It really is a weird feeling when you have felt like no one understands you and then find out that you fit the textbook definition of this personality type. Whoever designed these groups clearly knew what they were doing.
Literally like I felt my whole life like people just don’t understand than boom they do understand sort of I just needed to be put in a personality group
As an INTJ, I hate it when people think I’m shy or “try to bring me out of my shell”, it’s almost as if society sees being quiet and shy as synonymous with each other which is very false. If I’m minding my business please don’t talk to me. I’ve notice that as an INTJ I attract people at times when I don’t want to, like when I’m alone on my phone at work for example. Also small talk pisses me off. I work retail and it’s trash. Not staying at that job for long because I fake laugh at a good 90% of my customers jokes and not to mention the small talk is aggravating as hell.
YES. exactly the same with me, i understand and relate to you completely. i HATE small talk and especially in situations like that. especially when i’m minding my own business, doing something where I CLEARLY do not want to be bothered and then people gather around me like a flock and try to have a conversation and so i’m like 😄👹👺.
I think the people around me at work have just accepted that I won’t laugh at everything they say or just to “be nice”. If they speak to me, telling me something that I can tell they find humorous, I’ll give a small polite smile, then continue with my tasks. The trick is to give answers that are as short and vague as possible. That makes people uncomfortable and then, soon enough, you’ve trained them to stay away from you… mostly. I do not hate people, but I hate being AROUND people, and speaking to them? I do not exaggerate when I say I avoid it AT ALL COSTS. I only speak when it absolutely, 100%, cannot be avoided.
As an INTP, I always find small talk irritating as hell. Also most people due to ignorance think that being shy and hating people are synonymous with each other, whilst they couldn’t be further from the truth. For starters, there are many extroverts who are shy; and many introverts like myself whom are not shy. I also don’t hate people, only that the vast majority of them are boring.
i try to avoid conversations but sometimes people come to my desk at school and ask me why i sit at my desk for the whole recess and draw. Than i say that i enjoy it and get back to whatever i was doing. After that, they call me shy, introverted, and depressed. I ignore them, than they don’t leave me alone. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE I WOULD RATHER SPEND MY TIME DRAWING THAN TO START THE DUMBEST ARGUMENT WITH THE DUMBEST PERSON EVER
living life as an INTJ in the US (can't attest to other countries) is like living life as an involuntary villain. especially if you're female and even more especially if you had a traumatic childhood. people will either love you or hate you, but more often will hate you and will go out of their way to make your life a living hell, and ultimately ruin your life directly and/or indirectly. so yeah, wonderful experience all around.
The problem for me (an INTJ) is that I need to have things done this way but feel miserable when I don't, which sadly happens a lot. I would also comment on "doing things efficiently", many times I can be such a perfectionist that I begin to do unnecessary stuff to make something I care about the best way as possible which consumes a lot of time and energy thus creating tasks I am not able to fulfil.
So true, like when i need to do a project I always make it so much more complicated than my classmates, and as a result of that I make it way too hard to finish or to present my project.🥲😂
Same here. I've gotten so caught up in perfectionism that nothing gets done. Sometimes the details of a project get dragged out wear me out. It beats doubling back and doing things twice.
5:29 As an INTJ myself, this is very true. Just because you are older/higher in position than me, doesn't make you 'superior' automatically than I am. If you want my respect, earn it.
@@LordPepe-jh5dt You did the right thing bae! Hell yeah, Respect goes both ways. And just because you're "older" or "more superior" it doesn't mean I will let you treat me like shit and treat you good. The way you treat me sets an example on how I should treat you. Kudos for standing up for yourself!!
I’m an INTJ, and I struggle with dealing with the incompetence of others. It gets in the way of my relationships sometimes and it’s good to try and be strict on myself, and forgiving with others, as what they do is outside of my control. I prefer to spend my time alone, expanding my knowledge, and this helps me keep improving.
As an INTJ I really agreed with the video and one of the things I hate is when one of my plans doesn't go as expected or my routine is interrupted, it's a feeling that leaves me in a bad mood.
I have many of these traits but doesnt mean i am intj. People want to fit in in a category so much. I scored intj all the time and yet the definition changes depending on who says it.
I'm an intj University student. I stopped going to lectures because I feel like the lecturers can't teach me something that I can't learn by myself. So I really resonated with the independence part of the video. I have actually found that I get much higher grades when I teach myself. It might also be because I was taught in a homeschooling setting and thus I had to be independent and manage my time efficiently. Now I genuinely cannot stand going to lectures I find them mind numbing especially if lecture slides are provided before hand..
OMG. I skipped my mandatory freshman conference-after-lecture class in college and still did better in the class than most of the people that liked to hear themselves speak
100%. I didn’t attend tutorials as they’re a waste of time. I’ll figure it out myself, no need to sit around and listen to people who “don’t get it”- that’s a you problem, not a me pr. I attended midterm and final for at least 60% of my classes. Then I discovered distance ed. in fourth year. Happiest I’d been in years- zero people to contend with, work independently, as quickly as I want. Jackpot! I found university to be a massive waste of time; a trained monkey can do it.
INTJ Here, wow. I thought this was gonna be one of those "relatable" videos that just said some things that EVERYONE can relate to, but no. This was really accurate. Well done. Edit: Christ almighty this blew up, glad i related to alot of you guys!
As an INTJ, I see the world as it should be and when it is not, I get annoyed and irritated. I am often surprised at how few people can see what I consider self evident.
Dealing with the autopilot feeling at work is such a challenge. Almost every job I've held has lead to this and I start to feel trapped. Doing the same thing over and over again is torchure. I start to feel like I'm not living up to my capabilities.
What I do is find ways to keep my mind engaged. Over the summer I had a job servicing defibrillators, and managed to hit record numbers by changing the order of the process and by using things like a second battery to allow me to do two things at once. After you reach that stage where the rules coalesce and telescope into one act - an art - look for ways to make it harder without effecting performance. In my case, I tried memorizing the defibrillator ID, and then date, and then battery date, to grow in some way (my memory in this case). Just keep pushing yourself, but try to not be too hard on yourself. Otherwise you fall into a habit of worrying about anything that MIGHT be counterproductive/ineffective.
I just did the test and I'm an INTJ, it made me understand a lot on how I function. Basic things like overanalyzing everything, being freaking stressed when I have a lot to do and no plan to achieve the work, laziness when I don't like something or when I'm not stimulated enough at school, etc. Thanks for the video
This makes sense, I've had a lot of people tell me I "won't make a lot of friends" or that I'm "too harsh" but honestly, I get fed up with inefficient people quickly and if someone's failure consistently costs me my success, I don't really want to be friends with them.
INTJ here, this video is very accurate. One thing I really hate is when someone wants to ask me for a favor and they start beating around the bush, just get to the point
Same here. If they tell me what they need I can get it, or say no if I cant. They don't need to bullshit for an hour, and make my head hurt guessing what they want.
@@qua7771 It's usually extroverts, extroverting all over you. Why get to the point when you can tell someone a long story about yourself and waste their time?
@@darthlaurel I try to reserve time for them after things are done, but they prefer to extrovert randomly. I'm learning that they think that they are bringing us back to reality by giving us a since of community. Essentially, this is their way of avoiding independence, and leaning on each-other for everything even when it could easily be avoided. They think being dependent is helping somehow. It's bizarre.
INTJ here and am I the only one that has been slowly making a mental database that in effect turns people into a group of variables. Mainly behavioral variables. I try to keep in account emotions and it has been surprisingly helpful in my social skills because I can have a bunch of pre-planned responses for each type of person.
