Is he wasting my time? | Talks with Tony

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  • Опубликовано: 13 янв 2025

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  • @stilljocelyn4166
    @stilljocelyn4166 3 года назад +438

    We women break our own hearts sometimes. 😞

    • @dashafenty9969
      @dashafenty9969 3 года назад +13

      YESSS THISSS PART RIGHT HERE !!!!

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 3 года назад +12

      My sentiments exactly I feel so sorry for her

    • @ilenek.5428
      @ilenek.5428 3 года назад +15

      "A man who will ghost u will steal your son's lunch"! U need to copyright, monetize, excercise copyright infringement rights on that one Tony! Get to it. Dont waste no time on that one ;) Quotes from Tony. Lol. You might have yourself another income stream that you dont need.

    • @mymakersdaughter6041
      @mymakersdaughter6041 3 года назад +5

      Oh that’s a word!!

    • @beautifulj2952
      @beautifulj2952 3 года назад +6

      A lot of times

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 3 года назад +367

    “Never start talking to someone if you don’t want anything serious.” TG.

  • @mareelovely
    @mareelovely 3 года назад +299

    Ladies, your most valuable possession is...your...time. Stop giving it away. You can't get it back. If a man is just there for play-play and you not, move on.

  • @DawnOfKelly
    @DawnOfKelly 3 года назад +259

    Most every job fires you for no call, no show... that’s what ghosting should cost too.

  • @noorbokore2802
    @noorbokore2802 3 года назад +477

    The real issue is that the dating culture has changed so much that people are starving for a relationship. It is human nature to want a connection. Women take whatever they get, lying to themselves about what it is. Proving, tap dancing, doing the most and getting nothing in return. I have been there more than once and am older than her. I am just starting to truly understand men and not the misinformation I was told. Thank goodness for Tony Gaskins for leveling the playing field may he be blessed for doing this tedious work!

    • @Bgrace15
      @Bgrace15 3 года назад +15

      True story!

    • @jenniferthompson5146
      @jenniferthompson5146 3 года назад +36

      Same, I really feel for her because I wasted 3 years on a guy that I knew did not really want me. Thank goodness I am wiser now.

    • @mmxw2294
      @mmxw2294 3 года назад +35

      Women are giving into lust upfront and early and it’s so bad I can’t step out to get something to eat without meeting a BM that is trying to take me home the same day of meeting me and I carry myself respectfully and you’re right we humans are geared to want companionship but this abuse has to stop we are not slaves we have a soul a heart a brain love yourself ❤️ stay strong

    • @takeauthority30
      @takeauthority30 3 года назад +29

      So true. But we can't give in to nonsense. Better to be alone that be in a situationship.

    • @Anairis0701
      @Anairis0701 3 года назад +25

      Yes but it’s really because of humans sin nature. People are becoming more lovers of self; hearts waxing cold. End days.

  • @mileyroe4877
    @mileyroe4877 3 года назад +250

    Walk away from confusion. When someone loves, values and wants you in their life, you will know because you'll see it in their actions.

  • @OkJess0404
    @OkJess0404 3 года назад +274

    Yes, he is playing you. He makes you happier than you do yourself-he is playing you. He enjoys being single and ghosts you too? He never comes to see you-IN TWO YEARS??? Please get off this roller coaster now!

    • @AidaRivera
      @AidaRivera 3 года назад +4

      Thank you ❤️

    • @blacksongbird100
      @blacksongbird100 3 года назад +2

      Right! That's the FIRST sign that something is wrong with you, not just him. You are hurt and haven't healed. The person you meet should make you feel AS comfortable being yourself with them as you are alone NOT MORE. More means that you are lacking balance.

    • @renchemarais8419
      @renchemarais8419 3 года назад +1

      🙏

    • @renchemarais8419
      @renchemarais8419 3 года назад +1

      @@blacksongbird100 🙏. THANKYOU

    • @usonjecheonga8751
      @usonjecheonga8751 3 года назад +2

      Mines ghosts...cant talk on the phone or cuts it unexpectedly....saying his brother is with him....never told his friends he is in a relationship...trust me had to let go....

  • @missmarymack3457
    @missmarymack3457 3 года назад +258

    “If a man won’t commit, you must quit because he’s treating you like spit!” TG❤️❤️❤️

    • @Brwnskinnkisha
      @Brwnskinnkisha 3 года назад +4

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @lorettawhite2790
      @lorettawhite2790 3 года назад +4

      This!!!!!👏👏👏👏👏lol

    • @deliteful1991
      @deliteful1991 3 года назад +10

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 why I thought of Johnny Cochran.

    • @redeemed1352
      @redeemed1352 3 года назад +1

      That was a good one.

    • @renchemarais8419
      @renchemarais8419 3 года назад +1

      Then he use your precious time for free education. Tips & TRICKS I've raised one and then he told me he had enough, he even thanked me for the lots of good lessons learned! Talking about time wasted and giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

  • @tarahbruno3793
    @tarahbruno3793 3 года назад +122

    “ he hasn’t slept with anyone but me in two years”. Tony made the face we were all making 😂

    • @gletsayaaasantewaa2793
      @gletsayaaasantewaa2793 3 года назад +9

      Yes, I cracked up when he looked in the camera!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @ieshjust16
      @ieshjust16 3 года назад +1

      💀💀💀😅

    • @Momo_carol
      @Momo_carol 2 года назад +2

      I laughed so hard!!!

