Some exes, especially in these times ...are crazy as hell! I'm a woman & when I say my ex was crazy....I mean he was crazy! Bat shit crazy lmfao. ISSUES! A walking, talking bundle of major issues
@ajr7940. I'm speaking to heterosexual women who date men, I cannot speak on other dating preferences. This is a classic tactic that emotional abusive/ narcissisic personality types use to de value their Ex partners and make themselves the victims.
I was dating someone who was very sweet and I was full into him. He was not communicating all of a sudden because my “vibe” changed and it didn’t. I was then blocked .. all of a sudden after almost a year “hey, how are you..” 😂go back to being the ghost you were! “I want to try again”.. I’m not forcing nothing with anybody who can’t use their words to communicate. Go play with somebody else ✌🏾
I went through the same thing. He Messaged me that he apologized and wanted to start over. He came by the same day only to have sex now I have not seen him for 6wks now. He texts every single day and calls to say he needed to hear my voice. If I don't text or call in a couple days he stops. I told him he doesn't make me a priority. He said he never said that and he misses me more than I know. But still nothing else. I'm waiting for him to text again to let him know " access denied " then I'll block him. I'm done with his insecurities and game playing.
@@cemeishorso49 Naw block him now. If he goes a day or two without speaking to you- block and delete. They will lovebomb you to get sex, have a waiting period and ALWAYS let them prove they mean it by observing for improvement and changed behavior. They will use you if you let them.
@@cemeishorso49and do not be giving him your body. Furthermore he have someone else or marriage. Why would you sleep witj someone disapears on you whem he wants? A man treat you the way you allow him too. Stop being so desperate. And love on yourself a bit more😢
The man stringing the woman along cause she's the one, but still seeing other women cause he's not done running around is total BS. Stephan dont justify that. If it was reverse for the woman doing that and the man found out he would be pissed off too. Discipline is NOT circumstantial. It's a choice you make. Stop excusing that BS behavior
I really fed up with this idea that men "naturally" meant to f*ck around. Naturally there is sperm competition, nature inside a women chooses the healthiest the strongest sperm, means that it is the women who supposed to have multiple partners ACCORDING TO NATURE. But we live in a upside down world. Let alone women's orgasm much stronger and we can be faithful or have decent gap between partners and more often tha not we are faithful. So, men still going around has nothing to do with their "nature" , rather seeing a woman as thing, toy, car... it has to do with having low consciousness.
I just say that's a foolish man unworthy of a woman that's the One t, to even try to string her alone, cause hell never have One like her in this lifetime if he lost her.
Yes! Respect her and let her be free to make her choice instead of lying and cheating, just because you are not ready... I lost so many years for these reasons, it was so hurtful and I now have very little confidence in men 😢
@@mkb5984 I don’t think anybody is saying it’s ok for a woman to do this either. Everybody needs to get of their ego and be upfront with what they want out of a relationship! If you are just looking for a hook up or friend with benefits. Then come out and say so! Then the other person has the choice to take you up on it or say No I’m looking for a committed relationship and not even waste their time playing stupid games . That’s were people hurt people and karma will come a knocking
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've learned that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of problems in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we survived.
I honestly want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it work. We've tried different methods, like therapy, to fix things.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that pursuing this method will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; I deeply yearn for her.
I'm a woman in a long-term relationship. I do not post my man. Anything near and dear to my heart, I keep private and protect. I wouldn't even post my children.
I am a woman and do the same. I do not post really private stuff people don't need to know and can use anything to negatively affect a person. i know people will say you should not allow what people think or say affect you. it is easier said than done.
The part about a man’s libido being higher. Has to do with his safety. If a woman’s libido was tested when they felt safe, which is often not the case their libido would be higher to. Feeling safe never seems to be considered it should.
I agree with safety increasing it, but it will *never* be even remotely as high as theirs, and Stephan himself has said it multiple times. No idea why in the world is it so hard for some people to understand and accept that men and women were designed differently. Exceptions to the rule? Obviously. Not the case when it comes to lïbïdo though.
@@kiravampira1456Wrong this is a generalization! As a woman w a high libido always struggling to find a man who wants to keep up. Family joke is all of us gals are high libido. Genetics?? And yes safety & trust are key!
@user-bi4hf6vq1d your generalisation is much less accurate than mine and Stephan's (which is *biology* based). Also, I really couldn't care less about some random people's bodily functions.
I like how realistic and situationally Stephen speaks about “the friend” situation. The partner should be the priority and your “friend” out of respect would want the best for you and step back.
I saw something different and told him the friend wanted to be his woman. He ensured me she was just his friend, nothing more. He was very indifferent and I asked to establish boundaries. He continued to hang out with her. 8 months later I found out he was cheating with her. I should have moved on when he defended the friendship instead of establishing boundaries.
Word for word the situation I was in once. I heard for months she was just a friend, just a work colleague. He even pretended he doesn't know how to pronounce her name properly (yeah, that one confirmed my suspicion 100%). After we parted ways he admitted that all the while they were sleeping together... Disgusting. I moved on with my life and now he's still reaching out to me to manipulate me and be 'friends'. Well I don't need a friend like him, that's one. Also I'm in a relationship and given how he defines 'friendship' that is not what I want around myself or my man, ever. Again, just disgusting. Some people think it's ok to go around and screw around with everyone, in any configuration, no boundaries, no morals, no loyalty, nothing... But these liars sell themselves cheap. You just need to listen closely. I hope you have moved on with your life and you are happy now. If it still hurts you, please know there is much better men out there. Good men and loyal men who appreciate a loyal and loving woman are out there.
I have had male friends. After they began dating a woman and she is not feeling me. I disappear out of respect for my friend. I have enough friends and don't need to make another woman feel uncomfortable. I am over 50, I let men know that I don't share, compete, or wish to be ignored. I'm dating a man that I desired to spend more time with. We are both divorced and each own homes. He asked me to explain what I wanted. We worked out a schedule for weekdays, weekends, and holidays. If the relationship don't work out I'm walking. After all everything is TEMPORARY.
Exactly. And d part where he says men who r desirable r less likely to be disciplined. I know desirable men who r relationship men. They just dont want the stress of multiple women
Great video! Sadly, my two year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Yeah, I agree it's helpful to know. I don't judge him for telling it like it is. Even though there are double standards, I don't believe in shooting the messenger, and I'd rather him tell it the way guys actually feel even though the double standards do suck sometimes.
Double stands are BS - I think differently now than in my younger days because my heart is now all about God and His Best for me!!! Which makes me run from men who think the way he does - Ladies you can have that kind of guy 😉
Cheating isn't just accidentally stumbling. Its a selfish choice you make. How would the guy like his woman doing that. A choice is not excusable. No oops here when it eas deliberate. No one held a gun to his head or physically forced him to cheat
Lady’s do not tell a man how many men you slept with, a mature good man will not even ask you that. Because it’s personal business. And the “best friend” question is weird because once either person gets into a serious relationship the other person will need to back off. If my MANS best friend, was sitting on his lap that would be a huge problem..
My boyfriend and I had a conversation about social media when we first started dating. We both agreed to not post anything cause we do see that social media can cause problems in relationships. We are 8 months together and I do feel it was the right decision.
