I think young girls are having babies looking for purpose and love. Thinking "If I have this baby, it'll give me something to do, someone to love who will love me back & also I'll get to have a piece of this man/boy". They don't realize there's SOOO much more life has to offer than "baby mama".
Yup you’re SPOT ON! I’ve heard some of my close family members look to have children to heal them, think that’ll fix a toxic relationship/ marriage, think a baby will give them purpose and someone to love them. Stemming from abandonment issues, trauma and not loving themselves first and focusing on themselves first. And after the children are grown 20- 40* + years later they are still broken, miserable and empty inside. SMH
Please pray for my daughter. She just had a 3rd child, my grandson, by a guy that had done horrible things to her from the beginning. He's the father of all 3 and I'm always checking up on her and my grandchildren. Thank you, God bless you all❤ I love them so much!
I’ve heard teen moms also say that if it wasn’t because they got pregnant and became mothers they don’t know what would’ve been of them because they were living a troubled life and they feel like becoming mothers stopped them from continuing in the wrong path... and I think it’s sad that they feel like they fixed a wrong with another wrong... and I say wrong because they had no business bringing a child into the world when they don’t even have their shhh... together. Now they are struggling with company (their kids) instead of struggling alone... why do people do this to kids??? Kids shouldn’t pay the consequences of their parents choices...
Mr.Gaskins i'm 23 and I want to let you know you are doing Gods work. My father was in and out of my life and never taught me the things that matter but I'm thankful for your videos and I've taken it upon myself to learn the things that will protect me and guide in my future decision making. Thank you.
Absolutely baby girl. You listen and listen clearly. You do no want to be made an example out of like most. There will be some trip and bumps, but don't let those trips be canyons echoing your screams as you fall all the way down in a pit you don't wanna be. Stay blessed beautiful.
Please keep learning good, put ur good friends on and live ur best life, it will even reflect on the kind of men ul meet if u improve the quality of ur life, career and mindset
"I'm going to California !! California Dream!" I hollered in here! Mr. Gaskins speaks the truth and the added humor makes it that much more easier to take in. I love it here
MAN! I'm so glad I made my mistakes but I never went too far where I have major regrets.I believe my conviction and fear of God always pulled me back from certain situations. I'm 30 now, fully devoted my life to Christ after living recklessly, single, no children, waiting on God to send me my husband. God is answer! He will favor you!
Synopsis: This relationship won't work out because she's not attracted to him/nor does she want him, with or without a baby. She's only trying to tell herself she does. Fast Forward 20 years - - He'll still provide for his child, yet become successful and find another woman and build a happy family with his wife. While ole girl will realize he was a good man all along. Too little, too late. I hope she matures.
She thought he planned it because she thought she was so far out of his league/above him, that he would be grateful to have a baby by her. After her getting pregnant so quick and him barely knowing her, he could have told her the baby wasn’t his it was the ex or somebody else she was messing with, but he didn’t even question her. He got scared but he stood by.
Thank you TG, I appreciate you in all you do brother. 22 year old college student, and have been keeping up with you for 6 years now. God bless you and your wife and sons.
Although I'm young too (age 28) I'm so grateful I started watching his videos and recently purchased A Women's Influence ..Had I known of this channel at 22 It would of saved me from a lot. Enjoy & learn girl!
Sis look Tony told you exactly how it is. That man may have made a mistake but he is no savage. Trust me i know when i got involved with a co-worker and someone i was not really feeling. As soon as i told him i was pregnant, he asked me what was i going to do, wanted me to get an abortion and brought the money to work. By the grace of God i was able to pick up the pieces and have my child. If this man is a good man and wants to be in his child's life don't give him a hard time. Please consider everything he is saying and ladies and gentleman please be careful who you lay down and have children with it will haunt you for a lifetime.
The young woman in this video is many woman and I be first to admit I was in that same mind frame navigating through life until I worked on myself. “Bad men ain’t no Good, But the Good men ain’t no fun” we must rid this thinking because there are some fun good men out here!!
She's acting her age. She's too childish. Y'all love to learn the hard way that a child won't keep a man. Life is not all sugar plums, bubble gum, & flowers it gets stressful the older you get 😩🥴
She definately gone learn, poor girl, I hope she doesn't end up resenting the innocent baby. Her aunty also did her wrong consigning her wrong decision and mindset
I served in the military and I agree with the reasons you say a lot of people join the military. The military is really meant for single people if you look at what you signing up for, it’s not to provide for a family at least when you initially sign up. I know things can happen where you end up with a family years after joining but that can be planned out and can work in your favor to keep you close by your family possibly.
