How To Deal With Feeling Aimless
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- Опубликовано: 26 окт 2024
- Excerpt from This Past Weekend w/ Theo Von #460 - Jordan Peterson
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JP looked so proud when Theo made that prison statement
:) we’re always proud of theo
I noticed that too 😂
Theo is the rural man's JBP
hes like "this kid gets it!"
that was a great example.
this is some of the best advice in the world.
@@Domn879dude exactly. Unfortunately I know so many friends who still avoid the harsh reality of life - the journey will be painful but so fulfilling. They want to avoid that pain. But avoiding it and the void at the end is so much worse.
I always have known I wanted to be successful of course, but I was nihilistic, messed around and was a dweeb of a man. Maybe I didn’t know EXACTLY what I wanted to do, but my one takeaway from JP and bit of my own advice is that as long as you have a direction that’s better than nothing. I just finished top 10 in my law school, got buff in the last 2 years and overcame about 5 long term ailments from saving from part time jobs to pay for surgeries/medications.
Being disciplined - From going to the gym, law school, sticking to a job - I have improved so much as a person, and even if this was never my ‘dream goal’, discovering what that actually might be is so much easier now because I HAD AN AIM, just at something. Aiming at something and going for it will make you level up overall, which opens door after door to aim more precisely in the future. I have more money, a more presentable person, more compassionate person, more social person etc. from doing all these things.
What advice? He doesn't say what to do at all. Make goals? Everybody knows that
@@michaelhauser6440 you would be surprised how many people hear “write what you want down” but then never bother. That’s the advice. Define yourself and the life you want and then take the all else step every damn day.
It sure is
@@michaelhauser6440
Peterson's way of explaining things just resonates with a lot of people. I was depressed and anxious for about 10 years and people around me would give me advice, but Peterson was the one person who got through to me.
happy to see JP looking full of energy and confidence. great content
He won’t be that way for long, i hope not tho
@@anessoltani whys that?
when he wasn't!?
@@Renovatio2142when he had a benzo withdrawal, and shit like that
@@anessoltanii hope the same for a miserable person like you. have a nice day.
Wise words. Reminded me of a quote from Seneca “If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable.”
This is GOLD! Saved to a playlist. I feel aimless now, but 18 years ago after a heart-breaking divorce I thought my life was done. I went to a counselor, spent time with a life coach that had me write "perfect life" scenarios. I never believed any of it could happen, but it did. I'm not living in that beautiful cedar home looking over my private pond, but I have a beautiful wife, inside and out, and a comfortable home that has a view of one of the most beautiful lakes in the world. Jordan NAILS it! Even if you don’t quite reach the goal, the steps are on a beautiful path, with amazing people. Thank You God!!
How you achieved that perfect life ?
@@PetarTomić-o2m I didn't fully achieve it. I am blessed. The most important point is about the journey. Aiming for a perfect life and then attempting to achieve it in a healthy and loving manner is what I believe Jordan is describing. So even when "the perfect" life doesn't happen, the memories and people in my life as a result of that journey is what can be fulfilling. That's my opinion and that is my experience. I hope you experience those things, too!
"but I have a beautiful wife" -- So you go through the pain of a divorce and then you get married again? I guess some men never learn.
@@johnnastrom9400Falling down is hard but not getting up after will make you more miserable than anything
@@johnnastrom9400You sound like you have a story to tell
"If you have no directions, you'll take direction from a tyrant."
Someone once said to me when I was growing up that
"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything"
Stand for something or die in the morning. Section 80. Hii Power
@@imsaltylit3101Exactly & it’s what do! 🫶🏻🇨🇦☝🏻 5:46
- Kendrick Lamar
I feel that phrase was perfected in the more eloquent words of George Bush Jr: "If you don't stand for anything, you don't stand for ANYTHING!". ruclips.net/video/O_RSQSYgGB4/видео.html
Good song
"The reason they're anxious isn't because they don't know which way to go, it's because there are way too many places to go." I instantly thought back to getting lost on the subway in Toronto almost missing the last train back. I'm an anxious person and it's crazy how well that explained how I felt at the time.
