Coffee with Kari- Live Chat with a Mortician
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- Опубликовано: 20 июл 2024
- Kari Northey, a funeral director and embalmer, does a live chat session. She answers viewer submitted questions about the funeral business, embalming, cremation, burial, caskets, urns, and so much more. She also answers questions posed live during the session. What would you ask a funeral director or embalmer if you had them live in front of you?!
kari@karinorthey.com
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The nurse at hospice took off my late husband's wedding ring after he passed away and I gave the ring to my oldest son and my youngest son will get my wedding ring.
Thank you
They got my grandma's ring off somehow, she had terrible arthritis and couldn't get it off when she was alive. I told the funeral director I didn't want to know how he got it off lol
I have taken my son to funerals since he was a baby and he is very comfortable around it now that he is an adult. He learned early on that death is a natural part of life.
We have needed excellent people like you for years to help ease the stigma of death & funerals. Our fears really get the best of us. Thank You for all your help.
Thank you so much!
I agree. Although I'm in ministry to be of comfort, I'm, also, tenderhearted, and it still has it's moments.
I come here, bc I want to understand death a little better; but doesn't ease my fears. I keep telling myself, well u weren't alive in the early 20th century. I wasn't born til the late 1950s. Then that other voice says: well, I'm here now! I turn 62 nxt month. Most ppl celebrate it. I feel like each I'm alive I'm getting closer & closer to the inevitable. My biggest fear would b gasping for breath. Knowing me, I'd probably fight it. But it's a losing battle.
I like to see you too, not just a pod cast. Please keep live chats.
Thank you!
I enjoy your videos, it feels like I’m sitting down and having a cup of coffee with you and having a conversation!!
Love that!
I enjoy watching you and hearing you. I vote against you only doing podcast. There is something about seeing you and hearing you that helps bring out the validity of what you are explaining to me. Watching your behavior to me, is genuine, and I find it helpful for me to believe as well as understand what it is you do as well as what all takes place when you pass. I have learned so much from you. Thanks so much. You are appreciated!
Thank you!
I agree
And you're so purdy!
I agree with you, Emma
@@KaritheMortician thank you for what you do. I really enjoy your answers.
Kari,
re: Your request for input from us about possible podcasts. You asked, so hear I go . . . You are so extremely attractive and have great and effective body language during your presentations. Ergo, I would recommend you continue with max focus on live and video efforts vs. podcasts. Your podcasts would likely be great, but we like to see you! Keep up the up the great work.
Wow, thank you!
Totally agree!
@@themjns1951 100% agreed
My brother passed away yesterday Feb. 4th and your videos have given comfort. I've watched your videos for several years but just watching tonight has given me comfort. God Bless you
I am so sorry for your heartbreak :( big hugs to you!!
Some one online session asked about, Why "We" have viewings, funerals etc...It is to realize the physical fact that that person is no longer alive, they aren't apart of our daily lives any more. We are a touchy, feely and visual being so its an acceptance that that relationship has ended. It is also to honor and celebrate that person and their life on earth...It is also a time to relize that we ALL are temporal and temporary and that there is God/ a Higher Being...It is also to relize that the person is Not suffering, at peace, with God and in heaven....
Kari, I am truly grateful to have found you, when I did, a little over a year ago. I think what you do is so very valuable or all of us! I think that the fact that you are still working as a trade embalmer, while also educating the public is so, so important, and a perfect balance. :)
I’m an insomniac too, Kari! (I watch ALL your videos at night, unless I’ve caught the rare, video live!)
OH!! The NICKELS ON THE EYELIDS,!! My Mom is 92 years old, and she’s told me a story of being a very young child, and her Dad or Grandfather, took her to a funeral/viewing, and the person had nickels on their eyes and she asked if she could have them! So they had to explain to her the reason why she couldn’t have them!
(I may have shared that before, I can’t remember.)
I remember an old saying," Some people are so greedy, they will steal the nickels off a dead man's eyes".
Podcast vs. video: The video seems much more personal and more like a conversation while a podcast would feel like a broadcast of late night AM talk radio. (Just my opinion.) :-)
Totally agree. Facial expressions make a lot, if not all, of the difference.
You always do a great job informing us!!!! I would rather see and hear you, seems to make it more personal😊
Oh thank you!
You personalize the topics and your expressions help convey your kind heart and sensitivity to these difficult topics. 🥰🥰Yes, I would listen to your podcast but it may take away the sensitivity and compassion you add to the discussions.🧸 You really do an amazing job!!💗💗 Thank you for sharing your knowledge and understanding. 😉😉
I'm so glad!
