I’m a middle school science teacher, and the English teacher and I talk about this all the time. The kids are constantly blowing off her class and asking her when they’ll ever use this stuff in life, and we are both baffled that they don’t realize how important it is to be able to communicate. Kids just don’t care until it’s negatively affecting their life. Even getting them to journal about their day and little things like that is like pulling teeth these days. Many will sit and not even try. We try so hard to point out all the things in their life that can go wrong if they don’t put an effort in but it feels so far into the future for them that they aren’t motivated, and they aren’t conscious of themselves enough to notice how it’s already affecting their daily lives.
@@KallieMae Schools mostly focus on written communication (my school at least) and that's just frustrating because I'm a student who genuinely wants to improve his communication skills but I have to go to platforms like this to do that. We can't even rely on schools to teach us about things that matter most. Teachers should be inspiring students to learn essential skills, but instead they focus on teaching kids how to answer the questions correctly so that you can get a good grade on the exam. Yes writing is important but I think we can all agree that learning to articulate your thoughts clearly while speaking is way more important than summarizing a text you'll never see again
Journalling has helped me tremendously with articulating my thoughts. It's essentially self-expression practice. When you take the time to articulate your thoughts and emotions beforehand, you can speak about them confidently later. I highly suggest it to anybody trying to get to know themselves (everybody).
Journaling is great for formulating your thoughts and allowing yourself the space and time to pause and really think about what you want to say and how you want to say. Allowing yourself to be present and focused 💙✨ ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU
Just hope he's not gonna charge a couple hundred dollars for this "lesson" he's releasing... 😩 Seen so many of these youtubers that preach about how they have learned to do something that most people find hard and made it easy only to find out they charge an arm, leg, and the kitchen sink for the summary just to end up telling you something you already know but just can't seem put into motion.
At the end is completely fine, it's like showing the credits of a movie. I'd even be okay if it was in the beginning if there were chapters on the video to skip through it@zombathinlostleghackercat5233
00:00 📚 Understanding Connotation - Connotation refers to the multitude of experiences, emotions, associations, memories, and meanings behind words. - Language doesn't fully capture our 4D thoughts; it's a 1D representation. - Two actions to communicate more connotation: avoiding Blue Sky language and using emotional bridging. 05:07 🖋️ Articulating Your Thoughts - Frustration in articulation often occurs when we have a clear thought but struggle with the verbal expression. - Whisper drafting, a technique from Teddy Roosevelt, helps create rough drafts of sentences before speaking. - Requesting more time to think before responding can improve clarity. 08:02 💡 Cognitive Priming for Precision - Cognitive priming is a technique to make your speech more intentional and precise. - It breaks the automated back-and-forth of conversations and keeps both parties engaged. - Accountability for your words increases, leading to more careful and thoughtful speech.
this!! whenever I sense my words and thoughts are getting disconnected, I take a few seconds to get everything in order and back on track. it helps a lot on presentations. people might get a little confused at first but they're much less bothered by occasional silence than saying "um" a bunch of times
My problem is that my mind goes blank when trying to articulate my thoughts. I can still picture it, but I end up forgetting even simple words (I know the word I want to use, but it eludes me). And then for some reason, I am unable to pick out a similar word that could sort of describe what I’m trying say. Kind of like an infection spreading throughout my vocabulary.
Im just talking out of my rear here, However; could it be excessive caffeine intake? Im trying a personal test and reducing caffeine to 0 to see if it helps. I listened to a podcast by a doctor relaying that caffeine doesn't even give you energy. It just slaps you with induced stress which makes you become alert
@@MontanaWeatherby I wouldn't think so, unless it's a permanent effect from my younger years. I used to drink tons of sodas and energy drinks. However, now I might have a cup of tea every few days. I've never been a person who has to have their coffee in order to start the day.
@@omamba5105 could it be because you're nervous? Anxiety or any type of unease which can effect your concentration, could cause these "blanks." Without knowing you or these situations it's hard to help. However, as with anything, practice makes perfect, put yourself into those types of situations and work your way out of them... it's a learned skill.
I used to experience this all the time. From childhood through to my mid-thirties."I had the thought, but I lost the word." My relationship to expressing language improved drastically when I started spending more time in my body and using my hands. If you're anything like me, you might find that developing your senses of kinaesthetic awareness and palpation lead to huge improvements in the language centers in your brain.
I’m in process of learning English. My level isn’t as high as l would prefer to express my deep thoughts, but your knowledge helps me grow every time I watch. So, with all gratitude 🙏
When I first met my girlfriend of 4 years, she could barely hold a conversation in English. She is a native Spanish speaker. After 1 year she was speaking proper English better than most native English speakers. Try to start thinking in English, then work out the grammar after you have an idea of what you want to say.
The best way to convey the true depth of your thoughts with words is simple: trial and error on a massive scale. In other words, we talk to each other until we click with each other. It also helps to stop listening to those people who have vested interests in dividing you to propagate wars, for example. Practice makes perfect. Musicians that are skilled enough to flawlessly play the things they hear in their head on an instrument in real time are akin to professional communicators.
My brain is rotten from media and tiktok / dopamine. I can tell that in the past few years I am unable to formulate thought in the same way that I used to.
What i love the most about this video is how little filler there is in it. You jump into the first point in less than 10 seconds which is so nice to see
I recently found out I’m autistic at 40. I love my job but I’m having communication problems. Videos like this will help me and others like me a lot. Thank you.
If u dokt mind how did you find that out ? I’m 25 and I feel like I might me on the spectrum but I don’t really know how exactly to find out or who to go to
@@danielgarcia-gv6cd you can go to a psychologist and ask for an autism assessment test :) I was diagnosed early last year at 19. I would honestly absolutely recommend it if you think you're on the spectrum, because if you are, there is so much to learn about yourself and your way of thinking/perceiving that can clear up a lot
I never had problems with public speaking or explaining others or comforting others but the one thing is that I could never express was my mind and thoughts (in words), if i was in discomfort. I always would be just speechless or tell about my problems in breaks which frustrated me even more .Your video totally understood my problem and thanks for helping me out!!!
Most of the times when I am supposed to express important thoughts I struggle with thinking about the correct words that will engage with the listener emotionally and influence action because there is limited time to process most especially in a group discussion. My favorite gem from this video is the whispering because I feel like it will help me understand my counterparts position in the discussion whilst forming my opinion with in the most accurate wording. Thanks for sharing bro, you are a blessing to this generations oratory community.
Stop thinking of the words and focus on the idea that you are expressing. Let the words flow from this idea. The words will match the idea . Don’t fake it.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 866 subs and > 500 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
It was a great video, thank you. However, I would like to add, we are accountable for the words we say/speak to ourselves too. Our mirror conversations can be a solid foundation for developing confidence, empathy, conversational skills, and personal lexicon. Most importantly, when we talk to ourselves about anything and everything and it’s something we enjoy, want to be good/improve/grow at, and concurrently that helps us prepare for the external world, we learn to be kind to ourselves. And others. Kindness and wit in conversations are indispensable, I believe. And we understand the value of all of it when we begin with ourselves and how we talk to ourselves. 😊
Honestly while this video is pitched for articulation, a lot of this information I also found useful from a storytelling perspective, especially the cognitive priming tip. You've earned a new sub for sure!
For people looking to improve their levels of confidence with speaking in social situations please read this. You don't have to change the way you speak, and you don't have to put conscious thought into it. I personally have lived my life by these steps and what I have found is that now I am overly critical of my thoughts and words. It's not a nice way to think, please only use these tips for public speaking, don't change your personality.