Tony kept it RAW and it was needed! I heard a TV Judge say, "women will never win playing games." This man wanted to be involved with his son, while so many men opt out and/or make excuses.
This video is so convicting for me. I’m kicking myself for doing a man wrong who’s similar to the guy she’s describing. I had a party mindset, low self esteem & zero direction when I met a similar man but I was sooo young even younger than the young lady in the video. He wanted to marry me and treated me like GOLD and I wasn’t even able to wrap my head around what that even was. now at 35 I understand him so much better, realize I was safe with him and should have treated him better. Praying that I find one like him again as I prepare for marriage.
Brother Tony, I'm a single dad.. I would love to share my story with you and your audience.... I'm a single dad and would like to send you a email with my inspired message and story of the year for all these good brothers/Father's...... . It used too be a DEAD BEAT DAD!!! 2021. NOW ITS DEADBEAT MOMS...GOD Bless you.. AMEN!!!
Young lady, you do not need to be worried about this man, you need to heal, GROW UP and take care of your baby. I am glad it is a baby you caught❗. You can change your life. Also please think of that baby who sure needs a father. Keep listening to Tony and get close to Jesus.
I found your videos a little to late but better late than never. I was doing good but doing way better now. Thanks. I wished I found it at 25. Be blessed.
I really appreciate Mr.Gaskins .. I’m 23 his wisdom has help me to prevent & learn from these mistakes cause I’m most definitely not in a rush just growing & elevating
On another note, this should also serve as an alert to men who chase women who don't want them. It is not always playing hard to get, just leave them alone before the damage is done.
Tony I love and appreciate how you beak everything down ( and act it out 🤣) for us!!!! You also read between the lines and really get down to raw truth!!! It should be taught in school… I am in my 50’s and I pray that the young ladies on here will listen to your warnings!!! ❤️
I teach and this kids are coming out of 8th grade with 2 babies . I try the best I can to educate this young girls and boys on how to make better choices. Must of all I encourage them to read the word and to follow TG .
I think someone also advised the guy not to marry her because of the games she was playing and not really into him. He may not be that mature, but he seems to have people in his life to support and guide him away from playing the fool over her and he is listening.
Yea lil sis was being very immature. All good though, that baby will get you right together and for sure start making you think wiser. If I could give advice I’d say try and work out the anxiety or anxiousness you have for the relationship with the dad. Don’t be on a string for him but you need to just have patience and if it works out then thank God. In the meantime just keep the focus on the baby with him nothing extra just healthily co parent with him. That will make a case for him warming back up to you, if not then so be it.
Please.. please PLEASE : follow through with that idea of getting relationship curriculum to middle/high schoolers. This young lady’s story is TOO common and too relatable. A program or course like that for our youth would be absolutely monumental. 🙏 God bless Tony
Yep, this immature lil girl wanted to play and use this man. She didn't like him, thought he was boring...til she was pregnant with his child. Then, he was supposed to MIRACULOUSLY want to provide for her and his child.
I can’t believe she said she wanted to get back together but long distance. What sense does that make? Along with the mind games she’s playing with a child involved smh this why we got these red pill boys out here. You trying to play chess but really playing checkers 😂
It’s because she wants to lock him down, knowing he’s a good man, he most likely will be faithful if he has those sort of values, while she can stay out in Cali and continue to date (cheat) and find the man she really wants, but she’s not sure she can find someone better yet. She might think if he finds someone else, it might take away some of the attention he gives her, and the focus will only remain on the child. She doesn’t want that. She wants him to want her, even though she doesn’t want him. It’s a selfish, narcissistic way of thinking.
There sounds like childhood pain from how she reacted to the abandonment. Not everyone wants to live the military lifestyle because he’s willing to change and maintain the discipline to follow the military structure says a lot. Let it go, sweetie. He could've told you to find someone else to take care of you while the baby was in your stomach. He was there and just scared because he's ready to step up, just frightened.
“Whoever the wrongest, gots ta get readed”! 💯 sistah! Take this lesson to grow and do better. Before I started listening to big brother Tony, I never even thought about emotional intelligence. Emotional maturity is key to leveling up and personal growth but I feel not enough people talk about it. You’re still young and the fact that you’re reaching out now shows you’re headed in the right direction. Blessing to you and anyone else in a situation like this. 💕
He’s not lying. I’ll be 25 next month. Had the “college experience” and got pregnant. Moved back to Alabama from Georgia to get away from my toxic CF. Literally thought this would never happen to me and it certainly did.