    • @pacific88ocean37
      @pacific88ocean37 2 года назад +8

      Then he 26 🎯 that sex drive high they be trying to manage 2-4 females 😂😯

  • @emi-bs9rv
    @emi-bs9rv 3 года назад +322

    He's taking advantage of her kindness and love. He's getting the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one! Save yourself and your peace, leave and move on! ❤️

  • @karmicaquarius
    @karmicaquarius 3 года назад +145

    please ladies, LISTEN when a man says anything along the lines of wanting to be single, "not being tied down", "just going with the flow", etc.
    HE DOESN'T WANT YOU! but he will keep you around to leech off your energy, your emotions, your body (if you allow), & so on.
    when you start catching on he'll try to breadcrumb you back into his game. in the end, you're just a placeholder to him.
    gone bout yo' business! it'll sting at first but you'll save so much time (you'll never get back) & heartache in the long run.
    trust, i used to be that woman but i learned the hard way.

    • @noorbokore2802
      @noorbokore2802 3 года назад +13

      Facts! Taking your energy. It is hard though, even when you know it to be true. I will never again jump head first...not looking before leaping. NEVER! It is too hard to get out.

    • @Dragonfly_magictarot
      @Dragonfly_magictarot 3 года назад +1

      I get you, thank you for sharing your experience

    • @Dragonfly_magictarot
      @Dragonfly_magictarot 3 года назад +1

      @@noorbokore2802 yes ma'am

    • @officialwatchamber
      @officialwatchamber 3 года назад +2

      ‼️‼️‼️

    • @caramelfox4807
      @caramelfox4807 3 года назад +8

      This! I've been here, the situationship lasted 3 months but took a whole year for me to recover. Ladies please listen.

  • @my.0224
    @my.0224 3 года назад +135

    Wish I had a Tony Gaskins in my life in my 20s.

    • @mymakersdaughter6041
      @mymakersdaughter6041 3 года назад +3

      🙋🏾‍♀️

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 3 года назад +3

      Same!

    • @TheHaute108
      @TheHaute108 3 года назад +1

      I said the same thing when I discovered him lol

    • @nacoyarussell185
      @nacoyarussell185 3 года назад +1

      Yessss! Had I had these facts in my 20s, life would be different 😳

    • @Kari_Michele
      @Kari_Michele 3 года назад +2

      Me too... it would’ve saved me a lotta heartache 😢

  • @r.e45
    @r.e45 3 года назад +139

    Woman please stop wanting “Love” more than you Love YOURSELVES ‼️🤞🏾

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +3

      SELF LOVE! BELOVED! AND OTHERS WILL LOVE U BACK! KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD! AND PRAY FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL!

    • @mouniadia1951
      @mouniadia1951 3 года назад

      @Raven Eagle-- Amen to this !!

  • @DynamicallyDC
    @DynamicallyDC 3 года назад +177

    🗣 "Love doesn't leave question marks. Love answers every question!!!" 🙌🏽💯

    • @practicalteachingchronicle6631
      @practicalteachingchronicle6631 3 года назад +2

      Good analysis

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +2

      SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

    • @beckyjade8931
      @beckyjade8931 3 года назад +1

      👐 drop the mic

    • @corethiamilo9542
      @corethiamilo9542 2 года назад +1

      Tony I am 64 years old happy birthday coming up in July I will be 65 never in my life have I truly understand men after I watch your videos on RUclips just looking and God bless you in my path I am no longer dating means and telling no one but God he's the only one that my heart is trusting and believing in I'm enjoying my life so much thank you so much for opening my eyes I could not have done this without you I knew it one time I was thinking about committing suicide but I listen that you everyday I know things I need to know about a man I am so happy that God placed you in my life thank you for myself and all my sisters will appreciate you so much now a man cannot use me I am such a wise person now thank you may God bless you

  • @Theruffinfamily
    @Theruffinfamily 3 года назад +267

    To everyone who’s watching I hope you achieve your dreams❤️

  • @irene6109
    @irene6109 3 года назад +93

    “If all he needs is time, I’m willing to wait.” Girl, your time is your most precious gift. You ain’t never gonna get it back, and tomorrow is never promised!!!

  • @bamya5303
    @bamya5303 3 года назад +142

    Who else miss Tony yelling “Track Shoes!!” ? Sometimes you gotta laugh to keep from crying cause you know you been in that same situation.

  • @InTheRecoveryRoom
    @InTheRecoveryRoom 3 года назад +250

    Me in the mirror:
    “ Repeat after me, Cyrene’ LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT REAL TO MEN”

    • @irismac
      @irismac 3 года назад +17

      I’ve had to drill that in my mind as well!! Smh

    • @christinewarren8134
      @christinewarren8134 3 года назад +17

      In order for it to resonate in your head and actually work you got to say it three times like Candyman 🙃

    • @britt2224
      @britt2224 3 года назад +4

      @ Dr Cyrene Wright thank you mam that’s a whole world 😘

    • @DC-8-8-8-
      @DC-8-8-8- 3 года назад +2

      Taking note 📝 😆

    • @nijay8267
      @nijay8267 3 года назад +4

      @@christinewarren8134 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @CaramelCuban
    @CaramelCuban 3 года назад +87

    I feel like men whom Fathers abandoned them at adolescent age; inflict this pain on women by ghosting them 🤔

  • @chloethemessenger
    @chloethemessenger 3 года назад +124

    I’m not going to lie this was me once upon a time. When you love someone you trust them and give them the benefit of the doubt. So you overlook all the red damn flags and the false promises and forgive and forgive and forgive until your forgiveness gas tank is empty. By the time you wake up to the delusion 5 years has passed. I take responsibility for that. Smh. On the flip side it’s sad to see men treat women like this. Especially those who know their biological clock is ticking. For these men it’s just a game. I feel for her because I’ve been there too 🥺💔

  • @Nel164
    @Nel164 3 года назад +139

    Honestly she pointed out the red flags herself then proceeded to ask if she’s wasting her time despite wanting to continue to be there for him and waiting for him to come around. The worst thing to do to yourself is be in denial of being treated badly but also allowing yourself to keep being hurt for the sake of a one sided relationship. Good will come when you turn that energy inward and invest that love you want to give to yourself

    • @kilimanjaro5537
      @kilimanjaro5537 3 года назад +14

      “Good will come when you turn that energy inward and invest that love you want to give to yourself.” Amen

    • @mogetit5999
      @mogetit5999 3 года назад +8

      Beautifully stated!

