I swear being involved with most men these days is like dealing with children. The blatant disrespect they treat you with makes me shake my head and send prayers up for them - bless their hurt souls
He was with another woman. The End. I had a past guy try this on me. Tried to "prep" me for his mystery trip. He didn't offer any info & I didn't ask any questions because I already knew what kind of mess he was on. Long story short, blocked him and moved on. Same guy has been chasing me since then but I already found someone who is honest. Ladies don't put up w the mess.
yeah but sometimes they are not and are playing..I blocked a guy like that..and nothing really happened.first time he took 5 days to reply and told me he had bee away..but he had told me he was free anyway that week and could meet me..I simply never replied back again ..many arent honest..but my legs are closed until marriage and my home too.. so all good
When he don't want to be bothered with, he's not your man. He's SINGLE. Acknowledge that & leave him ALONE. Keep moving forward & don't look back. Your life ain't nothing to play with.✌🏽🙏🏽✌🏽
My ex husband use to “disappear.” End all communication and move on. There’s no excuse for that. Best thing I learned, write all your issues down. SEE IT! It will help you process the issues better. Love yourself more.
I like that advice of writing the issues down! Sometimes you need to see it and say it out loud to see how much you’ve let slide and why you deserve better!!
Amen! Something about you physically writing it down and seeing it processes it differently in your brain and mentally. It’s so helpful and therapeutic to write things down esp when you’re going through this kind of stuff. My soon to be ex husband would try and test me to see how long he could go for or not be in the house without it being an issue for me. Even went as far as getting a night job then later found out he had quit it... so there were nights he was unaccounted for.
It’s so true a man who love you will give you a courtesy call or some form of contact. A man that truly loves you even in his worse moments would not want you to worry.
Lol..I think its simply we need to accept the truth no matter how bad it is sometimes the red flags are shown instantly yet we ignore them bcuz we don't want to believe that the man we like actually isn't the one for us we can save ourselves alot of headache and disappointments if we see things for what they're truly are
🎶Seven whole days. And not a word from you. Seven whole nights. I’m just about through. I can’t take it, won’t take it, can’t take it no more. I’ve had about enough of you. I’d rather be on my own yes, on my own🎶. Y’all, listen to Tony and Toni...
Honestly, being ghosted is what brought me to Tony’s channel in 2019. I took my L in private but I was determined to figure out why it kept happening, and make sure I learned my lesson. Took some time to focus on the 3 Bs and my dating/vetting has drastically improved. When you know better, you do better! Thank you Tony ✨
I FORCED MYSELF TO LITERALLY LOOK UN DA MIRROR AND ASKED MYSELF... NOW.. HOW DO U FEEL IN THIS MOMENT.. RIGHT NOW. IT WAS HARD TO "LOOK @ME" IN THE MIRROR"... and see how much I was " allowing this "GROWN BOY" to do this to me.... I broke that " sole tie" .... And chain.... I admit it was hard.. but I HAD to do it to prove to myself I loved "ME" more..
I started keeping notes in my phone. Documenting the bad things throughout relationships and I can look back on that when I start fantasizing about the “good times” and remember why it ended. It helps tremendously to stay gone.
@@ytaylor8734 yes it is so helpful! Especially if it ends and you ruminate. You can go back, read, and remind yourself of the little things that really hurt your feelings.
@@amandabretch85 majority of mine, I don’t ever want to go back to. I’ve tried with a few, and to be really honest I’ve found that sometimes the past is better left in the past. Some things aren’t even meant to be fixed.
Most of the time when there's death and grief, people seek love and comfort from a significant other or someone special. SIS YOU WASN'T THE ONE. He was getting what he needed somewhere else. If there really was a death!
OMG. This must be the season to use "death"as an excuse to disappear. I just cut a guy off yesterday for the same identical thing. Man don't you know that my spirit is on flick, there was no death. He was just trying to get his roster of options available, but I WILL NOT BE the one.
This is a 🔥 mess, nothing like a sorry man to lie about a person dying so he can go on an excursion with his side chick girl throw him all the way in the sewer 😩😩😩
Yes....grl I had one that relatives would die every week....smh....I left him and the next GF he got call me and said he told her the same thing....I told her he done ran out of relatives now.....😂😂😂
This is a shame....when I was younger.....I had a guy that would have a relative die every week....I told him to move to the cemetery.....just a liar .....boy bye✌
Like you always say Tony he just wanted “to be left alone to cheat”. She wasn’t supposed to say anything when he got back. He was surprised at what she did!
My former live in boyfriend did the same thing. We would be fine and he would use some excuse that he had to be somewhere, and then disappear for days. He would not return my texts or calls. He would then return or have me pick him up feeling remorseful but with no real answers as to why he was gone and where he was staying. We live in Northern VA and he always claimed he missed his bus, subway and was sleeping on the streets in MD and DC. I packed his stuff and put him out as well. He wanted to work on the relationship, and while staying somewhere else he pulls the ghosting a few more times and contacted me like nothing happened. Its over and I blocked him. I would just move on. That behavior is not acceptable and says alot about their character.