NOOOOOOOO DONT JUST GO TO A PODCAST!!!! I LOVE YOUR RUclips CHANNEL!!!!!! please dont go!
I wont it would in addition!
Kari, I really enjoy listening to your videos. My MIL passed away last month and you have answered many questions that I had that didn’t feel comfortable asking at the funeral home. Thank you for what you do. Lin from northwest Indiana.
I absolutely love your videos. You are so calming to me and my strange curiosity with death and the process after death. I am so grateful there are funeral directors like you to help families with their losses. I like seeing you as well as hearing you answer questions because it’s like watching a friend talk to me explaining these things in a way that resonates. Thank you for everything you do. Xo
Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much for your videos.
My sister passed away 12 years ago at 32, she had cerebral palsy and needed 24/7 care. The experience we had with her funeral really inspired me to want to go to work in a funeral home. And I’m a nurse which I think helps in wanting to help others. Hoping to get a job soon. You’re an inspiration !
Thank you so much!
Kari, I can not thank you enough for helping me over come my fear of dying and death. The education you give is more than amazing and so helpful. I appreciate how you emphasise being honest with children but without being graphic. The funeral industry is so lucky to have such a knowledgeable caring soul like you. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.
You are so welcome!!
I watched the funeral mass for Shanann, and the two Watts daughters and Nico the unborn son. Very moving but the mass was in in stark contrast to the unspeakable evil of what happened. You really have to have faith in what is said from the altar to accept life on life's terms.
Kari, I think this was one of your best talks ever. The caring, compassionate insight you show into taking care of someone's loved-one after this life makes looking at death a little more easy to understand, Thank you. Your knowledge is remarkable and helps bring peace of mind.
Thanks so much!
I love watching your videos and seeing you. Your videos introduced me to this whole world. I’ll look forward to how ever you put yourself and your craft out into the world. ♥️
Thank you!
My mom was in hospice in my home for a good amount of time. When we became aware that she was going hospice totally took over and made a horrible situation completely bearable. She had two nurses to ease her journey and a caretaker that wanted to prepare her to look her best, all the while our family was all there and we we were all at peace with her. If she had to go, she did so perfectly. We miss her but know she is completely at rest.
I’m glad that you had help to ease the way with your mother. My condolences. 💐
I really like how u respect the body. It seems u make every case ur loved one. Which is so nice to see. Thank u again .
Thank you so much!!
Since seeing you and listening to the procedures you have talked about, has helped me to decide what I have want after I die.
That is wonderful!
The rigermortis answer relieved me so much since my son died in November and it was about 3 days before autopsy. The report stated my son had rigermortis and that bothered me so much. I was imagining the worst.
I am so sorry
I really enjoy your videos, they are so informative and helps me gain more insight into the death process particularly of my parents. I recently lost my dad and we haven’t been able to have a service for him as yet due to delays with COVID. I also lost my mother in 2010 and still have not gotten over it. I’m going through the grief process now and it is hard. You’re right, grief is a forever thing.
It is a horrible thing grief...
I Love the live chats! Please keep them coming, I have learned so much!!
Thank You Kari!!! You are Amazing! Phoebe
Thank you!!
Thank you for stating that "closure" isn't a thing. I've been saying this since I was 13 years old when my father died. I roll my eyes into a new galaxy when I hear people use this word.
It never ends. It’s never okay when you lose someone you love.
Yeah its not like grief and loss ever ends, there is no closing that part of your life. So sorry about your dad.
Oh my goodness I just watched the spray fart video you did lol who is in the video with you?
@@KaritheMortician I have to say, it’s a spray that smells bad. I looked at the video too admittedly “hoping” to see a spraying fart! 💩 💨 (So juvenile I know!)
@@KaritheMortician That’s my mother, Maria 😂
You make my days brighter....thank you!
You are so kind
I would rather see you then just hear you.
Thankyou for your reply to my question last week .I'm in the UK i live in west yorkshire .I like your recordings and find them interesting .you explain calmly and with enough detail. Thankyou.
You are welcome!
Hi I am new I am from Midland Michigan and I really appreciate the information you are sharing. I listen to your coffee chats and I to was born on June 25. Thank you for what you do.❤️
Omg yes please start a pod cast !! I’m going to school for my basics right now and hopefully start commonwealth institute of funeral service in October. Your videos have helped me so much learning about the industry. I started working part time as a funeral attendant .