Remember you’re not an anxious person , you get anxious, same way you can feel calm
Well he was talking about getting lost in a figurative way.... Just saying that for you and the others 61 morrons approving your comment
@@christopheredig2332 He never said that's what it meant, reminiscent anecdotes are a thing y'know.
Yes I am very anxious
I'm actually shocked to see how many other people also feel the same way I do about this.
I'm aimless in a sense, and it is scary that my intrinsic motivation seems to be dormant. I'm like a TV on standby, nothing is on and there's nothing to see.
But I also can't help think that technology has something to do with this, because if you think about it. You're always getting a feed of some sort, with suggestions on where you go next. How often do you ever use the search bar to search for anything anymore? You just happen to stumble across videos.
I think this is the same in life, you never directly search or progress towards anything because you're so used to everything being shown to you.
Your TV and search bar analogy is spot on my friend.
this is a good analogy
obly option is to throw out the tv and get a dumbphone, thats for only calling and texting
Admire the way Jordan spends time with people that probably aren’t in his usual circles. Theo, whilst intelligent in his own right, is a vastly different man to Jordan. Respect.
Theo's barber is aimless
Lmfao
😂😂
😂 Oh, man… that was brutal. Maybe it’s a fashion of sorts?
Thank you. Freaking stupid hair
😂
I think one thing about JP that really resonates with people is his encouragement style. You're not just perfect the way you are, (and thus there's nowhere to go), you're good right now, but you can be even better, and he tells how how you can actually start to make that happen in the real world.
So much wonderful wisdom in this short segment. My favorite was "You're either going to be responsible for yourself, or you're going to be responsible to a tyrant" - that one hit me hard.
These two gentlemen are intelligent as hell in their own ways. What a pleasure it is to listen to them.
dr.perterson just give a words to the vague problem that you know but cant understand ... he is a wise man
Great advice and great video!
BTW, this is the topic Viktor Frankl writes about: people feel inner void because they don't see a meaning in their life, in their situation, in what they do. But there is hope - there is no universal meaning for everyone, but every person can find their own meaning.
Im 49 and newly divorced. No dogs, no house, no spouse. Ive felt completely lost and aimless so this hits home. Throughout my life when Im lost and need some type of focus I end up at the gym and things seem to work out somehow. I just went back to the gym 2 weeks ago and its already making a difference.
dont ever doubt yourself man! do your thing and rediscover yourself. new beginnings are the essense of life. wish you best.
Also do yourself a favour and change your name from dull boy to something more positive :)
These are the topics we need from JP not the polarizing social media type of stuff. He's gold when he's on self improvement topics.
I felt this way but I had major goals and I'm achieving them. I moved to North Dakota experienced some harsh winters then joined the army and went to basic, learned a skill, deployed, came home to become a foster parent to my niece (mother on drugs, dad in prison) then about to get married. My life is so much more meaningful. Now going through job orientation to become a long haul truck driver. I'm more and more inspired and I have some adventures. I know what questions to ask. I know who I am more than before. I don't procrastinate as much because I know what is at stake and the precious life that has been laid in my hands in the middle of an awful mess of emotions. There is a lot of juggling and negotiating. I have had a lot of conversations with my older mother about what's working and what's not and we shift direction together. Most importantly I don't let anyone weaponize any assistance they might offer me. What is offered is at face value or I'm not interested in ulterior motives. #JordanPeterson
What state did you move from sir?
@@desb3459 I'm a woman but I moved from California
I've experiencing personally how much an aim affects your life. It gives you meaning. Something worthwhile to struggle for. It took insane courage, many leaps of faith, determination, some bold moves and belief in myself. But I did it. However, this is just the beginning. I am waiting for the next steps. It will take some more courage and belief in myself, but I know now I can do it now, and it will just make me grow stronger. So thankful for this. I will keep on pushing. It really does make a difference. I needed that direction, however much I told myself I don't need to have it figured out yet, just live in the moment etc. And living in the moment is the way, but having a direction doesn't undermine it, on the contrary, it relaxes your mind so much, which allows to be in the moment and enjoy the journey of moving towards the goal. To be honest, I like the thrill of doing something my heart tells me to do, and then taking the leap of faith, that expands me, leads to growth and synchronicities, hopping in to a new reality. That is the purpose in life, to follow your heart courageously, I think
Jordan Peterson speaks truthful, credible thoughts that are immensely valuable once again. Thanks Mr. Peterson. Time to start thinking about goals and stop feeling aimless for the sake of positive emotions!
