How Jordan Peterson Sorted Himself Out at Age 25
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Jordan B Peterson (born June 12, 1962) is a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. In this clip he talks about how he was like at age 25 and how he sorted his life out quit smoking and drinking.
This is from his Patreon Q and A 2017/08/14. Full video quoted under fair use: • Q & A 2018 08 August B
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This is it. This is the sign. I'm turning 25 in a month. Dropped out of college in 6 years ago due to anxiety and depression. Never had a job since. Locked myself in my room for those years. Caused so much pain to my parents. This is it. I'll dedicate this month looking for a job as a first step of sorting my life out. Wish me luck.
22 dropped out of uni bcuz of anxiety related issues,working my way back into being a competent fully functional juggernaut of a man,see you there brother 💪🏾
Hope it’s going well brother-keep moving forward!
Show up for yourself every day
All the best buddy.. don't feel bad about dropping out of school or anything.. I experienced the same.. believe me when you give yourself a shot.. you'll see how far you can leap.. go as far as you can, dream big.. I wish you the best
You can do it my friend. Please update us on your progress. Fair play to ye
To me life is about constant improvement. Try not to focus on how old you are, just focus on the next step.
Always strive to be the best version of yourself. Peace
Constant improvement also comes from learning from the past ;-)
Disney world response. Weak sauce.
@@PoliticalWonderland You are so beta it’s sad
@@PoliticalWonderland and what response would you have preferred to read?
I'm 25 now, found Jordan Peterson about 5 years ago. Being a young guy, without a father and living in a rather poor neighbourhood, I found myself being depressive, lacking a job and any higher education. Now, 5 years later, I can proudly say that I have finished my degree in Computer Science, work as a Software Engineer, got engaged and live with my soon-to-be wife. Thank you Jordan for everything.
Wow bro congratulations.. 👏👏👏
How did you manage to afford the higher education, had a similar upbringing and battling to get a decent job currently without a degree while my friends are cruising into higher paying jobs due to having one it seems?
God I missed Comp Sci, took AP in Highschool and got some credits but haven't actually followed through yet at a college
Good work bro
@@stevensseagull If you are interested in Computer Science that's your best bet to get a high-paying job without a degree. Make a plan for yourself, watch videos, read some good books, and make sure you structure your learning in a dedicated way rather than just going through it. If you do all this successfully you can get a 70-100k/yr job with no degree within probably about 8-10 months.
However, if it's not something you're passionate about, you'll never be able to do it, especially if you have another job as it's something you'll have to do in addition to whatever you're currently doing. In that case I would try and find a certain niche that you're interested in and push hard at it, then you can maybe find an employer who will pay for your tuition or you can get a scholarship. On a completely separate note, there are a lot of trades out there (plumbing, woodworking, electricians) that are terribly underemployed, so if you can find someone who will mentor you that's a great way to earn 200-250k/yr after a decade or so with no degree. The carpenter who works on my house is always going on about how he wishes he could find someone to train, so maybe if you just go into a couple of those kind of businesses and ask if they're looking for someone who wants to learn you might have a decent shot.
Good luck man I wish you the best!
225 bench, not bad.
Glad to see you here
CANDITO
Damnn!! Small world
Ian Mccarthy is a huge peterson fan as well. No surprise that lifters gravitate towards this sort of thing.
If you are fat fuck or tall
Jordan '2 plates' Peterson
I'm using this from now on 😂
Jordan Creatine Son!
LOL
LOOOOOOOOOOL
I'm fuckin' dyin'. He's so great.
Weird... Is it just me or has Peterson turned out to be some sort of father figure to young men looking for a place in their life?
im 16 male and fine JP AMAZING.
He's either a father figure or a divine figure. I for one am certainly glad to have found him. How many people here found out about JP from Andrew Klavan?
BLESSED BE THE DAY! FOR THE GOOD DOCTOR HAS SHONE HIS LIGHT ON MINE EYES. THOU HAST MOST GRACIOUSLY LINTED THE SEED OF MY CLOTH! PARFIRI PETRI ET NUMENUM. Amen brothers and sisters.
You don't like my biblebabble? I thought it was okay, a lot of gibberish for sure. I'll have to work on it more.
Thine lord in canada, peace be in his name. For thine hast thou giveth lord wherefore hath upon.
hit the nail on the head. i always knew all the right wing culture warrior babbies wanted is a cool dad to pat them on the back and say 'its alright skip, dont worry about those shrill SJWs, just buy my book and lets go out back and throw the ole pigskin around'
Nice m9 b8.
why do you assume that everyone who listens to JP is right wing? Why can't some of us be radical moderates?
225lbs bench. Brofessor Peterson in the gym
Kolonel Sanders Mass is In session
I'm clinically depressed. I don't laugh. Kolonel Sanders makes me laugh.
hahaha
YESSSSSS COMMENT WIN!
InCaseOfEmergency EatAss Your profipe name tho
I hope that all of you who are: about 25, graduated with bachelor's, not very social yet, and feeling sorry for yourself, are still grateful for the position you're in. I didn't start sorting myself out until I was 23 years old. Now I'm 26, and although I feel like I've discovered my purpose and what brings meaning to my life, it's a long road ahead of me and I won't have my bachelors degree until 29. If there's one thing I've learned along the way it's just to let go of self-pity. It's only holding you back.
