This material is incredible! I am applying it all to “reparent” myself and teach my own Inner Voice to speak kindly and affirmatively to myself. Raised by a pathologically narcissistic mother who gave me 99% negative communication about myself, this reparenting is assisting me in developing communication skills stunted by such a parent. Thank you!
I'm glad it's helpful, Kat. We just did a more recent updated series on positive communication. It's more focused on leaders, but there's a lot there to dig into. You can find it on the *_videos_* tab of my channel page.
I organize a group of coworkers to watch your videos one a day and plan to complete them all in a year . Group peer review on a weekly basis. Keep you updated.
Mr . Julien is energetic I believe he comes under the category of relator ( one of the commu styles) thanks for having him with us today. As I requested earlier could you plz make video on myth about communication? Myth is technically great or smart ppl say that I don't need to have strong communication skills I design car, I design AI ,robots, spaceship or I am a software guy I can speak better n so my machines or codes. Technical skills > Soft skills... Here, in India people have this kind of mindset whether u greet them, ask questions or start ur presentation with story. How to break that ego?
Well that's ture, people do think that communication comes last on the list of a programmer or engineer or even a doctor caus their 'technical' knowledge is what serves them but, That's true only partially.
I like 2nd and 5th tip thank you so muh sir for your guidance and helping others to improve their communication❤really it is helping me a lot❤😍as i am facing these issues❤
Great video, you give great advice but I got stuck in my development journey, my question is how can I combine all my habit in to a great planning with time buffers for variables
I'm not sure. If I were you, I would make the best plan I could based upon the situations you are in (e.g., conversation, meeting, presentation, etc.). Use the basic principles and tailor them to your specific situation.
When others purposely talk over you let them. If they don't pause and apologize, it is a sign of disrespect. They believe that what they have to say is more important than listening to you. Don't get offended Let your silence speak for you.
@@alexanderlyon thank you much for you reply. Your videos will help me in assisting the groups I work with in improving communication and building skills as they are prepareing to enter the workforce.
Glasses! :-) I use them for reading and I had a bunch of notes in front of me to make sure I asked him good questions. Plus, no haircut for a long time because of the virus out there.
The idea of texting emailing or calling someone to say ‘I’m contacting you to say how grateful I am to have you in my life’ seems very unrealistic to me. There are only a few people in my life who I genuinely feel that way about - and if I did that to them they would probably think it was weird & creepy and not want to be in my life any longer! I’d feel a bit creeped out if someone did that to me - especially more than once. When you have a great relationship with someone they generally know it and you know it and you don’t need to say it so explicitly. Saying that kind of thing to people mostly just makes them wonder what you want and it can also come across as manipulative. Imo.
It may not be the most common type of text message to receive but I'm very grateful that I have received some texts and messages like that over the years. In other words, some people do it. The genuineness of the message came through. There was no hint of manipulation. These were good people saying kind things to me.
@@alexanderlyon I’m sure in that case they were genuine, but I really think saying things like would be something that only a very few people could carry off in a genuine way. Ie who are highly agreeable, conscientious and extroverted. I don’t think that combination of personality traits is that common - hence for most people it would be out of character to do that. I only know one person who would say that kind of thing and who could make it sound genuine. I had another friend who would study up on these techniques and sometimes try to use them to ‘win people over’ but was clearly being manipulative as her true feelings would show when her guard was down.
Could you preface it with something that says you know it might be a bit strange or unconventional but you just feel like expressing this and that it’s genuine? I know it’s a bit vulnerable, we are afraid of being rejected or ridiculed? Where do you live, maybe there are cultural considerations? I would just try it and see what happens. Especially if you preface it
@@drpamelamozingo4079 I live in New Zealand so that might explain it somewhat. Most people generally aren’t that verbally expressive about our feelings. So it probably does differ to how it is in the US or other countries. We’ll express things on special occasions like weddings or funerals but not so much on a day to day basis.
This material is incredible! I am applying it all to “reparent” myself and teach my own Inner Voice to speak kindly and affirmatively to myself. Raised by a pathologically narcissistic mother who gave me 99% negative communication about myself, this reparenting is assisting me in developing communication skills stunted by such a parent. Thank you!
I'm glad it's helpful, Kat. We just did a more recent updated series on positive communication. It's more focused on leaders, but there's a lot there to dig into. You can find it on the *_videos_* tab of my channel page.
@@alexanderlyonMuch gratitude!
I organize a group of coworkers to watch your videos one a day and plan to complete them all in a year . Group peer review on a weekly basis. Keep you updated.
That’s great, Spencer. Tell the group that Alex said hi!
I am a public speaker and am really grateful for your content. Its really good
Thank you! I appreciate your encouragement.
Smile I feel is the first step towards positive communication
I’m a public speaker and love your videos!
Thanks, Remon. I appreciate your encouragement.
Great content and easy to understand
Thank you so much sir.. lots of insights.. 🙏🙏🙏
Love this, wow so inspiring.
