How men communicate!
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If a man wants to leave after showing you no action, interaction & attention.. let them.. They are free to go. Thanks Tony!! 💯 In order to keep a man, you have to be willing to lose one!! Not everyone you lose is a loss.
So right Sis. If he walks he wasn't for you in the first place...then you are available for the right one!
yesssss to all of this 🙌🏽👏🏽
Ooh we tell the truth
Men are too damn complicated. Women love and want to be loved. It's as simple as that. But no you have to adjust your whole life to suit their wants. Bye boy. Hit me up when you grow up.
Demetria Calvin Glory say that!!!
Men use a lot of reverse psychology to get their way.
Sheree Raye yep! Smh 🤦🏻♀️ lol
That is my non negotiable. I can't do the reverse psychology.
Yup
Manipulation
So true
" Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life" ~Tony Gaskins
Cher H Tony is always sharing precious gems with us
@@ericabostwick4033 ikr!
Facts
We have to be his witness because they keep stealing his quotes. He come up with some great ones. They respect a star, a wealthy man or a dead white man by always saying, "thats not mine thats Nechies or like the late great said," but wont give Brother Tony his respect. Im happy to know he the one who made the three month rule because it just look like Steve was acting.
That is how I found my husband. Every boy I dated said something or did something that caught my eye, but they could not keep the act going too long if they could not be around him when they were with me all the time. They sure did not want to bring me around him either. So when you have friends who stop hanging with you once they start dating and never let you meet or spend time around them and their man, it is because she acted like you to in order get him and do not want him to tell you the amazing things she did or said to catch his eye and she dont want you to be yourself and end up letting him hear you talk like her when he sees that she does not talk like that all the time. He might fall in love with her real representative, which is you.
I found out that every boy I dated knew my husband, respect him and fear him.
@@farrowife9230 yes! That's why I posted it! 😂 TG always say they can never keep up that act for more then 12 months
" In order to keep a man you have to be willing to lose a man" Amen! 🙌
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I never understood this growing up but I have the wisdom now.
@@Mrs.TAfrica can u please break it down for me?
@@danyelgarcia3689 Tony breaks it down. He has a video called "Be willing to leave".
Yes!!! Amen 🙏
Tony’s message is not a microwave message!!! Take the time to listen!!
Tony's messages are more like a four course meal, not like a hot pocket.😉😆😆😆. Lol... Lol...
Your so right tony
I’m on the floor screaming! “I’m working like an African Slave, Lindsey!” Tony, you are too much!
Michele Smith 😂😂
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Lindsey!! 😂😂😅 I’m crying!!
Hilarious right!
Lmaoooo
“I talk a whole hour, and women still ask questions” ... im screamingggg🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Where's the lie though? 😅
This is me in class. And my professor says the same thing about women when I do it 😂😂😂😂
La Tina lol
EXACTLY mannnn 🤣🤣🤣😂
It's true though. But we need to understand it from Every angle!!😂😂😂😭😭😭
Communication and consistency are necessary for a successful relationship. If a man or woman is unable to communicate effectively then he or she will not be worth your energy and time.
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Facts
right, along with comprehension as well. u can communicate all u want to ur partner in an effective way n right words, but if he/she doesnt understand u or even tries to, its like ur talkin to the wall... no connection, no response.
@@yakimawalters8209 Very true also.
Yep and just move on
Don't shorten your videos. People need to learn patience. Most times greatness isn't born from anything rushed.
Had to learn this the hard way, but true. If a man is not willing to hear you & address the issue & change he does not love & respect you.
Desoray Williams yes learned the hard way also! Fought until I couldn’t anymore ..
@@ShyBabyxoxo God bless you!
@Carolina Lamar true
True
@@user-tk4qd8dj1p true
I like when men/ppl are straight to the point and direct. I dont like passive aggressiveness. 🤷🏾♀️
This !
It’s true that some of them think you wont leave them. They mistake the fact that you treat them with kindness, and extend grace to them, because you love them, that you’re weak. A strong woman, who loves herself MORE, will check out. I had to.