@@andersnielsen6044 shes commenting on a post on YT. She obviously meant actually posting her private life. How you didnt understand that is beyooond me
So I watched this intermittently today. Here's my take, if honesty is a strong value for you, you must be ready for honest takes from your partner. Yes delivery is important...relationships are messy and require both parties to be willing to vulnerable to uphold that shared value of honesty. It frustrates me as a woman that men will date not treat for commitment. State that upfront and focus on girls wanting marriage when you're ready. Love comes at desire and vulnerability. Committment comes at readiness, period. If either is missing after clear, honest communication and goal setting as a couple, move on.
38:49 just because I’ve been asked doesn’t mean I have to divulge my past. It is no one’s business and has no relevance to who I am. Get to know me and find out who I am. My body count or if my ex was bigger could only lead to insecurities and problems. Why cause problems with something so unimportant?
i love this bounce with stephan - so funny! Lisa I LOVE your style, intentional listening, articulation, questions. love that you clearly listen to the interviewee's other interviews and ask something different or press them for something more. LOVE IT.
OMG the question about being friends with a friend you have slept with! Me and my ex had a heated debate about that. Yes, the answer speaks EXACTLY to my concerns. Thank you!
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I really appreciate Lisa taking time to acknowledge the complexity of weight gain and the potentially deep trauma behind it 🙏🏽💕 That was very compassionate and sensitive. As for the woman gaining 100 lbs twice in the same relationship… I would say there’s still some trauma there bc why would she gain it back once in the same relationship?
I don't know this particular woman, so it's hard to tell what her reasons were, but in my personal experince, somehow, unfortunately, I do feel LESS motivated to work out when I'm in a relationship. I was in a commited relationship for 4 years and it was impossible for me to force myself to eat less calories and be consistent with sports, while the moment the relationship ended - it magically became easy and fun to do that and I started to look 10 times better. Now I'm in a relationship again and I'm again being "lazy". After reflecting on these changes I came to a conclusion that it can be something hormonal, meaning: "I feel safe and comfortable with this man", so maybe from a biological point, my brain thinks "I need to preserve the energy for now having babies". But when I'm unconsiously in a mode of "looking for a partner", i guess the hormones shift to "let's put all the energy into attracting the best partner". Some of my female friends experience the same thing. I don't know if it's true or not, but I know that I truly want to be the person who's active and looks great despite the relationship status, but I just can't help it that in a relationship gym feels like torture, while out of the relationship gym was fun and exciting.
As a RN who works with hormones & dieticians. Most people in love or in a relationship release hormones that cause increased appetite & to enjoy food especially when eating together as a couple. Most people gain weight from simply eating out more, eating together etc. Unless the partner is a health freak who eats so well & exercises influencing their partner. There are those with eating disorders too who may never gain weight in a relationship.
@@ari_jeanI did not gain weight during my 17year marriage...I was not feeling safe! Now, being alone, I gain some weight but I feel safe, satisfied and comfortable with myself. I think you are really bringing very intresting hypothesis...
I love listening to his advice - he pretty much confirms every belief I have about men's behavior, and it helps me feel comfortable with my decisions in the dating realm!
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We all move too fast period! We need to SLOW DOWN! Get to know someone for 90 days, decide if you want to date during that time, if yes, set a rough time for yourself mentally for when you’ll decide to move from dating (hopefully monogamously) to actually building a life together. Problem is we move from the getting to know you phase straight to let’s be together forever & rarely do those relationships work. You generally won’t really know how that person shows up in relationships unless you date them monogamously first. And both people need to be courageous enough to have all kinds of communication regarding feelings, values & moving from phase to phase.
I don't agree. Everytime I let a girl to slow down, I got friendzoned or I found out she had slept with someone else during this time. Never again! Now, if a woman wants to "take it slowly" I consider her simply not interested in me. I would give the same advice to my son. Everytime a woman was actually interested in my, things went pretty fast.
@@lukas4016 Being interested in you is not the same as "she is a good fit for a committed relationship with you". And the decision to date exclusively (or at least no sex with other partners) has to be a mutual decision that is respected by both partners. Of course when nothing comes of it you missed out on some sex you could have had in a short term relationship. Good training: if a woman is pregnant, has a newborn you might also not be in the mood for making love and vaginal sex could be forbidden or it hurts too much. The phrase "I let a girl slow down .... " gave you away. The girl wanted to take it slown (in this case maybe because she did not want to give up her other options for you. so not longterm relationship oriented. On the other hand we also do not know whether you wanted a real relationship, or whether you just wanted to bed her (and someone else beat you to it). The ladies that take it slowly because they do want a committed relationship will be sorted out by your criteria. Of course if the goal is to get laid, it is different - as long as both know the rules that is O.K. as well.
@@lukas4016I am a female and prefer to take it slow bcuz too many of us allow hormones and emotions lead us and next thing we know we've jumped into something too fast too soon and then comes disaster...I want to build a solid friendship before we move to relationships...gives a chance to build real feelings and respect for each other
My two uncles one day cornered me in the kitchen at a family gathering telling me how beautiful I am if I could just lose 60 lb... That was like 20 years ago and I still think about it everyday but I have lost weight but not for them 💖
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If someone doesn't post their relationship on insta, just accept that and do not question it! Look at the rest of the signs how he might be into you! If he's not move on
The only men I've known who did that were serial cheaters. I understand if the guy wants to keep his privacy but when he's posting only himself or other people, he's either seeking self validation online or he's intending on cheating on the low.
Here’s the thing though if you are someone that like that wants to wants to showcase here and there the person that you are in a relationship with and the other person doesn’t y’all are not compatible and you need to move on. People don’t have to accept shit that they don’t want. And you can’t make people settle for shit just because you are insecure or have an issue with posting on social media. That’s the problem y’all want people to stick around and put up with any and everything and we don’t have to. Except that. And to the other person that left a comment. Oh, I agree, most of the people who claim to be private or full of shit. There is a big difference between privacy and secret. A lot of these people claiming to be private or actually being secretive. And let’s be real when somebody is being secretive. Nine times out of 10. There is a lot of shadiness going on. And like you mention these are the types. Oh I don’t like taking pictures. Yeah they have pictures all over their social media by themselves and with other people. But when it comes to you, there’s a problem they don’t want to take pictures with you even if it’s just for you and them’s eyes only let her know posting it on social media. And again if there’s a private, why are they posting on social media in the first damn place? They can talk about everything else going on in her life, but they can’t ever mention that there are actually in a committed relationship with someone? So again, T to each his own but I know for me on a personal level moving forward that is a red flag and I will never entertained that bullshit.
I met a guy on a dating site and we clicked. His ex contacted him way too much and used the kids to get his attention. Months later the he spoke to his ex aboht it, she then pulled back. He told me he misses me... drives 4 hours to see.. we talk about things, then he asks me to wait to make sure hes 100% sure. I checked the dating app and hes on there everyday. I really dont get it. Ive expressed that i love him unconditionally but I cant wait for him because it might never happen and i can just remains friends. He didnt reply. I find a lot of men these days scared to commit. Its so easy to have more than one, especially with dating apps.
