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Stop Waiting for Things to Be Perfect
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- Опубликовано: 20 дек 2022
- Excerpt from Merry Lloyd Christmas | TPW 423
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but im only 2 videos away! you stop it. _JC
Thanks Theo. Merry Christmas, man.
Startin to sound like a preacher Theo. Soon youll be attracted to boys
I hope you recognize how much you really help other people out by sharing things that you've realized in your life man! We all need to be sharing those little pieces of wisdom we've learned with the people in our lives!
I use to be so guilty of that until I dropped it - THERE IS ONLY ONE THING TO MANAGE - that’s now. Let that manage of it be the perfection.
Theo is a southern baptist pastor. His timing is perfect!
Was coming to comment the same! I can here the pastor I had growing up, lol
Underrated comment
It's the "stay with me" lol. He is a preacher.
Yup, everything they say is a joke
@@Gandhi_Physique if its preaching about being a better person then theres nothing wrong with that. its the “dont do this, these people will go to hell” type of fear preaching that should be condemned.
A quote from the movie Blow, "Life passes most people by while they're making grand plans for it"
If that the movie about the ugly drug trafficker that was played by Johnny depp
I always knew the similar quote by John Lennon
👆
"Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans."
- John Lennon
@@Resistculturaldeclineholy shit that's a Lennon quote?? that's impressive
nahhhhhhh.. that hit..
Theo actually messaged me back about 3 years ago when I was down. Legit dude. He word hugged me
He cuddled you through his internet language
Lil b did the same for me. Even left me an audio message one time when I was extremely down.
@@dylancounte1448 thanks Dylan. I knew I could "Counte" on you for uplifting words. Wanna make out ?
I can totally picture this happening, what a solid dude.
@@adrianmasters250 it was surreal seeing a message come thru
When Theo finally learns Spanish, we can call him Tio Theo.
I think we're all waiting for that moment. Alliteration is important
@@jdt8983 sí señor
Ahh Tio Choko💋
El tío Teofilo
Tio von
I've been waiting for things to be perfect my whole life, and I feel like everything has passed me by... this is great advice.❤
Same. Here’s to change always being possible 🙌🏼 best of luck
Hello me.
Holy sh*t, you have huge t*ts
The best version of us can't happen until we start living the best version of ourselves..
Me too, lets throw out perfection together and let me take you on a date Ash - itll be perfect 😂
Age sneaks up on you real quick when you live this way. And whatever you're setting up for will never happen.
I'm pretty jealous of anyone who's friends with Theo. Funny as hell with the ability to get deep into it with you. That's a good bro right there.
@Watcher Much love? Lol, beat it, dude. Take your condescending bullshit somewhere else.
@Watcher Theo isn’t most adults and he does a lot more than say things that are common sense.
Also, most adults aren’t lucky enough to have professional comedians (and accomplished podcaster) as friends
@Watcher just coz you know something doesn’t mean you understand what it means in real life,people know death is painful,but losing a family member let’s you know how painful and what the effects are in real time.
@Watcher you’re deep
that's homosexulazin'
3:45 "And I'm not talking butt activity"
Man this dude can make you reflect on life while making you cry of laughter at the same time
Thanks for speaking to me Theo. I really relate to you a lot bro. There's a saying out there, something like this. "Perfectionists are normally procrastinators because things have to be perfect before you pull the trigger!" This, unfortunately, is me to a T. Now let's start pulling that trigger, metaphorically speaking of course. God bless you Theo.
I can relate to that too. Lots of people tell me just make a move and roll with it, figure it out as you go along with it. Theo's right you're burning the here and now with the waiting.
I couldn't agree anymore...
