A lot of men admit that. Especially men who work in studying relationships. Dr. Gottman said that the world is more dangerous for women and the incels got mad at him for it. If you read about marriage studies and articles by psyche professionals, they all say the same thing. The men tend to be emotionally disconnected.
Men spend too much time defining how a woman should be e.g. cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids, satisfying their man at will, (whether or not a woman doesn't feel like it)...all the while the men aren't honoring their role in the relationship e.g. lying, cheating, being abusive.
You are soo right but they want to be catered to. Like they listen to destiny child cater to you but only the chorus 😂 cause they couldn’t understand what Beyonce was saying. Dudes she’s reciprocating his energy.
It's called narcissism. It's hard to find a man that is balanced either they're whining about something, or mean, arrogant, or abusive. You are so right about how men operate, its even worse when they get a couple more dollars than they had before.
I had to block 🚫 this guy who said he was interested in me. I sent him a video, and he spazzed out on me instead of explaining himself in a direct but respectful way. In the dating stages, if a person is rude or disrespectful in the beginning, most likely they will continue.
Women need to understand this… Even if a man is in a relationship with you, that doesn’t mean that he likes you and respects you. A man will sleep with you and benefit from being with you without liking or respecting you. These same men who talk trash about you in a barber shop, will come home to you. Please take those rose colored glasses off and enter into relationships with logic, like entering a business tbh.
I’m convinced many men don’t like the woman they’re with but women come with perks/ benefits. We are the life source so it’s hard for them to just be alone, be celibate, and on their own until they meet the woman they want
I didn't know that a military technique of isolation was prevalent in intimate relationships until Christian radio started to speak on 'stonewalling' a person. That is what you just described! Many wealthy women settle for this lifestyle. Now, we know that all demographics of people experience all levels of abuse. With or without the money factor.
Sadly…. im in my 20s and already clocked out on relationships. Im tired of being bullied my whole life by men, family or romantic… Im not cut out for the games being played today and I admit Im too soft and love myself too much to be used and not seen as a human. I guess I allowed too much…. Hopefully someone else can win that war
Same. I am tired of being abused by men in relationships, in friendships, and at work because of their ego and insecurity. I have to admit after I stopped dealing with men and my mental health improved DRAMATICALLY. The only man I like being around is my father 😂
: We as humans have to keep in mind that the world as we knew it is gone! Tip toe in society, tip toe at home, it's exhausting! The sense of entitlement entitlement is at an all time high! Satan is running amuck! This is the time like never before to get, and keep a deeper, more profound relationship with GOD! We need GOD more than ever right now!!!❤😢
Most men don't understand that Intimacy is not sex.... intimacy is the ability to be vulnerable with someone and to trust that person will not destroy you in the process.
I started talking to a guy...we are in getting to know phase. Have gone out a few times, nothing more, just a hug at end of date. On my bday I went to the art museum and lunch and shopping by myself (it was a weekday so friends at work). A message came in from him and I thought how nice, he must be sending happy bday. I opened it and he said, you had better not be out ef%^ing another guy!!! I was absolutely paralyzed hurt and stunned! I told him off and cried becuz I was so hurt to be accused of such behavior. Needless to say Im done with this controlling monster!!!
Wow, if he popped off like that in the beginning stages, I can only imagine what he'd be like later down the road.. Men like him think women are their private property ...utterly disgusting
Tony I am so glad you spoke on this. I was in a 7 year relationship that ended in 2023. The farther along the relationship we got the meaner he got. I couldn't understand where it was coming from. Thank you! 🙏🏿
Wow Tony! I’m so glad you mentioned this. My mom and I went to a church for a few months last year and the pastor literally said in the pulpit to us during the sermon: “I want to talk about giving. If God ain’t never done nothing for you then don’t give.” I could instantly see it as manipulation but what scared me was that so many people in the congregation didn’t see that they were being manipulated.
That's why I have no issue having a few choice words for man out if he disrespects me. They need to be humbled. Insecure men needs multiple women to validate them. I don't compete with no one but myself and seek my own validation within myself.
Lets get to the "root" of the real problem. The real problem is there are many women and men that have unresolved childhood trauma and neglect. Not only that people dont know who they really are inside. We wont talk about the smoking and drinking to go on top of what i just said. Its exactly how 2 fkkd up people end up with each other. I dont care how well put together you are on the "outside." Work on your mind and get to the bottom of it. It aint always just the other person. It's easy to put it on someone else though to relieve yourself of any accountability.
@@Erik7prc: Exactly. One is the "aggressor", the other one "enables". There's no common ground, hence lack of profound communication. The loud, or/and sense of entitlement is off the charts. Brokeness is truly at an all time high!
Very well said. Too many broken people out there desperately looking for somewhere else to dump their trash. If you're a person who has done tremendous amounts of work on your mind and spirit, it goes without saying that you have to be EXTREMELY selective with who you let into your energy field. Don't play about with your wellbeing, don't let trash destroy your peace of mind.
