I’m here as a man , trying to understand it all , I will be here for a while , I messed up I only hope god can fix this until then I’ll be here trying to learn
Jason Sanchez it is very enlightening to hear you want to change things in your life and acknowledge you need change..that's not easy for a man...God bless you Brother..
You gotta choose to be a man and not a grown boy. Continue to listen and work out your issues so you don't make the same mistakes again. Don't tell me you cheated on a good woman. If she has found herself she is not coming back.
Blessings to you! Keep seeking God the Most High, pray without stopping. Don't look at those "Mgtow or Red Pill " channels. They tell men, it's ok to be a lover of yourself and pump and dump women😒 No God sees alllll that we humans are doing and He sees that sex is out of control with us. We are letting the devil lead with sex (do what thou Will 👉do what you want to do mentality)....Keep praying brother keep listening to big bro Tony Gaskins!!
Ask God to change your heart towards marriage, your wife, and what you need to be satisfied. Find the value in doing the right thing. Remove yourself from anything that doesn't support what you're trying to do.
Yup, calling your man out on his bad behaviors, words and actions in LOVING WAY is a set of skills you must learn and educate yourself. Practice self care and stay connected to your emotions. Be kind to him, but take no bullshit♥️ Ps: don’t be afraid to walk away! I repeat, don’t ever feel afraid to walk away💪🏻
Yap. Take no bs and never be afraid to walk out.... also make sure to let your man know that you WILL NOT accept mediocre behaviour nor will you stay in a struggle relationship... he will always remember that.
God will never place a project in our path, He knows who and what we deserve. If we walk in value God will honor us and bless us with the right man/woman. We can no longer allow convenience, comfort, and loneliness paint us into a corner where we feel forced to settle for whatever comes along. You deserve better, right?!
@@jdashlovela God didn't do that to you, you took it upon yourself to entertain this person. Most of us have been there, I assure you, so we have to reexamine ourselves and choices.
@@jdashlovela GOD is not the author of confusion satan is. GOD Blesses us with good not what can harm us your bad choices led you to that guy, Praise GOD 🙏 you are not in that relationship any longer now you are watching Tony Gaskins and learning wisdom with how to relate to Men... Apply it to your life NOW!!! Blessings To You 🙏
...and that's why so many women settle for a grown boy because somehow it all became "normal". It became normal to argue in a disrespectful manner. It became normal to cheat at least once, to break up to make up several times, we thought it was a sign of true love.. It became normal to be a "ride or die". Everyday in many ways, you are showing us otherwise. You have not given up. Please don't give up.
Keep dropping knowledge so we can understand a woman’s influence so ALL women will know their worth and be able to recognize a grown man with character, integrity and ambition
Its a lot of couples have normalize dysfunction in a relationship. I feel like the reason why because some people don't know what love is, don't know how to love and haven't seen a healthy relationship. They don't know how to love their selves and haven't taken the time learn about who they are, what they want, and what they're good at(love). No one ever told them how to respect their selves, how to set boundaries, and how to have emotional intelligence.
Please listen to Tony he is not lying this is so true if a man walks out of your life let him go and never take him back because he does not want to change for you and my ex fiancé his mom never checked him as a child allowed him to do what ever he wanted and was a weak role model and to this day she talks about her separation with his father and how that affected her she still carry’s that pain she never healed so she was not available to raised her son I can’t tell you how much I regret given this man 7 years of me that I can never get back but I know god will help me heal from this and this will be a hard lesson I learned I can acknowledge my mistakes of the screaming part I was still a grown girl without realizing it but now that I have the knowledge I won’t make the same mistakes
When I say I'm in the exact same boat as you smh. This is exactly what I endured. His mother kept speaking the same way about his father, backed up her son bullshit and I gave him 8 years, a daughter and said yes to his engagement. Lesson learned. Thank you for sharing, I don't feel alone ❤.
@@weareuniqueforareason7503 thank you it’s great to know that I am not alone I guess I have a problem always looking for the good in people and feeling like they can change but I step back and allow God to interfere
The first part of this video is so true that it seems normal for people to argue. I have watch my mama get in bad arguments all the time in relationships when I was younger. She said when she met my stepdad he told her he will NEVER raise his voice to argue with her .. when she got with him I didn’t even recognize my own mother anymore she turned into a better woman overall.
I wish I could find a man with your mindset don’t ever change Tony!!!! I stay single cause I take no BS and I’m ok with that. I know what you mean I’m a nail tech the stories I hear are crazy these women settle for anything.
