I'm not even a parent and this it totally spot-on! "I refuse to live in constant busy-ness. And I refuse to contribute to the glorification of constant busy-ness!" PREACH!
i refuse to live in constant busy-ness. and i refuse to contribute to the glorification of constant busy-ness. ..........i've been waiting my whole life for someone to say this
Ugh, RIGHT. This is so America right here. We need to stop glorifying constant busyness and focus on the quality of our lives. Thank this woman for pointing this out!
YES.! Yes, absolutely love you dear.! Never ever had any problems saying No but know a ton of ppl who can't ever say NO. You are super talented 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😘
I seriously don't get it, how do you not have thousands of subscribers? I had to search for you because a video I saw on Facebook didn't give you any credit or link your website or RUclips. It was on the screen so finely I could hardly read it but I found your website and was hoping you had a RUclips page and I am blown away and I hope that others come here. But I think if pages sharing your videos had your link more would end up here. However, I just had to find you. I have a feeling you aren't the kind of person who does this because you need followers, but I wish they would come because I feel like people would benefit from seeing your videos. I am hooked! Keep up the great work! 😊
YES to this women! She's so right, I used to be so guilty for saying no to people. Fearing they wouldn't like me or think I was being mean or rude; cause I wanna save face; but Kristina is right, our mental health is important! People love to glorify being busy, like "oh I have a life, oh I'm a working women, an independent women, I don't need anyone/a man" or shaming people for having time to relax or enjoy their own time. We only live once; got to enjoy our time and sometimes, wanting peace for yourself, it's pure joy! People finding the need to be out 16hr a day working and not enjoying life; and that being the NORM is why corp/jobs abuse us, we've become work sheep; and our "pride" keeps us underpaid and overstressed!
AyaneSensei sooooo true. I have graduated from the best universities in my country,with really good grades. But I have chosen a life of a stay at home mom, because I cannot handle more, maybe I am weak,but I don't want to be busy ALL THE TIME. And in my society, it feels so emabarassing to say that I don't work. Hell no! I do work, I don't stop. My house,my kids, hubby, ME!! are my priorities. Kristina made me feel sooooo good❤️
I think sometimes too, if some people stay busy 'all the time' and claim that they LIKE that lifestyle that they're trying to run from something, trying not to think about certain things. I don't understand or particularly like people who chose to be busy 'all the time'. I certainly like my down-time, too!
I finally learned to stop myself before answering requests for volunteering. And my default thought is now NO. I can't tell you how liberating it is. I used to make myself so overwhelmed by saying Yes too much. It is crippling being a pleaser.
Maybe she said 'no' to a TV show? :) Just kidding . I agree, I wouldn't mind at all seeing her on a show. I think more women/people need to watch these, especially about how to raise kids and keep them from turning into spoiled brats.
I did it ! Said "No" yesterday. I'm on a committee and was asked to move to an officer position next year. I started with "No thank you" ended firmly with No I'm not taking on more. It felt incredible not to be pushed or do 'what is expected'. Being me is more important than being liked. Thanks for the reminder !
Right. You can literally lose friends this way by not continuing to agree to always be there if they need you, but if you lose them, they weren't your friends to begin with. You/anyone needs to love themselves enough to be able to say 'no' when they need to. @rocky mountain lass
I said No earlier this week. It took me three days to think about it, but in the end I knew I could not stretch myself that far and said No... in a kind way, of course. My world did not end, I was not struck dead, but rather felt empowered. It still feels good. Thank you for sharing!
So true. While I'm not a parent, I'm a college student who's trying to juggle a job, blog, radio show, and jr editor at my school paper while looking for an internship. The constant busy life is insane. So I totally support your no!
I am like these other women who find it astonishing you don't have a bigger following! I love the videos I have watched so far. The first one I seen was on Facebook about not settling, and loved it!!! Although, I am not divorced I totally agreed with you 100% about everything you said on it! AND I am struggling with saying "No" too. Everyone comes to me with EVERYTHING, because I am the easy going kind of person! NO MORE THOUGH! Thank you for helping me learn to say NO!
I feel like I need to watch this everyday. I finally understand that saying “no” doesn’t make me a bad person, but the fear and guilt still grips me so badly. Thank you for sharing this! Such great stuff.
Thank you. This helped me to not feel guilty for doing "nothing"... and also, thank you for mentioning the part about taking it out on the family. That should be the first red flag to stop us from pushing ourselves too hard.