What's the rush? So you'll be 29,that is still young.
having a bachelors degree does not mean your life is all sorted out.
Nimity Tei Has to learn the hard way lol
Some are...
"Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." 2 Timothy 3:7!
WHY? Because they leave JESUS out!
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by Me." John 14:6!
Time is winding up. All we have is time to live for JESUS! The LORD will give you a PhD if that's the desire of your heart.
"Delight thyself also in the LORD; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart."
Psalm 37:4!
Stipulation? Find all you need in JESUS! Delight thyself! 💓💓💓
Do u have your bachelors degree now? I see it’s been 4 years since u wrote this comment… so u shud be 30 now ..
At 25... My life changed too... all the stuff I told myself I would do since 16-18 years... I STARTED DOING THEM. Made a Routine for it. Nothing is perfect, I could probably be more ''in shape and more efficient'' but I dont let the ''maybe/could be bother me''.... cause I know... Since 25years old... the past 3 years have been BETTER/Stronger/Improvement at ALL LEVEL. I am finally becoming the MAN I dreamed to be... it's all action. I started slow at 25 years old and been building momentum since... (started at 1 pushup x 6.... now over 25 x 6)... studied 30 minutes after work.. now at 2 hours after work every day.... 1h30 gym, 8hours work,2 hours study, 2 hours of ''leisure (cooking included'', a bit of dancing a few times a week, sleep early, wake up early... A new man.... some times I slip but I get back eventually. Overall... I am ABOVE and much more disciplined and focused, sorted out compared to previous 25 years old of life...The child died, the man grew up
Dude, that's inspiring. How did you come up to this? How's it going now?
@@myroninthesky320 can i recommend you wes watson? look him up on youtube. If you listen to what he is saying
@@isdenn7 😹
The human brain matures at the age of 25. psychology 101
how old are you now?
This really makes him human and makes us realize that even at the lowest of places, anyone can strive and become better versions of themselves. Thank you Sir, for sharing this part of your life to us.
You a qr-code ur can't talk about what makes someone a "human", chill
qué?
If he pulled himself out of hell, I have every doubt that he is human, lest we be swine.
Jesus. Peterson use to be like me? Maybe all isn't lost.
He represents Canada in the Psycho-Decathalon !
Yeah. I didn't get to that part yet. So he was way better than me. lol
He's better than most of us. It's a good thing that he wanted to help others to man up instead of resting on his laurels, otherwise we'd be fucked.
There are things you can’t overcome. To be like Peterson now, you need several generations slowly working towards. Look at your accomplishments by added value to your family tree. Sort yourself out by accepting your limits and just try to guide your children grow over you. Jesper Juul is the man to read or listen to know best how to guide children better than you were guided. Naturally when you read Juul you will find out everything you learnt from Peterson will help you tremendously.
I'm glad I found this. Gives me hope that I can still sort my self out.
This video found me at the right time it seems. Turning 26 in November and right now I'm in a state where I'm basically just over-indulging in everything. Can't stop drinking crap that's bad for me, can't stop eating crap that's bad for me, my libido is absolutely out of control and I'm just diving into porn and sexual persuits basically every single day. My entire existence for the past month has been focused on desire-fullfillment, and I realise this and I'm not happy about it. It's like the hedonistic, deviant, degenerate and perverted 10% of my mind has become 90% of my focus, which is wrong and absurd for obvious reasons. It's just 10% of my being yet it's so intense lately it dominates my life. Unacceptable.
I don't need inspiration from a video to get my shit together, but it's always good to know someone you value as a source of wisdom and intellectual discourse has overcome similar issues. We always KNOW what we need to do and we always KNOW that it all comes down to us but fucking up is too easy and I've always taken the easy way out. Just gotta really put my foot down and stop the destructive behaviour. Stop the drinking. Stop the over-eating. Stop the partying. Stop projecting sexual thoughts and fantasies onto every God damn thing. Stop being a dumbass, basically. I'm gonna drop this shit cold Turkey. Had enough. Feeling so trash physically and mentally I can barely think straight and obsess over nonsense. I'm done.
Let's hope I can pull up my mental bootstraps and good luck to everyone else who is trying to get right.
I was in similar position a year ago , lethargic and unmotivated on the same negative self destructive spiral, I could not get out of it no matter how hard I tried, I turned to Christ to give me an ABSOLUTE foundation mindfulness 'Take up your cross and meet me at your own Golgotha in the crucifixion of your 'EGO' to 'sort yourself out'. 'Take up your cross and follow me'
I said 'If I keep doing this sordid masturbation, bad living and sexual fantasy projection, IT WILL kill my spiritual 'self'' i had just recently discovered at the depths of depression.
Since then I have had no compulsion or any controlling desire. I pay for the years doing this each moon cycle with 'sordid dreams' of sexual fantasies, but they are decreasing.
but during the day no 'desire' whatsoever BECAUSE of my absoluteness in my abstinent no joking around seriousness approach.