I don’t want you to take this as something small: I’m grateful that this video actually delivers what the cover says it will. That’s useful, that’s helpful. You did it right!
Let all content creators take note!
This is why people don’t leave a job they hate, or worse, leave a job they hate but then are even worse off because they have no aim. At least in the job you hate there’s tasks to accomplish and things to do.
So true. At work I feel motivated because often I have well defined tasks to do (or create them myself). At the end of the day in my own free time is when I feel the most angst because I don't know what I "should" do
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What good of a job is it if you constantly have to entertain yourself with pointless work, it’s more then that. finding meaning to exist would be a better use of your time.
@@madmax-sr1to someone could hate their job but it still provides value I guess. Or maybe they can't afford to just quit their job and find themself. Bills to pay and all that
True and also if every human followed their dreams the world would collapse....think of all the shitty but necessary jobs that would be vacant if that happened
Man, I got chills. God bless this man.
Like when you get out of a bad relationship: " You don't look back when you escape something terrible and long to be there. It means you have to develop a new vision."
I love Jordan Peterson. Such a smart guy
The amount of value per word in this video is off the charts
Damn. I kinda really needed to hear this right now. I’m a little over a year removed from a crippling dope addiction. Comparatively, and on paper, I’m doing great from where I was a year ago. I enjoy some poignant moments here and there but, in some ways, I’m just as depressed as I was then….minus all the stress of being in an active addiction. Ironically, that chase does give you a goal and a purpose tho. I’m realizing I desperately need a goal. I almost feel like the lack of one is probably one of the root causes of the drug problem in the first place. I can’t figure it out. Fuck. This is something I’ve been coming to realize for years now. This helps tho. Thanks Theo and J. Pete. I’m gonna try and get to the bottom of it. I just got myself far enough removed from the absolute slave phase. Now I’m operating under that tyrant…and it crushes me….daily. I get so mad at work for no reason (to myself, to everybody else I am very polite, kind, responsible and hard working). But I start thinking about everything in my life that ever made me mad or embarrassed or uncomfortable….for no reason…other than that I know I’m still basically just a slave. Just a different kind. A typical one…may be what I feared most. It’s almost kind of worse bc as destructive as the junkie life is…it is selfish and for yourself. No interest in going back to it. But maybe there is something to be taken from both experiences that leads to this ultimate goal….I hope so.
You got this 👊🏽
Keep setting goals. Don’t give up. The hardest thing I’ve witnessed with friends that are experiencing new sobriety is feeling all the emotions. Drugs numb emotions and this can be overwhelming. Feelings are like waves we can choose the ones to surf. Try not to get stuck in the negative emotions. Stay positive with yourself. Make a daily affirmation that you will succeed and reach your goals. God bless you on your journey. ❤
You need therapy and medication. What you're going through is common after long term opiate addiction, been there myself. But it can be managed and dealt with. But you will accomplish that by working with your physicians and mental health professionals, NOT by listening to a racist edgelord like Peterson. This is what he does. He preys on people going through difficult things and wraps up basic concepts in flowery language and esoteric terms to make it seem as though he saying something profound when in fact he's just STATING THE OBVIOUS. Keep pushing on your journey of sobriety but FOR THE LOVE OF CHRIST do not fall down the Jordan Peterson rabbit hole. You're on a good path and listening to this idiot will only drag you backwards.
go to Thailand and bang hookers
I feel like the hardest part about becoming better and working on yourself is the realization of how much you already missed out on. When we start working on ourselves we realize how much potential there would've been if only we started earlier. So we go back to the numb life, because we don't even want to know what could be. Does that resonate with anyone?
I feel like the frustration you're feeling towards yourself right now is the best sign that you're on the right track 💪 hold the tension and keep moving forward it'll teach you a lot - just don't take it as a sign that you're moving in the wrong direction! The tension, the potential, the overwhelming feelings have always been there in the background, you just decided to numb yourself to them.