I often say yes but also say no often too. If I can do it I'll do it, if not I won't. It took me years of always saying yes before I learned to say no and man that no felt good :D The "friends" that didn't like my no departed from my circle and I now have only true friends. No is the best word I ever learned, it helped me learn who my real friends were. You are awesome :D
I'm watching this in 2019 and it's sooooooo revelant! Saying No, especially when I didn't feel up to the task, feels like I've added more years to my life. Thanks for sharing Kristina! Really love your videos and great personality. 👍🏽
This is SUCH an awesome video! Wow. You said exactly the words that needed to be spoken and heard!!!!!!!!! Wow. That was good. Yay! I shared this on my FB page, and tagged a few friends who need to hear this message!!!!! It's so great! Yay! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! Perfect!!!
ha ha ha! you are so funny! i love your videos. this one reminded me of how many times i thought about people giving me guilt trips, etc. whenever i said "no" to them. a lot of them are the same parents who tell their children, "just say 'no' to drugs," and i would say to them, "see...just say 'no' doesn't really work, now does it?" they just look at me with incomprehension and i laugh because what else can it do? lol
I had yet another person chat me up for several days while our kids took swimming lessons only to be asked if I'd heard about her Multi-level Marketing product. First time ever, rather than pussyfoot around, I said I had heard of it but wouldn't be buying it because I don't agree with the MLM business model, regardless of how amazing the product is. She avoided me today. Felt fantastic!
So ya think "no" feels wonderful? Hon, there is an even better moment that life is going to gift you. Mine came out of the blue ...it was shocking ....unbelievable ... dare I say liberating. Years ago when my sons were in their teens one of them yelled the daily question "Mom, do I have any clean socks?" I would always reply "Yes" and would bellow detailed instructions like "Left of you tees in ...." you know what I am talking about. Then one day I answered "No" and I truly didn't know! I felt I failed my sons until a few days later I realized they stopped asking and still had socks on !!!!! It was my first step towards that empty nest and I was feeling victorious and fine. So you go girl enjoy every minute.
I’m always in this situation and always say yes most of the time it’s looking after after people’s children or doing their school for them, while never ever having a babysitter for my own 3 children and already doing school and nursery runs for my own, it’s wearing me down and I feel like I can’t say no 😭😭
lol! this is fantastic! I learned to say no a couple years ago and it enabled me to start saying yes to more things that would benefit me (like going back to schoo!). Good for you! Once you break the ice it becomes easier and easier! *standing ovation* *throws undergarment*
I am SO glad I came across this video. I struggle so hard with that one little word. Why? Because of everything said in this video! I feel the guilt. The shame. The anxiety. So, thank you. Thank you for making this movie so I can come across it on this day. You are my spirit animal.
Absolutely love your videos. Your husband and children have been balanced. You have learned early the importance of balance. Lucky you. Keep the videos coming!!!
Work asked me to come in to work tomorrow. I have no kids but I feel mentally tired and my grandma might be visiting. I felt guilty but now I feel relieved.
I'm not a mom and I'm a subscriber... what the hell? (probably my future kids want me to take some hints before they decide if they want to be conceived or not)
Omg soooo glad I came across your RUclips channel! you give the best advice and your hilarious at the same time!... yesterday I was feeling frustrated and upset about a few things and I looked at a few of your videos and I swear you helped alot and with a laugh which helped with the stress... Keep the videos coming, Your awesome! God bless
I love watching your videos so much! If I'm ever a parent, I hope I have the same sense of humour and attitude as you! You are a breath of fresh air XXX
I loved your videos you a true mama imm share you to my baby mama. Crazy how is men don’t go through the same emotional stress as women NO is not as hard to say for us.
Kristina, I hope you continue to make awesome videos that actually help people while challenging society's norms & helping parents at the same time!! That's HUGE! I hope you make a ton of money, you deserve it!
Haha for me I have no problem saying No especially when it comes to being asked to babysit someone's kids umm No it is not my job to watch YOUR children haha
Well done for saying no! I struggle with saying no aswell, you've got to say no sometimes! You're so funny, I didn't realise you vlogged on RUclips but have been following you in Facebook! ✌🏻️ people just don't get it when you have a busy life! I have this same problem! Xx
I remember the first time I said "no" it felt like a huge rock, that weight around my neck, it fell to the floor and it felt great :-) sometimes I have to remind myself that saying No is fine, it is okay :-) Thank you for this and your other videos as well.
Lady, I like you! This reflect my life in the past few months, after I understood I need to respect MYSELF! You rock and I shall share this video to everybody I know!!
Yes to this video. I clap to this video. I always have trouble saying no but as you said, saying no doesn't mean I'm a selfish mean person. I give a million thumbs up to this.