Especially hit with that part about enjoying quiet but natural places. I absolutely love just going on walks, I can think allI want but I also get the mental stimulation of a constantly changing background and noises so I never get bored during it
As an Intj, I do have a good amount of empathy, or at least I try my best to do so. The problem is that not everyone nowadays does and thus go off of present-nows instead of thinking how this will effect the things around them. No one wants to listen anymore and I see that as the major downfall in everything, thus why I try to get myself in an area of respect so others are more willing to listen: people will not listen to those they seem less to them but they will to those they follow, or that is what they see it as.
As an INTJ personality, I like to see a video about the dark side of the personality. I had this big group of friends. I hung around with about 20 people. There was a person I really thought was a friend. I was very surprised when he betrayed me. Usually I can tell when's someone not really your friend and I usually avoid them. I did not overreact. Just move on with life. I was like screw it. But then that person who betrayed me started attacking my other friends because they were my friends. This crossed a line for me. Then I retelled. Not violently, I just whispered in people's ears and allowed the seed to grow. Manipulating people allowing them to believe that the idea was their own. I did not directly tell people what to do. I just simply said watch him do this. Then when he did it in front of them. Because they were paying attention to it, they came up with their own conclusion. Of course, I told them what I thought. But I let the thought grow in their own head. No one is this person's friend in my town they hated his guts. No one really knows what I did, nor do I ever need to take the responsibility or take credit for it. I don't need to win a popularity contest. I know people I know what they're going to do before they know they're going to do something, and I allowed for this to work in my favor. Has this happened to any other INTJ ???
The old " give them all the rope to hang themselves with" trick. Yeah. It's a classic Go To tactic along with viral marketing techniques to spread an idea. Works just about every time. For more fun but subtle techniques I'd suggest y'all look up some counter intelligence techniques books. That way you can use them if the need arises and more importantly so you'll recognize when some high functioning sociopath, psychopath, or malignant narcissist is running one of those plays against you or someone you care about.
Well played. Once, I casually warned one of my enemies that I don’t tolerate bull crap from other people and that I will get physical if needed. I said this in front of my group of friends on purpose knowing that this guy would aggravate me again in front of them. (He liked to show off). He finally did and I got physical as promised. I did get in trouble with a few people except those that heard me say what I said. They defended me by saying, “Well, he did say that he retaliates and the guy should’ve taken that as a warning.” In the end, I got back at my enemy, made a statement and kept my friends.
I think I got so annoyed of people thinking I’m unemotional or rude that sometimes I just put on politeness in front of others so I don’t have to deal with their comments on my outward appearance. When I get to be around someone I truly trust I don’t put on the polite act and just let myself frown and relax cause I know they know I’m not mad.
As an INTJ, I was skeptical at first thinking, "well, this is gonna be one of those videos taking advantage of the Barnum effect to attract people and falsely relate to them." How the turntables, was I wrong! Specially with the quote, "respect must be gained." Well done. Great video!
Thank you. You wrote exactly what I was thinking. I think it may have been intentional. Knowing it would make us nuts, we would have to comment thus driving the algorithm.
This is so accurate, i am an INTJ and i completely relate to everything. Thank you for making this video, especially because it's so accurate, you've got my respect and interest.
I used to doubt that I was INTj, until I saw this video. Basically everything listed in this video is me and what I tend to struggle with. Now I know for sure that I am INTJ.
this is one of the mostly accurate intj videos that it made me feel 'read'.. a really really rare one from many videos that tries(and fails) to explain intj.. plus the comment section is golden
I am never bored as I am curious about everything. The more I know the better my insights. I love meeting new people because I always learn something new and interesting. People are storehouses of interesting experiences.
No. 3 si actually what I often answer when asked what is my weakness on job interviews. Only found out I'm an INTJ recently and now that actually made sense
@@PsychologyRefresh sometimes i just ignore them or just pretent that i doesn't bother me, but it became harder with family coz they wanted me to be like other women but won't understand that i'm different
Very relatable and logical it sums my life up pretty well I hate incompetence and ineffiecncy and especially laziness but in my life I am unstructured and quite lazy I hate laziness but I end up being a bit lazy its hard to explain I do things lazy and then end up efficient it's weird but it works I think the word I'm looking for is methodical
@@heibai1173 yea and sometimes I experience brain fog and progressive over load it's an issue I think I might have a mental illness or brain damage and I have high levels of stress even tho I'm extermly confident that's also weird
@@Jack_howard_mayer I alphabetize things, draw, or organize my hard drives to calm down. Except, then when I go to sleep, I dream about all of my folders and I am forced to sort things in my dreams! Alas, not even in sleep does my mind find repose.
@@heibai1173 my mind is too rapid and fast so I get insomnia but i can still function I go bed like 4:00 its hard for me cause I'm always constantly in stress and trauma
TBH, what’s so surprisingly true about this video is that I have always worked my way through things top down or what some may call introverted intuition, or root cause analysis.
Hi intjs. Infp here 😊 just learning personality typology now. I always loved different personalities but never heard of mbti until recently. All the connections ive made now from my interests to my fears it all makes sense. As an infp i also suffer from overwhelming environment. Im a mum and the noise and lights can cook me, also if im bombarded with too much info dumping or multitasking. Getting better at it but i have my sanctuary to renergize. Also very independent and strive to do things on my own😊
This is interesting. I started reading a couple of years about the INTJ type and it just made perfect sense to me - it was an epiphany to me to understand more about how I operate. I then did a few tests and I came out as INTJ which didn't surprise me as I had already felt an affinity with the type. It helps me to understand how I think and how to operate and the strengths and weaknesses I have and how I have always felt different from most other people (although not as different as an INTJ female who is even more rare!)
The difficult part is hard to socialize I do a lot of good stuff and often appreciated in my job. But the problem is i feel no one with me and i am alone in the journey
Now I see why ENFPs and INTJs fit together that well. The INTJ works quite fine where the ENFP fails and the other way around even though they could have the same thought at the same moment. And they share some things. I'm ENFP and one of the few things that would enrage me are inefficiency and incompetence. I may have more patience when people are in a position in which I don't expect them to know of the things in front of them, but if they are in a position in which they should know what to do and I'm facing plain incompetence and inefficieny, my blood starts boiling quite fast while being overly sarcastic and direct. I even understand the "hate to work on autopilot". I need challenges, I love knowledge. Independency is also a big thing for me, but I want to achieve it with someone together, since I absolutely love to see others succeed, too. I love lone strolls through woods and fields, too, even though I enjoy having people around me most times.
No wonder me an INTJ who gets attracted to every enfp's I meet and get along so well with them. ENFPs are the only people who understand my INTJs thoughts and behaviour!
I did personality test couple of times at different times and still got INTJ, to be honest sometimes I feel overwhelmed and think if I truly have INTJ personality since most people addressing them as "quiet, cold and smart" and that is why I'm here trying to learn more about myself through these videos.
I honestly don’t relate as much to the feeling misunderstood part that much because I have an INTJ father as well and we have an identical sense of humor and think similarly. I’m lucky, there are a few things though, like our inner world is different, we have different ways of accomplishing a problem, but they are always the most efficient ways we can think of. I just finished it, the autopilot description was astoundingly accurate.
