Coffee with Kari- Live Q&A With a Mortician
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- Опубликовано: 6 май 2021
- Kari Northey, a funeral director and embalmer, does a live chat session. She answers viewer submitted questions about the funeral business, embalming, cremation, burial, caskets, urns, and so much more. She also answers questions posed live during the session. What would you ask a funeral director or embalmer if you had them live in front of you?!
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My daughter is a Funeral Director/Embalmer. I have the greatest respect for her. Even during COVID-19 she continued to provide the family the best services possible. She embalmed my Mom, her Grandma. I did her hair and makeup. It was a blessing.
Awesome!!!
Yes I've had some involvement in the care and preparation of my loved ones and it takes it to a different level. What has to be done has to be done! Great information!
A funeral directress is a nice blessing to have in the family. I wish you both the best blessings that only Gracious Great God can give to you. Your daughter is your loving one.
That's awesome! From time to time funeral directors are called upon to prepare the remains of our loved ones. It can often be an emotional experience but we resort back to our training in mortuary science school to get the job done. It's weird but they eventually become like any other case. Big shout out to the wonderful practitioner in your family for stepping up being a true professional!
We're lucky enough to have two funeral directors in my church. They have handled the funerals for many families over the years.
Kari. I just wanted to say thanks so much for answering all the questions. It takes a special person to do this job...blessings to you and May the angels always keep watch 👼🏻🤗
Thank you so much!
@@KaritheMortician I think you're great I love the way you explain things and you're so down-to-earth
I love watching u u tell us what Wes needs to know hope u gets better soon
Great questions and answers.I really enjoyed this Q&A.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Kari you are always on point. You don't need to take down or apologize to anyone. You are a very knowledgeable practitioner of mortuary science. I enjoy listening to how you explain various topics. I just recently lost my sister and was eager to give some of the young morticians great advice on how to handle the type of case she was. Keep up the good work you are great!
Thank you, I will
May GOD bless & comfort you & your family.🙏
@@gloriousjohnson1807 Thank you very much.
So glad you are feeling better ❤️
Thank you!
your information is so great thank you for answering my thoughts answers
You are so welcome!
I'm thankful for the information you're giving us, it Good to know truly. Thanks.
So nice of you
Good to hear your on the Mend Kari...
Thanks!
Have a Blessed Mother's Day Kari💐
Thanks so much
Kari I appreciate your honesty and the way you professionally detail your job with care and consideration for the love ones. Thank so much ❤️
Thank you!
I enjoy your question and answer series. The answers you provided are valuable lesson for anyone who is interested in mortuary science.
Thanks so much
@@KaritheMortician You are welcome.
I agree kari it's been a long week my partner had a heart attack and work is crazy we just had another covid patient to start the roll over again but I'm glad to see you 😀but my part time funeral home job has slowed down a little thank goodness. I hope you feel better soon 💕
Oh my! I hope they are okay!
Ty Kari. I look forward to your Vids.
Thanks George!
Good morning dear
You are looking lovely this morning
I really do enjoy your talks you are such a kind caring lady
Hi Kari, Re: your input of people who are still grieving. For me,18 months and I still grieve same as day 1. Your beautiful words acknowledged someone understands. Thank you!!!
Thank you so much! Big hugs!
Kari you are ONE great person!!
Thanks so much!
your reply about the cremations in India is close to spot on. In the Southwest there is a bush called Ironwood, which burns so hot that it used to melt cast iron stoves in the 1800s, so all woods do not burn equal. Don't know what woods they use in India, but possibly there is a native wood there which burns hot.
Hi Kari. Wishing you a Very Happy Mother's Day!
Thank you so much!
Very interesting info. I enjoy your videos very much. You answer questions that I think we all have but don't want to.ask. keep up the good work. And I will keep watching.
Thank you!
Glad you are on the mend Kari. Love from the UK 🇬🇧
Thank you so much!
@@KaritheMortician I'm glad to hon.
Thank you for sharing your expertise. We are all curious. You demystify the care of bodies.
Thank you so much!
Awesome video. I learn something from every video.
Glad to hear it!
Glad you are doing better.
Thank you!!
good to see your better. coventry england. god bless you.
Thank you!!
Great show very informative
Glad you enjoyed it
I learned so much about managing your videos on this video. How to wind and rewind as well as bring up comments and questions.
Thanks
I learned a lot from this video. Thank you Kari! Hope you are still improving. Sorry you were ill.
Thank you!