Stay strong and blessed Tony. Your marriage is one of few Role models in the 21st century. Thank you for teaching me to hold men accountable. Thanks to your teaching I have dated and dismissed 4 grown ( old) boys this year lol. I feel better not allowing a man to waste my time. I know God will help my husband find me. Thanks to your teaching the wrong man won't be occupying the Kings place! God bless you
Some women have to stop being a revolving door and leave. Only the strong survive. That one time you leave just stay gone and love yourself. Tony: don’t try to compare me with yo 40-year-old man 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣
Woman who tolerate any form of abuse fail to love themselves and are full of insecurities. When woman knows her identity she doesn’t tolerate foolishness regardless if he is packing.
Not arguing in a marriage is a good thing. Most people are so dysfunctional that they can't survive without all the drama. A peaceful and harmonious house is everything. That's not sweeping things under the rug. That's learning how to successfully deal with conflicts.
@@mzyotruthnlove8263 men are not drama Queens in genral. women in genral are drama Queens. This is a fact? Women love drama. Are you actually creating a drama right now. ?
@@coffee_uk Good morning. My response to your response on my post with an opinion that is different from yours is not drama. It's a difference of opinion. It is perfectly fine to have a difference of opinion without it being perceived as drama.
I feel you about these relationships. I’m single and it’s amazing watching women accept ANYTHING from men. I will remain single before I ever settle. God is magnificent and His grace is sufficient.
I disagree. Oftentimes, a man does bugged out things to make a woman yell. And implying that a woman should never yell at a man is like saying you shoulder never holler when feel a burn or physical pain.
@@bc1248 The power is in knowing that you are in control of your actions, not him. If a man can make you yell at him, then he is control of your emotions, not you. Yelling is just not a part of my communication skills repertoire.
I believe the number one reading across the board for divorce is "Selfishness"no matter what the excuse or grounds at the end of the day it still boils down to gratification for oneself not considering all parties that can and will be affected
This is so real! I have grown so much from when I was married until now. You have changed my mindset and I am experiencing the difference between my current relationship now and my past marriages and relationships. I will never conduct my life the same because of these teachings
My son turned 5 on 10/28/2020 and because of him i refuse to settle ! So come correct or don’t come at all! I am seeing far too many adults that have been touched, raped by men that were in a relationship with their mothers. This has to stop our children come first you can’t be so desperate for a man that you neglect the needs,safety and care of your children ! Once you have a child it’s no longer about you.
Unfortunely this is true, had enabled x's thinking it was love also they would try you to see how much you are willing to accept. Had to do something different for myself because nothing was working.
Thanks As always for your wisdom and knowledge. It helps me to get and to keep my mind right. For dating and when I eventually find my wife.. I understand the majority you're speaking to are women. But as a man I learn just as much because truth is truth for men and women it's like water is just as wet for a man as it is for the woman ... So is truth.. This wisdom could be applied as a man just as well as. It can be applied for a woman..
Truth my husband was controlling for 11years and he did raise his hand to me like he was going to hit me but he never did because I have 5 brothers and a couple of times my brothers beat his as for him trying to hit me. My younger brother almost threw his ass out the second floor window if his wife never stop him. So yes ladies don't let a man try to be controlling cause eventually it will get physical, lucky for me I have brothers that don't take shit and protected me. Plus if you have kids you don't want your son's to think it's ok to treat a woman like that and you don't want your daughters to think it's ok to be treated like that. God bless you all...Aloha from Hawai'i
And the sad part in all of this is there are women in influencing positions that tells young girls that cheating and overall toxic behaviours from a man is just ups and downs of a relationship and if you're not down with it then you don't really love the guy or not a real one and to equate his value and love for you based on the materialistic things he gets you instead of how he actually treats you.
