Well, you should get use to the idea at some point of your life, you're going to hate your life. And that's where the challenge comes from. Is figuring out how to not hate your life at the point. It's why elderly people 60, 70, even 80 and 90 year old's ask young ones what they want to do with their life. They're gathering ideas still.
Ignore the person who said you are gonna hate life. There are going to be points where you will, but those are more transitory bits to get to the good stuff 😁
I think the biggest mistake people make is blindly following or completely ignoring their gut. We're more evolved, but we're all still base creatures who won't handle constant instinctual upset, nor should we, and it's also not our instincts that tell us how to get to what feels instinctively better. If you don't feel good, summarize what things happened and how they made you feel before critically analyzing why you think they made you feel that way, and running experiments to test. And just like any science, you need raw data with unpolluted factors. I can spend hours half-reading a book and half-listening to music without realizing I'm not fully appreciating either or feeling confident or enjoying life, and when I just face some potentially harder facts than "I kinda did stuff for a while and it kinda wasn't good" I usually come around to making my life a little better
I'm changing from graphic design to nursing right now and that's good to listen to. Get anxious thinking 4 years of study I need to have, searching for job in another career path older, being away from my gf working full time and studying.
You’ve totally got this, and hey, if what you decide to follow doesn’t end up suiting your lifestyle and interests, there’s nothing preventing you from pursuing something else. I wish you the best, and good luck!
"Do me this favor: Get out of bed every morning knowing that no one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change it at all. We are all exceptional and none of us are. And we are all lost...sometimes. So follow a path, any path...until you get to a place which you feel like you don't like...and then change your direction, because there's one thing you're making everyday no matter what you're doing and that is yourself. THAT is your job. And you must do it well."
@Mr Flowers Well, it isn't easy to see our own shortcomings since we don't even know clearly about ourselves even though we know ourselves best. Changing direction could be simply stopping what we are doing for awhile, and starting to go the path that focuses about our well-being and our own problems, before getting back to the track.
@Mr Flowers short comings are always defined by the people around you ,"you don't get out much" leads to "i don't get out much" not the other way around and maybe it is bad to stay at home instead of going out but it depends on you ,if you are told that then it's a short coming and changing that won't change the inner mechanics but whrn you realize that through smth that changes everything and that matters and that's what he means when he says "change the direction" also I don't like the way you phrased your opinion man.
@@vunguyent9696 I agree man but i don't think we know ourselves the best ,i feel we know when we are being real and that's how we know by contrast when we are not being ourselves (which is changing every second),sometimes i feel a personality is like an art piece or an electron .you can't really tell exactly what it's true interpretation is because it changes with every turn but you van have some vauge idea that's barley enough to act as a reference point
I think there was a hidden gem in here in that "work has much more to do with the people you do it with and your attitude than what you are actually doing"
No it has to do with can I live comfortably without being in existential and financial crisis every month while barely making ends meet month to month with an ever increasing cost of living and a wage that might get a doller increase if I'm lucky while being overloaded with an expanding list of demands and expectations.
Same! Applying to unis right now and feeling completely lost because I missed the mark requirement for my dream major by one mark. Spent the last 6 hours trying to explore my options and reminding myself that uni is not the end all be all. Hope you ended up in a school you enjoy :)
'You didn't go to school to learn how to get a job, you went to school to learn' Thanks Hank. I really needed to hear this. All my life my parents have been telling me to study hard to get a good job. The constant pressure really killed my love for learning. Currently in uni and super demotivated and lost with life in general. I miss back when I was actually interested in the topics they teach rather than just studying just for the sake of studying. Hopefully I'll find that passion again someday.
Early career engineer here (about three years in industry). If I really spelled out my opinions on the topic, it would produce a wall of text long enough to be a paper, so I'll keep it relatively brief. For what it's worth, and I realise that I'm about to say something incredibly heretical as an asian child, the mental bandwidth you can spare on worrying about things is a precious commodity, and your parents' expectations for you are not worth wasting it on. It's hard enough living up to your own standards for yourself, their disapproval is just self righteous pratter that they didn't earn. But more importantly, being on the other side of the process of going through college and getting a job, I can say that in my opinion it is _so_ much nicer on this side. Suffice to say I would not relish the thought of doing it again. I recognize that you're going through something damn tough, and that there's one more additional barrier ahead of you (getting your first job - it feels demeaning, and if you have any connections then that really helps fast track a truly brutal process, so I'd advise trying to form some). But again, the suffering is not eternal. Once you have relevant experience, you have leverage, and can then roll the dice in your own favor. No longer is your entire future a hostage of _that_ paper, or _that_ professor, or even _that_ boss. The win is there. Keep faith in yourself.
Yeah, I'm 22, dropped out of my degree and haven't found that. I'm starting to think I could find passion in drawing or learning an instrument but I've thought that before and lost it again. It's alright though
@evanshlom6912 No, they definitely did it for them and that's why they pressured them to do it. That's the parents job and this is Hank's job. Their friends have their job as well. You aren't wrong but aren't wholly right either. They, we do it for ourselves and for them and in the end it is the right thing - one person gets us there and it might take another to get us over the finish line - so be it.
Ah, my brother is a doctor and I'm jealous not because he's a doctor but because he knew what he wanted very early in high school and he threw his life into it. He isn't some kind of genius, in fact he barely scraped through advanced maths but if you saw how hard he worked and his passion, it would make you rethink what makes a person respectable and successful. He is truly my role model.
@@ok9908 If he had someone to support him in study(parents) he is still lucky as hell... In my country if you don't have a degree you can only work in shit factory.
Same here at 23. Haven't accomplished anything and failed 2 career/ business ventures. Plus I haven't gotten laid in 3 years. @@bobthebuilderday6leader
You are rare, to me at least, since i never cared about my happiness. For 7 years all i did was to be depressed in a corner, work from 9-to-5 living under my parents roof. It only came to the point where the pain was overbearing the fear of changing, and then i joined college. Currently in college, trying to be an artist.
As a 24 year old still living at home working 48-55 hours a week for 13 an hour not knowing wtf i'm doing with my life this honestly calmed me down so damn much. Edit: I just finished my first semester of pt school! Life is confusing and unknown but enjoy the ride! We are all lost trying to find our way you guys got this!
Literally almost same, I am 23, got fired from a job 2 weeks ago after a break down, was working 50-60 hour weeks, and now I am sitting in my room everyday not sure what to do, and I am thankful I found this video, and your comment.
*I FEEL THIS.... WORK IS UNWILLING TO WORK WITH YOU.* Why don't we come together and fight for higher wages? If someone quits and you have to pick up their work......... Logic would dictate that you should get part of their salary. Not 100% of it but at least 25% NO ONE BATS THEIR EYE AT THAT! WHY ISN'T THIS IN CONGRESS? WHY ARE THERE NOT PROTESTS AND RIGHTS ABOUT PEOPLE BEING OVERWORKED? YOU ALL DO IT TO YOURSELF! I'VE GOTTEN FIRED FROM MULTIPLE JOBS FOR STANDING UP FOR OTHER PEOPLE. HOWEVER, I MADE SURE BEFORE I GOT FIRED TO MAKE SURE THAT THE COMPANY WAS INCAPABLE OF INFRINGING ON THAT PERSON'S RIGHT AGAIN. I WAS/AM WILLING TO PUT A TARGET ON MY BACK TO MAKE SURE THAT COMPANIES DO THE RIGHT THING.
This is prob only thing that was discussed that I do always feel I have down pat. I do always feel like I know what I want to eat. edit: changed 'u' to 'was'.
@@saynotohookups It's almost like taking statements out of context completely changes their meaning or something. It was a hyperbolic joke, not a philosophical claim.
@@pendlera2959 eh it sounds immature. Alot of us like the freedom of being able to choose what we eat. It's honestly hard for me to understand the mindset of someone who wants their food to be chosen for them. Its like your subconsciously longing for tyranny
I like this advice. So much “rough advice” is just straight up pessimistic defeatism ala “life sucks then you die.” Hank is just telling you what to be ready for. The rest is up to us.
Thank you for this Hank. I'm a warehouse worker who is extremely overqualified for my job -- I've a B.A in psychology and another in education. Its hard to describe how awful that feels. It feels like Ive wasted years and years of my life, but hearing you describe exactly how I am feeling and simultaneously restore a small piece of self-worth to me is exactly what I needed today. I am grateful, I'd say DFTBA, but you literally always seem to remember.
M Clarke I feel the stress when my brother shames me about being a Health Science Undergrad qualified Domestic Cleaner. Thank God for Hank and John being the brothers I wish I'd had!
That sucks. The worst advice anyone ever gives someone entering university is to just study what they like or love. No, study what will get you comfortably and do what you love in your free time, unless you are good enough to reliably monetize it.
I found a job climbing trees, and I couldn’t imagine a job that could possibly make me happier. I’d do it for free. My dad hates what I do, but it’s worth it.
When Hank said "You don't go to school to learn how to get a job, you go to school to learn" I was honestly astounded. I had never thought about that before. My whole time at school I had been told by so many people and had always been thinking 'how is this gonna help me get a job' and in my head I've always thought of school as a gateway to getting a job rather than the place to learn that its meant to be. Love the video Hank :)
Just don't tell anyone what you are doing. Don't care about what others are doing. Do your things without comparing. Don't worry about things a world away - those emotions don't effect you directly. Stop being influenced by anything, anyone. Move forwards or backwards a little a day. Understand, that everyone has an agenda and wants you to believe and do what they want - they lie.
And here comes my luck, born in the 0.0001% that wanted fellow humans to be honest and sincere and actually has mood swings depending on how nice the human race is, why even bother to live if the others humans suck? I don't care for my life , I'm tired of pretending that humans can't break beyond repair, I'm one of them, I was too empathetic and foolish as a child and look where it got me, a faster death which doesn't matter, the dissapointment and suffering is 100 times worse than any death imaginable, if you told me before I was born that I had to choose between a butterfly and a human? I would choose a butterfly, even if the life is short I can engrain myself in someones memory as a beautiful thing and live many lifetimes in their head, as a human it's impossible to do that because they don't view me as that, they view me as a fucking transaction.
@@coreo6688 You are a thinker in a society of instinctual behavior. People's base behavior is survival, and in this format of western, specifically business based society - the 99 percent has to look out for their own agendas. I also was disappointed in my fellow travelers. But not anymore - they will have to awaken on their own time, or not - that is their path. But for you. Don't allow anyone or any group of people - to dictate your destiny or core mindset. Keep growing. Keep striving to be the best you. Don't allow your own thoughts to swipe out your own existence. We actually need more people like you. Now go forth, in all your beliefs - and prove to me - that I am not mistaken in mine.
Graduated and getting tired of waking up at 5am every day for a job I went to school for 4 years, only to find out I'm miserable. The same tiring monotonous thing every single day. Been getting real tired of it, so this video showed up at the perfect time.
I spent most of high school and my early twenties worrying that something was wrong with me because I didn't have a 'calling'. It was a light bulb moment when I realised I was in the majority. My job is simple. It's not my dream and it won't change the world. But it pays enough, its stable and I'm good at it. And honestly that's enough for me.
Not really it’s reality and you can fuckin enjoy it and not have to prove your worth by attaining some type of idealism portrayed by society. You obviously did not see the video or your not an adult.
How in 7 years this video didn't get to me? This is one of the most raw and sincere videos talking about life that really hits, but also reassures. Because the expectations put on us since young are surreal.