Omg your thumbnail - its incredible. After watching all your videos I’ll be able to proficiently express how impactful sharing your knowledge has been for me … This information is lighting up my soul and igniting so many answers to so many of the questions I have had. In sincere gratitude and adoration. ❤
I've always wanted to intentionally take a journey from where I am now, feeling incompetent with my ability to speak and articulate my thoughts, to a place where I feel confident and capable of doing it. Then document that process and provide that knowledge to others. It looks like you've already started this and I'm so excited to learn more from you!
Youre not just accountable; you exchange ideas. And genuine ideas come from being relaxed. Worrying too much about accountability sounds like a case of trauma. Of which, is just excess tension. Revision, or rather, refinement, is where tension comes in handy. In any case, the written word allows for an expansion of thought. And when you say that people who say "war" automatically know what you mean, that is an assumption. That would only be so if they saw a movie or heard stories. Otherwise, they could just be playing a role in of what war is comprised of. Labels, in that context, only work within a culture.
When I talk to myself in the mirror it’s like I can say everything I’m thinking almost perfectly, it does take a lot of time and thought tho, and I notice I always tend to rush my words for the sake of not wasting other people’s time.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. I know this isn't a immediate solution but if you can pick your words carefully and get your point across effectively...it's a super power! Takes practice but can be learnt.
There’s a Stephen King quote that goes like this: “The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them -- words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they're brought out. But it's more than that, isn't it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”
I mainly clicked on your video because I have seen it (and the other recent video) on my home page and I loved the way you were able to visualize these problems in your thumbnails. Really clever and attention-grabbing. And now that my urge to compliment those thumbnails has brought me here, the content of the video itself has convinced me to subscribe. You are playing the youtube-game well.
Remember the overwhelming sensation you experienced as a child when you were exposed to something novel that ignited a symphony of emotions within you, and forever etching itself into the tapestry of your existence? It is that exact sensation I am feeling this moment.
Hey Joseph, great video, and especially I love how you use LANGUAGE to paint a picture. You also show us pictures that highlight those picture thoughts. Brilliant! I suggest you add to your list of connotative how’s exactly that: rhetorical figures that help people SEE your message. That is: metaphor, analogy and of course, story. On your “frustrated” example: note that the phrase you suggested is exactly what a listener would be thinking as they unpack the meaning, having heard that you were frustrated. Rather than saying it, we can help the listener access the feeling by telling a story that makes them feel it, then they’ll access their own experience which gives meaning to your feeling. They now share it. You glossed over PAUSING but that is actually the number one way to allow listeners to process. Studies show it also gives authority to the speaker. The listener attributes intelligence to a speaker who pauses naturally. Finally, another way to help listeners process is to ask them questions. Then WAIT while they answer the question in their mind. All of this isn’t just “articulating your thought”, it’s ENGAGEMENT. And that my friend is what makes oral communication magical.
That's me. I really don't like talking to people (especially at work), I'm a polite introvert and tend to stay extremely busy so I don't have to talk, needless to say I'm an awesome worker, lol.
What I really enjoyed about this videos was not the good ideas you presented, but the way you were speaking. What I mean is the gaps in your speaking were not removed in post-edit. I really liked that. It gave me more time to think and understand what you were saying along with making this video more natural. Thanks :)
I have great advice to share, too: When you are in a complex conversation you can hit two birds with one stone, when you ask your opposite to define a word (example from the video "define frustrated to me"). Now your opposite will take some time to articulate the thing he/ she wants to say better and you get a bit more time to think of what to say afterwards. And sometimes, if the subject is uncomfortable for you, you may be able to steer the conversation into a completely different direction, with these simple questions. "Can you elaborate" "Can you define to me, what you mean by this"
A few days ago, I stumbled on a video with some killer editing. I loved it so much that I checked the channel name-‘Tsar’-subscribed, and even jotted it down to revisit when I needed some editing inspiration. Fast forward to today, I’m scrolling through my feed, watching another video - this, and I’m like, “Whoa, this edit is seriously cool. I should add this to that doc along with that channel I saved a while back.” By this point, I’d totally forgotten the channel name. So I check, and boom-it’s Tsar again! I’m blown away. Seriously amazing!
I am happy I came across this video. I am very introverted myself, and often feel very misunderstood when I try to explain my thoughts. Often I just accept the misunderstandings because I have no clue on how to make myself clear. This feels very frustrating, as if you're itching but are paralysed. This video feels like a great starting point for me to work on this problem. You've earned a new subscriber.
I find that some people will never be able to understand you as you are, when they themselves have a fixed opinion of who you are. If a person wants to see you a certain way, they will, even if they misinterpret or twist reality to fit their narrative. No matter how articulate you are, you can't reach those who have already decided who they think you are. You'll only be able to change their mind with action, not words. Even then, you may find that there's nothing healthy about trying to control what isn't in your power: if they feel more comfortable thinking of you a certain way then they will, and that's their choice. Your loss, but at no fault of your own. It's important to recognize when you're well said, and just as important to recognize when you simply weren't heard~
One of the best ways to practice thinking about ideas is with a friend. When you and a friend are both trying to better approximate how to express an idea, take their turn at an attempt to revise what they’re saying. You trim off the filler words they use while trying to get there, you encapsulate a string of words into single more descriptive words imbued with meaning. You’re essentially internally editing their speech in real time, so by the time they finish you will return to them what they said in a nicely packaged and distilled form. I know Im successful when I hear an enthusiastic agreement like “EXACTLY”. It’s the mental equivalent of holding someone’s hands through a golf swing, they have the knowledge but lack the coordination to execute the movement.
What you're about to read might be one of the most groundbreaking comments you might ever read. I would advise reading very carefuly, as you might not understand what I'm about to say, or rather, type. But I already got you by saying this, didn't I? 😸Now, but seriously This is fenomenal! As a native english speaker, this is very sharp to embellish my speech synthesis and understanding of conveying emotions to the recipients of my words -and by proxy- feelings and thoughs. I implore anyone reading this to apply the shadow whispering tecniche in any situation where the tongue might shiver, or the words might get stuck behind your teeth. Incredible technics as I afformentioned. Thank you Joseph Tzar for such a fantastic outlook on the language universe. Signed. A humble fan. PS: You might have mispelled the word "Cognitive" at 8:00 It's ok, we all make mistakes! :)
I’ve thinking this to myself on and off for… years. I have to say, I’m glad I came across this video; it just spoke to me, like the cobwebs of my mind were being swept away like a broom. I think I have a gift with my way of words, but have always felt like orally communicating my thoughts was a stumbling block for me. I’ve been considering taking classes for this, and I have to say I’ve just had one now. You have a new subscriber!
I think that the ability to tap into the connotations that we share in a culture is what makes poetry able to convey ideas sometimes that seem much more difficult to convey with prose. It's like if I am talking with my best friend, he knows me better than almost anyone, and so I'm able to convey my ideas MUCH more accurately and with much less explanation than if I was trying to convey an idea that I had to a stranger. I think that poetry allows us to bypass needing to use a bunch of words to try to rigorously DESCRIBE the imagery that's in our heads and is backing the thoughts we're trying to convey, and just convey the imagery to our audience directly, using imagery and emotional language that we generally share widely as a culture.
The training I didn't know I needed. I often shy from conversations of genuine involvement, my mind goes blank and I stick to safe and light small-talk, however, conveying thoughts through my writing is is effortless. Cognitive Priming and the techniques outlined in Emotional Bridging of revision and giving yourself time, will be most useful tools. I'm having dialouge, not in an interrogation, and I can set the pace. Wholeheartedly grateful I found this video, thank you !!
