Book a session with your new coach: mymentor.life Are you ready to become a Life Coach/Mentor? If so, take the certification course here: tonygaskinsacademy.com
I’m going to be honest. I heard about him a long time ago. Looked at a few videos but it’s just now sinking in... Better late than never. I pray many more women are led to his teachings. As you said before, his wisdom is priceless.
@@brittaniejones1623 You're right! I think you have to "be ready" to truly receive Tony's message and embrace them fully. I heard and watched tony as far back as 2013 but it didn't click and didnt stick...now I'm listening and finally implementing and I'm drinking up his content like cold water in a desert and I'm in the best place emotionally, internally and spiritually that I've ever been in my life. Most women arent ready yet but Tony ain't going nowhere....he'll hit those millions of subscribers soon enough as more women grow and demand better for themselves!
Praise the Lord 1st🙏 i agree with you Rasheen .B. Mr Tony . Gaskins a Great mentor Coach That G♥️ D Chosen for us. But, even if he doesn't reach a million he will reach all that G♥️ D chosen for him to reach no greater or no. Less I'm happy G ♥️ D Chose him for this calling. Ann, I'm happy he answered his calling G♥️ D Bless him On his Journey 🙏🙌♥️ i believe he has Tony Told us how the Lord has blessed him and his family May many many more blessings to come. For him and his family And, us as followers 🙌
I enjoy Mr. Gaskin content, but I take a lot of what he says with a grain of salt because he pushes this "soul tie" nonsense. There is no such thing as a soul tie and a lot of these women get caught up in messes they think they have no control over because some dude has control over their "soul." It is actually codependence and a refusal to let go of the familiar, even if the familiar is toxic.
In the past, my low self esteem and lack of boundaries and loneliness was the cause of what I allowed and continued to allow after I saw it. I broke my own heart 💔, not excusing the behavior cause these men know what they're doing, and most aren't what they present themselves to be, so now that I know better, I cut it off with whoever tries it with me at the FIRST sign of disrespectful behavior or bare minimum effort or mind games immediately. I don't give the benefit of the doubt anymore or allow myself to be too kind, trusting and naive but always practicing discernment and using my womanly intuition.
@@CoachBWiley thank you sis! Good for you also!! I had to learn some hard lessons and look at the common denominator which was me, the only one I can control. & Thank GOD for his protection, I won't even think to settle ever again in life. 💖
We singles have to manage our loneliness/sexual desires so that we won't fall into the trap of picking someone who is not good for us. If you want to have the standards in a mate, you have to become the standards yourself first....
I was just commenting on another video about how women tend to fall in love with a man’s “representative” vs the real him (the abusive parts, manipulation, etc) and that keeps them “stuck” to him, even after he’s shown he’s not the one. Most have a mask so it’s very important to not attach too quickly and wait till that mask falls to see the real them 💯👌🏽
Yes and once you see what is behind the mask you don’t want to be with that person... the man usually figures out you have removed their mask and exposed them.
i am 33 and married for 9 years, 13 years together in total. I am finally realizing that he's a grown boy🤦🤦🤦. First serious boyfriend, and we been together since I was 20, and now that I'm older and more mature, I'm realizing, what I thought was mistakes, where I thought maybe it's just me, where I thought maybe he don't understand, I'm now realizing, nooooooo, these aren't mistakes, misunderstandings and miscommunication, this is a habit, what you call red flags, A Choice. I'm growing up, but he don't seem to want to grow at all. Tony's videos have opened my eyes to alot of things I was very Niaeve about in my youth and inexperience, but even if he refuses to acknowledge and change, I have the power to keep working on Growing myself, educating myself and enlightening myself, 💯.
Angela Murray/Meena Bailey/Ladies in need of a plan: Move in silence, tell nobody. Plan your exit strategy. Consult several family law professionals about your options. Immediately, for your safety stop sleeping with him. A reckless liar will infect you with everything under the sun. Pay down debt. Obtain new knowledge for your next phase in life. Gracefully exit ever diligent about your personal safety. I am available for consultation and startegy planning. Blessings to you and all your endeavors. "Coach Francesca"
Cheating is a deal breaker for MEN, not women. Rare is the woman who will leave a man after finding him cheating. Women make every excuse in the book for a man cheating and stay in the relationship/marriage, but men have zero tolerance for that behavior. He is OUT and on to the next one.
@@chitown7110 Though some men tolerate everything else, even women stealing from them...I feel sorry for those men. And some do tolerate cheating, as long as it's deniable. Once it's obvious and in the open is when they can't take it.
@@guadalupeeg5034 No matter the gender, only weak and desperate people tolerate cheating. If I even SUSPECT my husband is cheating, we will be in divorce court immediately. No second chances. No trying to work it out. He no longer exists to me. I'm not built like most women. Once I am betrayed, any love that I had for that man is gone and so is he.
@@chitown7110 True. They cannot TAKE but they love to DO, & expect women to forgive and accept;which most women do. Men cannot handle it. So why should you Ladies accept this Bad behavior either. You teach a man how to treat you by what you accept & tolerate and continuely allow. STOP IT LADIES. WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, PLEASE AIM TO DO BETTER!!!
“If you want to see, if you want to know, if you want to see the future and know if you are going to be a single mother, look at the man you are sleeping with.” TG
Hey Tony, I wish I had known this 20 years ago. You're being 100% honest. We women need to be prayerful and patient. God knows what we need. Thank you Tony for being a blessing in my life.
I say the same thing, but we probably wouldn't have even listened. We didnt even look at videos like this until we got in a mess. At least I know I did, when I first got in a relationship no one could tell me nothing because I just knew I had it going on. I found out just because one is of age doesn't mean they're grown.
If he does any one of those things, he will derail not only his life, but your life! If I see one vice, I'm out! It means he has a line of other vices.
