I genuinely just cannot be myself in front of people a lot of the time. I don’t even know who I am. I always get this anxious feeling and I can’t be myself no matter how hard I try.
@@rudalph529 I was in the same boat man, some days are better than others. Since I’ve posted this comment it’s gotten significantly better. You’ve got this dude 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I always come back to this video to remind myself that i just have to be. I am actually a kind person, naturally, but I always worry about being a certain way. I always think i should be in some specific way to be accepted by others. Your video is actually the only advice i take for calming myself and reducing drastically my social anxiety. Thank you! This video helps me so much and it made my life so much better🫶🏻 I hope i will have the courage to always choose to be myself, because when i know i just have to be, i feel so much better, always.
I’m gay. 18 years and haven’t told a soul. I thought I was just hiding who I like but I’ve hiding everything about myself even from myself, “best friends”, and family. Working on becoming a person
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not JUST you are FINE The world Needs You Because There is Only One You And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do LOVE from Cappadocia!
We have no "true self". We are multiple. The key to happiness is to remove the fear about expressing these innumerable other personalities inside you. You must endeavour to become a so-called "dice person", an idea propounded in the novel The Dice Man.
*Brother, freaking loved this topic. The one that u were talking about the conceptual self that is where a lot of people are falling into whereas the real you is actually the mere awareness* 🙏
Thank you so much. I haven't felt understood in a very long time. Thanks to this video I feel enormously reassured. You're an amazing youtuber and I'll be forever grateful of this moment.
Thank you, thank you. I need it to land. Especially the past about forgiving myself. Accepting my current life situation. This is a video I'm going to go back to often, because I need to remind myself often that I don't live in order to fulfill other people's expectations or imaginations about me.
God bless you man, this information is so so insightful, I love working on myself and this video made me realize the negative belief systems that stems my social anxiety
I am the person who automatically please other people by letting them talk about themselves and ask about them. And that results in me not knowing much about myself. I have been doing this for almost 3 years. I just realize this just couple months ago.
I appreciate your perspective - being one's self is what life is all about! I actually define who I am in the last video on my channel - I encourage everyone to do something similar: Define WHO YOU ARE, and then stay committed to stay true to yourself no matter what.
Thank you so so so much. This video provoked a whole transformation in me so quickly and strongly. I feel so much better know and you speak very clearly and mindfully which is so beautiful and easy to understand. Thank you thank you ❤❤❤
i think i have this issue on a severe level. this problem happens when im at my college around my colleagues, i get these very strong feelings because of certain ideas that pop up in my head and sometimes the feelings and anxiety get so strong that i start puking and stop eating for hours... i actually need help.
What if im mirroring myself in others qualities and building Them up in order to have a mask that people Will see as perfect but in the end it never gives me room to live but i cant change it because i developed the thinking patteren growing up because i was lonely?
How do you recommend getting myself out of this type of situationgetting so uncomfortable mentally that I won’t connect or be undertood: my body stiffens and then I over focus on my shoulder being raised my back curving in too much me over accentuating my posture. It’s here that the thoughts of “ oh no, people are going to realize I’m uncomfortable “ set in. Then I literally get cotton mouth as soon as I’m asked anything. I respond to things as if I’m being interrogated. Not on purpose I just want to come off acceptable in my delivery. I just want to be understood, accepted and then Left alone to enjoy others company as a friendly bystander.
Seek to understand where the fear of not being understood comes from. When did that pattern start, and why? You may see it's on behalf of an old situation where you felt the need to protect yourself, and that it doesn't serve you now. Feel the feelings that these situations trigger to allow them, along with the old character/pattern to dissolve within you. Obviously that's a massive oversimplification but hopefully that'll give you a clue.
for me I cannot keep a conversation going I say very basic sentences like hi, bye, what are you doing, how feeling, how you doing ,cool and then I am on my way
Be genuinely interested and listen. Quote: "someone interested would make more friends in 2 months than someone trying to be interesting would in 2 years"
Thankyou for this you have rlly good advice. I was hope I g if you could help me with this. I think I just overthink to much and I’ll keep on telling myself that what ever comes to you will come for example Chatting with someone. Since I have been though so much anxiety I am quiet but not all the time I don’t like awkward silences. I keep on hearing that it is okay to have silences when talking but I find it awkward. I am happy I am still alive and I can only do my best! Thanks again have a great day/night ☺️
What if being yourself doesn't work? If I were to talk to people like my default self I would probably bore a lot of people lol especially girls. I have caught myself numerous times saying stupid things in the past to sound funny or flirty but I feel like doing that has gotten me better results than "being myself".
