How to break a soul tie 1. Block the access to your ears. 2. Break the physical addiction by curbing the sexual impulses. In the mind and spirit. A. The mind must be preoccupied by something meaningful and righteous to distract from the flesh. Find your purpose, goals, hobbies, that's meaningful to you. B. The spirit must be filled with the Holy Spirit. C. The flesh must be denied. Prayer and fasting (denial of the flesh so the spirit can expand.) 3. Restore your soul by accepting God's forgiveness/love. (The mind has been damaged to believe your value is less bc of x,y,& z. Spend time in God's presence and feel the forgiveness of God. Bask in the fact that you are right with God and there is no condemnation to you.) 4. Renew your self-respect by officially denouncing that relationship. Denounce it by your mouth and actions. Do this AFTER doing the other steps. Cancel every word of love or promise you spoke to that person and what they spoke to you. Keep yourself available, clean, and pure for God to send the right person to your life. Lose the desperation. And choose to wait on God for the right one. Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
1. Close Your Ears. 2. Close Your Legs. 3. Restore Your Soul - Accept God's Forgiveness. 4. Renew Your Self Respect, Officially Denounce The Relationship.
Its important to go NO CONTACT PERMANENTLY!!!!. No Facebook, Instagram, emails and text. Pray daily and ask God to release you from this demonic soul tie. The longer you keep this soul tie it will steal months and even years from your life!!!
Spiritual Warfare IS life on earth ...we've gotta pick a side a be a warrior for that side ...devil's grabbing every soul he can & gaining ground ...one of his favorite tools (more & more every moment) r one of his favorites; they r able to charm our pants off & get into our head to keep us busy focusing on them, trying to figure out their crazy making fake stuff, so we r not spending time seeking God & His instruction booklet to our life (The Bible)... They r so so good at this too; until we started figuring out their bull & calling them out, then they run from US (instead of us from them), when they see God's truths within us from the beginning or when they know we know, game over; they get the heck out of there lol !!! ...Narcissist are so predictable, so easy to spot once we experience them; they r all the same & all ridiculous, once we see thru their unreal egos ...Thank You God ! My life, after 40 years of Narcissistic Abuse by many of them, who were attracted to my conditioning by my Momma, I'm now free & my life has been spared !!! Heck they led me straight into God's Loving arms, my life has NEVEr been better now that I'm free of them; I'm so Thankful, to God ...AND to them lol ! Their tricks of holding u in bondage has backfired, like everything they do, in the end ...we already know who wins the Spiritual Warfare, Bible tells us ALL ! See 2 Timothy 3, describes the Narcissist in the "end times" & just like the Psychologists, God tells us to stay away from them ! Learning to spot them, so we never get entangled in first place (be sure the person u choose loves God, & would love God if NOT with u too), God thru Jesus is The Truth, The Life & The (only) Way ! Amen; thank You God !
I’m living this right now don’t know if is my mind intuición or heart telling me get out but ask soon as I act to let go something feel tie up and I star felling guilty I don’t know why
I cut this person off once and made the mistake and responded 5 months later🤦🏾♀️ and it was worse this time around. I literally changed my number, deactivated my IG deleted my main email account deleted all pictures and videos. This is a toxic soul tie. And I was tempted to call today but was led here and pastor was live...its deep but I know I'll get over it.
Once a person stops looking for closure and acceptance moving on becomes a little easier. It hurts. The deception and betrayal is real but the love for yourself has to be greater. Like Whitney Houston said...learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all!!!
You never really get closure anyway. If they can't get out of you what they want out of you there isn't any reason for them to talk to you. And apologize? Usually people that we have soul ties with are not one to apologize. They put the blame on you and yet we keep eating candy out of their hands.
Amen and Whitney Houston was lonely, extremely talented, and did not love herself because of all of the toxic people around her. Eventually that toxic environment not only killed her emotionally but physically.
It will hurt like heck! Stay strong, cry it out, talk to God, go deep in your bible and focus on self love.. It will get better slowly by crucifying the old self with the help of Jesus Christ. Praying for you Sis❤
Can you really see him for who he is first? Then understand he is under demonic control and choose your Lord and SAVIOR as your FIRST LOVE. Then RUN to him instead of that person. PRAY for them and work on yourself. Jesus has so much Love/Healing and he is ALWAYS available.
Yes you are helping. You got to go NO CONTACT. Don't look for them online. Build your mind and set it. You gotta SET YOUR MIND. I have been through this and it is hard but so sweet a blessing on the other side. Gotta go through that fire and come out refined and strong. Glory. God does not want his daughters to be hurt like this. Thank you.
“...Go and sin no more.” You have been called out publicly on your behavior.... renew your self-respect, officially denounce your relationship and MOVE ON!!!!!
Trauma bonds are real. They are based on childhood traumas. When we are able to recognize that how we were treated as children paves the way for the way we allow people to treat us!
It's so true... Even after years of therapy, I still have to be extremely conscious that I don't let nobody's dusty son treat me like emotionally broken father did. I have to always be cognizant of my trauma and consciously not act upon it.
This man that I have been with for 4 years has pushed my buttons to the point that I’ve acted completely out of character when angry. and once an hour or so passes and I think about it I’m so ashamed of my behavior and just hate myself for it. I’m tired of this draining cycle. I pray to God to give me the strength to let go.