I’ve been critisizing myself so much for being such a weird person. I never realize those “weird thoughts” are actually parts of an INTJ’s traits... OMGG
I find out today that I'm supposed a INTJ and a lot of sh*it in my life start make sense to me. I've been struggling negatively with myself because I thought I was so weird. That's why I failed so many times and thought I was a failure. I like to create plans and turn them into methods for myself, but I found this strange. I could study things, turn them into methods, and sell. Looks good, right? I always had problems with my parents and I understood why. They are the "it will work, just believe me, just starts, God decides" type. I hate being around people like that. How do you fuc* know it works if you don't even has a base where you can think correctly??? Don't make sense. I thought those people was full crazy and life a big injustice. Why did I fail when those people achieved success? Looks like, I need to adapt to myself now. I'm not a failure! * And stop with this "it will works" without a good base.
It's great you presented not only positives but also negatives of being INTJ. Good video. Also - it would be interesting to see team made fully of INTJs work on some difficult problem together. Would they enhance each other's effectivness thanks to their similar analytical approach or would the cooperation of several introverted and strict people have problem with creating proper "team jell" (without some extroverted mediator)?
If they are a group of INTJs who trust each other and are friends then it is probably one of the most efficient and creative and intelligent groups of people you will come across. If not, then it falls apart extremely quickly.
I think, as long as jealousy doesn't creep in, or the stakes very high (million-dollar prize, say), it wd be marvelous to watch such a project unfold. Trick is: to get / find a good number of the 2% INTJs together with the subject knowledge, who aren't currently (secretly) world dominating! 🤔😂
I think it would work just fine, with a good chance of providing superior results.... PROVIDED the group as a whole assigned one member to the leadership role, with it being understood by all that this person has the function of moving the geoup forward.
I am an intj girl. That's right., I just am different and I think I am different too. And also I am always in my head. Like thinking about something that I don't like..
Man, this is so relatable. I left 2 jobs literally because the manager and the colleagues were absolutely incompetent. Not even because they were stupid, but they just refused to put in the effort. Or when management is one decision away from setting up a structured work environment with everyone knowing their roles, but instead they just talk about how it should be done, but don’t do it, as if waiting for some magic to happen or for someone else to create the thing they want. It’s extremely frustrating. I can’t even say that I know everything, but everyone’s just so unserious and careless.
as a double introverted intj, its hard to show empathy or any sense of care for other people thoughts or feelings, i simplify disaprove what they say with facts and logic and becasue their feelings are incorrect to the reality they get mad at me for not accepting those false feelings, i simpily run on reality, not what you "feel"
I’m 36 and did the test few days ago. Never knew anything about personality types. Got INTJ and felt bit scared and on same time relieved. Scared because of the descriptions fitting me perfectly (how few questions can tell me me exactly how I am) relieved because I know now that there is nothing wrong with me. I’ve been diagnosing myself all my life thinking that I have some sort of autism or something. Always felt different. Now I know I’m not alone.
Yes to everything. Except, I COULD complete my work tasks quicker, but I have to strategically stall and time my tasks in order to make it last till the last hour, cause I need money. 😑
I'm so focused on my goals, it feels like I'm not living the present. I'm living for the future, for when my goals will be achieved and I could just enjoy life
As an INTJ who grew up home schooled in a family of 8... I do, in fact, absolutely, NOT need a plan. We would literally make things up as we go and that was that. Because I was home schooled if we wanted/needed to go somewhere we left "as soon as we were ready" at any time of the day. Day trips and mini-vacations were like that too. Dad comes home from work and decides "time for a bike ride" or we finish our homework in the morning and mom decides "Oh? well...who wants to go to the park!". Do I like having a plan? Yes. Do I hate it when the plan is derailed? Also yes. But I do not need a plan, I am a very go-with-the-flow INTJ *so long as a plan has not already been established.*
I'm INTJ. I don't really like to go through the topics like "INTJ are like this or that,..." because I kinda get the feeling that I am disrupted by their definitions and thoughts about INTJ. Coz there can also be the things that I'm actually not. So those kind of videos with the topics I mentioned before make me think of me as another person and doubtful about me being myself. But curiosity~~~ But I do can relate the things in this video really well. I really like it. ^^
As an INTJ, I want to know if there is a natural connection between INTJs and OCD? I have always had OCD, and it became a much bigger part of my life after my TBI (traumatic brain injury). I hope that I will get some useful comments from people who know about this.
@@PsychologyRefresh As an INTJ with OCD, I am always worried about the future. My deepest core thought is "am I safe." I take this to a very unhealthy level, and then I need my compulsive action to make me feel protected, even though I am very consciously aware that this compulsive reaction isn't actually why I am safe. Now, I have been working on this part of myself for years, using CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy). It has a lot less power over me than it used to have, but I have to remember that the reality is what is happening right now. OCD is a version of feeling trapped in our own heads. I get obsessive, using loops of thoughts that usually don't change very much. As a person with OCD, I get so deep in my own thoughts that I don't open up to the actual world around me. Parts of this video talk about this part of an INTJ, as people who love our alone time, but at the same time, it can also give us too much time to focus on unhealthy thoughts, to be too connected with our personal minds and not enough with the world around us. This is just my personal story, though. A personal story is different from having facts to connect OCD with people with INTJ. I would be very interested to see if there is any information about this. I also think that this might be an interesting video in the future. I would love to talk with you about making this video.
I’m an INTJ and I have intense ocd. My intrusive thoughts come in many forms so it’s a long story but I can relate. I think it’s our introverted intuition.
@@Luminesce07 thank you for connecting with your story. I have learned that there are 4 happy chemical in our brain. People with OCD have a lack of Serotonin, a chemical that makes us feel safe and confident in ourselves.
I took MBTI test when I was in middle school, it turned that I am an INTJ. And I can relate to everything what this video says, thank you for understanding us. ❤
Just turned to be intj from ENTJ, I can relate to all these points, however, some look like the trait in an extreme form. It looks like an extreme version of intj or the real real intj. I feel that i am these traits but to to that much extend.
INTJ here. I can become overstimulated and it can cause anxiety but somethings that I love to do are listen to LOUD ASS MUSIC. it brings me out of my head and I can focus on what I'm doing rather than being stuck in my head.
From this video most of it is true and I’ve been called cold or a villain by some people because of how I am but it is what it is and I tend to analyse and break things down but things that are interesting to break down tho and I plan ahead for my future
Working with so many incompetent people make me enraged. I yell and get overwhelmed despite all my efforts to ignore them and to keep calm. I am so tired and so desperate about this
I didn't believe before in this personality types but when it showed itself how useful it is I tried to take a test. I am INTJ so I thought what is so special that I am rare. And when I saw this video it's all coming together from these facts to my experience. About predicting future is surely true for me. I am a guy who doesn't like that much teamwork and likes to ask myself questions and being alone to refresh my mind. Others thought being alone is bad for me but I see it like peacful time with myself.
I am an intj still at school, and I have been in complete stress because of over-stimulation from loud high-school drama and the constant city bustling. I am all of these things but i despise myself as i cannot embrace my own personality. I fake laugh a lot and I am nice to people which isn't the real me(people still dislike me). it makes me more upset to see movie characters who are intjs being classic and emotionless.
I almost never ask for help. Not in the office, not with friends, not with family. I have to deal with my shit on my own. I also don’t wanna bother ppl with my problems.
I thought that i am the weird one. My husband always told me so. Sometimes i show no emotion. I hate when my someone blabbering on trivial matter or emotional one. Just look at the logical and reasonable method men! And i dont give respect to people based on their seniority or superiority. But now I realize INTJ is my personality. Yes, the rare INTJ women. Thank you for your video. Done subscribed.
and hate it when other people push "spontaneity" in my life, thinking it would make me happy. then they would get upset with me when i get upset with them because of shoving their "spontaneity" on me
@@ViewportPlaythrough offfff yea i feel you. My big sister told me to get more friends, and i asked: how many do you want me to have!? (cuz i had like 2-3 friends) She responded: 5 or 10. And I like: ??? what?
