Why can't I express myself?
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Struggling with expressing yourself authentically? Here are some ways that you improve the way you express yourself and become more authentic in the way you communicate with other people.
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@@JustmeSEVEN happy to help!
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it feels kinda good to know that i’m not the only one who is going through this. i’ve felt like this almost my whole life. i believe in whoever is reading this and is struggling with this too. i know you got this! you can break free and be happy!
Thanks, I wish the same for you.
Thanks same for you
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Did u overcome from it rn?
@@iftekharkabir4844 i wouldn’t say that i completely overcame it, but i’m definitely doing better right now. i started to say what’s on my mind more often and it helped me make new friends and feel more free. i also started taking new opportunities and kinda got out of my habit of avoiding everything. on some days i still feel hopeless and like i’m never gonna fully overcome it, but when i compare my current self with me, when i wrote that comment 1 year ago, i clearly see the progress. it was hard at first to initiate a change but once i did, it got easier and easier :) it takes some courage to open your mouth despite all of your worries..but it’s so much better to just say it than to regret it later!
Be okay with people not liking you
Don't be so hard on your self
Act like there is no judgements
I hate acting
@@molefimokoaleli2962 be what makes you happy, even if it means acting
My 'problem' is not that I feel bad other's don't understand me or im scared of them, It is that I feel trapped. I cannot adequate express my the many thoughts and ideas in my head. I know what I want to say but lack the right vocabulary
Throughout my whole life I felt behind of people my age because of my inability to express myself clearly or deliver a good speech or just plainly communicate my thoughts. I recently realised how this is linked to my unwillingness to engage with other people. I have always tried to avoid interacting with people as much as I could. I was just so determined not to let anyone get any close to me.. So as it is the case with anything else, the more you practice something the better you get at it. I'm now realising that if I truly want to overcome this issue then I really need to go out there and meet with people and work on my communication skills. I don't think there is another way or a magic wand to help you fix this, so..
I will try to make this. Thank you. Everytime I give a speech I always end up choking, or forgetting or even at times committing grammatical error. I don’t know how to deal with it until now. I hope your comment would somehow help me a lot.
Yes exactly I was soo talkative but I'm perfectionist too, I didn't like alot of people so I always avoided any deeper connection but I forgot that everyone does mistakes and if I looked for a faultless friend, I will remain friendless. What you said in the above comment is true, it is only way out of this situation.
Wow!!! I feel like I’ve just found the missing piece to this whole puzzle 🧩 that I’ve been battling with my whole life. I guess I need open up my heart and learn to engage with others more often. Makes so much sense.
I feel like Ive spent most of my life trying to escape ppl who's attitudes/behaviour cause me to avoid free expression, only to have them accuse me of being antisocial.
I've come to find that them pushing us away means that energetically we aren't aligning anyway if they're the kind of person who judges people so good riddance
@@danchie7966 do it and do it well
I feel the same way.
I have a presentation in two and I'm just so confused
Me too
It’s like ur talking about me. Every little thing I do I feel like im being judged even when no one is around. I feel ashamed of simple things like dancing when I’m alone. I’m feel like someone is always watching and ready to judge. Even when I take step outside my door I feel that the whole fucking neighborhood is judging me. Sometimes I agree to shit I don’t even want to do which might be the result of the masking you’re talking about. makes me more pissed at myself for caring this much.
wow I thought I was the only one that felt like this, but now I see we are all in this together
Same here, and i don't know how to fight it anymore.
This is me, I feel you.
I hope you know that you were meant to physically express your being. Your soul came here to experience and also authentically express itself. Express who you are because You may not have another chance to be here again. It is your purpose to be authentic. Why? You can change the world and inspire others for your authenticity. This is how your soul always express itself!
@@carleighrice8891 what if they don't like me? For example maybe i am too cold or too boring i'm afraid everyone wouldn't like me and won't try to talk to me again
its so hard for me. i’ve always kept my feelings to myself
I’ve never heard someone explain the cycle better EVER. I have such a difficult time expressing myself fully and it makes me so depressed everytime I have these situations where I bite my tongue and hold emotions in.
I`ve been stuck in my head for almost a year i dunno how i survived this long, i wanna express my self i just dont have the right words for it maybe i need to expand my vocabulary maybe i dumb i dunno the 2nd option sounds more realistic
You don't have a low vocabulary. The words just don't come up to mind. You should write down the words you forget often on paper and repeat them. This way, the word is always available.
I relate
I can also relate I think I’ve been doing this to myself my whole life. I realize it more in middle school until now I’m in 11th grade. And I just feel trapped by myself.
