I was in a Toxic Relationship for Five Years. Here's What I Learned.

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  • Опубликовано: 24 дек 2024

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  • @thehellyblog
    @thehellyblog  4 года назад +922

    The comment section of this video is the most positive thing I've ever seen. Hello 👋 to you beautiful Queens and handsome Kings, work on your dreams and goals and let love grow organically❤️ I'm happy you made me a part of your life😀🎉❤️

    • @purnimakohli1493
      @purnimakohli1493 4 года назад +8

      Thank you for making this video💟

    • @thechessnoob9667
      @thechessnoob9667 4 года назад +7

      Wait. How do I respond to this video If I'm the similar kind of guy as your ex-bf. I also do this to my gf (except abusive part) , I don't let her talk to anyone. How should I improve and What should I do now @Helly .....

    • @palkiphukan9043
      @palkiphukan9043 4 года назад +4

      Loved it ❤ much relatable. God bless you girl! Keep growing n keep loving yourself!

    • @crescenthaven8969
      @crescenthaven8969 4 года назад +5

      @@thechessnoob9667 I know you didn't ask for my help at all, so take this advice with a grain of salt. As a girl, I know I wouldn't like it if my boyfriend/husband/fiancé didn't let me talk to anyone. I would advise you to have faith in her and her other relationships, just as she would to you. If she doesn't stay true to you, if that's what you're afraid of by not letting her talk with anyone, then she isn't deserving of your attention. You need to love her regardless of any obstacles, and she needs to love you the same. You can't just keep hiding all the obstacles from her forever. Hope this helped! :)

    • @thechessnoob9667
      @thechessnoob9667 4 года назад +3

      @@crescenthaven8969 Thanks a lot for the advice, I really appreciate it. For me, the problem has always been my jealousy, I know it but I just can't help it. Although I know She isn't a cheater or anything of that sort, but the fact that she is being too frank and open or being friends with some other guy, hurts me a lot and more often than not, I get angry on her for this. Once I saw her laughing and joking and playing around with another guy, and I was really mad at her and I didn't talk to her for 2 days.. I just don't know how to control these feelings and be better at this :( :( :( I'd really appreciate if you could give your piece of advice on this issue as well as a girl :( :(

  • @darathikakati7427
    @darathikakati7427 4 года назад +6235

    Bitter ending is better than endless bitterness.

  • @bhaswatichakraborty9245
    @bhaswatichakraborty9245 4 года назад +3610

    Ambitious women either need a highly supportive partner or a no partner at all.
    Proud of you girl. ♥️

    • @mystiqueleague903
      @mystiqueleague903 4 года назад +8

      True

    • @kali4844
      @kali4844 4 года назад +55

      The same goes for guys too👍

    • @kali4844
      @kali4844 4 года назад

      Ok

    • @ryzennine8216
      @ryzennine8216 4 года назад +27

      Just thinking what reaction we will get if we swap the genders in your comment. Lol !

    • @ryzennine8216
      @ryzennine8216 4 года назад +1

      @Bilkees Javaid
      And your point is ?

  • @manojkumar-sg6uy
    @manojkumar-sg6uy 4 года назад +2023

    Every break-up in love is a wake-up in life.

  • @shibbufc4163
    @shibbufc4163 4 года назад +303

    Being single is the key. Now some people will say that I'm wrong but accept it buddy it is far better than in relationships. 👍

    • @aishwaryapathak2927
      @aishwaryapathak2927 4 года назад +22

      Relationship is also good just the thing is your partner should be loyal towards you and if your partner loves and supports you then your life changes.

    • @dhruvpratapsingh3389
      @dhruvpratapsingh3389 4 года назад +21

      Being single is a gift. People tend to get possessive eventually and when it doesn't happen according to any party the relationship gets affected. Pehle kuch ban jao taaki ek stable mindset rahe and you would more likely to select a better partner.

    • @aishwaryapathak2927
      @aishwaryapathak2927 4 года назад +4

      @@dhruvpratapsingh3389 depends

    • @dhruvpratapsingh3389
      @dhruvpratapsingh3389 4 года назад +5

      @@aishwaryapathak2927 yes on many factors.

    • @aishwaryapathak2927
      @aishwaryapathak2927 4 года назад +4

      @@dhruvpratapsingh3389 yeah and everyone has their own perspective

  • @be-lovedgirl4109
    @be-lovedgirl4109 4 года назад +1996

    Not only relationships, even friendships are bitter.

    • @shilpiroy4
      @shilpiroy4 4 года назад +51

      Both hurt different but leave endless wounds within us

    • @ar4bhplays
      @ar4bhplays 4 года назад +1

      @@shilpiroy4 lol your profile picture

    • @shilpiroy4
      @shilpiroy4 4 года назад +1

      @@ar4bhplays 😂

    • @ar4bhplays
      @ar4bhplays 4 года назад

      @@shilpiroy4 are u an Indian otaku.

    • @shilpiroy4
      @shilpiroy4 4 года назад

      @@ar4bhplays haha yeah, used to be

  • @atinchakraborty1061
    @atinchakraborty1061 4 года назад +1524

    The worst mistake what we do is to think ..."the person will gonna change " .. let's tolerate it .. but it never happens ... 😊.

  • @juwairiasadik3926
    @juwairiasadik3926 4 года назад +2147

    Today’s breakup is better than tomorrow’s divorce

  • @music_addict013
    @music_addict013 3 года назад +391

    "Love is something that makes u better nd if it's making u feel suffocated nd trapped;it's not love"
    I totally agree with it💜

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад

      Actually it's not a toxic relationship it's actually Stockholm syndrome which is most common mental disease in girls and women

    • @zoologyoptional3955
      @zoologyoptional3955 2 года назад +1

      @@prophetmohammed1491 bro it's so true 💓 and literally kuch nehi bolna he 😊

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад

      @@zoologyoptional3955 💗💗💗🌹😘

    • @zoologyoptional3955
      @zoologyoptional3955 2 года назад +2

      @@prophetmohammed1491 didi ne to toxic relationship bolke khudka priority lvl increase kora rehi hee....aur wo kabhi kisi ke sath khush nehi reh sakta🤣🤣Mera ek binomro onurudh he sob ladke log ko ki galti se unko biyah mot karwa Lena🤣

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад

      @@zoologyoptional3955 great work 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @keerthi1335
    @keerthi1335 4 года назад +413

    Relationships are not always fairytales, sometimes they are nightmares...

    • @adhumon55
      @adhumon55 4 года назад +7

      Every first love is a fairytale which would turn into a nightmare anyway.

    • @tsinghrajput
      @tsinghrajput 4 года назад

      @@adhumon55 right

    • @koustavmajumdar1235
      @koustavmajumdar1235 4 года назад

      @@tsinghrajput galat.

    • @koustavmajumdar1235
      @koustavmajumdar1235 4 года назад +1

      Relationships are not always nightmares, sometimes the are fairytales.

    • @harjotkaur1079
      @harjotkaur1079 3 года назад +2

      Relationships are fairytale only if you are extremely lucky.

  • @ringoman08
    @ringoman08 4 года назад +144

    Free Relationship advice here :: teenagers pls don’t get a relationship until you have a career. Maturity comes with a price you will obv won’t make any sensible decision at this age anyways .....

    • @ringoman08
      @ringoman08 4 года назад +2

      Umm thanks for the heart. Thats was a bit unexpected tbh

    • @_01_Neha
      @_01_Neha 4 года назад +13

      Great tip ,but no one will listen until unless ,they personally learnt this lesson by themselves...

    • @ringoman08
      @ringoman08 4 года назад

      @@_01_Neha you are right but hey we are always here for people who are seeking help. We can’t say all people are same.

    • @iitian8961
      @iitian8961 2 года назад +2

      Katne ke baad sab aise hi bolte h 😊
      Relationship meh jo maje h wo toh le lete ho aur fir gyan chodte ho 😂

    • @saptarshipal6743
      @saptarshipal6743 2 года назад +1

      @@iitian8961 Now that's what i call IITian vibe 😂😂

  • @smritisingh3298
    @smritisingh3298 4 года назад +679

    Its easier to get rid of a toxic person when he is in the role of boyfriend. But its way too hard to get rid of a toxic person when they are one of your family and in blood relations..

