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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @Lorelei-c4j
    @Lorelei-c4j 3 месяца назад +1128

    The corporate world is not built for introverts. No matter how "outspoken" I am in the workplace, my colleagues expect me to talk through the whole 8 hours. It's so tiring 😢 I excel better in silence.

    • @raihana.onfilm
      @raihana.onfilm 3 месяца назад +37

      i relate to this sooo much!

    • @Emaniwilson
      @Emaniwilson 3 месяца назад +79

      Me not wanting to talk all day in meetings, or small talk about random things has caused me to be called "intimidating"

    • @manulucicosta
      @manulucicosta 3 месяца назад +2

      @@Emaniwilsonwaaaw 🥲

    • @KAye633
      @KAye633 3 месяца назад +18

      You have to learn how to adjust.

    • @JJ-mr4vv
      @JJ-mr4vv 3 месяца назад

      Same🥲

  • @tosin1018
    @tosin1018 3 месяца назад +717

    I never spoke up at meetings. About two years ago, I gave myself a challenge to ask at least two questions and comment at least twice in every meeting I attend at work. It doesn’t matter if it’s a group of 5 or 50. It is hard but I force myself to do this and overtime it has become a little easier for me to speak up at meetings. I am currently in a role where I facilitate meetings of over an hour during which I am expected to do the most talking. I also make use of my voice recording on my phone instead a journal. This allows me to listen to how I sound, my pace, and enunciation.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +39

      Love this! It’s very practical and trackable. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾✨

    • @4b6t
      @4b6t 2 месяца назад +5

      Great idea! It's really about taking action and that includes pushing yourself.

    • @purpledoodle06
      @purpledoodle06 2 месяца назад +3

      I love this! Thanks for sharing, as a corporate girly who really needs to improve her confidence and communication, I’m gonna give this a try. Goodluck as well! ❤

    • @ruthtembo8402
      @ruthtembo8402 2 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing this❤

    • @venusspacey9685
      @venusspacey9685 Месяц назад

      @@AdamaLornaSN: you think it’s your voice their complimenting?😅 you’re well spoken, but you look good doing it. You’re a woman. People indirectly and respectfully compliment your face and body. ❤

  • @raihana.onfilm
    @raihana.onfilm 3 месяца назад +318

    As introvert the work we have to put in is like double!

  • @Vee_TheWorshipper
    @Vee_TheWorshipper 2 месяца назад +243

    Thank you very much for this, I learnt a lot!
    Two tips I'd like to add:
    1. ELIMINATE FILLER WORDS. Fight them like your life depends on it. Too many people these days say "like" at least five times in two sentences! "Like" may not be the filler word you use, it may be “umm”, or “you know”, etc. Whatever it is, train yourself to eliminate it.
    2. If you're asked a question you don't have a prepared answer for, feel free to pause to properly articulate your thoughts before speaking. This kills two birds with a stone because it also creates anticipation in the listener.

    • @quiananibigigwe9213
      @quiananibigigwe9213 2 месяца назад +2

      This is really good advice

    • @NmaHumphrey
      @NmaHumphrey 2 месяца назад +3

      Wow! Thank you! I use 'like' a lot.

    • @coybi
      @coybi 2 месяца назад +1

      This! Especially the second one is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately and I'm getting more and more into it.

    • @81stdelii
      @81stdelii 2 месяца назад

      do you have any tips for eliminating filler words?

    • @Vee_TheWorshipper
      @Vee_TheWorshipper 2 месяца назад +6

      @@81stdelii hi! Sure. I’m no professional, but I’d be glad to let you know what worked for me.
      Firstly, I identified the filler words I used, and became hyper aware of my use of them. This way, it was easy for me to catch myself before using them.
      Secondly, as the name “filler words” implies, we tend to use them as crutches when we’re talking faster than our brains are thinking, so we get to a point where we’re unsure of what to say next.
      That being said, use the second tip in my original comment. Before you start speaking, and when you catch yourself about to use them, pause to properly gather and articulate your thoughts, then speak.
      Thirdly, (building on the foundation of my second point), speak slower. This is another way to gain time to gather your thoughts. It also makes you sound relaxed and confident, which again is killing two birds with a stone.
      Hope this helps!

