This is it. This is the sign. I'm turning 25 in a month. Dropped out of college in 6 years ago due to anxiety and depression. Never had a job since. Locked myself in my room for those years. Caused so much pain to my parents. This is it. I'll dedicate this month looking for a job as a first step of sorting my life out. Wish me luck.
22 dropped out of uni bcuz of anxiety related issues,working my way back into being a competent fully functional juggernaut of a man,see you there brother 💪🏾
All the best buddy.. don't feel bad about dropping out of school or anything.. I experienced the same.. believe me when you give yourself a shot.. you'll see how far you can leap.. go as far as you can, dream big.. I wish you the best
I'm 25 now, found Jordan Peterson about 5 years ago. Being a young guy, without a father and living in a rather poor neighbourhood, I found myself being depressive, lacking a job and any higher education. Now, 5 years later, I can proudly say that I have finished my degree in Computer Science, work as a Software Engineer, got engaged and live with my soon-to-be wife. Thank you Jordan for everything.
How did you manage to afford the higher education, had a similar upbringing and battling to get a decent job currently without a degree while my friends are cruising into higher paying jobs due to having one it seems?
@@stevensseagull If you are interested in Computer Science that's your best bet to get a high-paying job without a degree. Make a plan for yourself, watch videos, read some good books, and make sure you structure your learning in a dedicated way rather than just going through it. If you do all this successfully you can get a 70-100k/yr job with no degree within probably about 8-10 months. However, if it's not something you're passionate about, you'll never be able to do it, especially if you have another job as it's something you'll have to do in addition to whatever you're currently doing. In that case I would try and find a certain niche that you're interested in and push hard at it, then you can maybe find an employer who will pay for your tuition or you can get a scholarship. On a completely separate note, there are a lot of trades out there (plumbing, woodworking, electricians) that are terribly underemployed, so if you can find someone who will mentor you that's a great way to earn 200-250k/yr after a decade or so with no degree. The carpenter who works on my house is always going on about how he wishes he could find someone to train, so maybe if you just go into a couple of those kind of businesses and ask if they're looking for someone who wants to learn you might have a decent shot. Good luck man I wish you the best!
He's either a father figure or a divine figure. I for one am certainly glad to have found him. How many people here found out about JP from Andrew Klavan? BLESSED BE THE DAY! FOR THE GOOD DOCTOR HAS SHONE HIS LIGHT ON MINE EYES. THOU HAST MOST GRACIOUSLY LINTED THE SEED OF MY CLOTH! PARFIRI PETRI ET NUMENUM. Amen brothers and sisters.
You don't like my biblebabble? I thought it was okay, a lot of gibberish for sure. I'll have to work on it more. Thine lord in canada, peace be in his name. For thine hast thou giveth lord wherefore hath upon.
hit the nail on the head. i always knew all the right wing culture warrior babbies wanted is a cool dad to pat them on the back and say 'its alright skip, dont worry about those shrill SJWs, just buy my book and lets go out back and throw the ole pigskin around'
I hope that all of you who are: about 25, graduated with bachelor's, not very social yet, and feeling sorry for yourself, are still grateful for the position you're in. I didn't start sorting myself out until I was 23 years old. Now I'm 26, and although I feel like I've discovered my purpose and what brings meaning to my life, it's a long road ahead of me and I won't have my bachelors degree until 29. If there's one thing I've learned along the way it's just to let go of self-pity. It's only holding you back.
Some are... "Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." 2 Timothy 3:7! WHY? Because they leave JESUS out! "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me." John 14:6! Time is winding up. All we have is time to live for JESUS! The LORD will give you a PhD if that's the desire of your heart. "Delight thyself also in the LORD; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart." Psalm 37:4! Stipulation? Find all you need in JESUS! Delight thyself! 💓💓💓
When I turned 25 in July I checked myself into a rehab 3 days later I am 169 days sober today and my life is starting to get better I’m working a decent job with benefits and have meaningful friendships/relationships now I know it will take time to undo a lot of the damage I’ve done but I’m working on it and couldn’t be prouder of myself
Thats admirable! You probably know already but just to let others know, addictions stick for life, it's a war and you are dominating! Just don't ever let yourself "that one drink" or "only one beer" Now You are a man that DOES NOT DRINK, that's who you are, and that who you should stay, be proud of that, peace.
This really makes him human and makes us realize that even at the lowest of places, anyone can strive and become better versions of themselves. Thank you Sir, for sharing this part of your life to us.
Not lying in a relationship is definitely the way to go. Learned this the hard way. Losing a meaningful relationship is hard, losing your best friend is almost unbearable.
@@marcelm-meatstatues8207 that's because you don't value your relationships lmao, you'll drop them like a bat for the next one instead of working on it. That's not really being capable of love. Literally, indifference is the opposite of love. Same way not valuing something means no conflict. If two different things are valued there's conflict, add indifference and there's no conflict. You clearly don't value your partners, what are they F objects? Moving on from a relationship also doesn't mean indifference, that's worse than valuing it and moving on (unless it was a horrid relationship)
There are things you can’t overcome. To be like Peterson now, you need several generations slowly working towards. Look at your accomplishments by added value to your family tree. Sort yourself out by accepting your limits and just try to guide your children grow over you. Jesper Juul is the man to read or listen to know best how to guide children better than you were guided. Naturally when you read Juul you will find out everything you learnt from Peterson will help you tremendously.
At 25... My life changed too... all the stuff I told myself I would do since 16-18 years... I STARTED DOING THEM. Made a Routine for it. Nothing is perfect, I could probably be more ''in shape and more efficient'' but I dont let the ''maybe/could be bother me''.... cause I know... Since 25years old... the past 3 years have been BETTER/Stronger/Improvement at ALL LEVEL. I am finally becoming the MAN I dreamed to be... it's all action. I started slow at 25 years old and been building momentum since... (started at 1 pushup x 6.... now over 25 x 6)... studied 30 minutes after work.. now at 2 hours after work every day.... 1h30 gym, 8hours work,2 hours study, 2 hours of ''leisure (cooking included'', a bit of dancing a few times a week, sleep early, wake up early... A new man.... some times I slip but I get back eventually. Overall... I am ABOVE and much more disciplined and focused, sorted out compared to previous 25 years old of life...The child died, the man grew up
@@raiezy Still going strong. More experienced since the last time I wrote this comment. Put myself in uncomfortable situations. I'd say I'm a little less naive and have grown up a little. 😄
I probably sorted myself out at 17 when I took a hard look at who I was hanging out with, what I was doing, and where my trajectory was taking me. Then I decided that I was going to go to school far away from where I lived to intentionally break all the bonds I had formed to start fresh. Never looked back. Never went to a high school reunion. Have not spoken with anyone I knew in high school (aside from family). Best decision I ever made.
The hardest problem is getting away from the toxic people in your life. You either have to run away, or wait for them to die if they are older than you. Some friends you can't just cut ties with because they may be in a worse off position than you in terms of mentally. But if you wait, your spirit may be dead by then from having to deal with those people on a daily basis. The worst part about these kinds of problems at least for me is that there isn't really anyone you can reach out to. sure I can sit here an watch Jordan Peterson, but he doesn't even know I exist. the key I think maybe is finding someone who has true sympathy for you and similar interests. Finding that person, or people, before you try to end the loneliness is a problem.
same. I'm 17 right now and I can firmly say I've gotten myself on the right path. I was always the quiet kid, but i hanged out with people who toxic to my life. My GPA was a 2.7 sophomore year, and now I have a 3.8 (in my junior year). At the start of this school year I weighed 133 but I have gained 25 pounds. There's so many improvements I have made within a short period of time. You just have to let go of everything and grab life by the neck.
It hurts a lot and for the most part and it's not the people. It's the time you've wasted. You can always get friends back but time is constantly drifting away. In regards to the people, since I've witnessed my own progression the last place I want to be is with those people. Try to make new friends (like chuck said) and get involved with something (maybe your community). The more, "free time" you have the more you'll ponder on mistakes you have made. It is a complete waste of time.
This video found me at the right time it seems. Turning 26 in November and right now I'm in a state where I'm basically just over-indulging in everything. Can't stop drinking crap that's bad for me, can't stop eating crap that's bad for me, my libido is absolutely out of control and I'm just diving into porn and sexual persuits basically every single day. My entire existence for the past month has been focused on desire-fullfillment, and I realise this and I'm not happy about it. It's like the hedonistic, deviant, degenerate and perverted 10% of my mind has become 90% of my focus, which is wrong and absurd for obvious reasons. It's just 10% of my being yet it's so intense lately it dominates my life. Unacceptable. I don't need inspiration from a video to get my shit together, but it's always good to know someone you value as a source of wisdom and intellectual discourse has overcome similar issues. We always KNOW what we need to do and we always KNOW that it all comes down to us but fucking up is too easy and I've always taken the easy way out. Just gotta really put my foot down and stop the destructive behaviour. Stop the drinking. Stop the over-eating. Stop the partying. Stop projecting sexual thoughts and fantasies onto every God damn thing. Stop being a dumbass, basically. I'm gonna drop this shit cold Turkey. Had enough. Feeling so trash physically and mentally I can barely think straight and obsess over nonsense. I'm done. Let's hope I can pull up my mental bootstraps and good luck to everyone else who is trying to get right.
I was in similar position a year ago , lethargic and unmotivated on the same negative self destructive spiral, I could not get out of it no matter how hard I tried, I turned to Christ to give me an ABSOLUTE foundation mindfulness 'Take up your cross and meet me at your own Golgotha in the crucifixion of your 'EGO' to 'sort yourself out'. 'Take up your cross and follow me' I said 'If I keep doing this sordid masturbation, bad living and sexual fantasy projection, IT WILL kill my spiritual 'self'' i had just recently discovered at the depths of depression. Since then I have had no compulsion or any controlling desire. I pay for the years doing this each moon cycle with 'sordid dreams' of sexual fantasies, but they are decreasing. but during the day no 'desire' whatsoever BECAUSE of my absoluteness in my abstinent no joking around seriousness approach. Key is learning what and how the 'EGO' works against you and to 'crucify' it through intense self - knowledge daily. To become 'aware' and not be a pinball to the 'EGO'. Know thy self, have an absolute 'point' of 'potential' attainment and carefully without serious 'expectation' but slowly work towards it.