    • @ashwinipandey8498
      @ashwinipandey8498 4 года назад +56

      😭😭😭why so on point girl ? I am kinda stuck in my mother's toxicity

    • @riyaannthomas1065
      @riyaannthomas1065 4 года назад +26

      @@ashwinipandey8498 😔 my whole family

    • @ashwinipandey8498
      @ashwinipandey8498 4 года назад +26

      @@riyaannthomas1065 I think you should start living apart from your family . I also live apart but in covid time I had no choice left . But for now , ignore everyone and just focus on things you love to do. And please do workout too. And I am saying all this because I literally do these things to make my soul happy.

    • @shivdhankumar9164
      @shivdhankumar9164 4 года назад +12

      Hey please all of you take care... It'll be alright

    • @premsiramant1321
      @premsiramant1321 4 года назад +4

      Yes

  • @jashodharabhose619
    @jashodharabhose619 11 месяцев назад +57

    On a new year, I finally let go and blocked my toxic ex with whom I once have pictured the future. I am proud of myself to take this step. Power and strength to all! Happy New Year.

    • @alishasah8566
      @alishasah8566 11 месяцев назад

      Kya toxic nature tha uska?

    • @ayushka3
      @ayushka3 11 месяцев назад +3

      Proud of you 🎉

    • @rinafilms1563
      @rinafilms1563 10 месяцев назад

      How are you doing now?

  • @sohailshaikh1334
    @sohailshaikh1334 4 года назад +691

    The Biggest addiction in this World is "Human addiction"..

  • @pr.yanshi
    @pr.yanshi 4 года назад +209

    I just wish you find someone who hugs you at night and tells you that it's okay whenever you're scared thinking about those incidents🧡

    • @thehellyblog
      @thehellyblog  4 года назад +56

      I found them- but it's kind of an LDR now ahahahaha

    • @jaygupta5
      @jaygupta5 4 года назад +8

      You are sweet :)

    • @prathyushab2864
      @prathyushab2864 4 года назад +2

      @@thehellyblog Happy for you, that you have found one:)

    • @anikhetprasadchanduka8763
      @anikhetprasadchanduka8763 4 года назад +1

      Hahaha😃😃😃
      ... Me tooo in a LDR now.... Happy😌😌😌

  • @shraddhapawar
    @shraddhapawar 4 года назад +618

    From the age of 20 to 28, which means till a month ago, I was in a toxic + abusive relationship with a person who was / and still is ready to kill me at any moment. A psychopath who took out everything from me. My academic life, my professional life, my money, my love for him which got destroyed by his cheating, beating, abusive words over and over again. I never talked about it anywhere. Suffering from anxiety & depression has its own lethal consequences. You are AFRAID to be alone. You are AFRAID to fail. You are AFRAID that you will not live without that person so you keep on continuing with that person, forgiving their every mistake and torture, thinking it will get BETTER.
    It DOESN'T.
    If it happens once, it will happen till the end of your life and then you die. THE END.
    So RUN as fast as you can from that worthless bastard.
    For whoever is going through the same situation -
    YOU WILL LIVE. YOU HAVE TO LIVE. YOU ARE STRONG.
    Don't let anyone take ADVANTAGE of your FEAR. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not capable. People are toxic. People need entertainment. They don't know about your heart, soul, struggles. Nothing. Stay strong and live your life.

    • @eshabhadauria8598
      @eshabhadauria8598 4 года назад

      Can I get ur whatsapp no.?

    • @mercy6054
      @mercy6054 4 года назад

      Same here sister

    • @Poojabagoria50
      @Poojabagoria50 4 года назад +8

      @@bhavaniadduri4749 if u can come out from it..pls come...blv me it'll become Ur excellent step ...live happy .

    • @thezly8947
      @thezly8947 4 года назад +1

      Happy that you got out of that..more power and love to you.

    • @mohitnarang2286
      @mohitnarang2286 4 года назад +3

      @@eshabhadauria8598 karega kya leke ?🙄

  • @mahfoozhashim748
    @mahfoozhashim748 4 года назад +408

    Am i the only one who was never involve in a relationship and will never be in a relationship and still listening carefully just to make sure no one can hurt me.😆😆😆

  • @tenzinchoezin
    @tenzinchoezin 4 года назад +76

    “My daring it’s not love” much respect to you Helly!

  • @hemant0088
    @hemant0088 4 года назад +128

    Few cents from my side, don't love anyone more than yourself. We always get hurt from that person only. It is bitter truth of life 😌😓😓

    • @soumya7427
      @soumya7427 4 года назад +3

      There comes a situation during teenage that you are attracted to something or someone. You can not stop yourself until you know the toxicity or side effect of that and up to that moment, you will see your world in that. The moment you will realize something is wrong, you will be attacked by several thoughts, and analyzing those thoughts will create more thoughts. It is natural.
      In short, the problem will be solved when you know who you are and what you want from your life.

  • @gowri8946
    @gowri8946 4 года назад +731

    I wish all the Kabir Singh fans would understand something from this

    • @trilokyamohanchakra6351
      @trilokyamohanchakra6351 4 года назад +20

      How? Why? Kabir singh went on the path of self harming, not women harming, if you think slap is the problem then trust me, you don't believe in equality, try to look at the slap subjectively

    • @dysplasiaanaplasia4128
      @dysplasiaanaplasia4128 3 года назад +22

      People fight. Lovers hit each other still come back together. It depends on person to person. Kabir singh was self harming n delusional. Moreover its fiction. No boy like kabir singh exists who is a surgeon nd behaves like an uncivilized man.

    • @gowri8946
      @gowri8946 3 года назад +76

      @@trilokyamohanchakra6351 Slapping anyone is a problem its a toxic movie no matter wat u say

    • @gowri8946
      @gowri8946 3 года назад +59

      @@dysplasiaanaplasia4128 Harming each other is nt luv bro

    • @dysplasiaanaplasia4128
      @dysplasiaanaplasia4128 3 года назад +3

      @@gowri8946 its not. I didnt say harm. I said hurt. People fight when they love each other. You cnt just deny that but the way both of them handle the fight is important.

  • @Shreya-hy2vf
    @Shreya-hy2vf 4 года назад +108

    Trust me Saheli, I realised very soon that I was in a Toxic Relationship and quit the relationship after being in it for one year. I thank God that I knew it soon. And it's been 7 months I am experiencing the best of LIFE....
    GOD BLESS YOU SAHELI.
    AND I PRAY FOR EVERYONE THAT THEY GET A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP- NOT A TOXIC ONE. 💖💖

    • @thehellyblog
      @thehellyblog  4 года назад +10

      Yes...true...

    • @Divyabaniwal-v8z
      @Divyabaniwal-v8z 5 месяцев назад

      ​@@thehellyblogmujy bat karni h aap se dear m be bahut jyda डिप्रेशन में थी 😢

  • @sudhanshusingh9393
    @sudhanshusingh9393 4 года назад +267

    The fact is, most of the teenager gets into a toxic relationship because they are not mature enough

    • @uditidas
      @uditidas 4 года назад +28

      I think it's not true. Its due to lack of emotional intelligence. Even adults get into these toxic relationships. people behave abusively due to enviousness and they think they've the power to control someone. people should know that treating someone badly even if the "someone" is stranger is really not acceptable.

    • @sudhanshusingh9393
      @sudhanshusingh9393 4 года назад +9

      @@uditidas you said it absolutely right, and by the way i was telling about mental matuarity.
      If a person is not mentally mature then they will end up having insecurities and possessive upon others.

    • @uditidas
      @uditidas 4 года назад +3

      @@sudhanshusingh9393 yeah you're right 😊 I kinda believe it. Emotional maturity plays an important role. Even if a teen acts immature and rubbish can be less rubbish in his adulthood. It doesn't mean he's mature and responsible. He/she is just trained his/her emotions like this since beginning of their life. And sometimes they can't get out of it. Coz either they're used to it or nobody raise voices against them.

    • @sudhanshusingh9393
      @sudhanshusingh9393 4 года назад +2

      @@uditidas great thinking 👏👏, i really enjoyed the conversation with you

    • @devendra-2095
      @devendra-2095 4 года назад +2

      And some of girls elope and then regret lifetime.