I think social drinking to some extent needs to be called out too. The mommy culture of “unwinding” with glasses and bottles is problematic too but now is socially normalized. I don’t know anyone who smoked in their teens or early 20s consistently through whatever age now that does not have a problematic life. Vices are real and wreak havoc. Choose carefully no matter woman or man.
Evaluating yourself is one of the hardest and best things you can do...At the end of the day it was YOU and YOUR choices...but the great thing is we can always recreate ourselves and gain more knowledge to become better!
Relationships are exhausting. I think there shouldn’t be so many things to look for. Were there ever days where ppl are just straight up and make their intentions clear😭
@Tiana Thompson Finding the BEST RELATIONSHIP for you might be exhausting, but the relationship itself should not be EXHAUSTING. If it is, this is THE WRONG RELATIONSHIP for you!
“people don’t want to hear the truth they want to live in they mess” Tony Gaskins said what he said point blank period! He kept this so 💯 I heard him blessed tribe hope y’all did 🙏🏾😳
I'm trying to figure out why I'm always laughing at Tony, so hilarious.🤣 He is speaking nothing but the truth. So relatable!!!! I pay attention to what people say and do. Pay attention to everything, everything!
Please ladies listen to Tony...... 15 years ago I didn’t know about red flags I had common sense but I thought he would be OK...... he had just about every last one of these signs I married him anyway and today he is my estranged husband but I do get that child support check for our 2 kids..... get the knowledge and learn🙂
I can only say you helped me so much tony thank you , I was able to catch the eye 👁 in my ex husband to be , he was mad when I asked where has he been on a Saturday , he got mad and beat me almost took my life , my phone butt dialed my daughter she called the cops and gave my location my home she had no idea I was there she only knew she heard me yell out loud , cops showed up on time , I was in my yard bleeding Badly eyes 👀 turn like raccoons 🦝 that’s how bad he left me after 5 years he still told me to my face I’m so trust worthy I trust him to much he said , another flag it hurt 😢 to hear those words from him but I didn’t want him in my life anymore I had been praying to the almighty creator for a way out , I had no idea 💡 it would take this , but his words to me while he hitting me he told me that look what you started now / there’s was moments I felt like I would be gone he looked scared , but I know life will not end there for me . You must love you 😍 first it’s a must ! He didn’t like It i went vegan 🌱 Lost almost 100 pounds in last year of being together , I went from size 26 to a 6 😉🙃🙂, he didn’t realized I been working on me the past year and he hated it but I love ❤️ the idea I felt good . I kept on going !! Now I’m free amen 🙏🏽
Tony, I recently discovered your channel. I wanted a man's perspective on a particular topic I had dealt with concerning this guy. Through my search, your video came up and it was confirmation. This guy and I dated briefly. He broke up with me because of my boundaries and wanting to take things slow. I did not take him back when he tried to ease his way back in. Your videos are empowering and encouraging. I appreciate your candor and wisdom. Thank you for your time. God bless you and your family!
@Toni Sara Thanks Sis. I sure did dodge a bullet. I'm grateful. He had several flags/signs. We dated for almost a month. The sad part was we were platonic friends before but after this, it has made me see him in a different light. I no longer thinks he's a nice guy and we no longer have contact. Thank you for your kind words. Blessings to you.
I'm proud of you. Very few women are willing to stick to their standards and tell a man NO. That is the ultimate test and you passed with flying colors🚩🚩🚩🏳️🌈. God is going to bless you with a real King🤴 for your faithfulness!!!
Every word Mr. Gaskins spoke is true, I must add that even if the man is not drinking, appears to go out with friends maybe once a year, waited 4 years before intimacy with you, married you and financially maintained the family with you, always has an outstanding career and income, appears like a normal functioning person in every way...can still be a whole demon in human form. A friend commented that we looked like the happy family on the back of a church fan. After about 30 years one day he just said "I am tired of pretending to be nice." And the true face was seen. Sadly in relationships, you must always be vigilant and watchful. "Coach Francesca"
This seems like the one I am currently dating .. there will be times that he will scare me by saying things that is so blunt and so cold all of a sudden.. then he will be sweet the next and say things that I feel like a facade now. I love him so much and I tried to leave 3 times now and each time he managed to convinced me to stay. Each circumstances was because he felt it coming. I know I'm being stupid and being weak. I'm still finding the right timing to talk with him again.. last time he said he will never let me go.. even if I don't really want to continue anymore.. he said it does not matter.. it scared me a lot because most of the time now I don't know which side is the real him. The more I stay, the more I cannot see the man I met in the beginning.
@@melissamonton1913 your whole body is telling you to leave. You know you. Pray for strength to stand your decision. I tell you it's really hard especially when they kneel and cry but after that, you'll see it's for both of you.
I didn't miss the signs; I ignored them, and I ignored them because I didn't love me more than my desire to be loved (Lesson 1). Now that I've gotten back to God (Lesson 2) to learn true Love itself (Lesson 3), and I've subsequently fallen in love with ME (Lesson 4), I'll never ignore the signs again whether it's toxicity within family, friends, romantic relationships, or even myself - because I can't allow myself passes if I'm trying to attract what I want in all areas of my life (Lesson 5). I thank God for people like Tony who serve their God-given purpose selflessly to help change lives for the better. When Tony speaks, it's Holy Spirit inspired and resonates in truth. I, for one, am irrevocably GRATEFUL!
This video is right on! It is straight from God! When we as women lay down in fornication with any man we are lookin up straight into the enemy’s eye to be clear we are looking into the devil’s eye. Keep being a blessing Tony! You have a powerful ministry!
I’m clarifying it’s the devil spirit in both people (men & women) no matter who’s looking at who when they’re in fornication with each other it becomes a deep seeded entanglement a stronghold through a devil soul tie that only God can break!