Key is learning what and how the 'EGO' works against you and to 'crucify' it through intense self - knowledge daily. To become 'aware' and not be a pinball to the 'EGO'.
Know thy self, have an absolute 'point' of 'potential' attainment and carefully without serious 'expectation' but slowly work towards it.
I wish you luck!
Almost feeling a little guilty for not having any of these kinds of problems, turning 20 in a month.
Well, actually my problem is that I'm not conscientious enough toward my own projects, could use some of that JBP's obsessiveness he talked about here. :D
We're all gonna make it, man.
Robert Jacobs
God is good we are not, God directs and draws the paths of those that diligently seek Him.
Do a vlog series about it like the channel: 'Sorting Myself Out'
sorted himself out with 25
*finished his PHD*
Actually was just starting his PhD at 25; he finished it at 29.
Philip Hodges - wow, what a hopeless layabout XD
Sweet SweeetHistory snorted*
Find your brains patterns. You know what habits you'd like to get rid of in your life. So when you see yourself about to indulge the desire to carry out the habit - FREEZE. Observe, notice your emotional state, notice the beliefs that are attached to the emotional state. After a short but meaningful amount of time unfreeze and immediately go do another activity - anything else at all. Eventually you'll find yourself becoming more and more productive the more you freeze, observe, and reactivate.
Smikket Abito message received.
This is the perfect comment put into words. Emotions have to be caught and analyzed. Otherwise they will run rampant and cause chaos.
I also had a life light bulb moment at 25 I felt like I already wasted 7 years of my life but it's never to late to start a new
How is it going now?
It’s never too late, it’s never too laaaaate!
I felt the same in a way, nevertheless we have to keep moving forward, no matter what.
That's how I feel at 25
This video was so beautiful and up-lifting. I love that he married his childhood sweetheart. Hearing him describe himself as manic in some ways really makes me feel less ashamed of my own manifestations of mania. Thanks for sharing :)
•CRITICAL CONDITION• 👍👍😎
•CRITICAL CONDITION• hi critical! Love your channel
I doubt your mania could ever be that bad to be ashamed of, guy.
I am in love with your face
•CRITICAL CONDITION• sounds like something out of a fictional love story(too good to be true) but hey he deserves it!
im 31 and still fucking up
3 years on, hope your fucking up less mate
Well, how are you?
I’m 27, about to be 28. I started to feel almost as if I had peaked. My hunger for knowledge and challenges almost seemed to disappear. Peterson has helped me realize that it’s not too late.
I’m in the same boat. 28, got a lot of things figured out in my life but feel like something is missing. Been working to go back to school and challenge myself again. Hope you find the challenge you need and keep that hunger for knowledge alive and well
It’s just the beginning boiz. The only move available is forward. Let’s make the best of it, for our families futures.
@@joshfranklin474 Hear hear Josh
@Tony G for u ruclips.net/video/vQ7ZvPghdy8/видео.html
@Tony G same
"Truth is a terrible thing but not compared to falsehood" - alright let's look at the live chat...
A modern day philospher indeed !
"The truth is a terrible thing, but not compared to falsehoods."
I wish Jordan Peterson became popular at another time. He has so much helpful knowledge to impart on so many people, and it's truly a shame he's been painted as a controversial figure. There are so many people struggling with alcohol abuse in the early 20s and it really hinders one's potential when the brain is still forming. Plus he's one of the most generally wise people I've come across in my many hours of being in and watching lectures from decorated professors.
I think now is the time he is precisely needed in. Without the controversy would he be known by so many?
Sigma I agree, but I also would have benefitted greatly from his advice 4 years ago. I just now am watching his lectures after life had already forced me to learn 90% of the lessons he preaches and basically just watch him to hear someone agree with my own ideology.
I'm a therapist, and I'm primarily listening to his lectures on mental health and treatment. When I first listened to him, I noticed we conceptualize behavior in a similar way, typically reaching to the biological hardware that our consciousness is built upon. Very cool dude, and I hope he doesn't let the limelight pull him away from actually treating mental health instead of moving to solely commentating on the state of affairs.
Obviously didnt affect Jordan Peterson that much hes insanely intelligent...
Modern society wants to keep men docile and placated. Modern feminism wants to keep men on a leash and to treat them like obedient dogs. Is it any wonder why someone with even a modicum of common sense is seen as controversial in this day and age.
A chain-smoking hard drinking bodybuilding Jerry Seinfeld
Neither Either And all while Canadian.
So, what's the deal with postmodernism?
Metamorphesis lol perfect
Zack Klein Why???
Because he's an entitled, untalented jew loser.
I'm so proud of all of you. You're working on yourselves even when it's tough and helping out your fellow man in the process. I've seen so many people in the comments giving advice to others and it just warms my heart. You're what men should be (from a female perspective): hard-working, kind, and strong. I love all of you.
This made me cry... Beautiful
true, it would be better more people were here. Society messed us all up pretty good. I'm glad so many are still fighting, struggling instead of quitting life in general.
"The truth is a terrible thing, but not compared to falsehood." - love this. So true!
25 was a wake up call for me too. I realized and decided I needed to focus on more important things in life and less time on things such as video games. It's about finding a balance and there needs to be sacrifice. One has to get out of their comfort zone and work on things they've been avoiding or putting off. Tomorrow comes quick so seize today and make it count.