You ain't never lied!!!! My ex mom was the whole issue omg ..he used to cry about her how she did him...never again and I tried to comfort and pray 🙏 for him..nothing worked and then he gave me hell the entire 4 years 😢
Thats why our Pastor tells us as Christians m.the more God elevates you. The more you go down on your knees. In humble submission. To stay humble and not get puffed up. God hates pride
Tony I was once the person that said you was bragging but NO now I feel differently. You are working hard to help women and get the message out there and that is a awesome thing when a man can give up the game and speak the total truth. The way you tell a story is often times funny as well. It's like giving truth serum with a lil laughter. But it truly help women of all ages all races and at the end of the day there is nobody else on the internet can speak the truth and give up the knowledge that you have. God bless you and your wife.
A lot of times women are seeking closure and would request coaching after years of not being in a relationship because of being in an abusive or Narcissistic relationship and they will never and can’t receive closure from a narcissist because they will never give closure because it’s not in they’re nature and this is the reason some women seek to receive closure even after so many years through coaching, this has been the case for me and why I listen to you and other channels. I commend you for sharing your gift and helping others through your videos, it has definitely helped me, thank you so much. God Bless you Tony!
Men and women alike need to seek God and allow him to heal them so they can show up in relationships healed whole and their authentic selves. Period! Men and women alike….their representatives show up, stop it find out who you are, when you know who you are you know who aligns with you and who does not! Spend some time with God and being by yourself for a while, and please present yourself as being a friend first…..that friendship is everything. Imagine being able to marry and be with your best friend.♥️ Blessings! 🌸
I learned this the hard way. My mom passed recently & my ex tried his best to gaslight me & make it seem abnormal to grieve the death of a parent. Just completely demonic! I’m still in shock because I now have to grieve the loss of 2 relationships that ended suddenly. I don’t wish this pain on no one! This video came on time. Thank you Tony! 🫶🏾
Keep praying and get grief counseling for the loss of your mother. She is at peace now. And- Thank God Mr. showed you his true character b4 you lost more time. Move on with your Life and block him forever!
@@prettylittleliar7311both of your parents. That must be real hard. Lost my father and grandfather. Im @ my mums now dont know what id do without her.Sorry 4 your loss❤
Tell it!! It's an expectation to be served by a women. They don't want to serve a women in a way she wants. A giver must also receive, otherwise they are empty. Men then focus on what their not getting rather than trying to uncover the needs of their women.
Mr, Gaskins, thank you for being so transparent. For a man to be so humble that he's able to shine light on a situation that millions of other men out right refuse to acknowledge or are incapable of seeing the truth showes the honorable intentions, and is truly an example of a truely masculine man of God. You have validated the reality of countless women, and by doing so have healed any trauma that was a result of the men they loved so deeply who were unwilling to believe they were responsible for the breakdown of their marriage, simply because the woman had decided that she had no choice but to leave. Thank you, and bless your family.
My grandpa told me that he moved to Missouri because of a promotion, and he did it because he felt “needed” and important. Not necessarily because it was what his family needed. I don’t know if it caused any relationship issues. But he was a genuine, humble man of God and married to my grandma until the end. I miss him a lot 😢
I am a witness to exactly what are speaking about Tony. I saw my children's father become a Military superstar crash and burn because of ego. The seed may have already been there as you said but he could not handle it and his life is still sad. Ego, meanness, cruelty and now a reprobate mind has consumed him. After 30 years it was too much to take.
very true. i have a colleague, young black female who has been in an exec position and she is still not able to cope with the work/demands. not everybody can breathe at thin air levels that's why you gotta take your time in the climb.
01:19:17 YES! I'm experiencing this now with my husband unfortunately. Even my Dad pointed it out. It's sad how a season of this can ruin years of building. I'm praying for positive change but I'm 🤏🏾 this close to getting my Letoya Luckett on...
I left my ex husband and he tells me every time we alone that he would leave his girl in a heart beat to come back, it sounds good but the actions show otherwise
Then he will tell some other woman that he would leave you in a heartbeat for the chance to be with them. Just leave these men to themselves. They are tiring and draining.
Mr, Gaskins! I already mentioned ur name to my husband! Haha my bad! I told him about how much I learned from u over the years, and that I know about the games that men play. Be blessed Sir! Much love always to u from the Netherlands🇳🇱
It was odd to me that he named his top 3 priorities and his wife was not there. So she's 4th on the list? How is hanging out with your friends higher on the list than your wife and you 60 somethin years old? No wonder she feels neglected smh.
neglect is a form of abuse. imagine feeling neglected for decades? i'm sure she has told him thousands times how she felt but he didn't do anything about it
I think that’s why it’s so important we make sure we emphasize that someone has value bc God made them. Not bc of anything they have or do. So when I’m sad or when I’m serving someone it’s not bc of their status but bc God has an upside down kingdom
This is what ended my now 2-year relationship a week ago for the I don't what number time. His God like complex,and constant making me feel he is superior to me and God favors man over woman! It is so heart breaking because I love him and spiritual manipulation attempts and meanness I just can't break through with him!! We have prayed, and I pray for him. We have been to church. Nothing is breaking this spirit or holding over him!😢😢😢
Good for you for loving yourself more than him even though it may hurt so bad. You are better than me, I spent 10 years wasting my time and praying for him/us. Meanwhile god was telling me to let him go. Since, then I have lost 50 pounds and no my life isn’t perfect but having to deal with a meanie is draining.
