Miyoung on Being Alone and Depressed

[@imperviouus]

yea that's why i like to distance myself from my friends so i dont kill their vibe

[@TheKool129]

Exactly this, I always feel like I kill the mood

[@cupidsroses]

hmm yeah i get that. i think what helped me with that is, is not seeing things like this as negative. now i view only allowing me and my friends to be hyped and happy as toxic, like toxic positivity. the moments where you are more in depth and in your feelings are the moment that draw you and your friends so close and i got really appreciative of these moments. cause these are the moments you feel so understood and make the other person feel the same way too. like talking about what youre going through while just laying next to each other and looking at the sky and then enjoying the silence after that cause you both just feel so comfortable with each other

[@jesz97]

You are not "killing the vibe" by opening up to your friends. If you want to handle it on your own that is absolutely a valid choice but I hate the idea of people thinking they're a buzzkill for being vulnerable with friends. Real friends will be there for you and opening up can make you even closer friends.

[@masturblades]

I think in the right setting, leaning on your friends for help is okay. Definitely have a balance between regulating your emotions on your own but also allow your friends to be there for you

[@Linaaa-lp1lq]

No bc i do this too and when i did this at the beginning of this year my friends just stopped talking to me and now im always alone at lunch and in school in general😐

[@XSprouted]

When I was depressed (enough to attempt y'know a few times and even spend time in a behavioral health center), I thought the phrase 'healthy body, healthy mind' was BS... but it actually does have an effect. Won't solve everything outright, and it'll take time to get over being dead tired, but after a few weeks the exercise starts putting you in a better mood after (or at least it does for me). I don't think there's a one-all solution, there are multiple things someone can do to feel better. Exercise, eating better, meeting a therapist (can be over the phone if you're too anxious in front of real people), taking medication if you and your doctor recommends it, rewiring your brain so you don't instantly go negative whenever something happens. That last one, if anything, has been great for me in the long-term. I think the best takeaway from therapy are the techniques they teach you to learn how to better deal with things. When something bad happens and I start going "woe is me", I try to catch myself in the act of that, stop, take a couple deep breaths, and then try to find a positive spin on things. After doing that for a while, the exercise becomes a habit, and after longer you just go straight to thinking about the positives. New opportunities, less stress, learning moments. The United States isn't great at a lot of stuff, but they're one of the few countries in the world that actually care about mental health, best to take advantage of that.

[@popburnsy3207]

I hope you're doing well. Thanks for sharing

[@haella_]

Thanks. Needed this advice today.

[@965874123]

A lot of mental health experts in the field now recommend daily exercise. Especially small things like go outside you can go outside for x amount of time doesn't need to be long and work you way up from there.

[@gamerzss]

I got on the fitness grind too after many years and a few attempts, now my knees are busted and I feel like I'll never be happy living in this world, I'm just not made for it, but I've come to accept it, life is probably not meant for everyone and I've accepted that my roll in this world is probably just die alone at the age of 40

[@Robin-hv5tv]

Exercise works for a lot of people. Think of it this way, humans have existed for 150,000 years. 10000 years ago we went from being Hunters and scavengers to farmers. The point is, in such a short time we're still genetically the same. Our bodies needed to be strong and ready for a potential fight or flight. Inactivity lowers our bodies readiness and ability to fight off an enemy. In turn we will feel more anxious and depressed. Plus inactivity and negativity lowers your dopamine and serotonin. Activity raises them. At the same time we actually rested for most of the day to save our energy (calories). Its something were programmed to do but today we threw away the hunt for food, we have it in abundance. So our balance got wrecked and our bodies are confused. So trying our best to emulate how our ancestors lived (but translated to modern day methods) will make us feel better both mentally and physically. Its also funny because our ancestors wouldve gone crazy seeing us pick up heavy stuff and then put it down again or run for no reason because its a waste of energy. We have to do with what we have lolol.

[@Auramaki_]

miyoung is such a mood. i am glad she is at least willing to open up to chat, or anyone at all in that matter

[@sseulreal]

damn i feel the way miyoung feels about opening up to friends... they just brush pass it with a comment/joke when it took every bit of me to be vulnerable. then it just feels like i'm burdening them with my problems. in the end it just feels easier to deal with or process through issues on my own but this comes at a cost cause now i no longer feel like meeting my friends... i don't even know if they can even be considered friends if they are only good to have for the good times but not any other times lol

[@matthewxie1771]

Man, everything she said hit home for me so hard. Miyoung is a real one fersure.

