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💍THE MARRIAGE TRANSITION💍 My 5 Changes to Becoming a Wife - Storytime
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- Опубликовано: 21 янв 2017
- The honeymoon is over...now what?? I share 5 changes or adjustments I made during the first year or so of marriage when I transitioned from the single life to the wife life. I am not a pastor or therapist on marriage issues, but I willingly share with you my personal experiences and decisions. When I filmed this video, I was very candid and honest because I wanted my perspective to be as organic as possible. I hope that you may gain inspiration from this topic and that it will motivate you to embrace your own transition (whatever that may be) and to never lose hope or give up! Marriage is perfect, but the people in marriage are not....so it requires a proactive effort of love, support, and communication and the result is pretty powerful!
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I struggled with intimacy. Feeling awkward being "naked" both physically and emotionally took some time to over come.
How did you overcome it?
I’m not married but thank you for imparting your wisdom and experience. I appreciate your vulnerability and soft spoken confidence. Your content is appreciated.
Wow, I feel really blessed to have the connection I have with my husband. I realize there are many problems that we don't even face....yet, it's just been 4 months. We are extremely open and loving and intimate. We waited to be intimate until marriage, and we were both virgins so I feel so secure knowing that my body is all that he wants and desires and vice versa. We are in harmony so fully. I feel so blessed.
“You’re greater than your finances” and “I bring so many other things to the family” really ministered to me. You have no idea 🙏🏾
I agree. Open conversation about finances and family is a must. If there is discord in these areas …there may lie other evolving issues to occur down the road. Too many people I know have lost love to divorce over these two matters.
Im not married or in an active relationship but this was a really good video. Thanks for sharing.
God led me to this video because I was starting to worry about not being a perfect wife when the time comes. ❤️
So needed this!!! ❤️️ getting married in about 60 days and I am scur---scurr--scurred LOL. I always felt like I had to be perfect and just know exactly how to be a wife from the beginning but I'm already realizing it's all a learning process and I have to lean on Christ and my almost husband. Thanks for doing this vid!
Congrats!!
congrats
Oni B Amen.
You can't lose when you wholeheartedly trust BOTH
Amen! You are absolutely right!
I'm getting married in 24 days!😱 And I'm the same way.
Thank you so much! That life balance one brought me to tears. We got married and had our baby 6 months later so I lost myself in being a wife and a mother. It's so easy to do, and it's been a challenge getting my *self* back. I'm working on it though so it's good to hear that I'm not alone!
I’m getting married in less than two weeks ❤️ I’m so excited but also nervous and want to be an amazing wife. Thank you for this video!! You’re so poised and respectful - talking about adult topics delicately :)
I’m grateful for these tips and am praying for you and sending blessings over your marriage and home ❤️❤️❤️
I love this. I have been praying more for God to guide me. 🙏🏾
First timer here... When I tell you, you have more WISDOM than people 3-4 times your age!!! Not only did you bring depth to this topic, but details. And the cherry on top was how eloquent you spoke. You are truly God's child and your husband is a blessed man because he found A GOOD THING! Thank you so much. ❤️
“Revert back to just being friends”!!! “Trying to be the perfect or ideal husband and wife”! Yesss! This helped me definitely! Just the beginning!
Amen, marriage does work.
married 3 years...now finding my self and really truly understanding the husband I have versus prince charming...
authentica63 is that a jab lol
Hopefully your husband is BETTER than Prince Charming. PC was just a dreamer f***boy😒
@@crownedone8837 100 fact bro
Glad I stumbled across this 7-year-old video, it was encouraging and insightful. I don't know you personally but I pray your zeal for the Lord remains and that His love continues to shine through you.
Thank you for this. I’m preparing to be wed this December and want to fulfill my responsibilities as a wife.
Loved this video so much, so much wisdom!💕
This was a wonderful video. I believe in openness and respect in a family and especially between wife and husband. Thanks for sharing this video. I wish you a "FOREVER marriage"
I got married 3 weeks ago!
This is all great to hear Now.
I relate to you in so many ways!
Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you so much for being so open, honest, and candid about these difficult situations.
Who can out "Serve!!"..WOW!!!..THIS IS POWWWERFUL!...PRRRAISEJESUS!...Thank You FOR Posting & Helping!..