I wish you luck! Almost feeling a little guilty for not having any of these kinds of problems, turning 20 in a month. Well, actually my problem is that I'm not conscientious enough toward my own projects, could use some of that JBP's obsessiveness he talked about here. :D
Find your brains patterns. You know what habits you'd like to get rid of in your life. So when you see yourself about to indulge the desire to carry out the habit - FREEZE. Observe, notice your emotional state, notice the beliefs that are attached to the emotional state. After a short but meaningful amount of time unfreeze and immediately go do another activity - anything else at all. Eventually you'll find yourself becoming more and more productive the more you freeze, observe, and reactivate.
I'm so proud of all of you. You're working on yourselves even when it's tough and helping out your fellow man in the process. I've seen so many people in the comments giving advice to others and it just warms my heart. You're what men should be (from a female perspective): hard-working, kind, and strong. I love all of you.
true, it would be better more people were here. Society messed us all up pretty good. I'm glad so many are still fighting, struggling instead of quitting life in general.
I’m 27, about to be 28. I started to feel almost as if I had peaked. My hunger for knowledge and challenges almost seemed to disappear. Peterson has helped me realize that it’s not too late.
I’m in the same boat. 28, got a lot of things figured out in my life but feel like something is missing. Been working to go back to school and challenge myself again. Hope you find the challenge you need and keep that hunger for knowledge alive and well
This guy is just amazing. I’m 26 and feel like I’m so behind my peers in every sense of the word adulting but I’m glad I found his videos. I really want to begin the journey of turning my shit around, seems so daunting but I’d rather keep trying and failing over again then to not even try at all.
I'm there with you, pal! But we can do this, if we invest ourselves in it. Let's create the best version of ourselves and try first and foremost. Not trying means defeat!
(January 2022): One thing that’s remarkable about Peterson is that he’s had a burning passion since he was a teenager. He found his purpose early in life and he pursued it. Difficult sacrifices were made, but it was destined to happen with such a strong sense of self. I hope I can follow in his example with whatever road I may take. I turn 18 in June and I’m already reading and taking notes on many pieces of literature and loving it. I think that may be my purpose in life as well. We shall see. In 10 years, I’ll edit this post and give an update. I myself am curious to see where I’ll end up! (March 2022): Glad to see the support, thank you very much :) I was just accepted to University of Arizona Honors College as well!
This video was so beautiful and up-lifting. I love that he married his childhood sweetheart. Hearing him describe himself as manic in some ways really makes me feel less ashamed of my own manifestations of mania. Thanks for sharing :)
25 was a wake up call for me too. I realized and decided I needed to focus on more important things in life and less time on things such as video games. It's about finding a balance and there needs to be sacrifice. One has to get out of their comfort zone and work on things they've been avoiding or putting off. Tomorrow comes quick so seize today and make it count.
This guy is like a breath of fresh air. Its hard to talk about how you feel all the time, but if you have a family who love you and a few friends, anything is possible.
I'm 25 now and recently started watching these videos. I dropped out of school, been an alcoholic and a cocaine addict and yet within the course of 5 months I've been hitting the gym hard for around 3 months, I've managed to stay sober and I've avoided all my "friends" that only ever called to get wasted. I've gotten myself a job and unfortunately I still live with a parent, but I'm determined. The only thing I have left to do is quit smoking, take more hours at work and get myself out of here where I can be at peace and focus. Even if that means starting with nothing but an empty house and food. Thank you for the advice and the perspective. The drive is almost making me grit my teeth. Love from UK!
Can you help me with the part where you said "I've managed to stay sober and I've avoided all my "friends" that only ever called to get wasted." They are the only friends whome I talk to and meet almost every day. They are with me since school and are nice and good to me. It's just they don't wanna quit smoking and getting high. And at this time I don't have any other friends. What should be done? Any advice anyone please?
@@Saudagar420 Well just because your friends are doing it, it doesn't mean you should too. The only reason I disposed of my friends was because they weren't supportive, didn't inspire me and didn't seem to care for my well-being. If your friends do care and are supportive in your endeavours, by all means keep them close but you're going to have to be assertive and have self discipline in order to stick by yourself and not smoke or part take in the bad things they do! I wish you all the best in figuring it out :)
Can you help me on the part “i got myself a job.” My question is that the job that you really love doing it? I resigned from my job because i know this is not the job for me and i hated it. I am always in tears of pain everytime i go to that workplace dealing with clients and contractors, and my superiors aren’t there to help me out. I’m in a spiral of self-blame and anxiety so I got out to work. Now my parents are forcing me to go to work, but i Hate it because i have that PTSD.
@@carltasticdrew9633 I don’t believe I’ve ever liked any line of work I’ve been in unfortunately buddy. I started off as a Chef at 16, at 23 I swapped to wholesale food sales and lifted sacks of potato’s onto pallets as a warehouse operative for two years, tore my shoulder muscle clean off my bone on the left side, as of now I’m up-cycling bicycles and what not and selling them at boot sales with my father. No where near as glorious but it pays money at about a fraction of the labour. Work smarter not harder ey? I’m 26 now.
As a 25 year old who knows there’s more to life than what I’m doing now, this is great. I often sway back and forth between, oh wow I’m still young and wow other people at 25 have accomplished so much. I guess life is a constant state self-improvement. JBP is a brilliant male role model.
Going to be 24 this year, recovered from 3 and half years of intense cocaine, meth, and pharmaceutical addiction. I've been clean now for almost 8 months, and will be going back to school to finish my bachelors as quick as possible. It's late in the game, but now that I'm no longer in the state that I was while constantly on drugs (working 50 hours a week, staying up 13 or more days straight); I feel like my mental health has changed dramatically. Thanks to a lot of decisions, and realizations in the past 8 months my depression and anxiety are no longer daily struggles. I've spent a good deal of time in the past 3 months studying, and preparing for the upcoming semester. One thing I'm most happy about is my conscious awareness, and becoming involved in what's going on around me, and being in tough situations willfully that will have rewarding outcomes. One thing I do while studying is listen to some of Jordan Peterson's lectures or interviews because I feel focusing on what I'm doing or the task at hand through some apparent distraction, helps me to ensure my grasp and understanding of the information I'm processing. People used to ask how I could study with the music blaring, and still manage to do well in school.
JESUS said... "Receive ye the Holy Ghost:" John 20:22b! KJV Therein is your POWER over sin! HOLY GHOST is "New Wine!" JOY UNSPEAKABLE and FULL of GLORY! 💓 (See 1 Peter 1:8!)🙏🙌 "But ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you:" Acts 1:8a! KJV
Glad you could get over your addiction. I'm currently fighting an alcohol addiction and I am probably at the lowest point in my life. I am determined I will get sober this time. Stay strong brother 👊
Amen to that! I'm 25 going on 26. Just got out of the hell last month. Hearing Jordan Peterson does help me alot to get back on the right track. Life still rough but i'm keep rolling forward. Best wishes!
I wish Jordan Peterson became popular at another time. He has so much helpful knowledge to impart on so many people, and it's truly a shame he's been painted as a controversial figure. There are so many people struggling with alcohol abuse in the early 20s and it really hinders one's potential when the brain is still forming. Plus he's one of the most generally wise people I've come across in my many hours of being in and watching lectures from decorated professors.
Sigma I agree, but I also would have benefitted greatly from his advice 4 years ago. I just now am watching his lectures after life had already forced me to learn 90% of the lessons he preaches and basically just watch him to hear someone agree with my own ideology.
I'm a therapist, and I'm primarily listening to his lectures on mental health and treatment. When I first listened to him, I noticed we conceptualize behavior in a similar way, typically reaching to the biological hardware that our consciousness is built upon. Very cool dude, and I hope he doesn't let the limelight pull him away from actually treating mental health instead of moving to solely commentating on the state of affairs.
Modern society wants to keep men docile and placated. Modern feminism wants to keep men on a leash and to treat them like obedient dogs. Is it any wonder why someone with even a modicum of common sense is seen as controversial in this day and age.
Idk how,but I have being followed JP videos for a while now, and it is pretty impressive how can anyone change. I am 37 years old, and recently I discovered that my life is not mine, and was always in this slippery place, but a man comes to a point where starts to grow up, and be more responsible. I have addictions that probably most people have or had, but it’s time for a change. You a true inspiration JP, and you make such a big difference in this horrible world, and you inspired me to find that better version of myself, and obviously it’s not going to happen overnight, but i will never give up until I find out what my purpose is.
Watching this as a 26 yo, having quit drinking a year and a half ago and quit smoking around a year ago, I feel like I'm on the right path. Especially the part about not regretting it because I've come out of it with a great many tales!
I am 24 in my second year of graduate school. Have had tobacco problems in the same way he described. So nice the see a beacon of light in a seemingly hopeless struggle. Thank you, Jordan. We needed to hear this.
Wow. Started sorting myself out at the same time. Im 25 with one more semester of college left for my bachelors. Good thing to know Im not as late as I thought I was. I am so glad I found Jordan Peterson. He has helped me improve tremendously.
People think that only youth is the time of personal mess that needs to sort out. Yet, personal drama is excused if not sympathized when you're over thirty.
It's encouraging to know that you're not the only one who struggle. Not to laugh on other people's pain, but to have a dose of reality that life sucks at some point, REALLY SUCKS EVEN. To be a little mercy on yourself. I tend to have very negative views on myself, which has costed me quite some times in my uni years. Havent graduted yet, turning 24, just getting my life together for a few months now. At times, waking up is filled with fear and anxiety. To those who struggle, you're not alone, and that is the best, most sincere words i can offer to you.
I'm bout to turn 19 this Dec 25, and I'm also kind of lost in my uncertain tragectory. I'm off porn, quit smoking and alcohol. The challenge for me right now is when do I start, the first step plausibly is the hardest one.
Jordan Peterson is an uncommon man in a society that needs uncommon men. Men who are blunt and honest, judgmental too. We need to teach boys to be men, but our society is so against being judgmental and enforcing gender stereotypes and roles that our men are becoming weaker and so are our women. Our belief in the idea of love and tolerance has allowed us to tolerate weakness instead of helping to fix it and make us stronger. We tell our children what they want to hear, not what they need to hear. We give them what they want instead of what they need. We spoil them instead of teaching discipline. I'm no baby boomer, but I clearly recognize the flaws in much of common society. So, we need more uncommon men like Jordan Peterson. And we need them now.
Agreed. I do think that the love and tolerance is a generally good thing of our society. Like everything though, too much of it will lead to the world you describe. It's hard to grow from a boy to a man these days, sometimes it seems as though all of society would rather you be weak. Usually not in a contemptuous way, but as a temptation disguised as kindness. That's why children win participation trophies and never experience a hateful word in their lives, at least until they make it to the real world. I almost feel lucky to have had an unfortunate upbringing...
