The Biggest Regret of my 20s
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- Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
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Ohm, grant*
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Please more story time with Garnt! :D
Yooo the man himself!!!! I watch your animations and they are amazing!!! Leep up the good work, never expected to see you in garnts channel... but yay, we hqve the same tastes.. 😀😀
Agreed
Moar storytime!!!
Realising that things only change when you put effort into doing it yourself was the biggest motivator that I had a couple years ago to step outside my comfort zone and try new things, memories are mostly created during your first time doing things. To me it's important to keep having as many "firsts" as possible
I was just watching YOUR video lol
For me it's just not knowing what I really want to achieve. There are lots of things I like and out of those my favourite thing or hobby of the moment changes periodically. I can't do everything at the same time. I am not even mad that some of my aspirations are completely unrealistic because there are so many things I want to do and can do but just can't commit to so I kinda take life in its stride and perhaps I'll regret the way I went about it in the future, but for now, that's just fine.
@@F1ll1nTh3Blanks This is so damn relatable
Wasn't expecting you here
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lists of quotes from garnt:
3:13 - new experiences won't come to you unless you actively go out and seek it
3:51 - by far the best thing about being an adult and the worst thing about being an adult
4:23 - take care of your time because that's the most important thing that you'll never get back
6:21 - the hard part isn't the idea, the hard part is going out and doing it
7:01 - just by committing to do something and following through with it you've already done more than 90% of the people out there
9:14 - all these experiences both positive and negative are the experiences that shapes me into the person i am today and some of those lessons i don't think i would have internalized as strongly if i didn't personally experience it
9:28 - everyone goes through life at a different pace
10:15 - you'll be able to achieve more in life if you're able to stop comparing yourself to others
10:23 - you're never too young or old to learn something about yourself and really bring a change in your life
*Feel free to add your own version of quotes from grant in the reply below
Thank you,I´m too sensitive and scared to watch this because I don´t want to feel hurt and sad atm, so seeing these is a bit more comforting
@@Stuttsis hot take: you will stay scared and over-sensitive if you don't confront and accept reality, give it a watch my friend, you need it
@@Frankyroflz w advice
@@Frankyroflz "everyone goes through life at a different pace" they're going at their own pace, maybe they'll be ready to see it later
@@Stuttsis give it a watch, even if you do feel hurt or sad, you'll manage to figure out how to go through the struggle. your future self will be grateful that you did.
2 lines that really stood out to me:
"I tried to be the person I thought other people wanted me to be rather then the person I actually was"
"and in my attempt to combat loneliness I filled my life up with hollow people which in the end only made me feel more lonely"
although I'm only 18, what you just said made me realize basically my whole life (mainly high school), I realized that none of these people were my "real friends"
but I never really gave it too much thought, then school was over and they went out of my life as quickly as they entered it.
a bit cliché maybe, maybe I shouldn't have posted this but that's what I'm feeling right now.
we are the same in both age and situation, so i feel you
i feel you dude
Yeah man you did just post cringe on main
But ill let you off
@@theycallmemuzz7394 ?
I'm 40 and I had the exact same realization about the milestones about 10 years ago. That's when I realized that the people everyone looks up to are the ones who have reached a milestone they have chosen themselves. So it's now up to me to choose mine.
As I had no idea what I wanted to do, I went back to what 8-year-old me thought grown up life would be like, since "Later, when I'm grown up" is right now. That's when I started to learn Japanese (which is how I found you guys), and started planning to walk the Kumano Kodo. #GrownUpLikeIndianaJones Corona delayed the trip but gave me extra time to study, which should make the trip even better.
Chris Broad said that every 3 years or so he thinks of a milestone he wants to reach, and then he reverse engineers what he needs to do to get there, and then he just does it. It keeps life constantly filled with fun and interesting milestones. Wise words to live by.
PS: Garnt, you say you're better at writing than at improvising to explain a point, but this was very well explained and extremely relatable. Thanks for sharing!
Thank I also realized that I was missing something as compared to other ppl in my goals and this was it.Due to corona I've become to comfortable to this lazy lifestyle and always postponed thoughts to change only constantly thinking what I'll eventually do rather than beginning.This time I'm going to walk properly
Chris on Tokyo Creative video today "As for me I have no goal" 😂
@@Dusty_B Abroad in Spain 😁
I'm 39 and I agree with you. But I think sometimes we make some choices in our life that we get stuck with the consequences. You could make videos about the trip. I'd love to watch.
how good can u speak?
As someone who is in his mid 20s, I'm feeling very lost and sort of grasping at straws to fill my time after work. I'm in a bad place socially (don't have many friends irl) but videos like yours help me recognize I'm less alone than I think I am. Thanks man, I hope life in Japan is treating you well
Mid 20s lad here too. I'm in a similar situation as you as I have very few good friends irl and am trying to work/learn more on what I want to actually do irl when not at my grindy 9-5 job.
You're not alone as you said, it can get tough out there friend. Gl!
Mid-twenties here too, the social aspect of my life doesn't bother me much, but I'm really not happy with where/who/how I am in life at the moment, can't help but think I could've done so much better and it really hurts, can't say I wish this on anyone else, but I'm glad to see I'm not alone in this, we'll get there, we just have to keep moving forward.
Late 20s here. I felt the same way about 5 years ago. Until I eventually decided that it was time to take responsibility and do the things I always knew I wanted to do. I made a conscious effort to use all the free time that I had on _something_, rather than scrolling through social media or mindlessly playing repetitive games like league or wow.
I built a routine that involved spending at least 1 hour every day on a creative hobby. For me, I wanted to learn to draw and play violin. So I used that time for those activities. And I didn't care if it would take me forever to catch up to people who originally inspired me. I have my entire life to catch up. So just start now.
The rest of the time would be spent on other less intense activities, like watching anime I wanted to watch, but wouldn't make the time for, or practicing my skills as a software dev. It basically didn't matter what it was that I spent time on, as long as it was in some way valuable to me.
It takes a bit of time and practice to find a routine that you can stick too, but once you find it, you'll be amazed at how much more engaged with life you become. I no longer consider my time at work to be the most important part of my day. It's nothing more than a chore to keep bills paid. Instead, I have other interests I consider more important, that I look forward too enjoying daily.
25 here, jobless, talentless, with a degree obtained in 7 years that literally is less worthy than shit in my country (its value devaluated a lot in recent times) that won't allow me to get into good jobs because I lack work experience neither low end jobs because I'm somehow "overqualified"'. All my friends seem to forget about me once I stopped being useful for them, my personal goals have gone from being a researcher in America or Europe to finding a stable job with minimum wage, my desire to make a family has turned to dust and I start to forget the little social skills I gained in college.
I feel lost as nothing I do seems to work as no matter how much preparation I can get I still lack work experience and I don't want to face the fact that I wasted 7 years of my life getting into a job which wouldn't even require that much of a preparation.
Still even after that clusterfuck of events, I just think I need that the job I'm so desperate to get could be the only thing my life lacks to be on track, as I'm fairly in good health, have no bills to pay or any exterior obligations, I know that working isn't exactly the end of my problems (it surely would bring even more) but at the moment I can't even afford a decent quality of life for myself without having to rely on my parents which are growing tired by the day
It's really no use to feel better for anyone the fact that knowing someone's in a worse situation, but if you guys have a work that's still something a lot of people lack, the thing that makes me not kermit tactical sudoku is the fact that having a job it's my main and almost only problem, sometimes if we focus a little on what we currently have we can know what are we fighting for and where we need to go.