Wow. @ 25 I was in the last 2 years of a meth addiction... Doing much better now. =]
Glad you could get over your addiction. I'm currently fighting an alcohol addiction and I am probably at the lowest point in my life. I am determined I will get sober this time. Stay strong brother 👊
@Henry-Bart I was 25 during those 2 years, not the whole time..... What a strange thing to comment on a 2 year old post about.
@Henry-Bart Better & better, thanks for asking.
Amen to that! I'm 25 going on 26. Just got out of the hell last month. Hearing Jordan Peterson does help me alot to get back on the right track. Life still rough but i'm keep rolling forward. Best wishes!
@@kimtoannhan7275 Just stick to the struggle, even if you slip up, get right back into no more, never again. Good luck my dude.
26. From Northern Alberta. Over Drinking and Smoking. Trying to publish. I relate to this on a ridiculous level.
Clean your room
As a 25 year old who knows there’s more to life than what I’m doing now, this is great. I often sway back and forth between, oh wow I’m still young and wow other people at 25 have accomplished so much. I guess life is a constant state self-improvement. JBP is a brilliant male role model.
I have so much respect for this man. I'm glad that university nonsense happened last year to bring his work and message to the attention of millions. God works in mysterious ways as they say.
1,
Zuby
Feel even better about buying your album in intu merry hill knowing you support JP
This guy is like a breath of fresh air. Its hard to talk about how you feel all the time, but if you have a family who love you and a few friends, anything is possible.
Watching this as a 26 yo, having quit drinking a year and a half ago and quit smoking around a year ago, I feel like I'm on the right path. Especially the part about not regretting it because I've come out of it with a great many tales!
Dropped out of university back in 2017. due to anxiety, panic attacks and general depression. Tried college again a year later in 2018. , the same thing happened. I locked myself in even more until around 2020. I started going to a psychologist. It helped at first. I even got some medication. Even found a girlfriend for a few months. Tried to work, but only lasted for 3 days due to anxiety. It all went bad again. Locked myself in again. Then tried uni for the 3rd time in 2022. and I broke again. Now it's going to be the summer of 2023. I'm 25 years old, no degree, job or girlfriend. I've started going to the gym for the past few weeks. I have gained a lot of weight due to bad habits and staying in all the time. I hang out more and more with my friends. Some of them understand my situatuon, some of them don't. Don't know what or how my life will be going. My parents are getting older and I'm worried what I will do. I have caused them too much pain. The sadness is sometimes unberable. I'm not sucidal, but don't know how it wil be in a few years if nothing changes. I recently went to the same psychologist again. Don't know if it helps. Only thing that helps a bit is praying...
Keep praying...take it one day at a time, one thing at a time. focus on the things you can control and focus less on things you can't control. You're gonna be okay bro....everybody goes through this things in their 20's.
@@Artisan620 Thanks man, I appreciate it 💪🏻
@@jackedpreacher6570I’m 23 about halfway thru my degree and have been worried sick about applying for job interviews and what kind of money I will be making starting out. The best thing is to take small steps to improve yourself. Getting yourself out there may help a lot, look into doing some volunteer work it’s easy to get into and will help you get your foot in the door. I just started doing some on the weekends while in school and after 2 shifts I’ve learned a lot already
I am also 25, I am praying for you, you are not alone. God loves you!
Everyone is doing life for the first time so don’t be so hard on yourself. Life is a miracle
Sorting yourself out = writing a book, publishing more essays than any phd student ever, and taking a few cycles of steroids. Got it.
Where did he say he took steroids?
Don't forget to clean your room.
lol those are nice interpretation skills... sorting yourself out means to stop doing that which makes your life worst and start moving towards your self defined goals in life
225 lbs on the bench and 30 lbs of muscle is achievable for a young man in 1.5 years
Clean your room and lift some weights
But Peterson is a fucking fool. He thinks magic is real and he has an invisible friend. He's a living joke.
My God.... So my life isn't a total mess, just turned 26, got my bachelors degree this past November.
Got a 10 hour, well paid job recently.
But really need to stop being so neurotic, be more disciplined and social.
Particularly the social aspect, but I do not know how to start with that one.
Fincarn throw yourself into being social CONSTANTLY. That's the only way. Face it.
Sounds similar to me, 23 in novemeber and struggling to finish getting my bachelors due to a complete lack of motivation. Discipline and sober social skills are below average and I'm as neurotic as Woody Allen. My favourite type of procrastination is the one where I'm thinking about how I would reform society so that my laziness wouldn't be punished as bad.
When it comes to the social aspect I'm far from pro but I find that ever since I've started caring less about it, it goes much better. Once you are able to remind yourself that you're not the center of the universe things will improve. This doesn't mean that you have to become a nihilist. All it is supposed to do is to add some perspective to your particular perception of life. I imagine that similar to me you don't enjoy small talk. Good. You don't have to. But it is a social lubricant. With a little bit of small talk you can engage in a deeper conversation with anyone*, just ask the right questions and you'll get them to talk about stuff that won't make you want to leave the room. Get to know what your conversation partner is passionate about and you're set. There's something about listening and looking at a person that's expressing his or her passion.