@@NicoleYL Yesss ma’am you are so right! For me with my ex-it was both drugs and other women!!! Now the fool done called me after I broke it off with him 8 months ago apologizing profusely saying he messed up and I was a good woman and he never stopped loving me! Blah blah blah!
Self ❤️ is the Best ❤️ someone didn't respond to me in 6 days than finally responded but I refuse to let an individual get my energy I didn't respond & moved forward ⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩
That’s probably why he left so quickly and easily after coming back, to try to go be with the other woman. When it didn’t work out he realized he needed a place to stay and came back to this woman. I hope she dumped him. Sounds like she’s got a heart of gold.
I just had this conversation with myself literally last night. I had to sit down and analyze us. Or the image of us. And all the things I miss about him. Not calling in 3-4 days. He changed in 12 months. The first 2 years he gave me attention and time. I was firm and not calling him back after he call me. But I gave in after 8 to 10 days. I know he work a lot( railroad) but he had time to see his son. But not me, and I didn't know what days he worked anymore. His schedule changed but his son mother knew. But not me. But now he layed off. He can call me. I gathered all my strength and I'm moving on. I'm tired of being played and walking around with a ,L on my forehead. I'm done.
@@teressahunter1874 I'm going to give a different view point please don't be offended. It seems that he is a hardworking man most probably doing long hours, hence the breaks in calling you. His son is a priority, you know what some baby momas are like, they can make things difficult especially if they know their ex has moved on. Communication is the key to keeping a relationship going and if he is trying now give him a chance as you guys are in a long relationship. Take time to go over the pros and cons again. Wishing you the best 🙏🏼
I defiantly agree with you Tony. I myself believe it’s another women and why didn’t he ask her to come alone with him. Some men would fake their own death to be with another women...smh. I don’t think she need to check out if his aunt passed away or anything of that nature, She needs to just checkout of his life. One thing I can say for sure asked God and he will show you, but she must see it when God shows her. Just me speaking my feelings that’s all. Stay be blessed Tony
Tony is so right. I had a guy contact me one day and then not contact me the next. Then send me one or two text messages. I thought to myself he cannot possibly be the one and I heard Tony in the back of my head. Now he’s blocked.
I'm currently going through a situation with the missing for 7 days. I'm moving on and taking this time to work on me. If he decides to call or text he won't get a response. We've been together for 15 months and I thought things were great but I was wrong. God knows best.
This man was crying in advance for what he would come back home to..no one died but his chances. He knew he would be out of luck. That man was crying because he saw his side piece with her man and couldn't say anything. Lol
Tony, you have changed my life for nothing but the better. Thanking God for you, your wife, and children. Set apart and living in obedience to God. GOD BLESS YALL!!
He was testing her way b4 this. Going away & MIA for 5 days that is extreme, their was some build up b4 that offense. The arrogance of (I didn’t want come back to this) meaning: you shouldn’t be tripping. She in a fantasy & you right TG we need to be a 🪰 on the wall bc I bet high stakes their was red flags 🚩 everywhere.
Yes!! And it gets worse- I promise. The next offense will be 2 weeks, then 1 month, then 3 months, then a year, etc. This is called "grooming", and its the abuser's favorite training tool. He wants to manage her expectations down so that this abuse becomes normal. I've been there.
I can attest there were. We tried to gather now proof in thee middle of the BS and let it go on too long. I'm guilty... I had a Madea moment and couldn't sleep the other night until I looked something up that confirmed my suspicions. Just let go after 4 different offenses over time on Tuesday. My "L" is written in Sharpie and won't come off for a few weeks. Frustrating
Tony’s impression of “sleeping with one eye open” 😂😂 Leave it to him to help me find the humor in a situation that was identical and so painful. Now it’s a lesson. Be blessed Tony!
And if you didn’t take him back, change the locks! I had someone make a copy of my keys without my knowledge and robbed my apartment while I was at work 🤦🏾♀️
A friend of mine hooked me up with a friend of his and his wife. The 1st day we talked on the phone for 5 1/2 hours. We were good for the 1st 3-4 days. Then he stopped communicating with me. I was confused af. I thought I had did something or said something. He said he was "busy." Didn't hear from him for over a week. He eventually called. I didn't even ask him what happened. Then he kept on ghosting me and coming back. I then asked him about his poor communication and told him I wasn't going for it. Long story short... He didn't want me questioning him and made it uncomfortable for me to ask him about his corrosive behavior. He also said, "Im getting you ready for how I am." He had me messed up! I don't do that!!!!!!! He ghosted me for the last time and I blocked his number after a week. Our mutual friend called me and said, "He said come home. He said why you block him he was going to get you a ticket to go to Puerto Rico." Me and this mutual male friend got into because he came at me sideways only knowing this dudes side of the story and acting like I did something. To be honest I wasn't interested in telling our mutual friend my side because I was DONE! I wasn't checking for dude! This mutual male friend would have had something to say if another man he didn't know was treating me poorly ...but since he knows this dude, the mutual friend wanted me to stay in the BS! Mutual friend told me he didn't think his friend deserved to be blocked. I hate it so much! I wanted to tell our mutual friend, "Your friend doesn't have 2 kids by 2 different people and an ex wife (whom he doesn't have kids with) for no reason!!!!!! I NEVER again will date a man with baggage (kids and an ex wife) and piss poor communication!