Sir your comment got me triggered
for me its less about being perfect but i find flaws too easily
@blinkbubs3994 understood bubs. Nit pickin ourselves. Stay strong yo
When I was depressed thats always how I thought: "once this happens..." this is not living in the present and the present is the only place you can live and make your decisions
How did you sort yourself out? I’m stuck in the future or past
Im at the age of 35 and im realizing my anxiety is way more than others. I thought everybody felt the same. I get prescribed medical marijuana for it. (Ive been smokin it since i was a teen. Weeks later me and the wife took the motorcycle out... it was a beautiful day...and all of a sudden while going 50 a car pulls out and we t-bone it and go flying. We are both healed a year later. God is good. We didnt get taken from our 2 boys. Not riding anymore. Between the accident... starting a family, taking over a business i busted my ass for 15years (roof cleaning) man i feel like ive made all these sacrifices to turn my life around from a highschool drop out and i should be super proud. Beautiful wife been with her since 2008! Idk why im not livin my life. All i do is work and work to the point im not in the mind state to get loose and relax like i used to be able too. Lately ive been reacting instead of responding.. probobly irritable from ptsd and the anxiety. Idk man. Atleast im still dedicated in the gym. Keeps me sane. Glad alot of the things you explain i can relate too. Helps to know your not alone.
Theo is always telling me the things I desperately need to hear, and hits even harder because we know he's been through them hurdles.
Felt this on a completely different level
I relate to this so much. I wrote a quote in my notes app a while back, I don't remember if I came up with it myself or I heard it somewhere.
"Trying to be perfect prevents you from being better."
man thats a great quote
There are a couple of things that come to my when I read your post. They are
"Tradition is the enemy of progress, progress is the enemy of tradition"
and
"Paralysis by analysis"
man i really needed to read this today, thank you
Needed this right now. Going thru a breakup and it’s just a massive change and I just keep reverting to intrusive thoughts of the past. That past “perfect” is gone. Time to look inward and as importantly, onward and keep living my life.
I’m in the exact same boat brother. Broke up in may but think about her every day. Yesterday on New Years I decided enough is enough and removed her on social media. It isn’t much but it’s a start. We got this🤝🏼
how you feeling now a year later bro?
@@justinking3127social media will ruin true happiness
Theo out here preaching the Gospel. Amen to that brother, that ain’t a joke.
"Life is the sh*t that happens when you're waiting for moments that never come" -Lester from The Wire
This kind of authenticity and vulnerability is what make people like him so much, i mean yea he’s funny but he’s very “what you see is what you get”. Keeps it 100
Well said.😊
That candle analogy was crazy
indeed
Yeah. I loved it
“He hit me with a word hook” best hook there is buddy
this is the closest thing to a church sermon i've attended in 15 years. preach, theo.
I needed this "word punt" so much! James 1: 6-8 "But let him ask in faith without doubting. For the doubter is like the surging sea, driven and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the lord. An indecisive man is unstable in all his ways."
Just let things be gang gang baby.
Damn bro..that hit me. ''Its a TRAP'' I have those OCD that make me believe that soon as this or that will be in place, then it will be perfect...then I will shine, then I can be happy...but in the end, it never happens or stay ''perfect'' for a long time. I have to stop falling in that trap. Thanks for this video ! Peace
Always wanted to be a blue belt in Spanish 😂. Good video and we all can relate
Got my purple belt years ago. It’s served me well 😂 kiubole wey
Man I've honestly never related more to something. Theo makes life easier.
"Done, not perfect" is a quote I heard a few years ago that greatly helped me see projects through. You can go back and revise, improve...but get it out and let it soak. Move on to the next task. Procrastination is the enemy of productivity. Being non-productive is a major cause of anxiety (for me at least). Get it done and sleep well. Another day closer to the goal. Clarify the vision, plan with precision. Execute.
How is this man still hilarious while giving life-changing advice??
"Not giving the lord a chance to tickle" damn, really feel that these days. Trying to just trust in God and make the moves I know he wants from me.
'Life is what happens to you when your busy making other plans' John Lennon
Theo sounds like a Baptist preacher. Hallelujah Amen!
Waiting for perfection means you don’t give LIFE a chance to happen…
That’s hecking beautiful!
I'm guilty of doing the same thing... And you're right, can't continue to wait to fully live life
I hear ya, my friend. I’m the same way. I’m about to hit 46 yrs of age in 2023 and I’m still taking my time. Thank you Theo, keep doing what your doing. I Listen to your podcast at work. Love that your genuine and you have a lot of consideration and fuuunnnyyy as hell. So thank you✌🏽💚
True down to even the simple things, I don’t even allow my self to go enjoy a Sunday until I feel I have the house and every other peace of bullshit in order lol
This is like a proper southern Baptist sermon. My dude is spittin the truth.
