Valuable advice! I think this summary of the "when to speak up and how to deal with hecklers"-part might be helpful for/worth sharing with other viewers: It's all about smart timing: 1. Anticipate current speaker's pause (hint: they wind down) 2. Meanwhile as they wind down: Signal you'll speak next: Lean in, visibly breathe in via mouth, and slightly raise index finger 3. As they hit their pause, you just start speaking 4. If you get interrupted make friendly eye contact with interruptor 5. Unless urgent, let them courteously go first (if they don't offer to let you go first) and keep signaling you go next (see 2)
All the 7 seven tips are important to know and as you say self confidence is highly important , eye contact , don’t look down , do not ask for permission , lean in , thank for sharing !
Thanks so much. You are the best communication coach on YT. I have learned a lot from your videos and can concretely see progress in my oral communication and my confidence. You are clear, concrete and to the point. Great work!
Yes! Wow, definitely must double or triple this on point such gr8 comment of yours, the best from the rest 👍 content creator/speaker/you tuber/communicator & last not least SUCH AN ARTIST IN HIS TRUEST BLEND,( AS A EYE-OPENING EDUCATOR! ) Such a lovely comment and YES I HAVE to AGREE! ... the best I've found to date, too. (⁰ú⁰)
Thank you for this video! I am naturally shy and have always found meetings so difficult. Like SO difficult because of all the things you mentioned. I wait and wait and wait because I never know the right place to speak up, and when I do, I’ve rehearsed the thing so much that I feel like it explodes out of me. Truly appreciate your clear articulation of the problems and the clear solutions. I’m going to implement these immediately. Thank you!
I found all these useful, thank you very much. I am an introvert so when I have to speak up in a meeting, all I can think of at that moment is that everybody's eyes are on me and then I turn red in the face. I need to work on my confidence and tell myself that what I have to say is important and of value.
In my role I am required to give presentations daily in a high stakes sales environment. I constantly look to improve not just how to communicate more effectively but also efficiently. Everything you have suggested is dead on, my only additional suggestion is to incorporate these tips with a STRONG VOICE.
Sir, I am perplexed with the art public of speaking. It is quite natural as rain comes from heavens. By going through such stuff it makes me worried. What is to be focused and what not to be focused. The human beings are blessed with power of speech. It is the greatest gift and this makes us most intelligent. Why do we make simple things complicated by giving lables such as verbal, nonverbal, kinesthetic, auditory, visual, the more we give priority to these things the core will be missing. How does he speaks whether he is leaning, standing towards 45° or 60°. It is the listener's choice what he wants to listen ,he listens to it. He also understands what is not being spoken. It is the absolute choice of speaker/ listener. Do we learn typewriting by reading the mannual? Do we learn swimming by reading a book? Did we listened to our parents after completing the certificate courses? It is just natural. In this vast world, everything is ready except man. It is not intended to hurt or criticise anyone's sentiments. I just thought of write something. When we understand the history, we can come to know the natural and latent abilities of the greatest speakers the world such as Swami Vivekananda, Martin Luther King, Winston Churchill, Hitler, etc., Did they possess any master degrees from reputed universities? No, the need is the drive. It makes all the difference. I once again thank you very much everyone who pays their valuable time to read. Thank you. D. Rama Murthy Telangana India I thank you very much for your videos.
As a student whose currently studying communication skills this channel is a big help. I usually use your videos to help me when I'm presenting. Thank you
Great advice I like the point where you say STAY LOOKING AT THE NEXT SPEAKER ...ie hold your own.I usually squirm and put my head down back to shyness being glad its over but leaving a defeated impression. Thanks 😊
Thanks for sharing, Dorothy. I hear you. I've seen many communicators look down like that after they speak. It's a challenge and takes practice like anything else.
Sir I m following you since half of the year. It has been highly yielding for me. The three posture you elaborate here, in my opinion those will be much helpful before starting conversation. ❤️🙏👌
WoW just what I need to work on. Many of us are out of social practice! Your work is helping me in my communication. I often wait too long and I burst!