  • @phyllisissami
    @phyllisissami 26 дней назад +19

    It’s exciting when you realize you’re replacing your filler words with ‘silence’ which is a great pause and makes the speech a wonderful one.

  • @Nowwelearn
    @Nowwelearn 2 месяца назад +123

    2 minutes into the video, I feel like I should grab some snacks, hot coco and bundle up with a warm blanket.

    • @mmmmkay4773
      @mmmmkay4773 2 месяца назад +8

      Literally!! Her voice and accent is so warm and cozy!

    • @Shatradwife
      @Shatradwife 2 месяца назад +2

      Facts😂

    • @BeenyKay
      @BeenyKay 5 дней назад

      Girl!!😂

  • @WholesomelyBillian
    @WholesomelyBillian 3 месяца назад +358

    Thanks for this. I struggle with public speaking and story telling. I think it's because I think of so many things at the same time and also very conscious of myself. But I'm actively working on this. Going back to reading 📚. I even started a RUclips Channel😊 to help improve my confidence and fluency. Cross your fingers for me.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +30

      It’s great that you’re proactive! I’m wanting to improve my storytelling too tbh. There’s room for growth for us all. Good luck with it 🤍

    • @quiananibigigwe9213
      @quiananibigigwe9213 2 месяца назад

      That’s exactly how I feel

    • @WholesomelyBillian
      @WholesomelyBillian 2 месяца назад

      @@AdamaLorna Thank you

    • @ashachanel2587
      @ashachanel2587 18 дней назад

      I’m in the same boat, I’ve struggled with this myself.

  • @isabelagomesrodrigues2115
    @isabelagomesrodrigues2115 2 месяца назад +15

    I had never seen such a perfect hair omg

  • @RethabileMoloi-mn5ex
    @RethabileMoloi-mn5ex 8 дней назад +2

    your voice is so alluring😍

  • @kneegrowx
    @kneegrowx 3 месяца назад +98

    Thank you. Some of us are blessed to be able to speak. Why not get better at doing it.

  • @HarmonyandHope7
    @HarmonyandHope7 3 месяца назад +162

    I have adhd & I get lost in my thoughts. Sometimes when someone is speaking to me, I zone out or start wondering what they think about me or what I’m saying. It’s annoying & weird.

    • @JoanKajo
      @JoanKajo 3 месяца назад +20

      same omg and I always overthink everything causing me to stutter or stop and start over and I look silly lol

    • @JJ-mr4vv
      @JJ-mr4vv 3 месяца назад +10

      I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I have this same problem

    • @nielwill
      @nielwill 2 месяца назад +9

      It’s not weird it’s just how ppl with adhd are wired. Work with what you’ve got if & give yourself grace. Everyone wants to make a good impression

    • @racheljamesotokiti2910
      @racheljamesotokiti2910 2 месяца назад +2

      😂😂 I’m a introvert with adhd/dyslexia so😂😂

    • @queenrajsmith4880
      @queenrajsmith4880 2 месяца назад

      @@racheljamesotokiti2910 same how do you deal with it ?

  • @Song_about_a_girl
    @Song_about_a_girl 2 месяца назад +43

    Im a nursing student who needs to learn to speak with conviction. I am a receptionist who speaks very friendly welcoming and people pleasing. I need to learn better to be confident and firm while still being kind and caring.

    • @noor8238
      @noor8238 2 месяца назад

      I couldn’t relate anymore!

  • @anacamacho3184
    @anacamacho3184 2 месяца назад +17

    It feels like a friend talking to me/educating me. Very comforting, efficiently attentive, and understanding.