It's understandable for someone to have a temporary change in attitude or mood because of an event, but it shouldn't ever be acceptable for a change in respect or care, so when dealing with situations like this, if you are disrespected or neglected, then it's all excuses, especially when things don't add up.
@@CarmenLifeCoach you are welcome. Everything you said makes logical sense to me. But it hurts because we are all flawed but he still chose someone else..its ok I'm moving on.
@@tashaequeen8935 Good decision, because the person who can make you the happiest will never be someone who has to be persuaded into staying or into seeing your value. They will see it by themselves naturally and they will not even consider anyone else because they know for sure they want you ! So don't hurt anymore because when you lose people who don't value you, it's not a loss, it's a win, you won the chance to find so much better and to be cherished for everything that you are.
I think the best thing she should’ve done was to let him walk out the door and go do whatever he wanted to do in Michigan whether he was being honest about a death in the family or not and she shouldn’t have contacted him at all. Change the locks 🔐
A similar story happened to me. My ex’s cousin passed away and he didn’t call me for a week and I kept checking on him, however, he didn’t want to see me. Then when we finally hung out, he was on the phone with his ex planning to see his mom with her. He tried to lie but I knew he just ran to her when his cousin passed away.
As a 25 year old Namibian woman, listening to Tony has really taught me a lot about men. Especially the stupid ones, I pick their BS on the first encounter already. The only thing I struggle with is getting attached too quickly when I meet a man that looks like my dream man. But I managed to survive that too. It's so easy to see who only wants to use me for things or sex and I legit make it so hard for them until they hate me and disappear by themselves 😂
My question to the one asking the question... What's his name? I'm in my early 40s and he in his late 30s. Disappearing for days at a time no answer. OMG. That's my deal breaker. Hmmmm. Mine tested me 4 times. I'm out. It helps to know I'm not alone. Thank you for asking! Thanks for answering Mr. Gaskins
Tony has me crying laughing.. "Draw a big L on ya forehead cause you took a loss". I wish I had someone like him to listen to when I was taking the losses I took in the past. However, I do share his videos with my daughter and nieces. Hearing this advice from a man makes a difference alot of times. Thanks Tony for being you.
When I was single my dill breaker was 2days, 5days is a long time!! I hope she didn’t except him back, women please stop playing games with these men and kick them to the curb!!!
I just love these talks with Tony! God is so gracious it’s like what I didn’t get growing up without a father I get from these videos and I’m so grateful God is using Tony in this way.
I clicked when I got the notification I can't believe people send you this u make so many videos but I am here for this but iam learning what not to do thanks Tony for the videos
Ok so my husband did this and he is my ex husband okayyyyy ...Tony is right its blatant disrespect and he doesn’t really want the relationship it’s more of a convince to split the bills or live off of her back.
Yay! Missed 2 today. Gotta catch up tomorrow. Look forward to it while at work. God bless everyone on the road to self mastery with Jesus in the forefront!
If the man that you are or was with - has the gut to cut you off (disappear'g totally for days, weeks of months of years) it's clear sign he don't truly care or love you at all 🙄😬 and he is willing to loose you - period 🥴 And when he does turn back, but not saying anything much - You just got to go Sister - say to him 'Adiyos Senor !!!! 👋😅👋 And never look back - keep moving, do not waste your precious time with grown boys games, waiting for them to grow up 💯🙏🏾💯 TONY never failed to tickle my tickle box with his authentic expression!! - lol 😅🤣😂 (Blessed time ahead in CHRIST to all Sisters & Brothers at Blessed Tribe 💯❤️❤️❤️💯)
Tony I swear these videos hit every time! And the topics and your feedback are right on time! Thank you, thank you so much for your work. You’re the father I never had. But in spirit.
I would be very cautious going forward with this man. I doubt I even would smh because I really don't have patience for that. This story doesn't add up.
Him and his side chick ! side piece whatever you want to call her who went out of town with him was glued to the hip this is why he could not answer her phone calls ,we as women we know better we know the truth they were glued to the hip. So basically the woman that he live with he showed her that she’s not a priority .
When a loser ghosts you that's God protecting you. Block him and move on as he does not exist. He's not "THE ONE".
Right.
Perfect advice! He's not crazy about you
Nailed it!
FACTS!!!!!!
amen
He was with another woman that’s why he blocked her calls.The End
Right!
Exactly. Made sure she couldn't reach him
Yep!