It's okay. I blamed myself and took most responsibility for such behavior for a long time whilst in an abusive relationship. When I finally left him and discussed how disappointed I was with myself, I told my best friend how ashamed I was because I acted out of character. I said the way I acted was not someone deserving of respect from Anyone. She said "But you were Provoked". I remember those simple words each time I think back about my poor behavior. It was purely reactionary, and I became that way after years of being punished, abused, and drained continually by a true narcissist. We don't just betray our morals without extreme pressure and provocation. Take RC Blake's advice- PRAY to God and denounce your relationship out loud. SAY It so your subconscious hears it too. Verbalize to yourself that You are worthy of respect and love. Don't let those imperfect moments crush your spirit- forgive yourself and build your spirit up again. I have faith you will be more discerning afterwards
Statement about blocking the individual worked for me ! 1) block the individual 2) refrain from sexual activity in the mind and spirit. Make your mind focus on something else ( meaningfully ) to avoid only thing of the individual. 3) we must get out of our comfort zone 4) guard your mind so the weeds don't take over ( Jim Rohn)
Soul ties are REAL!! Pastor I used to be that person, granting a person access to my mind and body. I am a living witness that Those impulses go when you purge that soul tie, there is a withdrawal period, but when you finally deny that flesh and it's desires, you no longer have those sexual feelings or thoughts! As a matter of fact, your "BS" meter becomes very sensitive..lol
Same here. And it’s been at least two or three times I’ve cut the ties but ended up going back one last time in spite of my better judgement. And this time I was left hurt. And I’ve done the deleting and blocking on everything. Im doing better but still think about them every once in a while. Glad I came here though!
Before I deleted his pics I focused in on his eyes and cropped it ! I just had his eyes to look into ( without that sweet smile and nice body ) and they were SCARY and had hate and hurt and void of the love I thought was looking back at me for those years . Now I laugh and send it to my friends and say " BOO" and they say dang he looks evil. I am healed though so I don't recommend it to someone still having trouble leaving. I do forgive him now but only for me and I cant go to God in prayer with hate in my heart.
@@inspirationwithnicole so sad I stopped watching because of this.. I am laid off and this really put a bad taste in my mouth if that makes sense😞 I was so happy when I started reading the response to then be let down when I was asked for money and then saw it was copy and pasted everywhere else...
“That’s a soul tie bae!” It’s real. People reject it because they either haven’t been through it or they are in it. It takes one to lay eyes on it or go through it and get to the other side to know it’s real.
Soul ties are so real. I broke communication over six months ago and my thought still tend to drift to this individual...DAILY! This was just a close friendship. I can't imagine how hard it would be to break a romantic soul tie.
Trust me, the latter of the two situations IS even more traumatizing. But all narcissistic relationships are a destroyer so we are all suffering the same foundational toxicity is troubling. But we will be freed and prevail, IN JESUS NAME!
We had some "words" and he told me to stop texting him. I told him that he would never hear from me again. And he hasn't. That was over three years ago.@888hereandnow
I truly want to be free from and break the soul tie to my ex- fiancé who texted his breakup to me and walked 3.5 months ago. I blocked him today, finally, even though he has not ever reached out to me. I still needed to do it. We live in a tiny town and I see him almost every time I run errands. I know this is temporary pain and I realize now that God closed the door for me. My ex has zero interest in me and it was hard to accept that. The pain is brutal and deep, but I am determined and relying on God. I’ve done so many good things in my life and career, but made stupid relationship decisions. Praying for discernment and protection. God first. And yes, this video helped me. Thank you for taking the time to do this.
I am living this for the first time in my life at 37 years old. I am attracted to a toxic man who does nothing for me .i am very strong in life and I met several men before. But this guy has a control on my mind/soul. Very very weird . I always feel connected and drained. Sometimes it woke me up in the middle of the night. Some days it is like fever : I think about him too much and I am drained for 3/4 days and then it is ok.and after a few weeks it happens again. I don’t know why. I never lived this before. People around me don’t understand . So I cut any form of contact , I don’t talk to him anymore
Exactly what I been going through for the past 5 months. Can't stop having this man on my mind at all whatsoever, no matter what I do. I've even had dreams of him too. I really been wanting to get over him too and I've also have prayed to God to help me get over him, still nothing. 😩🤦🏽♀️. It feels like witchcraft.
I'm not even a Christian, and who knows which god has brought me here. But, whoever it is, I'm so thankful. Those first few minutes were filled with my continuous AHA moments... So, so precise description of my toxic relationship and my chronic disability to end it...
I didn't block his number. He called me Thursday of last week then ghosted me the following Saturday. I was starting to feel better now back to that dark place. You know how when you meet someone & you're so giddy can't wait to see & be around them. The butterflies he gave me he killed them. I can literally feel the dead butterflies inside me.
He called just to put you back in that dark place. You need to realize these people are the enemy and their biggest weapon is stringing you along with your hope and believe in a change in them. As soon as you're strong enough to walk away...they pull on your emotions and You feel sorry for the host soul, cycle continues. Shut it down completely. Don't feel bad remorse or sorry for going Savage mode. This is what is required. See it for what it is. If you need more confirmation. Pray and ask the lord to show you the demon attached to these people...thier true form. I swear they'll be no going back in your mind once you do see and realize what you have been dealing with this whole time. Forget the human suit. These things are ugly inside out
Reading the bible helps so much to distract and brings peace because it explains how my story ends. Wait on the Lord. Vengence belongs to God he will repay
Pastor you are soooo awesome I just got out of a toxic narcissist soul tie relationship and your messages give me life!!!!! I listen to them daily weather if it’s one month old same day or years old thank you so much🙏🏽please keep doing what you’re doing, I need it!!♥️
Soul ties are REAL! Like Bishop said, (I’m paraphrasing) “someone is feeding and the other is feasting” or vice versa. You have to delete the pictures and all methods of communication to the person.
I fell in love with someone who absolutely did not care about me, just my body. I’ve given up my old life and found Christ. I just want to forget him and meet my future husband.
I am based in Namibia, Africa and I can wholeheartedly say that you have changed my life. Thank you and continue doing Gods work. Your reach is far and wide.
I blocked him all day and I was calmer and didn't miss him AT ALL ! Came home in the silent treatment and DON'T CARE !! He is still living in my home. I have begun my financial freedom from him. He's on his way down the road. Thank you Pastor for your guidance ❤️❤️
I have cut the flesh off over a year ago. I have started to volunteer at a church I was involved with before him and keep myself busy helping my friends and family. I sense the Holy spirit is protecting me right now. God bless you Pastor Thank you for all you do!! 💓💓
01/08/23 lord have mercy! This has blessed me beyond measure! Such a on time word from the Lord. You nailed it when you said and the sex ain't even that good! I have never heard that preached before. THANK YOU for your boldness and speaking of the truth! This message I know is going to change my life. I can't thank you enough for keeping it 💯. God bless you!