I'm not even a parent and this it totally spot-on! "I refuse to live in constant busy-ness. And I refuse to contribute to the glorification of constant busy-ness!" PREACH!
i refuse to live in constant busy-ness. and i refuse to contribute to the glorification of constant busy-ness. ..........i've been waiting my whole life for someone to say this
Cynthia Burkey yessss best part🙌🏻
Ugh, RIGHT. This is so America right here. We need to stop glorifying constant busyness and focus on the quality of our lives. Thank this woman for pointing this out!
YES.! Yes, absolutely love you dear.! Never ever had any problems saying No but know a ton of ppl who can't ever say NO. You are super talented 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😘
I seriously don't get it, how do you not have thousands of subscribers? I had to search for you because a video I saw on Facebook didn't give you any credit or link your website or RUclips. It was on the screen so finely I could hardly read it but I found your website and was hoping you had a RUclips page and I am blown away and I hope that others come here. But I think if pages sharing your videos had your link more would end up here. However, I just had to find you. I have a feeling you aren't the kind of person who does this because you need followers, but I wish they would come because I feel like people would benefit from seeing your videos. I am hooked! Keep up the great work! 😊
me too. facebook brought me here but i didn't see a credit. fabulous stuff tho.
Charissa Noblett
Charissa Noblett because honest people don't get views
Totally, that's how I found her.
YES to this women! She's so right, I used to be so guilty for saying no to people. Fearing they wouldn't like me or think I was being mean or rude; cause I wanna save face; but Kristina is right, our mental health is important! People love to glorify being busy, like "oh I have a life, oh I'm a working women, an independent women, I don't need anyone/a man" or shaming people for having time to relax or enjoy their own time. We only live once; got to enjoy our time and sometimes, wanting peace for yourself, it's pure joy! People finding the need to be out 16hr a day working and not enjoying life; and that being the NORM is why corp/jobs abuse us, we've become work sheep; and our "pride" keeps us underpaid and overstressed!
AyaneSensei sooooo true. I have graduated from the best universities in my country,with really good grades. But I have chosen a life of a stay at home mom, because I cannot handle more, maybe I am weak,but I don't want to be busy ALL THE TIME. And in my society, it feels so emabarassing to say that I don't work. Hell no! I do work, I don't stop. My house,my kids, hubby, ME!! are my priorities. Kristina made me feel sooooo good❤️
I think sometimes too, if some people stay busy 'all the time' and claim that they LIKE that lifestyle that they're trying to run from something, trying not to think about certain things. I don't understand or particularly like people who chose to be busy 'all the time'. I certainly like my down-time, too!
Saying no is good. Don't be a people pleaser.
I think people have more respect for you too, if you say no sometimes and don't try to do things for everyone to get everyone to like you.
I finally learned to stop myself before answering requests for volunteering. And my default thought is now NO. I can't tell you how liberating it is. I used to make myself so overwhelmed by saying Yes too much. It is crippling being a pleaser.
You said no but I'm saying YES to this video right now!!! Yes yes yes 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
How has this lady not been given her own sitcom yet? A real talent at seeing the funny in everyday situations. The female Larry David. Love the videos
Adrian P I was thinking the same thing, she deserves her OWN show on TV ! or something
Maybe she said 'no' to a TV show? :) Just kidding . I agree, I wouldn't mind at all seeing her on a show. I think more women/people need to watch these, especially about how to raise kids and keep them from turning into spoiled brats.
I did it ! Said "No" yesterday. I'm on a committee and was asked to move to an officer position next year. I started with "No thank you" ended firmly with No I'm not taking on more. It felt incredible not to be pushed or do 'what is expected'.
Being me is more important than being liked.
Thanks for the reminder !
Right. You can literally lose friends this way by not continuing to agree to always be there if they need you, but if you lose them, they weren't your friends to begin with. You/anyone needs to love themselves enough to be able to say 'no' when they need to. @rocky mountain lass
I say YES to this video! I struggle with saying no. This video makes me want to say no and be okay with it. Thank you!
I said No earlier this week. It took me three days to think about it, but in the end I knew I could not stretch myself that far and said No... in a kind way, of course. My world did not end, I was not struck dead, but rather felt empowered. It still feels good. Thank you for sharing!
So true. While I'm not a parent, I'm a college student who's trying to juggle a job, blog, radio show, and jr editor at my school paper while looking for an internship. The constant busy life is insane. So I totally support your no!
I am like these other women who find it astonishing you don't have a bigger following! I love the videos I have watched so far. The first one I seen was on Facebook about not settling, and loved it!!! Although, I am not divorced I totally agreed with you 100% about everything you said on it! AND I am struggling with saying "No" too. Everyone comes to me with EVERYTHING, because I am the easy going kind of person! NO MORE THOUGH! Thank you for helping me learn to say NO!