[@Kayjuuu]

I feel the exact same it’s tough because it’s a weird feeling

[@crysikle]

i understand her so well!! youre not alone miyoung :))

[@aliciamoon9816]

Feels bad to hear that Miyoung is sad. As a viewer, it seems like these streamers have everything. Their health, their money, their friends.
I don't have those three things, and I spend my time wishing I did, and watching the streams make me forget that I don't. But seeing the other side isn't as bright as it seems, maybe I'm not missing out on much.
I do hope she gets better and that she finds something that gives her happiness. Emptiness is the body's way of saying something is wrong, or that something is missing or needs to change. She seems really nice and doesn't deserve to feel emptiness and sadness all the time.

[@apricot8301]

Being depressed as a millionaire is better than just being depressed.

[@Tranquil_Eternity]

@@apricot8301 you would know? Lol

[@apricot8301]

@@Tranquil_Eternity Being able to sit in your bed all day and turn on your computer for a few hours to make a couple thousand sounds way better than having to go do your 9 to 5 to make ends meet while also dealing with those issues. So yeah. Don't feel bad for these people.

[@Tranquil_Eternity]

@@apricot8301 I’m not gonna waste my breath cause you clearly don’t know the first thing about mental health.

[@dooppee5193]

@@apricot8301 Being able to work a 9 to 5 to make ends meet also sounds better than, say, being homeless and unemployed while also dealing with those issues. Downplaying mental health issues out of jealousy while dealing with those same mental issues doesn't make it better, just makes you more bitter.

[@fireflybenett_2319]

i felt this in my bones. i don't like to be open with anyone because of how many people in the past and even now have invalidated my experiences and emotions. i tend to have conversations with myself verbally or in my head. i feel like i would also talk to my chat if i was miyoung because to me i'd rather read whoever and what comments people leave rather than have someone in person and seeing the look of pity and verbally hearing the basic replies of "i know how you feel", "i'm sorry you feel that way", and so on and so forth :]

[@jimmyinnit]

Damn, miyoung got me on the dot. It's nice to know that even someone as influential and successful as her goes through these things

[@bobgrey871]

I feel the same way except now I alienated my friends because I feel like me being depressed put a burden on them and it's so annoying when they expect me to be hype and happy all the time so I did a self exile and stayed at home life and work in general just got me feeling down but now without the pressure to be on the entire time I feel a bit of relief being alone the depression is still there comes in waves but sometimes I can breathe I hope miyoung finds a way out of her depression and is able to mentally breath again too.

[@annahi017]

it breaks my heart that people which make me smile and laugh through my depression also struggle with this but i feel so useless as a viewer when they are feeling depressed...
i hope miyoung sees that we also care about her feelings... your feelings do not identify who you really are... the brain can really be playin some times

[@Givemeanamebruh]

I understand her at such a deep level. Apathy and indifference is something far above and apart from depression and anxiety.

[@ymon2x313]

Before, i will just say that being depressed, and feeling alone is just a joke, but when I myself experienced it, it was no joke. It is scary and confusing at the same time. When I experienced it myself, I cried all the time and I don't know what to do with myself. Good thing I had the courage to tell my sister about it, coz she herself experienced it. She just told me to watch a stream or uplifting videos, and if I felt tired, just sleep and cry it out until you doze off. And it works for me.

[@joshuasocoy]

Ofcourse, thats why i walked away from all my friends. I thought the exact same things, in the moment i could enjoy myself but after it was over i felt nothing but hollowness on the inside. nothing but fun and joy and "good times" its never "okay lets get serious time" like im more interested in improving my life and moving towards valuable goals and attaining that which i aim at and what i aim at is no longer mindless hedonistic fun.

[@flitefulwantssubs402]

I feel so bad for her because I know exactly how she feels. Wish I could be there for her, I think she’s right about the parasocial thing- you should just be able to want to be there for others, including strangers.

[@dusterrant9332]

We live in a world with infinite distractions, it's become so hard to just sit and be with yourself, because the truth is, most people don't really like themselves.

[@shibahodl]

Aww I hope she gets the help she needs and resolves any issues she has with her parents.

[@7_skyline]

damn, I relate (to an extent). I haven't had issues in the past (I think), it's just extremely hard for me to open up.
This has to be my favorite Miyoung clip ever. It was just relatable.
I hope she looks into DBT and physical fitness. Both activities have been incredibly helpful in accepting myself as a human, handling my addictions and becoming more resilient. Forever a work-in-progress...

[@jenniferjaffa1127]

I would love to see her go on Dr.K! Not to be parasocial andy but I always notice her look awkward, uncomfortable or just very melancholic interacting with others

[@hectreeziez]

Never watched her outside of a offline tv video but damm… felt this and it ain’t weird to hope the best for others because watching this makes me hope she find herself soon🤙🏽 same goes for everyone! Someone’s always rooting for ya don’t forget that

[@gelabuds9840]

miyoung certainly helped a lot of people feeling less alone including me

[@y0urs1nner19]

I can relate to miyoung so hard.