100000000000000000000%
Yup
I swear being involved with most men these days is like dealing with children. The blatant disrespect they treat you with makes me shake my head and send prayers up for them - bless their hurt souls
Yep, that's why so many women are staying with cheaters now, because they think that's the only thing left.
AMEN TO THAT!!!
It really feels like that!
You said it!🙄🙄
Yep that's why we are remaining single. Best way to avoid the BS unfortunately!
He was with another woman. The End. I had a past guy try this on me. Tried to "prep" me for his mystery trip. He didn't offer any info & I didn't ask any questions because I already knew what kind of mess he was on. Long story short, blocked him and moved on. Same guy has been chasing me since then but I already found someone who is honest.
Ladies don't put up w the mess.
Same exact thing happened to me last weekend with his mystery trip to NC. I asked no questions. I blocked him and moved on.
yeeesssss thats how to handle it, cos we are too grown to be telling grown folks about what they are intentionally doing
@@feliciaallen6228 Exactly and don't turn back. My man now yaps his mouth away just to keep me on the phone. A man who is committed won't be shady.
@@nikkyshamz2696 Absolutely! We ain't got the time! lol
yeah but sometimes they are not and are playing..I blocked a guy like that..and nothing really happened.first time he took 5 days to reply and told me he had bee away..but he had told me he was free anyway that week and could meet me..I simply never replied back again ..many arent honest..but my legs are closed until marriage and my home too.. so all good
Age has nothing to do with maturity. My son is more mature than most men over 50. These men just want to be single while they’re in a relationship.
Exactly
Facts!
They want harems without cost and with no strings attached.
Amen 🙏🏾 Sis that’s what’s up 🆙
FACTS!! Like they want a maid, a cook and personal grooming service whenever they decide to grace you with their presence!! Chile... Bye!
When he don't want to be bothered with, he's not your man. He's SINGLE. Acknowledge that & leave him ALONE. Keep moving forward & don't look back. Your life ain't nothing to play with.✌🏽🙏🏽✌🏽
Right Straight Block Mode...
@@diamondgold5277 Yes. When a woman is fed up, it's a DONE DEAL.👌🏽
@@jewelsafire6844 llllpllllllllplllpppllppllpl
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Say That!!! WORD!
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My ex husband use to “disappear.” End all communication and move on. There’s no excuse for that. Best thing I learned, write all your issues down. SEE IT! It will help you process the issues better. Love yourself more.
Great advise...write your issues,see it,and move on!
I like that advice of writing the issues down! Sometimes you need to see it and say it out loud to see how much you’ve let slide and why you deserve better!!
Great advice sis
That's what i'm doing know. Writing all my issues and flaws, analyse and grow. Thanks for this advice😊
Amen! Something about you physically writing it down and seeing it processes it differently in your brain and mentally. It’s so helpful and therapeutic to write things down esp when you’re going through this kind of stuff. My soon to be ex husband would try and test me to see how long he could go for or not be in the house without it being an issue for me. Even went as far as getting a night job then later found out he had quit it... so there were nights he was unaccounted for.
Its funny how every since I started listening to Tony , 🤦🏾♀️my eyes..... my eyes see everything! I swear I catch things so fast it scares me.
True...well said. I've now realized it myself
Gurrrrrrl yes
YESS 😩 me too!!
@One Love ikr I feel like the expert now!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tony is a true 💎
It’s so true a man who love you will give you a courtesy call or some form of contact. A man that truly loves you even in his worse moments would not want you to worry.
Amen
She said he moved in and she was high risk. Sounds like he needed a place to stay and she was desperate.
Exactly how u move a grown man in ur house and expect anything from him. She’s a despairing
If he tries to contact you tell him you're at a funeral if he ask you who died ? tell him we did.....
Seems like a woman needs a Phd in behavioural science to combat dating in these times.
Lord help
Lol..I think its simply we need to accept the truth no matter how bad it is sometimes the red flags are shown instantly yet we ignore them bcuz we don't want to believe that the man we like actually isn't the one for us we can save ourselves alot of headache and disappointments if we see things for what they're truly are
😂 ikr. Dating is headache. Always on ur toes
I agree!
🎶Seven whole days. And not a word from you. Seven whole nights. I’m just about through. I can’t take it, won’t take it, can’t take it no more. I’ve had about enough of you. I’d rather be on my own yes, on my own🎶. Y’all, listen to Tony and Toni...