    • @denisemyers733
      @denisemyers733 2 года назад

      Love yourself key word! Put up boundaries and accountability, standards and put it into actions. and watch what you don’t put up with ..

  • @toriyt2714
    @toriyt2714 3 года назад +125

    A few mins in and I just want to tell her and anyone else who is in a similar situation....it is NOT and CAN NOT be about how you feel about him. This woman is highly wrapped up into how SHE feels when with him. All you hear is how she feels in this letter. (Which we’ve all been there and understand). She has not learned yet that it is very important to pay attention to how the other person feels about you. He has to feel the same if not more. You have to get over how you feel and pay attention because a relationship can’t work off your very strong feelings alone. He does want a commitment it’s just not to you. You are not it for him. But you will be to someone else soon as you’re actually available.

    • @reinaquisha9418
      @reinaquisha9418 3 года назад +5

      💯

    • @lashondarochell7584
      @lashondarochell7584 3 года назад +11

      Girl what you wrote is so on point I wish I would have had someone tell me that when I was in my situationship last year, but Praise GOD 🙏 I got out of that mess and know my WORTH!!!!

    • @chloethemessenger
      @chloethemessenger 3 года назад +1

      So true ‼️

    • @gletsayaaasantewaa2793
      @gletsayaaasantewaa2793 3 года назад

      Teach sis!✊🏾

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 3 года назад

      sometimes they dont , similar situations but he wouldnt see me really, met me once a year after , my legs and home are closed until marriage. now he is with other women unmarried for years so not committed

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +72

    I made the same mistake, not seeing a person and situation for what it was. Wasted 8 years. What a hard lesson to learn. Thanks Tony.

  • @ysmithriley
    @ysmithriley 3 года назад +71

    I don't even have to watch this. If you have to ask "IS HE WASTING MY TIME", the answer is a RESOUNDING YESSSS!!!, 🤨☹

  • @joanna6570
    @joanna6570 3 года назад +40

    “If he won’t commit, QUIT” it’s literally as simple as that. Overthinking situations can get you stuck for longer than need be.

    • @cillamorales6274
      @cillamorales6274 3 года назад +3

      Took me 7 years to realize this. So damn sad.

    • @joanna6570
      @joanna6570 3 года назад +1

      Cilla Morales it took me 5 years. But you realised it in the end which is the main thing. And you took so many lessons from it which made you grow as a person. You know you’ll NEVER be in that sort of situation for that long again. You’ll be able to see the red flags much sooner rather than later and go bout yo business! I see my experience as a blessing because it happened from the ages from 21 to 26. Ever since I’ve spotted red flags I would of just ignored before. You & I have more wisdom now, be thankful girl 😌

    • @veebliss1266
      @veebliss1266 11 месяцев назад

      @@cillamorales6274girl you give them 3-4 months max after 5-6 dates they will know if they want to commit do not give them more than that!! Ghost them!!

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 3 года назад +105

    “He’s ain’t no loyal dawg, he’s a stray dawg.” TG

  • @maiyajones5814
    @maiyajones5814 3 года назад +77

    The fact that she said others have told her to move on is problematic. She don't want see the truth he's handing her. He will keep playing her as long as she let him

    • @javonne2561
      @javonne2561 3 года назад +9

      Tony calls smoke but some of us ladies wait to get burned.. it hasn't hit her yet but the burn is on the way

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 3 года назад +2

      Warning sign to us.

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 3 года назад

      The more I reflect on this saying, I can see myself in it.

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 3 года назад

      Oh no!

  • @j-tenn226
    @j-tenn226 3 года назад +77

    I don’t know if Tony is intentionally funny but this whole video had me in tears. I’m talking continually laughing.

    • @itsheraleahlashay
      @itsheraleahlashay 3 года назад +3

      I swear I thought I was the only one 🤣🤣 I’m like literally in tears I had to see if anyone else was too lol

  • @tjelks
    @tjelks 3 года назад +98

    Please listen to Tony ladies!!! I wasted years in a similar situation. He is telling the TRUTH!! STOP WASTING YOUR TIME. Don’t talk to him and get pulled back in. If he has disappeared let him go, change your number and let it burn!!! Take time snd heal, listen to every video Tony and others have. Read, get therapy, what EVER you need to do to cut the soul tie. God bless you! ❤️

    • @donaowes8701
      @donaowes8701 3 года назад +7

      BLOCK HIM!

    • @ozzy9209
      @ozzy9209 3 года назад +2

      Amen!