Exactly what I'm going through right now
Exactly what I'm going through right now
Mine is horrible he is everything Tony describe. I am so glad i found his video. I am not so alone anymore. Thank you Tony!!!
Me also now he cutting grass 🤣 but I'm not bitting
@@quin8463 lol
“Say what you need to say Calm, cool & collected!!” 📝
Noooo! Please don't shorten the videos. For the people who don't like long videos listen in segments.
Yes because they be good but his messages be so longgggggggggggggggggg
Not interested in that. I want a quick video period.
I totally agree. There is no way and no need to shorten information that is this rich. It’s too easy to watch in segments if you are short on time. Thanks Tony
@@nofybn7794 then it's not for you ..... Please don't tell me that all you eat is takeout ????
Andreea J right
Ladies, you have to be willing to walk away and stand your ground respectfully , lady-like, and without profanity. As Tony says, calm , cool, and collected. Well said and received.
“Well, what what do YOU MEAN Lindsay...” 😂
I wasn’t ready 🤣
:)
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NewCreation5:17 Lindsay gon learn today 🥴🤣😂😂
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Tony i Love how you allow God to flow through to give women the tools we need to better understand men. Dont ever apologize for how long it takes. Yes, if the Lord gives you a short message, then do it. If He gives you a longer one, do it. He knows what we need. You just follow Him and forget about people who have a problem with the time.
Agree! Time is relative. Theory of relativity...⏳
In order to keep a man, we have to be willing to lose him. I'm so glad I understand that concept now! 🙏🏾
Wow !
I wish I had known this earlier. I have been treated so cruelly in some of my past relationships, but I have come to see that I was also at fault with how I treated my partners and how I mistreated myself by not respecting myself. I have to forgive myself and pray that I will get an opportunity to do better next time.
My man had to learn without communication nothing will ever work. He knows my cut off quota is strong . If we can’t communicate then we don’t need to be together.
I second that! I feel this exact same way!
I like that talicia 18. That statement spoke volumes.
"Say what you need to say to a man. Don't say it in the midst of everything going wrong, don't say it when everything is going haywire. Say it in a time of peace. Call the meeting, speak your heart, do it with respect. Be cool, calm and collected. Do not be waivered by how he responds, because he may respond in a way to make you shut down, give up, make you storm off. Don't give into that. Let him show you who he is. If he goes to yelling, cursing, calling you out your name, blaming you, if he tries to flip it on you, call him out on that, too. If you're afraid by how he's reacting, that he's going to physically do something to you, deescalate and let It go. When he goes to work tomorrow, pack your stuff and get gone. Never be in a relationship with a man that you physically fear... if you're afraid to talk to your man, that's not your man. If you're afraid to express what you need, then you're with someone else husband or someone else's long term career boyfriend. You need to let it go. So come to the table, say what you need to say, be direct. If you need to cry, get your crying out the way BEFORE you go to talk. When you come to talk, don't process every feeling that's going to make you cry. Just stay on the straight and narrow and go from A to B. See when you go from A to G, from A to M,N,O, P, trying to find the words to say. That's what wells up all your emotions to start crying and now he can't hear you and listen to you because you're sniffing out the nose😂...you're trying to express yourself and that makes him cringe because all that does to a man is make him feel inadequate because men are fixers. So now his brain shuts down because [he] can't deal with the crying. Because that's something [he] can't solve with [you] crying. So you've got to get to the point where you've said it out loud enough, that you've cried all the tears you need to cry... thought through it till you get comfortable so you can express it. And do not move forward until he acknowledges, either through actions, or with his words, and then follows through with his actions. Understand this: communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. You communicating will bring clarity. It's either going to build your relationship by building confidence in the 2 of you OR that clarity will bring closure. Meaning that when I communicate with this man, he refuses to listen, he refuses to acknowledge his behavior, he refuses to change, he refuses to acknowledge my feelings...that means I now have the closure to move on with my life because I am loving the wrong person... Speak your mind, do not live in fear, do not sit on your words. Get out what you need to get out, and if a man cannot respect that, hear that, and do what he needs to do to give you what you need, because you're giving him what he needs, then leave that relationship." - Tony Gaskins
How did you do that?? You type that fast? Or??
