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That is it. The unworthiness. The need to stand in someone else's storm to PROVE that I am WORTHY of love...how gross. Thank you for giving me the language of it.
My hook is that im not good enough to be independent. I NEED a partner or soulmate/other half to make it in the world and stay safe. You don’t need intelligence just a man. I need to be a servant to others. Make sure their life is worth living..never mind mine. Take anything handed to me whether abusive or not. Pretty toxic codependency. I’ve unhooked. Living independently and in abundance and happy and do not stay in any relationship that is unloving and disrespectful anymore. My life is a bit smaller and yet more expansive! I can breathe and dream again. ❤❤ Total freedom! Tough uprooting because it was so many family members who tried to keep me small. Religious, cultural lies. I thanked them in spirit for the role they played for me and let them go. I know I came to transform this system and not adapt to it. I’m proud..it’s why I volunteered to be here at this time. For my soul to wake up to the fact that I am a divine limitless being. I had to experience this control ❤and abuse to understand who I really was. I love myself and I want better now that I know better.
Thank you! My “hook” started before I was born, my mother didn’t want to have me, but was forced by my father to carry me and to give birth to me… I always thought that I was adopted, and cried of loneliness through my young years. Something that I carried with me all my life, with serious relationships that betrayed me, thankfully I was strong enough to leave them, but still feel the pain for them… I’m 75 years old now and really want to be free and really accept that I’m lovable; not in my head, but in my heart… Thank you! ❤
Wow. I can't even explain. That image of the hook in your heart is so significant to me. I was in a deeply abusive marriage with a narcissist for 16 years and felt so trapped for so long. I used to draw this image of a woman with a hook through her chest being held just under the surface of the water-- that's what my life felt like. It felt like I was drowning but if I struggled to reach the surface for air, this hook would split my chest in half and I would die anyway. Leaving him was the hardest thing I've ever done. Not because I loved him, but because of how it stripped me of my entire ego and quite literally turned my life inside out to get away. It's interesting how certain snares are harder to untangle your mind from. The belief that I "deserved this" pain was a hard one to overcome.
It made perfect sense to me when I realized that I was looking for people to give things to me that they didn't have. That's all I needed to know lol. Just like our parents don't have unconditional self-love so they can't offer it, or boyfriends who had not witnessed a balanced Divine masculine and feminine in each of their parents, certainly didn't know how to emulate being a person like that, or creating a healthy relationship.... just as I did not LOL and the way I describe it to people: you have two people meeting each other at the same level of unconscious wounding from their childhoods, it just may not look like it on the surface, but they're both trying to get their unspoken needs met in the same child like ways they always did, and neither one is going to be able to do that for the other, and that neither person is truly self-aware, and they are triggering the other in some way with the same old childhood reactions, in adult bodies❤ it's about radical acceptance of that, and then doing something different. Otherwise you keep getting what you've always got
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My hook was the belief that I am not worthy of love. This lead to codependent relationships, and accepting friendships and relationships where I did all the work. I have healed this hook and I am free. I've started a new chapter in my life. Thank you MJ for guidance. ♎❤️
The" hook" is an energetic vibration. It's a subconscious vibe, and we attract others to us, who are of the same frequency. Penny Pierce's book "Frequency" & her podcasts explain a lot. You HAVE TO change the frequency energeticly. Reiki, sound therapy, bio-field tuning, NLP, tapping, etc. are very effective techniques & you can do some of these techniques on yourself 🙏
If im in a hurry, I quickly freeze souls out of my life by writing their name on a piece of paper, soaking the paper, balling it up & and putting it in the freezer. Saying something relevant to the situation like 'you are now out of my life'. I did this with a toxic neighbour who was 'never going to leave.' Was gone in 10 days. Completely moved out.
This is one if the first times i have really heard someone actually provide some clear direction on how to identify the hook and actually take steps to change it. You talk my language. Very appreciative of your help. I have been working a long time trying to unhook from codependency. Its a tough uphill battle. After hearing this i will dig a little deeper once again. Thank you ❤
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for this video. I have been in a narcissistic relationship for the last 30 years and i am just realizing that its time to leave. Just not sure how. After listening to this, it starts with me doing the unhooking. Thank you so much.
As painful as this is I'm going to admit something that I recognised a long time ago. I was more than a toy doll that people (friends, family, relationships) took down from the shelf to play with when THEY wanted and then discard. I was next level toy doll. So attentive to the cues in others that recognised when playtime was over and quietly took myself back to my spot on the shelf and waited until next time i was wanted. This really isn't me feeling sorry for myself. It something i recognised in my behaviour. I'd learned at somepoint (i don't know when) my role. I'd self conditioned to quietly, shrink away even when in others company as soon as i sensed my presence wasn't wanted. I responded to disrespect and neglect. The perfect play thing for those who abuse. The only way i found to stay safe was to hide away but that left me lonely and unloved too. I'm still hoping i can break my own behaviour patterns. I fight to not allow myself to be invisible for someone else. It's hard to change, exhausting to be constantly alert to dangers and patterns. Especially when my behaviours are so ingrained and i don't really know where they began. At 60 I'm determined to never again take myself back to the shelf. I can't stop someone else from discading me but i can refuse to be there next time they want some of my attention. I do believe it's possible to change and even a little change is helping. Best wishes to everyone working on themselves ❤
This is so true..I attract men who are unhealed and have narcissistic traits. I need to work on this. I know unhealed people cannot love the right way. I know I'm worthy of love and will not settle for less.
I just did it again today and yesterday. My sister and sister in law, I’m nice and happily do things for them and they don’t respect me. Thanks for sharing this different perspective on how to quit this roller coaster!
Amazing video! My hook is a belief that I'm not good enough. I battle with myself over this false belief. I'm still working on getting that hook out. Obviously, I need to dig deeper.