    • @angelsmile9789
      @angelsmile9789 3 года назад +4

      Come on Now Sis👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @kha_leesi2596
      @kha_leesi2596 3 года назад +3

      💯 I had a guy tell me his cousin is coming over and he would be unavailable that weekend😂😂. I was like what now?
      Ain't no way that gonna fly.
      Put my 'Sherlock Holmes' hat on and found out he had a whole other woman!Nonsense! Cut him off,deleted,& blocked and to this day he wonder's what happened😂😂

  • @VintageAfro91
    @VintageAfro91 3 года назад +254

    As soon as I heard “talking for 2 years” I was like abort mission immediately 🖐🏾

  • @devjohnson3783
    @devjohnson3783 3 года назад +100

    98% of long distance relationships are fake and just games for most men. I was played and saw other women/ men get played by long distance relationships. Personally right now, I am rebuilding my relationship because we ended up becoming long distance due to covid. Long distance is difficult and it puts a strain on a love, respect and trust built relationship. Please do not start a relationship long distance, it dose not normally end well. Good luck to all of these lovely ladies.

    • @user-zx5xw4yw2e
      @user-zx5xw4yw2e 3 года назад +19

      98% of relationships period, are fake and just games for most men. 😀

    • @musicmaker1311
      @musicmaker1311 3 года назад +4

      @@user-zx5xw4yw2e 💯💯💯💯

    • @DC-8-8-8-
      @DC-8-8-8- 3 года назад +4

      Short distance relationships were just as bad as long distance ones. The distance never stopped anyone from being a hot mess.

    • @BashaerB-h2c
      @BashaerB-h2c 9 месяцев назад

      It’s a conquest for a lot of people. Long distance gives them plenty of time to go “hunt” for other options.

  • @fabulousmdb7927
    @fabulousmdb7927 3 года назад +89

    Every woman thinks she is the exception, unfortunately 😔 the good thing is she's learning early

  • @Fel_e_Chronicles
    @Fel_e_Chronicles 3 года назад +114

    Uh oh, that look... why Tony making us laugh when he reads this woman's troubles. Oh my 😅😂

    • @francenealexandre7904
      @francenealexandre7904 3 года назад +5

      THIS BROTHER IS A TRIP💯 WHILST GIVING PURE TRUTH AND HONESTY🙏 MAKES ME LAUGH FROM BEGINNING TO END OF ALL OF HIS VIDEOS👌GREAT INTELLECTUAL RELATIONAL SKILLS AT A SIT DOWN COMEDIC LEVEL☝🏆👑

    • @LadyVA0422
      @LadyVA0422 3 года назад +2

      I was laughing soooooo hard. I don’t think he understands how funny he is lol

  • @misspeacelove7395
    @misspeacelove7395 3 года назад +44

    Every time a man mistreats you it eats a little part of you, bit by bit. It´s hard leaving/cutting someone out of your life but it´s much harder rebuilding yourself

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +4

      AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

    • @Ohne920
      @Ohne920 2 года назад

      👏🏾👏🏾🌹

  • @reginastevens7673
    @reginastevens7673 3 года назад +37

    1. BLESSED N HIGHLY FAVORED
    2.CONFUSED NO MORE

  • @n.Lenice
    @n.Lenice 3 года назад +60

    Please leave him alone lil sis. I've been there. You are in your city, not living your life because you are so wrapped up with him. You are hanging on and pausing your life, only pushing play for the couple of days YOU go see HIM - make that make sense??? You aren't enjoying the things you like to do, because you feel guilty about doing them without him (trust- he does NOT feel the same). You aren't exploring and making new friends and connections that could enrich your young life because you're living for your weekend trips to visits and the few daily hours of conversation... when he decides to give them to you, right? Because when he's too busy to entertain you or just all together ghosts you for weeks at a time, you spend that ENTIRE time looking and feeling crazy until finally, you see the phone light up with that ol tired, "Hey wyd".
    Meanwhile, in his city, his life isn't missing a beat, I'd bet he's doing THE absolute most and living his best life to date- all while you dangle on a string, at his whim. Your intuition had you write Tony, because deep down you know you're being played. If you didn't know to what extent and how - now you do. Please don't waste anymore of your precious time. There's too many of us here that have done that for you a million times over. I wish I had this knowledge and OVERstood what my worth was at your age. I'd go back and get the 6 years of my life I wasted in my 20s with a utter and complete fool. Please take the advice and leave. Blessings.

    • @n.Lenice
      @n.Lenice 3 года назад +4

      @@genxx2724 Girl, if I could go back and do just that! I missed out on soo much.

    • @n.Lenice
      @n.Lenice 3 года назад +2

      @@genxx2724 You telling my former life too! Chile🙄🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @n.Lenice
      @n.Lenice 3 года назад +9

      @@genxx2724 Chile he lost them good looks, huh? 🤣
      Last I heard, my Ex was in and out of jail due to child support (baby he had with a girl while he was with me🤦🏾‍♀️). I think he has several other children, but I don't ask specifics, I just ask God to bless them all. I'm just so thankful God saved me. 🙌🏾

    • @n.Lenice
      @n.Lenice 3 года назад +4

      @@genxx2724 Girl YES!
      I'll take the lessons learned over the life sentence of misery an-T-day👍🏽

    • @CiaobellaAmour
      @CiaobellaAmour 3 года назад +1

      Preach ! All facts💁🏽‍♀

  • @Zoe66895
    @Zoe66895 3 года назад +75

    When I heard the “I’m the only one going to see him” I knew at that moment. If someone really felt like they wanted to be with you in general it wouldn’t be one sided. Even if someone doesn’t have a car they will find a way to get to you! Let it go.