Ness Paradis I’m clarifying it’s the devil spirit in both people (men & women) no matter who’s looking at who when they’re in fornication with each other which then becomes a deep seeded entanglement a stronghold through a devil soul tie that only God can break
You are spot on. With this message. Once I got myself together mentally , spiritually and physically. I payed attention to the type of man I married. I realized I was in a marriage with a grown boy but I was to broken to realize that this man has issues with women and himself . Because all these signs were present. But I thank God for Deliverance
“That’s how you end up broke, busted and disgusted. GotTa go ✌🏾” 🤣 He is on point. I think applies to so many or so many we know. What does he say, “eat the meat & spit out the bones.” Meanwhile, making us laugh with the truth. So many of us, me included, need to get it together. JS
Tony has changed my life. I have learned to love myself more now that ever before. Walked away from men who NEVER deserved me and did NOT look back. I plays NO GAMES with men nowadays, and I let them know that as well. I pray that God watches over him and his family so that he can continue to change lives. If I had known these things when I was in my 20's, it would have saved me so much heartache and pain. Grateful I know better now moving forward. His teachings are literally changing lives. Especially for black women. God bless!
Ladies, listen to this man. Save yourself and your children. You don’t have to make the mistakes, because you have the INFORMATION. Don’t lie to yourself, DO THE WORK. There are blessings on the other side. God bless you and be with you, in JESUS name.
Amen! Great video and teaching Brother Tony. I'm so happy u did this video for our sisters in the world. And this one statement that u made is so profound. "An ounce of prevention, weighs more than a pound of cure." I realized u can have some of the smartest females in the world but in the same sense make poor choices and decisions when it comes to dating and romance. Unfortunately theres alot of men that say the right words to get into a womans head and heart. It disgusts me as a man to know this. I'm far from perfect but I try to be a better man every day. If I make mistakes I try to correct them. Even if its things that maybe I should have known already I'll still try to learn and get better. Too many men play with womens emotions, use them, or take advantage of them. The things that u mentioned in this video are so true and spot on. Men should watch this video also. I'm glad I did. Why? Because it keeps me accountable. You make me hold a personal checklist to myself and take inventor. The only man who would get offended by this is the one whose doing these things. Truth hurts. And if one is doing these things, instead of getting mad he should change for the better. Again the truth hurts. I'm evolving everyday. Things I should have learned a long time ago I'm learning this year just by watching your videos. I'm far from perfect but I strive for perfection everyday. I thank God for Him creating u to help us and teach brothers like me. I'm improving because I truly want to become a husband to the right woman some day. And I'm on the right path. Thank u again. And God bless u Brother Tony!😇🙏
I’m glad to see men taking his advice! You will find a woman that only God has created for you. Just have faith and keep on doing the right thing in life. God bless you 🙏🏾
@@javon8082 Accountability as well about what he mentions regarding Social Media and Domestic Violence. What can't the God Lord Do? He can transform any man who gives his life to Christ. For the Bible say a man should love his wife as Christ loved the Church.
This is wonderful. Not soo many men admit their wrongs or want to learn to be better. God bless u for striving to be better and may he bless u with a Godly woman!. Amen
My mom told me when I was little to never depend on a man, so I haven't. I'm use to doing all those things mentioned on my own. So it's not that I feel sadness that I don't have someone to do those things for me anymore, I'm sad because I never did. Or maybe I'm just tired of doing it all on my own.
Thank you for sharing! I will be turning 33 tomorrow and have been abstinent since January 2018....been told that I am "wasting my body"....okay pimpin 🙄. I love being single and free working on me and developing my relationship with the Creator 😊🙏🏿😊 I made silly choices over and over again but during this pandemic I been in deep deep reflection and in 2020 I finally see all the poor choices I made causing me to feel like trash- no gun held to my head- I chose to ignore THE SIGNS in my previous life. Thank you Tony.
You are sure talking, Tony...it's time for people to heal, grow up, do the inner work, and elevate their minds/spirits with God. We cannot have more healthy relationships until that happens. This is why I'm single now....I'm not attractive to grown boys and that's the majority out here. I'm waiting for a King who has himself together in God, that I can grow and build with. These men don't have that anywhere on their minds....it's all about their vices and running women.
You're so funny Tony lol. Whilst I work from home you're all I've been listening to. I'm not even in a bad relationship, I'm just addicted to your videos.
Thank you Tony! I feel so embarrassed! I have been watching Tarot cards for the past month trying to find clarity, when all I had to do was listen to GOD! I asked GOD last night to help me move on and maybe get clarity and today this message popped up!! I knew he was no good from the start, I guess because I'm a good person and I did everything for him that he would value me..wrong!!!! Thanks again for doing GODS work because I did ask for his help last night and today your video showed up, thank you. 😊
@@chitown7110 yeah definitely, I will never do this again! I really thought I was helping our relationship head somewhere lmao, but in his head he was taking me for granted..its a big lesson learned. I went on a date with one of the many men who treat me good and cater to me ( funny huh)...I had a great time and will never fall into that energy again ( feeling like I have to do everything ).
@@incredibleeli5932 Glad to hear it. In a relationship you have to take your cue from the man and match his energy. NEVER do more for a man than he does for you. God Bless!!😉
REBALANCE CO you are an awesome woman! For you to update me on your journey is double amazing!!! I’m so proud of you! May God continue blessing you with everything He has in store for you. ❤️
@@11071874 thank you so much may God bless you . I am very sick from withdrawal but it will pass God is with me and he is with you with every step we take in life .
Greetings Tribe Family and Everyone! Thankful Tuesday👳♀️ Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them, For The Lord your God, He is the one who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you. #TonyGaskinsAcademy.com #SelfLoveUniversity #Strongmind #Mentallystrong #SelfControl #Righteousness #Honesty #Mindset #AllPrasiesToTheMostHigh
Not Tony saying "rumour has it he did coke every now and then" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I just lost it after that. Tony has a unique gift of combining cold hard accountability examples with raw comedy and I am just greatful I can enjoy this content. Thank you Tony for sharing your gift with us you have taught me alot and made me laugh hysterically at the same time.