Thank you!
No podcast. I am hearing impaired and read lips. When my husband passed away Sept 23,2020 we had to cut visitation to 1 hr prior to his services because of so many COVID deaths.
Thank you Eve!
Sorry Evie for your hurt
You can use CC...js
I like watching your videos, but would also listen to your podcasts. Thank you Kari from 🇦🇺
Oh thank you!
If you're ever feeling like "why do I do this"? Just remember you're doing it for those left behind. And we really need people like you!! We may not be in a state to express it at the time, but you are soo loved and appreciated for what you do for our loved ones and for us!!!
Thanks!
The first funeral I went to was my great grandmother . I was 5 and my mamaw took me to the casket and lifted me up to touch her hand and told me death is a part of life and there was nothing to be afraid of. Then she took me down stairs and gave me chocolate cake lol.
Not a bad memory :)
Kari ~ I would rather you stay with the videos. I have subscribed to a lot of podcasts but honestly, I forget to listen where your notifications remind me when you are on RUclips!
Thank you!🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Oh thank you!
As usual, I love your videos. I find them educational and interesting. Again thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
You are the most easiest person to talk to about death and embalming,so professional so careing , and not scarey.
Thank you!
I missed the livestream , darn . I love the questions and answers. You make death seem like it's supposed too be, a part of life , the last part . I have gone to funerals all my life . Going to the funeral home was something you just did for anybody who died in the community. I sometimes think it was for entertainment. Love your videos.
Thanks!
I am 73 years old, enjoy your videos. I wanted to study mortuary science at Cincinnati
School. I went into nursing.
Your videos help me learn.
God Bless what to do.
That is awesome!
Kari, my older brother took his life in the canyon by our home5yrs ago...you talk about "there is no closure " you are so right!!! We are still still devastated. I was the last to speak with him, my twin brother was the one who found him in the bottom of the canyon. He shot himself with a rifle with one 30-30 bullet, one shot, right thru the left lung!!!
Very sorry for the heartbreak
I love your Facebook live videos. I really don’t like any podcasts. You are so real and gives us honest answers. Wish I lived closer to you, I would love to have you take care of my body when I die. You seem to really care and treat the body with much respect. Thank you for making all these videos for us from a Northwest Indiana subscriber.
Thank u for all the helpful info. 😷💖
You are so welcome!
Thanks Kari, you’re the greatest!
You are so welcome!
YES please do a podcast! I keep your video's playing while I am at work. When get home I like to play podcasts and I literally said to myself last night "I wish Kari did a podcast" :)
Good to know!
Thank you for explaining about direct cremation. That is the one I plan to choose.
The other thing I picked up was you watching Schitt’s Creek. I absolutely loved that series!😂
You are welcome!
I love what you are doing. I am trying to decide burial or cremation. Most of my explanations of what I need to know has come from you. Thank you for all you do.
Thank you so much!!
You were talking about little children being at a funeral. My niece was 3yrs. Old when her daddy was very sick. She had trouble being around her sick daddy, running away from him when he ask her to come to him. Well after he died and was on the day of visitation, my sister took her to see him alone. Surprisingly enough, she was happy and smiling...saying to her mommy..see daddy isn't hurting anymore! This was so moving. Dont underestimate children at any age, on how they mite react. Play it by ear. Be positive, let them guide you on how to approach this delicate time.
Hello from the 🇬🇧!
Historically, the pennies in were used to pay Charon the ferryman who took the souls on the river between the land of the living, and the land of the dead. In the UK, this still happens now as a gesture in some cases.
Thank you
@@KaritheMortician Thank you for the videos and live chats. I'm new to your channel but find your videos so sensitive, informative and very personal. The job you do is phenomenal.🇬🇧
Hello Kari. I enjoy watching and listening to you.
Yes to the podcast! I drive for a living so I love podcasts!!
Nice!
I was 7 when my dad's mother died (she was living with us). I told my dad I was afraid of dead people. He reassured me that dead people, being dead, couldn't hurt me. Then, he added, "It's living people you have to watch out for". So, I don't know how reassuring his little talk was when taken together.
thank you for sharing
Hi Kari, personally, I'd prefer if you kept things as they are. Btw, not only are you informative, but you explain things in simple terms. Thanks.
Oh thank you!
I love your RUclips chats. better than podcast.