..are you talking about California society since the 60's ? The idea of people not viewing the raising of their children as a serious matter seems more than a little flippant to me. There is nothing tepid about it
Yep I think I did misunderstand. I read that as you making out that people who raise children don't treat it as a serious matter. Whereas you're actually saying that people are not taking the choice of giving birth/having a child as a serious matter as a result of the 60's etc. , right?
I have so much respect for this man. I'm glad that university nonsense happened last year to bring his work and message to the attention of millions. God works in mysterious ways as they say. 1, Zuby
Man, so much of this resonates with me and the journey I've been on for the past few years. The practicality, the sacrifices you have to make to move forward with yourself aren't something most people really come to accept and recognize.
I turned 25 today and found this video by accident. I've been changing for the better for a while now and hopefully continue to do so. I hope one day to look back at myself at the age of 25 and realize how much I've changed for the better.
Failed an exam eight times because of my mental health and i was on a severe survival mode. dropped out of university two times because of anxiety. Don't have the finance to afford therapy. Being a topper to dropper, failure - sitting on the bottom of the well. I don't think i can get any lower than this. 26, without graduation or a job. Hurted my parents multiple times with my failures . But thank you for the heart warming comments, i will make sure it doesn't happen again. it's nice and comforting to know i am not alone. I think we should speak more about our insecurities, anxiety and mental health to break through this idea of 'perfect life'. There are many like me, who got lost since they hit their late teens. It has been scary for all of us. Going to start off with learning investment, get a job and crack that medical school entrance exam in 9th time. Also going to get that 88 kgs to 63 kgs because my weight and PCOS is really playing with my self image.
I'm the same. I'm turning 23 in three months. Good thing the past me decided to step up and focus on my future. When I was 22 I was so lost with my life. After listening to podcasts of Jordan Peterson, listening to advice, started cleaning my room, and switching courses for two times I almost got my shit together.
I have been following JP for some time now. I ordered a few of the books which he recommended to get into the habit of reading . I am 29 and I smoked 20 cigarettes a day and drink a bottle of rum on daily basis. This NYE I have decided to quit. It's been 5 days sober for me. I wish to overcome my demons and I will for sure. Jordan has been instrumental in this change. Being a man, our value goes up as our age goes up. Stay strong .
im 26 about to turn 27 and im trying to get off drinking and smoking i have been doing these things heavily for longer then i want to admit hearing someone like you struggling with the same things and overcoming them is honestly such a motivator if you are reading this yes you can quit smoking and drinking you are more important then your vices my friend do it for you and your family and your future family i love you
I will be 26 in July, quit smoking pots 4 months ago after 8 years of daily use, alcohol just sometimes, final year of master course. Feel completely lost in life, I try to continue improving myself but happiness is still far away from me and I don’t know why. Im glad to hear that I’m not the only one and that 25 is not to late so must keep grinding and believing.
Man, I´m so envious of him. I can´t even dream of achieving what he did at 25, and I´m 23 already. Feels like I got left behind in the race of becoming a truly respectable person.
True, but your IQ doesn´t mean shit if you haven´t learned to conduct yourself in the world properly. And that is the major issue! My IQ itself is pretty satisfying, but still I have good reason to fear for my future, because I didn´t start early enough to give a damn about it.
dude you're fuckin 23... your whole life is still ahead of you. When I was 23, I was shackin up in the ghetto with a big breasted welfare mom, walking 3 miles to work to make minimum wage. Now im 33 and I own my own home and business. You have plenty of time, but start now.
I’m 22 and I recently moved to a new city. It’s the first time being on my own- let alone outside of my hometown. Though I can’t say my life is great, I can’t say it’s horrible. I go to work every day, I’m trying to get myself back into college, and I finally have financial means to have my very own things. Despite this, I still feel a deep longing sadness within my heart that can’t be explained. My days seem to endlessly go on- and when it finally ends, the process repeats once again. I can’t say that I have friends, I did but more so in high school but now that I’m older, I genuinely find it hard to meet individuals who I can share a connection with. Most days I tell myself “You know?? I might go to a bar tonight or something like that, go outside and meet new people.” I’ve yet to do that but I’m hoping that I muster the courage soon because I feel lonely as ever.
Were meant to form strong bonds with people not work our entire lives. Its quite literally how our ancestors evolved and survived. Those that were ostracized and alone did not survive for very long and never procreated.
Please take that first step for your own sake man. And even if it doesn’t go as planned try again and again. That is what life is after all. The time I spent alone and sad I regret so much, so take it from me and put yourself out there as much as you can!
+delivery thrust 140 pounds = 64kg im sorry are you trolling? A short male or a kid has that weight and no with that weight you will not have the strenght to bench 100kg
I started to put myself together with 22. At the time I thought that was somewhat too late, but now I can see CLEARLY that I had to spent some years doing things severely and extreme wrong to have some background when I measure what is a good or a bad life
I was fortunate enough to discover the lectures, interviews and literature of Jordan Peterson at a very young age. I'm 18 years old and I have been keeping up with his podcasts and lectures for a while and I feel very privileged to be able to learn so much and develop so much so quickly, so that I can build the foundation of my life and education on something I find to be meaningful and solid.
My God.... So my life isn't a total mess, just turned 26, got my bachelors degree this past November. Got a 10 hour, well paid job recently. But really need to stop being so neurotic, be more disciplined and social. Particularly the social aspect, but I do not know how to start with that one.
Sounds similar to me, 23 in novemeber and struggling to finish getting my bachelors due to a complete lack of motivation. Discipline and sober social skills are below average and I'm as neurotic as Woody Allen. My favourite type of procrastination is the one where I'm thinking about how I would reform society so that my laziness wouldn't be punished as bad. When it comes to the social aspect I'm far from pro but I find that ever since I've started caring less about it, it goes much better. Once you are able to remind yourself that you're not the center of the universe things will improve. This doesn't mean that you have to become a nihilist. All it is supposed to do is to add some perspective to your particular perception of life. I imagine that similar to me you don't enjoy small talk. Good. You don't have to. But it is a social lubricant. With a little bit of small talk you can engage in a deeper conversation with anyone*, just ask the right questions and you'll get them to talk about stuff that won't make you want to leave the room. Get to know what your conversation partner is passionate about and you're set. There's something about listening and looking at a person that's expressing his or her passion. My social circle is also quite small but I find that being friends with a guy that knows more helps a ton. Through him I got to meet this girl that I started messaging recently and she just invited herself for dinner at my home so I can show her my cooking that I joked about. That caught me by surprise... Part of me is excited and the neurotic and irrational part of me is thinking that this must be some elaborate joke on my expense. But if a clueless fool like me can make steps towards a better social life then so can you. Congratulations on the job, 50 more years to go and you'll be free. But since we both have long slavery ahead of us I'd suggest you put some of your hard-earned money to improving your social skills on the weekends. Best of luck to you, you're not alone *almost anyone
When you're afraid of something you have to force yourself to walk towards it. Every time you run away it gets easier to run the next time. Also, shit can't be too bad If you've got a degree (without a huge amount of debt.) As far as social goes though I'm kinda silly. I'm incredibly charismatic around total strangers, but have trouble making and talking to real friends.
Social is actually quite simple, but not necessarily easy. I have done it myself. It really is as simple as putting yourself out there and talking to people. The trick is, if you are quite bad at it, start with very easy ways of doing it. Join some hobby class or whatever where interaction is required to participate. Bam, you're talking to people, and it will be easy because it will be about that hobby mostly. From there its a matter of coming with a slightly bigger challenge, like talking to people in a bar, etc. A big trick about learning to socialize is this: usually you put too much attention on yourself, what I mean is you think about you, and what is happening to you, and how people react to you, too much. To avoid this, there are a few tricks: focus on other people. Actively engage your mind in this. LISTEN with full attention. Ask questions. Also, its not as much about what you say, its about listening and feeling other people, and engaging with them in a "sharing the fun, the conversation" attitude.
Feel bad for wasting all those years seeking for fun, jumping from a relationship to another and wasting my energy on destroing my body. I decided a few months ago that it was it. couldnt see my life going the way it was. I'm 24 now, greatefull for all those incredible minds that make us think that threre's always a way out and there's always self improvements to be achieved. Much love from brazil to anyone reading this!
Dropped out of university back in 2017. due to anxiety, panic attacks and general depression. Tried college again a year later in 2018. , the same thing happened. I locked myself in even more until around 2020. I started going to a psychologist. It helped at first. I even got some medication. Even found a girlfriend for a few months. Tried to work, but only lasted for 3 days due to anxiety. It all went bad again. Locked myself in again. Then tried uni for the 3rd time in 2022. and I broke again. Now it's going to be the summer of 2023. I'm 25 years old, no degree, job or girlfriend. I've started going to the gym for the past few weeks. I have gained a lot of weight due to bad habits and staying in all the time. I hang out more and more with my friends. Some of them understand my situatuon, some of them don't. Don't know what or how my life will be going. My parents are getting older and I'm worried what I will do. I have caused them too much pain. The sadness is sometimes unberable. I'm not sucidal, but don't know how it wil be in a few years if nothing changes. I recently went to the same psychologist again. Don't know if it helps. Only thing that helps a bit is praying...
Keep praying...take it one day at a time, one thing at a time. focus on the things you can control and focus less on things you can't control. You're gonna be okay bro....everybody goes through this things in their 20's.
@@jackedpreacher6570I’m 23 about halfway thru my degree and have been worried sick about applying for job interviews and what kind of money I will be making starting out. The best thing is to take small steps to improve yourself. Getting yourself out there may help a lot, look into doing some volunteer work it’s easy to get into and will help you get your foot in the door. I just started doing some on the weekends while in school and after 2 shifts I’ve learned a lot already
I am also 25, I am praying for you, you are not alone. God loves you! Everyone is doing life for the first time so don’t be so hard on yourself. Life is a miracle
I'm 27 now, and I had a pretty similar experience when I was in college. I went to a pretty decent school but I was incredibly unhappy there, drowned myself in alcohol and filled my lungs with weed to cope with it and eventually I decided I had to get my act together if I wanted my life to turn out productive. Stopped hanging out with people who were detrimental to my goals, I never quit alcohol or weed fully but barred myself from any consumption on weekdays (as I was still pretty miserable so needed something to get me through the week lol), and made sure I had a dedicated schedule every day to how I was going to get to where I wanted to be. Ended up finding a job for the next semester and took a gap semester off to get some work experience, and eventually transferred to MIT the next year. Got out of college and continued this mindset and I have soared past people my age in the corporate world. Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing this message with so many young people, I only wish I could've heard this when I was younger.