@@Daniel-jz9td My situation is kinda similar to yours, my current goal is to find a job decent enough to pay my own rent, then keep going from there, work on my own passions/projects and see where life takes me.
Honestly, incredible take man. I run pretty parallel to your experience, and honestly took a ton from this. Much love
Yooo curt, I know you get this a lot but I really appreciate the content you put out ❤
NICE!!!!! I TOOK A TON FROM THIS TOO!!!!!!
@@kylesmith9598
I did a lot of stupid crap in my 20's. Cooking all day/night in a restaurant, partying at a club or bar until they close, do it again the next day. I went through some pretty traumatic stuff in my teens/early 20's and I think I did as many new things as I could in my 20's to block it out.
But it also lead to some amazing things. I went on a solo trip Japan for the first time when I was 22, I worked in some amazing restaurants, I met some incredible friends I still have to this day that I talk to every day. I can't say I "wasted" my time in my mid 20's as I did have fun but I never "progressed" in life. Then I met my future wife when I was 27. Since then, life has been wild and in a good way.
To those of you in your 20's, enjoy it. Make new experiences with some awesome people.
i'm turning 20 next year and i took alot from your words chief
Omgggg me too. I’m getting help for it now but it’s crazy seeing someone else who went in the speed run mode just being busy/having fun to block out trauma…
I'm turning 22 and your life at 22 is already more amazing than mine lol.
Sir pardon me but do you have any word for teenagers
I've become 20. I do not feel as mature nor as happy as I thought I would be. I feel stuck in a tight place. I feel confused. I do not know what I know. Maybe it gets better. Will it get better ?
See you in 10 Years for the 30's Edition
Woah, was not expecting the audio king to appear
yooooo ZEOS :D
I actually dont watch your videos that much but its great to see you here dude. I love your enthusiasm :)
"Take care of your time because that's the most important thing that you'll never get back"
That quote you just said hits harder and harder as you grow older.
First. Finally.
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I'm convinced this account is run by some AI. That would explain the shallow comments
hi
Oh the irony
I deeply related to Garnt when he talked about true friendships, ironically it was when I stopped trying to "fit in" that I found my best groups of friends, people with common interests who liked to hang out with me and who I liked hanging out with. All my friendships before then felt so hollow I barely remember their names now.
I firmly believe that you only attract the best people when you're being the most yourself :)
@@o249s3 being yourself and striving to complete goals attracts people naturally like planets orbiting a star
I'm about to be 24 in a few days, I still feel like im a 16 yo teenager lost in his own ideas of future but now with some extra money, I have no real friends and I'm afraid to open myself up because I don't want to be judged.
Life gets more depressing the more I fall into the daily routine.
But at least I can buy cake whenever I want, and people don't care about my long hair anymore.
relatable
wow i loved your comment!
man, this hits different
Bro...I'm ryt there with you🤝🤝
I'm lost somewhere too
I think Garnt is forgetting not all us made it on youtube, not all us are rich
we just normal people living our lifes , my most happist time of month is buying anime fig lol
Love your brain! An honest intellectual with advice from experience. Coming to the later years of my 20’s right now and I’m totally valuing my time more than ever. Wasted a lot of time, but now it’s time to manage my time from now and beyond. This video really helped me feel less alone and more motivated. Thank you for this.
Cool to see you watching gigguk, Nicholas
You're really getting into the anime community huh
didn't expect to see you here
sup nic
MY BOI NICK?
I love how you said "if theres a time to fuck up its in your twenties". i don't think many people realize you don't need to have your entire life together at 23 and that most of us in our twenties are still trying to figure things out just like you are. the best time to make a change in your life is always going to be now, regardless of how old you are
Don't worry. Grown ups have no idea what they're doing either. They're all pretending.
Feel like i heard this somewhere, cant remember where tho
I think that's from parks and rec
Isn’t this from Neil Gaiman’s ocean at the end of the lane or whatever it’s called
You see that’s the terrifying part. But I hardcore realized just how incompetent most adults are during the early pandemic. When my friends and I talking on discord came up with more reasonable and likely more effective solutions than entire world governments.
@@Zeke1460 well you can't just decide or learn about something as big as covid with discord discussion. There are reasons why they're the world governments, not you and your friends
As a 21 year old who hates the engineering degree he's doing and wants to pursue something entirely different, this video hit different. Thanks for always being an inspiration Garnt!
yeah man i'm 15 and i'm fucking terrified of being dropped into all the in a few years
@@CK_0verLord1102 Hey sorry to be the random advice in a video content forum guy, but never be afraid of random experience. It always means something to either you or your career at the end of the day - and hopefully both when you think of it! Becoming an adult is kinda partly realising that no-one has a clue what's going on, and we're all just figuring it out as we go along. And you will too, I genuinely believe that.
Fuck, did that single coment hit home man... Currently doing an engineering degree that I feel so lost at it, whilst wanting to pursue a career in languages, that sucks man... At least I'm a bit younger at 19, but fuck me that sucks.
@@ccronin yeah thanks man and no need to say sorry i needed that so thank you very much
Honestly if you hate engineering now you won't find it interesting later, just drop the degree and go do something else and don't be miserable like the guys at our office who only do it for the money.
If you don't have a clear alternative path then finish the degree and get a job for the while you figure out the next move.
Just a tip from 31 year old engineer :P
As someone who is about to graduate from university in less than a month, this video is very comforting to hear. Thanks Grant!
dayum, me too i will graduate in less than 2 months
@@somebodych2015 its lit, freedom but also do have some struggles with the fact you are incahrege of your life. like you can sit and wait and stuff will come but unless you go outta you way its not going to just happen. I'm currently struggling with taking vacations from work besides the statutory holidays & find new things to do.
Me too man, I do have a milestone ahead that I wanna achieve but I can foresee me being stuck in the routine Garnt talked about until you are retired.
Same , in about two months I'll finally be done with university and I can't wait for this huge lift be the fuck off my shoulders
TFW a genuine thank you feels like a troll message because he was called "Grant."
Started crying listening to this. You took everything I'm feeling in my late twenties and summed it up so effortlessly. I've been feeling this existential dread as I near 30, desparately trying to fix myself and my understanding of the world. I keep wondering when am I going to be enough, but conversely scared to feel comfy with myself cause I wonder if that means I'll plateau as a person. I just want to exist in peace and hearing you speak gave me a moment of peace, so thank you.
have you heard about Alan Watts and his talk about 'life not having a destination' - The future you are aiming for is always out of reach because when it arrives, you are chasing another future that has yet to arrive. Like a donkey with a carrot dangling in front but never eating it.
ruclips.net/video/rBpaUICxEhk/видео.html
(he has a lot of talks about buddhism which changed my life)
"Life just kinda stays the same unless you go out of your way to do something about it"
I heard this quote from you in an old TT episode and it really hit me to the point where I screen recorded it on my phone.
I'm really glad I clicked on this video and I'm gonna rewatch it a couple more times until it sticks to me that I am responsible for change and my own happiness in life.
For everyone who is feeling lost and lonely, I hope you'll find happiness and success!
Right back at you my friend :D
👍
Do you remember what episode it was?
Timestamp?