I’m feeling exactly like this
For me, im now at the point where i have this other person always watching me. Any single thing i do, i always try to see how that other person sees me from afar. Sometimes i even think of how another person reacts to how this other person sees me. It's really sad. There's no single thing i do in public that i haven't thought about immediately after i do it. It's like a default setting in my brain and i always know im doing it but i cant just help it.
Why can't i just do things and not realize i even did it like a normal person???
The annoying part is knowing i am actually a very free and funny person when I'm alone or with my family. I know people will definitely enjoy me if I just do the things i do alone around them. But i just cant seem to do it.
Another thing is when I've been with certain people for a while and they already know how my "false" personality is, its hard to just decide to change and be my true self because they'll feel ita fake.
I really needed this so badly . This is a huge fear…. was just arguing and he called me childish cause I can’t express myself ! That’s why I came here ! ❤️❤️ I needed this so badly cause I don’t have anybody to really uplift me like I need it . I’m too old for this ! It’s time to change it !
Hope you’re better now
@@mmarmerc thank you so much love ❤️
@@miaasmama4825 Any advices? I didn’t argue with mine but he thinks it’s better for me if I practice on expressing myself better. I told him that I was sorry if it seemed like I never understand what he says to me.
I've been struggling with this my whole life. Thank you for making this video. Much love from Malaysia :)
I was not able to express myself even I think hundred times before writing a comment on social media. This video really help me to control my overthinking .
When I was really young, I could express myself with no problem, just like every other kid.
People and family told me I talked too much. They would get mad at me for saying what I thought or playing too much or being too loud, etc.
I thought I was being a kid.
Don't remember when it happened, but I became very self-conscious and retreated really far into my shell.
I just kept to myself. All of a sudden, I'm too quiet, I don't express myself enough, "you're acting like a robot."
I just couldn't win. No matter what I did, said, or thought someone would be upset with me.
So I stopped trying all together.
I'm 25 now, and though it's not as bad as it used to be. I still have no idea who the real me is and have no idea how to express myself.
So relatable
I feel this tightness right now, it is crippling. I feel paralyzed with so many thoughts. Its like someone asks me a qn and my mind looks for 1000 ways to answer them, and then when finally i just have to speak, nothing comes out of my mouth. Its like i already provided the answers in my thoughts. Its crazy and i hate it. Mind you I am a manager. I feel trapped!!
i have this exact thing going on right now.. it really does affect everything! so frustrating
I felt relieved after watching this video, because I felt I already found something that I truly need, a someone who explained the importance of being authentic. Its time for me to throw this mask and showed my authentic self.
I was very scared to even write a comment here from my official id
I made this id to just express myself here
Good job
@@cocochanel1493 is that mockery?
Thank you so much this gives me a soothing relief that I can overcome this. Ever since I was a child I lacked the nurturing to be expressive and now it’s telling on my self esteem. Now am aware and working on being better as this is key to my career. We are now in a world where you need be able sell yourself with your mouth or you die poor. Am even more glad that my kids won’t face this cos am aware.
There's something holding me back, resisting, not letting me go, be free.
Iv felt like this for awhile now nothing comes to me when I talk to someone.
Same bro! Like wtfff how are you doing now?
I rly wanna know because I’ve felt this way for like 4 months off and on
Same
Yup.. it sucks wish you the best g
Yea it’s like my brain shuts down when it comes to talking
Thank you for this video it spoke directly to me. I have been suffering with this my entire life and now feels like a mountain to climb now that I'm in adulthood and noticing what is actually happening. Its gotten a bit better but I have chronic episodes where I can't express myself even with my own family and I know people perceive me as an "a hole" sometimes or don't even continue relationships with me and it sucks. Makes me think this is just who I am and that it cannot be fixed. But seeing your video and just observing the world around me gives me some hope it will get better as life goes on. It's like I missed the important experiences as a child that shapes others personalities and now I have no childhood knowledge subconsciously to fall back on and feel almost like a robot when around people.
Wow I relate to this so much
It’s like sometimes I don’t even know who I am at all. When I think about acting without judgement sometimes I just go blank
I’m literally crying reading these comments because I don’t feel like im the only one dealing with this problem anymore. For the first time I actually feel like a real person. I have people that I can genuinely relate to. Thanks to the creator of this video.
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Me too
Ive dealt with this for so long and thanks to your video I think I’m ready to break out of my shell and express myself.
Really happy I could help you do that!
this video doesn’t have enough attention it deserves. this needs to be something everyone should be educated on because ever since i was little i’ve been going through this and i don’t blame my parents for it since i didn’t know how to explain this feeling.
i wish i would have found your channel like ten years ago. Truly thank you
Here I am, expressing myself! Thank you for this video.
I logged on just to comment and say you are amazing. You know exactly what I’m thinking and how I feel. I’m a seminarian in California and just want to say you are doing God’s work. Thank you brotha.
all this advice flies out the window when someone was raised in an environment where it was physically unsafe to speak up your truth. this needs a deeper insight if you truly want to help people. what you say can help people with light or mediocre anxiety. to heavily anxious people this is very shallow.