@@TonyGaskins lol, 😂I had to do a lot of pausing, some typing to make corrections, mostly done via speech-to-text. It took me an hour but it was well worth it. I saved this video, too. Posting the quote was perfect for when I rewatch it later; it was better (for me) than posting the time-stamp.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS. 100% THANK....YOU.....
All of This‼️Thank You! .. AMEN! 🙏🏽
Thanks for this, I just screenshot it n I'll read it over❤
My ex did everything you named.. he got loud whenever I called him out.. he even walked away when I least expected him to. I stood my ground, my pride is too high and my respect is demanded! He even tried to breadcrumb me but I stood in the paint! Never looking back!!
The lack of communication will end a relationship quick. My ex didn’t want to communicate he would put off conversations over and over again, until I got to where I didn’t share my issues with him. After awhile I started communicating with others. Years later he’s trying to hold a conversation and I completely short talk him. When I needed him, he wasn’t there.. I learned to communicate with others in which I didn’t have that same privilege to do with him.
I need try on working on some of this in my relationship
The audacity to try to communicate with you after all that. 🤦🏼♀️
If after an argument, if a man wants to leave, I’m that person that will say, here let me help you find your keys.
“A distraction that looked like destiny” That pierced my soul!
Wow 😮 that’s a word
This guy has the kind of wisdom that only comes from above
Indeed.
Tony with the voices got me rollin 😭 15:00-16:00
I knowwwwww!!!!!🤣🤣🤣
Kaylani Simone it’s so spot on because my fiancé does this all the time. It’s so frustrating
Omgg I knowwww 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I lost it
This was rich. This is why I’m always telling people to just LISTEN to you. This is a talk that can not just be listened to one time. It’s something to keep handy and reflect on often. Very very empowering.
God bless you Tony. You truly are living in your gifting.
Fact!!!
Exactly!
My ex rarely opened up. He always said he was more open with me than anyone else. I always thought well he must not ever open up to anyone else. I found out years later that he didn’t open up or talk much because he was teased as a kid and told he talked “white”. He was very articulate and when he opened up he expressed himself so well. I had to learn how he communicated and be patient. As his trust in me increased he shared more about his issues, hopes and fears. And yep he always sensed when something was wrong with me. Great video.
I've tried to be very patient but what do you do if he doesn't open up about where he lives or works? Or doesn't want to introduce you " yet" to his mom and family? Says give me time and I will. Then when you say Hey I need us to work on this..cusses at you tells you walk ..etc
@@kristinakellogg1732 You need to walk away. Any man that has a problem telling you where he lives and works and also doesn’t want to introduce to family is hiding something. He’s married or already in a committed relationship. You deserve better. There’s absolutely no good reason why a man would be secretive about where he lives or his workplace. And a man introduces you to his family when you are important and serious to him. Lastly, the fact he cusses you is disrespectful. Walk away and expect and patiently wait for better sis.
Lol, I got the "you talk white statement" smh
" In order to keep a man, you got to be willing to lose a man." My God today!!!! This was good to me!!!!
"In a time of peace, prepare for war."
Respectfully appreciated. Thank you, Tony. Be blessed.
"Men read energy; they want to know if you're afraid" Thanks Mr G. After 35 yrs of marriage I learned something new!
Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life... Amen!
"Men read energy." (Drop the Mic). Thanks Tony.
We can read too. We have strong intuition. Just start loving yourself, turn off phones, listen what your body needs etc. Your intuition will come back.
If he does not make changes that means your a placeholder! TG
"A MAN" WILL NEVER HIT A WOMAN,
HE WILL WALK AWAY FROM YOU AND
THAT ALONE WILL HURT YOU MORE".
BE CAREFUL LADIES!
Guys are so complex and hate to open up I find ..
I had to make a conscious decision to leave a man I saw my whole life wth ,to love myself instead of trying to make him see my wearth . I told him how I felt his reply was crazy but it's clear to me. I'm so proud of myself for finally walking away❤
It’s hard to stay cool, calm and collected when both people are frustrated. That is what I need to work on. Stepping away and gathering my thoughts does help. Being the bigger person will help as well. Thank you and be blessed.