  • @swatiyou
    @swatiyou 4 года назад +609

    After watching the whole video .. I realized that I am blessed with the best boyfriend❣️... It's been more than 9 years of our relationship .. last December we even got engaged💍 .... U are such a strong girl dear ... So glad u came out from tht darkness ..may the almighty give more power to you .. 😘❤️

    • @vimalsingh8627
      @vimalsingh8627 4 года назад +7

      shadi ke baad dekho ..kya hota hai

    • @bumblebee6968
      @bumblebee6968 4 года назад +20

      Congratulations and wish that you feel blessed even after marriage.

    • @The_Pradhan_The_Headstrong
      @The_Pradhan_The_Headstrong 4 года назад +1

      Congratulations

    • @inspired4780
      @inspired4780 4 года назад +16

      @@vimalsingh8627 😅 mere sath hua ye...7 saal ke relation ke bad shadi hui aur banda change ho gya...now divorcing him

    • @vimalsingh8627
      @vimalsingh8627 4 года назад +2

      @@inspired4780 kyu kya hua tha. .divorce bhi ab majak ho gya hai. .

  • @irishagaglani5854
    @irishagaglani5854 3 года назад +36

    I just broke up from a very toxic relationship. Some of the abuse you faced in your relationship are familiar to mine...its just been a month since we broke up and because of all this i ended up losing my self esteem, i lost my self along the way and now i am really working hard to be the girl i was before the relationship. your video made me realise that i am not alone in this battle

    • @Lifewithkalyanii
      @Lifewithkalyanii 2 года назад

      staying away from toxic people is the best thing i've learned till now💯

  • @muralidharanv9634
    @muralidharanv9634 4 года назад +926

    This is why elders say "Don't take any serious decisions in life until you become matured"

    • @user-qx8pr3qf5b
      @user-qx8pr3qf5b 4 года назад +104

      People who are 30 get in toxic relationships too

    • @muralidharanv9634
      @muralidharanv9634 4 года назад +40

      @@user-qx8pr3qf5b Haha age is just a number and I call these people as immatured still

    • @user-qx8pr3qf5b
      @user-qx8pr3qf5b 4 года назад +69

      @@muralidharanv9634 these people aren't immature. Please stop blaming the people who have gone through something bad , nobody would want to go through this. Toxic people are called so because they truly know how to play with your heart, when you might not even realise it. It's not about 'maturity'

    • @muralidharanv9634
      @muralidharanv9634 4 года назад +29

      @@user-qx8pr3qf5b You say people who are 30 get into toxic relationship. I say there are also people who don't fall for these traps no matter their age. It's our life, our accountability, our responsibility. Consuming slow poison for 5 years and blaming the poison doesn't make any sense. I say it's all about maturity, maturity comes through experience and learnings, this experience is what which has made Helly more matured now when she says she's not that type of girl anymore who she used to be. She might not have gotten stronger if she hadn't gone through this. I'm not blaming these victims, I just feel sorry for her that she had to learn this the hard way. Would you stay in a relationship with someone for 5 years who breaks your bangles and beats the shit out of you? I say grow up please. It's your call. Your life is always what you make out of it. Being wise enough in knowing if someone truly loves you or not is what I'm referring to as maturity here. It's not a walk in the park but this skill is mandate if you decide to step into a relationship. Again, it's your call!

    • @MJToonz11
      @MJToonz11 4 года назад +1

      100 like.

  • @rupajha1676
    @rupajha1676 4 года назад +249

    God!! This reminded me , my toxic relation !! Same thing.
    Girls suffer more, because man's ego is the most fragile thing and they can't handle a strong woman!

  • @sambhavmohanty6134
    @sambhavmohanty6134 4 года назад +36

    I am a boy and I'm new to this relationship thing .. sometimes I think that I'm toxic as well...I always tell her to share her feelings and he honest..I'm still trying to work on myself..I've shared this video to her and let her know about this...thank you so much for this video

  • @Aaloo_Parathaa
    @Aaloo_Parathaa 3 года назад +163

    My toxic relationship damaged me to such an extent that I can never believe in love again 💀

    • @kanvaarchana
      @kanvaarchana 2 года назад +3

      Which means you need to change your circle or see happy well balanced mature couples. It could be on RUclips as well, it ll surely help change your perspective- doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship but just a difffy perspective

    • @Aaloo_Parathaa
      @Aaloo_Parathaa 2 года назад +2

      @@kanvaarchana I've seen them but somehow I think it's not meant for me
      Anyways thanks for help❤

    • @devikas7707
      @devikas7707 2 года назад

      Me too

    • @ds_bhardwajj
      @ds_bhardwajj 2 года назад

      Same here

    • @kanchanbala5349
      @kanchanbala5349 Год назад

      Same here

  • @StudyHistory
    @StudyHistory 4 года назад +213

    If someone starts self-harming in a relationship get out of that relationship. That person is not stable and he is using his body to blackmail or hurt you

    • @thehellyblog
      @thehellyblog  4 года назад +20

      Yes- I hope more people see your analysis :)

    • @silentknight-jai9084
      @silentknight-jai9084 4 года назад +9

      No it's not true. If he's self harming and threatening you together then it's a toxic relationship.
      If he's not harming you and harming himself only then it can be love. Cause you're safe with him maybe he's not safe with you. This can be toxic relationship for him I guess.
      Hope you get it

    • @zetaforever4953
      @zetaforever4953 4 года назад +2

      @@silentknight-jai9084 but even if the relationship is toxic for him, you should still leave him, right? It'd be better for him in the long term not to be with someone who makes him want to harm himself. And you won't feel responsible for making someone else miserable. Basically, you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who's self-harming because of that relationship.

    • @silentknight-jai9084
      @silentknight-jai9084 4 года назад +2

      @@zetaforever4953 I agree and disagree both! If you know he's self harming but not harming you and always give you that love n care you deserve then you should understand him not to harm himself. If this understanding him doesn't work out then you can leave this relationship. If it's really a true relationship then he would definitely understand but if not then you can leave.

    • @zetaforever4953
      @zetaforever4953 4 года назад +2

      @@silentknight-jai9084 yes of course you shouldn't just leave someone without talking to them and trying to make them understand you point of view.

  • @Arpit.singh.
    @Arpit.singh. 4 года назад +98

    2 things
    1. Why is the relationship considered cool among teens
    2. How can someone be that toxic

    • @purshotamagarwal9841
      @purshotamagarwal9841 4 года назад +22

      1) fear of missing out
      2) toxic is where two people don't align in thoughts and mindset. Mismatches go to that level where it's effecting a person's life in a non positive way.

    • @bharatsurakod6293
      @bharatsurakod6293 4 года назад +8

      Bollywood effect😂

    • @urban3752
      @urban3752 4 года назад +5

      Hormones bro

    • @MeMe-vw5yk
      @MeMe-vw5yk 4 года назад

      @@bharatsurakod6293 exactly😅

    • @divyaa0022
      @divyaa0022 4 года назад +5

      1. It's just due to hormonal changes. As during teenage , puberty hits and due to that hormonal imbalance and all you feel attracted towards opposite gender and hence "relationship" comes into existence.
      2. A person just not become toxic in a fraction of second. A person absorbs everything from it's surroundings. Mostly toxic people have seen such things in their families, friends and especially society or they are a bit mentally unstable (I guess) , so they think that it's just normal🤷🏻‍♀️.

  • @thehellyblog
    @thehellyblog  4 года назад +1459

    Many of you Boys and Girls Texted me In Instagram that your Girlfriend/Boyfriend is suffocating you-
    But you don't leave them because they 'Love' You.
    Watch this video to understand why Love and Feeling Trapped can't exist together.
    I understand- we are all lonely people on a lonesome planet- but somethings need to be spoken about.
    In case things get out of hand- always seek help from elders or adults you can trust.
    Life is really precious, you lovely Soul. 🌸💜

    • @nanzz972
      @nanzz972 4 года назад +27

      Main purpose of relationship is to stay happy and enjoying each other company...not suffocating or holding or get out of loneliness...