My own overly detailed oriented expectations, and want to be perfect, can sometimes even piss myself off. A group work, that's torturing others and especially myself. Farewell😂
usaf told me i'm an intj around 20 as part of my security clearance, and told me it's very rare. i've been told that twice since by counselors. i agree with everything you said. we're a tough lot.
I bounce back and forth between introverted and extroverted. But definitely an intuitive, thinker, judger. Biggest advice I can give is to not take life so seriously.
I used to consistently get Intp and Intj, results when I took these tests in high-school. Then I started reading books on how to socialize with people. Now I test as an Entp Entj. Ever since I started trying to be more extroverted my life improved drastically. I stopped seeing being Intj as a good thing. I was a biology major before switching to engineering and natural selection would infer that intp and intj are not selected for naturaly and it MUST mean that it's is NOT a good survival trait. Which would mean ur not having babies. So I said screw that I'm and extrovert now and I make alot of money and date beautiful women. My fellow nerds please listen to me, if you can stand it be extroverted we can make more money and have more babies, even Elon has become more extroverted lately. Introvertedness will not make you money, it doesn't matter how smart you are on paper you also need to be intelligent with your voice. Stop wasting time thinking ur cool and special as an (I) Introvert. Just stop its a false sense of security that you feed into a delusion that your cool and special because you don't like talking to people. Stop kidding yourself. Read books on how to talk and raise your condfidence.
I was a geek and nerd at school not talking to anyone then I got prettier later in life and became more extroverted by learning it and being encouraged by society just because they found you attractive. I get exactly the same results as you!! Funny is that I attract only INTJ, they are like: we are the same, but you’re more social somehow 😂
@@Akos91 there are literally hundreds of thousands of good books out there. The best thing you can do is get yourself an audible membership or look for free books on RUclips. But just read everything you can. Self help, psychology, financial, there are soooo many books I can't really give you a list because you need to find books that suit what your own personal needs are in ur current stage of life. Now for the most important part. If you are using audible don't just listen to a book once. Listen to it 5 times at minimum. The more times you listen the more information you will pick up easiest way to do it is at work. Atleast it was for me since I worked a solo job. I would just pop in my headphones and listen to a 12 hour book while I welded. I would zone out and finish a whole book in 1 day. Then the next day I'd start it over and listen again. I can listen to a book 4 or 5 times in a row and then I'll move on or re listen to a previous book. This is good for when you first start your audible account and you don't have many book. Good first books I would recommend, "The Suble art of not giving a f#$k" "How to win friends and influence people" " The power of habit " "The denial of death" "Catching Fire" and ill throw in the "The deals of Warren Buffet Volume 1" just for good measure. I want you to not get sucked in too hard to the self help thing. They basically all tell you the same thing. And that is that you need to decide to make a choice. It's simple but in practice much more difficult. I don't want you to get sucked into the self help because it's mostly the same. Read books about finances and how to make money. Self help is just like stepping stones to motivate you to start going after the real goals.
Well, I can see INTJs wanting to staying single for life and they'd rather love that. So survival rates and population proportions are not a good measurement to an INTJ's success in life
هل عندما تكون اجتماعياً هل يعني ذلك أن نمطك تحول من intj إلي Entj بسبب تغير شئ من شخصيتك ؟ ام انك لازلت lntj ولكنك أكثر انفتاحاً قليلاً فتصنف منintj@@QWERTY-hl6wm
Wowwwww you nailed it with the career and the incompetent bosses!!! Nightmare-ish career in corporate… what a waste of my time and talent. My first reaction at my first job: ‘huhhh do people gat paid this much to do this little’ 😂. Should have been a huge red flag for me.
Well there are also many negative traits that i have become aware of .Those negative behaviors have become a sort of a pattern which keeps repeating itself in different periods and situations. Personally it always feels the right thing to do where others think I’m taking extreme measures to solve a common situation. Though I don’t regret any of my life decisions but i do understand why it’s an issue with people as they tend to put so much emotional values into their decisions.
My ex-step mom thought I had a type of autism that makes it difficult for me to feel and display emotions or feel empathy for others. But I’m just a INTJ lol.
2:56 thats so true whenever i do group work for anything i already know what i want to get done any most of the time other people are just saying: what are we even doing
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Relatable, as an INTJ the work that I hate the most is group work because people are incompetent
Good to hear!
Word.
exactly, and the worst part is we end up doing nearly all of the work and they still get the credit from the teacher
Same 😂
I can relate to that. Some of my group mates are quite incompetent, so I ended up finishing the project all by myself.
It really is a weird feeling when you have felt like no one understands you and then find out that you fit the textbook definition of this personality type. Whoever designed these groups clearly knew what they were doing.
Meyers-Briggs
Literally like I felt my whole life like people just don’t understand than boom they do understand sort of I just needed to be put in a personality group
yeah
To the T
As an INTJ, I hate it when people think I’m shy or “try to bring me out of my shell”, it’s almost as if society sees being quiet and shy as synonymous with each other which is very false. If I’m minding my business please don’t talk to me. I’ve notice that as an INTJ I attract people at times when I don’t want to, like when I’m alone on my phone at work for example. Also small talk pisses me off. I work retail and it’s trash. Not staying at that job for long because I fake laugh at a good 90% of my customers jokes and not to mention the small talk is aggravating as hell.
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YES. exactly the same with me, i understand and relate to you completely. i HATE small talk and especially in situations like that. especially when i’m minding my own business, doing something where I CLEARLY do not want to be bothered and then people gather around me like a flock and try to have a conversation and so i’m like 😄👹👺.
I think the people around me at work have just accepted that I won’t laugh at everything they say or just to “be nice”. If they speak to me, telling me something that I can tell they find humorous, I’ll give a small polite smile, then continue with my tasks.
The trick is to give answers that are as short and vague as possible. That makes people uncomfortable and then, soon enough, you’ve trained them to stay away from you… mostly.
I do not hate people, but I hate being AROUND people, and speaking to them? I do not exaggerate when I say I avoid it AT ALL COSTS. I only speak when it absolutely, 100%, cannot be avoided.
As an INTP, I always find small talk irritating as hell. Also most people due to ignorance think that being shy and hating people are synonymous with each other, whilst they couldn’t be further from the truth. For starters, there are many extroverts who are shy; and many introverts like myself whom are not shy. I also don’t hate people, only that the vast majority of them are boring.
i try to avoid conversations but sometimes people come to my desk at school and ask me why i sit at my desk for the whole recess and draw. Than i say that i enjoy it and get back to whatever i was doing. After that, they call me shy, introverted, and depressed. I ignore them, than they don’t leave me alone. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE I WOULD RATHER SPEND MY TIME DRAWING THAN TO START THE DUMBEST ARGUMENT WITH THE DUMBEST PERSON EVER
living life as an INTJ in the US (can't attest to other countries) is like living life as an involuntary villain. especially if you're female and even more especially if you had a traumatic childhood. people will either love you or hate you, but more often will hate you and will go out of their way to make your life a living hell, and ultimately ruin your life directly and/or indirectly. so yeah, wonderful experience all around.
why? it might be because of jealousy ? Entjs are also hated
The problem for me (an INTJ) is that I need to have things done this way but feel miserable when I don't, which sadly happens a lot. I would also comment on "doing things efficiently", many times I can be such a perfectionist that I begin to do unnecessary stuff to make something I care about the best way as possible which consumes a lot of time and energy thus creating tasks I am not able to fulfil.