Thanks You so much. I have learned about you from Lisa; my best teacher. The seven tips are very useful; I will use them and I don't sit back. Merci beaucoup.
Thanks so much for the tips - all so useful & effective. Now that many of us work from home & meet virtually by webex over the phone, is it possible for you to provide tips specific to such arrangement? Also, very often there are people who talk forever non-stop in the meeting, are there any tips to deal with it? Thanks a million!
Wow! This just came across my radar!! These vids are fantastic! I have a speakers bureau and I can’t wait to share these with my speakers!! Amazing!! These are fantastic for non-speakers also!! Thank you for doing these for the world!
Thankyou great tips, most valuable to me was the last one. Recent knowledge also states start with the positive follow with the don't so I wonder if your written tips would have more impact if they were written 1. lean in, don't lean back.
You know the sad thing... Everyone from ages 13-45 need this channel but everyone from 13-35 are looking up videos of: people slapping each other, stupid relationship pranks, or how to destroy your credit. Keep up the good work sir! I've sent a ton of your videos to friends who having group speaking problems
Not leaning back and keeping eye contact was the best tips for me. It’s still a bit uncofmfortable for me but I did not know I was sending low status signals, I don’t want to do that. I also thought that leaning back made me look more relaxed. Does this apply for more informal gatherings as well? Thank you coach!
Thanks for sharing, Adam. In an informal environment, the mood is more relaxed and you will likely not have as much trouble speaking up. If it were me, I'd look around and see how others are holding themselves and make a judgement about how to adapt.
The leaning in tip was my favorite. I’m an extremely relaxed guy, not a lot of bothers me, so my posture resembles that. I’m gonna practice leaning in. Do you think it’s effective if you were talking with friends? Both sitting and standing?
Yes, for sitting or standing. If you're standing, then be sure you can make eye contact with every person in the group. Position yourself so you can see everybody and everybody can see you with searching. I'd say the same goes for friends in a group situation. Otherwise, it can seem like a comment is coming out of nowhere. By the way, I'm pretty relaxed too and my tendency is to want to lean back. So, I know how that feels.
@@alexanderlyon thank you! I practiced this yesterday with some friends. I felt more engaged in the conversation, received more eye contact, and I could sense more people wanted me to speak! Thanks for the vids
I saw your interview with teacher lisa and liked it . It was amazing, so I come here to learn more about communication and improve my skills about it.i did it , thanks this video was useful.
Thanks for a valuable input. What is your thought on dealing with people that steal ideas in meetings and make it their own, especially those that are senior.
New subscriber here. Your channel is really informative. I'm not necessarily in the public speaking eye but these tips sound useful in everyday conversation and I would love to feel more confident while having small talk with a stranger. Thanks for the content 😊
It's a good idea and a lot of people have asked but I probably won't do videos about Zoom. There are so many out there on that from other channels right now and I don't have an anything special to say about it at this point. If I come up with something a little unique to say, I might reconsider.
Wow, this is really refreshing and actually helpful. You don’t waste words or time. I hate to overuse the word “crisp” but your videos capture this perfectly.
I'm glad you think so, Moki. My personal rule when speaking is to make sure each sentence adds value. I do my best not to simply repeat what I've already said. I'm glad you noticed!
I loved this, I enjoyed the way you added those actions behind for emphasis. It helps understand when you actually see the gesture of what you are being taught or what not to do or do. Excellent and thank you.
Respected ALEX sir, you sound so perfect. I like the way you present things. you kind of motivate me to learn many things. extremely wonderful. I love to watch your many videos. thank you, Sir.
Some great tips you shared here. Valuable suggestion and I just need to implement these tips in my virtual meeting and in person meeting. I am glad I found your channel.
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Excellent and powerful tools here, Alex. Thank you for sharing. Q: What's your take on some of the "alpha posturing" that's usually stressed in context of tips like these? I have mixed thoughts about it.
