Surprisingly not, as a high schooler that is a shock to me hearing how open people are about stuff like that. As an INTP I related to all but the plan and goal stuff, so yup being alone all day in my room is the ideal
Thinking everyone thinks like you is a sign of a lack of sympathy and understanding to how other people work. Also, as an ISTJ, I also make backup plans to backup plans... its just that I often dont have the time because Im so busy being productive.
Never fails lol my everyday life I have like 16 plans for my own true plan. Already on the go. Heck as of today I had to use three of those back up plans 😂
I thought it was normal to have at least 2 back up plans for the back up plan until my classmates back in high school saw my notes and were so shocked about how many plans I have(I have no idea about mbti's at this point). The leaders who got stuck with me as a member also always asks my opinion how to delegate tasks to the members because I have mostly analyzed our group mate's personalities, strengths, weaknesses and techniques to make them cooperative.
Yep! I am the unusual INTJ female and not showing emotions really catches people off guard. Ive had to learn how to make myself express emotions... even if it makes me really uncomfortable.. because other people need it. They deserve to know I love them even if I suck at expressing it.
I can totally relate to this. I have a hard time expressing my emotions in a way that people can understand. And it's also hard for me to show that I care about people's feelings. Usually I'm just like "ok I see you're upset. I'm here if you need me but idk what to say to you."
It all makes sense now, as an INTJ I actually enjoyed the lockdown and WFH. Most of my colleagues returned to the office after the lockdown, I actually went 6 months WFH and honestly enjoyed the quiet and calm atmosphere
I am also an INTJ and i have to say i spend my whole week wating for the weekend,so i can spend a lot of time isolated with my own thoughts,i sometimes spend the nights thinking about what is going on with my life and what is going on around me
I still tell people the lockdown time was one of my ultimate favorite time periods 😂 and they just don't understand it, 🤭 it was such a fun time for me, while people were panicking I was making pasties and enjoying my coffee time and learning new hobbies,.. I miss lockdown
That’s true with the „IN…“ . I’m an INFJ and meet lots of people on my working day. So in my leisure time I enjoy it much to have time on my own and doing things on my own. I need it too to regenerate.
multiple back up plans definitely resonates. it comes naturally out of obsessively gaming out risks and trying to lower my stress levels by mitigating those risks
I'm used to a hundred things going wrong all at once. So many plans fall apart after first contact. So I always try to look ahead and see what can go wrong with my initial plan, and I plan to mitigate that. It's like playing chess with yourself.
I've only recently started sharing my(27) thoughts with my sister(32). It's nice to form a deeper bond with family. You don't have to keep all your thoughts to yourself, sometimes sharing them with someone close will give you better insights.
41m INTJ here. Well said about other insights. I think for me when you do have a friend/loved one to talk too and you do decide to share your perspectives, that person or group could possibly see a variable or perspective we may have missed Could help us see ways to move in life
I literally can spend years without talking to many people. but it's not like i can live without talking for atleast once for that long, we are human afterall. but yeah! it's true, there are most people on my messenger whom i talked for like years ago and never talked again. Just bcz i don't find talking to them necessary. It's kinda rude i know. But i guess all INTJs barely spend time on someone or something that they think are unnecessary for them.
Last bit is true, I have all my computer files backup on a hard drive and a backup of my backup plan, of course stored in two different locations and some files are even uploaded to. Miscellaneous cloud services. My wedding video is stored at three different locations.
I prefer modular plans. Then i can mix and match to fit the situation. Like, going to Wendy's I'll get a baconator or a jbc if they're out of meat somehow. But ill get a big mac at McDonald's, or nuggets if the store has a problem with IGNORING MY REQUEST FOR NO PICKLES. The point is, modular plans allow me to adapt to the spontaneity of others.
Through first principles thinking you can remove many of the variables. Regarding food, I got a steam oven and reduced my diet to carnivore + fruit and now just eat perfectly sous-vide'd meat every day. If you save half an hour every day from cooking/buying food, that's a whole work month in a year.
As an INTJ that is completely normal for us because we need more alone times more than other types to recharge Edit : omg this is the first ever time that I've got so many likes on my comment
I can relate to the last one as an INFP. I like to have back-up plans. Though granted, I don't ALWAYS do this, but it is nonetheless, something I still do. Oh and the isolation thing, yes, haha. But I don't get lonely sometimes. So even just to speak to someone via chat is enough, haha.