Wanted to add, I’m not a medical professional but he may experience nocturnal panic attacks. I have them, they’re scary until you know what you’re dealing with. Basically, you have a panic attack in your sleep and it actually wakes you up. It can have symptoms that make you feel like a heart attack, like pulse raising, elevated heart rate, etc.
SOMETIMES it's because they're under the influence (notice I said sometimes). When you're under the influence you don't think clearly. Your judgement is clouded & that's why since my last unplanned pregnancy I have decided to leave things that cloud my judgement alone so that I am able to think clearly and make better choices that I will not regret later. On the other hand you have women that simply do it because they feel as if it'll keep a man in their life. Either way I'm glad I came across Mr. Gaskins channel and hope that women no matter the age can take heed and grow.
Please, please let this man be a father to his child. My ex was a sorry excuse for father...left me alone rt after i got home from the hospital to check on things down at some property he owned the beach (yeah, right). You can tell this man is all in....mine didnt want to be bothered. I wish I had a man who was just a fraction of what this one is like.
This woman is delusional entitled and really full of herself. She wants to make the guy suffer cuz she knows he's a good man. I bet if he was acting like he didn't care she would have a different attitude
Wow, young lady focus on your growth and healing and as brother Tony said# When you play mind games everyone loses# You made a mistake, he is a decent guy trust me he trying to be there for his child
As easy as it is to judge her and say she deserves this for messing up with him, lets all remember the mistakes we made at 22 🥴 It’s just so unfortunate she has a WHOLE BABY to remind her of this life lesson.
Great advice ! Sometimes you have to take accountability for your actions and understand you cannot always have the perfect story that you first imagined, especially if you've done mistakes of your own that had consequences which change the course of your life, but you can do the best from now on with what you have. You cannot expect him to treat you as if he knew you for years because you didn't build on love or friendship, but you can start building now and do the best for your baby.
I listened to Mr. Tony read this letter twice looking to hear where this man was a no good man and still couldn't find. It's women like this that turn men into a savage. You know how many women would wished their baby daddy called atleast once a month but here you are thinking you're the best diamond around pushing a man who's trying to do right away. Some of you women really like the no good men huh. He's the one who shouldn't have been on your level but here you are thinking you can drag him along because you can get another in a heartbeat. Sis, check yourself before you fully reck yourself. Be blessed.
When I was in my 20’s all I wanted to do was party and have fun. Baby and relationships was not even a thought. I don’t understand these young folks its crazy
Chill because I’m 21 and yeah I do want to have fun ( travel, shopping, and having women’s night out) but I don’t even want kids not even thinking about kids but a relationship I don’t mind,
Bro Tony this message was on point with so much wisdom to this young girl . Am hoping by now she has moved back to her home town and she let the child be in the dad's life.
I loved how you broke this all down, enjoyed every minute of it. Yes, when women are in the wrong, they need to get checked too. No man is perfect, at least he was trying. Youngin’s stay off your back unless you’re ready to face the consequences!
Am I the only one that thinks he still shouldn’t have done what he did with not contacting her for two months when he knew she was pregnant with his child? I would have strong grudges too lol. You weren’t there for me when I needed you at the most vulnerable time and now once the baby is born you want to make an effort. He’s the one that started the pettiness. It was his business and initial duty to reach out not hers.
@HeyyAshleyyy Trying to be grown, but acting like a child. She didn't even want him. She's mad at the baby's daddy because he stood her up 2 months ago for a zoo date.😆 What kinda mom is she gonna be? Then, with no job, no money gonna move to CA, the most expensive place in the US to punish him? 😂😂😂
I agree. They were both in the wrong but nonetheless it’s about how they tried to come back from their initial wrongs. He decided to step up and she decided to be petty about it.
Tony thanks for your ministry. So many of our ppl are moving without intention, purpose or discipline. Completely moving in emotion and immaturely bc we are not taught anything about relationships. Lord knows it took me so long bc i had no mentorship, poor examples and even worse advice from my blind friends.
This is definately wasn't a savage man, she really could've grown to love and value him because he was very much a gentleman to her, many women would give an arm and a leg to even get this energy from their baby daddies. That baby doesn't need to be raised in a single household if this lady isn't shallow and childish.
Another good video Tony. What a immature woman she is, a "grown girl". I hope she will look inward and learn from her mistakes and bad attitude and hope that young girls will see this and learn what not to do. God bless you Tony.