( 5:17 )“ He don’t like to work , or he stealin from his job if he do work, he keep saying he laid off but he QUIT. “ 😝😝😝😝 praise God I am not on back with none of these men. 👏🏾😌
I have watched this video 3 times already. The truth is a hard pill to swallow but I was finally able to digest this information and I am moving forwards making some changes in my life. Tony thank you for giving us ladies the wisdom and knowledge to determine God's best for us. We cannot ignore red flags hoping they will disappear. If anything those flags become monuments later on down the line.
Tony is so cool and down to earth. Just real and authentic. I just enjoy your videos. Please bring Mrs. Gaskins back for a follow up video. Many blessings to you both.
Curse them toys Tony. They're the same as hangela. But that drink some prune juice took me out. 😂😂😂😂 whaaat. 😂😂😂😂 that got to go was so abrupt it caught me off guard.😂😂😂😂 Great vid be blessed.
Awesome!!! Every word on point👌🏽🙌🏽... Love the humour in the truths you deliver. Thank you 🙏🏽 ... the flags have always been there... before the outcome... God Bless you Tony!!!
People don’t just miss the signs. They also see the signs clear as day but decide to flat out ignore them.
Facts!!! 💯
Yes
Yep.
I’m guilty of this , it frustrates the hell out of me
Ouch. The truth hurts.
This man should have over 1 million subscribers. The information that he provides to women is priceless.
I’m going to be honest. I heard about him a long time ago. Looked at a few videos but it’s just now sinking in... Better late than never. I pray many more women are led to his teachings. As you said before, his wisdom is priceless.
@@brittaniejones1623 You're right! I think you have to "be ready" to truly receive Tony's message and embrace them fully. I heard and watched tony as far back as 2013 but it didn't click and didnt stick...now I'm listening and finally implementing and I'm drinking up his content like cold water in a desert and I'm in the best place emotionally, internally and spiritually that I've ever been in my life. Most women arent ready yet but Tony ain't going nowhere....he'll hit those millions of subscribers soon enough as more women grow and demand better for themselves!
It's the men who need it most!
Praise the Lord 1st🙏
i agree with you Rasheen .B.
Mr Tony . Gaskins a Great mentor Coach
That G♥️ D
Chosen for us.
But, even if he doesn't reach a million he will reach all that G♥️ D chosen for him to reach no greater or no. Less I'm happy G ♥️ D Chose him for this calling. Ann, I'm happy he answered his calling
G♥️ D Bless him
On his Journey 🙏🙌♥️
i believe he has Tony
Told us how the Lord has blessed him and his family
May many many more blessings to come.
For him and his family
And, us as followers 🙌
I enjoy Mr. Gaskin content, but I take a lot of what he says with a grain of salt because he pushes this "soul tie" nonsense. There is no such thing as a soul tie and a lot of these women get caught up in messes they think they have no control over because some dude has control over their "soul." It is actually codependence and a refusal to let go of the familiar, even if the familiar is toxic.
In the past, my low self esteem and lack of boundaries and loneliness was the cause of what I allowed and continued to allow after I saw it. I broke my own heart 💔, not excusing the behavior cause these men know what they're doing, and most aren't what they present themselves to be, so now that I know better, I cut it off with whoever tries it with me at the FIRST sign of disrespectful behavior or bare minimum effort or mind games immediately. I don't give the benefit of the doubt anymore or allow myself to be too kind, trusting and naive but always practicing discernment and using my womanly intuition.
There you go sis! Before I became a Life Coach I was just like everything you described. Good for you! Do NOT settle!
@@CoachBWiley thank you sis! Good for you also!! I had to learn some hard lessons and look at the common denominator which was me, the only one I can control. & Thank GOD for his protection, I won't even think to settle ever again in life. 💖
@@Ashley_Banks you're welcome! Trust me, I fully understand. Good luck on being divinely aligned with who God has for you! 💓
💕
You and me both. Thank you for sharing.
The best thing I ever did was find your channel. THANK YOU TONY!!
Same! 💯🙌🏾
Me to
Me too
🙌🏾🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Ditto
We singles have to manage our loneliness/sexual desires so that we won't fall into the trap of picking someone who is not good for us. If you want to have the standards in a mate, you have to become the standards yourself first....
Amen!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Julia White ❤️🥰
@@toniwilliams9817 ....That's the truest statement 😁❤
Julia White 🥰
Facts.
About two weeks off the weed after a 15 year addiction through Christ alone, HALLELUJAH Jesus, praise God!
Weed saved my life.
plwhite40 cool. And your point?
ALLELUIA! THATS AWESOME SISTA QUEEN! :)
@@NAJErEa91 thanks beautiful
@@plwhite40 yes it's an amazing herb.
It's imperative that we take the necessary time to learn a person these days. Time always tell the truth, accept nothing less.
Truth!!
Time is truth’s best friend.
@@ciab475 Amen
Yes. I agree. Please people. Take time to know and learn people. Observe till you are exhausted. I’ve learned the hard way. People can be very wicked!
@@QueenB-yv7br You're not alone, I've learned the hard way as well. Now it's time to excess where we went wrong and learn to maneuver differently.
"When you get on yo bike"(back!) It gets me every time...🤣
Yes!! Hahaha he’s soooo country! 😂💀
Me too. Lol
@@klickingkayasmr7585 ❤
Me too! I'm glad I'm not the only one that think he's saying bike...lol 🤣🤣🤣
I thought he was saying ‘bike’ too lol. Tony is awesome!
The mind is strong but the flesh is weak, dont put yourself in a compromising situation.
I missed all the signs. I know better now
I did too. You’re not by yourself sis.
Me too sis 😥
Me too 🙈
"An ounce of prevention weighs more than a pound of cure."
Tony Gaskins amazing quote!
Amazing
Tony you are right. God kept my body pure - NO SEX with all types of temptations for 5 years and 7 months. I believe the Bible.
4 years trailing behind you sis. Best decision I could’ve made for my soul.