My father always said
The only way you can deal with a men is a peace and respect even if you leaving him.Tony God bless ❤🎩👈.
SIR YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN BUSINESS BECAUSE PEOPLE'S MISUNDERSTANDING IS TIMELESS.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
A woman need love a man needs respect. This was one of your best videos yet.
Yvette Yes...it’s true and you have to ask the Holy Spirit to help you do it.
"Well what do you mean Lindsay?!". 😂 the humor really makes it easier to swallow these hard truths. These videos are so good. Single mom of two, not trying to do it wrong a second time. Nope. We waiting on the Lord and doing it right. Get your house in order, seek His kingdom first, and let God do the rest. Only common denominator between all my bad relationships, is me. Now I've been educating myself on what I'm doing wrong for the last few years. This stuff is gold. So glad the Lord brought me here. Thank you for spreading your wisdom!
Women have to accept responsibility. Some women don't listen. Tony you did a whole hour video yesterday on "when to tell him" And in the comments a person still asked when to tell him. 🤦🏾♀️I can't. Some women don't know how to communicate without yelling & clap'n hands. You have to be calm & respectable. When someone yells at me I shut down so imagine yelling at a man. It's in one ear & out the other. Be blessed. Get the knowledge & apply it to your life. 💫🌸❤
Cher H you are always in the comments spreading encouragement and positivity! God bless you sis!😌💛
Loved that msg
@@IshanaeS thank you love. I want the best for all of us 🌸❤
@@janedoe2299 thank you. 🌸❤
I use to be that disrespectful women. I’m learning that I don’t have to be disrespectful just because I’m being disrespected and I also don’t have to tolerate it and listen to it.
This the realest thang I done watched about relationships EVER!
The white guy impersonation was hilarious!!! Dangit Lindsay!! HAHA
Comedian in the future for Tony
Tony don't pay us any attention, when we make fun of your many voices, it's all in fun. We get really good content along with some entertainment. Sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying. Don't change anything, especially the length of your videos. Keep up the good work. Thanks!
Exactly...the same people complaining are the same people who love Madea videos and think TP is funny and a genius
I listen while I'm cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, on my lunch break, on my way to work and on my way home. I can easily get in 3 hours a day, if I so choose.
Was financially abused by an ex boy-friend and tried to talk to him. Lost the battle, was tiptoeing and had no energy. I was not confident enough to stand my ground. Ended up to be so fed up after many months, that I dumped him. Learned a huge lesson today, thanks Tony!
Thank you Tony! Because just like the father wasn't in the home for his sons he wasn't for his daughters either & a lot of us were raised by single mothers & have not seen healthy communication even with the men our mothers dated.
"How men communicate!" They don't
Women want men to communicate with words, but they communicate with their actions. Nonverbal communicate is real.
“”A distraction that look like destiny”.... Amen 🙏 🙏
I literally had the same issue with my ex I'd communicate how I felt & he would talk about how he has to supervise so many guys & working late hours & that I was supposed to be his peace but I wasn't making it easy. I'd tell him all I wanted was for him to call me for a bit to talk with him when he got home and had time to unwind...I just wanted him to make time for me & he always had a story. God Bless you TG!
Omg...u 2 lol I just finished dealing with this...and it didn't work out for us...I got tired of that BS
My father once said “Men read people, but You study people! There is a difference. Every man is not comfortable under a constant observing eye!”
Oh well. 🤷🏽♀️
Why would anyone wanna be observed 😂😂..
that is SO profound!!!! it does make the grown boy HIGHLY UNCOMFORTABLE
@@robertcarter4914 to be understood.
Having high levels of discernment and being able to read people will always make the frauds ( both men and women) very ill at ease and uncomfortable because they know they cannot play you- you know their game and they know it
PERIODTT.. Awesome statement sums it all up in two sentences.. Wow!!