Great video. Articulating thoughts from your mind to others is a valuable skill. It creates a much deeper level of connection, understanding and comfort and a overall much more fulfilling conversations and richer life. I wish this was something that we were taught from a young age
I FOUND IT AND IM SO HAPPY TO SHARE IT!!! My friends…it’s called ✨Verbal Fluency ✨ I prayed about this annoying issue. God led me to a video on it. Our problem is not being able to RETRIEVE the words we ALREADY know when we need it most Cheers!🎉
This was a RUclips recommendation. I am absolutely horrible when it comes to speaking how I am feeling or thinking. At least when it comes to my significant other. With this, I can try to learn to say better what I want to say.
I think it is simple. One should consider it a responsibility to make sure the listener understands us. this then brings the question to the fore: "How can I make him/her/then, understand me?" And if we attempt to answer it sincerely and carefully, it's a good starting point to being articulate. Most people are in a hurry, and are lazy to do this
I didn’t expect this to come across my feed, but glad it did. This will no doubt be useful for me. I’m not a terrible speaker I do work in a position where I have to talk and relate to many flavors of people. Though this will no doubt help me maximize that and also be beneficial for interviews, and also not to mention my own hobbies of writings. If I ever find myself in a position where I gotta make a speech or say something important I’ll be able to convey things better as well. Might rewatch this a few times to really get the ideas engrained. I encourage people to rewatch videos that provide beneficial content like this.
Ironically, I tend to implement these principals pretty naturally, and rather frequently, end up in a position where the listener either doesn't get the correct picture, or has no idea what I'm saying at all. I get the feeling that most people may be receptive exclusively to "blue sky language."
00:00 Share more connotation: Words carry rich associations, emotions, and memories; harnessing these can enhance articulation. 02:55 Avoid "Blue Sky" language: Skip unnecessary explanations, focus on unique details to make thoughts vivid and real. 04:13 Use emotional bridging: Connect with listeners by prompting them to recall similar emotional experiences, aiding better understanding. 05:48 Whisper drafting: Quietly speak thoughts to create a rough draft before verbalizing, aiding in refining sentences. 07:21 Request more time: Asking for a moment to think helps avoid rushing and allows for clearer, thoughtful responses. 08:55 Cognitive priming: Being conscious of word choice and speaking with precision enhances accountability and clarity in communication.
I find myself I was in a rush in every conversation to move on to the next step quickly. The Blue sky phrases is such an enlighting concept for me. Now I can draw more articulated and detailed paintings in my conversation. Thanks Joseph!
Explaining the obvious and yet people brush over words they think is universally shared but very much is up to your personal use because it's not defined by color, shape, texture, but by adding words of color, of taste, of how the words texture lays on your soul. It's all something that can be expanded on and explained and it will explain how YOU see. Even just in day to day communication with your partner or friends.
Dude, Joseph you are quickly becoming master at articulating speech! Absolutely can't wait for the speech software you're designing sound super cool! I love how you did exactly what you said you were doing in the video-- perfectly describing the social habits and complexity of putting our intellectual thoughts into words. I absolutely love how you broke down the common thought habits of, It really hooked me- was super engaged in what you were explaining and it clicked really well with me! I really understood it all, I'm really going to put this into practice--I feel like I have this elusive untold message that I want someone other than myself to hear. It is just like painting a picture! It was almost like your teaching me 1 on 1 in like an elite masterclass tutoring speech session! I always thought I was like the only one who was impressed by and have acknowledged fluent beautiful public speakers like MLK, Barack Obama how they talk, in a very mature, intelligent way that has really stuck out to me! You and me both!
I exactly have this problem,. I have tried to describe it to others but my description are always inadequate. I'm glad, this video itself and the traction it has gained shows that I am not alone.
Grateful for you and this channel. All the information you share is SO HELPFUL!!! I’ve been upset and discouraged recently for the reason you talked about at 8:15. You articulated the frustration that I didn’t have the words for, so THANK YOU MUCH ☻ also very intrigued about the software you’re working on
Bravo! This is the second video of yours that I am watching and both of them have already intensely changed how I express myself. At least in written form, where I can afford the luxury of prolonged contemplation.
Basically, you need to think about your thought process like a mind cabinet in Disco Elysium. Start a thought internalasition and come back to it later to verbalize your thoughts and ideas
Words are hard. I heard our vocabulary is logarithmic (the frequency of the words we use follows a trend, I tried to look it up “vocabulary logarithmic trend” to find an example but Google was being stupid and kept giving me dictionary definitions). Anyway, it’s probably hard to articulate with limited vocabulary - I would recommend expanding your vocabulary by reading / learning new terminology from other people / meditating / studying the psychology of emotions to help you to capture whichever ideas you might be struggling with. Any pysch majors will have better recommendations for how to conquer this common issue. Cheers
I think that one of the main reasons why I struggle with this is because I'm so used to being interrupted/talked over (because I have a quiet voice maybe? idk) and so, I rush when I speak in the hopes that I can get it all out before I get cut off. And whenever I rush anything it never turns out good 😅
You can rush to take control of the situation, such as adding a phase "I have an opinion about this" or whatever else makes sense in the setting... and when you have the control use one of the sample phrases. For example... "I have an opinion about this, but if you don't mind, I'd like a second to think through my ideas, so that I can give you a thoughtful response." Or whatever makes sense in your situation. If you're being interrupted, just politely explain that. Listen again to the part about cognitive priming... the preamble... use it in a way that makes sense for you. Good luck ;)
hey ,2 things i learned (i really hope they help): -(unfortunately) people will usually not only parse your speech better they will additionally have a better time when listening to a calm & evenly paced way of talking. -not doing so (when being addressed in such a way) more often than not will result in a (trigger) response of being talked over (super annoying!!)
English is my second language. When I found out I have to take English classes for 10+ year in U.S. school, I thought they were meant to improve grammar and spelling, expand our vocabulary, and learn to better articulate our sentences. Nope…stuck writing essays after essays doing literature analyses that I have zero interest in. I still have all the problems you’ve shown when speaking which killed my confidence when talking to people and doing public presentations. This video gave me such good insight.
4:38 idk if this was any better that just "I'm frustrated". one, no person who is frustrated, has the patience to say that whole paragraph. two, isn't that paragraph what you already interpret as in your head when you hear someone say "I'm frustrated"? or am I just too empathetic?
This was a good video! Straight to the point, no ad break, and generally very well done. I’ve always considered myself a decently articulate person who struggles more with what connotation, specifically, I want to imbue my language with. And something I want to add that I feel might’ve been missed in this video is the use of synonyms. He does touch on this with what he calls “blue sky words”, but what I mean is by knowing a lot of words, I can associate each one (all with the same meaning) with a specific connotation/association. I.e. to say “I took something” feels very general and not in any particular span of time, where as “I grabbed something” is feels faster, and perhaps more impulsive. It’s also important to keep in mind that being too verbose does no one any favors. You’re here to communicate effectively, not confuse and dissuade the sharing of ideas.
Wow! The algorithm put this on my plate and I ate it. Amazing insight into the nuts and bolts of spoken communication. I will be prying into this a bit more as the spoken word is the number one method of sharing knowledge, feelings and intent. Thank you for this content Joseph! Instant like and sub...
