curli-lettey I’ve been labeled a hater for trying to tell someone that I thought her boyfriend was too controlling because he constantly blows her phone up at work and comes in to check to see if she is there.
Maintain your boundaries & ensure to strengthen your boundaries.These men will test you on all levels. Women NEVER ever share your past relationship experiences with your future spouse, because they will hurt you & use it against you.
Yes! From experience, the person I was with never put my issues in my face when we argued, but it took a tole on him mentally. So, I had to find a therapist. It worked perfectly for the time being. There does need to be boundaries!
Amen Tony!! YOU say the SAME thing Pastor R.C Blakes says.....US women TALK TO MUCH!!! We NEED to LEARN WHEN it COMES to MEN to shut up, LISTEN to THEM & STOP TREATING men like our girlfriends!!!
@@judithstevens4323 He is. I don't know if you listen to "Stevan Speaks". He's another Christian who does the same thing as Tony Gaskins & R C Blakes. All three of these men are being used by God to educate women and help keep them from being hurt by telling them the truth about the games men play!!!
I had a male friend who offered to take me out for a meal. Before we left, he made the excuse that he could not find his bank card. I told him he will have to look for it. Would you believe he went back to his apartment and 'found' it a few minutes later.
Paul Hogue If you don’t understand the trust factor in coaches, then you may not understand the purpose of a coach. It’s like Coach K, Coach Calipari, Coach Pop or Coach Belicik having proven experiences that athletes believe and trust. Have they always been right? No, but they have been convincing and knowledgeable. Tony shares multiple experiences that we can relate to because we may have experienced them ourselves or heard about them. For the most part, we have found him to be trustworthy, believable, thought-provoking and anointed. He is helping ‘grown girls’ apply what’s for them to become grown women. Athletes listen to their coaches’ experiences, stories, advice, etc. and we rarely question why.
Carly Carls Nature plays a role in having females lean into this as much as we tend to do. When a woman orgasms she gets a big hit of the hormone oxytocin. Some women more some women less. Men don't get that big hit. They get lots dopamine, so it feels great, but rarely much oxytocin. Oxytocin is the same pleasure and bonding hormone that makes delivering mothers fall deeply in love with their new born babies. It also gives a woman a chemical rise in her self-esteem! So from that first orgasm she is attaching her self esteem to him by an unconscious chemical process. Sex can be dangerous to your emotions. It varies from woman to woman but it's generally always present at some level when a woman orgasms. That's why women often fall in love with a man the first time they have sex with him and have an orgasm in his arms. It's such a common experience that it has affected cultural expectations and social conditioning. Women fall in love with "bad boys" because those men are sexually experienced and orgasms are frequent and intense lol Love is at least partly chemical. As a female you can be put into that chemical state of feeling you love and are emotionally bonded to a man much more easily than a man can. If you wouldn't want to marry a man like him, have an unreliable person for a long term partner or parenting partner, have someone one like him for a father if you were a kid, then don't sleep with him. It literally puts your feelings at risk from damage by chemical exposure. Nature's only goal is for the species to reproduce. Women have other goals for their lives but they usually don't understand the chemical disadvantage they're facing with males in this area. Men don't usually know this either. They don't experience orgasm the same way you do. They're often genuinely baffled at the woman's response of "suddenly" falling in love but too many are happy to take advantage of it. If that kind of bonding happens for a man it occurs when he's already become committed to the woman emotionally. Then he starts to get more oxytocin in his orgasms from her! Give a good man time to love you, give a bad man time to blow his cover. My rule for many years has been at minimum Never sleep with a man you've known closely /been dating for less than 90 days. But as Tony says don't tell him that's your rule! Don't hand him the "missing manual" to you! Anyone can be on their best behavior that long. Give yourself a chance to know him, and for him to know and care about you as a person before you put yourself at a higher risk of falling in love with him. Love is hard to walk away from. So many women and their children suffer because they didn't adequately test a man as Tony so wisely suggests, before being intimate with him. . Forgive me for being indelicate in this public forum but taking care of yourself or autoerotic pleasure is a the best way for a woman with a high libido (that's "sex drive" -shout out to all the hot blooded girls) to avoid unnecessary and unwanted attachment to undesirable men imho A Hitachi Magic Wand can be a better intimate companion for a single woman than a man who might ruthlessly exploit her most tender feelings. A woman needs those loser type of men like a fish needs a bicycle. Take Care of you!🌸💕
Some men test you to see how far they can disregard and disrespect you and you still stay committed and connected to there BS. Gotta do more better than to let a man play you 😉 okay 👍 Thanks Mr. Gaskins
Ladies these men DONT think twice about there ill treat towards us. So DONT U think twice about moving forward without him. These men present themselves as being "temporary." And a month from now he is no where to be found.
Tony just explained exactly what this Dude tried to treat me.. they no calls at night.. first thing in he morning phone rings... Trying to face time.. asking me to cook for him on first date.. I got rid of that Joker in the first week.. I noticed the signs and Ghost him..You were right on the money
Men who try that mental crap with me end up just walking away bc they find out very quickly that I am not one to be played with. A guy I was talking over the phone for about a month started asking me for selfies. I explained to him that I don't have social media accounts so I don't have a bunch of picture on my phone. He seemed to understand, but a week later, he asked me again. I reminded him of what I said before and told him he could see me when we go out, our 1st in-person date. He invited me to dinner. We had a good time. A week later, he asked me to take a full body selfie. I told him if he wants to see me, ask me out. He got angry and said that I wasn't doing enough to keep his attention. I told him that I dont have to do a damn thing to keep his attention bc I've only known him for 4 months, I don't owe him anything. He apologized and wanted to continue to get to know me. I declined and blocked his azz. I am not the type of woman to play games with.
Today when a man finds out your Not Stupid then he says your Crazy-if a man you meet says his Ex was Crazy-tell him you got his Crazy! Block and Go!! Don’t look back. Remember most Good woman won’t give up a Good man
"Testing" is childs game. You will mess around and miss out on a great person playing a game that you are the only one in. Play silly ass games and you will win a silly ass prize.
Someone popped up at my home unannounced. I spoke to him through my ring and told him if he didn’t get the hell off my property I was going to bust a cap. He found out I was not the one nor as sweet as he had assumed. This was a fool in the neighborhood who I’m not even romantically involved with! He just always sees me running and we speak in passing. Some Men are very bold and entitled! Mind you, y’all it was at 9:45pm!
It’s not that you can’t be genuine it’s just that you can’t tell all your secrets. Let the man find out things through getting to know you. They are the hunters
And even in marriage, with a narcissistic man, U STILL can't be urself. These men are so confused bc of all the porn and cheating. I'm giving up, I'm moving on. I think I'm becoming a feminist. Smdh.
Can we talk about how spoiled these men are !!! How easy it’s been for them to get it their way for years. So now we’re coming in with standards and their completely thrown off and reluctant to comply. It literally feels like an uphill battle of the wills.
My sentiments exactly. I stated this last week alone - about how spoiled these “males” are today. It’s imperative for a woman to know her worth, no matter if she just discovered it today. It starts with self. Know your worth through God First and don’t ever lose sight of it. I’ve had a man to tell me himself, about how powerful I am as a woman. Unfortunately, he didn’t measure up to understanding it fully at the time, but he was right nevertheless. Some of these ladies have these men programmed out here. If you don’t know who you are and whose you are first, you’ll never know the power that resides within. 🙏🏽
An insecure man can’t handle a relationship. That’s all it sums up to. If he can become secure in who he is he is then Ready to love cuz heloves himself, he couldn’t love himself cuz he didn’t know who he was.
Tony is speaking 100% truth! EVERY SINGLE SITUATION happened in this EXACT order. I may have failed this time, but that won't happen again. "A man who wants you won't miss you."
No sex before Marriage I’m a Queen. The Holy Spirit will give all of us ladies spirit of discernment to know when our Boaz is in our life. Your already unequally yoked when he does not know Christ or have a relationship with God. Even these CHURCH MEN PLAY THESE SAME GAMES.
Yes ma'am...unfortunately I married one and he walked off after 20 years after I became quite assertive, stood my ground on certain issues, and paid attention to the small foxes. Wisdom says do not be afraid to really see what you see.
Sounds like these men need a mother to continue raising them into their grown ass days..... A woman needs to be Self Sufficient and need NOBODY to know her worth
Even these over 60 guys trying to pull this foolishness....same soup warmed over, don't dish me up a bowl. Learned this in my younger years....THANK GOD!
This vid got me feeling some kinda way. 👹 is too busy for me. Dating is now a days is like trying to cross a field full of landmines. These emotionally wounded and maimed people out here destroying those who are sincere.
A man gotta chase me like hypes chase crack and if not 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️ “Gotta Go!!!” People have to do what they say and say what they mean!!!
And, when he disappears for days on end or longer, he's with women who's name came up in the roladex. Your name will come up later in the week. Ditch him so he can have EVERYONE in the roladex and leave you out of that mess.
@@christinewarren8134 yes and how horrible that is. I mean who failed who when it was time to raise these young men. Grown now, and still choose to do wrong.
I NEVER TEST WOMEN Because I dont like Women to test me, and I feel like a Real Man don't have to test a Woman and a Real Woman doesn't have to test a Man, because all People eventually reveal themselves.
Well spoken...from a mature person...but unfortunately, many individuals love playing what I call these little cat and mouse games....I am too tired to put in all the work .... enjoying the single life and leaving most of these crazy folks out here alone....but I agree with ya 100%
1. Questioning you 2. Gets favours from you. 3. Testing you 4. Controlling nature 5. Privacy invasion 6. Yells at you 7. Emotional (shows he's still in contact with his ex)
I didn't have to deal with this whole list of things but sheesh just some or few of them still isn't worth it!!! Men need to get it together not saying women are perfect but at least most of us can own up to and change what we need to and keep it going these men are cowards they shut down.. run to butt buddy boy/men and bash their wives what sense does that make none so why stay married... He don't want me, I recognize he don't want me, I know he don't want me he showing it so that's my que to go on about my business and let him and his momma and butt buddies be together
The problem is a lot of women haven’t had a man to truly want them so don’t have anybody to compare the game players with. That’s why this knowledge that you are giving Tony is so important.
Tony You are so damn messy 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I fell out about the TACO...when you wipe your eye I died. It's a serious thing but a I couldn't help but laugh 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Learned this the hard way. I thought it was cute at first. I was buying my ex all kinds of stuff, he even had a key to my apartment. If I didn't answer his call or answer his texts,he assumed I was with another man. He would call until I answered didn't matter to him or not of I happened to be busy. A man will test you to see if you are loyal, even though he isn't. Ladies this is the truth what Tony's saying.
Yes yes and yes. My ex would call me til I answered. Gos forbid I would keep calling him or texting him nonstop. That was a complete issue then. Peace out homie.
Michelle That smells Obsession & control. Which to me is ultimately unacceptable behavior. Women need to STOP trying prove to men,correction these so called grown-boys that they are worthy. Never be a " pick me " or try to prove to man u are loyal, nuturing, attractive etc...who knows deep down he doesn't deserve you. That's why many are sooo damn insecure. Your worth comes from the Almighty GOD. You were brought with a price & you are valuable in the eyes of the Creator. Christ died for the sins of humanity. He would have still died at Calvary for just one sinner. Because A Soul is valuable in his eyes. You Matter. You were not born as a woman just to be eye catching,or pleasure a man & bring a life into the world. You are more than your hips & thighs. You a Special. Believe that!!! YOU Need to believe that for yourself. Validate you & don't seek it from a man.
He would tell me I was out of town but if i said I was out of town then he would have 20 questions. And if he wanted time with me which is every couple of weeks he calls he texts its like he's white on rice but the next morning dont expect to know who he is for a week or two... phone must break when he leaves... so did mine. Blocked. Phone is a jerk that gives me notifications on messages not recieved 3 on saturday and one Sunday who knows how many phone calls. He acts like he is so great I get all the man I need 1 day out of 14... more like unreliable and not worth that one day play on player over there. But this seems to be the way all men want to be. I would rather stay home with my machine that plugs in the wall.
Tony is exactly right. My husband told me soon after we were married that he proposed to me so no other man would have a chance with me. And I waited many months before being intimate with him, and I always went home even though he would want me to stay the night. I held true to my boundaries, and he respected that. I do believe he wasn't used to a woman like me, and it made him respect and want me that much more. So Tony is exactly right with all his advice. I'm living proof of what can happen when you stand your ground, and honor and respect yourself. We will soon celebrate nine years of a happy, calm, and respectful marriage.
Don’t be ashamed, you’re amongst friends...we have all be there. Everything Tony is saying in this video is the absolute truth. But now that we know better we are doing better.
All facts! 🙌🏾 You owe no man anything but kindness. Be aware, discreet, & expect to be tested. Cut ties or love them from a distance if there are any dealbreakers, cancelled plans, & if they're too busy.
Women need to value themselves enough to know when a man loves them. We as women can only affect a man to positive change when he is committed to loving us. They are so many options out there for men that if they don't want to change, when you stop them in their negative behaviour, guess what they don't have to. Therefore any man who changes positively after they realize you are serious is one who is committed to loving you. As women we need to let the other types called grown boys be on there way!
I had a man had the nerve to knock on my door one night while me, my son and my mom were enjoying a lovely evening with a movie. I ask “who is it?”. He said his name. I sat right back and proceeded to watch the movie. He eventually left.
Real men and women don't have a need to test others. It's only the ones that are intimidated by someone of their interest does immature crap as such.. Ladies & Gentlemen, pay quiet attention to who you allow in you presence....meaning don't tell them much about their behavior in the beginning and just allow them to reveal it. Self-Love is the key.
Tony said at 1:37 that a real man will still test you, what are you saying? It is human nature for people to test each other to see where one stands in beliefs, morals, and values.
@@ruru9400 If that's what you believe than you fit into the category that I mentioned. Just because Tony said it doesn't make the statement true entirely. When I enteract with people, I don't have a need to test them and I feel there's others that move like I do. Good Day!!
I say just be yourself and if theres some form of connection the vibes will reveal all there is to know and still be yourself. They dont like certain ways about you, (once again) it will reveal itself,things dont work out....it will reveal itself. Just pick up on the persons actions and not what you wanna see or want it to be.
It's disgusting to me how men do these things. Chivalry is very rare these days. Just dysfunction 🤷🏾♀️ We desire companionship... Ain't much out there 🤷🏾♀️
I don’t agree with this because some people are broken, hardheaded, & aren’t trying to learn a thing. If a person is respectful/considerate THEN you can teach them something. But if they only want something of you they’ll just act differently until they get what they want.
I learned the hard way with that controlling mess. It turned out to be a 5yr nightmare, ya'll. I ended up (due to the stress of the relationship) losing the ability to walk or talk. While I was in the hospital he stood over me like he hated me! He even told me all the time how (not for me) hard it was on him. Mind you he was living in my house not paying any bills. Ladies, at that time I could'nt understand how I got there. But I know how I got out....GOD😆 It took hard work to learn how to talk and do everything all over again but I did. Man, I wish a buffoon would. I can promise you one thing. IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN AGAIN 😊
I never heard of anything like this happening. I’m so grateful to God you made it out and recovered!!! Did you wake up one day like that or did it happen gradually?
I too experienced a traumatic situationship from a man I met in church.. It was my fault because he told me who he was but I didn't take it seriously. I thought his candor was refreshing and told myself that we all have sinned and fallen short. I'm so grateful for God's love and deliverance. Worshipping God in Spirit and Truth is my focus now. Also examining and correcting my behavior so I can be pleasing and acceptable. I'm learning to love ultimately. 😊🙏
Tony you broke it down exactly how it is. It starts off small and things get worst each time we don't check them. I am a living witness to that. Thanks for letting women know how it is out here.
I've been through this kind of stuff before, when I was younger. My ex-husband did all of this! I finally opened my eyes. Tony is so right. Now, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than be with a loser. Tony, your delivery is truthful and funny.
@@lco09 I know that's right. You are too grown to be texting all of the time. He is hiding something. Then it's sad if he doesn't have his own place. He is a man
OmG I just watched Fences 2 or 3 days ago and I was in shock that he not only cheated on his wife once but had an affair and got the woman pregnant, even after his friend warned him not to do that. I could not believe that after flirting and playing with his wife so much he was actually cheating on her and expected his son to treat him like he had done no wrong. He should have apologised to his son for hurting his Mama and let the boy go play football.
I failed them ALL for real. I am more knowledgeable and skilled now. I did not know what to do. I stopped some though. The cussing was an absolute NO GO. My God!!!! Who does this? An abuser for sure. Thanks Tony
Well the fellas have to come and want to listen to knowledge too as well so it can't just be one-sided if a man knows that he needs to work on himself just like we're working on herself and giving ourselves self-love then they need to also do the same and work on their areas where they're fall short of it's called who will hear who will listen and who will obey it's called free will
@@teresafranklin5166 Of course it free will. But, like Tony is exercising his gift, there has to be someone that can use their gift for the fellas. So, fellas is you see this you can also listen to Pastor RC Blakes! He is the truth!
This guy I met back in May was trying to be controlling by day 4. He was subtle with it at first. By day 5, I had to hang up in his face and block him completely because he showed me exactly who he was. He was a controlling, insecure, cheating mess who had nothing to offer. Learn the red flags and move on right away before you get involved with people.
Omg! I was here listening to you and feeling sorry for myself for falling for the “tests” men put us through, when out of nowhere you said, a woman should say are you done? I think you better call Tony Gaskins... I lost it! I laughed so hard I starting crying and had to pause the video! 😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂 OMG! I needed a laugh today! You’re the best I swear! 😘
I have a cousin who's like this. She loves trashy dudes for some reason. She was not raised like that. She let one bum keep her car for so long, he started saying it was his car. She needed her car to take her kids somewhere & she had to beg the fool to bring her car back. Then he waited around until she was done so he could take off with her car again. I told her she was crazy, there is no way he would have gotten my car back (he wouldn't have had it to begin with). He would have been using his bare feet to get around.
Tony I m not a negative..person but to honest, the guys not made of steel today,most of them are afraid to express how they feel about a person they are interested in. Men have gotten so far away from dating a woman and having her interest, getting to know her, not sex her ..KNOW HER . WAIT FOR HER... Grown boys text all day....It really ashame and pathetic. Most of them can not communicate with a real queen.
In 2020 they barely exist! We have been groomed and taught to be like queens and only to wait 30 years for a hot mess of a boy in man clothes. If they are not gay, bisexual, they are married or like little girls 18 and under and will walk by a real queen without hesitation.
God is so amazing! A guy I was dating didn't call me for 4 days. He said he was giving me space bc I was with family for the 4th holiday, but it was strange bc the last text I sent him was a question b4 his magic disappearance. He said exactly what Tony just said. I told him something just didn't feel right still & said good bye. He said I had the problem but we still parted ways.
I usually don't respond, but Tony this message is in the top 3..i know you don't think you're funny, but this was hilarious..you are a natural communicator.. with a pastoral anointing. May the Lord continuously bless you and your family.
Tony..this video was so on point lol. These are the things I've noticed and DO NOT let slide. Then when you address them they want to gaslight you, when they realize you are hip to the manipulative games they play!! I let them have their little tantrum and hissy fit (that they like to throw 🙄)and I stick to my guns and I send them on their way. Men like this come in different ways but they all have the same subtle traits and characteristics you just have to pay close attention and refuse to get caught up in the toxic cycle.
Tony this is one of the best videos so far. My ex tested me to the fullest. Had all the signs of being a narcissist which I chose to ignore. The more I research the more I realize I was dealing with a narc for 3 years. He broke me down and I am still struggling.
Us girls, women, ladies we really need to (if you are not already) focus on the little things that matter. When you are with someone who likes to argue, disagree or joke with you disrespectfully, break it off. That's enough right there to lose their number. It's time to get serious about your inner circle FOR REAL
Recently dated a guy who told me I dress like a hoe and should wear dresses for him instead. He said "Dressing like a hoe is not cute or attractive." I was wearing a sheer top with a bathing suit top under it and shorts because we were at the river and it was hot out. I asked my friends and family if I dress like a hoe and they all said no. He said "I was lenient about this in my last relationship but not anymore, just dressing for other men's attention." He said "Ive shown you examples of what I like but you want to dress the complete opposite." I started feeling so confused and self conscious about my clothing. He said "Your choice of clothing isnt the best and I say that meaningfully." I was so hurt I went out and bought a bunch of new clothes. He started saying other rude things to me and acting distant so I had to stop seeing him. Of course he moved on a couple days later to someone else and started liking all of her booty pics on instagram when he would tell me I shouldnt post pictures of me wearing tights because "one day you'll learn when you're older thats not ok." oh but his new girl can wear a revealing bikini and he'll like that picture? Oh ok.
Even when I checked him, as far as not disrespecting me & he would just yell louder, where my words never make it out of my mouth! To the point of just silence & always wanted to be home, where I have peace! See, I know when a man is playing games! I was married to a master manipulator!
Yep men say certain things that they want but wont ask you, they waiting on you to offer...Im not offering nothing...If you need help with something ask and then Ill help ya but naw Im not im not offering nothing....For example his reference to her saying he can use her car, NOPE NOPE NOPE...
Women.... DO NOTTTT be afraid of losing a man!!! If they step outta pocket, you gots ta let em go!! We are the prize!!
Facts
TUH... OK 💁🏾♀️💁🏾♀️💁🏾♀️🙌🏾
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@@sheila4035 😁
The last guy I talked to said he was the prize. 🙄 I ended that with the quickness.
I can’t believe I don’t have to pay a dime for this knoweledge. God is so good😭
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Yep! 🥰
Amen! That's why I have no problem donating whenever.
Savannah Jade where was this when I was in high school😭 matter fact why is this not taught in high school🤣
Savannah Jade , Tony’s always been here. Three years ago he was on YT.
I love this quote, “A man who wants you, ain’t gone miss you”.
I love that too!!! Words of wisdom.
I love that quote . Stright wisdom!
100%
💯 It's so true!
Is it ain't gonna miss you?
So many confuse a controlling Man with a Loving Man. That’s why society is so crazy. Toxic Love has taken over.
They're labeling this "soul mates" or "twin flames". aka bullshyt
curli-lettey I’ve been labeled a hater for trying to tell someone that I thought her boyfriend was too controlling because he constantly blows her phone up at work and comes in to check to see if she is there.
Natasha Freeman so true lady.
So true! That's why it's super imperative to be alone, heal and begin to love ourselves and accept who we are, and know that we are good enough ❤❤
Nicole Lagamo well said. Thank you
Perfect advice. Keep your boundaries up. A man is not your therapist. If you have deep things you want to explore got to a trustworthy therapist.
Maintain your boundaries & ensure to strengthen your boundaries.These men will test you on all levels.
Women NEVER ever share your past relationship experiences with your future spouse, because they will hurt you & use it against you.
Yes...and this works both ways!!
Yes! From experience, the person I was with never put my issues in my face when we argued, but it took a tole on him mentally. So, I had to find a therapist. It worked perfectly for the time being. There does need to be boundaries!
@@queenii if anyone does that guy or girl that’s abuse, and the person needs to leave.
I love this, well said.
You are the second man I heard say don’t tell a man (upfront or too soon) what your looking for because he’ll just act that way to get you.
Cuz it’s big facts. You can’t give a man a playbook. Be as vague as possible- cuz if he don’t know what you like, he can’t play the part.
Wowww... Never thought of this! So true...
Um... this is KEY advice 👌
So how do you respond when a man asks you what you’re looking for without being too upfront and forward?
Ms Lori “I am looking for true companionship. I would not be opposed if it turned into a serious relationship.”
Amen Tony!! YOU say the SAME thing Pastor R.C Blakes says.....US women TALK TO MUCH!!! We NEED to LEARN WHEN it COMES to MEN to shut up, LISTEN to THEM & STOP TREATING men like our girlfriends!!!
We need to get smart
@@sewsilky we SURE DO!!
I like R C Blakes Jr as well.
@@marlenethornton490 He is a wonderful blessing just like Tony.
@@judithstevens4323 He is. I don't know if you listen to "Stevan Speaks". He's another Christian who does the same thing as Tony Gaskins & R C Blakes. All three of these men are being used by God to educate women and help keep them from being hurt by telling them the truth about the games men play!!!
Does anyone else feel like a complete idiot or is it just me?
Girlllll
Knowledge is powerful. Consider yourself free 🙂👍
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I feel like one,that’s why I’m here now
Me...I even married mine and going through pure hell
“Every man you meet is going to test you.” TG
True story!!
That part!! 🙌
I feel like everyone does 🥴 that’s why you gotta stay true to yourself cause no one else will
I had a male friend who offered to take me out for a meal. Before we left, he made the excuse that he could not find his bank card. I told him he will have to look for it. Would you believe he went back to his apartment and 'found' it a few minutes later.
Paul Hogue
If you don’t understand the trust factor in coaches, then you may not understand the purpose of a coach. It’s like Coach K, Coach Calipari, Coach Pop or Coach Belicik having proven experiences that athletes believe and trust. Have they always been right? No, but they have been convincing and knowledgeable. Tony shares multiple experiences that we can relate to because we may have experienced them ourselves or heard about them. For the most part, we have found him to be trustworthy, believable, thought-provoking and anointed. He is helping ‘grown girls’ apply what’s for them to become grown women. Athletes listen to their coaches’ experiences, stories, advice, etc. and we rarely question why.
I don’t know where women became dependent on men for worth and stopped seeing our own value.
Carly Carls Nature plays a role in having females lean into this as much as we tend to do. When a woman orgasms she gets a big hit of the hormone oxytocin. Some women more some women less.
Men don't get that big hit.
They get lots dopamine, so it feels great, but rarely much oxytocin.
Oxytocin is the same pleasure and bonding hormone that makes delivering mothers
fall deeply in love with their
new born babies.
It also gives a woman a chemical rise in her self-esteem! So from that first orgasm she is attaching her self esteem to him by an unconscious chemical process.
Sex can be dangerous to your emotions. It varies from woman to woman but it's generally always present at some level when a woman orgasms.
That's why women often fall in love with a man the first time they have sex with him and have an orgasm in his arms.
It's such a common experience that it has affected cultural expectations and social conditioning.
Women fall in love with "bad boys" because those men are sexually experienced and orgasms are frequent and intense lol
Love is at least partly chemical. As a female you can be put into that chemical state of feeling you love and are emotionally bonded to a man much more easily than a man can.
If you wouldn't want to marry a man like him, have an unreliable person for a long term partner or parenting partner, have someone one like him for a father if you were a kid, then don't sleep with him.
It literally puts your feelings at risk from damage by chemical exposure.
Nature's only goal is for the species to reproduce.
Women have other goals for their lives but they usually don't understand the chemical disadvantage they're facing with males in this area.
Men don't usually know this either. They don't experience orgasm the same way you do.
They're often genuinely baffled at the woman's response of "suddenly" falling in love but too many are happy to take advantage of it.
If that kind of bonding happens for a man it occurs when he's already become committed to the woman emotionally.
Then he starts to get more oxytocin in his orgasms from her!
Give a good man time to love you, give a bad man time to blow his cover.
My rule for many years has been at minimum
Never sleep with a man you've known closely /been dating for less than 90 days. But as Tony says don't tell him that's your rule! Don't hand him the "missing manual" to you!
Anyone can be on their best behavior that long.
Give yourself a chance to know him, and for him to know and care about you as a person before you put yourself at a higher risk of falling in love with him. Love is hard to walk away from. So many women and their children suffer because they didn't adequately test a man as Tony so wisely suggests,
before being intimate with him. .
Forgive me for being indelicate in this public forum but taking care of yourself or autoerotic pleasure is a the best way for a woman with a high libido
(that's "sex drive" -shout out to all the hot blooded girls)
to avoid unnecessary and unwanted attachment to undesirable men imho
A Hitachi Magic Wand can be a better intimate companion for a single woman than a man who might ruthlessly exploit her most tender feelings.
A woman needs those loser type of men like a fish needs a bicycle. Take Care of you!🌸💕
Joyful N Blessed you are so correct...this is exactly what happened.
@Joyful n Blessed U better tell it today!
Thank you 🗣🗣🗣
True.
Some men test you to see how far they can disregard and disrespect you and you still stay committed and connected to there BS. Gotta do more better than to let a man play you 😉 okay 👍 Thanks Mr. Gaskins
Ladies these men DONT think twice about there ill treat towards us. So DONT U think twice about moving forward without him. These men present themselves as being "temporary." And a month from now he is no where to be found.
Amen. True.
And don’t be afraid to ill treat them either
@@MegaLadylove2012 not ever
Yep!
The test that they do is always trickery
Tony just explained exactly what this Dude tried to treat me.. they no calls at night.. first thing in he morning phone rings... Trying to face time.. asking me to cook for him on first date.. I got rid of that Joker in the first week.. I noticed the signs and Ghost him..You were right on the money
Just let one go
Tony I love u/agape
Same girl 😂 same
Men who try that mental crap with me end up just walking away bc they find out very quickly that I am not one to be played with. A guy I was talking over the phone for about a month started asking me for selfies. I explained to him that I don't have social media accounts so I don't have a bunch of picture on my phone. He seemed to understand, but a week later, he asked me again. I reminded him of what I said before and told him he could see me when we go out, our 1st in-person date. He invited me to dinner. We had a good time. A week later, he asked me to take a full body selfie. I told him if he wants to see me, ask me out. He got angry and said that I wasn't doing enough to keep his attention. I told him that I dont have to do a damn thing to keep his attention bc I've only known him for 4 months, I don't owe him anything. He apologized and wanted to continue to get to know me. I declined and blocked his azz. I am not the type of woman to play games with.
So glad you know your worth
These man always asking for pictures are annoying!
Today when a man finds out your Not Stupid then he says your Crazy-if a man you meet says his Ex was Crazy-tell him you got his Crazy! Block and Go!! Don’t look back. Remember most Good woman won’t give up a Good man
I love this ❤
"Testing" is childs game. You will mess around and miss out on a great person playing a game that you are the only one in. Play silly ass games and you will win a silly ass prize.
Yes ❤️
Omg yess😂😂 I’m use this for now
Amen
Well said!!
Fact
Someone popped up at my home unannounced. I spoke to him through my ring and told him if he didn’t get the hell off my property I was going to bust a cap. He found out I was not the one nor as sweet as he had assumed. This was a fool in the neighborhood who I’m not even romantically involved with! He just always sees me running and we speak in passing. Some Men are very bold and entitled! Mind you, y’all it was at 9:45pm!
🙌🏾🙌🏾💪🏾👏🏽👏🏽
You the real MVP
The audacity!
The unmitigated gall of him!! He was absolutely out of order.
@@deliabass5214 And was about to be blown away. He's done that before and got away with it. You only get that bold by practice.
"A man who want you ain't gon miss no deadline!..."
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That’s so true. I learned I can’t be that genuine with men. At least outside of marriage, I guess. It’s so sad.
It’s not that you can’t be genuine it’s just that you can’t tell all your secrets. Let the man find out things through getting to know you. They are the hunters
And even in marriage, with a narcissistic man, U STILL can't be urself. These men are so confused bc of all the porn and cheating. I'm giving up, I'm moving on. I think I'm becoming a feminist. Smdh.
@@much2lovely no offense but this sounds like patriarchal bullshit 🥴
@@laurenmorgan881 all women are feminists; they just don't know it.
Marriage is included
Can we talk about how spoiled these men are !!! How easy it’s been for them to get it their way for years. So now we’re coming in with standards and their completely thrown off and reluctant to comply. It literally feels like an uphill battle of the wills.
My sentiments exactly. I stated this last week alone - about how spoiled these “males” are today. It’s imperative for a woman to know her worth, no matter if she just discovered it today. It starts with self. Know your worth through God First and don’t ever lose sight of it. I’ve had a man to tell me himself, about how powerful I am as a woman. Unfortunately, he didn’t measure up to understanding it fully at the time, but he was right nevertheless. Some of these ladies have these men programmed out here. If you don’t know who you are and whose you are first, you’ll never know the power that resides within. 🙏🏽
Yes
Paul Hogue I’m glad it’s on both sides. We will build healthy communities and families.
Paul Hogue they say no when you won’t give sex.. that’s no man sir!!
An insecure man can’t handle a relationship. That’s all it sums up to. If he can become secure in who he is he is then Ready to love cuz heloves himself, he couldn’t love himself cuz he didn’t know who he was.
I owe a man nothing but kindness. Teach Tony!!!!
A word
U dont even owe him kindness. U dont owe nobody nothing.💝
And that's biblical!
A guy told me I wasn't benefiting him because I wasn't having sex with him. I still havent replied it's no point...I'm good✌🏽
A definite word yesssss
Tony is speaking 100% truth! EVERY SINGLE SITUATION happened in this EXACT order. I may have failed this time, but that won't happen again. "A man who wants you won't miss you."
I don't think Tony realizes how funny he is! I be rolling!!
☝🏽True Comic relief
Yesss im still dying i had to rewind cause i couldnt breathe
Fr 🤣
Me too girl😂😂😂
Tacos😩
It’s always amazing that men want to sleep around but then want a “good” woman!
Right. These women aren’t sleeping with themselves on the first night.
Not all. Most I meet have discipline in that area. I'm not attracted to men who don't
No sex before Marriage I’m a Queen. The Holy Spirit will give all of us ladies spirit of discernment to know when our Boaz is in our life. Your already unequally yoked when he does not know Christ or have a relationship with God. Even these CHURCH MEN PLAY THESE SAME GAMES.
They are worse, game players👍
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Lol so true
True..
Yes ma'am...unfortunately I married one and he walked off after 20 years after I became quite assertive, stood my ground on certain issues, and paid attention to the small foxes. Wisdom says do not be afraid to really see what you see.
Sounds like these men need a mother to continue raising them into their grown ass days..... A woman needs to be Self Sufficient and need NOBODY to know her worth
A mother they can sleep with
Many are really living a second childhood in an adult body.
Even these over 60 guys trying to pull this foolishness....same soup warmed over, don't dish me up a bowl. Learned this in my younger years....THANK GOD!
Yes!😡
@taran lawson welp that's my age bracket, 40's is my children's age bracket.
The young ones pick up their fathers dumb mistakes. Because of the older men’s mistakes,they try to come to the table with nothing. Hard Pass!
Yes smh!!
Well said...👌👊👏👏👏👏👏💯
This vid got me feeling some kinda way. 👹 is too busy for me. Dating is now a days is like trying to cross a field full of landmines. These emotionally wounded and maimed people out here destroying those who are sincere.
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A man gotta chase me like hypes chase crack and if not 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️ “Gotta Go!!!” People have to do what they say and say what they mean!!!
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Absolutely, but who is "hypes"?
Mentally Free hypes can be anyone who’s too damn eager to get something or someone
Paul Hogue these jokers 😂
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And, when he disappears for days on end or longer, he's with women who's name came up in the roladex. Your name will come up later in the week. Ditch him so he can have EVERYONE in the roladex and leave you out of that mess.
No cap... Real talk. Our job isn't to prove anything to them.
A grownboy got upset with me when I said that. 😂
Girl and better believe they will disappear if you do not bend over and prove sumthing
@@christinewarren8134 yes and how horrible that is. I mean who failed who when it was time to raise these young men. Grown now, and still choose to do wrong.
@@ena__we4205 yes, shit hits the fan when we speak up.
@@catherha1 I swear. So damn sad.
I NEVER TEST WOMEN Because I dont like Women to test me, and I feel like a Real Man don't have to test a Woman and a Real Woman doesn't have to test a Man, because all People eventually reveal themselves.
I agree. The idea of testing someone seems a bit deceptive to me for some reason. From my experience, people eventually showed me who they were.
So true!
Well spoken...from a mature person...but unfortunately, many individuals love playing what I call these little cat and mouse games....I am too tired to put in all the work .... enjoying the single life and leaving most of these crazy folks out here alone....but I agree with ya 100%
In due time everything reveals itself.
You better
1. Questioning you
2. Gets favours from you.
3. Testing you
4. Controlling nature
5. Privacy invasion
6. Yells at you
7. Emotional (shows he's still in contact with his ex)
I didn't have to deal with this whole list of things but sheesh just some or few of them still isn't worth it!!! Men need to get it together not saying women are perfect but at least most of us can own up to and change what we need to and keep it going these men are cowards they shut down.. run to butt buddy boy/men and bash their wives what sense does that make none so why stay married... He don't want me, I recognize he don't want me, I know he don't want me he showing it so that's my que to go on about my business and let him and his momma and butt buddies be together
The problem is a lot of women haven’t had a man to truly want them so don’t have anybody to compare the game players with. That’s why this knowledge that you are giving Tony is so important.
This is very true! For a long time, I didn't know how it felt to be pursued by a man who really wanted me, not trying to use me.
So true!
Very true!
Then...when they find someone who loves them....they get bored.
Not want… LOVE
Young ladies, I approve this message! Pay attention to the “small stuff”.
Translation: If a man that you don't know well, is coming to you with his problems, you act like you don't know what he's talking about....
lmao
Tony You are so damn messy
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I fell out about the TACO...when you wipe your eye I died.
It's a serious thing but a I couldn't help but laugh
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He lowkey a comedian 😂
I was done, I know it’s not funny but it was. His comedy help me feel better 😂😂😂
......Mr. Gaskin is too much !
😂😂🤦🏽♀️ gurrrllll I can not 🌮🙈😂😂😂
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Learned this the hard way. I thought it was cute at first. I was buying my ex all kinds of stuff, he even had a key to my apartment. If I didn't answer his call or answer his texts,he assumed I was with another man. He would call until I answered didn't matter to him or not of I happened to be busy. A man will test you to see if you are loyal, even though he isn't. Ladies this is the truth what Tony's saying.
Yes yes and yes. My ex would call me til I answered. Gos forbid I would keep calling him or texting him nonstop. That was a complete issue then. Peace out homie.
Michelle
That smells Obsession & control. Which to me is ultimately unacceptable behavior.
Women need to STOP trying prove to men,correction these so called grown-boys that they are worthy. Never be a " pick me " or try to prove to man u are loyal, nuturing, attractive etc...who knows deep down he doesn't deserve you. That's why many are sooo damn insecure.
Your worth comes from the Almighty GOD. You were brought with a price & you are valuable in the eyes of the Creator. Christ died for the sins of humanity. He would have still died at Calvary for just one sinner. Because A Soul is valuable in his eyes. You Matter. You were not born as a woman just to be eye catching,or pleasure a man & bring a life into the world. You are more than your hips & thighs.
You a Special. Believe that!!!
YOU Need to believe that for yourself. Validate you & don't seek it from a man.
And the more he isn't, the more he demands you to be.
Don't trust hyper jealous people. They're the ones you should question yourself about.
Can’t stand men like that. Disgusting.
He would tell me I was out of town but if i said I was out of town then he would have 20 questions. And if he wanted time with me which is every couple of weeks he calls he texts its like he's white on rice but the next morning dont expect to know who he is for a week or two... phone must break when he leaves... so did mine. Blocked. Phone is a jerk that gives me notifications on messages not recieved 3 on saturday and one Sunday who knows how many phone calls. He acts like he is so great I get all the man I need 1 day out of 14... more like unreliable and not worth that one day play on player over there. But this seems to be the way all men want to be. I would rather stay home with my machine that plugs in the wall.
Tony is exactly right. My husband told me soon after we were married that he proposed to me so no other man would have a chance with me. And I waited many months before being intimate with him, and I always went home even though he would want me to stay the night. I held true to my boundaries, and he respected that. I do believe he wasn't used to a woman like me, and it made him respect and want me that much more. So Tony is exactly right with all his advice. I'm living proof of what can happen when you stand your ground, and honor and respect yourself. We will soon celebrate nine years of a happy, calm, and respectful marriage.
Just curious what race are you and your husband, also you had sex with him during engagement or before.
Almost Broke a nail clicking on this lol
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Omgosh 😂😂
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😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣Girl ! I'm telling you 😃
"ain't nothing wrong with that man, he just ain't thinking about you " 🤣🤣🤣🤣 smh facts
Ladies...Tony is telling the truth! All the examples he used in this video...I am ashamed to say I have experienced some. Listen and learn ladies.
Don't be ashamed. I've experienced some of these things, too. When you know better, you do better. We didn't know.
Don’t be ashamed, you’re amongst friends...we have all be there. Everything Tony is saying in this video is the absolute truth. But now that we know better we are doing better.
Don’t be ashamed, we have all been there . It’s a lesson .
Me too
Me too. All relationships are either a blessing or lesson. Don't beat yourself up
"Got to be careful how you answer questions..."
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Tony, you never have to apologize for lack of posting more often, you're one of the most faithful posters ever. Be well! You are greatness!!
Amen
Agree
Awww. This was a beautiful comment
All facts! 🙌🏾 You owe no man anything but kindness. Be aware, discreet, & expect to be tested. Cut ties or love them from a distance if there are any dealbreakers, cancelled plans, & if they're too busy.
Women need to value themselves enough to know when a man loves them.
We as women can only affect a man to positive change when he is committed to loving us.
They are so many options out there for men that if they don't want to change, when you stop them in their negative behaviour, guess what they don't have to.
Therefore any man who changes positively after they realize you are serious is one who is committed to loving you.
As women we need to let the other types called grown boys be on there way!
So true 😊
These videos so real they got me feeling sick to the Stomach.This is the unfiltered truth !!! It’s needed
I wouldn’t answer such personal questions regarding sex life. That’s none of his business. Seriously.
Bridgee Bridge Must be. I surely wouldn’t be grilled about my sex life. That’s a turn off and a 🚩 red flag. The nerve!
Women share too much information.
😩😂🙏🏾😩😩 The Taco 🌮 conversation OMG!... A valid point
I had a man had the nerve to knock on my door one night while me, my son and my mom were enjoying a lovely evening with a movie. I ask “who is it?”. He said his name. I sat right back and proceeded to watch the movie. He eventually left.
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Girl!!! You have me rolling!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 omg
Savage🤧
nice lol
Real men and women don't have a need to test others.
It's only the ones that are intimidated by someone of their interest does immature crap as such..
Ladies & Gentlemen, pay quiet attention to who you allow in you presence....meaning don't tell them much about their behavior in the beginning and just allow them to reveal it.
Self-Love is the key.
Tony said at 1:37 that a real man will still test you, what are you saying? It is human nature for people to test each other to see where one stands in beliefs, morals, and values.
@@ruru9400 If that's what you believe than you fit into the category that I mentioned.
Just because Tony said it doesn't make the statement true entirely.
When I enteract with people, I don't have a need to test them and I feel there's others that move like I do.
Good Day!!
I test any man I’m dealing with, because otherwise.....
I say just be yourself and if theres some form of connection the vibes will reveal all there is to know and still be yourself.
They dont like certain ways about you, (once again) it will reveal itself,things dont work out....it will reveal itself.
Just pick up on the persons actions and not what you wanna see or want it to be.
I don’t have a need to test people but I know plenty of people who have tested me. If I didn’t think people tested me I’d be living in a fantasy land
“You act like you working on the railroad like you Harriet Tubman’s cousin.” 😂🤣😩
I love how you show some of us females how dumb we can be trying to please these men. ..funny but sad.
It's disgusting to me how men do these things. Chivalry is very rare these days. Just dysfunction 🤷🏾♀️ We desire companionship... Ain't much out there 🤷🏾♀️
An its like they know what we want an need they just choose not too
True, definitely ain't much out there.
Facts
@@erica-marie OMG yes. Like he said to break us down. Not happening.
On Point 🎯
This is pretty much the best and only video a woman needs to see when dating.
We teach people how to treat us.
I don’t agree with this because some people are broken, hardheaded, & aren’t trying to learn a thing.
If a person is respectful/considerate THEN you can teach them something. But if they only want something of you they’ll just act differently until they get what they want.
So men are just immature, game playing, using children. Got it!! Makes me no longer want to date.
I learned the hard way with that controlling mess. It turned out to be a 5yr nightmare, ya'll. I ended up (due to the stress of the relationship) losing the ability to walk or talk. While I was in the hospital he stood over me like he hated me! He even told me all the time how (not for me) hard it was on him. Mind you he was living in my house not paying any bills. Ladies, at that time I could'nt understand how I got there. But I know how I got out....GOD😆 It took hard work to learn how to talk and do everything all over again but I did. Man, I wish a buffoon would. I can promise you one thing. IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN AGAIN 😊
That's sooo sad😭 im glad u got out❤️
I never heard of anything like this happening. I’m so grateful to God you made it out and recovered!!! Did you wake up one day like that or did it happen gradually?
I too experienced a traumatic situationship from a man I met in church.. It was my fault because he told me who he was but I didn't take it seriously. I thought his candor was refreshing and told myself that we all have sinned and fallen short. I'm so grateful for God's love and deliverance. Worshipping God in Spirit and Truth is my focus now. Also examining and correcting my behavior so I can be pleasing and acceptable. I'm learning to love ultimately. 😊🙏
He might of been poisoning you. Lots of narcissist do that
God gave you an out. Thank God you took it. Hopefully you didn't have an children together.
Verbal abuse leads to physical abuse. Truth!
"Got to go!" Thats my mantra now.
I've started saying that phrase at least once a day!
Girl I’m which you!!!!!!!!!!!Got to go
Amen, am with you on that one also , got to go ! !
me2
"I owe a man nothing but kindness."
..I know that's right. You on point brother Tony.
People are just too dysfunctional out here. I’m done ✌🏾
Very!!!!!!😣😣
So true! 😞
Yes I will be single for a while. Too much stuff with these want to be grown men.
What you said.
So true ..too much who got time for the bs
Tony you broke it down exactly how it is. It starts off small and things get worst each time we don't check them. I am a living witness to that. Thanks for letting women know how it is out here.
The only thing a women has to do while dating is show kindness-Tony Gaskins
smile look and smell good 💥💥
Ms Heslop & it’s that simple 😉
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Him: What kind of man you looking for?
You: A good man, what's your definition of a good man?
Throw it back ladies 😉👍🏾
Even when being kind to a man, they mistake it for flirting..ridiculous. Had it happen to me time and time again..
Yesss me too
Yes that happened to me but l had to instill boundaries. After that they were more respectful than ever. Miss was my new name lol.
EVERYTIME Tony spins around in that chair, I already know it's about some foolishness!😂😂😂
Yes sir, men test all the time. And I test men, too!
Yep. trust but VERIFY
"...invasion of privacy...control...a lack of trust...a lack of agency..."
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I've been through this kind of stuff before, when I was younger. My ex-husband did all of this! I finally opened my eyes. Tony is so right. Now, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than be with a loser. Tony, your delivery is truthful and funny.
Exactly!
No Dutch, not coming to my place. No FaceTime and hardly any texting.
So true...especially on that texting. After the last one, no grown man can text me. If he can’t pick that phone up - it’s a no go.
@@lco09 I know that's right. You are too grown to be texting all of the time. He is hiding something. Then it's sad if he doesn't have his own place. He is a man
NaturalCurly Hair yes ma’am...I learned the hard way. But now I know better
FaceTime is good. Tony advocates for it, but if he’s doing it to see who’s around you, red flag.
He's gonna be a award winning actor like Denzel.....we don't want Denzel....we seen fences 😆
OmG I just watched Fences 2 or 3 days ago and I was in shock that he not only cheated on his wife once but had an affair and got the woman pregnant, even after his friend warned him not to do that. I could not believe that after flirting and playing with his wife so much he was actually cheating on her and expected his son to treat him like he had done no wrong. He should have apologised to his son for hurting his Mama and let the boy go play football.
I failed them ALL for real. I am more knowledgeable and skilled now. I did not know what to do. I stopped some though. The cussing was an absolute NO GO. My God!!!! Who does this? An abuser for sure. Thanks Tony
Is you finish or is you done? I hollered 😅🤣😁
Me, too!😂
Miki Cromartie 😆
🤣😂🤣Yes!!!😂🤣😂😂😂😂😆
Ok, so Tony is teaching and getting the women together, but who is teaching the fellas? This thing can't keep being imbalanced!!!
Well the fellas have to come and want to listen to knowledge too as well so it can't just be one-sided if a man knows that he needs to work on himself just like we're working on herself and giving ourselves self-love then they need to also do the same and work on their areas where they're fall short of it's called who will hear who will listen and who will obey it's called free will
@@teresafranklin5166 Of course it free will. But, like Tony is exercising his gift, there has to be someone that can use their gift for the fellas. So, fellas is you see this you can also listen to Pastor RC Blakes! He is the truth!
Best comment ever
@@windzhun9700 Thank you!
Check out RC Blake's videos. He addresses the men and how they should honor us. Excellent work.
This guy I met back in May was trying to be controlling by day 4. He was subtle with it at first. By day 5, I had to hang up in his face and block him completely because he showed me exactly who he was. He was a controlling, insecure, cheating mess who had nothing to offer. Learn the red flags and move on right away before you get involved with people.
Why people like that exist is messed up but do not all them to mess with us women
Omg! I was here listening to you and feeling sorry for myself for falling for the “tests” men put us through, when out of nowhere you said, a woman should say are you done? I think you better call Tony Gaskins... I lost it! I laughed so hard I starting crying and had to pause the video! 😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂 OMG! I needed a laugh today! You’re the best I swear! 😘
I love the way you show us how to respond lol
I have a cousin who's like this. She loves trashy dudes for some reason. She was not raised like that. She let one bum keep her car for so long, he started saying it was his car. She needed her car to take her kids somewhere & she had to beg the fool to bring her car back. Then he waited around until she was done so he could take off with her car again. I told her she was crazy, there is no way he would have gotten my car back (he wouldn't have had it to begin with). He would have been using his bare feet to get around.
Lol crazy !
Bare feet 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣👍
Your word is your bond.
Your videos have been such a blessing. I was not taught how to engage men intelligently. God bless.
Tony I m not a negative..person but to honest, the guys not made of steel today,most of them are afraid to express how they feel about a person they are interested in. Men have gotten so far away from dating a woman and having her interest, getting to know her, not sex her ..KNOW HER . WAIT FOR HER... Grown boys text all day....It really ashame and pathetic. Most of them can not communicate with a real queen.
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In 2020 they barely exist! We have been groomed and taught to be like queens and only to wait 30 years for a hot mess of a boy in man clothes. If they are not gay, bisexual, they are married or like little girls 18 and under and will walk by a real queen without hesitation.
💯💯💯💯💯💯 This social media has ruin the whole communication men and women barely talk don’t even know how to talk
God is so amazing! A guy I was dating didn't call me for 4 days. He said he was giving me space bc I was with family for the 4th holiday, but it was strange bc the last text I sent him was a question b4 his magic disappearance. He said exactly what Tony just said. I told him something just didn't feel right still & said good bye. He said I had the problem but we still parted ways.
Thank you for lightening up this dark subject with a little humor without denying its gravity.
Well said 👏💕
I usually don't respond, but Tony this message is in the top 3..i know you don't think you're funny, but this was hilarious..you are a natural communicator.. with a pastoral anointing. May the Lord continuously bless you and your family.
This is a serious topic but your reactions are so funny ! LOL. Definitely keeping this in mind. hmm.
I wish I knew about all this in high school you need to have a series some type of ministry for young girls because nobody teaches this!
My side hurts so bad from laughing!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂Wonderful, helpful information, notes taken!
It’s crazy.. bc I am that genuine female… everything hurts Tony. Makes me just want to crawl under a rock and never come out.
Tony..this video was so on point lol. These are the things I've noticed and DO NOT let slide. Then when you address them they want to gaslight you, when they realize you are hip to the manipulative games they play!! I let them have their little tantrum and hissy fit (that they like to throw 🙄)and I stick to my guns and I send them on their way. Men like this come in different ways but they all have the same subtle traits and characteristics you just have to pay close attention and refuse to get caught up in the toxic cycle.
The world is not your friend...it's up to you to protect yourself!
That part!
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Thank you...
Look out of the peephole for those unannounced, pop up visits! Turn up the t.v. volume and spin around in your chair!
🤣🤣🤣 love the imagery
Tony this is one of the best videos so far. My ex tested me to the fullest. Had all the signs of being a narcissist which I chose to ignore. The more I research the more I realize I was dealing with a narc for 3 years.
He broke me down and I am still struggling.
Us girls, women, ladies we really need to (if you are not already) focus on the little things that matter. When you are with someone who likes to argue, disagree or joke with you disrespectfully, break it off. That's enough right there to lose their number. It's time to get serious about your inner circle FOR REAL
"If Barack gat time for Michelle, he gat time for ya". Period.
Recently dated a guy who told me I dress like a hoe and should wear dresses for him instead. He said "Dressing like a hoe is not cute or attractive." I was wearing a sheer top with a bathing suit top under it and shorts because we were at the river and it was hot out. I asked my friends and family if I dress like a hoe and they all said no. He said "I was lenient about this in my last relationship but not anymore, just dressing for other men's attention." He said "Ive shown you examples of what I like but you want to dress the complete opposite." I started feeling so confused and self conscious about my clothing. He said "Your choice of clothing isnt the best and I say that meaningfully." I was so hurt I went out and bought a bunch of new clothes. He started saying other rude things to me and acting distant so I had to stop seeing him. Of course he moved on a couple days later to someone else and started liking all of her booty pics on instagram when he would tell me I shouldnt post pictures of me wearing tights because "one day you'll learn when you're older thats not ok." oh but his new girl can wear a revealing bikini and he'll like that picture? Oh ok.
Wow I’m so sorry. That guy is a pod. Never let a man tell you how to dress. If he don’t like it he can go bye.
"The phone lights up cause you starin' at it!"
Even when I checked him, as far as not disrespecting me & he would just yell louder, where my words never make it out of my mouth!
To the point of just silence & always wanted to be home, where I have peace!
See, I know when a man is playing games!
I was married to a master manipulator!
Me too covert narc😑
I'm a man and I like Tony Gaskins.
Yep men say certain things that they want but wont ask you, they waiting on you to offer...Im not offering nothing...If you need help with something ask and then Ill help ya but naw Im not im not offering nothing....For example his reference to her saying he can use her car, NOPE NOPE NOPE...
Right on Point.. this is the type of conversations our Dads should of had with us.. thank you .. thank you 🙏
I said the same thing yesterday to my sister like my dad suppose to tell me these things but you live and you learn
Exactly, amen.