Very rarely do I re-watch videos, but this one was so perfectly put that I needed to hear it twice over 😂
This video is incredible advice. It needs to be shared with the world.
Man, this hits different, thanx sir Peterson and theo for this absolute wisdom, greatful for being alive in this difficult times
I think someone once said, let your conscience be your guide..
Damn. This hits hard
It's a actually shocking how many people have the same issue and it's also very helpful surround yourself and listening to people like this
This has helped me understand my husband a lot more. Thanks. I am more appreciative of him now.
Makes so much sense!
Over and over I try to be independent. All my brain wants to do is move back in with my parents and avoid responsibilities. I’m 38
that is a sign of an infantile, a.k. a. not fully developed personality. I sufffer from it as well, but in reverse, grown up too quick, now my life is crumbling and I notice what I needed and can't have cause it's too late
I'm with you there man...the struggle is egal and brutal
@@gordonhoax7206 Thats interesting to hear the reverse. I think i'm getting better at realising my own regressive/negative thinking and trying to move away from it. sometimes you can find amazing people unrelated to you to help you through. All the best.
Im actually really amazed at how excellent the content is here. Real wisdom. Nice. Thank u.
this is exactly what i needed, thank you. Absolutely lifechanging...
I was listening to Jordan so long I forgot this was a Theo video.
In my best Norm Macdonald voice: When I feel aimless, I buy more guns
Great joke, but if you take it seriously it's hard coping. Because some do.
Learning has occurred.... love JP
YES! I was hoping you would post this clip.
Cel i potencjał.
Warto jest przemyśleć.
Przemyślałam, dokonałam rzeczywistej analizy mojej pracy ,z genetyki etc..
This really answers a lot and delves into the true underlying factor that is predetermined for what people do not understand from it.
This is so well examined and spoken out to the audience.
I really enjoyed and appreciated the insightful knowledge given here in this video. Thanks for this
I didn’t know I needed someone to explain the intricacies of dreams and goals. Now I know I just need to pick a direction even if I can think of something better tomorrow because the joy comes from the doing.
Dude this is gold! Just shared with my entire family lol
Trailer park party tonight
Does the school system create a feeling of aimlessness for anyone else? So much emphasis is put on grades nowadays in my country that doing is more important than the learning. Write this, study for this test, get this grade, immediately forget all you learned because the only easily obvious goal in school that you don't have to come up with yourself is a single letter. Meanwhile no one is telling us to or helping us figure out what our ultimate aim should be, like what we want to do after school, what we want to get out of our education, what the point of it all is. It seems like very few people my age (19) have any idea what they'd like to work with, and certainly haven't been looking into it well enough. I wonder if that may be a small factor in why people are so anxious from school nowadays. I know it certainly is the only factor for me right now. It probably has been for many, many years.
Schools in America are religious institutions of the ungodly. You don't need an education to follow Jordan's steps. Use education only to learn specific skills to accomplish your goals or find another way. I did. It can work. You can do it.
The desert analogy for anxiety is perfect. Theo is great at pulling these analogies out of JP
These suits JP has been wearing lately are dope!
I've been battling aimlessness pretty badly lately and am really struggling. It's going to be difficult to be sympathetic here but I am not looking for that more speaking to people who may be in the same situation as me. I had a very difficult upbringing and learned a lot of what not to do from it and thankfully those lessons stuck. It has served me well and I have become very successful in my career and most importantly have married an incredible woman whom I have been with now for 20 years. We were unable to have children and now that I'm nearing 50 the possibility is becoming remote and really probably unwise. My life doesn't have the gaps that usually make people feel aimless yet I very much feel it. Maybe I need to find something to chase I am not sure. It is not a lack of gratitude of that I am sure. I am humbled with gratitude daily for where my life is now. I just wish I could somehow shake this feeling that I have somehow squandered some potential. I think part of it is I just never feel like I have done enough and now I just feel like I am stuck trying to find what I need to do next to finally be worthy of this ridiculous ideal I have in my head. It's incredibly hard to articulate the feeling.
I think this is a fatal flaw in being brought up in good times.