I feel like I need to watch this everyday. I finally understand that saying “no” doesn’t make me a bad person, but the fear and guilt still grips me so badly. Thank you for sharing this! Such great stuff.
I hate saying no to people, even when I want or NEED to, so this video was very helpful.
Thank you. This helped me to not feel guilty for doing "nothing"... and also, thank you for mentioning the part about taking it out on the family. That should be the first red flag to stop us from pushing ourselves too hard.
I often say yes but also say no often too. If I can do it I'll do it, if not I won't. It took me years of always saying yes before I learned to say no and man that no felt good :D The "friends" that didn't like my no departed from my circle and I now have only true friends. No is the best word I ever learned, it helped me learn who my real friends were. You are awesome :D
favorite mom on youtube!
LOVE IT!!!
LOVE IT!!!
LOVE IT!!!
I NEEDED THIS SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!
YES!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!
Standing ovation!!
I'm watching this in 2019 and it's sooooooo revelant! Saying No, especially when I didn't feel up to the task, feels like I've added more years to my life. Thanks for sharing Kristina! Really love your videos and great personality. 👍🏽
Preach it, Sister! hahaha
This is SUCH an awesome video! Wow. You said exactly the words that needed to be spoken and heard!!!!!!!!! Wow. That was good. Yay! I shared this on my FB page, and tagged a few friends who need to hear this message!!!!! It's so great! Yay! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! Perfect!!!
ha ha ha! you are so funny! i love your videos. this one reminded me of how many times i thought about people giving me guilt trips, etc. whenever i said "no" to them. a lot of them are the same parents who tell their children, "just say 'no' to drugs," and i would say to them, "see...just say 'no' doesn't really work, now does it?" they just look at me with incomprehension and i laugh because what else can it do? lol
Giving you a standing ovation and throwing all my undergarments at you 😂 This precious video is worth 100 books on self-esteem!!! Thumbs up.
Guys, read the book "Disease to please". It's a lifechanger, in a good way.
*Yes* to this!!!
I had yet another person chat me up for several days while our kids took swimming lessons only to be asked if I'd heard about her Multi-level Marketing product. First time ever, rather than pussyfoot around, I said I had heard of it but wouldn't be buying it because I don't agree with the MLM business model, regardless of how amazing the product is. She avoided me today. Felt fantastic!
you need your own Talkshow. Im a huge Fan of your Videos. much love from germany 😘
So ya think "no" feels wonderful? Hon, there is an even better moment that life is going to gift you. Mine came out of the blue ...it was shocking ....unbelievable ... dare I say liberating. Years ago when my sons were in their teens one of them yelled the daily question "Mom, do I have any clean socks?" I would always reply "Yes" and would bellow detailed instructions like "Left of you tees in ...." you know what I am talking about. Then one day I answered "No" and I truly didn't know! I felt I failed my sons until a few days later I realized they stopped asking and still had socks on !!!!! It was my first step towards that empty nest and I was feeling victorious and fine. So you go girl enjoy every minute.
I’m always in this situation and always say yes most of the time it’s looking after after people’s children or doing their school for them, while never ever having a babysitter for my own 3 children and already doing school and nursery runs for my own, it’s wearing me down and I feel like I can’t say no 😭😭
lol! this is fantastic! I learned to say no a couple years ago and it enabled me to start saying yes to more things that would benefit me (like going back to schoo!). Good for you! Once you break the ice it becomes easier and easier! *standing ovation* *throws undergarment*
I am SO glad I came across this video. I struggle so hard with that one little word. Why? Because of everything said in this video! I feel the guilt. The shame. The anxiety.
So, thank you. Thank you for making this movie so I can come across it on this day.
You are my spirit animal.
Absolutely love your videos. Your husband and children have been balanced. You have learned early the importance of balance. Lucky you. Keep the videos coming!!!
I love this! I really struggle with saying no to people too!
Work asked me to come in to work tomorrow. I have no kids but I feel mentally tired and my grandma might be visiting. I felt guilty but now I feel relieved.
Good for you. I love saying no 😃. You are so right. You go girl!
Kristina is channeling what we're scared of even THINKING; let alone SAYING it out loud. And that's why we love her so much!
Kristina, sve pohvale, jako zanimljive i korisne teme, samo naprijed!
YES! you are amazing!!!!! I found you on fb a while back and you my dear are hilarious!!!!
I don't have trouble saying No, so this was good insight for me as to why other people can't or won't say no.
I love you! I'm not even a mom but can totally relate!