I have my 1st mentoring session with Tony tomorrow and I am so excited! He knows his stuff and I’m certain he’ll give us the answers we need to make our relationship work or just walk away. I think we have a good chance to live our lives in the most healthy loving relationship. ❤️
Arguing and cheating is definitely not normal. My heart has been telling me that for a while now. I'm glad I've been ignoring those words from other people.... My recent boyfriend was trying to convince me that men cheating is normal and "let a man be a man" was what he was trying to drill into my head. I was like no thanks! I don't agree! He really really wants to be in a relationship with a woman who's going to ignore his lustful ways and cheating.... His mom let his dad cheat and they stood married till the day his dad died. But, the stories he has told me about things that happened between them sounds like they were miserable
Coach TG I promise I was just watching the movie Taken. Yes, gotta admire his communication skills and you right! I’ve learned in life the most gangsta person is usually the one that moves in silence. Since watching your videos I’ve learned soooo much yet, honestly it’s been hard and I’ve been weak. I’m trying hard to break the ties with the men who don’t have my best interest at heart. Ultimately, I want to be in a long term monogamous relationship with the goal of being married eventually. With the help of you and your wisdom I know I will get there one day. Pray for me please 🙏🏾
You talk so straightforward you are helping to save a lot of lives I'm sure and I know the devil is man I'm praying for you God keep you and your family
The cool calm collective voice worked on my son! He didn't try me when I held a cool, calm voice. I guess it must me what the male species understands and knows how to respond to. 🤣
I’ve watched this before but I don’t know why this touched my soul this time. Like I really truly finally understand what you’re saying. Blinders are off and this message is well with my soul. My path out of the relationship mess I’m in is getting clearer. Thank you Tony.
Thank you so much for your insightful videos Tony 🙏🏽💖 As a divorced woman I can relate with some of the points you're raising here. I stayed way longer than I was supposed to in a marriage that left me broken and financially ruined all because I thought being his ride and die woman was a noble thing. I'm now learning and working on myself to stand in my power and worth. Now I no longer allow mediocre treatment from myself and others. If a man can't step up then he can gladly step out and away from my life.
Thkx for this message cause I'm n a position that I let him ago, but I been catching myself doing lil thingz for him when he callz..soo this message is 100 for me to let go and let God do what he needz to do for him..thkx again..🤗
Tony! I was so happy to hear you were planning to make a movie! During our coaching session back in May, I meant to tell you, that I could see BIG SCREEN movies in your future! You have so much material and God breathe teachings to share with the world. We need you and your beautiful family! God bless you!
Binge watching your videos and Thank you for sharing. It feels like talking to my dad he's a Pastor. I needed some gems of wisdom and Thanks for sharing!!!!
I just read that book in 4 days! It was Sooooooooooooooooooooooooo amazing! I learned so much about men and myself!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 thank you both for sharing your story and experiences with us!
I understand what you're saying Tony. It's like the crazy problems with relationships seem normal when it's really not. Honestly, what we endure is not normal. I get it.
Thank you Tony Gaskins because I had to Walk away in with a divorce. I had to tell myself I am better then that. And that what you are talking about and saying it's really true yes it is. I think my heavenly father everyday in Jesus name for rescuing me from a toxic marriage
I’m currently going through an engagement breakup. I gave this Man my whole being and trusted him with our future, but I’ve come to a conclusion that you can’t raise a man. Period!!!! Almost 5yrs together and two years engaged, he still has the same excuses same lines to why he is the way he is, meaning all the hardship he went through as a child. I suggested therapy, I did all that I can to help him see that he is a good person and that his past does not need to dictate where he’s headed. Well, that did t work, and I’m tired of being a teacher, a mom, a friend all while trying to be a lover. I can’t do it anymore, so there 5yrs down the drain gone!!!!! I’ve learned a lot, and I have definitely figured out what I want and don’t want in a man because of this experience. Going forward, I’m giving it all to God, it’s no longer my job to pick my next Man, I want God to send the one for me. Until then, I shall work on myself, become the best version of myself for my future husband. Because he’s out there, the one that’s for me is out there. Ladies, don’t ever settle thinking this is all you can get, you are the prize and you deserve a Man to treat you nothing less than that you freaking matter🙏🏽💛 always choose you over and over until you find the one that will treat you the way you treat yourself💛
Since listening to you.. I’ve had to speak my truth and reject those stereotypes of how a strong woman should behave.. my desperation made me forget who I was and fir that I paid with my dignity.. I’m moving forward by studying the Word so I can understand my role as a woman in the world and with a man; I’ve called it my purification process.. from foolishness, profanity, fornication.. so I can embrace my purpose!!!
thank you Tony for the fatherly advice i never received. i’m glad to be able to absorb these messages now in my mid twenties so i can be better in dating and relationships!
Mr. Gaskins, it not cheating, it is communication. The conversation, the active listening, the being attentive & being able to use "I" words !! Thanks.
I can definitely relate. My partner and I don't argue, fight etc. Yes we communicate and talk, but always can reach an agreement where each feels heard
Hi Tony newcomer to your channel, love the simplicity and your down to earth personality in conveying these messages...so necessary! keep up the Excellent work! I am wiser because of your dedication and hardwork spreading the relationship gospel!