Im literally crying watching this, this is what I am struggling with. People in your early 20s is so hard because of all the expectations that society sets and then realizing that those are just not always what you're meant to do. Thank you so much for this video, it made me feel so much better.
not graduating, but I'm in college and this is incredibly helpful and comforting in a time when everyone at my school seems to have it figured out (even though I know they don't)
Some people also just seem to be okay with doing something they don't love. Like... they're gonna be content with just being mildy interested in their chosen field, while I would be miserable.
Hi, everyone i''m going to graduate after a year thinking about it I feel like I'm running out of time and haven't studied much that i get a job. I'm afraid how can i get a job. I'm afraid. I'm so lost
As a college professor I tried to tell people that college is not meant to be a vocational school. Few people get to work in the field they majored in, but you can become a more thoughtful person with better understanding of life. You can apply it whatever you do. I’m lucky I finally taught in community college with vocational programs and general education.
Hello Professor! Is it normal to feel left behind and sad during my college years? because I'm not enjoying college it feels like im learning nothing and i felt that I'm just only wasting my time studying in college.
I love how I typed “I feel useless” into a searchbar and this is the first video that pops up. I used to watch you guys when it came out, so it already has my thumbs up, but this time around it made me cry. What a perfect serendipity ❤
Im a warehouse worker and I have a degree in art/2D animation. I feel so pressured by friends and family to DO BETTER and Ive been feeling to depressed by it that I went to see a psychologist this week. You dont even know how well times this video is for me and i want to sincerely thank you, Hank
I think where school fails us is… your whole life is your career. Every choice and decision you make is your career. Once you’re in the real world - it seems like you’re tossed into an ocean you must learn to navigate in your on. Same thing happened to me… it’s like, every positive and negative is on you.
School fails us by lying to us to get in debt for a useless degree. They lie that the degree will get us good careers that don't exist. Or they say there's that one job that matches this degree, but they fail to mention that there are 6000 students who'll graduate with the same degree every year, all been told that they'll get that one job. School need to be FORCED to be honest. NO MORE LIES.
@@mandalahigherplanes9044 the school fails us because the education system keeps lying to us. The truth is, the market is oversaturated, too many people today own degrees in comparison to even 30 years ago, which is not really a long time ago, when many people were still uneducated and chose to do very simple jobs. Today not many Western people would choose to work in the fields or as cleaners, plus, technology and automation have definitely cut off many archaic jobs, so there's not really a choice to be a farmer or a shop assistant anymore. Universities will not tell you that there are not enough vacancies for the career you have studied for. If people knew it, most of faculties would be cancelled. The sad part is, the more years will go and the harder it will be because of more competition for the same demanded jobs. We are basically doomed.
Turned 28 this year, about to finish my CS studies with the realization that I have 0 interest in working in this field and basically did it because I felt like I need something respectable I can call myself. If I can give any advice to younger people: Go for what you love or take time and try anything remotely interesting to find it. A boring job will burn you out fast and leave you with regret, aside from even more pressure to "figure things out" in your late 20s. Also, never give up! PS: I wish I would've seen this video 5 Years earlier.
I feel this entirely. I want a skill that makes me feel like I'm worth a damn but that'll only lead to a bitter end. Despite that it's hard to shake at feeling off.
I feel the same but I still am getting my CS degree because the field is large and pays decently. I still have to pay bills but at least I’ll have options when I do get burnt out. Until either our economy changes when things don’t cost so much, or whenever my circumstances change to not needing as much.
I graduated today. I’ve always been that person who people assume has everything figured out, and, when it comes to school, they’re kind of right. I’m good at school. I’ve been doing it my whole life, and it’s all I know how to do. The truth is, it’s the only thing I’ve got figured out. And I’m looking at the rest of my life, and I have no clue what I’m doing. I want to be special; I want to make some profound impact that will prove I am worth all of the support I have been given throughout my life. But I am also just a single human in a huge world of special people. It’s overwhelming. I loved the certainty of school. I knew how to be good at it, and as long as I was good at it, I knew I mattered. Now I have to figure out how to matter without it. I feel lost, but It helps to hear that I’m not alone. Thank you, Hank.
I feel that every young person should watch this before they are thrust into adulthood. I really wish someone had told me this. I am 28 and am just learning this. I feel like every month I want to do something different.
As a 30 year old social studies grad, here's what worked for me: scroll through random jobs until you find one with a title that intrigues you. My favourite jobs have been "mediation coordinator" and "knowledge and learning officer". I had no idea what they were, so I researched them. I happened to have the relevant skills and experience just from my anthropology degree and various minimum wage jobs. Seriously, you don't need to have a whole career path laid out, sometimes you can just follow your curiosity into a job that interests you!
Thank you for taking the pressure off of this adulting thing. As a future teacher, I feel so good knowing that what I do does make such an impact, and also that GOD I LOVE MY JOB SO MUCH. I realize that I am one of the lucky ones.
Ceilidh Maria future teacher here! I'm also thrilled to be able to teach soon, but I have to ask to see if any teachers/future teachers know, any terror that your students *won't care about your subject*??
Aria Literata Real talk here: you aren't going to be able to reach every student, all of the time, every day--regardless of how they feel about your subject. In teaching especially, I have found it really helpful to focus on the little successes and the relationships that I can make with the kids. Those times when they light up about reading, or writing, or something historical are AWESOME and I cherish them, but that certainly isn't every moment of teaching. As long as you can care for the kids and show them you're invested in their lives, you'll do fine.
Ceilidh Maria You really are lucky! i hope one day i can say the same about my job, whatever that job might be. I'm sure you'll do great, anything you put passion and love into, eventually works out well. ;)
It never really occurred to me how unrealistic our expectations can be about life. In particular the pressure we place on finding our passion and discovering deep emotional fulfillment in a job. I found my way, doing exactly what I want to be doing with the best people, but it took a long time to get there. My early twenties were largely chaos. I didn't know how to take care of myself, much less find fulfillment in my work. I agonized over every life choice. My husband of twenty years and I were talking last night about how to make a career. It came down to having a realistic idea about yourself and what you're actually capable of, and then making strategic choices when opportunities arise. You may not know what you want to do with your life forever, but you can decide what you want to do right now, and use that as a launchpad to the next thing. As long as you're growing, it doesn't really matter. And there will be missteps. Off the top of my head, I can think of three complete disasters in my career that I thought I would never get past. I encountered major obstacles including severe mental health problems and long periods of unemployment. It's not a death knell for your future. Every time you fail, you get better at bouncing back. Then you look back at your life and realize there was a clear progression there, even if you didn't see it at the time. Let go of all the unrealistic expectations and just do something. I'm so much happier at 39 than I was in my twenties.
They never taught us as kids to have a realistic idea about what we're actually capable of. They told us that ANYONE can do ANYTHING. Many lives have been destroyed because of this massive lie.
Wow this is so profound. As a confused 24 year old who just failed outta college & doesn’t know what to do next, thank you !! What career did you end up choosing?? Or have you had multiple?
Ditto. I spent my entire college career from undergrad through to a masters (which I moved to London for) pursuing a job I thought would be fulfilling and admirable. But when I got to the end of my studies I found that I was not happy with the original path I had chosen. Instead of deciding to do the easy thing and pursue it regardless of how stressed and difficult it might be, I decided to do the scary thing and change all my plans. Those 5 years weren't wasted. They were some of the most important years of my life. I learned incredibly valuable life lessons and skills and I traveled Europe and met incredible people and I wouldn't change it for the world. Instead, I'm changing myself. So I went back home and decided to pursue my dream of living in Asia. I've never really wanted to be a teacher but I decided that I would love to teach if it meant I could be happy living somewhere incredible. It has nothing to do with my goals long term. And aside from language skills I won't be learning anything new related to my degree- BUT IM HAPPY. If I died tomorrow then I would have died living my life to the fullest. Don't be afraid to take chances- sometimes the best things in life are the scariest decisions. Confess your love, pack up and move, change careers, adopt a kid, explore a new part of town. And most important of all, when someone offers your a grand opportunity, whenever possible say yes.
I'm trying to decide what to do. I originally got a degree in a field I'm not sure I have the physical capacity to do. There is another area that I like somewhat. If I studied it more I might grow to love it, or maybe not. I'm not sure if I could ever be good at it and it would take years to get another degree, especially with a master's. I've never been really passionate about a career field, no matter what I explore and I'm not really good at anything. Do I take the plunge?
I worked this out in my thirties I wish I knew in my 20s nobody even said this to me during my 20s when I was questioning things. The dreams and careers lie is such a scam. You can be awesome at school and what will instead progress you in the corporate office is social climbing, brown nosing and dominance. The lie took me from enjoying my 20s. Now my expectations are lower for work and I pursue hobbies such as learning french and talking with intellectuals. It’s much more stimulating for my mind than mundane work. But I serve the people at my work.. it’s not about me it’s about them really. The other thing you start to realise in your late 30s is life passes really really quickly. And the things that we’re sold to matter don’t actually really matter. People matter. And knowing Jesus can make this life just a blink of an eye before a great eternity. Thanks for this video.
ahuh. it's great not being forced to choose extinction and the destruction of habitat, living at the mercy of human economic activity. no choice at all. yeah... even the thinking is infused with myopia and laziness.
"It is amazing any of us can function at all!" Thank you Hank. This part about us being utterly evolutionarily unprepared for all the stuff the world expects from us feels so true. Feeling lost or scared amidst all of it should not be considered a failure, and small successes are still successes (and not all of us have the same adaptability abilities).
I needed to hear this so badly right now. I am lost, no skills no passions so I have no plan. Working a job I hate to keep me alive just so my entire life can be working a job I hate. It has stressed me out to the point I developed a panic disorder, and now spend all free time sleeping because the Xanax I'm taking for it knocks me out for 12+ hours straight. Your words give me hope that this is okay, that I will figure out what makes me happy by discovering exactly what doesn't. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video. I would, however, also like to add that if there is something you love doing that you can't get paid for, either because people just don't want to pay you to do it in general, or the process you would have to go through in order to get paid for it is too much to bother with *cough*writing*cough*, there is still value in doing that thing. Even if you're only doing it for yourself, there is value in that, because you enjoy it. And as much as society likes to try to convince us otherwise, things don't have to have value beyond that. All of your fulfillment doesn't have to come from your job, and you don't have to get paid for something for it to be fulfilling.
Well said. This is what it means by making yourself. Not going after the money or just doing what is attractive or sellable but doing what we love and being content with it.
Getting to the point where someone would pay you is not something that we dont want to bother with. It is not cheap. At some stage of life, we just cant afford it. Or may be I am just too depressed to get what I want. I have like 4 hour a day worth of free time and that is 8 to 12 at night with exausted mind and body and I need to get up at 5. I usually used it for entertainment.
i'm 31 and graduated from college 9 years ago. What Hank has said it absolutely true. But I would like to add a few things: Happiness is painted as being a destination or an achievement or an objective. That you can get it. But I've learned that happiness is more of a process than anything else. It's what you are doing on average each day, not someplace you are headed to. And that despite what they are selling you, it might not have shit to do with what you do for a living. Maybe it will (for the dream job people, and that's great) but my happiness is definitely not my job. That pays the bills. My happiness is my friends and family, my girlfriend, the things I learn every day (never stop doing that by the way, even if you just have time for 10 minutes of wikipedia or the NY Times every day) the interesting and engaging films I watch, the places I travel to to see the natural world, history and culture (highly recommend this, especially in your 20's when you don't have anything keeping you in place) the video games I play, the art I think about, etc etc etc. Do the things you enjoy, keep your brain working and NEVER compete with other people over "success." That's the rat race. That's a trap that will make you unhappy. Compete with yourself if it makes you happy but comparing what you have or have accomplished with other people will always make you feel like a failure because someone is always doing better than you and MANY people will make it look like they are even if they are as scared and unsure as you. And it's ok to feel down once in a while. That's human. Especially now when the world is in a state of particularly vile crappiness. Just don't let yourself get stuck in a rut. If you do start to feel stuck just make sure you are DOING something. It doesn't have to be the key to the rest of your life (it probably won't be) but doing things keeps you moving, having new experiences, meeting new people. Good luck
I feel like the world was a worse place of vile crappiness every decade before this one, we were all just much less informed about it and not connected to much beyond our local communities until the internet came along. So, perspective...