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My hook is (was?) seeking external validation for my thoughts and ideas. I was hooked if I felt significant. That's not to say that I was looking for agreement; I just wanted to be of entertaining and engaging interest. So I was hook-able by anyone who expressed an understanding of or an interest in my thoughts.
U just make sense 🙏🏽 My 🪝 is growing up with a strict father in the ‘children should be seen and not heard’ era, which caused chronic passive aggressive peace-keeping, yet spirit-suppressing behavior 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you MJ. My hook is from childhood. I know what it is and bringing this to light I now realize how to handle that family member that always has that remark that stabs me in the heart. I will now look at that person differently. I do not need them to like or love me.
No way....I was literally just outside walking my circles asking for how get " her hooks out of me", and I come inside to this from one of my favorite readers. Thank you spirit! My hook is my mom leaving when I was 3 years old and my first memory being my Dad telling me " Your mother left again, she was out running around with her boyfriends". I have attracted partners that refused to honor my boundaries about other men and I have always been willing to stand in their storm in order for me to salvage the relationship. Damn.
Thank you Heavenly Father for your understanding of my spiritual and emotional needs! This message has come to me tonight by one of your Earth Angels, and the timing is spot on! I have listened, and taken this message to heart! I will move accordingly, to your word! Thank you everyone involved for the timing and deliverance of this message! It most definitely reinforced the urgency and finality of the situation! Hosanna in the Highest! Thomas!
I am so glad to hear about this concept because i have really been dealing with toxic or narcissists for about 7 years. I keep thinking why am I inviting these people in my life.
Mine is co dependency… from when I grew up ! My late husband was an amazing man but I attract controllers, manipulators and men who belittle me and use me . This video is well timed being a Cap myself and new moon tonight… I can do this MJ 🙏
Allowing other people to take my power away. It began early in life with a family member. And let it happen in all kind of relationships. Unhooking or taking out the roots has been helping me a lot. Thnx for the reminder and the work you do on the channel, MJ. ✨❤️
Thank you. I haven't figured out the point where the wound started yet. I just this summer finally seen my pattern with clarity through a relationship with an avoidant. I too have been one since the narc abuse 14 years ago. I opened to someone that couldn't return security, safety or stability. I need to finish the unhooking from him and you told me how. Funny how Spirit gives what you need when it's time. Bless you.
my hook is that "I cant do any better than this" and this comes from the ppl that have told me this, including a husband I left five years ago.... This includes all aspects of my life, from ex's to careers. The same ppl that told me they loved me and want to see me do better, have told me that I cant do any better, which is what I've been trying to get out of my head
Wow MJ! Ur story is much like mine..😢 Im sorry. Thank you for this video, and sharing! I will follow these steps! I just don’t my past to be my future! I have spent the last 2 years as a hermit.. rarely leaving my house..it’s way over time , I want to heal, change, laugh again! I’m 15 yrs older than you… I don’t want anyone to end up like me.. if you don’t mind, I’d like to write this out nice and tidy on a card and hand it out to people , I see in toxic relationships maybe give them some hope? A way out ..if they just give it a try! A true beginning on self-love
You know i did some psychedelic therapy the other night to purge any negativity, toxicity, or addictive people places & things and this is something I do at least twice a year and it legit felt like my guts were being wrenched and my meditation this morning said intestines were roots and idk what it rooted out but it was something big!
Thank you Mary Jo. I finally am bringing out a journal to write it….I have constantly procrastinated on doing this and I know it’s important. Learning to unhook vs. just disconnecting from someone.
For decades I couldn't emotionally unhook from a family member. I had to be ready to release the hook. It started a year ago we were making progress and then bam! It happened again This December. I've blocked him He will heal in his own time at his own rate but I'm not going to be the one to do it.
Thanks MJ. Love KBK. Used to go there as a kid with the family that created my hook. Lots of unhooking this year- and moving away from people and having the universe move people away for me. When you're not in that vibe the hook isn't there and they just go away. I love this explanation. My hook was as you said, going to be the one to love them the most, my love would save someone. I was the therapist friend, standing in the storm, Aries warrior for love. I've realized there are times to show up as the warrior and they are few and far between. Hoping for that light hearted someone to cross my path.
My hook is time. Waiting for the person or circumstance to change for themselves instead of moving on. I can't pinpoint childhood trauma at the moment.
I am so ready, has been for the longest time. Three years of Narcissistic abuse cost me a LOT. I'll never use that term loosely, since it is soul destroying. The trauma bond is such a devilish phenomenon, and in the 3 years since I met and got enmeshed in this , I had to face myself, find my worth, and educate myself properly on the subject. The past 2 years was a cycle of in and out - typical of that dynamic. Gruelling, gut wrenching. I know that no matter what, I have to GET OUT (already broke it off) and STAY OUT. This new year will NOT be another repeat. So THANK YOU for this 🙏🏻💗 P.s. he, of course, just tried to carry on ss ic nothing is wrong or happened. 🙄
My toxic mother has been my hook. Just unhooked yesterday after back and forth struggle over last 20 yrs of my adult life. THANK YOU MJ for this video - perfect timing! I feel at peace. I don’t feel the need to explain it to anyone. I feel complete within myself. I feel abundant and I am convinced that I am enough. I should have unhooked long time ago but my insecurity of being judged did not let me. Standing in my TRUTH now and I feel immense peace ❤❤❤
I once saw a post that called this sort of thing "the un-fu#@ening" find the YOU you used to be before that one person fu#@ed you over. Sorry for the language but it seemed very fitting. Thank you for your light, MJ. Keep shining it.