My social circle is also quite small but I find that being friends with a guy that knows more helps a ton. Through him I got to meet this girl that I started messaging recently and she just invited herself for dinner at my home so I can show her my cooking that I joked about. That caught me by surprise... Part of me is excited and the neurotic and irrational part of me is thinking that this must be some elaborate joke on my expense. But if a clueless fool like me can make steps towards a better social life then so can you.
Congratulations on the job, 50 more years to go and you'll be free. But since we both have long slavery ahead of us I'd suggest you put some of your hard-earned money to improving your social skills on the weekends.
Best of luck to you,
you're not alone
*almost anyone
When you're afraid of something you have to force yourself to walk towards it. Every time you run away it gets easier to run the next time. Also, shit can't be too bad If you've got a degree (without a huge amount of debt.)
As far as social goes though I'm kinda silly. I'm incredibly charismatic around total strangers, but have trouble making and talking to real friends.
See a therapist and/or doctor
Social is actually quite simple, but not necessarily easy. I have done it myself.
It really is as simple as putting yourself out there and talking to people. The trick is, if you are quite bad at it, start with very easy ways of doing it. Join some hobby class or whatever where interaction is required to participate. Bam, you're talking to people, and it will be easy because it will be about that hobby mostly.
From there its a matter of coming with a slightly bigger challenge, like talking to people in a bar, etc.
A big trick about learning to socialize is this: usually you put too much attention on yourself, what I mean is you think about you, and what is happening to you, and how people react to you, too much. To avoid this, there are a few tricks: focus on other people. Actively engage your mind in this. LISTEN with full attention. Ask questions.
Also, its not as much about what you say, its about listening and feeling other people, and engaging with them in a "sharing the fun, the conversation" attitude.
Wow. Started sorting myself out at the same time. Im 25 with one more semester of college left for my bachelors. Good thing to know Im not as late as I thought I was. I am so glad I found Jordan Peterson. He has helped me improve tremendously.
So how are you now then 5yrs on?
Failed an exam eight times because of my mental health and i was on a severe survival mode. dropped out of university two times because of anxiety. Don't have the finance to afford therapy. Being a topper to dropper, failure - sitting on the bottom of the well. I don't think i can get any lower than this. 26, without graduation or a job. Hurted my parents multiple times with my failures . But thank you for the heart warming comments, i will make sure it doesn't happen again. it's nice and comforting to know i am not alone. I think we should speak more about our insecurities, anxiety and mental health to break through this idea of 'perfect life'. There are many like me, who got lost since they hit their late teens. It has been scary for all of us. Going to start off with learning investment, get a job and crack that medical school entrance exam in 9th time.
Also going to get that 88 kgs to 63 kgs because my weight and PCOS is really playing with my self image.
Yea you’ll get there, pray up.
Idk how,but I have being followed JP videos for a while now, and it is pretty impressive how can anyone change.
I am 37 years old, and recently I discovered that my life is not mine, and was always in this slippery place, but a man comes to a point where starts to grow up, and be more responsible.
I have addictions that probably most people have or had, but it’s time for a change.
You a true inspiration JP, and you make such a big difference in this horrible world, and you inspired me to find that better version of myself, and obviously it’s not going to happen overnight, but i will never give up until I find out what my purpose is.
Hold the line 💪
Wow. I'm 25, i was alchoholic, drinked 2 years non stop. But now month ago i quit drinking and begin to training and work with my self sobatage, impulsive, hedonistic character.
I started to put myself together with 22. At the time I thought that was somewhat too late, but now I can see CLEARLY that I had to spent some years doing things severely and extreme wrong to have some background when I measure what is a good or a bad life
Thank you for commenting this.
Much of life is trial and error
I’m 22 and I recently moved to a new city. It’s the first time being on my own- let alone outside of my hometown. Though I can’t say my life is great, I can’t say it’s horrible. I go to work every day, I’m trying to get myself back into college, and I finally have financial means to have my very own things. Despite this, I still feel a deep longing sadness within my heart that can’t be explained. My days seem to endlessly go on- and when it finally ends, the process repeats once again. I can’t say that I have friends, I did but more so in high school but now that I’m older, I genuinely find it hard to meet individuals who I can share a connection with. Most days I tell myself “You know?? I might go to a bar tonight or something like that, go outside and meet new people.” I’ve yet to do that but I’m hoping that I muster the courage soon because I feel lonely as ever.
I hope you're much better now
Were meant to form strong bonds with people not work our entire lives. Its quite literally how our ancestors evolved and survived. Those that were ostracized and alone did not survive for very long and never procreated.
Please take that first step for your own sake man. And even if it doesn’t go as planned try again and again. That is what life is after all. The time I spent alone and sad I regret so much, so take it from me and put yourself out there as much as you can!
Man, guy brings me to tears sometimes. I see myself in so many things he says.
I have been following JP for some time now. I ordered a few of the books which he recommended to get into the habit of reading . I am 29 and I smoked 20 cigarettes a day and drink a bottle of rum on daily basis. This NYE I have decided to quit. It's been 5 days sober for me. I wish to overcome my demons and I will for sure. Jordan has been instrumental in this change. Being a man, our value goes up as our age goes up. Stay strong .