A lot of the time i feel the need to prove something to someone and i dont even know who at this point, but when you said that "no one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change anything" i just started crying. I've been crying for 3 or so minutes rn and I don't know what it is exactly that makes me feel this. All i know is that I found this video while looking for what to do when you aren't living up to your potential.
Exactly what I needed to hear... I finished my last college class yesterday, I have my degree, a career, and my future, but at times I feel like I know nothing at all. This inspires me to keep on the grind.
I've just graduated high school but this was still very motivating because I have so much anxiety about "adulting." Thanks, Hank. This was a much needed chat.
Being told I'm normal for not having something that I like to do that I can sell, genuinely helps a ton. I feel incredibly lost in life atm and dont know what I want to do and feel like I'm just watching weeks go by as I fail to find the motivation to try new things, or the energy to meet new people.
I want to add that it's okay if your passions change over time. You don't have to have one passion that you pursue forever - you never know what might change. But the ability to follow your passion at all is to have a lot of privilege. For me, I am almost finished with a Masters in Teaching and know that I love the job but my disability means that it's going to be too much work to sustain. So I'm going to have to improvise to be able to work part time and still pay the bills. Even with this setback, I have a lot of privilege to have been able to afford to study for so long and to live in a country that pays you welfare to be a student.
My father has a passion for arts, he's done it all his life. And when I asked him ''do you like your job?'' ''if you didn't have your job would you still be painting?'' he said yes. But my father also had other passions (planting trees/making garden, watching hockey, genealogy, etc) He does these things when he's not working I envy his easy life. I had a depression at 12 and I hated school, he says he liked school. I believe you just need to have good relashionships to be happy
I know the title says this is “rough advice,” but 10 months after my college graduation, this is one of the most liberating and comforting things I’ve seen/heard.
The biggest lessons I learned in my adult life are to not be afraid to metaphorically burn what I have down and rebuild, and to not settle for what doesn't feel right. There's too much pressure to tough out through a job we hate, or that causes us harm. And it's just not worth it.
I have recently graduated from my university and now I'm having some kind of mental breakdown, not being able to get a job. I cried watching this. Thanks Hank
Hey, Im having mine at 1am after graduating of marketing in July and not having a job yet + being scared of it, hope everything is going awesome right now
The problem for me is that so much of my life is spent working that I want to enjoy it. I want it to mean something or be rewarding only because it’s half of my life. If I only worked 10 or 20 hours a week, I wouldn’t care at all.
you can really tell how timeless this video is by looking at the commenter's year and compared them between each other. If i was a teacher, i would definitely play this video for my students before they graduate, yes some of them might be bored or think wtf but i hope at least one kid benefit from this video
thank you Hank. I am 30 and sometimes I feel the nerdfighter community is a little to optimistic about finding your "dream job". Partically because I think we see you and John "living the dream" (which I am sure is not all the time from your side). I have a job I like that I feel is making the world just a little be better BUT it is not a dream. IT is tedious, and boring at times, but the people I work with are nice and I believe in the things we do. Also it is just ONE part of my life. I feel that my generation was always told: follow your dreams! What if my dreams don't work out? What if my dream is retirement? I think too much emphasis is give to people careers these days. A job is just a job. There is sooo much more to life. As my sister once told me "You don't have to love your jobs, you just have to not hate it."
+MiniMort - Exactly! It isn't the most important thing in my life. Sure, I don't hate it and it allows me to pay rent, but it's not the most important thing in my life. Most of my peers talk about nothing but work, and frankly they bore and depress me.
I've been struggling to learn this lately. I went to school for singing because I loved it, but I realized that I didn't want to make money from it. Now I'm trying to find a balance that will give me a lifestyle that will make me happy. Maybe I'll go back to school for something else, maybe I won't. But anyway, I think this comment was something I needed to read so thanks for that.
Sonder: "the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own-populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness-an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk."
This is like those "oh you graduated" here's my 10 cents," but then it ends up being the best advice you've ever heard. Jeez it was heart touching haha the ending was very sweet
@@jackjack4412 nah bro I'm saying he acted like his advice was only going to be alright when it was amazing. When people say "here's my 10 cents" it's generally just a small piece if advice. I wasn't trying to say anything about age, but older people can often have more experience to back up their insights if you're asking...
This is at least the third time I've watched a video for the "first time" then scrolled down to the comments and found my own comment... I'm not sure how to feel about it. In relation to the video, I'm still going down the same path, yet still don't feel anymore dedicated to it than I am to the wind. Do I follow one motion not because it is my one path, but because the paths are everywhere, and switching is too confusing? And is that negative?
As a 35 year old who currently lives too far away from my parents compared to my work place. I have had talks with them in the past about just moving back in with them and giving them $1,000 a month. It's way cheaper than rent, I am helping them financially, and the house is mine anyway when they move on. Honestly the worst part about it all is the pressure put on you at 18 from your peers to move out and get your own stuff started.
This is exactly the video I needed after doing terrible in a test and then spending 30 minutes listening to my teacher talk about how having good grades is extremely important because "it will make us better than others, so we will get better jobs, and basically have better lifes". Thanks Hank ❤
As a high school teacher of classes which are NOT filled with AP & Honors students that probably make up more of the Vlogbrothers audience (and yes, it was a long, winding, strange path that got me here at the age of 36, some 24 years ago) I worry about how many of my seniors who today feel completely ready to take over the world will wake up three weeks from now and say "What the--....I DON'T HAVE A CLUE!" But even they will persist and move along. Tomorrow comes. You can't always be ready for it; just try to be prepared enough that you can at least look forward to the surprises with some willing sense of anticipation, because the surprises will come whether you are ready or not. That much doesn't change.
Thank you for this, Hank! My daughter is class of '17, has been struggling because she is "undecided" and "just" going to community college. This video brought her to tears and, for once, she is happy to be "normal!"
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life beause I invested early ahead this time .
The rich Invest in alternative income streams that are independent of the government should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. Stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment...
I thought about investing in the financial market, I heard that people make millions if you know the tricks of the trade, but I lack good knowledge and a strategy to outperform the market and generate good yields. I have $160,000 but it's hard to bite the bullet and do it.
Having an investment advisor is the best way to go. Based on a direct encounter with a CFP named Kate Elizabeth Amdall, I can say with certainty that their skills are excellent. She helped raise over $580,000 in 18 months from an initially stagnant portfolio of $150,000
wish you well, hope you achieve this. I am so much broken into pieces right now only child living with my parents all my siblings are successful in thier careers, friends are getting married.
@@taqi5675 They can do whatever they feel is right to them. If having a job is something they might never get to do and they find life fulfilling in other ways, then that's pretty meaningful and open-minded in itself.
Something that really helped take the load off of me was coming to the realization that the work I do may be small and insignificant but the love I can give and financial stability I can provide for my wife is all I really need. I think it was Steve Martin that said "If I am able to make just ONE person laugh, I've done my job." and I've taken that to heart. If I can make make a difference in just ONE person's life, then maybe that enough, maybe that's my job.
I came back to this after three years. I'm an "adult" now. I'm lucky enough to be in a job I actually enjoy and still this video was so needed to remind myself to take the pressure off. No one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change it at all. Thank you ♥
I love how Hank is literally the only person I know who says do whatever because it doesn't matter that much which path you choose. All the people in my life have told me that my career path is the most important one and so stressed me out beyond comprehension. Thank you, Hank
At 42, I've come to realize that money is a tool. I’ve worked so hard over the years to realize that if you don’t make money work for you, you can’t experience true freedom. I’m glad I found that out although it was later in life, but that marked the turning point in my finances.
Well, I've gotten into a plethora of assets with $73k spread across stocks (options and futures) for the short term and Roth IRA, index funds, and ETFs, for the long term. I've been investing with help from a pro fund manager, Herman W Jonas who oversees my investments. Now I sit back and reap my dividends while I just reinvest from time to time.
I tried getting into stocks myself some time last month and lost a ton of money as I was ill-advised. Can you please direct me to him as I’d like to hear from an expert?
Your assistance was helpful. I was able to have a conversation with him via mail. What's even better is that he's certified with a registered broker. I'm getting started right away!
Many words of wisdom in your comment. I was only able to become profitable once I realized that a pro’s help was all I needed to earn. Herman is a great resource if you're looking to have a robust portfolio.
Money and value are two very different things. How much do you value your time? Fight for every bit of it you can keep. What you do with your day is what you do with your life.
This video was posted more than 5 years ago now but the most essential words are "You went to school to learn and you did it. You know more stuff now."
It's true until it isn't. Some tasks just aren’t the right fit for you, regardless of who you’re working with or how positive your attitude is. If you're feeling bored, then it’s not the right task for you. You need to feel challenged by what you're doing.
I feel like I need to set a reminder to watch this like every day. College has been rough with me so far and this is the only advice I’ve seen that makes me feel less crazy. Thank you
I think there literally might be a vlogbrothers video for every crisis I've ever had. Today I was feeling really stressed and kind of unhappy about my job (first 'real life' job related to what I'm studying in college), and I didn't realize until now that I put so much pressure on myself to be excited about and enjoy every minute of every activity related to my studies. It's not realistic (or healthy) to have those expectations, and honestly just hearing Hank say that he didn't like his first job out of college makes me feel a lot less alone. Anyway, I know I left a comment on this video a year ago, but once again it has helped me, so thanks again Hank Green for this video.
To think this video was posted 7 years ago but found me at the most perfect time is crazy. Having doubts about my second attempt at tertiary study and really wondering if I’ll ever find what it is I’m meant to be doing. Was good to hear this
The amount of value per sentence in this is off the charts. Seriously one of the most helpful videos I've ever watched, and it's less than 4 minutes long.
"You need to feel valuable." Sage advice Hank, and so true. I perform a job that is valuable to the community. That service makes me feel valuable. It took me 40 years to stumble onto it. Keep trying anything and everything that interests you! Eventually you'll find it too.
Anyone else end up unable to graduate and are stuck because fear of the future often keeps them from getting out of bed, as does the feeling of being pathetic and useless...? Just me...? I hope so, congrats to those who did graduate, I wish everyone better luck and thanks Hank.
Think about it like this, you're not scared of the future itself, you're just scared that you don't know how to adapt to it, but did you have this fear when you were a five year old? No, you enjoyed life and loved the changes it brought
Hearing you say to find a place that you don't like, and change it, rather than just hope things work out alright or find a place where you feel good, really helped me. I feel so much worry over making the 'wrong choice', over facing consequences for decisions I couldn't have known would have those consequences, and hearing you say that, where the goal is to embrace the ups and downs and to know what to do when it's a down period, rather than try to stay up all the time and cross your fingers nothing bad ever happens and feel like a failure at the smallest mistake - well, I'm rambling, but it meant a lot to me.