I was once the " she's just a friend from work" woman to his wife; the wife I didn't KNOW about for 8 and a half years... ( I found out about her, told her everything and she began divorce proceedings right away !! ) So, when, 3 months ago he texted me that he was at a local event " With a friend " ( 2 days before my birthday) I cut my losses, blocked him everywhere and ran. He's also a malignant -covert narcissist...so to say it was over 9 years of toxicity is putting it mildly. 😶😶😶😑😑😑 The last thing I said to him, calmly while looking him directly in the eye was " Karma."
You were with him 8 and a half years and you knew you were being passed off as a work friend but you claim you didn't know he was married? Hahahaaaa!! Do you think we're idiots? Clearly you DID know about his wife, and you were hoping he'd leave her for you. They probably have kids and he was using them as an excuse. When you finally realized that he was never gonna leave her, THEN you contacted his wife. Not a good look for you.
@@2sides_2everystoryhe could have been a pilot and her a flight attendant…it’s hard to say in some instances. They might have only seen each other once in a while. Or at least that’s the only scenario I can wrap my mind around right now 😂
On the weight topic. I LOST a TON of weight as an attempt to regain intimacy. DON"T change for anybody. You have to be YOU. Men loved me WITH THE weight.. so? be yourself!
It is important how you feel, if you feel bad that you gained Kg. Then you loose weight if you want, but if your boyfriend tells you, then, it is a problem.
If a man has a female friend thats he's close with or best friends with. There's still boundaries that need to be made. Also the man needs to make sure he is continually makes her feel his woman is THE ONE
Never trust "she's Just a Friend" recently love bombed and gaslighting only to see him propose on the Internet after prior weekend being with him. Anger anger anger.
I’m surprised no one put together that the person who gained weight when being with their mate, separated, lost it, then regained it when they got back together, is a signal that something was missing when she was with him.
I really liked Sadia in the beginning and I think she does have good ideas. But the more I listen to her, I sense more judgment in many of her statements which is a bit off-putting. I've also noticed her verbally attacking others who don't agree with her. So I have started following her talks a lot less.
@@rkk2606 She is more emotional. She openly said that sha has some insecurities to work on or she was attacked by some women but still she wants to spread the message to the world. I trully belive it's still worth to hear her out. Specially if she triggers some of your insecurities. If you have an insecurity, it worth to ask why this pisses you off? You need to heal all of them, to find true happiness
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My spirit tells me that the one that I felt was right was indeed what I first felt and that I was just a path of overgrown forestry to be a path for others with no regard for my body, life, soul and or heart
This is a great interview and enlightening! I would like to add another thing a man will say to you. At least my guy did. He has several women in addition to me. He says he doesn’t favor one woman over another. He says it to maintain peace for himself, maybe to spare a woman’s feelings, and to keep her around for whatever qualities she has to offer. It’s a good arrangement if you can stay detached and just have fun. It’s a nightmare when you love the man as I do. One needs to master compersion if she wants to stay with him.
Out of the male relationship "gurus" or coaches I've listened to, I enjoy Stephen. He comes across as genuine and thoughtful, and he's very insightful and shares a lot of my own views. 38:40 I've only had one man ask me my "body count,", and he revealed himself to be extremely insecure, misogynistic, and toxic. I don't think I'd share this in the future because it's personal. And the men who ask generally seem to be inherently insecure and view women as objects rather then people. What's most important is your sexual health history.
@@liltriqq😂 Yeah, just one. Even though we haven't dated in years, he is still jealous of the thought of me with someone else. Maybe it's becoming more common to ask, but it's a red flag to me.
@@loyaltyb71052 What views of his make you think he’s a misogynist? I’m new to his channel, but I’ve watched several of his videos. I’ve noticed he’s pretty clear about distinguishing between *his* views and those of other men. I’m not going to shoot the messenger for sharing what/how those other men think. lol So far, I haven’t heard him express personal misogynistic views. But at the same time, perception is subjective. I’ve heard and seen a lot of ugly comments and behaviors from men, so in comparison, nothing he’s personally expressed has set off an 🚨 yet.
@Voyeuriztic he passively blames everything on women and make excuses for men. He knows it's men but casually says now this applies to both. The truth is, men are not decent and it's rare to find women that behave in the intolerable ways that men do. Men preach forgiveness because they're most often in the need to be forgiven. Men would never or rarely stay in relationships they "feel" the slightest disrespect.
Yes I was the trophy wife. Yes he continued to have fun. Yes I divorced him! Totally true 😂 I can laugh about it now. But believe me it was heart breaking when i found out. To all those men out there. YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO! Decide, commit, succeed 💯 Lisa you are fabulous as always 😘x
This guy is spreading some crazy information. That’s what the problem is with the dating scene - because other people listen to him! Thank you Lisa for pushing back on many topics!
Pro tip: when a man talks about another woman’s beauty. Talk about/admire another man’s materials, like “oh wow, he has such a nice car/expensively dressed wife decked in the most beautiful jewels, I wonder what he does for a living, he seems wealthy! “
I agree it's sad and immature but you learn to play the same game. I don't mind recreational games, but I do not like games in a relationship. You should be open, honest and sincere with one another. If what you are going to say isn't beneficial to enhancing the relationship, and it's just an empty conversation, maybe it's best not to say anything.
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Well I agree with Lisa, If I'm the "best but he's not done with the rest" then he is not emotionally mature enough to be in a committed relationship so I m not going to wait... NEXT!
God Bless You! Concern...the friend may represent the connection that maybe missing in the relationship lacking connection. ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
After watching this interview, it kind of feels like these types of men are putting themselves on a pedestal. Its a great interview thank you, i really got a lot of out it. I feel as women, the more we do not accept this type of behaviour from these type of the men, the better. Why do they think it's ok for us just to be the other woman that they can just have sex with? Imagine if every woman in the world was taught NOT to sleep with a man until they want to commit. These types of men would not think its ok to just "have sex" with them. Its such a confusing topic because we are all taught casual sex is ok. But is it really? Why are men so disrepectful thay they think its ok just to "have sex" with a woman. I think its so wrong.
I have living proof of life experience and what she is speaking is so on point. In a different example than my details but same outcome Beautiful Gift And Work.
As a woman the comment about the 30 pounds would make me never want to be in a relationship with that man. Why? Because of pregnancy. You have to gain 25-30 pounds minimum in a healthy pregnancy. And with those hormones changes is takes most women years to get heal from pregnancy. If you want 2 kids that is about 7-9 years for your body to fully recover. I am not going to be in a relationship with a man that is not going to be attracted to me even if I drop the pregnancy weight instantly that is still about a year of him not being attracted to me. Also other issues happen & people age. He is shallow.
this is so true a man i dated was so into being like this. the fact that he has been married many times and asking for money but don't give or share his money. he have more than one woman at a time women until he needs you he just told me he is getting married to a woman he showed me he is going to date on a trip to greese
I'm a minute and a half in and have a different take. Men who are narcissists and don't know what's wrong with them will tell their own family members their ex's are crazy because they have no explanation on why they leave or do what they do. They don't understand why themselves if they don't know they are narcissists. Even if they don't really believe their ex is crazy they will say she was crazy because they have no other explanation and are incapable of taking any responsibility. This is a REAL COWARD. I was ghosted after 12 years! Then when I did see him again (8 YEARS later) he looked at me and said "can I ask you a question". I said yes. To which he replied "did we have a fight". That's when I really knew, he didn't even know why he left himself... He just ran at the point where he started feeling vulnerability.