A lot of people don't believe in this stuff and think it is some kind of spiritual mumbo jumbo. It is real, I have been there. Listen to what he is saying. Many people stay in abusive or toxic relationships because of soul ties. On one hand they hate what the person is doing to them but their codependency to the toxicity is so strong that it is like an addiction they can't let go. for instance, Sex can be a pathway to a soul tie, where someone is addicted to the physical pleasure in a relationship even though the other person treats them like crap.
I was thinking that too. If u dont like the name " soul tie" call it something else! A bad bond...a unhealthy connection" ..a soul tie ! They really have to be out of sight, smell, hear , touch to be out of mind eventually! And once that hurt , and it's a bad hurt, starts to heal you appreciate even having a real smile on your face! Leave these losers !! Jesus heals. He will be what you need instead if the narcicist. I found the gym to be my hobby outlet and I am in my best shape ever and strong mentally and physically.. I pray for anyone foinf through this. It is gut wrenching, devastating and just heart breaking when we have to part from what we thought was real . I am healed. I dont deal with pre programmed robots that have no empathy anymore . Thank you for what you do. You are like a father to thousands of daughters ( and sons ) you have never met !!
I believe but very rarely pray, I layed in the tub crying grasping for air and I prayed for forgiveness and asked God for strength and help me to forgive and to be light because my heart is so heavy, and the next day you came up on my you tube feed. I have been entangled in a toxic relationship that has left me in constant anxiety and confusion, I know he does not want me here and this is not my purpose you are not supposed to feel this way in your purpose and I know he sent me your videos to assist in freeing me from these chains. Thank you 🙏
This is SO helpful! Finally walked away from an affair…. Thank you RC Blakes for your spirit led counsel. You understand soul ties like nobody I’ve ever encountered. Finally I have hope!
I'm glad you moved on. This is no judgement on you. But as a wife I've been cheated on. I was a good wife too with littles. Can I ask do the women affair partner ever think about how destroyed the wife and children are? Like we will be divorcing and future forever different. I always wondered if the woman cared or not. Like I said not judging you. Proud of you! Just wanted to get your perspective to a question I've always wondered but couldn't ask. ❤
My ex creates several social media pages. I blocked all of them. He's mentally ill. A narcissist x100. I praise God for my healing and deliverance!!!!!! 🙏🙌🙌🙌
I severed a soul tie relationship almost 4 years ago. It was not healthy and I had a really hard time letting go and getting out of it. Finally I did thanks to binging on the pastor's videos and now I have no emotions toward that person and there is no hurt or pain or contact anymore however I still think about them everyday 🙄 this is real.
This was awesome Bishop. I needed this msg last weekend when I ran into the narc thru a mutual friend. I felt set up, but once I processed it, I held myself accountable. " If he can get in your ear, he can get in your bed", is nothing but the truth. I blocked him already but wasn't expecting to see him, and I responded to his presence, and it has caused a riff between our mutual friend and I. I heard you when you said , " Get rid of the friends". Done and done!
I’ve been in this cycle for two years. Gone no contact many times but always relapse after a few weeks or months. His persistent, amazing with words.. and undoubtedly I do love him. But is it healthy? Definitely not. This soul tie is so real, I have no problem starting the no contact but with time it seems to get harder because I can’t erase the memories. I’ve blocked access to my ears, but I still feel the need to check his social media! And my flesh craves him, intimately. I’ve decided to start today, to block him, delete all pictures and videos and try again. Fall down seven times, get up eight! Thank you for this video. I needed this once again ❤️
The Holy Spirit has been guiding me through this addictionship. I feel HIS presense standing right next to me... All of the steps but the Iast one has happened. I am preparing to ask him to leave MY home!! I feel calmness in my spirit because I know where the wisdom and strength are coming from. Thank you Pastor for this message and confirmation.
Pastor RC your teachings have literally helped me to heal and love myself, my soultie WAS a narcissist as well. I cried long tears but have come to realize that he was not God's best...Jesus is my husband♥️ You have taught me so many things about relationships, God bless you! And thank you❤️
I blocked him just now 🙏 i don’t need anyone triggering and mocking my pain when I’m already vulnerable and healing. I allowed this man to assault me in every level. No more!
Going no contact is the best thing you can do! If they show up at your door DO NOT ANSWER if they keep on call the police. Block every number they call from and get off social media!! Get a new number and move if all else falses!
I denounce my last relationship no more control never in my life! I will wait on God to send me a Man that will be right for my life, soul and love God! I have grown from this relationship no more power in the name of Jesus 🙌🏾 Thank you Bishop for words of wisdom!
My Grandmother used to always say that an idle mind is the Devil’s workshop and that’s so true and too much free time also makes it even more difficult to heal from the negativity that’s being experienced!!
You are helping me a lot! The reception is fine here, in Denver, CO. You have to renew your self-respect after having been with a narc. Denounce the emotionally abusive relationship. Keep available for God to send the right person into your life. Someone you deserve. Submit to God. Resist the devil.
Thank you Bishop RC Blakes Jr. for giving us an awesome explanation of a soul tie or trauma bond from a spiritual perspective. Also, in layman's terms breaking relational connections with toxic people can cause psychological rumination. What causes ruminating? People ruminate for a variety of reasons. According to the American Psychological Association, some common reasons for rumination include: A. Belief that by ruminating, you’ll gain insight into your life or a problem. B. Having a history of emotional or physical trauma. C. Facing ongoing stressors that can’t be controlled. Ruminating is also common in people who possess certain personality characteristics, which include perfectionism, neuroticism, and an excessive focus on one’s relationships with others. If a person has not learned to set healthy boundaries and gotten positive emotional coping tools like meditation, prayer or professional counseling to help them stop the negative mental thoughts or loops then they'll be likely to keep choosing intimate partners that display the same toxic/negative behavior patterns.