Thank you Tony for clarifying your statement with the actual Bible Scripture. I can see your Spiritual growth being shown in REAL TIME. Your "Fruit" IS Showing Brother! May God Continue to BLESS you and your Family!🙏💜
This title...😂😂😂 hilarious...I saw your answer in the comments👌🏽💯 So glad you mentioned the term fan...I detest this word...It's idolatry & dishonoring to the MOST HIGH👑 male preachers use that language ALL the time: "If this word has blessed you, sow a seed accordingly" or "don't rob God"😤🤨🤔
Excellent video. I’m withdrawing from men who want me to be sweet as pie and talk nice to them while they come off to me however and make an excuse for doing so. Thank God I’m not like these irsty females out here. I’m good by myself. If I can make myself happy then why would I let someone who is battling their own demons come and disturb that? Knowing how to make yourself happy FIRST helps you get over people who couldn’t reciprocate that a whole lot quicker!!! Like lil boy I don’t even have to accept this bare minimum when it’s men out here who will do that and then a lot more. A man that I had let go of that was too old for me in my eyes showed me how a man who is really interested in you would be if it’s real and now it’s not hard for me to spot when a man is faking. I guess we’ll both be faking then 😂 CAUSE I KNOW!!! 😮
: My peace was/is GOD giving, a gift! WHY would I throw GOD'S "gift" back in HIS face just to make someone else feel good/happy? Meanwhile I'm miserable? I don't think so. ❤
In the same hour, a man confessed that he loved me and decided to ghost me. 51 years young...smh I really just don't know anymore. I'm at a point where if it happens it happens. I'm just focusing on my relationship with God and the three B's. It's exhausting. Blessings to all here.
I definitely believe you, and have heard some Wild things. Also experiences I’ve had myself. Withholding intimacy that’s for marriage will definitely weed many of them out. I said many as some men still marry just to act up as well. It’s a sad time in dating. I’m still optimistic God will ordain my love story at the right time.
Sometimes a man knows he doesn’t measure up to you and so they find a woman that’s easier with boundaries or other things. He definitely did you a favor even though it hurts.
I'm sorry, I just find it crazy that men want women to pay half the bills cook clean, take care of the kids and pretty much do everything for them, and all they do is pay half the bills. We're supposed to provide emotional support, be their therapist, be everything for them and they just pay half our bills
Thank you for saying that. There are people who had good messages but I unsubscribed for the same reason you mentioned - something didn’t sit right with my spirit.
The same thing is happening to Muni Long now... She had decided to separate from her spouse, and she also came out with a new album-which might somewhat explain her mindset about the relationship.
“Heretic?…Charlatan?… Y’all got an association, or somethin’?… ‘Divorced-Crooked-Gaslighting-Manipulators-Association’ “ 😳🤭😁😂 Tony Gaskins is hilarious/ telling the truth!
You have to first WANT to change to even begin to entertain the thought of investing the time in doing so. The flesh is a very hard thing to first harness and then control….ONLY God and His Word can make that possible…
Mom of 4 similar life style to your wife Tony, taking kids to school, picking up and taking to soccer practices, doing homework. Kids under 10 and husband and me can’t catch a break with arguments. 11 years married 30 years old :(
@@suburbanmomma9093 I will be in prayer for my beautiful sister. I am living the same lifestyle. Only my new husband has recently been sentenced to a few years in prison and we are struggling because I'm doing everything myself and not able to cater to his needs for attention and submission. I don't even know how to be submissive and have to now be a provider and the person in charge, taking care of everything. He is needing something I don't have to give right now. And it's causing strain on our marriage. Let's pray for each other. I wish you and your family all the best.
@@suburbanmomma9093 i was in the same situation… We ended up getting a divorce. Married 12 years. Got married at 20yo and have 4 kids. Have you tried therapy?
I’ve never commented on a Tony Gaskins video or probably any one of these relationship coach videos , but if you are living the truth of God and honoring your wife and family I commend you. I pray you will sustain the vultures men and women await your downfall I pray you stay strong
TO MANY MEN REALLY NEED TO PUT IN THE WORK TO WORK ON THEMSELVES B4 HAVING A RELATIONSHIP MIND BODY & SOUL THEY'RE JUST TO MUCH WORK SHOULDN'T BE THAT WAY IM REALLY HAPPY SINGLE & PEACEFUL RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 💥
I 100% agree. It is like women giving me critique in the past for how I was handling the house with 4 babies I was either breastfeeding or walking to preschools all at once bc 1.5year apart they were....I was always like Bic.... you only have one child! what are you trying to win? I agree no man without the wedding ring on should be giving a public advise on marriage. They can teach about singleness, playing the game, dating but never about marriage.