My ex and I grew up together and we're very unhealthy kids, drama, family homes. We were terrible to each other but at the same time we learned how to be good and what's good together through the deepest darkness and we didn't have intimacy. We know now that hinder us, but we are connected and my boyfriend doesn't need to be jealous or concerned of us intimately, but after the things we went through I don't know how to ever connect that way again with anyone.
These were both GREAT interviews. But why didn’t you dedicate a full episode to each of them? Why combine them? Do a longer interview with each, and split it into two episodes is my suggestion.
I'm guessing it goes both ways with accepting compliments because my husband brushed off every word of encouragement, every compliment, every expression of gratitude, and I felt so downtrodden and rejected I finally had to call it quits.
@@zero1188 I would agree with you except he'd complain that I didn't appreciate what he did for me and that I didn't encourage him enough. Yet when I did, he brushed me off. It was deeply confusing. I always felt off balance talking with him; more and more lonely and isolated; unappreciated; discounted...
@@debbiedegenhardt9287 but you can appreciate in different ways outside of compliments. His real issue is he probably didn’t specify what he meant by appreciation. People like different things
If a man lets you know that you're outside is more important than who you are on the inside and it overshadows your inside leave his ass in the shadows because he ain't going to stay the same. One thing is guaranteed your heart may stay the same but she looks going to fade so take me as I am or watch me as I walk away. Cuz I know a lot of not so attractive women they are beautiful on the inside and that's what make them beautiful. Who wants to be with a shallow man because he's not going to stay perfect and he's not going to make that extra effort for you
I believe when a guy says you are the most beautiful women I have ever seen to me he is referring to her personality that is why he is referring her as different because as much as he says to others you are beautiful so indeed different ways in says how beautiful. Is my perception in seeing it that way
Sure you right! I will never what to force a man to care of love me, I will be alone first , he will try to do the world for me , if I except that , first he keeps me smiling, every he walk through my door and always bring a small gift , only when it's flower , and a great smile , love him dearly, if he stray away I will finite know , I am open to talk , and why , ask many of questions ! It all about the conversation , do not marque about anything , we are about to talk and laugh about it ! Hello or good bye , it's in the kiss!❤😊
That’s so true. I have a male best friend. He is my roommate. 12 years living together we are like really brother and sister. That was the first thing I told my boyfriend before we started anything. And it’s been along time since since I’ve been with anyone. My past boyfriend died almost 8 years ago now. And when I finally got out of my dark place and started a relationship. He was nothing but happy for me. And gives me my distance he’s not all calling me all the time if I’m a with my boyfriend or anything. And when he’s with his girlfriend I do the same. We live together but have our own separate lives. I don’t know it’s hard to explain. But we are nothing but friends/ roommates there’s no attraction between us at all. And we never even fight. If there are no romantic feelings so no jealousy between each other. Just being friends just works for us. But when the time comes and my boyfriend and I want to live together then that’s where I’m going. And my friend understands. He just wants me to be happy. But no none ever really understands. My boyfriend now is someone I went to high school with. But lost touch with afterwards. Only knew him from my freshman year he was senior. 14yrs ago we a few conversations b it then he slowly started blowing me off. Then nothing for 14 years. I recently turned my FB back on and he eventually reached out. I was a little hesitant but I’m glad I did. I’ve also just met his parents and mine are up in a couple weeks. And after I met his he asked me when he was going to meet mine. 😊
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If a man calls his EX crazy this is a major red flag. Chances are HIS behaviour made her that way. I would run!
Some exes, especially in these times ...are crazy as hell! I'm a woman & when I say my ex was crazy....I mean he was crazy! Bat shit crazy lmfao. ISSUES! A walking, talking bundle of major issues
@@ajr7940 I was talking about men??? Not women...
@@loveyourselffirst549 Oh ok sorry...but why is it different?
@ajr7940. I'm speaking to heterosexual women who date men, I cannot speak on other dating preferences. This is a classic tactic that emotional abusive/ narcissisic personality types use to de value their Ex partners and make themselves the victims.
L Deflection. Cope harder
*Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.*
Strength+Courage ❤
I love this. So true!
I was dating someone who was very sweet and I was full into him. He was not communicating all of a sudden because my “vibe” changed and it didn’t. I was then blocked .. all of a sudden after almost a year “hey, how are you..” 😂go back to being the ghost you were! “I want to try again”.. I’m not forcing nothing with anybody who can’t use their words to communicate. Go play with somebody else ✌🏾
He met someone else. It didn't work out so now he's back. Don't reward people with bad manners.
I went through the same thing. He Messaged me that he apologized and wanted to start over. He came by the same day only to have sex now I have not seen him for 6wks now. He texts every single day and calls to say he needed to hear my voice. If I don't text or call in a couple days he stops. I told him he doesn't make me a priority. He said he never said that and he misses me more than I know. But still nothing else. I'm waiting for him to text again to let him know " access denied " then I'll block him. I'm done with his insecurities and game playing.
@@cemeishorso49 Naw block him now. If he goes a day or two without speaking to you- block and delete. They will lovebomb you to get sex, have a waiting period and ALWAYS let them prove they mean it by observing for improvement and changed behavior. They will use you if you let them.
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@@cemeishorso49and do not be giving him your body. Furthermore he have someone else or marriage. Why would you sleep witj someone disapears on you whem he wants? A man treat you the way you allow him too. Stop being so desperate. And love on yourself a bit more😢
The man stringing the woman along cause she's the one, but still seeing other women cause he's not done running around is total BS. Stephan dont justify that. If it was reverse for the woman doing that and the man found out he would be pissed off too. Discipline is NOT circumstantial. It's a choice you make. Stop excusing that BS behavior
I scrolled way too long to find this comment! 👏🏻
I really fed up with this idea that men "naturally" meant to f*ck around. Naturally there is sperm competition, nature inside a women chooses the healthiest the strongest sperm, means that it is the women who supposed to have multiple partners ACCORDING TO NATURE. But we live in a upside down world. Let alone women's orgasm much stronger and we can be faithful or have decent gap between partners and more often tha not we are faithful.
So, men still going around has nothing to do with their "nature" , rather seeing a woman as thing, toy, car... it has to do with having low consciousness.
@@spOOkySami lol the more who makes the same point, the better!
I just say that's a foolish man unworthy of a woman that's the One t, to even try to string her alone, cause hell never have One like her in this lifetime if he lost her.
I agree with u i always respect his advice but this some bs he talking
If he’s not ready for her, there will be someone else who is ready for the commitment so he should step aside and let her go.
Yes! Respect her and let her be free to make her choice instead of lying and cheating, just because you are not ready... I lost so many years for these reasons, it was so hurtful and I now have very little confidence in men 😢
I so agree ! I don’t want any man to waste my time ! That is selfish and not right
@@MsRocker961 Exactly!
Boom! But they want to be greedy- but let the woman do the same thing, oh it's a PROBLEM!