I believe in you!
I also believe in you bro.
Kaese hae bro ?
When Jordan Peterson was twenty-fiiiiive, it was a very good yeaaarrrrr...
DeflatingAtheism very drôle, man! 😂
Thats NWOT very funny bucko.... I'm NWWOOOTTT doing it
Qimodis Yeah, what the fuck? Lol
Haha Frank Sinatra?
Frank Sinatra!
I'm 26 and i just start to know myself.
Bloody inspiring part of your life to share thanks.
As a young Canadian (19 years old) I find this very helpful. Makes me think I can get my act together. Thanks Jordan!
Hey im 19 , how its going can we have an update ?
I'm bout to turn 19 this Dec 25, and I'm also kind of lost in my uncertain tragectory. I'm off porn, quit smoking and alcohol. The challenge for me right now is when do I start, the first step plausibly is the hardest one.
I was lost until 24-25. Studies something I didn't enjoy, didn't have any relationship with girls, had superficial relationship with friends and family, didn't feel any connection to life or anything greater. I thought I was talentless so I didn't even try. I sucked at high school too.
I then decided to change (around 24yo, now I'm 29). I dropped out of college to pursue architecture. I found a philosophy that guides me through life (eastern philosophies to be specific), went vegan, started working out, got disciplined, established a healthy relationship with my emotions, found new, ambitious and spiritually mature friends, found a girlfriend, healed traumas from childhood, started reading a lot (literature, philosophy, psychology, art) etc. Now I'm finishing the final semester in architecture school to get a MD and I'm actually really, really good at what I do. Life is better than ever, and it keeps getting better and better. It was a slow process, I failed many times, still do, but I never gave up.
Just start somewhere, you can do it !!!
I'm the same. I'm turning 23 in three months. Good thing the past me decided to step up and focus on my future.
When I was 22 I was so lost with my life. After listening to podcasts of Jordan Peterson, listening to advice, started cleaning my room, and switching courses for two times I almost got my shit together.
2:30 Peterson /fit/ confirmed
About to turn 26 and for some reason this one has hit me hard. Thanks for the uplifting message.
I already know that I seriously need to change my life for the better but I just don’t know how to do. I don’t seem to have that “spark” that everyone else does in life that drives them forward. There’s no light at the end of the tunnel for me. There’s not a single person on this planet that I can see myself becoming. Every day we have to eat a bowl of shit for breakfast, lunch and dinner - and most people have it in them to push through it for what’s on the other side. It just completely cripples me.
People aren't heroes, it's just a matter of time and an addition of little efforts, no more than this, you just have to tell this little anxious voice that pops off everytime you try something to shut the f up.
25 now but still don’t know what to do. No goals as of now but just saving money, working & working on myself
And still he was doing way better at 25 than I‘m doing at 27. Damn.
I will be 26 in July, quit smoking pots 4 months ago after 8 years of daily use, alcohol just sometimes, final year of master course.
Feel completely lost in life, I try to continue improving myself but happiness is still far away from me and I don’t know why.
Im glad to hear that I’m not the only one and that 25 is not to late so must keep grinding and believing.
In my opinion most of the happy people will be who are able to secure their childhood even in the old ages, I strive to be that person, always kid like, not taking pressure and living a solitary life in my own beautiful town where I can see the main city light lights from a mountain all reserved to me, that's all i want
I turned 25 today and found this video by accident. I've been changing for the better for a while now and hopefully continue to do so. I hope one day to look back at myself at the age of 25 and realize how much I've changed for the better.
I'm 27 now, and I had a pretty similar experience when I was in college. I went to a pretty decent school but I was incredibly unhappy there, drowned myself in alcohol and filled my lungs with weed to cope with it and eventually I decided I had to get my act together if I wanted my life to turn out productive. Stopped hanging out with people who were detrimental to my goals, I never quit alcohol or weed fully but barred myself from any consumption on weekdays (as I was still pretty miserable so needed something to get me through the week lol), and made sure I had a dedicated schedule every day to how I was going to get to where I wanted to be. Ended up finding a job for the next semester and took a gap semester off to get some work experience, and eventually transferred to MIT the next year. Got out of college and continued this mindset and I have soared past people my age in the corporate world.
Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing this message with so many young people, I only wish I could've heard this when I was younger.
im 26 about to turn 27 and im trying to get off drinking and smoking i have been doing these things heavily for longer then i want to admit hearing someone like you struggling with the same things and overcoming them is honestly such a motivator if you are reading this yes you can quit smoking and drinking you are more important then your vices my friend do it for you and your family and your future family i love you
I'm 25 now, and this video showing up on my feed is a sign to change.
I was fortunate enough to discover the lectures, interviews and literature of Jordan Peterson at a very young age. I'm 18 years old and I have been keeping up with his podcasts and lectures for a while and I feel very privileged to be able to learn so much and develop so much so quickly, so that I can build the foundation of my life and education on something I find to be meaningful and solid.
