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  • @annaadams86ful
    @annaadams86ful 3 года назад +514

    Do not take him back!!! And stay celibate that is your POWER!!!

    • @chynadoll77cyn59
      @chynadoll77cyn59 3 года назад +16

      Yep that part 💯

    • @denaalvidres4579
      @denaalvidres4579 3 года назад +7

      Celibate ❓ sex is medicinal 🤷‍♀️

    • @yourstruly1984
      @yourstruly1984 3 года назад +28

      I'm so tired of being celibate but I've yet to meet a man that's worthy 😌

    • @tlashai9902
      @tlashai9902 3 года назад +2

      Amen, amen, amen

    • @denaalvidres4579
      @denaalvidres4579 3 года назад +20

      We as women must treat these grown boyz for the tool they worth. After it’s over grab ya purse and stapler and go home. Chile💯‼️

  • @sapphirajohnes9565
    @sapphirajohnes9565 3 года назад +544

    This man is saving women’s lives, from pain and destruction.

  • @BrittneySamoneSilver
    @BrittneySamoneSilver 3 года назад +446

    "A woman who knows who she is and what she wants doesn't have time to argue." 💯

  • @BrittneySamoneSilver
    @BrittneySamoneSilver 3 года назад +392

    "Whenever you release something that is not serving you, you make room for something that will serve you." 💯

  • @dooliefaye3588
    @dooliefaye3588 3 года назад +321

    I used to go running and all the while I was saying “I’m coming out of this.” I’d be lifting weights at the gym and saying “I’m coming out of this.” The more I said it, the stronger I became. I used to talk to God and say “I know this is not what you has in mind when created me. No sir.” Moved 700 miles away, got some self-love. Got my PhD and haven’t looked back. 13 years out!

    • @dooliefaye3588
      @dooliefaye3588 3 года назад +25

      No, and I wasn’t looking to meet anyone. I told God “if it isn’t your best for me, I don’t want it.” I was so focused on loving me. Traveled to 32 countries during that time. Went and got my PhD.

    • @dooliefaye3588
      @dooliefaye3588 3 года назад +20

      I wouldn’t say it was a dream. I would say that it was a decision. A decision to love me. A decision to live and love life. A decision to pursue peace and growth. Once I made a decision, the rest was quite easy.

    • @BrittneySamoneSilver
      @BrittneySamoneSilver 3 года назад +1

      🙌

    • @TiffanyBTV
      @TiffanyBTV 3 года назад +4

      Praise God 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @kikic7637
      @kikic7637 3 года назад +4

      @@dooliefaye3588 I love this🙌🏾

  • @antoniac1234
    @antoniac1234 3 года назад +341

    I filed divorce after 11 years of marriage with a non-verbal, autistic child, no job, and 100 dollars that my sister gave me to open a bank account. My dad paid for my divorce. It's been almost 4 years now. I'm in a very stable job that provides more than enough and every weekend off. My life is peaceful, stable, and happy. I never thought I would be happy in my adult life. About 18 months after the divorce, it was as if a cloud lifted and I finally knew what it was to be happy.

    • @TiffanyBTV
      @TiffanyBTV 3 года назад +10

      Amennnn. 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @Thatgirlmichelle1
      @Thatgirlmichelle1 3 года назад +2

      Amen👏👏💚💚💙💜💜❤️

    • @Sassyasscanbe
      @Sassyasscanbe 3 года назад +3

      SO PROUD OF YOUR COURAGE!!! 🙏🙏🙏

    • @samanthaadkins5551
      @samanthaadkins5551 3 года назад +1

      Congratulations

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 3 года назад +1

      @Joyful n Blessed Amen. Christ is the ultimate husband. Let us be a pure bride for him.

  • @denisedean8503
    @denisedean8503 3 года назад +297

    I'm okay being alone my husband will find me, I'm am worthy of love

  • @beckyvegalifecoach2481
    @beckyvegalifecoach2481 3 года назад +280

    Single mother , happy . With my special needs child . Divorced the grown boy. I let the lord heal me. It took time but most of all I did it for my son . ❤️

    • @small11989
      @small11989 3 года назад +7

      Hi Becky, I’m about to go through a divorce to a grown boy & I have two young boys. Any advice you can give me, I’m so nervous as now he is being all lovely and the man I wanted, I feel tricked and need the strength from God to know it will never change, it’s all just the act

    • @TheFactsofLife237
      @TheFactsofLife237 3 года назад +3

      ❤❤

    • @esthervega8039
      @esthervega8039 3 года назад +4

      @@small11989 do not fall for it.

    • @michellevanrijn8940
      @michellevanrijn8940 3 года назад +3

      @@small11989 you know what to do🙏🏼 keep strong!

    • @chrissy1448
      @chrissy1448 3 года назад +2

      small11989 Stay Strong and Follow your intuition..

  • @luash5073
    @luash5073 3 года назад +191

    Some of these grown boys would actually make amazing salesmen by the way they be selling all these hopes and dreams. They’d all be rich if all that energy was channeled from a pure and honest place.