[@momoshinigami]

The feeling of not wanting to talk your feeling to the people closest to u is normal, most of us is like that. But therer is one time, i found a random person i dont even know much but talk everything to her. Lol
But again, that depressed feeling will go away once u immerse yourself in one thing u love~ it just take time~

[@965874123]

Many of my weeks are like that where you enjoy the moments and then nothing matters.

[@TrulyTortle]

She is so genuine! Hope she figures things out ❤

[@aseuto4206]

i'm really glad i found miyoung. i resonated a lot with her the most and i always felt like how i was feelin was so hard to out to words and i just accepted that no one would get it until i hear her talk about stuff and realize someone out there feels the same. it's unfortunate that we feel this way but it is comforting that someone out there knows how it feels.

[@HugBunnies]

I actually really appreciate it whenever Miyoung talks like this. I get it

[@jonathanchen1026]

Before you can find love, you must learn to love yourself. You’ll find out you can be happy by yourself if you love yourself. Your happiness doesn’t need to depend on anyone, but yourself.

[@ShtSil]

I can relate with this, took a friend to drive me to the doctors to get medicated, once those started helping a went to a therapist. Hope anyone going through depression or anxiety gets the help they need!

[@anthonya9583]

I've felt the same way so many times in life and sometimes I go back to this mentality.. but honestly reducing social media time and being somewhat more productive has done good things for my mental.. setting up a small goal everyday and achieving it makes me feel better and more confident. Also, it might sound corny but you CAN be happy, sometimes I don't really believe it or I see people on instagram have a great time and feel jealous. But then going out with friends makes me realize that oh yeah maybe I can have some fun too you know 😊 anyways those are my thoughts and I hope you got sth out of this for everyone reading. ❤

[@LK-3000]

I hear you, Miyoung. People don't understand that they just can't do something to insantly cheer you up and it will be over. It doesn't work that way. All people need to do is listen and don't offer never-ending solutions. We don't need advice. Sometimes we just need an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on to not feel alone--just friends who will be there and just hang out. And pets, they can make all the difference.

[@leilani2258]

Miyoung!!!! I am right there with you. I have so many great people in my life. But a lot of times I just feel so alone. Even being married. I am here for ya❤😢

[@hiraisapple]

This is such a good explanation on how it feels!

[@Allnonchalant90]

the most relatable 4 minutes I've watched in a long time

[@CrimsonHeart3]

You know at first I was a bit pissed when she started talking about it, cause I genuinely am so jealous of what these guys have - and I don't mean financial, I mean their friendship looks amazing and just being seen and cared for by so many people .. but then she acknowledged that she shouldn't feel that way because she has a lot to be grateful for, and I can respect that - it's VERY important to be aware of what you should appreciate. It's way more triggering to others to always complain without any sort of appreciation of anything - if that makes sense.

[@erik9775]

though those sad feelings and thoughts sometimes get the better of me, it's great to just feel them and make them valid, not judge them, drink them, distract yourself away from them. Just acknowledge them. (perhaps maybe you can even ask yourself why they're there. and with of course dopamine, it's natural to have low states and high states and such)

[@millbrook7384]

If you have the means, going to psychotherapy with honesty is the best thing I have ever done for my mental health.
I talked to a psychologist previously, not being entirely honest, and I made little progress.
It shouldn't be affirming therapy. Just real therapy where you are honest and open.

[@life_without_rhythm]

"Nothing can make me feel better" I felt that so much, no one can help me only myself but sometimes it's so difficult to even get out of bed. Sending so much love to everyone who is going through it❤️

[@mpactgamer1944]

This was so relatable except the whole having friends part lol anyone else out here literally alone and depressed?

[@ticklord]

"I am happy in the moment, I am not when I reflect" is a pretty apt way of putting depression.

[@martianxmartin9959]

Bless her heart🫂

[@NameiSarah]

Im more shocked how many people feel the same way in the comments 😢 i hope you all get better

[@avinashkr4522]

What's annoying is that sometimes I just like to be quite and chill by myself. All my extrovert friend's just assume that I am sad or in bad mood. I am recharging man let me cook.

[@spoiledkid3591]

This was a nice talk/listen while I was having coffee. yep miyoung, yep.

[@david.florres460]

im literally her frfr (i hope we all get better soon)

[@XmandaX]

I have never related to something so much before in my life. I struggle to open up to my bf because of the same problem. I opened up to the wrong people that I thought cared about me and now I feel like nothing can fix me.