WHY YOU CAN'T ARTICULATE LIKE YOU THINK Language doesn't give the full capacity to thoroughly express what we're thinking, feeling, fearing, wanting in a given moment. HOW TO ARTICULATE LIKE YOU THINK: 1. Share more connotation a. Avoid blue sky language • Skip unnecessary explanations, focus on unique details to make thoughts vivid and real What to do? If I had to defend this thought as being my thought... ...what details would I highlight that most wouldn't know about? b. Use emotional bridging • preserve the emotion and intensity that you try to stich in that sentence What to do? Think of a recent time when you felt frustrated. Recall that overwhelming sensation? That's what I'm experiencing right now. 2. Retrieve the right words a. Revision • Whisper drafting method: queitly whisper what you think before speak b. Time to think Phrases for thoughtful intermissions a. would you mind if I take a brief to reflect on that? b. can I have a moment to think? I want to give a thoughtful answer to your question c. can we hit the pause button for a moment while I think? d. I need a minute to wrap my head around that e. let me take a moment and piece together a response. I appreciate your patience f. I'd like to ponder that for a seconds. Is that okay? 3. Cognitive priming A preamble that informs your listener that you are bringing incredible amount effort and calculation with selecting words. Benefits: 1. Creates a heightened focus among conversation participants 2. Intensifying the accountability associated with your words Phrases for Cognitive Priming 1. "I want you to listen very carefully, I'm going to choose every word with precision. I realize you're not going to understand this, and I know that by saying that you're going to want to prove me wrong and seek to understand it even more." 2. "Can I share an observation with you? I want you to know that I'm making a tremendous effort to think through every word I'm about to share, so try and understand what I'm about to relate." 3. "I cannot understate how important it is that you seek to understand what I'm about to say next. Most people simply nod their heads and proceed to tune out. If you can make a conscious effort to internalize this information, I promise you that your entire perspective will change." 4. "Are you ready for a profound shift in perspective? This next piece of information has the potential to challenge everything you thought you knew." 5. "I don't say this lightly: what comes next may be one of the most crucial things you'll ever hear. Center yourself and try to absorb each word." 6. "It's rare that I share this, primarily because it demands an intensity of attention that few are willing to offer. Show me you're different."
But no matter how much you work on things like this. You won't be able to change that some people just won't listen to you. No matter how many different ways you try and explain anything or communicate anything to them. They are dead set on not wanting to listen or recieve from others. Those people exists. And we just have to accept it.
As soon as I learned to put my thoughts into words, some people started thinking I was pretentious or they just didn't vibe with me. I figured out pretty fast that just being good with words wasn't enough. I had to learn how to effectively communicate at an emotional level too, not just ideas. You can't just spout and expect everyone to listen even if it is logically sound. Being clear about your thoughts is great but if you want to really communicate with people and be a good talker, you also have to help them listen.
All the proof you need to know Joseph knows what he's talking about isn't in the books shown in the videos, but in the way he speaks throughout this whole video. This is awesome!
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I love the way you captivate your thoughts and speak which such emotions, the volume and pace of your speaking really emphasize the topic and transfered your ideas and thoughts so seemlessly. I aspired to achieved even a quarter of you are now and hopefully one day I may rise to the horizon that you are currently. Thank you for inviting me on this journey of self-improvement, cheers!
As a growing and aspiring musician, the reference to a symphony playing the piece a composer wanted an audience to hear really rang out to me. Ive often felt extremely limited in my ability to articulate my thoughts and deepest emotions into words. Music is a way for me to express myself in a different way as well. I noticed that the correlation between music and speech are quite similar, and its truly something beautiful. Ive often heard teachers and directors saying that learning jazz improvisation is like a child learning how to form words. The toddler babbles and screeches and yoodles until the sounds its making are congruent and recognized by the fluent adults. Very similar to jazz improv and other forms of musical expression.
Does it happen to anyone that what they want to articulate is like an abstract concept that in your head it makes sense and you can feel it so you struggle to voice something that you have no words for ?
This was solid advice, and brought forth many moments in my life which I wanted to replicate from other people, but I havent quite found a way to do it. So thank you, Joseph.
How i thought of each one/notes 1) Blue sky language: don't say the obvious things in conversation but kind of bring your own insight to the discussion. Ex. anyone in a convo can say an orange is a fruit, but one person can say: it's sour, its sweet, its juicy, and your unique insight about the orange could be that the skin is very bitter & now the convo gave us more insight on what makes an orange In a nutshell: Captain obvious can't articulate good, your personal insights can 2) Emotional Bridge: do you know that pressured feeling when there's 20 seconds left in a game & your team needs you to score point to not lose? That's the feeling my brain gave me for some reasons trying to articulate a good response here + giving yourself time to test out how to respond in a way you think is insightful to how you think/feel about it In a nutshell: Try to form insightful analogies or anything to help the person you're talking to to understand your situation 3) Cognitive Priming: You can say the most crazy stuff you want talking to yourself VS talking to others feels inauthentic because what you wanted to say is packaged under social norms and you will be accountable if you say the wrong things. Instead, pre-emptively say something like 10:42 to feel more comfortably saying what's really on your mind and be authentic=lively and heightened convo. You of course don't want to be mean, but to say something you believe is crucial to articulate fully In a nutshell: If you want a deeper discussion, let them know you want to say something intense/crucial
Journaling is perfect for the great idea of Connotation. The page is our canvass where we practise articulating stuff or at least get them out there. When it's interpersonal, the rich warehouse of thoughts are packaged with purpose and love for the sake of the other or at least to NOT bore them to death 😅 Cognitive Priming there. Great piece of work! Such maturity for one so young. Can't recommend this enough 🎉
Being taught to articulate what you mean properly should be a vital lesson for everyone to learn.
Its kind of sad how many people say they didnt experienced this during parenthood.
I think it’s a skill developed and refined throughout our lives. This video is def helpful though
I can’t believe there isn’t a sharper focus on this in high school
I’m a middle school science teacher, and the English teacher and I talk about this all the time. The kids are constantly blowing off her class and asking her when they’ll ever use this stuff in life, and we are both baffled that they don’t realize how important it is to be able to communicate. Kids just don’t care until it’s negatively affecting their life. Even getting them to journal about their day and little things like that is like pulling teeth these days. Many will sit and not even try. We try so hard to point out all the things in their life that can go wrong if they don’t put an effort in but it feels so far into the future for them that they aren’t motivated, and they aren’t conscious of themselves enough to notice how it’s already affecting their daily lives.
@@KallieMae Schools mostly focus on written communication (my school at least) and that's just frustrating because I'm a student who genuinely wants to improve his communication skills but I have to go to platforms like this to do that. We can't even rely on schools to teach us about things that matter most. Teachers should be inspiring students to learn essential skills, but instead they focus on teaching kids how to answer the questions correctly so that you can get a good grade on the exam. Yes writing is important but I think we can all agree that learning to articulate your thoughts clearly while speaking is way more important than summarizing a text you'll never see again
Journalling has helped me tremendously with articulating my thoughts. It's essentially self-expression practice. When you take the time to articulate your thoughts and emotions beforehand, you can speak about them confidently later. I highly suggest it to anybody trying to get to know themselves (everybody).
100% can vouch for this
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Journaling is great for formulating your thoughts and allowing yourself the space and time to pause and really think about what you want to say and how you want to say. Allowing yourself to be present and focused 💙✨ ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU
This comment read effortlessly.
How you do it? Virtually - writing from a keyboard or with a pen on paper?
I wish we were taught this kind of knowledge before we were forced to make oral presentations in class, as children.
SO TRUE
I agree in part, but it's a pretty tough ask to get a child to understand a concept like "mentalese"
Bro really had to say oral 💀
Oral gawk gawk 9000
@@Goblin-w9p ...?
No ad break and gets straight to the point with zero filler. Exactly what an educational video should be!
Just hope he's not gonna charge a couple hundred dollars for this "lesson" he's releasing... 😩
Seen so many of these youtubers that preach about how they have learned to do something that most people find hard and made it easy only to find out they charge an arm, leg, and the kitchen sink for the summary just to end up telling you something you already know but just can't seem put into motion.
