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I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
For most women, marriage is the goal. That is why they quit intimacy, become lazy, and get overweight. I know from experience. They will say and do anything to get the ring and after they do, you meet the real version of them.
Over 6’ tall, six pack abs, amicably divorced, I have cash in the bank, a house, etc…I have ZERO interest in dating (seriously) or a long term relationship. Social media has broken women’s brains.
That may be it... it very well may be that it's the social media that has broken this. You are a princess, you deserve everything, you need to do nothing... when such convenient messages are flying from everywhere it's beyond hard to not listen to them.
I personally enjoy my independence after my last relationship the amount of time energy and effort wore me down the up keep was not worth it shame. Cause we knew each other for about 13years 3 of which we were involved. Even though we parted on good terms she's still single, she was always moody. Personally I can't deal with woman's mood swings. Majority of men want peace and no drama.
"Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage..." Children have brought me a fair amount of joy. In fact, the first time in my life I ever heard a person tell me that I was loved (and I believed it wholeheartedly without reservation) was when my son said "I love you" when he was about 6 years old. I don't think that could have happened for me without dating and getting married. So, for me, the point of dating and getting married was to experience human love and connection.
I was shopping in a supermarket when i went to pay, the cashier was a cute, young black girl who was expressing interest in me. I gave her my number, and we went to the beach for a date. While getting to know her I come to find out she has 2 kids(one 3 years, the other 8 months old) from 2 different men. I asked what happened to them and she said they don't want to be in the kids life. I was really put off by the whole situation and told her this won't workout, and she couldn't understand why. When I told her why she said" just because i have kids, that doesn't mean I don't want love". True, but I told her when there's kids in the mix of dating I learned I'll always come dead last in your priorities. So another one to add to your list is "men don't want to date single mothers".Especially if the men have no kids themselves
Its always been crazy to me how women just seem to think their past never matters. Tell them your a high school dropout working a minimum wage job living in your moms basement at 30 years of age and watch them get dryer than the Sahara Desert as they judge you for your past decisions that put you in your current position but don't you dare judge them for for their past decisions even if they lead to them becoming a high body count single mom.
Single mothers *can* be OK. It's just you have to mentally prepare yourself for the baggage that comes from the ex-husband, the children, any legal and financial issues that she has from her previous relationship, etc. It's not a cakewalk.
Men are okay with that... mostly. The issue is the WHY she is in that situation and the clear understanding of how that will go for you. She's been around. Frequently. And clearly wants to keep going around. And wants those guys' $ when she leaves. A real woman, good, caring... she's going to treat her new husband as he deserves and her child as they deserve. And a good man will love her kid as his own too. The key is WHY she has 2 kids from 2 men and is out looking.
@@TomTobin67 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
BINGO! I'm once divorced in my late 20s, rebuilt my life once. Now, 25 years later and I'm a homeowner without a mortgage, have a decent six-figure job, zero debt, seven-figure retirement investments. I quit dating in my late 40s, it's just not worth the risk and the disappointment with who I was meeting was non-stop. I'm set up for an early retirement by 60 at the latest, I won't risk that for ANYONE at this stage of life.
The fear of commitment was the biggest lie ever sold. Men don't fear commitment. Men are convinced that their commitment can and will be used against them in a court of law.
@@YourWingmam why would i want to look at a females view of the benifits of staying single, when i am the man actually living as the man ? Surely i would know what my own head and heart know whats right for me. 🙄
Its really not about the superficial, hurt, healing or anything like that. Its way past that. Its about not allowing yourself to be destroyed any more. No one is taking my house away from me any more. No one is taking my pay check, retirement fund, my car or anything that I own, away from me again. No one is putting me in county prison again for false allegations. No one is going to harm my children again or destroy their lives a second time. Can you understand this.
Probably the best video I’ve seen on this issue. I am Jake!!! I’ve given up. I’m tired of being heartbroken and ghosted. I’m part of the invisible majority of men (older, not tall, not traditionally attractive) that gets no attention from women. I own my flaws and idiosyncrasies and work to improve myself daily. I’m loyal, love children and animals, am financially stable, funny, chivalrous and have so much love to give but it’s still not enough.
you still haven’t figured it out huh? hint: they *don’t respect* you soft “love”-worshipping types. stop treating them like you’re a Rom Com protagonist. stop being a weak nice guy
@@truthtelleranon hes not weak, hes just good that evil bitches perceives being good as a flaw - if they can use that everybody can use that again him - so hes "weak" not good fucking wolrd we live in... ffs
One of my mates ended himself after his wife divorced him after she had a fling with Tyrone, this was about 10 years ago. I clearly remember is ex wife laughing with other women on how weak he was. The killer was, he found out his 7 year old daughter was not his, they were married for 15 years and he had no idea about the early marriage cheating. It was too much for him to take. The daughter now 17, hates her mother for cheating on her Dad. I wish he was alive to hear that.
That's because breakups often hurt men more than women. Women often easily move to the next orbiter fast after a breakup. It's reminiscent of that famous line from Mission Impossible 2 : Sean Ambrose: "You know women, mate. Like monkeys, they are - won't let go of one branch until they've got hold of the next." Very true especially in today's times.
Damn, that's callous. Btw, stats show that men's self-deletion rate doubles after divorce, while women's doesn't change at all. Men's rate is already about 4x women's, but after divorce it rises to 8x. No surprise, once you realize how brutal divorce can be for men sometimes.
That’s quite unfortunate to hear I say to all men,no matter what, you are important…you matter and have control over things you can control. I also recommend if you need to leave a bad situation,then do so. We have options too,if someone is mistreating you aka taken advantage of you. You can leave that situation…that’s an option, we’re not obligated to stay understand that. If married explore all options first and then once that’s done. If any of those don’t work then work on an exit strategy to leave. If kids are involved, work out arrangements to co-parent if possible…but again no situation is worth your well being,mentally, physically, emotionally,financially etc etc and most definitely your life. We as men have been through a lot, but remember there is such a thing as rebirth,rebuilding,rediscovering,ourselves once we’ve left a bad situation.
*Modern dating has definitely changed, and it’s clear why so many are taking a step back. Men are prioritizing self-respect, mental health, and quality over quantity. Walking away isn’t quitting - it’s making room for what truly matters.*
I am fit, 6'5", make over 6 figures in a good career and stable environment. The problems that I've experienced have been; I'm expected to pay for everything even if my GF at the time is also well employed. I paid for vacations, dinners, movies sometimes including her two kids (good kids but not the point). Also, I was expected to be the handyman, electrician, carpenter, mechanic (skills I don't have - I'm an IT guy). Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough. Finally after 3 years I had enough. I've dated a little in the intervening years but nothing serious. I crave a partner, intimacy and sex but it shouldn't be at the expense of my peace. The modern woman (I'm in my 40's) only look to see what a man can bring to the relationship but offer little to nothing in return. Sex is something you do a few times a week, its the partnership and the intimacy that most men want and that's what makes good sex great sex.
@liamcage7208 Read my reply and go to another country and find a Traditional woman who knows her biological female role in the relationship. You will get sex whenever you want. Expect to pay for mostly everything, because the Man has to be the leader and a man's Traditional role is to be the provider. If a woman sees you as weak, she'll lose respect and attraction, and then your out. With the loss of her respect for you her legs won't spread anymore. This is all about matter of biology. There is so much more for you to learn. Keep watching Red Pill channels.
@liamcage7208 I am in the same boat as you. I'm 6ft make over 100k a year with excellent benefits. I own my own house and drive a Cadillac and have other vehicles. The main thing I have come across is the same as yours, which comes to the point that these women don't show why we should pursue them outside of their looks.
Thank you Anna for explaining in an easily understood way ,what a lot of men ,myself sometimes, are feeling. after watching I realize it can be frustrating but there is hope !
Thank you so much for everything you said. I’m genuinely surprised to hear a woman actually speak the truth about the dynamics between a man and a woman. Unfortunately women like you are far and few between. You few need to be protected at all cost. Thank you for your understanding and courage. Keep up the good content 👍🏻
Yup! Got it. Gave up. I sleep like a baby. My brother, cousin and uncle have convinced me to not get involved. And they didn't have to say a word. The system stands against men. Never enter into a contract where the other party is rewarded for breach.
Experienced every single one of these through my mid 20s and early 30s.. Many bad stories to go along with that. While not totally turning my back on a possible relationship. I have actually internalized my own list of requirements and maybe I'm just "old fashioned". But today's single women don't measure up.. Note I write single, because those who fit my requirements appear to have been snatched up early (or bat for the other team). And after 15 years struggling to rebuild my life and a ER scare. I find I just won't put up with the BS anymore and dating just feels so very toxic now. This is my philosophy of life, it humbles me and reminds me to stay centered. Walking your life's journey is a solitary endeavor. But doesn't have to be a lonely one. Self assurance and self love play a part in finding your center creating self reliance. But, should a partner or two cross paths. Enjoy the time together for however long it may last. And realize, this too shall end. Do not feel sorrow, revel in what you gained, not what you lost. Keep moving forward, keep walking along your journey. For when you stop, the story ends.
For me, it's the partying and the promiscuity that ruins it completely. It turns me off on a primal level that's difficult to explain. As soon as I learn about a woman's past partners or hookups, I'm instantly turned off and I want nothing to do with her any more. It's revolting to me. I can't find women my age who hasn't slept with a bunch of men or had a ho3 phase or something to that effect. It's like buying what you think is a brand new car only to learn that a bunch of smelly, hairy, floppy dudes have used it already. It doesn't feel like it's yuour car any more. It starts to feel like a rental car.
last woman i dated said everything was great, she loved me, youre so good to me. then one morning, i get a text that mentions she wasnt being her "true self". basically lying to me. im tired of being used and lied to.
That means she STILL DESIRE the tyrones, the problem is you ain't a Tyrone. She was pretending to love you when in reality she is NOT attracted to you.
why my policy is I don't spend nay money on dates, it is all actually us being together, she cooks I cook either one but we sure as hell not going to a bar or some flashy joint, if she can't pass that first simple test then, well still just the sheep and dogs greeting me when I get home, and been 20 years, this been a slow simmering problem.
Yes, multiple red flags. 1) Making sure you can support her expensive tastes. 2) Gathering all your life long collections and selling them for her expensive tastes... or just destroying your things to make room for hers. My house my rules, I'm not going to put up with selfish women ever again. Feel free to stop by but not stay.
Married twice and have had many girlfriends over the years. All I can tell younger men is when you get a good one, it's good. A bad one will destroy you. Choose wisely...
I would say better to younger men. choose wisely not to commit… And older men more successfully established…?!? ….never let one of them know anything, where you live, what you have…and even how you feel about them! Hide everything! That’s what I learned the hard way… a gal only respects a man when there are consequences… There is only the door…No marriage, no cohabitation and no legacy! Each one is a way women can legacy f$&k our lives up! clear and direct…and has few options! Any man who thinks there are good or bad ones doesn’t see the reality: all women will do women things… That has little to do with being bad or good… But just women! And society doesn’t let US know the hidden truth… They don’t have to play by our rulebook with the amount thirsty s!mps vouching for them!
Dating culture has been ruined by social media, the internet and changing values. Im jake. Im not red pill or whatever. Thanks for not being evil like most people with these videos. A lot of people try hurting others through manipulation mind games and they use mind games to attract people it's so messed up.
I've always struggled to form emotional bonds and relationships with people. After looking back at my life in retrospect I strongly believe it's because I'm aromantic. Since coming out I feel a lot more confident and liberated. It's a journey that's taken me nearly 40 years! 💜💚
I'm going through a divorce right now initiated by my wife of 12 years. I never saw it coming. I will NEVER get remarried without a prenuptial agreement.