[@antoshirosahitsuguya]

I can relate to her and her feelings.

[@naiag5151]

Miyoung, I get you.

[@purplegion]

I felt like this for most of my life. Going onto the right antidepressant really helped.

[@valendis]

Tbh, Miyoung always seemed depressed, exercising helps. Also from what I've understood Rae has also struggled when she was younger, I think she would be understanding ^^

[@Shad0wmoses]

im literally rotting in bed for months. i feel her. i feel alone too.

[@Radioactivemicaphone]

ngl I'm always sad, loney and depressed (plus every should want everyone to be on their best)

[@cheyann0818]

For anyone that feels this way please people allow people in. When you’re alone and down if reaching out will help you feel even 1% better do it. If they’re your true friend they would never want you to feel alone. Think if the roles were reversed, you would likely be there if a friend reached out. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t isolate yourself because you THINK they’ll be annoyed with you. If your friends are reaching out and checking that means they truly care for you. Your feeling matter and the reason we make these connections with people are for moments when we are happy and sad. Sometimes all you need to have an ear. Talking through your problems out loud can lead comfort. Your friends don’t have to have a solution to your problem but they can just be there for support. When you’re struggling alone it only makes getting better that much harder. Allow yourself to be surrounded by those that care for you.

[@evafrfr]

i love her ): i hate that the only way (it seems) she can rlly express is with dark “jokes” i can tell it’s not just a joke idk ):

[@Two-ToneMoonStone]

I think what content creators have working against them today compared to like the earlier RUclipsr days is that they cant be as open as they used to be. To an extent thats good because some old content creators grossly took advantage of that, but now its put everyone in the position of not feeling like its okay to care about people they spend the majority of time listening/watching and in the case of streamers and current youtubers, like they cant really be themselves with their audience.
I defnitely get what shes feeling here in a lot of ways and i hope that everyone around her takes not and care of her mental state as much as they can.

[@ItsAkile]

Thats the thing. thinking, then overthinking won't help one bit, doing and talking is the key. I feel your pain, some days you really just wanna be one of those Thanos returned to harmony.

[@Zeddex2965]

This makes me want to listen to her problems, then give her a big hug afterwards.

[@laurentaylor6406]

How is Miyoung explaining my brain right now?

[@colamanodoy4775]

That can happen sometimes, miyoung, take time for yourself, enjoy your day, eat delicious food
Love yaa
Let's try to be happier than yesterday ^^

[@pickletoes8612]

Depression is a mutherfucker! It's not something that's easy to dismiss or to deal with. From one to another....hang in there.❤

[@FNSSEIOS]

Can’t be alone if you have room mates. And chat as friends to vent to knowing that they will support you no matte what.

[@frukaa5640]

Yeah true it's easy to open up to a stranger than a close one

[@Livyatan707]

This is so relatable. Teared up a little.

[@kkletsplay_]

Felt the same way (depressed). Then I fixed it by realizing we make our simulation life (internet, video games, etc) more lit than our real life. We'd rather be distracted like hanging out, scrolling internet, or posting pics for attention, likes, etc. just for a dopamine hit. But that's all temporary. Its all simulation. You'll have to eventually come back to real world. To me it makes sense 100% cus alot of us spend our energy on simulations, so ofc your real life is not going to be lit in comparison (even though you can make is "seem" like your having a blast on social media). Alot of us gamers or internet dwellers eat unhealthy, dont even exercise, sleep late, and then we wonder why we feel trash and think trash. It shouldnt be a mystery imo cus the answer is in our faces. Personally, I havent felt depressed or anxiety in almost 3 years straight. Maybe a little but I get over it very fast. Also, Ive also changed my purpose in life, I dont think im just a "gamer" im way more than that and will do more. imo theres a bigger purpose than just your selfish dreams. For sure that helped too. Now I actually love being alone cus I could hear my thoughts and they are positive. Its about building, what I can do to help, and abundance. Not scarcity, "what I can do for me me me me", being selfish with shallow purpose. Just my 2 cents.

[@TheJwbenjamin1001]

I haven’t watched her for a bit. But I hope she’s cut back on the drinking. Alcohol doesn’t help. Therapy seems to even if she just finds an online therapist.

[@chrisbaltazar7164]

I think she may not know what purpose of life is. Cause ultimately you can do the most extravagant things in life but if you have no purpose then what’s the point, cause after the funs done there’s nothing left. So then what’s the point? We’ll find purpose that gives meaning in life

[@HellAintHalfFull]

Imagine having friends wanting to help you with your depression. My friends ghosted me years ago.