Got 3 ad breaks
@@mangasprai i have ad blocker lol, meant him stopping to promote BetterHelp or HelloFresh
At the end is completely fine, it's like showing the credits of a movie. I'd even be okay if it was in the beginning if there were chapters on the video to skip through it@zombathinlostleghackercat5233
People have bills to pay@@taralang7812
00:00 📚 Understanding Connotation
- Connotation refers to the multitude of experiences, emotions, associations, memories, and meanings behind words.
- Language doesn't fully capture our 4D thoughts; it's a 1D representation.
- Two actions to communicate more connotation: avoiding Blue Sky language and using emotional bridging.
05:07 🖋️ Articulating Your Thoughts
- Frustration in articulation often occurs when we have a clear thought but struggle with the verbal expression.
- Whisper drafting, a technique from Teddy Roosevelt, helps create rough drafts of sentences before speaking.
- Requesting more time to think before responding can improve clarity.
08:02 💡 Cognitive Priming for Precision
- Cognitive priming is a technique to make your speech more intentional and precise.
- It breaks the automated back-and-forth of conversations and keeps both parties engaged.
- Accountability for your words increases, leading to more careful and thoughtful speech.
Great breakdown!
pretty sure he used ai lol@@pratfo
@@Private_Account101 I still appreciate the cliff notes, while a fascinating and useful subject I just don't have time to listen to the whole thing.
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Thanks
Best lesson I've learned is being comfortable with silence so you can take time with your words.
Silence is magic 🙏🏼
Not enough people appreciate the silence that holds all
this!! whenever I sense my words and thoughts are getting disconnected, I take a few seconds to get everything in order and back on track. it helps a lot on presentations. people might get a little confused at first but they're much less bothered by occasional silence than saying "um" a bunch of times
❤
My problem is that my mind goes blank when trying to articulate my thoughts. I can still picture it, but I end up forgetting even simple words (I know the word I want to use, but it eludes me). And then for some reason, I am unable to pick out a similar word that could sort of describe what I’m trying say. Kind of like an infection spreading throughout my vocabulary.
Im just talking out of my rear here, However; could it be excessive caffeine intake? Im trying a personal test and reducing caffeine to 0 to see if it helps. I listened to a podcast by a doctor relaying that caffeine doesn't even give you energy. It just slaps you with induced stress which makes you become alert
@@MontanaWeatherby I wouldn't think so, unless it's a permanent effect from my younger years. I used to drink tons of sodas and energy drinks. However, now I might have a cup of tea every few days. I've never been a person who has to have their coffee in order to start the day.
same here
@@omamba5105 could it be because you're nervous? Anxiety or any type of unease which can effect your concentration, could cause these "blanks." Without knowing you or these situations it's hard to help. However, as with anything, practice makes perfect, put yourself into those types of situations and work your way out of them... it's a learned skill.
I used to experience this all the time. From childhood through to my mid-thirties."I had the thought, but I lost the word."
My relationship to expressing language improved drastically when I started spending more time in my body and using my hands. If you're anything like me, you might find that developing your senses of kinaesthetic awareness and palpation lead to huge improvements in the language centers in your brain.
I’m in process of learning English. My level isn’t as high as l would prefer to express my deep thoughts, but your knowledge helps me grow every time I watch. So, with all gratitude 🙏
When I first met my girlfriend of 4 years, she could barely hold a conversation in English. She is a native Spanish speaker. After 1 year she was speaking proper English better than most native English speakers. Try to start thinking in English, then work out the grammar after you have an idea of what you want to say.
"I'm in the process of learning English." That is how your first sentence should be written. I would still give you an A for your entire comment.
By commenting "I'm in the process of learning English" you cognitively primed the reader of your commen. Great job
You’re doing great pal
The best way to convey the true depth of your thoughts with words is simple: trial and error on a massive scale. In other words, we talk to each other until we click with each other. It also helps to stop listening to those people who have vested interests in dividing you to propagate wars, for example.
Practice makes perfect. Musicians that are skilled enough to flawlessly play the things they hear in their head on an instrument in real time are akin to professional communicators.
My brain is rotten from media and tiktok / dopamine. I can tell that in the past few years I am unable to formulate thought in the same way that I used to.
Swap scroll time for reading books. You recognizing the problem was a huge step forward
Same
@@jeanlucdecoster do you think we can reverse the effect?
@@MrSwedabsolutely.
@@MrSwed yes but it takes effort and consistency and allowing yourself to get bored… and realizing the benefit in that
What i love the most about this video is how little filler there is in it. You jump into the first point in less than 10 seconds which is so nice to see
You could say it's well articulated
I recently found out I’m autistic at 40. I love my job but I’m having communication problems. Videos like this will help me and others like me a lot. Thank you.
How did you find it out
@@stafflex6220his leadership got mad at him and decided he must be labeled as retarded for thinking differently from them
If u dokt mind how did you find that out ? I’m 25 and I feel like I might me on the spectrum but I don’t really know how exactly to find out or who to go to
@@danielgarcia-gv6cdit's 2024, everyone is on the spectrum
@@danielgarcia-gv6cd you can go to a psychologist and ask for an autism assessment test :) I was diagnosed early last year at 19. I would honestly absolutely recommend it if you think you're on the spectrum, because if you are, there is so much to learn about yourself and your way of thinking/perceiving that can clear up a lot
I never had problems with public speaking or explaining others or comforting others but the one thing is that I could never express was my mind and thoughts (in words), if i was in discomfort. I always would be just speechless or tell about my problems in breaks which frustrated me even more .Your video totally understood my problem and thanks for helping me out!!!
I love your style! No meaningless intros or outros, straight to the point.
Most of the times when I am supposed to express important thoughts I struggle with thinking about the correct words that will engage with the listener emotionally and influence action because there is limited time to process most especially in a group discussion. My favorite gem from this video is the whispering because I feel like it will help me understand my counterparts position in the discussion whilst forming my opinion with in the most accurate wording.
Thanks for sharing bro, you are a blessing to this generations oratory community.
Stop thinking of the words and focus on the idea that you are expressing. Let the words flow from this idea. The words will match the idea . Don’t fake it.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 866 subs and > 500 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
Just read whole books aloud and practice on the prose. It’s done wonders for me
underrated tip
Was just reading out loud in my car the other day. It feels weird.
I can really relate to your comment "Getting asked a question is like a calm pool of water disturbed by a stone."
Imagine two Joseph Tsars having a conversation with one another.
That would be a perfect, pristine, and beautiful conversation. A work of art. Textbook. Joseph really helped me really think about my speech.
It was a great video, thank you. However, I would like to add, we are accountable for the words we say/speak to ourselves too. Our mirror conversations can be a solid foundation for developing confidence, empathy, conversational skills, and personal lexicon. Most importantly, when we talk to ourselves about anything and everything and it’s something we enjoy, want to be good/improve/grow at, and concurrently that helps us prepare for the external world, we learn to be kind to ourselves. And others. Kindness and wit in conversations are indispensable, I believe. And we understand the value of all of it when we begin with ourselves and how we talk to ourselves. 😊
Love how you're doing exactly what you're talking about in this video
I'm amazed at how he expresses his thoughts so well.
I see what you did there
One of the best ways to hedge a response is to compliment the question. "That's a good question," doesn't demand, but *requests* time to think.
This is why we need to be telepathic
We are! Ever sent an email or text message?
@@efsbass not quite the same as sending raw meaning and emotion to another without words or noises
😂😂😂
This is why I'm creating a visual language based on introspected "mentalese."
Honestly while this video is pitched for articulation, a lot of this information I also found useful from a storytelling perspective, especially the cognitive priming tip. You've earned a new sub for sure!