@@KaritheMortician I'm a new viewer and subscriber.. You are incredible in how you handle yourself and in how you answer the questions asked! I'm 70, and am happy I came across you.. I'm feeling much better about my future needs. I take it you're in Mich. We are in Rochester Hills, just North of Detroit. Are there any places in Michigan that offer natural burials?! Dig a hole and drop me in? I'm currently checking out cremation, and am shocked at the costs. I just want a simple cremation, no viewing and no service. I am finding it difficult to find a funeral home to do this. They tell me I need a funeral director to handle the paper work ($1500). The cost of cremation ($1300) Memory book and 25 cards ($495). They also recommend a policy to cover transportation costs if I die away from home, etc al.. All in all we're looking at $6600 + for what I wanted, a simple cremation. Do you ever discuss "Costs" of services in your videos?
Sorry to ramble! I just fell in love with you and your videos! Thanks for doing you so well!! Mr. Bean
I really like your talks!! So interesting!!
Thanks so much!!
Good morning everyone , I hope that enjoyed your Mother's Day and you're feeling a whole lot better Kari☕
Yes! Thank you!
@@KaritheMortician you're welcome 😊
Glad you are feeling better ❤❤🎉
I’m so sorry to hear you have been sick hope you are ok again
Thank you
I’m glad you’re feeling better. Really sucks to be sick ugh
Thank you!
I love Dr. Garivalia and love Kari, I found both Dr. Jan and Kari informative.
Aww thank you!!
I’m real happy to see that you are getting a lot of subscribers
Slow but steady :)
Or slow but sure.
Prayers
Got to attend a cadaver lab in Guelph Ontario as part of a massage therapy course and it was one of the coolest things I've seen in my life. Wasn't sure how I was going to be but I was so fascinated! They keep the donors for 10 years, in the solution and then they cremate them and send the ashes to the family. If I didn't already have plans to be with my deceased hubby, I would donate my body. What an incredible learning tool by selfless people who sacrifice their bodies in the name of education! And thank you for doing what you do. Also very fascinating! 🍻🥂
Oh glad you are all better!!
Thank you!!
Hello 👋 Michelle.. How are you doing today?
@@tonyalexa1120 thanks doing great!
@@MichellePhillipsNC Good to know.. Where are you from?
we should celebrate life they are always with you u may not see them but they are there I've been there since I was 7 lost both parents and all a lot after that just believe they are with you
:)
It would be fascinating to hear more on the spiritual side of your experiences thank you
Like my religious side? or the paranormal side?
I think one of the reasons to volunteer would be if you're receiving government benefits & can only earn a certain amount each month or risk taking a cut, having to pay back, or losing benefits entirely. I'm absolutely fascinated with these videos, I have learned so much.
That is true
Beautiful as always. 😊
Thank you! 😊
You seem like a nice person. Considering the work you too.,,you are so normal and kind.
lol 98% of people that do this work is like her they are amazing people and take care of your family and friends the best they can cause you can’t anymore so they do amazing but there’s some crazy people that work in some of them but they also work normal jobs as well and work with the living hell working with the living is more dangerous then working with the dead it’s crazy
32:21 @@tiachandler5350
Alway so interesting. Being open and honest helps with our discomfort and fright.
Have you ever embalmed a person who turned out incorrupt?
The Circle of Willis sounds like "The Chord", the ethereal chord "connection" from Heaven (maybe God?) to a person (or their soul/spirit/life force). It clicked in my mind that "The Circle of Willis" could be this spiritual chord or connection from Heaven to the living being. Thank you Kari for sharing your knowledge and answering our questions.
:) you are welcome
Love the opening - my snarky self wanted you to say “In a mason jar as a souvenir for the next of kin!!!
:)
Thank you for this entire series! I appreciate how you still care deeply about our amazing human bodies despite being “in the deep & dirty.”
My appreciation also for your comments on grieving snd caring for those who are mourning.
The airplane passenger analogy, so often spoken of, is truly one of the most useful reminders that caregiver folks need to hold in mind.
To your viewers: If you are one of those people who sincerely desire to “fix” the world and repair all sorts of damage, you need to recall Kari’s oxygen mask idea.
Please don’t be like me and only learn self-care later in life.
To paraphrase Theodore Roosevelt,
“Do what you can,
When you can,
Where you can,
However you can,
With whatever you can.”
Think of the oxygen mask analogy and remember to NOT touch downed electric lines while desiring to help someone.
Be aware of the situation, analyze your options, call for help (to shut off the electric line, for example), and don’t become a victim yourself while seeking to save someone. You and the person in trouble should both come out alive and intact.
Be the person who stays alive yourself to help others.