I’m from England and I’m a lot more at ease on death than I was and that’s down to you explaining and I’d like to thank you 😊
Thank you for talking about the young and how it’s up to the adults. The adults around me made it very very creepy and horrible and like I said I’m fifty nine years old and it took me all this time to finally not fear funeral homes so I’m extremely sensitive with my children and grandchildren ❤️
That is wonderful!
I'm in Belfast, Ireland. I have everything paid for which I will need, when I die. I @m not afraid, I pray daily for those who need it. x
Very nice
Yes I enjoy the video it feels like an actual conversation. Yes it feels like a personal one-on-one.
Thanks so much!
I use your videos as podcasts, Kari, but I'm not interested in downloading and using a podcast hosting service/app. It's just so much more convenient to use RUclips for videos and "podcasts". This was an excellent video... I listened while giving my mom's dog a bath!
I really like seeing you and the guests but I would listen to a podcast.
Also, really enjoying your topics.
Thank you!
My great-grandmother, passed on when I was 5 going on 6. I never even knew she was sick. I grew up in a time, when u didn't discuss things like that in front of kids. My mother & I went to her viewing. Of course I thought she was sleeping. I ran down the aisle and stood up the kneeled. I hadn't see her for a while.
When we left, I asked my mother, why gg was sleeping in that place, instead of home. She told me she's going to heaven. I asked her could I go with her. She told me no, sweetheart. It's not ur time. I understood over time, tho.
Thank you for sharing!
I don’t know if it’s a ‘setting’,but if it’s Educational there’s a lot allowed on a Reg RUclips episode. Hope that helps. Lovely as alwayss,Kari.
Thank you!
love your videos. Keep up the great work.
Thanks, will do!
I love shits creek 😆
Your speech on Closure is so right i cannot even begin to say and so right there is no closure ever
Kari, you mentioned people who requested a home funeral and the casket size issues. That's interesting because we have a very old mansion in our area where tours go on. My son and I took the tour a few years back and we were surprised to see a special doorway/window that was rather odd in the Livingroom. The tour guide explained that this was made specifically to take the bodies of family members who passed away. It would fit their coffins so they could be taken out. In those days deaths in the family was quite common and almost expected, so they already had the house modified for it a head of time in those times.
So cool!
Prefer seeing you, it's as close to one on one information as we possibly can during a pandemic and or in clinic. Tks this is really helping.
Thanks
I really enjoy seeing you.
Oh thank you!
Your amazing I love your channels and I do watch them a lot
Thank you so much!
I appreciate all this information! Nobody likes to talk about it but it’s important. I wish I’d known so much more when my husband died. I was in such shock I forgot that he had told me repeatedly that he wanted to be cremated and his ashes spread on his favorite mountain range. I feel like I got carried along this awful service with my Moms pastor who sang with his wife, and honestly it was AWFUL! Lol! Too late to change anything, BUT I can leave a WILL
Oh goodness! I am so sorry for your heartbreak!
My granddaughter died two years ago
My grandaughter died 2 yrs ago they did an autopsy and they couldn’t come what happened to her they ruled out drugs and there was no alcohol in her body she didn’t do drugs or drink
So we never got an santifactory answer to the cause of death what do you think
Hi Kari! Thanks for another informative live? When exactly does your lives start on a Friday? Sometimes I get notifications, other times, none. 🤔
It depends. Usually around 9:30-10 am EST but sometimes I wait and do afternoon
I would definitely listen to your podcast!
Thanks AMber!
Having only your voice would be like watching a TV show or movie with 1/2 the screen!!!! Your beautiful face and personality and lovely sweet voice makes you the real deal!!!!
Awww thank you!!
We have a hobby farm introducing our kids to dead was pretty much from birth. We raise many types of animals for meat. We had a favorite chicken ( laying hen) die last week ( it happens) I ask if he was sad. And if he wanted to talk about it. He thought about it for a second and said well mom she had a really good life( 6 years old) and it was her time.... so not too much. I was so proud of him. He is only 7.
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing. 🐓
Kari, your idea of a simulcast (Coffee with Kari and a podcast) is well worth an experiment. Try it a few times. I'm not familiar with podcasts, so if you can tell us how to find those, that would help.
It would just be a series that would post weekly to any podcast platform to listen to. I would not change the coffee with kari content but add an intro most likely and exit dialogue
@@KaritheMortician Ok thank you. I'll listen for an announcement about that. I find all of this interesting, informative, helpful .... all of that.