It's fear behind the anger. Anyone who gets angry or aggressive or abusive is because he/she fears losing that person. It also shows insecurity - as you've mentioned 'the loudest person is the weakest'
Always good content-Thank you! A Woman’s Influence ‘The Tony Gaskins Jr Story’ ?!?? Very cool! Or ‘The Tony and Sheri Story’ Either way, I’ll be there for it !
When you yell at a man, you give your power away! That's a gem right there
That was a word !!!
🎯💯
@@officialwatchamber q
Win the argument lose your man !
Super conformational and enlightening. God bless you and your wife. Please keep on speaking truth!
I’m here as a man , trying to understand it all , I will be here for a while , I messed up I only hope god can fix this until then I’ll be here trying to learn
Jason Sanchez it is very enlightening to hear you want to change things in your life and acknowledge you need change..that's not easy for a man...God bless you Brother..
You gotta choose to be a man and not a grown boy. Continue to listen and work out your issues so you don't make the same mistakes again. Don't tell me you cheated on a good woman. If she has found herself she is not coming back.
Blessings to you! Keep seeking God the Most High, pray without stopping. Don't look at those "Mgtow or Red Pill " channels. They tell men, it's ok to be a lover of yourself and pump and dump women😒 No God sees alllll that we humans are doing and He sees that sex is out of control with us. We are letting the devil lead with sex (do what thou Will 👉do what you want to do mentality)....Keep praying brother keep listening to big bro Tony Gaskins!!
@@joellgilbert9588 I 100% concur
Ask God to change your heart towards marriage, your wife, and what you need to be satisfied. Find the value in doing the right thing. Remove yourself from anything that doesn't support what you're trying to do.
Yup, calling your man out on his bad behaviors, words and actions in LOVING WAY is a set of skills you must learn and educate yourself. Practice self care and stay connected to your emotions. Be kind to him, but take no bullshit♥️
Ps: don’t be afraid to walk away! I repeat, don’t ever feel afraid to walk away💪🏻
Yap.
Take no bs and never be afraid to walk out.... also make sure to let your man know that you WILL NOT accept mediocre behaviour nor will you stay in a struggle relationship... he will always remember that.
This the comment right here!!!! You win sis 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🏆🏆 I agree completely!!!
A man will never respect a line you fail to draw.
I'm going to take that one with me.😎
Me too
"You will not break me, because you did not make me." Exactly!
“You gotta listen to what God is saying in your spirit, not what your desperation saying” 💯
God will never place a project in our path, He knows who and what we deserve. If we walk in value God will honor us and bless us with the right man/woman. We can no longer allow convenience, comfort, and loneliness paint us into a corner where we feel forced to settle for whatever comes along. You deserve better, right?!
@@DrWillEnterprises Amen
well God placed a narcissist in my life for 2 years it was hell lol o didn't ask for it
@@jdashlovela God didn't do that to you, you took it upon yourself to entertain this person. Most of us have been there, I assure you, so we have to reexamine ourselves and choices.
@@jdashlovela GOD is not the author of confusion satan is. GOD Blesses us with good not what can harm us your bad choices led you to that guy, Praise GOD 🙏 you are not in that relationship any longer now you are watching Tony Gaskins and learning wisdom with how to relate to Men... Apply it to your life NOW!!! Blessings To You 🙏
@@lashondarochell7584 Yes, I like him and Trent Sheldon. I was in a bad relationship. I wish it was better but I'm starting to feel better.
...and that's why so many women settle for a grown boy because somehow it all became "normal". It became normal to argue in a disrespectful manner. It became normal to cheat at least once, to break up to make up several times, we thought it was a sign of true love.. It became normal to be a "ride or die". Everyday in many ways, you are showing us otherwise. You have not given up. Please don't give up.
👏 👏 👏 👏
Keep dropping knowledge so we can understand a woman’s influence so ALL women will know their worth and be able to recognize a grown man with character, integrity and ambition
Amennn
@@officialwatchamber gives me insight on how to deal with a real man
@mr. Wldasoldmysoul4pussyasateen How about u don't watch him , if u don't like him r what he says?
@mr. Wldasoldmysoul4pussyasateen Why do u ask such questions then?
Let him lead it's what he is built for.