Interesting. I see now. I also spend alot of time alone, dom Ni, only the difference is INTJs can go muuuch longer. Two weeks for them two days tops for me and not often...Like a shark vs a dolphine, I need to come up for air. I prefer to speak daily even for a short time. Keeps me sane. Ni does go nocturnal often in both i believe.
"I would actually be a great supervillain if it weren't for the fact that I have zero desire to completely dominate a world inhabited by abject morons..." -- INTJ
1 and 2 are normal for me too, as INFJ. Number 3 is acceptably relatable...it feels kind as the Milkmaid tale for me. "When I sell my milk and buy a hen and hatch the eggs and sell the chicks and buy a house..." Then comes some Se dom and tells you broke your milk pot...So, be careful Ni doms!
I 100% agree with these. For me, the sharing of emotions can come from my Te Aux, telling my Fi Tert that you are going to waste someone elses time, if you express your emotions.
Okay but there's this thing where I will make backup plans for projects and then forget to make lunch and don't have time so I have to make up something quick and GUESS WHO DIDN'T PLAN FOR THAT.
Backup plan for a backup plan because life can lead us to the most unexpected situations but if I already made plans to get waffles for breakfast, I will get it
When I was at school, people would ask me if I was angry, and would tell me to be less serious, whereas I was just mostly inside my head, thinking of abstract things and trying to figure out how some of them worked, and rarely talked to anyone. When I finally got some friends based on common interests and dark sense of humour, I still found it very weird that people hug each other as a way to greet/say goodbye. I got used to it, but still preferred to only do it with my 2 closest friends. What people think of hugs doesn't make sense to me, because it's a very deep, personal thing. As a kid, I always found ways to entertain myself, i still am the same. But people try to convince me that I am not an introvert and that I have to find new friends because I need it (in their opinion). I tried to prove them otherwise, but since those attempts failed, I stopped since it practically didn't make any sense and was a waste of time to debate without finding a compromise. Everyone's different and everything's relative. Emotions. I do experience deep emotions, but when it comes to sharing, I would only share with a specific group of people AND there would immediately be a block, which would result in filtering 90% of what I feel and maybe share the remaining 10%, because I don't want others to be overwhelmed. It's my problem, and the words of support only help a tiny bit, compared to analyzing the situation together and finding ways to resolve it. If I were on the verge of crying, I would hold my regular facial expression up until the last moment where I would end up alone in some private room. If someone enters and catches me in my quiet tears, it'll only make me ashamed and my focus will shift towards thinking of how to escape the room without explaining what happened. I find it extremely difficult to explain the reason, there will might be lots of unnecessary judgement and emotions. So I mostly deal with stress by myself. Knowing this and knowing that I'm about to relieve stress by crying, I will first think of a place to do it safely, without anyone noticing. Backup plans for backup plans for a couple of years in advance.... This thing along with the tests proved me that despite feeling sceptical whether I was an INTJ and being sort of resistant ("huh? they're emotionally blunt, I'm not"), I probably am one of them.
3) Yes, I have a back up plan for my plan. I have a back up plan for my back up plan. Actually, have about five or six back up plans for my plan, depending on how my initial moves shake out. But I do realize that'd normal for me, and that everyone else starts having hysterics and flying off the handle in situations that are easily predictable and easily solved. So I know it's not normal, and that one of the things I can do for the rest of the human race is to have back up plans to protect them from easily foreseeable issues. It's fine. I've got this. 1) True enough. I don't think strangers need me sobbing on their shoulders. Also I've been attacked when I do show emotions or told to stop that, so yeah, why would I? 2) Not really true. I can survive alone with no contact for longer than a lot of types. But I'm actually pretty social for an introvert. And INTJs, even those who are less social, will suck it up in favor of their plans. I'd think other types such as INTP, who doesn't like to do anything with their knowledge, would be far more reclusive.