For people looking to improve their levels of confidence with speaking in social situations please read this.
You don't have to change the way you speak, and you don't have to put conscious thought into it.
I personally have lived my life by these steps and what I have found is that now I am overly critical of my thoughts and words.
It's not a nice way to think, please only use these tips for public speaking, don't change your personality.
Omg your thumbnail - its incredible. After watching all your videos I’ll be able to proficiently express how impactful sharing your knowledge has been for me …
This information is lighting up my soul and igniting so many answers to so many of the questions I have had.
In sincere gratitude and adoration. ❤
I've always wanted to intentionally take a journey from where I am now, feeling incompetent with my ability to speak and articulate my thoughts, to a place where I feel confident and capable of doing it. Then document that process and provide that knowledge to others. It looks like you've already started this and I'm so excited to learn more from you!
This is a small detail, but thank you for making the intro extremely quick and immediately getting into the actual information
Massive respect for getting straight into the actual content with no drawn out intro
Youre not just accountable; you exchange ideas. And genuine ideas come from being relaxed. Worrying too much about accountability sounds like a case of trauma. Of which, is just excess tension. Revision, or rather, refinement, is where tension comes in handy.
In any case, the written word allows for an expansion of thought.
And when you say that people who say "war" automatically know what you mean, that is an assumption. That would only be so if they saw a movie or heard stories. Otherwise, they could just be playing a role in of what war is comprised of. Labels, in that context, only work within a culture.
You are a practical example of what you teach.. you connote so phenomenally. Hats off to you...
When I talk to myself in the mirror it’s like I can say everything I’m thinking almost perfectly, it does take a lot of time and thought tho, and I notice I always tend to rush my words for the sake of not wasting other people’s time.
Same here!!!
Say what you mean and mean what you say. I know this isn't a immediate solution but if you can pick your words carefully and get your point across effectively...it's a super power! Takes practice but can be learnt.
This is the problem of my life, really looking forward to watch this video
There’s a Stephen King quote that goes like this:
“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them -- words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they're brought out. But it's more than that, isn't it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”
I mainly clicked on your video because I have seen it (and the other recent video) on my home page and I loved the way you were able to visualize these problems in your thumbnails. Really clever and attention-grabbing. And now that my urge to compliment those thumbnails has brought me here, the content of the video itself has convinced me to subscribe. You are playing the youtube-game well.
Remember the overwhelming sensation you experienced as a child when you were exposed to something novel that ignited a symphony of emotions within you, and forever etching itself into the tapestry of your existence? It is that exact sensation I am feeling this moment.
Hey Joseph, great video, and especially I love how you use LANGUAGE to paint a picture. You also show us pictures that highlight those picture thoughts. Brilliant! I suggest you add to your list of connotative how’s exactly that: rhetorical figures that help people SEE your message. That is: metaphor, analogy and of course, story.
On your “frustrated” example: note that the phrase you suggested is exactly what a listener would be thinking as they unpack the meaning, having heard that you were frustrated. Rather than saying it, we can help the listener access the feeling by telling a story that makes them feel it, then they’ll access their own experience which gives meaning to your feeling. They now share it.
You glossed over PAUSING but that is actually the number one way to allow listeners to process. Studies show it also gives authority to the speaker. The listener attributes intelligence to a speaker who pauses naturally.
Finally, another way to help listeners process is to ask them questions. Then WAIT while they answer the question in their mind.
All of this isn’t just “articulating your thought”, it’s ENGAGEMENT. And that my friend is what makes oral communication magical.
RUclips creators are providing so much value, just wow, thank you 💯
Blue sky phrases are my favorite. they end any conversation like a charm, while not being too impolite
That's me. I really don't like talking to people (especially at work), I'm a polite introvert and tend to stay extremely busy so I don't have to talk, needless to say I'm an awesome worker, lol.
I need examples of what that means help:,) I’m so bad at ending conversations
What I really enjoyed about this videos was not the good ideas you presented, but the way you were speaking. What I mean is the gaps in your speaking were not removed in post-edit. I really liked that. It gave me more time to think and understand what you were saying along with making this video more natural. Thanks :)
Glad to meet you here Joseph, you are truly amazing. ❤
I have great advice to share, too:
When you are in a complex conversation you can hit two birds with one stone, when you ask your opposite to define a word (example from the video "define frustrated to me").
Now your opposite will take some time to articulate the thing he/ she wants to say better and you get a bit more time to think of what to say afterwards.
And sometimes, if the subject is uncomfortable for you, you may be able to steer the conversation into a completely different direction, with these simple questions.
"Can you elaborate"
"Can you define to me, what you mean by this"
Articulation usually has to do with comfort. When most people feel safe, they can articulate their thoughts and feelings quite well.
A few days ago, I stumbled on a video with some killer editing. I loved it so much that I checked the channel name-‘Tsar’-subscribed, and even jotted it down to revisit when I needed some editing inspiration. Fast forward to today, I’m scrolling through my feed, watching another video - this, and I’m like, “Whoa, this edit is seriously cool. I should add this to that doc along with that channel I saved a while back.” By this point, I’d totally forgotten the channel name. So I check, and boom-it’s Tsar again! I’m blown away. Seriously amazing!
I am happy I came across this video. I am very introverted myself, and often feel very misunderstood when I try to explain my thoughts. Often I just accept the misunderstandings because I have no clue on how to make myself clear. This feels very frustrating, as if you're itching but are paralysed. This video feels like a great starting point for me to work on this problem. You've earned a new subscriber.
I find that some people will never be able to understand you as you are, when they themselves have a fixed opinion of who you are. If a person wants to see you a certain way, they will, even if they misinterpret or twist reality to fit their narrative.
No matter how articulate you are, you can't reach those who have already decided who they think you are. You'll only be able to change their mind with action, not words. Even then, you may find that there's nothing healthy about trying to control what isn't in your power: if they feel more comfortable thinking of you a certain way then they will, and that's their choice. Your loss, but at no fault of your own.
It's important to recognize when you're well said, and just as important to recognize when you simply weren't heard~
One of the best ways to practice thinking about ideas is with a friend.
When you and a friend are both trying to better approximate how to express an idea, take their turn at an attempt to revise what they’re saying. You trim off the filler words they use while trying to get there, you encapsulate a string of words into single more descriptive words imbued with meaning. You’re essentially internally editing their speech in real time, so by the time they finish you will return to them what they said in a nicely packaged and distilled form.
I know Im successful when I hear an enthusiastic agreement like “EXACTLY”. It’s the mental equivalent of holding someone’s hands through a golf swing, they have the knowledge but lack the coordination to execute the movement.
What you're about to read might be one of the most groundbreaking comments you might ever read. I would advise reading very carefuly, as you might not understand what I'm about to say, or rather, type. But I already got you by saying this, didn't I? 😸Now, but seriously This is fenomenal! As a native english speaker, this is very sharp to embellish my speech synthesis and understanding of conveying emotions to the recipients of my words -and by proxy- feelings and thoughs. I implore anyone reading this to apply the shadow whispering tecniche in any situation where the tongue might shiver, or the words might get stuck behind your teeth. Incredible technics as I afformentioned. Thank you Joseph Tzar for such a fantastic outlook on the language universe. Signed. A humble fan. PS: You might have mispelled the word "Cognitive" at 8:00 It's ok, we all make mistakes! :)
I appreciate how clear and concise this was!
I'm so glad that you decided to use the phrase, "invites the question" in the first phase of this video. It exemplifies your studies well.
I’ve thinking this to myself on and off for… years. I have to say, I’m glad I came across this video; it just spoke to me, like the cobwebs of my mind were being swept away like a broom.