    • @talyshahickerson7281
      @talyshahickerson7281 3 года назад +25

      Yessssss! Or, delivery men the way they nicely package and deliver us B.S. lol

    • @ivy6179
      @ivy6179 2 года назад +5

      LOL

  • @mymakersdaughter6041
    @mymakersdaughter6041 3 года назад +151

    He kills me grabbing the “purse” and other belongings🤣😆!!

  • @naturalcurlyhair8331
    @naturalcurlyhair8331 3 года назад +136

    Don't let a man ever move in with you. Don't ever let him drive your car. He needs his own, if excuses then he needs to get it together. If a man is not trying to get married. He is a waste of time. A lot can you a baby but can he be a husband to you. Wife material don't play games or give time away.

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      ANEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! 2021

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      AMEN ! HALLAJUAUH! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! SO TRUE!!! 2021

  • @Glamrocs
    @Glamrocs 3 года назад +140

    It feels so good to lay in bed and don’t have to worry about getting cheated on. My boss said you’re the only single person I know that’s so happy 😀 single and abstinent.

  • @angelaoden3359
    @angelaoden3359 3 года назад +132

    If you look closely the Bible upside down🤦🏼‍♀️😂😂🤣

  • @brendaames6705
    @brendaames6705 3 года назад +151

    Tony I did it two years ago I'm 71yrs old I'm so blessed by the Lord , I'm waiting for the Lord to send my Boaz, but in the meantime I'm joyful in my LORD ! God Bless

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +9

      May God continue to bless you!

    • @relleyy
      @relleyy 3 года назад +5

      May God continue to bless you x

  • @paradiselivinginpurpose
    @paradiselivinginpurpose 3 года назад +29

    " If you have to leave more than one time, you playing yourself." ~ TG

  • @AidaRivera
    @AidaRivera 3 года назад +140

    I left a toxic situation after a year, and now I am so much happier. Started my RUclips channel and focusing on me made my life 10 times better ❤️ stay up ladies. It gets better I promise you

    • @Nicole-ki3op
      @Nicole-ki3op 3 года назад +3

      Good for you👍🏾👏🏾 stay focused and keep going Aida!💃🏾

    • @AidaRivera
      @AidaRivera 3 года назад +1

      Nicole thank you ❤️

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD! AND PRAY FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! AND FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH U! SMILE ALWAYS! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL!

  • @lizzylewis5793
    @lizzylewis5793 3 года назад +72

    The most powerful statement my mother told me when I was in a toxic relationship was, "he is not God's best." It was then that I realized that God doesn't operate in mess and that He wants to give us His best and that I am worthy and valuable in the eyes of God. I left that relationship and never went back and I am so thankful to God for His grace and protection of my body and renewing my mind. Ladies it can be done but like Tony said you can't be afraid to be single and wait on God for the right one. Who God has for you is for you.

    • @rcc9156
      @rcc9156 2 года назад +1

      This was beautifully said thank you

    • @adelante3938
      @adelante3938 5 месяцев назад +1

      wow yes

  • @mymakersdaughter6041
    @mymakersdaughter6041 3 года назад +124

    I guess I’m in the 30%. I broke up with my grown boy in April. In all honesty, yes, I’m very lonely. It has been five months and I have NOT once contacted him and won’t. I respect myself too much, know who I am and whom I belong to. I do not play myself and I love myself and have standards for myself. I am worthy and deserve better. 👦🏾👋🏾 !!!

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +4

      That's right, you got this and God got you!

    • @eveshalom3534
      @eveshalom3534 3 года назад +4

      You got this! I heard this.. alone is the absence of people and loneliness is the absence of Purpose!!! God bless

    • @isasimental1113
      @isasimental1113 2 года назад +2

      MyMakersDaughter I am so freakin Proud of you stick to your guns girl. Remember you are a princess of a KING you have a duty to represent your Lord Father proudly and shine in his light. God our father loves his beautifully perfectly made children. He has a good man for each of us but we have to have faith and stay busy taking care of ourselves to look and feel good.

    • @mymakersdaughter6041
      @mymakersdaughter6041 2 года назад +2

      @@isasimental1113 Thank you beloved! It’s been almost two years and I kept true to my word. I left him alone! Praying for us all! 🙏🏾🤗

    • @isasimental1113
      @isasimental1113 2 года назад +2

      @@mymakersdaughter6041 You got all my prayers and we are never alone and when you do feel lonely you get on your knees and reach out to him and tell him why and how come and shortly after without knowing he feels that void with so much love you don't even notice him loving you and all that lonely is gone. He so loves us it is overwhelming lean on God for everything in your life he wants you to and open your heart to him so he can open doors folks try to slam in your face. Girl I dare them to try to keep good men from you God will shove everyone free and clear and push in the right direction but you have to be ready to receive his message and recognize it. 😉

  • @thejaemonique
    @thejaemonique 3 года назад +160

    I found Tony while looking at somebody else a few days ago, and ever since then I've been having a TG marathon to see all of the ways I've been played 🤦🏾‍♀️. Glad I know now!

    • @Ms.Haleyy
      @Ms.Haleyy 3 года назад +5

      It does happened like that! Yep, I get it now too! God bless!

    • @MT-hk9cp
      @MT-hk9cp 3 года назад +8

      when you know better you do better!