As an INTJ, I have backup plans for backup plans to silly plans lol 😆 I just like to think all the possible outcomes and then manage to design a well prepared plan for it 😅
When i was studying for my exams, i completely forgot to talk to my mom.. for about 2 weeks.. i talked to her today.. and apologized for not calling her for a very long time. She replied with 'Nah you better do the dishes for the next two weeks' and laughed it off PS my mom is an estp Not talking to other people for even an year is pretty normal for me, but its different when it comes to my mom
point 2 I don't relate to as an INTJ but I am admittingly more extroverted than the average INTJ. I did performance arts and public speaking in school and am generally very social (utilizing either my entp shadow or esfp subconscious more often than my ego in social contexts). I crave partnerships and hanging out with others but that's also because I pretty much grew up living with my best friends since my homelife was not awesome so my best friends would have me every weekend and sometimes in weekdays, as well as all the holdays. I'm so grateful to my best friends who improved my life and saved me from depression.
i said that if i cant be a designer, ill be a tailor, if not that then i will wprk as accountant, if not that, then maybe as nurse hopefully in somehwere where nurses a paid more like in America
I don’t know if the last one is necessarily true. I don’t make backup plans or I get this huge overwhelming feeling that I rather not start. If it can’t be “perfect” then why start.
Many people over the years have ridiculed me for having an overall life plan. I stopped sharing my plans. Now that I am older, these same people whine about how I have so much money (I don’t). I should have enough for a comfortable retirement, but not enough to go crazy. Question: Why don’t other people have a plan? Why would people laugh at me for having a plan? And who doesn’t have a backup plan?
Got multiple different SHIFT plans for just about every scenario. Didn’t realize others didn’t. Had to learn to express emotions more to be a better older sibling and role model though.
As an INTJ, when I was a kid, I thought I am weird and not normal because I am different from the people around me. I tried so hard to be like the others. As I grow up, I embrace my personality and now proud of being an INTJ.
Wow, yes I actually do have backup plans for my back up plans. I also tend to see the very far reaching consequences of actions. If i am not doing something or delaying something its usually because I see a strategic advantage in it.
It’s why people don’t like playing certain games with me, because I think so many steps ahead of what they will do and of how to stop them. I also don’t like competitive games because I’m the bad guy if I win but if someone else wins they like to lord it over me because it is rare, like a “gotcha” moment. I don’t do that to them when I win.
As INTJ’s, we sailed through Covid lock downs because we enjoy staying to ourselves. The only thing I yearned for during lockdowns was to travel, we INTJ’s enjoy.
I'm an INTJ and this is so accurate. Yes I'm a forward thinker and always have a backup plan, backup to the backup, and a back up to the backup backup plan. I can see things happening long before others do. I tell friends and family my superpower is finding patterns in everything. Not exaggerating on that either.
When im doing something i always doubt it so i make a back up plan then if that fails ihave another one i always want to make sure i wont do a mistake so i need a backup
Week or two? Shit I didn't talk to my dad for like 3 years, my cousin who was my best friend I haven't talked to or hung out with in almost two months.
For the last one, I like to give myself a challenge so that the backup plan for my backup plan is something I come up with on the spot should the situation arise. It's a great mental exercise where you mentally place everything on the table, review and decide the next course of action.
When we do think about details but not as the same way ISTJs would. Instead of thinking of physical practical ways to solve it, when it happens atm. We just make a contingency plan to evade that physical situation which falls into the 3rd explanation of what INTJs think of what we think other people think is common but isnt. We try to solve it before it happens or keep it from happening. (Nervous laughing)
I am an INTJ and I know that those things are not too normal but also nothing that is too weird either as I experienced with others. But what I feel is normal what others do see as rather weird is being honest and direct, that my work will put pressure on me until I do it even when I need a break and me acting completely icy when something bad happens to me because I can manage to overload myself with thoughts and work and have that breakdown once I'm alone at home and not have anyone around me
When my son went off to college I spend the labor day weekend in the house. My neighbors did a wellness check.😅 I didn't mind lock downs in 2020 because it gave me an excuse to chill inside. How is that not normal 😂? There is always so much to do!
Why does this community call me out so much😂😭 my plan A I’m sure of, plan B 90-95% confidence, plans C-E range from 50-80% confidence and fluctuate in position. This way you make sure you’re never stuck doing nothing productive if something blows up in your face.