Most people are educated since school to be employed and be able to buy, not to be employers or sellers, also not to be self-realized. --------------------Some of them suffer from this still at doctorate level: they doubt if it is enough, if now they are useful. "Hm, maybe after this contest, this prize, this TV interview i gonna finally be employed, I gonna finally be able to buy and provide". But you are never enough when you constructed everything you are upon a very weak externalized structure; when your source of energy can be shut down with one single word, one single lie, one single signature, a mail, the arrival of someone better in what you do. If you are too wise, this can´t be far from enough as well: you have to learn to be average on the RIGHT way. Because we never talked about virtue here, my friend! Later this lasts one semester contract in that city far away from your friends, or lasts forever somewhere else, but in the wrong place, just nominally doing what they studied years for. His bachelor colleague at MacDonald's is also not doing much better. Everyone discovers himself reflecting and irradiating the same situation: we are a symptom of lies. Wonder why things are like this? The machine is engineered to celebrate slavery and kill the kings, it is a vengeance coming from a resentful class - I am truly with Nietzsche in this regard (Genealogy of Moral, a book I had the pleasure to study in detail in a pause between school and university in 2005/2006). This machine does not see what is outside: a living organism that is at the same time free and integrated, an organism of permanent new evolving things that never existed before, a biosphere of different and new existential alternatives, a celebration of our primary and original values, exactly those no science or politics can claim ownership. To fear and actively ignore your past , the mankind´s past, is the first and best step into fatal cowardice. Greetings from Salzburg
I've had a new perspective on the whole work thing. I have been diagnosed with a condition which is degenerative and means I can't eat or drink and have to use a wheelchair. It means that I've started a blog, a BookTube channel and once I've sat my exams I will be a freelance writer. If I hadn't become unwell I know I would have gone to uni and got a job I didn't really want. I'm a bit socially isolated so BookTube has been lovely as I get to share to people. I love reading and writing. Our jobs should be to enjoy our one and only life, however that may be for you personally !
I got my degree in Philosophy, got a job in finance and wanted to jump from the roof, quit that job, sold everything I own and drained my savings to pursue my passion. I'm financially miserable but I've never been happier. Sure there's competition but I'd rather fail at trying to live the way I want doing something that I love rather than doing something I hate and not really live at all.
I come back to this video every now and then, especially when I'm struggling. It doesn't solve anything, but it does remind me that everything is temporary and that ultimately nothing actually matters that much and so all I have to do is get through the day. One day I hope to be genuinely happy with life rather than continuously just trying to survive. For now I'll just continue with having no idea what I'm doing
Another thing I want to add... Let's really emphasize being realistic about who you are and what you can accomplish. If you've never so much as manned a lemonade stand, maybe you are not going to be the best entrepreneur. There is so much emphasis these days on having a side hustle and thinking outside the box, but that's its own kind of pressure, maybe some people are better off punching a clock and there's no shame in that. I tried for seven years to launch an author platform because fiction writing is my number one passion and I'm good at it, but the complete lack of structure and forward facing nature of authorship does not suit my introverted ADHD personality. So when the part time job I've had and loved offered me a promotion and full time gig, I had to be honest with myself about my actual capabilities and I decided to run with the thing I've excelled at in a more structured work environment. It's not as romantic as being the next Hugh Howey, but I find it's much easier than trying to goad myself into being the magical entrepreneur that I'm not. Not that I ever plan to give up on writing, but man does it take the pressure off to just have a job I like that pays me money for doing what I'm good at. The moment I decided to take the job I felt instant relief.
Great advice, Hank! I went to college as a theatre major and wound up thinking, two years in, "You know what? I don't like this." I became an English major instead because writing is my passion and I currently am a ghostwriter. It's not The Thing I want to do, but I AM GETTING PAID TO WRITE. College me (or even directly post-college me) could never have imagined that would happen. :)
I've been writing for as long as I can remember. I always had a notebook with me, and I'd pass it around for my friends to read. :) I'm a freelancer now, writing fiction for several clients.
posthumorously do u mind me asking how u got into this. I've ghost written for blogs and short articles before ( as a side hustle) and got paid $5 for 5-7 pages of detailed work 😕
Thank you for telling me this. I was really about start crying before this video because I'm so burnt out from studying without even knowing what I'm even studying for in the first place and everyone around me always puts so much pressure on me that now I'm just tired. I'm so very tried..
At 47, I can say this... "Point your A$$ in a direction, create some momentum and movement, move forward. No matter where you end up, you are further along than you are now."
I think just having a family or being with people is a huge part of what makes us as humans happy.I don't think getting your dream job can magically make you happy but it will certianly improve and make your life more enjoyable
As a high school student approaching graduation who is still debating between universities, I really needed to hear this. Thank you for helping me better understand that there is no inherently wrong choice and that my future happiness doesn't hinge on my ability to choose the "right" program. ❤
You do not have to go to university right away just so you know, Its perfectly fine to just take it easy and find a normal job and "think" about what you really want to do you never know you may change your mind about some things.
Paris Hilton very true! 😊 in my case, I'm confident on the field that interests me (medicine), but not so much on the pathway to it. Debating between two university programs that are both equally amazing is certainly a blessing, but also perplexing!
It's also worth remembering you can switch programs if it turns out you hate your major and loved that weird elective philosophy(or whatever) class you took. You're not forming a blood oath with your chosen field, changing your mind is okay.
I've been struggling in undergraduate college for about 7 years...I finally graduate in two days- it took failure after failure, deaths, homelessness, a pandemic, and natural disasters, but I finally made it through. It is really motivating to get this video in my feed-- it feels disheartening to know it took me so long to get through this (I graduated high school 7 years ago) but at least I can be happy with where I've come to.
When I think about my future I really only ever come to one conclusion "I just don't want to hate my life."
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Well, you should get use to the idea at some point of your life, you're going to hate your life. And that's where the challenge comes from. Is figuring out how to not hate your life at the point.
It's why elderly people 60, 70, even 80 and 90 year old's ask young ones what they want to do with their life. They're gathering ideas still.
Growing up to be "Happy" worked for John Lennon, right?!
Ignore the person who said you are gonna hate life. There are going to be points where you will, but those are more transitory bits to get to the good stuff 😁
Tom Kelly Uh... no? He got shot?
this video made me realize how crazy our human lives are compared to every other animal that basically just eats, exists, mates and tries not to die
Pretty much. And it's like society thinks they know what's best for us when in reality only we know that answer.
Yes
Ever heard about ants?
Some don't even try not to die. They just try to make it to the mating point and self-destruct after.
this!!!!
"Do what you are doing until you hate it and then... Change paths"
That. Hit me
just to let you know that the sentence hit me too
There are many pads you can go by but in the long run there's still time to change the road you're on
I think the biggest mistake people make is blindly following or completely ignoring their gut. We're more evolved, but we're all still base creatures who won't handle constant instinctual upset, nor should we, and it's also not our instincts that tell us how to get to what feels instinctively better. If you don't feel good, summarize what things happened and how they made you feel before critically analyzing why you think they made you feel that way, and running experiments to test. And just like any science, you need raw data with unpolluted factors. I can spend hours half-reading a book and half-listening to music without realizing I'm not fully appreciating either or feeling confident or enjoying life, and when I just face some potentially harder facts than "I kinda did stuff for a while and it kinda wasn't good" I usually come around to making my life a little better
As someone who is working on changing paths again, I am happy I heard that
I'm changing from graphic design to nursing right now and that's good to listen to. Get anxious thinking 4 years of study I need to have, searching for job in another career path older, being away from my gf working full time and studying.
I am 50 years Old woman.Finally realised I would like to be a barber . I will get a go. The course starts in September. Wish me luck.😊
You got it!
@@KB-ur4nk Thank you ☺
You’ve totally got this, and hey, if what you decide to follow doesn’t end up suiting your lifestyle and interests, there’s nothing preventing you from pursuing something else. I wish you the best, and good luck!
I hope you doing well
Good luck!
"Work has much more to do with the people you do it with and your own attitude that what it is you're actually doing." - Hank Green
"*Enjoying work* has more to do with the people...." You can do work without good people or a good attitude, but you'll get burned out.
Kim Drennon That's not what he said.
kidego3kgt whether it's verbatim or not, that's what he meant
John says that all the time..... Like in his video about ' what to do when you grow up' ......
Put it on a t-shirt and say it again for the people in the back!
"Do me this favor: Get out of bed every morning knowing that no one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change it at all. We are all exceptional and none of us are. And we are all lost...sometimes. So follow a path, any path...until you get to a place which you feel like you don't like...and then change your direction, because there's one thing you're making everyday no matter what you're doing and that is yourself. THAT is your job. And you must do it well."
Mitchell Hutchinson true, he wouldn't have had the power and influence he had if it weren't for the people who supported him
I did a screenshot on this , thanks
@Mr Flowers Well, it isn't easy to see our own shortcomings since we don't even know clearly about ourselves even though we know ourselves best. Changing direction could be simply stopping what we are doing for awhile, and starting to go the path that focuses about our well-being and our own problems, before getting back to the track.
@Mr Flowers short comings are always defined by the people around you ,"you don't get out much" leads to "i don't get out much" not the other way around and maybe it is bad to stay at home instead of going out but it depends on you ,if you are told that then it's a short coming and changing that won't change the inner mechanics but whrn you realize that through smth that changes everything and that matters and that's what he means when he says "change the direction" also I don't like the way you phrased your opinion man.
@@vunguyent9696 I agree man but i don't think we know ourselves the best ,i feel we know when we are being real and that's how we know by contrast when we are not being ourselves (which is changing every second),sometimes i feel a personality is like an art piece or an electron .you can't really tell exactly what it's true interpretation is because it changes with every turn but you van have some vauge idea that's barley enough to act as a reference point
I think there was a hidden gem in here in that "work has much more to do with the people you do it with and your attitude than what you are actually doing"
Soooo true
I got that!
Same
I work with toxic people so burnout
No it has to do with can I live comfortably without being in existential and financial crisis every month while barely making ends meet month to month with an ever increasing cost of living and a wage that might get a doller increase if I'm lucky while being overloaded with an expanding list of demands and expectations.
I watch this every time I have a mental breakdown about school/work. This time was applications.
Same! Applying to unis right now and feeling completely lost because I missed the mark requirement for my dream major by one mark. Spent the last 6 hours trying to explore my options and reminding myself that uni is not the end all be all.
Hope you ended up in a school you enjoy :)
"no one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change it at all" - Hank Green
this some senior quote level shit
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'You didn't go to school to learn how to get a job, you went to school to learn' Thanks Hank. I really needed to hear this. All my life my parents have been telling me to study hard to get a good job. The constant pressure really killed my love for learning. Currently in uni and super demotivated and lost with life in general. I miss back when I was actually interested in the topics they teach rather than just studying just for the sake of studying. Hopefully I'll find that passion again someday.
Agreed, same scenario but still in school
Same, just graduated from college and slowly gaining that motivation to be happy back.
Early career engineer here (about three years in industry). If I really spelled out my opinions on the topic, it would produce a wall of text long enough to be a paper, so I'll keep it relatively brief.
For what it's worth, and I realise that I'm about to say something incredibly heretical as an asian child, the mental bandwidth you can spare on worrying about things is a precious commodity, and your parents' expectations for you are not worth wasting it on. It's hard enough living up to your own standards for yourself, their disapproval is just self righteous pratter that they didn't earn.