Wow, this is powerful! Unhooking inside me… what I thought was the fear of abandonment, might be unworthiness needs to be dropped. Learning a new way to feel love. Planting the seed of SELF RESPECT, channeling Aretha Franklin! ❤
I realize I have been cutting ties all wrong until now, thank you so very much for sharing this important information.. I have several hooks but my main one was the need to please otthers to feel valued and loved. My fathers love was and is conditional but as I heal its funny how his opinion no longer matters to me .
I’m adopted too, and have had patterns of toxic men and longing to be loved, been healing for a long time. This has come at the perfect time. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much MJ. Growing up I looked up to my older siblings for validations and love. Now at 65 I realize that I new to unhook from them and send them away in a bubble of love!
Your explanation is very similar to what I learned in holistic life coaching certification program. My instructor would say it's only a belief. True and we keep reinforcing that belief because it makes us feel safe, sane, and secure. It is our ego's purpose to do that. And what I mean by ego is think of how our skin protects our body and our ego protects our psyche similarly but a thousand times greater. You could think of it this way ego means Edging , Greatness Out. So every time we depend on that belief to keep us safe is not allowing us to grow. Our ego again protects our psyche Just like our skin protects our body but a thousand times greater and we will stay stuck in that until we see that the payoff isn't worth it.
Thank you for this! I needed to hear the “unhooking” part and why I’d done the allowing of it for years. I let this person keep me in that mindset. I’m safe on my own already. It never offered me safety anyway. I know I am worthy. Lovable. And I built my life with belief in myself. Why continue it? No more. Unhooking!
Fantastic video! My hook is "I will be the greatest, most steadfast friend through the worst storms in your life." But sometimes the storm isn't IN their life, it IS their life. Learning to "be the lighthouse," without getting caught up in the storm, is a big lesson for me. An ongoing one.
❤🎉, Gemini woman here. My hook was feeling unloved and unwanted by my mother. Thank you Mary Jane, for telling me of this, so now I can heal this, and stop having bad relationships. 😊
I love that so many people know what their hook is ! Because god was is before birth, was it molestation? Was it family and my secrets ?! I have no idea , honestly.
This is a journey I am grateful to have been guided through by you MJ for most of this year and at first it felt impossible. I was always the stupid one, is it ludicrous to be better than that. And, what will take the space of that hook - will I become weaker… I was scared. I have allowed many conversations with myself in understanding the fantasy in my head, people with low vibe energy draining me and childhood traumas that has repeatedly caged my growth. I am glowing brighter from within. It is as the guides say if you push at the barriers draining people put up you find they have no foundation. I am not empty I am strong!
Mother son hook. I will never be able to prove to my son that I not a terrible mother! There was trauma throughout the divorce of father and he is a narcissist and must win at all costs. He is a clone of his Dad and has been very disrespectful to me and maternal family. It is hard to let go because I do love him because he is my son. This was a very good message and I will hold it in my heart. His birth placements explain a lot about him as a person. He is following his Dad's curse lineage. I am not perfect either but I am aware and I want to grow and learn from my family lineage. Thank you Mary Jo and happy new year and blessings to you and your family in 2025!❤🎉
Thank you, MJ! I have done a lot of unhooking for the past 5 years, and specially this year. I am in a different place now, so much work, so much shedding...It is amazing how transformative this year has been for me. I am a life path 9, with life lessons 7 and 8. This year was a 8 year... Wow, how much I have learned and healed this year, closing karmic cycles, soul agreements, and manifesting like never before. Can`t wait for next year, being a 9 year, very personal to me.
Thank you Mary Jo. Good timing. At 69 I’ve finally realized that my most painful relationships and breakups were the toxic ones. I knew deep down it was something about me that was attracting these men. I finally realized I was trauma bonding. Now I can work on healing myself.
"F*****g A" MJ! This is a brilliant video; I love the part where you spell it out about being the lighthouse for that person who feels totally un-loveable and withstanding the storms to show their love. Well, if you really get it, you see that you are the lighthouse and you are the one deserving of love! All of a sudden, the storm stops, and the only thing is the lighthouse on a calm sea (see), and you totally understand that the projection of light has been misplaced, and you allow yourself to stand in your own light (love) and feel the peace! Thank You! Love and Light!
I wanted acceptance and approval from my adopted step father. I realized this the past month and a half. I began writing and started loving and accepting myself and I've been able to work past the childhood traumas from him. I decided to keep our contact limited to phone calls and no longer let him affect me with his dismissive disrespect of me. I have been feeling so much better and changed in the past week. Thank you MJ for this powerful message
Thank you MJ. I've been watching your videos for about 6 months now. I've never shared your videos with anyone because I was embarrassed that I watch star sign videos, even though they have helped me stay positive. I just shared this with a friend who I think needed to hear it, too. Thank you for the work you do. You are an angel. X
Great video!! I have been working on this for two years after the relationship with the meanest man ever. After therapy and journaling , I found it was my physical abusive father and passive mother. " I am not good enough." I have had a lot of work and tears since January 2023. Now I know the truth.
So very true! Ive been working on this unworthy wound a while now. recently added an EMDR therapist to assist with the root causes. I LOVE that you said “simple isn’t easy”. That’s even one of my hooks. I’ve known this wound and can say I’m a sentence, but takes many steps and uncovers more. However, I recently found my laugh with this work. It’s been in hibernation for many months…. Thank you MJ for this reference video 🌈💎
Thank you🙏 This is very helpful❤ From now on I Will see this picture of a hook inside me that I have to let go of. And not the other Way around! I know my hook now, the one that says I have to work hard and fight for love. I attract people who want a lot from me but they dont give anything back. I recognize it, but to change it and unhook it is very hard. It takes a long time to heel. I have kids with a narssist, I left him 8 years ago. I still meet that kind of people. The last one I met was three years ago and he is still in my energy. He keeps coming back. I am still working in it, telling myself a different story, where I am worty of love❤
Funny, I worked on this just this morning. I journaled how I benefitted as a person from repeated narc abusers. I am no contact with these folks for my own peace. And you are right, I don’t need to keep being a victim and in pain. I cannot look for love from the outside, my mom wanted me to believe if I did what she wanted she would love me. Nope! Thanks!
