this but at this point in my life I'm not ready to be so extreme. I work from home and "I dress up" everyday and I enjoy it. I love clothes and I enjoy having many options so for now I'm focusing on letting go of the things that don't bring me joy and having enough to keep my closet organized but I am not making myself feel guilty for having not being extreme with my process. You just validated what I've been thinking about these last 2 day. 🙂 Yes please, part 2!
I discovered your channel yesterday, and you have instantly become my favorite youtuber, ever. You're articulate and warm, and I just love the idea of "minimalist-ish" because that is EXACTLY where I'm at right now. Your comfort in your own skin and intention with your words and actions really comes through. Thank you for the inspiration, and for invalidating the "one size fits all" kind of minimalism that is so pervasive. Cheers!
🥹🥹 thank you for being here!
Such. Good. Words.
1) Ive heard it called hemming, not humming, but you do you.
2) That hombre row of jeans is a thing of beauty.
3) Im still traumatized by when your maybe pile was told it was a no pile.
4) I only wear shades of white, blue, and pink- so yes, duplicates are a must.
5) I'm proud of your progress. You look incredible!
I love this. I’m about to do a spring clean /declutter of my wardrobe and put together a spring/summer capsule. Can’t wait for it to simplify my day to day
Do you find that thrifting can make it hard to stay minimal? I’m so tempted to pick up anything I deem to be a bargain if if I do don’t need it
Your bit about guilt, our attempts to "fix" something, and gaining perspective is spot on.👍 Also, I appreciate you speaking about personalizing decluttering trends... taking on a copy/paste approach to any organizational trend does not work in the long term. 🤔🙅🏻♀
YES for a part 2! Thanks so much for your insightful, helpful content!
I have decluttered my closet and now I do it only at the beginning of fall/winter and spring/summer. Then I decide If I am REALLY missing something and keep a list.Then what I could add if I have a "coup de coeur" (like a summer dress as I rarely find dresses that I like). I definitely keep clothes for a while before getting rid of them: I don't want to have any regret anymore: this is especially true for classic pieces as sometimes it is just that I have worn them a lot and want a change but think I should have kept them when I look at photos of me and think: "I looked good and it would be perfect this season why did I let it go!!!"
This video was very helpful. I def went from clothing extreme to minimalist extreme trying to fix something and control peoples perception of me. It all boiled down to needed to accept myself for who i am and focus on what i actually like and use and not my fantasy self. Love your content!
I loved hearing you say duplicates are ok. I was thinking I am the only one thinking that. If I have only one of what I love, I end up “saving” it and never wear it!!
Well said!
it can really help to have another pair of eyes - if they can be supportive and not pushy or indifferent....
My daughter helped me go through my closet a few months ago - (pruning and curating as I prep to move into a Grannie Flat!) ... and one of the phrases her hubby uses is, 'I like it, but it's kind of tried!' we'd use that, and, 'there are 3 of these - do you like/ need/ wear them all?' ... and sometimes when I'd try an item on, she'd say, 'I love that on you! Why don't I see you wearing Thomas like that more often?!'
We were able to find tune the main closet (i also have a bunch of Square Dance outfits i need to paste down!) ... and at the end we ran the bags to the thrift store!! I keep a bag or bin in my closet for things I realize I'm just not likely to wear.
I tend to compare myself to what others are wearing or look like. I buy things I think I’ll look good in, but I don’t always look like I think I will and then I’m disappointed. I have a very casual style as well, but tend to feel under dressed. Although I think the under dressed feeling is just me being in my own head. Learning to be a little kinder to myself. Loving your content!
love the last one so much! the scarcity mindset is realllll and needed this reminder 💛
Another great video ✌🏼🌱💚 When I started minimalism 7yrs ago I learned I only wanted materials like organic cotton, linen and hemp in my clothing, bedding, and towels, and it might mean I have to buy less items because they cost a little more but i’m not itching and I’m not wearing cotton that was sprayed with pesticides or polyester made of oil which helps the planet as well 💜
This video really refocused me on my needs rather than wants. I’ve noticed that I’ve strayed from the path of building my basics. I have acquired most of them, but still looking for a few. I’m trying to only buy what I need and using a few fashion bloggers/vloggers for ideas. I noticed I saved clothes they featured to my wishlist. But after watching this I deleted a bunch of things bc I don’t need them. ❤️ thanks! And yes to part 2!!!