Tony, you talked about both my home state and current state of 20 years now. I'm still laughing, getting this knowledge, and passing it on. Much respect to you Sir. Thanks
Alabama or Mississippi! Tony a low-key comedian! Working in the call center! 😂 Tony said any other man would have lost her number!! 😂 It's funny because it's true!😩
Young lady stop playing games. You were too immature and ill prepared to even have a child. Be sincere and direct, genuine with him about what you want and raise the family you chose to start together. Yeah he had breathing problems! High anxiety dealing with the pressure of becoming a parent too young!! You should've shown empathy just as you want. Grow up quick.
Someone else will get that young man . He saw after that moved she did she wasn’t his wife . Glad he learn early before going threw a lifetime of misery with her games .
@@karamelbuttafly3624 IMO, “hook-up culture” & dating are two totally different things. If I’m looking at someone as s potential mate, I wouldn’t have that mindset to behave so recklessly. I don’t jive with this “hook-up culture “ because it’s only a means of self-devaluation. Maybe they started out as just a hook-up which is kind of what she was implying by saying she wanted to continue living the “college experience”. IDK but we see IRL and from this video what “hook-up culture” does to people and the community at large. It’s a really sad situation.
I thank you Tony, keeping it honest, genuine. By the way your advice would be a true gem 💎 for so many young people - multiplying blessing if you would actually catch their attention in 8th-9th grade ….
Good afternoon Mr. Gaskins You are a blessed cool dude the way you make those faces make me laugh 😂 to be anointed serious and informative and funny God has a big sense of humor have an awesome safe Week 🙏♥️
If he has common sense, I hope he know to move on with his life, because he should realize that YOU do not want him and is just playing insane mind games. You need to co-parent only. Tony enjoyed your teaching as always, God bless you and your family.
I think young girls are having babies looking for purpose and love. Thinking "If I have this baby, it'll give me something to do, someone to love who will love me back & also I'll get to have a piece of this man/boy". They don't realize there's SOOO much more life has to offer than "baby mama".
Yup you’re SPOT ON! I’ve heard some of my close family members look to have children to heal them, think that’ll fix a toxic relationship/ marriage, think a baby will give them purpose and someone to love them. Stemming from abandonment issues, trauma and not loving themselves first and focusing on themselves first. And after the children are grown 20- 40* + years later they are still broken, miserable and empty inside. SMH
This is so true and so sad! There having babies to fill an empty place. There expectations of what having a baby will do is only a fantasy!🙏🏼💯
I’ve seen this firsthand.. extremely sad
Please pray for my daughter. She just had a 3rd child, my grandson, by a guy that had done horrible things to her from the beginning. He's the father of all 3 and I'm always checking up on her and my grandchildren. Thank you, God bless you all❤ I love them so much!
I’ve heard teen moms also say that if it wasn’t because they got pregnant and became mothers they don’t know what would’ve been of them because they were living a troubled life and they feel like becoming mothers stopped them from continuing in the wrong path... and I think it’s sad that they feel like they fixed a wrong with another wrong... and I say wrong because they had no business bringing a child into the world when they don’t even have their shhh... together. Now they are struggling with company (their kids) instead of struggling alone... why do people do this to kids??? Kids shouldn’t pay the consequences of their parents choices...
"You can't go forward until you analyze your past."
FACTS💯
Mr.Gaskins i'm 23 and I want to let you know you are doing Gods work. My father was in and out of my life and never taught me the things that matter but I'm thankful for your videos and I've taken it upon myself to learn the things that will protect me and guide in my future decision making. Thank you.
Absolutely baby girl. You listen and listen clearly. You do no want to be made an example out of like most. There will be some trip and bumps, but don't let those trips be canyons echoing your screams as you fall all the way down in a pit you don't wanna be. Stay blessed beautiful.
Amen!
Please keep learning good, put ur good friends on and live ur best life, it will even reflect on the kind of men ul meet if u improve the quality of ur life, career and mindset
Same sis I’m 21 I’m thankful for Tony!!
“Ignorance is bliss until the consequences hit.” TG
Amen
The truth!
All the way true!
All the way true!
Wooo that's a word 🙇♀️
"I'm going to California !! California Dream!" I hollered in here! Mr. Gaskins speaks the truth and the added humor makes it that much more easier to take in. I love it here
Yes. Lol
I hollered - LOL
🙌🏽
😂😂
MAN! I'm so glad I made my mistakes but I never went too far where I have major regrets.I believe my conviction and fear of God always pulled me back from certain situations. I'm 30 now, fully devoted my life to Christ after living recklessly, single, no children, waiting on God to send me my husband. God is answer! He will favor you!
Amen
Same amen
Amen 🙏🏾
Synopsis: This relationship won't work out because she's not attracted to him/nor does she want him, with or without a baby. She's only trying to tell herself she does. Fast Forward 20 years - - He'll still provide for his child, yet become successful and find another woman and build a happy family with his wife. While ole girl will realize he was a good man all along. Too little, too late. I hope she matures.