Lol..😅😂😂
😂🤣😂🤣
Lol 😂
LMAO HELLLLO EXACTLY
That’s right
Honestly, being ghosted is what brought me to Tony’s channel in 2019. I took my L in private but I was determined to figure out why it kept happening, and make sure I learned my lesson. Took some time to focus on the 3 Bs and my dating/vetting has drastically improved. When you know better, you do better! Thank you Tony ✨
Yes INDEED..... Same HERE.. THE "disappear and reappear" act.. 😡🙄🙄😡🤔🤔🤔😩😫😩🙄🙄🙄☹️☹️
I FORCED MYSELF TO LITERALLY LOOK UN DA MIRROR AND ASKED MYSELF... NOW.. HOW DO U FEEL IN THIS MOMENT.. RIGHT NOW. IT WAS HARD TO "LOOK @ME" IN THE MIRROR"... and see how much I was " allowing this "GROWN BOY" to do this to me.... I broke that " sole tie" .... And chain.... I admit it was hard.. but I HAD to do it to prove to myself I loved "ME" more..
Amen
Go girl! 🔥⚡💪🏽😄
Yes, he was with another woman. Red Flag big time.
He blocked her on his phone when it was going to voicemail - WOW 🤦🏽♀️
I started keeping notes in my phone. Documenting the bad things throughout relationships and I can look back on that when I start fantasizing about the “good times” and remember why it ended. It helps tremendously to stay gone.
Very good idea….. I think my next one I may do this… 👍🏼
@@ytaylor8734 yes it is so helpful! Especially if it ends and you ruminate. You can go back, read, and remind yourself of the little things that really hurt your feelings.
@@amandabretch85 majority of mine, I don’t ever want to go back to. I’ve tried with a few, and to be really honest I’ve found that sometimes the past is better left in the past. Some things aren’t even meant to be fixed.
I started to do that as well with other relationships so I don't gaslight myself.
Good idea 💡
Red flag number one: “he moved in with me.”
Deal breaker for me.
Yep, I don't do no SHACKING
I wish a man would not respond to me for 5 days and try to stroll back in my life crying. He get dismissed real fast.
He ghosted you for 10 days....walk on by girl. You deserve so much better!
He sat in the car and pinched himself so he can get a head start on crying before walking in the house lol
Lmbo
lol omg
He punched himself in the arm lol
Or he had a fresh bottle of visine lol
The visual of this lawd😭💀😂
I’m sorry that she took that L, but there is a lesson to be learned.
I’m hollering 😭😭 not an L
I clicked right off my Amazon prime movie. Here and accounted for...
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@Ms. DaniLaB
America gets more movie choices then here in the UK, we also pay more 🙄
Gurl don't even stretch! RUN! 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
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Most of the time when there's death and grief, people seek love and comfort from a significant other or someone special. SIS YOU WASN'T THE ONE. He was getting what he needed somewhere else. If there really was a death!
He a narc. Girl run!!!!!
OMG. This must be the season to use "death"as an excuse to disappear. I just cut a guy off yesterday for the same identical thing. Man don't you know that my spirit is on flick, there was no death. He was just trying to get his roster of options available, but I WILL NOT BE the one.
These people are really bold playing with death like that!
@@PeaceBeStill- Yep!
Me... Tuesday. Tis the season to LET IT GO
@@evelyncooley6217 no time waist!
I have heard it referred to as "having them on rotation". "Women".
This is a 🔥 mess, nothing like a sorry man to lie about a person dying so he can go on an excursion with his side chick girl throw him all the way in the sewer 😩😩😩
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In the sewer
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Yes....grl I had one that relatives would die every week....smh....I left him and the next GF he got call me and said he told her the same thing....I told her he done ran out of relatives now.....😂😂😂
facts only
This is a shame....when I was younger.....I had a guy that would have a relative die every week....I told him to move to the cemetery.....just a liar .....boy bye✌
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Lmfao
Bee you are funny😂😂😂
@@lyrisgreenidge-adams5941 😂😂😂...its sad what they will use...
Lol.....he said she ain't been doin' the treatments for her natural hair, so she gotta wear the lacefront!!!! TOO FUNNY!!!
Yes because he knows lol
This dude is hilarious. If the mentor thing don't work out......
Man that took me out! 😂😂
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You are so funny Tony😂😂😂😂😂
Like you always say Tony he just wanted “to be left alone to cheat”. She wasn’t supposed to say anything when he got back. He was surprised at what she did!
He thought she was desperate
Played her like a violin 🎻
Some of these videos are simply confirmation to continue thriving and enjoying my single season 🙏🏽 Lol
Agreed
Yaaasssss
Right
My former live in boyfriend did the same thing. We would be fine and he would use some excuse that he had to be somewhere, and then disappear for days. He would not return my texts or calls. He would then return or have me pick him up feeling remorseful but with no real answers as to why he was gone and where he was staying. We live in Northern VA and he always claimed he missed his bus, subway and was sleeping on the streets in MD and DC. I packed his stuff and put him out as well. He wanted to work on the relationship, and while staying somewhere else he pulls the ghosting a few more times and contacted me like nothing happened. Its over and I blocked him. I would just move on. That behavior is not acceptable and says alot about their character.
One of two things drugs or a woman, speaking from experience. Either way you did the right thing. Buh bye!
@@NicoleYL Yesss ma’am you are so right! For me with my ex-it was both drugs and other women!!! Now the fool done called me after I broke it off with him 8 months ago apologizing profusely saying he messed up and I was a good woman and he never stopped loving me! Blah blah blah!