  • @MsAngie2.0
    @MsAngie2.0 2 месяца назад +7

    Your accent is marvelous

  • @DesireUba
    @DesireUba 2 месяца назад +7

    You are definitely worthy to speak on public speaking. I enjoyed this so much and learned a lot. I need to learn to pace myself better. I could be quite fast when speaking.

  • @hempressdigital
    @hempressdigital 3 месяца назад +42

    I love the background music. Sipping my coffee and watching this ❤

  • @theofficialkae7736
    @theofficialkae7736 3 месяца назад +18

    I have never heard anyone use Jazz music in the background of their video. I am so intrigued!! Also, your tips were amazing and didn’t feel complicated ❤❤ thank you!!

  • @Joyceee507
    @Joyceee507 Месяц назад +5

    I love the comfortable vibe this educational video gives, the backgrounds music mixing with your voice is so pleasantly pleasing to listen too

  • @funmilayooyekanmi
    @funmilayooyekanmi Месяц назад +4

    Listening to you speak with airpods is quite soothing.
    Thanks for the insight! Coming back to watch more videos on your channel.

  • @noble604
    @noble604 3 месяца назад +41

    In this HIGH digital age where everything we do is online or on an app and very little is in person, it’ is more critical than ever to be able to present ourselves with our voice as well as our looks. I see so many RUclips videos where the person cannot pronounce words, misuses words to mean something they don’t mean or does not enunciate clearly and it ruins the video for me. I generally turn it off. There’s so much focus on looks currently but if people open their mouth and it’s not as well-pleasing to the ear as their look is meant to be to the eye, I don’t stay. Speaking well is so important, on every level. I’d like to see us spend more time, effort and attention on it. 🌱

  • @savb821
    @savb821 Месяц назад +3

    Ooooo Gurl I needed thissss 😭I really want to know how to speak super clearly. I stumble over my words a lot and I want to sound believable when speaking😅

  • @alldayamyj
    @alldayamyj 3 месяца назад +13

    Yes heavy on the be your authentic self and leaning into what you’re passionate about ! I also hate when i keep saying “ummm” working on that!

    • @Lisa_n
      @Lisa_n 2 месяца назад

      For me it's saying, "like" I grind my gears when I say that

  • @morr_1388
    @morr_1388 2 месяца назад +3

    Your voice is like the smooth crackle of a fire.

  • @bethelchisomphilip2842
    @bethelchisomphilip2842 Месяц назад +1

    Impeccable articulation.📌

  • @angelvictoria3878
    @angelvictoria3878 2 месяца назад +3

    Your voice is magical

  • @LuigiCroissant7579
    @LuigiCroissant7579 3 месяца назад +9

    Just a few hours before this video came out on my recommended section. I had written down that I wanted to learn how to speak. Thank you for this video very enlightening and easily explained video!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +2

      Love that this showed up at the right time! You're welcome 🤎

  • @RatnaKemalaSari-pb3lv
    @RatnaKemalaSari-pb3lv Месяц назад +1

    I love your gesture, I'm not an english speaker but I can understand what you say without sub. Love your voice too, it's calming ❤

  • @relaxedlifevidoes2949
    @relaxedlifevidoes2949 3 месяца назад +42

    Please do hair videos! Your hair is always so pretty!! You’re so beautiful!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +17

      Thank you so much! I’m not looking to or comfortable doing hair videos atm but I do appreciate it. I’ve mostly just learned from the wealth of hair videos already on youtube though! 🤍

    • @minkyxo
      @minkyxo 3 месяца назад +4

      Can you please share source of bundles ? And nothing else

  • @aprasharma1
    @aprasharma1 3 месяца назад +8

    I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! You listen to us and our requests and that already makes you top tier for me Adama, thankyou!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Thank you for the suggestion! I appreciate you and your feedback on the channel 🤍

  • @gcinamahlangu24
    @gcinamahlangu24 3 месяца назад +3

    I struggle to speak to other people in public, even my peers. Sometimes I think I might have communication apprehension, but I found this video quite helpful. Thank you ❤.