If she found a man in California she wouldn't want him back.
When you are really ambitious, being a baby mama is not on the list of your priorities.
Let it be known🗣🗣🗣
That's a word sis!!!
“And because he didn’t pick you up for the zoo...” I just hollered 🤣🤣
😂😂 too funny
She thought he planned it because she thought she was so far out of his league/above him, that he would be grateful to have a baby by her. After her getting pregnant so quick and him barely knowing her, he could have told her the baby wasn’t his it was the ex or somebody else she was messing with, but he didn’t even question her. He got scared but he stood by.
He sounds like a one in a million guy, especially at that age, most men would’ve went ghost. Thanks for this talk Tony! Great info as always
Thank you TG, I appreciate you in all you do brother. 22 year old college student, and have been keeping up with you for 6 years now. God bless you and your wife and sons.
I literally just said that last night at dinner. High School girls need this information too!!!
I’m 22 years old too and always watching your videos👀. Thank you for everything! God bless you and your family.
Although I'm young too (age 28) I'm so grateful I started watching his videos and recently purchased A Women's Influence ..Had I known of this channel at 22 It would of saved me from a lot. Enjoy & learn girl!
I'm 20 and I love his videos.
Congratulations to your son on his graduation day . May your high schools years be blessed and fun njoy your young years to the fullest . ❤️🙌🏾
Sis look Tony told you exactly how it is. That man may have made a mistake but he is no savage. Trust me i know when i got involved with a co-worker and someone i was not really feeling. As soon as i told him i was pregnant, he asked me what was i going to do, wanted me to get an abortion and brought the money to work. By the grace of God i was able to pick up the pieces and have my child. If this man is a good man and wants to be in his child's life don't give him a hard time. Please consider everything he is saying and ladies and gentleman please be careful who you lay down and have children with it will haunt you for a lifetime.
The young woman in this video is many woman and I be first to admit I was in that same mind frame navigating through life until I worked on myself. “Bad men ain’t no Good, But the Good men ain’t no fun” we must rid this thinking because there are some fun good men out here!!
SAME! It’s part of growing up! It’s just so unfortunate a baby came out of this
She is going to be boiling whenever he gets in a serious relationship with someone else and her life isn’t how she expects it to be:-/
Happens every time!
She will never forgive herself for being so silly, childish and shallow, cos this man is ready to do right by his child at least.
Yes and i hope she don't become that BM that causes hell when he moves on
Guuuuurl!!!
She's acting her age. She's too childish. Y'all love to learn the hard way that a child won't keep a man. Life is not all sugar plums, bubble gum, & flowers it gets stressful the older you get 😩🥴
Preach sis!
@@cocoj2252 💯
She definately gone learn, poor girl, I hope she doesn't end up resenting the innocent baby. Her aunty also did her wrong consigning her wrong decision and mindset
@@nikkyshamz2696 right. But I hope she takes the advice TG gave her. She has to want to grow & be better for the child
At 52 yrs, yes I can vouch for life gets stressful the older you get. No lie
Tony you leave me speechless... realizing just how wrong I have been. With a broken heart & a contrite spirit I thank you.
“You can’t go forward until you analyze your past” TG..
I served in the military and I agree with the reasons you say a lot of people join the military. The military is really meant for single people if you look at what you signing up for, it’s not to provide for a family at least when you initially sign up. I know things can happen where you end up with a family years after joining but that can be planned out and can work in your favor to keep you close by your family possibly.
Tony kept it RAW and it was needed! I heard a TV Judge say, "women will never win playing games." This man wanted to be involved with his son, while so many men opt out and/or make excuses.
“This sound like a bad lifetime movie” 🤣
😂😂😂
Very bad
Her son being in his father’s life, ... regardless of her own hurt, pain, disappointments/consequences 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 is the bigger picture now
This video is so convicting for me. I’m kicking myself for doing a man wrong who’s similar to the guy she’s describing. I had a party mindset, low self esteem & zero direction when I met a similar man but I was sooo young even younger than the young lady in the video. He wanted to marry me and treated me like GOLD and I wasn’t even able to wrap my head around what that even was. now at 35 I understand him so much better, realize I was safe with him and should have treated him better. Praying that I find one like him again as I prepare for marriage.
"Yo Auntie Grown and Musty" - TG 😭😩😩
Brother Tony, I'm a single dad.. I would love to share my story with you and your audience.... I'm a single dad and would like to send you a email with my inspired message and story of the year for all these good brothers/Father's......