I think I have a gift with my way of words, but have always felt like orally communicating my thoughts was a stumbling block for me.
I’ve been considering taking classes for this, and I have to say I’ve just had one now. You have a new subscriber!
I think that the ability to tap into the connotations that we share in a culture is what makes poetry able to convey ideas sometimes that seem much more difficult to convey with prose. It's like if I am talking with my best friend, he knows me better than almost anyone, and so I'm able to convey my ideas MUCH more accurately and with much less explanation than if I was trying to convey an idea that I had to a stranger. I think that poetry allows us to bypass needing to use a bunch of words to try to rigorously DESCRIBE the imagery that's in our heads and is backing the thoughts we're trying to convey, and just convey the imagery to our audience directly, using imagery and emotional language that we generally share widely as a culture.
The training I didn't know I needed. I often shy from conversations of genuine involvement, my mind goes blank and I stick to safe and light small-talk, however, conveying thoughts through my writing is is effortless. Cognitive Priming and the techniques outlined in Emotional Bridging of revision and giving yourself time, will be most useful tools. I'm having dialouge, not in an interrogation, and I can set the pace. Wholeheartedly grateful I found this video, thank you !!
Great video. Articulating thoughts from your mind to others is a valuable skill. It creates a much deeper level of connection, understanding and comfort and a overall much more fulfilling conversations and richer life. I wish this was something that we were taught from a young age
I FOUND IT AND IM SO HAPPY TO SHARE IT!!! My friends…it’s called
✨Verbal Fluency ✨
I prayed about this annoying issue. God led me to a video on it.
Our problem is not being able to RETRIEVE the words we ALREADY know when we need it most
Cheers!🎉
This editing technique to alleviate some of the pauses within the video is genius
Which I didn’t mined in the first place anyways
You're a lifesaver! I hope that you can continue sharing your knowledge with us🙇, simply thanking you is not enough to show how grateful I am
This was a RUclips recommendation. I am absolutely horrible when it comes to speaking how I am feeling or thinking. At least when it comes to my significant other. With this, I can try to learn to say better what I want to say.
I think it is simple. One should consider it a responsibility to make sure the listener understands us. this then brings the question to the fore: "How can I make him/her/then, understand me?" And if we attempt to answer it sincerely and carefully, it's a good starting point to being articulate. Most people are in a hurry, and are lazy to do this
Your plants are dancing.
Joseph Tsar you are the best English teacher I have come across
Precision, Emotion, Practice and Priming
I didn’t expect this to come across my feed, but glad it did. This will no doubt be useful for me. I’m not a terrible speaker I do work in a position where I have to talk and relate to many flavors of people. Though this will no doubt help me maximize that and also be beneficial for interviews, and also not to mention my own hobbies of writings. If I ever find myself in a position where I gotta make a speech or say something important I’ll be able to convey things better as well.
Might rewatch this a few times to really get the ideas engrained. I encourage people to rewatch videos that provide beneficial content like this.
Ironically, I tend to implement these principals pretty naturally, and rather frequently, end up in a position where the listener either doesn't get the correct picture, or has no idea what I'm saying at all. I get the feeling that most people may be receptive exclusively to "blue sky language."
00:00 Share more connotation: Words carry rich associations, emotions, and memories; harnessing these can enhance articulation.
02:55 Avoid "Blue Sky" language: Skip unnecessary explanations, focus on unique details to make thoughts vivid and real.
04:13 Use emotional bridging: Connect with listeners by prompting them to recall similar emotional experiences, aiding better understanding.
05:48 Whisper drafting: Quietly speak thoughts to create a rough draft before verbalizing, aiding in refining sentences.
07:21 Request more time: Asking for a moment to think helps avoid rushing and allows for clearer, thoughtful responses.
08:55 Cognitive priming: Being conscious of word choice and speaking with precision enhances accountability and clarity in communication.
Have been checking out regularly for your new video. You do a great job, man. Keep it up!!
I find myself I was in a rush in every conversation to move on to the next step quickly. The Blue sky phrases is such an enlighting concept for me. Now I can draw more articulated and detailed paintings in my conversation. Thanks Joseph!
Thumbnail Is indeed Creative . You have all these meaningful ideas , but can barely express any of it . Comes out Dull everytime
Explaining the obvious and yet people brush over words they think is universally shared but very much is up to your personal use because it's not defined by color, shape, texture, but by adding words of color, of taste, of how the words texture lays on your soul. It's all something that can be expanded on and explained and it will explain how YOU see. Even just in day to day communication with your partner or friends.
Dude, Joseph you are quickly becoming master at articulating speech! Absolutely can't wait for the speech software you're designing sound super cool!
I love how you did exactly what you said you were doing in the video-- perfectly describing the social habits and complexity of putting our intellectual thoughts into words. I absolutely love how you broke down the common thought habits of, It really hooked me- was super engaged in what you were explaining and it clicked really well with me! I really understood it all, I'm really going to put this into practice--I feel like I have this elusive untold message that I want someone other than myself to hear. It is just like painting a picture! It was almost like your teaching me 1 on 1 in like an elite masterclass tutoring speech session! I always thought I was like the only one who was impressed by and have acknowledged fluent beautiful public speakers like MLK, Barack Obama how they talk, in a very mature, intelligent way that has really stuck out to me! You and me both!
I exactly have this problem,. I have tried to describe it to others but my description are always inadequate. I'm glad, this video itself and the traction it has gained shows that I am not alone.
Grateful for you and this channel.
All the information you share is SO HELPFUL!!! I’ve been upset and discouraged recently for the reason you talked about at 8:15. You articulated the frustration that I didn’t have the words for, so THANK YOU MUCH ☻ also very intrigued about the software you’re working on
Bravo! This is the second video of yours that I am watching and both of them have already intensely changed how I express myself. At least in written form, where I can afford the luxury of prolonged contemplation.
Just hopped off a call wondering why I could not articulate what I think in my head. The timing is impeccable!
Love your content God Tsar XVI
Basically, you need to think about your thought process like a mind cabinet in Disco Elysium. Start a thought internalasition and come back to it later to verbalize your thoughts and ideas
Words are hard.
I heard our vocabulary is logarithmic (the frequency of the words we use follows a trend, I tried to look it up “vocabulary logarithmic trend” to find an example but Google was being stupid and kept giving me dictionary definitions).
Anyway, it’s probably hard to articulate with limited vocabulary - I would recommend expanding your vocabulary by reading / learning new terminology from other people / meditating / studying the psychology of emotions to help you to capture whichever ideas you might be struggling with.
Any pysch majors will have better recommendations for how to conquer this common issue.
Cheers
Alrighty then. Cheers
0:01 the books he read,
Well spoken
Stolen focus
Word power made easy
The language instinct
I think that one of the main reasons why I struggle with this is because I'm so used to being interrupted/talked over (because I have a quiet voice maybe? idk) and so, I rush when I speak in the hopes that I can get it all out before I get cut off. And whenever I rush anything it never turns out good 😅
Same
it's a struggle, really
You can rush to take control of the situation, such as adding a phase "I have an opinion about this" or whatever else makes sense in the setting... and when you have the control use one of the sample phrases. For example... "I have an opinion about this, but if you don't mind, I'd like a second to think through my ideas, so that I can give you a thoughtful response." Or whatever makes sense in your situation.
If you're being interrupted, just politely explain that. Listen again to the part about cognitive priming... the preamble... use it in a way that makes sense for you. Good luck ;)
@@brois841 Thank you for the response :)
hey ,2 things i learned (i really hope they help):
-(unfortunately) people will usually not only parse your speech better they will additionally have a better time when listening to a calm & evenly paced way of talking.