I make a backup plan because I can see the fundamental and complex problems in my plans and systems effortlessly, So I'll make a backup plan for that plan, and then find of a way to kind of mush it in. The result? It'll seem like I had this huge masterplan when in reality it's just a lot of imperfect plans stacked together.
Nothing here that I don't agree with, as an INTP. Though my observation is that INTPs and INTJs get to their backup plans differently. Intjs seem to have specific plans for specific risks they perceive in a course of action. Intps tend to have a vast list of things that may go wrong, and try to remain ready for pretty much anything.
I relate, as well (but not as much as you guys, I'm sure). I know if my backup plan ends up not working, i could also quickly think of another (conceptual) thing that could work. Most times my last minute thought is my BEST thought (lack of time forcibly narrowing down my Ne). Which I guess is the same thing as the latter part lol.
💯 I could make a plan and a back up plan for that plan but that's too narrow-minded or specifically thinking that one future will happen and avoiding the other possibilities or outcomes ...
I'm an INTJ with ADHD. I have back up plans for my back up plans (yes there are plans lol) and by the time I need a back up plan, I've already forgotten what they are lol.
I've always had a back-up plan for my back-up plan & just thought everyone else was stupid until i took the briggs-myers test then i realized im just special... like 2% of the US population special 😁
As an INTJ, honestly I thought that being alone most of the time and not sharing emotions was pretty normal.
Surprisingly not, as a high schooler that is a shock to me hearing how open people are about stuff like that. As an INTP I related to all but the plan and goal stuff, so yup being alone all day in my room is the ideal
I thought it was rather beneficial than negative.
Isfp have a. Lot of alone time too
Same
Not an INTJ however I do the same things and family often tell me they think something is off about me which always confuses me.
I thought everyone plans a backup plan to a backup plan to a backup plan to a plan 😂 isn't that normal tho?
Nope!!😅😅
Why would you think its normal to all?
-intj
Yup!
Thinking everyone thinks like you is a sign of a lack of sympathy and understanding to how other people work.
Also, as an ISTJ, I also make backup plans to backup plans... its just that I often dont have the time because Im so busy being productive.
@@NevertahnProduction Good for you. 🙄
As an intj, those are true but, we also make a back up plan for that back up plan.
😂 Every time
Never fails lol my everyday life I have like 16 plans for my own true plan. Already on the go. Heck as of today I had to use three of those back up plans 😂
Yeah not just plan b but the whole alphabet 😂😂😂😂... Damn.. other people lives are boring and empty 😂😂sad!
I thought it was normal to have at least 2 back up plans for the back up plan until my classmates back in high school saw my notes and were so shocked about how many plans I have(I have no idea about mbti's at this point). The leaders who got stuck with me as a member also always asks my opinion how to delegate tasks to the members because I have mostly analyzed our group mate's personalities, strengths, weaknesses and techniques to make them cooperative.
Yep! I am the unusual INTJ female and not showing emotions really catches people off guard. Ive had to learn how to make myself express emotions... even if it makes me really uncomfortable.. because other people need it. They deserve to know I love them even if I suck at expressing it.
Please keep expressing yourself! It's SAFE from ENFP
I can totally relate to this. I have a hard time expressing my emotions in a way that people can understand. And it's also hard for me to show that I care about people's feelings. Usually I'm just like "ok I see you're upset. I'm here if you need me but idk what to say to you."
Yeah, I do it but I don't like it. It feels weird, vulnerable and embarrassing.
Sees someone crying...
Me INTJ-A female : "did somebody died!??
Some1 : No.
Me : then stop crying 😂😂😂
I had to fake being emotionally expressive so that the narcissistic ex boss could figure out how to manipulate me
As an INTJ this are all true especially the pursuing our goals part
bitter and better truth
I've literally been thinking about an exam due tomorrow for a week now. I should probably study 😅
It all makes sense now, as an INTJ I actually enjoyed the lockdown and WFH. Most of my colleagues returned to the office after the lockdown, I actually went 6 months WFH and honestly enjoyed the quiet and calm atmosphere
I am also an INTJ and i have to say i spend my whole week wating for the weekend,so i can spend a lot of time isolated with my own thoughts,i sometimes spend the nights thinking about what is going on with my life and what is going on around me
@@1gprix2 Same.
I enjoyed the lock down so freaking much.