But more importantly, being on the other side of the process of going through college and getting a job, I can say that in my opinion it is _so_ much nicer on this side. Suffice to say I would not relish the thought of doing it again.
I recognize that you're going through something damn tough, and that there's one more additional barrier ahead of you (getting your first job - it feels demeaning, and if you have any connections then that really helps fast track a truly brutal process, so I'd advise trying to form some).
But again, the suffering is not eternal. Once you have relevant experience, you have leverage, and can then roll the dice in your own favor. No longer is your entire future a hostage of _that_ paper, or _that_ professor, or even _that_ boss. The win is there. Keep faith in yourself.
Yeah, I'm 22, dropped out of my degree and haven't found that. I'm starting to think I could find passion in drawing or learning an instrument but I've thought that before and lost it again. It's alright though
@evanshlom6912 No, they definitely did it for them and that's why they pressured them to do it. That's the parents job and this is Hank's job. Their friends have their job as well. You aren't wrong but aren't wholly right either. They, we do it for ourselves and for them and in the end it is the right thing - one person gets us there and it might take another to get us over the finish line - so be it.
Ah, my brother is a doctor and I'm jealous not because he's a doctor but because he knew what he wanted very early in high school and he threw his life into it. He isn't some kind of genius, in fact he barely scraped through advanced maths but if you saw how hard he worked and his passion, it would make you rethink what makes a person respectable and successful. He is truly my role model.
He is so lucky
@@senacelik3098 Well, he said that he worked hard. Not that being a doctor was thrown in front of him because he's lucky.
@@ok9908 he is lucky for he knew what he wanted. I didnt say he didnt work hard
@@ok9908 If he had someone to support him in study(parents) he is still lucky as hell... In my country if you don't have a degree you can only work in shit factory.
Family support is very important. In big families older siblings are bossy and bullies. The younger ones dont get attention. So its diffcult to grow.
Watching this at 25, I miss how carefree I used to be.
The only thing I ever really wanted in life is to just be happy.
I’m 25 too, feeling lost and confused. I’m with you on just wanting to be happy, even if I can’t see how it’ll happen. Virtual hugs.
Same here at 23. Haven't accomplished anything and failed 2 career/ business ventures. Plus I haven't gotten laid in 3 years. @@bobthebuilderday6leader
Same bro
Settle for content, it has a longer high.
You are rare, to me at least, since i never cared about my happiness. For 7 years all i did was to be depressed in a corner, work from 9-to-5 living under my parents roof. It only came to the point where the pain was overbearing the fear of changing, and then i joined college. Currently in college, trying to be an artist.
The interesting thing about the real world is that it's all a product of other people's dreams.
Ouch.
@@bizzyg5751 It doesn't have to be too bad. All this really means is that you can bend the world to your own dreams as well
@@roskevD How?
@@PuertoRicanGrinderX getting a footjob at applebees
You either create ideas, or help people bring their ideas to life. Both are equally as valuable.
As a 24 year old still living at home working 48-55 hours a week for 13 an hour not knowing wtf i'm doing with my life this honestly calmed me down so damn much.
Edit: I just finished my first semester of pt school! Life is confusing and unknown but enjoy the ride! We are all lost trying to find our way you guys got this!
Literally almost same, I am 23, got fired from a job 2 weeks ago after a break down, was working 50-60 hour weeks, and now I am sitting in my room everyday not sure what to do, and I am thankful I found this video, and your comment.
funny, im also 24, named Jacob, making 13 an hour, and was recommended this video. small world
I'm 24 and jobless 😔
I am 23 had job i loved,and then I got a new boss that didn't like me.
So the first i did wrong he fired me.
*I FEEL THIS.... WORK IS UNWILLING TO WORK WITH YOU.*
Why don't we come together and fight for higher wages? If someone quits and you have to pick up their work......... Logic would dictate that you should get part of their salary. Not 100% of it but at least 25% NO ONE BATS THEIR EYE AT THAT! WHY ISN'T THIS IN CONGRESS? WHY ARE THERE NOT PROTESTS AND RIGHTS ABOUT PEOPLE BEING OVERWORKED? YOU ALL DO IT TO YOURSELF! I'VE GOTTEN FIRED FROM MULTIPLE JOBS FOR STANDING UP FOR OTHER PEOPLE. HOWEVER, I MADE SURE BEFORE I GOT FIRED TO MAKE SURE THAT THE COMPANY WAS INCAPABLE OF INFRINGING ON THAT PERSON'S RIGHT AGAIN. I WAS/AM WILLING TO PUT A TARGET ON MY BACK TO MAKE SURE THAT COMPANIES DO THE RIGHT THING.
"Freedom is awful and I can't decide what to have for dinner" Oh god, I relate so hard to this.
This is prob only thing that was discussed that I do always feel I have down pat. I do always feel like I know what I want to eat. edit: changed 'u' to 'was'.
That sounds like something that a socialist would say "Freedom is awful".
@@saynotohookups what? .... Wait what?
@@saynotohookups It's almost like taking statements out of context completely changes their meaning or something. It was a hyperbolic joke, not a philosophical claim.
@@pendlera2959 eh it sounds immature. Alot of us like the freedom of being able to choose what we eat. It's honestly hard for me to understand the mindset of someone who wants their food to be chosen for them. Its like your subconsciously longing for tyranny
I like this advice. So much “rough advice” is just straight up pessimistic defeatism ala “life sucks then you die.”
Hank is just telling you what to be ready for. The rest is up to us.
Thank you for this Hank.
I'm a warehouse worker who is extremely overqualified for my job -- I've a B.A in psychology and another in education.
Its hard to describe how awful that feels. It feels like Ive wasted years and years of my life, but hearing you describe exactly how I am feeling and simultaneously restore a small piece of self-worth to me is exactly what I needed today.
I am grateful, I'd say DFTBA, but you literally always seem to remember.
M Clarke reminded me of my public bus driver who has a masters in theology but gets paid 3x driving the bus
M Clarke I feel the stress when my brother shames me about being a Health Science Undergrad qualified Domestic Cleaner. Thank God for Hank and John being the brothers I wish I'd had!
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That sucks. The worst advice anyone ever gives someone entering university is to just study what they like or love. No, study what will get you comfortably and do what you love in your free time, unless you are good enough to reliably monetize it.
I found a job climbing trees, and I couldn’t imagine a job that could possibly make me happier. I’d do it for free. My dad hates what I do, but it’s worth it.
U get high for a living? Dope
@@Naturalgainz I do 🤣
Be careful and don't look at the statistics. If you feel like something's off, call in sick.
@@Adhanks91 hahahah I've actually worked in several roles managing industry safety so I get weekly emails updating me on industry fatalities.
If you love it keep doing it. There's not many jobs people love.
When Hank said "You don't go to school to learn how to get a job, you go to school to learn" I was honestly astounded. I had never thought about that before. My whole time at school I had been told by so many people and had always been thinking 'how is this gonna help me get a job' and in my head I've always thought of school as a gateway to getting a job rather than the place to learn that its meant to be. Love the video Hank :)
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School is not always a gateway to a job. Here am I sitting with a bunch of diplomas and I cannot get a job D:
rockyroo10 eh. I mean if you really want to spend 50,000 to learn what you could online anyways then more power to you. College is 80% degree
I dunno Nicole, to me that just says "I can fill my head with a bunch of other people's ideas and pass them off as my own".
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Just don't tell anyone what you are doing. Don't care about what others are doing. Do your things without comparing. Don't worry about things a world away - those emotions don't effect you directly. Stop being influenced by anything, anyone. Move forwards or backwards a little a day. Understand, that everyone has an agenda and wants you to believe and do what they want - they lie.
Thank you
And here comes my luck, born in the 0.0001% that wanted fellow humans to be honest and sincere and actually has mood swings depending on how nice the human race is, why even bother to live if the others humans suck? I don't care for my life , I'm tired of pretending that humans can't break beyond repair, I'm one of them, I was too empathetic and foolish as a child and look where it got me, a faster death which doesn't matter, the dissapointment and suffering is 100 times worse than any death imaginable, if you told me before I was born that I had to choose between a butterfly and a human? I would choose a butterfly, even if the life is short I can engrain myself in someones memory as a beautiful thing and live many lifetimes in their head, as a human it's impossible to do that because they don't view me as that, they view me as a fucking transaction.
@@coreo6688 You are a thinker in a society of instinctual behavior. People's base behavior is survival, and in this format of western, specifically business based society - the 99 percent has to look out for their own agendas.
I also was disappointed in my fellow travelers. But not anymore - they will have to awaken on their own time, or not - that is their path.
But for you. Don't allow anyone or any group of people - to dictate your destiny or core mindset.
Keep growing. Keep striving to be the best you. Don't allow your own thoughts to swipe out your own existence. We actually need more people like you.
Now go forth, in all your beliefs - and prove to me - that I am not mistaken in mine.
@@coreo6688 You're such a beautiful human being. I love people like you.
Graduated and getting tired of waking up at 5am every day for a job I went to school for 4 years, only to find out I'm miserable. The same tiring monotonous thing every single day. Been getting real tired of it, so this video showed up at the perfect time.
I looked for this video, and your comment gave me hope.
So do you feel it's worth it ? Does your end goal satisfies what you imagined it would be ?
So what will you do?
How will you get out of this situation
Same here. But the job pays well so can’t complain.
I spent most of high school and my early twenties worrying that something was wrong with me because I didn't have a 'calling'. It was a light bulb moment when I realised I was in the majority. My job is simple. It's not my dream and it won't change the world. But it pays enough, its stable and I'm good at it. And honestly that's enough for me.
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God told me to reply to this comment - since you need to do something - which I don't know about. well! Best of Luck I guess
Sounds boring to me.
What is your job?
Not really it’s reality and you can fuckin enjoy it and not have to prove your worth by attaining some type of idealism portrayed by society. You obviously did not see the video or your not an adult.
Thanks Hank. Needed to hear this today.
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Eye spy The8BitDrummer! Hello 👋
Holy crud, it’s the drummer man.
How in 7 years this video didn't get to me? This is one of the most raw and sincere videos talking about life that really hits, but also reassures. Because the expectations put on us since young are surreal.
Im literally crying watching this, this is what I am struggling with. People in your early 20s is so hard because of all the expectations that society sets and then realizing that those are just not always what you're meant to do. Thank you so much for this video, it made me feel so much better.
Just wait until your 30...
@@gadflyofhumanity_6847 it's been 4 years and you're commenting this? wow never knew you cared..
@@richardobugsy6189 wtf
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@@singhbhai Hi whatsup?
not graduating, but I'm in college and this is incredibly helpful and comforting in a time when everyone at my school seems to have it figured out (even though I know they don't)
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Some people also just seem to be okay with doing something they don't love. Like... they're gonna be content with just being mildy interested in their chosen field, while I would be miserable.
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a_marie08 no you are not alone. I Will be starting my 3rd year of college. no idea what I'm doing.
I graduated 11 years ago, but I still really, really needed to hear this today.
Same 11 years here too, 3 jobs and a masters in between, still haven't found.
i hope it gets better for you🖤
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Hi, everyone i''m going to graduate after a year thinking about it I feel like I'm running out of time and haven't studied much that i get a job. I'm afraid how can i get a job. I'm afraid. I'm so lost
@@sanchitatamang7385 How are you doing?
As a college professor I tried to tell people that college is not meant to be a vocational school. Few people get to work in the field they majored in, but you can become a more thoughtful person with better understanding of life. You can apply it whatever you do. I’m lucky I finally taught in community college with vocational programs and general education.