  • @pamelashehu
    @pamelashehu 3 месяца назад +3

    Girl I could listen to you speak all day! Thank you for these tips ❤

  • @naybettencourt
    @naybettencourt 3 месяца назад +9

    This is your second video that I watch and I remember when I watched the first I said to myself “I wish talked like her” (english is not my first language). Loved this video 💖

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      I appreciate it! Glad you loved the video 🤍

  • @omohtv
    @omohtv 3 месяца назад +15

    Thanks for this video, I find it difficult to speak and complete my sentence. I will keep on practicing till I get perfect.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      You got this! Keep going, you’ll see progress 🙏🏾✨

  • @sunnyj7424
    @sunnyj7424 3 месяца назад +2

    I’d love to know what books on natural sciences and art you’ve read. Thank you for this video!

  • @budumargaret1398
    @budumargaret1398 Месяц назад

    Your voice ❤
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts

  • @Micahh6071
    @Micahh6071 Месяц назад

    I’m on a binge of your videos. They’re so food

  • @patiencesangwa3944
    @patiencesangwa3944 3 месяца назад +8

    Your voice is captivating ❤

  • @Elishajorden
    @Elishajorden 3 месяца назад +22

    😍😍😍😍 ur voice is so nice 0:33

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you!! ❤️

    • @BelindaKumah
      @BelindaKumah 2 месяца назад

      I was about to type this. You have an attractive voice

  • @ediu9924
    @ediu9924 3 месяца назад +4

    Thank you Adama, very insightful as always

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      I appreciate it 🙏🏾✨

  • @Yogamasfacilbygabirovera
    @Yogamasfacilbygabirovera 3 месяца назад +10

    Es una mujer que inspira, muchas gracias por tu contenido!

  • @abenaboatemaaafrifa598
    @abenaboatemaaafrifa598 2 месяца назад

    I love how you speak ❤

  • @NoRainNoFlowersz
    @NoRainNoFlowersz 27 дней назад

    0:01 My God, Adama Lorna your voice is BLESSED! Stay Blessed
    P.S. Subscribed!🙂

  • @Hellena-eb6in
    @Hellena-eb6in 3 месяца назад +2

    I'm glad I came across this video. Thank you so much Adama. This has truly encouraged me. I can do this!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Warms my heart! Genuinely smiled when I saw this comment. You’re so welcome 🙏🏾

  • @haunting33
    @haunting33 3 месяца назад +4

    Girlll that glow uhhhh....❤

  • @_TAMZONE
    @_TAMZONE 3 месяца назад +2

    You have my gratitude, ma'am!❤

  • @skeedamacknn
    @skeedamacknn 3 месяца назад +1

    That you so much I’ve struggled with speaking to others I tend to listen to myself and start to subconsciously say things like “we hi sound like Omgosh get to it, are you rambling?” And they I start to stutter. When I’m with some I’m comfortable with I’m good at articulating my ideas

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      We definitely all have our challenges when it comes to public speaking. Hopefully implementing some of these tips will help you feel more comfortable when in these situations 😊

  • @Amberfifu
    @Amberfifu 28 дней назад

    I love ur voice I love how u talk I'm mesmerised

  • @Ishaomii
    @Ishaomii 26 дней назад

    Thanks for this ❤ I really appreciate
    I’m definitely working on it now
    And will come and share my results with you 😊

  • @lululandstories
    @lululandstories 3 месяца назад +1

    Loved this. So enlightening. Thank you Adama

  • @majakusowska6565
    @majakusowska6565 3 месяца назад +1

    I’ve seen many videos on improving conversation skills and yours bring much different and in my opinion more useful points. Also it is true that your voice is magnificent so it is a pure pleasure to listen to you :)