  • @patricebrown777
    @patricebrown777 3 года назад +46

    If she had to ask or wonder,.. she's been answered

  • @SugaSuga008
    @SugaSuga008 3 года назад +55

    This is why I hate to see women getting bashed for choosing to be single especially after 30. Most women deal with men like this just to have a piece of a man so society won’t judge. Truth be told, there’s an abundance of men running around acting like little boys and some women don’t have the energy to whip them into shape so they’ll rather stay single for their own peace. I don’t blame those women.

    • @ew0711
      @ew0711 3 года назад +7

      This right here, sums it all up. Too old to be wasting time going NOWHERE 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @baddlizz
      @baddlizz 3 года назад +11

      Exactly...says more about the supply of men available when women are out here choosing singleness instead of them.

  • @javonne2561
    @javonne2561 3 года назад +156

    She's addicted to him. Not real love.

    • @maddy4130
      @maddy4130 3 года назад

      You really don't know that.

    • @javonne2561
      @javonne2561 3 года назад +20

      Okay I don't. Sorry if I am wrong. But this sounds to me like an unhealthy infatuation, someone is stuck in the fantasy and good feelings, not listening to common sense, extremely blind to the games, making excuses for him, still willing to wait for him like that. I only say this because I've experienced similar "love" and got so defensive anytime someone tried to talk sense with me. She deserves better that's all. Hindsight is 20/20. This is just one stranger's opinion on the internet and I don't know anything.

    • @maddy4130
      @maddy4130 3 года назад +2

      I just dont think it's fair to tell someone their love for someone is not true. It may not be reciprocated, but it can be true. She may be doing her best.

    • @Anairis0701
      @Anairis0701 3 года назад +10

      Yes he became her god. Sad.

    • @joanna6570
      @joanna6570 3 года назад +6

      Agreed, a very unhealthy stronghold only on her behalf.

  • @lekeshial418
    @lekeshial418 3 года назад +82

    The *stare into the camera * after "he hasn't slept with anyone but me, in 2 yrs".
    🤦🏽‍♀️Oh dear!
    It's really important to brief yourself on men.(stay updated)Watch some other channels of men ,(who behave opposite of TG)read books, articles, follow the trends etc. Get to know the typical and the non-traditional man, as a whole. "At times of peace prepare for war."

    • @jamieanitabryant3699
      @jamieanitabryant3699 3 года назад +6

      I agree with you 100%; also a simpler avenue is to know thyself. Do the work, get counseling-the counseling is less expensive than a moderately priced meal.

    • @Lovemeluvme83
      @Lovemeluvme83 3 года назад +3

      Right that part had me like 😳

    • @lekeshial418
      @lekeshial418 3 года назад +10

      @@jamieanitabryant3699 Counseling is a great avenue, but sadly there are plenty women who claim to know themselves and still get played, because they aren't privy to the inner workings and schemes of these men. Men who brief themselves on us. Specifically to con us.

    • @lekeshial418
      @lekeshial418 3 года назад

      @@Lovemeluvme83 spoke volumes..

    • @user-kpkxgtj
      @user-kpkxgtj 3 года назад +1

      @@lekeshial418 she really believes it too. 😔

  • @aneshrathomas
    @aneshrathomas 3 года назад +173

    The way Mr.Tony paused & starred when she said “ he hasn’t slept with anyone in two years cept me” 😂😩🤦🏾‍♀️ it ain’t funny but it’s sad that us women can be so naive and gullible ..wake up and smell the coffee plzzz

    • @jamieanitabryant3699
      @jamieanitabryant3699 3 года назад +23

      I almost fell out my office chair with the 'blinking eyes'.

    • @kilimanjaro5537
      @kilimanjaro5537 3 года назад +10

      It’s so accurate too. That part has me cackling 😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️.

    • @LovelyOne0075
      @LovelyOne0075 3 года назад +15

      My sister and I were watching it together and turned and looked at each other, then looked back at the screen and saw his side eye 😂

    • @Leci_Bella24
      @Leci_Bella24 3 года назад +4

      😩🤣 Same

    • @LadyVA0422
      @LadyVA0422 3 года назад +4

      😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @GoodGrief101
    @GoodGrief101 3 года назад +87

    She is wasting her time and having a hard time accepting what he’s showing her. She needs to stop letting him get away with so much. You are being played. I feel bad for her. It’s right in her face. I hope that she finds someone that truly wants her and not just for convenience. There’s a soul tie course and a lot of video’s that will help her heal. 🏃🏽‍♀️💨 Thank you and be blessed.

    • @mareelovely
      @mareelovely 3 года назад +17

      In a lot of these letters, there's not even any real deceit. She's just someone to pass the time with and maybe settle for if he doesn't get what he really want. Like , she just won't accept what he's telling her and showing her. It's very sad. I don't get it...don't we want someone that actually wants us too???

    • @aishascott5635
      @aishascott5635 3 года назад +23

      Having been there, what keeps you hooked is your ego. You cannot believe that you got played and refuse to accept it. You want to prove to yourself that you were right, but the game is with yourself! In order to move on, you have to accept that you overlooked the red flags, that you were feeling lonely and therefore vulnerable. And then forgive yourself, learn the lessons, take the hard lumps and emerge stronger and braver. Then you won't allow yourself to be deceived again. But I have seen women wait years to prove something to themselves, and got lost in the game.

    • @GoodGrief101
      @GoodGrief101 3 года назад +11

      @@mareelovely 💯 I know women like her. You can tell them what you think, but they don’t listen until it’s to late. I’ve always been a take it or leave it type. I don’t make time for people who don’t care to make time for me. Going crazy over a man and waiting on them isn’t an option. This is what happens when we don’t know our worth, don’t have a stable foundation to begin with, and hanging around a bunch of people who can’t tell you the truth.

