How to Silence a Talkative Coworker

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  • Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024

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  • @thinkingoutloud675
    @thinkingoutloud675 Год назад +42

    I dont mind some talkative ones.its the ones who not only talk too much they literally just talk about themselves and their family and relationship.

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  Год назад +3

      Good point. The content of the conversation matters....

    • @alexb4732
      @alexb4732 8 месяцев назад +4

      I feel the same way its like leave me alone. We have nothing in common.

    • @JohnKienle3840
      @JohnKienle3840 4 месяца назад

      They're fucking idiots. People that have half a brain on a job know not to reveal too much. Anything you do or say could be used against you. Ever heard of the 48 laws of power? Law 4, always say less than necessary. THAT is the approach you need to take

    • @agirlfrommars3441
      @agirlfrommars3441 Месяц назад

      I feel like there’s a type like this at work but he’s so intrusive he trauma dumps and then directs it towards everyone around him. So annoying.

  • @stever507
    @stever507 4 года назад +7

    Thanks I can't wait to try this on Monday

  • @Astral_Dusk
    @Astral_Dusk 9 дней назад +2

    Can you organize my desk's supplies drawer? :D

  • @finnajane
    @finnajane Год назад +9

    opening line is hilarious!! Does a talkative coworker make you wish you had a trap door by your desk? 😵😵😂😂

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks... I forgot I had said that. It is a good line.

    • @thanasisathanasi4965
      @thanasisathanasi4965 4 месяца назад

      trap door... ahahahahah !!!!

  • @piperjaycie
    @piperjaycie 11 месяцев назад +5

    Or they just don’t do their work at all but keep talking.

  • @Information_Frequency
    @Information_Frequency 5 лет назад +7

    I love your videos, short and straight to the point. But how to deal politely with a talkative coworker from another team stop you in corridor or cafeteria ?

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  5 лет назад +4

      Thanks so much for your kind words. You ask a really good question and I've been in that situation. I once worked with a news photographer who always made sure that he had a piece of paper or a video tape in his hand whenever he was inside the station. That way, when the bosses would see him, they wouldn't automatically give him more work. A similar thing might work for you. Can you have a folder or a piece of paper that you carry around? When you need to end a conversation, you hold up the folder and say, "So sorry, gotta go." The other person will mentally fill in the blanks that you must have something urgent to do.
      Another strategy acknowledges that sometimes these conversations can be good for networking and career building. But can you control things a bit more. To avoid that feeling of being rushed and not having time to talk, I'll block off 15 minutes on my calendar during the day. It's not really for a specific meeting but provides me a buffer if a hallway conversation goes longer than expected.
      Another option is to pick a day and spend the time with the person. So instead of talking to them for 5 minutes every day, you pick a day to catch up. You call it something like, "Catch up Tuesday." And you say something like, "Bob, it's catch up Tuesday. It's a busy week for me but I want to take some time to see how you're doing." This may help train the other person to focus their conversations with you at one time, rather than any time.

    • @Information_Frequency
      @Information_Frequency 5 лет назад +1

      @@KenOkel Thank you so much for such a nice tip and your time.

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  5 лет назад

      @@Information_Frequency My pleasure!

  • @R3GARnator
    @R3GARnator 9 месяцев назад +3

    The funny thing is I have done this on my own before and it worked. The person was so lazy, and when I got my break I saw that his co-worker at his work station (he walked across a big floor to chat) was covered in sweat working his ass off, when chatterbox could have been helping.

  • @shearonhenderson998
    @shearonhenderson998 6 месяцев назад +1

    They do not stop talking…& does not do the work ….. I love your suggestion …

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  6 месяцев назад

      Hope it helps. Thanks for the kind words!

    • @thanasisathanasi4965
      @thanasisathanasi4965 4 месяца назад +1

      You are a bit late. 6 year late !!!!

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  4 месяца назад

      @@thanasisathanasi4965 Timing is everything...

  • @JohnKienle3840
    @JohnKienle3840 4 месяца назад +4

    Those talkative shitheads are the reason that there's problems on jobs. Familiarity breeds contempt. The talkative ones are the first people you have a problem with on a job. It's even worse when a new person on a job keeps talking to you. Or as I like to call them "insta friends". People who instantly attach themselves to you and just won't shut the fuck up. It's bound to blow up at some point

  • @lizsack340
    @lizsack340 5 лет назад +3

    I love this idea. Will definitely try it.

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  5 лет назад

      Thank you Liz!

  • @KandyKoatedKrafts
    @KandyKoatedKrafts 2 года назад +7

    Arrange paper clips 🥴🤦‍♀️

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  2 года назад

      I once had a coworker who asked his administrative assistant do just that. I couldn't believe it...

  • @jfleming4439
    @jfleming4439 4 года назад +4

    I'm sure that would work great if the issue was a talkative co-worker, but how to you politely disengage yourself from a talkative boss so you can do the work they've hired you to do?

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  4 года назад +4

      Maybe say something like, "It's been great to talk...I probably need to get back to work you pay me for."

    • @jfleming4439
      @jfleming4439 4 года назад +1

      @@KenOkel LOL - yeah. That would probably work - thanks.

  • @PearlPaisley
    @PearlPaisley Год назад +2

    At work it's easier. You just get up and say "I have to work now. Talk later". Then leave. I mean you have the best reason in the world to leave. I have a chatty neighbour. She is nice but just wont stop talking. If you don't care about the relation it's not too hard but if you want to have a somewhat decent relation it's hard. So you keep finding these white little lies that doesn't feel so good in the long run. What is the solution in this case?

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  Год назад +1

      It's a problem I've faced too. Some people really get energized by chatting. I've realized that if I'm going out to check my mailbox, there's a good chance I'll run into my neighbor and that could mean a five minute conversation that I had not planned on. It's not ideal for me but it is good to have good relations with your neighbors.

  • @West21m
    @West21m Год назад +1

    Brrrooo. Genius

  • @toiabanks5174
    @toiabanks5174 10 месяцев назад

    I don’t feel this will work in my situation. She’s very bright, can multitask and our desks are near. The problem is when you engage in small talk with her she continues on into other things. Most of the time she’s giving her whole “back story.” I don’t want to say “Hey I really want to talk” When I really don’t…

  • @metsl1870
    @metsl1870 8 месяцев назад

    It's my Boss ( the Dentist)...I'm a Dental Assistant and it's non stop!!!!😡🤬😡🤬😳

  • @مَلك-ش2ق3س
    @مَلك-ش2ق3س 5 месяцев назад

    Me and her are in the same office i am dying 😢

  • @Yourmomsboyfriend222
    @Yourmomsboyfriend222 5 лет назад +9

    And just like that... a light bulb turned on

  • @_sonicfive
    @_sonicfive 8 месяцев назад +1

    This doesnt work with my boss

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  8 месяцев назад +1

      In this case, you may need to use the Force. 😀

    • @_sonicfive
      @_sonicfive 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@KenOkel My coworker is talkative. But all I do is crunch work while she is talking. 20 min later I start sending emails and she starts getting it.
      Same thing every day.

  • @sadlee7952
    @sadlee7952 6 месяцев назад

    Kane..

  • @hudaismail2297
    @hudaismail2297 Год назад

    In my case it's a he not a she he can talk about his childhood distant family and so on I'm tired

    • @KenOkel
      @KenOkel  Год назад

      Tough break... good luck.