@@mkb5984 I don’t think anybody is saying it’s ok for a woman to do this either. Everybody needs to get of their ego and be upfront with what they want out of a relationship! If you are just looking for a hook up or friend with benefits. Then come out and say so! Then the other person has the choice to take you up on it or say No I’m looking for a committed relationship and not even waste their time playing stupid games . That’s were people hurt people and karma will come a knocking
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've learned that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of problems in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we survived.
I honestly want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it work. We've tried different methods, like therapy, to fix things.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that pursuing this method will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; I deeply yearn for her.
You should... I promise you will not regret it
I'm a woman in a long-term relationship. I do not post my man. Anything near and dear to my heart, I keep private and protect. I wouldn't even post my children.
I am a woman and do the same. I do not post really private stuff people don't need to know and can use anything to negatively affect a person. i know people will say you should not allow what people think or say affect you. it is easier said than done.
Amen.
Damn right. The Internet is a scary place, I would never expose my loved ones to it.
I am the same
Same with me...when you post you open up Pandora's box 📦 I don't post my children either...my social media accounts are super boring 😅😅😅😅😅
The part about a man’s libido being higher. Has to do with his safety. If a woman’s libido was tested when they felt safe, which is often not the case their libido would be higher to. Feeling safe never seems to be considered it should.
I agree with safety increasing it, but it will *never* be even remotely as high as theirs, and Stephan himself has said it multiple times. No idea why in the world is it so hard for some people to understand and accept that men and women were designed differently. Exceptions to the rule? Obviously. Not the case when it comes to lïbïdo though.
@@kiravampira1456sorry don't agree, based on my personal experience
You are right! It does make a huge difference for me f ex.
@@kiravampira1456Wrong this is a generalization! As a woman w a high libido always struggling to find a man who wants to keep up. Family joke is all of us gals are high libido. Genetics?? And yes safety & trust are key!
@user-bi4hf6vq1d your generalisation is much less accurate than mine and Stephan's (which is *biology* based). Also, I really couldn't care less about some random people's bodily functions.
I like how realistic and situationally Stephen speaks about “the friend” situation. The partner should be the priority and your “friend” out of respect would want the best for you and step back.
I saw something different and told him the friend wanted to be his woman. He ensured me she was just his friend, nothing more. He was very indifferent and I asked to establish boundaries. He continued to hang out with her. 8 months later I found out he was cheating with her. I should have moved on when he defended the friendship instead of establishing boundaries.
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Intuition never lies. Sorry you went through that.
Word for word the situation I was in once. I heard for months she was just a friend, just a work colleague. He even pretended he doesn't know how to pronounce her name properly (yeah, that one confirmed my suspicion 100%). After we parted ways he admitted that all the while they were sleeping together... Disgusting. I moved on with my life and now he's still reaching out to me to manipulate me and be 'friends'.
Well I don't need a friend like him, that's one. Also I'm in a relationship and given how he defines 'friendship' that is not what I want around myself or my man, ever. Again, just disgusting. Some people think it's ok to go around and screw around with everyone, in any configuration, no boundaries, no morals, no loyalty, nothing...
But these liars sell themselves cheap. You just need to listen closely.
I hope you have moved on with your life and you are happy now. If it still hurts you, please know there is much better men out there. Good men and loyal men who appreciate a loyal and loving woman are out there.
I have had male friends. After they began dating a woman and she is not feeling me. I disappear out of respect for my friend. I have enough friends and don't need to make another woman feel uncomfortable.
I am over 50, I let men know that I don't share, compete, or wish to be ignored. I'm dating a man that I desired to spend more time with. We are both divorced and each own homes. He asked me to explain what I wanted. We worked out a schedule for weekdays, weekends, and holidays. If the relationship don't work out I'm walking. After all everything is TEMPORARY.
The funniest thing is if the shoe were on the other foot he would have allowed that.
A lot of this sounds like sloppy excuses for lack of self control. I want a man who can stand in the face of temptation, not give into it.
Cause then imma give him some temptation he can give into, if you know what I mean 🤘 💯
Exactly!! Some men lack decipline that's all.
Exactly. And d part where he says men who r desirable r less likely to be disciplined. I know desirable men who r relationship men. They just dont want the stress of multiple women
Men has little to no impulse control..
Bottom line is...if a man is really loving a woman..it will show.
Great video! Sadly, my two year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.
Guard your heart. Seek therapy. Detox yourself of him. Let go or get dragged
I like listening to Stephan because he exposes all of the double standards and fluid conditional expectations men have.
Yeah, I agree it's helpful to know. I don't judge him for telling it like it is. Even though there are double standards, I don't believe in shooting the messenger, and I'd rather him tell it the way guys actually feel even though the double standards do suck sometimes.
Double stands are BS - I think differently now than in my younger days because my heart is now all about God and His Best for me!!! Which makes me run from men who think the way he does - Ladies you can have that kind of guy 😉
Cheating isn't just accidentally stumbling. Its a selfish choice you make. How would the guy like his woman doing that. A choice is not excusable. No oops here when it eas deliberate. No one held a gun to his head or physically forced him to cheat
Human nature is stronger than any loaded gun would ever be..
I agree!
Lady’s do not tell a man how many men you slept with, a mature good man will not even ask you that. Because it’s personal business. And the “best friend” question is weird because once either person gets into a serious relationship the other person will need to back off. If my MANS best friend, was sitting on his lap that would be a huge problem..
My boyfriend and I had a conversation about social media when we first started dating. We both agreed to not post anything cause we do see that social media can cause problems in relationships. We are 8 months together and I do feel it was the right decision.
Yet you are here posting on a social media...
@@andersnielsen6044 shes commenting on a post on YT. She obviously meant actually posting her private life. How you didnt understand that is beyooond me
@@MarjyGTV She just did post her private life.. The irony..
His voice is just so comforting.
So I watched this intermittently today. Here's my take, if honesty is a strong value for you, you must be ready for honest takes from your partner. Yes delivery is important...relationships are messy and require both parties to be willing to vulnerable to uphold that shared value of honesty. It frustrates me as a woman that men will date not treat for commitment. State that upfront and focus on girls wanting marriage when you're ready. Love comes at desire and vulnerability. Committment comes at readiness, period. If either is missing after clear, honest communication and goal setting as a couple, move on.
I LOVE Stephan so much! He is super knowledgeable at his craft! Lord, PROTECT him at ALL COST! 🙏
38:49 just because I’ve been asked doesn’t mean I have to divulge my past. It is no one’s business and has no relevance to who I am. Get to know me and find out who I am. My body count or if my ex was bigger could only lead to insecurities and problems. Why cause problems with something so unimportant?
Don’t Post your Relationship.
Don’t post your Children
Don’t post what you love with all of your heart.
i love this bounce with stephan - so funny! Lisa I LOVE your style, intentional listening, articulation, questions. love that you clearly listen to the interviewee's other interviews and ask something different or press them for something more. LOVE IT.
I love interviews with Lewis Hawes
Some people dont want people knowing every relationship they get in and out of. Keep your business to yourself. Until you get married.
OMG the question about being friends with a friend you have slept with! Me and my ex had a heated debate about that. Yes, the answer speaks EXACTLY to my concerns. Thank you!
This is what I am Going thru! The immaturity of these men! It's heartbreaking 💔🥺
Just leave! Don’t waste time on trash
I swear I love this channel! ❤️🙏🏼 I learn more in 24 hours than I learned in a lifetime growing up in Trauma with my parents💯 I had to learn the hard way bc I didn't have the tools and this should be REQUIRED in school 🙌 Great guests Lisa 🙂
I really appreciate Lisa taking time to acknowledge the complexity of weight gain and the potentially deep trauma behind it 🙏🏽💕 That was very compassionate and sensitive.
As for the woman gaining 100 lbs twice in the same relationship… I would say there’s still some trauma there bc why would she gain it back once in the same relationship?
I don't know this particular woman, so it's hard to tell what her reasons were, but in my personal experince, somehow, unfortunately, I do feel LESS motivated to work out when I'm in a relationship.
I was in a commited relationship for 4 years and it was impossible for me to force myself to eat less calories and be consistent with sports, while the moment the relationship ended - it magically became easy and fun to do that and I started to look 10 times better. Now I'm in a relationship again and I'm again being "lazy".
After reflecting on these changes I came to a conclusion that it can be something hormonal, meaning: "I feel safe and comfortable with this man", so maybe from a biological point, my brain thinks "I need to preserve the energy for now having babies".
But when I'm unconsiously in a mode of "looking for a partner", i guess the hormones shift to "let's put all the energy into attracting the best partner".
Some of my female friends experience the same thing. I don't know if it's true or not, but I know that I truly want to be the person who's active and looks great despite the relationship status, but I just can't help it that in a relationship gym feels like torture, while out of the relationship gym was fun and exciting.
As a RN who works with hormones & dieticians. Most people in love or in a relationship release hormones that cause increased appetite & to enjoy food especially when eating together as a couple. Most people gain weight from simply eating out more, eating together etc.
Unless the partner is a health freak who eats so well & exercises influencing their partner.
There are those with eating disorders too who may never gain weight in a relationship.
@@ari_jeanI did not gain weight during my 17year marriage...I was not feeling safe! Now, being alone, I gain some weight but I feel safe, satisfied and comfortable with myself. I think you are really bringing very intresting hypothesis...
This man is amazing. Thank god he’s here 🙏
I believe in privacy of a relationship. Especially on social media.
Your show is changing my Life Lil by Lil, I Love All the content ,YOU ROCK GIRL !!!!
I love listening to his advice - he pretty much confirms every belief I have about men's behavior, and it helps me feel comfortable with my decisions in the dating realm!
Stephan is such a beautiful speaker.
Loving someone is when they let you go, you let go of them and set their soul free, after which, your own soul will feel free.
Hi Lisa, I just really wanna appreciate you for your effort and work! You’re amazing Beautiful human Being.😍 please continue what you’re doing.
- you change my life so much for the better.
I’m Learning so much from this channel.
- you’re a Gift from God to Everybody!
Love you! ❤
It's crazy how they worried about someone's past when they have 8or 9 baby mama's
What happens to the women this guy uses for his self gratification does he consider their feelings?
Exactly
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We all move too fast period! We need to SLOW DOWN!
Get to know someone for 90 days, decide if you want to date during that time, if yes, set a rough time for yourself mentally for when you’ll decide to move from dating (hopefully monogamously) to actually building a life together.
Problem is we move from the getting to know you phase straight to let’s be together forever & rarely do those relationships work.
You generally won’t really know how that person shows up in relationships unless you date them monogamously first.
And both people need to be courageous enough to have all kinds of communication regarding feelings, values & moving from phase to phase.
That's expert advice! Thank u!
I don't agree. Everytime I let a girl to slow down, I got friendzoned or I found out she had slept with someone else during this time.
Never again!
Now, if a woman wants to "take it slowly" I consider her simply not interested in me. I would give the same advice to my son.
Everytime a woman was actually interested in my, things went pretty fast.
@@lukas4016 Being interested in you is not the same as "she is a good fit for a committed relationship with you". And the decision to date exclusively (or at least no sex with other partners) has to be a mutual decision that is respected by both partners. Of course when nothing comes of it you missed out on some sex you could have had in a short term relationship. Good training: if a woman is pregnant, has a newborn you might also not be in the mood for making love and vaginal sex could be forbidden or it hurts too much.
The phrase "I let a girl slow down .... " gave you away. The girl wanted to take it slown (in this case maybe because she did not want to give up her other options for you. so not longterm relationship oriented. On the other hand we also do not know whether you wanted a real relationship, or whether you just wanted to bed her (and someone else beat you to it).
The ladies that take it slowly because they do want a committed relationship will be sorted out by your criteria.
Of course if the goal is to get laid, it is different - as long as both know the rules that is O.K. as well.
@@franziskani ok, so how can I make sure that I'm not going to be friendzoned or ghosted?
@@lukas4016I am a female and prefer to take it slow bcuz too many of us allow hormones and emotions lead us and next thing we know we've jumped into something too fast too soon and then comes disaster...I want to build a solid friendship before we move to relationships...gives a chance to build real feelings and respect for each other
This is an amazing podcast. Thank you Lisa! ❤
My two uncles one day cornered me in the kitchen at a family gathering telling me how beautiful I am if I could just lose 60 lb... That was like 20 years ago and I still think about it everyday but I have lost weight but not for them 💖
Thats creepy😂😂😂😂
think about staying "fit" eating many "small' portions , "love yourself correctly first", stay active, invest in many types tennis shoes, 👟 👞 👞 👟 keep all your passions dreams alive some personal, some open. enjoy!
You don’t have to disclose your body count. I would say… “I’m very particular… it’s not high”.
I pray I find a man that is so wise as you.
If someone doesn't post their relationship on insta, just accept that and do not question it! Look at the rest of the signs how he might be into you! If he's not move on
The only men I've known who did that were serial cheaters. I understand if the guy wants to keep his privacy but when he's posting only himself or other people, he's either seeking self validation online or he's intending on cheating on the low.
Here’s the thing though if you are someone that like that wants to wants to showcase here and there the person that you are in a relationship with and the other person doesn’t y’all are not compatible and you need to move on. People don’t have to accept shit that they don’t want. And you can’t make people settle for shit just because you are insecure or have an issue with posting on social media. That’s the problem y’all want people to stick around and put up with any and everything and we don’t have to. Except that. And to the other person that left a comment. Oh, I agree, most of the people who claim to be private or full of shit. There is a big difference between privacy and secret. A lot of these people claiming to be private or actually being secretive. And let’s be real when somebody is being secretive. Nine times out of 10. There is a lot of shadiness going on. And like you mention these are the types. Oh I don’t like taking pictures. Yeah they have pictures all over their social media by themselves and with other people. But when it comes to you, there’s a problem they don’t want to take pictures with you even if it’s just for you and them’s eyes only let her know posting it on social media. And again if there’s a private, why are they posting on social media in the first damn place? They can talk about everything else going on in her life, but they can’t ever mention that there are actually in a committed relationship with someone? So again, T to each his own but I know for me on a personal level moving forward that is a red flag and I will never entertained that bullshit.
I met a guy on a dating site and we clicked. His ex contacted him way too much and used the kids to get his attention. Months later the he spoke to his ex aboht it, she then pulled back. He told me he misses me... drives 4 hours to see.. we talk about things, then he asks me to wait to make sure hes 100% sure. I checked the dating app and hes on there everyday. I really dont get it. Ive expressed that i love him unconditionally but I cant wait for him because it might never happen and i can just remains friends. He didnt reply. I find a lot of men these days scared to commit. Its so easy to have more than one, especially with dating apps.
I was once the " she's just a friend from work" woman to his wife; the wife I didn't KNOW about for 8 and a half years... ( I found out about her, told her everything and she began divorce proceedings right away !! ) So, when, 3 months ago he texted me that he was at a local event " With a friend " ( 2 days before my birthday) I cut my losses, blocked him everywhere and ran. He's also a malignant -covert narcissist...so to say it was over 9 years of toxicity is putting it mildly. 😶😶😶😑😑😑
The last thing I said to him, calmly while looking him directly in the eye was
" Karma."
Is there a reason you didn't want to marry in 8 years? I think I would've been gone much earlier.
You did great, but I think you should love yourself more...
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You were with him 8 and a half years and you knew you were being passed off as a work friend but you claim you didn't know he was married? Hahahaaaa!! Do you think we're idiots? Clearly you DID know about his wife, and you were hoping he'd leave her for you. They probably have kids and he was using them as an excuse. When you finally realized that he was never gonna leave her, THEN you contacted his wife. Not a good look for you.
@@2sides_2everystoryhe could have been a pilot and her a flight attendant…it’s hard to say in some instances. They might have only seen each other once in a while. Or at least that’s the only scenario I can wrap my mind around right now 😂
On the weight topic. I LOST a TON of weight as an attempt to regain intimacy. DON"T change for anybody. You have to be YOU. Men loved me WITH THE weight.. so? be yourself!
It is important how you feel, if you feel bad that you gained Kg. Then you loose weight if you want, but if your boyfriend tells you, then, it is a problem.
If a man has a female friend thats he's close with or best friends with. There's still boundaries that need to be made. Also the man needs to make sure he is continually makes her feel his woman is THE ONE
And vice versa
Never trust "she's Just a Friend" recently love bombed and gaslighting only to see him propose on the Internet after prior weekend being with him. Anger anger anger.
This conversation Is opening another display about men to me.
I’m surprised no one put together that the person who gained weight when being with their mate, separated, lost it, then regained it when they got back together, is a signal that something was missing when she was with him.
Thank you both very much for bringing up the difference in “I love you.” Vs “Love you.” 🙏
Thank you for clarification on so many levels 🙏🏼
I would love to hear such discussion both with Stephan and Sadia Khan at the same time
Agreed this would be incredible!
Agreed!!
I really liked Sadia in the beginning and I think she does have good ideas. But the more I listen to her, I sense more judgment in many of her statements which is a bit off-putting. I've also noticed her verbally attacking others who don't agree with her. So I have started following her talks a lot less.
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She is more emotional. She openly said that sha has some insecurities to work on or she was attacked by some women but still she wants to spread the message to the world.
I trully belive it's still worth to hear her out. Specially if she triggers some of your insecurities. If you have an insecurity, it worth to ask why this pisses you off? You need to heal all of them, to find true happiness
Sadia is a bad advice giver.😂😂
More ads than anything else on RUclips. One of the ads was about RUclips ads. That's new. That's actually crazy when you think about it - "Do you want to stop so many RUclips ads"-Ad 🤣
My spirit tells me that the one that I felt was right was indeed what I first felt and that I was just a path of overgrown forestry to be a path for others with no regard for my body, life, soul and or heart
This conversation breaks my heart
This interview is amazing!
This is a great interview and enlightening! I would like to add another thing a man will say to you. At least my guy did. He has several women in addition to me. He says he doesn’t favor one woman over another. He says it to maintain peace for himself, maybe to spare a woman’s feelings, and to keep her around for whatever qualities she has to offer. It’s a good arrangement if you can stay detached and just have fun. It’s a nightmare when you love the man as I do. One needs to master compersion if she wants to stay with him.
Out of the male relationship "gurus" or coaches I've listened to, I enjoy Stephen. He comes across as genuine and thoughtful, and he's very insightful and shares a lot of my own views.
38:40 I've only had one man ask me my "body count,", and he revealed himself to be extremely insecure, misogynistic, and toxic. I don't think I'd share this in the future because it's personal. And the men who ask generally seem to be inherently insecure and view women as objects rather then people. What's most important is your sexual health history.
Only one ?!!! Every man I’ve ever spoke to has asked but they only need to feel threatened by one of them who was actually good😂
@@liltriqq😂 Yeah, just one. Even though we haven't dated in years, he is still jealous of the thought of me with someone else. Maybe it's becoming more common to ask, but it's a red flag to me.
This tells me you really don't get it nor do you really hear this passive misogynist!
@@loyaltyb71052 What views of his make you think he’s a misogynist? I’m new to his channel, but I’ve watched several of his videos. I’ve noticed he’s pretty clear about distinguishing between *his* views and those of other men.
I’m not going to shoot the messenger for sharing what/how those other men think. lol So far, I haven’t heard him express personal misogynistic views.
But at the same time, perception is subjective. I’ve heard and seen a lot of ugly comments and behaviors from men, so in comparison, nothing he’s personally expressed has set off an 🚨 yet.
@Voyeuriztic he passively blames everything on women and make excuses for men. He knows it's men but casually says now this applies to both. The truth is, men are not decent and it's rare to find women that behave in the intolerable ways that men do. Men preach forgiveness because they're most often in the need to be forgiven. Men would never or rarely stay in relationships they "feel" the slightest disrespect.
Yes I was the trophy wife. Yes he continued to have fun. Yes I divorced him!
Totally true 😂 I can laugh about it now. But believe me it was heart breaking when i found out.
To all those men out there. YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO! Decide, commit, succeed 💯
Lisa you are fabulous as always 😘x
Love this because the answer to theses questions is on point
This guy is spreading some crazy information. That’s what the problem is with the dating scene - because other people listen to him! Thank you Lisa for pushing back on many topics!
You just hate the truth
He's speaking the truth. He's speaking the nature of men but not making excuses.
Like what?
i hate fake it until you make it because i can sense lies . so for me it shows me i cant trust this person
Doesme not trusting and holding back make me the liar?
Yesss...Stephan.....You have given sound, true and reasonable advice ..I agreee. !!
Stehan Speaks Is So Deep with this Topic!
Pro tip: when a man talks about another woman’s beauty. Talk about/admire another man’s materials, like “oh wow, he has such a nice car/expensively dressed wife decked in the most beautiful jewels, I wonder what he does for a living, he seems wealthy! “
That will make him understand you have eyes and thoughts too
I agree it's sad and immature but you learn to play the same game. I don't mind recreational games, but I do not like games in a relationship. You should be open, honest and sincere with one another. If what you are going to say isn't beneficial to enhancing the relationship, and it's just an empty conversation, maybe it's best not to say anything.
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Woow Stephan is so right on all levels thanks so much for your answers.
Finally I always your person or partner should be your friend best friend confident !
Hello guys. Thank you very much for this interview. Blessings 🙏🏽✨️
❤ I love ❤this guy ❤ Extremely intelligent and interesting ❤ He tells us straight… what we get confused about 🤷♀️ I love ❤️ his books 👍 Brilliant guy ❤
Adore Lisa’s show ❤ She is fabulous and has brilliant guests ❤ Love ❤️ to you all ❤⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Well I agree with Lisa, If I'm the "best but he's not done with the rest" then he is not emotionally mature enough to be in a committed relationship so I m not going to wait... NEXT!