    • @brandnuwkindofme6711
      @brandnuwkindofme6711 3 года назад +3

      It's okay, just take it as a learning process and a blessing, I too was played, had 2 children by my ex, yes it may get lonely, I have sad days but you know what! I got peace, joy and happiness! No more physical, emotional, verbal abuse! God got me and everyday I work on me, I go to church, counseling, watch Tony, I work on my 3 B's ....like Tony said lean on the ever lasting love and word of the Lord.... haven't looked back since.

    • @toriyt2714
      @toriyt2714 3 года назад +1

      Join the club. It’s the most refreshing feeling the clarity you get.

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад

      @@brandnuwkindofme6711 That's great, he will continue to bless you, stay strong!

  • @StephaniesWorld7
    @StephaniesWorld7 3 года назад +146

    “Whenever you release something that is not serving you, you make room to receive something that will serve you” Amen 🙏🏽

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      AMEN! HALLAJUAUH! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!SO TRUE! 2021

    • @skiiiskii3825
      @skiiiskii3825 3 года назад

      Swearrrrr

  • @speakvisionspeak
    @speakvisionspeak 3 года назад +49

    He got you off the clearance rack and still wants to put you on layaway! Help us Jesus!

  • @fabiennepdt4898
    @fabiennepdt4898 3 года назад +68

    Let me confirm what your wife said, Tony. I got my strength from the same experience. My mother never went back to my dad. He's lonely now, and wouldn't dare talking to my mum, sisters and I. He's too ashamed of himself. The dreams that he had never came true. He's really miserable. How can God bless someone who refuses to obey him and look after his own family! I've been able to stand my ground in love, friendship and work. Thank you Jesus for that strength !

  • @camilleandriette
    @camilleandriette 3 года назад +49

    Glad I have healed and over the grown boys! I can’t stomach it anymore. I rather be single with peace of mind and happiness.

  • @thedisabledanddiscarded
    @thedisabledanddiscarded 3 года назад +172

    I think little Tony starting to like the camera... he going to carry on the legacy! Good job on your Bible Verse 🙏❤🙏

    • @bwilson2097
      @bwilson2097 3 года назад +20

      He is such a sweet little soul🤩💞!!! I don't know if he's checking for us or just wanted to see his blue tongue 🤣 in the camera 😂!

    • @Ms.J.
      @Ms.J. 3 года назад +9

      I was thinking the same thing! 😊💛🙏🏾👏🏾 God bless!

    • @naturallyfree01krj50
      @naturallyfree01krj50 3 года назад +9

      Yes, he is adorable.

    • @thedisabledanddiscarded
      @thedisabledanddiscarded 3 года назад +3

      @@Ms.J. GOD Bless You As Well 😍

  • @jennifersalinas716
    @jennifersalinas716 3 года назад +87

    It's a difference between grown boy and narcissists. That last laugh sounds like a narcissist. They must win and enjoy hurting their victims. That's a narcissist all day. They are cruel people. To do that to a woman or man who loves you is just evil. Oh and yes it will be worse when they come back.... so don't let them.

    • @chynadoll77cyn59
      @chynadoll77cyn59 3 года назад +7

      💯💯

    • @1visionarydeveloper
      @1visionarydeveloper 3 года назад +5

      So true

    • @christinapatterson4179
      @christinapatterson4179 3 года назад +8

      Most realest comment🙅🏾❗

    • @terib5467
      @terib5467 3 года назад +13

      A narcissist is also a grown boy...usually emotionally stunted at elementary or junior high school age

    • @merlinsvdd
      @merlinsvdd 3 года назад +6

      @@terib5467 i dealt with one. I believe it now. Yes.

  • @Iamdeedii
    @Iamdeedii 3 года назад +166

    Although I’m 19...I can definitely say this grown boy series has opened my eyes as well as the rest of your videos thank you so much for this god bless you and your family 🙌🏽❤️💯

    • @queenvv6244
      @queenvv6244 3 года назад +16

      I wish I knew all of this at 19! Wow. So young, please keep this advice in mind it will save you heartache 🤞🏾

    • @AidaRivera
      @AidaRivera 3 года назад +9

      I wish I found this info at 19 would’ve saved me a lot of pain. So take full advantage of what Tony says. He’s changing lives 💯

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 3 года назад +4

      You are blessed, wish I knew this early

    • @marcimariee
      @marcimariee 3 года назад +4

      Yes I’m 18 and I’m taking everything in.

    • @mjatalent3426
      @mjatalent3426 3 года назад

      How'd you hear about this Channel?

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 3 года назад +38

    "Don't ever stay in a situation that's not healthy for you..." ~TG
    👍🏽💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @vero23giselle
    @vero23giselle 3 года назад +76

    So grateful I found this channel! Been dealing with a grown boy for the past three years took him back way more than deserved. Mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive. I honestly had lost count, day 1 of healing and moving on. Please pray for me. 🙏🏼

    • @cindthorpe
      @cindthorpe 3 года назад +9

      🙏🏾Praying. It's hard. Keep your self busy to keep your mind occupied. And pray.

    • @patriciawatkins8248
      @patriciawatkins8248 3 года назад +7

      I will pray for you. It will be difficult keep going. Going back will never be worth it. Been there!!! You can do it!!!