That “yappity yappity yap” took me CLEAN out! 😂
If a man spoke to me that way when I expressed concerns, That would be the end of it. I would no longer express my feelings. Those are not things that real men do. If a man responds that watch you need to show him the door. Men don’t read energy. Half the time they’re oblivious to everyone else’s feelings and needs. You are clearly much different and more emotionally mature than 99% of men. Women are much more in tune with energy. A woman’s intuition is spot on 💯
A woman need Love And Respect, A man need Love and Respect.
Love without respect is not love
What I don't like is a man could be soo extremely disrespectful, emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive, if you assert your self and give them the same energy back they feel disrespected and there's no coming back from it. That's not fair. Men seem to be way more sensitive than us sometimes.
Most definitely. They push you and hurt you to make sure they have the upperhand. They like the power imbalance. It’s low key abuse.
@@TheSheila170 I absolutely agree. It's not fair. You try to communicate let's work on things together let's be a team and totally rant rage and cuss at you. Think your saying they aren't doing enough and call you a cu%t and bitch . Your like oh heck no I got to go Bye !!
@@kristinakellogg1732 all we can do is avoid the anger/aggressive behavior and simply leave when they disrespect us.
He’s killing me with the voices!! 🤣🤣🤣 “what do you mean Lindsey?? I’m tryna have a few brewskies”... 😂😂🤣🤣 gotta love it. Still receiving the message
Will have some brewkies for Christmas
“ You won’t do anything that’s authentic to you because you’re afraid he’s going to leave, youre a slave” wow 😳
So true Tony you can't tip toe around a man. This is helping me and am healing also. Eyes are coming open. God bless you Abundantly
Amen
Don't change your videos Tony! They are PERFECT just the way they are‼️ Be blessed‼️
Best line of advice of the day:
“ if you talk to a man like a piece of trash...you need to leave”
You can “give the game away” all day, it takes a certain level of maturity and smarts to understand and apply it. You are the BOMB!
“If you’re of another race or culture then just translate that to your race and culture” 🤣🤣🤣
That part had me rolling
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Lindsay 🤣
Your ministry is helping to change lives. Thank you so much for being obedient to God! Thank you for helping to give me strategy and an understanding of how to communicate and engage in a healthy manner with my husband.
Thanks a million Tony. You a real role model in my opinion. Ive seen mostly bad ones in my life. I told myself I never would be that. It helped me recognize the rare good ones. I saw God gave you His good energy. Thanks for all you do. I hope to serve more like you. Blessings!
Your wife is blessed🙏🙏🙏
When you said transfer that to your race that took me ouuuut!! 😂
“A distraction that looked like destiny...”. Wisdom. 🙏
Thank you for your words Tony, it’s a process! I was always a person that held my tongue, for fear of offending someone, causing conflict, or being perceived as “difficult.” But doing so has often led to me feeling stressed, frustrated, and taken advantage of. I realized the need to change, have started to speak my mind more, and feel more comfortable with saying ‘no.’ Be blessed, I made it. 🙏🏾
38:43 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 so so true Tony! When you’re just trying to have a conversation after you let the man have his Time and he STILL flips out that you want to have the convo. Thanks for confirming that we SHOULD have conversations until things are Resolved. No matter how many times a man Acts like you’re “nagging” when you’re not raising your voice, not cussing, AND even given him Time to have the convo. Smh.... thank you Tony!
This one was so powerful! So many of us women need to put what you’re saying into practice.
He catch you wid one. 🤣🤣🤣 - you can't tiptoe around a man - See I address everything I want to say..calm cool n collected. TG...this video is so on point. Great to have my thoughts reinforced
You’re the BEST COACH TONY
"I'm working like a African slave.." LOL Tony is the real MVP
Tony is so telling the truth 💯💯💯
Thank you... because I keep learning to be better for me first. I gave too many years to someone that didn't care a bit. But is in gods hand he knows I dont have time to keep wasting. I know lol I need coaching and not just 6 sessions maybe a year 😔 I'm just trying to grow and love me more
Omggggg!!! When Mr TG did "Steven's" voice/scenario, I YELLED 😫😫😫😫😮😮😮😮😮🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣⚰⚰⚰⚰
Period! 😂😂
My man and I are on round two. These videos have really shown me MY part in it falling apart the first time around. You are saving our relationship in round two. Be blessed.
