I’m starting to believe this “ emotional unavailability “ is selective. They throw us in categories, and want what they want with little to no effort. We hold on to what they were in the beginning, trying to figure out what happened, trying to have that conversation, and being vulnerable . They are not emotionally available due to past trauma/hurt, yet triggering ours…
As a therapist, I recommend exiting these relationships and allowing licensed professionals to help people. We are each responsible for ourselves. I've been in this work long enough to tell you that you are not equipped to provide a person what we can only provide or ourselves when we are ready. Boundaries.
The hardest thing to do is to try to create that space and welcome in open, honest and effective communication with someone and they feel attacked or accuse you of complaining. They have no problem telling you their issue with you but when you communicate your feelings calmly and clearly it’s a problem! It’s exhausting and hurtful.
Why would u let someone talk about you and then you be quiet when you talk about him and he tells you not too. I know i wouldnt. Im matching energy period and im also willing to walk away
He just gave us a whole lot of work to do and them a whole lot of nothing. Pretty much what I heard is if you really like him then allow him to inflict his pain on you, take it with a smile, kind words and gestures in hopes that he will catch on and treat you better or show love and affection to you. NO THANKS!!!
No healthy, well balanced woman in her right mind would readily accept an emotionally unavailable man. You are inviting misery in the door. If they are ‘worth it’ 15:05 then there would have to be an upfront agreement that they would be willing to actively work to overcome that issue. Everyday. No one wants to spend time investing in a person that is not trustworthy. Mature people don’t want to go through drama and foolishness. Some people need professional help and there is no shame in that. I’m a safe place. It comes naturally but I’ve been so mishandled that my door has started closing. 🚪
I don’t deal. I walk away, give below the bare minimum when he starts reaching out again then I finally stop responding. Nobody has time to play with someone elses son.
OMG I'm saying I have a toddler and this is exactly what came to my mind. They're not men. They're childish. That's what's wrong with this generation of men. They are more sensitive than us 🤦🏾 we figure those kinds of things out on our own duh 😂
This video is catering to an emotionally unavailable man and trust. Been there done that! When a person(male/female) isn't ready. It makes getting to know that person on a deeper level extremely difficult. Everything you said, I did. I wasted almost a year with this person.
Great video. My relationship of five years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave, and I can't stop thinking about her. I love her so much, and I've tried everything to get her back, but nothing seems to work. I'm frustrated and feel like I can't picture my life with anyone else. I've made every effort to move on, but the thoughts of her keep overwhelming me. I don’t know why I'm sharing this, but I miss her deeply and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I can relate to your situation. My own 12-year relationship ended, and like you, I couldn't let go. I did everything I could to bring her back. Eventually, I sought help from a spiritual counselor who assisted me in reuniting with her.
I'm glad yall in the chat are smart enough to know better. I'm not saying this is bad advice I think he's probably right. I think alot of people in the chat have learned this type of toxic person is not worth the time, energy or the trauma they will cause in the process. I think the first part of the video is the most important part so much so that he said it twice.
I’m with you and it’s exhausting. Count the cost. Focusing on me. That’s why I walked away. Sounds like building a man who’s not willing to to the work or go to therapy. Jesus can fix him.
@@chinadoll534 this man will literally damage a whole community of women. He’ll turn around and say look at all these damaged women broken blk bitter women w/ daddy issues.
@@theselfcarecafe I’ve been thru it more than once. I know it will never work out. I have to do too much work. Relationship aren’t that hard. It’s not that I’m strong. I have to pray and ask the Lord for his strength because when I love someone I love them hard.
@@SistahJay27 I get what you're saying about loving someone hard~That is a quality of high value in your character but can seem like a curse when it is your love language. Balance is key. Give a little less at a time, and do not constantly 'pour'into others and allow others to reciprocate their appreciation of you in their own way. Patience and accepting realities always reveals true measurements of growth in relationships.
These actionable advices should have taken place with his parents when he was growing up. Now, as a grown man he cannot be re-raised. If he acknowledges his emotional unavailability and want the help, there's professionals that specialize in helping him achieve this new journey. Most women are not medically inclined to assist in these type of situations and will take on this process that will have a negative impact. As for this advice for women, brothers need to be better keepers to their brothers. They should reach one teach one.