This needs more recognition
RUclips videos that actually give good advice don't have crazy views
This is so real. I grew in a household where silence is more appreciated than expressing yourself. And maybe that's the reason why my love language is word of affirmation cause I rarely hear anyone from our home expressing love and support though their actions show. But I am breaking this chain, cause I believe that everyone is unique, that life could be more awesome when there is no judgement. Just let it out with a GOOD INTENTION. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I learned a lot! ❤ New subscriber here from Philippines.
hi baby! Im filipina as well and your so right! our culture is made to grow silent people. Growing up, expressing myself only lead to punishment & silence was my way of avoiding it. You made me realize something & for that im greatful. Its been a year since I started my journey & believe me your drive to change for the better WILL make it better
I needed this video!!! Thank you so much! I couldn't understand why I was so unable to just express myself and sometimes I even just stopped talking mid-sentence because I was scared of hurting someone if I opened my mouth and said the truth. I was thinking that maybe I was dumber than others or that I had a mental illness but never linked it to my tendency to overthink every word coming out of my mouth just so people would like me and not get hurt. Thanks! I'm guessing it'll take some time to put into place but the processus is started! God bless!
When the case is one to one i become quite very open , but when its 4 or more people i automatically tend to speak less and Sometimes tend to listen less when there are more people. Its just like not so interested in too many people hearing you. But from now on i will change myself. Thanks for this powerful video.
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he speaking so true, didn’t know this video could even help this much but thank you!!
Man, the way you present this, the simplicity yet clear accuracy is just so fluent and graceful... Thank you
14:00 most important parts for me starts now
thank u ❤
Thank you so much. Best of luck to everyone who's in the same journey.
Bro you talking to me, I am one of the most talented shoe makers out here, my craft is real, but I fail to sell because my confidence is deeply compromised ever since some childhood traumas that I have never managed to deal with. But listening to you makes a difference. Thanks again for a courage.
My social anxiety has worsened due to me being blindly putting myself out there in a vulnerable state only for them to cast me out and humiliate me..
I've tried being friendly COUNTLESS TIMES and yet I received dog 💩so I gave up on trying to make friends or socialize in general because I know I KNOW that they're just going to speak bad again and again and AGAIN!
I would never cast you out if I met you. People often suck. Sorry, Jery 🤍🖤✨
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I feel like you’re speaking to me right now I just started taking zoloft to help with my anxiety 😩🙏🏾
Hope it gets much better for you! Here to help and glad you enjoyed the video 😄
Thank you so much, this video definitely help, you had me in tears the whole video. I took everything to heart and I know what I have to do. I am stuck in fear of perception of other but I need to free myself from that judgment.
This is the beat video I've watched so far
I feel like you destroyed my anxiety fully thx ❤thanks thanks unlimited thanks friend
I finally found it!!! Rafael, I saw your playlist about personal development and I'm in desperate need of it right now. As a result, the channel is a hidden gem.💎❤️
Omg thank you so much for making this video, I have never felt this understood before and this actually helped a lot, I’ve been struggling with this all my life, you explained everything so clearly and well 🙌✨
the problem with expressing myself is that it doesn't come out the right way and I mainly get misunderstood but I'm working on improving that
You are a Godsend. Thank you.
My takeaways from this vid.
✨"Once this happened, then I can finally be able to... " - this is so relatable to me. I always say this as an excuse whenever I plan on smth.
✨"Just Do it anyway.
No excuses. No reasons for y u can't do it. Just reasons for y u should do it. "
✨*Holding back myself to be authentic. -- I often hold back what I really wanted to say bc I always think of what others might think of it or smth like this.
✨Think long term.
I just want to clarify that I’m not alone with what I’m going threw feelings wise i finally got my assignments done and this is where I’m going to go every day and express myself because it makes me feel better I’ve not been found with depression but i can feel it going threw my blood I’m a happy teen on the outside but sad on the inside my thoughts is what’s keeping me alive my family is keeping me alive without them I’d probably be dead.
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It’s like I’m wearing Armour when I’m in a Social Place.
I want more Experiences but can’t seem to get it.
I want to express myself and have everyone relish my Positive Energy but I can’t even talk easily.
"Mental faculties bussy trying to understand that shit"........precisely....thank you for expressing it!!!! I´m ready to let go........yeahhhh, thank you!!!!!!
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That's me afraid how others will judge me. I do think my way out of it. I Look how someone else is perceiving me. Some may not like you and be okay with it.
Hey man, thank you so much for what you’re doing. I’ve been stuck for so long and wasn’t able to find the right answers. Thank you so much. Keep doing what you’re doing. You going to reach whatever you want to reach. 👌
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Thank you..