Turning 26 in May and woweee this video resonates with me. Turning 25 was when I really started having a good hard look at where my current trajectory (drinking, drugs, smoking, porn) was taking me. Just started my post graduate studies and hope to become a Clinical Psychologist and business owner. It seems to be around this age that us males start to get our shit together judging by all the other comments in the post. Good luck to everyone!
I’m turning 24 in March. This gives me much hope, I want to turn my life around. I must move out of my family home so I can be away from Sin.
Respect to everyone in the comments who recognized their problem and dont just blame forces outside of them. Wish you guys the best
normal person "telling the truth is good" Jordan "it's a tissue of lies that will dissolve into chaos" love this guy
You just gave all people in their 20's hope
I'm a female, as soon as a turned 25 I had a mini quarter life crisis. I have been struggling through uni, panicking that it is going to lead me nowhere. Have ADHD, smoked weed and cigarettes, have a bad diet, barely work out, can't drive and still live with my parents.
3 weeks ago I decided to stop smoking weed, I started walking more, eating healthier and today I smoke my last cigarette (I'll vape, but still). I'm going to take my savings and work/travel next year, leaving my parents home and learn to be independent. I'm driving more and planning to book in to get my license.
25 is the year, it's never too late.
Hope you're doing better, either way take this comment notification to remind you what you promised to yourself :) 💪
@@AceDestinyGaming thank you :) I'm doing a lot better. I have lost a lot of weight, still haven't touched weed and I've had the odd cigarette but those days are pretty much over. I just got my visa for the UK and I'll be gone in 3 months. I falter often but I still strive. 😁 onwards and upwards. Thank you for the reminder
@@evacope1718 good to hear :D keep up on that path I believe in you
I just turned 24 and luckily i have been listening to him since i was 17. when i was 18, launched my 1st business, experienced different cycles but the most incredible time was when i was 20 & 21 when the net-worth of the company moved from 1000$ to 100k$, was getting in better shape. lost focus after that due to clubs, woman, and not very productive friendships. Turned 23 last year and been getting the business and my mind right, just started to see some great results this year...can not wait for 25
What business is this
@@loloppololp9304 AI & FX Trading
Don't forget to have some fun too. Before you know it you're 34 like me, and miss the social opportunities, the flirting, the adventures with new friends.....
3 weeks sober from drugs. I got through this deployment and saved some money. We'll get through this
I'm 23 and in grad school will finish in two years and start practicing medicine as a PA. I too have a porn addiction and the sexual persuits are clouding my brain when I need to focus on studying medicine. Your video was inspirational. Thank you
I'm 25 and I'm finally starting to get my life together thanks to Jordan Peterson.
I'm 25 now.. And in one month I'll be 26. It has been one of the most mentally tumultuous years of my life, no doubt, and I can't be grateful enough for finding this video just in the nick of time. Thanks for the extra push of inspiration. I'm quitting smoking and plan on drinking far less, I also want to cut back on smoking weed significantly which, after years of being in denial about the plant's negative effects, is something that I've concluded has not made me thrive at all. Quite the contrary. It has held me back from facing reality. Finally, I must start working out. I've had feeble attempts in the past but could never stick with it.. Thanks in part.. Or more than just in part.. to my three consistent vices. So truly, thanks for the video, and I hope everybody else who watches it finds the motivation to change as well.
You’re around 30+ now, how are you so far
Jordan Peterson inspires me greatly, daily to be a better man. To be a better son, Christian, brother and husband. His "no nonsense", wise opinions are informing new character in me to stand up for the Good, the True and the Beautiful. No wonder Google and FB are censoring him and shutting him down. Google, you can't kill good ideas!
This dude is almost 60 years old I can’t believe it
Im 25 and i feel like its too late to get my shit together, so this is really nice to hear that its really not a bad time
Young chaotic Jordan learned order and became a 10th degree black belt in life
He suddenly doesn't seem so strong, tough and collected to me when he talks about stuff like that. But on the other hand, I respect him even more _because_ he was able to overcome his issues. I guess we all have some demons in our past.
Well he always seems so intelligent and articulate, he has his goals and priorities set straight. He knows how to "get it together", to put it shortly, as a result it left me with an impression that he was like that from the beginning. But as it turns out he was struggling too.
23 and just started a trade school so lucky me im on pace to be a respectable 25 year old. Keep grinding yall, you got nothing better to do!
28 currently getting my life in order. Just gotta stay positive and focused
I'm 30 I have severe social anxiety I hope by 35 too conquer that fear along with own a house in cash along with finding someone that understands me... ( when I'm 35 I'm going to come back to this post and whoever sees this or is going to see it I'll let you know how my progress is going)
redrum murder I’d like to be kept in the loop brotha. I’m 25 and have very bad anxiety as well, one day at a time we’ll pull through! Keep shining and it’s never too late
Ghost Dog X thanks bro I'll come back to this video and update my progress...best of luck bro
Update or wait 3 more years?
Update?
Where is the update? It's 5 years later after all
Today happens to be my 25th birthday :O
Congratz!
RobotObelisk tell me my friend, how bad your life is to this beautiful day of yours?
‘Don‘t want to be alive, when you‘re 25.‘
-David Bowie.