Self ❤️ is the Best ❤️ someone didn't respond to me in 6 days than finally responded but I refuse to let an individual get my energy I didn't respond & moved forward ⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩⏩
That’s probably why he left so quickly and easily after coming back, to try to go be with the other woman. When it didn’t work out he realized he needed a place to stay and came back to this woman. I hope she dumped him. Sounds like she’s got a heart of gold.
My condolences on the passing of your Uncle, Tony and to anyone else hurting from the loss of a loved one❣️
Tony it was something that happened inside of me when you said put that “L” on the forehead. Whew....thanks for the knowledge.
Why you got an L on your forehead??? I took a loss😭😂 great message as always, thanks tony🙏🏾
Lol, so funny
From the title if this video, I already know the message is God-ordained & FOR ME! Going through this right now, God bless you Tony. 🙌🏾🙌🏾💙
Same 😣
I just had this conversation with myself literally last night. I had to sit down and analyze us. Or the image of us. And all the things I miss about him. Not calling in 3-4 days. He changed in 12 months. The first 2 years he gave me attention and time. I was firm and not calling him back after he call me. But I gave in after 8 to 10 days. I know he work a lot( railroad) but he had time to see his son. But not me, and I didn't know what days he worked anymore. His schedule changed but his son mother knew. But not me. But now he layed off. He can call me. I gathered all my strength and I'm moving on. I'm tired of being played and walking around with a ,L on my forehead. I'm done.
You did the right thing.
@@deliteful1991 I know. I should have left him a lone. When I first noticed. Instead I allowed love to blind me.
@@teressahunter1874 we’ve all been there. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’ve learned from this and will be a better woman for it.
Good for you!
@@teressahunter1874
I'm going to give a different view point please don't be offended.
It seems that he is a hardworking man most probably doing long hours, hence the breaks in calling you.
His son is a priority, you know what some baby momas are like, they can make things difficult especially if they know their ex has moved on.
Communication is the key to keeping a relationship going and if he is trying now give him a chance as you guys are in a long relationship.
Take time to go over the pros and cons again.
Wishing you the best 🙏🏼
I defiantly agree with you Tony. I myself believe it’s another women and why didn’t he ask her to come alone with him. Some men would fake their own death to be with another women...smh. I don’t think she need to check out if his aunt passed away or anything of that nature, She needs to just checkout of his life. One thing I can say for sure asked God and he will show you, but she must see it when God shows her.
Just me speaking my feelings that’s all. Stay be blessed Tony
How many of his male friends did he tell about you while laughing at you.
Give that man an Oscar!
Tony is so right. I had a guy contact me one day and then not contact me the next. Then send me one or two text messages. I thought to myself he cannot possibly be the one and I heard Tony in the back of my head. Now he’s blocked.
Your loyal supporters understand you have a life and a family. Thank you for the wisdom and knowledge. It is much needed.
When Tony snored with his eyes open and told the lady to sleep like that.. I laughed out loud 🤣🤣🤣. I hope that lady ran Im tellin you
Two in one day?! Phew, lessgo Tony and Blessed Tribe!
They fit in “cheat time” during funerals/death in the family. Yep, run sis! 🏃🏻♀️
This is literally happening to me now. I’m on the phone with my girls they are trying to cheer me up and this video pops up. 😢
Your beautiful! Take time to focus on yourself and the right man will come ❤️
I'm currently going through a situation with the missing for 7 days. I'm moving on and taking this time to work on me. If he decides to call or text he won't get a response. We've been together for 15 months and I thought things were great but I was wrong. God knows best.
@@lrichardson0321 how’s it going now sis? Hope you’re still progressing without bozo
How’s its going Lauren?
This man was crying in advance for what he would come back home to..no one died but his chances. He knew he would be out of luck. That man was crying because he saw his side piece with her man and couldn't say anything. Lol
Dude, sounds like a psycho!! 😳🤯
@@blacksongbird100 more than..but hey I'd like to hand him a gold medal. He should go into acting. I can see a success for him already. Lol
@@DD-mg2se 😂😂😂😂😂
Nevaaaaa have a man move in. He does need his own place.
Right. I'm not running a hostel.
Tony, you have changed my life for nothing but the better. Thanking God for you, your wife, and children. Set apart and living in obedience to God. GOD BLESS YALL!!
hey, 17 yo checking in again, how are you ladies? :)
Smart girl! Yes, get this knowledge while you’re young honey. Wishing you all the best!
Hey baby girl, thanks for getting this knowledge at such a tender age. You'll be able to bless someone for sure.
Valuable lessons. I am proud of you.
Hi Savanahhh 🤗
Hey girl 💗
That’s the why prayer is your weapon in all you do !! 🤍
When Tony mentioned the marker and writing the “L” on the forehead I cried laughing 😂
But he’s absolutely correct!! Move on sis, he’s playing you.