Women file divorce a vast majority of the time. Just expect it at this point . They give two shits about vows they are just jokes to most American women
I feel your pain. I got divorced after 28 years so I paid dearly - 50 % of my net worth. But it’s better now after 7 years I’m doing so much better financially and otherwise. I won’t even tell you what the evil ho did. I feel bad for my daughters who know what their mom did. Best wishes to you!!
@@chucke756 women initially win the divorce but lose on the back end, while men are the winners at the end. A 50 year old man that in decent shape and financially recovered has far higher smv that a 50 year old broke woman
Women's inconsistency (Outside of Dating) is really challenging. I opened a door at my office for a female only to be ridiculed as a Pervy Creep... So I stopped. Weeks later, another female complained that I was rude for not opening the door for her... When it comes to women, you're damned if you do... damned if you don't.🤦
I still open doors for women. Never been ridiculed. Reason seems to be that I'm more attractive than her and she knows that. So I cannot (or at least need not) be a perv nor a creep. But this mindset is really discriminating. To be honest though, I don't hold the door for ugly or fat women. I seem to second hand retaliate :-)
After fourteen years of marriage! I'm done with women for the rest of my life, and I'm doing what you're saying! I guess it's a natural response! Very interesting
A very good summation of why many men are walking away from dating. For women who want dating and relationships, the question is, are women willing to adjust their expectations of an acceptable man?
No, they're not willing to adjust. Their wildly overinflated egos and insistence on men meeting delusionally high (and unreachable standards) get in the way.
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It's extremely telling that all the comments I read on here are all from men and none from women. That says everything you need to know right there. The lady making this video means well, and I don't mean this sarcastically, but most of us men, (except for maybe the younger guys), already know what you are talking about here. It is women you need to convince of all these things, but unfortunately, that will fall on deaf ears and they don't want to hear it.
Re: “women want the same things men want” Based on several decades of harsh reality, I have found quite the opposite, meaning men and women want totally different things, despite some overlapping terminology. Ask the same questions to men, and women, and drill down into the answers, and be blown away. EG: What is; Love Respect Loyalty Kindness Dedication Compassion Sincerity Truth Success Failure Etc Virtually everyone would agree that love, or kindness, is good and to be part of relationships, but then consider what it looks like to each gender. Now watch the fur fly as disagreements about definition abound. We are looking for same things, only different. I’m so burned out it’s not even funny. It’s Tower of Babel confusion of tongues all over again.
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600I don't buy it. That is, that women want the same things men want. Women are hypergamous, not men. Women seek wealthier mates, men don't. But modern feminism has masculinized women. That is the root cause.
Social media is ruining most single women. The endless attention women get all the time everywhere is so absurd and causes entitled arrogant attitudes that many men are fed up. Only becoming worse every year from my experiences.
This is the best comment on this whole page. Fucking spot on brother. There seems to be a ton of chauvinism going around on these that I refuse to partake in. But even relatively attractive women are getting INSANE amounts of attention online. This creates a perverse level of entitlement and inflated ego that men simply do NOT get the chance to achieve except as celebrities. I've said this before and I seriously think it's true. Hot women = male celebrities.
i'm 36, was married for less than a year after being together for 5 total and even I feel like tapping out. I am 6'3, make multiiple 6 figures and how much my ex got out of me without us having any kids whatsoever will scar a man for life from getting involved. my freedom now is priceless and where i'm going will haunt any woman that said no to me.
@@JeremySRRT fk sry to hear. technically i lost $50K, but the investment went up substantially ie. I put 50K, she put 50K, and my own mother gifted us $160k so we could afford our own condo. it is now worth double of that price we got it at, meaning as when she sells, she will get $500K. the intention was always going to be half hers, half mine, so around $250K lost by getting involved, but out of pocket was $50
I don't get Women today. "I'm a 10", what? I don't need a man...Who built this building, the roads you take to the mall, the Mall itself, the car you drive, the people that maintain that car...I find it personally insulting when a Woman says that. The reality is, MEN don't really need Women, Who wants to have to pay someone else's way, especially when they, 1. Don't appreciate it and 2. Often times, DEMAND it. Growing up, I was sold a different story. That a marriage was a partnership, I haven't found a Woman that wanted to be on MY team since the 80's!! Too bad that didn't work out, long story. Anywho, I don't even expect to find anyone compatible, anymore. Why should I work my ass off? For what? I am a simple man with simple needs and wants, which I can now, mostly, afford on my own, not working my ass off!! /rant
Amazing how cheap life is on your own. I ruled out marriage in this country in my early 30s because when i started crunching the numbers I realized I could be retired in my early to mid 40s. Consequently should I get married and end up divorced that would ensure I'm working into my 60s instead. Just not worth it, especially when early retirement could just lead to life in another country with a lower cost of living and where the women are raised with more traditional values.
Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and 85 percent are initiated by woman , wow that speaks volume. I had 2 relationships and were with only takers when I stop giving they moved on .
@@denisbelanger4473 Another disturbing statistic: A survey done a few years ago found that eighty percent of married women do not love their husbands. So even if she stays with a guy, she probably doesn't love him.
64 years old, divorced twice. Both times thrown under the bus. Last one 4 years ago after 23 years. 10 years sexless. I'm done. The whole thing now bores me to tears.....
57 years old, I was work my wife 32 years, she too started trying to use sex to manipulate me my last 10 years was sexless and when I say sexless I mean sexless it finally broke me mentally and spiritually and I filed for the divorce and now she's playing the victim shocking and yeah I have no interest in pursuing any woman at all, I'm out
@thystaff742 agreed sir it's because of my religious beliefs that kept me from doing so until I finally realized that is a form of abuse which the Bible does not condone
@TheHillrat4wd It's a form of abuse, and she wasn't doing her duty as your wife. Wives are to submit to their husbands. That is their vow at marriage. When broken, then the marriage is over.
@thystaff742 agreed, it took me a long time to realize that. I loved her and still desired her tremendously but did not realize that it was abusive until it literally broke me mentally and spiritually and then I had no choice I had to get out
I honestly don't see any advantage of disturbing my peace that i have finally got back. A man who works his ass off and gets comfortable with his career and enjoys a simple life doesn't want to sacrifice what they have worked for, for so long. If a woman can't add to my peace, it's not worth it.
At 5:00, if a woman doesn’t need a man, but instead says that she only “wants” a man, then that relegates the man to being an accessory. Accessories get replaced, which explains why the spouse most likely to cast away their marriage is the woman.
Solution: Be Chad, Chad dates 2 to 5 women (spins plates) at a time enjoying all women have to offer without commitment. Never in any time in history have women so easily given up their Vjay’s & with this there is zero reason to ever commit to just one woman.
I’ve walked away. Tired of the never ended ghosting, rejection and being ignored. I wanted a relationship but women have made it impossible for average guys. Now I have no interest. Good luck ladies keep chasing chads it’s working out so well for you😂😂
Only long term concern of mine being 59, no Gf or wife or kids is endgame of my estate, no longer worried about someone inheriting my government pension or future SS. But there's still the house, etc.
6 months ago at the age of 30, I decided to give up on dating and not make it a priority. The term “the juice is not worth the squeeze” will forever be absolutely true. I don’t use dumb dating apps, these are women that I meet in person and I still get ghosted even though they tell me they can’t wait to go out with me. I’m tall, handsome, dress and groom myself extremely well, treat others with respect, in the gym 5 days a week, making more money, doing fun hobbies, but no matter how much I put myself out there, I’m still completely invisible to women. It’s very discouraging to say the least. Dating unfortunately has become a game. The purpose of playing a game is to win so in my opinion, why bother playing a game you know you can’t win? I got so tired of putting so much effort into something and getting nothing out of it in return. From now on, I’m doing all of these things for me, not to impress women. This is not what I wanted. God had intended us to get married, have children and be upstanding citizens. Unfortunately today, myself and more people than ever before will die alone and never pass on their genes. Anna, you are so incredibly wonderful. I have always loved your videos. Your beauty, personality, kindness and wits always make for a delightful treat! Thank you for reading my comment ❤️
You will be most attractive when you're a few years older. Be patient. Don't search. She will come. They come if and when you don't care. You might also drop that god thing or keep it to yourself. And don't ever marry.
"Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough" ~ mentioned by a gentleman in one of his comments. This is the core problem we face - lack of balance, too much entitlement and expectations by the partner lead to complete exhaustion for us.
I will say that I agree with what you are saying. The laws need changed first. Quite frankly, any monetary distribution should be based on the percentage of money earned and not some arbitrary amount. While there is consideration that a "stay at home mom" may do work around the house, there is zero consideration for the fact that the man may come home from work, do home repairs, yard work, etc. So, the women gets credit for a non-monetary guess, the man gets no credit for his non-monetary contributions. The bottom line is the laws need changed.
To be fair about it, for a SAH spouse, the "free" room and board far exceeds the value of doing a little cooking cleaning and housework. I do all that stuff for myself now and it isn't a big deal. If I had another adult I was doing it for it doesn't mean all that stuff takes twice the time. Cooking for example...I could just cook the same stuff I cook now just in bigger portions, and its almost no added time to what I already do. If I had kids and had to do that stuff for the kids...they're your kids, you'd still be taking care of them whether married or not lol. But yeah, your right, the laws need to change. If they don't its going to just keep going down the path we're on...women will continue to wreck men in divorces and less and less men will be willing to put a ring on it.
A couple of years ago, a family friend had passed away. She was a sweet woman, really great cook, great mother, pretty average looking and a bit of a church lady but she was a character. Anyway, the Pastor had said a few words about how she met her husband, who was with her until the day she died. She said she had just three criteria, and keep in mind, this was a list she had when she was in her 20s: 1) He can't be abusive (physically or emotionally) 2) He can't be an alcoholic (or into any other drugs for that matter) 3) He has to be a good Faithful man (ie. a good Christian and not a cheater) Every time I see a video about the average women is out there and their criteria lists, I keep thinking back to her very realistic and achievable list and think; my God how times have changed, and that these women is simply going to die alone. Think about the love and joy this woman gave, and how little some of these women really have to offer.
Its funny, as a guy, my list is 1. Don't be a drinker/smoker/drug user, 2. Body count you can count on one hand, 3. and the shallow one don't be fat and covered in trashy tattoos. Those are all things I'd fit the criteria of, but yet, I think I'm down to about 2% of the female population. Oh well...looks like I'll be single for life(or at least til I passport bro it in a couple more years) along with the women with 8000 criteria because the bar for women is literally this low and they still can't clear it.
If women only required those 3, they would all be happily married. I would also add "Someone you are attracted to and someone who you are generally compatible with"
The lack of reciprocation is the one that bothers me the most. Also, on the dating apps it seems like the only reason women are on the dating apps is so they can reject men. Rejecting men is their HOBBY.
There is nothing better than being single (or single dad) and decide to never ever date. It's so much easier to stay fit and build wealth/invest without a woman, and there is no drama, no drain, and just complete peace and freedom. Freedom to pursue projects, hobbies, hike or exercise, make music.... the list of opportunities that open up are endless. But it has to come from a decision to bring clarity. I don't dislike women, but today a quality woman is quite rare (entitlement, high body counts, feminism, argumentativeness, monkey branchers and gold diggers..., etc..), and the legal system etc. is also biased against men (whether it's custody issues or false allegations), so in this day and age it's simple better to be single. Stay well! Stay single!