I'm 29 and turning 30 soon, and I really needed to hear this talk from someone who has already hit the bump. I did a lot of the same things you described along your 20's lifetime here and wished I'd learned some of those things earlier myself. The existential bump of this has definitely been beating on my brain lately and it was just nice to hear I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Thanks, Garnt.
29 going 30 as well and I had the same thoughts!
28 going to be 29, thinking the same things. We ain't alone in this feeling and...I think thats a good thing. Helps all of us relate and just...let it all out.
get used to it, it doesn't really get better in your 30's, you just need to learn how to deal with it.
As another fellow 31 year old, these issues have been on the forefront of my mind lately. Great video, good job!
Same, I think about it all the time.
Same thing, and I am at 31 as well :D
Same here
31 crowd checking in feeling the same!
31 gang unit !
@ 3:04 ... love your line and delivery "when we're young, new things were handed to us; when we're old we are seek out new things" [me paraphrasing]
This video really hit home. I’m currently 17 and trying to complete my senior year of high school. I have this huge weight on my shoulder being the eldest in my family of 10. Trying to be the perfect example and person everyone excepts me too be has been really challenging as of lately. I’m expected to join the US Air Force or Navy as soon as I’m done with high school. I’ve be trying to do my best and its been a very difficult journey in my life. This video really helped me and eased my burden just a little so for that, thank you.
You should be expected to lead, not be expected to be lead
Take this from a Former Army Recruit:
Don't join the military unless it is something YOU want to do. It will test you in ways that it shouldn't, not just physically or mentally. The things they expect from you will be absolutely unreasonable and they will absolutely treat you like trash, because they OWN you via contract. They will not protect or help you afterwards either, even though they say they will.
Please, listen to actual testimony from former military personnel. The military is a Risk. It should not be taken if you do not intend on making a career out of it.
I hope you’re doing fine
@@redglare9623 thanks bro I’m trying my best. Hope your doing great!
I'm 24 and everyday, I panic even more because I'm literally so lost in every aspect of my life and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do and it doesn't seem like anything will be figured out. I'm so thankful to this video, it makes me feel a little bit better about the chaos I'm in
same!!!!!!!!!
I'm 23 this year and honestly i feel so lost in life that i genuinely dont know to do about it and u know what thats ok bc at least u can take it slow and try to do something new every day like learning new skills and whatnot
Same here, hard to think I graduated highschool nearly 6 years ago now. Feels a lot more brief than that
Also 24, I have periods of this, but last year I really made an effort to get out of my comfort zone and try new things and meet new people. It was not easy, but definitely worth it
I am 15 and I think I am also lost.
I waste a lot of time you know? And everytime my parents tell me to "spend my time wisely" or "don't waste your time" and "you will never get your time back" but what the hell am I supposed to do with my time? Should I really just try to study for things that I am not sure will make me happy in the future? Should I just give a shot and not commit to it? Should I just take a risk and go all out for something I am unsure about? Am I too immature and idealistic for just wanting to not regret the stuff that I do? Maybe I can't avoid having regrets in my life so I should just do it? Will I really be ok even though I am so lazy? Should I just just leave it to the future me and hope I will magically become a better, stronger, and a more energetic person?
"Don't worry, it will all workout" when I have seen people fail in everything In their life.
Is it really just "get good grades and you will get good jobs"? Is it really that easy? Will all my problems go away just because I am a little smart or memorize a bunch of stuff on a book and forget about it next year?
Is my problems and worrys unnecessary? Is it just a tiny pebble compared to yours? Do you have a much harsher environment?
Am I too young for these things? Is this just a phase in my life thinking I have it hard when in reality, it's not that hard to get rid of my problems? I complain and do nothing, always so smart for things that make no one happy. Always so fast to start eating when I barely help with making it. Always having a roof on my head and not asking where it came from. Even with all these things, I always yearn or more. A better food, a bigger bed, better clothes, bigger house. Just a complainer that does nothing to fix it. Even though I know about all my problems, know all the solutions, know they fastest way to do it, I still dont do it.
I just reached my 20th birthday last month and at the moment I'm really lost in life, I don't know what I want to do... I love seeing other people talking about the same problems because it makes me feel not so stressed because is just a normal part of every human life
same bro same
Same
Same here, I turn 20 in August and I really have no idea at all and it sometimes gets the best of me at night.
I have been lost since I was 18, I am somewhere in my mid late 20's now and still lost lol.
My advice is to travel mate, just get a one way flight to Bangkok and spent the next 7/8 months backpacking around south east Asia. You'll be surrounded by people of the same age who are all going though the same situation, people from all over the world. Probably the best thing I ever did when I was your age. You've hit your twenties buddy get out there and make some memories :-)
Damn, Garnt is getting really good in this. He almost feels like a Shounen protagonist that already finished his character arc, I hope he doesn't get nerfed soon though
He's transitioning from being the protagonist to being the OP grandpa
First permanent nerf usually comes in your mid-late 30s - deaths start happening everywhere - family, friends, etc.
Hold up, where is his shippuden arc
@@pandora7372
Prolly his 20s but we're waiting for his Boruto equivalent
And then he talks about Domestic Girlfriend ☠️
the ending where you talk about people achieving great things going from being older than you to the same age to then younger than you hits so deep. Kinda made me emotional but thank u for this video!
I recently turned 28 and this made me think about my 18 year old bright eyed self. So many things and plans I had looked forward to have been ripped away from me by chronic illness. So much of being chronically ill is mourning for your old life and what could have been while simultaneously trying to find happiness and make the most of each moment. I'm very tired of my illness getting in the way of me living life. It's a draining existence, but all you can do is hold on to hope.
i'm in my early 20s right now and there's not a week that goes by when i'm not afraid of the future/ageing. I hate this feeling of inexplicable dread that i'm missing out on life because i don't come out of my shell more. and also as you've mentioned, i think sticking with friends who only want to drink all the time isn't exactly healthy but i don't exactly know ho to get new ones either because i'm so introverted...
I think what i'm trying to say is: life's hard man :(
as someone who's 29 this year, it pretty much the same, but you come to terms with it.
Hey man, I know that I have always valued a good one on one conversation with someone over a drink any day.
Even when my buds grab a drink, I choose to stay sober and just talk with them. Good meaningful friendships are hard as hell to find bro, hang in there.
I'm in my mid-twenties and it's so miserable. Looking back, I feel regret. I feel like I wasted my early twenties and regret that I didn't take anything seriously enough and push myself out of my comfort zone. Regret that I let my darker emotions get the better of me and keep me from passing my classes, to the point where I've now spent eight years in an undergrad - double what it should have been and I'm still not sure I'll graduate this year.
Looking forward, I feel dread. Dread that I'm going to graduate without a job lined up, dread that I might *not* graduate at all, dread that I'll leave behind uni - the last time you're put in an environment where you can casually mix with other people your own age - without having experienced anything, not even being in a relationship of any kind, and god knows once you're in the working world in your thirties people judge you for that shit.
Life's definitely hard man, good luck to you.
My Advice is keep looking after yourself and look for a opportunity every day to bring something good into someone else's life, so at the end of the day, you can focus on something positive, positivity breeds Positivity, that's a massive belief of mine. keep your head up and if life gives you an opportunity to make a new friend, one who you can relate to that doesn't make your energy negative or suck the energy out of you, leap to it.
much love from a 22 introverted anime nerd.