    • @GoodGrief101
      @GoodGrief101 3 года назад +8

      @@aishascott5635 I know women that will put themselves through it repeatedly. Yes, it’s ego. Sad, but very true.

  • @toriyt2714
    @toriyt2714 3 года назад +55

    That credit score idea is brilliant! Blessings on that.

  • @womanofgod2948
    @womanofgod2948 3 года назад +23

    The more I listen to Tony Gaskins videos, I am just in shock and disbelief that women go through these things. It makes me want to weep

  • @jacquelinem1960
    @jacquelinem1960 3 года назад +32

    ' If a man won't commit , you've got to split .' 'If it doesn't fit , you've got to quit.' Staying isn't an option .

  • @attorneymom35
    @attorneymom35 3 года назад +34

    Tony is hysterical. No matter how down I get from the message I still laugh.

  • @phyllisdickerson9071
    @phyllisdickerson9071 3 года назад +33

    Class is in session ladies!

  • @alexisagginie4574
    @alexisagginie4574 3 года назад +17

    Harry used to go to Canada to see Megan when they were dating.
    She would also go to England to see him when the time was available.
    We can learn something from the way they courted.

  • @margyiphillips4931
    @margyiphillips4931 3 года назад +69

    The look Tony gave the camera when she said that he has slept with no one but her in two years.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 3 года назад +6

      I screamed

    • @sherylleelee
      @sherylleelee 3 года назад +1

      😯😒😖😲🤣😂🤣😂😂🤣😂😂

    • @lindalovehearts
      @lindalovehearts 3 года назад +1

      I apparently was thinkin what he was thinkin so it was funny

    • @victoriak.2707
      @victoriak.2707 3 года назад +1

      Eyebrow lifting way up and neck turning around 360, spinning ….lmao

  • @margyiphillips4931
    @margyiphillips4931 3 года назад +69

    I bet you when he was steady with her for 4 months he had ghosted another woman.

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 3 года назад +3

      @@LA-wv7gf I dated somebody like this he was a bad lair and lied on everything 😂😂

  • @mathilda9239
    @mathilda9239 3 года назад +44

    Baby she had me shook , when she said “he hasn’t slept with anyone else in two years.” Girl whaat ?

    • @christinewarren8134
      @christinewarren8134 3 года назад +6

      Right like what in the wrorld 🥴

    • @disnalee
      @disnalee 3 года назад +2

      Its a lie,

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 3 года назад +1

      She sounded like me at 20. Bless her

  • @hopemoch4354
    @hopemoch4354 3 года назад +105

    “Plenty of sharks. Offender & dumble“ 😂😂😂

    • @Lulu060986
      @Lulu060986 3 года назад +2

      😭🤣😂

    • @paulagreen5433
      @paulagreen5433 3 года назад +6

      That Plenty of Sharks one gets me all the time🤣🤣🤣 it is true tho cuz the men on dat app is really sum sharks just thirsty and crazy as hell wheww so glad I got off of there

    • @valerieandrews5176
      @valerieandrews5176 3 года назад +2

      @@paulagreen5433 Girl, same! Even the older ones ( 60 and up) on that site running game. I kicked someone to the curb last year for doing that. Of course, he trying to 'come back' now. I don't think so! When I saw the red flags (like Tony talks about) I went on bout my business! Haven't looked back since. Be careful out here ladies! These men are not playing, especially if you have some coins and good credit!

  • @officialwatchamber
    @officialwatchamber 3 года назад +49

    When he starts naming the reindeer 🦌🦌😩😅 but seriously Tony dropped some 💎 s.
    NEVER mess with a man out of boredom. Definitely learned that lesson!

  • @SixFootofFitness
    @SixFootofFitness 3 года назад +36

    “Plenty of Shark, Dumble or Offender”... 😂😂😩😩 ...TG !!..that takes me out every time you say it😭

  • @danielam8298
    @danielam8298 3 года назад +15

    Just read the title and said 'gon bout you business' 😔 be blessed all ❤️

  • @SaraFJones
    @SaraFJones 3 года назад +21

    I just sent the message that I am done!
    I needed this. I can’t keep doing this to myself.

    • @chloethemessenger
      @chloethemessenger 3 года назад +6

      Wishing you healing ♥️

    • @gletsayaaasantewaa2793
      @gletsayaaasantewaa2793 3 года назад +1

      Good for you...I've been through the same thing .Now moving on in my life, loving me fully!💜

  • @rxgirl9609
    @rxgirl9609 3 года назад +27

    So true. I dated a guy and found him cheating. I asked him why when we invested so much time in a relationship? He admitted it was "greed." Just because he could. He didn't have to or need to. Grown boy all the way without direction and purpose.

    • @aishascott5635
      @aishascott5635 3 года назад +6

      They are entitled. Entitled to whatever they want.

  • @TiffanyShopz
    @TiffanyShopz 3 года назад +20

    Facts over feelings! Facts over feelings! Facts over feelings ladies! FACTS!!!