My main hook is the desire to be "chosen". Which, other hooks stem off of that one lol chasing after my father growing up trying to get his love and believed that if I could only make him happy, I would get that love and be "chosen". To this day, it hasnt happened and I learned not to chase him, but have chased every other man after him..... Thank you for this video, it really gave me a different perspective of the hook 🙏💜🤗
My hooks are my two older siblings. Never felt good enough....and the good news is that I am learning i am worthy and as long as I believe that in my heart as truth..i am healed and powerful!! Thx MJ ❤
My hook is from not having loving nurturing parents mostly mom. I feel like I just can give someone the love they never had I can help fill that hole. I know the pain very well and I want to heal them but I think I’m the one needing that healing. It’s never reciprocated though and it’s been one narcissistic relationship after another 😔
"Hello" frm New Zealand... thank u so much for answering my question... 🙏.. I didn't know whether u would read my comment as it was awhile since u had done that particular reading but I'm so ever grateful u did. Sending u Love & Light 🙏🥰
Alleluia!! Was a cord cutter and the unhooking has become so effective at not only unhooking from a person but an actual pattern By focusing on pattern I am noticing multiple people dropping out simultaneously…which can feel like a lot of surprise at once closely followed by intense curiosity and freedom. It’s fairly quick once the pattern is identified. All of a sudden off the rocky boat with gnarly hooks and instead the lighthouse observing everything from grounded space. Thank you Mary Jo!
My sister would be low energy and I’d feel bad for her. Then she stepped on me. No respect at all. Thank you so much. I don’t need to stand in someone else’s storm.
Good morning 😊 I watch you quite often and i too am a very loved adopted child, now 63 and both my parents have passed. I know emphatically that my adoptive parents loved me with all they had to give. I was given a wonderful life and repiaid that love by caring for them both until they passed. In my private relationships i always felt unloved and used. Onevin particular wich i just let come back whenever he wanted and i felt "like you said, i can help him, fix him, he would never treat me that way" and after" 14 years he finally did and i was done. I still have thoughts popping up in my mind wich makes me sad and his past is always 3-5 years and then back. I don't want it and im scared of it.
I had the same pattern from childhood on. And yes, I´m a Sagi woman, too. :-))) Mamma mia! But then "just" life happened, and after "some" dark periods, my Soul has gotten aware of this pattern and woke up : Hey, beautiful girl! Don´t you see your bright light? And I´ve started to fall in love in my own life and my souls beauty and yes also in my bullshits or crazyness, with joy and forgiveness. My inner child has just wake up, I guess, but yes, with help of my lovely spiritual therapist. ❤ I hug you all, my dears! Katalin from Cologne.
This is one of those messages that makes tears come up from inside from it being felt so deeply. Thank you so, so much. You just changed the trajectory of my life right there. Sending so much gratitude. Keep shining your light ✨️ 💛
These are truly helpful video's. The daily readings are fun to listen to, this is the real stuff! My hooks come from emotionally distant parents. So I'm always wanting te please, be accepted, appreciated, loved.....etcetera. Finally at almost 70 I'm learning!!!
This makes all the sense in the world! I've had weird feelings around cord cutting and now I know why. This is really fixing the problem. Me and my thoughts about me. Thank you.
Thanks MJ. Left over childhood messages about being unworthy of love reared itself this past year. I am so done! 2025 is crucial to my success and elevation, I am ready 🎉.
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The last bit- "you don't have to sacrifice your soul to be safe. You're already safe."
That hit my heart.
Me too❤
That is it. The unworthiness. The need to stand in someone else's storm to PROVE that I am WORTHY of love...how gross. Thank you for giving me the language of it.
My hook is that im not good enough to be independent. I NEED a partner or soulmate/other half to make it in the world and stay safe. You don’t need intelligence just a man. I need to be a servant to others. Make sure their life is worth living..never mind mine. Take anything handed to me whether abusive or not. Pretty toxic codependency.
I’ve unhooked. Living independently and in abundance and happy and do not stay in any relationship that is unloving and disrespectful anymore.
My life is a bit smaller and yet more expansive! I can breathe and dream again. ❤❤
Total freedom!
Tough uprooting because it was so many family members who tried to keep me small. Religious, cultural lies.
I thanked them in spirit for the role they played for me and let them go.
I know I came to transform this system and not adapt to it. I’m proud..it’s why I volunteered to be here at this time. For my soul to wake up to the fact that I am a divine limitless being. I had to experience this control ❤and abuse to understand who I really was.
I love myself and I want better now that I know better.
Thank you! My “hook” started before I was born, my mother didn’t want to have me, but was forced by my father to carry me and to give birth to me… I always thought that I was adopted, and cried of loneliness through my young years. Something that I carried with me all my life, with serious relationships that betrayed me, thankfully I was strong enough to leave them, but still feel the pain for them… I’m 75 years old now and really want to be free and really accept that I’m lovable; not in my head, but in my heart… Thank you! ❤
Yes, trauma can affect you even till 75. Love and light to you that healing comes
Hi Sonia. I'm in my 60s. I see you my beautiful sister. This new year✨ will be a wonderful one for you. God bless 🙏🏽
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Two years younger.
So many similarities in our lives. 💔
Blessings on you, sister. 🌟
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I love you Sonia ! And I don’t need to know you to love you 🥰
“…you’re worthy of love without standing in someone else’s storm” 🙏 . Game changer.
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That one really landed for me too.