I'm 23 and just recently graduated uni. I dont want to end up having a job that I hate, but I also seriously do not know what I really want. All my friends already have jobs and I'm still unemployed. I feel so lost and unmotivated. This video brings me some comfort and I hope I will soon reach that point in life where I'm committed to doing something.
well i can only recommend if you do find a job but have hard time with managing your own time and get exhausted in the process then always have a backup plan for a new job before getting out. cause it gets real hard to find new place to start again.
I am 16 but I feel the same way
@@ha-u-rupaiaymbon5824 mate I’m 16 too I don’t think we should be getting worried about these things now lol too much pressure
First , Did you watched the video?
Do not compare yourself with other people
Where do you feel lost?
Sometimes you have to do sacrifices
But never forget what is important to you.
Stay true to yourself and to the people you live with
And if you want , make that change today.
Little by little.
Your friends might have a job. But one of them might be a drug addict, or at the brinc of divorce, while you still have a wife, and don't have any addiction of any sorts. Who has it worse? The more you compare yourself, the more lost you will become. There is no objective metric to determine it, according to your own standards of what one should have and shouldn't have, which is stupid, because you're way more complicated with your desires then you'd like to think abstractly speaking. You don't even know yourself and what you want. And the only way you can, is by doing things that are new to you. And by getting out of your comfort zone as much as possible; but not to the extreme. Get to know yourself, like you would to a stranger. Enter the unknown.
Story Time With Garnt should be the new series on this channel that you would do time from time, cuz you have the most interesting stories.
*Grant
@@jammaschan *Garnt
@@mr.wasteofspace7994 *grant
@@jammaschan *Grunt
He has normal stories but tells them in an interesting way
I'm slowly stepping into my late 20s, got fired and had gone years unemployed (countryside down here in South America has been rly rough on employment). I'm full of stuff I started but dropped, and that discourages me from trying new things Cuz I know I'll also drop that too.
Thanks for this video, man. I take it to heart. Stay awesome
Looks like you are me from South America :D or... i am you in South Asia lol.... and it looks like the unemployment and career choices did hit you hard just like how it did to me.
@@exosanity6322 rather comforting to hear we're not the only ones. Let's keep it together and press onward!
good luck bros. cheerin you on
The part where he talks about comparing yourself to others really hits home. I recently entered University and somewhat felt unmotivated because my peers seemed to have more experience and knowledge than I did. It made me fear that I wasn't going to make it in life because I wasn't as good as them.
I’m actually in my 20s and so lost in life. I have friends that started to work or uni but even getting engaged! And here I am living with my parents and working the bare minimum just to have some money to spend. I really don’t know what my future holds but I feel like i’m stuck. With your storytelling video made me realize that it’s ok to feel like this and I’m not alone.
You’re definitely not alone.
Same
same
A brother
Same
This summarized exactly what I’ve been feeling. I’m 28 and I’m struggling with the looming dread that the end of my 20s/30 will bring. I feel like I’m not where I want to be because all I’ve done is gone with the flow and grind away at just surviving. Starting to realize now that I need to start reaching out and taking hold of the life I really want. It’s time to start making choices that are compassionate to myself and not out of a sense of obligation, duty, or that’s how I thought this was supposed to go.
I'm 28 myself. I know what I want. I want a family, children. I want a career as a musician and to not be stuck in my job but I don't have the time because I work at a 24/7 place. So I've been focusing on getting a high position so I have more time to my self to work on what I want. It's difficult though. I just want the comfortable life, I don't want to be rich.
Same age and same feeling. Thanks for putting into words. Hope things get better for you.
@@starrk7158 Im in the same situation as you albeit at only 22, people look at me funny when I tell them I don't dream of being rich but rather only want to be comfortable. Look, if comfort means being rich, ill do it, but at my current stage with my current knowledge I feel like being comfortable wont need to be as luxurious as most people think.
While there is a lot of people sharing their story and how they've finally made it, there are a lot more story about those who didn't make it, and you'll never hear about it.
Sure it's sounds so inspiring when someone said they quit their job to pursue their passion then make it big, but that's like very small percentage.
To people who feel lost in their 20s, remember, It's okay to follow your passion, but be realistic about it.
There are a lot of people that don't "make it", in the traditional sense. But to me, the people that truly don't make it are the ones that give up on their dreams just because of failure. Failure is a natural part of success. If you fear failure, or fail once and get scared off, you'll never know what could have been. You'll never know if you could have made it.
This is the truth right here. It's survivorship bias. The people who make the most money tend to take the greatest risks, simple rules of nature. However the problem is you don't hear from the 99% of people who failed and only the 1% left has a story to tell. This creates the bias that these "survivors" have formalate the most optimal strategies, when in reality they are most likely high risk high reward strategies.
@@RiseUpToYourAbility and oftentimes what appears to be "high risk" isnt so high risk after all for the people that are attempting these things. if you have a certain amount of intelligence and are resourceful or have a lot of money to work with, things are inherently far less risky because you generally have a much better idea of what you're doing and how to understand the system than the average person is going to have. people like that are also generally going have lots of different options and many other great alternatives for themselves if one given venture doesnt happen to work out
Yeah but I think the reason he says that your 20s are the best time to make mistakes is specifically because of this
I mean I guess there is some truth to it, but it doesn't mean you have to just quit your job.
I think there is definitely a middle-ground.
And just randomly starting a carrier is probably never a good idea. You should probably get experience in the field before starting something yourself.
There is a correlation between experience and the success of a start-up, the more experience a person has the more likely the start-up succeeds.
And I think it's also applicable to other fields.
So just thinking you are good at something or thinking you have a great idea without even knowing the market or the competition is just bad.
(which at least from what I see quite common)
If you look at Garnt he made videos before he got into RUclips full-time, same with the Anime-Man, CDawGVA or Abroad in Japan.
I think following your passion doesn't mean just ignore common sense, but rather don't stand in your own way.
And while success isn't guaranteed, it's neither that your job is save.
And this is also assuming your passion lies in being self-employed.
That's why sports are so important. It totally breaks the monotony, lack of achievements that arrives after you turn 18. As long as you compete, that monotony is broken by the shonen lifestyle.
Yeah man. Sports, group/communities hype fests, game nights, concerts, healthy parties with loved ones, this shit is important. Hobbies are important too but everyone needs that hobby that gives them that social serotonin.
I love this mindset.
Gotta compete only with YOURSELF though not others, be your own king and not give a crap about what the world thinks of you.
@@astrahcat1212 competing with others is part of what makes sports fun though, how do you compete with yourself?.
@@gamesvideo9818 I can answer instead of @Kahlikoh, if we consider games(or sports in your case), you can try to break your personal record.
As someone in their mid-30s stuck in that 9-5 grind this really hits home. I really appreciate this take, definitely gives me something to think about
As someone who's still feeling partially lost in his 40's I really relate with this, I needed to hear that. Thank you.
The intro is written with the kanji of Garnt, pronounced as Grant, this evoques the thought that life shouldn't be taken for Grant'd, so profound, so emotive. 10/10 masterpiece
That's cool
Wow
As always, this video was just what I needed. I'm almost in my mid-20s and I've just started my first proper office job after uni, and I quickly feel suffocated by the monotony of "adult life". I don't have any concrete career goals other than to make money to support myself and there's nothing I'm particularly passionate about doing, it feels like I'm just drifting along and I don't know how to recapture the time I've lost. It's hard not to compare myself to people I knew from school who are pursuing phDs, working at big investment firms, writing books, and travelling the world. I want to experience more in life but not sure how to get there. It's definitely a lonely and isolating time, but I found this video comforting.