Thanks for your nice videos. Interesting to see how different the funeral customs are in the USA and Sweden. Here you pay tax for the Swedish church to take care of most things. Private crematoria sound very strange to my ears. You talk about this in a dignified and respectful way. And you are very beautiful! Thanks!
Thanks so much
Hi .I think a podcast is a great idea. I prefer seeing someone as they speak, but I'm older, so just my opinion. Really great video, wonderful questions, I really enjoyed it thank you 😊
Fair enough!
My mom passed Jan 13 and still not cremated. NY and waiting which is hard for family. All hard in this pandemic. She looked fairly good at viewing which was private. Face drooped a bit but no embalming. Makeup and hair lovely and nails. It was sad as didn’t see her 10 months due to quarantine in senior living
Thank you for sharing about your sweet momma!
Now your mother is always with you.
My husband’s grandmother passed away, and we flew there with our youngest and had to leave our two older kids (6 and 2yrs old). We told our 6yr old that we had to go see his great grandmother and say good bye cos she had passed away. He stayed silent for a bit so i elaborated that passing away means that she went to sleep and won’t be waking up. He said “ok” and went about his business. Later on he said “i am staying with grandma and grandpa with ny sister cos mommy and dad are going to see great grandma and say goodbye”. He understood enough to be content with our response.
Aww :)
Definitely yes to the podcast idea!
Thanks!
Loved it. Tks!
Thanks
In 1962 my Grandaddy passed he was laid out at home . When I went up to see him I went into hysterics My Mom ended up slapping me to get me to stop. I was 5-6 years old
Sounds very traumatic for you. I’m sorry.
I'm fairly new RUclips & not familiar to all available cyber apps. If you have a Q&A show, maybe it would be better as an audio podcast (if there's such a thing) unless you have visual aides and are looking for more exposure. There are many curious folks out here with interesting questions concerning your industry. You have a talent and overall appeal to the masses and it's working. I've been curious about it since I was a 4 year old after I saw my first casketed dead body and was told "she's asleep." Something didn't add up after being "shut down" for asking too many questions, so I went to mortuary science college 20 years later to get the truth. I have since retired from the death business. This is a very entertaining & informative channel.
You should do your own channel!
@@spiritmatter1553 No thanks. But I could write a book that would interest folks.
@@squalli1297 Please do! The people here would want to buy it!
Kari, you are a lovely, sincere, and caring person. Bless you.
Question: I was SHOCKED!! to see that Aretha Franklin was changed into three separate outfits for her three days of viewing.
Was this a cultural tradition? Have you had families request this? Your comments please.
Here’s the thing: Aretha was the QUEEN. Whereas I would under no circumstances be changing clothes every day on my loved one (heck, I don’t even own three good outfits!), Aretha was altogether different. Consider the enormous lines every day to view her. So I though it was quite fabulous and in keeping with who she was to change outfits.. I was just disappointed that those of us at home didn’t get to see them. I stayed glued to that funeral for all 7+ hours (or however long it was).. it was amazing, and the MUSIC! Culturally, I think the black community has funeralizing DOWN!
You did great!!
Thank you!
I'd miss your face but would most definitely listen to a podcast... Your voice is soothing
I won't stop the videos :)
I don't have notifications turned on because I tour all my subs every day and watch everything. :)
That is commitment :)
You are amazing person ❤️
Awww thank you!
I like the podcast idea, but like the video idea too. I just turn on my bluetooth speaker and take it through the house or outside when I take the dog out so I don't always get to watch the video but love the audio and questions. Be Safe and God Bless :)
Sounds great!
Always enjoy your video. Get so much help. My mom died Jan 13 2021. Still no cremation. Eek. Guess stores at
:)
From Philippines I learned a lot thanks.
Great to hear!
Hi Kari!!! It's been a while since I've watched your videos but I'm so glad I started watching again. And side note, my go-to to watch to make me laugh is Schitts Creek!!! I absolutely love that show. You're amazing. Thank you for all that you do 🙌🏽
Yay! Thank you!
No podcast please. Love to see u hear u talk and just love ur laugh. 3/14/23💖
Please keep it live!
:)
That's very interesting I never knew that. Nor have I actually thought of it.
Thanks!
I enjoy the videos.
Thank you!
The make-up question always makes me think of Bruce Willis in 'Death Becomes Her' where he's telling a lady about using good old-fashioned aerosol paint from the hardware store on her Grandma... lol. Old but cute movie :)
I have not watched that in years
You are so sweet and kind
Thank you!