Wow. I can't even explain. That image of the hook in your heart is so significant to me. I was in a deeply abusive marriage with a narcissist for 16 years and felt so trapped for so long. I used to draw this image of a woman with a hook through her chest being held just under the surface of the water-- that's what my life felt like. It felt like I was drowning but if I struggled to reach the surface for air, this hook would split my chest in half and I would die anyway.
Leaving him was the hardest thing I've ever done. Not because I loved him, but because of how it stripped me of my entire ego and quite literally turned my life inside out to get away.
It's interesting how certain snares are harder to untangle your mind from. The belief that I "deserved this" pain was a hard one to overcome.
It made perfect sense to me when I realized that I was looking for people to give things to me that they didn't have. That's all I needed to know lol. Just like our parents don't have unconditional self-love so they can't offer it, or boyfriends who had not witnessed a balanced Divine masculine and feminine in each of their parents, certainly didn't know how to emulate being a person like that, or creating a healthy relationship.... just as I did not LOL and the way I describe it to people: you have two people meeting each other at the same level of unconscious wounding from their childhoods, it just may not look like it on the surface, but they're both trying to get their unspoken needs met in the same child like ways they always did, and neither one is going to be able to do that for the other, and that neither person is truly self-aware, and they are triggering the other in some way with the same old childhood reactions, in adult bodies❤ it's about radical acceptance of that, and then doing something different. Otherwise you keep getting what you've always got
I'm glad you made this video it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $34k monthly and a good daughter full of love ❤️❤️
I'm feeling really motivated.
Could you share some details about the bi-weekly topic you brought up?
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My hook was the belief that I am not worthy of love. This lead to codependent relationships, and accepting friendships and relationships where I did all the work. I have healed this hook and I am free. I've started a new chapter in my life. Thank you MJ for guidance. ♎❤️
This is exactly me this video is a eye opener and definitely need to begin working on this issue
Thank you 🎉🎉🎉
The" hook" is an energetic vibration. It's a subconscious vibe, and we attract others to us, who are of the same frequency. Penny Pierce's book "Frequency" & her podcasts explain a lot. You HAVE TO change the frequency energeticly. Reiki, sound therapy, bio-field tuning, NLP, tapping, etc. are very effective techniques & you can do some of these techniques on yourself 🙏
If im in a hurry, I quickly freeze souls out of my life by writing their name on a piece of paper, soaking the paper, balling it up & and putting it in the freezer. Saying something relevant to the situation like 'you are now out of my life'. I did this with a toxic neighbour who was 'never going to leave.' Was gone in 10 days. Completely moved out.
What a creative idea. Thanks for sharing this.
Yikes
This is one if the first times i have really heard someone actually provide some clear direction on how to identify the hook and actually take steps to change it. You talk my language. Very appreciative of your help. I have been working a long time trying to unhook from codependency. Its a tough uphill battle. After hearing this i will dig a little deeper once again. Thank you ❤
Wow! I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for this video. I have been in a narcissistic relationship for the last 30 years and i am just realizing that its time to leave. Just not sure how. After listening to this, it starts with me doing the unhooking. Thank you so much.
As painful as this is I'm going to admit something that I recognised a long time ago.
I was more than a toy doll that people (friends, family, relationships) took down from the shelf to play with when THEY wanted and then discard. I was next level toy doll. So attentive to the cues in others that recognised when playtime was over and quietly took myself back to my spot on the shelf and waited until next time i was wanted.
This really isn't me feeling sorry for myself. It something i recognised in my behaviour. I'd learned at somepoint (i don't know when) my role. I'd self conditioned to quietly, shrink away even when in others company as soon as i sensed my presence wasn't wanted. I responded to disrespect and neglect. The perfect play thing for those who abuse.
The only way i found to stay safe was to hide away but that left me lonely and unloved too.
I'm still hoping i can break my own behaviour patterns.
I fight to not allow myself to be invisible for someone else.
It's hard to change, exhausting to be constantly alert to dangers and patterns. Especially when my behaviours are so ingrained and i don't really know where they began.
At 60 I'm determined to never again take myself back to the shelf. I can't stop someone else from discading me but i can refuse to be there next time they want some of my attention.
I do believe it's possible to change and even a little change is helping.
Best wishes to everyone working on themselves ❤
My hook is people wanting to lead me/own me/direct me, my new affirmation is I'm independent and strong and demonstrate leadership in my daily life.
You are safe
Yoh this is me😢
This is so true..I attract men who are unhealed and have narcissistic traits. I need to work on this. I know unhealed people cannot love the right way. I know I'm worthy of love and will not settle for less.
Ross Rosenberg book 📕-
The Human Magnet 🧲 Syndrome helped me heal so much!
Best book 📕 I ever read on the subject!
He’s a psychologist 👨⚕️
I just did it again today and yesterday. My sister and sister in law, I’m nice and happily do things for them and they don’t respect me. Thanks for sharing this different perspective on how to quit this roller coaster!
Amazing video! My hook is a belief that I'm not good enough. I battle with myself over this false belief. I'm still working on getting that hook out. Obviously, I need to dig deeper.
Ross Rosenbergs book 📕
The Human Magnet 🧲 Syndrome- was the most helpful book 📕 in ref to healing ❤️🩹
He’s a psychologist 👨⚕️
He’s also on RUclips 👏 ❤️🩹
This couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thank you
Give em the Boot 👢
My hook is (was?) seeking external validation for my thoughts and ideas. I was hooked if I felt significant. That's not to say that I was looking for agreement; I just wanted to be of entertaining and engaging interest. So I was hook-able by anyone who expressed an understanding of or an interest in my thoughts.
WHOA.... you expressed this so succinctly. This is definitely the hook that was developed in my childhood.
@@jrhc3827 well said. Puts my need to be accepted for who I am into words.❤️
That takes guts to admit ❤
@@PeonySomaticDanceI agree I thank them so much for sharing this thought.
