My biggest regret of my twenties.

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  • @mattdavella
    @mattdavella  2 года назад +1889

    I'm bringing the 30 day experiments back! What should I do after yoga? (don't say meth).

  • @MichaelHevor
    @MichaelHevor 2 года назад +1933

    “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
    -C. S. Lewis

  • @cynthiamoore2030
    @cynthiamoore2030 2 года назад +4047

    Hi Matt: At this point, you probably have your assistant reading these (hi assistant) but I live close to the beach, and swim most mornings with the retirees. I find older folks to be a wealth of knowledge. So my suggestion for a 30-day challenge is for you to talk to someone over 70 for 30 days and report back to us the experience - any variation on this would be fine. Thanks, Cynthia from St. Croix

    • @subhras1269
      @subhras1269 2 года назад +366

      This is probably best suggestion i have seen till now

    • @wayneelardo9022
      @wayneelardo9022 2 года назад +64

      Hope Matt will see this! Brilliant idea!

    • @utub1473
      @utub1473 2 года назад +31

      This is a lovely idea.

    • @stef4746
      @stef4746 2 года назад +20

      I love this!!

    • @JonathanDoku
      @JonathanDoku 2 года назад +16

      Good idea

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 2 года назад +524

    *“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
    Love from a small RUclipsr💙

  • @nikolaikim4649
    @nikolaikim4649 2 года назад +692

    I'd like to emphasize this: never blame yourself for past mistakes or missed opportunities. Because without that passed experience you wouldn't have come to who you are today. This realization has been freeing for me, and helped find the courage to move forward, without letting fear to overweigh reason.

    • @user-pd9xj1bt4e
      @user-pd9xj1bt4e 2 года назад +4

      Exactly, every failure is a lesson learnt for the future.

    • @nanjihermannapara2343
      @nanjihermannapara2343 2 года назад +3

      Give her an award already 💪

    • @daniilkosiurka
      @daniilkosiurka 2 года назад +4

      “Everything I’m not made me everything I am”

    • @RodHammett95
      @RodHammett95 2 года назад +7

      Although that's a very positive mindset for life, I think at some point you have to take responsability for your past mistakes (the ones that were really your fault). You just can't go through life blaming others/circumstances or making excuses for the mistakes you've done, taking responsability is the way we grow and (hopefully) don't make the same mistake again.

    • @howtoadultschool
      @howtoadultschool 2 года назад +2

      This is lovely and so true. I think it's also important to recognize that some opportunities may have been missed because you said yes to other opportunities instead. It's not worth regretting something you 'missed' by saying yes to something else.

  • @nickagrinzone
    @nickagrinzone 2 года назад +357

    Just turned 22 last month, and being more courageous has truly helped me discover who I am and what I’m capable of. I’ve been making more spontaneous trips, putting myself out there with my films and RUclips by introducing myself to new people, and just overall being comfortable with being uncomfortable. Anxiety pretty much defined my teen years, and my entire life until I hit 20. From there it’s been a gradual increase. Ups and downs, but finding ways to turn those downs back up again

    • @Julian-xn9fv
      @Julian-xn9fv 2 года назад +2

      Champ 🙏

    • @smileychess
      @smileychess 2 года назад +5

      My experience was the opposite. I was courageous and full of life and presence, up until about 22 when I moved back home. I quick fell into a funk, lost my social life, and let fear and self hatred sink in. Now 10 years later, yes I'm a proper adult again for many years now, but those mental habits of fear and doubt never left.
      Don't slide back, it can get dark. It's always easier to stay up, than to get up.

    • @nickagrinzone
      @nickagrinzone 2 года назад +1

      @Christaps the 3rd right on man! The biggest battles lead to the biggest lessons

    • @nickagrinzone
      @nickagrinzone 2 года назад

      @@smileychess yeah I’d be lying if I said I’ve never fallen into a negative temptations from time to time. at least you’re working towards it tho, that’s more than what most do in their lifetime. What helped me was doing little things that made me uncomfortable, but not so bad that it was overwhelming. slow and steady wins the race, hope that helps!

    • @Mark-gs5gj
      @Mark-gs5gj 2 года назад +1

      Amazing, really inspiring !! :)

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 2 года назад +235

    *5 things to quit in your 20s:*
    *1. Overthinking*
    *2. Trying to make everyone happy*
    *3. Living in the past*
    *4. Worrying*
    *5. Doubting yourself…*
    Love from a small RUclipsr 💙

  • @BreatheAndFlow
    @BreatheAndFlow 2 года назад +259

    We knew you'd come around to yoga eventually 🙏✌️Many classes are waiting for you!

    • @mattdavella
      @mattdavella  2 года назад +24

      Haha the first session was fun and challenging!!