This is sobering to hear. Often I get down on myself for having terrible habits that are in grand perspective not bad at all. I would imagine a person of your intellect would be mostly flawless or without fault throughout your younger years. Glad to hear we all have struggles in a way.
Turning 26 in May and woweee this video resonates with me. Turning 25 was when I really started having a good hard look at where my current trajectory (drinking, drugs, smoking, porn) was taking me. Just started my post graduate studies and hope to become a Clinical Psychologist and business owner. It seems to be around this age that us males start to get our shit together judging by all the other comments in the post. Good luck to everyone!
I am 25 now and I am graduated last year. I am depressed and I try for jobs but no luck. I am overweight and I want to change my life in positive way. I think that after getting job I can sort my life and do positive things. I hope for best for me and you all. We can do it people.
Wow. I'm 25, i was alchoholic, drinked 2 years non stop. But now month ago i quit drinking and begin to training and work with my self sobatage, impulsive, hedonistic character.
I turn 25 in start of July. I dropped out of school in 2016. Actually going back this fall to play lacrosse. It’s been a hell of a rough last 5 years of drinking and smoking weed. Have not made my parents proud to say the least. I know when I hit that age I will be thinking of myself as a new man. Prayers be with me!
I've tried to give up smoking a few times but always gone back to it. About a month ago I came to the same conclusion as you described in this video - if I'm going to quit smoking, I have to quit drinking too. So that's what I've done. Good to hear it worked for you!
I'm 25 now.. And in one month I'll be 26. It has been one of the most mentally tumultuous years of my life, no doubt, and I can't be grateful enough for finding this video just in the nick of time. Thanks for the extra push of inspiration. I'm quitting smoking and plan on drinking far less, I also want to cut back on smoking weed significantly which, after years of being in denial about the plant's negative effects, is something that I've concluded has not made me thrive at all. Quite the contrary. It has held me back from facing reality. Finally, I must start working out. I've had feeble attempts in the past but could never stick with it.. Thanks in part.. Or more than just in part.. to my three consistent vices. So truly, thanks for the video, and I hope everybody else who watches it finds the motivation to change as well.
Jordan Peterson inspires me greatly, daily to be a better man. To be a better son, Christian, brother and husband. His "no nonsense", wise opinions are informing new character in me to stand up for the Good, the True and the Beautiful. No wonder Google and FB are censoring him and shutting him down. Google, you can't kill good ideas!
I just turned 24 and luckily i have been listening to him since i was 17. when i was 18, launched my 1st business, experienced different cycles but the most incredible time was when i was 20 & 21 when the net-worth of the company moved from 1000$ to 100k$, was getting in better shape. lost focus after that due to clubs, woman, and not very productive friendships. Turned 23 last year and been getting the business and my mind right, just started to see some great results this year...can not wait for 25
Don't forget to have some fun too. Before you know it you're 34 like me, and miss the social opportunities, the flirting, the adventures with new friends.....
I'm 23 and in grad school will finish in two years and start practicing medicine as a PA. I too have a porn addiction and the sexual persuits are clouding my brain when I need to focus on studying medicine. Your video was inspirational. Thank you
Really good to hear. I resonate with so many things you say, and over the past year I've realised that my stance has changed from wanting of attainment to realizations of implementation... It's been good to come back to your talks and realise that I've achieved the states and implemented actions that I longed for... By no means do I have it sussed out, but god damn it feels good to realise and acknowledge progress. You're doing god's work Jordan... Christ/Buddha's teachings were all about sharing profound teachings of bettering yourself and the people around you as a result. You truly do have a voice that is heard.
I am 23 and have struggled with feeling like somethings missing for a while. I keep trying to “get my act together” but its hard... i have taken drugs smoked etc. I dropped out of college to travel, now im in australia ive been to every continent, ive done volunteer work all over the world ive lived in villages in fiji and in the amazonas of peru. I sit here and slate myself sometimes that im not doing more, i became vegetarian recently and have started exercise but still i feel like im not doing enough! But i think i need to be fairer to myself after watching this. Yes i could be on some graduate program in some top bank like friends i have at college. But im not and thats fine, all that matters is that i want to progress, i want to sort myself out, i want to achieve and develop and contribute something towards the world. I guess the more time that goes the more i want it and one day i will find it. Maybe a lot of you can relate. I will stay, just keep trying, keep failing, keep going and keep cultivating your self and as long as you do that, for now that is all you need to do. Be proud of the process for all greats had one. Include my new found idol Mr Peterson. Thankyou Dad
"Dissolve in the chaos as soon a crisis comes along" - this was really poignant, well said and showed a heap of wisdom. It's not always just a slow burn - when something huge hits, **everything** comes out and that's either the end of the relationship or the beginning of the end. Pretty much the only time you ever 'get away with' that is when it occurs to, say, your parents, who will love you almost no matter what (almost). Downside is you scar them and yourself forever and you never live it down.
This is it. This is the sign. I'm turning 25 in a month. Dropped out of college in 6 years ago due to anxiety and depression. Never had a job since. Locked myself in my room for those years. Caused so much pain to my parents. This is it. I'll dedicate this month looking for a job as a first step of sorting my life out. Wish me luck.
22 dropped out of uni bcuz of anxiety related issues,working my way back into being a competent fully functional juggernaut of a man,see you there brother 💪🏾
Hope it’s going well brother-keep moving forward!
Show up for yourself every day
All the best buddy.. don't feel bad about dropping out of school or anything.. I experienced the same.. believe me when you give yourself a shot.. you'll see how far you can leap.. go as far as you can, dream big.. I wish you the best
You can do it my friend. Please update us on your progress. Fair play to ye
225lbs bench. Brofessor Peterson in the gym
Kolonel Sanders Mass is In session
hahaha
YESSSSSS COMMENT WIN!
InCaseOfEmergency EatAss Your profipe name tho
I like how he spent half the video bragging lmao. Yeah bro I benched 225 pounds and wrote 3 times as many papers as anyone else.
I'm 25 now, found Jordan Peterson about 5 years ago. Being a young guy, without a father and living in a rather poor neighbourhood, I found myself being depressive, lacking a job and any higher education. Now, 5 years later, I can proudly say that I have finished my degree in Computer Science, work as a Software Engineer, got engaged and live with my soon-to-be wife. Thank you Jordan for everything.
Wow bro congratulations.. 👏👏👏
How did you manage to afford the higher education, had a similar upbringing and battling to get a decent job currently without a degree while my friends are cruising into higher paying jobs due to having one it seems?
God I missed Comp Sci, took AP in Highschool and got some credits but haven't actually followed through yet at a college
Good work bro
@@stevensseagull If you are interested in Computer Science that's your best bet to get a high-paying job without a degree. Make a plan for yourself, watch videos, read some good books, and make sure you structure your learning in a dedicated way rather than just going through it. If you do all this successfully you can get a 70-100k/yr job with no degree within probably about 8-10 months.
However, if it's not something you're passionate about, you'll never be able to do it, especially if you have another job as it's something you'll have to do in addition to whatever you're currently doing. In that case I would try and find a certain niche that you're interested in and push hard at it, then you can maybe find an employer who will pay for your tuition or you can get a scholarship. On a completely separate note, there are a lot of trades out there (plumbing, woodworking, electricians) that are terribly underemployed, so if you can find someone who will mentor you that's a great way to earn 200-250k/yr after a decade or so with no degree. The carpenter who works on my house is always going on about how he wishes he could find someone to train, so maybe if you just go into a couple of those kind of businesses and ask if they're looking for someone who wants to learn you might have a decent shot.
Good luck man I wish you the best!
To me life is about constant improvement. Try not to focus on how old you are, just focus on the next step.
Always strive to be the best version of yourself. Peace
Constant improvement also comes from learning from the past ;-)
Disney world response. Weak sauce.
@@PoliticalWonderland You are so beta it’s sad
@@PoliticalWonderland and what response would you have preferred to read?
Jordan '2 plates' Peterson
I'm using this from now on 😂
Jordan Creatine Son!
LOL
LOOOOOOOOOOL
I'm fuckin' dyin'. He's so great.
Weird... Is it just me or has Peterson turned out to be some sort of father figure to young men looking for a place in their life?
im 16 male and fine JP AMAZING.
He's either a father figure or a divine figure. I for one am certainly glad to have found him. How many people here found out about JP from Andrew Klavan?
BLESSED BE THE DAY! FOR THE GOOD DOCTOR HAS SHONE HIS LIGHT ON MINE EYES. THOU HAST MOST GRACIOUSLY LINTED THE SEED OF MY CLOTH! PARFIRI PETRI ET NUMENUM. Amen brothers and sisters.
You don't like my biblebabble? I thought it was okay, a lot of gibberish for sure. I'll have to work on it more.
Thine lord in canada, peace be in his name. For thine hast thou giveth lord wherefore hath upon.
hit the nail on the head. i always knew all the right wing culture warrior babbies wanted is a cool dad to pat them on the back and say 'its alright skip, dont worry about those shrill SJWs, just buy my book and lets go out back and throw the ole pigskin around'
Nice m9 b8.
why do you assume that everyone who listens to JP is right wing? Why can't some of us be radical moderates?
225 bench, not bad.
Glad to see you here
CANDITO
Damnn!! Small world
Ian Mccarthy is a huge peterson fan as well. No surprise that lifters gravitate towards this sort of thing.
If you are fat fuck or tall
I hope that all of you who are: about 25, graduated with bachelor's, not very social yet, and feeling sorry for yourself, are still grateful for the position you're in. I didn't start sorting myself out until I was 23 years old. Now I'm 26, and although I feel like I've discovered my purpose and what brings meaning to my life, it's a long road ahead of me and I won't have my bachelors degree until 29. If there's one thing I've learned along the way it's just to let go of self-pity. It's only holding you back.
What's the rush? So you'll be 29,that is still young.
having a bachelors degree does not mean your life is all sorted out.
Nimity Tei Has to learn the hard way lol
Some are...
"Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." 2 Timothy 3:7!
WHY? Because they leave JESUS out!
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me." John 14:6!
Time is winding up. All we have is time to live for JESUS! The LORD will give you a PhD if that's the desire of your heart.
"Delight thyself also in the LORD; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart."
Psalm 37:4!