I Would like like to Add on a Point. I have Observed That If we break the flow of conversation. People find it difficult to Follow up. So I think that We Add on a Point Like Continue the Thing going and then Add our point Quoting that it's Our point
I'm beyond grateful for making or creating such an amazing video content 😀 I'm really benefiting a lot from them, I must admit though, i was that kind of person who made all the donts before I came across your lovely channel, I learnt a lot from you and still learning actually , thank very much again 🙂
Actually during our zoom meeting it’s disrespectful to speak without asking the host for permission or raising your hand. That’s one of the rules and etiquette in our zoom meeting. So maybe it depends on the kind of speaking engagement you are in.
Good suggestion but I don't have a video on that. I don't think I'll make one either. Video calls and meetings is not an area I'll likely expand into. There are now tons of channels and videos about that out there on that subject at this point.
Very good video! Tip #6 was the most helpful for me. My own tip would be to tell the group how many points you’re about to speak on right before you start (remembering to keep everything concise), even if it’s just one. This will give the listeners a sense for the length of your sharing and where they are in it at any given time. It will also give you the ability to pause in between each sentence and each point for emphasis. Based on what I’ve seen, if I make a pause in between setences or points without having told the group how many points I plan to speak on, someone would think I’m done and start talking. Without this tip, the only pauses I’d be able to make would be the more obvious ones (pauses in between thoughts that are part of the same sentence). Meanwhile, each sentence and point would have to be shared consecutively with no room for emphasis. The weakness to my tip is that you’d have to limit your sharing on the last point to just one sentence. What do you think, Alex?
I think it's a good idea to sometimes say "I have two points" but you can certainly pause between ideas even if you have not given signposts like that. There are plenty of other nonverbal ways to signal that you're not yet done with your talking turn. In general, however, it's best to practice sharing points very concisely rather than taking extended talking turns.
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English is not my first language, so i am often nervous talking in group settings. This video helped me.
Valuable advice! I think this summary of the "when to speak up and how to deal with hecklers"-part might be helpful for/worth sharing with other viewers:
It's all about smart timing:
1. Anticipate current speaker's pause (hint: they wind down)
2. Meanwhile as they wind down: Signal you'll speak next: Lean in, visibly breathe in via mouth, and slightly raise index finger
3. As they hit their pause, you just start speaking
4. If you get interrupted make friendly eye contact with interruptor
5. Unless urgent, let them courteously go first (if they don't offer to let you go first) and keep signaling you go next (see 2)
All the 7 seven tips are important to know and as you say self confidence is highly important , eye contact , don’t look down , do not ask for permission , lean in , thank for sharing !
I'm glad they are helpful to you, Alejandro.
Thanks so much. You are the best communication coach on YT. I have learned a lot from your videos and can concretely see progress in my oral communication and my confidence. You are clear, concrete and to the point. Great work!
I'm so encouraged by your comment, Florisse. Thank you!
Yes! Wow, definitely must double or triple this on point such gr8 comment of yours, the best from the rest 👍 content creator/speaker/you tuber/communicator & last not least SUCH AN ARTIST IN HIS TRUEST BLEND,( AS A EYE-OPENING EDUCATOR! ) Such a lovely comment and YES I HAVE to AGREE! ... the best I've found to date, too. (⁰ú⁰)
Thank you for this video! I am naturally shy and have always found meetings so difficult. Like SO difficult because of all the things you mentioned. I wait and wait and wait because I never know the right place to speak up, and when I do, I’ve rehearsed the thing so much that I feel like it explodes out of me.
Truly appreciate your clear articulation of the problems and the clear solutions. I’m going to implement these immediately. Thank you!
I found all these useful, thank you very much. I am an introvert so when I have to speak up in a meeting, all I can think of at that moment is that everybody's eyes are on me and then I turn red in the face. I need to work on my confidence and tell myself that what I have to say is important and of value.
In my role I am required to give presentations daily in a high stakes sales environment.
I constantly look to improve not just how to communicate more effectively but also efficiently.
Everything you have suggested is dead on, my only additional suggestion is to incorporate these tips with a STRONG VOICE.
Yes, add it to the list. Thank you.
Thank you. This is very helpful
Sir,
I am perplexed with the art public of speaking. It is quite natural as rain comes from heavens. By going through such stuff it makes me worried. What is to be focused and what not to be focused. The human beings are blessed with power of speech. It is the greatest gift and this makes us most intelligent. Why do we make simple things complicated by giving lables such as verbal, nonverbal, kinesthetic, auditory, visual, the more we give priority to these things the core will be missing.