Its a lot of couples have normalize dysfunction in a relationship. I feel like the reason why because some people don't know what love is, don't know how to love and haven't seen a healthy relationship. They don't know how to love their selves and haven't taken the time learn about who they are, what they want, and what they're good at(love). No one ever told them how to respect their selves, how to set boundaries, and how to have emotional intelligence.
What a powerful comment!
Yassss!!!!
Bingo!
I agree. The dysfunction is even woven into lifestyles and cultures.
Your friends are tired of hearing the same story.... and Tony is too, just leave.
Exactly!
Hahahahaha if they ur friends 😳
Thank you! Like, Sis move ON.
Please listen to Tony he is not lying this is so true if a man walks out of your life let him go and never take him back because he does not want to change for you and my ex fiancé his mom never checked him as a child allowed him to do what ever he wanted and was a weak role model and to this day she talks about her separation with his father and how that affected her she still carry’s that pain she never healed so she was not available to raised her son I can’t tell you how much I regret given this man 7 years of me that I can never get back but I know god will help me heal from this and this will be a hard lesson I learned I can acknowledge my mistakes of the screaming part I was still a grown girl without realizing it but now that I have the knowledge I won’t make the same mistakes
Esmeralda (in my Tony voice) 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽
@@Dr.Elaine1 😭😭😭 when I seen her comment had one comment I said to myself “ I bet somebody said hey Esmereldahh in their Tony voice” DWL
Better late than never 🙏🏽❤️ God bless you for sharing & your growth Queen 👑🤗
When I say I'm in the exact same boat as you smh. This is exactly what I endured. His mother kept speaking the same way about his father, backed up her son bullshit and I gave him 8 years, a daughter and said yes to his engagement. Lesson learned. Thank you for sharing, I don't feel alone ❤.
@@weareuniqueforareason7503 thank you it’s great to know that I am not alone I guess I have a problem always looking for the good in people and feeling like they can change but I step back and allow God to interfere
The first part of this video is so true that it seems normal for people to argue. I have watch my mama get in bad arguments all the time in relationships when I was younger. She said when she met my stepdad he told her he will NEVER raise his voice to argue with her .. when she got with him I didn’t even recognize my own mother anymore she turned into a better woman overall.
I wish I could find a man with your mindset don’t ever change Tony!!!! I stay single cause I take no BS and I’m ok with that. I know what you mean I’m a nail tech the stories I hear are crazy these women settle for anything.
Girl! He’s coming lol patience sis!! And I do brows girl so I can definitely relate 😅
Be the woman to influence a man to have that mindset.
What’s your Instagram. I make wigs . Follow me @bria.mia.wigs__
@@briamia4544 @beautybycarmenr
Yes me too... But I'm not holding my breathe on that.
I can't be in a relationship where both parties feel like they're the prize! 🤦🏾♀️💯
You have definitely changed my mindset
That's what us women need!
@@TonettaClay Absolutely
The right men will come along and make you feel like you are everything an more don't settle for anything 🙌🏿🙌🏿 ladies you are someone prayer ❤️
Yall better listen to Tony....he has the power of wisdom.
Facts! Yes maam
God help me prepare to be a great wife to my future husband.
Yes Amen to this
I’d be more concerned about God preparing your future man to be a great husband to you! You’re the one who is here, doing the work!
@@akc1739 That part.
this!!! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Stay strong and blessed Tony. Your marriage is one of few Role models in the 21st century. Thank you for teaching me to hold men accountable. Thanks to your teaching I have dated and dismissed 4 grown ( old) boys this year lol.
I feel better not allowing a man to waste my time. I know God will help my husband find me. Thanks to your teaching the wrong man won't be occupying the Kings place!
God bless you
A woman’s influence would be a good movie
Self Love Over Everything!!!
Some women have to stop being a revolving door and leave. Only the strong survive. That one time you leave just stay gone and love yourself.
Tony: don’t try to compare me with yo 40-year-old man 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are that funny cousin that knows everything about women 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️
Basically!! 😆😆
Woman who tolerate any form of abuse fail to love themselves and are full of insecurities. When woman knows her identity she doesn’t tolerate foolishness regardless if he is packing.
My soul has been blessed today ! 😭‼️🙏🏽
Tony, you are in the right place. You are "in the world, but not of it".
Not arguing in a marriage is a good thing. Most people are so dysfunctional that they can't survive without all the drama. A peaceful and harmonious house is everything. That's not sweeping things under the rug. That's learning how to successfully deal with conflicts.
Men don't like drama women do.