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +2

      Sending prayers up! Stay strong and focus on you and your health and happiness! You can do it!

    • @micheleprice9771
      @micheleprice9771 3 года назад

      KEEP GOD FIRST IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE U THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH U! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! AND FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SMILE ALWAYS! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT!

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 3 года назад +51

    "Your life is a Direct reflection of what you feel you deserve." ~TG
    🤔💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @TiffanyFG
    @TiffanyFG 3 года назад +50

    "You need to vet the counselors/coaches, because sometimes there be coaches and counselors who's loose booty 901".... Lol, that part.

  • @thankfulqueen4280
    @thankfulqueen4280 3 года назад +52

    In the name of Jesus, Lord, for every grown man who purposely pursues a woman to intentionally hurt them I ask that you touch them by unleashing your wrath upon them until they are brought to their knees in Godly sorrow and true and transformative repentance. So that they know you are real, and that you are nothing to play with. I pray and ask that you hold them accountable and not let them get away with a single thought of purposely and intentionally hurting someone because of their ego in Jesus name I pray and ask amen.

    • @tawainahollis4770
      @tawainahollis4770 2 года назад

      THANK YOU!!!! Touching & agreeing with this prayer!!!!

  • @fabiolaacevedo6721
    @fabiolaacevedo6721 3 года назад +67

    I loved how his son said the Bible verse at the end it fits really well with the video ♥️

  • @kimsmith819
    @kimsmith819 3 года назад +114

    He honestly treated me worse the second time around. I left him because he was emotionally and verbally abusive for a year. He claimed fixed so i moved back home to Tampa Bay, he is no different than he was and possibly worse than he was. 18 years of marriage down the toilet. Im not interested in the least way. Since March,, not 1 date, no help with anything and im disabled. It was all BS. He was scamming me to come back home. Id rather sit in the Michigan snow. Ive realized he can't do crap for himself, so maybe that is his reason but im done. Disabled and dont need him or his abusive ways

    • @lisasykes624
      @lisasykes624 3 года назад +5

      Narcissistic

    • @alisiasaffore9461
      @alisiasaffore9461 3 года назад +6

      Praying for you 🤍

    • @TiffanyBTV
      @TiffanyBTV 3 года назад +2

      😢 😔

    • @abigailsavinon2875
      @abigailsavinon2875 3 года назад +6

      strong ❤️ u did the right thing

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +3

      May God continue to bless you! You are awesome and wonderfully made and he is with you, every step of the way!

  • @DianeBrandstetter
    @DianeBrandstetter 3 года назад +59

    Wow Toni sure wish you were around to teach 30 years ago. It has taken me 3 grown boy husbands a life time, to learn ! Thank you God Bless you for helping women. 💞

  • @desireelamarche7149
    @desireelamarche7149 3 года назад +56

    Tony, I recently left a 10 year relationship. He just was never going to change and wouldn't leave the house that I bought. I ended up selling my house and cutting him off blocking him from everything. I feel at peace... No more arguing, no more verbal or mental abuse... No more hoping and waiting for things to get better. .. Although I am sad, I am ten times stronger, healthier, peaceful. I bought myself another house very close to a beautiful beach. I love the Lord and am ok with whatever happens relationshipwise meaning if God has a good man waiting for me or not. I have traveling plans and projects that I'm passionate about yet still to accomplish. I just wanted to say thank you because in large part, watching your videos gave me clarity, strength, and direction. I knew I had it in me, just needed that extra reinforcement. You truly are a blessing. Thank you for your work and may God always be the center of every aspect of your life. God Bless

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +2

      I think we were in the same 10 year relationship, smh. I'm divorcing now, but I'm still in the home that we wants me to sell. I'm looking forward to this being all over and final. Actually, I can't wait, been counting down the days to be able to officially file for divorce. I know there is better and that I deserve it. After healing, I know now that I would not ever ignore red flags or put up with the mess I endured. I thank God for the strength and the peace, knowing that all will be well after court and I have greatness in my future!

    • @mariono244
      @mariono244 5 месяцев назад

      This is really beautiful to read. Congratulations and I hope you are truly happy.

  • @Rachel-rt6yd
    @Rachel-rt6yd 3 года назад +76

    I hear no lies being told here. Unfortunately I had to go through this to know he's telling the truth. I'm not ashamed to say I had toxic traits when I was previously married but the best decision I made was deciding to divorce my kids father and work on me. Once I did that and fully submitted to God, the blessings came back to back while he has had loss after loss. Don't be afraid leave ladies, it will get better.

    • @MsChinadoll25
      @MsChinadoll25 3 года назад +3

      TY for your testimony.

    • @Jas-qm4cg
      @Jas-qm4cg 3 года назад +1

      Rachel have u started dating since then?

    • @Jas-qm4cg
      @Jas-qm4cg 3 года назад +6

      Rachel I’m currently about to go through the divorce process and it’s very hard but I’m going to get through this. It’s been a year since our separation and it’s been time

    • @Rachel-rt6yd
      @Rachel-rt6yd 3 года назад +11

      @@Jas-qm4cg no not really. I thought I was ready when I first divorced but God showed me I wasn't healed yet so I intentionally took a couple years of not dating anyone. During that time I worked on myself, watched these videos, and got closer to God. It's been 4 years since the divorce and I still haven't dated anyone. Once you get knowledge, you'll refuse to settle.