I always say
“ just let it happen “
Whatever happens happens ,if it’s perfect then great !
never thought theo von would be the person to say the right thing to me at the right time. love you theo, and love all yall living the struggle. grateful to be on this little blue marble with you all 🙏
From what I can tell Theo is actually super intelligent and introspective.
"Stay with me". Very important!
I can’t believe Theo is so funny *AND* shares these deep insights with us. What a gift he has❤.
Holy fuck dude I needed this
Edit: (6hrs later) this video helped me so immensely, I finally did it, I sat down with no music, no video, no nothing but me myself and I, and analyzed myself, my goals, what I truly want to do in life… I’ve been stuck for months, actually the past 3-4 years just trying to get myself out this rabbit hole of misery that I got myself into, and finally realized there is no better time than writing my goals down now, breaking them down, and take action from there. And this isn’t my first time doing so in the last 3-4 years, but this is my first time in months that I finally did something I postponed for months. Not doing so had me spiraling down in the worst decisions with very severe consequences, but reversible consequences. Only thing irreversible is my time wasted and Theo hit the nail on that second half talking about “this is the best time you got, dont waste it.” Man. I love you dude, for your comedy, entertainment, and now eye opening inspiration. God bless you dude 🙏
The way Theo pauses after each statement reminds me of a southern Baptist preacher.
J Cole said "there's beauty in the struggle". Take away the struggle and you won't be hungry. Took me a full 24hrs for that to sink in
Sometimes it's tough to know where the line is between good planning, and "over-planning." Delaying getting started (even if starting means pivoting from one thing to another, until that other thing is ready) is never the answer, but sometimes I'm not sure if my hesitance to "release" a plan / an action, or do a certain thing, is truly premature and the timing isn't right yet, or if I'm falling victim to my own self deceit or my own hesitance to just do it, or just start (due to overthinking or over-planning).
i needed this bad bro.. been working on my black belt in Spanish for awhile now. whole time thinking I'm not good enough to live my life yet.
Black belt in being gay?
@@Yassin.ibn.farouk nah bi
@@Yassin.ibn.farouk hahaha
@@Yassin.ibn.farouk You'd know
Ya gotta look your way first, and the universe will look with you and say "yeah, that's righteous, let me help"
what you do when they nail you to a cross you feel me? if that shit happens then yo whole plan is gone. the world only serves us with death and corruption, but the father serves us with life. much love theo, i’ve always thought you’re a man who’s searching for god.
Theo I came back to this video to let you know that it’s changed my life ❤ I have a job now doing something that I love. I’ve been trying to make sure my decisions are perfect before I make any, but sometimes you just have to jump and you can do anything. This quote will continue to inspire me throughout my life!!
Hell yeah
I always thought I was a perfectionist, turns out, I was really just a scared, lazy, procrastinating schmuck.
Won't allow myself to be that way again.
damm shit is hitting me like crazy too
pfp confirms the vibe - happy 4 u dude
Ironically I often feel like people have a tendency to personally blame themselves and that shuts off looking at any other reason they are a certain way. They’ll say I’m fat because I’m lazy and bad or whatever and the million other reasons for weight gain like exposure to environmental poisons like mold and heavy metals that can mess you up hormonally isn’t checked it encourages an over simplification of cause. If the cause always was that people just suck and could be better morally it would really simplify things actually but often there’s more inputs and variables and I’m not just saying that to deflect blame I just feel like people get so self focused they can’t ever consider any other cause so other possibilities remain hidden. I think people want to feel like they’re self aware and doing something so just saying they suck and they need to change makes you feel like your changing already because you’re addressing it and it gets points also as it makes you seem mature. For example people for instance may have a genetic condition like mthfr they didn’t know about or have mold exposure or whatever and this caused symptoms like weight issues cravings mood issues. Most will blame themselves right away for being lazy or gluttonous or just moody and if you try to say it isn’t that others jump on you like you are trying to deflect blame rather than actually check into other causes. It’s like people get a bloodlust or a superiority thing from that or they’re projecting their own stuff or something I don’t know.
Also I feel like there are more causes to laziness or procrastination than just you are lazy because you’re choosing to be, I mean I guess you could say it is a choice as if you knew the other factors you could change it but that’s not exactly the same as just I’m lazy and I suck or I’m to blame or whatever.