@@coffee_uk Actually it can be both genders that like drama. However it starts, it's not good for the relationship.
@@mzyotruthnlove8263 men are not drama Queens in genral. women in genral are drama Queens. This is a fact? Women love drama. Are you actually creating a drama right now. ?
@@coffee_uk Good morning. My response to your response on my post with an opinion that is different from yours is not drama. It's a difference of opinion. It is perfectly fine to have a difference of opinion without it being perceived as drama.
@@mzyotruthnlove8263 nuff said.
Your wife should make a channel for women 😩
Good idea
That would be good 💖
He’s said that she’s said that not her calling.
yes
or at least interview his wife in one of his video💗
Tony I holler everytime you get to dialing numbers.
Have an amazing day Gaskins family and blessed tribe ❣️
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol I thought I was the only one! The phone dialing is so funny. The purse is too.
Same!
@@eileendom5858 the lemme get my 👛 is my absolute favorite 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@reinaquisha9418 I feel better I'm not the only one. Cause he always says he isnt telling jokes lol
Tony this is pure GOLD WISDOM.
One of Tony's first blessings came when he met his wife!! God bless Sherri!
I feel you about these relationships. I’m single and it’s amazing watching women accept ANYTHING from men. I will remain single before I ever settle. God is magnificent and His grace is sufficient.
This is one of your most hilarious 😂😂 and best videos I've seen. Appreciate your content Tony 🙏🏾🙏🏾
“When you yell at a man, you give him your power.” TG
I yelled back because he kept raising his voice. 😔
I disagree. Oftentimes, a man does bugged out things to make a woman yell. And implying that a woman should never yell at a man is like saying you shoulder never holler when feel a burn or physical pain.
@@shan4145
Curious, how did that turn out?
@@Dr.Elaine1 turned into yelling back and forth
@@bc1248
The power is in knowing that you are in control of your actions, not him. If a man can make you yell at him, then he is control of your emotions, not you. Yelling is just not a part of my communication skills repertoire.
This one here.... what a blessing Tony G!!! You tha man!!! ✊🏾 Also Christianity blinded a lot of women to stay and pray and suffer.
Tony someone was praying for you
So glad change was in you.
Thank you for sharing your life story..
Stay heavenly blessed...
I believe the number one reading across the board for divorce is "Selfishness"no matter what the excuse or grounds at the end of the day it still boils down to gratification for oneself not considering all parties that can and will be affected
This is so real! I have grown so much from when I was married until now. You have changed my mindset and I am experiencing the difference between my current relationship now and my past marriages and relationships. I will never conduct my life the same because of these teachings
You saved my life Tony, thank you so much. Real tears right now 🙏🏽🙏🏽
My son turned 5 on 10/28/2020 and because of him i refuse to settle ! So come correct or don’t come at all! I am seeing far too many adults that have been touched, raped by men that were in a relationship with their mothers. This has to stop our children come first you can’t be so desperate for a man that you neglect the needs,safety and care of your children ! Once you have a child it’s no longer about you.
👏👏👏
I just looked you up on google..lol Your wife is beautiful! Your'e a blessed man.
You are not helping him by laying on your back or letting him talk to you any kind of way. I know that's right!
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Accountability partner. I love this! Thanks for sharing ! 🙏🏼
🗣Thank You for pouring into us Tony 💃🏾
We’re not going to court, we’re going to the graveyard 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂omg love it!!
Unfortunely this is true, had enabled x's thinking it was love also they would try you to see how much you are willing to accept. Had to do something different for myself because nothing was working.
Thank you for this word 🙏🏾
Actions Speak Louder Than Words 💡
Glory be to God! I've learned so much listening to brother Tony! God Bless you and your family!
Thanks
As always for your wisdom and knowledge. It helps me to get and to keep my mind right. For dating and when I eventually find my wife.. I understand the majority you're speaking to are women. But as a man I learn just as much because truth is truth for men and women it's like water is just as wet for a man as it is for the woman ... So is truth..
This wisdom could be applied as a man just as well as. It can be applied for a woman..
“ Don’t try to compare me to yo 40 year old man. “ 😩😭😝 lord have mercy.