I still tell people the lockdown time was one of my ultimate favorite time periods 😂 and they just don't understand it, 🤭 it was such a fun time for me, while people were panicking I was making pasties and enjoying my coffee time and learning new hobbies,.. I miss lockdown
...Oh yeah, I heard there was a lockdown a few years back. Didn't change much about my life, tbh.
INTP here. I think all INxx can relate to wanting to be alone a lot. Especially INTJ and INTP (we’re known as the most introverted types)
That’s true with the „IN…“ . I’m an INFJ and meet lots of people on my working day. So in my leisure time I enjoy it much to have time on my own and doing things on my own. I need it too to regenerate.
It's very INTP of you to perceive that
@l-ixir that’s right, especially INFJ- A Type
I concur
Intp
INFP: i understand the isolation lol
multiple back up plans definitely resonates. it comes naturally out of obsessively gaming out risks and trying to lower my stress levels by mitigating those risks
Living alone is the BEST decision that I've ever made 😂😂😂
I'm used to a hundred things going wrong all at once. So many plans fall apart after first contact. So I always try to look ahead and see what can go wrong with my initial plan, and I plan to mitigate that. It's like playing chess with yourself.
Murphy's law.
I've only recently started sharing my(27) thoughts with my sister(32). It's nice to form a deeper bond with family. You don't have to keep all your thoughts to yourself, sometimes sharing them with someone close will give you better insights.
41m INTJ here.
Well said about other insights. I think for me when you do have a friend/loved one to talk too and you do decide to share your perspectives, that person or group could possibly see a variable or perspective we may have missed
Could help us see ways to move in life
As an istj, I think all of these are very normal
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I literally can spend years without talking to many people. but it's not like i can live without talking for atleast once for that long, we are human afterall. but yeah! it's true, there are most people on my messenger whom i talked for like years ago and never talked again. Just bcz i don't find talking to them necessary. It's kinda rude i know. But i guess all INTJs barely spend time on someone or something that they think are unnecessary for them.
its just right to have a backup plan for a backup plan.
I am intj and it pains me how true it is! And it so funny how true this is.
Last bit is true, I have all my computer files backup on a hard drive and a backup of my backup plan, of course stored in two different locations and some files are even uploaded to. Miscellaneous cloud services. My wedding video is stored at three different locations.
Not me traveling with 2 extra charger cords 3 power bricks, 5 hour energy shots , Dramamine , Pepto & aspirin.
Those backup plans have come in clutch for me
People : sharing feelings
INTJ : ALEEERT! ABOOORT!!!
I prefer modular plans. Then i can mix and match to fit the situation. Like, going to Wendy's I'll get a baconator or a jbc if they're out of meat somehow. But ill get a big mac at McDonald's, or nuggets if the store has a problem with IGNORING MY REQUEST FOR NO PICKLES.
The point is, modular plans allow me to adapt to the spontaneity of others.
Through first principles thinking you can remove many of the variables. Regarding food, I got a steam oven and reduced my diet to carnivore + fruit and now just eat perfectly sous-vide'd meat every day. If you save half an hour every day from cooking/buying food, that's a whole work month in a year.
I literally cannot go somewhere without having a backup plan for my backup plan for my main plan, especially when I’m on vacation.
As an INTJ that is completely normal for us because we need more alone times more than other types to recharge
Edit : omg this is the first ever time that
I've got so many likes on my comment
Be honest tho... Its not that yuu need more time alone, its that you do not NEED time with others. 😉
@@IkeOg yes , that's right
I hate that this modern society is built for extroverted. It is hell for introverted. I need a plan. A way out.
Probably because we're busy procrastinating too
I always called it decompressing.
I can relate to the last one as an INFP. I like to have back-up plans. Though granted, I don't ALWAYS do this, but it is nonetheless, something I still do.
Oh and the isolation thing, yes, haha. But I don't get lonely sometimes. So even just to speak to someone via chat is enough, haha.
Interesting. I see now. I also spend alot of time alone, dom Ni, only the difference is INTJs can go muuuch longer. Two weeks for them two days tops for me and not often...Like a shark vs a dolphine, I need to come up for air. I prefer to speak daily even for a short time. Keeps me sane. Ni does go nocturnal often in both i believe.
the expressed emotion: "feels bad man"
I was already living that way during COVID as an INTJ.