: Alright Tony! You're dropping gems here. Pearls of wisdom aren't always adhered to, as you very well know. That being said, you tried! Keion, and Shaunie got together foul, and it shall end foul!
"If you have tried ... and he doesn't change, you got to leave. Men only understand structure and consequences." -TG paraphrased. Wise words.
That's facts 💯
We need to scream it from the rooftops!!
Silence is action. If you stated your boundaries and standards, become indifferent/gray-rock and go silent until he respects them.
Amen
Yep Going Ghost
Finally a man admitting to the fact that the majority of relationship problems are caused by men ❤
😂😂 women are very cruel to men especially in high school calling men lames etc
Without integrity we have nothing. Wishing more would wake up
A lot of men admit that. Especially men who work in studying relationships. Dr. Gottman said that the world is more dangerous for women and the incels got mad at him for it. If you read about marriage studies and articles by psyche professionals, they all say the same thing. The men tend to be emotionally disconnected.
Yep! I had a black man admit the majority of women are messed up bc of what black men put us through. Men know they just won’t admit it.
@@rebelmurphy664 iktr
So true, Toni. Once you stop feeding a man's ego, whose intentions were no good any way, they ghost you.
Yup! I had that exact experience 💯
😂 Unhealthy SOUL-TIES 💯 This is true they want women to Stroke their ego! Please not me 🤭👣
AND THAT’S A GOOD THING!
Men spend too much time defining how a woman should be e.g. cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids, satisfying their man at will, (whether or not a woman doesn't feel like it)...all the while the men aren't honoring their role in the relationship e.g. lying, cheating, being abusive.
Women marry for love, men marry for free labor($ex included)
@@princessamour1372facts 💯
Facts 💯
Yup I cut off being intimate because he wasn’t holding up his end I moving out next month ❤
You are soo right but they want to be catered to. Like they listen to destiny child cater to you but only the chorus 😂 cause they couldn’t understand what Beyonce was saying. Dudes she’s reciprocating his energy.
It's called narcissism. It's hard to find a man that is balanced either they're whining about something, or mean, arrogant, or abusive. You are so right about how men operate, its even worse when they get a couple more dollars than they had before.
MOST AREN’T HARD-WORKERS OF INTEGRITY!
That’s why I’ve been by myself since 2013 and I love it‼️💯
Exactly. They always switched up on the ones that were down. Not no more 💯💯
I’m not staying in no relationship where I’m being treated mean. That’s just that!
For real!!
I had to block 🚫 this guy who said he was interested in me.
I sent him a video, and he spazzed out on me instead of explaining himself in a direct but respectful way.
In the dating stages, if a person is rude or disrespectful in the beginning, most likely they will continue.
Praise God you sent that serpent running!
True
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You better believe it will continue!
Facts! Wisdom!
Women need to understand this… Even if a man is in a relationship with you, that doesn’t mean that he likes you and respects you. A man will sleep with you and benefit from being with you without liking or respecting you. These same men who talk trash about you in a barber shop, will come home to you. Please take those rose colored glasses off and enter into relationships with logic, like entering a business tbh.
: I second that emotion.
Totally TRUE!
I’m convinced many men don’t like the woman they’re with but women come with perks/ benefits. We are the life source so it’s hard for them to just be alone, be celibate, and on their own until they meet the woman they want
That is why Sprinkle, Sprinkle is popular.
Mean is also defined as the silent treatment, lack of intimacy or affection, withholding sex
Thank you.
@@DeshaunExitRealty white men too. They are terrible.
I didn't know that a military technique of isolation was prevalent in intimate relationships until Christian radio started to speak on 'stonewalling' a person. That is what you just described!
Many wealthy women settle for this lifestyle. Now, we know that all demographics of people experience all levels of abuse. With or without the money factor.
Sadly…. im in my 20s and already clocked out on relationships. Im tired of being bullied my whole life by men, family or romantic… Im not cut out for the games being played today and I admit Im too soft and love myself too much to be used and not seen as a human. I guess I allowed too much…. Hopefully someone else can win that war
I'm 32 and I feel the same.
Same. I am tired of being abused by men in relationships, in friendships, and at work because of their ego and insecurity. I have to admit after I stopped dealing with men and my mental health improved DRAMATICALLY. The only man I like being around is my father 😂
@@Princess97895same
Yup. It’s all a game. I don’t want any parts anymore. I want peace above all else and that is what i shall have ❤
I agree I am 43 and still it gets tired
: We as humans have to keep in mind that the world as we knew it is gone! Tip toe in society, tip toe at home, it's exhausting! The sense of entitlement entitlement is at an all time high! Satan is running amuck! This is the time like never before to get, and keep a deeper, more profound relationship with GOD! We need GOD more than ever right now!!!❤😢
Amen
Amen!!!