Wow! That's impressive!
I have my 23 year old daughter tuned in .... she watches Uncle Tony religiously! Thank you for the wisdom you give to women.
I was just commenting on another video about how women tend to fall in love with a man’s “representative” vs the real him (the abusive parts, manipulation, etc) and that keeps them “stuck” to him, even after he’s shown he’s not the one. Most have a mask so it’s very important to not attach too quickly and wait till that mask falls to see the real them 💯👌🏽
So true 💯
Yes girl ❤️
Yes and once you see what is behind the mask you don’t want to be with that person... the man usually figures out you have removed their mask and exposed them.
Stop 🛑 cussin like a sailor, partyin, like a DJ, smokin like a chimney, & drinkin like a fish.😂😂😂
😂💀💀💀
He’s hilarious
And you’ll still be single...
Ok, in that order 😆 🤣 😂
God KNOW I try to take Tony seriously, but he have me in tears!!! Sometimes I have to walk away while his video is playing! LOLOL!!!
@@dr.ayanna Right! He’s so funny. lol
😪😭 I'm 32 and I married to a grown boy for 10 year's now! I really need to work on myself,💯
i am 33 and married for 9 years, 13 years together in total. I am finally realizing that he's a grown boy🤦🤦🤦. First serious boyfriend, and we been together since I was 20, and now that I'm older and more mature, I'm realizing, what I thought was mistakes, where I thought maybe it's just me, where I thought maybe he don't understand, I'm now realizing, nooooooo, these aren't mistakes, misunderstandings and miscommunication, this is a habit, what you call red flags, A Choice. I'm growing up, but he don't seem to want to grow at all. Tony's videos have opened my eyes to alot of things I was very Niaeve about in my youth and inexperience, but even if he refuses to acknowledge and change, I have the power to keep working on Growing myself, educating myself and enlightening myself, 💯.
thank you
Angela Murray/Meena Bailey/Ladies in need of a plan: Move in silence, tell nobody. Plan your exit strategy. Consult several family law professionals about your options. Immediately, for your safety stop sleeping with him. A reckless liar will infect you with everything under the sun. Pay down debt. Obtain new knowledge for your next phase in life. Gracefully exit ever diligent about your personal safety. I am available for consultation and startegy planning. Blessings to you and all your endeavors. "Coach Francesca"
Keep up the good work, working on your self. You will be ok
For some people the only deal breaker is cheating. And sometimes not even that. Women need to raise their standards.
Cheating is a deal breaker for MEN, not women. Rare is the woman who will leave a man after finding him cheating. Women make every excuse in the book for a man cheating and stay in the relationship/marriage, but men have zero tolerance for that behavior. He is OUT and on to the next one.
@@chitown7110 Though some men tolerate everything else, even women stealing from them...I feel sorry for those men. And some do tolerate cheating, as long as it's deniable. Once it's obvious and in the open is when they can't take it.
@@guadalupeeg5034 No matter the gender, only weak and desperate people tolerate cheating. If I even SUSPECT my husband is cheating, we will be in divorce court immediately. No second chances. No trying to work it out. He no longer exists to me. I'm not built like most women. Once I am betrayed, any love that I had for that man is gone and so is he.
@@chitown7110 True. They cannot TAKE but they love to DO, & expect women to forgive and accept;which most women do.
Men cannot handle it. So why should you Ladies accept this Bad behavior either.
You teach a man how to treat you by what you accept & tolerate and continuely allow.
STOP IT LADIES. WHEN YOU KNOW BETTER, PLEASE AIM TO DO BETTER!!!
Man!
“If you want to see, if you want to know, if you want to see the future and know if you are going to be a single mother, look at the man you are sleeping with.” TG
Hey Tony, I wish I had known this 20 years ago. You're being 100% honest. We women need to be prayerful and patient. God knows what we need. Thank you Tony for being a blessing in my life.
I say the same thing, but we probably wouldn't have even listened. We didnt even look at videos like this until we got in a mess. At least I know I did, when I first got in a relationship no one could tell me nothing because I just knew I had it going on. I found out just because one is of age doesn't mean they're grown.
Yes, God knows our hearts needs/desires.
If he does any one of those things, he will derail not only his life, but your life! If I see one vice, I'm out! It means he has a line of other vices.
Yes. My ex has a porn addiction. Needless to say he’s a cheater
I think social drinking to some extent needs to be called out too. The mommy culture of “unwinding” with glasses and bottles is problematic too but now is socially normalized. I don’t know anyone who smoked in their teens or early 20s consistently through whatever age now that does not have a problematic life. Vices are real and wreak havoc. Choose carefully no matter woman or man.
Sin never stays where it starts. The person will eventually need more.
I know you're just answering your calling, but, THANK YOU.
God bless you
And that's everything. May we all be so blessed to do the same.
Evaluating yourself is one of the hardest and best things you can do...At the end of the day it was YOU and YOUR choices...but the great thing is we can always recreate ourselves and gain more knowledge to become better!
“when you get on yo back, you ain’t look at da Lord” i was crying . thanks again Tony!❣️
Relationships are exhausting. I think there shouldn’t be so many things to look for. Were there ever days where ppl are just straight up and make their intentions clear😭
Men got more problems!
@Tiana Thompson Finding the BEST RELATIONSHIP for you might be exhausting, but the relationship itself should not be EXHAUSTING. If it is, this is THE WRONG RELATIONSHIP for you!
“people don’t want to hear the truth they want to live in they mess” Tony Gaskins said what he said point blank period! He kept this so 💯 I heard him blessed tribe hope y’all did 🙏🏾😳
I'm trying to figure out why I'm always laughing at Tony, so hilarious.🤣 He is speaking nothing but the truth. So relatable!!!! I pay attention to what people say and do. Pay attention to everything, everything!