    • @Rachel-rt6yd
      @Rachel-rt6yd 3 года назад +1

      @@MsChinadoll25 ☺️

  • @nullbyte5036
    @nullbyte5036 3 года назад +70

    And YES, I filed for CS after 10monyhs of trying to be a “family”....I’m telling y’all, listen to this mans videos WHHEEEW!!! I fall sleep listening to these videos.

    • @Yna-u3g
      @Yna-u3g 3 года назад +7

      Me too so it can be binaural wisdom!!😅

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад

      Me too, getting it in my subconscious mind as well, lol!

  • @msdenise218
    @msdenise218 3 года назад +28

    Ladies 🚨 please don’t take a toxic man back,‼️everything Tony is saying is 💯 percent true‼️ I let my extremely deranged ex come back into my life for just 2 days because he claimed he needed my help and I felt sorry for him and he was much worse, so bad he pulled a gun out on me and put it towards my hip for assuming I was looking at another man ‼️ so ladies I’m here today alive to tell you from experience we deserve the best that God has for us, we are his daughters, and he would never give us a man that will hurt us or lie to us ‼️now that I have blocked him and moved on building my relationship with the lord I’m truly at peace and haven’t been more happier ever in my life‼️

    • @terrybrown7510
      @terrybrown7510 3 года назад +3

      May God continue to bless and keep you!

  • @shernadehosein3749
    @shernadehosein3749 3 года назад +49

    I have made up my mind, I will be single forever and live for the lord lol.

  • @kenishalperkins
    @kenishalperkins 3 года назад +34

    “Whatever you on just be on that” - Tony Gaskin’s 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @ClaraCouturexo
      @ClaraCouturexo 3 года назад +2

      And stick to it 😂😂

    • @kenishalperkins
      @kenishalperkins 3 года назад +1

      Destined to be Great Podcast Haaaaaaa and don’t be switching 😂😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @speakvisionspeak
    @speakvisionspeak 3 года назад +20

    You were supposed to let him in the back door but you rolled out the red carpet and called the photographers.
    Wow! Real talk!!!

  • @tiffanys.4250
    @tiffanys.4250 3 года назад +55

    Honestly listening to this, I'm realizing just how demonic this whole "game" is. None of this is of God! How many lives and dreams were lost to this demonic game.

    • @TiffanyA837
      @TiffanyA837 3 года назад +7

      !!!!. I've asked God to just shield me from men in 2021. I need a break from the exhaustion that comes when dealing with men. I just cannot anymore.

    • @anioganesyan8034
      @anioganesyan8034 3 года назад +5

      so many games nd the funny thing is if u play as well ul get married and engaged but if ur honest its nt enough this world is dark and twisted

    • @essiethebestie1
      @essiethebestie1 3 года назад +1

      @@anioganesyan8034 ain't that some bull🙄
      It's true though.

  • @coleycole2641
    @coleycole2641 3 года назад +48

    Dang! I was just about to go to bed and this came through.. lol. Guess, I'm up for another hour now. The title just spoke to my soul can't help but watch.

    • @kimsmith819
      @kimsmith819 3 года назад +2

      Great info to stay up for. I hope it was worth it to you

    • @lunamoon7539
      @lunamoon7539 3 года назад +2

      Same here lol.

    • @mariadaskalakis9317
      @mariadaskalakis9317 3 года назад +1

      It’s a whole series!

    • @LaniElevate
      @LaniElevate 3 года назад +2

      Same here gurl! It may be too late for me though. This melatonin bout to kick in! 😂

    • @chandraweekley5138
      @chandraweekley5138 3 года назад

      Same for me!

  • @Sugarsugar4u
    @Sugarsugar4u 3 года назад +41

    🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 LISTEN...THERE IS MORE ON THE OTHER SIDE..I ABSOLUTELY PROMISE YOU!!! Been there done THAT...You HAVE TO want more for YOURSELF. You simply just have to KNOW it. It's not enough to fake it and shake it... REALLY do the work and relationships will be the last thing on your mind, then there's room for all your BLESSINGS GOD has for you in his storehouse. I never believed it myself...BUT GOD,BUT GOD, BUT GOD....LET GO AND LET HIM...WATCH HIM WORK!!!!

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 3 года назад +38

    “The reason why, the grown boy has to get the last laugh.” TG

  • @girl-gx2ls
    @girl-gx2ls 3 года назад +26

    The way your face lights up when around your wife and sons says it all. God bless this family

  • @melodywise2353
    @melodywise2353 3 года назад +24

    Tony preached that word! I was that woman who left with my kids and left everything behind. Left a 3 BR home for a tiny 2 BR apartment. My kids are young adults now and the better for it all. Yes I struggled for several years afterwards. But God will and did provide. No material things can replace your peace and happiness.