We need all the helpers we can obtain and nurture. We need them to live also.
Thanks again Kari for your approach and perspective!
Thank you!
Kari, when I pass I wish you can take of me, Thank You for sharing your RUclips you have answered alot of my questions
Awe sorry to hear you were sick
Thank you
Get well soon
We love Kari here in st.louis
Aww thanks!!
I lost my 21 yr old daughter, which was the worst thing that ever happened to me. They did autopsy her because someone did this to her. The funeral home made her look just as beautiful as she was in life. I have lost a lot of people in my life, ,, but not one of them came close to this kind of pain and not one of them looked as beautiful in death as she did,. .
Iam so truly sorry for your loss sending prayers and hugs from Texas
Thank you for sharing
@Midnight Brian, I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I lost a baby and years later I lost my husband to a drug OD. He was in the Navy for 12 years and during Desert Storm. He had an infant die in his arms after doing CPR, at any rate, he had PTSD that he could not deal with. I hope he’s finally found peace wherever he is.
I can relate, those were the two worst pains I have ever felt. It physically hurt to breathe. I felt like I was dying, too. I almost envy people who have never been through such a traumatic loss. My pastor said that pain we feel when we loose someone and the pain is that intense, it’s a testament to our love for them. I just hope they both know how much I love and miss them. Sending ♥️🤗✌🏼 to you.
I couldn’t imagine, my deepest condolences.
You are a super great person who cares about everyone. Just like all my family.thank you for being sooo good to all of us who watch you on your show.i love your answers. Janice Eileen Delorenzo
Thank you so much!
Hi from North Alabama really enjoy your video
Thanks for watching!
Have a great weekend
You too
thank you kari my husband has been dead for 29 years i always felt guilty that i didnt cry tears wouldnt come at the funeral i felt so numb as i couldnt feel nothing and it made me feel as if i didnt love him and in this video you explained it .thankyou as i always look back and feel guilty that i didnt love him which is not the case
Big hugs!
There is no right wrong in grieving.it’s a very individual process. Some may not grieve until after the funeral or some time after. Shock (numbness) is part of the process my lovely. There is no ‘shoulds’ xxxx
love your hair streaking
Thanks
You are so informative. This is the field I should have went with. I am so intrigued and want to know everything!
Me too! How did I miss this calling!
Thanks so much!
I love your K Mug, for obvious reasons! -Kathy
:) Hobby Lobby!
When I worked as Mortuary Transport driver .I picked a man up from a hospital that died of liver failure. The hospital already had him In a body bag ..I had to open the bag and place 2 ankle bands on his leg and a toe tag then zip him back up ..Then i placed my Gurney next to his bed and started to pull him from the bed onto my Gurney ..He let out a moan from inside the bag that caught me off guard .Made me Jump ..Then i quickly unzipped the bag to see if he had come back to life ...Nope he was gone .i zipped him up Then i started laughing at myself for jumping ..Fun times .Good Memories
:)
Was you alone when you went to get him?
I'm in Huntingdon County Pennsylvania and in 1989 in our county no embalming was done on Aids patients they were cremated funeral homes refused to embalming of them.
We saw that same response during COVID which was sad.
Great job! Essentially an autopsy is a controlled & detailed mutilation of a body in order to determine the cause/manner of death by a pathologist-leaving the face & hands intact for viewing which seems so crude to laypersons. It was for me in the beginning. It's called "gross examination." The torso is eviscerated after the "Y" incision is made, tissue reflected, & chest plate, sternum with ribs are cut off. (canoed). The scalp & temporal muscle is reflected to expose the skull which is cut by an electric cast saw which cuts through the skull & removed leaving the brain exposed. The brain is cut from the base of the skull for examination by a pathologist. Brains are sometimes retained & fixed/suspended whole in a large vat of formaldehyde (for preservation) for further exam by a neuropathologist for disease or trauma & not returned with the body. The organs are removed, weighed, examined, dissected & recorded with specimens kept in small formaldehyde filled jars for later analysis. Tissues & organs retained are cremated years later. With coroner cases, blood, urine, liver, & bile is retained for toxicology analysis as part of the exam. After the exam, the dissected pieces/parts are returned to the body in a plastic bag & loosely sewn within the cavity. The skull cap is replaced with a wad of absorbent material (towel) only inside the skull cavity with the scalp loosely stitched in order to keep the skull cap (calvarium) in place. I've worked in a FH shortly and left to pursue a career as an autopsy tech. which was a huge adjustment. As an embalmer, I've learned to prepare bodies for presentation. It wasn't easy learning how to be comfortable with doing the opposite as a technician. As an embalmer, I would sometimes receive bodies that were autopsied after they were embalmed- a real challenge when re-suturing fixed tissue. Autopsied bodies are easier to embalm taking the guesswork out. Fascinating profession? Yes! For everyone? No!! Are autopsies crucial at determining the cause of death? Absolutely!! Happy Mother's Day!