    • @vizdrom
      @vizdrom 4 года назад +14

      I've never been in a relationship so I cant relate, especially due to the fact that it's impossible to think how can any guy be such a collosal d***head.
      And not listening to him and keeping the RUclips channel was a great decision, and putting the message across to your viewers was a really brave thing to do.
      Its must have been really scary to go through all this during the already hectic nature of school.
      Stay strong Helly Akka!
      Edit: Autocorrect had made Helly into Kelly.

    • @bossbaby8642
      @bossbaby8642 4 года назад +8

      True “Love” means “Be with the person the way she is...not the way you want her & always be next to her...not behind her...☺️🙏🏻” - My Quote

    • @kritikaaguptaa
      @kritikaaguptaa 4 года назад +14

      You're so brave, putting all this out is not easy. And you're on a new journey to love your self. Kuddos gyi the free you❤️

    • @venuchoudhary4560
      @venuchoudhary4560 4 года назад +6

      Hi di, consider me as your brother.. I think you should start working out.. I know you look too good but you will feel more good.. You always keep Saying that you are lazy.. So I think you must change this..just kidding.. Have a good day. I m much younger to you and I really want to be like you.. I want to work with you.. And very soon I will😁😁.. Lots of love from a younger brother.. And start working out 😂😂.. You are gaining 🤣🤣🤣

  • @asifakamboj9934
    @asifakamboj9934 4 года назад +131

    This is bold confession. Appreciate it! Gives courage

  • @sampriktaganguli3052
    @sampriktaganguli3052 4 года назад +35

    I have known you since we were in school together. You are a bundle of joy and you deserve the world.
    Love you and I'm so happy for you.

  • @shakyadilshani5475
    @shakyadilshani5475 4 года назад +332

    Its like Im looking at a mirror . And me talking to myself 😭♥️🖤 im glad we both survived

  • @sanjanamarndi369
    @sanjanamarndi369 4 года назад +582

    Even i was in a toxic relationship since 2014 to 2020. And that just ended yesterday. And i am glad it did got over. May be it will take time to heal but i defintely will heal. 😇

    • @poojajoshi1104
      @poojajoshi1104 4 года назад +15

      Stay strong.. Need any friend talk to me.. i know it's really tuff time.

    • @anujtiwari6422
      @anujtiwari6422 4 года назад +1

      Are you heald now or not ?

    • @Azhagusuryaa2696
      @Azhagusuryaa2696 4 года назад +7

      Medidate and do things make you happy and have self love.

    • @sanjanamarndi369
      @sanjanamarndi369 4 года назад +17

      I have started meditation and doing yoga that has created some positive vibes within. I am much more happier than before. 😌

    • @prashantkumargupta6858
      @prashantkumargupta6858 4 года назад +4

      @@sanjanamarndi369 keep doing it will Take time...
      I am.also suffering from depression but still trying to give motivation to others.

  • @akankshajhadi3651
    @akankshajhadi3651 4 года назад +54

    I could relate to every part of this video. I am glad there are girls like you who really know when to let go and finally chooses to focus on our goals. All the best and keep shining!

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад

      Actually it's not a toxic relationship it's actually Stockholm syndrome which is most common mental disease in girls and women

  • @thismoment2697
    @thismoment2697 4 года назад +51

    "Love is to be given and to be received, but no to be taken" He was extracting you for his happiness. Love is to be given and to nurture the person to experience his or her life in the fullest way.

  • @chaitanyatiwari2383
    @chaitanyatiwari2383 4 года назад +45

    I went through the same during my 11 and 12th class ,now its over and i am Happy now.....Happy bachelor's life..

    • @anuraganand9504
      @anuraganand9504 4 года назад +4

      Same here brother !
      That shit hurts bro....

    • @deepikabagh9061
      @deepikabagh9061 4 года назад +3

      Same here😊

    • @thehellyblog
      @thehellyblog  4 года назад +11

      I'm so happy for you bro 😊

    • @indramohannegi2757
      @indramohannegi2757 4 года назад +4

      It feels great when someone talks about this!

    • @Kirti956
      @Kirti956 4 года назад +4

      @@indramohannegi2757 very true. At least it makes the real sense to our minds

  • @sanyakhemani1855
    @sanyakhemani1855 4 года назад +251

    I connect this character to kabir singh. But in the movie everybody liked him but in real life these kind of guys are really toxic. This is where our society lacks that they admires these characters in movies and make them their heros.

    • @sanyakhemani1855
      @sanyakhemani1855 4 года назад +35

      @Paritosh Jadhav just pray that u will never get into touch with the character like kabir singh in real life. Otherwise u would understand that how much toxic that character was. The relationship between kabir and preeti was not love but possession. Hope people like u would understand this soon.

    • @sanyakhemani1855
      @sanyakhemani1855 4 года назад +4

      @Paritosh Jadhav good for u.

    • @sanyakhemani1855
      @sanyakhemani1855 4 года назад +13

      @@Witcher29895 In the movie obviously boy possessed the girl. But in reality either boy or girl, anyone possess the other, that relationship cannot be love. It's not about boy or girl but that thinking that if a person loves me, I have all the Right over that person.

    • @meghasinha1111
      @meghasinha1111 4 года назад +5

      Kabir singh fought for the girl he did not force the girl he was single he kept on thinking about her... He truly cared about her..... He never forced as such

    • @priyasuthar840
      @priyasuthar840 4 года назад +5

      His name just popped into my mind when i heard this incident of Helly .

  • @apoorvsingh6951
    @apoorvsingh6951 4 года назад +152

    MORAL OF THE STORY : IF You have someone like this in ur life
    Simply say : " NIKAL LAUDE/ LAUDI PEHLI FURSAT ME NIKAL " 🙄

    • @hprajwal8184
      @hprajwal8184 3 года назад +3

      Hindustani bhau Rocks🤘🤘

    • @thinmyatlwin7378
      @thinmyatlwin7378 3 года назад

      What does it mean?

    • @hprajwal8184
      @hprajwal8184 3 года назад +1

      @@thinmyatlwin7378 you need to know about memes to understand this:D

    • @thinmyatlwin7378
      @thinmyatlwin7378 3 года назад

      I don't understand India

    • @hprajwal8184
      @hprajwal8184 3 года назад

      @@thinmyatlwin7378 oh foreign audience.

  • @tusharmaheshkar693
    @tusharmaheshkar693 4 года назад +629

    Why is this in my recommendations I never even had relationship. 😂😂😂

    • @adityanair1001
      @adityanair1001 4 года назад +13

      😂😂
      Same with me

    • @ritarodricks4076
      @ritarodricks4076 4 года назад +57

      God giving you future protection

    • @Witty100RAB
      @Witty100RAB 4 года назад +4

      अरे चिंता मत कर. और है तुम्हारे जैसे 😂 🙋‍♂️

    • @overthemoonflorist9135
      @overthemoonflorist9135 4 года назад +5

      just an example there are people out there like this

    • @preetisingh1704
      @preetisingh1704 4 года назад +2

      Same

  • @Manisha-mz3ni
    @Manisha-mz3ni 4 года назад +58

    I was in toxic relationship too for 2 year. But after break up, i feel so confident, so happy, so free like a bird is out of a cage
    He used to say that i should not do makeup bcoz he didn't want other boys to see me and he was afraid that i will leave him.
    I used to cry every night..i forgot who am I....
    he would ask me whom i was talking and to send him screenshots of chats and call details. He just made my life hell
    He used to abuse me ,call me names. Back then i started feeling so useless. I remember that day when i cut my hair short, i sent him pic and he said if you will go like that with open hair people will call you slut.
    When i told me i was going to study in Delhi University. He said me you will make new boyfriend there and you will forget me.
    There are endless such incidents which really broke me..i never expected all these from that person whom i love.