Amen 🙏 Bishop Blakes! I’ve gone through all of these steps the last 2 months and praise Jesus I know my strongholds are broken. The Narc is still trying to contact me but I’m strong in Christ and healing more every day 🙌 No Contact ever ever again.
You are not RC Blake’s Sir. I’ve seen you make this exact comment on other channels as different spiritual leaders. I rebuke you in Jesus name and bind you spirit of deceit.
Rc blake's sir u r the bomb!!!! God blessed me when I found ur youtube videos. Thank u for caring about us and giving us the help we need. U r making a difference. U really r. Thank u sir may God continue to protect u and bless u 💯💯🏆🏆🏆
Pastor, your RUclips videos are food for my soul. Thank you so much for illuminating the darkness and chains of a demonic soul tie relationship I had with my husband who is an addict and womanizer. My soul tie with him kept me in bondage for more than 25 years until he finally walked out of my life for another woman. With God's help, I have been able to repair my life and soul. I am and will continue to follow all of the steps you mentioned in the video. My final step - forgiveness -- happen 2 months ago. To say that my heart was broke, is an understatement. 💔💔God did for me what I did not have the strength to do. My heart was destroyed when my husband left, but my soul is healing. I can finally see my way of the darkness and love the person I am becoming.💯
Thank you 💛 everything you said is on point... This soul tie has gone on for a year and we didn't even have sex (which in hindsight was truly God's protection). The moment you acknowledge you deserve better, that you need to honour yourself, and the only way to do that is to walk away and remove their access to your life.. Everything starts to get a whole lot better!! Peace starts returning to your soul again. Healing isn't linear, I still dream of him now and then but at least I'm feeling a little better each day, closer to coming home to myself.. Thank you so much for all the wisdom you share, it is a true gift to the world. Lots of love ❤️
Every single thing you said was exactly what I'm going through, feeling, and thinking right now. Thank you for this tonight . I really really needed to hear this because I was really struggling with ALL of this at this moment amd was actually about to break down and give in.
Mr. Blakes i deleted the number messages pictures and anything that reminded me of that dark phase in my life! Thank you for your messages, many times thy have saved me during a state of depression
You are 100% correct! I haven't blocked him yet! So upset & confused as to why I can't. I am an intelligent, independent woman, and I feel I love myself & certainly more than him. So once you understand why, then you can start the healthy actions necessary. It is time, and I just started counseling with the Deacon at my Catholic Church. He asked me if I knew what a soul tie was, and suggested I look it up. Also, he asked me what would God or my own Father think of my decision, to give this man time & thought.
How to break a soul tie
1. Block the access to your ears.
2. Break the physical addiction by curbing the sexual impulses. In the mind and spirit.
A. The mind must be preoccupied by something meaningful and righteous to distract from the flesh. Find your purpose, goals, hobbies, that's meaningful to you.
B. The spirit must be filled with the Holy Spirit.
C. The flesh must be denied.
Prayer and fasting (denial of the flesh so the spirit can expand.)
3. Restore your soul by accepting God's forgiveness/love. (The mind has been damaged to believe your value is less bc of x,y,& z. Spend time in God's presence and feel the forgiveness of God. Bask in the fact that you are right with God and there is no condemnation to you.)
4. Renew your self-respect by officially denouncing that relationship. Denounce it by your mouth and actions. Do this AFTER doing the other steps. Cancel every word of love or promise you spoke to that person and what they spoke to you. Keep yourself available, clean, and pure for God to send the right person to your life. Lose the desperation. And choose to wait on God for the right one. Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
1. Close Your Ears.
2. Close Your Legs.
3. Restore Your Soul - Accept God's Forgiveness.
4. Renew Your Self Respect, Officially Denounce The Relationship.
This needs more likes 💯
I denounce all of my previous relationships. They received good. My future husband will receive what none of them got, my BEST.
Amen.
Amen!
Amen indeed 🙌🏾
I feel sorry for your future husband even though more than likely you won't ever get married 💯💰
I always like your comments. You have a super-power: common sense.
Its important to go NO CONTACT PERMANENTLY!!!!. No Facebook, Instagram, emails and text. Pray daily and ask God to release you from this demonic soul tie. The longer you keep this soul tie it will steal months and even years from your life!!!
Yep. I was a witness.
Agee!!!
It's true. I spent 10 months worrying about a man that didn't give a damn about me. BELIEVE and MAN'S ENERGY & ACTIONS. Be DEAF to a MAN'S WORDS.
@@farfetched9296 you will be alright. You can do it!!! We must love ourselves first!!
Yup it most certainly has.
A 100% spiritual warfare situation. Soul ties are REAL.
That reply below is a spam! I’ve seen it on other preacher’s pages as well! I have reported it!
I going through this right now I need help
seriously I am a strong and self-aware person and it still is hard to break these thoughts of yearning and longing for a stranger.
I agree
Spiritual Warfare IS life on earth ...we've gotta pick a side a be a warrior for that side ...devil's grabbing every soul he can & gaining ground ...one of his favorite tools (more & more every moment) r one of his favorites; they r able to charm our pants off & get into our head to keep us busy focusing on them, trying to figure out their crazy making fake stuff, so we r not spending time seeking God & His instruction booklet to our life (The Bible)... They r so so good at this too; until we started figuring out their bull & calling them out, then they run from US (instead of us from them), when they see God's truths within us from the beginning or when they know we know, game over; they get the heck out of there lol !!!
...Narcissist are so predictable, so easy to spot once we experience them; they r all the same & all ridiculous, once we see thru their unreal egos ...Thank You God !
My life, after 40 years of Narcissistic Abuse by many of them, who were attracted to my conditioning by my Momma, I'm now free & my life has been spared !!!
Heck they led me straight into God's Loving arms, my life has NEVEr been better now that I'm free of them; I'm so Thankful, to God ...AND to them lol !
Their tricks of holding u in bondage has backfired, like everything they do, in the end ...we already know who wins the Spiritual Warfare, Bible tells us ALL !
See 2 Timothy 3, describes the Narcissist in the "end times" & just like the Psychologists, God tells us to stay away from them !