Something I realized after moving out and started working in a new city, far away from my family in my twenties... While working in a nursing home and seeing the elderly slowly withering away with no one close by their side makes me realize how precious it is to stay connected with friends, colleagues and family... Stay safe everyone and make time for it, even though you may be 'too occupied' by work or other chores!
Im currently going through this. Being in my late 20's, ive reallized ive done nothing with my life but ive had this one thing ive been wanting to do, and thats comic books. I have a few ideas running through my head and i tbink theyre great but what you said is true, The hard part is getting started. I dont even know how to draw, but i do know how to write and tell a story. Im scared of how long this will take, or even if i will be successful but this seems like my only chance to make something of my life. I dont wanna be working the cash register all my life. Id figured it'd be best to go to college for two associates, one in business to help bring in an income and one in art to pursue a career in comics. You released this video at the right time, i finally "woke up" this past march and become extremely sad because i see everyone else doing what they always wanted to do. Heres hoping for the best.
Go for it my bro.🤝🔥🔥🔥
Your story motivates me to dream more and start new stuff.
Let's do it. 💪
@@Ivanko71 thanks man, im glad it did. Lets freaking get it
That's actually what I have been and still go through but I'm getting finally getting close to my goal. Let me tell you this, I start drawing since 2019 and found an online teacher to built that drawing skill almost everyday. You dont have to draw for 5 hours a day, as beginner 1 or 2 is enough. Build fundamental/anatomy/ color and focus on doing projects while you do it (aka ur comics). Life is an long journey and trust me, it's better to start now than regret it later. Even if it's shit for 1 or 3 years, im promise you it wont be shit when you do it for more years
absolutely follow that passion and I wish you nothing but success. however, I'll caution you that thoughts like "this seems like my only chance to make something of my life" are really, REALLY toxic to creativity. That kind of pressure will do you no good. You can live a worthwhile, meaningful life even if you utterly fail at making comic books. You can live a disappointing, regretful life even if you succeed. The healthier thoughts are that 1) it's something you feel passionate about doing, 2) that you have stories you want to tell, and 3) that you simply want to get better at it.
I know it's easier said than done, but as someone who has a number of creative interests that ebb and flow (just look at my RUclips channel for example), wrapping too much identify and self-worth in your passions or creativity makes it much more difficult to stay positive in the inevitable let downs and motivational ruts. I'm 25 and still a work in progress, but the more I just resign myself to the pure joy of doing something I'm passionate about, the more successful I ultimately end up being. The more I put pressure eon myself, the more I abandon it all together. I hope some of this was helpful and I wish you nothing but success in your comic book endeavors.
I threw this on in the background as I was colouring my first comic. I'm on chapter 1. I'm 32.
So, this video came at exactly the right time. All those fears about whether or not anything is even going to come of this have been making me want to give up and not even try. Thanks for this video, Garnt. I needed it.
Good luck with your comic!
THE WORLD NEEDS YOUR ART EVEN IF YOU DONT THINK SO
For me, I recently quit my job. I was always taught as a child that you are happy if you are successful. I had a good paying job, yet I was miserable since I was far away from my family and in a city I never grew to love. So after 4yrs of trying to live the life everyone around me called amazing, i decided to try to live the life I see as amazing - with less money, more free time and closer o my loved ones. Its scary, changing a job, changing a city and leaving behind everything others want, but I m super proud of this decision. Bring it on!
I don't disagree at all with the points in this video and I also don't think Gigguk was trying to argue against this but as someone who has grown up most of their life in the kind of household who was one accident away from poverty, money has a LOT of power. The only thing in life that has a limited supply is definitely time, you can't get it back no matter what you try. However, money can essentially buy you time. If you have the comfort of money you can essentially use your time on things that matter, things you want to do, developing new skills and being with friends. If you don't have that luxury you HAVE to spend a lot of your limited time gaining money. It's unfair but a lot of the times when I look back at younger days or when I regret not doing certain things in the past I remember that even if I could go back it wouldn't change the fact that I just didn't have the money to do a lot of these things I wanted.
I think money still uses up your time unless you already have it. It takes time to gain wealth like making a successful business. Maybe you couldn't spend time with family as you wanted. You have freedom to do stuff but you don't have friends or a partner to do it with it now. Your point is valid and resontes deeply me too. You need money to do stuff. I guess what matters is using your time effectively that lines up with your values.
@@rockinrom1524 i understanding both perspective im gonna go a bit off topic but its really amazing that people of this community are going really deep about this topic and are actually giving good advices for life are the same people who argue about boneless or boned chicken
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This ruthless truth hits me so hard rn I wanna cry. Allow me to piggyback off that concept... In my personal experience, because of poverty, building wealth not only costs more time, but may also cost more of your health too (depending on what, where, and with whom you choose to spend it). Health/safety is a hidden commodity that some people don't realize they are trading (or sometimes have little choice to trade) when taking on a job/career/volunteering/hobby. And many times, the type of health you lose over certain activities is not replinishable or reversible. Please be aware of this hidden factor. Learn from my mistakes!
probably the realest and most relatable comment here
When I told the people around me that I wanted to pursue animation I was heavily discouraged. The amount of pressure to pursue a more "viable" career was insane. It made me so insecure about my future. But in the end, I came to a conclusion. Like you said time passes by so fast. I don't want to spend it regretting not at least trying to pursue something I love to do. I'd rather do it, say fuck it and take that risk and put everything I got into it. I may have regrets when I'm on my deathbed, but I don't want that to be one of them.
i mean i can understand what youre saying its better to not regret it later ive had that as well many times (like learning an instrument they still discourage me) but animators just get overworked and get underpaid it sucks really fucking bad especially for the people in the industry for years and seeing you say that just worries me even if i dont know you
man i dont really have anything that im good at that i enjoy doing alot, im reaching a stage in life where im starting to get passionless and running out of ideas of possible careers in the future, in school when they said what i wanted to be when i grow up i always said i dont know, feel like im just waiting for the idea to come to me.
go for it. Ignore the doubters. Just as a personal anecdote: one of my best friends from high school hated schoolwork besides art class. She was incredibly passionate about drawing, and wanted to be an animator. She failed most of her classes, and eventually stopped coming to school just to draw more at home. When it came to college applications, she only applied to animation schools like CalArts (which she eventually went to). Meanwhile I had no passion but had high grades. I drifted from my elite prep school into the ivy league (dartmouth) an ended up getting a degree in economics that i didn't care for.
She's now more successful than me.
Yeah I feel this. I'm 22, recently changed my major in college and due to covid and issues I took this semester off.
Even my most recent video on my channel makes it seem like I know what Im doing but Im still...lost.
Oh well. Sometimes you gotta enjoy being lost at sea. Never know what tales you'd hear and lands you'd discover. Here's to a bright future my fellow lost lambs.
My life went into a sudden full stop when I hit 24.
Lost my job due to management politics and couldn't land a proper job for the next 2 and a half years.
Ended up working as a technician in a broken down PC shop and doing a side gig as a cable technician installing fiber optics cables.