Thank you so much for this video!!! You have inspired me to be strong during my single hood and I would love more videos on singlehood the five things you did to prepare for marriage 🤗
This video is something that definitely needed to be out there. I love this, thank you.
This was an incredible video! Your openness and honesty really shows and I appreciate that so much! I am so grateful that I came across this video because I have a fear of #3. My relationship is in the same boat as you; where I am not experienced and he is. I would love to learn more about this topic, hear more of your advice and how you dealt with it, talked about it and what you overcame and how to best prepare before Marriage.
Your statement about intimacy really spoke to me. Thank you for sharing! I had so many doubts when I got with my husband and he was my first.
Thank you for being transparent and sharing with us . This really helped me!!!
Tia thank you sooooooooooo much for this video. You have totally addressed a lot of fears and concerns that a newly wed wife would have. Thank you xxx
Thank you for sharing a more intimate side of your vlog. Much appreciated!
If I could like this video 1000 times I would. It’s such an eye opening testimony of the peace that God wants in marriages. I love your vulnerability to your spouse and he too sounds as though he has created that space for you to feel free to express yourself in any way. May God continue blessing your marriage
Edit: I'm now married and had to come back to watch this after feeling the pressures of filling the shoes of a wife. Pheeww
I love your honesty and openness in this video! It's such a blessing even for single ladies like myself, who would like to be married but don't know some realistic expectations to have in mind. Thanks Tia!
This was sooooo beautiful to watch and listen to. Thank you for your honesty and positivity.
Thank you for sharing the rice thing! I'm not married but i've been crushed when friends criticized my cooking (trust me, i'm learning too!). God Bless you rock!
Love your messages and I deeply appreciate your prayers over my relationship. Many blessing to you and your family
Wow Tia thank you for always keeping everything a 100% real. I admire your integrity and openness.Tfs😊💜👍
GREAT advice!! Thank you so much for all of your words of wisdom... I am currently dating, hoping to soon be engaged so this was right on time!
I love this . I’m in a long term relationship and definitely want to work on myself before we take that next step . definitely needed this !
I absolutely LOVE this video. Thank you for sharing, it was very helpful!
Thank you for sharing. I'm not engaged or married but I hope to be one day. You've shared some great points.
Thanks for being very opened especially sharing about intimacy. I'm still single so I feel when I'm married I can use some of what you have shared.
As a single woman, I truly thank you for your ability to be so open and honest about marriage. It definitely gives me hope to know I too can have a loving marriage one day...whenever that happens lol.
Are you dating with intention of marriage?
So many powerful pointers in this message. Appreciate you sis .x
I really enjoyed your video. A lot of your topics hit home for me and it is reassuring that other women can go through some of the same things as myself. It is so true that you have to make sure not to lose yourself after marriage because for some reason it can be all to easy to fall into that trap lol. Again thank for such a great video!
Thank you for this video! I recently got engaged and this is helpful! Love your transparency and genuineness xx
Ur so pretty!
This was an excellent video Tia!!! Thanks so much for sharing! ❤
Thank you Tia! I'm getting married this year and my fiance and I are already following these points. We ate friends and are planning our future spirituality, financially and discuss our expectations as as well how to balance our union and individuality. Thank you, this is confirmation.
This is so relevant in my life right now. Thank you for sharing this video, I’m so glad I found it.💍💗
Thanks for sharing I totally understand and agree needed to hear these thing. Thanks again for the prayers. 6 years and counting.
I definitely understand the pressure of being the perfect wife. We have been married for almost 3 years and I JUST had a breakdown about working so hard to keep the house clean! I had to learn to accept imperfection as well as to give myself grace to do what I can when I can.
sabra723 Also ask God to make you love cooking and cleaning. It works! Be blessed sis 😇
Thank you for being so open and honest about your relationship. It's so endearing to see how open and flexible your husband is and you have such a lovely, warm spirit as well. I know your vid has helped many. TFS and God Bless you, your family and your marriage.
Amazing video! You were sent to me by God at the right time. Your union is already blessing others...please continue to grow. And your so poised! I love it. I was engaged the entire time🙏🏽 My phone was glued to my hand!