❤thank you for this
This exercise is really awesome! You should have more of these activities!
U just make sense 🙏🏽 My 🪝 is growing up with a strict father in the ‘children should be seen and not heard’ era, which caused chronic passive aggressive peace-keeping, yet spirit-suppressing behavior 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you 🙏
One of the best videos
Thank you MJ. My hook is from childhood. I know what it is and bringing this to light I now realize how to handle that family member that always has that remark that stabs me in the heart. I will now look at that person differently. I do not need them to like or love me.
No way....I was literally just outside walking my circles asking for how get " her hooks out of me", and I come inside to this from one of my favorite readers. Thank you spirit!
My hook is my mom leaving when I was 3 years old and my first memory being my Dad telling me " Your mother left again, she was out running around with her boyfriends". I have attracted partners that refused to honor my boundaries about other men and I have always been willing to stand in their storm in order for me to salvage the relationship. Damn.
Thank you Heavenly Father for your understanding of my spiritual and emotional needs! This message has come to me tonight by one of your Earth Angels, and the timing is spot on! I have listened, and taken this message to heart! I will move accordingly, to your word! Thank you everyone involved for the timing and deliverance of this message! It most definitely reinforced the urgency and finality of the situation! Hosanna in the Highest! Thomas!
I am so glad to hear about this concept because i have really been dealing with toxic or narcissists for about 7 years. I keep thinking why am I inviting these people in my life.
This video needs a love button, like just doesn’t do it.
Thank you! ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you! I really needed this. 🙏🏼✨❤️
What a clear understanding of unhooking! Thank you so much ❤
Mine is co dependency… from when I grew up ! My late husband was an amazing man but I attract controllers, manipulators and men who belittle me and use me . This video is well timed being a Cap myself and new moon tonight… I can do this MJ 🙏
Allowing other people to take my power away. It began early in life with a family member. And let it happen in all kind of relationships. Unhooking or taking out the roots has been helping me a lot. Thnx for the reminder and the work you do on the channel, MJ. ✨❤️
Thank you. I haven't figured out the point where the wound started yet. I just this summer finally seen my pattern with clarity through a relationship with an avoidant. I too have been one since the narc abuse 14 years ago. I opened to someone that couldn't return security, safety or stability. I need to finish the unhooking from him and you told me how. Funny how Spirit gives what you need when it's time. Bless you.
my hook is that "I cant do any better than this" and this comes from the ppl that have told me this, including a husband I left five years ago.... This includes all aspects of my life, from ex's to careers. The same ppl that told me they loved me and want to see me do better, have told me that I cant do any better, which is what I've been trying to get out of my head
Wow MJ! Ur story is much like mine..😢 Im sorry. Thank you for this video, and sharing! I will follow these steps! I just don’t my past to be my future! I have spent the last 2 years as a hermit.. rarely leaving my house..it’s way over time , I want to heal, change, laugh again! I’m 15 yrs older than you… I don’t want anyone to end up like me.. if you don’t mind, I’d like to write this out nice and tidy on a card and hand it out to people , I see in toxic relationships maybe give them some hope? A way out ..if they just give it a try! A true beginning on self-love
You know i did some psychedelic therapy the other night to purge any negativity, toxicity, or addictive people places & things and this is something I do at least twice a year and it legit felt like my guts were being wrenched and my meditation this morning said intestines were roots and idk what it rooted out but it was something big!
Thank you Mary Jo. I finally am bringing out a journal to write it….I have constantly procrastinated on doing this and I know it’s important. Learning to unhook vs. just disconnecting from someone.
Sorry for a couple of typo’s….I know to read my comments before sending.
For decades I couldn't emotionally unhook from a family member. I had to be ready to release the hook. It started a year ago we were making progress and then bam! It happened again This December. I've blocked him He will heal in his own time at his own rate but I'm not going to be the one to do it.
just had another toxic encounter with family members like 3 days ago, thank you for this video! ❤
Wow beautifully said! I don’t have give up my soul to be safe! ❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you for this years of pain and abuse. I appreciate you!
Thanks MJ. Love KBK. Used to go there as a kid with the family that created my hook. Lots of unhooking this year- and moving away from people and having the universe move people away for me. When you're not in that vibe the hook isn't there and they just go away. I love this explanation. My hook was as you said, going to be the one to love them the most, my love would save someone. I was the therapist friend, standing in the storm, Aries warrior for love. I've realized there are times to show up as the warrior and they are few and far between. Hoping for that light hearted someone to cross my path.
Wow this msg is really strong, thank you MJ. ❤🙏
My hook is time. Waiting for the person or circumstance to change for themselves instead of moving on. I can't pinpoint childhood trauma at the moment.
I am so ready, has been for the longest time. Three years of Narcissistic abuse cost me a LOT. I'll never use that term loosely, since it is soul destroying. The trauma bond is such a devilish phenomenon, and in the 3 years since I met and got enmeshed in this , I had to face myself, find my worth, and educate myself properly on the subject. The past 2 years was a cycle of in and out - typical of that dynamic. Gruelling, gut wrenching. I know that no matter what, I have to GET OUT (already broke it off) and STAY OUT. This new year will NOT be another repeat. So THANK YOU for this 🙏🏻💗
P.s. he, of course, just tried to carry on ss ic nothing is wrong or happened. 🙄
My toxic mother has been my hook. Just unhooked yesterday after back and forth struggle over last 20 yrs of my adult life. THANK YOU MJ for this video - perfect timing! I feel at peace. I don’t feel the need to explain it to anyone. I feel complete within myself. I feel abundant and I am convinced that I am enough. I should have unhooked long time ago but my insecurity of being judged did not let me. Standing in my TRUTH now and I feel immense peace ❤❤❤
The "we proved it to ourself" is the real key to self-awareness...so many behaviors outlive their usefulness, but we don't realize it.