Stipulation? Find all you need in JESUS! Delight thyself! 💓💓💓
Do u have your bachelors degree now? I see it’s been 4 years since u wrote this comment… so u shud be 30 now ..
When I turned 25 in July I checked myself into a rehab 3 days later
I am 169 days sober today and my life is starting to get better
I’m working a decent job with benefits and have meaningful friendships/relationships now
I know it will take time to undo a lot of the damage I’ve done but I’m working on it and couldn’t be prouder of myself
Keep it up!
Keep up the good work!
What is "meaning" to you ?
Love this!
Thats admirable! You probably know already but just to let others know, addictions stick for life, it's a war and you are dominating! Just don't ever let yourself "that one drink" or "only one beer" Now You are a man that DOES NOT DRINK, that's who you are, and that who you should stay, be proud of that, peace.
This really makes him human and makes us realize that even at the lowest of places, anyone can strive and become better versions of themselves. Thank you Sir, for sharing this part of your life to us.
You a qr-code ur can't talk about what makes someone a "human", chill
qué?
If he pulled himself out of hell, I have every doubt that he is human, lest we be swine.
The truth is a terrible thing, but not compared to falsehood.
Leah Woroglian nothing* sounds more poetic :-)
Leah Woroglian 🙏🏽
The truth is not a terrible thing
Loved that too. Wildesque vibe (I can resist everything except temptation), but deeper
MrCheckHammer yeah it is
Not lying in a relationship is definitely the way to go. Learned this the hard way. Losing a meaningful relationship is hard, losing your best friend is almost unbearable.
Learned this this week. Hope you're doing better. Thanks for the comment
Did the same thing
Brah get another one ain’t that bad
@@marcelm-meatstatues8207 that's because you don't value your relationships lmao, you'll drop them like a bat for the next one instead of working on it. That's not really being capable of love. Literally, indifference is the opposite of love. Same way not valuing something means no conflict.
If two different things are valued there's conflict, add indifference and there's no conflict. You clearly don't value your partners, what are they F objects? Moving on from a relationship also doesn't mean indifference, that's worse than valuing it and moving on (unless it was a horrid relationship)
@@macaroni586 who cares macaroni your names a pasta
Jesus. Peterson use to be like me? Maybe all isn't lost.
He represents Canada in the Psycho-Decathalon !
Yeah. I didn't get to that part yet. So he was way better than me. lol
He's better than most of us. It's a good thing that he wanted to help others to man up instead of resting on his laurels, otherwise we'd be fucked.
There are things you can’t overcome. To be like Peterson now, you need several generations slowly working towards. Look at your accomplishments by added value to your family tree. Sort yourself out by accepting your limits and just try to guide your children grow over you. Jesper Juul is the man to read or listen to know best how to guide children better than you were guided. Naturally when you read Juul you will find out everything you learnt from Peterson will help you tremendously.
I'm glad I found this. Gives me hope that I can still sort my self out.
At 25... My life changed too... all the stuff I told myself I would do since 16-18 years... I STARTED DOING THEM. Made a Routine for it. Nothing is perfect, I could probably be more ''in shape and more efficient'' but I dont let the ''maybe/could be bother me''.... cause I know... Since 25years old... the past 3 years have been BETTER/Stronger/Improvement at ALL LEVEL. I am finally becoming the MAN I dreamed to be... it's all action. I started slow at 25 years old and been building momentum since... (started at 1 pushup x 6.... now over 25 x 6)... studied 30 minutes after work.. now at 2 hours after work every day.... 1h30 gym, 8hours work,2 hours study, 2 hours of ''leisure (cooking included'', a bit of dancing a few times a week, sleep early, wake up early... A new man.... some times I slip but I get back eventually. Overall... I am ABOVE and much more disciplined and focused, sorted out compared to previous 25 years old of life...The child died, the man grew up
Dude, that's inspiring. How did you come up to this? How's it going now?
@@myroninthesky320 can i recommend you wes watson? look him up on youtube. If you listen to what he is saying
@@isdenn7 😹
The human brain matures at the age of 25. psychology 101
how old are you now?
Currently 25, still struggling, but in the process of sorting my life out. Keeping it as reminder here, will check my progress in the next 2 years.
Hope you’re still going strong bro
@@raiezy Still going strong. More experienced since the last time I wrote this comment. Put myself in uncomfortable situations. I'd say I'm a little less naive and have grown up a little. 😄
Same here i wish you luck and God speed
Kaesa chal raha hae bhai ?
How are you doing now, brother?
I probably sorted myself out at 17 when I took a hard look at who I was hanging out with, what I was doing, and where my trajectory was taking me. Then I decided that I was going to go to school far away from where I lived to intentionally break all the bonds I had formed to start fresh. Never looked back. Never went to a high school reunion. Have not spoken with anyone I knew in high school (aside from family). Best decision I ever made.
Where are you know? (generally speaking)
The hardest problem is getting away from the toxic people in your life. You either have to run away, or wait for them to die if they are older than you. Some friends you can't just cut ties with because they may be in a worse off position than you in terms of mentally. But if you wait, your spirit may be dead by then from having to deal with those people on a daily basis. The worst part about these kinds of problems at least for me is that there isn't really anyone you can reach out to. sure I can sit here an watch Jordan Peterson, but he doesn't even know I exist. the key I think maybe is finding someone who has true sympathy for you and similar interests. Finding that person, or people, before you try to end the loneliness is a problem.
same. I'm 17 right now and I can firmly say I've gotten myself on the right path. I was always the quiet kid, but i hanged out with people who toxic to my life. My GPA was a 2.7 sophomore year, and now I have a 3.8 (in my junior year). At the start of this school year I weighed 133 but I have gained 25 pounds. There's so many improvements I have made within a short period of time. You just have to let go of everything and grab life by the neck.
How do you deal with the occasional memories of those people and the past that rear its ugly head?
It hurts a lot and for the most part and it's not the people. It's the time you've wasted. You can always get friends back but time is constantly drifting away. In regards to the people, since I've witnessed my own progression the last place I want to be is with those people. Try to make new friends (like chuck said) and get involved with something (maybe your community). The more, "free time" you have the more you'll ponder on mistakes you have made. It is a complete waste of time.
This video found me at the right time it seems. Turning 26 in November and right now I'm in a state where I'm basically just over-indulging in everything. Can't stop drinking crap that's bad for me, can't stop eating crap that's bad for me, my libido is absolutely out of control and I'm just diving into porn and sexual persuits basically every single day. My entire existence for the past month has been focused on desire-fullfillment, and I realise this and I'm not happy about it. It's like the hedonistic, deviant, degenerate and perverted 10% of my mind has become 90% of my focus, which is wrong and absurd for obvious reasons. It's just 10% of my being yet it's so intense lately it dominates my life. Unacceptable.
I don't need inspiration from a video to get my shit together, but it's always good to know someone you value as a source of wisdom and intellectual discourse has overcome similar issues. We always KNOW what we need to do and we always KNOW that it all comes down to us but fucking up is too easy and I've always taken the easy way out. Just gotta really put my foot down and stop the destructive behaviour. Stop the drinking. Stop the over-eating. Stop the partying. Stop projecting sexual thoughts and fantasies onto every God damn thing. Stop being a dumbass, basically. I'm gonna drop this shit cold Turkey. Had enough. Feeling so trash physically and mentally I can barely think straight and obsess over nonsense. I'm done.
Let's hope I can pull up my mental bootstraps and good luck to everyone else who is trying to get right.
I was in similar position a year ago , lethargic and unmotivated on the same negative self destructive spiral, I could not get out of it no matter how hard I tried, I turned to Christ to give me an ABSOLUTE foundation mindfulness 'Take up your cross and meet me at your own Golgotha in the crucifixion of your 'EGO' to 'sort yourself out'. 'Take up your cross and follow me'
I said 'If I keep doing this sordid masturbation, bad living and sexual fantasy projection, IT WILL kill my spiritual 'self'' i had just recently discovered at the depths of depression.
Since then I have had no compulsion or any controlling desire. I pay for the years doing this each moon cycle with 'sordid dreams' of sexual fantasies, but they are decreasing.
but during the day no 'desire' whatsoever BECAUSE of my absoluteness in my abstinent no joking around seriousness approach.
Key is learning what and how the 'EGO' works against you and to 'crucify' it through intense self - knowledge daily. To become 'aware' and not be a pinball to the 'EGO'.
Know thy self, have an absolute 'point' of 'potential' attainment and carefully without serious 'expectation' but slowly work towards it.
I wish you luck!
Almost feeling a little guilty for not having any of these kinds of problems, turning 20 in a month.
Well, actually my problem is that I'm not conscientious enough toward my own projects, could use some of that JBP's obsessiveness he talked about here. :D
We're all gonna make it, man.
Robert Jacobs
God is good we are not, God directs and draws the paths of those that diligently seek Him.
Do a vlog series about it like the channel: 'Sorting Myself Out'
Find your brains patterns. You know what habits you'd like to get rid of in your life. So when you see yourself about to indulge the desire to carry out the habit - FREEZE. Observe, notice your emotional state, notice the beliefs that are attached to the emotional state. After a short but meaningful amount of time unfreeze and immediately go do another activity - anything else at all. Eventually you'll find yourself becoming more and more productive the more you freeze, observe, and reactivate.
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This is the perfect comment put into words. Emotions have to be caught and analyzed. Otherwise they will run rampant and cause chaos.
25 is an odd age, I'm currently 25 & what I've noticed is you really start thinking a lot more about life.
Well, I definitely can say the same, around 24-25.
24 here and only really now has it hit me
From what I’ve learned, men’s brain don’t fully develop until 25. Women’s brains develop a lot earlier on.
I just turned 25
@@lossedatsea1811 December 97? 🤝
I'm so proud of all of you. You're working on yourselves even when it's tough and helping out your fellow man in the process. I've seen so many people in the comments giving advice to others and it just warms my heart. You're what men should be (from a female perspective): hard-working, kind, and strong. I love all of you.
This made me cry... Beautiful
true, it would be better more people were here. Society messed us all up pretty good. I'm glad so many are still fighting, struggling instead of quitting life in general.
I’m 27, about to be 28. I started to feel almost as if I had peaked. My hunger for knowledge and challenges almost seemed to disappear. Peterson has helped me realize that it’s not too late.
I’m in the same boat. 28, got a lot of things figured out in my life but feel like something is missing. Been working to go back to school and challenge myself again. Hope you find the challenge you need and keep that hunger for knowledge alive and well
It’s just the beginning boiz. The only move available is forward. Let’s make the best of it, for our families futures.