Like some feel tremendous guilt it’s why they feel bad about being lazy is it’s infringing on their idea of being moral acceptable or good enough, but for some it feels like they get stuck trying to prove they are good enough by not being lazy or by showing to others and so to themsevles that they are good enough. There are those who achieve a great deal and never shake this feeling they feel like imposters, and those who feeling like they haven’t done well enough in life is part of what is driving them to not do well enough the emotions got so heavy they quite trying because even if they try they know they still won’t live up to that expedition or standard. Nothing is ever good enough for that standard.
You can have a medical condition that causes ocd that then makes it harder to function, or just feel overwhelmed due other conditions or what have you and for some the freedom to not feel as if doing has their worth staked on it may help. Sometimes pressure achieves the opposite goal or at least makes things needlessly difficult. I’d say just do whatever it is wihtout feeling like you are a loser if you don’t do it or succeed, try to do it out of a desire to act like who you want to be rather than out of a desperate fear of who you feel you need to prove you aren’t. This is me just thinking out loud mostly as I’ve seen this concept come up a lot and people have this approach mostly like you’re saying and I don’t know maybe it is true sometimes they’re just not good somehow but sometimes asking why am I not doing well here just to at least check beyond moral failing then to maybe use more James clear concepts or build a better life rather than use maybe sometimes just short lived motivation to change as it sustainability is critical.
I feel like the heart of this point is this: some see the symptoms in their life as the cause. They are acting a certain way and that behavior is assumed to be due to ethereal bad character or no desire to change or something like that. Now that could very well be correct as a cause and it’s great to know and work on it whatever it is. But the other possibility is that your current level of awareness of yourself and of how to change is the larger limiting factor, that there could be emotions and habits internally you don’t know you have as well as even medical conditions and other things that if you’re aware of you can then target that and build a system around addressing that and overcoming it as much as possible or even trying to turn it to a strength. I feel like a core idea here is shame. Awareness is good pretty much always about yourself, healthy shame could be good of real wrongdoing and should be corrective and really msotly short lived, but many I feel like their shame is chronic and it both causes some of their issues and then makes them ashamed more of them. You then get stuck in a feeling bad trying to prove you aren’t bad then feeling bad again cycle. It’s like the actual emotion and thinking pattern driving the behavior wasn’t changed we just chastised ourselves and didn’t address any other life engineering factors that set us up for failure or success, we didn’t try to actually fix anything beyond a vague idea of being this or that. Now that’s probably not always the case same may lack discipline they work at it they get more disciplined and boom it worked. It may not be some other factor effecting it besides just not having the thing itself. But some seem to work and just do all this stuff and either revert back or keep feeling bad no matter what they do it’s like tinier motives are negative and they aren’t fixing the right things that are the actual cause because they’re so focused on proving they don’t suck in some way. It’s like a guy who’s got health issues but is so focused on proving he isn’t lazy he stays obsessed with working out only and doesn’t address any other cause of health issues because as long as he’s working out he doesn’t feel lazy gut if he stops he feels like maybe he’s slipping maybe he’s making excuses maybe he’s looking at other causes of these health issues beyond fitness because he just can’t do it. It’s like a chronic self doubt and lack of trust driving a need to prove something but rather than proving it and moving on it’s like it reinforces that way of thinking and the need to prove is greater or the need to act in a way that temporarily alters a feeling of inadequacy in some area morally or performance wise.
That’s way too long a text but it’s I don’t know an in depth topic. A lot of people don’t like to go over that really it’s like in some areas one answer is accepted and if you try to talk about it people assume you are trying to deflect blame or make excuses or support the overboard accept all your flaws and never change ideology. I think it’s more like saying acceptance gives you the peace to try out of a desire to grow rather than a fear of not being worthy of your own acceptance. You shouldn’t assume you didn’t do something only because you are morally bankrupt as there’s not actual evidence that’s the only cause, and really to me thinking of yourself as the thing you don’t want to be doesn’t help in not being it. If you are actually lazy then don’t think that, think you are the any you wish to be reinforce that neural circuitry. And you can say well isn’t that lying if you aren’t something why would you say you are but very likely speaking to yourself as if you are how you are that’s part of how you got to where you are. Think a way overtime that becomes natural and it effects how you feel and that effects how you act. And often when you just say you are something even when you accomplish stuff mentally you don’t always change, it’s why a celebrity can have so much but feel like so little. They’re still who they were trying to prove they aren’t that rather than saying they are what they wish to be now trying to train themselves into that new person. But you said you were those things so maybe that helps distance mentally rather than reinforce it as a current reality.