In my experience there is one and only one reason that justifies the trouble of being with a woman and that is to have children. That I could not do alone. Since I have my children and do not have any energy left to have others, I do not see why I should ruin my life with another woman. That being said, I will allways be thankful to my ex for our children. And so we are clear, she is the one who initiated the divorce. I did not let her down.
Kindness? Loyalty? Reliability? I fell off my chair. Anna, I think you are the first woman I’ve heard uttering such qualities and suggesting that women seek such.
My quirky sense of humor bade me make use of the words "build" and "frame" in the two replies here and to trot out an old mountain sayin': "You cain't build good with rotten wood."
You covered it all. Here is the modern-day dating situation (or conundrum, if you will) in a nutshell: men don't want to go through all the expectations of dating women and women do not want to date men unless they first accept all the expectations of dating them; it's a stalemate. The result? Untold numbers of men and women over 35 who are unmarried, childless and could care less. That's the reality of today's world brought on by social media's influence over everyone.
If I went to test drive a car, and the salesman told me I had to fill the tank, and pay $500 for the ride, but could only do 35mph...yeah but also no. Then there is a chance the car wll get stolen but you have to keep filling the tank for 18 years and it will be a new guy driving it like he stole it each week....but I have to pay for the repairs...
I don’t date anymore I have a house in Greece and Canada and I travel a lot , and meet many women but I don’t need a woman at all .. I will spend my money on myself …every woman I meet has exes still lingering around and full of emotional problems etc … no way , I’m happy and healthy
@@VoxWodler lots of Russian girls , Croatian girls and Ukrainian girls in Greece , that live and work … no problem with sex , now in Canada it a different storey …
Great video. I'm considering walking away from dating because I recently met 3 girls in real life and got dates from them and all 3 rejected me. I'm tall, decent looking, have a good income, and people who know me well say I have a great personality and that I'm a catch. So being rejected so often in such a short time reaply hurts
Dear Anna: Some men are not just walking away; they are running and hiding. It is terrible out there, and I personally do not blame them. I am one of the few who is still actively searching, and believe me, I am looking under the rocks. You hit the nail in the head as usual, some women are looking for Mr. Perfect, and albeit some of us come close(joke, I am not that arrogant) he does not exist. I believe too many women are so focused on what us men bring to the table, that they believe thay are just supposed to sit down and be served. That is all for now, my pretty pen-pal from Canada. I hope you are having an awesome weekend and your week just rocks to no end. You, as usual looked beautiful in both outfits. Hug and a peck on each cheek, sending you lots of love from Texas!!!
One day, the woman who I was convinced was my soul mate, told me I was broke and fat, she didn't love me anymore, and she wanted a divorce. That kinda kicked a big ol' hole with jagged edges right in the middle of me. Sixteen years later and I still feel hollow inside. I know there are good women around, but I feel like I'm played out and have nothing left to offer.
Social media has broken dating/relationship at the same time expecting for men to pay for everything and slate men this is absolutely why I am so happy to be single no stress no drama
"Outlick" jeje! I just left a two year relationship. It's going for 2 weeks being single and let me say that it feels like I can actually breathe. I earn over six figures, stable, can cook, I'm a gentleman, house owner, cars, I invest and so on. All I was asking was a little bit of appreciation and respect.
I've spent the last 6 months building a small off grid cabin on my property. Which had a lot of opportunity costs. No dating, no time for it. I believe I've made the right choice.
You have. Just make sure you also develop a relationship with the Lord. That’s gonna be real important in due time. It’s partly why things are the way they are. The times……..
Hey I watched your videos for years and didn't comment much it already got to the point I've given up on dating. thank you for your service you are helpful but unfortunately nothing is working out for me and I've ran out of ideas. Ive got an expensive car hobby I quit the gym a year ago and went back to gaming and I'm doing fine so far. never met a woman that would want to interact with me so I accepted and adapted that it is what it is. looks like the bachelor path is for me. its not what I want but I have no choice. I had too many rejections and freindzoning and insults left right and centre and treated like dirt I just want peace now. I don't want a relationship anymore. I wanted a good family but having kids is a bad idea nowadays and marriage is a scam. its all about money at the end of the day now. im 32 now and done with dating. I wish all of ye the best of luck out there.
I've seen a number of post like this and comments to them. Sounds like it all really boils down to two things: 1) Lack of appreciation and 2) High expectations. For men, if their efforts to please are never good enough or appreciated and their partner (dating or otherwise) sets unattainable goals for them, it's exhausting. It's not a surprise that many men are walking away.
I got burned pretty bad in my divorce. Have I walked away? I can tell you I'm not going to bother dating until I'm down to my high school weight and I'm fully expecting to walk out on dates the moment she spills a red-flag out of her mouth. My own children (both boys) will grow up being wary of women, and they'll get cut out of the will if they marry without a prenup. I'd like to eventually find someone, but I refuse to lower my defenses at this point. And believe me, I'VE GOT MY DUKES UP.
This is terribly important topic. Younger mean appear totally disheartened. Younger women seem to have embraced ridiculous standards based on the deception that "every woman is a 10, so every woman can expect to be with a 10." Women have been taught that business success makes them prime partners, when most men simply don't care about that. They want a woman who is compassionate, loving, and supportive -- qualities that elude many of the boss babe types. The disconnect between men and women has never been greater in my lifetime than it is right now. The social media echo chambers (e.g., "man or bear", "all woman are golddiggers", "all men are trash") is increasing the abyss between sexes. If we fried every device hooked to social media for a year, the rift between them would close significantly. If people had to deal with each other face-to-face without the asinine echo chambers attached to their brains, we'd be so much better off! (I lived that in my youth) Anna: I'd say you look lovely in the outfits of the day, but you're Anna -- you always look lovely. ;) Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/I think my dogs feel the intensity of this topic -- they are wrestling on the floor at the moment.
Absolutely, you nailed it! For young people especially, social media is more toxic than positive. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Scratch for the pooches when they finish playing lol
Tbh, in my experience, both younger men and women have absurd expectations driving their entitlement. Where younger men seem to think that they are owed virgin, fertile, bangmaids that are greatful to them bc they are doing the bare minimum.
@@memegazer Throughout history, that is what most men married. These days you got chubby 30 something year old single moms that would make you cringe if you knew their body counts thinking Prince Charming will come sweep them off their feet. I'm not here to tell everyone how they should be living or anything, but I'm not exactly surprised more men of my generation are saying no to marriage than previous generations have, and I'm also not surprised to see the passport bros thing gaining steam with my generation. What is expected of men to be a "good man" hasn't changed since my grandfathers generation, yet the quality of women has declined so much in that same time span the average female today would have been considered un-dateable trash a couple generations ago. When it comes to women, average of my grandparents generation is what most men would consider a unicorn today.
@@randomyoutuber308 If you have any way to prove your claim I invite you to try. I am willing to concede throughout history it has been a common male ideal, but not that it was ever a common reality.
Interesting and insightful. I get it, men are feeling used and just would rather not deal with women any more. I think the advice from several different gentleman was spot on. Choose wisely, get a prenup and pick for compatibility rather than just looks. I am an older woman and getting a divorce. I was the guy in the relationship, always paying and giving. My next relationship will be based on compatibility, honesty and will have a prenup.Good luck everyone, whatever path you choose.
Anna, excellent content. I'm slowly sliding out of the dating scene based two of your topics: desire for independence and the changing relationship dynamics. Especially, the changing dynamics. I got the 3 sixes covered, I'm 66 and make over six figures, ha. I'm alright alone and I will continue to be courteous and kind to the women I meet.
Good episode. As someone who started writing a book on dating years ago, I cannot finish because I no longer believe dating is worth it. I still date, but mostly for learning purposes, and a sense of adventure, but the vast majority of women I meet seem to be detached from reality. I am really starting to empathize with the Men Go Their Own Way culture. I've been following you for years, so keep up the good work. I hope you try watching the Fiamango Report on RUclips and commenting on her and other honey badgers.
This new dating is perfect Because once you know the situation and new rules. You just don't bother anymore. Freeing time for yourself to improve yourself and do things that make YOU happy. Really freeing.
Over the past two years, I've literally just focused on chilling, gym, money, business, learning, living life, and ignoring women. It's been wonderful. Have my house, assets, car paid off; I'll have plenty of money. Peaceful life.
50 + yo man. Im lucky to have experienced true and powerful love. Its a beautiful force to behold with another. Ive been single for 5 year and have chosen not to live with a woman for almost 20 years. I will never let a woman live with me. Recent history has proven that its just not worth it for men. Women value to men has dissolved. Things i look for in a woman. Good posture. Healthy habits. A woman who understands animal husbandry. A woman who knows the season's and has homesteading skills. A woman who can make and repair her own clothes. A woman who can cook and preserve foods. Education is not as important as knowledge and common sense. I don't care at all how much money you have or how many degrees you have hanging on the wall. Oh no pearcings or tattoos
Been single for 20 years - by design. Semi retired debt free at 45, now 55 I refuse to work full-time and pay tax into the system that wants to destroy me. MGTOW monk for life.
Same way I feel man. Planning on retiring and moving abroad in my early 40s. Hopefully I'll end up somewhere with a better pond to fish in when it comes to dating, but if not, at least I'll be somewhere with a lower cost of living enjoying my time rather than in the rat race here into my 60s paying boatloads of taxes. If nothing else, I'll get the satisfaction of knowing I'll probably pay about 2 million less in taxes over my lifetime by retiring early.
I'm a guy and the most frustrating thing I've experienced several times is sudden, unexplained abandonment. The relationship seems to be going very well and a good connection seems to be forming. The relationship may even have moved on to physical intimacy. You have a passionate night with someone, ending with kind words and a hug and kiss in the morning. Then they immediately start ghosting you and you never hear from them again. I think a lot of women want a nice relationship with a good man, but past relationship trauma makes them too afraid to stay in the relationship they desperately want, and so they just have to bail out. I feel sorry for them, but I've been stung a few times this way and its extremely unpleasant.
Ahhh the result of one night stands …. Unfortunately we as men are paying for the sin of mankind from the beginning. Men are leaving broken women within the world when we don’t commit to them in marriage . Hard truth to hear but it’s almost like a catch 22. Women control access to sex , men enable the relationship potentially leading to marriage . Sad truth but the cycle repeats , but this time looks like the lesson will never be learned . Society is screwed . AI is coming for all ladies !
No matter how in love with you a woman is, all it takes for her to instantly lose all interest in you is for a tatted-up loser to drag a guitar past her. There's no loyalty, ever.
@@BLVCKPEPPER4Kmen are not the ones leaving marriages at high rates- it’s women. Change the marriage laws to be more equitable for men and I’m sure you’d see more guys signing up Outside of that- you have social media, dating apps, and a culture telling women to focus on their careers. They get free attention online, unlimited romantic partners on apps, and their hypergamy wont be satisfied for a larger pool of men once they begin making more money Society is upside down right now- it’s multi faceted. Not just on men not wanting to marry
one big issue I am finding is that so many women are dating that shouldn't be. For one reason or another they aren't ready to date but still do. They waste your time leading you on just to go for a "better option" later.