I want to feel free to be me. But, its not easy. How can I be myself around Men that I like. Sounds like me. Thoughts become things. I feel I have to be a certain way to be liked. I feel I need to be that way around anyone. That's me. I don't go outside sometimes. Cause there is too many people around. If the man I like is around a lot of people. He sees me. But, I will turn around and go in. lol. I kind of feel like I'm in the way. So I go in. I'm that shy.
Somehow i dont think you are even yourself in this video. So dont get me wrong how can u help someone be themselves when you cant even be yourself making a video
I genuinely just cannot be myself in front of people a lot of the time. I don’t even know who I am. I always get this anxious feeling and I can’t be myself no matter how hard I try.
real
Keep working on it. Don't give up on who you really are.
I can only be myself at home
@@thelastdon6562 thank you so much for this, it’s genuinely gotten so much easier. Just takes some time and effort as you said 💞
@@rudalph529 I was in the same boat man, some days are better than others. Since I’ve posted this comment it’s gotten significantly better. You’ve got this dude 🫶🏻🫶🏻
This is the biggest issue I have with my life. For years. Thanks :)
No problem Ben
I know how it is, sadly.
How are you getting on?
I keep on changing myself for other people
Don't change yourself for other people. Change yourself for you. What makes you happy
I always come back to this video to remind myself that i just have to be. I am actually a kind person, naturally, but I always worry about being a certain way. I always think i should be in some specific way to be accepted by others. Your video is actually the only advice i take for calming myself and reducing drastically my social anxiety. Thank you! This video helps me so much and it made my life so much better🫶🏻 I hope i will have the courage to always choose to be myself, because when i know i just have to be, i feel so much better, always.
I’m gay. 18 years and haven’t told a soul. I thought I was just hiding who I like but I’ve hiding everything about myself even from myself, “best friends”, and family. Working on becoming a person
Good luck :) Take your time ❤
The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable
The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine
You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not
JUST you are FINE
The world Needs You
Because There is Only One You
And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do
LOVE from Cappadocia!
Love it!
We have no "true self". We are multiple. The key to happiness is to remove the fear about expressing these innumerable other personalities inside you. You must endeavour to become a so-called "dice person", an idea propounded in the novel The Dice Man.
2 likes underrated comment and no replies lemme fix that
This video should have 6 million views instead of 6k. Thank you so much. Want you should opened my eyes and bring back the old me
*Brother, freaking loved this topic. The one that u were talking about the conceptual self that is where a lot of people are falling into whereas the real you is actually the mere awareness* 🙏
Thank you so much. I haven't felt understood in a very long time. Thanks to this video I feel enormously reassured. You're an amazing youtuber and I'll be forever grateful of this moment.
Thank you, thank you. I need it to land. Especially the past about forgiving myself. Accepting my current life situation. This is a video I'm going to go back to often, because I need to remind myself often that I don't live in order to fulfill other people's expectations or imaginations about me.
Thank for helping me be myself wherever I am God bless you my dear
I won't go on searching for other video this is it thanks man really appreciate it
God bless you man, this information is so so insightful, I love working on myself and this video made me realize the negative belief systems that stems my social anxiety
I am the person who automatically please other people by letting them talk about themselves and ask about them. And that results in me not knowing much about myself. I have been doing this for almost 3 years. I just realize this just couple months ago.
Being yourself is a continual process of being someone else.
- pursuit of wonder
Thank you.
Last time i went out to socialize was at a coffee chat with strangers. I became so anxious I vomited. I managed to make it about half way through.
I like your content. This one’s a gem. Keep it going!
Glad you like it! I will keep going haha!
I appreciate your perspective - being one's self is what life is all about! I actually define who I am in the last video on my channel - I encourage everyone to do something similar: Define WHO YOU ARE, and then stay committed to stay true to yourself no matter what.
That’s not being you though isint that saying what you think you are and trying to be that.
If your truly being yourself shouldent you not have to try?
Thank you so so so much. This video provoked a whole transformation in me so quickly and strongly. I feel so much better know and you speak very clearly and mindfully which is so beautiful and easy to understand. Thank you thank you ❤❤❤
So glad to hear this!
❤don’t try to be someone else is my mindset now thanks
Living my life with other peoples opinions;thanks for the vid
What a technical information deliverer.
Alex you are superb!