@@joshfranklin474 Hear hear Josh
@Tony G for u ruclips.net/video/vQ7ZvPghdy8/видео.html
@Tony G same
"The truth is a terrible thing, but not compared to falsehood." - love this. So true!
This guy is just amazing. I’m 26 and feel like I’m so behind my peers in every sense of the word adulting but I’m glad I found his videos. I really want to begin the journey of turning my shit around, seems so daunting but I’d rather keep trying and failing over again then to not even try at all.
I hope you still have the strength
I'm there with you, pal! But we can do this, if we invest ourselves in it. Let's create the best version of ourselves and try first and foremost. Not trying means defeat!
we're in the same situation - hope you're on the road!
"The truth is a terrible thing, but not compared to falsehoods."
(January 2022): One thing that’s remarkable about Peterson is that he’s had a burning passion since he was a teenager. He found his purpose early in life and he pursued it. Difficult sacrifices were made, but it was destined to happen with such a strong sense of self. I hope I can follow in his example with whatever road I may take. I turn 18 in June and I’m already reading and taking notes on many pieces of literature and loving it. I think that may be my purpose in life as well. We shall see. In 10 years, I’ll edit this post and give an update. I myself am curious to see where I’ll end up!
(March 2022): Glad to see the support, thank you very much :) I was just accepted to University of Arizona Honors College as well!
Good luck
I turn 20 in 5 months i wish I would read more books and have more time.
Will be looking forward to your update.
Good luck :)
Rooting for you man
This video was so beautiful and up-lifting. I love that he married his childhood sweetheart. Hearing him describe himself as manic in some ways really makes me feel less ashamed of my own manifestations of mania. Thanks for sharing :)
•CRITICAL CONDITION• 👍👍😎
•CRITICAL CONDITION• hi critical! Love your channel
I doubt your mania could ever be that bad to be ashamed of, guy.
I am in love with your face
•CRITICAL CONDITION• sounds like something out of a fictional love story(too good to be true) but hey he deserves it!
sorted himself out with 25
*finished his PHD*
Actually was just starting his PhD at 25; he finished it at 29.
Philip Hodges - wow, what a hopeless layabout XD
Sweet SweeetHistory snorted*
25 was a wake up call for me too. I realized and decided I needed to focus on more important things in life and less time on things such as video games. It's about finding a balance and there needs to be sacrifice. One has to get out of their comfort zone and work on things they've been avoiding or putting off. Tomorrow comes quick so seize today and make it count.
This guy is like a breath of fresh air. Its hard to talk about how you feel all the time, but if you have a family who love you and a few friends, anything is possible.
"Truth is a terrible thing but not compared to falsehood" - alright let's look at the live chat...
A modern day philospher indeed !
I'm 25 now and recently started watching these videos. I dropped out of school, been an alcoholic and a cocaine addict and yet within the course of 5 months I've been hitting the gym hard for around 3 months, I've managed to stay sober and I've avoided all my "friends" that only ever called to get wasted. I've gotten myself a job and unfortunately I still live with a parent, but I'm determined. The only thing I have left to do is quit smoking, take more hours at work and get myself out of here where I can be at peace and focus. Even if that means starting with nothing but an empty house and food. Thank you for the advice and the perspective. The drive is almost making me grit my teeth. Love from UK!
Can you help me with the part where you said "I've managed to stay sober and I've avoided all my "friends" that only ever called to get wasted."
They are the only friends whome I talk to and meet almost every day. They are with me since school and are nice and good to me. It's just they don't wanna quit smoking and getting high. And at this time I don't have any other friends. What should be done? Any advice anyone please?
@@Saudagar420 Well just because your friends are doing it, it doesn't mean you should too. The only reason I disposed of my friends was because they weren't supportive, didn't inspire me and didn't seem to care for my well-being. If your friends do care and are supportive in your endeavours, by all means keep them close but you're going to have to be assertive and have self discipline in order to stick by yourself and not smoke or part take in the bad things they do! I wish you all the best in figuring it out :)
@@oizapeters If God does exist, he should hand in his two weeks notice and bury his head in the sand.
Can you help me on the part “i got myself a job.” My question is that the job that you really love doing it? I resigned from my job because i know this is not the job for me and i hated it. I am always in tears of pain everytime i go to that workplace dealing with clients and contractors, and my superiors aren’t there to help me out. I’m in a spiral of self-blame and anxiety so I got out to work. Now my parents are forcing me to go to work, but i Hate it because i have that PTSD.
@@carltasticdrew9633 I don’t believe I’ve ever liked any line of work I’ve been in unfortunately buddy. I started off as a Chef at 16, at 23 I swapped to wholesale food sales and lifted sacks of potato’s onto pallets as a warehouse operative for two years, tore my shoulder muscle clean off my bone on the left side, as of now I’m up-cycling bicycles and what not and selling them at boot sales with my father. No where near as glorious but it pays money at about a fraction of the labour. Work smarter not harder ey? I’m 26 now.
As a 25 year old who knows there’s more to life than what I’m doing now, this is great. I often sway back and forth between, oh wow I’m still young and wow other people at 25 have accomplished so much. I guess life is a constant state self-improvement. JBP is a brilliant male role model.
A chain-smoking hard drinking bodybuilding Jerry Seinfeld
Neither Either And all while Canadian.
So, what's the deal with postmodernism?
Metamorphesis lol perfect
Zack Klein Why???
Because he's an entitled, untalented jew loser.
Going to be 24 this year, recovered from 3 and half years of intense cocaine, meth, and pharmaceutical addiction. I've been clean now for almost 8 months, and will be going back to school to finish my bachelors as quick as possible. It's late in the game, but now that I'm no longer in the state that I was while constantly on drugs (working 50 hours a week, staying up 13 or more days straight); I feel like my mental health has changed dramatically. Thanks to a lot of decisions, and realizations in the past 8 months my depression and anxiety are no longer daily struggles. I've spent a good deal of time in the past 3 months studying, and preparing for the upcoming semester. One thing I'm most happy about is my conscious awareness, and becoming involved in what's going on around me, and being in tough situations willfully that will have rewarding outcomes. One thing I do while studying is listen to some of Jordan Peterson's lectures or interviews because I feel focusing on what I'm doing or the task at hand through some apparent distraction, helps me to ensure my grasp and understanding of the information I'm processing. People used to ask how I could study with the music blaring, and still manage to do well in school.
Wow, that is absolutely amazing, omg, congratulations
I bow to you my friend. Keep up the good work.
Hope you are still doing well!
JESUS said...
"Receive ye the Holy Ghost:" John 20:22b! KJV
Therein is your POWER over sin! HOLY GHOST is "New Wine!" JOY UNSPEAKABLE and FULL of GLORY! 💓
(See 1 Peter 1:8!)🙏🙌
"But ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you:"
Acts 1:8a! KJV
I also had a life light bulb moment at 25 I felt like I already wasted 7 years of my life but it's never to late to start a new
How is it going now?
It’s never too late, it’s never too laaaaate!
I felt the same in a way, nevertheless we have to keep moving forward, no matter what.
That's how I feel at 25
Wow. @ 25 I was in the last 2 years of a meth addiction... Doing much better now. =]
Glad you could get over your addiction. I'm currently fighting an alcohol addiction and I am probably at the lowest point in my life. I am determined I will get sober this time. Stay strong brother 👊
@Henry-Bart I was 25 during those 2 years, not the whole time..... What a strange thing to comment on a 2 year old post about.
@Henry-Bart Better & better, thanks for asking.
Amen to that! I'm 25 going on 26. Just got out of the hell last month. Hearing Jordan Peterson does help me alot to get back on the right track. Life still rough but i'm keep rolling forward. Best wishes!
@@kimtoannhan7275 Just stick to the struggle, even if you slip up, get right back into no more, never again. Good luck my dude.
I wish Jordan Peterson became popular at another time. He has so much helpful knowledge to impart on so many people, and it's truly a shame he's been painted as a controversial figure. There are so many people struggling with alcohol abuse in the early 20s and it really hinders one's potential when the brain is still forming. Plus he's one of the most generally wise people I've come across in my many hours of being in and watching lectures from decorated professors.
I think now is the time he is precisely needed in. Without the controversy would he be known by so many?
Sigma I agree, but I also would have benefitted greatly from his advice 4 years ago. I just now am watching his lectures after life had already forced me to learn 90% of the lessons he preaches and basically just watch him to hear someone agree with my own ideology.
I'm a therapist, and I'm primarily listening to his lectures on mental health and treatment. When I first listened to him, I noticed we conceptualize behavior in a similar way, typically reaching to the biological hardware that our consciousness is built upon. Very cool dude, and I hope he doesn't let the limelight pull him away from actually treating mental health instead of moving to solely commentating on the state of affairs.
Obviously didnt affect Jordan Peterson that much hes insanely intelligent...
Modern society wants to keep men docile and placated. Modern feminism wants to keep men on a leash and to treat them like obedient dogs. Is it any wonder why someone with even a modicum of common sense is seen as controversial in this day and age.
Idk how,but I have being followed JP videos for a while now, and it is pretty impressive how can anyone change.
I am 37 years old, and recently I discovered that my life is not mine, and was always in this slippery place, but a man comes to a point where starts to grow up, and be more responsible.
I have addictions that probably most people have or had, but it’s time for a change.
You a true inspiration JP, and you make such a big difference in this horrible world, and you inspired me to find that better version of myself, and obviously it’s not going to happen overnight, but i will never give up until I find out what my purpose is.
Hold the line 💪
Watching this as a 26 yo, having quit drinking a year and a half ago and quit smoking around a year ago, I feel like I'm on the right path. Especially the part about not regretting it because I've come out of it with a great many tales!
I am 24 in my second year of graduate school. Have had tobacco problems in the same way he described. So nice the see a beacon of light in a seemingly hopeless struggle. Thank you, Jordan. We needed to hear this.
How is your life going for you now? Have you been able to kick tobacco?
Wow. Started sorting myself out at the same time. Im 25 with one more semester of college left for my bachelors. Good thing to know Im not as late as I thought I was. I am so glad I found Jordan Peterson. He has helped me improve tremendously.
So how are you now then 5yrs on?
I'm 31. Still sorting myself out every year. The road to personal development is endless.
one day at a time, best of luck bro.
People think that only youth is the time of personal mess that needs to sort out. Yet, personal drama is excused if not sympathized when you're over thirty.
And to think what number of reincarnations you’re at, too…
@@danielparker7789
If you believe in that.