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Oh my, that is so true. I am doing that a lot and it is very easy to reach a burnout stage with this "system".
So true, like when i need to do a project I always make it so much more complicated than my classmates, and as a result of that I make it way too hard to finish or to present my project.🥲😂
OMG!
same here,
I always want perfection, but because of stress I can't achieve a little and this makes me very frustrated.
Same here. I've gotten so caught up in perfectionism that nothing gets done. Sometimes the details of a project get dragged out wear me out. It beats doubling back and doing things twice.
5:29 As an INTJ myself, this is very true. Just because you are older/higher in position than me, doesn't make you 'superior' automatically than I am. If you want my respect, earn it.
@@LordPepe-jh5dt You did the right thing bae! Hell yeah, Respect goes both ways. And just because you're "older" or "more superior" it doesn't mean I will let you treat me like shit and treat you good. The way you treat me sets an example on how I should treat you. Kudos for standing up for yourself!!
Love you. Never ever lose that attitude.
I have left several jobs because my boss made poor business decisions and I cannot respect a “superior” who is dumber than I am.
Exactly. @@BBMc107
I mean it does but ok Intjs aren't the smartest and that's apparent from this comment
I’m an INTJ, and I struggle with dealing with the incompetence of others. It gets in the way of my relationships sometimes and it’s good to try and be strict on myself, and forgiving with others, as what they do is outside of my control. I prefer to spend my time alone, expanding my knowledge, and this helps me keep improving.
You are better off assuming incompetence and corruption due to humans being human, and be pleasantly surprised when not.
What a Chad.
Keep low expectations for others and plan accordingly
I'm only upset when there's no improvements at all while I'm helping them in a concise way , encouraging and complimenting them at the time
Yes. "Lead, follow, or get out of the way"
As an INTJ I really agreed with the video and one of the things I hate is when one of my plans doesn't go as expected or my routine is interrupted, it's a feeling that leaves me in a bad mood.
I have many of these traits but doesnt mean i am intj.
People want to fit in in a category so much.
I scored intj all the time and yet the definition changes depending on who says it.
I'm an intj University student. I stopped going to lectures because I feel like the lecturers can't teach me something that I can't learn by myself. So I really resonated with the independence part of the video. I have actually found that I get much higher grades when I teach myself. It might also be because I was taught in a homeschooling setting and thus I had to be independent and manage my time efficiently. Now I genuinely cannot stand going to lectures I find them mind numbing especially if lecture slides are provided before hand..
This was me after COVID 😭😭 I despised the fact I didn’t choose a virtual college.
OMG. I skipped my mandatory freshman conference-after-lecture class in college and still did better in the class than most of the people that liked to hear themselves speak
100%. I didn’t attend tutorials as they’re a waste of time. I’ll figure it out myself, no need to sit around and listen to people who “don’t get it”- that’s a you problem, not a me pr. I attended midterm and final for at least 60% of my classes. Then I discovered distance ed. in fourth year. Happiest I’d been in years- zero people to contend with, work independently, as quickly as I want. Jackpot!
I found university to be a massive waste of time; a trained monkey can do it.
INTJ Here, wow. I thought this was gonna be one of those "relatable" videos that just said some things that EVERYONE can relate to, but no. This was really accurate. Well done.
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Perhaps you'd be interested in this thing called "horoscopes". Fucking stupid.
Agreed 100%
how the fuck did this blow up
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As an INTJ, I see the world as it should be and when it is not, I get annoyed and irritated. I am often surprised at how few people can see what I consider self evident.
Thanks for sharing!
Oh my god exactly. I feel like the world was built and is ran by idiots for idiots. Which actually has some truth to it lol.
@@SzaboDTamas-ki4wulook around- you are not wrong.
I can relate to 95%. Have never seen such an accurate video like this one.
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Dealing with the autopilot feeling at work is such a challenge. Almost every job I've held has lead to this and I start to feel trapped. Doing the same thing over and over again is torchure. I start to feel like I'm not living up to my capabilities.
Thanks for sharing this!
ikr routines make me go crazy
I literally changed my career because of that
Because of this feeling I'm now travelling to the United States to learn a new job, I am from Brazil and this will be a challenge!
What I do is find ways to keep my mind engaged. Over the summer I had a job servicing defibrillators, and managed to hit record numbers by changing the order of the process and by using things like a second battery to allow me to do two things at once. After you reach that stage where the rules coalesce and telescope into one act - an art - look for ways to make it harder without effecting performance. In my case, I tried memorizing the defibrillator ID, and then date, and then battery date, to grow in some way (my memory in this case). Just keep pushing yourself, but try to not be too hard on yourself. Otherwise you fall into a habit of worrying about anything that MIGHT be counterproductive/ineffective.
All my life I've been misunderstood and and now I finally found my people.
Welcome😂😁🤍
People ask why I’m mad at them for doing some things differently, when actually im annoyed that its so inefficient
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I just did the test and I'm an INTJ, it made me understand a lot on how I function. Basic things like overanalyzing everything, being freaking stressed when I have a lot to do and no plan to achieve the work, laziness when I don't like something or when I'm not stimulated enough at school, etc. Thanks for the video
This makes sense, I've had a lot of people tell me I "won't make a lot of friends" or that I'm "too harsh" but honestly, I get fed up with inefficient people quickly and if someone's failure consistently costs me my success, I don't really want to be friends with them.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
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INTJ here, this video is very accurate.
One thing I really hate is when someone wants to ask me for a favor and they start beating around the bush, just get to the point
Thank you!
I totally hate people wasting my time.
Same here.
If they tell me what they need I can get it, or say no if I cant. They don't need to bullshit for an hour, and make my head hurt guessing what they want.
@@qua7771 It's usually extroverts, extroverting all over you. Why get to the point when you can tell someone a long story about yourself and waste their time?
@@darthlaurel I try to reserve time for them after things are done, but they prefer to extrovert randomly. I'm learning that they think that they are bringing us back to reality by giving us a since of community. Essentially, this is their way of avoiding independence, and leaning on each-other for everything even when it could easily be avoided. They think being dependent is helping somehow. It's bizarre.
Being an INTJ I’ve never seen something that I can relate to this much and in a way it’s really comforting🙂
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INTJ here and am I the only one that has been slowly making a mental database that in effect turns people into a group of variables. Mainly behavioral variables. I try to keep in account emotions and it has been surprisingly helpful in my social skills because I can have a bunch of pre-planned responses for each type of person.
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I know right
I HATE SMALL TALK OR POINTLESS CHATTER
I have a coworker that's generally pleasant but talks too much or unnecessarily
Especially hit with that part about enjoying quiet but natural places. I absolutely love just going on walks, I can think allI want but I also get the mental stimulation of a constantly changing background and noises so I never get bored during it
INTJ here. I could relate to every point made in this video.
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As an Intj, I do have a good amount of empathy, or at least I try my best to do so. The problem is that not everyone nowadays does and thus go off of present-nows instead of thinking how this will effect the things around them. No one wants to listen anymore and I see that as the major downfall in everything, thus why I try to get myself in an area of respect so others are more willing to listen: people will not listen to those they seem less to them but they will to those they follow, or that is what they see it as.
As an INTJ personality, I like to see a video about the dark side of the personality.