What was the L for again?
He was testing her way b4 this. Going away & MIA for 5 days that is extreme, their was some build up b4 that offense. The arrogance of (I didn’t want come back to this) meaning: you shouldn’t be tripping. She in a fantasy & you right TG we need to be a
🪰 on the wall bc I bet high stakes their was red flags 🚩 everywhere.
Yes!! And it gets worse- I promise. The next offense will be 2 weeks, then 1 month, then 3 months, then a year, etc. This is called "grooming", and its the abuser's favorite training tool.
He wants to manage her expectations down so that this abuse becomes normal.
I've been there.
@@ButterCookie1984 Lord! It's like they learn all this manipulation straight from Satan! Who sits around and plans out manipulation like this??
@@PeaceBeStill- Yes!! Very textbook
I can attest there were. We tried to gather now proof in thee middle of the BS and let it go on too long. I'm guilty... I had a Madea moment and couldn't sleep the other night until I looked something up that confirmed my suspicions. Just let go after 4 different offenses over time on Tuesday. My "L" is written in Sharpie and won't come off for a few weeks. Frustrating
@@PeaceBeStill- children of the devil- that's who!
Her initial reaction to put his stuff out in the garage tells me that he’s done this before.
Tony’s impression of “sleeping with one eye open” 😂😂 Leave it to him to help me find the humor in a situation that was identical and so painful. Now it’s a lesson. Be blessed Tony!
Tony and his facial expressions when he typing lol 😂😂😂😂
What in the world is “processing time”? He planned this whole mess then comes back to pin the blame on you? 😳😳 Issa wrap.
And if you didn’t take him back, change the locks! I had someone make a copy of my keys without my knowledge and robbed my apartment while I was at work 🤦🏾♀️
damn
Oh No
Omg that’s horrible
A friend of mine hooked me up with a friend of his and his wife. The 1st day we talked on the phone for 5 1/2 hours. We were good for the 1st 3-4 days. Then he stopped communicating with me. I was confused af. I thought I had did something or said something. He said he was "busy." Didn't hear from him for over a week. He eventually called. I didn't even ask him what happened. Then he kept on ghosting me and coming back. I then asked him about his poor communication and told him I wasn't going for it. Long story short... He didn't want me questioning him and made it uncomfortable for me to ask him about his corrosive behavior. He also said, "Im getting you ready for how I am." He had me messed up! I don't do that!!!!!!! He ghosted me for the last time and I blocked his number after a week. Our mutual friend called me and said, "He said come home. He said why you block him he was going to get you a ticket to go to Puerto Rico." Me and this mutual male friend got into because he came at me sideways only knowing this dudes side of the story and acting like I did something. To be honest I wasn't interested in telling our mutual friend my side because I was DONE! I wasn't checking for dude! This mutual male friend would have had something to say if another man he didn't know was treating me poorly ...but since he knows this dude, the mutual friend wanted me to stay in the BS! Mutual friend told me he didn't think his friend deserved to be blocked. I hate it so much! I wanted to tell our mutual friend, "Your friend doesn't have 2 kids by 2 different people and an ex wife (whom he doesn't have kids with) for no reason!!!!!! I NEVER again will date a man with baggage (kids and an ex wife) and piss poor communication!
You did the right thing because I went through a similar situation and ever since I walked away my life has been paradise without him.
This situation sounds like my situation right now, lol. I blocked and deleted 😅
I can’t with the “ain’t been taking care of your natural hair” 😂..
Not the big L on the forehead 😂😂😂 Unk Tony be teaching but so funny 😩😩😩
It's understandable for someone to have a temporary change in attitude or mood because of an event, but it shouldn't ever be acceptable for a change in respect or care, so when dealing with situations like this, if you are disrespected or neglected, then it's all excuses, especially when things don't add up.
Yeap I agree with this one! Smh these men are something else.. Smh
@@tashaequeen8935 Thank you very much !
@@CarmenLifeCoach you are welcome. Everything you said makes logical sense to me. But it hurts because we are all flawed but he still chose someone else..its ok I'm moving on.
@@tashaequeen8935 Good decision, because the person who can make you the happiest will never be someone who has to be persuaded into staying or into seeing your value. They will see it by themselves naturally and they will not even consider anyone else because they know for sure they want you ! So don't hurt anymore because when you lose people who don't value you, it's not a loss, it's a win, you won the chance to find so much better and to be cherished for everything that you are.
Hi Mr Gaskins!!! U know we love you and SINCERELY APPRECIATE YOU and YOUR HONESTY ❤️😘🙏😎 Please don't change.... 🙏🤓🙏😎.
He is the absolute best!!🙏
I think the best thing she should’ve done was to let him walk out the door and go do whatever he wanted to do in Michigan whether he was being honest about a death in the family or not and she shouldn’t have contacted him at all. Change the locks 🔐
A similar story happened to me. My ex’s cousin passed away and he didn’t call me for a week and I kept checking on him, however, he didn’t want to see me. Then when we finally hung out, he was on the phone with his ex planning to see his mom with her. He tried to lie but I knew he just ran to her when his cousin passed away.