HAHAHA
"I said I was 21" 🤣🤣🤣
Truth my husband was controlling for 11years and he did raise his hand to me like he was going to hit me but he never did because I have 5 brothers and a couple of times my brothers beat his as for him trying to hit me. My younger brother almost threw his ass out the second floor window if his wife never stop him. So yes ladies don't let a man try to be controlling cause eventually it will get physical, lucky for me I have brothers that don't take shit and protected me. Plus if you have kids you don't want your son's to think it's ok to treat a woman like that and you don't want your daughters to think it's ok to be treated like that. God bless you all...Aloha from Hawai'i
And the sad part in all of this is there are women in influencing positions that tells young girls that cheating and overall toxic behaviours from a man is just ups and downs of a relationship and if you're not down with it then you don't really love the guy or not a real one and to equate his value and love for you based on the materialistic things he gets you instead of how he actually treats you.
So true. I remember my aunt telling me when I was about 8 that all men cheat
@@fuzzypants101 right this exact statement has been reidarated so much it's practically embedded into the mind of almost all women...and it's sad.
@@fuzzypants101 man shaming mind set. Shame.
hold him accountable. step up or step out! thank u yes
I have my 1st mentoring session with Tony tomorrow and I am so excited! He knows his stuff and I’m certain he’ll give us the answers we need to make our relationship work or just walk away. I think we have a good chance to live our lives in the most healthy loving relationship. ❤️
I'm excited for you..
Beautiful. Did the session help?
@@saphireflowers3382 Yes it did!
Listening to Tony and following his advice rekindled our love in 3 days
Thats awesome ! ❤
Yes I Totally Agree ,,,,Thank You For Sharing
Arguing and cheating is definitely not normal. My heart has been telling me that for a while now. I'm glad I've been ignoring those words from other people.... My recent boyfriend was trying to convince me that men cheating is normal and "let a man be a man" was what he was trying to drill into my head. I was like no thanks! I don't agree! He really really wants to be in a relationship with a woman who's going to ignore his lustful ways and cheating.... His mom let his dad cheat and they stood married till the day his dad died. But, the stories he has told me about things that happened between them sounds like they were miserable
Leave him!
Leave him
He is justifying cheating on you.
Girl leave him ! You can’t justify Cheating nor do it make it okay! You’re worth way more!
I can relate. that's where the problem lies. RUN!! 🏃🏽♀️
The information that you give in these videos is priceless and may God continue to bless you and your family 🙏🏽🙌🏽💜
I’ve learned so much from your channel ! 🙌🏾🔥
Coach TG I promise I was just watching the movie Taken. Yes, gotta admire his communication skills and you right! I’ve learned in life the most gangsta person is usually the one that moves in silence. Since watching your videos I’ve learned soooo much yet, honestly it’s been hard and I’ve been weak. I’m trying hard to break the ties with the men who don’t have my best interest at heart. Ultimately, I want to be in a long term monogamous relationship with the goal of being married eventually. With the help of you and your wisdom I know I will get there one day. Pray for me please 🙏🏾
You talk so straightforward you are helping to save a lot of lives I'm sure and I know the devil is man I'm praying for you God keep you and your family
Ladies, this isn't a psychological game we test out on our man. THESE ARE REAL STEPS. PLEASE PLEASE TAKE SOME HEED...if you need help. Here it is☝
Thank you so much Tony for all the advice you’re freely giving out to women.🙏we appreciate it and may God keep blessing you!
Your analogies give me life!!!
You need your talk show. This content is PRICELESS! Thank you. God bless your wife and family❤🙏🏻❤
Speak Truth to Power with Love !!!! This is so powerful ! Thank you so much for sharing !!!!!!!!
God bless you for this. Oh and I love your southern accent. 🇳🇬
This is the best video by far. Keep in coming. Thanks Tony.
The cool calm collective voice worked on my son! He didn't try me when I held a cool, calm voice. I guess it must me what the male species understands and knows how to respond to. 🤣
I was thinking the same thing. I do the same with my son.
I’ve watched this before but I don’t know why this touched my soul this time. Like I really truly finally understand what you’re saying. Blinders are off and this message is well with my soul. My path out of the relationship mess I’m in is getting clearer. Thank you Tony.
Thank you so much for your insightful videos Tony 🙏🏽💖
As a divorced woman I can relate with some of the points you're raising here. I stayed way longer than I was supposed to in a marriage that left me broken and financially ruined all because I thought being his ride and die woman was a noble thing. I'm now learning and working on myself to stand in my power and worth. Now I no longer allow mediocre treatment from myself and others. If a man can't step up then he can gladly step out and away from my life.
Thkx for this message cause I'm n a position that I let him ago, but I been catching myself doing lil thingz for him when he callz..soo this message is 100 for me to let go and let God do what he needz to do for him..thkx again..🤗
Thank You Tony for this message ! It really sank in. The world would change if women held men accountable for their wrong behavior.