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 3 года назад +30

    "keep your tongue from evil and your lips from telling lies."
    Psalms 34:13
    God's word from the mouth of a child, Tony & Sheri Gaskin's son. Thanking God for working His purpose in that moment.
    🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼

  • @jessepera2457
    @jessepera2457 3 года назад +22

    I have been completely single with my toddler for the better part of a year and healing every single day. Alot of the comments I see say "stay single" "I'm never dating again" etc etc but u really want to get to a place where u trust urself to uphold ur standards w whoever trys it. This healing is more about reclaiming ur VOICE i.e communicating ur assertiveness. Discerning what gets a red light when u used to give behaviors a green light. That's it don't be afraid. Get to a point where u trust urself. If ur not there yet u got a little more to go. But u r headed in the right direction ♥️

  • @osinachiblessing6272
    @osinachiblessing6272 3 года назад +26

    LADIES, DON'T GIVE THE GROWN BOY CHANCE TO GET THE LAST LAUGH....NEVER! NEVER!......WIN WIN WIN

    • @knowyourkismat
      @knowyourkismat 3 года назад +9

      Winning is the peace you get when you walk away and remove that toxic person from your life. Regardless who had the last word

  • @yw6502
    @yw6502 3 года назад +25

    The clearance rack analogy is perfection, I've never been happier being single, thank you Brother Tony.

  • @Juju-gf3iq
    @Juju-gf3iq 3 года назад +19

    Tony it be feeling like your basically tellin my story sometimes 😂 this happened to me. I had moved on met someone else who treated me really good, once he saw that he came back begging and crying. I took him back and cut the other guy off.. we went to therapy (he only went to 3 sessions), he came to church with me, sat down with my daddy and friends told them he had changed. Said he wanted a family, I get pregnant, 3 weeks before my due date I kept getting little signs, I went through his iPad and BOOM 💥 found out he was still doing the same shit..he flipped it on me saying we wouldn’t have fallen out had I not went through his stuff..and told me he don’t want a woman who go through his stuff..our therapist later became my individual therapist. She told me he was a narcissist, I had no clue what that was back then. It can be hard to break but Gods gives us the gift of Life!!! Temporary pain trying to break free vs. a wasted life. Don’t waste Gods Gift of life on someone who doesn’t respect and love you the way you deserve!! Thank you Tony for your insight!! Everything you be saying is on point!! You truly are a blessing us with this Word!

  • @phinesseriley7561
    @phinesseriley7561 3 года назад +21

    That purse kills me 😂

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +19

    Whenever you release something that is not serving you, you make room to receive something that will serve you. -TG

  • @GoodGrief101
    @GoodGrief101 3 года назад +18

    I don’t know about y’all, but I will just say NO to growing boy’s. Been there and NEVER again. They’ll make any kind of promise to get you back and act worse than they did before. Most of the time, we know that the growing boy isn’t worth it. We try for whatever reason, to hang in there. Tony, tell it! Thank you and be blessed.

  • @jessepera2457
    @jessepera2457 3 года назад +13

    My therapist told me the same thing, that sometimes it will be up to A YEAR b4 they begin to exhibit these behaviors. Wow

  • @Ania_Naomi96
    @Ania_Naomi96 Год назад +3

    Left a toxic situationship a week ago after being off and on for 3 years. I’m not looking back and got these videos going everyday in my ear buds. life is much peaceful on this side, work is going better and I feel so rejuvenated.

  • @knowyourkismat
    @knowyourkismat 3 года назад +9

    “ What cannot be fixed is your heart if you stay in a toxic situation” so true

  • @Tahtiluv
    @Tahtiluv Год назад +2

    “If you look closely the Bible upside down” 😂😂😂 I can’t stand this man 😭😭

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 3 года назад +12

    "...sometimes people say stuff out they Mouth, but they don't believe it in they Heart." ~TG
    💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @deed1436
    @deed1436 3 года назад +13

    I haven’t been intimate with my grown boy in 14 months ON PURPOSE and he’s in treatment too. I’m also tricking him currently. I’ve told him we need to sell our house and buy a 2 family so we can rent out half of it. What he doesn’t know is that I want the 2 family house so that we can live separate.

  • @joiagenae
    @joiagenae 3 года назад +6

    Just dropping this here: I was in a toxic situationship but I am now blessed and highly favored. There is a blessing on the other side, but you have to believe that. In the words of tony... grab your purse, your stapler and go! 🤣🤣🤦🏾‍♀️ you have to know you deserve better and move on. I'm only 24 but I know from now on what I will and won't tolerate

  • @GoodGrief101
    @GoodGrief101 3 года назад +23

    Your son is adorable! You and your wife are raising them right. God bless😊

  • @ayana188
    @ayana188 3 года назад +10

    Omg !!!! Ladies it’s great on the other side.. no more emotional roller coaster, silent treatment for every little thing I did to make him mad, him asking me for rides because his irresponsible self lost his License and the curse outs. Truthfully I stayed 3 yrs too long in a 6yr situation. Like tony said , I was toxic too at times but I realized this yr I absolutely want better!!!! BTW Beautiful little boy 👦🏾❤️ tony.

    • @Micahsophia
      @Micahsophia 2 года назад +1

      Same thing happen to me expect he had a mom who thought he was her man & was always asking me for money every week..it drained me so much i had no energy for my passions & started to become mean myself, due to his curse outs & silent treatment anytime i spoke up or asked an adult mature question. Glad we away from it. These grown boys are a true traumatic experience

  • @ashleycbla
    @ashleycbla 3 года назад +15

    Your child looking at you in the back seat like... (those head movements are hilarious) 😂

  • @arionnajames474
    @arionnajames474 3 года назад +5

    All You need is in God, Let Go and Let God 🙏🏽. Trust Him and watch how He works in your Life🤍🙏🏽.