How does he speaks whether he is leaning, standing towards 45° or 60°. It is the listener's choice what he wants to listen ,he listens to it. He also understands what is not being spoken. It is the absolute choice of speaker/ listener.
Do we learn typewriting by reading the mannual? Do we learn swimming by reading a book? Did we listened to our parents after completing the certificate courses?
It is just natural. In this vast world, everything is ready except man.
It is not intended to hurt or criticise anyone's sentiments. I just thought of write something.
When we understand the history, we can come to know the natural and latent abilities of the greatest speakers the world such as Swami Vivekananda, Martin Luther King, Winston Churchill, Hitler, etc.,
Did they possess any master degrees from reputed universities?
No, the need is the drive. It makes all the difference.
I once again thank you very much everyone who pays their valuable time to read.
Thank you.
D. Rama Murthy
Telangana
India
I thank you very much for your videos.
As a student whose currently studying communication skills this channel is a big help. I usually use your videos to help me when I'm presenting.
Thank you
That's great to hear, The Eternal. Thanks for mentioning that. I appreciate it.
@@alexanderlyon It's a pleasure coach
Great advice I like the point where you say STAY LOOKING AT THE NEXT SPEAKER ...ie hold your own.I usually squirm and put my head down back to shyness being glad its over but leaving a defeated impression.
Thanks 😊
Thanks for sharing, Dorothy. I hear you. I've seen many communicators look down like that after they speak. It's a challenge and takes practice like anything else.
Thanks Alex, this is helpful. I always have a lot to say but everything disappears while in the meeting.
I love the way you coach. Tip #5 is my favorite.
Sir I m following you since half of the year. It has been highly yielding for me. The three posture you elaborate here, in my opinion those will be much helpful before starting conversation. ❤️🙏👌
I am glad it has been helpful for you!
WoW just what I need to work on.
Many of us are out of social practice!
Your work is helping me in my communication.
I often wait too long and I burst!
Thanks You so much.
I have learned about you from Lisa; my best teacher.
The seven tips are very useful; I will use them and I don't sit back.
Merci beaucoup.
Thanks so much for the tips - all so useful & effective. Now that many of us work from home & meet virtually by webex over the phone, is it possible for you to provide tips specific to such arrangement? Also, very often there are people who talk forever non-stop in the meeting, are there any tips to deal with it? Thanks a million!
This was excellent! Thank you! Wonder how to translate some of these when in virtual meetings!
As always, Thank you Alex!
My pleasure, Krishna K.
I came here after watching Lisa's video. These are super useful tips. I have been having all these problems. Will practice them. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful, Sanjukta. Lisa is awesome.
Wow! This just came across my radar!! These vids are fantastic! I have a speakers bureau and I can’t wait to share these with my speakers!! Amazing!! These are fantastic for non-speakers also!! Thank you for doing these for the world!
Glad you like them, peggi. Thanks for you encouragement. I appreciate it.
Thankyou great tips, most valuable to me was the last one. Recent knowledge also states start with the positive follow with the don't so I wonder if your written tips would have more impact if they were written 1. lean in, don't lean back.
What an amazing content! Thankyou Sir.. I do many of the tips u shared naturally.. But learnt many more. Thankyou a tonn🥰
I appreciate all of your clips and look forward to seeing you more. Thank you 🙏
Oh, thank you Alex for the advice. Great points and thoughtfully presented.
You know the sad thing... Everyone from ages 13-45 need this channel but everyone from 13-35 are looking up videos of: people slapping each other, stupid relationship pranks, or how to destroy your credit. Keep up the good work sir! I've sent a ton of your videos to friends who having group speaking problems
I hear you. But, we're reaching more people every month. Thank you for sharing the videos, by the way. I appreciate it.
Not leaning back and keeping eye contact was the best tips for me. It’s still a bit uncofmfortable for me but I did not know I was sending low status signals, I don’t want to do that. I also thought that leaning back made me look more relaxed.