Thank You MJ for bringing vibration raising tools for the community! You are Awesome ❤
I once saw a post that called this sort of thing "the un-fu#@ening" find the YOU you used to be before that one person fu#@ed you over. Sorry for the language but it seemed very fitting. Thank you for your light, MJ. Keep shining it.
Yes I was just telling myself last night....Who did I use to be, bring her back now!
Wow, this is powerful! Unhooking inside me… what I thought was the fear of abandonment, might be unworthiness needs to be dropped. Learning a new way to feel love. Planting the seed of SELF RESPECT, channeling Aretha Franklin! ❤
That was powerful! This is something I will listen to many times! Thank you!
This makes so much sense. ❤
I realize I have been cutting ties all wrong until now, thank you so very much for sharing this important information.. I have several hooks but my main one was the need to please otthers to feel valued and loved. My fathers love was and is conditional but as I heal its funny how his opinion no longer matters to me .
I’m adopted too, and have had patterns of toxic men and longing to be loved, been healing for a long time. This has come at the perfect time. Thank you ❤
Wow! Great Perspective!!! Makes more sense!🤯🤯🤯Thank you so much!😇🥰
My hook, putting others first before my own needs. ❤❤❤
Thank you so much MJ. Growing up
I looked up to my older siblings for validations and love. Now at 65 I realize that I new to unhook from them and send them away in a bubble of love!
Valuable information ~ thank you🙏 As soon as you said “thank you for being here…”, Charlie jumped off that ottoman ready for a walk😂
Wow. Very powerful words. Thank you for your videos. You have a very powerful light, gift of words.
Your explanation is very similar to what I learned in holistic life coaching certification program. My instructor would say it's only a belief. True and we keep reinforcing that belief because it makes us feel safe, sane, and secure. It is our ego's purpose to do that. And what I mean by ego is think of how our skin protects our body and our ego protects our psyche similarly but a thousand times greater. You could think of it this way ego means Edging , Greatness Out. So every time we depend on that belief to keep us safe is not allowing us to grow. Our ego again protects our psyche Just like our skin protects our body but a thousand times greater and we will stay stuck in that until we see that the payoff isn't worth it.
Thank you for the clarity 🙏🏼
Thank you for this! I needed to hear the “unhooking” part and why I’d done the allowing of it for years. I let this person keep me in that mindset. I’m safe on my own already. It never offered me safety anyway. I know I am worthy. Lovable. And I built my life with belief in myself. Why continue it? No more. Unhooking!
Fantastic video! My hook is "I will be the greatest, most steadfast friend through the worst storms in your life." But sometimes the storm isn't IN their life, it IS their life. Learning to "be the lighthouse," without getting caught up in the storm, is a big lesson for me. An ongoing one.
I look forward to working with this. Thank you❤❤❤❤❤
"I don't have to be a human doing" that quote really hit me.
❤🎉, Gemini woman here. My hook was feeling unloved and unwanted by my mother. Thank you Mary Jane, for telling me of this, so now I can heal this, and stop having bad relationships. 😊
I love you MJ!!Thank you for all you do for us on this crazy journey ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏Happy New Year !! 🎉
Absolutely awesome
I love that so many people know what their hook is ! Because god was is before birth, was it molestation? Was it family and my secrets ?! I have no idea , honestly.
This is a journey I am grateful to have been guided through by you MJ for most of this year and at first it felt impossible. I was always the stupid one, is it ludicrous to be better than that. And, what will take the space of that hook - will I become weaker… I was scared. I have allowed many conversations with myself in understanding the fantasy in my head, people with low vibe energy draining me and childhood traumas that has repeatedly caged my growth. I am glowing brighter from within. It is as the guides say if you push at the barriers draining people put up you find they have no foundation. I am not empty I am strong!
Worthy of love without standing in someone else's storm, wow, mike drop 🎉🎉🎉
Mother son hook. I will never be able to prove to my son that I not a terrible mother! There was trauma throughout the divorce of father and he is a narcissist and must win at all costs. He is a clone of his Dad and has been very disrespectful to me and maternal family. It is hard to let go because I do love him because he is my son. This was a very good message and I will hold it in my heart. His birth placements explain a lot about him as a person. He is following his Dad's curse lineage. I am not perfect either but I am aware and I want to grow and learn from my family lineage. Thank you Mary Jo and happy new year and blessings to you and your family in 2025!❤🎉
Thank you, MJ! I have done a lot of unhooking for the past 5 years, and specially this year. I am in a different place now, so much work, so much shedding...It is amazing how transformative this year has been for me. I am a life path 9, with life lessons 7 and 8. This year was a 8 year... Wow, how much I have learned and healed this year, closing karmic cycles, soul agreements, and manifesting like never before. Can`t wait for next year, being a 9 year, very personal to me.
My hook is the belief that I have the ability to heal anyone other than myself. 😮❤🙏❤😮
Thank you Mary Jo. Good timing. At 69 I’ve finally realized that my most painful relationships and breakups were the toxic ones.
I knew deep down it was something about me that was attracting these men. I finally realized I was trauma bonding. Now I can work on healing myself.
"F*****g A" MJ! This is a brilliant video; I love the part where you spell it out about being the lighthouse for that person who feels totally un-loveable and withstanding the storms to show their love. Well, if you really get it, you see that you are the lighthouse and you are the one deserving of love! All of a sudden, the storm stops, and the only thing is the lighthouse on a calm sea (see), and you totally understand that the projection of light has been misplaced, and you allow yourself to stand in your own light (love) and feel the peace! Thank You! Love and Light!