  • @masanaxx
    @masanaxx Месяц назад

    this was so helpful! Thanks Adama😍

  • @jemimahomombo6955
    @jemimahomombo6955 Месяц назад

    Thank you 🤍

  • @ada_maks
    @ada_maks 2 месяца назад +1

    This was absolutely helpful. Thank you

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  2 месяца назад

      You’re welcome ❤️

  • @juli.moon.
    @juli.moon. 2 месяца назад +5

    i’m so shy it’s embarrassing at this point

  • @akankwatsaloice7681
    @akankwatsaloice7681 17 дней назад

    Wow this is so good

  • @chideraozomma8035
    @chideraozomma8035 3 месяца назад +1

    This was so helpful

  • @ОльгаГерман-х4д
    @ОльгаГерман-х4д 2 месяца назад

    feel so grateful for you! It was so delightful even just listen to you! Thanks!

  • @ShaySunshyne
    @ShaySunshyne 2 месяца назад

    This was helpful & really aligned with a lot of ideas I had myself. Thank you! ❤

  • @nviscallin3702
    @nviscallin3702 2 месяца назад +12

    I am so insecure about my voice, it is so quiet, i talk a lot but ppl have difficulty hearing me in loud settings. I have no issue speaking in silence. Its so hard to project in loud rooms

    • @moonie2770
      @moonie2770 2 месяца назад

      I get u i have the same issue...im not loud im quiet 😢

  • @BrianaDeleon-e1i
    @BrianaDeleon-e1i 3 месяца назад +2

    Thank you !! Blessings

  • @mxrina2349
    @mxrina2349 2 месяца назад

    Thank you, your video helped me a lot!❤

  • @ebelecatherine9792
    @ebelecatherine9792 2 месяца назад

    Every point was necessary ❤❤❤ thank you

  • @crystalhd3639
    @crystalhd3639 3 месяца назад +5

    Just came across this video and really enjoyed listening. Communication is one of the things I am hoping to build on. Adama, please provide a potential reading list of some of the books that you have read in the past and have found enjoyable or even would suggest as a good read?

  • @Luvvbrat
    @Luvvbrat Месяц назад

    Thank you sm for this

  • @destinydivine8465
    @destinydivine8465 2 месяца назад

    You are absolutely gorgeous!!

  • @AlienAngel543
    @AlienAngel543 2 месяца назад +1

    Your voice is mesmerising 😊

  • @breannafelix4450
    @breannafelix4450 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for this. This video has so many gems that will help me on my journey to becoming more confident in my speaking.
    You mentioned how preparation helped you in your career even though you didn’t have a degree in tech; do you have a video discussing that a little more?

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Thank you! Yes I have a video on this channel about how I got into tech. It should be in the tech and careers playlist ☺️

  • @raya7390
    @raya7390 2 месяца назад +6

    My voice is so low , all people keep saying speak loudly , i cant hear u ,even when i am screaming they cant hear

  • @fejirotalks
    @fejirotalks 2 месяца назад

    I struggle with saying a point concisely especially when I’m recording content lol the retakes are LONG 😂 but I’m definitely going to take on board these tips and set a goal to see myself improve on this

  • @Jd1156
    @Jd1156 3 месяца назад +3

    Keep growing dope content

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Thank you, I’ll try!

  • @maisaw1454
    @maisaw1454 3 месяца назад +13

    This was such a helpful video. I think I’ve gotten stuck in the “how to speak” books instead of actually analysing speeches I come across. I love your technique and will apply that to the speeches I found engaging and captivating. Keep up the good work🫶🏿

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Thank you! I’m glad you’ve got a actionable step from the video 🤍

    • @KAye633
      @KAye633 3 месяца назад

      Analyzing speeches for Ted Talks helped me out a lot! I do presentations for my job all the time and everyone says how much of a natural I am, engaging, and knowledgeable but 10 years ago I would have never been in this place. The best thing is, I am still so excited about the growth I can make. Good luck and God bless.