Does this apply for more informal gatherings as well? Thank you coach!
Thanks for sharing, Adam. In an informal environment, the mood is more relaxed and you will likely not have as much trouble speaking up. If it were me, I'd look around and see how others are holding themselves and make a judgement about how to adapt.
Excellent tips. "Make your point clearly and concisely" is something that I need to practice for better improvement.
Glad it was helpful!
The leaning in tip was my favorite. I’m an extremely relaxed guy, not a lot of bothers me, so my posture resembles that. I’m gonna practice leaning in. Do you think it’s effective if you were talking with friends? Both sitting and standing?
Yes, for sitting or standing. If you're standing, then be sure you can make eye contact with every person in the group. Position yourself so you can see everybody and everybody can see you with searching. I'd say the same goes for friends in a group situation. Otherwise, it can seem like a comment is coming out of nowhere. By the way, I'm pretty relaxed too and my tendency is to want to lean back. So, I know how that feels.
@@alexanderlyon thank you! I practiced this yesterday with some friends. I felt more engaged in the conversation, received more eye contact, and I could sense more people wanted me to speak! Thanks for the vids
Thanks for the report, Jon. I'm glad it went well.
You are an inspiring speaker I’ve come across in long time ❤
I saw your interview with teacher lisa and liked it . It was amazing, so I come here to learn more about communication and improve my skills about it.i did it , thanks this video was useful.
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for coming and watching this one, Hanon.
Thanks for a valuable input. What is your thought on dealing with people that steal ideas in meetings and make it their own, especially those that are senior.
Alex you are just amazing thank you Lisa for recommending me to Alex's channel
Hey, thank you. Nice to meet you!
Great tips! You are a great example of confidence speaker!
I am here from AccurateEnglish. Hope to learn from your content for my study and career. Bless you, Dr!
Welcome, Ali. Nice to meet you. Lisa from Accurate English is fantastic.
@@alexanderlyon Nice to meet you, too.
These are some fantastic tips, thank you SO much!!!
The one tip that help me most is don't lean back. I used to do that but I will adjust now.
All the tips helped. Thank you.
Happy to help, Rita. Thank you for your comment.
New subscriber here. Your channel is really informative. I'm not necessarily in the public speaking eye but these tips sound useful in everyday conversation and I would love to feel more confident while having small talk with a stranger. Thanks for the content 😊
Thank you for this video, I sometimes get a little unsettled whenever I speak in a new group.
Huge thank you! Such a powerful video to watch!
Glad it was helpful. Thank you for your encouragement.
I really need these tips at work. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much... Very helpful...
You are welcome, Talents Time. Glad it was helpful.
Can you do another video on communication tips over Zoom or video conference?
It's a good idea and a lot of people have asked but I probably won't do videos about Zoom. There are so many out there on that from other channels right now and I don't have an anything special to say about it at this point. If I come up with something a little unique to say, I might reconsider.
Thank you sir! Much love ❤
Wow, this is really refreshing and actually helpful. You don’t waste words or time. I hate to overuse the word “crisp” but your videos capture this perfectly.
I'm glad you think so, Moki. My personal rule when speaking is to make sure each sentence adds value. I do my best not to simply repeat what I've already said. I'm glad you noticed!
I loved this, I enjoyed the way you added those actions behind for emphasis. It helps understand when you actually see the gesture of what you are being taught or what not to do or do. Excellent and thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it, Pauline.
Respected ALEX sir, you sound so perfect. I like the way you present things. you kind of motivate me to learn many things. extremely wonderful. I love to watch your many videos. thank you, Sir.
So nice of you, Moideen.
It helps to be genuine.
Some great tips you shared here. Valuable suggestion and I just need to implement these tips in my virtual meeting and in person meeting. I am glad I found your channel.
Thank you for sharing this video!
Smile at others. It relaxes you and others will
enjoy being around you and listening to you.
Thank you Alexander this was helpful.
I just realized that ive been sending these weak nonverbal cues my whole life lol. Thank you so much that was very helpful
Glad it was helpful!