Theo has transcended. He's preaching.
Been waiting 12 years since i got disabled at 41 after being a workaholic all my life now i sit all day watching You Tube wondering when the day of relief and peace will come.
Your life isn’t auditioning for you. You already got the part. Might as well play it even if you make a mess of it.
Now that is truly profound! Thank you for sharing it.
This is what I needed to hear for the end of 2022. Let’s take the energy into 2023
Just start living NOW!
This landed on my socials at the right moment, I lieterally cried and then he said that quote hit him, I am going to help and spread good vibes because without these sort of messages then we are not being our selves. Everybody list one of your passions and I want you to make a step, today towards that goal. Theo Von your a legend needed a bit of Vonspiration right now and I got it!!!
I like making videos, and just yesterday met with my friends to storyboard for a short film. Hope you’re doing good man I appreciate you
nice thought, the idea of always feeling like you’re almost there and then you’ll “be yourself”, but that day never comes. it got a little off track at end there… 😂
Nothing is ever Perfect not is anyone PERFECT 💞.it's not possible
I've been thinking about this little speech for the past month or so, it really hit hard and totally applies to me. I'm gonna try to stop waiting and start doing, thanks Theo.
I would love to sit down with Theo
Was just having these thoughts today. I am dealing with liver failure and a friend of mine her uncle died today. The most positive, fun, goofy, live in the moment kinda guy.
I ultimately don’t know what’s going to happen but the possibility that my life could be a lot shorter than I think really has been messing with me.
We are here only for a short time but we love our daily lives like it’s forever.
It’s one thing to go out in a blaze of glory and freedom and generosity when you know your days are numbered.
It’s another thing to live each day as it’s your last even though you know it isn’t. That is courage. That is joy. That is impressive. I am in admiration of people like that.
Oddly relatable and inspirational from an unexpected source.
That's exactly my main problem, Theo... I'm trying really hard to change that, because I know it's destructive.
This way of thinking comes from a place of fear. It's waiting for things to come to you and be safe to mitigate risk and uncomfortable feelings. Starting a project or having initiative comes from a place of bravery and faith. That says "I don't know everything and I may suffer losses and setbacks and that's fine because the reward will outweigh any risk or loss that may come my way. I'll find and learn the way to win and get what I want". Fear is the recipe for failure
Wow I have never actually thought about it this way and I’m guilty my brother, do it with every single thing. Damn brother spitting facts
Theo, this came at just the right time. This is the exact thing that I have been going through. I have been lacking on things that I have planned, waiting for “things” to be “perfect.” This is literally a perfect realization of what I have been going through. I am guilty.
God wants us to come to Him as broken. We can’t go through life like we have it all figured out. It’s a futile attempt to think we can do it alone.
listen i’m not religious anymore but i grew up in kentucky and we got similar backgrounds.
and brother theo might as well be the revival tabernacle preacher right now.
can i get a damn AMEN
I struggle with this daily... Thanks Theo ❤️
This is exactly myself right now...100%. Ty Theo for being real and sharing.
This is why Theo is the homie.
So true, there’s never a right time to jump you just have to take the leap
That was deep man! Not that I want to see you down and out, but good to see that you're getting to see the whole picture! There's actually more to Theo Von than just jokes and crazy stories!!
I’ve wasted the first 16 years I feel like. These are supposed to be my best years but I’m just focused on being perfect.
“I’ll go out when I have a good physique”
“I’ll date someone when I look better”
“I’ll hang out with people when I learn how to fight”
Ur 16 ur life hasn’t even started yet
I'm almost 47. I said the same things when i was 16, and im still saying it. I can tell you that the next 31 years won't be any different unless you act. You'll become comfortable saying and feeling what you're already saying and feeling. You can either become comfortable with non-action, or comfortable with action.