  • @Hajarsstorcast
    @Hajarsstorcast 3 месяца назад

    when I grow up I wish to have a friend just like you

  • @LinusAngela
    @LinusAngela 22 дня назад

    Nice one ❣️

  • @Chinwe67
    @Chinwe67 3 месяца назад

    So helpful, thanks for this video

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      You’re welcome! ✨

  • @jobaoyefusi
    @jobaoyefusi 2 месяца назад

    Love this!!

  • @aquariangypsy8892
    @aquariangypsy8892 3 месяца назад

    I’ve enjoyed your videos! Great work.

  • @theetravelhippie
    @theetravelhippie 3 месяца назад +1

    beautifully well timed!

  • @emempatrick625
    @emempatrick625 2 месяца назад

    I like you. Thank you for that amazing heads up ❤

  • @margaux__alexx
    @margaux__alexx 2 месяца назад +3

    My head was down as the video was playing, and I honestly thought an ad was playing. I’m in shock.

  • @Ashley-ur1ey
    @Ashley-ur1ey 3 месяца назад +2

    Always beautiful ❤️

  • @Miss_Jael
    @Miss_Jael 3 месяца назад

    Any tips for a stammerer in corporate??😢❤

  • @8notes_
    @8notes_ 3 месяца назад

    Wonderful stuff, everytime!

  • @kashgrll
    @kashgrll 3 месяца назад +2

    loved this! thank you for sharing such valuable information

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      You’re welcome! ❤️

  • @commentpoliceofficer7991
    @commentpoliceofficer7991 3 месяца назад +4

    Girl you’re British. You naturally gonna speak classy 😂

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +5

      We don’t all sound the same I promise you that 😂

  • @timothykimari8154
    @timothykimari8154 3 месяца назад

    awesome voice

  • @princessglandy6776
    @princessglandy6776 2 месяца назад +1

    You have the confidence and mannerisms of a famous jorinalist. Very demure, very mindful, very cutesy.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  2 месяца назад

      This genuinely made me smile 😂. Thank you ❤️

  • @vitoria.yt.c
    @vitoria.yt.c 3 месяца назад

    Great video!

  • @Maria-gd4vf
    @Maria-gd4vf 3 месяца назад +5

    I speak around 5 languages but all broken lolz

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад

      Yeah that's sticky 😂

  • @Yen-NhiNguyen
    @Yen-NhiNguyen Месяц назад

  • @ThebigGLRams
    @ThebigGLRams 2 месяца назад

    Read more, write more

  • @fomosewoyeba7872
    @fomosewoyeba7872 2 месяца назад

    😂 speaking about syntax of a written book I've never heard anyone say that. It could only come from someone in the intersection of programming and reading

  • @RohitKumar-ig8jo
    @RohitKumar-ig8jo 2 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Kdizzlee
    @Kdizzlee 3 месяца назад

    Very beautiful video, but I will say there is too much hand movement. It’s a little distracting.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for the feedback!

  • @mariaonadeko
    @mariaonadeko 3 месяца назад +2

    1st!! ❤😅

  • @deboraheleanor4509
    @deboraheleanor4509 2 месяца назад

    Can you speak slower please, so your words have greater impact on us and we take it in well

  • @YourEnhancedLife
    @YourEnhancedLife 2 месяца назад

    This is nice @Adama.
    I hope I get a subscribe from you

  • @AiCa-bp4nk
    @AiCa-bp4nk 2 месяца назад +1

    Step 1: Be British.

    • @KimberlyA-fs9ir
      @KimberlyA-fs9ir 2 месяца назад +1

      Lmao right! I’m sitting by here thinking the accent already gives you an advantage

  • @Amet-d8b
    @Amet-d8b 3 месяца назад +1

    I am new here and I really admire the way you speak 😊🫶🏾🫶🏾

  • @МарияЛесникова-о1н
    @МарияЛесникова-о1н 2 месяца назад

    thank you🤍

  • @budumargaret1398
    @budumargaret1398 Месяц назад

    Your voice ❤
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts