Bibi Lafleur THIS! Yes! Feminine presence/energy ALONE is therapeutic. And with that it is very valuable and sought after. Our feminine therapy is one of the many things we “bring to the table”. Indeed, we need to toughen up with those who mishandle/misuse our precious valuable gifts/benefits.
This might go against the thought, but soul ties is for more than a few people. It's our relationships to friends, families, yes of course men you date and the women we love. Feel free to disagree
@@amerokeewiya1320 right! He better leave ! Love or not man or not he deserves to be treated with respect and value not be a prisoner in the name of love.
I wouldn’t always say that.. My mother went back to a man who broke her in many ways, but she left him rebuild herself and as she did he realized what he didn’t appreciate and chase her for 3 years. When she finally entertained him and made him prove why he was worth a second chance he jumped thru hoops to show her he was a changed man. Since then they have moved in and he has done a complete 360 and became everything he should of been the first time around. It’s possible but it’s a dime a dozen. I’ll just encourage anyone to work on themselves and if it’s meant to be, it’ll work it’s self out. No one is perfect and we all be unappreciative of something and realized what it meant once it was gone. Does that mean we are undeserving of a second chance, no. It just mean we needed reality to kick us in the ass to make us see what we really have before us. That’s what life lesson are for. We can get to comfortable with what we have. Especially when it’s again or 24/7. We won’t always get it right the first time. It’s possible.
🤦🏾♀️ A lot of y'all will NEVER heal because y'all are so busy watching and worrying about him. Stop worrying about how the soul tie affects him. All you should take from a EX is that He didn't want you. He disrespected you, cheated on you, didn't value the relationship enough to try to work it out with you. And if a man does all that to you, that should tell you how much he likes you. He doesn't. Y'all put too much energy into an EX. Love YOURSELF the way you trying to love that man. He doesn't even want your love and he's showed you over & over again. Reevaluate your life sis. No more settling. You can't build a broken man. You can't heal him. That's not your job God is the healer. Be blessed bless tribe. 💫
A key factor you mentioned is “She hasn’t been preparing herself mind, body & soul” but let me tell you when you prepare ladies & heal from prior relationships, put God first and take care of yourself without fornicating then you will be prepared in your mind, body & soul
Same here! I healed alone after a 5 year toxic relationship! It was very hard to do, but so much was revealed to me during relationship that I totally ignored, but after the relationship...wow!
I’m so glad I’m healing alone after 10 years of marriage with a grown boy! I don’t want to make that mistake again🙏🏾 32 yrs young & God will send Mr. Right one day. Patience pays
As women we need to stop giving in to the desires of the flesh. Practice self control, self respect and honour ourselves and what our mothers and grandmothers have taught us through out our lives! 💯💜
@@theholyspiritslove4619 While that is true, the main task to keep purity has the woman, because she is the only who can grant "access" to her body. A man has to put much more effort to seduce a woman, while women don't have to, they just have to exist..
If your EX found love and moved on, consider it a BLESSING and remove yourself. Soulties are emotions on steroids. It's a big fight but you can win. Go in the opposite direction of what USED to be. HE'S GONE and it's OK!.💛
Emotions on steroids.. man that makes so much sense it seems almost impossible to fight. I can date other people, I can live my best life knowing I have him in my pocket. When he’s absent it feels like my whole world has stopped. I can’t wait till this is over
Thank God, I ended a eight year relationship..to be truthful we grew apart. It became more bad times than good & I believe it was soul ties on both ends that kept us together that long? I wanted to advance my life as he didn't. I had to let go, its hard bt very much needed for us both. And I'm grateful for that🙏
thanks Paula, I'm going the other way.....saw thousands of dolphins while @ the Channel Islands for a hike on my 1-year anniversary of my ex leaving after 37 years .....for some reason, I got teary-eyed to see these little creatures in such a hurry and they were so happy going so fast......................................swimming under our boat....darting in and out.....on the move.....just like me!
One of the things that stuck out for me is the fact that when a man comes and goes he misses his placeholder! Wow! That was my ex for over 3 years until I started listening to your teachings. I thank God for learning about situationships and finally cutting it off! Now God has blessed me with a real relationship and I now notice the difference.
Trying to find the strength to leave a 6 yr toxic relationship with a certified Narc who was the guy I made my first bf where I was in it to be married in the long run
This hit me like a ton of bricks I was definitely that person with my child’s father and ultimately got pregnant he left me half during my pregnancy as well and came back. Then once my child was born he left within 7 days and once my son was born I had enough I couldn’t take it any longer. But just to look at this video and knowledge given I was 25 when I met him he was 31 the self-love that I have now did not exist back then. All of this was a game but I’m just glad I was strong enough to let it go🙌🏽🥲and to this day in his eyes I’m bitter and he legit hates me. I believe the hates stem from him thinking he will always have a place in my life or I’ll be revolving door for him. But all I ever did was love him deeply.
"He comes back for the fix! He misses his placeholder. His #1 fan. His human teddy bear." " You are his punching bag. His test dummy." And then the next week discard you. nd round and round it goes when it stops is when YOU stop it.
I was with my children’s father from the age of 19-33 years old ( Only him), until he was killed 10 years ago! My relationship was abusive in all areas. As I begin to date I was naive! I was token advantage of mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially! When I transitioned and begin to know my worth, I HEALED alone. Praise God💃🏽
I can relate. I was with my kids father/husband from 17 to 33. The relationship was very abusive! He was several years older than myself and passed away when I was 33. I’m now 37. A year ago, I begin dating again and discovered I’m naive. I’ve stepped away from the dating scene to work on myself.
I'm healing alone, and it's so hard. I can't just jump into something else still married, and after 7 years with who I thought was my soul mate. Yet, he's out here jumping into bed with whoever he can. This is how I know I will come out on top. Healing and getting myself back is hard but so good for me. It's devastating knowing he was not the man I thought he was. I used to hang on every word he said. We were best friends at one time, and now I don't even know who he is anymore. Lot's of praying, and therapy. I WILL get through this.
You will love! I went through it for 19 years. God touched me and brought me through! I initiated divorce and now he's wanting to come back. Hold on my sweet sister! 😊😘
Sis, I hear everything you are saying but one of the things that keep us bonded is we tell ourselves we were good friends at on time. We dwell on what could have been. Hope deferred makes the heart sick...Truth be told you may have been a good friend to him but he was never our best friend. True best friends would never do this to us. We will begin healing much faster when we realize what we thought we had and all those dreams were smoking mirrors. It just wasn't real. It will hurt but it is will start us on the road to healing.
@@clarissaharris2170 well I found out that the girl who "claimed" that she had been with him was actually a drama starting child. She wanted my husband and he was faithful. She finally admitted that she made it up. She is trash so at the time I didn't know if I believed it or not. But with no proof on her end when I asked for it, she had none and was trying so hard to cause a wedge between us. I assumed that he was cheating when he really wasn't. I know this sounds like I'm turning a blind eye but one thing I WILL NOT STAND for is cheating. He really was telling the truth. She's a drugged out drunk. Long story short, we are happily still married raising our son together. I've never had any other woman tell me he cheated. I thought if one did then there must be more but nope. She is trifling. We are doing good and it kills her lol 😆 She looks like a gorilla. I really didn't think he'd go for her if he was going to cheat. He could do way better.
From another man to another, Tony I appreciate you changing the game by helping lay out a road map for our Queens! I myself have broken hearts, knowingly and unknowingly, nevertheless pain doesn't differentiate. Most cases because of my own insecurities I blead on women and they bandage me up! However, We hurt to, and in some cases we (men) are just as lost as you women are! In my case trauma, abandonment, and feeling less than a man has caused a major part in me hurting women! I really want you women to trust Tony, listen to me it will save you so much heartache! I was one of those guys he's speaking of, and from an psychological, emotional, and physical standpoint he's dialed in and are giving you truths! Again, thanks Tony!
Nice to hear that another man agrees with and supports sharing this unique male perspective knowledge. I’ve been praying for perspective; within a week, several pieces of the perspective puzzle have been provided. Though I wish I had heard this stuff years ago, I realize that God’s timing is always perfect and that I surely would have missed the lessons I need to hear in these videos. What I am coming to realize is that the things I love about myself the most, that I refuse to let any bad experience or person take from me, are often exploited by the men I choose. I continue to be grateful for all the “blessings in disguise” (aka unanswered prayers) because those endings were always going to be inevitable. In the midst of a globally pandemic, civil unrest, and a looney presidential election-I am more at pace than I’ve ever been. 🙂🙂🙂🙂❤️❤️❤️❤️🙂🙂🙂🙂 Thank you!!! As God works to refine me, and as I learn to trust Him more and more, I’m learning what REAL love and faithfulness looks and feels like-while at the same time realizing more than ever how a man applies his faith in his love and his relationship with Jesus will ultimately determine whether or not he will be capable of loving me the way I know God intended me to be loved. Anyhow, I’m binging on this “man knowledge” and find the comments can sometimes push my thinking or reiterate points I didn’t yet write in my notebook.
@@TonyGaskins thank you for everything. I am so greatful for brothers like you. I will be lost in this game but you and others like yourselves are helping us find our way. A lot of insecure and hateful males hate brothers like you but may God bless real men for helping us women. We love you brothers. Our real "black men" that's doing the work of restoration
Time heals all wounds...I said same thing...I took a year and a season and enjoyed me...Im pretty cool...then I attracted my balance, my King...we are now engaged. Ex who?...I don't even remember the pain. This too shall pass. Enjoy you for now.
I feel the same way. I was single for 6 years and abstinent for four. Met a guy who proposed to me and then changed his mind about me. I created more soul ties and know that it will take a miracle for me to move forward in love. Realizing that this man never loved me bc he would have never left me. I will be over the top careful next time.
That’s why is difficult when your stuck in a soul tie relantionship that resulted in a baby. Now you his baby momma, and bonded for life . But whose to know if he will EVER marry you ....
Praying to be fully healed and to Move forward with my life. I’m tired of being rejected and hurt and holding on when I’m not valued or chosen to be the one
But you are already chosen 😊 God has your husband for you and is preparing him just as much as he's preparing you. You've already been chosen just have faith and work on becoming the woman you desire to be and everything will fall into place. Remember, you are the prize/gift not the other way around. God gave Eve to Adam as a gift she was not waiting to be chosen. It took me a long time to realize that and that keeps me strong and moving forward everyday knowing God will make sure my husband finds me and understands I'm the gift and I hope you can move forward knowing the same. Stay Blessed! Im rooting for you👏👏👏😁
My ex tried all this last year, he is egotistical. Kept calling me, I changed my phone number and told my family members to cut ties with him on social media and other areas because me and him are through and I don't want to hear about him nor do I care what he has said about me. The Blessed Tribe!
Some men don’t understand that when they create a soul tie, it hurts someone & to the point you can never trust him with anyone because he created one while still chasing you. The difficult part is he constantly chasing so who knows what other soul ties he’s created. So finally you let him have the soul ties & decided to walk this life alone rather than deal with him at all...
Maaaan this is gold💯 , one thing ive learned when its said listen to a man, ladies get out of your emotions and feelings and really comprehend and listen. A man will tell you how he feel about you and what he want from you, but a lot of times you think hes referring to you and he could be speaking in general about any woman, for example marriage. Yall could be having a conversation about marriage and he says he want to get married one day and because you in a relationship and you in your feelings you think hes referring to you, but all he saying is he wanna get married one day he might not be even talking about you. Im saying this cuz this was me. When my eyes were opened and i took the emotions out, i was like wow he's not talking about me;i felt stupid. Now i know better gotta do better. Sad thing i was 4 years in when i woke all the way up. Looking at these videos has helped me and still helping me, it make you sit back and really listen and look at the situation and things just start coming clear. Probably things that's rt in ur face, these unhealthy soul ties can be prevented. Ladies stay safe 🙏🏿
My ex did apologize to me after 2 and half years after the break up it took that long for me to agree to see him and it gave me a since of release to finally be able to truly let it go and forgive him. No i wasn't crazy, i wasn't "tripping" and he asked me "How did you know?" Meaning how did i know every single time he was lying, cheating etc. He covered up his tracks well but i just told him "I could feel it" it just reinforced the power of my intuition trust your gut ladies. The feeling alone should always be enough it will save you years of wasted time. 5 years later he still acts like he wants me back but so much damage has been done. It's a shame. Because i truly loved him
Cut him loose, cut off the benefits of being a therapist to this fool and let him sort out his relationship on his own like a real man should Tired of these type of men. Taking advantage of empathic nurturing women for their own gain smdh.
oh Tony! so funny when 28:00 u playing the man crying. "My mom didnt value me. My aunt. My grandma. Your the 1st woman to value me." then other woman wiping his tears "Dont cry. I value you. You matter" hahaha My ex was a big cryer. Always about his mom. (who was a nice lady) And there I was...wiping his tears. Never again Tony. Thank you!!! I need a grown man. Not a grown boy
Ladies, look up a woman named April Mason here on RUclips. She teaches us how to be an "Asset" woman. She goes in depth. She also has alot of other videos teaching us women about US! Stay prayed up ladies 😊🙏🏽🌹
Yes. I tried. Jesus told me to stop drinking. It’s been a year since i even bought a bottle of wine. It makes the healing faster. I don’t even crave alcohol anymore
Watching this in 2021. I end up blocking a guy that was trying to pursue me because he still lived with his ex (baby mama) saying it was because of Covid and she lost her residence, didnt want her to be homeless 🙄. Yet calling me to talk and hookup. Some of these men just think women are stupid and desperate, willing to do anything just for a warm body. I’m good ✌🏽
lycia Daniels I’m happy for you! So many of us are not fully equipped to pick a healthy relationship...hopefully, we all will continue to love ourselves and heal. I know that the work is NOT easy but it’s extremely necessary. I wish you well.🌻
Ooo Lord. Save us from the pocker face illusions of the enemy. 😌 Save us from coaching and caring for men who have absolutely no interest in taking us seriously. Heavenly Father, thank you for @TonyGaskins and continue to beat the enemy off of our hearts and our backs. In the name of Jesus, Amen ❤️
Wow! Men are something else. I would never put anyone that I loved through that. I dont want to be with anyone who wants someone else. She can have him.
My ex and I definitely have a soul tie, but I’m slowly but surely ending it so that my potential husband can find ME 💪🏾 Thank you got the informative videos 🙌🏾❤️
Lol y'all please stop feeling entitled to a man/ woman or relationship, let it happen on God's time, not yours! Be so smart in these streets that you can not and will not be finessed, and to everyone that has been hurt or played... It's all good baby, the game is not over yet, karma pays back and earned blessings are still on deck.💋
Be blessed. Yea I got sick of the whole therapy role and then they run back to them and it still doesn’t seem like it works out. Dating seems so draining, it’s so many hurt people out here. Then when you cut them off they say you don’t care. I care but I will not allow you to drain me , not anymore. Selfish !
I am one of these women that have gone back over 30x no lie and each and after time for the course of 2.5 years, it never got better! I just got more confused questioned myself more then ever before and I felt less confident in myself and he’d always tell me that it’s because of me that things aren’t working but really his actions never improved. Even though I tried making improvements within myself, he would only make improvements for the short term never consistent! I’ve watched every one of Tony’s videos through the years of the relationship trying to understand everything Tony’s taught and my mistake was thinking that Tony’s teachings were only one point of view but everything he said would happen did happen, that’s when I knew TONY WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG‼️
I also wanna add that God uses bad things for his glory, he will give us beauty for our ashes but we gotta give him the ashes. Girlfriends get up " forgive, live your enemies, pray for them as well. All things work foe good for those that love God. Love yourself because God sure does and its when we can receive his love and forgiveness then we can love and forgive ourselves and in return we can love and forgive others, so be encouraged. Gods not done wit you and he will never leave you or forsake. What he has is for you .... ...all in his timing. Trust and wait are the hardest things to do sometimes. His will and his timing are perfect. I just wanna share the knowledge he has given me to help others. Much love...
I love how you mentioned that you can have a soul tie without having love... Great point that you made... Many people think that just because the man keeps coming back that he must love them... I am so glad that I took steps to be free of any soul tie... This is definitely a video to watch again... 'Excellent Video'...
This is crazy amazing! Perfect timing. I'm going through, yet again, a separation. While I sit home crushed, he's out with other women. Puts those poor ladies in another light. Now I just feel bad for them, instead of resenting their presence in his world.
Proud to say that Tony is helping me through this phase of abstinence and singleness. It use to be so hard being alone and suffer through bad soul ties but I'm now at peace and prepared to meet my husband whenever I meet him. 🖤
A woman keeps going back to a partner who is abusive because of a "trauma bond" attachment. This happens to a relationship where one is a narcissist. Accdg to psychotherapists, trauma bond is formed when the abusèr "lovebomb" the partner then suddenly devalue, gaslight, and ignore her. Then give her attention again, lovebomb her for a short time and then abuse her again. This is the highest form of emotional abuse and this is evil. This is done intentionally by narcissist to the partner in order to chain her to him while he is busy with another woman. This is a technique used by abusive men (called a narcissist). The sanity of a victim woman is endangered. This narcissist has narcissistic personality disorder.
A lot of women were raised to believe that, 1) it's not true love, unless you're suffering, 2) we are suppose to accept it, if we're in unhappy relationships, and 3) we must put everyone else's needs above our own. That's why we accept so much nonsense, from the men in our lives. We're not desperate, some of us are taught the wrong things.
Taelor Alex&ria so good and the crazy part is I dated a guy that did that same thing!! SCREAMING!!! Lol I’m cracking up now but lord I was so blind to the foolery
It's true. I left him for 5 yrs and he never stopped trying to reach out, and now, he is back putting in effort to show me that he is serious. But, I'm still going to give it more time before I decide if we are meant to be together, because I have no problems with closing the door, permanently. Thank you, Tony for all that you do!
Yep. Just met a man fresh out of a 5 yr relationship he is in no place or state of mind to be a provider that I want. His mindset is of a broken man looking to be pampered and use women as emotional punching bags. Giving the bare minimum but expecting king treatment. Don't be a man's band aid or mop up another woman's mess. Had to let him go because I did way too much work on myself after my last relationship to be dragged down that path again. Thank God I met him after I got counsel and worked on my self because he is my type.
Definitely can say I agree with you on the using women to heal then running back to ex’s.. lol smdh💀 I wish my soulmate would come on it’s ghetto in the streets🙄
THE BLESSED TRIBE .... This right here was an eye opener brought tears to my eyes ,this is the sho nuf truth when I replay my videos I see what was going on not even knowing it and this is exactly how it happened and boy was I lulled to sleep lol smh 🤦🏽.... I have new knowledge now and won't play the fool no more. When you know better you do better.. Thank you Tony so much for all that you do.😊
Yesss i recognized so many things that he spoke of that im experiencing right now with a man who ghosted me and then after 4months he asked me didi miss him....im not trying to go back to that egotistical toxic mess from a man who doesnt know what REAL love is!
Soul Ties can also have a lot to do with the physical intimacy that has happened. Most of the times it is because of the physical intimacy but Tony is right that doesn’t always have to be a factor
I thank God for deliverance, as I am no longer in that state. God be glorified. Watching this video, I feel calm and at peace. In the past, I would have felt triggered and pained by this information. The old me accepted and intertwined with these feelings for years. I thank God for His mercy, as I have released that judgment of myself and the guy. Thank God for using you Tony as a vessel of wisdom. You are saving lives. Be blessed. I am praying for deliverance to all 🙏 May God search hearts and remove any remaining residue.
Love yourself baby ❤ law of attraction. You are a woman,you are a reciever it will come to you when you are ready. Be patient and do whatever you need to do to love up on yourself ❤
A soul-tie is kicking my *ass* right now lmao! I believe me, and the woman that I have the soul-tie with have it mutually, but she’s better at hiding her emotions than I am. When I fall in love I don’t mind going outside of my comfort zone, and being vulnerable which is something that I’m usually not. It just so happens the young lady that I’m tied with has been through so much trauma in her life that she purposely represses her feelings when she starts to “feel” too much. This has led to a semi-toxic/complicated ass relationship especially since we work together 🤦🏾♂️. For any woman that reads this just understand that fellas go through it too
1 Corinthians 13:11, WHEN I WAS A CHILD I SPAKE AS A CHILD, I UNDERSTOOD AS A CHILD, I THOUGHT AS A CHILD "BUT" WHEN I BECAME A MAN, I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS. "POINT BLANK PERIOOOD!
You on a rona roll Tony! Keep the videos coming. This is a great time to spread the gospel. People are looking for things to watch. We love your content. ☺️
This came to me right at the exact moment I needed to hear it!! I had to leave the situation! He is in the midst of figuring out what he wants in life.... while I care for him, he isn't ready for me at this time in his life!! This video confirmed to me I did the right thing! God bless you!
This is an amazing video, your insight is astounding. Your analogy is pretty much what happened in my marriage break up, I felt stuck and unable to move on when he left. But once I found out a few months later he had already had someone else, it was a turning point for me. I knew that was the end for me. I'm sure he thought I would just be there forever as he knew how much I loved him, he underestimated me, I never looked back and kept on moving on with my life. A year and a half now and he still can't settle with anyone and is very unhappy. It's been an incredibly difficult journey, at times I still feel sad and at times I still question did I do the right thing? You are so right in your explanation, it is a weird addiction to the toxicity, it's not love. You have given me so many answers that sometimes leave me feeling stuck. Thank you for giving me the clarification, I needed to hear this tonight. Your an amazing light worker, god bless you Tony🙏
I’m 49 years old ... this can happen... in matters of the heart.. I was stuck 31 years long .Sure wish I knew Tony at least 15 years ago.. but the man cannot get one minute more of my life...
I feel so blessed to be able to see your videos and live chats God is so great, His healing and deliverance is setting the captives free...Be Blessed 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
This video was absolutely SENSATIONAL and incredibly helpful right now, it really touched my soul! It’s given me the ultimate strength to reject my handsome, tall, muscular, highly charismatic (but sadly narcissistic) ex who’s been calling me almost everyday and wants me back, for me to say NO to him and decline. I refuse to ever go back to him as I deserve better. I deserve a good man with a good heart who actually knows how to love. A man who can love me the way that Jesus loves the Church, that’s what I deserve! A man that can actually provide for me. I deserve all of that! Thank you so much for deep God spoken words Tony, as I said, you really touched my soul! The Blessed Tribe ❤️
Tony dropping the game that men play! Thank you Tony! I don’t want him so I accept the fact that his ego is crushed. He’s now bullying me along with the new chic which is not making me want him bck. It’s actually showing me who he really is. Ty Tony🥰
Same situation happened to me! I never watched his stories or anything anymore and I didn’t want to delete him just because I didn’t want him to know that I cared or anything and he ended up deleting me. Probably because he knew he wasn’t getting to me
Omg you just told my story, I was the bandaid. I hate that he made me fall for him, telling me he loved me, & other things. I was so used. He cut me off cuz I told his other woman everything, & he is mad that he was called out on his bs.
I hope everyone is learning from the Covid-19. Life can be short. We all can be wiped out overnight.... Learn to appreciate life more, love each other more, respect each other more, and most of all stop stomping on people's hearts..... Both Men and Women.... Get your life right so you can treat each other better ❤️
This is by far the best video that “spoke” directly to me. I was very impressed. It makes so much sense why I have never had a successful nor even a moderately successful relationship with a guy/man. I’m so grateful for this video. God bless you and your family and your desire to help us understand the opposite sex a little clearer. 💙
Tony you are such a blessing!! I am broken and your videos helps me alot, I am needing God to break this soultie, my heart hurts so bad, I wish I would have never laid eyes on this man I am dating, He doesn't want a relationship yet he wants all the benefits of one, something is really wrong with me... I pray one day soon 🙏 I can be healed!!!
You had me laughing hard at the part when you were fake crying😂🤣😭. Some of these men will pull out all kinds of trickeries. The only person who can stop others from using me is ME. Respect & reciprocity is a must. Sorry (not sorry), there's no negotiating that. My self-worth will not be tampered with. @Tony Gaskins, giving us the goods to stay equipped. Thank you.❣
I lived this exact scenario! Tony, I appreciate the time you take to offer this truth even when it hurts like hell to hear… simply because I wish I’d heard it years ago to avoid the heartbreak but thank God I’m aware now and healing.
“The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.” -Bob Marley
Totally agree with you!
Amen!!!
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Ladies - men are using us for their therapy. The problem is we are healers and empaths but we need to have boundaries. We need to toughen up. 💪
Bibi Lafleur THIS! Yes! Feminine presence/energy ALONE is therapeutic. And with that it is very valuable and sought after. Our feminine therapy is one of the many things we “bring to the table”. Indeed, we need to toughen up with those who mishandle/misuse our precious valuable gifts/benefits.
I Agree
Agreed!!
WoW!!! Yes😔
So TRUE.
“ he doesn’t have control over his life, but he has control over your life!! 🤯🤯
That was a whole word!
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Ain’t that something. I tell you...but it’s the total truth. I’m not having it though
D P right they will just play you if you let them!!
Soul Ties I wouldn't wish on a single soul.
Dont let the man in your body
This might go against the thought, but soul ties is for more than a few people. It's our relationships to friends, families, yes of course men you date and the women we love. Feel free to disagree
Yes Lord
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It’s like death.
Key statement “.If a man is supposed to be your husband, he would never leave you”. Ladies we are way too good for this foolishness! Stay Woke!!😎
Facts! 💯💯💯💯
Not true. So I guess if he’s just getting treated like shit & he knows the relationship isn’t gonna work, he stays. Nope.
Love each other and not one over the other.
@@amerokeewiya1320 right! He better leave ! Love or not man or not he deserves to be treated with respect and value not be a prisoner in the name of love.
@@daniellesullivan5 Nothing but Facts God Bless Tribe
Don't ever go back to what broke you. KEEP it MOVING. Learn and grow. Take loving yourself to another level.
Needed this
@a Supernova ijjb
U don't know how HARD that statement is.. 😥😥😥😥
I wouldn’t always say that.. My mother went back to a man who broke her in many ways, but she left him rebuild herself and as she did he realized what he didn’t appreciate and chase her for 3 years. When she finally entertained him and made him prove why he was worth a second chance he jumped thru hoops to show her he was a changed man. Since then they have moved in and he has done a complete 360 and became everything he should of been the first time around. It’s possible but it’s a dime a dozen. I’ll just encourage anyone to work on themselves and if it’s meant to be, it’ll work it’s self out. No one is perfect and we all be unappreciative of something and realized what it meant once it was gone. Does that mean we are undeserving of a second chance, no. It just mean we needed reality to kick us in the ass to make us see what we really have before us. That’s what life lesson are for. We can get to comfortable with what we have. Especially when it’s again or 24/7. We won’t always get it right the first time. It’s possible.
@@chantanelsmith5656 love this comment are they still together and how long has it been this time around
🤦🏾♀️ A lot of y'all will NEVER heal because y'all are so busy watching and worrying about him. Stop worrying about how the soul tie affects him. All you should take from a EX is that He didn't want you. He disrespected you, cheated on you, didn't value the relationship enough to try to work it out with you. And if a man does all that to you, that should tell you how much he likes you. He doesn't. Y'all put too much energy into an EX. Love YOURSELF the way you trying to love that man. He doesn't even want your love and he's showed you over & over again. Reevaluate your life sis. No more settling. You can't build a broken man. You can't heal him. That's not your job God is the healer. Be blessed bless tribe. 💫
You’re absolutely right 🙏🏾🙏🏾✨
This is so real 💯
@@TheeBratzDollxox 💯❤
@@anointedstilettos ❤💯
@@Yna-u3g 💯❤
When a man leaves you never take him back,he does not loves you,its the truth that many of us find so hard to swallow.
The truth!!!!!!!
True ... Never take them back. when they go ,Bec when you take them back they are worst than before
Amen.
@@heyyashleyyy2669 thats true, even f*ckboys dont leave the woman they ''love''
Do you consider, if he Ghosted me? Then came back and said that he was honestly trying to give me space?
Soul tie is deeper than emotional...it's spiritual
Yes
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Spiritual IS emotional.
A key factor you mentioned is “She hasn’t been preparing herself mind, body & soul” but let me tell you when you prepare ladies & heal from prior relationships, put God first and take care of yourself without fornicating then you will be prepared in your mind, body & soul
Thanks for the advice in this comment 🙏
@@kayb3327 your welcome!
Consider your ways - God !
@@cynthiaduran436 It’s a good way to go for sure!
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Men handle soulties by going out creating more and more soulties for himself, within the shortest time span he can possibly create them in. 🤷🏾♀️
Isn't that sad, the joke is on him
Girl!
Exactly! Instead of men "building" they jump from relationship to relationship.
@@browneyenrs76noel34 exactly. I mean ..you said it all in a nut shell.
@@enatihaok3594 How is that?
Healed alone!! Praise God. It was so hard.
Marilyn King yet so worth it 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Best way
Same here! I healed alone after a 5 year toxic relationship! It was very hard to do, but so much was revealed to me during relationship that I totally ignored, but after the relationship...wow!
I’m so glad I’m healing alone after 10 years of marriage with a grown boy! I don’t want to make that mistake again🙏🏾 32 yrs young & God will send Mr. Right one day. Patience pays
"He just miss how you make him feel " derrick jaxn
He miss comfort and a soft body
@@meuniversity8681 facts they cuddle 🥰 bunnies 🐰
True
As women we need to stop giving in to the desires of the flesh. Practice self control, self respect and honour ourselves and what our mothers and grandmothers have taught us through out our lives! 💯💜
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So do men
@@theholyspiritslove4619 While that is true, the main task to keep purity has the woman, because she is the only who can grant "access" to her body. A man has to put much more effort to seduce a woman, while women don't have to, they just have to exist..
Men know what they are doing and know when they playing a women they just don’t care
If your EX found love and moved on, consider it a BLESSING and remove yourself. Soulties are emotions on steroids. It's a big fight but you can win. Go in the opposite direction of what USED to be. HE'S GONE and it's OK!.💛
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Emotions on steroids.. man that makes so much sense it seems almost impossible to fight. I can date other people, I can live my best life knowing I have him in my pocket. When he’s absent it feels like my whole world has stopped. I can’t wait till this is over
Thank God, I ended a eight year relationship..to be truthful we grew apart. It became more bad times than good & I believe it was soul ties on both ends that kept us together that long? I wanted to advance my life as he didn't. I had to let go, its hard bt very much needed for us both. And I'm grateful for that🙏
That's a great perspective to have ❤️ thank you.
thanks Paula, I'm going the other way.....saw thousands of dolphins while @ the Channel Islands for a hike on my 1-year anniversary of my ex leaving after 37 years .....for some reason, I got teary-eyed to see these little creatures in such a hurry and they were so happy going so fast......................................swimming under our boat....darting in and out.....on the move.....just like me!
One of the things that stuck out for me is the fact that when a man comes and goes he misses his placeholder! Wow! That was my ex for over 3 years until I started listening to your teachings. I thank God for learning about situationships and finally cutting it off! Now God has blessed me with a real relationship and I now notice the difference.
I can't wait until I get there, a real relationship not a situationship. I'm now working on my healing, its really hard. 😰
The thing that hurts is im too old for situationships. I'm so happy you met someone better. Praying the same for me ❤🙏🏿
Trying to find the strength to leave a 6 yr toxic relationship with a certified Narc who was the guy I made my first bf where I was in it to be married in the long run
Interesting. 😡
This hit me like a ton of bricks I was definitely that person with my child’s father and ultimately got pregnant he left me half during my pregnancy as well and came back. Then once my child was born he left within 7 days and once my son was born I had enough I couldn’t take it any longer. But just to look at this video and knowledge given I was 25 when I met him he was 31 the self-love that I have now did not exist back then. All of this was a game but I’m just glad I was strong enough to let it go🙌🏽🥲and to this day in his eyes I’m bitter and he legit hates me. I believe the hates stem from him thinking he will always have a place in my life or I’ll be revolving door for him. But all I ever did was love him deeply.
"He comes back for the fix! He misses his placeholder. His #1 fan. His human teddy bear." " You are his punching bag. His test dummy." And then the next week discard you. nd round and round it goes when it stops is when YOU stop it.
this hit me!! i didn't understand until now.. he's had told me on many occasions that's he needs to get his " me fix" ... now i know what i need to do
Big facts
Just stopped it...😔
@@musicmaker1311 same, after 3 yrs of future faking. Was dealing with him for 6
Wow, so well said.
I was with my children’s father from the age of 19-33 years old ( Only him), until he was killed 10 years ago! My relationship was abusive in all areas. As I begin to date I was naive! I was token advantage of mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially! When I transitioned and begin to know my worth, I HEALED alone. Praise God💃🏽
How are u now?
Blessings to you
I can relate. I was with my kids father/husband from 17 to 33. The relationship was very abusive! He was several years older than myself and passed away when I was 33. I’m now 37. A year ago, I begin dating again and discovered I’m naive. I’ve stepped away from the dating scene to work on myself.
@@nikkinicole1495 I’m glad u and the rest of us realize it and are learning from it.
This video made me cry, angry, and laugh. Thank you for doing the Lords work!!! I’ll never be a place holder again 15 years gone!!!!
I'm healing alone, and it's so hard. I can't just jump into something else still married, and after 7 years with who I thought was my soul mate. Yet, he's out here jumping into bed with whoever he can. This is how I know I will come out on top. Healing and getting myself back is hard but so good for me. It's devastating knowing he was not the man I thought he was. I used to hang on every word he said. We were best friends at one time, and now I don't even know who he is anymore. Lot's of praying, and therapy. I WILL get through this.
You will love! I went through it for 19 years. God touched me and brought me through! I initiated divorce and now he's wanting to come back. Hold on my sweet sister! 😊😘
YOU ARE NEVER ALONE IN THE HEALING! GOD IS ALWAYS IN ALL WAYS WITH YOU !
Sis, I hear everything you are saying but one of the things that keep us bonded is we tell ourselves we were good friends at on time. We dwell on what could have been. Hope deferred makes the heart sick...Truth be told you may have been a good friend to him but he was never our best friend. True best friends would never do this to us. We will begin healing much faster when we realize what we thought we had and all those dreams were smoking mirrors. It just wasn't real. It will hurt but it is will start us on the road to healing.
28 years married to my soulmate and I felt this comment.
@@clarissaharris2170 well I found out that the girl who "claimed" that she had been with him was actually a drama starting child. She wanted my husband and he was faithful. She finally admitted that she made it up. She is trash so at the time I didn't know if I believed it or not. But with no proof on her end when I asked for it, she had none and was trying so hard to cause a wedge between us. I assumed that he was cheating when he really wasn't. I know this sounds like I'm turning a blind eye but one thing I WILL NOT STAND for is cheating. He really was telling the truth. She's a drugged out drunk. Long story short, we are happily still married raising our son together. I've never had any other woman tell me he cheated. I thought if one did then there must be more but nope. She is trifling. We are doing good and it kills her lol 😆
She looks like a gorilla. I really didn't think he'd go for her if he was going to cheat. He could do way better.
From another man to another, Tony I appreciate you changing the game by helping lay out a road map for our Queens! I myself have broken hearts, knowingly and unknowingly, nevertheless pain doesn't differentiate. Most cases because of my own insecurities I blead on women and they bandage me up! However, We hurt to, and in some cases we (men) are just as lost as you women are! In my case trauma, abandonment, and feeling less than a man has caused a major part in me hurting women! I really want you women to trust Tony, listen to me it will save you so much heartache! I was one of those guys he's speaking of, and from an psychological, emotional, and physical standpoint he's dialed in and are giving you truths! Again, thanks Tony!
Thanks a lot brother!!
Nice to hear that another man agrees with and supports sharing this unique male perspective knowledge. I’ve been praying for perspective; within a week, several pieces of the perspective puzzle have been provided. Though I wish I had heard this stuff years ago, I realize that God’s timing is always perfect and that I surely would have missed the lessons I need to hear in these videos. What I am coming to realize is that the things I love about myself the most, that I refuse to let any bad experience or person take from me, are often exploited by the men I choose. I continue to be grateful for all the “blessings in disguise” (aka unanswered prayers) because those endings were always going to be inevitable.
In the midst of a globally pandemic, civil unrest, and a looney presidential election-I am more at pace than I’ve ever been.
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Thank you!!!
As God works to refine me, and as I learn to trust Him more and more, I’m learning what REAL love and faithfulness looks and feels like-while at the same time realizing more than ever how a man applies his faith in his love and his relationship with Jesus will ultimately determine whether or not he will be capable of loving me the way I know God intended me to be loved.
Anyhow, I’m binging on this “man knowledge” and find the comments can sometimes push my thinking or reiterate points I didn’t yet write in my notebook.
Thank you Marvin. You are very kind and I hope all is well in your life.
@@TonyGaskins thank you for everything. I am so greatful for brothers like you. I will be lost in this game but you and others like yourselves are helping us find our way. A lot of insecure and hateful males hate brothers like you but may God bless real men for helping us women. We love you brothers. Our real "black men" that's doing the work of restoration
Thank you. Hearing from a man prospective.
This encourages me to remain single , too many games. I’ll just stay alone after my divorce. I don’t take any man serious anymore
Same here
Same here
Time heals all wounds...I said same thing...I took a year and a season and enjoyed me...Im pretty cool...then I attracted my balance, my King...we are now engaged. Ex who?...I don't even remember the pain. This too shall pass. Enjoy you for now.
I feel the same way. I was single for 6 years and abstinent for four. Met a guy who proposed to me and then changed his mind about me. I created more soul ties and know that it will take a miracle for me to move forward in love. Realizing that this man never loved me bc he would have never left me. I will be over the top careful next time.
It really is exhausting.
Interesting-" A man will never let go of what he loves." Will refuse to leave... You will have to be the one to leave.
Especially when you're the "package"... Why would he want to let go of that... She/ I gotta go🖐
@@chimoney8161 ahahha
Sometimes that can be bad if he’s also not trying to marry you either. Won’t let you go but won’t progress...
@@klickingkayasmr7585 yes ma'am now that's a Tony Question
That’s why is difficult when your stuck in a soul tie relantionship that resulted in a baby. Now you his baby momma, and bonded for life . But whose to know if he will EVER marry you ....
CONFIDENCE- whether you truly have it or not is the way to get back at an ex...Living well is the best revenge! So true💫
I hope that is true
@@elainegomillion978 it is true
Soul ties are as strong as any drug. This message along with the Bible is pure rehabilitation.
amen!!
Praying to be fully healed and to Move forward with my life. I’m tired of being rejected and hurt and holding on when I’m not valued or chosen to be the one
Fasting and prayer together will deliver you completely. God healed me after I did just that. May God continue to bless you🙏🏾
But you are already chosen 😊 God has your husband for you and is preparing him just as much as he's preparing you. You've already been chosen just have faith and work on becoming the woman you desire to be and everything will fall into place. Remember, you are the prize/gift not the other way around. God gave Eve to Adam as a gift she was not waiting to be chosen. It took me a long time to realize that and that keeps me strong and moving forward everyday knowing God will make sure my husband finds me and understands I'm the gift and I hope you can move forward knowing the same. Stay Blessed! Im rooting for you👏👏👏😁
It is soooo much easier to heal alone.
@@tiffanydiggs7625 Hey Honey 👋🏽.
Best thing i ever did. Two years alone and I’ve never been this peaceful in my life......but Lorddddtttt It’s time for a husband na honey lol
@@AllThingsTiffanyTV I'll agree with you on that he's coming 🙏🏽❤.
It makes you "tough"
@@enatihaok3594 Most definitely
My ex tried all this last year, he is egotistical. Kept calling me, I changed my phone number and told my family members to cut ties with him on social media and other areas because me and him are through and I don't want to hear about him nor do I care what he has said about me. The Blessed Tribe!
Same
Good for you
“TONY GASKINED HIM” 🤣🤣🤣 Tony be giving us free session on these videos. Can’t nobody ever say he do things for the money. He give gems for free !
Some men don’t understand that when they create a soul tie, it hurts someone & to the point you can never trust him with anyone because he created one while still chasing you. The difficult part is he constantly chasing so who knows what other soul ties he’s created. So finally you let him have the soul ties & decided to walk this life alone rather than deal with him at all...
Maaaan this is gold💯 , one thing ive learned when its said listen to a man, ladies get out of your emotions and feelings and really comprehend and listen. A man will tell you how he feel about you and what he want from you, but a lot of times you think hes referring to you and he could be speaking in general about any woman, for example marriage. Yall could be having a conversation about marriage and he says he want to get married one day and because you in a relationship and you in your feelings you think hes referring to you, but all he saying is he wanna get married one day he might not be even talking about you. Im saying this cuz this was me. When my eyes were opened and i took the emotions out, i was like wow he's not talking about me;i felt stupid. Now i know better gotta do better. Sad thing i was 4 years in when i woke all the way up. Looking at these videos has helped me and still helping me, it make you sit back and really listen and look at the situation and things just start coming clear. Probably things that's rt in ur face, these unhealthy soul ties can be prevented. Ladies stay safe 🙏🏿
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i amissangel mua 😂💀
I'll take the 5, and raise you 20🙏...
He picks a woman who needs to be needed what you just said is priceless
Definitely
@@shawancollins6457 but yall knew this right
Damsel in distress
My ex.came back after a few years and I told him boy now you're coming around because you're all washed up...smh no sir...✌
Right! tell em boy bye😂
Es L. FACTS
🤣😂 so true....that way sir take your inadequacy, impotence and your self hate with you. Bye!!
@@gorgeous1043 yes.
Yup, GOT TO GO!!
My ex did apologize to me after 2 and half years after the break up it took that long for me to agree to see him and it gave me a since of release to finally be able to truly let it go and forgive him. No i wasn't crazy, i wasn't "tripping" and he asked me "How did you know?" Meaning how did i know every single time he was lying, cheating etc. He covered up his tracks well but i just told him "I could feel it" it just reinforced the power of my intuition trust your gut ladies. The feeling alone should always be enough it will save you years of wasted time. 5 years later he still acts like he wants me back but so much damage has been done. It's a shame. Because i truly loved him
Suffering only last so long but a sense of healing last a lifetime
Yolanda Smith thank you for saying that; I needed to hear your words 😊
That’s power. When you love someone sooo much but you stay away cuz you’ve learned better. I want that power back but struggling right now.
@@vangoghsotherear4114 you'll get there. Just stay away.
Yes 100% maybe we can’t play poker but God gave us intuition
Cut him loose, cut off the benefits of being a therapist to this fool and let him sort out his relationship on his own like a real man should Tired of these type of men. Taking advantage of empathic nurturing women for their own gain smdh.
You said mouthful
I did that. Told him he has someone to have these conversations with and to do more so stop texting me!
oh Tony! so funny when 28:00 u playing the man crying. "My mom didnt value me. My aunt. My grandma. Your the 1st woman to value me." then other woman wiping his tears "Dont cry. I value you. You matter" hahaha My ex was a big cryer. Always about his mom. (who was a nice lady) And there I was...wiping his tears. Never again Tony. Thank you!!! I need a grown man. Not a grown boy
This is soooo true. I have been that "savior" woman before. But when God opened my eyes, i was 100 miles and running. This is good info.
Loved this moment. Tony is awesome.
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Ladies, look up a woman named April Mason here on RUclips. She teaches us how to be an "Asset" woman. She goes in depth. She also has alot of other videos teaching us women about US! Stay prayed up ladies 😊🙏🏽🌹
I swear Tony need to do stand up on the low. Love Lessons and Stand Up Comedy...I would go!!
Some of them ATTEMPT to drink that pain away! Lord give the them peace and wisdom to know that ONLY YOU ALONE can HEAL those wounds 😇
Facts
@@northernroots6807 ❤
Yes indeed!
Yes. I tried. Jesus told me to stop drinking. It’s been a year since i even bought a bottle of wine. It makes the healing faster. I don’t even crave alcohol anymore
@@ericabostwick4033 Sadly 😥
I know a lot of SITUATIONSHIPS ended after this video was viewed ... 😳
Facts
thank God 🙏
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Ikr!!!
Lol!!!
Watching this in 2021. I end up blocking a guy that was trying to pursue me because he still lived with his ex (baby mama) saying it was because of Covid and she lost her residence, didnt want her to be homeless 🙄. Yet calling me to talk and hookup. Some of these men just think women are stupid and desperate, willing to do anything just for a warm body. I’m good ✌🏽
Gurrl Where Ur Church At ?😭😭😭
As much as I don't want to believe that I was just an overused "bandaid"....its the Truth and it hurts so bad.
♥️💜
Same here sis🕊
Can't believe I put up with this man unhealthy Soul tie but I'm going through healing process so much better
lycia Daniels I’m happy for you! So many of us are not fully equipped to pick a healthy relationship...hopefully, we all will continue to love ourselves and heal. I know that the work is NOT easy but it’s extremely necessary. I wish you well.🌻
"His ego is hurting, if left by you. Sense of rejection. "
But yet he still texted me acting as if he was a victim. I don't have time for Bullshit!
Ooo Lord. Save us from the pocker face illusions of the enemy. 😌 Save us from coaching and caring for men who have absolutely no interest in taking us seriously. Heavenly Father, thank you for @TonyGaskins and continue to beat the enemy off of our hearts and our backs. In the name of Jesus, Amen ❤️
AMEN! AMEN! and AMEN!
Amen!
Amen 🙏🏿
Takisha D. Fields Yes and Amen 🙏🏽
AMEN
Wow! Men are something else. I would never put anyone that I loved through that. I dont want to be with anyone who wants someone else. She can have him.
YEP!!!
My ex and I definitely have a soul tie, but I’m slowly but surely ending it so that my potential husband can find ME 💪🏾 Thank you got the informative videos 🙌🏾❤️
I learned alot! So basically I won't be talking to any more men giving away free counseling sessions! 🤣
Just keep your senses & legs intact & crossed.
Lol y'all please stop feeling entitled to a man/ woman or relationship, let it happen on God's time, not yours! Be so smart in these streets that you can not and will not be finessed, and to everyone that has been hurt or played... It's all good baby, the game is not over yet, karma pays back and earned blessings are still on deck.💋
💯💯💯 and I'll Drink 2 That 🍷🍷🍷
@@TimesSignsofThe I separated myself and it hurts but it's better than suffering by the hands of someone else.
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Thank you
I received that word
Be blessed. Yea I got sick of the whole therapy role and then they run back to them and it still doesn’t seem like it works out. Dating seems so draining, it’s so many hurt people out here. Then when you cut them off they say you don’t care. I care but I will not allow you to drain me , not anymore. Selfish !
Im struggling with fixing that problem myself.
Yes so draining 😷
He is literally describing these men as Malignant Narcissists
I thought I was the only hearing him describe Narcissistic abuse 🤔
Lmaoooooo wowwwww
that's how they're socialized
Noooo seriously and its even more mind-boggling that ppl aren't realizing this
Yup
I am one of these women that have gone back over 30x no lie and each and after time for the course of 2.5 years, it never got better! I just got more confused questioned myself more then ever before and I felt less confident in myself and he’d always tell me that it’s because of me that things aren’t working but really his actions never improved. Even though I tried making improvements within myself, he would only make improvements for the short term never consistent! I’ve watched every one of Tony’s videos through the years of the relationship trying to understand everything Tony’s taught and my mistake was thinking that Tony’s teachings were only one point of view but everything he said would happen did happen, that’s when I knew TONY WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG‼️
Remain blessed ❤
I also wanna add that God uses bad things for his glory, he will give us beauty for our ashes but we gotta give him the ashes. Girlfriends get up " forgive, live your enemies, pray for them as well. All things work foe good for those that love God. Love yourself because God sure does and its when we can receive his love and forgiveness then we can love and forgive ourselves and in return we can love and forgive others, so be encouraged. Gods not done wit you and he will never leave you or forsake. What he has is for you .... ...all in his timing. Trust and wait are the hardest things to do sometimes. His will and his timing are perfect. I just wanna share the knowledge he has given me to help others. Much love...
True word! The Blessed Tribe.
I Love your reply, I choose to forgive as well and keep working on me knowing that there is a lesson in everything.
I have always believed men hurt just as much as we do, they may cope with it differently and sometimes there's can sometimes be destructive.
If a man leaves you or let go of something he doesn't love you
I love how you mentioned that you can have a soul tie without having love... Great point that you made... Many people think that just because the man keeps coming back that he must love them... I am so glad that I took steps to be free of any soul tie... This is definitely a video to watch again... 'Excellent Video'...
This is crazy amazing! Perfect timing. I'm going through, yet again, a separation. While I sit home crushed, he's out with other women. Puts those poor ladies in another light. Now I just feel bad for them, instead of resenting their presence in his world.
Going back is almost always a bad idea
Mae Rose you ain’t lying!!!!
Good point
You are so right
Absolutely the truth
Always a bad idea......love, hurt, unlove.....repeat.
Proud to say that Tony is helping me through this phase of abstinence and singleness. It use to be so hard being alone and suffer through bad soul ties but I'm now at peace and prepared to meet my husband whenever I meet him. 🖤
I’m right there with you on everything you said sis 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Soul-Tie can tell a person a lot AFTER a relationship is over ugh
Facts
Indeed
Big facts
Facts💯
Whew! You've said a whole lot! 👌
Souls Ties are like a circle of chaos, it's so destructive toxic and definately a killer stay away.
A woman keeps going back to a partner who is abusive because of a "trauma bond" attachment. This happens to a relationship where one is a narcissist. Accdg to psychotherapists, trauma bond is formed when the abusèr "lovebomb" the partner then suddenly devalue, gaslight, and ignore her. Then give her attention again, lovebomb her for a short time and then abuse her again. This is the highest form of emotional abuse and this is evil. This is done intentionally by narcissist to the partner in order to chain her to him while he is busy with another woman. This is a technique used by abusive men (called a narcissist). The sanity of a victim woman is endangered. This narcissist has narcissistic personality disorder.
Upgrade or downgrade looks mean absolutely nothing when the motives and heart are not right.
I'm getting my life with these videos while I'm not working. Learning and growing. Thank you Tony. May God continue to use you.
Tony given that game today he not playing everything he said is 100% on point!!!!! 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️💯
A whole lot of women needed these messages from their fathers when they were young.
A lot of women were raised to believe that, 1) it's not true love, unless you're suffering, 2) we are suppose to accept it, if we're in unhappy relationships, and 3) we must put everyone else's needs above our own. That's why we accept so much nonsense, from the men in our lives. We're not desperate, some of us are taught the wrong things.
HOLLERING at the re-enactment of the soul tie therapy. Omggggggg. THIS WAS SO GOOD!!! the blessed tribe
Taelor Alex&ria so good and the crazy part is I dated a guy that did that same thing!! SCREAMING!!! Lol I’m cracking up now but lord I was so blind to the foolery
WHEN TONY SO GOOD ....U END UP CREATING HIS OWN PLAYLIST 🤷🏾♀️🤜🤛👍
KiKi Nyte Right, this is my playlist all day everyday!
TG is a whole Mood.... Anytime of the day...
It's true. I left him for 5 yrs and he never stopped trying to reach out, and now, he is back putting in effort to show me that he is serious. But, I'm still going to give it more time before I decide if we are meant to be together, because I have no problems with closing the door, permanently. Thank you, Tony for all that you do!
Close the door. New chapter...mingle in new circles and just live your life to the fullest
How did it go
Yep. Just met a man fresh out of a 5 yr relationship he is in no place or state of mind to be a provider that I want. His mindset is of a broken man looking to be pampered and use women as emotional punching bags. Giving the bare minimum but expecting king treatment. Don't be a man's band aid or mop up another woman's mess. Had to let him go because I did way too much work on myself after my last relationship to be dragged down that path again. Thank God I met him after I got counsel and worked on my self because he is my type.
Oh no, I'm glad you caught yourself before that started!
Definitely can say I agree with you on the using women to heal then running back to ex’s.. lol smdh💀 I wish my soulmate would come on it’s ghetto in the streets🙄
You’re a literal comedian, I can barley maintain my composure at work. Your scenarios are always the best! Great video, be blessed!!