I suggest that woman (and some men) reduce their dating expectations. My wife an I individually had nothing when we met as college freshmen. The families we came from were just getting by. We agreed that sex was out of the picture until after marriage if it got that far. I think she just enjoyed being around me. A trip to an ice cream shop and a walk through the park was about what we could afford. She noticed that our strengths were different and dove tailed each other. My mom told me that she would be good for me. When we were engaged, we studied the things that gave marriages we saw trouble. The result was we had a basis for agreement on key issues before ever walking down the isle. We had 5 kids - all doing well. About 2/3 of the way thru our working careers we had a combined 6 figure income. Today we are retired and live life as we please. Our marriage is in it's 47th year. That could be young people today if they would focus on important things rather than superficial material things. Learning what makes a person tick is more important than what he owns.
"Dating" is a polite way of saying "random short-term sex-as-sport". Women drove the price of sex down to almost zero, so there's no longer any value in it. Real relationships, ideally leading to marriage, are incredibly difficult to find. And "dating" is not how you find a wife. So all that's happening is mature men are giving up the porn, running away from the swipe-right nightmare "dates" from hell via the internet, and they're focusing instead on what matters to their long-term success and happiness: their finances, their health, their hobbies, and their careers. "Dating" that leads nowhere just isn't worth the hassle (or the risk).
Those who’ve watched my videos know that in my world dating us about getting to know someone on a romantic level that may or may not include sex depending on their values and goals. I should have reiterated that. Thank you for allowing me to clarify. Focusing of things that make your life better regardless of women is always a good idea. :)
Too expensive, too risky, too much to lose, i don’t know anyone who hasn’t been divorced at least once. I wish it was different, but this is now it is today :/
Thanks Anna, I was thinking some of the same things today. Even though I'm dating very nice girl, The effort required for long-term success can seem overwhelming.
I walked away from dating about 10 years ago, it was the best decision I've ever made. I am no longer constantly disappointed after dates, my finances are way better and I'm only a few years away from true financial independence if I choose with an adjustment or two.
Stay away from American Women who have been influenced by feminism and have the "Wonder Woman" I can do it all mentality. Best to date a Traditional woman from another country who is family oriented and a companion. If you see any Red Flags that means it's time to get out of that relationship and move on, Don't get Stuck, move on. * Men, Stop pursuing women and let the woman come to you this way it's her idea. * If you marry an independent American Modernized Woman get a prenup. Be careful with woman from other countries who want to get married for citizenship. Understand that women these days are already planning their exit at any time. Anna tries to give you hope, but its Bad out there. Ive been married twice and dated over 60 women of different nationalities. Keep an eye out for my future RUclips channel "The Midnight Cowboy"... 🤠👍🏻
@@themidnightcowboy-singerex4594 if you go find a foreign girl, do NOT bring her back here. My buddy dated a Russian right off the boat when he was in college -- she became an American woman after about two months in the US -- turned into a bossy egomaniacal gold-digger. Foreign women are not different from American women -- they simply are following the rules of the culture around them.
@stevenscott2136 After 20 years of dating, post my divorce. I finally met a good woman from Mexico. The Best woman I ever had, lots of Traditional Qualities. She also has a close set of friends from Mexico, which, as far as I can tell after 2 years, are loyal and dedicated to their families. The only one of her friends who seems to be influenced by feminism is her college educated friend. Be Aware, in the United States, a marriage certificate is a business license, so you're basically financially liable your whole life when you get married. In other words, a marriage license is a legally binding contract.
Yup tried dating a foreign girl with traditional values and same result. It doesn't matter where they are from. It only matters where they currently live. Even foreign girls will become indoctrinated in western feminism
Good stuff. I'm one of the men you described as walking away from dating, and for several reasons. Let me preface my remarks by disclosing that I'm 62 years old, twice divorced and have kids and grandkids with no desire to have any more. Past negative experiences - two marriages that I viewed as a waste of my life (well, certainly one of them as I have kids with the other one). That and negative experiences with other women. Desire for independence - there are a number of things that I wasn't able to do when I was younger and had women in the way, so now is the time to pursue them without having to answer to anyone else. And money of course. I can't afford to drop $100 on a date a couple of times a month to even work on a relationship, let alone maintain one if I did find someone I'd be interested in and compatible with. And if you think an older man can get away cheaper, I don't believe you - stuff is expensive anymore. As nice as it might be to find a satisfying relationship, I don't see it happening for me at my age.
I used to LOVE approaching women, even though most of the time it'd end in nothing more than a fun conversation. But these days, you're more likely to get told by management that they've gotten complaints about you than you are to get any actual interest. It's just not worth it.
@@jamescameron204 You can absolutely approach girls at the gym. But you need to be more clever and patient because you will see them again and again. Essentially you ask to work in with them, break the ice but make no advance. Then say hello next time you run into them basically developing platonic rapport. Then say there is a holiday weekend coming up. You could casually ask them if they have anything fun planned. If she's not into you she will say "Yeah, I'm doing X with my boyfriend" o.k. you have your answer. But if she's into you she might say "Well I wanted to go to ___ but I have no one to go with". Hint, hint! So you can explore a woman's interest level without actually getting rejected or being labeled a creep.
My reasons for walking away: 1) dishonesty and manipulation 2) the current obsession with "boyfriend tests" that are absurd, irrational, and at times borderline sadistic 3) the disturbingly common belief that men need to be and provide everything while the woman just shows up (if and when she feels like it) 4) a complete lack of accountability for their own actions 5) the bizarre belief that their immediate emotional response is more valid than objective facts 6) the lack of loyalty 7) the way women seem offended when men have fun or relax 8) the abuse when you do exactly what they ask, just not exactly how/when they wanted it 9) the expectation for men to be their personal atm 10) the demand to be open and vulnerable and the lifetime punishment after doing so This is partially from experience, and partially from observing the way all 3 of my sisters have treated the men in their lives and the way they talk about/complain about the way they assume all men are and why their sh*tty behavior towards the men they encounter are the right thing to do.
I went my own way after my ex left me in 2013 then couldn't work things out in 2014. Tried dating once but it didn't feel right. And with #3, women expect, no demand that "I" am supposed to take care of "her" and her 4 kids....of which none are yours. And yes, with the rates of divorce being over 50% and we men, are losing our arse to women so they can be a parasite off of me for the rest of her life? NO! I'm starting to believe that going down to Reno, Nevada for a weekend or extended stay then leave & come home, is the way to live. 😊😊😊 Good video Anna 👍👍👍
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Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
Will you ever give us advice about how to get action while single?
stop trying to Get us men to go back to women, we don't want to. There is absolutely no value in women whatsoever. Just leave us be..
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
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For most women, marriage is the goal. That is why they quit intimacy, become lazy, and get overweight. I know from experience. They will say and do anything to get the ring and after they do, you meet the real version of them.
The biggest thing is entitlement. Women feel they deserve a man who meets the requirements they themselves fail to meet.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hypergamy !
@@gold3084 A kind of stepping stone
Spot on.
@@Obake4777 she couldn’t get out of you what she wanted. That’s why she canned you. It’s cowardly, but typical.
Over 6’ tall, six pack abs, amicably divorced, I have cash in the bank, a house, etc…I have ZERO interest in dating (seriously) or a long term relationship. Social media has broken women’s brains.
Then why’d you watch the video and feel the need to comment 😂
Narcissism is a powerful addiction for people. It's very unlikely to find a woman that's single, not consumed with it.
@@audioelitist3677yes
If you have the FIRE lifestyle dont risk losing it and having to go back to this corporate hell.
That may be it... it very well may be that it's the social media that has broken this. You are a princess, you deserve everything, you need to do nothing... when such convenient messages are flying from everywhere it's beyond hard to not listen to them.
Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage when it is squarely against Men in every way possible. It just makes no sense.
It’s tough out there for sure
Have you found out how to get action without dating?
Lol, you are going to have to pay for it one way or another. Better off paying for an escort once a month and not bother with the hassle of dating.
I personally enjoy my independence after my last relationship the amount of time energy and effort wore me down the up keep was not worth it shame. Cause we knew each other for about 13years 3 of which we were involved. Even though we parted on good terms she's still single, she was always moody. Personally I can't deal with woman's mood swings. Majority of men want peace and no drama.
"Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage..."
Children have brought me a fair amount of joy. In fact, the first time in my life I ever heard a person tell me that I was loved (and I believed it wholeheartedly without reservation) was when my son said "I love you" when he was about 6 years old. I don't think that could have happened for me without dating and getting married. So, for me, the point of dating and getting married was to experience human love and connection.
I was shopping in a supermarket when i went to pay, the cashier was a cute, young black girl who was expressing interest in me. I gave her my number, and we went to the beach for a date. While getting to know her I come to find out she has 2 kids(one 3 years, the other 8 months old) from 2 different men. I asked what happened to them and she said they don't want to be in the kids life. I was really put off by the whole situation and told her this won't workout, and she couldn't understand why. When I told her why she said" just because i have kids, that doesn't mean I don't want love". True, but I told her when there's kids in the mix of dating I learned I'll always come dead last in your priorities. So another one to add to your list is "men don't want to date single mothers".Especially if the men have no kids themselves
Its always been crazy to me how women just seem to think their past never matters. Tell them your a high school dropout working a minimum wage job living in your moms basement at 30 years of age and watch them get dryer than the Sahara Desert as they judge you for your past decisions that put you in your current position but don't you dare judge them for for their past decisions even if they lead to them becoming a high body count single mom.
Single mothers *can* be OK. It's just you have to mentally prepare yourself for the baggage that comes from the ex-husband, the children, any legal and financial issues that she has from her previous relationship, etc. It's not a cakewalk.
Men are okay with that... mostly. The issue is the WHY she is in that situation and the clear understanding of how that will go for you. She's been around. Frequently. And clearly wants to keep going around. And wants those guys' $ when she leaves.
A real woman, good, caring... she's going to treat her new husband as he deserves and her child as they deserve. And a good man will love her kid as his own too. The key is WHY she has 2 kids from 2 men and is out looking.
Not fear of commitment, fear of divorce.
@@TomTobin67 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
BINGO!
I'm once divorced in my late 20s, rebuilt my life once. Now, 25 years later and I'm a homeowner without a mortgage, have a decent six-figure job, zero debt, seven-figure retirement investments. I quit dating in my late 40s, it's just not worth the risk and the disappointment with who I was meeting was non-stop. I'm set up for an early retirement by 60 at the latest, I won't risk that for ANYONE at this stage of life.
The fear of commitment was the biggest lie ever sold. Men don't fear commitment. Men are convinced that their commitment can and will be used against them in a court of law.
“Better single than sorry.” Words to live by. Thank you, Anna 🙏🥰🇨🇦
@@douglasalan5783 The absolute truth 💯
Being single = PEACE + no drama AND you get to keep ALL your stuff!
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What a great deal! I'm sold!
@@YourWingmam why would i want to look at a females view of the benifits of staying single, when i am the man actually living as the man ? Surely i would know what my own head and heart know whats right for me. 🙄
Sounds like after years Anna is understanding men's problem and given up on women as well.
I quit adding because of Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens.
Fair pount, I have encountered those. Even when they acted feminine around me I could not agree with that logic.
That's cognitive dissonance, not quantum superposition.
Its really not about the superficial, hurt, healing or anything like that. Its way past that. Its about not allowing yourself to be destroyed any more. No one is taking my house away from me any more. No one is taking my pay check, retirement fund, my car or anything that I own, away from me again. No one is putting me in county prison again for false allegations. No one is going to harm my children again or destroy their lives a second time. Can you understand this.
@@nickf2170 1000%
Preach brother
Stay away from women. They see men as nothing more than an ATM machine.
@@nickf2170 Don't chase women, chase excellence !
Keep your peace as much as possible 💯💯💯 !
Probably the best video I’ve seen on this issue.
I am Jake!!!
I’ve given up. I’m tired of being heartbroken and ghosted.
I’m part of the invisible majority of men (older, not tall, not traditionally attractive) that gets no attention from women.
I own my flaws and idiosyncrasies and work to improve myself daily. I’m loyal, love children and animals, am financially stable, funny, chivalrous and have so much love to give but it’s still not enough.
I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you 🙏
🐕🦺Why are Dog's more loyal than wives?🐾
you still haven’t figured it out huh? hint: they *don’t respect* you soft “love”-worshipping types. stop treating them like you’re a Rom Com protagonist. stop being a weak nice guy
@@truthtelleranon hes not weak, hes just good
that evil bitches perceives being good as a flaw - if they can use that everybody can use that again him - so hes "weak" not good
fucking wolrd we live in... ffs
Get a passport and go to one of former Soviet Bloc countries where women are still women
One of my mates ended himself after his wife divorced him after she had a fling with Tyrone, this was about 10 years ago. I clearly remember is ex wife laughing with other women on how weak he was. The killer was, he found out his 7 year old daughter was not his, they were married for 15 years and he had no idea about the early marriage cheating. It was too much for him to take.
The daughter now 17, hates her mother for cheating on her Dad. I wish he was alive to hear that.
That's because breakups often hurt men more than women.
Women often easily move to the next orbiter fast after a breakup.
It's reminiscent of that famous line from Mission Impossible 2 :
Sean Ambrose: "You know women, mate. Like monkeys, they are - won't let go of one branch until they've got hold of the next."
Very true especially in today's times.
Damn, that's callous. Btw, stats show that men's self-deletion rate doubles after divorce, while women's doesn't change at all. Men's rate is already about 4x women's, but after divorce it rises to 8x. No surprise, once you realize how brutal divorce can be for men sometimes.
Got a grip on the next... Just finished watching MI2. So good! Especially the biocyte scene!
That’s quite unfortunate to hear I say to all men,no matter what, you are important…you matter and have control over things you can control. I also recommend if you need to leave a bad situation,then do so. We have options too,if someone is mistreating you aka taken advantage of you. You can leave that situation…that’s an option, we’re not obligated to stay understand that. If married explore all options first and then once that’s done. If any of those don’t work then work on an exit strategy to leave. If kids are involved, work out arrangements to co-parent if possible…but again no situation is worth your well being,mentally, physically, emotionally,financially etc etc and most definitely your life. We as men have been through a lot, but remember there is such a thing as rebirth,rebuilding,rediscovering,ourselves once we’ve left a bad situation.
@@jonathanwelke
Haha, with the John Woo doves. That said, top to bottom, a good movie. I recall seeing it in the theater.
*Modern dating has definitely changed, and it’s clear why so many are taking a step back. Men are prioritizing self-respect, mental health, and quality over quantity. Walking away isn’t quitting - it’s making room for what truly matters.*
"Asking" for 4 women in a lifetime should not a big ask, but it's proven to be one. Is 4 a big "quantity"?
I am fit, 6'5", make over 6 figures in a good career and stable environment. The problems that I've experienced have been; I'm expected to pay for everything even if my GF at the time is also well employed. I paid for vacations, dinners, movies sometimes including her two kids (good kids but not the point). Also, I was expected to be the handyman, electrician, carpenter, mechanic (skills I don't have - I'm an IT guy). Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough. Finally after 3 years I had enough. I've dated a little in the intervening years but nothing serious. I crave a partner, intimacy and sex but it shouldn't be at the expense of my peace. The modern woman (I'm in my 40's) only look to see what a man can bring to the relationship but offer little to nothing in return. Sex is something you do a few times a week, its the partnership and the intimacy that most men want and that's what makes good sex great sex.
@liamcage7208 Read my reply and go to another country and find a Traditional woman who knows her biological female role in the relationship. You will get sex whenever you want. Expect to pay for mostly everything, because the Man has to be the leader and a man's Traditional role is to be the provider. If a woman sees you as weak, she'll lose respect and attraction, and then your out. With the loss of her respect for you her legs won't spread anymore. This is all about matter of biology. There is so much more for you to learn. Keep watching Red Pill channels.
90% of women are not marriageable. They are good only for pumping and dumping. I suggest men them accordingly.
@liamcage7208 I am in the same boat as you. I'm 6ft make over 100k a year with excellent benefits. I own my own house and drive a Cadillac and have other vehicles. The main thing I have come across is the same as yours, which comes to the point that these women don't show why we should pursue them outside of their looks.
Maybe you should double your chances for a date on a Saturday night, and try dating a dude. Could solve all your problems.
Nobody held a gun to your head. You let your boundaries down. She ate you alive.
Thank you Anna for explaining in an easily understood way ,what a lot of men ,myself sometimes, are feeling. after watching I realize it can be frustrating but there is hope !
Thank you so much for everything you said. I’m genuinely surprised to hear a woman actually speak the truth about the dynamics between a man and a woman.
Unfortunately women like you are far and few between. You few need to be protected at all cost. Thank you for your understanding and courage.
Keep up the good content 👍🏻
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts!
SOME women think they’re doing you a favor by involving themselves with you,NO THANKS!!! 😓
Women swear their fish tacos hold that much valued 😆
The entitlement attitude of modern women is repulsive
@ my FORMER fiancé actually said… “l’m the best thing that’s ever happened to you!!!” and… “You need me!!!” 😤
@@skepticalsmurf There are plenty of smurfettes in the mushroom village... oh wait, there's only 1 because they're all the same anyway.
@ not quite,some other females do exist but most are spoken for,they prefer affluent smurfs 😉
Yup! Got it. Gave up. I sleep like a baby. My brother, cousin and uncle have convinced me to not get involved. And they didn't have to say a word. The system stands against men. Never enter into a contract where the other party is rewarded for breach.
Bravo 👏👏👏
Nailed it. One wouldn’t enter into such a contract with a “friend,” let alone a woman.
The juice is not worth the squeeze. As a high value man, I have zero interest in tattoos, piercings, bad language, scantily-clad tarts
Agree!! I make good money but not into these modern ho’s!!
@@HunkyMan777 can you send send some of those stantally clad tarts my way? Jk
I’m an average man & I don’t like those qualities you mentioned 😂
As a high value man, congrats on your language too,
Tatoos and Piercings are a no-go.
Experienced every single one of these through my mid 20s and early 30s.. Many bad stories to go along with that.
While not totally turning my back on a possible relationship. I have actually internalized my own list of requirements and maybe I'm just "old fashioned". But today's single women don't measure up.. Note I write single, because those who fit my requirements appear to have been snatched up early (or bat for the other team). And after 15 years struggling to rebuild my life and a ER scare. I find I just won't put up with the BS anymore and dating just feels so very toxic now.
This is my philosophy of life, it humbles me and reminds me to stay centered.
Walking your life's journey is a solitary endeavor. But doesn't have to be a lonely one.
Self assurance and self love play a part in finding your center creating self reliance.
But, should a partner or two cross paths. Enjoy the time together for however long it may last.
And realize, this too shall end.
Do not feel sorrow, revel in what you gained, not what you lost.
Keep moving forward, keep walking along your journey.
For when you stop, the story ends.
For me, it's the partying and the promiscuity that ruins it completely. It turns me off on a primal level that's difficult to explain. As soon as I learn about a woman's past partners or hookups, I'm instantly turned off and I want nothing to do with her any more. It's revolting to me. I can't find women my age who hasn't slept with a bunch of men or had a ho3 phase or something to that effect. It's like buying what you think is a brand new car only to learn that a bunch of smelly, hairy, floppy dudes have used it already. It doesn't feel like it's yuour car any more. It starts to feel like a rental car.
last woman i dated said everything was great, she loved me, youre so good to me. then one morning, i get a text that mentions she wasnt being her "true self". basically lying to me. im tired of being used and lied to.
She found a Chad that allowed her to be bad and toxic
How long did you date her?
That means she STILL DESIRE the tyrones, the problem is you ain't a Tyrone. She was pretending to love you when in reality she is NOT attracted to you.
why my policy is I don't spend nay money on dates, it is all actually us being together, she cooks I cook either one but we sure as hell not going to a bar or some flashy joint, if she can't pass that first simple test then, well still just the sheep and dogs greeting me when I get home, and been 20 years, this been a slow simmering problem.
Yes, multiple red flags. 1) Making sure you can support her expensive tastes. 2) Gathering all your life long collections and selling them for her expensive tastes... or just destroying your things to make room for hers.
My house my rules, I'm not going to put up with selfish women ever again. Feel free to stop by but not stay.
It sounds like you’re on the right track!
I wouldn't date a woman that doesn't have her own home.
She stays in her house and I stay in mine.
@@Autonomous1969 …” dating “ as the guys knows it ….it DEAD .
😂😂 @@Autonomous1969
@@Autonomous1969 easier to say that done, but agreee
Married twice and have had many girlfriends over the years. All I can tell younger men is when you get a good one, it's good. A bad one will destroy you. Choose wisely...
Amen
I would say better to younger men. choose wisely not to commit…
And older men more successfully established…?!?
….never let one of them know anything, where you live, what you have…and even how you feel about them!
Hide everything!
That’s what I learned the hard way…
a gal only respects a man when there are consequences…
There is only the door…No marriage, no cohabitation and no legacy!
Each one is a way women can legacy f$&k our lives up!
clear and direct…and has few options!
Any man who thinks there are good or bad ones doesn’t see the reality: all women will do women things…
That has little to do with being bad or good…
But just women!
And society doesn’t let US know the hidden truth…
They don’t have to play by our rulebook with the amount thirsty s!mps vouching for them!
My ex-wife destroyed my life. She was (is, I'm sure) awful
@@psyclotronxx3083 You…in fact no man…who gives a man commitment…deserves that!
@@psyclotronxx3083
I am sorry that you had to learn about women married to your then wife.
Dating culture has been ruined by social media, the internet and changing values. Im jake. Im not red pill or whatever. Thanks for not being evil like most people with these videos. A lot of people try hurting others through manipulation mind games and they use mind games to attract people it's so messed up.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
I've always struggled to form emotional bonds and relationships with people. After looking back at my life in retrospect I strongly believe it's because I'm aromantic. Since coming out I feel a lot more confident and liberated. It's a journey that's taken me nearly 40 years! 💜💚
I'm going through a divorce right now initiated by my wife of 12 years. I never saw it coming. I will NEVER get remarried without a prenuptial agreement.
Prenups are toilet paper
Women file divorce a vast majority of the time. Just expect it at this point . They give two shits about vows they are just jokes to most American women
iut's already something you even conceive the ethought of getting remarried.
I feel your pain. I got divorced after 28 years so I paid dearly - 50 % of my net worth. But it’s better now after 7 years I’m doing so much better financially and otherwise. I won’t even tell you what the evil ho did. I feel bad for my daughters who know what their mom did. Best wishes to you!!
@@chucke756 women initially win the divorce but lose on the back end, while men are the winners at the end. A 50 year old man that in decent shape and financially recovered has far higher smv that a 50 year old broke woman
Women's inconsistency (Outside of Dating) is really challenging. I opened a door at my office for a female only to be ridiculed as a Pervy Creep... So I stopped. Weeks later, another female complained that I was rude for not opening the door for her...
When it comes to women, you're damned if you do... damned if you don't.🤦
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
The best thing to do is: don't.
I still open doors for women. Never been ridiculed. Reason seems to be that I'm more attractive than her and she knows that. So I cannot (or at least need not) be a perv nor a creep. But this mindset is really discriminating.
To be honest though, I don't hold the door for ugly or fat women. I seem to second hand retaliate :-)
@@spot997
Why do you open door for a woman?
Is she Boss?
I only open door for disabled person and children.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
After fourteen years of marriage! I'm done with women for the rest of my life, and I'm doing what you're saying! I guess it's a natural response! Very interesting
A very good summation of why many men are walking away from dating. For women who want dating and relationships, the question is, are women willing to adjust their expectations of an acceptable man?
Good question ❤
They don’t care. Most wmn de$pi$e men. Stay away from them.
No, they're not willing to adjust. Their wildly overinflated egos and insistence on men meeting delusionally high (and unreachable standards) get in the way.
First time coming across this channel... The articulation, adult/pervy jokes, well thought out points, and more.. Shows you're a well rounded person thats confidant in yourself and abilities.. And the points you brought up werent complete, but were very accurate :D keep up the great work!! :)
It's extremely telling that all the comments I read on here are all from men and none from women. That says everything you need to know right there. The lady making this video means well, and I don't mean this sarcastically, but most of us men, (except for maybe the younger guys), already know what you are talking about here. It is women you need to convince of all these things, but unfortunately, that will fall on deaf ears and they don't want to hear it.
@ We’re tired for very different reasons 🤣
Re: “women want the same things men want”
Based on several decades of harsh reality, I have found quite the opposite, meaning men and women want totally different things, despite some overlapping terminology.
Ask the same questions to men, and women, and drill down into the answers, and be blown away.
EG: What is;
Love
Respect
Loyalty
Kindness
Dedication
Compassion
Sincerity
Truth
Success
Failure
Etc
Virtually everyone would agree that love, or kindness, is good and to be part of relationships, but then consider what it looks like to each gender.
Now watch the fur fly as disagreements about definition abound.
We are looking for same things, only different. I’m so burned out it’s not even funny. It’s Tower of Babel confusion of tongues all over again.
She already knows that most wmn de$pi$e men. Women are just trying to keep as many men as possible on the slavery plantation. Stay away from women.
She already knows that most wmn de$pi$e men. Women are just trying to keep as many men on the slavery plantation as possible. Stay away from them.
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600I don't buy it. That is, that women want the same things men want. Women are hypergamous, not men. Women seek wealthier mates, men don't. But modern feminism has masculinized women. That is the root cause.
Social media is ruining most single women. The endless attention women get all the time everywhere is so absurd and causes entitled arrogant attitudes that many men are fed up. Only becoming worse every year from my experiences.
This is the best comment on this whole page. Fucking spot on brother. There seems to be a ton of chauvinism going around on these that I refuse to partake in. But even relatively attractive women are getting INSANE amounts of attention online. This creates a perverse level of entitlement and inflated ego that men simply do NOT get the chance to achieve except as celebrities. I've said this before and I seriously think it's true. Hot women = male celebrities.
Amen!
i'm 36, was married for less than a year after being together for 5 total and even I feel like tapping out. I am 6'3, make multiiple 6 figures and how much my ex got out of me without us having any kids whatsoever will scar a man for life from getting involved. my freedom now is priceless and where i'm going will haunt any woman that said no to me.
@@progvisions same thing happened to me. Dated 4 years, married 11 months and it was the worst 11 months of my life then lost 100k. Never again
@@JeremySRRT fk sry to hear. technically i lost $50K, but the investment went up substantially ie. I put 50K, she put 50K, and my own mother gifted us $160k so we could afford our own condo. it is now worth double of that price we got it at, meaning as when she sells, she will get $500K. the intention was always going to be half hers, half mine, so around $250K lost by getting involved, but out of pocket was $50
This is a very interesting video because It opens Jake's mind to the reality of why he shouldn't be in a relationship.
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I don't get Women today. "I'm a 10", what? I don't need a man...Who built this building, the roads you take to the mall, the Mall itself, the car you drive, the people that maintain that car...I find it personally insulting when a Woman says that. The reality is, MEN don't really need Women, Who wants to have to pay someone else's way, especially when they, 1. Don't appreciate it and 2. Often times, DEMAND it. Growing up, I was sold a different story. That a marriage was a partnership, I haven't found a Woman that wanted to be on MY team since the 80's!! Too bad that didn't work out, long story. Anywho, I don't even expect to find anyone compatible, anymore. Why should I work my ass off? For what? I am a simple man with simple needs and wants, which I can now, mostly, afford on my own, not working my ass off!! /rant
Well said.
Amazing how cheap life is on your own. I ruled out marriage in this country in my early 30s because when i started crunching the numbers I realized I could be retired in my early to mid 40s. Consequently should I get married and end up divorced that would ensure I'm working into my 60s instead. Just not worth it, especially when early retirement could just lead to life in another country with a lower cost of living and where the women are raised with more traditional values.
Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and 85 percent are initiated by woman , wow that speaks volume. I had 2 relationships and were with only takers when I stop giving they moved on .
@@denisbelanger4473 Another disturbing statistic: A survey done a few years ago found that eighty percent of married women do not love their husbands. So even if she stays with a guy, she probably doesn't love him.
64 years old, divorced twice. Both times thrown under the bus. Last one 4 years ago after 23 years. 10 years sexless.
I'm done. The whole thing now bores me to tears.....
57 years old, I was work my wife 32 years, she too started trying to use sex to manipulate me my last 10 years was sexless and when I say sexless I mean sexless it finally broke me mentally and spiritually and I filed for the divorce and now she's playing the victim shocking and yeah I have no interest in pursuing any woman at all, I'm out
10 years sexless? You should have divorced her 10 years ago, cause she had already stopped being your wife and became your roommate.
@thystaff742 agreed sir it's because of my religious beliefs that kept me from doing so until I finally realized that is a form of abuse which the Bible does not condone
@TheHillrat4wd It's a form of abuse, and she wasn't doing her duty as your wife. Wives are to submit to their husbands. That is their vow at marriage. When broken, then the marriage is over.
@thystaff742 agreed, it took me a long time to realize that. I loved her and still desired her tremendously but did not realize that it was abusive until it literally broke me mentally and spiritually and then I had no choice I had to get out
I sure as hell refuse to “buy” something others “rented”.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Your videos have vastly improved you are straight to the point
I honestly don't see any advantage of disturbing my peace that i have finally got back. A man who works his ass off and gets comfortable with his career and enjoys a simple life doesn't want to sacrifice what they have worked for, for so long. If a woman can't add to my peace, it's not worth it.
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At 5:00, if a woman doesn’t need a man, but instead says that she only “wants” a man, then that relegates the man to being an accessory. Accessories get replaced, which explains why the spouse most likely to cast away their marriage is the woman.
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Solution: Be Chad, Chad dates 2 to 5 women (spins plates) at a time enjoying all women have to offer without commitment. Never in any time in history have women so easily given up their Vjay’s & with this there is zero reason to ever commit to just one woman.
As soon as a man is not needed, but wanted, this turns off 99% of men. If a woman says that to me, it's the relationship kiss of death.
I’ve walked away. Tired of the never ended ghosting, rejection and being ignored. I wanted a relationship but women have made it impossible for average guys. Now I have no interest. Good luck ladies keep chasing chads it’s working out so well for you😂😂
The ridiculously high expectations of these women, stem from popular social media. Women need to wake up if they want a real man in their life
same, walking away. ghosting, ignored, bread crumbing and reject after reject. had my fair share, its time to just let go and walk away
Only long term concern of mine being 59, no Gf or wife or kids is endgame of my estate, no longer worried about someone inheriting my government pension or future SS. But there's still the house, etc.
a lot of so-called chads not interested in modern women either, not even pump and dump.
But what makes you think that you’re not below average and maybe you’re aiming out of your league?
Ive seen everything in dating and relationships. I still love women and still believe ill find someone special
I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you ❤ 🙏
Ultimately, there is a vast divide in values ……. that is unsurmountable
6 months ago at the age of 30, I decided to give up on dating and not make it a priority. The term “the juice is not worth the squeeze” will forever be absolutely true.
I don’t use dumb dating apps, these are women that I meet in person and I still get ghosted even though they tell me they can’t wait to go out with me.
I’m tall, handsome, dress and groom myself extremely well, treat others with respect, in the gym 5 days a week, making more money, doing fun hobbies, but no matter how much I put myself out there, I’m still completely invisible to women.
It’s very discouraging to say the least. Dating unfortunately has become a game. The purpose of playing a game is to win so in my opinion, why bother playing a game you know you can’t win?
I got so tired of putting so much effort into something and getting nothing out of it in return. From now on, I’m doing all of these things for me, not to impress women.
This is not what I wanted. God had intended us to get married, have children and be upstanding citizens. Unfortunately today, myself and more people than ever before will die alone and never pass on their genes.
Anna, you are so incredibly wonderful. I have always loved your videos. Your beauty, personality, kindness and wits always make for a delightful treat! Thank you for reading my comment ❤️
You will be most attractive when you're a few years older. Be patient. Don't search. She will come. They come if and when you don't care.
You might also drop that god thing or keep it to yourself. And don't ever marry.
She was never yours just your turn. 😂😂😂😂 !!! Wait till that one hits home. STAY MGTOW
"Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough"
~ mentioned by a gentleman in one of his comments. This is the core problem we face - lack of balance, too much entitlement and expectations by the partner lead to complete exhaustion for us.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
@@YourWingmamyour generic responses are cringe
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
I will say that I agree with what you are saying. The laws need changed first. Quite frankly, any monetary distribution should be based on the percentage of money earned and not some arbitrary amount. While there is consideration that a "stay at home mom" may do work around the house, there is zero consideration for the fact that the man may come home from work, do home repairs, yard work, etc. So, the women gets credit for a non-monetary guess, the man gets no credit for his non-monetary contributions. The bottom line is the laws need changed.
To be fair about it, for a SAH spouse, the "free" room and board far exceeds the value of doing a little cooking cleaning and housework. I do all that stuff for myself now and it isn't a big deal. If I had another adult I was doing it for it doesn't mean all that stuff takes twice the time. Cooking for example...I could just cook the same stuff I cook now just in bigger portions, and its almost no added time to what I already do. If I had kids and had to do that stuff for the kids...they're your kids, you'd still be taking care of them whether married or not lol.
But yeah, your right, the laws need to change. If they don't its going to just keep going down the path we're on...women will continue to wreck men in divorces and less and less men will be willing to put a ring on it.
A couple of years ago, a family friend had passed away. She was a sweet woman, really great cook, great mother, pretty average looking and a bit of a church lady but she was a character. Anyway, the Pastor had said a few words about how she met her husband, who was with her until the day she died. She said she had just three criteria, and keep in mind, this was a list she had when she was in her 20s:
1) He can't be abusive (physically or emotionally)
2) He can't be an alcoholic (or into any other drugs for that matter)
3) He has to be a good Faithful man (ie. a good Christian and not a cheater)
Every time I see a video about the average women is out there and their criteria lists, I keep thinking back to her very realistic and achievable list and think; my God how times have changed, and that these women is simply going to die alone. Think about the love and joy this woman gave, and how little some of these women really have to offer.
Its funny, as a guy, my list is 1. Don't be a drinker/smoker/drug user, 2. Body count you can count on one hand, 3. and the shallow one don't be fat and covered in trashy tattoos. Those are all things I'd fit the criteria of, but yet, I think I'm down to about 2% of the female population. Oh well...looks like I'll be single for life(or at least til I passport bro it in a couple more years) along with the women with 8000 criteria because the bar for women is literally this low and they still can't clear it.