"I would actually be a great supervillain if it weren't for the fact that I have zero desire to completely dominate a world inhabited by abject morons..." -- INTJ
I can do 8 hrs in public then need 16 hrs to recharge alone.
1 and 2 are normal for me too, as INFJ. Number 3 is acceptably relatable...it feels kind as the Milkmaid tale for me. "When I sell my milk and buy a hen and hatch the eggs and sell the chicks and buy a house..."
Then comes some Se dom and tells you broke your milk pot...So, be careful Ni doms!
Nice!! I like this
All of these are on point.
I 100% agree with these.
For me, the sharing of emotions can come from my Te Aux, telling my Fi Tert that you are going to waste someone elses time, if you express your emotions.
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Okay but there's this thing where I will make backup plans for projects and then forget to make lunch and don't have time so I have to make up something quick and GUESS WHO DIDN'T PLAN FOR THAT.
Backup plan for a backup plan because life can lead us to the most unexpected situations but if I already made plans to get waffles for breakfast, I will get it
When I was at school, people would ask me if I was angry, and would tell me to be less serious, whereas I was just mostly inside my head, thinking of abstract things and trying to figure out how some of them worked, and rarely talked to anyone. When I finally got some friends based on common interests and dark sense of humour, I still found it very weird that people hug each other as a way to greet/say goodbye. I got used to it, but still preferred to only do it with my 2 closest friends. What people think of hugs doesn't make sense to me, because it's a very deep, personal thing.
As a kid, I always found ways to entertain myself, i still am the same. But people try to convince me that I am not an introvert and that I have to find new friends because I need it (in their opinion). I tried to prove them otherwise, but since those attempts failed, I stopped since it practically didn't make any sense and was a waste of time to debate without finding a compromise. Everyone's different and everything's relative.
Emotions. I do experience deep emotions, but when it comes to sharing, I would only share with a specific group of people AND there would immediately be a block, which would result in filtering 90% of what I feel and maybe share the remaining 10%, because I don't want others to be overwhelmed. It's my problem, and the words of support only help a tiny bit, compared to analyzing the situation together and finding ways to resolve it.
If I were on the verge of crying, I would hold my regular facial expression up until the last moment where I would end up alone in some private room. If someone enters and catches me in my quiet tears, it'll only make me ashamed and my focus will shift towards thinking of how to escape the room without explaining what happened. I find it extremely difficult to explain the reason, there will might be lots of unnecessary judgement and emotions. So I mostly deal with stress by myself. Knowing this and knowing that I'm about to relieve stress by crying, I will first think of a place to do it safely, without anyone noticing.
Backup plans for backup plans for a couple of years in advance.... This thing along with the tests proved me that despite feeling sceptical whether I was an INTJ and being sort of resistant ("huh? they're emotionally blunt, I'm not"), I probably am one of them.
3) Yes, I have a back up plan for my plan. I have a back up plan for my back up plan. Actually, have about five or six back up plans for my plan, depending on how my initial moves shake out.
But I do realize that'd normal for me, and that everyone else starts having hysterics and flying off the handle in situations that are easily predictable and easily solved.
So I know it's not normal, and that one of the things I can do for the rest of the human race is to have back up plans to protect them from easily foreseeable issues.
It's fine. I've got this.
1) True enough. I don't think strangers need me sobbing on their shoulders. Also I've been attacked when I do show emotions or told to stop that, so yeah, why would I?
2) Not really true. I can survive alone with no contact for longer than a lot of types. But I'm actually pretty social for an introvert. And INTJs, even those who are less social, will suck it up in favor of their plans. I'd think other types such as INTP, who doesn't like to do anything with their knowledge, would be far more reclusive.
As an INTJ, I have backup plans for backup plans to silly plans lol 😆 I just like to think all the possible outcomes and then manage to design a well prepared plan for it 😅
I admire INTJs. I am an ENTJ and I always feel depressed when I am alone inside my room. I am crying so much 😭
When i was studying for my exams, i completely forgot to talk to my mom.. for about 2 weeks.. i talked to her today.. and apologized for not calling her for a very long time.