I love these videos, as a newlywed I completely understand trying to be the "perfect" wife and trying to please him in every way...and financial troubles. We are currently trying to work out these things...keep these videos coming! 😊
I just love you and Tre! You two remind me so much of me and my husband. Marriage is such a beautiful thing (we're going on 9yrs) and I too was 25 when we got married.
May God continue to bless your union!!!
Oh let the anointing fall fresh. Bravo, Tia. 🙌🏽
this was a great video, all the topics were very helpful. I also enjoyed what you have to say as well.
Oh my gosh such a timely message and very practical! Thanks girl! GOD NLESS❤
You are such an inspiration. I admire your marriage.... I've been married 3plus years and I totally identify with you on all five areas!!!
Loved this vlog , very personal and transparent. God bless you Tre and Dash .
Faith, Family and Finances=Foundation for Marriages . Tia you are very wise
Thanks :) can see myself relating and your advice will definitely help, Blessings
I really needed this video. I get married in 2 weeks and I have been struggling with the transition of becoming a wife. Thank you so much!
I've been a Luvie for a looooong time and I remember a lot of things that you went through in the beginning of the marriage!!! This video was awesome Tia!!
Really inspired by this video, i do not believe i came across this by mistake. Loved how you shared the reality of the transition into marriage and bold enough to share some truth about intimacy in a marriage. May God continue to bless your marriage & i receive the prayer of a successful future marriage for myself and my fiancée..thanks for sharing Xx
I've been watching u and Tray for a long time. I thank u for this video. I'm praying for a blessed and happy marriage hopefully on it's way soon. 🥰💞💕
thanks for being open and vulnerable. i appreciate it! :)
I want to say Thank youuu sooo much for sharing this video !! I felt strongly encouraged after watching your video ! I'm a Young Mommy of 3 & engaged to my kids father ! I had this big fear of failing as a Wife due to me never seeing a Wife. But I can honestly say this encouraged me so much & opened my eyes to see a bigger picture!! Thankss Love again! I appreciate it !! 😊👑
Thank you for This!!! We are going into our fourth year of marriage, and these thoughts have reminded me of how we decided to go back to the "why" of us. He's my best friend. We had to remember what brought us to our love. And many of the things you shared can apply to the married woman. Thank you again for being open, honest, and simply authentic with this topic. Excited for the marriage series. Luv ya! 💜
Took years to find this, but this video was the best advice video I've ever watched
Not married but I am dating and speaking about marriage so this was awesome to me!!! Loved it, definitely putting it in my toolbox.
Thank you for sharing your experience it's very helpful may God bless you and your husband
Tia, I needed this. Long story short, I am so anxious and fearful of how I'm developing into a wife for my future husband. It's like I can't relax and I'm obsessed with how I perform in several areas. I'm glad to see it's normal from your story and everyone's comments. I get down soo easily to the point where I feel that I'm not good enough and I'm inadequate. It's like I'm afraid to let go of what I had for myself, fully support the family vision, and move forward without doubt. It makes me feel like running away!! This was very helpful and I hope we get a part 2 also!
Thanks for sharing, excited for the marriage series!
But wait!!!! As I was watching this video, I noticed that one one your wedding pics looks very familiar. It's on my vision board as my future wife pic. OMG!!! When I created my board I just goggled different types of photos that fit my visions.
Hello, can you please do more videos like this? I loved this one! So candid and helpful! God bless you!
Thanks for being so open, so helpful!!!
I love how open you were about this topic. Thank you for sharing with us, it was very helpful!
God bless you both!! I love prayer as part of your videos!
Beautifully put BeeUtifully Made!!! Loved this video!
Thank you for this video.. I'm married for over a year now and first couple of months were the most challenging in my life.. I though that when we say I DO everything will magically work out but it's a lot of changes, emotions, learning and growing, it's so much more than just live together and have children :)
I had to stop at 9:06 to comment. I want to thank you for sharing this portion of these tips. I have never heard anyone address this topic the way you did and I’m thankful. This is an area that women and men who don’t have much or any experience with is afraid of in marriage. Sexual intimacy needs to be addressed more often. Thank you. Let me finish watching...🙏
This blessed me! Thanks for sharing Tia!