Hello Professor! Is it normal to feel left behind and sad during my college years? because I'm not enjoying college it feels like im learning nothing and i felt that I'm just only wasting my time studying in college.
I love how I typed “I feel useless” into a searchbar and this is the first video that pops up. I used to watch you guys when it came out, so it already has my thumbs up, but this time around it made me cry. What a perfect serendipity ❤
Same…
i searched 'what to do if you are just dumb' haha
I searched up: why don't I understand anything..
youre not useless
@@lord_voldemort44 thank you, friend ❤🩹
Im a warehouse worker and I have a degree in art/2D animation. I feel so pressured by friends and family to DO BETTER and Ive been feeling to depressed by it that I went to see a psychologist this week. You dont even know how well times this video is for me and i want to sincerely thank you, Hank
Hi, how you doing 4 years later?
I think where school fails us is… your whole life is your career. Every choice and decision you make is your career. Once you’re in the real world - it seems like you’re tossed into an ocean you must learn to navigate in your on. Same thing happened to me… it’s like, every positive and negative is on you.
School fails us by lying to us to get in debt for a useless degree. They lie that the degree will get us good careers that don't exist. Or they say there's that one job that matches this degree, but they fail to mention that there are 6000 students who'll graduate with the same degree every year, all been told that they'll get that one job. School need to be FORCED to be honest. NO MORE LIES.
@@mandalahigherplanes9044 the school fails us because the education system keeps lying to us. The truth is, the market is oversaturated, too many people today own degrees in comparison to even 30 years ago, which is not really a long time ago, when many people were still uneducated and chose to do very simple jobs. Today not many Western people would choose to work in the fields or as cleaners, plus, technology and automation have definitely cut off many archaic jobs, so there's not really a choice to be a farmer or a shop assistant anymore. Universities will not tell you that there are not enough vacancies for the career you have studied for. If people knew it, most of faculties would be cancelled. The sad part is, the more years will go and the harder it will be because of more competition for the same demanded jobs. We are basically doomed.
I hope youre still making art.
Turned 28 this year, about to finish my CS studies with the realization that I have 0 interest in working in this field and basically did it because I felt like I need something respectable I can call myself. If I can give any advice to younger people: Go for what you love or take time and try anything remotely interesting to find it. A boring job will burn you out fast and leave you with regret, aside from even more pressure to "figure things out" in your late 20s. Also, never give up!
PS: I wish I would've seen this video 5 Years earlier.
That’s okay, just take a different path/direction as explained by Hank.
I feel this entirely. I want a skill that makes me feel like I'm worth a damn but that'll only lead to a bitter end. Despite that it's hard to shake at feeling off.
You allowed me to put my life in a different perspective.
Ur still very young. You'll figure it out.
I feel the same but I still am getting my CS degree because the field is large and pays decently. I still have to pay bills but at least I’ll have options when I do get burnt out. Until either our economy changes when things don’t cost so much, or whenever my circumstances change to not needing as much.
I graduated today. I’ve always been that person who people assume has everything figured out, and, when it comes to school, they’re kind of right. I’m good at school. I’ve been doing it my whole life, and it’s all I know how to do. The truth is, it’s the only thing I’ve got figured out. And I’m looking at the rest of my life, and I have no clue what I’m doing. I want to be special; I want to make some profound impact that will prove I am worth all of the support I have been given throughout my life. But I am also just a single human in a huge world of special people. It’s overwhelming. I loved the certainty of school. I knew how to be good at it, and as long as I was good at it, I knew I mattered. Now I have to figure out how to matter without it. I feel lost, but It helps to hear that I’m not alone.
Thank you, Hank.
I feel that every young person should watch this before they are thrust into adulthood. I really wish someone had told me this. I am 28 and am just learning this. I feel like every month I want to do something different.
would recommend looking up ikigai
I'm lucky getting this now that I'm 18 and seeing this.
@@EddisdeddI'm about to turn 21 in slightly over a month? Do I have a good headstart?
@@cataclysmicclasher3490 yeah, I'm 23 and this hit me too lol, you're fine. I wish I saw this when I started college (at 19)
Maybe it's good that I watched this at 18 then
"your job is yourself and you must do it well"
omygahd im crying ive been having a really hard time lately.
I know it's been a while but I hope you're doing better! You're not alone
U saved me from a serious mental breakdown. I've been thinking that myself, about how this system is so foreign to what I think life should be like.
Very real.
I started kicking ass. I'm the boss now. 😎 still very real.
@@gl0wbot768 can I ask what are you doing now?
@@EpicIntegral no reply😥
As a 30 year old social studies grad, here's what worked for me: scroll through random jobs until you find one with a title that intrigues you. My favourite jobs have been "mediation coordinator" and "knowledge and learning officer". I had no idea what they were, so I researched them. I happened to have the relevant skills and experience just from my anthropology degree and various minimum wage jobs. Seriously, you don't need to have a whole career path laid out, sometimes you can just follow your curiosity into a job that interests you!
Thank you for taking the pressure off of this adulting thing. As a future teacher, I feel so good knowing that what I do does make such an impact, and also that GOD I LOVE MY JOB SO MUCH. I realize that I am one of the lucky ones.
Ceilidh Maria Future teachers unite! lol
Also I feel the same way, I love my job so much and I feel so lucky to have it.
Ceilidh Maria future teacher here! I'm also thrilled to be able to teach soon, but I have to ask to see if any teachers/future teachers know, any terror that your students *won't care about your subject*??
Aria Literata Real talk here: you aren't going to be able to reach every student, all of the time, every day--regardless of how they feel about your subject. In teaching especially, I have found it really helpful to focus on the little successes and the relationships that I can make with the kids. Those times when they light up about reading, or writing, or something historical are AWESOME and I cherish them, but that certainly isn't every moment of teaching. As long as you can care for the kids and show them you're invested in their lives, you'll do fine.
Ceilidh Maria You really are lucky! i hope one day i can say the same about my job, whatever that job might be. I'm sure you'll do great, anything you put passion and love into, eventually works out well. ;)
i'm in the class of 2017 with an education degree so i'm joining this future teacher thread hi hello
It never really occurred to me how unrealistic our expectations can be about life. In particular the pressure we place on finding our passion and discovering deep emotional fulfillment in a job. I found my way, doing exactly what I want to be doing with the best people, but it took a long time to get there. My early twenties were largely chaos. I didn't know how to take care of myself, much less find fulfillment in my work. I agonized over every life choice. My husband of twenty years and I were talking last night about how to make a career. It came down to having a realistic idea about yourself and what you're actually capable of, and then making strategic choices when opportunities arise. You may not know what you want to do with your life forever, but you can decide what you want to do right now, and use that as a launchpad to the next thing. As long as you're growing, it doesn't really matter. And there will be missteps. Off the top of my head, I can think of three complete disasters in my career that I thought I would never get past. I encountered major obstacles including severe mental health problems and long periods of unemployment. It's not a death knell for your future. Every time you fail, you get better at bouncing back. Then you look back at your life and realize there was a clear progression there, even if you didn't see it at the time. Let go of all the unrealistic expectations and just do something. I'm so much happier at 39 than I was in my twenties.
They never taught us as kids to have a realistic idea about what we're actually capable of. They told us that ANYONE can do ANYTHING. Many lives have been destroyed because of this massive lie.
thank you for this comment. I'm 25 and going through a ver rough time right now and needed to hear something like this ❤
Wow this is so profound. As a confused 24 year old who just failed outta college & doesn’t know what to do next, thank you !! What career did you end up choosing?? Or have you had multiple?
Ditto. I spent my entire college career from undergrad through to a masters (which I moved to London for) pursuing a job I thought would be fulfilling and admirable. But when I got to the end of my studies I found that I was not happy with the original path I had chosen. Instead of deciding to do the easy thing and pursue it regardless of how stressed and difficult it might be, I decided to do the scary thing and change all my plans. Those 5 years weren't wasted. They were some of the most important years of my life. I learned incredibly valuable life lessons and skills and I traveled Europe and met incredible people and I wouldn't change it for the world. Instead, I'm changing myself. So I went back home and decided to pursue my dream of living in Asia. I've never really wanted to be a teacher but I decided that I would love to teach if it meant I could be happy living somewhere incredible. It has nothing to do with my goals long term. And aside from language skills I won't be learning anything new related to my degree- BUT IM HAPPY. If I died tomorrow then I would have died living my life to the fullest. Don't be afraid to take chances- sometimes the best things in life are the scariest decisions. Confess your love, pack up and move, change careers, adopt a kid, explore a new part of town. And most important of all, when someone offers your a grand opportunity, whenever possible say yes.
hey I might really need to ask for your advice... kinda in the same situation now.
please do! feel free to email me at amy101492@gmail.com
Amy S That was amazing
I'm trying to decide what to do. I originally got a degree in a field I'm not sure I have the physical capacity to do. There is another area that I like somewhat. If I studied it more I might grow to love it, or maybe not. I'm not sure if I could ever be good at it and it would take years to get another degree, especially with a master's. I've never been really passionate about a career field, no matter what I explore and I'm not really good at anything. Do I take the plunge?
@@melissamybubbles6139 its been 2 years, what's the update what did you do?
I worked this out in my thirties I wish I knew in my 20s nobody even said this to me during my 20s when I was questioning things. The dreams and careers lie is such a scam. You can be awesome at school and what will instead progress you in the corporate office is social climbing, brown nosing and dominance.
The lie took me from enjoying my 20s. Now my expectations are lower for work and I pursue hobbies such as learning french and talking with intellectuals. It’s much more stimulating for my mind than mundane work. But I serve the people at my work.. it’s not about me it’s about them really.
The other thing you start to realise in your late 30s is life passes really really quickly. And the things that we’re sold to matter don’t actually really matter. People matter. And knowing Jesus can make this life just a blink of an eye before a great eternity.
Thanks for this video.
No other animal has to make the choices we do. They just kinda...exist...without being forced to choose a path...lucky??
They aren't lucky, we're unlucky (though we are also doing it to ourselves)
Maybe other animals did choose a path and they choose the right one, we choose poorly and made things way to complicated for ourselves....
No, we are lucky, we have choices and that's awesome even if it's scary.
S'what we get for eating from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.
ahuh. it's great not being forced to choose extinction and the destruction of habitat, living at the mercy of human economic activity. no choice at all. yeah... even the thinking is infused with myopia and laziness.
"It is amazing any of us can function at all!" Thank you Hank. This part about us being utterly evolutionarily unprepared for all the stuff the world expects from us feels so true. Feeling lost or scared amidst all of it should not be considered a failure, and small successes are still successes (and not all of us have the same adaptability abilities).
I needed to hear this so badly right now. I am lost, no skills no passions so I have no plan. Working a job I hate to keep me alive just so my entire life can be working a job I hate. It has stressed me out to the point I developed a panic disorder, and now spend all free time sleeping because the Xanax I'm taking for it knocks me out for 12+ hours straight. Your words give me hope that this is okay, that I will figure out what makes me happy by discovering exactly what doesn't. Thank you so much.
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So, 2 years later, did you figure it out? Asking as a friend
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Would love an update
Join the Air Force, they much less intense than the Army or Navy.
This is honestly one of the most powerful and moving videos I’ve ever seen
Hope Hank gets well soon
Also here after his latest video? :(
@@timt2708 yep
"...work has more to do with the people you do it with and your own attitude, than whatever it is you are actually doing." REALLY insightful Hank.