Please ladies listen to Tony...... 15 years ago I didn’t know about red flags I had common sense but I thought he would be OK...... he had just about every last one of these signs I married him anyway and today he is my estranged husband but I do get that child support check for our 2 kids..... get the knowledge and learn🙂
I can only say you helped me so much tony thank you , I was able to catch the eye 👁 in my ex husband to be , he was mad when I asked where has he been on a Saturday , he got mad and beat me almost took my life , my phone butt dialed my daughter she called the cops and gave my location my home she had no idea I was there she only knew she heard me yell out loud , cops showed up on time , I was in my yard bleeding Badly eyes 👀 turn like raccoons 🦝 that’s how bad he left me after 5 years he still told me to my face I’m so trust worthy I trust him to much he said , another flag it hurt 😢 to hear those words from him but I didn’t want him in my life anymore I had been praying to the almighty creator for a way out , I had no idea 💡 it would take this , but his words to me while he hitting me he told me that look what you started now / there’s was moments I felt like I would be gone he looked scared , but I know life will not end there for me .
You must love you 😍 first it’s a must !
He didn’t like It i went vegan 🌱 Lost almost 100 pounds in last year of being together , I went from size 26 to a 6 😉🙃🙂, he didn’t realized I been working on me the past year and he hated it but I love ❤️ the idea I felt good .
I kept on going !! Now I’m free amen 🙏🏽
Tony, I recently discovered your channel. I wanted a man's perspective on a particular topic I had dealt with concerning this guy. Through my search, your video came up and it was confirmation. This guy and I dated briefly. He broke up with me because of my boundaries and wanting to take things slow. I did not take him back when he tried to ease his way back in. Your videos are empowering and encouraging. I appreciate your candor and wisdom. Thank you for your time. God bless you and your family!
@Toni Sara Thanks Sis. I sure did dodge a bullet. I'm grateful. He had several flags/signs. We dated for almost a month. The sad part was we were platonic friends before but after this, it has made me see him in a different light. I no longer thinks he's a nice guy and we no longer have contact. Thank you for your kind words. Blessings to you.
I'm proud of you. Very few women are willing to stick to their standards and tell a man NO. That is the ultimate test and you passed with flying colors🚩🚩🚩🏳️🌈. God is going to bless you with a real King🤴 for your faithfulness!!!
@@chitown7110 Thank you for your encouraging words. Blessings to you!
Good for you! Be blessed.
@@pjSoCal23 Thank you. Blessings to you.
Every word Mr. Gaskins spoke is true, I must add that even if the man is not drinking, appears to go out with friends maybe once a year, waited 4 years before intimacy with you, married you and financially maintained the family with you, always has an outstanding career and income, appears like a normal functioning person in every way...can still be a whole demon in human form. A friend commented that we looked like the happy family on the back of a church fan. After about 30 years one day he just said "I am tired of pretending to be nice." And the true face was seen. Sadly in relationships, you must always be vigilant and watchful. "Coach Francesca"
You're story is eye-opening. Thank you.
Wow this is scary
Coach Francesca are you listed under this name?
This seems like the one I am currently dating .. there will be times that he will scare me by saying things that is so blunt and so cold all of a sudden.. then he will be sweet the next and say things that I feel like a facade now. I love him so much and I tried to leave 3 times now and each time he managed to convinced me to stay. Each circumstances was because he felt it coming. I know I'm being stupid and being weak. I'm still finding the right timing to talk with him again.. last time he said he will never let me go.. even if I don't really want to continue anymore.. he said it does not matter.. it scared me a lot because most of the time now I don't know which side is the real him. The more I stay, the more I cannot see the man I met in the beginning.
@@melissamonton1913 your whole body is telling you to leave. You know you. Pray for strength to stand your decision. I tell you it's really hard especially when they kneel and cry but after that, you'll see it's for both of you.
I didn't miss the signs; I ignored them, and I ignored them because I didn't love me more than my desire to be loved (Lesson 1). Now that I've gotten back to God (Lesson 2) to learn true Love itself (Lesson 3), and I've subsequently fallen in love with ME (Lesson 4), I'll never ignore the signs again whether it's toxicity within family, friends, romantic relationships, or even myself - because I can't allow myself passes if I'm trying to attract what I want in all areas of my life (Lesson 5). I thank God for people like Tony who serve their God-given purpose selflessly to help change lives for the better. When Tony speaks, it's Holy Spirit inspired and resonates in truth. I, for one, am irrevocably GRATEFUL!
This video is right on! It is straight from God! When we as women lay down in fornication with any man we are lookin up straight into the enemy’s eye to be clear we are looking into the devil’s eye. Keep being a blessing Tony! You have a powerful ministry!
So women who are looking up aren’t devils, but the men who are looking down are? It takes two to tango.
But the woman is fornicating as well not just the man....
I’m clarifying it’s the devil spirit in both people (men & women) no matter who’s looking at who when they’re in fornication with each other it becomes a deep seeded entanglement a stronghold through a devil soul tie that only God can break!
Ness Paradis
I’m clarifying it’s the devil spirit in both people (men & women) no matter who’s looking at who when they’re in fornication with each other which then becomes a deep seeded entanglement a stronghold through a devil soul tie that only God can break
I CAN NOT be the only one who LOST IT, when Tony hit that “never would’ve made it” LAWDTTY 😩😭💀💀💀💀💀💀
Couldn’t hardly breathe 💀
🙋🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You're so right Tony! Satan attacked the Woman (Eve), because he knew if he could break the neck, the head would follow.
I love that analogy!
You are spot on. With this message. Once I got myself together mentally , spiritually and physically. I payed attention to the type of man I married. I realized I was in a marriage with a grown boy but I was to broken to realize that this man has issues with women and himself . Because all these signs were present. But I thank God for Deliverance
God is good all the time.
Thank God for deliverance 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I'm here!