When I was 27, saw an ad for working in a R&D company in their Russia branch.
Went for the interview, interviewer thinks I'm not up for it. But funny things can happen in weird little ways.
Interviewer's phone had problems, I told him I could fix it.
Gave me a task to repair the phone on the spot within the day. Got it fix and I got an opportunity of a lifetime to work with their Singapore R&D division instead of the Russia one.
Now I'm 32 and the head of R&D division of a different branch.
Just wanna lay it out after hearing Garnt's story.
Love your work.
I'm 31 too and OMG I understand what you said so much! That feeling of regret but at the same time you can see your growth in the decision you can make. Is really wierd to think about your 20s and see them so far away
As someone who's in his early 20s I didn't realize I needed a video like this. Hearing someone talk about rather than their regrets but the things that you'd realize once you're in your 20s is rather eye opening and helped motivate me a little to do the things I want to do rather than be afraid to try something new. But then again I don't know if that mindset would change in a few years I just hope it doesn't.
Early 20s is the fitting time to try multiple things and finding out more about oneself, just so you're not get stuck in a place you despise. As a mid-20s person starting to pivot my career, what i wish i would've done is to start earlier and stop looking down at myself and my potential.
We need more of story time with garnt. This video made me feel things. I’d be 18 in 7 months, i know here a bit early but this video made me feel intimidated yet a bit hopeful about the times to come. I would definitely try to learn from your experiences and try to mess up a bit less, and try to find a decent life for once rather than thinking everyday about how its a pain. Thank you and please make more of this.
I needed this, thanks. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one going through this, what you went through. From being the person I thought ppl wanted to not being assertive, and just all of it. I'm in my early 20s barely any friends and this woke me. Thank you for encouraging me, I think the time of change is now.
Can't wait for the sequal: The Biggest Regret of my 30s
Joking aside, as an 18 year old who's going to be going to university later this year, it has struck me that I've been getting into cycles and I've turned down once in lifetime opportunities because of my own comfortable cycle... Thank you Garnt! I'm going to make sure that I don't have the same regrets when I leave uni!!!
Same even worse due to corona got my entrance exams in 2 months I'll commit to put more effort since I want to have more choice and experiences
real life and debt starts right after you graduate, study hard but remember to have fun and all the new experiences you can have at uni. Don't wait for your mid-20s
My tip kid, don't be cheap. Buy the book, don't try to save money by staying with parents. Go for a beer with classmates. You won't regret to be more independent.
@@burhanbudak6041 if I do that I'll be working my whole life I don't want that
This quote has edged into my mind
*"The best thing about being an adult is there's no one to tell you what to do, and by far the worst thing about being an adult is there's no one to tell you what to do"*
~ _Garnt_
Honestly, after reading the manga yesterday. I want to make a video like this too. I am still in my 20s and I related a lot to the 3 days in Happiness manga. Especially the thoughts of the main character and the things he said.
Dude you got like another 4 years max to live. Why would you focus on making videos?
I'm 23 almost 24 years old. It was a blink but that could've been the pandemic and as i learn about myself i realized all the internalized truama i have all the hate i had not towards others but myself. I definitely think im toxic but ive been working on it. I'm not starting to recognize myself anymore and to some degree i like that. Thank you for sharing and I hope that this will be my turning point. I graduate in less than two weeks, my guitar playing has been getting better and my emtional attachment to music never stop so thank you
I'm 23 and this has definitely helped me feel not as alone or strange in how i feel. Thought it was just me with worry while everyone around me seemed to be doing just fine.
It's so jarring realizing we're older than our favorite "older" anime characters. Taiga from Fate is younger than me which is weird as hell to think about since she's a teacher. I agree, I think if we cared less about what others want from us when we were younger, we'd actually save ourselves from a lot of heartache/existential dread.
Thankfully my favourite "older" character happens to be Iroh from ATLA! So, still have a bit of time!
As an almost 40 year old, I find it nowadays strange how young the "old people" in anime are. Most people are not that old that young. I love my animes, but there is the really irritating thing that young people are more competent than they should, and people could as well be dead after they reach 30 years. GAH!
just u buddy, im young af lit fr 🔥
i am in my mid 20's right now and seeing someone older than me talk about these things, puts my mind at ease for a bit. I 'm still lost on the path of life even at that age.
Take my advice; work, invest. Even if your job isn't bringing in a ton of cash, save and invest what you can. You will thank yourself for it later. . . or curse yourself, if you don't.
Thanks garnt. This is honestly really inspiring. Specially for someone who is 19 n gonna step into his 20s. I will really try to take in on this advice.
@ 6:12 .. aw "the idea".. we all want to be recognized of our passion. But doing something by one's own self will require discipline , and learning many skills (marketing, management, communication, etc)
I'm going to turn 20 soon and I felt like I needed to hear this. Thanks garnt and ur welcome for the ad revenue btw, I'm definitely going to rewatch this when ever I feel lost
As a 32 yr old, dude just spitting straight facts. Side note, you seem like a good dude to just hang out with and have a beer.
I’m responding because I am also 32 atm. It’s been a trip. Still figuring it out. I’m not traditional so it’s hard to not have a guide book. I’m glad, but low key jealous at my friends that can accept those standard societal norms.
@@joes2735 Nah dude, never settle. If societal norms aren't working out for you then find a way to make your own norms. Don't bend to the system if it doesn't work for you.
@@joes2735 32 as well and that combined with the last two years of covid has really made me down, especially when 2020 was starting to be really good year before that hit. Now I am focusing on becoming an English teacher in japan, which is both the wrong time of year to try that, worried about my age holding me back from being hired, and work visas are only slowly opening up again.
How dare you accurately describe my feelings as a 25 year old. This all hit way too close to home, and I feel like i’m constantly waiting to get it together and finally have a strong sense of identity.
The part about doing something you want to do really got me deeply, I'm in my last year of high school and I have spent pretty much my whole adolescent trying to pursue animation, I have study, read, watch videos and practice a lot since I was 14 and what seemed to be just a silly dream became a goal that I hope one day I get the opportunity to make come true, but I live in a place where art is non-existent, where there's no such a thing as animation college or uni and my family don't have the money to send me elsewhere; I know an art a degree is not necessary at all, but not studying something is not an option and studying for another 3+ years stuff that I don't enjoy is really making me feel desperate. I don't know what's gonna happen in the future and idk how much more time I will need to make it to the place I want but knowing that I'm not alone in the feeling of fear and failure and reading all the comments of people with same feeling as made me feel better about my own situation cause I'm not alone in it, so I'm really thankful you made this video.
I love not only anime but also cartoons, donghua, french animation and just anything related to animation in general, they made me what I am today and I have a big passion for it, and I'm trying my best to be a pro. I really hope to come in months or years to this comment and be able to say that I already make something as a pro animator, but in the meantime I will keep working hard and doing my best.
Idk I'm a teen myself, but maybe find a job after high school and after work try to improve your animation and try to push yourself online and stuff like that. I think the part where animation becomes your job will come with time as long as you don't give up on it.