THE WOLRD IS ABOUT TO TAKE A BIG FALL THE CODDLING IS ABOUT TO STOP FULL STOP! WITHOUT EXPLANATIONS! GOD IS TIRED! Revelation 11:17,18. 18:4.
@@G.G.276 : 🙏😔
All I’ve got is my baby daughter and God. So thankful for them
Most men don't understand that Intimacy is not sex.... intimacy is the ability to be vulnerable with someone and to trust that person will not destroy you in the process.
I started talking to a guy...we are in getting to know phase. Have gone out a few times, nothing more, just a hug at end of date. On my bday I went to the art museum and lunch and shopping by myself (it was a weekday so friends at work). A message came in from him and I thought how nice, he must be sending happy bday. I opened it and he said, you had better not be out ef%^ing another guy!!! I was absolutely paralyzed hurt and stunned! I told him off and cried becuz I was so hurt to be accused of such behavior. Needless to say Im done with this controlling monster!!!
NEVER TAKE HIM BACK!
He was projecting his own insecurities and issues. Please keep him BLOCKED. 🚫
That is absolutely insane. He needs healing.
Wow, if he popped off like that in the beginning stages, I can only imagine what he'd be like later down the road.. Men like him think women are their private property ...utterly disgusting
gross
Singer Muni Long is also getting divorced after 9 years of marriage and a child. She said he became jealous of her success.
That’s sad because she use to be pracisla Renee and that women worked hard to get to this point
This is so sad.
Fun fact: Men can also hold the Jezebel spirit within them, it’s not just exclusive to women! Stay aware ladies ❤✝️
True. That's only a spirit of manipulation.
Tony I am so glad you spoke on this. I was in a 7 year relationship that ended in 2023. The farther along the relationship we got the meaner he got. I couldn't understand where it was coming from. Thank you! 🙏🏿
Yes, its the season of the “Sassy” man.
Wow Tony! I’m so glad you mentioned this. My mom and I went to a church for a few months last year and the pastor literally said in the pulpit to us during the sermon: “I want to talk about giving. If God ain’t never done nothing for you then don’t give.” I could instantly see it as manipulation but what scared me was that so many people in the congregation didn’t see that they were being manipulated.
Bro Tony Is funnyyyyyyy without even trying “he has a bald head but he wears a beanie” like dude 😂😂😂😂😂
@@Usernotavailablexo lol
That's why I have no issue having a few choice words for man out if he disrespects me. They need to be humbled. Insecure men needs multiple women to validate them. I don't compete with no one but myself and seek my own validation within myself.
Passive aggressiveness
Sarcasm
Pettiness
There are many ways to be mean.
💯💯💯💯
Yes, isolation and irritability as well
Withholding
IN A MAN THAT’S SUSPECT!👀
Exactly. Last guy was always “im just joking”
I appreciate how Tony is honest with us, with his own short comings.
If you're the prize when she's crying, then what are you when she sees you for who you really are and the tears stop?
Lets get to the "root" of the real problem. The real problem is there are many women and men that have unresolved childhood trauma and neglect. Not only that people dont know who they really are inside. We wont talk about the smoking and drinking to go on top of what i just said. Its exactly how 2 fkkd up people end up with each other.
I dont care how well put together you are on the "outside." Work on your mind and get to the bottom of it. It aint always just the other person. It's easy to put it on someone else though to relieve yourself of any accountability.
@@Erik7prc: Exactly. One is the "aggressor", the other one "enables".
There's no common ground, hence lack of profound communication. The loud, or/and sense of entitlement is off the charts. Brokeness is truly at an all time high!
💯💯🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Very well said. Too many broken people out there desperately looking for somewhere else to dump their trash. If you're a person who has done tremendous amounts of work on your mind and spirit, it goes without saying that you have to be EXTREMELY selective with who you let into your energy field. Don't play about with your wellbeing, don't let trash destroy your peace of mind.
I believe that unresolved trauma is being used as an excuse by extremely selfish and irresponsible people to do whatever evil they want
You ain't never lied!!!! My ex mom was the whole issue omg ..he used to cry about her how she did him...never again and I tried to comfort and pray 🙏 for him..nothing worked and then he gave me hell the entire 4 years 😢
Thats why our Pastor tells us as Christians m.the more God elevates you. The more you go down on your knees. In humble submission. To stay humble and not get puffed up. God hates pride
Tony I was once the person that said you was bragging but NO now I feel differently. You are working hard to help women and get the message out there and that is a awesome thing when a man can give up the game and speak the total truth. The way you tell a story is often times funny as well. It's like giving truth serum with a lil laughter. But it truly help women of all ages all races and at the end of the day there is nobody else on the internet can speak the truth and give up the knowledge that you have. God bless you and your wife.