Thank you so much for this video. I would, however, also like to add that if there is something you love doing that you can't get paid for, either because people just don't want to pay you to do it in general, or the process you would have to go through in order to get paid for it is too much to bother with *cough*writing*cough*, there is still value in doing that thing. Even if you're only doing it for yourself, there is value in that, because you enjoy it. And as much as society likes to try to convince us otherwise, things don't have to have value beyond that. All of your fulfillment doesn't have to come from your job, and you don't have to get paid for something for it to be fulfilling.
Well said. This is what it means by making yourself. Not going after the money or just doing what is attractive or sellable but doing what we love and being content with it.
Getting to the point where someone would pay you is not something that we dont want to bother with. It is not cheap. At some stage of life, we just cant afford it.
Or may be I am just too depressed to get what I want. I have like 4 hour a day worth of free time and that is 8 to 12 at night with exausted mind and body and I need to get up at 5. I usually used it for entertainment.
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i'm 31 and graduated from college 9 years ago. What Hank has said it absolutely true. But I would like to add a few things:
Happiness is painted as being a destination or an achievement or an objective. That you can get it. But I've learned that happiness is more of a process than anything else. It's what you are doing on average each day, not someplace you are headed to. And that despite what they are selling you, it might not have shit to do with what you do for a living. Maybe it will (for the dream job people, and that's great) but my happiness is definitely not my job. That pays the bills. My happiness is my friends and family, my girlfriend, the things I learn every day (never stop doing that by the way, even if you just have time for 10 minutes of wikipedia or the NY Times every day) the interesting and engaging films I watch, the places I travel to to see the natural world, history and culture (highly recommend this, especially in your 20's when you don't have anything keeping you in place) the video games I play, the art I think about, etc etc etc. Do the things you enjoy, keep your brain working and NEVER compete with other people over "success." That's the rat race. That's a trap that will make you unhappy. Compete with yourself if it makes you happy but comparing what you have or have accomplished with other people will always make you feel like a failure because someone is always doing better than you and MANY people will make it look like they are even if they are as scared and unsure as you.
And it's ok to feel down once in a while. That's human. Especially now when the world is in a state of particularly vile crappiness. Just don't let yourself get stuck in a rut. If you do start to feel stuck just make sure you are DOING something. It doesn't have to be the key to the rest of your life (it probably won't be) but doing things keeps you moving, having new experiences, meeting new people.
Good luck
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I love this addition so much.
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Thats extremely depressing....
Great addition! Thanks for sharing your view!
I feel like the world was a worse place of vile crappiness every decade before this one, we were all just much less informed about it and not connected to much beyond our local communities until the internet came along. So, perspective...
A lot of the time i feel the need to prove something to someone and i dont even know who at this point, but when you said that "no one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change anything" i just started crying. I've been crying for 3 or so minutes rn and I don't know what it is exactly that makes me feel this. All i know is that I found this video while looking for what to do when you aren't living up to your potential.
Man, the Vlogbrothers always have a way of speaking to me just where I'm at.
Natalie Rodgers - I was literally about to say the same thing.
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Exactly what I needed to hear... I finished my last college class yesterday, I have my degree, a career, and my future, but at times I feel like I know nothing at all. This inspires me to keep on the grind.
Keep on keeping on
Oh I can relate!
Think of a person who study his 5th year and feel like knows nothing🙂 that's me i hate myslef and am stil trying to graduate
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I can relate I feel like this many times.
I've just graduated high school but this was still very motivating because I have so much anxiety about "adulting." Thanks, Hank. This was a much needed chat.
I feel you Laura
you're still a teen. If you're 18 now, you got plenty of timeee. I would rather grind but don't overwork yourself or do too much at once.
Being told I'm normal for not having something that I like to do that I can sell, genuinely helps a ton. I feel incredibly lost in life atm and dont know what I want to do and feel like I'm just watching weeks go by as I fail to find the motivation to try new things, or the energy to meet new people.
Holy crap I really needed this today. My plans for next year were dashed so now I'm in the process of figuring out what to do next. Thank you Hank.
in the same boat.
i feel you.. good luck with whatever you do!
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Rebekah Goltz Same here. Best of luck.
If you're in America Google 'name of state JobCorp' and see what programs available.
I want to add that it's okay if your passions change over time. You don't have to have one passion that you pursue forever - you never know what might change. But the ability to follow your passion at all is to have a lot of privilege. For me, I am almost finished with a Masters in Teaching and know that I love the job but my disability means that it's going to be too much work to sustain. So I'm going to have to improvise to be able to work part time and still pay the bills. Even with this setback, I have a lot of privilege to have been able to afford to study for so long and to live in a country that pays you welfare to be a student.
marisdc your a burden on your society
Dave Tyler eat shit
Good wishes for the future.
My father has a passion for arts, he's done it all his life. And when I asked him ''do you like your job?'' ''if you didn't have your job would you still be painting?'' he said yes.
But my father also had other passions (planting trees/making garden, watching hockey, genealogy, etc) He does these things when he's not working
I envy his easy life. I had a depression at 12 and I hated school, he says he liked school.
I believe you just need to have good relashionships to be happy
I know the title says this is “rough advice,” but 10 months after my college graduation, this is one of the most liberating and comforting things I’ve seen/heard.
The biggest lessons I learned in my adult life are to not be afraid to metaphorically burn what I have down and rebuild, and to not settle for what doesn't feel right.
There's too much pressure to tough out through a job we hate, or that causes us harm. And it's just not worth it.
I have recently graduated from my university and now I'm having some kind of mental breakdown, not being able to get a job. I cried watching this. Thanks Hank
what's ur major?
I'm curious too 👀 how are you these days?
Are you alive at least?
Hey, Im having mine at 1am after graduating of marketing in July and not having a job yet + being scared of it, hope everything is going awesome right now
Woah ... I am in the same situation right now. Hope you are doing well.
The problem for me is that so much of my life is spent working that I want to enjoy it. I want it to mean something or be rewarding only because it’s half of my life. If I only worked 10 or 20 hours a week, I wouldn’t care at all.
Great message though and I am working on changing my path in a way that still allows me to pay the bills. I hope it works out!
@@JohnsonKayla12how's it going?
technically I'm class of 2017. I finally after ten years went back and got my GED.
Ashley Deaton that's awesome! Good for you!!!
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Ashley Deaton YAY YOU! That's awesome my friend!
Congrats!!
Good job!!
you can really tell how timeless this video is by looking at the commenter's year and compared them between each other. If i was a teacher, i would definitely play this video for my students before they graduate, yes some of them might be bored or think wtf but i hope at least one kid benefit from this video
thank you Hank. I am 30 and sometimes I feel the nerdfighter community is a little to optimistic about finding your "dream job". Partically because I think we see you and John "living the dream" (which I am sure is not all the time from your side). I have a job I like that I feel is making the world just a little be better BUT it is not a dream. IT is tedious, and boring at times, but the people I work with are nice and I believe in the things we do. Also it is just ONE part of my life. I feel that my generation was always told: follow your dreams! What if my dreams don't work out? What if my dream is retirement? I think too much emphasis is give to people careers these days. A job is just a job. There is sooo much more to life. As my sister once told me "You don't have to love your jobs, you just have to not hate it."
+MiniMort - Exactly! It isn't the most important thing in my life. Sure, I don't hate it and it allows me to pay rent, but it's not the most important thing in my life. Most of my peers talk about nothing but work, and frankly they bore and depress me.
MiniMort Rushing after your dreams can lead to a lot of backtracking as your dreams change.
Nillie Very wise words
I've been struggling to learn this lately. I went to school for singing because I loved it, but I realized that I didn't want to make money from it. Now I'm trying to find a balance that will give me a lifestyle that will make me happy. Maybe I'll go back to school for something else, maybe I won't. But anyway, I think this comment was something I needed to read so thanks for that.
Just out of curiosity, where do you work?
I love walking past people and contemplating what they did to get there in their life
Sonder:
"the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own-populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness-an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk."
we are all exceptional and none of su are
@@manalbouanane2463 what do you have against the "su"?
@@DeJayHankI dont believe he has anything against them, they are simply not exceptional. It's just a fact
This is like those "oh you graduated" here's my 10 cents," but then it ends up being the best advice you've ever heard. Jeez it was heart touching haha the ending was very sweet
With that first part, are you saying you don't like receiving advice from older people?
@@jackjack4412 nah bro I'm saying he acted like his advice was only going to be alright when it was amazing. When people say "here's my 10 cents" it's generally just a small piece if advice. I wasn't trying to say anything about age, but older people can often have more experience to back up their insights if you're asking...
This is at least the third time I've watched a video for the "first time" then scrolled down to the comments and found my own comment... I'm not sure how to feel about it. In relation to the video, I'm still going down the same path, yet still don't feel anymore dedicated to it than I am to the wind. Do I follow one motion not because it is my one path, but because the paths are everywhere, and switching is too confusing? And is that negative?
As a 35 year old who currently lives too far away from my parents compared to my work place. I have had talks with them in the past about just moving back in with them and giving them $1,000 a month. It's way cheaper than rent, I am helping them financially, and the house is mine anyway when they move on. Honestly the worst part about it all is the pressure put on you at 18 from your peers to move out and get your own stuff started.
This is exactly the video I needed after doing terrible in a test and then spending 30 minutes listening to my teacher talk about how having good grades is extremely important because "it will make us better than others, so we will get better jobs, and basically have better lifes". Thanks Hank ❤
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As a high school teacher of classes which are NOT filled with AP & Honors students that probably make up more of the Vlogbrothers audience (and yes, it was a long, winding, strange path that got me here at the age of 36, some 24 years ago) I worry about how many of my seniors who today feel completely ready to take over the world will wake up three weeks from now and say "What the--....I DON'T HAVE A CLUE!"
But even they will persist and move along. Tomorrow comes. You can't always be ready for it; just try to be prepared enough that you can at least look forward to the surprises with some willing sense of anticipation, because the surprises will come whether you are ready or not. That much doesn't change.
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Thank you for this, Hank! My daughter is class of '17, has been struggling because she is "undecided" and "just" going to community college. This video brought her to tears and, for once, she is happy to be "normal!"
im jus gonna kill myself. Cant do anything rgiht
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life beause I invested early ahead this time .
The rich Invest in alternative income streams that are independent of the government should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. Stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment...
I thought about investing in the financial market, I heard that people make millions if you know the tricks of the trade, but I lack good knowledge and a strategy to outperform the market and generate good yields. I have $160,000 but it's hard to bite the bullet and do it.
Having an investment advisor is the best way to go. Based on a direct encounter with a CFP named Kate Elizabeth Amdall, I can say with certainty that their skills are excellent. She helped raise over $580,000 in 18 months from an initially stagnant portfolio of $150,000
INTERESTED! can u share more details?
i dropped out, probably gonna be on disability all my life. but that doesn't mean my life is over, im gonna make my life beautiful.
wish you well, hope you achieve this. I am so much broken into pieces right now only child living with my parents all my siblings are successful in thier careers, friends are getting married.
keep making it beautiful ✨🌱🌷🌿
@@muhammadisrarulhaq9052 hope the pieces are coming together in a good way
Please don't give up life and do something with your life
@@taqi5675 They can do whatever they feel is right to them. If having a job is something they might never get to do and they find life fulfilling in other ways, then that's pretty meaningful and open-minded in itself.
As a 2017 grad this is so nice to hear. This felt like a different side of Hank.