32 years old and learning so much. Thank you
This is not only wisdom but Tony is funny ! LOL " never would've made it "
That sent me! 😂
Yes he is...she already did lemonade, now she can do fruit punch...Tony, Tony, Tony🤣🤣🤣
“That’s how you end up broke, busted and disgusted. GotTa go ✌🏾” 🤣 He is on point. I think applies to so many or so many we know. What does he say, “eat the meat & spit out the bones.” Meanwhile, making us laugh with the truth. So many of us, me included, need to get it together. JS
That was hilarious!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂
You preachin this thing. I am a recovered grown boy addict. I know better now and I thank you.
Tony has changed my life. I have learned to love myself more now that ever before. Walked away from men who NEVER deserved me and did NOT look back. I plays NO GAMES with men nowadays, and I let them know that as well. I pray that God watches over him and his family so that he can continue to change lives. If I had known these things when I was in my 20's, it would have saved me so much heartache and pain. Grateful I know better now moving forward. His teachings are literally changing lives. Especially for black women. God bless!
🙄 for the women who doesn't use common sense. Wisdom + knowledge = saving you from a heartbreak
“Wellllll sometimes he did pills too” 😂😂 your face when you talk Tony is so funny to me
Ladies, listen to this man. Save yourself and your children. You don’t have to make the mistakes, because you have the INFORMATION. Don’t lie to yourself, DO THE WORK. There are blessings on the other side. God bless you and be with you, in JESUS name.
Amen! Great video and teaching Brother Tony. I'm so happy u did this video for our sisters in the world. And this one statement that u made is so profound. "An ounce of prevention, weighs more than a pound of cure."
I realized u can have some of the smartest females in the world but in the same sense make poor choices and decisions when it comes to dating and romance. Unfortunately theres alot of men that say the right words to get into a womans head and heart. It disgusts me as a man to know this. I'm far from perfect but I try to be a better man every day. If I make mistakes I try to correct them. Even if its things that maybe I should have known already I'll still try to learn and get better.
Too many men play with womens emotions, use them, or take advantage of them. The things that u mentioned in this video are so true and spot on. Men should watch this video also. I'm glad I did. Why? Because it keeps me accountable. You make me hold a personal checklist to myself and take inventor. The only man who would get offended by this is the one whose doing these things. Truth hurts. And if one is doing these things, instead of getting mad he should change for the better. Again the truth hurts. I'm evolving everyday. Things I should have learned a long time ago I'm learning this year just by watching your videos. I'm far from perfect but I strive for perfection everyday. I thank God for Him creating u to help us and teach brothers like me. I'm improving because I truly want to become a husband to the right woman some day. And I'm on the right path. Thank u again. And God bless u Brother Tony!😇🙏
I’m glad to see men taking his advice! You will find a woman that only God has created for you. Just have faith and keep on doing the right thing in life. God bless you 🙏🏾
@@dazhamannani4860 Amen. Thk u so much!🙏
@@javon8082 Accountability as well about what he mentions regarding Social Media and Domestic Violence. What can't the God Lord Do? He can transform any man who gives his life to Christ. For the Bible say a man should love his wife as Christ loved the Church.
Your welcome!
This is wonderful. Not soo many men admit their wrongs or want to learn to be better. God bless u for striving to be better and may he bless u with a Godly woman!. Amen
Tony you are so right. I wish I knew this 20 years ago
Just became a new member of the Blessed Tribe. Where has Mr. Tony Gaskins been all my life?! This man speaks truth on love and life. 🙌
Boyyyy!!! When Tony sung 🎶never would’ve made it...
I lost it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My mom told me when I was little to never depend on a man, so I haven't. I'm use to doing all those things mentioned on my own. So it's not that I feel sadness that I don't have someone to do those things for me anymore, I'm sad because I never did. Or maybe I'm just tired of doing it all on my own.
Stop depending on a man was a message I really needed to hear and I thank you.
Thank you for sharing! I will be turning 33 tomorrow and have been abstinent since January 2018....been told that I am "wasting my body"....okay pimpin 🙄. I love being single and free working on me and developing my relationship with the Creator 😊🙏🏿😊 I made silly choices over and over again but during this pandemic I been in deep deep reflection and in 2020 I finally see all the poor choices I made causing me to feel like trash- no gun held to my head- I chose to ignore THE SIGNS in my previous life. Thank you Tony.
Awesome!!! I'm trying to do the same. Lord help me
@@kristabistaify Know your why and don't let NOBODY knock you off your square! 😊❤️😊
I thought that too but your body isn't all that's wasted when you're with a grown boy.
The singing reminder of "Never Would've Made It"!😂😂🤣Gotta love you😂❤️I absolutely love the mixer of your humor& teaching. God Bless you🙏🏾
He could be a stand up comedian explaining women lol
This is right on time, needed something to watch. The devil was trying to distract me.
The enemy is the KING of distractions. Smh.
You are sure talking, Tony...it's time for people to heal, grow up, do the inner work, and elevate their minds/spirits with God. We cannot have more healthy relationships until that happens. This is why I'm single now....I'm not attractive to grown boys and that's the majority out here. I'm waiting for a King who has himself together in God, that I can grow and build with. These men don't have that anywhere on their minds....it's all about their vices and running women.
Aaaaaaahhhhhhhhaaaaaaa🤣😂😂😂😂😂 MAXWELL,!!!, the devil with a battery in his back🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ... I’m done
😂😂😂😂
You're so funny Tony lol. Whilst I work from home you're all I've been listening to. I'm not even in a bad relationship, I'm just addicted to your videos.
God is truly using this man & I’m so thankful you allow God to pour the truth out through you. Much blessings to you & your family.
You're breaking it down in this video!🙌🙌 good message.
Thank you Tony! I feel so embarrassed! I have been watching Tarot cards for the past month trying to find clarity, when all I had to do was listen to GOD! I asked GOD last night to help me move on and maybe get clarity and today this message popped up!! I knew he was no good from the start, I guess because I'm a good person and I did everything for him that he would value me..wrong!!!! Thanks again for doing GODS work because I did ask for his help last night and today your video showed up, thank you. 😊
He's Faithful, isn't He?