A lot of times women are seeking closure and would request coaching after years of not being in a relationship because of being in an abusive or Narcissistic relationship and they will never and can’t receive closure from a narcissist because they will never give closure because it’s not in they’re nature and this is the reason some women seek to receive closure even after so many years through coaching, this has been the case for me and why I listen to you and other channels. I commend you for sharing your gift and helping others through your videos, it has definitely helped me, thank you so much. God Bless you Tony!
This is one of the best videos and topics you have ever done.
like seriously this was SO important ❤
Men and women alike need to seek God and allow him to heal them so they can show up in relationships healed whole and their authentic selves. Period! Men and women alike….their representatives show up, stop it find out who you are, when you know who you are you know who aligns with you and who does not! Spend some time with God and being by yourself for a while, and please present yourself as being a friend first…..that friendship is everything. Imagine being able to marry and be with your best friend.♥️
Blessings! 🌸
Some men be wanting men
Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯
This is the exact reason why I’m getting a divorce. My ex was cruel and arrogant as soon as he became a millionaire.
Because he doesn't like you!
Period
Usually they don't even like themselves because his soulmate is a man...
And that's it! The only reason why anyone mistreats or is cruel to anything. They despise it 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️.
Doesn't like himself...Men that know themselves, have enough self respect won't be in relationships or marriages with women they don't like.
@basicinfo2022 f
For real???😂
I throught sometimes but you said "usually "
Omg we have way more brothers in the closert .
I learned this the hard way. My mom passed recently & my ex tried his best to gaslight me & make it seem abnormal to grieve the death of a parent. Just completely demonic! I’m still in shock because I now have to grieve the loss of 2 relationships that ended suddenly. I don’t wish this pain on no one! This video came on time. Thank you Tony! 🫶🏾
Keep praying and get grief counseling for the loss of your mother. She is at peace now. And- Thank God Mr. showed you his true character b4 you lost more time. Move on with your Life and block him forever!
It’s for your elevation you got this ❤ meditate fast pray focus on yourself
Wow I'm going through something similar no compassion or sympathy at all and I lost both mom and dad a month a part last year.
Sorry 4 your loss what ur saying sounds very familiar. I have seen this too. Hope u have healing and peace❤
@@prettylittleliar7311both of your parents. That must be real hard. Lost my father and grandfather. Im @ my mums now dont know what id do without her.Sorry 4 your loss❤
I've witnessed that arrogant spirit on my ex!! It brought him low in the end, and I had to go my separate ways .
Tell it!! It's an expectation to be served by a women. They don't want to serve a women in a way she wants. A giver must also receive, otherwise they are empty. Men then focus on what their not getting rather than trying to uncover the needs of their women.
MEN ARE SUPPOSE TO LEAD AND SERVE! LUKE16:12. OR SUFFER FROM ABOVE!
Mr, Gaskins, thank you for being so transparent. For a man to be so humble that he's able to shine light on a situation that millions of other men out right refuse to acknowledge or are incapable of seeing the truth showes the honorable intentions, and is truly an example of a truely masculine man of God. You have validated the reality of countless women, and by doing so have healed any trauma that was a result of the men they loved so deeply who were unwilling to believe they were responsible for the breakdown of their marriage, simply because the woman had decided that she had no choice but to leave. Thank you, and bless your family.
My grandpa told me that he moved to Missouri because of a promotion, and he did it because he felt “needed” and important. Not necessarily because it was what his family needed. I don’t know if it caused any relationship issues. But he was a genuine, humble man of God and married to my grandma until the end. I miss him a lot 😢
It did!
Tony is speaking facts: Nabal, King Saul & Jezebel were very mean- spirited.
As a society, we have to take more control of how much power we give to “leaders” as true believers.
I am a witness to exactly what are speaking about Tony. I saw my children's father become a Military superstar crash and burn because of ego. The seed may have already been there as you said but he could not handle it and his life is still sad. Ego, meanness, cruelty and now a reprobate mind has consumed him. After 30 years it was too much to take.
Mr. young man, you speak my language. I am 77 years old and I love the wisdom God has given you in your season.
That's true ,you have to leave an then he understood what I was saying, but I never went back.
very true. i have a colleague, young black female who has been in an exec position and she is still not able to cope with the work/demands. not everybody can breathe at thin air levels that's why you gotta take your time in the climb.
01:19:17 YES! I'm experiencing this now with my husband unfortunately. Even my Dad pointed it out. It's sad how a season of this can ruin years of building. I'm praying for positive change but I'm 🤏🏾 this close to getting my Letoya Luckett on...
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I feel you sitting here as I read your comment going through the exact situation. I have been married twelve years, it's just so sad.
@@Shortee452 I've been married 10 years. It is very sad. Would you want to talk offline? It's nice to relate to someone going through this. It's hard.
Whew this was a lot and I learned alot. Thank you for your honesty.
I left my ex husband and he tells me every time we alone that he would leave his girl in a heart beat to come back, it sounds good but the actions show otherwise
Don't go back to your ex husband that's even crazier.