Learning to spot them, so we never get entangled in first place (be sure the person u choose loves God, & would love God if NOT with u too), God thru Jesus is The Truth, The Life & The (only) Way !
Amen; thank You God !
Pray for me, 23 years of bondage . I'm getting my freedom!
I prayed for you sister.
Ditto
Yesssss!!! Whewww I been in it for years and it is horrible but we have to pray our way out
Thank you, everyone.
I will add you to my prayers
Soul ties are 💯 percent real, folks. Listen to this man!
Yes
100% real baby!!!!!
Yess💯
I’m living this right now don’t know if is my mind intuición or heart telling me get out but ask soon as I act to let go something feel tie up and I star felling guilty I don’t know why
Yes
I cut this person off once and made the mistake and responded 5 months later🤦🏾♀️ and it was worse this time around. I literally changed my number, deactivated my IG deleted my main email account deleted all pictures and videos. This is a toxic soul tie. And I was tempted to call today but was led here and pastor was live...its deep but I know I'll get over it.
U got it girl and God got u 😘
We all learn from mistakes. God already forgave you and He will bless us with a Godly man ❤️
@@hj0628 thank you, I appreciate you🤗
U got this sis💪🏿 get many hobbies it helps
Yes it's much worse the 2nd or more time around. The person is out for revenge; the ego is driving the reunion not love and it's dangerous. Stay away!
Once a person stops looking for closure and acceptance moving on becomes a little easier. It hurts. The deception and betrayal is real but the love for yourself has to be greater. Like Whitney Houston said...learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all!!!
You never really get closure anyway. If they can't get out of you what they want out of you there isn't any reason for them to talk to you. And apologize? Usually people that we have soul ties with are not one to apologize. They put the blame on you and yet we keep eating candy out of their hands.
Narcissistic behavior….negativity, and NO benefits.
@@Downnnn Peace that surpasses all understanding is closure. The Lord healing one's heart, mind, body and soul is closure 😌🕊️🥁💜💛
Amen and Whitney Houston was lonely, extremely talented, and did not love herself because of all of the toxic people around her. Eventually that toxic environment not only killed her emotionally but physically.
Thank you
I’ve been struggling and I’m so tired of this soul tie. I need prayer please.
It will hurt like heck! Stay strong, cry it out, talk to God, go deep in your bible and focus on self love.. It will get better slowly by crucifying the old self with the help of Jesus Christ. Praying for you Sis❤
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You are healed in Jesus name. Amen 🙏🏻
Can you really see him for who he is first? Then understand he is under demonic control and choose your Lord and SAVIOR as your FIRST LOVE. Then RUN to him instead of that person. PRAY for them and work on yourself. Jesus has so much Love/Healing and he is ALWAYS available.
@@trinap.8904 well, said!!
Yes you are helping. You got to go NO CONTACT. Don't look for them online. Build your mind and set it. You gotta SET YOUR MIND. I have been through this and it is hard but so sweet a blessing on the other side. Gotta go through that fire and come out refined and strong. Glory. God does not want his daughters to be hurt like this. Thank you.
Well said Angee!
Sooo encouraging 🙏
“Set your mind”. This!!!!
Thank you
Amen!
“...Go and sin no more.” You have been called out publicly on your behavior.... renew your self-respect, officially denounce your relationship and MOVE ON!!!!!
Trauma bonds are real. They are based on childhood traumas. When we are able to recognize that how we were treated as children paves the way for the way we allow people to treat us!
Truth! My heart and soul have been shredded by my parents...:(
It's so true... Even after years of therapy, I still have to be extremely conscious that I don't let nobody's dusty son treat me like emotionally broken father did. I have to always be cognizant of my trauma and consciously not act upon it.
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This man that I have been with for 4 years has pushed my buttons to the point that I’ve acted completely out of character when angry. and once an hour or so passes and I think about it I’m so ashamed of my behavior and just hate myself for it. I’m tired of this draining cycle. I pray to God to give me the strength to let go.
It's okay. I blamed myself and took most responsibility for such behavior for a long time whilst in an abusive relationship. When I finally left him and discussed how disappointed I was with myself, I told my best friend how ashamed I was because I acted out of character. I said the way I acted was not someone deserving of respect from Anyone. She said "But you were Provoked". I remember those simple words each time I think back about my poor behavior. It was purely reactionary, and I became that way after years of being punished, abused, and drained continually by a true narcissist. We don't just betray our morals without extreme pressure and provocation.
Take RC Blake's advice- PRAY to God and denounce your relationship out loud. SAY It so your subconscious hears it too. Verbalize to yourself that You are worthy of respect and love. Don't let those imperfect moments crush your spirit- forgive yourself and build your spirit up again. I have faith you will be more discerning afterwards
Statement about blocking the individual worked for me !
1) block the individual
2) refrain from sexual activity in the mind and spirit. Make your mind focus on something else ( meaningfully ) to avoid only thing of the individual.
3) we must get out of our comfort zone
4) guard your mind so the weeds don't take over ( Jim Rohn)
Amen!
Soul ties are REAL!! Pastor I used to be that person, granting a person access to my mind and body. I am a living witness that Those impulses go when you purge that soul tie, there is a withdrawal period, but when you finally deny that flesh and it's desires, you no longer have those sexual feelings or thoughts! As a matter of fact, your "BS" meter becomes very sensitive..lol
Same here. And it’s been at least two or three times I’ve cut the ties but ended up going back one last time in spite of my better judgement. And this time I was left hurt. And I’ve done the deleting and blocking on everything. Im doing better but still think about them every once in a while. Glad I came here though!
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Before I deleted his pics I focused in on his eyes and cropped it ! I just had his eyes to look into ( without that sweet smile and nice body ) and they were SCARY and had hate and hurt and void of the love I thought was looking back at me for those years . Now I laugh and send it to my friends and say " BOO" and they say dang he looks evil. I am healed though so I don't recommend it to someone still having trouble leaving. I do forgive him now but only for me and I cant go to God in prayer with hate in my heart.