I'm not a mom and I'm a subscriber... what the hell? (probably my future kids want me to take some hints before they decide if they want to be conceived or not)
Omg soooo glad I came across your RUclips channel! you give the best advice and your hilarious at the same time!... yesterday I was feeling frustrated and upset about a few things and I looked at a few of your videos and I swear you helped alot and with a laugh which helped with the stress... Keep the videos coming, Your awesome! God bless
I love listening to you. I agree with you.
YESSS!!! Loving every bit of this. Still working on saying No but I’ll get there 😅
I love it!! I too struggle to say no. Thank you for sharing.
I love watching your videos so much! If I'm ever a parent, I hope I have the same sense of humour and attitude as you! You are a breath of fresh air XXX
Oh my, it’s soooo good to know I’m not the only mother/ woman who says no !
I just recently discovered you and now I'm sitting here, in my 30 minutes of peace a day, watching all of your videos!
Yes!!! No is such a powerful word!!!
my husband is always in my case about "just tell them no" I showed him this, he was cheering,literally.
soooo excited to see that there was anew video !!!! thank you for making these they are so helpful and funny :)
I loved your videos you a true mama imm share you to my baby mama. Crazy how is men don’t go through the same emotional stress as women NO is not as hard to say for us.
Kristina Kuzmic i actually did about gave a standing ovation it feels so great to say no n NOT feel like i got 38 children myself!!!
Can I just say that you're AMAZING! I love your videos. And you're advice is always spot on. Keep going
I knooooow...its soo hard to say No sometimes... actually most of the time.
I want to be like you when I become a mom 😂😂
"NOOOO!" This is how I usually say it. lol. my life is kaios enough already, I don't need theirs too.
I freaking love you. Preach!
Thanks for reminding me. :)
You are quite refreshing and I love you too, Thank you so much for your videos.
Kristina, I hope you continue to make awesome videos that actually help people while challenging society's norms & helping parents at the same time!! That's HUGE! I hope you make a ton of money, you deserve it!
YES! THANK YOU!
All my life people made me feel bad for choosing not to be business but to enjoy my life instead
You are an absolute doll. I've sent your link to allll my friends. You're our hero! Keep it coming.
So glad you had a couple videos going viral on FB so I could find you here! Your videos are great. :-)
So funny, always brightens my day :) Thanks!!!
(stands up applauding) WOOOOO! YEAH! WOOOOO! GET IT, GIRL!!!!
I looovvee this! No truer words have ever been spoken... thank you!
Kristina I love you. You are wonderful, empowering all of us other mamas. Keep it up!
Story of my life, I need to learn to say NO as well...
Its good to say NO sometimes! Also, Im scared to try sushi, thought of raw fish and not crazy about seaweed
I need to learn how to do that too
Haha for me I have no problem saying No especially when it comes to being asked to babysit someone's kids umm No it is not my job to watch YOUR children haha
How many thought that bowl was much heavier?
I ENJOY WATCHING YOU SO MUCH!!! Thank you for that video!
Well done for saying no! I struggle with saying no aswell, you've got to say no sometimes! You're so funny, I didn't realise you vlogged on RUclips but have been following you in Facebook! ✌🏻️ people just don't get it when you have a busy life! I have this same problem! Xx
I'm a 19 year old teenager and I love this woman's videos
I love this! I should watch this every day!
So agree with you....keep up the good work!
amen!
And can you now tell us how did you do it? How did u force that no out of you instead of yes, i like to know!
I remember the first time I said "no" it felt like a huge rock, that weight around my neck, it fell to the floor and it felt great :-) sometimes I have to remind myself that saying No is fine, it is okay :-) Thank you for this and your other videos as well.
Your videos are the best!
I love that you said 'no'! I'm terrible at that...and I love your commitment to this video bc girl, I know you had to clean that popcorn up...lol
Lady, I like you! This reflect my life in the past few months, after I understood I need to respect MYSELF! You rock and I shall share this video to everybody I know!!
I find that people love to talk about how busy they are all the time, even if they are not.
Amen to that
Kristina you are a genius!
I have no problem saying no to anyone.
I just discovered you and am now power binging all of your videos.
So true!
Great metaphor!
I see a lot more "no" in her future..lol
Bravo!!! The only thing missing was something yummy to drink!
K Jen sth strong to drink.
Yes!!Love you, Kristina!!💗🌸
Your level of sarcasm is out of this world ...
same for me, saw u 2ce on FB had to pause the video to find ur name, love ur stuff!!! slow down on nutel..a try to find a brand with no palm oil!
Yes to this video. I clap to this video. I always have trouble saying no but as you said, saying no doesn't mean I'm a selfish mean person. I give a million thumbs up to this.