She replied with 'Nah you better do the dishes for the next two weeks' and laughed it off
PS my mom is an estp
Not talking to other people for even an year is pretty normal for me, but its different when it comes to my mom
point 2 I don't relate to as an INTJ but I am admittingly more extroverted than the average INTJ. I did performance arts and public speaking in school and am generally very social (utilizing either my entp shadow or esfp subconscious more often than my ego in social contexts). I crave partnerships and hanging out with others but that's also because I pretty much grew up living with my best friends since my homelife was not awesome so my best friends would have me every weekend and sometimes in weekdays, as well as all the holdays. I'm so grateful to my best friends who improved my life and saved me from depression.
The back up has a back up!! We all have at LEAST one plan C every 10 seconds of driving
Totally agree 👍🏻 I'm INTJ, too.
i said that if i cant be a designer, ill be a tailor, if not that then i will wprk as accountant, if not that, then maybe as nurse hopefully in somehwere where nurses a paid more like in America
I don’t know if the last one is necessarily true. I don’t make backup plans or I get this huge overwhelming feeling that I rather not start. If it can’t be “perfect” then why start.
Many people over the years have ridiculed me for having an overall life plan. I stopped sharing my plans. Now that I am older, these same people whine about how I have so much money (I don’t). I should have enough for a comfortable retirement, but not enough to go crazy. Question: Why don’t other people have a plan? Why would people laugh at me for having a plan? And who doesn’t have a backup plan?
INTJ: Plans like BATMAN
ISTJ here.
We get it (the first 2 at least).
Plans are just a good idea and never survive implemention
Got multiple different SHIFT plans for just about every scenario. Didn’t realize others didn’t.
Had to learn to express emotions more to be a better older sibling and role model though.
As an INTJ, when I was a kid, I thought I am weird and not normal because I am different from the people around me. I tried so hard to be like the others. As I grow up, I embrace my personality and now proud of being an INTJ.
Wow, yes I actually do have backup plans for my back up plans. I also tend to see the very far reaching consequences of actions. If i am not doing something or delaying something its usually because I see a strategic advantage in it.
i remember playing a game with my friends and they told me why did you bother thinking this far and i just said well thats just how i do things.
It’s why people don’t like playing certain games with me, because I think so many steps ahead of what they will do and of how to stop them. I also don’t like competitive games because I’m the bad guy if I win but if someone else wins they like to lord it over me because it is rare, like a “gotcha” moment. I don’t do that to them when I win.
That man is on the money it’s definitely normal to us😂
Its not that we dont share emotions. We just share them with ourselfes and we feel satisfied enough from this
Exactly!
I actually have a tab on my computer labeled “plan B careers”. Friend saw it on my laptop and found it odd. 😂
I don’t have friends. I have colleagues, clients, and contacts.
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I’m INTP that so so much similarities to INTJ … I even believe that I’m INTJ but unfortunately I’m the lazy and procrastinating one
Sounds normal to me. However I am one.
As a istp I understand this so much and I agree with the first two but I don’t make much plans as much as them.
A backup plan for a backup plan is so wild 😂
As INTJ’s, we sailed through Covid lock downs because we enjoy staying to ourselves. The only thing I yearned for during lockdowns was to travel, we INTJ’s enjoy.
I always make sure to make only one plan, but it might make an impact to another sector of my analysis scope
I'm an INTJ and this is so accurate. Yes I'm a forward thinker and always have a backup plan, backup to the backup, and a back up to the backup backup plan. I can see things happening long before others do. I tell friends and family my superpower is finding patterns in everything. Not exaggerating on that either.
When im doing something i always doubt it so i make a back up plan then if that fails ihave another one i always want to make sure i wont do a mistake so i need a backup
My parents never stop complaining about I’m coming out of the room
The info on my USB is also downloaded on my laptop, and also printed out. A backup plan for my back up plan backed up by a back up plan. Simple 😊
im fine understanding others emotions and trying to dissect and understand them and like reason with them but will never open up.
That backup plan to the backup plan its me
Week or two? Shit I didn't talk to my dad for like 3 years, my cousin who was my best friend I haven't talked to or hung out with in almost two months.
So fascinating!
I plan everything and I love it
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For the last one, I like to give myself a challenge so that the backup plan for my backup plan is something I come up with on the spot should the situation arise. It's a great mental exercise where you mentally place everything on the table, review and decide the next course of action.