As a 25 year old Namibian woman, listening to Tony has really taught me a lot about men. Especially the stupid ones, I pick their BS on the first encounter already. The only thing I struggle with is getting attached too quickly when I meet a man that looks like my dream man. But I managed to survive that too. It's so easy to see who only wants to use me for things or sex and I legit make it so hard for them until they hate me and disappear by themselves 😂
@@juneelle370 Thank you darl 🥰
My question to the one asking the question... What's his name? I'm in my early 40s and he in his late 30s. Disappearing for days at a time no answer. OMG. That's my deal breaker. Hmmmm. Mine tested me 4 times. I'm out. It helps to know I'm not alone. Thank you for asking! Thanks for answering Mr. Gaskins
Monday Mornin Quarter Back...I'm dead 💀😂😭😭😭😭😂💀😆😅😅 Please stop... LOL 🤣🤣🤣
Tony has me crying laughing.. "Draw a big L on ya forehead cause you took a loss". I wish I had someone like him to listen to when I was taking the losses I took in the past. However, I do share his videos with my daughter and nieces. Hearing this advice from a man makes a difference alot of times. Thanks Tony for being you.
“I wish I was a fly on the wall to see this man coming in the house boohoo crying” 🪰 😩🤣🤣 @14:28
Too funny 😂😆😂
Its the sound effects for me! We get a timely Word and a comedy show all in one! Wont HE do it 🙌?! Thanks Tony.
Been there too sis SMH. Ladies wake up and block!
God bless you, Tony! Thanks for being the father I never had🙏🏼♥️
Blessed tribe Good evening
GOOD EVENING!🙌🏿🥰
Blessed evening!
😂🤣🤣🤣🤣The sleep with one eye👁️💤😂😂😂😂😂
Two in a day! Keep it coming Tony.💕
🤔Did this man even go to Michigan 🙄😏
Right! Probably was in town!
Doesn’t sound like it.
I think he did. He went to Michigan Drive to be with his other woman. lol
Very possible that he didnt and his auntie been dead and gone 10 years. If there were real tears...put ya track shoes on sis...😂
When I was single my dill breaker was 2days, 5days is a long time!! I hope she didn’t except him back, women please stop playing games with these men and kick them to the curb!!!
It's the whole "can't go to work" scenario for me....TG is low-key a comedian 😂😂
Omgeezy sleeping with one eye and switching!! Too funny!!! 🤣🤣
I just love these talks with Tony! God is so gracious it’s like what I didn’t get growing up without a father I get from these videos and I’m so grateful God is using Tony in this way.
Hello BLESSED tribe!
I clicked when I got the notification I can't believe people send you this u make so many videos but I am here for this but iam learning what not to do thanks Tony for the videos
It’s therapeutic that i get to laugh 😂 while i’m going through a heartache! God bless you more Mr.Tony Gaskins!
Ok so my husband did this and he is my ex husband okayyyyy ...Tony is right its blatant disrespect and he doesn’t really want the relationship it’s more of a convince to split the bills or live off of her back.
Same happen to me waiting on my divorce to go through,pray mines go through soon .
Yay! Missed 2 today. Gotta catch up tomorrow. Look forward to it while at work. God bless everyone on the road to self mastery with Jesus in the forefront!
If the man that you are or was with - has the gut to cut you off (disappear'g totally for days, weeks of months of years) it's clear sign he don't truly care or love you at all 🙄😬 and he is willing to loose you - period 🥴
And when he does turn back, but not saying anything much - You just got to go Sister - say to him 'Adiyos Senor !!!! 👋😅👋 And never look back - keep moving, do not waste your precious time with grown boys games, waiting for them to grow up 💯🙏🏾💯
TONY never failed to tickle my tickle box with his authentic expression!! - lol 😅🤣😂
(Blessed time ahead in CHRIST to all Sisters & Brothers at Blessed Tribe 💯❤️❤️❤️💯)
Tony I swear these videos hit every time! And the topics and your feedback are right on time! Thank you, thank you so much for your work. You’re the father I never had. But in spirit.
I would be very cautious going forward with this man. I doubt I even would smh because I really don't have patience for that. This story doesn't add up.
Him and his side chick ! side piece whatever you want to call her who went out of town with him was glued to the hip this is why he could not answer her phone calls ,we as women we know better we know the truth they were glued to the hip. So basically the woman that he live with he showed her that she’s not a priority .
I screamed when he mentioned the natural hair treatment! TONY! 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks very much Tony 🥰
All things are working for your good! Thanks for sharing, be blessed!
What up brother Tony, Queen Shariiiiiii and the princes.
When he got into the lace front getting crooked 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 It's too much!
@@stormisabella 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can’t!!
I person who really loves you won't make you worry. At least not intentionally.