I would be interested in hearing about your declutter regrets and if you went out and bought that item/similar item again? I have been hainging onto a few expensive seasonal coats for that exact fear.
Yuppp! I did that. Haha I suggest just storing those coats away and revisiting later 🥰 or challenge yourself to wearing those beautiful coats!
Wow this makes total sense to me. I have been trying to declutter and only buy what I need for about two years now. But boy I still make so many wrong purchases.
Love this video! Thank you. I’ve been learning about my real self vs my fantasy self, and that I can appreciate items but don’t need them as they aren’t part of my lifestyle. Also, I love your try ons
Really enjoyed this discussion, Christina. I'm really enjoying wearing the item that I'm not sure about for a day and then seeing whether I want to keep it or not ☺
Yes I would love a part two, I have been struggling with addiction to shopping for clothes for years, and now almost 58, i have sadly more shoes than I could count, more clothes than one person would ever need, and after 20 years of being a preschool teacher and taking a break for 3 months and working as a receptionist, I loved being able to dress up finally being able to use things I have collected for years, shoes, purses blazers, and my nice clothes, well tax season is almost over and my receptionist job was seasonal. So i will be starting a new job at a preschool a job where i have to wear uniforms, black work tee shirt with logo and black pants, sweats, leggings or shorts, I Literally have struggled with not taking this job finally with benefits {my past school jobs were usually churches and never had benefits} all because I don't want to wear a uniform. Sorry this is so long, but i really need to vent, and no one understands, I really need to get rid of 60 percent of my wardrobe and not let it control me any more. I use to shop when i was sad, and now i feel like i do it daily. thanks for listening .
Maybe you can take the job for now but keep looking for one with benefits that allows you to wear that beautiful wardrobe and you'd be so happy you might not continue to overbuy... but just enjoy what you have. Best of luck to you on your journey!
You love dressing up and the items you have collected. You don't have to get rid of them. Pack away the excess in seasons. Once a month take out a bundle and pick out a few items to swop out and refresh your wardrobe. Wear them at home or weekends for your enjoyment. If you get rid of them there is a high chance they will end up in landfill. It's better to get the longest best wear you can out of your things.
Retired teacher here. I started in 1988 public school in Ohio. At least 75% wore dress clothes, heels. Men in ties. In my final 15 years I witnessed, teacher t-shirts, kakies, low cut tops, skin tight everything, flip flops. Ugg. I feel that we need to dress out of respect for students and ourselves. We should be models of correct attire. I feel your pain.
As long as you have room for them, keep them. You already own them and it's nobody else's business how many clothes, shoes, etc you have. If you do have items to discard, try to sell them or give to a church or charity based organization. I have alot too, as you may have guessed. I am now trying to sell my unused items on Poshmark. I have also given some away to those who could use them. Don't feel guilty!!
I feel your pain! I am a preschool educator too, and I hate to wear uniforms. I am lucky that I don't have to wear one where I work, but sure thing I need a wardrobe for work and one for going out ☺️
Keep your beautiful clothes if you love them, why not? But if you feel like decluttering, I guarantee you it will be difficult but soooo satisfactory
Thank you for the tips and reminders. I decluttered last year and gave away a few items I wished I hadn't. 😢 This time I'm going to put most things in storage bins and then when I'd like a change or variety I will shop my own bins and my stored clothes and jackets will be a pleasant surprise. I find that this method works best for me. I'm still sad over the clothes I miss because I gave them up without taking time to store them to see if i would miss them or not before letting them go. 💔
This is gold. Abundance vs richness.
Really enjoyed this video, it shows your growth !
Just discovered your channel Christina, a lot of things you said are so true like feeling scared of having "less", thank you for beign so frank and saying what you feel, many of us just realized and connected with it!!!
Yes, would love a part 2. For me, I know I have way too many clothes. This is one area that is harder to declutter. I love color and options.