@@danielparker7789 Is this needed here?
26. From Northern Alberta. Over Drinking and Smoking. Trying to publish. I relate to this on a ridiculous level.
Clean your room
im 31 and still fucking up
3 years on, hope your fucking up less mate
Well, how are you?
@@vincent2053 doing better .. dont do drugs children
@@Geardrive427-ip8vj i MATTER!
It's encouraging to know that you're not the only one who struggle. Not to laugh on other people's pain, but to have a dose of reality that life sucks at some point, REALLY SUCKS EVEN. To be a little mercy on yourself. I tend to have very negative views on myself, which has costed me quite some times in my uni years. Havent graduted yet, turning 24, just getting my life together for a few months now. At times, waking up is filled with fear and anxiety. To those who struggle, you're not alone, and that is the best, most sincere words i can offer to you.
thank you a lot man.
As a young Canadian (19 years old) I find this very helpful. Makes me think I can get my act together. Thanks Jordan!
Hey im 19 , how its going can we have an update ?
I'm bout to turn 19 this Dec 25, and I'm also kind of lost in my uncertain tragectory. I'm off porn, quit smoking and alcohol. The challenge for me right now is when do I start, the first step plausibly is the hardest one.
Jordan Peterson is an uncommon man in a society that needs uncommon men. Men who are blunt and honest, judgmental too. We need to teach boys to be men, but our society is so against being judgmental and enforcing gender stereotypes and roles that our men are becoming weaker and so are our women.
Our belief in the idea of love and tolerance has allowed us to tolerate weakness instead of helping to fix it and make us stronger. We tell our children what they want to hear, not what they need to hear. We give them what they want instead of what they need. We spoil them instead of teaching discipline.
I'm no baby boomer, but I clearly recognize the flaws in much of common society. So, we need more uncommon men like Jordan Peterson. And we need them now.
Agreed. I do think that the love and tolerance is a generally good thing of our society. Like everything though, too much of it will lead to the world you describe.
It's hard to grow from a boy to a man these days, sometimes it seems as though all of society would rather you be weak. Usually not in a contemptuous way, but as a temptation disguised as kindness. That's why children win participation trophies and never experience a hateful word in their lives, at least until they make it to the real world. I almost feel lucky to have had an unfortunate upbringing...
I took a screenshot of your comment. Very well said. Or typed. However it’s said. Lol
I get your point. Uncommon people will always be needed. If men like Peterson were to become common we would still need uncommon men.
..are you talking about California society since the 60's ? The idea of people not viewing the raising of their children as a serious matter seems more than a little flippant to me. There is nothing tepid about it
Yep I think I did misunderstand. I read that as you making out that people who raise children don't treat it as a serious matter. Whereas you're actually saying that people are not taking the choice of giving birth/having a child as a serious matter as a result of the 60's etc. , right?
I have so much respect for this man. I'm glad that university nonsense happened last year to bring his work and message to the attention of millions. God works in mysterious ways as they say.
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Feel even better about buying your album in intu merry hill knowing you support JP
Man, guy brings me to tears sometimes. I see myself in so many things he says.
I'm 25 and I'm finally starting to get my life together thanks to Jordan Peterson.
Man, so much of this resonates with me and the journey I've been on for the past few years. The practicality, the sacrifices you have to make to move forward with yourself aren't something most people really come to accept and recognize.
I turned 25 today and found this video by accident. I've been changing for the better for a while now and hopefully continue to do so. I hope one day to look back at myself at the age of 25 and realize how much I've changed for the better.
I'm 26 and i just start to know myself.
Bloody inspiring part of your life to share thanks.
At 1:13 I thought he was going to say "First of all I cleaned up my room"
Failed an exam eight times because of my mental health and i was on a severe survival mode. dropped out of university two times because of anxiety. Don't have the finance to afford therapy. Being a topper to dropper, failure - sitting on the bottom of the well. I don't think i can get any lower than this. 26, without graduation or a job. Hurted my parents multiple times with my failures . But thank you for the heart warming comments, i will make sure it doesn't happen again. it's nice and comforting to know i am not alone. I think we should speak more about our insecurities, anxiety and mental health to break through this idea of 'perfect life'. There are many like me, who got lost since they hit their late teens. It has been scary for all of us. Going to start off with learning investment, get a job and crack that medical school entrance exam in 9th time.
Also going to get that 88 kgs to 63 kgs because my weight and PCOS is really playing with my self image.
Yea you’ll get there, pray up.
I'm the same. I'm turning 23 in three months. Good thing the past me decided to step up and focus on my future.
When I was 22 I was so lost with my life. After listening to podcasts of Jordan Peterson, listening to advice, started cleaning my room, and switching courses for two times I almost got my shit together.
I have been following JP for some time now. I ordered a few of the books which he recommended to get into the habit of reading . I am 29 and I smoked 20 cigarettes a day and drink a bottle of rum on daily basis. This NYE I have decided to quit. It's been 5 days sober for me. I wish to overcome my demons and I will for sure. Jordan has been instrumental in this change. Being a man, our value goes up as our age goes up. Stay strong .
I believe in you!
I also believe in you bro.
Kaese hae bro ?
About to turn 26 and for some reason this one has hit me hard. Thanks for the uplifting message.
im 26 about to turn 27 and im trying to get off drinking and smoking i have been doing these things heavily for longer then i want to admit hearing someone like you struggling with the same things and overcoming them is honestly such a motivator if you are reading this yes you can quit smoking and drinking you are more important then your vices my friend do it for you and your family and your future family i love you
I will be 26 in July, quit smoking pots 4 months ago after 8 years of daily use, alcohol just sometimes, final year of master course.
Feel completely lost in life, I try to continue improving myself but happiness is still far away from me and I don’t know why.
Im glad to hear that I’m not the only one and that 25 is not to late so must keep grinding and believing.
Man, I´m so envious of him.
I can´t even dream of achieving what he did at 25, and I´m 23 already.
Feels like I got left behind in the race of becoming a truly respectable person.
I'm 23, soon 24, and I started this spring. We can both become truly respectable people for sure!
23 approaching 24 as well. My life is just shit. But don't forget, his IQ is genius level, so it shouldn't really be that surprising.
Lyn685 Life isn't a competition. Just work hard and focus on the things that you value in life.
True, but your IQ doesn´t mean shit if you haven´t learned to conduct yourself in the world properly.
And that is the major issue!
My IQ itself is pretty satisfying, but still I have good reason to fear for my future, because I didn´t start early enough to give a damn about it.
dude you're fuckin 23... your whole life is still ahead of you. When I was 23, I was shackin up in the ghetto with a big breasted welfare mom, walking 3 miles to work to make minimum wage. Now im 33 and I own my own home and business. You have plenty of time, but start now.
I’m 22 and I recently moved to a new city. It’s the first time being on my own- let alone outside of my hometown. Though I can’t say my life is great, I can’t say it’s horrible. I go to work every day, I’m trying to get myself back into college, and I finally have financial means to have my very own things. Despite this, I still feel a deep longing sadness within my heart that can’t be explained. My days seem to endlessly go on- and when it finally ends, the process repeats once again. I can’t say that I have friends, I did but more so in high school but now that I’m older, I genuinely find it hard to meet individuals who I can share a connection with. Most days I tell myself “You know?? I might go to a bar tonight or something like that, go outside and meet new people.” I’ve yet to do that but I’m hoping that I muster the courage soon because I feel lonely as ever.
I hope you're much better now
Were meant to form strong bonds with people not work our entire lives. Its quite literally how our ancestors evolved and survived. Those that were ostracized and alone did not survive for very long and never procreated.
Please take that first step for your own sake man. And even if it doesn’t go as planned try again and again. That is what life is after all. The time I spent alone and sad I regret so much, so take it from me and put yourself out there as much as you can!
225 bench press is pretty good for the average person.
either an average person is over 100kg, or bench presses at an intermediate/ advanced level.
Mikael K 225 isnt intermediate if your are a male
+Ozan Köksal It is ?
+delivery what pounds or kg?
+delivery thrust 140 pounds = 64kg im sorry are you trolling? A short male or a kid has that weight and no with that weight you will not have the strenght to bench 100kg
I started to put myself together with 22. At the time I thought that was somewhat too late, but now I can see CLEARLY that I had to spent some years doing things severely and extreme wrong to have some background when I measure what is a good or a bad life
Thank you for commenting this.
Much of life is trial and error
I was fortunate enough to discover the lectures, interviews and literature of Jordan Peterson at a very young age. I'm 18 years old and I have been keeping up with his podcasts and lectures for a while and I feel very privileged to be able to learn so much and develop so much so quickly, so that I can build the foundation of my life and education on something I find to be meaningful and solid.
When Jordan Peterson was twenty-fiiiiive, it was a very good yeaaarrrrr...
DeflatingAtheism very drôle, man! 😂
Thats NWOT very funny bucko.... I'm NWWOOOTTT doing it
Qimodis Yeah, what the fuck? Lol
Haha Frank Sinatra?
Frank Sinatra!
My God.... So my life isn't a total mess, just turned 26, got my bachelors degree this past November.
Got a 10 hour, well paid job recently.
But really need to stop being so neurotic, be more disciplined and social.
Particularly the social aspect, but I do not know how to start with that one.
Fincarn throw yourself into being social CONSTANTLY. That's the only way. Face it.
Sounds similar to me, 23 in novemeber and struggling to finish getting my bachelors due to a complete lack of motivation. Discipline and sober social skills are below average and I'm as neurotic as Woody Allen. My favourite type of procrastination is the one where I'm thinking about how I would reform society so that my laziness wouldn't be punished as bad.
When it comes to the social aspect I'm far from pro but I find that ever since I've started caring less about it, it goes much better. Once you are able to remind yourself that you're not the center of the universe things will improve. This doesn't mean that you have to become a nihilist. All it is supposed to do is to add some perspective to your particular perception of life. I imagine that similar to me you don't enjoy small talk. Good. You don't have to. But it is a social lubricant. With a little bit of small talk you can engage in a deeper conversation with anyone*, just ask the right questions and you'll get them to talk about stuff that won't make you want to leave the room. Get to know what your conversation partner is passionate about and you're set. There's something about listening and looking at a person that's expressing his or her passion.
My social circle is also quite small but I find that being friends with a guy that knows more helps a ton. Through him I got to meet this girl that I started messaging recently and she just invited herself for dinner at my home so I can show her my cooking that I joked about. That caught me by surprise... Part of me is excited and the neurotic and irrational part of me is thinking that this must be some elaborate joke on my expense. But if a clueless fool like me can make steps towards a better social life then so can you.