It’s more about how much you love and care about your self, not how much it means to your mate.
God Bless You! Concern...the friend may represent the connection that maybe missing in the relationship lacking connection. ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
After watching this interview, it kind of feels like these types of men are putting themselves on a pedestal. Its a great interview thank you, i really got a lot of out it. I feel as women, the more we do not accept this type of behaviour from these type of the men, the better. Why do they think it's ok for us just to be the other woman that they can just have sex with? Imagine if every woman in the world was taught NOT to sleep with a man until they want to commit. These types of men would not think its ok to just "have sex" with them. Its such a confusing topic because we are all taught casual sex is ok. But is it really? Why are men so disrepectful thay they think its ok just to "have sex" with a woman. I think its so wrong.
Unfortunately men grow up where they it’s ok to sleep with many women and then expect a virgin …
He can be a trash but still want a pure one
I have living proof of life experience and what she is speaking is so on point. In a different example than my details but same outcome Beautiful Gift And Work.
Stephan made great points and arguments! I appreciate this channel for always having quality guests and content❤
Wow!!! Very impressive content.
Great content as usual. Thank you both
As a woman the comment about the 30 pounds would make me never want to be in a relationship with that man. Why? Because of pregnancy. You have to gain 25-30 pounds minimum in a healthy pregnancy. And with those hormones changes is takes most women years to get heal from pregnancy. If you want 2 kids that is about 7-9 years for your body to fully recover. I am not going to be in a relationship with a man that is not going to be attracted to me even if I drop the pregnancy weight instantly that is still about a year of him not being attracted to me. Also other issues happen & people age. He is shallow.
I agree because thats a red flag.if someone really serious about u 30 pds aint nothing.that sounds like someone who will bring u down
this is so true a man i dated was so into being like this. the fact that he has been married many times and asking for money but don't give or share his money. he have more than one woman at a time
women until he needs you
he just told me he is getting married to a woman he showed me he is going to date on a trip to greese
Stephan is amazing!❤
I'm a minute and a half in and have a different take. Men who are narcissists and don't know what's wrong with them will tell their own family members their ex's are crazy because they have no explanation on why they leave or do what they do. They don't understand why themselves if they don't know they are narcissists. Even if they don't really believe their ex is crazy they will say she was crazy because they have no other explanation and are incapable of taking any responsibility. This is a REAL COWARD. I was ghosted after 12 years! Then when I did see him again (8 YEARS later) he looked at me and said "can I ask you a question". I said yes. To which he replied "did we have a fight". That's when I really knew, he didn't even know why he left himself... He just ran at the point where he started feeling vulnerability.
If I'm putting any energy into a man when dating and he has a wondering eye .. I'm out . That weakens the bond
My ex and I grew up together and we're very unhealthy kids, drama, family homes. We were terrible to each other but at the same time we learned how to be good and what's good together through the deepest darkness and we didn't have intimacy. We know now that hinder us, but we are connected and my boyfriend doesn't need to be jealous or concerned of us intimately, but after the things we went through I don't know how to ever connect that way again with anyone.
❤❤ Awesome Segment
These were both GREAT interviews. But why didn’t you dedicate a full episode to each of them? Why combine them? Do a longer interview with each, and split it into two episodes is my suggestion.
I'm guessing it goes both ways with accepting compliments because my husband brushed off every word of encouragement, every compliment, every expression of gratitude, and I felt so downtrodden and rejected I finally had to call it quits.
Maybe because affirmations wasnt his thing. Some people compliments does nothing
@@zero1188 I would agree with you except he'd complain that I didn't appreciate what he did for me and that I didn't encourage him enough. Yet when I did, he brushed me off. It was deeply confusing. I always felt off balance talking with him; more and more lonely and isolated; unappreciated; discounted...
@@debbiedegenhardt9287 but you can appreciate in different ways outside of compliments. His real issue is he probably didn’t specify what he meant by appreciation. People like different things
@@zero1188 another good point. I will have to explore this further. Thank you. 😊
@@debbiedegenhardt9287 did you asked him directly what kind of appreciation and motivation does he need?
If a man lets you know that you're outside is more important than who you are on the inside and it overshadows your inside leave his ass in the shadows because he ain't going to stay the same. One thing is guaranteed your heart may stay the same but she looks going to fade so take me as I am or watch me as I walk away. Cuz I know a lot of not so attractive women they are beautiful on the inside and that's what make them beautiful. Who wants to be with a shallow man because he's not going to stay perfect and he's not going to make that extra effort for you
I believe when a guy says you are the most beautiful women I have ever seen to me he is referring to her personality that is why he is referring her as different because as much as he says to others you are beautiful so indeed different ways in says how beautiful. Is my perception in seeing it that way
Sure you right! I will never what to force a man to care of love me, I will be alone first , he will try to do the world for me , if I except that , first he keeps me smiling, every he walk through my door and always bring a small gift , only when it's flower , and a great smile , love him dearly, if he stray away I will finite know , I am open to talk , and why , ask many of questions ! It all about the conversation , do not marque about anything , we are about to talk and laugh about it ! Hello or good bye , it's in the kiss!❤😊
My ex was crazy means i couldn't play her; she wasn't dumb as i thought for the most
So true
This the one💯💯
😊 the queen spoke truth,in reality she is showing you how to respect a woman...
Yup
Love to see you two together.
Outstanding conversation
Hello Lisa! Hop you & Tom are well. ❤
❤❤eye contact is the code to your heart❤ youre absolutely right..i dont trust anyone that cant look in my eyes wen they talking
I love ur hair a little calmer
If a man says “my name is Stephan Speaks” RUN. Lol
Fast as you can!
This segment right here all 💯💯Facts
I just found your videos and I absolutely love them! It’s helped me so much in my new relationship
When you never hear that compliment. And they stare at other women or make comments..why is that?
That’s so true. I have a male best friend. He is my roommate. 12 years living together we are like really brother and sister. That was the first thing I told my boyfriend before we started anything. And it’s been along time since since I’ve been with anyone. My past boyfriend died almost 8 years ago now. And when I finally got out of my dark place and started a relationship. He was nothing but happy for me. And gives me my distance he’s not all calling me all the time if I’m a with my boyfriend or anything. And when he’s with his girlfriend I do the same. We live together but have our own separate lives. I don’t know it’s hard to explain. But we are nothing but friends/ roommates there’s no attraction between us at all. And we never even fight. If there are no romantic feelings so no jealousy between each other. Just being friends just works for us. But when the time comes and my boyfriend and I want to live together then that’s where I’m going. And my friend understands. He just wants me to be happy. But no none ever really understands.
My boyfriend now is someone I went to high school with. But lost touch with afterwards. Only knew him from my freshman year he was senior. 14yrs ago we a few conversations b it then he slowly started blowing me off. Then nothing for 14 years. I recently turned my FB back on and he eventually reached out. I was a little hesitant but I’m glad I did. I’ve also just met his parents and mine are up in a couple weeks. And after I met his he asked me when he was going to meet mine. 😊