    • @koustavmajumdar1235
      @koustavmajumdar1235 4 года назад +3

      Arrey yaar, dekho usko koi cheat kiya ki nahin. He is insecure and afraid that you will leave him, uska past experience aisa bana diya usko. aur woh jaldi jaldi relationship mein aagaye. Isliye tumhare saath fully insecured hoke aaye. Pat bohat khatarnak hai yaar, usko judge maat karon but ye accha hua ki tum nikal aayi. But doosra koi relationship se jaane se pehle, khud ko heal karon. Tumhare bhi insecurity aayenge. isko hatana hai before getting into another relationship

    • @poojachand4717
      @poojachand4717 4 года назад

      Listen vo bura ta ok ek relationship trust p hota h agr yrust ni to dafa ho jao ok hum apni life hell ki trh thode jeena chahte ek kaidi bnkr jeena ni h hme😕😕

    • @poojachand4717
      @poojachand4717 4 года назад +2

      Pyar possessiveness apni jgh h aur apni life apni jgh sb ek m lkr why we live like a hell😑bhai kuch v bolne se phle socho agr vo sch m loving hpta to vo aise ni krta use freedom deta jeene ki aur haan ek ldki agr riste m khus rhegi to vo jarur apke sath rhegi vo khus ni h tvi to vo apse door hona chahti

    • @koustavmajumdar1235
      @koustavmajumdar1235 4 года назад

      @@poojachand4717 Yaar insecurity jab hote hai na, bohot hote hai. bohut saari ladkiya ke bhi rehte hain. isne accha kiya ki chali aayi, but usko bura maat bol. Uski past tujhe nahi pata, judge mat kar. Dua kar uske liye ki woh thik ho jaaye, use bhi khushiya mile.

    • @biswajitnag1693
      @biswajitnag1693 4 года назад +2

      Well, maine bhi ye sab mere ek friend ke sath kis tha...hum abhi bhi friends hain lekin wo wali bonding nhi rhi abhi....abhi bhi bohot guilt feel hota hain ye sochney se....kashh time mein piche jake ye sab galtiya thik kar pata🙂

  • @KaushalKumar.007
    @KaushalKumar.007 4 года назад +316

    In my opinion:-
    Before established career,any kind of relationship is complete waste of time, especially when you have bigger goal to reach,I may be wrong 🤷💁if you contradict my opinion,Please enlighten me🙏🙏🙏

    • @girlnextdoor8531
      @girlnextdoor8531 4 года назад +16

      I think the same but these kinds of things are really tough to get out from. it sometimes really takes a lot of efforts to get out of the feelings.
      Just telling, I've never been into a relationship because the exact same thing you said.

    • @bhavapritaapara9274
      @bhavapritaapara9274 4 года назад +34

      I partially agree with you , career should be the foremost priority. However love is an emotion you can't resist to. We need to create a balance between love and career. I have had 2 relationship which never impacted by career in any possible manner

    • @tuskytriy5127
      @tuskytriy5127 4 года назад +1

      Got screwed trying to balance my career and relationship.

    • @bhavapritaapara9274
      @bhavapritaapara9274 4 года назад +3

      @@tuskytriy5127 I understand..in this case you must take care of yourself. And be selfish

    • @prashantkumargupta6858
      @prashantkumargupta6858 4 года назад +2

      We don't do this type of things its just a feeljngs which dont see time or place....
      Ones it develops we just go with the flow.......
      We can't control it.

  • @neha_phookan
    @neha_phookan 2 года назад +13

    I felt like you're telling my story! I have been in a toxic relationship for 4years. It's been 5 years now but still I have so much to work on myself. I have to rebuild myself. I can still see the effects that toxic relationship left on me. I honestly am proud pf myself that I was able to get out of that relationship. I am proud of how far I have come.

    • @Abhi29394
      @Abhi29394 7 месяцев назад

      @@khushbusingh1014 hii khushBu

  • @Emo_Queen
    @Emo_Queen 4 года назад +277

    I honestly love the comments section! So proud and happy to see people uplifting strangers by posting these amazing things.
    I just came across your channel and I'm so proud of you, getting out of it was your first step, everything else will be so much easier. You just have to make a decision, that's the first step to recovery.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story, you have no idea how much it helps.

    • @mathewkj1905
      @mathewkj1905 3 года назад

      I'm very impressed with you after watching this video. Congratulations.

    • @gurleenkoursaluja91
      @gurleenkoursaluja91 2 года назад +1

      Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
      This is something toxicating to another level..
      Can someone suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!

  • @sampriktaganguli3052
    @sampriktaganguli3052 4 года назад +114

    Abuse is abuse. There is no point in trying to gauge how big or small the abuse you have been subjected to is.
    There are things you deserve and there are things you don't deserve.
    No one deserves abuse in love.

    • @lampad4549
      @lampad4549 4 года назад +1

      What about harvey Weinstein?

    • @sampriktaganguli3052
      @sampriktaganguli3052 4 года назад

      @@lampad4549 really don't see how Harvey Weinstein is related to what I said.

    • @ashleykk9414
      @ashleykk9414 4 года назад +3

      @@Witcher29895 Shut up....It seems like you are so much interested in supporting toxic men.. Get a life lady...
      You will never know how it feels like to be in a toxic relationship ..Nobody has any right to abuse their partner ( mentally or physically)...You got it...

    • @krati741
      @krati741 4 года назад +4

      @@Witcher29895 A partner is not a parent. No one is supposed to physically abuse in a relationship.

    • @Iammsrii
      @Iammsrii 4 года назад +1

      @@Witcher29895 if holding their hand tightly causes a pain and even then that person dosen't give a shit then yes it is abuse.

  • @MonalishaHt
    @MonalishaHt 4 года назад +699

    I was in a similar kind of toxic relationship few years back. It continued for almost 4yrs. That boy was literally body shaming, abusing, cursing and threatening me. Honestly I'm a bit skinny. But he used to tell me every single day that how much skinny i am. How my thighs are so unattractive, how other girls have fleshy thighs that he wanna grab ....I didn't care about them much because I was young and careless about that... I remember when we had our 1st kiss... You know how it is so special for everyone... we kissed each other and then came back home.... And we started discussing how magical it was... Then he asked me "were u wearing lipstick?" And I said no it was just a lipbalm.... And he said eewwwww I felt like vomiting when I kissed you!! You know how it felt...I can literally feel that same day same moment right now while writing all this... When we were in a relationship, inspite of living in the same city, he never met me after our 12th was over...we went to different streams and different colleges...He stopped calling and all...we used to talk for a short time daily on whatsapp.... But when I decided to break up, he started blabbering that he is drinking and smoking and not eating properly and that he's sick...all that happened I don't know how I managed to came out of that...but i was blessed to get out of that bad phase....and aa helly said...i was set free after a very long time!!

    • @sheerioswiftie8348
      @sheerioswiftie8348 4 года назад +60

      You must've got to know that he's not a right person
      ,a right person will never ever compare you with any other girls, no matter how skinny you are etc,

    • @h.n1433
      @h.n1433 4 года назад +3

      Same.

    • @harshitasinha8650
      @harshitasinha8650 4 года назад +24

      Sometimes its not easy to get over someone with whom you have shared your time. Just give yourself that time. Think about it that whether this will work or not. I know it's not easy to part your ways with someone you love but trust me people at last what stays with you is just you.

    • @khushboomanwani
      @khushboomanwani 4 года назад +1

      ♥️♥️

    • @Aloewells
      @Aloewells 4 года назад +4

      That's what happens when u start finding partner urself. It's karma baby. And u expect a nice partner, hahaha

  • @GaneshPatil-ip4kl
    @GaneshPatil-ip4kl 2 года назад +99

    not letting talk to other boys/girls , taking ur social media passwords should be red flags for any1 .
    Insecure person will go to any lengths to stop u from enjoying other's company ,ur life ,ur hobbies .
    Because they know simple truth " u deserve better than his/her shitty personality"

    • @gurleenkoursaluja91
      @gurleenkoursaluja91 2 года назад +2

      Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
      This is something toxicating to another level..
      suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!

    • @Bell_414
      @Bell_414 9 месяцев назад

      ​​@@gurleenkoursaluja91 You should complain to authority figure, for eg: if you're in school, go complain to the Principal Or if you're an adult you should definitely file a complaint in police for harrassment or something of that sort. Stay safe!