    • @miffar
      @miffar 2 года назад +3

      breath and flow plus Matt D'Avella is life 💝✨

    • @ronjrl
      @ronjrl 2 года назад +1

      I like Breathe and Flow too!

    • @emirflows
      @emirflows 2 года назад +2

      My favourite yoga channel commenting on another channel I really like. Didn't expect to see this! :)

    • @user-wf5jc4pd7r
      @user-wf5jc4pd7r 2 года назад +1

      i recommend Breathe and Flow, too! 🥰🥰

  • @sarahbethyoga
    @sarahbethyoga 2 года назад +227

    I’m out of my twenties and got a nice little courage boost watching this one. Thank you! Your videos have helped me and inspired me so much over the last couple of years, let me know if you’d like any help during your 30 day Yoga challenge! I’m thrilled for you!

    • @simonvutov7575
      @simonvutov7575 2 года назад

      Agreed, his videos are really motivating!

    • @MopeyN
      @MopeyN 2 года назад +1

      What a happy coincidence seeing you here. All the best, Sarah!

    • @mystruggletobeadecenthuman5121
      @mystruggletobeadecenthuman5121 2 года назад

      Omg! I've been practising yoga following your videos! Thank you for the content you made! I didn't expect to see you here!

    • @padmaisonaroll8613
      @padmaisonaroll8613 2 года назад

      I love Sarah’s videos! She says just what’s required and has a very calming voice. ❤️

  • @guchierrez
    @guchierrez 2 года назад +100

    I don’t understand why people feel such pressure to find a significant other. Isn’t pursuing your ambitions a far more important task? I used to actively seek women and party a lot, but as I began visualizing what I wanted for my life and started working on my goals, I lost interest in going out with girls. IMO, a SO should be fairly likeminded to you and I believe you’re more likely to find someone along the way while working towards your goals than on Tinder.

    • @NatHarwood
      @NatHarwood 2 года назад +17

      100% believe that the desperation comes through if you endlessly swipe and go on dates with unsuitable people. I've been there. But there's a quality of life improvement that comes with having your emotional needs met, a good hug, talking out each others problems and obviously the background need to have sex.
      None of this negates what you said, what I'm trying to say is that its sometimes hard to fully work on yourself and operate at the level you want to without the above. All of this became so much clearer to me as I haven't been able to date during the pandemic.

    • @tink5337
      @tink5337 2 года назад +4

      While I completely agree with your point, you also have to consider different personality types. Some people really aren't good at meeting people through their day to day life. Also, some people have careers that make meeting people organically harder. So there is value in looking online, but you must seek something deeper and not let yourself become desperate.

    • @feliciaffox
      @feliciaffox 2 года назад +6

      Agreed! Found my person when I was just happily doing me and kicking goals, and now we both kick ass together.

    • @fathimashahjahan8906
      @fathimashahjahan8906 2 года назад +3

      Because we crave companionship, a basic human need , nothing wrong with when we are young and pretty it's easier to find someone.

  • @joshmoxey.
    @joshmoxey. 2 года назад +18

    I'm loving these vulnerable, minimal b-roll, conversational videos. It makes me feel better about my desire to reflexively do talking head content, lol. I too have struggled in certain areas with facing those fears, especially when I was a lot younger. But when you do, it always seems so small in retrospect because the fear casts a much bigger shadow than the realistic nature of the situation.

  • @celine_marie
    @celine_marie 2 года назад +36

    Honestly I’m a 20 something and you can never be reminded of this enough. Fear just creeps up again and makes you «safe». I needed to hear this today, thanks!

    • @BaqirBayani
      @BaqirBayani 2 года назад

      Hey Celine! We are on the same boat! I am twentysomething as well. It is an important decade of our life. To help me make the most out of my twenties, I recently summarized The Defining Decade book. It is an amazing book for people like us. If you have time, watch the video. You might find something useful in it. Here is the link: ruclips.net/video/pNZjA1wlrQ4/видео.html
      Much love,
      Baqir

  • @SamEmara
    @SamEmara 2 года назад +39

    That unboxing soothed my soul

  • @shainah.6388
    @shainah.6388 2 года назад +13

    Wow this video hit me like no other. Living with severe anxiety, mild OCD, and ADD, I’m very familiar with avoiding things or making excuses due to my fear. Fear of what? Fear of failing, fear of getting rejected, fear of not being like, SO MUCH. Having someone who is a RUclips influencer and someone I look up to also be able to relate to what I am going through helps push me to want to do better!

  • @Kira_Martel
    @Kira_Martel 2 года назад +3

    Love this, Matt. I've been really enjoying the more casual, raw, and vulnerable vibe you've been bringing to your videos lately. Much appreciation for the courageous sharing of imperfections, and the focus on process over product. It's really cool to see these more un-edited and intimate facets of your personality shine through.