@@bowelhunteruzumaki8798 Yeah, I think that's my best shot, I will definitely work part or full time, but the part of studying something else alongside was the thing that was getting me so frustrated, cause not studying something is a big no in my family lol, thanks for the advice mate ^^
This was so spot on. It's amazing how universal certain experiences are.
man I can really relate to a lot of things in this video. All the things about trying to be someone else that you think will fit in, but actually not fitting in that general social circle. Finding meaningful friends in high school, the people that were really there in my lowest point of life, granted I do have great friends but they're mostly busy with their lives doing their own thing as well. I "graduated" high school in 2020 but didn't get to walk the stage cause the pandemic happened.
Just about to turn 20 next month. I'm feeling super lost in life, but a little hopeful as well. Finding my passion for both photography and cinematography. The one crucial thing that has helped me along the way is staying in the present. Not looking too far back, too far forward. Just looking at what's in front of you and doing what you can with factors you can control. It's really helped a bunch in keeping a healthy state of mind.
I realized that you don't have to please people in life, and just do your own thing. As long as you're not hurting other people then I think that's fine. Doing what makes you happy, as cliche as it sounds really seems like the end game of life for me.
Taking photos for people, helping small businesses out with my photography has been a really fun thing to do moving forward. There's still a long way to go and there will be more hardships in life, but that's okay because we will all find a way to bounce back in life no matter how hard it gets.
I really wanna travel, take cool photos, and make short films in Japan one day too! That's in my bucket list once Japan opens up for travel, and I'm going to go all in to really get out of my comfort zone this time and try something that I've never tried before.
Thank you for this video, man. I've been a huge fan of the Trash Taste podcasts as of late since I've been staying home and chilling while waiting for creative work to come by.
I'm really really glad you are making this video. I'm in my 20s, starting 9/5 internship, didn't have a friend that can connect with, and feeling freakin empty right now
As a 22 year old dude who in his comfort zone and feeling spaced out, this really makes me think about my current life.
same but i just become 25
@@eva1das103 i turn 25 this year nd i feel same.
Is this me I see right there on my screen or what ? This was exactly me last year (in my mid 20s) and this year I made the big and sudden decision of learning a new career. I went back to school I am excited for what's new to come in my life. It is crazy how naive we all are at younger age, how we don't believe what our seniors tell us about time being precious and all. But man I think the sooner you realize this the better you will feel.
This video made me feel less alone (especially during this pandemic) it is comforting knowing we all feel the same way in one way or another. To anyone who still read this I can confirm you that in your 20s you NEED to make a move on your life or else you will close your eyes one night and open them up tomorrow being 5 years older and not noticing it.
Thank you mister gigg UK arizona
Thanks for making this Garnt.
That comparison where life is a video game was spot on. It really does feel like the first 18 years of your life is racking up achievements and then after that - you're endlessly grinding for a shred of content.
Thanks a lot for your words of wisdom garnt, as someone who will begin their 20s in a few years, this video helped me prepare myself a bit
As someone who just turned 20 this last month, this was definitely something that I needed to hear. There’s so much that I kinda want to try but don’t really have the motivation to do. It’s good to get some advice early so hopefully I can change that and not end up having the same regrets
motivation is jack shit buddy, discipline is the only thing that'll get you anywhere tangible. everything else is as good as maladpative daydreaming
23 here, started my full time job half a year ago and already feeling this. Thanks for a very insightful video mate.
Honestly as someone in their early 20s, I'm still looking forward to things that I still didn't experience as a kid like finding a best friend, e.t.c.. I'm just very afraid of what Garnt is talking about will slowly come to be a part of my life, which is not finding the time to do stuff. A bit of a tangent, but one of my absolute favourite games was P5, and I compared myself to Joker all the time (from the beginning till the very end). And I admired how he was a loner and slowly turned into the leader of a group of friends , all of that happening while he is still in Highschool. How he managed a schedule, got closer to specific friends and hung out with them.. I wish I had these skills/courage to do this stuff but I just couldn't acquire them. Till this day (where I am much older than Joker), I still strive to obtain these sets of skills. Probably noonenwill read this, but man... it felt good just saying all of this. Call me a p5 fan boi or whatever, but this game kinda shaped me into the person I am today.
I totally get were you're coming from. I think I lost a lot of my passion for video games as I was growing older, but then somebody talked me into getting P5.
The characters, visuals, music and basically everything else just felt so great to experience. I had a lot of fun as Joker, trying out new hobbies, meeting new people and growing as a person all the time. It made me feel incomplete, but somehow in a good way, like I could also achieve the same things he did if I set my mind to it.
I pretty much regained all of my passion for video games ever since starting P5 for the first time. Now I'm seriously considering to study Game Art and become versed in all sorts of media design. Maybe I can make someone just as happy as me someday.
We are all built by the characters we admire. I grew idolizing Goku, Tai (Digimon), Ash, Link, Zidane/Cloud/Vivi (FF9/7/9). I still watch anime and strive to be like people like Midoria or Asta. Keep fanboying dude. Keep finding people/characters/stories you connect with and keep shaping yourself after them. I was an anime watching/ pc building/ video game playing hipster and I grew up in rural Alabama. But the moment i stopped being "the jock from alabama" that i tried to be to have friends, and started really trying to be the person I wanted to be, the friends showed up. Some of them the same people I was trying to impress by being someone else, told me they always loved those things about me. I was trying to be someone other people didnt even like because i thought it was what they wanted. Now I try to be the characters I admire. I'm less angry. I'm less lonely. I'm more successful. The absolute blur and grind of my twenties has recently become the acceptance and success of my early 30s (33). If i have any advice. Work hard, but work hard for you. Do what you need to get by now, but find time to invest in things you care about, even at jobs or in situations you dont like. If there is something at work or home you don't like. Don't say "I don't like this". Learn to say "How do I fix this?". Then ask yourself "What would Joker do?". That answer won't come from Joker though. It will be all you. Not every will recognize your value when you can do that. But I beleive with every fiber that the right people will. Good luck on your journey bro.
You’re not alone in that feeling. I’m almost 30 and I still look up to characters like Sora and Usagi (Sailor Moon) because of their awesome friends and sheer optimism - something I feel is so important to keep especially when you get older and everyone expects you to be jaded.
I'm early 20s and persona fan as well. I've played P2, P4, P3 and few SMT games in my teenage years, but man, Persona 3 hits me different. My god I've even forgot my identity after playing for many hours trying so many things, building arcanas, etc. confusing myself as the main character living in that world. But could never forget the things I've done there but never in real life, that time exist and spending it well is very VERY important because eventually we'll all reach our end. After finishing it makes me think that death doesn't really matter, it's the things you've done that makes people you love remember YOU. In conclusion It really changed my perspective of what life is, and why I want to become better person. Like him. Good luck grinding everyone! Memento mori.
Honestly when you're younger than a high-schooler and in high school; you're led to believe these adult looking KIDS have everything together based on television or, in this case, video games.
Pro-tip: it's fiction. Not real.
KIDS DO NOT HAVE LIFE FIGURED OUT.
And it's that simple.
For girls it's about 24-25
Men: close to or in your early 30's
I'm 31. Take it from me. Don't listen to media
Wow, this video somehow puts everything I've been feeling the last few years into coherent words, I'll be 27 in a few months and I get older keep thinking more and more about how boring my life is and most of my days just feel the same, I want more out of my life but I don't know how to get there, having ADHD really doesn't help as my sense of time is even more fucked and trying to get anything done can be painful a lot of the time. This video puts a lot into perspective for me, I'm terrified of change but I also don't want to still be stuck here when I do turn 30 so I want to try to change, thanks for the great video!
kinda needed this as I will be entering my 20s this December and I'll be doing new things. feeling cared and uncertain and teared up watching this vid so thanks grant for being everyone's isekai-loving older brother
"The hard part isn't the idea, the hard part is going out and doing it". I felt that.