    • @loveyourself-n6y
      @loveyourself-n6y 6 дней назад

      In that logic, most women are red flags 😂

  • @vedantimadhav7241
    @vedantimadhav7241 4 года назад +44

    The only thing that is important is LOVE YOURSELF🌻 Loving someone else more than yourself, gives them a chance to control on you.
    This is YOUR life, the only person that should have control over it is YOU! We should start learning to be HAPPY ALONE! Loneliness leads to finding somone to fill the space, you let anyone enter it just to get rid of lonely feeling. The point you start prioritising your happiness & learning to stay happy alone, you will never allow anyone to hurt you! I am happy you got rid of it. STAY HAPPY AND ALWAYS SMILING🌻

  • @lokdeepsinghpatel5656
    @lokdeepsinghpatel5656 4 года назад +74

    "At the one point in the relationships you have to admit that understanding between each other is better than love."
    A word from a guy who never been a relationship.

  • @rounakchourasia2030
    @rounakchourasia2030 4 года назад +1250

    You'll never know why this comment got so many likes 😪 🤣

  • @doctoraqsa
    @doctoraqsa 4 года назад +37

    A 20 years old giving golden life advice!
    Thank you for this beautiful message!
    Kudos to you!

  • @peaceandcalm698
    @peaceandcalm698 4 года назад +258

    *I was in a toxic relationship for 6.5 years*
    _I couldn't afford a psychiatrist at that point_
    Then I took help of RUclips.
    *Lisa Nichols, Oprah Winfrey are some of them, whose words (interviews) saved me* . 🙏🏼

  • @premanshdewangan8695
    @premanshdewangan8695 4 года назад +31

    The moment you start loving yourself , you will surely get your way out of any problem. So take decisions which makes you happy.

  • @anjaligusain6492
    @anjaligusain6492 4 года назад +51

    Relationships with yourself would always be Bestest !!

    • @pragyasingh592
      @pragyasingh592 4 года назад +2

      Exactlyyyyy! Zero tension of drama's and all that.

  • @debasmitadas1577
    @debasmitadas1577 3 года назад +5

    Last time I watched this video I was im a toxic relationship and wanted to break it off then.. But I couldnt.. now I did after 6months.. Watching it again.. Anyone watching this believe that you are precious, respect yourself. No matter how much the abusive person cries and begs to give them.another chance, Dont give. Come out of the relationship. You will realize how pretty and amazing the world is..Trust yourself.

  • @ravigarlay8666
    @ravigarlay8666 4 года назад +189

    I was in toxic relationship for over 2 years.I remember the sensation of ' being the bad guy ', and 'walking on the eggs'. After literally losing my identity. The point where you just stop growing, rather you fight everyday to protect your identity... I can't tell you how much I relate to this, Specially living in the fear.... But finally, I gathered the courage to end it.
    And it's been over 2 weeks and I must admit.... The effort of confrontation worth it. And yo anyone who is still in that kind of situation,I'd say one thing:-
    If you are only investing your self in something for the only reason that you've done that for so long...
    Then it's not worth it

    • @gurleenkoursaluja91
      @gurleenkoursaluja91 2 года назад +1

      Has someone been in a toxic relationship where even after breaking up..the person catches with people who you hang around with...abuses and blckmail those people so tht all my connections are cut down nd i ll be left alone!
      This is something toxicating to another level..
      Can someone suggest me something this is really destroying nd bothering me!

    • @SamSinger19
      @SamSinger19 Год назад

      I also want to breakup with my boyfriend and I do so but the day I broke up with him I was crying a lot and kind of strat blaming myself because he is too toxic with me but he is always been loyal to me that's why I can't do it I felt so lonely that I couldnt even stop crying I cried the whole night and that was so scary that I have to pathch up with him and also I thought that what he will think about me that after so much promises and all the commitments I made with him I left him alone all this things can't let me leave him ..what to do I am dying here into this I want to get out of this..

    • @moonchildarmybts1425
      @moonchildarmybts1425 Год назад

      @@gurleenkoursaluja91 It's been a long time since you commented. I am in the same boat, do you have some advice to deal with a person like that? I hope you are doing well now!!

    • @alishasah8566
      @alishasah8566 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@moonchildarmybts1425gather courage and leave him, ese insaan k sath zindagi nhi bitaya jaa skta

  • @R3_T3
    @R3_T3 4 года назад +84

    There is a point in such relationship where you know its over I'm done with it but then again some part of you still cares and loves that person so you stay though you know how its gonna end.

  • @himanikhatarkar2988
    @himanikhatarkar2988 4 года назад +59

    Thanks a lot
    I am suffring from that toxic relationship
    But now I will quit. Thanks a lot❤

  • @prateekjain7
    @prateekjain7 3 года назад +5

    Hats off to your courage for confronting this on social media. Even when you were in this kind of relationship you are able to do very good in your life. Respect !!!

  • @Itsme-lw4cl
    @Itsme-lw4cl 4 года назад +21

    I can relate. At a point I could not even recognize myself. Wasted 4.5 years of my life for the sake of a toxic relationship. After moving on life is at its best terms now for me.
    So happy for you dear. Love from Bangladesh ❤

  • @shreyashkashyap6415
    @shreyashkashyap6415 4 года назад +43

    It was so good seeing you share your vulnerability with us because that's how we are, often vulnerable at several points and we need each other in those times. I've been in a similar situation also, hopefully mine just lasted for half a year. I'm happily single now. Wish you a great future ahead. And keep those book suggestion videos coming. And more power to you, You're a strong lady.

  • @shivangigoel4450
    @shivangigoel4450 4 года назад +29

    I have never been in a toxic relationship so far. But i feel so weird listening to yours. I am so happy you have come out of it💜💜

  • @Pantherattigris
    @Pantherattigris 2 года назад +3

    This video should be shared in every platform because many teenagers are stucked in abusive relationships and there's no one to tell them that they are in wrong place. Thanks for sharing ❤️

  • @FarooqAhmad-cx3zu
    @FarooqAhmad-cx3zu 4 года назад +16

    "every pain give a lesson and every lesson change a person"

  • @aziyanasar894
    @aziyanasar894 4 года назад +32

    I love what you said in the end.because a lot of women who are married think their husband loves them, even though they abuse. The same idea is given to young girls as well. So, yeah love can never be abusive, it may be trauma bonding, codependency or something. Love is a beautiful feeling. Yes!

  • @TheSumedh789
    @TheSumedh789 4 года назад +436

    You : breathing
    He : Don't breathe for next 30 days

  • @poorvachauhan
    @poorvachauhan Год назад +7

    Saheli, You went through a lot. As children we tend to ignore talking about things to others thinking that it would hurt them, but as you said even I realised it pretty late that, people will get hurt no matter what. Just making space for ourselves in this world is all that maters. I am so sorry you went through this, I wouldn't say I had a toxic relationship outside, but sometimes your own people hurt you, which makes the situation worse. I am so grateful you came out that situation. More power to you and yes more respect to you. ❤

  • @bani7069
    @bani7069 4 года назад +43

    He was Narcissistic, this happens with most of the people and they don't even know that the other person could go to that extent to hurt you, even when they claim that they love you.

  • @Dr.Aishwarya_Dentist
    @Dr.Aishwarya_Dentist 4 года назад +26

    DITTO. I can't believe i have been in the same kind of relationship in the same time of my life. I have experienced the SAME THINGS, ALL OF IT. big hug to you.

  • @ridimagoel7014
    @ridimagoel7014 4 года назад +8

    I was in a toxic relationship for 1.5 year. Since the very starting I didnt wanted to be there But people around me told me i am giving up. So i stayed. Gradually I started sharing everything with him. We started working in the same office. We got no time for fights. But soon things changed. He changed completely . He didn't like me talking to people of opposite gender. He threatened people around me. Did Gaslighning. I thought may be in some time things will be fine. But nothing changed. He mentally abused me,, tortured me , approached my family. And forced me to kill myself. I used to cry day and night. But the fear of being alone kept the relationship going. But after this I took the step. Talked about it with my family. Told them the truth
    They supported me. He's no longer a part of my life. I am happy now. I am focusing on myself and my goals. Have no space for negativity
    Few months back I found someone who loves me unconditionaly and I am happy with him.
    "You are stronger than you think"
    JAI HINND

    • @ravishingtwinkle3811
      @ravishingtwinkle3811 4 года назад +1

      Kudos to you. Leaving a a Narcissistic Relationship is extremely difficult.