2 of my exes had those eyes..they change when u see the truth...i feel you
I did this just yesterday... nothing but evil eyes 👀.
Wauw looks like ur my twin 😂😂
I've seen that look too...pure evil!😈
Well said. We have to forgive.
PREACH Bishop‼️NO CONTACT for seven months. Thank God I'm FREE 👏🏾👏🏾
@RC Blakes Jr is this a spam?
@@classydahlia3933 Yes it is!
@@inspirationwithnicole so sad
I stopped watching because of this..
I am laid off and this really put a bad taste in my mouth if that makes sense😞
I was so happy when I started reading the response to then be let down when I was asked for money and then saw it was copy and pasted everywhere else...
You go girl!
“That’s a soul tie bae!” It’s real. People reject it because they either haven’t been through it or they are in it. It takes one to lay eyes on it or go through it and get to the other side to know it’s real.
Spoken from experience
Facebook is not about God. Keep preaching truth! We that hear the truth need to hear what you say!
Soul ties are so real. I broke communication over six months ago and my thought still tend to drift to this individual...DAILY! This was just a close friendship. I can't imagine how hard it would be to break a romantic soul tie.
Trust me, the latter of the two situations IS even more traumatizing. But all narcissistic relationships are a destroyer so we are all suffering the same foundational toxicity is troubling. But we will be freed and prevail, IN JESUS NAME!
Did you tell your friend that you were moving on and why?Or just block and no contact?Talking about a non-sexual friendship
Very hard 😢
@@888hereandnow I told this "friend" that I was done. No contact at all. Blocked on every social media platform and phone access. It's been great!
We had some "words" and he told me to stop texting him. I told him that he would never hear from me again. And he hasn't. That was over three years ago.@888hereandnow
I truly want to be free from and break the soul tie to my ex- fiancé who texted his breakup to me and walked 3.5 months ago. I blocked him today, finally, even though he has not ever reached out to me. I still needed to do it. We live in a tiny town and I see him almost every time I run errands. I know this is temporary pain and I realize now that God closed the door for me. My ex has zero interest in me and it was hard to accept that. The pain is brutal and deep, but I am determined and relying on God. I’ve done so many good things in my life and career, but made stupid relationship decisions. Praying for discernment and protection. God first.
And yes, this video helped me. Thank you for taking the time to do this.
I am living this for the first time in my life at 37 years old. I am attracted to a toxic man who does nothing for me .i am very strong in life and I met several men before. But this guy has a control on my mind/soul. Very very weird . I always feel connected and drained. Sometimes it woke me up in the middle of the night. Some days it is like fever : I think about him too much and I am drained for 3/4 days and then it is ok.and after a few weeks it happens again. I don’t know why. I never lived this before. People around me don’t understand . So I cut any form of contact , I don’t talk to him anymore
Soul tie/ trauma bonded.
The worse feeling ever! I know this all too well
Exactly what I been going through for the past 5 months. Can't stop having this man on my mind at all whatsoever, no matter what I do. I've even had dreams of him too. I really been wanting to get over him too and I've also have prayed to God to help me get over him, still nothing. 😩🤦🏽♀️. It feels like witchcraft.
@@keekee322 You and me both 😣
@@brooklynzoo2810 You are not alone. This experience is truly of the enemy indeed. We will thrive well as long as we keep pushing day by day.
I was in bondage..mind,body and spirit. SOUL TIE! But Jesus!! 🙏
I have a dear friend that needed to hear this message today. Trust me I sent it to her. She just happens to be a Minster.
I'm not even a Christian, and who knows which god has brought me here. But, whoever it is, I'm so thankful. Those first few minutes were filled with my continuous AHA moments... So, so precise description of my toxic relationship and my chronic disability to end it...
I didn't block his number. He called me Thursday of last week then ghosted me the following Saturday. I was starting to feel better now back to that dark place. You know how when you meet someone & you're so giddy can't wait to see & be around them. The butterflies he gave me he killed them. I can literally feel the dead butterflies inside me.
Just blocked him.... Thanks Pastor Blakes💖
@@BeautifulHal0 Good job! One day at a time. Leave them alone, stay strong, stay gone!
@@n.b.0212 Thanks...💖
He called just to put you back in that dark place. You need to realize these people are the enemy and their biggest weapon is stringing you along with your hope and believe in a change in them.
As soon as you're strong enough to walk away...they pull on your emotions and You feel sorry for the host soul, cycle continues.
Shut it down completely. Don't feel bad remorse or sorry for going Savage mode. This is what is required. See it for what it is.
If you need more confirmation. Pray and ask the lord to show you the demon attached to these people...thier true form. I swear they'll be no going back in your mind once you do see and realize what you have been dealing with this whole time.
Forget the human suit. These things are ugly inside out
@@manyi4success Thank you. Your feedback is helpful. Thanks for caring 💖
“Is this helping anybody??” Absolutely! Thank you! ☺️
Reading the bible helps so much to distract and brings peace because it explains how my story ends. Wait on the Lord. Vengence belongs to God he will repay
“Stop seeking acceptance of men and accepting the forgiveness of God” amen this helped me so much thank you God bless you
This man might not be a license therapist or psychologist, but he has sound knowledge and a love for women and people! Definitely helps me!
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Pastor you are soooo awesome I just got out of a toxic narcissist soul tie relationship and your messages give me life!!!!! I listen to them daily weather if it’s one month old same day or years old thank you so much🙏🏽please keep doing what you’re doing, I need it!!♥️
Thank You Pastor i just listened to this message again! Powerful message!!!!
Soul ties are REAL! Like Bishop said, (I’m paraphrasing) “someone is feeding and the other is feasting” or vice versa. You have to delete the pictures and all methods of communication to the person.
I fell in love with someone who absolutely did not care about me, just my body. I’ve given up my old life and found Christ. I just want to forget him and meet my future husband.
I am based in Namibia, Africa and I can wholeheartedly say that you have changed my life. Thank you and continue doing Gods work. Your reach is far and wide.
Amen!