    • @TiffanyShopz
      @TiffanyShopz 3 года назад +2

      Tony I hope you are serious about the relationship credit score! It’s a brilliant idea!! 😂😁🙌🏿

  • @tanyahaiman7017
    @tanyahaiman7017 3 года назад +35

    🎼🎤 “I love my mommy , I love my mommy ....” then boom 🤯
    Lunch gone 🤣🤣

  • @nourake341
    @nourake341 3 года назад +32

    I wish I would have found this channel years ago before I wasted more than 7 years in a long distance rs with a toxic narcisstic exboyfriend ....who would never even come to visit me even once....in all those years and of course without no comitment

  • @ulricka2131
    @ulricka2131 3 года назад +42

    3 minutes in and I am like HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. HE DOES NOT WANT YOU BOO. RUN🏃‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️👟.
    And have you really been listening to Tony? Why did you then give him your body when you do not even have a title, not to mention a wedding😥❓ and you are the one pursuing him? Lots of red flags!!! MOVE ON SISTER❗ God loves you.
    Ok let me listen 👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾 to Tony now.

  • @amandanicole8059
    @amandanicole8059 3 года назад +13

    Tony I swear you have had to be a comedian in your past life. The monologue had me absolutely cracking up 😂😂😂

  • @nicolesalter2726
    @nicolesalter2726 3 года назад +59

    "Can a white man act a fool?" 🤣 Yes. Yes, they can.

  • @cocoj2252
    @cocoj2252 3 года назад +25

    Ms Johnson can you call my mom. My sandwich not here 😂😂😂💀💀💀

  • @brownsugarglamour
    @brownsugarglamour 3 года назад +26

    The fact that the helmet never made it on your head Tony 4:37 😩😂😂💀💀💀💀💀 ... bless your heart 💙

  • @lifetimesocialdistancer0167
    @lifetimesocialdistancer0167 3 года назад +53

    I just got to say this...
    He makes her happier than anyone else, even with him disappearing and ghosting? That sounds like the craziest thing I've ever heard. She ain't got no emotions when it happens?
    This woman needs to to learn how to like herself before she can begin to love herself.

  • @BeBeautifullyYou
    @BeBeautifullyYou 3 года назад +27

    A lot of these women are playing themselves. When you start questioning your situation, THAT IS YOUR CLUE! Stop being so desperate and read the writing on the wall!

  • @armanispearman1147
    @armanispearman1147 3 года назад +15

    Yes!! Tony please make that relationship credit score!!!! That would be fantastic because so many of us will need the assistance!

  • @aladyindeed2604
    @aladyindeed2604 3 года назад +9

    Omg THE WAY I SCREAMED WHEN YOU PAUSED AND MADE THAT FACIAL EXPRESSION.... TONY YOU ARE JUST AMAZING. Much love my brother in Christ

  • @madagirl2026
    @madagirl2026 3 года назад +9

    The lunch part...... omg I can’t lord have mercy tony 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Beautifullybyg
    @Beautifullybyg 3 года назад +11

    This sounds exactly like the situation I'm getting out of. I said the same thing I'm not ready for anything serious 2 years later I'm ready he's ghosting me here and there cause he's been in another relationship the whole time. Long distance relationship just aren't real point blink periodt! Move on, heal and seek real love! Basically go on bout ya business!

  • @ishanasweetncool
    @ishanasweetncool 3 года назад +14

    Race is the thing that kept me in my biggest delusion . Let me tell you, that I have been played by both, a caucasian, and someone of my own race. Dogs remain dogs, no matter what breed it is. Point blank period.

  • @kay-annclarke9501
    @kay-annclarke9501 3 года назад +6

    I am fittin to break this down for this young girl like a science.
    1. Long distance= red flag
    2. You going to see him = red flag
    3. Does not know what he wants=red flag
    4. Pushes you away=red flag
    5. He is hot and cold= red flag
    6. He ghosts you = red flag
    7. He says he is happy single = red flag
    8. He says he does not want a committment = red flag

  • @missmarymack3457
    @missmarymack3457 3 года назад +19

    Taps on mic, “TESTING TESTING”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂! Ladies Tony is sick of us and our shenanigans!

  • @silentdreams2415
    @silentdreams2415 2 месяца назад +2

    Mr, Gaskins! I've watched this video over and over again!! One of ur best videos ever. My favorite one.."Talks With Tony." Love it Sir. Have u stopped "Talks With Tony.." Much love from the Netherlands 🇳🇱 Blessings.

  • @michelleryan8009
    @michelleryan8009 3 года назад +4

    Exactly! I dated a guy like this long distance. Like Tony said we talked almost every other day on the phone and even spent time together. I met his mom and family. So I thought everything was cool and was planning for marriage. It turned out that this guy was juggling "many" women and I was just one of the many. Please listen to what our big brother Tony is telling you. He is speaking "100% Truth"

  • @nellelove4899
    @nellelove4899 3 года назад +8

    I was doing this for the longest, ghosting was months at a time for one day/week then months again then a day/week...but I didn't want a relationship anymore I was just not recognizing my value and even though its hard, it's necessary to develop confidence and self-worth. Because if you don't, you will stay going back and forth no matter what ANYONE says. And at the end of the day it's not worth it and the guy definitely isn't. You deserve the love you keep giving to people who don't deserve it. So just wait. That's what I'm doing. And in the meantime getting more degrees and all that.

  • @aliciasmith5012
    @aliciasmith5012 3 года назад +4

    If a man wont commit you must quit. Truth and facts🙌💯

  • @iamrizsamuel
    @iamrizsamuel 3 года назад +2

    Watching this now because I just finished a situationship yesterday. I was thinking that I was being too much when I ask him to call or text me at least once a day. I asked him why he didnt called me for 2 days and he got berserk. I cannot forget the disgust in his eyes when he went on the video call too, the "why do you keep on calling?" look. So I said my piece and told him I'll never bother him again. Still crying, but listening to this is making me slowly wake up.