Thank you.
Thank you to both of you ❤️🌷🌿
Love this thank you ❤
Sometimes if you give people compliments, they think you want something from them.
Excellent ❤❤
Good video sounds great lnterview.
You mean the microphone/audio quality? Well, thank you, Peter, for the compliment and thanks for listening.
Mr . Julien is energetic I believe he comes under the category of relator ( one of the commu styles) thanks for having him with us today. As I requested earlier could you plz make video on myth about communication? Myth is technically great or smart ppl say that I don't need to have strong communication skills I design car, I design AI ,robots, spaceship or I am a software guy I can speak better n so my machines or codes. Technical skills > Soft skills... Here, in India people have this kind of mindset whether u greet them, ask questions or start ur presentation with story. How to break that ego?
A video about Communication Myths would be interesting. I'll think about that. Thanks for the suggestion.
Hmm thats a really good question
Well that's ture, people do think that communication comes last on the list of a programmer or engineer or even a doctor caus their 'technical' knowledge is what serves them but, That's true only partially.
Very nice. Thank you for this video. 👍
Glad you liked it, Tarun. I read some of your other comments too!
It was a pleasure to have Julien on the channel. What did you get out of it??
The second tip. Was really impactful.
Agreed!
I like 2nd and 5th tip thank you so muh sir for your guidance and helping others to improve their communication❤really it is helping me a lot❤😍as i am facing these issues❤
Thank you for this video!
You are so welcome. :-)
Wonderful
Thank you, James.
Great video, you give great advice but I got stuck in my development journey, my question is how can I combine all my habit in to a great planning with time buffers for variables
I'm not sure. If I were you, I would make the best plan I could based upon the situations you are in (e.g., conversation, meeting, presentation, etc.). Use the basic principles and tailor them to your specific situation.
When others purposely talk over you let them. If they don't pause and apologize, it is a sign of disrespect. They believe that what they have to say is more important than listening to you.
Don't get offended
Let your silence speak for you.
That story was amazing lol
Congratulazion Alex has a very top pool and staffs of skill professors and profesionists it is a pleasure to me listen learn and
Love the work sir. Would really like to work with you some time 😁.
I just check out your channel. Good stuff. Keep up the good work. You never know. Maybe we can work on something in the future.
Thank you. Brilliant video!!!
Glad you liked it. Julien is awesome.
Do you have any videos on communication for people with disabilites?
Hi, Elizabeth. It's an important area but that's outside of my education and professional experience.
@@alexanderlyon thank you much for you reply. Your videos will help me in assisting the groups I work with in improving communication and building skills as they are prepareing to enter the workforce.
Il y a une petite pointe d’accent français dans sa voix
Oui, parce que je suis Français!
I am watching) you look different today Alex.
Glasses! :-) I use them for reading and I had a bunch of notes in front of me to make sure I asked him good questions. Plus, no haircut for a long time because of the virus out there.
@@alexanderlyon Ooh got it. You look smart n I may emulate ur attire as it impressed me a lot ,after the lockdown.
The idea of texting emailing or calling someone to say ‘I’m contacting you to say how grateful I am to have you in my life’ seems very unrealistic to me. There are only a few people in my life who I genuinely feel that way about - and if I did that to them they would probably think it was weird & creepy and not want to be in my life any longer! I’d feel a bit creeped out if someone did that to me - especially more than once. When you have a great relationship with someone they generally know it and you know it and you don’t need to say it so explicitly.
Saying that kind of thing to people mostly just makes them wonder what you want and it can also come across as manipulative. Imo.
It may not be the most common type of text message to receive but I'm very grateful that I have received some texts and messages like that over the years. In other words, some people do it. The genuineness of the message came through. There was no hint of manipulation. These were good people saying kind things to me.
@@alexanderlyon I’m sure in that case they were genuine, but I really think saying things like would be something that only a very few people could carry off in a genuine way. Ie who are highly agreeable, conscientious and extroverted. I don’t think that combination of personality traits is that common - hence for most people it would be out of character to do that. I only know one person who would say that kind of thing and who could make it sound genuine. I had another friend who would study up on these techniques and sometimes try to use them to ‘win people over’ but was clearly being manipulative as her true feelings would show when her guard was down.
Could you preface it with something that says you know it might be a bit strange or unconventional but you just feel like expressing this and that it’s genuine? I know it’s a bit vulnerable, we are afraid of being rejected or ridiculed?
Where do you live, maybe there are cultural considerations? I would just try it and see what happens. Especially if you preface it
@@drpamelamozingo4079 I live in New Zealand so that might explain it somewhat. Most people generally aren’t that verbally expressive about our feelings. So it probably does differ to how it is in the US or other countries. We’ll express things on special occasions like weddings or funerals but not so much on a day to day basis.
@@universaltruth2025 yes, that makes sense. I’m German-American, hubby is Scottish. I had this reserve for years as well. Now living in Brunei
If you do that, a lot of people think you want something from them 😂.
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