  • @anwhitley
    @anwhitley 3 года назад +7

    Maaan. TG ain't speaking nothing but the truth. Was in a toxic relationship with a grown boy. He used to threaten me by saying when he left me he would live his best life. Funny thing is the literal life he described is mine now! I own multiple properties, have a profitable business, healthy dating life and on my way to making even more money! Most of all I love the Lord and love myself. The best decision I made was trusting God when I didn't see a light at the end of the tunnel. All I'll say is that inner voice is trying to save you. Listen to it!

  • @MS-wg6xs
    @MS-wg6xs Год назад +2

    “Nice knowing you, but I’m going to get my stapler” 😂 you’re doing G❤ds work - we give grown boys too much credit! They know what they doing!

  • @go_off_Sis
    @go_off_Sis 3 года назад +27

    Apparently accepting “I’m sorry” allows Evil back into your life...😳🤭

    • @tamaraimbata4438
      @tamaraimbata4438 5 месяцев назад +1

      Because words are cheap. Actions speak volumes

  • @vainqueurvainqueur5342
    @vainqueurvainqueur5342 3 года назад +15

    "Let the Lord carry you." This right here!!...priceless! Thanku Tony. God bless you and your family.

  • @iconicsavage2327
    @iconicsavage2327 3 года назад +11

    I was that mamma with the bake beans and bread... I left and never looked back..

  • @AS-br8in
    @AS-br8in 3 года назад +6

    Left a grown boy after five years and when I started closing my heart for him and was done for good the blessings started rolling in one after another. Ladies, we block our blessings and the blessings of our children by telling ourselves we are only worthy being with a man and being appreciated by him. Truth is these grown boys are blocking everything. Thank you Tony for breaking it down for us. We need this to believe in what we feel. All of us are too much confused by romantic fantasies while these boys playing with us, leaving us all broken and hurt. You are definetly the greatest blessing of our time. Thank you for all you do. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @PrettyReddTheDoula
    @PrettyReddTheDoula 3 года назад +9

    Lil Tony is a handsome fella😊.

  • @theonerealestatesecret
    @theonerealestatesecret 3 года назад +7

    My testimony-He put me out and I never went back. I too had a Mom that left and went back one time and got worst treatment. I am blessed as Tony said. Living better than I could have ever imagined. I don't have to tell people because they can see my glow. Never thought about it that way but you can't hide it when you are being blessed. Like this channel. I just found it about a month ago and getting more blessed everyday. Grew up in the church but this was never taught so I can relate to everything that he is saying.

  • @iscelaarias3957
    @iscelaarias3957 3 года назад +4

    I was married and unhappy and my attitude was horrible....until a doctor I worked with asked me who is making you be ugly?.... Now, in days it’s easy to recognize those that are going through miserable life. I’m single and strong and my kids are ok ..... my kids said thank you for teaching them to be strong. I still single and happy. I love my peace, I love to see my kids happy.

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 3 года назад +5

    Never take a grown man back...they are not worth the pain and misery...be alone rather than dance with the devil...

  • @valeriethebeautifulsoultv4179
    @valeriethebeautifulsoultv4179 3 года назад +5

    “Get your purse 👜 and you have to go”-TG😂. Tony, you are the truth!🏆🥇

  • @elyselancaster3864
    @elyselancaster3864 3 года назад +9

    Thank You Uncle Tony 👑💕. I walked away & haven’t look back I’m 22 ,, & have my life in front of me thank you 🙏🏽

  • @melsazaspanishmark7994
    @melsazaspanishmark7994 3 года назад +12

    Yay Tayden he is loving the camera and he will take over continued blessings

  • @shifeniajackson2512
    @shifeniajackson2512 3 года назад +8

    I left the toxic relationship I was in and I feel so much peace and happiness. When I was in that relationship I was miserable and stressed. I feel no one should accept that way of being to be with someone. Love yourself more.

  • @Herbeliefinchrist
    @Herbeliefinchrist 3 года назад +17

    So I have a lil testimony. I’ve shared my point of view on a few videos buuuut not that much. Oan, I was in an on and off relationship with a man I really thought was the one for me at one point. he was nine years older than me he did have a son and at one point we worked together. Long story short I broke up with him because we both were toxic, he didn’t keep his word, I didn’t know how to control my temper when I got upset sometimes so. Just like Tony gaskin said for him,.. I wanted better for myself. I wanted peace. I wanted to stop sharing my body with someone I wasn’t married to. PLUS! I have family members that are very spiritual and since we were living together not married, they would warn me about what God told them to tell me. I started listening to my family when I noticed that I wasn’t just the problem. We broke up in November 2019 and it’s now September 2020. Don’t get me wrong memories are still there cus I mean it was four freakin years. I’m 27 and I’ve NEVER lived with a man for that long by myself. Besides my family of course. Doing all I could for him. Bought him stuff, cooked, cleaned, I mean I didn’t even know I cus do that much for a guy. But I loved him. I lost a car out of this relationship BUT! I am focused, determined, strong, happy, at peace and overall taken care of. I give that praise and recognition to none other than Lord Jesus himself. I pray and stuff so I do the best I can to not allow emotions to make long term decisions for me. I had no kids by him cus I ain’t play dat. Lbs but yeah. I’m glad I’m out of it so I AM NOT THE TYPE TO GO BACK ONCE IM REALLY DONE. And I am. Thank God! Lbvs!