Seems like you've learned a lot of life's lessons. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
I agree, organizing our stuff isn't about reaching an end game. It's in an ever changing state of flow. Like our lives, we're constantly evolving. I learned to ditch a scarcity mindset & adopt gratitude. It enlightened my perspective & I feel satisfied more often vs searching to fix, improve or fill a void. Also, if you have something that works, there's no need to justify it. If you have 8 pair of jeans, like the style, color, they fit & you'll likely wear them, keep them. Be grateful you already have plenty. When you stain, tear or ruin 1, you already have replacements. I appreciate you sharing this realistic approach of getting things in order to enjoy life more.
I started my journey with honesty of who I am and what I love, with minimalism all over the places I didn’t follow extreme declutter, instead analyzed where I’m and be mindful in my purchases and my wishlist have been my life saver; I have loads of screenshots and I checked regularly and suprise! Most of the items were added for impulse, doesn’t match with my lifestyle and delete.
Like you said, is different for all of us but we Can find and adapt advices to live and enjoy.
The Best Video I ever saw on this topic! THANKS Christina
I so relate to using wardrobe to communicate a kind of status. The beautiful irony is, that post declutter, Low Buy, etc, it feels so much more classy and rich. And look at you, CM. You look a trillion bucks, while looking like YOU. Massive win-win.
Yes part 2 please .. so glad I found your Channel!
I love the way you explain your process and mindset. I got more motivated by watching your videos. So I bring a box home from work on the weekends. I pick a section or item like I went through my 13 white button downs. Pulled out about five. At least it is a start. The black jackets and blazers. Removed half of those. Either too small or the fit was not flattering. Baby step. And little by little it is getting easier. Thank you.
I just sent half of my clothes to a woman’s shelter and although o felt good about doing it. I was extremely sad. I’ve never seen you before but you appeared on my feed and I’m so happy I found you. I feel so much better and I’m a loyal follower.
Very insightful on your final point about not shopping with a spirit of scarcity.
I'm a jeans and t shirt woman also. I'm either in my work uniform or jeans. I love to be comfortable. I wish I had stored my tight jeans away instead of getting rid of them just because my weight fluctuates. I dont really go anywhere either apart from work😊
I really like what you said in the end about having enough and how you used to use your clothes to portrait some kind of self worth. I also come from this place and have also found it a sort of dark place to be in. Now I am genuinely content with what I have. When I feel like I 'need' something new or would like to add something else I am aware of the fact that it will not make me any happier than I am right now and not change me as a person. I'm just having fun with the things I have 😊 great video! 💐
I’m just did a declutter yesterday. Your videos really helped. This one was great to watch on the am after. Thank you for sharing
Love the mindset of your own minimalism style!! Could you share all of your white t shirt collection and how do you wash/care them?
great idea!
Yes! This is valuable as so many minimalist seem to go by number rules not simplification per each persons desires. 🙌
Your comment about scarcity is major. We are enough and we have enough. Wonderful video and I’d love a part 2.
Finally, a decluttering video that makes sense and resonates with me!!!! Thank you! Part 2 would be great!
All your points were spot on...but it's your last point which struck me straight to my heart...
I love listening to your videos while I clean! So motivatonal!
I always love how real and authentic you are in your videos. Thank you for sharing this info! I am a duplicates person as well as I've found over the years certain pieces can be impossible to find again no matter how hard I try, lol.
Yesss this comes at a great time I'm going to be doing a massive wardrobe declutter ahead of moving after uni
yesssss!
I agree about declutter remorse ...
I found decluttering after the time of the month or feeling “hormonal” is best.
Not decluttering in haste is great advice ..little by little avoids second guessing yourself and feels empowering as your moving forward.
Use it or lose it 👌
I found its best to know yourself and declutter based on what feels right or feels good for you. What feels right for one person may not feel right for another, knowing yourself is first & foremost ~ Cheers
I really love to do decluttering because it feels so good to get rid of things I don't really need any more. However the point is not to buy anymore things that one day have to be decluttered! So the consumtion with intention is the only way to go. If I think about what new things I would "need" in the next time, there certainly is nothing that is worth to buy, because I think we all have really enough to wear. BUT there is so much fun to try new styles sometimes, so the hard way is to find the "golden middel"
After a recent (healthy) weight gain I’m struggling with the temptation to declutter all of my now ill fitting clothing. I may not have any clothes left and can’t responsibly afford to go buy a whole new wardrobe. Plus with supply chain issues it’s a challenging time to find new clothes. Wish me luck.