Then he will tell some other woman that he would leave you in a heartbeat for the chance to be with them.
Just leave these men to themselves. They are tiring and draining.
@@Cekatu😂😂😂😂
Seriously? If you have kids together, that's all you should be talking about.
Exactly @@fah232
Having a God-like complex is like having a narcissistic spirit, which is what lucifer had in heaven or a leviathan spirit or spirit of pride.
Today’s lesson: CONSEQUENCES
Thank you 🙏🏾
Dont get high off your own supply - Tony Montana (Scarface) 🙌
Mr, Gaskins! I already mentioned ur name to my husband! Haha my bad! I told him about how much I learned from u over the years, and that I know about the games that men play. Be blessed Sir! Much love always to u from the Netherlands🇳🇱
Jealousy and a need to control.
Thank you for being so honest.
You're still going strong Its been a while listening here im back &i subscribed 🎉🥂💯💪🏽
This show was AWESOME!! ❤❤ The depth & with The Lord & The Word etc. I've got to listen again.
It was odd to me that he named his top 3 priorities and his wife was not there. So she's 4th on the list? How is hanging out with your friends higher on the list than your wife and you 60 somethin years old? No wonder she feels neglected smh.
Greg running round here like a Detroit Playa… real crackish behavior as he would say! 😮 Linda sick of it!!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️
neglect is a form of abuse. imagine feeling neglected for decades? i'm sure she has told him thousands times how she felt but he didn't do anything about it
It’s really no most selfish narc men put makn their money first n he pobally was stingy with that
He’s too old to b hangin out with friends all the time he’s probably cheating with a male friend
I think that’s why it’s so important we make sure we emphasize that someone has value bc God made them. Not bc of anything they have or do.
So when I’m sad or when I’m serving someone it’s not bc of their status but bc God has an upside down kingdom
This is what ended my now 2-year relationship a week ago for the I don't what number time. His God like complex,and constant making me feel he is superior to me and God favors man over woman! It is so heart breaking because I love him and spiritual manipulation attempts and meanness I just can't break through with him!! We have prayed, and I pray for him. We have been to church. Nothing is breaking this spirit or holding over him!😢😢😢
Good for you for loving yourself more than him even though it may hurt so bad. You are better than me, I spent 10 years wasting my time and praying for him/us.
Meanwhile god was telling me to let him go. Since, then I have lost 50 pounds and no my life isn’t perfect but having to deal with a meanie is draining.
Thank you Tony for clarifying your statement with the actual Bible Scripture. I can see your Spiritual growth being shown in REAL TIME. Your "Fruit" IS Showing Brother! May God Continue to BLESS you and your Family!🙏💜
This title...😂😂😂 hilarious...I saw your answer in the comments👌🏽💯 So glad you mentioned the term fan...I detest this word...It's idolatry & dishonoring to the MOST HIGH👑 male preachers use that language ALL the time: "If this word has blessed you, sow a seed accordingly" or "don't rob God"😤🤨🤔
The Elderberry Supplements are very good! Bettter quality than the other vitamin gummies I have 👍🏽
Be blessed Sir!
A pastor who doesn't treat his wife right mmm I'm not staying in a church with a leader like that.
Excellent video. I’m withdrawing from men who want me to be sweet as pie and talk nice to them while they come off to me however and make an excuse for doing so. Thank God I’m not like these irsty females out here. I’m good by myself. If I can make myself happy then why would I let someone who is battling their own demons come and disturb that? Knowing how to make yourself happy FIRST helps you get over people who couldn’t reciprocate that a whole lot quicker!!! Like lil boy I don’t even have to accept this bare minimum when it’s men out here who will do that and then a lot more. A man that I had let go of that was too old for me in my eyes showed me how a man who is really interested in you would be if it’s real and now it’s not hard for me to spot when a man is faking. I guess we’ll both be faking then 😂 CAUSE I KNOW!!! 😮
: My peace was/is GOD giving, a gift! WHY would I throw GOD'S "gift" back in HIS face just to make someone else feel good/happy? Meanwhile I'm miserable? I don't think so. ❤
Never praise anyone too much, they will get complacent💯✅❗️
In the same hour, a man confessed that he loved me and decided to ghost me. 51 years young...smh I really just don't know anymore. I'm at a point where if it happens it happens. I'm just focusing on my relationship with God and the three B's. It's exhausting. Blessings to all here.
Same thing happened to me...Trust me. He did you a favor in the long run!
I definitely believe you, and have heard some Wild things. Also experiences I’ve had myself. Withholding intimacy that’s for marriage will definitely weed many of them out. I said many as some men still marry just to act up as well. It’s a sad time in dating. I’m still optimistic God will ordain my love story at the right time.
Those are married men.
Sometimes a man knows he doesn’t measure up to you and so they find a woman that’s easier with boundaries or other things. He definitely did you a favor even though it hurts.
Eeww. He sounds not worth your time at all. Who does that as an adult?