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Thank you
Thank you Alex for this wonderful video. 🙏
Glad you enjoyed it!
Excellent and powerful tools here, Alex. Thank you for sharing. Q: What's your take on some of the "alpha posturing" that's usually stressed in context of tips like these? I have mixed thoughts about it.
I Would like like to Add on a Point.
I have Observed That If we break the flow of conversation. People find it difficult to Follow up.
So I think that We Add on a Point Like Continue the Thing going and then Add our point Quoting that it's Our point
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"Very Nice!"
Thank you for this, it's a big help!
Thanks, Gustavo. Happy to help.
Thanks for the very valuable video info you shared Alex...!
My pleasure, Lucy. I'm encouraged that you found it to be valuable.
All the tips are great, so far.
Fantastic, thank you very much....i subscribed immediately
Very helpful! Thank you!
Super helpful Alex! Thank you!
Glad you liked it, Erik. Thank you.
Love the nonverbal tips! Thanks!
Thanku, this help me alot.
I'm beyond grateful for making or creating such an amazing video content 😀 I'm really benefiting a lot from them, I must admit though, i was that kind of person who made all the donts before I came across your lovely channel, I learnt a lot from you and still learning actually , thank very much again 🙂
Wonderful! Great to have you aboard, Sabrina.
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Thanks for the concrete suggestions!
Thanks a lot it’s very helpful!
I found out about your channels through accurate English.
Glad to hear that, Princess!
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Glad you think so. Thank you.
I like the way you teach us thank you so much😊
Actually during our zoom meeting it’s disrespectful to speak without asking the host for permission or raising your hand. That’s one of the rules and etiquette in our zoom meeting. So maybe it depends on the kind of speaking engagement you are in.
Yes, these tips are for face-to-face meetings. Turn taking on Zoom is a different situation.
Zoom is a different context.
Very useful tips. Thank you
Thanks for sharing this useful content!
Outstanding. Thank you very much sir.
Thank you for the positive feedback. I appreciate it.
Came here through Lisa, love your channel, wonderful!
Welcome, Cindy. Happy to have you here. Lisa is great.
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Learning in practice designs public speaking
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Thank you, Hanah. :-)
Very concise and helpful. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Could you explain the same context for virtual meetings please? This is a challenge currently everyone facing!
Good suggestion but I don't have a video on that. I don't think I'll make one either. Video calls and meetings is not an area I'll likely expand into. There are now tons of channels and videos about that out there on that subject at this point.
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Excellent presentation!
Glad you liked it, Arthur.
Followed you from AccurateEnglish with Lisa, Thanks for the tips.
Welcome! Lisa is great.
Eye contact is hard...short precise..I will have to work on this...
You are a good teacher
Thank you!
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Very helpful.
If you have good energy in body automaticly confidence is born
i think the first one is very helpful i always sit back to avoid eye contact with leaders
I liked" only wait for a small pause" 😉😚😃
All these tips are helpful! 🙂
Nice tips sir! Watching from the Ph.
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Very good video! Tip #6 was the most helpful for me.
My own tip would be to tell the group how many points you’re about to speak on right before you start (remembering to keep everything concise), even if it’s just one.
This will give the listeners a sense for the length of your sharing and where they are in it at any given time.
It will also give you the ability to pause in between each sentence and each point for emphasis.
Based on what I’ve seen, if I make a pause in between setences or points without having told the group how many points I plan to speak on, someone would think I’m done and start talking.
Without this tip, the only pauses I’d be able to make would be the more obvious ones (pauses in between thoughts that are part of the same sentence). Meanwhile, each sentence and point would have to be shared consecutively with no room for emphasis.
The weakness to my tip is that you’d have to limit your sharing on the last point to just one sentence.
What do you think, Alex?
I think it's a good idea to sometimes say "I have two points" but you can certainly pause between ideas even if you have not given signposts like that. There are plenty of other nonverbal ways to signal that you're not yet done with your talking turn. In general, however, it's best to practice sharing points very concisely rather than taking extended talking turns.
@@alexanderlyon Interesting. Didn’t think about it that way. Thanks.
good...thanks