If women only required those 3, they would all be happily married. I would also add "Someone you are attracted to and someone who you are generally compatible with"
The lack of reciprocation is the one that bothers me the most.
Also, on the dating apps it seems like the only reason women are on the dating apps is so they can reject men. Rejecting men is their HOBBY.
There is nothing better than being single (or single dad) and decide to never ever date. It's so much easier to stay fit and build wealth/invest without a woman, and there is no drama, no drain, and just complete peace and freedom. Freedom to pursue projects, hobbies, hike or exercise, make music.... the list of opportunities that open up are endless. But it has to come from a decision to bring clarity. I don't dislike women, but today a quality woman is quite rare (entitlement, high body counts, feminism, argumentativeness, monkey branchers and gold diggers..., etc..), and the legal system etc. is also biased against men (whether it's custody issues or false allegations), so in this day and age it's simple better to be single. Stay well! Stay single!
Well said!
In my experience there is one and only one reason that justifies the trouble of being with a woman and that is to have children. That I could not do alone. Since I have my children and do not have any energy left to have others, I do not see why I should ruin my life with another woman. That being said, I will allways be thankful to my ex for our children. And so we are clear, she is the one who initiated the divorce. I did not let her down.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
Kindness?
Loyalty?
Reliability?
I fell off my chair. Anna, I think you are the first woman I’ve heard uttering such qualities and suggesting that women seek such.
To build a healthy relationship, you need to have a strong foundation
But leftie women would frame those things as archaic and hyper-traditionalist
@@SnabbKassa let all leftie women to go a world cruise for 4 ys
My quirky sense of humor bade me make use of the words "build" and "frame" in the two replies here and to trot out an old mountain sayin': "You cain't build good with rotten wood."
I said it many years ago. These women will serve as an example of what not to believe or do for the future generations of women.
You covered it all. Here is the modern-day dating situation (or conundrum, if you will) in a nutshell: men don't want to go through all the expectations of dating women and women do not want to date men unless they first accept all the expectations of dating them; it's a stalemate. The result? Untold numbers of men and women over 35 who are unmarried, childless and could care less. That's the reality of today's world brought on by social media's influence over everyone.
If I went to test drive a car, and the salesman told me I had to fill the tank, and pay $500 for the ride, but could only do 35mph...yeah but also no.
Then there is a chance the car wll get stolen but you have to keep filling the tank for 18 years and it will be a new guy driving it like he stole it each week....but I have to pay for the repairs...
A car guy with the perfect analogy.
I don’t date anymore I have a house in Greece and Canada and I travel a lot , and meet many women but I don’t need a woman at all .. I will spend my money on myself …every woman I meet has exes still lingering around and full of emotional problems etc … no way , I’m happy and healthy
Nice, you have a house in Greece 🇬🇷.
@ yes I do on the island of Karpathos
What about sex? Porn really sucks.
@@VoxWodler lots of Russian girls , Croatian girls and Ukrainian girls in Greece , that live and work … no problem with sex , now in Canada it a different storey …
Great video. I'm considering walking away from dating because I recently met 3 girls in real life and got dates from them and all 3 rejected me. I'm tall, decent looking, have a good income, and people who know me well say I have a great personality and that I'm a catch. So being rejected so often in such a short time reaply hurts
It would help if you realize that it was their loss, not yours.
@davidgold5961 thanks bro, that's the only way to look at rejection
@@michaeldundas6620 sounds like a lucky escape 👍🇮🇪
Maybe you have terrible hygiene? Maybe you have bad breath or you smell down there and they just didn’t want to hurt your feelings.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
I THANK YOU very much for this great podcast. I am grateful to you for your commitment to truth. Take care Ms Jorgensen. I THANK YOU again.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate hearing from you 🙏
Dear Anna:
Some men are not just walking away; they are running and hiding. It is terrible out there, and I personally do not blame them. I am one of the few who is still actively searching, and believe me, I am looking under the rocks. You hit the nail in the head as usual, some women are looking for Mr. Perfect, and albeit some of us come close(joke, I am not that arrogant) he does not exist. I believe too many women are so focused on what us men bring to the table, that they believe thay are just supposed to sit down and be served.
That is all for now, my pretty pen-pal from Canada. I hope you are having an awesome weekend and your week just rocks to no end. You, as usual looked beautiful in both outfits. Hug and a peck on each cheek, sending you lots of love from Texas!!!
I appreciate the compliments and I think you're right. There are a lot of women out there looking for a unicorn. :)) Texas ;)
Damn like this gal doesn’t get enough validation! Clean up the saliva when you walk out her channel!
@@YourWingmamI think they are all looking for a unicorn, the standards are so incredibly high now. As you stated, supply and demand. Crazy times. 😅
Still posting comments after what 5 years now? It's clear you aren't making any progress.
@@FactsBeFactsyou read his comment right? 😂😂😂
One day, the woman who I was convinced was my soul mate, told me I was broke and fat, she didn't love me anymore, and she wanted a divorce. That kinda kicked a big ol' hole with jagged edges right in the middle of me. Sixteen years later and I still feel hollow inside. I know there are good women around, but I feel like I'm played out and have nothing left to offer.
Rest assured SHE is now broke and fat after 16 years.
get a dog, take time to find one with a matching personality, you'll need little ells from then on out.
@Refertech101 His name is Goose. He's a deaf pitbull. Adopted him about 8 years ago.
Your channel is so important. Should be much much larger. Another comment for the algorithm.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much. I appreciate that 🙏
Finally, someone who at least appears to be listening.
Social media has broken dating/relationship at the same time expecting for men to pay for everything and slate men this is absolutely why I am so happy to be single no stress no drama
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
"Outlick" jeje! I just left a two year relationship. It's going for 2 weeks being single and let me say that it feels like I can actually breathe.
I earn over six figures, stable, can cook, I'm a gentleman, house owner, cars, I invest and so on.
All I was asking was a little bit of appreciation and respect.
And you got none... Cause they offer us nothing more than whatever they want us to do for them..
Probably your best video to date. Absolutely dead on!
I've spent the last 6 months building a small off grid cabin on my property.
Which had a lot of opportunity costs.
No dating, no time for it.
I believe I've made the right choice.
You're focused and creating something. That's awesome!
Do you get casual action?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu
Ain't even tried
You have. Just make sure you also develop a relationship with the Lord. That’s gonna be real important in due time. It’s partly why things are the way they are. The times……..
Need a roommate?
God damn, I used to see your videos like a year ago, How much this channel grew is astonishing, Good for You.
Thank you for your support, it means a lot!
Hey I watched your videos for years and didn't comment much it already got to the point I've given up on dating. thank you for your service you are helpful but unfortunately nothing is working out for me and I've ran out of ideas. Ive got an expensive car hobby I quit the gym a year ago and went back to gaming and I'm doing fine so far. never met a woman that would want to interact with me so I accepted and adapted that it is what it is. looks like the bachelor path is for me. its not what I want but I have no choice. I had too many rejections and freindzoning and insults left right and centre and treated like dirt I just want peace now. I don't want a relationship anymore. I wanted a good family but having kids is a bad idea nowadays and marriage is a scam. its all about money at the end of the day now. im 32 now and done with dating. I wish all of ye the best of luck out there.
I've seen a number of post like this and comments to them. Sounds like it all really boils down to two things: 1) Lack of appreciation and 2) High expectations. For men, if their efforts to please are never good enough or appreciated and their partner (dating or otherwise) sets unattainable goals for them, it's exhausting. It's not a surprise that many men are walking away.
I got burned pretty bad in my divorce. Have I walked away? I can tell you I'm not going to bother dating until I'm down to my high school weight and I'm fully expecting to walk out on dates the moment she spills a red-flag out of her mouth. My own children (both boys) will grow up being wary of women, and they'll get cut out of the will if they marry without a prenup. I'd like to eventually find someone, but I refuse to lower my defenses at this point. And believe me, I'VE GOT MY DUKES UP.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
The only way to be. Protect yourself at all times, keep it above the belt. Lets make this a good, clean fight
This is terribly important topic. Younger mean appear totally disheartened. Younger women seem to have embraced ridiculous standards based on the deception that "every woman is a 10, so every woman can expect to be with a 10." Women have been taught that business success makes them prime partners, when most men simply don't care about that. They want a woman who is compassionate, loving, and supportive -- qualities that elude many of the boss babe types. The disconnect between men and women has never been greater in my lifetime than it is right now. The social media echo chambers (e.g., "man or bear", "all woman are golddiggers", "all men are trash") is increasing the abyss between sexes. If we fried every device hooked to social media for a year, the rift between them would close significantly. If people had to deal with each other face-to-face without the asinine echo chambers attached to their brains, we'd be so much better off! (I lived that in my youth) Anna: I'd say you look lovely in the outfits of the day, but you're Anna -- you always look lovely. ;) Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/I think my dogs feel the intensity of this topic -- they are wrestling on the floor at the moment.
Absolutely, you nailed it! For young people especially, social media is more toxic than positive. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Scratch for the pooches when they finish playing lol
Tbh, in my experience, both younger men and women have absurd expectations driving their entitlement.
Where younger men seem to think that they are owed virgin, fertile, bangmaids that are greatful to them bc they are doing the bare minimum.
remember when people thought *confidence was the answer* lol, so much for confidence. We mgtows warned yall.
@@memegazer Throughout history, that is what most men married. These days you got chubby 30 something year old single moms that would make you cringe if you knew their body counts thinking Prince Charming will come sweep them off their feet.
I'm not here to tell everyone how they should be living or anything, but I'm not exactly surprised more men of my generation are saying no to marriage than previous generations have, and I'm also not surprised to see the passport bros thing gaining steam with my generation. What is expected of men to be a "good man" hasn't changed since my grandfathers generation, yet the quality of women has declined so much in that same time span the average female today would have been considered un-dateable trash a couple generations ago. When it comes to women, average of my grandparents generation is what most men would consider a unicorn today.
@@randomyoutuber308
If you have any way to prove your claim I invite you to try.
I am willing to concede throughout history it has been a common male ideal, but not that it was ever a common reality.
Great content, Anna! Thank you!
Interesting and insightful. I get it, men are feeling used and just would rather not deal with women any more. I think the advice from several different gentleman was spot on. Choose wisely, get a prenup and pick for compatibility rather than just looks. I am an older woman and getting a divorce. I was the guy in the relationship, always paying and giving. My next relationship will be based on compatibility, honesty and will have a prenup.Good luck everyone, whatever path you choose.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Anna, excellent content. I'm slowly sliding out of the dating scene based two of your topics: desire for independence and the changing relationship dynamics. Especially, the changing dynamics. I got the 3 sixes covered, I'm 66 and make over six figures, ha. I'm alright alone and I will continue to be courteous and kind to the women I meet.
Make the most of single life and if you do decide to stay open to dating, filter well. Thank you for watching!
Good episode. As someone who started writing a book on dating years ago, I cannot finish because I no longer believe dating is worth it. I still date, but mostly for learning purposes, and a sense of adventure, but the vast majority of women I meet seem to be detached from reality. I am really starting to empathize with the Men Go Their Own Way culture. I've been following you for years, so keep up the good work. I hope you try watching the Fiamango Report on RUclips and commenting on her and other honey badgers.
I’ll look for those channels, thank you for watching mine! Maybe you can write a book on staying single (?)
@@YourWingmamMen don't want to have relationships with women. Why would I sign up to lose my money and end up in financial ruin?
@@YourWingmam LOL, you know, I do know more now about staying single that dating. Thank you for the suggestion.
This new dating is perfect
Because once you know the situation and new rules. You just don't bother anymore.