  • @CrazyfactsbyArun
    @CrazyfactsbyArun 3 года назад +104

    What!!! Age:15
    I'm 27 and still single. After listening you, I feel better being single.
    🤣🤣🤣

  • @anubhabduttaroy3109
    @anubhabduttaroy3109 4 года назад +12

    I appreciate that you have the guts to share your toxic love life in RUclips. It's really commendable that you accepted your mistakes & moved on. You faced your fear head on, that is the most challenging part. May God bless you & stay happy sis.

  • @sawankotian6379
    @sawankotian6379 4 года назад +66

    I've never been in a relationship but Saheli's video makes me feel good about myself as I used to like my classmate who never loved me back it was just one sided. I never went to force her and made her understand the fact that I didn't deserve her so that she doesn't feel guilty for not accepting. I'm genuinely great full for my act. This video made me realise those things.
    Thank you helly!

  • @mansigurnani4187
    @mansigurnani4187 4 года назад +142

    The most worst feeling is when you moved on... But those memories comes into your mind everynight or whenever you see the persons related to them...
    Uhhh... I want to ignore my past but why I am not being able to do that?? 😖😖😖😖😖

    • @saharshkasansar.6966
      @saharshkasansar.6966 4 года назад +1

      Same here

    • @safiyasulthana3531
      @safiyasulthana3531 4 года назад +4

      It is a process...and there is no set time for anyone to get over something that mattered so much to them. But when your clock finally ticks..you will be the best version of you.

    • @ritheeshn.g8416
      @ritheeshn.g8416 4 года назад +2

      Every fucking morning for 6 months straight.

    • @prashantkumargupta6858
      @prashantkumargupta6858 4 года назад

      Memories never fade....

    • @studyinspo2387
      @studyinspo2387 3 года назад +4

      You probably haven't moved on yet.....forgive yourself and forgive him...but don't let anyone like him come and ruin ur mental peace... Love yourself more....it's gonna feel amazing once you've moved on... Those things wouldn't hurt you no more...remember that you are what you are because of what you've gone through 💕 good luck...

  • @yaminisrinet
    @yaminisrinet 3 года назад +5

    People have to understand that when they breakup with a toxic person/friend, they don't break their heart, they break their ego which is why all that self-harm happens.

  • @sasanknayak2757
    @sasanknayak2757 4 года назад +34

    Now the time is 8:08AM ,i got up now and thinking about her how she treated , betrayed, used and i was in depression from 7days. After listening your word i felt ilght better and you would not believe mam mine story is too same..💔

  • @prashantichakravarty7156
    @prashantichakravarty7156 4 года назад +297

    I was truly picturing myself in this video. I can relate to each and every clip of your past you shared. I was in a relationship for 5 years and back then I was so mad in "LOVE" that I ignored all signs of toxicity. Thankfully I am out of it and leading a better life. However, I still don't have the courage to bring out my story to people and my reasons for breaking up with that guy. Because even today I am been questioned that how can I break a 5years long relationship just like that and move on.. It was me and only me who understood what I was actually going through. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to at least speak out it here..

    • @givemeaname6625
      @givemeaname6625 4 года назад +3

      I totally feel you!

    • @poojasunshine2970
      @poojasunshine2970 4 года назад +6

      But babe u don't need to xpln any1 anything....just be happy md do wht makes u happy..bless u

    • @prashantichakravarty7156
      @prashantichakravarty7156 4 года назад +4

      @@poojasunshine2970 Yes , I know that now. SelfLove is Important than anything else.. Thank you ❣️

    • @lakshmis696
      @lakshmis696 4 года назад +2

      💕 You did the right thing to your soul.

    • @prashantichakravarty7156
      @prashantichakravarty7156 4 года назад +1

      @@lakshmis696 I think so ❣

  • @f2k273
    @f2k273 4 года назад +69

    At the age of 15:- Teens getting in relationships
    Me at the age of 15:- Maxed out TH9
    town hall in COC😩❤️

    • @shraddhamall4938
      @shraddhamall4938 4 года назад +5

      Omg thts literally me i uninstalled coc at th 9 max😂😂

    • @artworld31
      @artworld31 4 года назад +3

      Mee too 😁😁

    • @shreyagupta9780
      @shreyagupta9780 4 года назад +1

      lmao samee

    • @tanyamahto
      @tanyamahto 4 года назад

      That's me ded xD😹💯

    • @superarc8398
      @superarc8398 4 года назад

      Wtf how that same 😅😅😅😅 literally

  • @Dr._abish
    @Dr._abish 4 года назад +127

    My ex is a racist. Glad I left her.

  • @shikhakrishna3832
    @shikhakrishna3832 4 года назад +5

    Recently I had my breakup. It was also of 5 years long, full of emotional traumas, crying, and pampering him all the time.All I want to say that time teaches us everything. I was doing so wrong to myself which I ignore for 5years. I'm regretting it definitely, but I feel every suffering has it's meaning. And time is the best teacher one can learn from.

  • @geishas5248
    @geishas5248 4 года назад +53

    I just got married a year ago to the person I've been in relationship with for the last 8 years so it's kind of good for me by God's grace but I can understand how does it feel to be in your shoes because I'd gone through that very phase of being bullied and humiliated when I was kid.. I must say you're quite a strong person to listen to.❤️

  • @athiraramesh502
    @athiraramesh502 4 года назад +8

    I could literally relate with you. A 7 years of toxic relationship. Which I didn't even realise until the limits where crossed. Forgiving till the limits of letting me completely down. But at the end making mind get out of the horror past and trusting and loving a man again is too difficult mentally.

    • @alishasah8566
      @alishasah8566 Год назад +1

      I have also suffered for 7 years yrr.still I am in trauma 😢

  • @tusharprajapati3078
    @tusharprajapati3078 4 года назад +15

    I m never fallen in a relationship but I've seen many of my friends what must impotent is you'll never find love in surrounding you'll find it inside you. ❤

  • @BhushreeThakur
    @BhushreeThakur 4 года назад +5

    It takes a strong person to articulate their vulnerability. You are one of the strongest, authentic and hard working individual I have encountered. Thank you for being you. :)

  • @ashutoshbehera2942
    @ashutoshbehera2942 4 года назад +108

    when u said ” helly ”
    what i hear - seheli

    • @cuckoo8456
      @cuckoo8456 4 года назад +4

      Me too 😅

    • @aakanshaagarwal6510
      @aakanshaagarwal6510 4 года назад

      Yes

    • @shadesfades1931
      @shadesfades1931 4 года назад +6

      She is saying saheli u didn't heard wrong

    • @AV-cb8bm
      @AV-cb8bm 4 года назад +3

      Seheli is once a week birth control pill
      Source : Std:Xll Bio ncert....😌😌😌😌

  • @vedasnair2005
    @vedasnair2005 4 года назад +1

    Proud of You . When you dont care about someone anymore you feel an extremely level of freedom. And that mindset is the best thing that can happen in ones life. Keep loving yourself and Have a blast

  • @garimaabbi4082
    @garimaabbi4082 4 года назад +8

    Been there.4 years of toxic relationship and it gave me so much anxiety and changed me as a person totally which i never want to be. Thanks for sharing

  • @celestialkakashihatake4697
    @celestialkakashihatake4697 4 года назад +44

    "Wisdom comes from experience and failures", they say.

  • @fatimarahim8173
    @fatimarahim8173 4 года назад +38

    I can relate to every word of you.. in a toxic relationship from last 2 years..whenever try to get rid off him the same crying suicide attempts.. i feel so trapped and i lost my personality and peace of mind. Don't know what to do.

    • @poojajoshi1104
      @poojajoshi1104 4 года назад +6

      Dump him.. but not this easy. You should to work on your self. Like what think you do if u dump him.

    • @dysplasiaanaplasia4128
      @dysplasiaanaplasia4128 3 года назад +7

      Dude if he would wanna commit suicide he would not go on crying n threaten you. He would just do it. But he wont cz he is a coward. Leave him . He wont do shit. People who kill themselves dont go on announcing that they simply do it.