Love Wins is right, please repent of the tarot cards & ask Jesus to close & seal shut any demonic spiritual doors that may have been opened.
Sweetheart, men have ZERO respect for women that chase and cater to them. It just shows them that you don't value YOURSELF. Get a clue!!!
@@chitown7110 yeah definitely, I will never do this again! I really thought I was helping our relationship head somewhere lmao, but in his head he was taking me for granted..its a big lesson learned. I went on a date with one of the many men who treat me good and cater to me ( funny huh)...I had a great time and will never fall into that energy again ( feeling like I have to do everything ).
@@incredibleeli5932 Glad to hear it. In a relationship you have to take your cue from the man and match his energy. NEVER do more for a man than he does for you. God Bless!!😉
Your energy and time is going towards positivity! I pray you have balance with your time and family.
That Maxwell note though 😂 Thank you for taking out the time to make this video today. You’re always dropping gems on us. Be blessed and stay safe!
Am I in love with this channel? Yessss
You are amzzzzing Gaskin 🤭 Greetings from Milan
Wow Tony out here calling us weed smokers junkies 😂😂😂😂 this might be my last bag I smoke.
Put the weed down sis before it take you down. 🙏🏾
@@11071874said I will and thank you 🤗
@@11071874 hey here an update I am completely done . I'll update you in 2 months
REBALANCE CO you are an awesome woman! For you to update me on your journey is double amazing!!! I’m so proud of you! May God continue blessing you with everything He has in store for you. ❤️
@@11071874 thank you so much may God bless you . I am very sick from withdrawal but it will pass God is with me and he is with you with every step we take in life .
I can attest to all he is saying. So true.
Me too.
Greetings Tribe Family and Everyone!
Thankful Tuesday👳♀️
Deuteronomy 31:6
Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them, For The Lord your God, He is the one who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.
#TonyGaskinsAcademy.com
#SelfLoveUniversity
#Strongmind
#Mentallystrong
#SelfControl
#Righteousness
#Honesty
#Mindset
#AllPrasiesToTheMostHigh
🙏🏽🙌🏽
Talk about it Tony!!!!! People don’t want to hear the truth
Not Tony saying "rumour has it he did coke every now and then" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I just lost it after that. Tony has a unique gift of combining cold hard accountability examples with raw comedy and I am just greatful I can enjoy this content. Thank you Tony for sharing your gift with us you have taught me alot and made me laugh hysterically at the same time.
Truth will set you free! Amen!! Tony, you were spot on, always speaking the truth. I respect that so much about you
( 5:17 )“ He don’t like to work , or he stealin from his job if he do work, he keep saying he laid off but he QUIT. “ 😝😝😝😝 praise God I am not on back with none of these men. 👏🏾😌
I have watched this video 3 times already. The truth is a hard pill to swallow but I was finally able to digest this information and I am moving forwards making some changes in my life. Tony thank you for giving us ladies the wisdom and knowledge to determine God's best for us. We cannot ignore red flags hoping they will disappear. If anything those flags become monuments later on down the line.
“& you hear that never woulda made it” took me out 😂😂😂
“Ray Charles can tell you and he can’t see him , Hellen Keller can tell you and she can’t hear him ... if the man you with is a good man “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
On lunch break, hyped I’m able to catch this😁
Same here!
Amen Ms. Keely!😘💃💪🙏
When he said "Beyonce made lemonade , now she bout to make fruit punch" I done lost it !!😭😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That face at 2 hours and 55 minutes! Priceless lol
Is that means I’m safe??? 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol😃😃
Tony is so cool and down to earth. Just real and authentic. I just enjoy your videos. Please bring Mrs. Gaskins back for a follow up video. Many blessings to you both.
Tony your shade never gets old 😂😂😂😂 love the new office! Keep doing God’s work.
Learning and laughing at the same time 🤦🏾♀️
Absolutely lol
Yes, cause Tony got me over here HOLLERING 😂😂😂😂!
Say that shit👑🔥💯💯 I’m cursing but I can hold an intellectual conversation as well but truth b told today
Got to go...🏃🏽♂️🤣
Thank you for all you do! All these women getting minimized due to lack of self awareness.
Can you please pray for my son Juwuan, we’ve gone through a lot & he really need prayer & protection. Thank you!
Praying for you Lynn, and your son . God bless you both. Amen.
Anything you’re addicted to, is unhealthy for your life. 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Curse them toys Tony. They're the same as hangela. But that drink some prune juice took me out. 😂😂😂😂 whaaat.
😂😂😂😂 that got to go was so abrupt it caught me off guard.😂😂😂😂
Great vid be blessed.
Loved this message Tony.
Awesome!!! Every word on point👌🏽🙌🏽... Love the humour in the truths you deliver. Thank you 🙏🏽 ... the flags have always been there... before the outcome... God Bless you Tony!!!
Thank you for this message 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Great message 👍, thank you Tony. You are a blessing
Your my favorite life Coach 💯 you Right but you funny as hell 😂🤣
You are so spot on with everything you said!!!
Too real for most! Tell it Tony G!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🎯💯🥰🥰
Another great video! Tony needs to trademark "got tah go" lol he took me out unexpectedly with that at the end 🤣
I am cracking up! Thank you for giving us some humor with this truth. You are right on time, and the pandemic has illuminated a lot of these issues.
I'm only 10 minutes into this video and it is so good! You're helping us so much Tony. God bless you and your family.
Be Blessed, I'm here and ready to receive 🙌
Every time he says laying on your back it TAKES ME OUT 😂
I love the way you always keep it real. You are funny without having to curse. Keep on keeping it real Tony. I appreciate that thumbs ☝
yayyyyy TG has arrived!!!! Laughter and Lessons. The video last night "Stop Depending on a Man"....that video was fire!!!!!
🔥🔥🔥🔥
Speaking the truth.
Be blessed.