I blocked him all day and I was calmer and didn't miss him AT ALL ! Came home in the silent treatment and DON'T CARE !! He is still living in my home. I have begun my financial freedom from him. He's on his way down the road. Thank you Pastor for your guidance ❤️❤️
I have cut the flesh off over a year ago. I have started to volunteer at a church I was involved with before him and keep myself busy helping my friends and family. I sense the Holy spirit is protecting me right now. God bless you Pastor Thank you for all you do!! 💓💓
This was needed
01/08/23 lord have mercy! This has blessed me beyond measure! Such a on time word from the Lord. You nailed it when you said and the sex ain't even that good! I have never heard that preached before. THANK YOU for your boldness and speaking of the truth! This message I know is going to change my life. I can't thank you enough for keeping it 💯. God bless you!
A lot of people don't believe in this stuff and think it is some kind of spiritual mumbo jumbo. It is real, I have been there. Listen to what he is saying. Many people stay in abusive or toxic relationships because of soul ties. On one hand they hate what the person is doing to them but their codependency to the toxicity is so strong that it is like an addiction they can't let go. for instance, Sex can be a pathway to a soul tie, where someone is addicted to the physical pleasure in a relationship even though the other person treats them like crap.
I was thinking that too. If u dont like the name " soul tie" call it something else! A bad bond...a unhealthy connection" ..a soul tie !
They really have to be out of sight, smell, hear , touch to be out of mind eventually! And once that hurt , and it's a bad hurt, starts to heal you appreciate even having a real smile on your face! Leave these losers !! Jesus heals. He will be what you need instead if the narcicist. I found the gym to be my hobby outlet and I am in my best shape ever and strong mentally and physically..
I pray for anyone foinf through this. It is gut wrenching, devastating and just heart breaking when we have to part from what we thought was real . I am healed. I dont deal with pre programmed robots that have no empathy anymore .
Thank you for what you do. You are like a father to thousands of daughters ( and sons ) you have never met !!
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I have struggled with an individual for years, pure toxicity in the relationship. I am ready, my mind, body and soul, is depleted. Prey for me.
This channel is a blessing. This man is a blessing. Life is a blessing . We are blessed!
I believe but very rarely pray, I layed in the tub crying grasping for air and I prayed for forgiveness and asked God for strength and help me to forgive and to be light because my heart is so heavy, and the next day you came up on my you tube feed. I have been entangled in a toxic relationship that has left me in constant anxiety and confusion, I know he does not want me here and this is not my purpose you are not supposed to feel this way in your purpose and I know he sent me your videos to assist in freeing me from these chains. Thank you 🙏
This is SO helpful! Finally walked away from an affair…. Thank you RC Blakes for your spirit led counsel. You understand soul ties like nobody I’ve ever encountered. Finally I have hope!
I'm glad you moved on. This is no judgement on you. But as a wife I've been cheated on. I was a good wife too with littles. Can I ask do the women affair partner ever think about how destroyed the wife and children are? Like we will be divorcing and future forever different. I always wondered if the woman cared or not. Like I said not judging you. Proud of you! Just wanted to get your perspective to a question I've always wondered but couldn't ask. ❤
I thank you so much And like you said you not charging us nothing 😂❤
My ex creates several social media pages. I blocked all of them. He's mentally ill. A narcissist x100. I praise God for my healing and deliverance!!!!!! 🙏🙌🙌🙌
Real soul ties withdrawals just like any other type of substance.
Man. You just set me straight 😣 called me out on my nonsense lol.
This was great. Extremely helpful for me. The devil didn’t want you to get this message across that’s why the internet kept messing up. BUT GOD!!
This is the realest thing on RUclips!!!!
Had a soul tie super strong. Still denouncing it but it gets easier. Thank you Mr.Blakes as always.
I severed a soul tie relationship almost 4 years ago. It was not healthy and I had a really hard time letting go and getting out of it. Finally I did thanks to binging on the pastor's videos and now I have no emotions toward that person and there is no hurt or pain or contact anymore however I still think about them everyday 🙄 this is real.
Yes it’s helping. I read the book years ago and I’m 💪🏾 now and able to break soul ties.
Praise God I’m forgiven
This was awesome Bishop. I needed this msg last weekend when I ran into the narc thru a mutual friend. I felt set up, but once I processed it, I held myself accountable. " If he can get in your ear, he can get in your bed", is nothing but the truth. I blocked him already but wasn't expecting to see him, and I responded to his presence, and it has caused a riff between our mutual friend and I. I heard you when you said , " Get rid of the friends". Done and done!
I’ve been in this cycle for two years. Gone no contact many times but always relapse after a few weeks or months. His persistent, amazing with words.. and undoubtedly I do love him. But is it healthy? Definitely not. This soul tie is so real, I have no problem starting the no contact but with time it seems to get harder because I can’t erase the memories. I’ve blocked access to my ears, but I still feel the need to check his social media! And my flesh craves him, intimately. I’ve decided to start today, to block him, delete all pictures and videos and try again. Fall down seven times, get up eight! Thank you for this video. I needed this once again ❤️
Did you think of possibility of marriage and being with him as a family since you have a connection and love him?
The Holy Spirit has been guiding me through this addictionship. I feel HIS presense standing right next to me... All of the steps but the Iast one has happened. I am preparing to ask him to leave MY home!! I feel calmness in my spirit because I know where the wisdom and strength are coming from. Thank you Pastor for this message and confirmation.
The Holy Spirit help me too to end a 5 year relationship. You can do it, God is amazing!
God is with this Pastor. Please God protect him from the evil one.
You're God sent💖
Bless God! Thank God for the messenger and the message.
Looking on from Trinidad I've learned a lot from u Especially on soul ties it's real
U ARE 100% TRUTHFUL... U MUST GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM...
Pastor RC your teachings have literally helped me to heal and love myself, my soultie WAS a narcissist as well. I cried long tears but have come to realize that he was not God's best...Jesus is my husband♥️ You have taught me so many things about relationships, God bless you! And thank you❤️
I blocked him just now 🙏 i don’t need anyone triggering and mocking my pain when I’m already vulnerable and healing. I allowed this man to assault me in every level. No more!