A surgery would be considered mutilation as well then
Squalli. Yuk.🤮🤢
Hope your doing well now. Hugs from st.louis
Thanks! Much better!
Sending love get well
Thanks!!
Staywell from Ontario canada
Welcome to the channel!
Hi Kari thinking about the Indian cremation, they use the wood dry reeds and use fat from an animal can't remember what animal it is. They light the month area first I think as part of a ritual process. Hope you are feeling better today Kari. Lot's of love from Nancy in Scotland x
Thanks so much!
Smile 😊
Hello 👋 Nancy.. How are you doing today?
Kari, you are so mature; if I had to cancel my vacation 😉 because I got sick, I would have thrown a hissy fit!
Can't change reality
@@KaritheMortician While visiting a cemetery I've recently come across a tombstone that read how the person died. (Cancer) I think it would be really interesting to know how the people met their demise when walking through a graveyard. What are your thoughts on that?
When my Father in law passed, his wife had planned to have him cremated. I stayed with him until the Funeral Home did his removal. I have been with more than a dozen different family members and close friends when they passed.. I feel so honored to attend a death, seems like I’m alway there. The deceased goes through so many spiritual and physicals changes in a few hours. I really wanted to be a funeral director, not necessarily an embalmer. I am able to listen with very few words but asking the right questions. Hospice kinda knows what next. I call it the Morphine Journey.
Thank you for sharing
Death Dula… You should check it out..
I think it’s all fascinating, embalming, exc. science is not my strong point though. In school, I always felt like the books and the teachers were talking some other foreign language
When my father passed, he was in a coma at the time and I wasn’t present when he actually did go but I stayed with his body for hours, in fact the hospital staff was polite and patient but itching to take him down to the morgue so they could clean the room and reopen it for someone else. That last time was so difficult to leave him
Thank you Kari for your reply
Lol, “Judge Judy crazy “ yeah, I could see that happening 😁 So sorry you’ve been feeling bad honey, God bless you and your family. You’re sure looking “drop dead” gorgeous now, wow! Happy Mother’s Day 🥰
Thank you!
During an autopsy, the CV system is severely disrupted, especially in the cranium and thoracic cavity. The vena cava and aorta aren’t there in many cases and dependant on the degree the pathologist needs. So, when you embalm, what prevents the thoracic cavity simply filling up with embalming fluids?
It does fill up and we have to suction it out during the process
I've always wanted to watch an autopsy, I've never been afraid of anything like that, I love watching them on Dr. G
An autopsy is very interesting and educational... I’ve seen a few, in my nursing career, A complete post mortem exam, is very detailed..
@@kimberlyjohnson6607 I worked in a Medical office when I was younger but I had to retire when I was 30 year's old due to being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.
I need to watch more of that!
They dont show anything on Dr G
@@LVennum right
Good morning. From Texas
Morning!
Sorry you were so I'll. Great video today
Thanks so much!
Hi Kari!!!
Hi!
Yuck! I'm so glad you're feeling better! I am watching videos and sipping Gatorade and Vernors. I had a smorgasbord of chicken and rice soup earlier.
I'm enjoying your videos a lot, even though I'm about a week to two weeks behind on all of the channels I watch.
You have a very devilish laugh. It's a good thing, I love it and I laugh along with you! Oh, I'm just a song and dance away from the Mighty Mac, so hi ya, kinda neighbor!
That is awesome!
Good Morning Kari , Michael here from NH
Morning I’m Shelly I love watching your channels it’s so good to know what happens I have a fear of death I don’t want to die but watching your channels is helping that fear so thank you
Thank you
I Agee, your body recovers so much better, faster when you just focus on resting
Agreed!
As for people who may not like some things you say, not everyone will like the truth. The truth must be told, regardless who approves or who opposes.
Very true
@@KaritheMortician Thank you for writing to me.
You know and seen alot of issues of conditions that people go thru in nursing homes that are important to inform everyone hopefully someone will acknowledged the facts to change conditions and suffering in nursing homes that is ignored and denied
Yes it is so sad at some of them
When a viewer asked do you put cosmetics applied on the bodies on you, I want to mention that your blessed skin looks much better, natural and perfect without any cosmetic stuff.