I'm sorry, I just find it crazy that men want women to pay half the bills cook clean, take care of the kids and pretty much do everything for them, and all they do is pay half the bills. We're supposed to provide emotional support, be their therapist, be everything for them and they just pay half our bills
Lots of gems 💎 dropped! It also confirms many of the issues I experienced with my now ex and his interactions towards me. Thanks Tony
Is it WORTH having a Man???
Good question
At the end of the day, for women, men are labor and a liability to her health and safety.
No
No
Hell no
I'm a new follower, and I am pleasantly surprised by your spirit, genuineness, and wisdom. Thanks for sharing the secret play book✌🏽💯❤️
Thank you for saying that. There are people who had good messages but I unsubscribed for the same reason you mentioned - something didn’t sit right with my spirit.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THiS..
The same thing is happening to Muni Long now... She had decided to separate from her spouse, and she also came out with a new album-which might somewhat explain her mindset about the relationship.
By golly! I do believe tg is growing up.I am valjean and I approve this message
Clicked play faster than last time !!
I think the Spirit you’re talking about does have a name: Pride
I think that’s where that “arrogance” and “invincibility” is rooted
This hit my notification right as I am watching Netflix Worst ex ever.
All four episodes ticked me off!! lol
@@pajdesign Very scary crazy people out here.
Yes! Those people were nuts!
@@pajdesignomg….me too!!!!! The girl from the first episode (the black girl with the pretty curly hair) SENTTTT MEEEEE 🤯
Yea I need to finish that
Fans, Followers, and Likes are synonymous!
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“😐😑 ok, turn the page…open a new book” 😭😭
FOR REAL ‼️
I loved the spiritual aspect that you spoke of this topic.
“Heretic?…Charlatan?…
Y’all got an association, or somethin’?…
‘Divorced-Crooked-Gaslighting-Manipulators-Association’ “
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Tony Gaskins is hilarious/ telling the truth!
You have to first WANT to change to even begin to entertain the thought of investing the time in doing so. The flesh is a very hard thing to first harness and then control….ONLY God and His Word can make that possible…
Also, therapy and dealing with past trauma. Unfortunately, a lot of us bring these attributes into relationships/adulthood.
3:00 mins in the video and Tony is throwing shade baby 😂😂😂 all cross the board .. ❤❤❤
Funny that you mentioned Kanye, his song “Can’t Tell Me Nothing” is a perfect summation.
Mom of 4 similar life style to your wife Tony, taking kids to school, picking up and taking to soccer practices, doing homework. Kids under 10 and husband and me can’t catch a break with arguments. 11 years married 30 years old :(
@@suburbanmomma9093 I will be in prayer for my beautiful sister. I am living the same lifestyle. Only my new husband has recently been sentenced to a few years in prison and we are struggling because I'm doing everything myself and not able to cater to his needs for attention and submission. I don't even know how to be submissive and have to now be a provider and the person in charge, taking care of everything. He is needing something I don't have to give right now. And it's causing strain on our marriage. Let's pray for each other. I wish you and your family all the best.
@@suburbanmomma9093 i was in the same situation… We ended up getting a divorce. Married 12 years. Got married at 20yo and have 4 kids. Have you tried therapy?
I’ve never commented on a Tony Gaskins video or probably any one of these relationship coach videos , but if you are living the truth of God and honoring your wife and family I commend you. I pray you will sustain the vultures men and women await your downfall I pray you stay strong
TO MANY MEN REALLY NEED TO PUT IN THE WORK TO WORK ON THEMSELVES B4 HAVING A RELATIONSHIP MIND BODY & SOUL THEY'RE JUST TO MUCH WORK SHOULDN'T BE THAT WAY IM REALLY HAPPY SINGLE & PEACEFUL RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE 💥
Speed clicked in a hurry! All ears Tony!
Speak on it, tony!!! 👏
Whew. Great talk! This insight is very much appreciated
I 100% agree. It is like women giving me critique in the past for how I was handling the house with 4 babies I was either breastfeeding or walking to preschools all at once bc 1.5year apart they were....I was always like Bic.... you only have one child! what are you trying to win?
I agree no man without the wedding ring on should be giving a public advise on marriage. They can teach about singleness, playing the game, dating but never about marriage.
This is spot on ❤
I’m glad to have been created as a woman. Seems it’s difficult to be a man 😢 the main board seems to always be short circuited 😮 or out of service 😢
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Wat???
Notice it's the woman who's seeking relationship counseling for her man
Broke, insecure and jealous… I’m by experience
Let’s see what Tony says!
: Alright Tony! You're dropping gems here. Pearls of wisdom aren't always adhered to, as you very well know. That being said, you tried! Keion, and Shaunie got together foul, and it shall end foul!
I have received my Gummies.
The core reason for divorce is meanness 💯💯💯
Hey Hey Tony)))) ❤❤❤
Because they get away with it
Wow this is my first time hearing some of this but so true