I had this big group of friends. I hung around with about 20 people. There was a person I really thought was a friend. I was very surprised when he betrayed me. Usually I can tell when's someone not really your friend and I usually avoid them. I did not overreact. Just move on with life. I was like screw it.
But then that person who betrayed me started attacking my other friends because they were my friends.
This crossed a line for me. Then I retelled. Not violently, I just whispered in people's ears and allowed the seed to grow. Manipulating people allowing them to believe that the idea was their own. I did not directly tell people what to do. I just simply said watch him do this. Then when he did it in front of them. Because they were paying attention to it, they came up with their own conclusion. Of course, I told them what I thought. But I let the thought grow in their own head.
No one is this person's friend in my town they hated his guts.
No one really knows what I did, nor do I ever need to take the responsibility or take credit for it. I don't need to win a popularity contest.
I know people I know what they're going to do before they know they're going to do something, and I allowed for this to work in my favor.
Has this happened to any other INTJ ???
Thanks for sharing this!
We're good at allowing enemies to get caught in their own web. That's for sure. I think it comes with intuition. We know their next move.
The old " give them all the rope to hang themselves with" trick. Yeah. It's a classic Go To tactic along with viral marketing techniques to spread an idea. Works just about every time. For more fun but subtle techniques I'd suggest y'all look up some counter intelligence techniques books. That way you can use them if the need arises and more importantly so you'll recognize when some high functioning sociopath, psychopath, or malignant narcissist is running one of those plays against you or someone you care about.
Well played. Once, I casually warned one of my enemies that I don’t tolerate bull crap from other people and that I will get physical if needed. I said this in front of my group of friends on purpose knowing that this guy would aggravate me again in front of them. (He liked to show off). He finally did and I got physical as promised. I did get in trouble with a few people except those that heard me say what I said. They defended me by saying, “Well, he did say that he retaliates and the guy should’ve taken that as a warning.” In the end, I got back at my enemy, made a statement and kept my friends.
@@user-A-png your P and J must be slightly dominant at least 51%
I think I got so annoyed of people thinking I’m unemotional or rude that sometimes I just put on politeness in front of others so I don’t have to deal with their comments on my outward appearance. When I get to be around someone I truly trust I don’t put on the polite act and just let myself frown and relax cause I know they know I’m not mad.
Takes too much energy.
@@anon-tk1zg sure it gives me a headache and I get exhausted, but it gets better with time. Also, dealing with conflict takes more energy.
As an INTJ, I was skeptical at first thinking, "well, this is gonna be one of those videos taking advantage of the Barnum effect to attract people and falsely relate to them."
How the turntables, was I wrong!
Specially with the quote, "respect must be gained."
Well done. Great video!
Thank you!
I think the same everytime before I watch psychology related videos because sometimes they're not factually correct.
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@@PsychologyRefresh I did! It was a very informative video❤️.
As an INTJ, the misspelling of "authority" at 5:15 makes me insane. Fitting that it's in the "they despise incompetency" chapter.
Thank you. You wrote exactly what I was thinking. I think it may have been intentional. Knowing it would make us nuts, we would have to comment thus driving the algorithm.
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This is so accurate, i am an INTJ and i completely relate to everything. Thank you for making this video, especially because it's so accurate, you've got my respect and interest.
Glad it was helpful!
I used to doubt that I was INTj, until I saw this video. Basically everything listed in this video is me and what I tend to struggle with. Now I know for sure that I am INTJ.
When I took the test ,i actually knew Nothing about my personality and when i dug in i found how much it represented me!
this is one of the mostly accurate intj videos that it made me feel 'read'.. a really really rare one from many videos that tries(and fails) to explain intj..
plus the comment section is golden
Thank you so much!
I am never bored as I am curious about everything. The more I know the better my insights. I love meeting new people because I always learn something new and interesting. People are storehouses of interesting experiences.
As a intj female, i can relate 😌💙
No. 3 si actually what I often answer when asked what is my weakness on job interviews. Only found out I'm an INTJ recently and now that actually made sense
ENFJ here! You guys are the most mysterious humans I've ever seen
Why do you think so?
INTJ here🖐, it's a daily struggle for me to live coz most people can't understand me at all
@@iriastuti How do you handle with that?
@@PsychologyRefresh sometimes i just ignore them or just pretent that i doesn't bother me, but it became harder with family coz they wanted me to be like other women but won't understand that i'm different
@@iriastuti Thanks for sharing!
Very relatable and logical it sums my life up pretty well I hate incompetence and ineffiecncy and especially laziness but in my life I am unstructured and quite lazy I hate laziness but I end up being a bit lazy its hard to explain I do things lazy and then end up efficient it's weird but it works I think the word I'm looking for is methodical
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Same. Sometimes my brain is so overheated, it makes me anything BUT efficient.
@@heibai1173 yea and sometimes I experience brain fog and progressive over load it's an issue I think I might have a mental illness or brain damage and I have high levels of stress even tho I'm extermly confident that's also weird
@@Jack_howard_mayer I alphabetize things, draw, or organize my hard drives to calm down. Except, then when I go to sleep, I dream about all of my folders and I am forced to sort things in my dreams! Alas, not even in sleep does my mind find repose.
@@heibai1173 my mind is too rapid and fast so I get insomnia but i can still function I go bed like 4:00 its hard for me cause I'm always constantly in stress and trauma
TBH, what’s so surprisingly true about this video is that I have always worked my way through things top down or what some may call introverted intuition, or root cause analysis.
This is a great trait!
Hi intjs. Infp here 😊 just learning personality typology now. I always loved different personalities but never heard of mbti until recently. All the connections ive made now from my interests to my fears it all makes sense. As an infp i also suffer from overwhelming environment. Im a mum and the noise and lights can cook me, also if im bombarded with too much info dumping or multitasking. Getting better at it but i have my sanctuary to renergize. Also very independent and strive to do things on my own😊
This is interesting. I started reading a couple of years about the INTJ type and it just made perfect sense to me - it was an epiphany to me to understand more about how I operate. I then did a few tests and I came out as INTJ which didn't surprise me as I had already felt an affinity with the type. It helps me to understand how I think and how to operate and the strengths and weaknesses I have and how I have always felt different from most other people (although not as different as an INTJ female who is even more rare!)
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
The difficult part is hard to socialize
I do a lot of good stuff and often appreciated in my job. But the problem is i feel no one with me and i am alone in the journey
woah, i haven’t even finished the video yet but #2 describes me perfectly. so far i relate highly with all of them.
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Now I see why ENFPs and INTJs fit together that well. The INTJ works quite fine where the ENFP fails and the other way around even though they could have the same thought at the same moment. And they share some things. I'm ENFP and one of the few things that would enrage me are inefficiency and incompetence. I may have more patience when people are in a position in which I don't expect them to know of the things in front of them, but if they are in a position in which they should know what to do and I'm facing plain incompetence and inefficieny, my blood starts boiling quite fast while being overly sarcastic and direct. I even understand the "hate to work on autopilot". I need challenges, I love knowledge. Independency is also a big thing for me, but I want to achieve it with someone together, since I absolutely love to see others succeed, too.
I love lone strolls through woods and fields, too, even though I enjoy having people around me most times.
Great comment!
No wonder me an INTJ who gets attracted to every enfp's I meet and get along so well with them. ENFPs are the only people who understand my INTJs thoughts and behaviour!
As an INTJ, I hate the act of people who claim to be INTJ whilst they aren't 😂
I did personality test couple of times at different times and still got INTJ, to be honest sometimes I feel overwhelmed and think if I truly have INTJ personality since most people addressing them as "quiet, cold and smart" and that is why I'm here trying to learn more about myself through these videos.