Congratulations on the job, 50 more years to go and you'll be free. But since we both have long slavery ahead of us I'd suggest you put some of your hard-earned money to improving your social skills on the weekends.
Best of luck to you,
you're not alone
*almost anyone
When you're afraid of something you have to force yourself to walk towards it. Every time you run away it gets easier to run the next time. Also, shit can't be too bad If you've got a degree (without a huge amount of debt.)
As far as social goes though I'm kinda silly. I'm incredibly charismatic around total strangers, but have trouble making and talking to real friends.
See a therapist and/or doctor
Social is actually quite simple, but not necessarily easy. I have done it myself.
It really is as simple as putting yourself out there and talking to people. The trick is, if you are quite bad at it, start with very easy ways of doing it. Join some hobby class or whatever where interaction is required to participate. Bam, you're talking to people, and it will be easy because it will be about that hobby mostly.
From there its a matter of coming with a slightly bigger challenge, like talking to people in a bar, etc.
A big trick about learning to socialize is this: usually you put too much attention on yourself, what I mean is you think about you, and what is happening to you, and how people react to you, too much. To avoid this, there are a few tricks: focus on other people. Actively engage your mind in this. LISTEN with full attention. Ask questions.
Also, its not as much about what you say, its about listening and feeling other people, and engaging with them in a "sharing the fun, the conversation" attitude.
2:30 Peterson /fit/ confirmed
I am 28, faced a terrible breakdown and starting my new life right now.
Feel bad for wasting all those years seeking for fun, jumping from a relationship to another and wasting my energy on destroing my body.
I decided a few months ago that it was it. couldnt see my life going the way it was.
I'm 24 now, greatefull for all those incredible minds that make us think that threre's always a way out and there's always self improvements to be achieved.
Much love from brazil to anyone reading this!
At least you’ve been in relationships. Love is an important part of our life. You haven’t missed it at least. 24- isn’t late for career and education.
Dropped out of university back in 2017. due to anxiety, panic attacks and general depression. Tried college again a year later in 2018. , the same thing happened. I locked myself in even more until around 2020. I started going to a psychologist. It helped at first. I even got some medication. Even found a girlfriend for a few months. Tried to work, but only lasted for 3 days due to anxiety. It all went bad again. Locked myself in again. Then tried uni for the 3rd time in 2022. and I broke again. Now it's going to be the summer of 2023. I'm 25 years old, no degree, job or girlfriend. I've started going to the gym for the past few weeks. I have gained a lot of weight due to bad habits and staying in all the time. I hang out more and more with my friends. Some of them understand my situatuon, some of them don't. Don't know what or how my life will be going. My parents are getting older and I'm worried what I will do. I have caused them too much pain. The sadness is sometimes unberable. I'm not sucidal, but don't know how it wil be in a few years if nothing changes. I recently went to the same psychologist again. Don't know if it helps. Only thing that helps a bit is praying...
Keep praying...take it one day at a time, one thing at a time. focus on the things you can control and focus less on things you can't control. You're gonna be okay bro....everybody goes through this things in their 20's.
@@Artisan620 Thanks man, I appreciate it 💪🏻
@@jackedpreacher6570I’m 23 about halfway thru my degree and have been worried sick about applying for job interviews and what kind of money I will be making starting out. The best thing is to take small steps to improve yourself. Getting yourself out there may help a lot, look into doing some volunteer work it’s easy to get into and will help you get your foot in the door. I just started doing some on the weekends while in school and after 2 shifts I’ve learned a lot already
I am also 25, I am praying for you, you are not alone. God loves you!
Everyone is doing life for the first time so don’t be so hard on yourself. Life is a miracle
I'm 27 now, and I had a pretty similar experience when I was in college. I went to a pretty decent school but I was incredibly unhappy there, drowned myself in alcohol and filled my lungs with weed to cope with it and eventually I decided I had to get my act together if I wanted my life to turn out productive. Stopped hanging out with people who were detrimental to my goals, I never quit alcohol or weed fully but barred myself from any consumption on weekdays (as I was still pretty miserable so needed something to get me through the week lol), and made sure I had a dedicated schedule every day to how I was going to get to where I wanted to be. Ended up finding a job for the next semester and took a gap semester off to get some work experience, and eventually transferred to MIT the next year. Got out of college and continued this mindset and I have soared past people my age in the corporate world.
Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing this message with so many young people, I only wish I could've heard this when I was younger.
This is sobering to hear. Often I get down on myself for having terrible habits that are in grand perspective not bad at all. I would imagine a person of your intellect would be mostly flawless or without fault throughout your younger years. Glad to hear we all have struggles in a way.
And still he was doing way better at 25 than I‘m doing at 27. Damn.
Turning 26 in May and woweee this video resonates with me. Turning 25 was when I really started having a good hard look at where my current trajectory (drinking, drugs, smoking, porn) was taking me. Just started my post graduate studies and hope to become a Clinical Psychologist and business owner. It seems to be around this age that us males start to get our shit together judging by all the other comments in the post. Good luck to everyone!
I am 25 now and I am graduated last year. I am depressed and I try for jobs but no luck. I am overweight and I want to change my life in positive way. I think that after getting job I can sort my life and do positive things. I hope for best for me and you all. We can do it people.
Good luck brother.
Wow. I'm 25, i was alchoholic, drinked 2 years non stop. But now month ago i quit drinking and begin to training and work with my self sobatage, impulsive, hedonistic character.
I turn 25 in start of July. I dropped out of school in 2016. Actually going back this fall to play lacrosse. It’s been a hell of a rough last 5 years of drinking and smoking weed. Have not made my parents proud to say the least. I know when I hit that age I will be thinking of myself as a new man. Prayers be with me!
I've tried to give up smoking a few times but always gone back to it. About a month ago I came to the same conclusion as you described in this video - if I'm going to quit smoking, I have to quit drinking too. So that's what I've done. Good to hear it worked for you!
I could never bench above 150. I really gotta sort myself out.
How about now
Any updates?
normal person "telling the truth is good" Jordan "it's a tissue of lies that will dissolve into chaos" love this guy
I am 25 I thought I was screwed. This gives me hope
I'm 25 now.. And in one month I'll be 26. It has been one of the most mentally tumultuous years of my life, no doubt, and I can't be grateful enough for finding this video just in the nick of time. Thanks for the extra push of inspiration. I'm quitting smoking and plan on drinking far less, I also want to cut back on smoking weed significantly which, after years of being in denial about the plant's negative effects, is something that I've concluded has not made me thrive at all. Quite the contrary. It has held me back from facing reality. Finally, I must start working out. I've had feeble attempts in the past but could never stick with it.. Thanks in part.. Or more than just in part.. to my three consistent vices. So truly, thanks for the video, and I hope everybody else who watches it finds the motivation to change as well.
You’re around 30+ now, how are you so far
Respect to everyone in the comments who recognized their problem and dont just blame forces outside of them. Wish you guys the best
This would make the assumption that Peterson currently has his life in order, which is highly debatable
Jordan Peterson inspires me greatly, daily to be a better man. To be a better son, Christian, brother and husband. His "no nonsense", wise opinions are informing new character in me to stand up for the Good, the True and the Beautiful. No wonder Google and FB are censoring him and shutting him down. Google, you can't kill good ideas!
Young chaotic Jordan learned order and became a 10th degree black belt in life
I’m turning 24 in March. This gives me much hope, I want to turn my life around. I must move out of my family home so I can be away from Sin.
3 weeks sober from drugs. I got through this deployment and saved some money. We'll get through this
25 now but still don’t know what to do. No goals as of now but just saving money, working & working on myself
I just turned 24 and luckily i have been listening to him since i was 17. when i was 18, launched my 1st business, experienced different cycles but the most incredible time was when i was 20 & 21 when the net-worth of the company moved from 1000$ to 100k$, was getting in better shape. lost focus after that due to clubs, woman, and not very productive friendships. Turned 23 last year and been getting the business and my mind right, just started to see some great results this year...can not wait for 25
What business is this
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Don't forget to have some fun too. Before you know it you're 34 like me, and miss the social opportunities, the flirting, the adventures with new friends.....
I'm 23 and in grad school will finish in two years and start practicing medicine as a PA. I too have a porn addiction and the sexual persuits are clouding my brain when I need to focus on studying medicine. Your video was inspirational. Thank you
Really good to hear. I resonate with so many things you say, and over the past year I've realised that my stance has changed from wanting of attainment to realizations of implementation... It's been good to come back to your talks and realise that I've achieved the states and implemented actions that I longed for...
By no means do I have it sussed out, but god damn it feels good to realise and acknowledge progress. You're doing god's work Jordan... Christ/Buddha's teachings were all about sharing profound teachings of bettering yourself and the people around you as a result. You truly do have a voice that is heard.
I'm 25 and just staring to watch all his videos this guy is an inspiration
I'm 25 now, and this video showing up on my feed is a sign to change.
You just gave all people in their 20's hope
I am 23 and have struggled with feeling like somethings missing for a while. I keep trying to “get my act together” but its hard... i have taken drugs smoked etc. I dropped out of college to travel, now im in australia ive been to every continent, ive done volunteer work all over the world ive lived in villages in fiji and in the amazonas of peru. I sit here and slate myself sometimes that im not doing more, i became vegetarian recently and have started exercise but still i feel like im not doing enough! But i think i need to be fairer to myself after watching this. Yes i could be on some graduate program in some top bank like friends i have at college. But im not and thats fine, all that matters is that i want to progress, i want to sort myself out, i want to achieve and develop and contribute something towards the world. I guess the more time that goes the more i want it and one day i will find it. Maybe a lot of you can relate. I will stay, just keep trying, keep failing, keep going and keep cultivating your self and as long as you do that, for now that is all you need to do. Be proud of the process for all greats had one. Include my new found idol Mr Peterson. Thankyou Dad
This video is internet gold. Comments are quality too (Surprising for RUclips).
So good.
23 and just started a trade school so lucky me im on pace to be a respectable 25 year old. Keep grinding yall, you got nothing better to do!
"Dissolve in the chaos as soon a crisis comes along" - this was really poignant, well said and showed a heap of wisdom. It's not always just a slow burn - when something huge hits, **everything** comes out and that's either the end of the relationship or the beginning of the end.
Pretty much the only time you ever 'get away with' that is when it occurs to, say, your parents, who will love you almost no matter what (almost). Downside is you scar them and yourself forever and you never live it down.