I “discovered” your channel not too long ago and I really like it. Thank you for your input regarding living an intentional life. Some years ago I used to buy clothes because they made me feel good. Then I had financial challenges and I stopped. Later what I wore and it’s quality were no linger important to me; and although I didn’t buy a lot, I notice now, that I didn’t put to much intention to it. Things are different now and I am older and looking for my style and I love it. My wardrobe is intentional now! Finding my style has made a difference in my selections.
This was a Very Interesting Video! I've learned that "This is My Life & I have to De-Clutter My Way! My "Goals" are Self Imposed & will please ME! As I've been De-Cluttering I've be doing so out of Practicality & Comfort for Myself & My Needs! This has led to My Husband Clearing out the Garage & Organizing things better! "Stuff" needs to Serve you & when it loses that Practicality, then it needs to go! I've been Clearing out my Library Shelves & am donating almost all of my books (hundreds)!! I haven't read some of them in the 21 years we've been in this house! I loved them so much & identified with the times in the past that I read them! But now, I can get all of my Favorite books on my phone thru either Kindle or Google! I will be able to enjoy Art Pieces on the Shelves of the Book Cases, now! If one thing drives me it's this...will our sons be unhappy to have to sort thru all this "Stuff" if something happens to us? (we're in our 70s) This way I can be the one to decide what is of Value & what is just junk! It's Cleansing to our Souls as well as our Home! Meanwhile we've nearly completed a 5month Remodeling of our House, which has made it easier to Clear Unnecessary Items out once & for all!
I just watched Part 2 first, so I had to watch Part 1 now. Thanks, Christina! 😊❤
While decluttering is definitely not a bad thing - and I certainly have more clothes than I need myself now is not the time to get rid of things that can be worn.
We are seeing shortages of dry goods, appliances and furniture and even sometimes certain food items. Inflation and fuel prices are something we have have to pay attention to and supply chain situations are having a visible affect in many places. If the political climate worsens abroad- many many items will be very expensive if we can get them at all.
I totally understand how wonderful the feeling of decluttering is, and minimalism is in no way a bad thing 😊 but wait until life normalizes before getting rid of things we simply don’t want. Carefully store what is not being used, mend anything that is wearable, carefully clean and store everything.
Instead of going to the store we can look in our closets to freshen things up.
One thing is for certain we most likely will not be able to replace clothes as easily as before.
In addition it is certainly better for the environment.
But the most important thing is to enjoy life and the things we have.
I was so busy making my point I forgot to add that I loved your perspective on wardrobe and guilt. Especially feeling guilty.
I would love to see part 2 and maybe a few thoughts on the current world situation versus our wardrobes and what we choose to bring in or take out.
Hey Christina, I’m so particular, that when I find something that works for me and that I really love, I do purchase duplicates. For example, I love the snakeskin Lauren wallet from Hobo International. Everyone in my family knows that when they come out w/a new one that I’m going to purchase it. Nobody gets why I do it, but I don’t care. I’m also super organized and have containers, totes, baskets, ottomans w/storage etc…to keep all of mine and my family’s possessions in. IMO, as long as u can afford it and u have a designated spot for that item and it brings u joy, then it’s worth it. I’m so happy that you’ve been able to self reflect, practice self control, get out of debt and b at peace. I’m in debt that I’m not comfortable with and I need to work on my self control. I’m doing better and better each day. We r all a work in progress. I think the biggest take away is to just learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them again if u can help it.
Thank you for your videos. I learnt a lot from you and what I like is the philosophy of moderation which always keep me on doing things until they became my habits and helped me stay disciplined.
Wonderful nuance and insight into some vexed recurrent challenges. I just found this channel and I’m grateful; I love being around the decluttering/conscious living conversation, but I’m over having singular rigid rules dictated. I really like this much more cerebral, dynamic approach. I’m a college professor and I cannot, nor do I wish to, cull my books, or my stationary supplies 🤦♀️ Love your aesthetic, too. 🙏❤️
Saving this to my “favorites video” to go back to. Thanks for the video need to watch it again.