  • @jsonotlike
    @jsonotlike 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for speaking about anxiety, Matt. I’ve been struggling with it for the past year and I’ve never seen myself as a person that could have it. It was buried deep inside me until that point. It’s helpful to see a person like you who is struggling with the same problems but still keeps pushing. Thank you again for sharing.

  • @a7272
    @a7272 2 года назад +46

    Let's appreciate his honesty. It's incredible hard to talk about things that you're not proud of.

  • @NeziesStories
    @NeziesStories 2 года назад +51

    I’m turning 20 this November so this video will definitely help out! Thanks for passing down your wisdom to us, Matt! 🙌🏼

    • @tomdenizensadang9763
      @tomdenizensadang9763 2 года назад +2

      Good luck!

    • @goodbye3771
      @goodbye3771 2 года назад +1

      same

    • @NeziesStories
      @NeziesStories 2 года назад +2

      @@tomdenizensadang9763 Thanks Tom! :D I wish you the best of luck with your endeavors!

    • @younesserre
      @younesserre 2 года назад +1

      I will too but in December have a good day

  • @dinijacirule7296
    @dinijacirule7296 2 года назад +11

    I just turned 25, and it is so so true! Fear is the biggest thing that stops me from doing something that I would wanted to do. Or even simple thing as making my own decisions. Fear to decide what is what I want, and do the things what I want. thank you so much for sharing this! 🌞

  • @FernandoFajardoChannel
    @FernandoFajardoChannel 2 года назад +38

    When I started my driving lessons I remember feeling so frustrated when I did something wrong and even felt anxious when I was on my way to driving school. As time went by and as I got more practice I became very comfortable driving so as you said at some point we will be beginners at something, it is hard to get out of the comfort zone but when you look back you will always be happy that you were strong enough to do it.

  • @123andresgc
    @123andresgc 2 года назад +18

    This video really speaks to me. I was terrified of dating in my early 20s. I didn’t have enough courage to take risks and do things that I would have enjoyed like going on solo trips, moving out to another city or state or something as simple as going to the movies by myself. I always tried to play safe and stay within my comfort zone. I’m 30 now and my current partner has helped me to overcome my fears. I’m definitely a more adventurous and spontaneous person now, but I wish I had been like this when I was younger.

  • @IsaSensei
    @IsaSensei 2 года назад +69

    I have the feeling that whatever we do, we will always have regrets.
    The right thing to do is to let go of the past and continue going forward. GOOD VIDEO BRO

  • @JasonSullivan
    @JasonSullivan 2 года назад +2

    Love this. Fear is such an enigma…it feels so massive and daunting, but in the end, it’s mostly in your head. Thank you for sharing this. Feel the exact same way.

  • @jasmineelise
    @jasmineelise 2 года назад

    I love how you say things that are already being said, but in a way that always just *clicks* differently. Thank you so much for this! Needed this message today!

  • @JimmyJamesMarquees
    @JimmyJamesMarquees 2 года назад +4

    Man I needed this. So I just started my own business and this period has been so new and stressful that this morning I kinda freaked out thinking of going back to being employed again. But your words made me face the fact that it’s just a temporary fear since it’s all new. Thanks man!

  • @Tformer23
    @Tformer23 2 года назад +22

    All the anxiety, all the stress I’d ever had stemmed from one thing: fear.
    Fear of failure, fear of embarrassing myself, fear of talking on the phone. The fear was so intense that it made me not want to do anything, and for a long time, I didn’t. If there was the slightest risk of things going wrong, I didn’t do it.
    There’s a really great scene from Rocky 3 where Rocky is afraid of not only losing to Clubber Lang, but also losing everything he had worked for, fear of not being a man. Fear of not being himself.
    What I love about this scene is Adrian calls Rocky out on his fear, and makes him admit it to himself and to own it. She asks “What’s the truth?”. “If we don’t have the truth then we don’t have anything”, she says.
    He had been trying to hide it but was failing, and it was costing him.
    She tells him that if he doesn’t get rid of that fear, the only thing he will have left is regret.
    It’s a simple scene, maybe even cheesy, but it perfectly embodied my relationship with fear. I too had been running from it. My truth was that fear was the one thing holding me back.
    I told myself that I wasn’t going to let fear have a stranglehold on my life anymore.
    “The brave man is not he who is without fear, but he who acts in spite of it”.
    “The greatest teacher, failure is”.

  • @leels31
    @leels31 2 года назад

    Subscribed to your newsletter :) I'm looking forward to receiving the next one!

  • @dingdon24
    @dingdon24 2 года назад +2

    Loving the vlog-style delivery, while still maintaining the signature Matt D’Avella quality 🔥 Feels so relatable-thanks for the advice, Matt!