I have to say Tony you are helping women understand men in a way that has never been explained before. I am truly thankful for your time and dedication on the subject of real love. 😊👌👏👏
15:20 I love the Lindsay and her significant other scenario 😂😂😭 a few bruskies 😂🤣
THANK YOU. 😭😭 I've been waiting for this explanation for YEARRRS........ !
This video CLARIFY the mess in my relationship. This really make me able to read him like a clear water. Thank you very much for explaining this. 🙏🏻🥺😃
This was my last two relationships crazy and toxic. Really getting this info before I get in another thanks tony!
Me too! I'm so glad to be free to heal myself and be by myself and enjoy life!
Man I needed this so bad ... I have been going through so much with my fiancé this entire month to the point were we deciding if the relationship need to move forward or not .. I understand now that my communication skills are not were they need to be .. today I’m going to open up and do exactly what you said and be real with him as well as with myself .. thank you Mr.tony 🙏🏾.
Thank you for your common sense and taking the time to verbalize it for us to understand.
Beautifully expressed. ‘Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life’
Tony Gaskins = 🐐 💪🏾 💯
Im here for the hour..And hes thorough too.. im actually very happy he gives an hour .. just becuase he really breaks it down to the tee...unlike others thay you give you a 5 minute video for a thought..his lessons are life changing.
Omg Tony's theatrics cracks me up...when clocks you with one "bop"...my second time watching...ladies he's giving us the knowledge and power
This is an extremely relevant point.
It is true that men are told not to communicate, especially their feelings, from a young age.
It's extremely unhealthy and suppressive.
Then we expect them to find it in themselves to muster the courage to say what they feel and their truth.
I always internally jump for joy when a man tells me truly how he feels, because I know how hard it is for him to do so.
It's literally a turn on, it makes my heart melt (guys: take notes 😉)
It's not that we are told not to communicate feelings from a young age. Men have testosterone women have estrogen therefore we are not as emotional as women. Feelings does not dominate our lives the way it does women. We don't have mood swings and controlled by emotions the way women do.
@@dasani6055 Actually My Boyfriend is very , "Sensitive" and "Moody". He is a Cancer. I want to Laugh and have Fun. He is not "Healed" from his childhood where he was bullied by his "Asian" Father and shut down, so this is still in his Soul. ✝️ I am confident and don't own his triggers, and Moodiness from his Childhood.
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@Fancy Pants Not me i can relate to nothing women do. The men you are talking about are raise by women or in women dominated environments.
Tony's imitation voices cracks me up so much, I agree with you not to cower to fear and state my point regardless. Before I would just chicken out cause I wouldn't want to be seen as a woman that nags,so I will end up bottling it up just after he puts up little resistance. Now I know better. Thank you so much for helping me,I have been listening to all your videos non stop .l feel so super confident
“He pushing you for the old and the new” 😂😂 you be saying the realest stuff Tony
I just want to say... you are funny... and I literally laugh at you every video! and that's one of the things that keeps me watching!
Tony is hilarious with the imitations of the grown boy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Reminded me of my ex. Man I’m so glad I left that relationship years ago.
Tony's message dropping bombs 💣💥
Lay it out Tony there are people here that truly appreciate your knowledge. Communicate is the key. Be direct do not beat around the bush. Go from A to B. Cry in the car...🤣🤣🤣😩‼️ Speak your mind. I can’t wait to use the skills you have taught me. Thanks 🙏🏾
I have ordered A Womans Influence and Emotional Intelligence 2.0.....home schooling for myself. Thank you Tony Gaskins. Thank you Shari Gaskins. Blessed.
Hey Tony I just found your videos and they are helping me out greatly with a man that I've just met that I like. You hit on so many truth points. Please keep 'em coming! I'm lovin it brother!
"Trapped by the opinions of others". Such a powerful statement.
Tony is kind of a superhero
A distraction that looked like destiny... that is a powerful statement! Thank you Tony for All of your wonderful videos! Be blessed!