Thanks for calling me out!‼👑🙏🏿
You're 100% correct.
Going no contact is the best thing you can do! If they show up at your door DO NOT ANSWER if they keep on call the police. Block every number they call from and get off social media!! Get a new number and move if all else falses!
I was 45 days no contact but I succumbed and let my guard down. I’m starting over though and this time I won’t retreat. It’s time to move on 🙌🏾
Amen Pastor Blakes this was much needed!!!!!!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾 blessings to all of us that have watched this video!!!
Love you Mr Blake I m not a Christian but I really like your talk ... I am Muslim and all Yr beliefs are same as ours
(Pastor Blakes, I'm agnostic, but you're making me start to believe in the big man upstairs because I can see him from behind your eyes).
Valuable teaching. Just broken a ST. Demonic. Biggest takeaway - get busy with righteous activity. Many thanks.
We appreciate your efforts, Biblical wisdom and discernment Bishop R.C. Blakes Jr.❤
Amen!
YES this is helpful... "You preaching better than we shouting" and thank you
I denounce my last relationship no more control never in my life! I will wait on God to send me a Man that will be right for my life, soul and love God! I have grown from this relationship no more power in the name of Jesus 🙌🏾 Thank you Bishop for words of wisdom!
My Grandmother used to always say that an idle mind is the Devil’s workshop and that’s so true and too much free time also makes it even more difficult to heal from the negativity that’s being experienced!!
You are helping me a lot! The reception is fine here, in Denver, CO.
You have to renew your self-respect after having been with a narc. Denounce the emotionally abusive relationship. Keep available for God to send the right person into your life. Someone you deserve. Submit to God. Resist the devil.
Thank you Bishop RC Blakes Jr. for giving us an awesome explanation of a soul tie or trauma bond from a spiritual perspective. Also, in layman's terms breaking relational connections with toxic people can cause psychological rumination. What causes ruminating?
People ruminate for a variety of reasons. According to the American Psychological Association, some common reasons for rumination include:
A. Belief that by ruminating, you’ll gain insight into your life or a problem.
B. Having a history of emotional or physical trauma.
C. Facing ongoing stressors that can’t be controlled.
Ruminating is also common in people who possess certain personality characteristics, which include perfectionism, neuroticism, and an excessive focus on one’s relationships with others.
If a person has not learned to set healthy boundaries and gotten positive emotional coping tools like meditation, prayer or professional counseling to help them stop the negative mental thoughts or loops then they'll be likely to keep choosing intimate partners that display the same toxic/negative behavior patterns.
That's me
Amen 🙏 Bishop Blakes! I’ve gone through all of these steps the last 2 months and praise Jesus I know my strongholds are broken.
The Narc is still trying to contact me but I’m strong in Christ and healing more every day 🙌 No Contact ever ever again.
You are not RC Blake’s Sir. I’ve seen you make this exact comment on other channels as different spiritual leaders. I rebuke you in Jesus name and bind you spirit of deceit.
Oh my word 😢
Rc blake's sir u r the bomb!!!! God blessed me when I found ur youtube videos. Thank u for caring about us and giving us the help we need. U r making a difference. U really r. Thank u sir may God continue to protect u and bless u 💯💯🏆🏆🏆
True
You preachin preachin. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Praise God. To God be All the Glory Always!!
The advice is truly spiritually healthy.
The cancer analogy is good, Bishop. Thank you.
Pastor, your RUclips videos are food for my soul. Thank you so much for illuminating the darkness and chains of a demonic soul tie relationship I had with my husband who is an addict and womanizer. My soul tie with him kept me in bondage for more than 25 years until he finally walked out of my life for another woman. With God's help, I have been able to repair my life and soul. I am and will continue to follow all of the steps you mentioned in the video. My final step - forgiveness -- happen 2 months ago. To say that my heart was broke, is an understatement. 💔💔God did for me what I did not have the strength to do. My heart was destroyed when my husband left, but my soul is healing. I can finally see my way of the darkness and love the person I am becoming.💯
Just now seeing this. Yes this is helping me.
Thank you 💛 everything you said is on point... This soul tie has gone on for a year and we didn't even have sex (which in hindsight was truly God's protection). The moment you acknowledge you deserve better, that you need to honour yourself, and the only way to do that is to walk away and remove their access to your life.. Everything starts to get a whole lot better!! Peace starts returning to your soul again.
Healing isn't linear, I still dream of him now and then but at least I'm feeling a little better each day, closer to coming home to myself..
Thank you so much for all the wisdom you share, it is a true gift to the world.
Lots of love ❤️
Every single thing you said was exactly what I'm going through, feeling, and thinking right now.
Thank you for this tonight . I really really needed to hear this because I was really struggling with ALL of this at this moment amd was actually about to break down and give in.
I always have to hit the like button before I even watch,cuz its gonna be 🔥🔥🔥
Me too bc I already know that it's going to be good!
OM,Gosh!!! WOW. Sooooo needed!
This one feels like it was made for me Thank you Lord I have been fasting for a break through like this Thank you pastor
Love u so much! Ty is never snuff!!! ❤️❤️
1 year and counting of minimizing contact with my coparent. 💪🏾RC Blakes’ wisdom gives me strength to keep the soul tie untied.
15 minutes in and I’m being read to filth, much needed video. Thank you.
Mr. Blakes i deleted the number messages pictures and anything that reminded me of that dark phase in my life! Thank you for your messages, many times thy have saved me during a state of depression
You are 100% correct! I haven't blocked him yet! So upset & confused as to why I can't. I am an intelligent, independent woman, and I feel I love myself & certainly more than him. So once you understand why, then you can start the healthy actions necessary. It is time, and I just started counseling with the Deacon at my Catholic Church. He asked me if I knew what a soul tie was, and suggested I look it up. Also, he asked me what would God or my own Father think of my decision, to give this man time & thought.
The truths in this video are real. Holy Spirit finally getting through.
Thank You for Truth GOD BLESS YOU 🙏