. It used too be a DEAD BEAT DAD!!! 2021. NOW ITS DEADBEAT MOMS...GOD Bless you.. AMEN!!!
Please do. We’ve only had one man write in so far
Young lady, you do not need to be worried about this man, you need to heal, GROW UP and take care of your baby.
I am glad it is a baby you caught❗.
You can change your life.
Also please think of that baby who sure needs a father. Keep listening to Tony and get close to Jesus.
It’s still the child’s father.
I found your videos a little to late but better late than never. I was doing good but doing way better now. Thanks. I wished I found it at 25. Be blessed.
Call it what it is “ look what games have cost you “ you didn’t know how to received a honest man .
“Congratulations here go a cookie”...Gets me every time!! 😅😂🤣
"Whoeva wrongest, gets read the bestest!" ~TG
Makes perfect sense 👌🏾 😅😅
I really appreciate Mr.Gaskins .. I’m 23 his wisdom has help me to prevent & learn from these mistakes cause I’m most definitely not in a rush just growing & elevating
On another note, this should also serve as an alert to men who chase women who don't want them. It is not always playing hard to get, just leave them alone before the damage is done.
I bet she wasn't expecting this lol
😂
True 👍
Tony I love and appreciate how you beak everything down ( and act it out 🤣) for us!!!! You also read between the lines and really get down to raw truth!!! It should be taught in school… I am in my 50’s and I pray that the young ladies on here will listen to your warnings!!! ❤️
I teach and this kids are coming out of 8th grade with 2 babies . I try the best I can to educate this young girls and boys on how to make better choices. Must of all I encourage them to read the word and to follow TG .
I think someone also advised the guy not to marry her because of the games she was playing and not really into him. He may not be that mature, but he seems to have people in his life to support and guide him away from playing the fool over her and he is listening.
Yea lil sis was being very immature. All good though, that baby will get you right together and for sure start making you think wiser. If I could give advice I’d say try and work out the anxiety or anxiousness you have for the relationship with the dad. Don’t be on a string for him but you need to just have patience and if it works out then thank God. In the meantime just keep the focus on the baby with him nothing extra just healthily co parent with him. That will make a case for him warming back up to you, if not then so be it.
This is the best 'Talks with Tony' I've ever seen.
Please.. please PLEASE : follow through with that idea of getting relationship curriculum to middle/high schoolers. This young lady’s story is TOO common and too relatable. A program or course like that for our youth would be absolutely monumental. 🙏 God bless Tony
Yep, this immature lil girl wanted to play and use this man. She didn't like him, thought he was boring...til she was pregnant with his child. Then, he was supposed to MIRACULOUSLY want to provide for her and his child.
I can’t believe she said she wanted to get back together but long distance. What sense does that make? Along with the mind games she’s playing with a child involved smh this why we got these red pill boys out here.
You trying to play chess but really playing checkers 😂
It’s because she wants to lock him down, knowing he’s a good man, he most likely will be faithful if he has those sort of values, while she can stay out in Cali and continue to date (cheat) and find the man she really wants, but she’s not sure she can find someone better yet. She might think if he finds someone else, it might take away some of the attention he gives her, and the focus will only remain on the child. She doesn’t want that. She wants him to want her, even though she doesn’t want him. It’s a selfish, narcissistic way of thinking.
There sounds like childhood pain from how she reacted to the abandonment. Not everyone wants to live the military lifestyle because he’s willing to change and maintain the discipline to follow the military structure says a lot. Let it go, sweetie. He could've told you to find someone else to take care of you while the baby was in your stomach. He was there and just scared because he's ready to step up, just frightened.
That’s exactly what it sounds like TG . I’ve been hearing and seeing stuff like this for years and nothing has change.
You know California too expensive if Elon Musk relocated from Cali to Texas
Great point ! Lol 💯
Born and raised here. It’s no joke😳
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“Whoever the wrongest, gots ta get readed”! 💯 sistah! Take this lesson to grow and do better. Before I started listening to big brother Tony, I never even thought about emotional intelligence. Emotional maturity is key to leveling up and personal growth but I feel not enough people talk about it. You’re still young and the fact that you’re reaching out now shows you’re headed in the right direction. Blessing to you and anyone else in a situation like this. 💕
He’s not lying. I’ll be 25 next month. Had the “college experience” and got pregnant. Moved back to Alabama from Georgia to get away from my toxic CF. Literally thought this would never happen to me and it certainly did.
Wanted to add, I’m not a medical professional but he may experience nocturnal panic attacks. I have them, they’re scary until you know what you’re dealing with. Basically, you have a panic attack in your sleep and it actually wakes you up. It can have symptoms that make you feel like a heart attack, like pulse raising, elevated heart rate, etc.