    • @Effort.lyss__
      @Effort.lyss__ 3 года назад

      I’m the same with my temper and working on it.. What did he do that made you lose control of your temper sometimes?

  • @JAYHOPEMINISTRIES
    @JAYHOPEMINISTRIES 3 года назад +7

    Guys this man called Tony Gaskins... Listen to him he will help you and save you and change your life for the better. Thank me later.God bless you Tony

  • @precioussimonee333
    @precioussimonee333 4 месяца назад +1

    “GET YO PURSE AND GET YO STAPLER NA” 😂😂😂 i’m telling you i got to go

  • @angelaoden3359
    @angelaoden3359 3 года назад +5

    When you grab the purse and the stapler 🤣🤣 bring my stapler back though. I can always count on Tony for a good laugh. He’s teaching us!!!!

  • @aphillip2411
    @aphillip2411 3 года назад +5

    When the student is ready the teacher appears. Thanks Tony.

  • @meritasharp5954
    @meritasharp5954 3 года назад +8

    Getting a divorce was the best decision I made. My children were happier than they were when me and their father were married

  • @katrinabrown7871
    @katrinabrown7871 3 года назад +7

    "Get your purse and staple....go!"😂😂

  • @ivankak.7763
    @ivankak.7763 3 года назад +8

    Thank you for this lesson. Sometimes victories feel like losses. I let this guy go because he wasn't respecting me even though we had great chemistry. Its okay though, I know God only does upgrades.

  • @micheleprice9771
    @micheleprice9771 3 года назад +3

    " A MAN NEEDS TO HAVE HIS OWN THINGS NO EXCUSES! A MAN NEEDS TO GET IT RIGHT! OR " STOP WASTING UR PRECIOUS TIME!" LEAVE!" MOVE ON!! THANK U! TONY LOOKIN FORWARD TO MORE! 😊

  • @love2you1980
    @love2you1980 3 года назад +6

    Single mom.. so happy I had the strength of my mom who left my father. Watching your videos made me fight even harder to stand in my power. I have the mental, spiritual and emotional validity. I'm committed to my son and his growth, I started my journey to school for Agriculture business and horticulture and I'm in the process of starting a business to leave a legacy for my son. I will tell you that Grown boys will have you dusted and disgusted if you go back and continue to trick and lie to yourself. You will definitely waste time, energy and years of your life. Move on. I'm at peace, and happy.

  • @samyalisaenright681
    @samyalisaenright681 3 года назад +10

    That was the sweetest ending to this video😇😇😇😍😍😍🥰🥰🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @BrittneySamoneSilver
    @BrittneySamoneSilver 3 года назад +4

    "You shouldn't be looking for the spirit of beg to differ." 💯

  • @TiffanyBTV
    @TiffanyBTV 3 года назад +8

    16:50 😂😂😂😂 the purse grab is ALWAYS a Classic..... bring my Stapler Back Na 😂😂😫😫

    • @joiagenae
      @joiagenae 3 года назад

      🤣🤣😂😂

  • @tulip4169
    @tulip4169 3 года назад +4

    This is a man telling us this. This is real. As women we can not play with these men. Not even a little bit. Don’t give him an inch. Our lives are valuable and our lives matter. We can not tolerate nonsense and drama in relationships when we have things to do and beautiful lives to live.

  • @portia547
    @portia547 3 года назад +5

    It's amazing 👏 how Tony & his wife are training his son in the way he should go. It's always a blessing to see him learning Bible verses 🙏 😄

  • @lizl2785
    @lizl2785 2 года назад +4

    Your son is too adorable Tony 🥰
    To the lady that feels she will not be able to make it alone and wants to stay in a toxic relationship you are wrong! God has something better for you❣️I am a proud single happy, blessed ,working mother. I left my toxic relationship when my baby girl was 3 years old she is know 11 never looked or went back. It wasn’t and hasn’t been easy but God will always help you through it!!

  • @incredibleeli5932
    @incredibleeli5932 3 года назад +5

    Your son is so precious! He made me tear up, I was reminded to stay happy, gentle, and positive at all times😪 no more letting a man use me

  • @bridgethampton3932
    @bridgethampton3932 3 года назад +13

    😊So encouraging as always. And your youngest son coming in with his bible scripture is a blessing.

  • @Desie380
    @Desie380 7 месяцев назад +1

    I’m in tears laughing omg I didn’t know men were this bad 😂😂😂 Tony is on point with all the scenarios

  • @purposepretty8044
    @purposepretty8044 3 года назад +1

    I was willing to sleep in my car with my 7 yr old in a whole new state to get away from toxicity. Thank God for getting me to other side of being happy and whole and running my own business. Never be afraid to get to better. It WILL be worth it! 💕