I thank God I found this old video. I tried to speak to the camera today and it was disastrous.
Thank you for this video. Just what I needed. I’m right there. I’m ready to be my authentic self I have been so scared for so long about what others will think or if they will leave but I’m willing.
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I have very hard relationships with one person. I know how to express myself and with all other people I have good relationships. The problem is that this particular person always shouts on me every time I say something. So basically I need to keep silent all the time. And I feel very bed because I cannot say anything ...
This particular situation doesn’t sound too good if they’re shouting at you that would mean you’re not allowed to express your feelings and that’s kinda concerning 😔🙏🏾
Hi Rafael, I just listened to your video and then I called someone to tell them my truth. Thank you for the inspiration to get courageous! ♥️
Thank you🙏. This was a great video, its just that it made clear those confusing thoughts in my mind that kept me holding me back. I guess it's all about accepting ourselves as we are and stop judging ourselves too much, as if we weren't humans who have flaws, and make mistakes like other people, everyone is strange in some way, trying to make others think we are perfect is an impossible pursue. Also what I've noticed its the more I express myself the more the fuzzyness in my head that makes communication harder dissapears, and the more I can express myself in a fluid and natural way, it's a repetitive process that goes on, and that leads to becoming our true selves💪.
This video is really helpful.
Last week was appraisal week and got a whooping 90% but the only comment that my boss gave that denied me of the other 10% was not being able to articulate my thoughts well enough. I noticed during scrum meetings my update is always the shortest lol. Now I’m aware of the problem and doing everything possible to overcome it. Thank you
Thank you so much for your help. Keep making more videos like this one, I like the way you talk, you helped me understand what’s wrong with me.
In my case, I am 2 years older than my classmates and due to this I had to behave like them. There childish conversation don't interest me but I forcefully talk to them. In this process I lost myself. I always try to normalize the conversation no matter how important it can be. Due to other reasons I stopped getting angry, sad and not even able to cry. This isn't easy I want myself back.
I know i’m a little late to this video but i really appreciate this because u described my situation perfectly and i thank you so much
So simple and straight to the point. Thank you 💞
So glad you enjoyed it 😄
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Bravo. How you spoke to your audience with so much care, joined with the music in the background made me feel so comfortable and ready to try the steps you were talking about in the video. I am almost 25 and have struggled with social anxiety and not being able to express my true self all my life and I pray that everyone who has this problem would break free and let their voice ring. ❤
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Thank bro, this made my day
Stay Hard!!!
Feels good to know that there's constructive solutions out here. Fear of expression like dancing, singing, jokes, ect... has been a huge blockage for me my whole life. Learning to tap into my authentic self
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THANK YOU! THANK YOU SO MUCH. THIS IS CURRENTLY HAPPENING TO ME AND THIS VIDEO WAS A BIG HELP TO ME :>
I do try to express myself but is often comes out awkward and I feel to just not express myself
Be confident in yourself
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Thanks man, this really helped me.
Thank you making this video
Thank you! Im really glad for watching your video! I knew I had this problem, and this video finally taught me how to break free from it.
Thanks for this vedio .I m very sad with myself that I can't answer to anyone even I know the answer .I m very nervous of my attitude.i want to overcome of this.i want to be confident because I know everything and I want to express clearly to people that I m not weak enough.
Thanks for making this video 💐
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İ really thank you Rafael , I relate to it so much and that 's what I needed , I feel you were literally addressing me , I love listening from people that went through same experiences as me ..that was so helpful ..me too actually I struggled a lot with overthinking everything😢.. i still feel it but I am seeking my confort .. doing things that I love and never puting pressure in my self ..caddling my self , accept it , love it , being connected with it in brief being authentic as you pointed out ..I will break my shell ..the world need my energy
I love everyone here in the comment section , happy to find some who share the same feeling with me , I believe in you, you are so valable ❤just keep going never stop ,,never put pressure on yourselves if you don't care about yourselves who wil! l
You have some great energy while you speak Rafael. Loved every bit of the video!
OMG YOUR BOOK! I need your book. I am from Shwetabh Gangwar's yt channel and following you ever since.
But I do want to let you know that your videos are very helpful.. And don't ever ever stop making these amazing videos. Thats it. If you even read that message, I don't want your book, i want to let you know that your videos are having tangible effects on your others lives, thats more important, to make you feel your efforts are being appriciated. Thanks mate again! love ya!
Wow, thank you
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Very nice and inspirational... It was great!
Thanks for encouraging me. I’m a lesbian and I’m scared to express that I’m one cause I think people will make fun of me...
Don't think like that express yourself. I understand u.
Thank you.
😭you really left me speechless,