When we are alone, we are interacting with our inner secret selves, which is a person better than most people in society.
When we do think about details but not as the same way ISTJs would. Instead of thinking of physical practical ways to solve it, when it happens atm. We just make a contingency plan to evade that physical situation which falls into the 3rd explanation of what INTJs think of what we think other people think is common but isnt. We try to solve it before it happens or keep it from happening. (Nervous laughing)
I usually talk to my family only when eating food and when they want me to do something for them and then i just nod or "yea" or "ok"
Literally me as istj
He not be sharing them feels
It makes sense, ISTJs and INTJs have the same judging functions in the same spots, so I imagine they're have some similarities
I love being an intj ^^
Same here friend.
I spent 25 years working g at a super maximum prison and I felt like I was in hell.
Yes, but sometimes it's hard and alienating.
Thanks for sharing
I’m shocked by how much time is allotted to social living with others. I often think I’m the one being cavalier with “free” time 😮
Everything my man just described is normal.
Everyone else is abnormal
I am an INTJ and I know that those things are not too normal but also nothing that is too weird either as I experienced with others. But what I feel is normal what others do see as rather weird is being honest and direct, that my work will put pressure on me until I do it even when I need a break and me acting completely icy when something bad happens to me because I can manage to overload myself with thoughts and work and have that breakdown once I'm alone at home and not have anyone around me
The thing is we don’t have to do the I have no emotions thing because I not the best coping mechanism!
I have to force myself to smile around people, just so I don't look depressed.
Good video, Joyce.
I could live in a poorly lit cardboard box, as long as I have my brain. Another reason why I would survive on the moon.
When my son went off to college I spend the labor day weekend in the house. My neighbors did a wellness check.😅 I didn't mind lock downs in 2020 because it gave me an excuse to chill inside. How is that not normal 😂? There is always so much to do!
Thank you for sharing
Why does this community call me out so much😂😭 my plan A I’m sure of, plan B 90-95% confidence, plans C-E range from 50-80% confidence and fluctuate in position. This way you make sure you’re never stuck doing nothing productive if something blows up in your face.
But these are normal! Question was about things that “aren’t”! 😂
Im currently looking for property in the middle of the woods to move to permanently. If that ain't INFJ af idk what is lol
I make a backup plan because I can see the fundamental and complex problems in my plans and systems effortlessly, So I'll make a backup plan for that plan, and then find of a way to kind of mush it in. The result? It'll seem like I had this huge masterplan when in reality it's just a lot of imperfect plans stacked together.
Thank you for this insight. I can INTJ now.
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As and INTJ, I’ve actually developed ideas and work projects while riding roller coasters. Doesn’t everyone? 😂
First two apply to all IxTxs and the third one is more of a Si-Ne thing. INTJs get more attached to singular idea of how the things will turn out.
Im intj but the second one I never did
So you’re watching me and taking notes I see.
Nothing here that I don't agree with, as an INTP. Though my observation is that INTPs and INTJs get to their backup plans differently.
Intjs seem to have specific plans for specific risks they perceive in a course of action. Intps tend to have a vast list of things that may go wrong, and try to remain ready for pretty much anything.
I relate, as well (but not as much as you guys, I'm sure).
I know if my backup plan ends up not working, i could also quickly think of another (conceptual) thing that could work.
Most times my last minute thought is my BEST thought (lack of time forcibly narrowing down my Ne). Which I guess is the same thing as the latter part lol.
💯 I could make a plan and a back up plan for that plan but that's too narrow-minded or specifically thinking that one future will happen and avoiding the other possibilities or outcomes ...
I'm an INTJ with ADHD. I have back up plans for my back up plans (yes there are plans lol) and by the time I need a back up plan, I've already forgotten what they are lol.
Have you looked into foods and supplements that help
I've always had a back-up plan for my back-up plan & just thought everyone else was stupid until i took the briggs-myers test then i realized im just special... like 2% of the US population special 😁
Back up plan for the backup plan.
Sounds like plan c
And your point is?
damn, maybe the countless quizes I took where actually right, and I am an INTJ, at least all the three things perfectly match with me.
I think all but the last are common with INTPs, ISTPs and ISTJs too. And even IFs can be pretty selective about sharing emotions.