-not doing so (when being addressed in such a way) more often than not will result in a (trigger) response of being talked over (super annoying!!)
English is my second language. When I found out I have to take English classes for 10+ year in U.S. school, I thought they were meant to improve grammar and spelling, expand our vocabulary, and learn to better articulate our sentences. Nope…stuck writing essays after essays doing literature analyses that I have zero interest in. I still have all the problems you’ve shown when speaking which killed my confidence when talking to people and doing public presentations. This video gave me such good insight.
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idk if this was any better that just "I'm frustrated". one, no person who is frustrated, has the patience to say that whole paragraph.
two, isn't that paragraph what you already interpret as in your head when you hear someone say "I'm frustrated"? or am I just too empathetic?
This was a good video! Straight to the point, no ad break, and generally very well done. I’ve always considered myself a decently articulate person who struggles more with what connotation, specifically, I want to imbue my language with. And something I want to add that I feel might’ve been missed in this video is the use of synonyms. He does touch on this with what he calls “blue sky words”, but what I mean is by knowing a lot of words, I can associate each one (all with the same meaning) with a specific connotation/association. I.e. to say “I took something” feels very general and not in any particular span of time, where as “I grabbed something” is feels faster, and perhaps more impulsive. It’s also important to keep in mind that being too verbose does no one any favors. You’re here to communicate effectively, not confuse and dissuade the sharing of ideas.
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Wow! The algorithm put this on my plate and I ate it. Amazing insight into the nuts and bolts of spoken communication. I will be prying into this a bit more as the spoken word is the number one method of sharing knowledge, feelings and intent. Thank you for this content Joseph! Instant like and sub...
Excellent writing and ideas, great job on this video. I look forward to seeing your work unfold in the future.
WHY YOU CAN'T ARTICULATE LIKE YOU THINK
Language doesn't give the full capacity to thoroughly express what we're thinking, feeling, fearing, wanting in a given moment.
HOW TO ARTICULATE LIKE YOU THINK:
1. Share more connotation
a. Avoid blue sky language
• Skip unnecessary explanations, focus on unique details to make thoughts vivid and real
What to do?
If I had to defend this thought as being my thought...
...what details would I highlight that most wouldn't know about?
b. Use emotional bridging
• preserve the emotion and intensity that you try to stich in that sentence
What to do?
Think of a recent time when you felt frustrated. Recall that overwhelming sensation? That's what I'm experiencing right now.
2. Retrieve the right words
a. Revision
• Whisper drafting method: queitly whisper what you think before speak
b. Time to think
Phrases for thoughtful intermissions
a. would you mind if I take a brief to reflect on that?
b. can I have a moment to think? I want to give a thoughtful answer to your question
c. can we hit the pause button for a moment while I think?
d. I need a minute to wrap my head around that
e. let me take a moment and piece together a response. I appreciate your patience
f. I'd like to ponder that for a seconds. Is that okay?
3. Cognitive priming
A preamble that informs your listener that you are bringing incredible amount effort and calculation with selecting words.
Benefits:
1. Creates a heightened focus among conversation participants
2. Intensifying the accountability associated with your words
Phrases for Cognitive Priming
1. "I want you to listen very carefully, I'm going to choose every word with precision. I realize you're not going to understand this, and I know that by saying that you're going to want to prove me wrong and seek to understand it even more."
2. "Can I share an observation with you? I want you to know that I'm making a tremendous effort to think through every word I'm about to share, so try and understand what I'm about to relate."
3. "I cannot understate how important it is that you seek to understand what I'm about to say next. Most people simply nod their heads and proceed to tune out. If you can make a conscious effort to internalize this information, I promise you that your entire perspective will change."
4. "Are you ready for a profound shift in perspective? This next piece of information has the potential to challenge everything you thought you
knew."
5. "I don't say this lightly: what comes next may be one of the most crucial
things you'll ever hear. Center yourself and try to absorb each word."
6. "It's rare that I share this, primarily because it demands an intensity of attention that few are willing to offer. Show me you're different."
But no matter how much you work on things like this. You won't be able to change that some people just won't listen to you. No matter how many different ways you try and explain anything or communicate anything to them. They are dead set on not wanting to listen or recieve from others. Those people exists. And we just have to accept it.
It's very sad
As soon as I learned to put my thoughts into words, some people started thinking I was pretentious or they just didn't vibe with me.
I figured out pretty fast that just being good with words wasn't enough. I had to learn how to effectively communicate at an emotional level too, not just ideas. You can't just spout and expect everyone to listen even if it is logically sound.
Being clear about your thoughts is great but if you want to really communicate with people and be a good talker, you also have to help them listen.
You got me hooked when the stick figures dropped and the background piano music 0:26
All the proof you need to know Joseph knows what he's talking about isn't in the books shown in the videos, but in the way he speaks throughout this whole video. This is awesome!
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I love the way you captivate your thoughts and speak which such emotions, the volume and pace of your speaking really emphasize the topic and transfered your ideas and thoughts so seemlessly. I aspired to achieved even a quarter of you are now and hopefully one day I may rise to the horizon that you are currently. Thank you for inviting me on this journey of self-improvement, cheers!
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As a growing and aspiring musician, the reference to a symphony playing the piece a composer wanted an audience to hear really rang out to me. Ive often felt extremely limited in my ability to articulate my thoughts and deepest emotions into words. Music is a way for me to express myself in a different way as well. I noticed that the correlation between music and speech are quite similar, and its truly something beautiful. Ive often heard teachers and directors saying that learning jazz improvisation is like a child learning how to form words. The toddler babbles and screeches and yoodles until the sounds its making are congruent and recognized by the fluent adults. Very similar to jazz improv and other forms of musical expression.
Does it happen to anyone that what they want to articulate is like an abstract concept that in your head it makes sense and you can feel it so you struggle to voice something that you have no words for ?
This was solid advice, and brought forth many moments in my life which I wanted to replicate from other people, but I havent quite found a way to do it. So thank you, Joseph.
So insightful. Thanks for sharing, Joseph!
How i thought of each one/notes
1) Blue sky language: don't say the obvious things in conversation but kind of bring your own insight to the discussion. Ex. anyone in a convo can say an orange is a fruit, but one person can say: it's sour, its sweet, its juicy, and your unique insight about the orange could be that the skin is very bitter & now the convo gave us more insight on what makes an orange
In a nutshell: Captain obvious can't articulate good, your personal insights can
2) Emotional Bridge: do you know that pressured feeling when there's 20 seconds left in a game & your team needs you to score point to not lose? That's the feeling my brain gave me for some reasons trying to articulate a good response here + giving yourself time to test out how to respond in a way you think is insightful to how you think/feel about it
In a nutshell: Try to form insightful analogies or anything to help the person you're talking to to understand your situation
3) Cognitive Priming: You can say the most crazy stuff you want talking to yourself VS talking to others feels inauthentic because what you wanted to say is packaged under social norms and you will be accountable if you say the wrong things. Instead, pre-emptively say something like 10:42 to feel more comfortably saying what's really on your mind and be authentic=lively and heightened convo. You of course don't want to be mean, but to say something you believe is crucial to articulate fully
In a nutshell: If you want a deeper discussion, let them know you want to say something intense/crucial
If I start whispering things before actually saying it, people will think I'm mad
people already think I'm mad so this isn't a con for me
Journaling is perfect for the great idea of Connotation. The page is our canvass where we practise articulating stuff or at least get them out there. When it's interpersonal, the rich warehouse of thoughts are packaged with purpose and love for the sake of the other or at least to NOT bore them to death 😅 Cognitive Priming there.
Great piece of work! Such maturity for one so young. Can't recommend this enough 🎉