I wanted acceptance and approval from my adopted step father. I realized this the past month and a half. I began writing and started loving and accepting myself and I've been able to work past the childhood traumas from him. I decided to keep our contact limited to phone calls and no longer let him affect me with his dismissive disrespect of me. I have been feeling so much better and changed in the past week. Thank you MJ for this powerful message
Thank you MJ. I've been watching your videos for about 6 months now. I've never shared your videos with anyone because I was embarrassed that I watch star sign videos, even though they have helped me stay positive. I just shared this with a friend who I think needed to hear it, too. Thank you for the work you do. You are an angel. X
Energy feeding. The healing includes understanding/knowing we don't need to look outside/elsewhere for what we feel we need.
Great video!! I have been working on this for two years after the relationship with the meanest man ever. After therapy and journaling , I found it was my physical abusive father and passive mother.
" I am not good enough." I have had a lot of work and tears since January 2023. Now I know the truth.
So very true! Ive been working on this unworthy wound a while now. recently added an EMDR therapist to assist with the root causes. I LOVE that you said “simple isn’t easy”. That’s even one of my hooks. I’ve known this wound and can say I’m a sentence, but takes many steps and uncovers more. However, I recently found my laugh with this work. It’s been in hibernation for many months…. Thank you MJ for this reference video 🌈💎
Family. My oldest daughter and her daughter. I have already unhook them! 😊 I’m glad I did. Amen
Thank you🙏 This is very helpful❤ From now on I Will see this picture of a hook inside me that I have to let go of. And not the other Way around!
I know my hook now, the one that says I have to work hard and fight for love. I attract people who want a lot from me but they dont give anything back. I recognize it, but to change it and unhook it is very hard. It takes a long time to heel. I have kids with a narssist, I left him 8 years ago. I still meet that kind of people. The last one I met was three years ago and he is still in my energy. He keeps coming back. I am still working in it, telling myself a different story, where I am worty of love❤
Funny, I worked on this just this morning. I journaled how I benefitted as a person from repeated narc abusers. I am no contact with these folks for my own peace. And you are right, I don’t need to keep being a victim and in pain. I cannot look for love from the outside, my mom wanted me to believe if I did what she wanted she would love me. Nope! Thanks!
My main hook is the desire to be "chosen". Which, other hooks stem off of that one lol chasing after my father growing up trying to get his love and believed that if I could only make him happy, I would get that love and be "chosen". To this day, it hasnt happened and I learned not to chase him, but have chased every other man after him.....
Thank you for this video, it really gave me a different perspective of the hook 🙏💜🤗
My hooks are my two older siblings. Never felt good enough....and the good news is that I am learning i am worthy and as long as I believe that in my heart as truth..i am healed and powerful!! Thx MJ ❤
My hook is from not having loving nurturing parents mostly mom. I feel like I just can give someone the love they never had I can help fill that hole. I know the pain very well and I want to heal them but I think I’m the one needing that healing. It’s never reciprocated though and it’s been one narcissistic relationship after another 😔
"Hello" frm New Zealand... thank u so much for answering my question... 🙏.. I didn't know whether u would read my comment as it was awhile since u had done that particular reading but I'm so ever grateful u did. Sending u Love & Light 🙏🥰
Alleluia!!
Was a cord cutter and the unhooking has become so effective at not only unhooking from a person but an actual pattern
By focusing on pattern I am noticing multiple people dropping out simultaneously…which can feel like a lot of surprise at once closely followed by intense curiosity and freedom. It’s fairly quick once the pattern is identified. All of a sudden off the rocky boat with gnarly hooks and instead the lighthouse observing everything from grounded space. Thank you Mary Jo!
So true MJ. So grateful to finally be on the other side of that! ❤
Like begets like.
Gotta take responsibility for yourself and rid the victim mindset. ❤
My sister would be low energy and I’d feel bad for her. Then she stepped on me. No respect at all. Thank you so much. I don’t need to stand in someone else’s storm.
Good morning 😊
I watch you quite often and i too am a very loved adopted child, now 63 and both my parents have passed. I know emphatically that my adoptive parents loved me with all they had to give. I was given a wonderful life and repiaid that love by caring for them both until they passed.
In my private relationships i always felt unloved and used. Onevin particular wich i just let come back whenever he wanted and i felt "like you said, i can help him, fix him, he would never treat me that way" and after" 14 years he finally did and i was done. I still have thoughts popping up in my mind wich makes me sad and his past is always 3-5 years and then back. I don't want it and im scared of it.
Wow! Thank you for this! First time finding you. Now I truly understand the concept: When the student is ready, the teacher appears!
I had the same pattern from childhood on. And yes, I´m a Sagi woman, too. :-))) Mamma mia! But then "just" life happened, and after "some" dark periods, my Soul has gotten aware of this pattern and woke up : Hey, beautiful girl! Don´t you see your bright light? And I´ve started to fall in love in my own life and my souls beauty and yes also in my bullshits or crazyness, with joy and forgiveness. My inner child has just wake up, I guess, but yes, with help of my lovely spiritual therapist. ❤ I hug you all, my dears! Katalin from Cologne.
One of my hooks is that I need a man to take care of me financially because I can’t make enough money on my own 😢
You are secure within yourself
This is one of those messages that makes tears come up from inside from it being felt so deeply. Thank you so, so much. You just changed the trajectory of my life right there. Sending so much gratitude. Keep shining your light ✨️ 💛
These are truly helpful video's. The daily readings are fun to listen to, this is the real stuff!
My hooks come from emotionally distant parents. So I'm always wanting te please, be accepted, appreciated, loved.....etcetera. Finally at almost 70 I'm learning!!!
This makes all the sense in the world! I've had weird feelings around cord cutting and now I know why. This is really fixing the problem. Me and my thoughts about me. Thank you.
Thanks MJ. Left over childhood messages about being unworthy of love reared itself this past year. I am so done! 2025 is crucial to my success and elevation, I am ready 🎉.