Not sure about you but I had to work REAL hard in my 20's and 30's to dump the "your special!" garbage that started really ramping up in the 80's and 90's. I am sure there is a massive collective of folks that feel they have utterly pissed away the potential they were built up to believe they had and would unleash on the world. They started all the "advanced classes", our parents pushed sports and lived vicariously through us, our grades became weaponized and our peers made competitors. We turned it into squid games and every one of us was told we'd win.
That hurts when you hit 30, 40, 50 and you ended up just a regular ass human like the 99.9999999% of us.
You are not aimless or lost. You're human.
Right there with you, mentally. Maybe just looking at it a hop or two removed.
Solid gold. Thank you 🧡🐳.
As someone who is starting to find a job without any work experience this really helps.
For me, aimlessness isn't my problem. I do have goals and dreams I am pursuing. The biggest challenge is trying to stay on target without getting distracted.
The same here. I wish you good luck. And a happy new Year :)
@@jeffdourado Happy New year!
This is life changing. It should be taught in schools
well... compulsory schools were based upon the Prussian model of producing soldiers silently obeying tyrants ready to die anytime so...
Schooling is designed to confuse and condition you, not to equip you with valuable.
@@georgemulford2910 youre so right. Very true
the importance of individualism, critical thought and self-reflection
To much individualism leads to social fracture and civilastional decline
This is what's been killing me and holding me back, being aimless and afraid to have goals of my own and seriously move forward with them.
My problem is constant goal shifting , can't stick at anything... Severe Social Anxiety always stops me doing what I want.. Start Prozac tomorrow... At 46 aimless and pension less it's worth a shot. See if it can kick start me to tackle long buried childhood trauma.. I read to many success stories online not to try. Even a 30% reduction in symptoms would be massive.
*BARRY* 🎉
I dunno how long you have been in this, but what also came to me is (a goal) to change your environment, so you spark new ideas
I dunno how long some have been in this, but what also came to me is (a goal) to change your environment, so you spark new ideas
Sounds great. Really does. I am working and I am doing really well at the company. However, I feel aimless at this particular company. This video fueled me to start applying for a new job. Never look back, is a great key
You gotta have a vision. A vision you must have.
mr Yoda?
Finally the answer to my current situation. That is so good.
Lots of truth in his speech
This is profound advice! Thank you 🙏 ❤❤❤❤
Wow. He makes it makes sense. Problem is being 40 and no longer really having goals because your so tired of the feeling of failure. And it’s weird, because technically, in my job, I’ve succeeded (promoted, make good money, manage employees, etc.), but there is no fulfillment in it, I feel what I do is completely pointless. I’m aimless, I know it, I hate it, and I’m stuck in it most likely forever.
I understand... And I'm the opposite. I constantly wonder, what's my purpose here? Just to do the same things over and over and it makes me sad.
Just knowing, tomorrow is gonna be a similar day, or, it might be your last
@chrissummers4394 Everything you have described is you being within your personal comfort for way too long and suppressing your true potential and desires in order to maintain or achieve more within that zone and job/life. I might not be the best advocate for this as I'm 25 (not 40), which I can imagine makes a difference. However, what I can tell you is that everything you said apart from the age difference discribes me 1 year ago. 24, bright career especially for my age and environment, woman next to me, overall healthy friendship and family, but far on a deeper, mostly at the time unconscious level - I was aimless which affected my wellbeing, my relationship, my health, my looks - everything. Long story short, I left the company I worked for, shortly after broke with my girlfriend back then and at the same time some close family members of mine were having major health issues at the time. I started to self-reflect the last 5 years of my life, reliving them day in day out, day by day, trying to recreate the journey - who I was after graduating - who I'm now. What did I achieve, what did I lose from my previous personality and character? Why did I lose certain traits and habits I used to love? Why did I create this bubble of illusions that's centered around my career and growth on corporation level? Where did I do wrong or took for granted the woman next to me? What do I miss about myself, what do I want to start doing again, how do I want to look? What messages do I want to pass on to everyone close to me and the world in the future? How do I achieve that, what's the plan - logically? Visualise myself and everything as much as I can. Do not overthink but get going, then reflect on the experience and adapt on how to overcome the challenges or how to change the current short terms goals of mine. So, in order to feel driven, pressured and eventually fullfillment, you have to get yourself out of your comfort zone and that in my opinion is your work and bubble of day in life.