Thank you :)
@@KaritheMortician You are welcome.
Hello Kari, Kristine here from beautiful San Diego...
Very interesting document about embalming very informative I think its great taking the time to explain procedures that it probably created future embalmer s and directors careers I would like to learn more and watch more .Is there times when you can't embalm a body
Thanks so much!
I'm really finding this pretty interesting I worked at a funeral home and was always curious about what goes on there I just cleaned accessable areas prep room was off limits but would eventually catch a glimpse and would kinda creep out they also delivered bodies and left in the open uncovered. I appreciate your information I think I will ask more questions later thanks ❤
thank you
A death / funeral channel with respect.
I appreciate that!
Looking at this video, it’s been seen by over 71 THOUSAND times…. Wondering why there are only 1.8 thousand likes? Do you folks not know how RUclips works? If you come and watch a video like this (even though it is sensitive material) you should at least give Kari the benefit of the doubt and click the thumbs up.
It helps RUclips creators GREATLY!
Hi!! Bill Grealis Charleston,WV here
Welcome!!
New subscriber, came across my feed ... this is an interesting channel 💯
Thanks so much and welcome!!
@@KaritheMortician thank you❤️
Wow this is a good discussion. I know sometimes under certain circumstances we will use a cranial trocar to aspirate the cranial cavity and that would be our way of removing the brain. This is done only when needed of course!
When asked what about a body amazed you the most - I’ve had 2 permanent DVTs in my right leg since '09 & due to some additional pain recently I had another PVL (scan) done to make sure there weren’t more clots forming & the tech was *SHOCKED* to see another artery forming near the top of my leg (where 1 of the DVTs are). She said she had never seen this happen & was seriously blown away by it. - I learned about it from an earlier PVL so I wasn’t surprised but to see her true excitement was really really nifty. 😊 Personally I like having an artery that leads nowhere… adds to my uniqueness. 😉🙃
Thank you
Kari the best from the funeral man
:)
Hey Kari
I wanted to do this career after my brother died. Why? Because the deceased cannot speak for themselves, and I found there's a lot of living people that don't speak up for the deceased. I had to secretly have conversations with the funeral home about his arrangements, because my sister in law was not doing anything, amd not keeping anyone informed. She left my brother in the hospital for 3 weeks after he died. She was too proud to ask for guidance on paperwork and what to do, and didn't want the help when offered. It was awful. P**sed me off royally when the funeral director told me they didn't have clothes for my brother, and they needed to get him sealed in his coffin. They had asked my sister in law no less than 10 times for them. Anyway enough of that. I couldn't quit my job while I studied and I just couldn't find a night school that did mortuary science. But boy I would love you to be training me . I am certain I could learn much from you.
Very true
Evening Kari xxx
Hello :)
My ex-husband was born with stenosis of the arteries and his body created a bunch of other veins to get blood to his legs and other parts. We didn't know this until he was 50. He also had bicupsid of his aortic heart valve (2 flaps not 3). He is waiting to have 3 different heart surgeries since Covid made these surgeries elective.
Wow!
Glad you’re feeling better.!!! I watch crash videos (yes, I’m a ghoul, I guess) and sometimes the coroner staff has o collect pieces parts from the roadway. They put the remains in a viscera bag and put it with the body. What do you do in this type of situation, if you’ve encountered it.
We try to treat what we can
My daughters stepmother lost her brother to a motorcycle accident where he was legitimately cut into three sections (decapitated, a section of shoulder and chest cut diagonally and then the remainder of his chest, trunk, legs) lying on the interstate. The young lady who was on the bike with him was also killed, but she wasn’t cut up, they said her insides were almost liquified from the impact. I still cannot fathom how he was completely cut into three sections. (RIP Matt Summers and Miranda Valles Chicago, IL)
There’s pics a passerby took and posted to FB, Google, and who knows what other sm platforms. (That’s how their families found out. It was all over sm before the police was even able to notify their families)
At any rate, how would his body have been handled?? And I completely apologize if this was too graphic.
Speaking of hair sprays, you said you use Aqua Net.. I use that!!
TRUTH NO LIES
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I watch most of the adventures with purpose videos on RUclips, my question is sometimes when they find a sealed car in a lake the body is still intact even a couple years later ? Does the water not escalate the decomp process ? Thank you for your hard wor
It can keep out some animals predation
I would love to have a job doing that, dignity and Respect. I even would pray
May Great God bless your endeavors and guide you in the right way and direction. You would be a valuable asset to a neighborhood.
Lovely!