Underneath the Hank we see, he's a human being like everyone else.
Something that really helped take the load off of me was coming to the realization that the work I do may be small and insignificant but the love I can give and financial stability I can provide for my wife is all I really need. I think it was Steve Martin that said "If I am able to make just ONE person laugh, I've done my job." and I've taken that to heart. If I can make make a difference in just ONE person's life, then maybe that enough, maybe that's my job.
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im actually tearing up bc hearin this just physically lifted off a weight i think ive been carrying all of my life
He both caused and eased my existential crisis within four minutes. These were the words I needed after graduating. Thanks, Hank!!
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I came back to this after three years. I'm an "adult" now. I'm lucky enough to be in a job I actually enjoy and still this video was so needed to remind myself to take the pressure off. No one changes the world alone and no one doesn't change it at all. Thank you ♥
I love how Hank is literally the only person I know who says do whatever because it doesn't matter that much which path you choose. All the people in my life have told me that my career path is the most important one and so stressed me out beyond comprehension. Thank you, Hank
At 42, I've come to realize that money is a tool. I’ve worked so hard over the years to realize that if you don’t make money work for you, you can’t experience true freedom. I’m glad I found that out although it was later in life, but that marked the turning point in my finances.
Well, I've gotten into a plethora of assets with $73k spread across stocks (options and futures) for the short term and Roth IRA, index funds, and ETFs, for the long term. I've been investing with help from a pro fund manager, Herman W Jonas who oversees my investments. Now I sit back and reap my dividends while I just reinvest from time to time.
I tried getting into stocks myself some time last month and lost a ton of money as I was ill-advised. Can you please direct me to him as I’d like to hear from an expert?
Your assistance was helpful. I was able to have a conversation with him via mail. What's even better is that he's certified with a registered broker. I'm getting started right away!
Many words of wisdom in your comment. I was only able to become profitable once I realized that a pro’s help was all I needed to earn. Herman is a great resource if you're looking to have a robust portfolio.
Money and value are two very different things. How much do you value your time? Fight for every bit of it you can keep. What you do with your day is what you do with your life.
I just graduated, I'm very lost, and I have a natural propensity towards anxiety and stress, but this helped me calm down a bit internally.
This video was posted more than 5 years ago now but the most essential words are "You went to school to learn and you did it. You know more stuff now."
“Work has much more to do with who you’re doing it with that what you’re doing.”
Please, please listen to this advice.
It's true until it isn't. Some tasks just aren’t the right fit for you, regardless of who you’re working with or how positive your attitude is. If you're feeling bored, then it’s not the right task for you. You need to feel challenged by what you're doing.
I feel like I need to set a reminder to watch this like every day. College has been rough with me so far and this is the only advice I’ve seen that makes me feel less crazy. Thank you
I think there literally might be a vlogbrothers video for every crisis I've ever had. Today I was feeling really stressed and kind of unhappy about my job (first 'real life' job related to what I'm studying in college), and I didn't realize until now that I put so much pressure on myself to be excited about and enjoy every minute of every activity related to my studies. It's not realistic (or healthy) to have those expectations, and honestly just hearing Hank say that he didn't like his first job out of college makes me feel a lot less alone. Anyway, I know I left a comment on this video a year ago, but once again it has helped me, so thanks again Hank Green for this video.
To think this video was posted 7 years ago but found me at the most perfect time is crazy. Having doubts about my second attempt at tertiary study and really wondering if I’ll ever find what it is I’m meant to be doing. Was good to hear this
The amount of value per sentence in this is off the charts. Seriously one of the most helpful videos I've ever watched, and it's less than 4 minutes long.
"You need to feel valuable." Sage advice Hank, and so true. I perform a job that is valuable to the community. That service makes me feel valuable. It took me 40 years to stumble onto it. Keep trying anything and everything that interests you! Eventually you'll find it too.
Anyone else end up unable to graduate and are stuck because fear of the future often keeps them from getting out of bed, as does the feeling of being pathetic and useless...? Just me...? I hope so, congrats to those who did graduate, I wish everyone better luck and thanks Hank.
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Think about it like this, you're not scared of the future itself, you're just scared that you don't know how to adapt to it, but did you have this fear when you were a five year old? No, you enjoyed life and loved the changes it brought
wow I'm early. I'm not even graduating high school yet and I still needed this video. Thanks Hank.
Hearing you say to find a place that you don't like, and change it, rather than just hope things work out alright or find a place where you feel good, really helped me. I feel so much worry over making the 'wrong choice', over facing consequences for decisions I couldn't have known would have those consequences, and hearing you say that, where the goal is to embrace the ups and downs and to know what to do when it's a down period, rather than try to stay up all the time and cross your fingers nothing bad ever happens and feel like a failure at the smallest mistake -
well, I'm rambling, but it meant a lot to me.
This helps a lot to me
Thank you for explaining
As a recent graduate, I've been applying for so many jobs, getting rejected from all of them and losing focus, so this is some consolation. Thank you.
Most people are educated since school to be employed and be able to buy, not to be employers or sellers, also not to be self-realized. --------------------Some of them suffer from this still at doctorate level: they doubt if it is enough, if now they are useful. "Hm, maybe after this contest, this prize, this TV interview i gonna finally be employed, I gonna finally be able to buy and provide". But you are never enough when you constructed everything you are upon a very weak externalized structure; when your source of energy can be shut down with one single word, one single lie, one single signature, a mail, the arrival of someone better in what you do. If you are too wise, this can´t be far from enough as well: you have to learn to be average on the RIGHT way. Because we never talked about virtue here, my friend! Later this lasts one semester contract in that city far away from your friends, or lasts forever somewhere else, but in the wrong place, just nominally doing what they studied years for. His bachelor colleague at MacDonald's is also not doing much better. Everyone discovers himself reflecting and irradiating the same situation: we are a symptom of lies. Wonder why things are like this? The machine is engineered to celebrate slavery and kill the kings, it is a vengeance coming from a resentful class - I am truly with Nietzsche in this regard (Genealogy of Moral, a book I had the pleasure to study in detail in a pause between school and university in 2005/2006). This machine does not see what is outside: a living organism that is at the same time free and integrated, an organism of permanent new evolving things that never existed before, a biosphere of different and new existential alternatives, a celebration of our primary and original values, exactly those no science or politics can claim ownership. To fear and actively ignore your past , the mankind´s past, is the first and best step into fatal cowardice. Greetings from Salzburg
I've had a new perspective on the whole work thing. I have been diagnosed with a condition which is degenerative and means I can't eat or drink and have to use a wheelchair. It means that I've started a blog, a BookTube channel and once I've sat my exams I will be a freelance writer. If I hadn't become unwell I know I would have gone to uni and got a job I didn't really want. I'm a bit socially isolated so BookTube has been lovely as I get to share to people. I love reading and writing. Our jobs should be to enjoy our one and only life, however that may be for you personally !
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Mr. Hank Green , I low-key envy your child.😭😭
Srishti Chauhan Same
Yo Indian... doc or engineer? Decided yet?
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I got my degree in Philosophy, got a job in finance and wanted to jump from the roof, quit that job, sold everything I own and drained my savings to pursue my passion. I'm financially miserable but I've never been happier.
Sure there's competition but I'd rather fail at trying to live the way I want doing something that I love rather than doing something I hate and not really live at all.
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This got to me, thanx
May i ask what you're working as?
Anytime! :)
Dude, you are truly amazing for doing that. RESPECT!
I come back to this video every now and then, especially when I'm struggling. It doesn't solve anything, but it does remind me that everything is temporary and that ultimately nothing actually matters that much and so all I have to do is get through the day.
One day I hope to be genuinely happy with life rather than continuously just trying to survive. For now I'll just continue with having no idea what I'm doing
Another thing I want to add... Let's really emphasize being realistic about who you are and what you can accomplish. If you've never so much as manned a lemonade stand, maybe you are not going to be the best entrepreneur. There is so much emphasis these days on having a side hustle and thinking outside the box, but that's its own kind of pressure, maybe some people are better off punching a clock and there's no shame in that. I tried for seven years to launch an author platform because fiction writing is my number one passion and I'm good at it, but the complete lack of structure and forward facing nature of authorship does not suit my introverted ADHD personality. So when the part time job I've had and loved offered me a promotion and full time gig, I had to be honest with myself about my actual capabilities and I decided to run with the thing I've excelled at in a more structured work environment. It's not as romantic as being the next Hugh Howey, but I find it's much easier than trying to goad myself into being the magical entrepreneur that I'm not. Not that I ever plan to give up on writing, but man does it take the pressure off to just have a job I like that pays me money for doing what I'm good at. The moment I decided to take the job I felt instant relief.
Great advice, Hank! I went to college as a theatre major and wound up thinking, two years in, "You know what? I don't like this." I became an English major instead because writing is my passion and I currently am a ghostwriter. It's not The Thing I want to do, but I AM GETTING PAID TO WRITE. College me (or even directly post-college me) could never have imagined that would happen. :)
how did you get into writing?
I've been writing for as long as I can remember. I always had a notebook with me, and I'd pass it around for my friends to read. :) I'm a freelancer now, writing fiction for several clients.
posthumorously do u mind me asking how u got into this. I've ghost written for blogs and short articles before ( as a side hustle) and got paid $5 for 5-7 pages of detailed work 😕
The opposite is what I wanted. I have a degree in English and I wish I had majored in theatre. All I do now is Theatre Arts and Music.
Just me and my pipettes and a family of armadillos and a giant canister of liquid nitrogen? Hank? You can't leave us with that!
Becca Moses I know!
I need a graphic of this on a tee shirt
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Thank you for telling me this. I was really about start crying before this video because I'm so burnt out from studying without even knowing what I'm even studying for in the first place and everyone around me always puts so much pressure on me that now I'm just tired. I'm so very tried..
At 47, I can say this... "Point your A$$ in a direction, create some momentum and movement, move forward. No matter where you end up, you are further along than you are now."
I think just having a family or being with people is a huge part of what makes us as humans happy.I don't think getting your dream job can magically make you happy but it will certianly improve and make your life more enjoyable
HAving friends and family is better than money.
@@lees8359 True. This world needs more empathy and community.
@Lee S Having money only gives happiness if you have people you love to spend it with
As a high school student approaching graduation who is still debating between universities, I really needed to hear this. Thank you for helping me better understand that there is no inherently wrong choice and that my future happiness doesn't hinge on my ability to choose the "right" program. ❤
Nicole Rosan I absolutely agree! But Hank's words have really taken weight off of my shoulders when I think about the decision-making process. 😊
You do not have to go to university right away just so you know, Its perfectly fine to just take it easy and find a normal job and "think" about what you really want to do you never know you may change your mind about some things.
Paris Hilton very true! 😊 in my case, I'm confident on the field that interests me (medicine), but not so much on the pathway to it. Debating between two university programs that are both equally amazing is certainly a blessing, but also perplexing!
It's also worth remembering you can switch programs if it turns out you hate your major and loved that weird elective philosophy(or whatever) class you took. You're not forming a blood oath with your chosen field, changing your mind is okay.
Shauna Blake SO TRUE! That's something I needed to be reminded of. Thank you!
I've been struggling in undergraduate college for about 7 years...I finally graduate in two days- it took failure after failure, deaths, homelessness, a pandemic, and natural disasters, but I finally made it through.
It is really motivating to get this video in my feed-- it feels disheartening to know it took me so long to get through this (I graduated high school 7 years ago) but at least I can be happy with where I've come to.