'Hardwork and commitment' is the key to whatever we strive for. Man, Garnt's words really hit me.
I'm reaching my 30's and I still don't know what to do with my life.
I realized (maybe late) the same you said, you are who needs to create those new opportunities and I'm trying to change things on my life which requires more effort than I thought, is hard to change.
27 and still lost, but getting better every day (: Thanks Garnt, this video is really beautiful.
Growing up and getting older is something I will always struggle to come to terms with. The fact that my time is running out and I'm completely aware of it, and knowing how I have less and less time to do things I want to do is one of the most depressing and dreadful things I can think of. I realise that I'm not the only one who thinks like this, but it's just one of those facts that just never really sets in. It just hangs over you like a bat or a cloud. Following and surveying. Without end.
I'm in my mid 20's and so far I feel like I've wasted my time doing nothing just for fear, I'm always anxious, always feel in danger and usually play safe, never risk anything. I've been living a very plain life so far and feel empty. I definitely don't feel as mature as I should be for my age and I don't think I wanna get to live my thirties if it's still gonna be like this for the rest of my life. I know change is within me, but it's not like I'm just gonna wake up tomorrow and be friends with everyone and live memorable experiences out of nowhere. Anyways, here I finish my stupid and depressing rant. Good video! I'm now subscribed!
I'm actually turning 30 this year and these are my exact thoughts. The routine bit is the one that hit way too close.
I just turned 30, and I just recently found out the exact thing Garnt said at the end lol. Comparing yourself to others will literally paralyze you and keep you from being the best you, instead of being as good as others.
Practice on being ok with others having negative or positive opinions of you, it helps a lot.
"How Homogenous adult life feels"
Yea, it's basically that. You spend your youth thinking how much you're gonna accomplish, spend your teens chasing what you believe is right, spend your 20s fighting for what you'll want to achieve. By the time you're 30s you'll be desensitize of the daily routine that you'll prefer to fall back into a checkbox style of life.
Growing up I was always, unapologetically, myself. Not only was I very open about my hobbies I also didn't care if people thought I was weird for being me. Thanks to that my closest friends are the same people I went to elementary/middle school with and it was really easy to tell the difference between real friendships and superficial ones as early as middle school. We're all adults so we don't spend as much time together as we used to (though before COVID I hosted get togethers where we all played video games, card games, board games, or just watched anime once a week every week) we still enjoy each other's company whenever we can find time to meet up.
Going through some bs I just keep digging myself in a deeper hole mentally so thank you for this I really appreciate it
I needed this real bad, I've had this feeling for a while of being so frustrated with myself as I know that I am wasting my time but I cant make myself do the things that I truly want to do. I feel so lost and angry, my best friend as achieved feet's that some will never in their entire life time and it really made me feel like shit when I would compare myself to him. Watching this video made me realize that I need to view time from a different perspective and that I need to stop comparing myself to others and look at what I have achieved in life and what I love and build upon that foundation.
Turning 25 next week, and yeah watching this video hits hard lol. I feel lost and I just realized that everybody my age is like that a few years ago. I have so much stuff I want to do, but just can’t. What I used to do is I just do them all at the same time until I realized after burning myself out that yeah this is a horrible thing that I’m doing myself lol. You just have to sacrifice doing stuff for the meantime and just focus on one thing at a time, focus on that one thing first, do it right, and then move on to the next moment in your life that you feel that you can manage to start doing another thing.
I was also at the lowest point in my life like 3 years ago, it was like life said fuck me, put me down on the ground, started kicking me, and just beating the living shit out of me. Just recently that I’m trying to crawl out of the hole I was buried in.
Of course, I felt depression and anxiety eat me up. That made me develop a fear of talking to people, took away all my confidence, and I wanted to end myself (tried a few times actually) I was always mad, sad, and confused. I felt like I was falling behind in life, to the point that I avoid hanging out or talking with my friends just cause I thought I had nothing to show for myself. I don’t have the house or the cars or even the comfort in life that they sometimes talk about. And whenever topics like hey let's go out came up I feel overwhelming anxiety.
This stuff constantly comes back to my mind, even until now some of my bad habits sometimes come back as well. It’s an everyday battle. I don’t know still if this is the real me, or the me I’ve become. But I am taking steps to better myself because I have dreams that I want to achieve.
Happy birthday to me I guess lol. For anyone reading this until the end, thanks and sorry for my bad English.
This made me feel less alone. Thank you ❤️
Happy birthday WAKI, even though it's a little bit late. 🍻
I’m just about to begin my 20s and kind of feeling miserable at times, and I feel that I’m just wasting my time and at the same time I just feel uninspired to do anything, don’t know what to do
ayo mf stop capping on that 'bad english' bullshit. happy birthday :> you got this my guy
Happy birthday, trust me you’re not alone in feeling this way. I’m turning 25 this year in august and I just started to fall back in love with life and I have no idea what the hell im doing with it.
As I approach 30, I've been feeling extremely lost as everyone else seems to be making great strides in life. I started youtube just to make things less lonely but its been tough to maintain motivation. This really gave me another boost when I needed it. I hope one day I can thank you for this video and say it was able to make a big change in my life!
this video cane out exactly in my 22 birthday. I think really need this
Who knew that our littlebabyGarnt would be such a great Philosopher and life advisor?
Thank you man! I'm in my early 20s and I also do feel lost, I also feel not belonging. But I think and I plan and I try do make things good. So that after few years I would be proud, hopefully. Cheers!
I'm turning 20 in a few months, and I've been really scared about finally entering my 20s, this video has been very helpful thank you
as someone in their mid twenties, this hit the nail on the head so hard it cracked the board, thanks for the nudge hopefully it'll serve me well
Just have to say this, I’m in my early twenties and hearing this made me feel that it’s not just me. I also at times feel lost, and honestly it helped hearing this, so thank you.
When garnt’s start to talk abt serious things you should prepare yourself whether tears or love for garnt will fall into you. Thank you garnt❤️
One of the things that I got from this video is that if you're unhappy now and feeling that life is monotonous, purposeless, or dull... you will forever feel that way unless you seek out new things and make a change to your life in some way or another.
I've seen many videos like this inspiring people to improve their lives, but this is one of the most realistic and relatable of any of them. Thanks for the 'rambling', Garnt. To me, this vid is much more valuable than just that.
Hey Garnt! Turned 22 last month and this vid perfectly summarized what I've been feeling recently. Getting comfortable with my routine isn't going to fulfill the things I want to do unless I actively invest the time and effort to do so. So I'm leaving this comment here as evidence of sorts that I WILL :
ACTUALLY TRY to make a video game seriously
IDC if it's a shitty flash game or a trashy platformer or even a generic harem visual novel, I'm releasing a game this year and if I dont Ill post a vid of me eating a Carolina Reaper by the end of the year. This comment is proof that ILL DEFINETELY DO IT
suscribed and activated the notifications to see if you post the carolina reaper video or the game announcement.
I subbed to you, so you better keep your promise one way or the other.
you can do it man!! YOU GOT THIS
Sounds like a cap to me
Proof me wrong
God speed