Find a something outside of your job. Helping others brings a lot of satisfaction. Volunteer etc..
Aim is no to be reached , is to be aiming at
Oh my dear father I believe no God but you earn my trust, thank so much Sir Peterson.
very deep advice, they should make more episodes together, their chemistry is off the charts
I can listen to Dr. Peterson and Thomas Sowell all day
Dang this guy throws fire 🔥
Thank you Dr. Peterson
Why do i always seem to find these tidbits of knowledge when it's a little too late but not so far gone...
When I'm about to die, I think instead of my life flashing before my eyes I will see JBP calling me a bumbling barneygumble idiot...
I really needed this after the monday i just put down.
I love Dr. Peterson.
What an insightful men...!!!
“If you drop someone in the desert the reason they’re anxious is not because they don’t know which way to go, it’s because there are way to many places to go”
This remembered me of the amazing movie “Mr Nobody”
That was nicee... Expressed a very important aspect of reality, in a vivid and easy-to-understand manner... 💛
Some people watch this and can’t stop thinking “ugh what a piece of shit” meanwhile taking all their direction from tyrants
But what if I can't name what I really want ?
I've got an example
I felt depressed in my whole teenage years but still I gather some strength (was 18 y.o. back then) and hit the gym for a whole year to do something with my life and altough I gained some muscle I felt horrible still. I'm 30 now and my depression is still here and there but I don't really "want" anything, and by achieving almost nothing in life I feel lost almost completely.
start with what you dont want and be specific with it. then ask yourself what you'd prefer instead whether possible or not. you'll get there soon. maybe the want you'll find will be big and impossible but give it time with you and spend time with it and it starts to become a smaller and achievable goal. this gonna take time but it will definitely happen. it took me a few weeks but I am kinda looking upwards now, still no goal but Ill figure it out eventually, im confident.
Best advice I heard in recent times
This hit right home
So happy to see this duo!
they need to have classes on how to figure out what you want to do with your life. I'm 28 in a really bad spot and I just cannot figure a goal to aim for.
Anxiety is the key to make great things - Heidegger and Kierkegaard. Anxiety opens being itself. I think one of the biggest crime againts humanity is turning anxiety to mental health problem.
JP is one of the only few that Theo will intently listen to.
Homie getting a free counselling session in.
JP will take any opportunity to bring up Exodus hahah
@4:39 Proverbs (29 :18) KJV Where there is no vision, the people perish: But he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
Knowing what not to do solves half the problem
I don’t know some people are followers they just need a good partner to share their life with knowing that the person they love is looking out for them
Set short term goals
I needed this video… I bet so many others did too
That's a brilliant point 👏🙏
Effin' A! Watching this, I had a literal light-bulb moment!
Thank you so very much for sharing this helpful content with us i’m grateful for you to the rest of my life ❤️❤️❤️
One of best speeches the worlds ever, heard 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮knew it already, but needed to hear it in his words 😮😮😮😮
Thank you Theo.
Self Note - I want to join a Product-based company and work with the best engineers out there in Backend Tech. I may feel aimless as I have lost any hope I can get it. BUT after seeing this I will do the tiny bit every day to get there. I may not get there but I will move in that direction.
Sadly at my age and health I can relate completely. Thankfully it's only the last few years I've felt very little connection to the majority . I've witnessed 50 years of a decline that's divided our countries citizens.
Holy shit I needed to hear this
men used to fight for their families by working hard and making money. Women used to fight for their families by taking care of their children and their house. Fewer and fewer have family to fight for as we become so individualistic and lonely. The large majority of people will not gain satisfaction from work despite what teachers want us to believe. We’re aimless because we don’t need to fight.
Right after 1920 when we stopped mass killing each-other we got very bored and domesticated
Maybe I can set myself one little (silly) goal every day and in a couple of weeks, months and years something great will happen
Terrence McKenna called it “Have a plan or you will be apart of someone else’s plan”
JP is the best.