[@BlueHundred1]

It's normal imo not to want to talk to those closest to you about these feelings.
For me, it's like I don't want to trauma dump or like bring down the vibes or like put my problems/struggles on someone else. Everyone's got shit to deal with, I don't want want to make theirs tougher with my stuff.

[@conbon7816]

So happy this is said ik so many of us relate to that

[@mayurmadiwalar2157]

i always take a nap when this happens

[@eurogael]

Been there its stupid hard to open up but at some point you have to.

[@kairos_fluent]

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how

[@vasu1989ful]

sadness hit hard after happiness ... so u know .. its better to remain sad ...

[@FierySpiritMaury]

That’s why I smoke weed it clears the overthinking

[@tommydavidson4608]

Exercise. Get the blood flowing, then the mind will clear

[@HelloHello-gg5cb]

Most relatable thing i hear from any otv and f

[@asheritty7815]

Watch Rae react to this clip and go strangle her with love.

[@aztecghost]

Damn, I felt this 😭

[@Official-D.W.]

It’s exhausting 😢

[@ElleEnd]

Change your physical state will help change your mental state. Run around jump up and down. Go for a walk. Gym it helps

[@dxrebel]

I would suggest swiping through TikTok for 10 hours might not be part of the solution, but part of the problem

[@TotallyxDuck-]

Therapy with Miyoung felt good.

[@richardtorres312]

Moving out and living alone will make her feel better that’s it

[@cyber_metrix9734]

We need her to talk to that therapist who spoke to a lot of streamers

[@nefariou5]

Dr. K?

[@joemama114]

I may be heavily projecting but I bet you're a lot like me. Goal Oriented. You find joy and meaing in doing things, the act of doing stuff is where the enjoyment comes from.
Having a goal or task or thing to do with friends is fun, but after it's done, there's a feeling of emptyness. My advice is get a hobby that you can also do something if you're alone.
Try learning a language maybe, or a puzzle or something that you think you could work at for a long time but not actually finish.

[@bennythebear0711]

if ur gonna feel bad anyway then just try 2 weeks of trying everything you could to mke u feel a bit better at a time ice bath reading bout it exercise writing things down understanding where u are and where u wanna go get off social media u might as well try if ur gonna be depressed either way

[@kenar420]

It’s always worse in your head than it actually is. Speaking for myself here.

[@CaptChrispy]

Don't know if she wants advice but maybe, since feeling bad about feeling bad is just worse, lean into it? Don't give up but be happy to be sad.

[@Ra5h3d_]

I think being with family helps a lot, no matter what they're family. When I'm with my family I forget what else is going on in my life. Friends? not that much, no matter how close they are, they'll make fun of you! and when I'm down in life, that small making fun, impacts so much! One other thing is believing in God, at least when I've no one to talk to, I've God, it may sound cliche' but its true for me, at least it takes away the suicidal thoughts.
Hope MiYoung gets through it quickly 😇

[@SR-ti6jj]

I'll be depressed with you kkatamina

[@sagnikdas5243]

I feel empty like that. That's when I start to social detox

[@rylanbenet]

At least she has friends that care enough to ask how she is doing and offer to help. Some of us don't have that.

[@acerina141]

I identify 100% with what she said, and i know i need help... but i really don´t know what to do...... i feel so lonely with no one to talk to 😞

[@FantasmaEVH]

Dang, I definitely understand Miyoung..

[@missingtherage1728]

everybodys "living their best life" looks different, if you need rest days to do nothing, take the day. its more important to not feel bad about it

[@JesudasonFilms]

Sigh I relate to this more than I care to admit....

[@Ressel_]

what happened? nothing. what can we do to make it better? nothing, because there's nothing wrong.
do you feel grateful with what you have? definitely. are you capable of feeling joy and happiness? yes.
"but at the end of the day. it doesnt matter"
from what i see.. this is a lack of purpose, that leads to depression. as if she only stay in one place. stagnant.
we all know money is not the problem. if she keeps doing what she's doing, she probably can still live off of it completely.
but deep in her heart, she know that's not what she lives for. yet.. she doesnt know what either.
this happens a lot.. and i know this happened to an older youtubers like jack, markiplier and even pewdiepie at some point.
and people have different ways to cope with it. right now.. she has her dog, so its probably fine.
but.. we all know dog doesnt have as much lifespan as human, so when nabi gets much older and beginning to feel unwell.
if you're her friends and reading this. please keep an eye on her. that would be her lowest point.

[@Wolfblade243]

Bruh I wish I can trade my life with hers.....being surrounded by amazing friends and playing games for life

[@VishalSingh-ol6wl]

I can relate 100%