I cannot explain to you how fast life it going to begin speeding past you. But I promise, with zero chance of me being incorrect, it's going to go by way faster than you think it is.
Don't wait. The waiting was before you were conceived. Warm-up is over, the game is in play.
Accepting imperfection is a prerequisite for finding peace within.
Damn. Theo. You don't realize how much your voice and talking about your struggles has helped alot of people including myself. I wish I could sit down and tell you my struggles and use your guidance to get through them. Thanks big bro theo.
Thank you for this Theo. I'm very guilty of waiting for things to be perfect and have been struggling a lot with it recently. I'm thankful for God putting this video in front of me at this moment. God bless you Theo, I hope you had a good holiday season and have a great new year!
Theo, you are one of the most inspirational people I’ve never met. Thanks big dog. “Hit me with a word hook” from the Diamond. Much love friends.
Our Pisces boy gots that Virgo Moon. Pessimism and perfection. Hell of a combo
I had this mindset when it came to girls. I was very insecure as a boy. Even though I had girls who liked me I was tol insecure. I told myself I would go for it once I was perfect. Once I was in perfect shape, perfect teeth, skin, had a nice car, house, money etc. Now I'm 35 and I've never had a girlfriend. I've never tried once, not even once. I wish I had someone like theo tell me how bad that "plan" was.
This is me 100% Theo. You're definitely not alone. ❤ We're trying to control everything. Only acting when everything feels "right". Let's start living together. Who's with me?!
Well you just explained me to a T dude. I love your podcasts so much. You’re one of my favorite people on the internet by far.
It's about accepting yourself as you are. God accepts us flaws and all. We should accept ourselves and others that way.
RUclips is my church and Theo is my preacher
Theo's always been there to make me laugh or listening to his advice to apply to my own life through the worst times, i am very grateful for the rat king. Onward!
This is a great reminder for me personally because I’m really guilty of doing exactly that. Thanks man.
Can't wait to see the After Skool that comes outta this one!
The affliction of perfectionism
I do this with women. I'm 22 and I've been single my whole life. I'm always waiting for my acne to clear, or my muscles to develop, or the perfect job, and telling myself when I've achieved these things then I'll be ready to start dating. But every time I achieve these goals I just put up another hurdle to replace the last one, because in all reality I'm just really shy and I don't want to break out of my shell. So as long as I have an excuse as to "why women wont like me" I can avoid actively speaking to them and trying to put myself out there. Wise words Theo!
I'm 22 as well dude. I know what you mean. For me it's getting an apartment since I live with my parents still and just waiting for all these conditions and things to be right. And then once they're right I can finally allow myself to be the person that I want to be. Once these conditions happen. THEN ILL BE GOOD ENOUGH. But we gotta start now dude, I'm starting to see that now. We gotta believe we're enough as we are now. We already are good enough. Sure it's nice to have those things and certainly not bad to want them. But we're good enough now , we are enough now to start living life.
I’ve listened to this 3 times in a row. I really needed this, thank you Theo ♥️
I'm not wating for things to be perfect because that's impossible, I just want things to be ok for a change.
The candle metaphor really spoke volumes, thank you Theo
Preach it brother Theo. Dropping some realness on us
Love Theo. Been watching you since I was 21. Wild.
Theo has the voice of an evangelist…. I remember a Pentecostal preacher saying “sometimes God has to hit you between your eyes with a 2x4 to make you see”…..
Damn Theo.... I haven't watched any of your videos in a long time(sorry about that), but this one just randomly popped up in my feed. I swear that God tweaked my algorithm so that it would. And what do ya know, this is something that i REALLY needed to hear right now. So thank you for that. And maybe I need to give your podcast a listen more often. And don't ever apologize for preaching, you need to be running a southern protestant church or something like that.
Big truth right here Theo. Watched the full episode yesterday. This part got me, and so did when you told our Mexican marine serviceman that he was "Doing it well." Theo smashed the tears button on that one 😭
I needed this, Theo, you helped me make the same realization I needed, man... thank you. Much love from Mexico, dude!
There is no such thing as perfect timing, the perfect timing is now.
Love that home spun Louisiana drawl coming at ya with those sweet pearls of wisdom. Go Theo ❤😀🤪
Theo always hitting us with the golden wisdom ❤