  • @YourboySudeep
    @YourboySudeep 2 года назад +386

    I purchased 6 black t-shirt and now I am practicing minimlisim , thanks Matt it's life changing stuff 😍👌🏼

    • @orgyonmyown
      @orgyonmyown 2 года назад +21

      I'm wearing the same 4 black Uniqlo shirts for 3 years now 😂

    • @aidanhunter6195
      @aidanhunter6195 2 года назад +24

      6 black shirts.... Life changing

    • @aidanhunter6195
      @aidanhunter6195 2 года назад

      @Shamohhh nope.

    • @juanxg
      @juanxg 2 года назад +13

      you're so minimal you spell minimlism

    • @satyamtamrakar8744
      @satyamtamrakar8744 2 года назад +2

      Ohh great man 👍👍🤘😅

  • @melforddavidson6156
    @melforddavidson6156 2 года назад +17

    I will forever appreciate this channel. You've helped my family a lot,since the pandemic till now your advices and lessons are inspirational and helpful to us.
    My Wife and I have been able to be minimal, conscious in spending,saving and lnve,sting wisely. We have able to earn on a weekly basis and it helps the family a lot. You're such a blessing to this generation. We all love♥️😊. I'm so happy to join you today too

    • @proactivethinker8179
      @proactivethinker8179 2 года назад

      You have a new subscriber. All the way from Spain just found this channel and it's so interesting my wife and friends needs to watch this. 💯♥️.

  • @haseena1001
    @haseena1001 2 года назад

    Hi Matt - Thank you for sharing, looking forward to reading the newsletter :-) Stay safe and well

  • @szymondudzinski6661
    @szymondudzinski6661 2 года назад +1

    I'm so glad you're back to consisten uploads! You have no idea how cool it feels to watch your videos every week instead of every 2 weeks or even more

  • @monti8528
    @monti8528 2 года назад +195

    It’s crazy how individual anxiety is: While I’m writing this comment, I’m more scared to post this, than the Date I have at Sunday and I’m 24. I have more ,,online presence anxiety” then ,,dating anxiety”!
    The fact, that you found the courage to create a successful RUclips channel with personal topics, and I struggle to put one anonym comment on RUclips, makes me believe, that pushing yourself out of the comfort zone really can beat anxiety.
    PS: 30 Days surviving in the Australian rainforest. ;)

    • @FueledByLovely
      @FueledByLovely 2 года назад +13

      I can relate to this. For many years I never commented on videos because I was so afraid of trolls attacking me. Good job posting, it gets a little easier after each comment until finally the feeling is microscopic.

    • @rileyjordan8114
      @rileyjordan8114 2 года назад +4

      @@FueledByLovely I never check the replies to my comments, because rarely do internet-based debates go anywhere productive. I don’t want to shut out all counter arguments, but comment sections are usually pretty barbaric by nature.

    • @theoutsiderjess4869
      @theoutsiderjess4869 2 года назад +2

      Yeah my anxiety in the form of recording and commenting fluctuates alot. But I always wanted to be a youtuber and I know I would regret it if I didn't try it

    • @mi8148
      @mi8148 2 года назад +1

      I was just thinking about this commenting-related anxiety yesterday. I'm anon here (female), but I dared post a long-ass thoughtful comment yesterday on LinkedIn where I'm not anonymous, never comment and I know it'll get noticed because of the algorithm. I typed the whole thing out then contemplated posting it for a minute. I'm glad I did. I had a lot of bad experience in my teens with comments on Facebook (no longer have an account there). I would get attacked all the time when I commented on pages. And I swear I'm always civil and not looking to start anything, but there are a LOT of trolls there

    • @howtoadultschool
      @howtoadultschool 2 года назад

      I SO feel you there! online presence anxiety as you called it is one of my biggest fears! I find it so hard to interact with people on here without the temperance that face to face interaction provides.

  • @doxo9597
    @doxo9597 2 года назад +88

    One interesting thing about these “what I regret” or “what I would do different” is that it shouldn’t be about “I wish I did things differently” because that totally misses all of the growth that you have gone through throughout your life. The way I see it, if you are in a part of your life and you have things that you would do differently, that just means that you grew as a person! How boring would it be if as soon as you are born until the day you die you were perfect in every way? Growth is what life should be about, not “already being perfect”…
    As is often said: “it’s all about the journey.”
    So don’t feel bad if you have regrets. It just means that you are a better version of yourself.

    • @Ali-ew9gv
      @Ali-ew9gv 2 года назад +2

      Very well said!

    • @howtoadultschool
      @howtoadultschool 2 года назад +1

      Very well said. Whenever I find myself regretting something I check in and often find that when I'm objective it's because I said yes to something instead, and got great value from that thing I also said yes to. Every decision you make says yes and no to something, and usually you end up growing from it in the end.

  • @the.bonsai.samurai
    @the.bonsai.samurai 2 года назад

    Aaaaaah I missed these weekly videos so much!!! 💪❤

  • @FernandoFambrini
    @FernandoFambrini 2 года назад

    So glad you're back to posting every week!
    Thanks for that, Matt, it really adds value to me.

  • @sarthaktrivedi8180
    @sarthaktrivedi8180 2 года назад +8

    Hi Matt. I’m 20 years old and there are some times where I’m constantly doubting myself but I always try to look on the brighter side of myself and after watching this I’ll definitely try to be more bold, courageous and more take more risks(calculated).

    • @BaqirBayani
      @BaqirBayani 2 года назад

      Hi Sarthak! Welcome to such a great journey. I am a twentysomething and I can tell you that it is the most important decade of our life. To help me make the most out of my twenties, I recently summarized The Defining Decade book. It is an amazing book for people like us. If you have time, watch the video. You might find something useful in it. Here is the link: ruclips.net/video/pNZjA1wlrQ4/видео.html
      Much love,
      Baqir

  • @TraceB
    @TraceB 2 года назад +13

    Can’t wait for the yoga video, I need to get back into it also! Yes, please do a vegan challenge🌱Another one could be replacing your daily coffee with matcha.

  • @AhilianFreestyle
    @AhilianFreestyle 2 года назад

    Amazing advice. Thank you Matt. And welcome to Syd 👍🏾👌🏾👌🏾

  • @nestaang
    @nestaang 2 года назад

    Needed this today. Thank you man

  • @haneenbdoor1583
    @haneenbdoor1583 2 года назад +3

    Not gonna lie, I've been dwelling on my regrets for the past week, I feel so much anxiety when I think of all the chances I didn't take in life, but this video made me feel better, I'll try to dial up my courage like you said.

  • @TheDanaYiShow
    @TheDanaYiShow 2 года назад +3

    Excited for the 30 day experiments again and loved this video!

  • @jeswinj8221
    @jeswinj8221 2 года назад

    I'm so happy that you came back for us after a long time. Weekly videos ..... yay

  • @yaminaim
    @yaminaim 2 года назад

    loved this video. the courage to conquer one's anxiety is pathway to one's own greatness.

  • @Anna_Vorobushek
    @Anna_Vorobushek 2 года назад +3

    Matt, you really gave me sort of an insight - that guys can be afraid of dating too. I never thought about that… Sometimes it’s hard to see other person’s perspective…

  • @JamieMcEwanOfficial
    @JamieMcEwanOfficial 2 года назад +13

    ""'you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.'
    - Wayne Gretzky"
    - Michael Scott"
    - Matt D'Avella

  • @KiranKumarYT
    @KiranKumarYT 2 года назад

    I have missed your weekly videos a lot!!!!! Thanks for starting posting every week again. I hope you know that your content is something that inspires a lot of people like me to get things done.
    Cheers!

  • @aliatk
    @aliatk 2 года назад

    It’s true that the fear becomes bigger over time, i’m going through this phase right now and struggling to get the courage to do something about it. Thank you, i really needed to hear this advice💪🏻

  • @FinancialShinanigan
    @FinancialShinanigan 2 года назад +91

    “Hell is meeting the person you could have been”
    - Matt in a black shirt -

  • @remoratilemogodi2121
    @remoratilemogodi2121 2 года назад +68

    This is so timely, Matt! I turned 26 on Monday and was thinking about how to maximise my last 4 years of my 20s. Thanks a million for this.

    • @CrabappleKing
      @CrabappleKing 2 года назад +21

      As a 30 year old that used to think this way... age is just a number man. Life won't end at 30. More likely, you won't even feel much of a difference. Just enjoy your existence and do small things each day which will add up towards your goals.

    • @danielmatin5435
      @danielmatin5435 2 года назад

      I turned 18 on Monday! Best of luck to you.

    • @shadowsmith1386
      @shadowsmith1386 2 года назад

      Turn 28 Monday to crazy

    • @shadowsmith1386
      @shadowsmith1386 2 года назад +1

      @@CrabappleKing facts

    • @Jaycceee259
      @Jaycceee259 2 года назад

      I turned 27 Monday LOL

  • @MmM20978
    @MmM20978 2 года назад

    Love your newsletter! TY!

  • @Doomsday_Life
    @Doomsday_Life 2 года назад

    Thanks for sharing these valueable experiences, I find it super useful

  • @stephen-finance
    @stephen-finance 2 года назад +9

    The immediate question I had when I started watching this video was, "do you never wash those exercise shorts too?"😅
    Great message Matt! Glad you're back to every week.

  • @poisonedpawns-chess1291
    @poisonedpawns-chess1291 2 года назад +79

    Matt: Don't murder someone
    Also Matt: We are going to regret the shots we didn't take

  • @shelteredgringo3707
    @shelteredgringo3707 2 года назад

    Very candid, felt like one of your Patreon videos. Love it :)

  • @MrDimser
    @MrDimser 2 года назад

    Thank you, Matt, that's so useful!
    I wish you all the best.

  • @EruditeGayming
    @EruditeGayming 2 года назад +13

    The thumbnail has strong "2000's alt rock album cover" vibes

  • @stephen-finance
    @stephen-finance 2 года назад +21

    "I ghosted Many people"...
    Kind of a strange flex, but okay... 😆
    Just teasing. Glad you're back to weekly videos!

  • @howtoadultschool
    @howtoadultschool 2 года назад +2

    This message is so important. I've realized recently that working through fears is a constant process. I worked hard at it though my early 20's and thought I was pretty good at facing down fears, but recently realized I've still been holding back in certain areas. I could go on an adventure by myself, try a new thing, take a new class etc easily and happily, but I was always a 'behind the scenes' person, afraid of being looked at and seen. My most recent version of facing that is through starting a youtube channel! I'm terrified every time a video goes live, and I constantly have to work on being okay with it. Being seen and listened to is the new fear I'm working through in my late 20's, and I'm sure I'll discover a new one soon enough again!

  • @Mario-qt2ql
    @Mario-qt2ql 2 года назад +1

    this is very helpful because I'm actually exiting my confort zone more and more in the last month, and still trying. so thank you for the reminder that it's actually good to do stuff that scare me!

  • @none377
    @none377 2 года назад +16

    My biggest regret and it is something that I still struggle with, is caring about some people that don't care about me. I'm not afraid of rejection, or of putting myself out there, but I'm just scared of being alone.

    • @none377
      @none377 2 года назад +1

      @N D Sure, I definitely don't recommend giving people who don't care any attention, but have you ever gone through a time where you feel like no one cares? Like not even enough to at least grab their phone just to ask you how you're doing or how your day has been?

    • @none377
      @none377 2 года назад +1

      @N D This just sucks and I think everyone has their breaking point.

    • @successscroll9274
      @successscroll9274 2 года назад

      You will if you stop trying, I know it sucks and it's hard, been there, but you know what, be honest with yourself, show up for people as the "true" you, some people will go, others will give you some of their time and attention, but you have to Always, ALWAYS put yourself first, helping others and being there for them doesn't mean sacrificing yourself? when you do, I'm sure you'll find people who care about you, seek your help, and you won't feel sorry for being alone sometimes, because you'll enjoy your own company.

    • @SugarMakesMePOP
      @SugarMakesMePOP 2 года назад +1

      I've been there. It was only when I realized that if I valued and appreciated myself, I would understand that I don't deserve to have those kind of people in my life.

    • @shadowsmith1386
      @shadowsmith1386 2 года назад

      You will be alright

  • @danklabunde
    @danklabunde 2 года назад +4

    Ohhhh DEFNITELY do van life! That's something I've been wanting to do for years now! I think I'll spend a few years doing photography out of a van before settling down in a home or more permanent apartment.
    Also why do I get the feeling that Snail Mail announcements are replacing "the award-winning Netlflix documentary, Minimalism" I miss that shameless plug.

  • @sothpark188
    @sothpark188 2 года назад +1

    Really needed to hear this. Thanks Matt 🙂

  • @MichaelOdendaal
    @MichaelOdendaal 2 года назад

    Matt your videos always make my week beter. Lots of love from South Africa! I needed to hear “don’t let fear control you” today - Thank you!

  • @jaimetan
    @jaimetan 2 года назад +8

    I LOVE THAT YOU’RE DOING YOGA!! Well done, Matt! Yoga was definitely my gateway into self-discovery… it started off as a physical exercise for me, but over the years has grown into a tool to help me check in with where I’m at, learn about how I approach challenges/ struggles in life… it’s a cliché but so true about how the lessons you learn on the mat are a metaphor for how you approach life off the mat too. Can’t wait to hear how this experiment goes for you! ❤️🧘‍♀️❤️

  • @FrancoNSosa
    @FrancoNSosa 2 года назад +6

    I think I'll need to repeat this to myself every day, until it's drilled down in my head. God, not a day goes by without me regretting not having done what I set out to do the day before, out of fear!
    I'm 20 and I live in fear. It's exactly how Matt explains: I'm terrified of trying new things, failing, not meeting my expectations, not being perfect... Although I recently started working on it, I put myself under so much pressure that many times that terror takes over, and I end up postponing in some way what I have to do.
    I know that I will never be perfect, and that as they say, "you have to jump in before you are ready", but still it's often very difficult to put myself into action.
    PD: Sorry everyone, I just felt like I had to take out my frustration somewhere. I'm actually making progress in the matter, you know, slow and steady, and I'm happy with it. It's just, there are some moments when I fail to control myself, it's so frustrating. It feels like I'm going backwards everything I have advanced, or like I'm never going to achieve what I set out to do.

    • @drishtik6355
      @drishtik6355 2 года назад +1

      Don't worry just try new things that's all you will develop confidence slowly n steadily..All the best 😊👍

    • @Robertomp2201
      @Robertomp2201 2 года назад +1

      Hi buddy quick comment here I'm 21 never being on a relationship before, always had a crush on a girl decided to ask her out. She said yes and we were in a relationship for six months being honest not sad at all after it ends up. Since I went out of My confort zone and went very well it was a learning and a nice experience to me. Recommmend to not be afraid and just going for it. Otherwise, You will be thinking what would've happened if?... Just keep it up you got it.

  • @AlphA12647
    @AlphA12647 2 года назад

    "videos every week again" put a smile on my face. Damn! Excited!

  • @motizukilucas
    @motizukilucas 2 года назад

    Thanks for sharing this Matt, it really spoke to me.

  • @manibarathi08
    @manibarathi08 2 года назад +3

    "I'm gonna do it for 30 days cause my name is Matt D'Avela" LOL😂

  • @sahajbana
    @sahajbana 2 года назад +14

    Matt D'Avella - My biggest regret of my twenties.
    Me: My twenties are my biggest regret

    • @ya5hita
      @ya5hita 2 года назад +1

      Lol same

  • @norinajulia9435
    @norinajulia9435 2 года назад +1

    Wow.. I really needed this. Thank you 🥺 I recently accepted a job multiple states away close to the beach and everything’s going to be so new and it’s been terrifying. But this was the encouragement I really needed to hear to try something so new. Thank you ❤️

  • @TheCherieExperience
    @TheCherieExperience 2 года назад

    Love your honesty! And I am looking forward to those challenge videos!

  • @matthewbandril5833
    @matthewbandril5833 2 года назад +4

    You're so good at this Matt, this is what I really need now, a stranger that can give me advice like a general advice but suitable for my situation. Btw, I'm 22

  • @shnam8575
    @shnam8575 2 года назад +33

    Matt “shaming” murderers was something we didn’t think we’d need to hear today😆😆 (2:10)

    • @aktrevor
      @aktrevor 2 года назад

      2:18 *

    • @shnam8575
      @shnam8575 2 года назад

      @@aktrevor actually my fault, it was really at 2:10

    • @nuncaigual180
      @nuncaigual180 2 года назад

      Jesus is merciful and if we confess our sins He is faithful to forgive us and give us new life.

  • @sarahkeating5672
    @sarahkeating5672 2 года назад

    Thank you, Matt! I really needed to hear this

  • @flocketogo
    @flocketogo 2 года назад

    THANK YOU FOR SHARING!

  • @sithaphong
    @sithaphong 2 года назад +9

    Me: Thank you Matt for introducing me to Minimalism.
    Matt: It's the least I could do.

  • @successscroll9274
    @successscroll9274 2 года назад +10

    I think we all chose this life when instead of looking at our life as one straight line, we look at it as phases, would my life be the same as yours if I chose to get married and have kids at 25? what I think would be a big regret is to fail at taking care of yourself first, to think that you should do everything in your twenties that you forget to slow down and enjoy what you have.
    we always look at things like "If I only did this and took this opportunity" when we don't have a clue if that would be something we would really enjoy doing and will have a big impact on our lives. when you reget things, it means you grow up, that you look at things differently, I regret that I missed too many opportunities too, but when I look back, I ask myself, was that person really ready to take that challenge? now you think that opportunity could've changed your life, but it's because you changed, you grew up, that you had experience.
    here is what you really should do:
    - Don't think of your twenties, because once you hit 30, you'll find yourself the same person, if you're 25 or 35 or 45, always take care of yourself first.
    - What did you regret the most in the past? what you can do right now to use that regret to do something different, it ok be honest, I failed to take care of my health, and now I'm paying the price at 28, but I chose to start working out, eating healthy, and use what I read.
    - Remember, life is life, what's hard is hard, regret is part of it, you build a successful business? you'll regret not taking care of your family, you start a family? you'll start thinking about all the fun you're missing out on, what you should do? be clear about what you want, very clear, it will take time, it may change over time, but don't live something that is not meant for you.
    - finally, repetition is key, the idea that keeps repeating themselves, advise you always hear, see how those things impact your life, work of those things, comparing yourself to others won't stop, sadness, fears, everything else, it all part of life, but there are few things you can do to make it pleasant, to enjoy it more.
    the last thing, if you're young, use your time, and look for clarity, if you're old, use your experience, you may not have time, but you do know exactly what make you feel good and what it doesn't, so do something about, when you regret something, it is when you should move, or you will regret that you have another chance and you didn't use it.

  • @SofiaLisset
    @SofiaLisset 2 года назад

    Thank you for every video you had done until now

  • @filuren11
    @filuren11 2 года назад

    Thank you. You don’t even know how much I needed to hear exactly this today, you really, really made my day :)

  • @borispejic170
    @borispejic170 2 года назад +5

    Dear Matt, try art therapy, fine art (abstract or figurative), art history or some other arty 30-day challenge 😄

  • @gauravm.
    @gauravm. 2 года назад +11

    Who else thinks that Matt should make a dedicated dating advice video for people in their 20s? (Especially, early 20s.)

  • @SchoandJo
    @SchoandJo 2 года назад

    The fear of failing can be really disabling from action and progress. Facing fear is such an important step. We've experienced this in our own lives and so gad we took the first step! We've embraced courage and facing our fears. Thanks for making this video, probably one of our all time favorite Matt D'Avella videos to date.
    Also, we'd love for you to try zero-waste for a month!

  • @leannekenyon2926
    @leannekenyon2926 2 года назад

    Love your video's Matt - whenever you manage to get them up!

  • @ProxyDE
    @ProxyDE 2 года назад +7

    "Matt you have to try this new snack."
    Matt: "FOR 30 DAYS!"

  • @DeerghKataria
    @DeerghKataria 2 года назад +3

    0:45 - Most people won't even know how you took that shot, but the cinematography is just 💯

  • @letcass
    @letcass 2 года назад

    amazing video! thanks for this message ❤️

  • @suri4Musiq
    @suri4Musiq 2 года назад

    Much needed video, loads of Love Matt

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 2 года назад +7

    *5 things to quit right now:*
    *1. Overthinking*
    *2. Trying to make everyone happy*
    *3. Living in the past*
    *4. Worrying*
    *5. Doubting yourself*

    • @successscroll9274
      @successscroll9274 2 года назад

      "right now" doesn't apply to something that needs a lifetime, those things are simply part of our human nature, you'll always worry, you'll always doubt yourself, and always live in the past, thinking this way is what make people give up and stress out to about life, no one is a machine or super human, you only can do your best to not let these things control your life and be a handicap :)

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 2 года назад +20

    *If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will become the ultimate sacrifice.*
    The chances of you seeing this comment is really low, but if you did, *I hope you have a great day.*🖤

  • @seanmckenna6499
    @seanmckenna6499 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing Matt

  • @daelysseou
    @daelysseou 2 года назад

    Thank you for this video, Matt!

  • @Heggscast
    @Heggscast 2 года назад +3

    I’m 17 and I’m trying to teach people how to take care of there finances early on this channel♥️

    • @thelbgclan6946
      @thelbgclan6946 2 года назад +2

      I absolutely hear you but no one will listen to your advice if you don’t even use the right “their”

    • @Heggscast
      @Heggscast 2 года назад

      @@thelbgclan6946 just tried to comment fast dude 😂😂

    • @Heggscast
      @Heggscast 2 года назад

      @@thelbgclan6946 sos :)

  • @TextingBiz
    @TextingBiz 2 года назад +5

    Fun fact: Blind people have simply never seen anything before

    • @SomethingToThinkAbout2002
      @SomethingToThinkAbout2002 2 года назад +1

      What if they were blinded midlife?

    • @noddlelebowski1074
      @noddlelebowski1074 2 года назад

      Thank you for this fact none of us would’ve been able figure this out without you
      You should be a national hero for spreading facts like this

  • @ezrajeremiah
    @ezrajeremiah 2 года назад +2

    You are doing great Matt! I just finished the Master RUclips class and I'm editing my first video right now! Good luck on the weekly uploads!

  • @ma.lxjosph
    @ma.lxjosph 2 года назад

    To be real with you Matt, your story of fear is what I'm noticing I'm following footsteps onto and thanks for this it's gonna be a big help.

  • @little_blue_dragon661
    @little_blue_dragon661 2 года назад

    Finally a video where I'm already doing what Matt is talking about and I'm really proud of myself for what I've been able to achieve so far. U know life's a lot bigger if you see your fears not as walls but doors that can lead to wonderful places

  • @FinBrennan
    @FinBrennan 2 года назад

    Man, I love this channel!

  • @DTdude
    @DTdude 2 года назад

    Always a big fan of you, Matt! Keep up the great work. You inspired me to start my minimalism music channel. :)

  • @LostandLore
    @LostandLore 2 года назад

    Just what I needed to hear! Thanks man!