Freeing time for yourself to improve yourself and do things that make YOU happy.
Really freeing.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Over the past two years, I've literally just focused on chilling, gym, money, business, learning, living life, and ignoring women. It's been wonderful. Have my house, assets, car paid off; I'll have plenty of money. Peaceful life.
It’s great to hear you’ve found a life that brings you joy and fulfillment! 😊🙏
@YourWingmam Thanks, Wingman! That's the juice that's worth the squeeze.
One day, I'll find some other juice that's worth the squeeze😅
50 + yo man.
Im lucky to have experienced true and powerful love.
Its a beautiful force to behold with another.
Ive been single for 5 year and have chosen not to live with a woman for almost 20 years.
I will never let a woman live with me. Recent history has proven that its just not worth it for men.
Women value to men has dissolved.
Things i look for in a woman.
Good posture.
Healthy habits.
A woman who understands animal husbandry.
A woman who knows the season's and has homesteading skills.
A woman who can make and repair her own clothes.
A woman who can cook and preserve foods.
Education is not as important as knowledge and common sense.
I don't care at all how much money you have or how many degrees you have hanging on the wall.
Oh no pearcings or tattoos
Been single for 20 years - by design. Semi retired debt free at 45, now 55 I refuse to work full-time and pay tax into the system that wants to destroy me. MGTOW monk for life.
Same way I feel man. Planning on retiring and moving abroad in my early 40s. Hopefully I'll end up somewhere with a better pond to fish in when it comes to dating, but if not, at least I'll be somewhere with a lower cost of living enjoying my time rather than in the rat race here into my 60s paying boatloads of taxes. If nothing else, I'll get the satisfaction of knowing I'll probably pay about 2 million less in taxes over my lifetime by retiring early.
I'm a guy and the most frustrating thing I've experienced several times is sudden, unexplained abandonment. The relationship seems to be going very well and a good connection seems to be forming. The relationship may even have moved on to physical intimacy. You have a passionate night with someone, ending with kind words and a hug and kiss in the morning. Then they immediately start ghosting you and you never hear from them again. I think a lot of women want a nice relationship with a good man, but past relationship trauma makes them too afraid to stay in the relationship they desperately want, and so they just have to bail out. I feel sorry for them, but I've been stung a few times this way and its extremely unpleasant.
@@joevignolor4u949 ..or you’re behaving in ways that are unattractive to them.
Needy, move too fast, bad lover, etc
Ahhh the result of one night stands …. Unfortunately we as men are paying for the sin of mankind from the beginning. Men are leaving broken women within the world when we don’t commit to them in marriage . Hard truth to hear but it’s almost like a catch 22. Women control access to sex , men enable the relationship potentially leading to marriage . Sad truth but the cycle repeats , but this time looks like the lesson will never be learned . Society is screwed . AI is coming for all ladies !
No matter how in love with you a woman is, all it takes for her to instantly lose all interest in you is for a tatted-up loser to drag a guitar past her. There's no loyalty, ever.
@@BLVCKPEPPER4Kmen are not the ones leaving marriages at high rates- it’s women. Change the marriage laws to be more equitable for men and I’m sure you’d see more guys signing up
Outside of that- you have social media, dating apps, and a culture telling women to focus on their careers. They get free attention online, unlimited romantic partners on apps, and their hypergamy wont be satisfied for a larger pool of men once they begin making more money
Society is upside down right now- it’s multi faceted. Not just on men not wanting to marry
you’ve got it all wrong 😂
one big issue I am finding is that so many women are dating that shouldn't be. For one reason or another they aren't ready to date but still do. They waste your time leading you on just to go for a "better option" later.
I suggest that woman (and some men) reduce their dating expectations. My wife an I individually had nothing when we met as college freshmen. The families we came from were just getting by. We agreed that sex was out of the picture until after marriage if it got that far. I think she just enjoyed being around me. A trip to an ice cream shop and a walk through the park was about what we could afford. She noticed that our strengths were different and dove tailed each other. My mom told me that she would be good for me. When we were engaged, we studied the things that gave marriages we saw trouble. The result was we had a basis for agreement on key issues before ever walking down the isle. We had 5 kids - all doing well. About 2/3 of the way thru our working careers we had a combined 6 figure income. Today we are retired and live life as we please. Our marriage is in it's 47th year. That could be young people today if they would focus on important things rather than superficial material things. Learning what makes a person tick is more important than what he owns.
I really liked this video. Thank you. I liked your outfit too. The black sweater, brown leather jacket, and blue jeans.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!
"Dating" is a polite way of saying "random short-term sex-as-sport". Women drove the price of sex down to almost zero, so there's no longer any value in it. Real relationships, ideally leading to marriage, are incredibly difficult to find. And "dating" is not how you find a wife.
So all that's happening is mature men are giving up the porn, running away from the swipe-right nightmare "dates" from hell via the internet, and they're focusing instead on what matters to their long-term success and happiness: their finances, their health, their hobbies, and their careers. "Dating" that leads nowhere just isn't worth the hassle (or the risk).
The sex price is still high for the vast majority of men.
Those who’ve watched my videos know that in my world dating us about getting to know someone on a romantic level that may or may not include sex depending on their values and goals. I should have reiterated that. Thank you for allowing me to clarify. Focusing of things that make your life better regardless of women is always a good idea. :)
Only the top 20% sex is abundant. The bottom 80% get very little to no sex at all
Yup. Need more feminine men and transwomen. Men need to take care of eachother. Let the women do thier own thing.
Women get most of the sex as a group anyway. Awesome. Still wondering how this is fair. 😊😊😊
Paternity Tests at Birth, Fault based divorce, and 50-50 childhood custody.
Too expensive, too risky, too much to lose, i don’t know anyone who hasn’t been divorced at least once. I wish it was different, but this is now it is today :/
No woman is more beautiful than your FREEDOM & YOUR PEACE of mind. Why complicate your Life? No wife happy Life!!!!!💯
Top tip: Develop a personality!!! Playing with your phone is only attractive to Apple, Samsung, and Motorola... 🙂
Thanks Anna, I was thinking some of the same things today. Even though I'm dating very nice girl, The effort required for long-term success can seem overwhelming.
It can definitely feel that way. You're not alone!
The time & cost as well.
I walked away from dating about 10 years ago, it was the best decision I've ever made. I am no longer constantly disappointed after dates, my finances are way better and I'm only a few years away from true financial independence if I choose with an adjustment or two.
Thank you for sharing your experience 🙏
Wow one of the most helpful dating videos I've watched in a while
Stay away from American Women who have been influenced by feminism and have the "Wonder Woman" I can do it all mentality. Best to date a Traditional woman from another country who is family oriented and a companion. If you see any Red Flags that means it's time to get out of that relationship and move on, Don't get Stuck, move on. * Men, Stop pursuing women and let the woman come to you this way it's her idea. * If you marry an independent American Modernized Woman get a prenup. Be careful with woman from other countries who want to get married for citizenship. Understand that women these days are already planning their exit at any time. Anna tries to give you hope, but its Bad out there. Ive been married twice and dated over 60 women of different nationalities. Keep an eye out for my future RUclips channel "The Midnight Cowboy"... 🤠👍🏻
@@themidnightcowboy-singerex4594 if you go find a foreign girl, do NOT bring her back here. My buddy dated a Russian right off the boat when he was in college -- she became an American woman after about two months in the US -- turned into a bossy egomaniacal gold-digger. Foreign women are not different from American women -- they simply are following the rules of the culture around them.
@stevenscott2136 After 20 years of dating, post my divorce. I finally met a good woman from Mexico. The Best woman I ever had, lots of Traditional Qualities. She also has a close set of friends from Mexico, which, as far as I can tell after 2 years, are loyal and dedicated to their families. The only one of her friends who seems to be influenced by feminism is her college educated friend. Be Aware, in the United States, a marriage certificate is a business license, so you're basically financially liable your whole life when you get married. In other words, a marriage license is a legally binding contract.
Yup tried dating a foreign girl with traditional values and same result. It doesn't matter where they are from. It only matters where they currently live. Even foreign girls will become indoctrinated in western feminism
Good stuff. I'm one of the men you described as walking away from dating, and for several reasons. Let me preface my remarks by disclosing that I'm 62 years old, twice divorced and have kids and grandkids with no desire to have any more.
Past negative experiences - two marriages that I viewed as a waste of my life (well, certainly one of them as I have kids with the other one). That and negative experiences with other women.
Desire for independence - there are a number of things that I wasn't able to do when I was younger and had women in the way, so now is the time to pursue them without having to answer to anyone else.
And money of course. I can't afford to drop $100 on a date a couple of times a month to even work on a relationship, let alone maintain one if I did find someone I'd be interested in and compatible with. And if you think an older man can get away cheaper, I don't believe you - stuff is expensive anymore.
As nice as it might be to find a satisfying relationship, I don't see it happening for me at my age.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
I used to LOVE approaching women, even though most of the time it'd end in nothing more than a fun conversation. But these days, you're more likely to get told by management that they've gotten complaints about you than you are to get any actual interest. It's just not worth it.
Shouldn't really approach girls at work or gym. Public is fine as it's a free for all. Best place is events where there is a mutual understanding,,
@@jamescameron204 Wise words.
@@jamescameron204 You can absolutely approach girls at the gym. But you need to be more clever and patient because you will see them again and again. Essentially you ask to work in with them, break the ice but make no advance. Then say hello next time you run into them basically developing platonic rapport. Then say there is a holiday weekend coming up. You could casually ask them if they have anything fun planned. If she's not into you she will say "Yeah, I'm doing X with my boyfriend" o.k. you have your answer. But if she's into you she might say "Well I wanted to go to ___ but I have no one to go with". Hint, hint! So you can explore a woman's interest level without actually getting rejected or being labeled a creep.
@@bearclaw5115good advice
I've stopped caring about dating. All my energy is for me, alone. At least, until I meet someone, who's actually worth it.
I pray that you receive the partner who is truly best for you, the partner God has for you ❤ 🙏
It is not a fear of commitment, but realization of reality.
It will only change for the better if women demand it.
I took a trip to Brazil for a week, came back to the states and decided dating here it’s not worth it. Fellas go where your appreciated not tolerated
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
My reasons for walking away:
1) dishonesty and manipulation
2) the current obsession with "boyfriend tests" that are absurd, irrational, and at times borderline sadistic
3) the disturbingly common belief that men need to be and provide everything while the woman just shows up (if and when she feels like it)
4) a complete lack of accountability for their own actions
5) the bizarre belief that their immediate emotional response is more valid than objective facts
6) the lack of loyalty
7) the way women seem offended when men have fun or relax
8) the abuse when you do exactly what they ask, just not exactly how/when they wanted it
9) the expectation for men to be their personal atm
10) the demand to be open and vulnerable and the lifetime punishment after doing so
This is partially from experience, and partially from observing the way all 3 of my sisters have treated the men in their lives and the way they talk about/complain about the way they assume all men are and why their sh*tty behavior towards the men they encounter are the right thing to do.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I went my own way after my ex left me in 2013 then couldn't work things out in 2014. Tried dating once but it didn't feel right. And with #3, women expect, no demand that "I" am supposed to take care of "her" and her 4 kids....of which none are yours. And yes, with the rates of divorce being over 50% and we men, are losing our arse to women so they can be a parasite off of me for the rest of her life? NO! I'm starting to believe that going down to Reno, Nevada for a weekend or extended stay then leave & come home, is the way to live. 😊😊😊
Good video Anna 👍👍👍