Why are women out here letting men finish inside them unprotected, knowing the consequences.... :/
Low self esteem.
@@cd1452 you are right
🤮🤮🤮 young and dumb. Not thinking about diseases and spirits whatsoever!!
Ignorance and following society that don’t care nothing about them
SOMETIMES it's because they're under the influence (notice I said sometimes). When you're under the influence you don't think clearly. Your judgement is clouded & that's why since my last unplanned pregnancy I have decided to leave things that cloud my judgement alone so that I am able to think clearly and make better choices that I will not regret later. On the other hand you have women that simply do it because they feel as if it'll keep a man in their life. Either way I'm glad I came across Mr. Gaskins channel and hope that women no matter the age can take heed and grow.
Please, please let this man be a father to his child. My ex was a sorry excuse for father...left me alone rt after i got home from the hospital to check on things down at some property he owned the beach (yeah, right). You can tell this man is all in....mine didnt want to be bothered. I wish I had a man who was just a fraction of what this one is like.
"Whoever the wronge-est gotta get read-eat the most-est!" Period, TG! Period!
This woman is delusional entitled and really full of herself. She wants to make the guy suffer cuz she knows he's a good man. I bet if he was acting like he didn't care she would have a different attitude
Speak on it
Need to do my catching up ! Glad when my life calms down I can still count on a video Mr. Gaskins 🙏🏾 Thank you for all you do. God bless 💕
Wow, young lady focus on your growth and healing and as brother Tony said# When you play mind games everyone loses# You made a mistake, he is a decent guy trust me he trying to be there for his child
As easy as it is to judge her and say she deserves this for messing up with him, lets all remember the mistakes we made at 22 🥴 It’s just so unfortunate she has a WHOLE BABY to remind her of this life lesson.
😂 I live in California, and I personally never heard that saying of the "Fruits, nuts, and the flakes" 🤣😩🤣 but I can see exactly what mean 🥴😭😂
Brilliant idea! Do a middle school and high school curriculum on love and relationships!
This was much needed talk. Love the points that were made. Coach T keep the gems coming please.
Great advice ! Sometimes you have to take accountability for your actions and understand you cannot always have the perfect story that you first imagined, especially if you've done mistakes of your own that had consequences which change the course of your life, but you can do the best from now on with what you have. You cannot expect him to treat you as if he knew you for years because you didn't build on love or friendship, but you can start building now and do the best for your baby.
Tony said “if you wanna be a mommy blogger then say that” 💀😂😂😂
I listened to Mr. Tony read this letter twice looking to hear where this man was a no good man and still couldn't find. It's women like this that turn men into a savage. You know how many women would wished their baby daddy called atleast once a month but here you are thinking you're the best diamond around pushing a man who's trying to do right away. Some of you women really like the no good men huh. He's the one who shouldn't have been on your level but here you are thinking you can drag him along because you can get another in a heartbeat. Sis, check yourself before you fully reck yourself. Be blessed.
🤦♀️🤣🤣🤣😭 when he said I'm going to California
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Looka hea nie Tony, I’m from Mississipi 🙄 DON’T START!!! 😂😂😂😂
Sis is the star of AN INCREDIBLY BAD LIFETIME MOVIE!!! 😂😂😂
Young, dumb, & full of "rum"...Tony cracks me up. But he's right tho'!😆😂🤣
When I was in my 20’s all I wanted to do was party and have fun. Baby and relationships was not even a thought. I don’t understand these young folks its crazy
Chill because I’m 21 and yeah I do want to have fun ( travel, shopping, and having women’s night out) but I don’t even want kids not even thinking about kids but a relationship I don’t mind,
Yes I never understood the girls having babies in our early 20s. I just wanted to have fun and party, not be someone’s baby mama
Bro Tony this message was on point with so much wisdom to this young girl . Am hoping by now she has moved back to her home town and she let the child be in the dad's life.
Omg Tony I take you so serious but at the same time your animations are HILARIOUS!!! 🤣🤣🤣
You told her like it is. She might not have realized the out come, but she makes it hard for a woman who's looking for that good man. Thank you Tony
This is an amazing story. So many points. Yes, this is a decent man!
I loved how you broke this all down, enjoyed every minute of it. Yes, when women are in the wrong, they need to get checked too. No man is perfect, at least he was trying. Youngin’s stay off your back unless you’re ready to face the consequences!