    • @fatimarahim8173
      @fatimarahim8173 3 года назад +2

      Thank you for your support everyone😍

    • @chads3248
      @chads3248 3 года назад +1

      Can relate u totally

    • @ankushdutta91
      @ankushdutta91 10 месяцев назад

      Please continue with your relationship.... Get some more abusive treatment.... But please don't use nice person shoulder to cry God bless

  • @dhruvpandey6502
    @dhruvpandey6502 3 года назад +13

    dii i was also in a toxic relationship for almost two years and it just got ended a day before she was really toxic and always compared me with others but on the other side i always accepted her flaws ...but i didnt had the guts to step out thankfully she broke up with me a day before and i feel so good overall and somethimes i feel bad to be away from her hope she would have a happy life ahead. now i really feel motivated and keen to do things in life like i had never been... i was so demotivated when i was in a relationship this was me experiencing toxicity. hope it help someone who can relate :) life is beautiful and a bad relationship teaches you a lot persue it as a teacher and work on yourself to be better in life stay safe and stay healthy guys:) i am 17 btw and i feel so matured about myself i started meditation and would be studying to become a judge :) and i know there is a person for me who would make me feel great about myself and will meet me in the course of my life so cheers to that

    • @ShyamSunder-yk8zj
      @ShyamSunder-yk8zj 2 года назад

      Bsdk pehle mard or kaabil bano uske baad gf bana na... 😅

    • @strangergirl152
      @strangergirl152 2 года назад

      ☺️I hope you find someone who can understand you take care buddy 🥰💕

  • @rahulmanhas7860
    @rahulmanhas7860 4 года назад +16

    Loving and been in a relationship simply means to grow together understand eachother, letting go and live the life to the fullest.
    The moment u realises it is suffocating and really vicious u have to get rid out of it no matter how as it will ruin you and u are into pieces, of extreme agony, pain and those proliferating emotions would definitely ruin your mental health too,
    True and pure souls can have a good relationship 👍

  • @prashantanand3379
    @prashantanand3379 4 года назад +20

    I had my relationship at 26. everything was going perfect she were the best...suddendly she told her parents are against intercaste marriage..there was a time she even told me whenever you will ask we will marry in court..I was so confident that she will convince the parent..but she never did..she cutaway me from her life and after few days I noticed her dating with his colleague..I felt heartbroken..when I asked she told that I am the only one she loved and she will never do such to me..but later I saw the guy in her room when I suddenly being there..everything shattered...even then she never accept that there is somethy. they are in live-in.
    I only asked that what went wrong between us..I cried alot but she never told me the reason why she did this to me.I was ready to accept any reason but she never explained the reason and It suffocated me a lot and affected my life so much even after 20 month..I feel still falling..

    • @poulami8300
      @poulami8300 4 года назад +2

      Youll heal. Don't worry. Im telling u. Giving u Guarentee😊

    • @prashantanand3379
      @prashantanand3379 4 года назад +2

      @@poulami8300 Yes, I have to move on..thanks..

    • @poulami8300
      @poulami8300 4 года назад

      @@prashantanand3379 anytime ❤👍

    • @maverickshroov
      @maverickshroov 4 года назад +3

      wow ur genuine words "wt went wrong & accept any reason"
      bt she never explained.....(tis is toxic)
      ""Dont let this question haunt your precious present""
      Remeber this : nothing went wrong, not even a single inch went wrong. Dont ever under estimate ur self esteem. You are much more precious.

    • @dysplasiaanaplasia4128
      @dysplasiaanaplasia4128 3 года назад +1

      She just wanted a bf,, anyone. She didnt intend to marry you so didnt give yu any reason. Leave her.

  • @sirinneha2683
    @sirinneha2683 4 года назад +100

    I've never found a story so relatable. I swear I can relate to maybe 95% of everything that you said , if not 100.
    It was my first relationship. It's been so many years. I was a little girl back then. Now when I think about him, I do feel that it was love (atleast a bit, cause I hate to think it was not... I loved him.. he was my FIRST LOVE) . But things were so toxic. All of the controlling part happened to me. I had stopped talking to boys for like a year. My goal was to make him happy . :) But then , he himself backstabbed me. And things ended without even a word.
    I've never been able to share this story with anyone completely. I so wish you'll see this message. We can be great friends maybe ☺️ . (Hehe, don't mind)
    I'm glad I found this video. I got reminded of so many things. But I never stopped myself from falling in love, after I moved on from him. The feeling that I'm in love is so pure and genuine and the best!!!😇

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад +1

      Actually it's not a toxic relationship it's actually Stockholm syndrome which is most common mental disease in girls and women

    • @badrivishalpadhy432
      @badrivishalpadhy432 2 года назад

      @@prophetmohammed1491 can u explain what's it

    • @prophetmohammed1491
      @prophetmohammed1491 2 года назад

      @@badrivishalpadhy432 bro just go and search Stockholm syndrome on Google
      Don't worry this is a most common mental health problem in females

    • @damn738
      @damn738 2 года назад

      Wo kehte h na ki jo jyada rass deta h use Or dbao kuch girls ko sayad yhi acha lgta h bc

    • @shreyaV06
      @shreyaV06 2 года назад

      Yea really relatable to me to!!☺️

  • @monikabhandari5908
    @monikabhandari5908 4 года назад +4

    Such an honest disclosure. More power to you. You are one of the most genuine people on you tube.

  • @tezagra
    @tezagra 4 года назад +195

    When I was younger, I'd promised myself to not get involved in any relationship before school was over, I never really liked the idea of being in a relationship before being biologically and mentally mature, I already knew relationships at such a young age are bound to get broken and I'm so NOT ready to bare that pain.
    Last year I turned 18, I had a couple fwbs after that, and a few months later in 2020, I started talking to a girl whom I was friends with since 2015 and started falling for her, I confessed, she surprisingly already did like me as well and boom, I can proudly say I'm in a healthy long distance relationship with her since nearly 7 months now.
    We've never really fought, we just understand that the other is upset because of us and try to solve problems rationally rather than emotionally. We never stop talking to each other if one of us is upset with each other.
    Also, I've only met her once this year(best day of my life) but we're planning to meet again next month, I really don't know what love is, but I do know what it isn't.
    Our understanding and compatibility seems to be incredibly good so far and I hope it remains so forever.

    • @Stanish4Ever
      @Stanish4Ever 4 года назад +5

      GO TEXER!!!

    • @vrushalimudaliar2948
      @vrushalimudaliar2948 4 года назад +6

      Hey man... I can relate to you 100%. My boyfriend and I are also in a long distance relationship. We will finish two years on the 25th of Sept. Similar to you guys, we have also just met once. I believe maturity and our genuine love for the other person is what guides us to build a healthy relationship. I'm so happy that there are other mature couples out there blowing out the myth that 'LDRs don't work'.
      God bless you guys and cheers to a job well done ! 😊

    • @tezagra
      @tezagra 4 года назад +5

      @@vrushalimudaliar2948 Yes totally, LDRs can work well if both the parties are understanding enough! And as you said, maturity and genuine love for each other is an important factor as well.
      Me and my girlfriend crave to meet each other, hug each other and when we finally do, it becomes an unexplainably amazing moment!
      Btw we have met each other numerous times when we were in school, as friends. But after dating each other, we've only met once.
      Also, Happy Anniversary to you both lovelies in advance! :)

    • @sakshishree7301
      @sakshishree7301 4 года назад +3

      Hello texer!!! Same story.... I had also same thoughts about love before seeing him... We are also in LDR and untill dont meet due to corona... But we will meet soon after this epidemic.... All the best for you bright 🔮future bro!!!

    • @tezagra
      @tezagra 4 года назад +4

      @@sakshishree7301 Oh wow! All of us have such similar stories!
      All the best for your future as well, I wish your relationship may last forever!

  • @JPATEL98
    @JPATEL98 4 года назад +5

    There will be moments when you fall to the ground but you're stronger than you feel you're now. Life is better when you open your heart so just be as you are. Peace.

  • @hariprasanthganji1712
    @hariprasanthganji1712 4 года назад +8

    The problem is many genuine people worship from a distance .

  • @ashborne_af9758
    @ashborne_af9758 3 года назад +2

    Gals be scoring 100/100 in chemistry still bonding with the wrong guy.
    And the right guy looses feelings and then looses hope when they see them suffer and gets depreessed

  • @granth4150
    @granth4150 4 года назад +4

    The day you decided to tell us this, you've already started moving on and I respect you for that. Now that everything is sorted in this matter I hope you work hard for yourself and never give up. Our support is always there. We are a community. Peace, Love