  • @Kay-yk6gb
    @Kay-yk6gb 3 года назад +13

    Tony had me cracking up the entire video🤣😂. I think sometimes you have to laugh at some of the things we settle for.

  • @elsiemeade3857
    @elsiemeade3857 3 года назад +12

    Lord have mercy on us ladies

  • @RoyalTeaNation
    @RoyalTeaNation 3 года назад +25

    I would never let my son introduce me to multiple women and NOT address it. I don’t want to see other young women get hurt

    • @summerdior459
      @summerdior459 3 года назад

      Lol 😂🤣😂🤣 well you suck as a mother bc he is supposed to date multiple women until he gets married YOU FAILED YOUR SON & is tge the main reason why so many men her F boys get it together TIA

  • @MartinaKing225
    @MartinaKing225 3 года назад +13

    I wasn't looking at my screen when it started but - I started SCREAMING when i looked up at the screen just to see Tony looking back at me when she said he hasn't slept w/ anyone but her!! Lmao omg!

  • @kelilopez1269
    @kelilopez1269 3 года назад +10

    MR. GASKINS!!!! If you ever make a book of those sayings that you know off the top of your head and their meaning, please let me know because they're always on point!!!!!!!!!

  • @sheilazimmerman3905
    @sheilazimmerman3905 3 года назад +8

    Little Sis, You have worth and you matter. Love yourself enough to introduce him to Goodbye 👋 and the sooner the better. God has a man for you, and he will look at you and know you are his reward.....don’t sleep with him....make him earn you.....but first, you have to Love yourself. God will help you, Why? Because God Loves you more than any man ever will. Be Blessed, I’ll be praying for you. Tony, keep these video’s coming, our young women really need them...need You🌸

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +1

      AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

  • @shegotstandards
    @shegotstandards 3 года назад +7

    Tony, you are so funny! My elderly mom was sitting over here laughing at you on this message. This was good information tonight thanks for sharing.

  • @ummielove
    @ummielove Год назад +1

    The double taps on the phone send me every time !! 😅😅
    This video gives me so much insight on the mindset I have as a woman! I don’t see his ill behaviors clearly until I’ve suffered time after time! Lord. Help me. 💚 thank you Tony Gaskins

  • @venusnepheteria7534
    @venusnepheteria7534 3 года назад +12

    I love how you can give truth in the realest ways and its still easy to swallow with your humor!!! I was in tears from laughter the whole time. You didnt tell no lies and I wish I had this type of truth at the age this young ladies age. But I hope this seals the deal for her & she drops this fool like a hot pocket & gets her life.

  • @deet2908
    @deet2908 3 года назад +9

    He gives real knowledge. The way he presents it, I'm thinking and laughing at the same time.hope he doesnt retire anytime soon.

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +2

      AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

  • @Jollybrownie212
    @Jollybrownie212 3 года назад +22

    “Make me an offer.”🤣🤣🤣

  • @naturaltress5774
    @naturaltress5774 3 года назад +5

    “ If a man won’t commit, you must quit” TG
    👏🏽

  • @latricesullivan6613
    @latricesullivan6613 3 года назад +10

    Bro Tony we need a meme with all your lightbulb moments. That side eye at 2:29 to the camera made me holler 😂 thank you for your real ness God Bless ya and sis need to move forward ghosting for weeks 🤔that’s a no go!!

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 3 года назад

      I watch this video over and over just for the side eye.

  • @moffahbrigitte3369
    @moffahbrigitte3369 3 года назад +15

    Sis, the facts that he never visits you and doesn't know what he wants, are MAJOR red flags. He just wants to string you along. I pray God gives you the strength to walk away with your dignity and sanity. Don't wait for any man to decide what he wants to do with you. Be blessed.

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +1

      AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

  • @qscott888
    @qscott888 3 года назад +15

    God bless you so much! As I go through my divorce, I am literally healing as I follow your guidance and suggestions. Major breakthroughs. Thank you for the daily coaching and MUCH needed laughs!

  • @sasunnacha
    @sasunnacha 3 месяца назад +1

    I thank the lord for the work you do tony.
    I am swiss and i can tell you its not only the black race that have this sickness.
    Thanks to the lord again, these messages support me to go different directions as my hurt heart wanna rush me throught

  • @alexisagginie4574
    @alexisagginie4574 Год назад +3

    I believe every woman should hear this. It is the most informative I have heard.

  • @laurensmith6065
    @laurensmith6065 Год назад +3

    He telling the truth about friends and family playing along, women really read into that too much meanwhile the friend group knows what it is and just trying to be polite 🙃.

  • @lsmith6718
    @lsmith6718 3 года назад +10

    It is such a blessing to get all of this knowledge, and entertainment at the same time🤣🤣🤣. Tony, may God continue to bless you and your beautiful family🙏.

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!

  • @stargoldqueen5894
    @stargoldqueen5894 3 года назад +54

    Seeing the title, he probably is.

    • @Pay5699
      @Pay5699 3 года назад +3

      🤣

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 3 года назад +5

      That’s what I said. These men are so okay with wasting time.

    • @stargoldqueen5894
      @stargoldqueen5894 3 года назад +1

      @@j-tenn226 tsk, I know right. Just had to laugh at the examples he was giving, its ridiculous!

    • @msrikel
      @msrikel 3 года назад +1

      Same exact thoughts... if you have to ask....he is smh

    • @stargoldqueen5894
      @stargoldqueen5894 3 года назад

      @@msrikel right? Not a professional but it's clear for the people from the outside looking in. But when you are into a wrong relationship, it's hard to see.