You want California Dreams……Tony got me ROLLING OVER HERE 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣😂😂
You can't go forward until you analyze your past. Amen oui
I wish I had this channel 16 years ago and you yes 8th curriculum is perfect maybe middle school in general
Am I the only one that thinks he still shouldn’t have done what he did with not contacting her for two months when he knew she was pregnant with his child? I would have strong grudges too lol. You weren’t there for me when I needed you at the most vulnerable time and now once the baby is born you want to make an effort. He’s the one that started the pettiness. It was his business and initial duty to reach out not hers.
Welp... This is just an example of what God tries to protect us from. Stay abstinent and avoid fornication 🤷🏾🙏🏾
@HeyyAshleyyy Trying to be grown, but acting like a child. She didn't even want him. She's mad at the baby's daddy because he stood her up 2 months ago for a zoo date.😆 What kinda mom is she gonna be? Then, with no job, no money gonna move to CA, the most expensive place in the US to punish him? 😂😂😂
She's much worse than he is. And childish!
I agree girl! Everybody is blaming her when he was wrong too! We’ve all been 22 & making mistakes
I agree. They were both in the wrong but nonetheless it’s about how they tried to come back from their initial wrongs. He decided to step up and she decided to be petty about it.
Great answers Mr. Gaskins, very true to life experiences shared in your answers.
This whole video was a word!!! Thank you Tony!!
Tony thanks for your ministry.
So many of our ppl are moving without intention, purpose or discipline. Completely moving in emotion and immaturely bc we are not taught anything about relationships. Lord knows it took me so long bc i had no mentorship, poor examples and even worse advice from my blind friends.
The comedy skit at 22:25😂🤣😂!
I know right!!!😂😂😂
This is definately wasn't a savage man, she really could've grown to love and value him because he was very much a gentleman to her, many women would give an arm and a leg to even get this energy from their baby daddies. That baby doesn't need to be raised in a single household if this lady isn't shallow and childish.
Be blessed!
Another good video Tony. What a immature woman she is, a "grown girl". I hope she will look inward and learn from her mistakes and bad attitude and hope that young girls will see this and learn what not to do. God bless you Tony.
Yessss Tony!!! Please do something for the teens!!!
Tony, you talked about both my home state and current state of 20 years now. I'm still laughing, getting this knowledge, and passing it on. Much respect to you Sir. Thanks
Yes this is a good brother/father tighten up little sis
Mr. Tony is on God's side and will say what God says to say period
Alabama or Mississippi! Tony a low-key comedian! Working in the call center! 😂
Tony said any other man would have lost her number!! 😂 It's funny because it's true!😩
Young lady stop playing games. You were too immature and ill prepared to even have a child. Be sincere and direct, genuine with him about what you want and raise the family you chose to start together. Yeah he had breathing problems! High anxiety dealing with the pressure of becoming a parent too young!! You should've shown empathy just as you want. Grow up quick.
Someone else will get that young man . He saw after that moved she did she wasn’t his wife . Glad he learn early before going threw a lifetime of misery with her games .
Why are newly dating people having sex and since they act like they must do it, why is It unprotected?
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People have s3x with strangers, dating isn't a prerequisite for it. Hook-up culture, casual s3x is real in America. It's a tragic state.
@@karamelbuttafly3624 IMO, “hook-up culture” & dating are two totally different things. If I’m looking at someone as s potential mate, I wouldn’t have that mindset to behave so recklessly. I don’t jive with this “hook-up culture “ because it’s only a means of self-devaluation. Maybe they started out as just a hook-up which is kind of what she was implying by saying she wanted to continue living the “college experience”. IDK but we see IRL and from this video what “hook-up culture” does to people and the community at large. It’s a really sad situation.
These young girls be having babies. Not realizing there expectations are only a fantasy!
I thank you Tony, keeping it honest, genuine. By the way your advice would be a true gem 💎 for so many young people - multiplying blessing if you would actually catch their attention in 8th-9th grade ….
Tony please keep keeping it real Amen 🙏🏽
Tough Love. Good session. God Bless!
Good afternoon Mr. Gaskins
You are a blessed cool dude the way you make those faces make me laugh 😂 to be anointed serious and informative and funny God has a big sense of humor have an awesome safe Week 🙏♥️
If he has common sense, I hope he know to move on with his life, because he should realize that YOU do not want him and is just playing insane mind games. You need to co-parent only. Tony enjoyed your teaching as always, God bless you and your family.
Don't move to Atlanta! We FULL!! 🤣🤣🤣
On everything 💯 thank u for keeping it real with her and us !!
Is someone compiling a top 5 list for talks with Tony? This one has to be at least at a 2.
But don't be so hard on Auntie, she love her niece.