A movie! So great! Looking forward to it 🙏🏽 Thanks for all your good advice! And reminding me to stand up even more for myself
Tony! I was so happy to hear you were planning to make a movie! During our coaching session back in May, I meant to tell you, that I could see BIG SCREEN movies in your future! You have so much material and God breathe teachings to share with the world. We need you and your beautiful family! God bless you!
Binge watching your videos and Thank you for sharing. It feels like talking to my dad he's a Pastor. I needed some gems of wisdom and Thanks for sharing!!!!
tony gaskin! just the best...
I just read that book in 4 days! It was Sooooooooooooooooooooooooo amazing! I learned so much about men and myself!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 thank you both for sharing your story and experiences with us!
Thank God. Your life was changed around. God bless your wife for standing her ground ❤.
I missed this one 😢 so important ❤️🇦🇮 stay safe
I understand what you're saying Tony. It's like the crazy problems with relationships seem normal when it's really not. Honestly, what we endure is not normal. I get it.
Exactly what I needed to hear! God bless you!
You are so inspirational thank you so much for helping Women!! God bless you and your family
Right on time, happy hump day. Be blessed all.
Thank you Tony Gaskins because I had to Walk away in with a divorce. I had to tell myself I am better then that. And that what you are talking about and saying it's really true yes it is. I think my heavenly father everyday in Jesus name for rescuing me from a toxic marriage
I’m currently going through an engagement breakup. I gave this Man my whole being and trusted him with our future, but I’ve come to a conclusion that you can’t raise a man. Period!!!! Almost 5yrs together and two years engaged, he still has the same excuses same lines to why he is the way he is, meaning all the hardship he went through as a child. I suggested therapy, I did all that I can to help him see that he is a good person and that his past does not need to dictate where he’s headed. Well, that did t work, and I’m tired of being a teacher, a mom, a friend all while trying to be a lover. I can’t do it anymore, so there 5yrs down the drain gone!!!!! I’ve learned a lot, and I have definitely figured out what I want and don’t want in a man because of this experience. Going forward, I’m giving it all to God, it’s no longer my job to pick my next Man, I want God to send the one for me. Until then, I shall work on myself, become the best version of myself for my future husband. Because he’s out there, the one that’s for me is out there. Ladies, don’t ever settle thinking this is all you can get, you are the prize and you deserve a Man to treat you nothing less than that you freaking matter🙏🏽💛 always choose you over and over until you find the one that will treat you the way you treat yourself💛
Since listening to you.. I’ve had to speak my truth and reject those stereotypes of how a strong woman should behave.. my desperation made me forget who I was and fir that I paid with my dignity.. I’m moving forward by studying the Word so I can understand my role as a woman in the world and with a man; I’ve called it my purification process.. from foolishness, profanity, fornication.. so I can embrace my purpose!!!
thank you Tony for the fatherly advice i never received. i’m glad to be able to absorb these messages now in my mid twenties so i can be better in dating and relationships!
Mr. Gaskins, it not cheating, it is communication. The conversation, the active listening, the being attentive & being able to use "I" words !! Thanks.
I can definitely relate. My partner and I don't argue, fight etc. Yes we communicate and talk, but always can reach an agreement where each feels heard
Gratitude ✨🙏🏽✨🦋🕊 For sharing your wisdom/ your story.
Hi Tony newcomer to your channel, love the simplicity and your down to earth personality in conveying these messages...so necessary! keep up the Excellent work! I am wiser because of your dedication and hardwork spreading the relationship gospel!
Welcome Carla!
Welcome 🙏🏾
@@Glamrocs thanks sister
@@cherh thanks sister
@@116carlalarc welcome
I’m reading it now; life-changing. Thank you🙏🏾
Floor mat days are over queens!!!
Good teching Tony!! God bless you and your family!!
It's fear behind the anger. Anyone who gets angry or aggressive or abusive is because he/she fears losing that person. It also shows insecurity - as you've mentioned 'the loudest person is the weakest'
@@tailsntrails to avoid a heart attack YES :)
Always good content-Thank you!
A Woman’s Influence ‘The Tony Gaskins Jr Story’ ?!??
Very cool!
Or ‘The Tony and Sheri Story’
Either way, I’ll be there for it !
Tony you are awesome! God bless you! You are so comical but serious at the same time!
This is exactly what I needed to see today!