(chin up)
RobotObelisk happy birthday. Now go clean out your room
clean your room!
currently seeing this post and the comments it made me regain hope for the future as right now im 18 and i been a mess for the past 2 years, i was smoking an awful amount of weed and it interfered with my college as i didnt put effort in classes and i was able to realize it after 4 semesters. i will do my best to regain the control of my life to be better for me and my family.
My life is a train wreck, this constant depression and anxiety is only going to end with my death man I cannot be saved anymore, almost 29 and everything just gets worse and worse man....
Seems like we're all in this together right now, hang in there guys.
You CAN do this!! 👌🏼
I’m about to turn 25 so this is really important to me. I feel so reinforced that it’s never too late to turn it around.
I’m 28 and just figuring things out, there’s no time frame gents. Embrace the journey, don’t compare your journey to that of others and welcome discipline into your life, you’ll go far.
Keep your chin up brother and just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you’ll get where you want to be. Love bro ❤️
No way, I just turned 25 today and was looking up if he had anything for 25 year olds
It's good to hear highly successful people like Jordan talk about times when they didn't have their life together. I'm 21 and I've been as lazy as can be my whole life. When I look at people my age who are incredibly successful, like Jake and Logan Paul, I feel like I am lagging behind. It is comforting to know that most people my age didn't have their shit together either.
I just turned 26. Im in dept and im healing from a very cruel and toxic relationship o was in and created with myself. I quit my job and I’ve found another one. Tomorrow my interview. This job, will open doors for me and help me fulfill my dream. BUT I REFUSE TO MAKE THIS NEW JOB MY LIFE. I need to stop fixating what everyone else is doing and focus on what I want.
22 , i promise myself i will change, i was numb and didn't even realise last 4 years passing..by.
I'm like a ship in the middle of the sea, i followed others, till now never cared about my Dreams because i was alone, Then we got seperated they went on their own now i'm in this place where i don't know where to go and in trying to play safe i risked my time and ended up in the same place again.
I'm gonna explore every direction possible and Do it myself even if no one is around!!
Look at his beautifully engorged prefrontal cortex.
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Man, so much of this resonates with me and the journey I've been on for the past few years. The practicality, the sacrifices you have to make to move forward with yourself aren't something most people really come to accept and recognize.
Who here is 25 this year?
Hello, Patrick here from Mind Life Flow (Mindfulness) - another good video and advice from Mr Peterson. He provides honest and practical information that can help so many people!!
I just recently turned 23 and I'm beginning to have the same sort of mindset. I need to figure it out before I leave the Marines so I can stay afloat in the world.
I I'm 25 years old think I'm doing pretty well I work 40 hours a week in a job I enjoy I bought my first home last year just work hard and good things will happen
Really good to hear. I resonate with so many things you say, and over the past year I've realised that my stance has changed from wanting of attainment to realizations of implementation... It's been good to come back to your talks and realise that I've achieved the states and implemented actions that I longed for...
By no means do I have it sussed out, but god damn it feels good to realise and acknowledge progress. You're doing god's work Jordan... Christ/Buddha's teachings were all about sharing profound teachings of bettering yourself and the people around you as a result. You truly do have a voice that is heard.
This would make the assumption that Peterson currently has his life in order, which is highly debatable
I am recovering and finally getting real medical help from years and years of untreated schizophrenic episodes and other disorders.
It’s taking awhile, but I’m starting to feel hopeful!
I’m 26 now and did excellent as Valedictorian in high school, but neglected my mental health tons… And it’s backfired, especially during my college years & ended up dropping out. The consequence years (6 years) didn’t do too well with schizoaffective (bipolar type) developing.
Many of my mental health problems at the time damaged my potential for personal business attempts & career proficiency.
-I don’t feel as resentful and hopeless anymore.
Seeing someone else able to turn their life & low points around near this age gives me hope that I can turn things around & continue to grow & live meaningfully.
I’m super thankful for this story! And I want to change and grow for the better for the myself & the ones who care about me.
Think I'm pretty much nearly sorted at 30. Can completely relate to the age of 25, time you start thinking. I had to purge my friendships or god knows where I would be now. Hard thing now is finding decent friends when your older and committing time to them. If jordan could shed some light on that it would be greatly recieved!
im 31 and i feel like a bum now
Take ADHD drugs. It'll drain your soul but build up your superficial characteristics that people consider successful.
Fred Hampton's Ghost haha I take adderall on a daily basis and I never thought about what you just said but it's true to a certain extent. But I'm curious: what do you mean with "drain your soul"?
JP455 hmm thats not how I experience it. I did with ritalin (felt like a computer when I used it) but not adderall. I'm just a little calmer.
it also deoends onthe dosis. taking (tomuch) ritalin made me antisocial to an extend
I'm 32 in May and my life's a mess
I haven't taken the Big 5 Personality test, but I think I'm high in Agreeableness and Neuroticism for sure. I get random mood swings out of no where for instance. But anyway, I appreciate you Dr. Peterson. I may not have my act together at the moment, but at least you showed me what I SHOULD do to ward off the inevitable suffering we all go through.
I took one the other day and scored 80% in neuroticism and 20% in extraversion :/