Opening up and asking your intimate partner what they like and how they feel is huge. Getting on the same page is key to happiness in and outside the bedroom!!!
Wow, this really just broadened my whole perspective, thank you.
I am loving your channel. Married 5 years now and love your points here. Amazing hon. New subscriber!!!
this video hit for me!! I am in my first year of marriage and I needed this so much!
Thank You! Thank You So much For Sharing!! Truly Appreciate This!
I love the idea of trying to out service each other. God bless you and your family.
this was really great and informative..you have a super soothing voice!
Thanks so much for this video. It is beyond helpful. I really appreciate your openness and honesty. You have such a beeutiful spirit! By the way, your hair is gorgeous!
Tia thanks for sharing so sincerely! I am so happy you opened up to RUclips as a way to share your wisdom and light. I started my RUclips Channel as a way to share with single women of colour that they can and should travel and explore the world. I love watching your videos
This video was so amazingly informative. I wish I would have had this insight before I got married 23 years ago. We went through all the challenges you presented. The most difficult was financial. We did not get married until I was 29 and my husband was 31. We were used to spending our money how we wanted without having to consult with someone else. We were making large purchases without the other persons knowledge. So we thought we had a certain amount in our account when we did not etc. of course this always ended up in an argument and causing a strain in our relationship. Luckily we got back on track, set down and tales about it and looked at ways to overcome this issue. It all worked out in the end and we are going Happily strong after 23 years of marriage. Thank you again for great info . I love you three to pieces
This was such an insightful and hopeful video. Thank you so much beauty.
You're awesome! May God continue to bless your union! 😇🙏😎
I need this so much. You don’t even know. Thank you.
Similar situation with finances and we have made major positive impact on who handles what. Still working on the intimate part, I want to wait until marriage he does not. I'm not sure if you are comfortable sharing but the only help I have is prayer and talking with a ministry. Love everything about this video it hit home in all departments and appreciate the honesty as well.
I enjoyed the video Tia, thanks so much for sharing. I'm sorry that I didn't get a chance to meet you guys at Ala. A&M's homecoming last year. Keep up the good work and may God continue to bless your family.
This is so good🗣🔑, thank you ❤️
God bless you. Your presentation was filled with so much sincerity and graced with wisdom for Christ. Thank you
Great video! I appreciate your honesty and genuine spirit.
Thank you so much for this, Tia. I'm getting married in April after 7 years of dating my now Fiancé. I'm super excited yet nervous at the same time. I pray that I can be an amazing wife to my amazing man. I admire you & your husband's relationship. God shines through the both of you. Stay blessed! 💜
Congrats :-)
Thank you so much for this video. Been married a year and a half and I am struggling through the balance. I have felt the same as you described coupled with moving here to Atlanta right after marriage. So I left the life I knew for 11 years. I have lost some relationships too but it wasn't because I didn't try. I always would reach out but phone calls began to become unanswered and not returned. I realize the seasons of some relationships but it doesn't hurt any less. At any rate, I'm trying harder though I must say making those relationships in my 30s in a new city (and I'm introverted too🤦🏾♀️) is hard. Sorry for the novel, but this hit home and I thank you for sharing. ❤️
try to find local book clubs in your area, join a new fitness program (yoga, dance, etc), organizations that give back to the community in ways that interest you (youth mentorship, minority entrepenurship groups, political activism, etc) or even churches that might have womens' bible studies or prayer groups. Trust me I an introvert and could live the rest of my life without talking to a soul but at the end of the day, humans are made to interact with each other. You don;t have to have a 20+ friends but a good solid 2-3 makes a big difference
HeirnBell this was great advice. I got engaged in Sept and will have to relocate once I'm married. I'm also an introvert with an Extrovert for a fiancé. I'm fearful of move and having to establish a new routine as a wife, mother, and building new relationships, but I'm looking forward to the journey.
Nisha8982 if your husband is extroverted that may help get you out. Mine is introverted like me though he is way less awkward with people than I am. So neither one of us has the desire to get up and be around people much. I wish you luck on your new journey and move!
MSWhay14 thank you! We're going to work this thing out! 😊
MSWhay, I was born and raised in Atlanta. How are you doing now?
Am about to get married in afewonths and this talk was so helpful... am going to watch it severally.
Thankyou.