True
I honestly don’t relate as much to the feeling misunderstood part that much because I have an INTJ father as well and we have an identical sense of humor and think similarly. I’m lucky, there are a few things though, like our inner world is different, we have different ways of accomplishing a problem, but they are always the most efficient ways we can think of. I just finished it, the autopilot description was astoundingly accurate.
Interesting approach!
I have a twin with the same personality type too!
We As INTJ are Architecht to build a better future by leaving any inefficiencies behind. We move like time, always future
Thank you for this insight!
I was just nodding my head throughout the video 🙌
Great then!
The incompetency part is spot on. I hate incompetent authorities, especially the ones that lie their asses off.
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This whole video is the first actually relateable intj video i've seen
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I’ve been critisizing myself so much for being such a weird person. I never realize those “weird thoughts” are actually parts of an INTJ’s traits... OMGG
I find out today that I'm supposed a INTJ and a lot of sh*it in my life start make sense to me.
I've been struggling negatively with myself because I thought I was so weird. That's why I failed so many times and thought I was a failure.
I like to create plans and turn them into methods for myself, but I found this strange. I could study things, turn them into methods, and sell. Looks good, right?
I always had problems with my parents and I understood why. They are the "it will work, just believe me, just starts, God decides" type.
I hate being around people like that.
How do you fuc* know it works if you don't even has a base where you can think correctly??? Don't make sense. I thought those people was full crazy and life a big injustice. Why did I fail when those people achieved success?
Looks like, I need to adapt to myself now.
I'm not a failure!
* And stop with this "it will works" without a good base.
Thanks for sharing!
As an INTJ i can relate very much.
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It's great you presented not only positives but also negatives of being INTJ. Good video.
Also - it would be interesting to see team made fully of INTJs work on some difficult problem together. Would they enhance each other's effectivness thanks to their similar analytical approach or would the cooperation of several introverted and strict people have problem with creating proper "team jell" (without some extroverted mediator)?
Great suggestion!
I think the solution would never get done because everyone will check after everyone just to be sure everything is done right.
If they are a group of INTJs who trust each other and are friends then it is probably one of the most efficient and creative and intelligent groups of people you will come across. If not, then it falls apart extremely quickly.
I think, as long as jealousy doesn't creep in, or the stakes very high (million-dollar prize, say), it wd be marvelous to watch such a project unfold.
Trick is: to get / find a good number of the 2% INTJs together with the subject knowledge, who aren't currently (secretly) world dominating! 🤔😂
I think it would work just fine, with a good chance of providing superior results.... PROVIDED the group as a whole assigned one member to the leadership role, with it being understood by all that this person has the function of moving the geoup forward.
True. Everytime I start working my goal is how to learn and do the work in half of its required time.
I am an intj girl. That's right., I just am different and I think I am different too. And also I am always in my head. Like thinking about something that I don't like..
Thanks for sharing!
Man, this is so relatable. I left 2 jobs literally because the manager and the colleagues were absolutely incompetent. Not even because they were stupid, but they just refused to put in the effort. Or when management is one decision away from setting up a structured work environment with everyone knowing their roles, but instead they just talk about how it should be done, but don’t do it, as if waiting for some magic to happen or for someone else to create the thing they want. It’s extremely frustrating. I can’t even say that I know everything, but everyone’s just so unserious and careless.
Wow I can relate to the whole points. Now I kind of feel like I've become a typical intj 🤣
Okay!
as a double introverted intj, its hard to show empathy or any sense of care for other people thoughts or feelings, i simplify disaprove what they say with facts and logic and becasue their feelings are incorrect to the reality they get mad at me for not accepting those false feelings, i simpily run on reality, not what you "feel"
A someone who is an INTJ-T all of this is very true to me and probably others with the same personality type as me.
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I’m 36 and did the test few days ago. Never knew anything about personality types. Got INTJ and felt bit scared and on same time relieved. Scared because of the descriptions fitting me perfectly (how few questions can tell me me exactly how I am) relieved because I know now that there is nothing wrong with me. I’ve been diagnosing myself all my life thinking that I have some sort of autism or something. Always felt different. Now I know I’m not alone.
Yes to everything. Except, I COULD complete my work tasks quicker, but I have to strategically stall and time my tasks in order to make it last till the last hour, cause I need money. 😑
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I'm so focused on my goals, it feels like I'm not living the present. I'm living for the future, for when my goals will be achieved and I could just enjoy life
This video is accurate. But reading all the comments, makes me feel not alone to be an INTJ.
Perfect!
I became a subscriber just today. The content you're uploading is accurate and I'm INTJ-T.
As an INTJ who grew up home schooled in a family of 8...
I do, in fact, absolutely, NOT need a plan. We would literally make things up as we go and that was that. Because I was home schooled if we wanted/needed to go somewhere we left "as soon as we were ready" at any time of the day. Day trips and mini-vacations were like that too. Dad comes home from work and decides "time for a bike ride" or we finish our homework in the morning and mom decides "Oh? well...who wants to go to the park!".
Do I like having a plan? Yes. Do I hate it when the plan is derailed? Also yes. But I do not need a plan, I am a very go-with-the-flow INTJ *so long as a plan has not already been established.*
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I'm INTJ. I don't really like to go through the topics like "INTJ are like this or that,..." because I kinda get the feeling that I am disrupted by their definitions and thoughts about INTJ. Coz there can also be the things that I'm actually not. So those kind of videos with the topics I mentioned before make me think of me as another person and doubtful about me being myself. But curiosity~~~
But I do can relate the things in this video really well. I really like it. ^^
As an INTJ, I want to know if there is a natural connection between INTJs and OCD? I have always had OCD, and it became a much bigger part of my life after my TBI (traumatic brain injury). I hope that I will get some useful comments from people who know about this.
We are do not have the knowledge about this connection, but it is very interesting topic. Do you have any take on that?
@@PsychologyRefresh As an INTJ with OCD, I am always worried about the future. My deepest core thought is "am I safe." I take this to a very unhealthy level, and then I need my compulsive action to make me feel protected, even though I am very consciously aware that this compulsive reaction isn't actually why I am safe. Now, I have been working on this part of myself for years, using CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy). It has a lot less power over me than it used to have, but I have to remember that the reality is what is happening right now. OCD is a version of feeling trapped in our own heads. I get obsessive, using loops of thoughts that usually don't change very much. As a person with OCD, I get so deep in my own thoughts that I don't open up to the actual world around me. Parts of this video talk about this part of an INTJ, as people who love our alone time, but at the same time, it can also give us too much time to focus on unhealthy thoughts, to be too connected with our personal minds and not enough with the world around us. This is just my personal story, though. A personal story is different from having facts to connect OCD with people with INTJ. I would be very interested to see if there is any information about this. I also think that this might be an interesting video in the future. I would love to talk with you about making this video.
@@wecallhimchristwist Definitely we will consider this type of video and thank you very much for sharing all of this!
I’m an INTJ and I have intense ocd. My intrusive thoughts come in many forms so it’s a long story but I can relate. I think it’s our introverted intuition.
@@Luminesce07 thank you for connecting with your story. I have learned that there are 4 happy chemical in our brain. People with OCD have a lack of Serotonin, a chemical that makes us feel safe and confident in ourselves.
I took MBTI test when I was in middle school, it turned that I am an INTJ. And I can relate to everything what this video says, thank you for understanding us. ❤
Interesting!