Namaste 🙏
Thank you!
Thank you :)
i think i have this issue on a severe level. this problem happens when im at my college around my colleagues, i get these very strong feelings because of certain ideas that pop up in my head and sometimes the feelings and anxiety get so strong that i start puking and stop eating for hours... i actually need help.
❤ EPIC VIDEO ❤
I feel like this is related to a dysregulated nervous system and being in shut down mode. Somatic excercises can help with that.
This is actually so good! Thank you so much
Appreciate you!
Alex i appreciate your work on this video, awesome. But i hope you make more about around this topic again sooner or later
This is really great advice, thanks Alex!
What if im mirroring myself in others qualities and building Them up in order to have a mask that people Will see as perfect but in the end it never gives me room to live but i cant change it because i developed the thinking patteren growing up because i was lonely?
Thank you.. just thanks.
Madd underrated fam🔥☄
Appreciation fam 🔥
How do you recommend getting myself out of this type of situationgetting so uncomfortable mentally that I won’t connect or be undertood:
my body stiffens and then I over focus on my shoulder being raised my back curving in too much me over accentuating my posture. It’s here that the thoughts of “ oh no, people are going to realize I’m uncomfortable “ set in. Then I literally get cotton mouth as soon as I’m asked anything. I respond to things as if I’m being interrogated. Not on purpose I just want to come off acceptable in my delivery. I just want to be understood, accepted and then Left alone to enjoy others company as a friendly bystander.
Seek to understand where the fear of not being understood comes from. When did that pattern start, and why? You may see it's on behalf of an old situation where you felt the need to protect yourself, and that it doesn't serve you now. Feel the feelings that these situations trigger to allow them, along with the old character/pattern to dissolve within you. Obviously that's a massive oversimplification but hopefully that'll give you a clue.
Your hair looks cool man
Thank you Sir.
That was really good. Thank you.
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for me I cannot keep a conversation going I say very basic sentences like hi, bye, what are you doing, how feeling, how you doing ,cool and then I am on my way
Be genuinely interested and listen.
Quote: "someone interested would make more friends in 2 months than someone trying to be interesting would in 2 years"
thankyou !! very sound advice
Thankyou for this you have rlly good advice. I was hope I g if you could help me with this. I think I just overthink to much and I’ll keep on telling myself that what ever comes to you will come for example Chatting with someone. Since I have been though so much anxiety I am quiet but not all the time I don’t like awkward silences. I keep on hearing that it is okay to have silences when talking but I find it awkward. I am happy I am still alive and I can only do my best! Thanks again have a great day/night ☺️
Nice topic, loved the video 🙏
I struggle with this
But you're educating yourself on it which is the first step!
You just earned a sub
Thank you so much Iloveyou po! 🥺❤️
Alex shailer u r damn good ❤❤❤
Can I get s heart 😊
So accurate
What if being yourself doesn't work? If I were to talk to people like my default self I would probably bore a lot of people lol especially girls. I have caught myself numerous times saying stupid things in the past to sound funny or flirty but I feel like doing that has gotten me better results than "being myself".
I want to feel free to be me. But, its not easy. How can I be myself around Men that I like. Sounds like me. Thoughts become things. I feel I have to be a certain way to be liked. I feel I need to be that way around anyone. That's me. I don't go outside sometimes. Cause there is too many people around. If the man I like is around a lot of people. He sees me. But, I will turn around and go in. lol. I kind of feel like I'm in the way. So I go in. I'm that shy.
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I am listening
Where do you stand on Rogers’ ‘conditions of worth’ stuff? Huge crossover with what you’re talking about here and generally:)
Thank you 🙏
I have adhd and have to take Ritalin to help with it, but I don’t know how to be my true self.
I try and be myself but they just don’t match me
Then wait until your connections re-align. Leave space open for new people to flow in. Go out to different places.
wow i really like you
First!!
yo yo yoo what is uup
Suuup
sup
Does this have anything to do with Autism?
No don't thinks so..
Bro…. What are u talking about.. I do not understand nothing u is saying bro
I don't want to take this kind of advice from someone clearly acting like he's on a documentary on the giza pyramids
Fair point! I'll make sure I'm presenting The Great Wall of China next time! ;)
Somehow i dont think you are even yourself in this video.
So dont get me wrong how can u help someone be themselves when you cant even be yourself making a video
Then don't listen to me. Move on to someone you believe 😂
It helps brother!🫂 Keep on posting that good stuff