THE BLESSED TRIBE .... This right here was an eye opener brought tears to my eyes ,this is the sho nuf truth when I replay my videos I see what was going on not even knowing it and this is exactly how it happened and boy was I lulled to sleep lol smh 🤦🏽.... I have new knowledge now and won't play the fool no more. When you know better you do better.. Thank you Tony so much for all that you do.😊
Yesss i recognized so many things that he spoke of that im experiencing right now with a man who ghosted me and then after 4months he asked me didi miss him....im not trying to go back to that egotistical toxic mess from a man who doesnt know what REAL love is!
@@shedagirl1726 put your track shoes on and run 🏃🏾♀🏃🏾♀
Soul Ties can also have a lot to do with the physical intimacy that has happened. Most of the times it is because of the physical intimacy but Tony is right that doesn’t always have to be a factor
I thank God for deliverance, as I am no longer in that state. God be glorified. Watching this video, I feel calm and at peace. In the past, I would have felt triggered and pained by this information. The old me accepted and intertwined with these feelings for years. I thank God for His mercy, as I have released that judgment of myself and the guy. Thank God for using you Tony as a vessel of wisdom. You are saving lives. Be blessed. I am praying for deliverance to all 🙏 May God search hearts and remove any remaining residue.
Once I know or have the feeling he is seeing someone else, am like 'bye ✌🏿"
Hello Karen listen to your woman intuition it wouldn't lead you wrong blessings
This pandemic showed me his true colors after all these years
Same here
me too sis
For a lot of folks lol
Me too 😔
Same sis
This video is deep, and makes perfect sense. Thank you.
Never met a man that ever loved me
Same 🥺
Thats okay. Look at you. Still living.
I understand what you mean!
They're missing out. Their loss. The best is yet to come! You're so precious only a particular kind can appreciate YOU
Love yourself baby ❤ law of attraction. You are a woman,you are a reciever it will come to you when you are ready. Be patient and do whatever you need to do to love up on yourself ❤
A soul-tie is kicking my *ass* right now lmao! I believe me, and the woman that I have the soul-tie with have it mutually, but she’s better at hiding her emotions than I am. When I fall in love I don’t mind going outside of my comfort zone, and being vulnerable which is something that I’m usually not. It just so happens the young lady that I’m tied with has been through so much trauma in her life that she purposely represses her feelings when she starts to “feel” too much. This has led to a semi-toxic/complicated ass relationship especially since we work together 🤦🏾♂️. For any woman that reads this just understand that fellas go through it too
Appreciate your transparency.
It's hard when u work together it's hard as hell🤦
So may I ask you, have you told a women you were in love with her but still cheated?
1 Corinthians 13:11, WHEN I WAS A CHILD I SPAKE AS A CHILD, I UNDERSTOOD AS A CHILD, I THOUGHT AS A CHILD "BUT" WHEN I BECAME A MAN, I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS. "POINT BLANK PERIOOOD!
You on a rona roll Tony! Keep the videos coming. This is a great time to spread the gospel. People are looking for things to watch. We love your content. ☺️
This came to me right at the exact moment I needed to hear it!! I had to leave the situation! He is in the midst of figuring out what he wants in life.... while I care for him, he isn't ready for me at this time in his life!! This video confirmed to me I did the right thing! God bless you!
This is an amazing video, your insight is astounding. Your analogy is pretty much what happened in my marriage break up, I felt stuck and unable to move on when he left. But once I found out a few months later he had already had someone else, it was a turning point for me. I knew that was the end for me. I'm sure he thought I would just be there forever as he knew how much I loved him, he underestimated me, I never looked back and kept on moving on with my life. A year and a half now and he still can't settle with anyone and is very unhappy. It's been an incredibly difficult journey, at times I still feel sad and at times I still question did I do the right thing? You are so right in your explanation, it is a weird addiction to the toxicity, it's not love. You have given me so many answers that sometimes leave me feeling stuck. Thank you for giving me the clarification, I needed to hear this tonight. Your an amazing light worker, god bless you Tony🙏
I’m 49 years old ... this can happen... in matters of the heart.. I was stuck 31 years long .Sure wish I knew Tony at least 15 years ago.. but the man cannot get one minute more of my life...
When a man loves a woman she can do no wrong.....
TG....you are a gift 🎁
I feel so blessed to be able to see your videos and live chats God is so great, His healing and deliverance is setting the captives free...Be Blessed 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Damn I was a "bandaid" multiple times 😭😭 never again...
No worries 😉 when we learn better we do better ! Be encouraged ❤️❤️❤️
Don't feel bad, we were all a band aid at one point or another, u live and you learn.
This video was absolutely SENSATIONAL and incredibly helpful right now, it really touched my soul! It’s given me the ultimate strength to reject my handsome, tall, muscular, highly charismatic (but sadly narcissistic) ex who’s been calling me almost everyday and wants me back, for me to say NO to him and decline. I refuse to ever go back to him as I deserve better. I deserve a good man with a good heart who actually knows how to love. A man who can love me the way that Jesus loves the Church, that’s what I deserve! A man that can actually provide for me. I deserve all of that! Thank you so much for deep God spoken words Tony, as I said, you really touched my soul!
The Blessed Tribe ❤️
I watched it while walking in the rain...I like rain, it's relaxing.
The Blessed Tribe!
Thx Tony, good vid :)
Tony dropping the game that men play! Thank you Tony! I don’t want him so I accept the fact that his ego is crushed. He’s now bullying me along with the new chic which is not making me want him bck. It’s actually showing me who he really is. Ty Tony🥰
Same situation happened to me! I never watched his stories or anything anymore and I didn’t want to delete him just because I didn’t want him to know that I cared or anything and he ended up deleting me. Probably because he knew he wasn’t getting to me
Omg you just told my story, I was the bandaid. I hate that he made me fall for him, telling me he loved me, & other things. I was so used. He cut me off cuz I told his other woman everything, & he is mad that he was called out on his bs.
I hope everyone is learning from the Covid-19. Life can be short. We all can be wiped out overnight.... Learn to appreciate life more, love each other more, respect each other more, and most of all stop stomping on people's hearts..... Both Men and Women.... Get your life right so you can treat each other better ❤️
This is soooooo true, but people ( men & women) don't realize or respect this until its entirely to late.
Amen
Not only from Covid. You can perish at anytime
I gave him 10 months, I just blocked him. Tony thank you for helping us!!
This is by far the best video that “spoke” directly to me. I was very impressed. It makes so much sense why I have never had a successful nor even a moderately successful relationship with a guy/man.
I’m so grateful for this video.
God bless you and your family and your desire to help us understand the opposite sex a little clearer. 💙
Tony you are such a blessing!! I am broken and your videos helps me alot, I am needing God to break this soultie, my heart hurts so bad, I wish I would have never laid eyes on this man I am dating, He doesn't want a relationship yet he wants all the benefits of one, something is really wrong with me... I pray one day soon 🙏 I can be healed!!!
You had me laughing hard at the part when you were fake crying😂🤣😭. Some of these men will pull out all kinds of trickeries. The only person who can stop others from using me is ME. Respect & reciprocity is a must. Sorry (not sorry), there's no negotiating that. My self-worth will not be tampered with. @Tony Gaskins, giving us the goods to stay equipped. Thank you.❣
He was on point ngl lmao been that guy
Tony is truly the big brother I wish I had . Thank you!!!
Lived through this! Never take him back! Thanks TG!
I lived this exact scenario! Tony, I appreciate the time you take to offer this truth even when it hurts like hell to hear… simply because I wish I’d heard it years ago to avoid the heartbreak but thank God I’m aware now and healing.
I love how you always bring up your relationship with your wife as an example. She’s a lucky lady ❤️