I’m a one and done type of person…First lie, your out. First time your emotionally unavailable after an adequate amount of time-your out!! I’m too old and my life is too busy to deal with the resistance and I certainly don’t want anyone that isn’t emotionally well. Buddy, your either in or your out
Having been raised by an emotionally unavailable man and woman, and losing my best and child-bearing decades to hell's highway loop of emotionally unavailable partners, can I suggest to those watching this who have anything less than 10/10 mental and emotional health themselves, and several years to spare: Handle an emotionally unavailable man by saying a polite goodbye and good luck, and don't look back.
Great information, but it is exhausting, like trying to pull teeth. I am going through that now, and it's draining my energy . What about me and my feelings? It's time for me to walk away. Love him from a far.
You are better than that 💕 you need to love yourself don't let no one hurt or drain you I just sent lil boy on his way few days ago and I didn't look back...he was draining me didn't know who he wanted or if he wanted to work or love or be rejected
Men are very stubborn even though they probably won't say it with words. They will make it a game ( because their ego loves competition ) and it will be just enough to keep you from walking away each time.
I didnt look for this video it just showed up. I didnt listen to this video but I'm here to answer the question with 100% guaranteed results!!!! HERE IS HOW TO HANDLE UNAVAILABLE MEN........DONT! LEAVE THEM ALONE. RUN! YOU WILL BE HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS LEAVING THEM TO THEIR OWN PROBLEMS.
Looks like a large number of people in the world are emotionally unavailable. If we only acknowledge that. Instead of looking for the perfect person both men amd women should communicate openly instead of going into a relationship walking on eggshells and having to deal with the burden of dishing out therapy. Lots of people have experienced some form of trauma in their life. Relationships are meant to be good and not for struggle.
With God on my side .. Trust me ive strength on the inside to handle these guys now. Am not trya fix nothing. Am just gonna hold unti my Saviour until he heals me out of this mess i put myself in. As i heal hes bringing me into the woman that i need to be. So ill count it all joy .. because my whole life I encountered these type of guys. So now nomore broken men or broken relationship for me. But I know and learn and still learning what healthy love and a healthy man is like now. So ladies grow. Fix your crown cause you are coming out whole , healthy and healed.. your king is waiting. ... Thsnk God for the learning experience and let God be your guide for the next Chapter and journey of your life. It will be hard at first because we are so use to the familiar. Dont fight the process . Just embrace it. Its all about the mindset. Accept the person for who they are and move forward in baby steps. You will come out.. Shalom
Thanks for sharing this interesting perspective coach Ken, it's very valuable perspective and it's worth to think about it. But my perspective is i can't agree less. Because we need to pay attention to personality and character then understand what kind of trauma he had and finally accept person as he is. And be prepared that he will never accept you for who you are as he will always feel inadequate for what ever reasons. So my perspective there is no good or bad man only man who either has trauma or not. If he has trauma he needs to heal it. And to heal wounds he needs to communicate because healing starts when we talk about trauma and others listen to us not hearing us, Listening to us and we start to connecting so we can find forgiveness to our self but not to forget otherwise we didn't learned lessons. But if is someone emotionally unavailable he can't speak about trauma even if you form safe space why simply because of trust issue that is very hard to rebuild if you are silent so each of these things links eachother. In my opinion we should start with active listening of such man and step by step gain trust and then create safe space so person can start speak about particular trauma. Otherwise unhealed trauma especially childhood trauma such as complex PTSD (losses of parents or siblings) it is equivalent to horror stories. Because such pent-up emotions can be easily expressed in adults as sadistic, masochistic or psychopathic behaviour. Once again thank you for sharing this interesting video it is very kind of you but my perspective please be careful.🙏
They’d likely say the same about you 😂. The majority of men are not shown how to process their emotions in a healthy way. Women also. Compassion is key. Passion is one sided Compassion is selfless.
So why bother someone's precious life, only to put this great person under your calculated mind? This man acts like he's emotionally attached to his job and phone. What the hell am I to do when his choice is to become unavailable attached me? 😢 leave him to WHAT HE'S ATTACHED TO. RUN 🏃♀️
I came to this video because me and my boyfriend are emotionally unavailable to each other i have to take baby steps telling him stuff too because i have a mental health condition i can't share everything but keeping my therapist routine for my mental health has paid off for me but we both are still broken people going through battles and storms individually giving each other space helps a lot neither of us want to agrue with each other we just trying to be each other peace we both have been through so much in our lives individually..
Not worth it….dealing with this now…he can’t let me in only so far YET he takes me around his whole family I spend time with his Momma…after Thanksgiving together I QUIT💯
Im getting to kno a E.U man. He lost his parent and i understand that. Previous relationships.. yet. I have a life, I don’t make him the center of it, i have my own interests. Im not waiting around hanging on every word. We are all fuced up out here. Im not perfect, i have my own trauma ive just gotten therapy for it so….. yah, i talk to other guys, just talking and dating no intimacy so time has passed and he has gotten better. He solid though so im tryna see where this goes. Ive showed him who i was by how i move. He shares things, i share things,
Correct me if I’m wrong but emotional availability stems from having emotional intelligence… allowing yourself to feel things and understanding what you’re feeling. A lot of it also comes from that particular persons upbringing to. My partner’s family struggle to empathise with people and they use negativity as to their personal lives and find humour in every situation even when it’s time to be serious about a situation ,Hence I feel he got it from the upbringing. It is now affecting him being an expressive and passionate partner and father. Iv never seen my partner hugging our son randomly as a form of expression and appreciation.. it’s painful to see on my end. This is affecting our relationship moving forward. I’m not sure if I can hold on too long.
too exhausting and draining!!! while am trying fix him, am definitely gonna get crushed. Only if the guy is be WILLING and acknowledges that he is emotionally unavailable. Once he identifies this , MAYBE we both can work at it.
Great content! From my personal case studies unfortunately, we are as women are dealing with an emotional deficiency when it comes to acknowledgement. This mix with an emotional close minded man simply just has no real room for growth.
Unfortunately, for many, they in denial and also, it's taboo for them, to seek counseling! Men are in denial about seeking counseling 😅😅😅. Women are far better at getting help ❤
That immature man needs a therapist only. That would be too much energy wasted, time wasted, sleep wasted etc.....4 mins in and I'm out. Lady if you feel like going through all of this you need to focus on being strong mentally and self love
Im cautious with the help him improve shyt. Unless he my husband. Like, ill do the bare minimum cause u kno, im not building him up for next chick. I’ll go full throttle with my husband though cause then his improvement will trickle down to me
If you are trying to connect with emotionally unavailable men, consider looking at your own codependent patterns, do you want to fix him? Do the work on yourself first so you can identify the unhealthy patterns.
I thought this would call them out to grow up and man up and balls down on their little issues. It's NOT our job. Mommy failed, oh well, we figure it out so do the same. Out of billions, there are some healed mature men out here 🤷🏾♂️👋
That's totally inaccurate. There are emotionally unavailable men and women. You must consider why they are that way and encourage healing or therapy for attachment style. You don't discard people
@@CoachKenCanionoh yes you do dispose of people and the man that you described in this video, you dispose of him quick, fast and in a hurry! It’s either you or him in most of these cases. I suggest choosing YOU.
The title says how to handle an emotional man, and it didn't say change or fix a man. Not everyone wants to change the other person. Just a bit more openness. Communication is the key to a happy relationship and if it's too much , then move on. If not stay, work it out.
I feel that women who say don't bother wid men like this are lazy. We are all emotionally unavailable sometimes. It's called life. If this man means a lot to you, then work wid him to be emotionally available.
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I’m starting to believe this “ emotional unavailability “ is selective. They throw us in categories, and want what they want with little to no effort. We hold on to what they were in the beginning, trying to figure out what happened, trying to have that conversation, and being vulnerable . They are not emotionally available due to past trauma/hurt, yet triggering ours…
...yet another factual, intelligent point by a woman who is neither slooow, or slippin on her self awareness and self love. Thanks Sis!
Facts! 🔥🔥🔥
True story! You said it perfectly 👌🏼💯
He will harm you while you’re trying to help him heal…been there done that!💯 and ONCE he is healed he will leave you for someone else.
Been there done that ❤
Yes he will leave you once you've fixed him .never try to fixt a duck legs,once fixed he will fly away to another option.❤❤
Y7p nc he was never emo invested. Its a waste of time for a woman. Shes shooting herself in the foot there is ROI for her here
Yes. Never again
I don’t have time!!! Doing the work on YOURSELF is your responsibility. Use emotional intelligence ladies!
As a therapist, I recommend exiting these relationships and allowing licensed professionals to help people. We are each responsible for ourselves. I've been in this work long enough to tell you that you are not equipped to provide a person what we can only provide or ourselves when we are ready. Boundaries.
Exactly.
I agree with you
Boundaries. Now that is an interesting word.
Yes I don’t have time. Why bother me if you’re emotionally unavailable? Leave me be.
The hardest thing to do is to try to create that space and welcome in open, honest and effective communication with someone and they feel attacked or accuse you of complaining. They have no problem telling you their issue with you but when you communicate your feelings calmly and clearly it’s a problem! It’s exhausting and hurtful.
Why would u let someone talk about you and then you be quiet when you talk about him and he tells you not too. I know i wouldnt. Im matching energy period and im also willing to walk away
@ exactly. I walked away. It’s not my responsibility to heal anyone other then me
I like that!
I feel like a person like that is with because he can't be with the one he really wants to be with. Walk away. Being alone isn't so bad
Facts
He just gave us a whole lot of work to do and them a whole lot of nothing. Pretty much what I heard is if you really like him then allow him to inflict his pain on you, take it with a smile, kind words and gestures in hopes that he will catch on and treat you better or show love and affection to you. NO THANKS!!!
'us' who? 'them' who?
Don’t help him,help yourself to another healthy relationship
Well said❤
No healthy, well balanced woman in her right mind would readily accept an emotionally unavailable man. You are inviting misery in the door. If they are ‘worth it’ 15:05 then there would have to be an upfront agreement that they would be willing to actively work to overcome that issue. Everyday. No one wants to spend time investing in a person that is not trustworthy. Mature people don’t want to go through drama and foolishness. Some people need professional help and there is no shame in that. I’m a safe place. It comes naturally but I’ve been so mishandled that my door has started closing. 🚪
This man out here coaching women to accept this. What a mess. He prolly one of them and gaslighting women to put up with this crap.🤡
My story!!
So it turns out I have to make him my project, become his therapist and fix what the ex or his mother did to him...nah, I'll pass.
Exactly. Why don’t they make videos speaking to men ?
This is why healing thyself first, before getting into any relationship, is very important. Work on self first.
I don’t deal. I walk away, give below the bare minimum when he starts reaching out again then I finally stop responding. Nobody has time to play with someone elses son.
I'm done. 2025 is about me!!!!
Me toooooooo!!!!
How to handle emotionally unavailable men: DON’T
Run swim cycle fly ...catch anything with a one-way ticket
Exactly 😂😂😂
Exactly 💯! Alot of his advice is insane. But if his wife like it, we love it. Beware of false prophets
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Exactly!! if someone avoidant /emotionally unavailable , they need therapy and Jesus not a romantic relationship
It sounds like gentle parenting to a toddler.
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Right...Ridiculous
OMG I'm saying I have a toddler and this is exactly what came to my mind. They're not men. They're childish. That's what's wrong with this generation of men. They are more sensitive than us 🤦🏾 we figure those kinds of things out on our own duh 😂
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These beings will drain the hell out of you and have you questioning your own sanity.
This video is catering to an emotionally unavailable man and trust. Been there done that! When a person(male/female) isn't ready. It makes getting to know that person on a deeper level extremely difficult. Everything you said, I did. I wasted almost a year with this person.
Try wasting ten.
Great video. My relationship of five years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave, and I can't stop thinking about her. I love her so much, and I've tried everything to get her back, but nothing seems to work. I'm frustrated and feel like I can't picture my life with anyone else. I've made every effort to move on, but the thoughts of her keep overwhelming me. I don’t know why I'm sharing this, but I miss her deeply and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I can relate to your situation. My own 12-year relationship ended, and like you, I couldn't let go. I did everything I could to bring her back. Eventually, I sought help from a spiritual counselor who assisted me in reuniting with her.
That’s amazing. How did you find this spiritual counselor, and how can I contact him?
His name is Fatherabulu. He has remarkable powers and can help you too.
Thank you for sharing this! I just looked him up online and I'm really impressed.
Be careful their are scammers out there who will play weakness@@BenjaminJones-re8re
Advice starts at 7:22. Thank you 🙏🏽
I'm glad yall in the chat are smart enough to know better. I'm not saying this is bad advice I think he's probably right. I think alot of people in the chat have learned this type of toxic person is not worth the time, energy or the trauma they will cause in the process. I think the first part of the video is the most important part so much so that he said it twice.
We both failed miserably. I repent and wish him all the best.❤
I’m with you and it’s exhausting. Count the cost. Focusing on me. That’s why I walked away. Sounds like building a man who’s not willing to to the work or go to therapy. Jesus can fix him.
@SistahJay27. Word. 💯
@@chinadoll534 this man will literally damage a whole community of women. He’ll turn around and say look at all these damaged women broken blk bitter women w/ daddy issues.
@@theselfcarecafe I’ve been thru it more than once. I know it will never work out. I have to do too much work. Relationship aren’t that hard. It’s not that I’m strong. I have to pray and ask the Lord for his strength because when I love someone I love them hard.
@@SistahJay27 I get what you're saying about loving someone hard~That is a quality of high value in your character but can seem like a curse when it is your love language. Balance is key. Give a little less at a time, and do not constantly 'pour'into others and allow others to reciprocate their appreciation of you in their own way. Patience and accepting realities always reveals true measurements of growth in relationships.
Best thing is to ignore him….leave him right there….
The intro tho set the tone 😂
Had me clutching my pearls and rolling my eyes but yet still tuning in 😂
😂😂😂 thanks
These actionable advices should have taken place with his parents when he was growing up. Now, as a grown man he cannot be re-raised. If he acknowledges his emotional unavailability and want the help, there's professionals that specialize in helping him achieve this new journey. Most women are not medically inclined to assist in these type of situations and will take on this process that will have a negative impact. As for this advice for women, brothers need to be better keepers to their brothers. They should reach one teach one.
With so many men in this world, ain't nobody got time for that!
Honestly, i can't participate in this foolery Coach.
Run...don't walk...
I’m a one and done type of person…First lie, your out. First time your emotionally unavailable after an adequate amount of time-your out!! I’m too old and my life is too busy to deal with the resistance and I certainly don’t want anyone that isn’t emotionally well. Buddy, your either in or your out
Having been raised by an emotionally unavailable man and woman, and losing my best and child-bearing decades to hell's highway loop of emotionally unavailable partners, can I suggest to those watching this who have anything less than 10/10 mental and emotional health themselves, and several years to spare: Handle an emotionally unavailable man by saying a polite goodbye and good luck, and don't look back.
I just ended a relationship with a man that did everything you said to me.
I agree and this could not have arrived in my life at a better time ❤
Great information, but it is exhausting, like trying to pull teeth. I am going through that now, and it's draining my energy . What about me and my feelings? It's time for me to walk away. Love him from a far.
Right there with ya sis.
I just did this could not take I any more
You are better than that 💕 you need to love yourself don't let no one hurt or drain you I just sent lil boy on his way few days ago and I didn't look back...he was draining me didn't know who he wanted or if he wanted to work or love or be rejected
Men are very stubborn even though they probably won't say it with words. They will make it a game ( because their ego loves competition ) and it will be just enough to keep you from walking away each time.
Pulling teeth.. I say this all the time. I’m emotionally drained😢
I didnt look for this video it just showed up. I didnt listen to this video but I'm here to answer the question with 100% guaranteed results!!!!
HERE IS HOW TO HANDLE UNAVAILABLE MEN........DONT! LEAVE THEM ALONE. RUN! YOU WILL BE HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS LEAVING THEM TO THEIR OWN PROBLEMS.
This is useful for my meeting next week with my avoidant friend 😮
I will support a person who wants to grow and work on self thats it
Thank you so much, I'm glad to know at least I'm on the right path. I just need to continue the work. Thanks again!
Looks like a large number of people in the world are emotionally unavailable. If we only acknowledge that. Instead of looking for the perfect person both men amd women should communicate openly instead of going into a relationship walking on eggshells and having to deal with the burden of dishing out therapy.
Lots of people have experienced some form of trauma in their life. Relationships are meant to be good and not for struggle.
With God on my side .. Trust me ive strength on the inside to handle these guys now. Am not trya fix nothing. Am just gonna hold unti my Saviour until he heals me out of this mess i put myself in. As i heal hes bringing me into the woman that i need to be. So ill count it all joy .. because my whole life I encountered these type of guys. So now nomore broken men or broken relationship for me. But I know and learn and still learning what healthy love and a healthy man is like now. So ladies grow. Fix your crown cause you are coming out whole , healthy and healed.. your king is waiting. ... Thsnk God for the learning experience and let God be your guide for the next Chapter and journey of your life. It will be hard at first because we are so use to the familiar. Dont fight the process . Just embrace it. Its all about the mindset. Accept the person for who they are and move forward in baby steps. You will come out.. Shalom
Thought we were supposed to avoid them...and NOT try to "handle" them😂
This was RIGHT on time.... I almost messed things up!!! ❤ Thanks for this video! Please teach more on This subject!😊
Thanks for sharing this interesting perspective coach Ken, it's very valuable perspective and it's worth to think about it. But my perspective is i can't agree less. Because we need to pay attention to personality and character then understand what kind of trauma he had and finally accept person as he is. And be prepared that he will never accept you for who you are as he will always feel inadequate for what ever reasons. So my perspective there is no good or bad man only man who either has trauma or not. If he has trauma he needs to heal it. And to heal wounds he needs to communicate because healing starts when we talk about trauma and others listen to us not hearing us, Listening to us and we start to connecting so we can find forgiveness to our self but not to forget otherwise we didn't learned lessons. But if is someone emotionally unavailable he can't speak about trauma even if you form safe space why simply because of trust issue that is very hard to rebuild if you are silent so each of these things links eachother. In my opinion we should start with active listening of such man and step by step gain trust and then create safe space so person can start speak about particular trauma. Otherwise unhealed trauma especially childhood trauma such as complex PTSD (losses of parents or siblings) it is equivalent to horror stories. Because such pent-up emotions can be easily expressed in adults as sadistic, masochistic or psychopathic behaviour. Once again thank you for sharing this interesting video it is very kind of you but my perspective please be careful.🙏
I am so so so grateful for hearing this FIRST!
You're in the right place, I'm glad you're here.
KEEP WALKING PAST THEM🤣🤣🤣🤣 DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME TOO TOXIC 🤷🏾♀️
They’d likely say the same about you 😂.
The majority of men are not shown how to process their emotions in a healthy way. Women also.
Compassion is key.
Passion is one sided
Compassion is selfless.
@allisawright7042 Absolutely correct 💯 WALK away fast & never look back🤷🏾♀️
This video came right on time!
so glad to hear, thanks for watching
Leave them be, and RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN , and don't look back, its a Gods Send in the End, youll see 😢😢❤😅😅😅❤ Always love you first 🥇
Let his mama deal with em I'm done with boys 🤦♀️ 😂
How to handle ? Just leave sister !
I’m am so happy I found you. I love the way you explain things. Thank you
You don’t handle him, you just leave him alone and move Tf on. Stop wasting your years on these broken men
So why bother someone's precious life, only to put this great person under your calculated mind? This man acts like he's emotionally attached to his job and phone. What the hell am I to do when his choice is to become unavailable attached me? 😢 leave him to WHAT HE'S ATTACHED TO. RUN 🏃♀️
I came to this video because me and my boyfriend are emotionally unavailable to each other i have to take baby steps telling him stuff too because i have a mental health condition i can't share everything but keeping my therapist routine for my mental health has paid off for me but we both are still broken people going through battles and storms individually giving each other space helps a lot neither of us want to agrue with each other we just trying to be each other peace we both have been through so much in our lives individually..
What about when you did this and he weaponizes the things you told him about you against you?
Not worth it….dealing with this now…he can’t let me in only so far YET he takes me around his whole family I spend time with his Momma…after Thanksgiving together I QUIT💯
Respect him thats all... it should come easy with his actions over time
Im getting to kno a E.U man. He lost his parent and i understand that. Previous relationships.. yet. I have a life, I don’t make him the center of it, i have my own interests. Im not waiting around hanging on every word. We are all fuced up out here. Im not perfect, i have my own trauma ive just gotten therapy for it so….. yah, i talk to other guys, just talking and dating no intimacy so time has passed and he has gotten better. He solid though so im tryna see where this goes. Ive showed him who i was by how i move. He shares things, i share things,
So you’re ok with being just Friends?
Stop trying to fix it or change each other...Amen
Wow I wish these types of conversations were available to me 50 years ago 😅😂😂😂😂
Correct me if I’m wrong but emotional availability stems from having emotional intelligence… allowing yourself to feel things and understanding what you’re feeling. A lot of it also comes from that particular persons upbringing to.