Just turned to be intj from ENTJ, I can relate to all these points, however, some look like the trait in an extreme form. It looks like an extreme version of intj or the real real intj. I feel that i am these traits but to to that much extend.
We appreciate your opinion!
INTJ here. I can become overstimulated and it can cause anxiety but somethings that I love to do are listen to LOUD ASS MUSIC. it brings me out of my head and I can focus on what I'm doing rather than being stuck in my head.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
My motto that my wife now has adopted is “backups for backups”. Everything I do has to have a second and third option by design.
Great motto!
This describes me perfectly.
Being an INTJ i can relate 99% with this 😌
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Cuz nothing is 100% certain?
Now everything else regarding INTJ’s are spot on
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From this video most of it is true and I’ve been called cold or a villain by some people because of how I am but it is what it is and I tend to analyse and break things down but things that are interesting to break down tho and I plan ahead for my future
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Working with so many incompetent people make me enraged. I yell and get overwhelmed despite all my efforts to ignore them and to keep calm. I am so tired and so desperate about this
As an INTJ all of those points that you mentioned are strongly valid .
I didn't believe before in this personality types but when it showed itself how useful it is I tried to take a test. I am INTJ so I thought what is so special that I am rare. And when I saw this video it's all coming together from these facts to my experience. About predicting future is surely true for me. I am a guy who doesn't like that much teamwork and likes to ask myself questions and being alone to refresh my mind. Others thought being alone is bad for me but I see it like peacful time with myself.
Thanks for sharing!
I am an intj still at school, and I have been in complete stress because of over-stimulation from loud high-school drama and the constant city bustling. I am all of these things but i despise myself as i cannot embrace my own personality. I fake laugh a lot and I am nice to people which isn't the real me(people still dislike me). it makes me more upset to see movie characters who are intjs being classic and emotionless.
I almost never ask for help. Not in the office, not with friends, not with family. I have to deal with my shit on my own. I also don’t wanna bother ppl with my problems.
I no longer expect high from people. I've been disappointed by a lot.
Alright!
I thought that i am the weird one. My husband always told me so. Sometimes i show no emotion. I hate when my someone blabbering on trivial matter or emotional one. Just look at the logical and reasonable method men! And i dont give respect to people based on their seniority or superiority. But now I realize INTJ is my personality. Yes, the rare INTJ women. Thank you for your video. Done subscribed.
yes the word "SPONTANIUS" dosen't exist for me, there is always a resson for it to "HAPPEN"
and hate it when other people push "spontaneity" in my life, thinking it would make me happy.
then they would get upset with me when i get upset with them because of shoving their "spontaneity" on me
@@ViewportPlaythrough offfff yea i feel you.
My big sister told me to get more friends, and i asked: how many do you want me to have!? (cuz i had like 2-3 friends) She responded: 5 or 10. And I like: ??? what?
Alright!
My own overly detailed oriented expectations, and want to be perfect, can sometimes even piss myself off. A group work, that's torturing others and especially myself. Farewell😂
as an INTJ- all i can think about is the spelling mistake (time code: 5:16) lol.
Good eye ;)
usaf told me i'm an intj around 20 as part of my security clearance, and told me it's very rare. i've been told that twice since by counselors. i agree with everything you said. we're a tough lot.
Don’t tell me Elon is an INTJ
Thats comically evident to me as an INTJ
I bounce back and forth between introverted and extroverted. But definitely an intuitive, thinker, judger. Biggest advice I can give is to not take life so seriously.
I used to consistently get Intp and Intj, results when I took these tests in high-school. Then I started reading books on how to socialize with people. Now I test as an Entp Entj. Ever since I started trying to be more extroverted my life improved drastically. I stopped seeing being Intj as a good thing. I was a biology major before switching to engineering and natural selection would infer that intp and intj are not selected for naturaly and it MUST mean that it's is NOT a good survival trait. Which would mean ur not having babies. So I said screw that I'm and extrovert now and I make alot of money and date beautiful women. My fellow nerds please listen to me, if you can stand it be extroverted we can make more money and have more babies, even Elon has become more extroverted lately. Introvertedness will not make you money, it doesn't matter how smart you are on paper you also need to be intelligent with your voice. Stop wasting time thinking ur cool and special as an (I) Introvert. Just stop its a false sense of security that you feed into a delusion that your cool and special because you don't like talking to people. Stop kidding yourself. Read books on how to talk and raise your condfidence.
What books would you suggest?
I was a geek and nerd at school not talking to anyone then I got prettier later in life and became more extroverted by learning it and being encouraged by society just because they found you attractive. I get exactly the same results as you!! Funny is that I attract only INTJ, they are like: we are the same, but you’re more social somehow 😂
@@Akos91 there are literally hundreds of thousands of good books out there. The best thing you can do is get yourself an audible membership or look for free books on RUclips. But just read everything you can. Self help, psychology, financial, there are soooo many books I can't really give you a list because you need to find books that suit what your own personal needs are in ur current stage of life. Now for the most important part. If you are using audible don't just listen to a book once. Listen to it 5 times at minimum. The more times you listen the more information you will pick up easiest way to do it is at work. Atleast it was for me since I worked a solo job. I would just pop in my headphones and listen to a 12 hour book while I welded. I would zone out and finish a whole book in 1 day. Then the next day I'd start it over and listen again. I can listen to a book 4 or 5 times in a row and then I'll move on or re listen to a previous book. This is good for when you first start your audible account and you don't have many book. Good first books I would recommend, "The Suble art of not giving a f#$k" "How to win friends and influence people" " The power of habit "
"The denial of death" "Catching Fire" and ill throw in the "The deals of Warren Buffet Volume 1" just for good measure. I want you to not get sucked in too hard to the self help thing. They basically all tell you the same thing. And that is that you need to decide to make a choice. It's simple but in practice much more difficult. I don't want you to get sucked into the self help because it's mostly the same. Read books about finances and how to make money. Self help is just like stepping stones to motivate you to start going after the real goals.
Well, I can see INTJs wanting to staying single for life and they'd rather love that. So survival rates and population proportions are not a good measurement to an INTJ's success in life
هل عندما تكون اجتماعياً هل يعني ذلك أن نمطك تحول من intj إلي Entj بسبب تغير شئ من شخصيتك ؟ ام انك لازلت lntj ولكنك أكثر انفتاحاً قليلاً فتصنف منintj@@QWERTY-hl6wm
Wowwwww you nailed it with the career and the incompetent bosses!!! Nightmare-ish career in corporate… what a waste of my time and talent.
My first reaction at my first job: ‘huhhh do people gat paid this much to do this little’ 😂. Should have been a huge red flag for me.
I found a community of my own personality damn
Perfect, right?
Well there are also many negative traits that i have become aware of .Those negative behaviors have become a sort of a pattern which keeps repeating itself in different periods and situations. Personally it always feels the right thing to do where others think I’m taking extreme measures to solve a common situation. Though I don’t regret any of my life decisions but i do understand why it’s an issue with people as they tend to put so much emotional values into their decisions.
My ex-step mom thought I had a type of autism that makes it difficult for me to feel and display emotions or feel empathy for others. But I’m just a INTJ lol.
i used to doubt that I am am INTJ but after watching this video, I'm finally convinced that I am an INTJ. 🤣
Great!
2:56 thats so true whenever i do group work for anything i already know what i want to get done any most of the time other people are just saying: what are we even doing
OMG SO TRUE!!!!!
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This is pretty spot on, very much appreciated!
Thank you so much!