Yes, please to Part 2.
👍I have this experience with style/fashion in general. All these lifestyle projects are too easy to fixate on, when they are in fact synergystic to the entire project of self improvement, which probably starts with spiritual confidence.
I've spent a long time trying to achieve minimalism (how I found your channel initially), and I love your honesty in recounting your journey. I have noticed a similar shift in myself. I now say I am striving toward "intentionalism" in my wardrobe and consumerism instead of minimalism because I love to collect and curate. Love this content!
I started decluttering because I'll be moving in the near future. I also determined that it's time to update my wardrobe to reflect my approaching season in life.
I never realized how stressed, overwhelmed and guilty I felt about all my extra clothes until after I started packing things away.
I'm so excited to sell and donate all my excess. And moving isn't nearly as scary as it was before. 😊
Your channel has been a big help, so thank you for all your content!!
I'm new to your channel. I have a spending issue when it comes to clothes. I know that my issue is related to my emotions and I would love to kick start decluttering but I don't want to go to the extreme. Your advice will help me.
Style is so dynamic and fluid… yes! That is why your point about storage is so helpful! I have stored things away recently to open at a later time and see if it’s something I’ll incorporate. I know those pieces stood out to me enough to purchase for a reason, and maybe I just need some time to let my style evolve until I’m truly ready to use them. I bought a ton of clothes over the last year to figure out my style… and I’m now in some debt to my savings for it 😣🥺. Now, I’m scaling back and leaving items I’m decluttering in a basket for a couple of weeks.
Shoes has been a rough one for me too recently. I live in the Northwest where we get all kinds of weather, often in one day. I really like many of my shoes but just have more than I reasonably wear. So I put half of them in a quarantine bin by first selecting the shoes I’ve worn in the last two weeks. The rest went in a bin to store away and see if I miss them. This is a great tactic to curb shopping because if I feel a gap, I can go shop my storage! Same with other clothing items. I do have a few style moods I cater to so it’s a little interesting to see how my closet is evolving.
Ah! And about fixating on a number of clothing items or hangers… I have a limited closet space to work with so I go based on space! Lately, I’ve had a stuffed closet to the point of not being able to scan the rack and see things, so I’ve had a bin holding overflow 😳. I decided enough was enough and started scaling back two days ago, working on it little by little. Those bins are now quarantine bins before reselling or donating.
I really needed to hear this. I’ve been trying to figure out how many pieces I actually need and in which combinations to have the perfect wardrobe. I love and live in jeans, so the thought of getting rid of any of them to get to a certain number was causing anxiety. Now I understand that ‘enough’ is different for everyone.
First time seeing you and I subscribed, even though I already watch a select few minimal/decluttering RUclips creators. You add a new slant to the underlying issues, in a way that is so wise, and your delivery is calm, yet motivating.
Blessings to you 🙏
YES!! Contentment is wonderful!!!!
I love hearing about your process and growth.
I am slowly learning that just because I think something is cute doesn’t mean it is my style. What I mean by that is when I put it on I may like it but never reach for it because I don’t feel like myself in it. So I am working on learning what makes me feel the most like me and the most confident and comfortable ❤️
So happy to have found you! Currently in the 2nd season of decluttering and that internal conversation of each piece of clothing always involves guilt! No more of it! Always wanting to save it for a special occasion or when I lose weight or it's perfectly usable I shouldn't discard it or else I'll have to replace it $$$. Love your style and the confidence it exudes! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 Looking forward to the next vid!
I'm not ashamed to admit I love shopping, but with intention makes it so much more fun. I can look past all the pretty colours, and stick to the colours I know I will wear and get the most use out of. I'm selling pieces I bought and never wore (yes it happens) and I love having empty hangers, but not ashamed to admit it's okay to fill some of them back up again. Thanks for your continued inspiro!
Yes, Part II!!! :) 🙏
Enough in my definition is when you're closet has overflown and your not wearing it. You move in, you move out. Life style always changes! Love it so another one please!