My partner’s family struggle to empathise with people and they use negativity as to their personal lives and find humour in every situation even when it’s time to be serious about a situation ,Hence I feel he got it from the upbringing. It is now affecting him being an expressive and passionate partner and father. Iv never seen my partner hugging our son randomly as a form of expression and appreciation.. it’s painful to see on my end. This is affecting our relationship moving forward. I’m not sure if I can hold on too long.
too exhausting and draining!!! while am trying fix him, am definitely gonna get crushed. Only if the guy is be WILLING and acknowledges that he is emotionally unavailable. Once he identifies this , MAYBE we both can work at it.
Leave him and move on, you're not the one
Great content! From my personal case studies unfortunately, we are as women are dealing with an emotional deficiency when it comes to acknowledgement. This mix with an emotional close minded man simply just has no real room for growth.
Very good advice.,Thank you! 😊
I don’t have any patience for this. I myself, use the walk away and leave method-do I have the issues 😅
How about they go for therapy like some of us who did when we went through trauma?
Unfortunately, for many, they in denial and also, it's taboo for them, to seek counseling! Men are in denial about seeking counseling 😅😅😅.
Women are far better at getting help ❤
If you are emotionally unavailable then why would I waste my time with you? Go work on yourself. I am not about t waste my time with this sort of man
That immature man needs a therapist only. That would be too much energy wasted, time wasted, sleep wasted etc.....4 mins in and I'm out. Lady if you feel like going through all of this you need to focus on being strong mentally and self love
People have to want to be helped and do the work.
Thank you! , blessings 🫶🏻
Draining 😢
Just wish my person will be upfront instead of shutting down!
Im cautious with the help him improve shyt. Unless he my husband. Like, ill do the bare minimum cause u kno, im not building him up for next chick. I’ll go full throttle with my husband though cause then his improvement will trickle down to me
Thisssss 🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾
Great 🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥
thanks for watching
Thanks coach ❤️
Any time!
I understand exactly what you’re saying did deeper
I needed that. 😂😂😂
Yeah and after you show him all this. He leaves you for the next one.
Thank you so much. This is on time.
So glad to hear that, thanks for watching.
Thank you Coach!
My pleasure!
This is good stuff. ❤
Leave and never look back again!!!!!
If you are trying to connect with emotionally unavailable men, consider looking at your own codependent patterns, do you want to fix him? Do the work on yourself first so you can identify the unhealthy patterns.
I thought this would call them out to grow up and man up and balls down on their little issues. It's NOT our job. Mommy failed, oh well, we figure it out so do the same. Out of billions, there are some healed mature men out here 🤷🏾♂️👋
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@CoachKenCanion -Thank you!!
If he don't acknowledge he is unavailable emotionally. Well once a cheater always a cheater.
Interesting! Sir
It’s hard and I mean very hard
These people need to be left alone cos they don't appreciate anything good period
Thanks for the insight.
You know, I'm litening because he told me that he is emotionaly unaveable, but I'm finding out that I'm emotionally unaveable.
NO! NO! NO! Sir you not suppose to encourage us to try anything with emotionally unavailable man!
That's totally inaccurate. There are emotionally unavailable men and women. You must consider why they are that way and encourage healing or therapy for attachment style. You don't discard people
@@CoachKenCanionoh yes you do dispose of people and the man that you described in this video, you dispose of him quick, fast and in a hurry! It’s either you or him in most of these cases. I suggest choosing YOU.
Story of my life 😢 just left him
The title says how to handle an emotional man, and it didn't say change or fix a man.
Not everyone wants to change the other person. Just a bit more openness. Communication is the key to a happy relationship and if it's too much , then move on. If not stay, work it out.
I feel that women who say don't bother wid men like this are lazy. We are all emotionally unavailable sometimes. It's called life. If this man means a lot to you, then work wid him to be emotionally available.
Step 1: Don't .
Previous Levels of Trauma.. ❤
Is it possible to RECREATE a safe space after you messed up?
Thanks sir
You're welcome!
RUN 🏃
Get away and *stay* away from an unavailable man, emotionally or otherwise. They’re a complete waste of time. 👋🏾
This channel and this video are not for us, ladies. If a man is emotionally unavailable, *why* is not your problem. RUN! And don’t look back. 🏃🏽♀️
Nope. Not worth it.
I use to be just like this