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I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
For most women, marriage is the goal. That is why they quit intimacy, become lazy, and get overweight. I know from experience. They will say and do anything to get the ring and after they do, you meet the real version of them.
I personally enjoy my independence after my last relationship the amount of time energy and effort wore me down the up keep was not worth it shame. Cause we knew each other for about 13years 3 of which we were involved. Even though we parted on good terms she's still single, she was always moody. Personally I can't deal with woman's mood swings. Majority of men want peace and no drama.
"Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage..." Children have brought me a fair amount of joy. In fact, the first time in my life I ever heard a person tell me that I was loved (and I believed it wholeheartedly without reservation) was when my son said "I love you" when he was about 6 years old. I don't think that could have happened for me without dating and getting married. So, for me, the point of dating and getting married was to experience human love and connection.
@tonyhorn2092 saw the pych hack dude who said women never apologize for anything and expect every day to be better than the next and if not they'll go find a new dude because they literally have nothing to lose
@tonyhorn2092 I'm 41 and went on a date with a beautiful woman last night. After the date...I said to myself what's the point ...a life of paying half for everything and being told what to do
Over 6’ tall, six pack abs, amicably divorced, I have cash in the bank, a house, etc…I have ZERO interest in dating (seriously) or a long term relationship. Social media has broken women’s brains.
That may be it... it very well may be that it's the social media that has broken this. You are a princess, you deserve everything, you need to do nothing... when such convenient messages are flying from everywhere it's beyond hard to not listen to them.
One of my mates ended himself after his wife divorced him after she had a fling with Tyrone, this was about 10 years ago. I clearly remember is ex wife laughing with other women on how weak he was. The killer was, he found out his 7 year old daughter was not his, they were married for 15 years and he had no idea about the early marriage cheating. It was too much for him to take. The daughter now 17, hates her mother for cheating on her Dad. I wish he was alive to hear that.
That's because breakups often hurt men more than women. Women often easily move to the next orbiter fast after a breakup. It's reminiscent of that famous line from Mission Impossible 2 : Sean Ambrose: "You know women, mate. Like monkeys, they are - won't let go of one branch until they've got hold of the next." Very true especially in today's times.
Damn, that's callous. Btw, stats show that men's self-deletion rate doubles after divorce, while women's doesn't change at all. Men's rate is already about 4x women's, but after divorce it rises to 8x. No surprise, once you realize how brutal divorce can be for men sometimes.
That’s quite unfortunate to hear I say to all men,no matter what, you are important…you matter and have control over things you can control. I also recommend if you need to leave a bad situation,then do so. We have options too,if someone is mistreating you aka taken advantage of you. You can leave that situation…that’s an option, we’re not obligated to stay understand that. If married explore all options first and then once that’s done. If any of those don’t work then work on an exit strategy to leave. If kids are involved, work out arrangements to co-parent if possible…but again no situation is worth your well being,mentally, physically, emotionally,financially etc etc and most definitely your life. We as men have been through a lot, but remember there is such a thing as rebirth,rebuilding,rediscovering,ourselves once we’ve left a bad situation.
I had a similar conversation with a coworker and she was telling me about another coworker who was complaining about men not paying for dates anymore and I responded to her by telling her that modern women want traditional men yet they themselves don’t want to be traditional.
EXACTLEE - EEY?!!!! WOMWN DESPERATELY D O WAN'T TRADITIONAL MEN! ! ! YET?? = YET?! THEY THEMSELVES, REFUSE TO BE TRADITIONAL!!! THEY WANT TO BE LIBERAL WOMEN! O - O - OH NO DARLINGS?? IT' EITHER THIS WAY? OOR THE HIGH WAY!!!
Years ago, had a woman co-worker tell me I was afraid of commitment. I replied with "I disagree. I have excellent credit which is a testament to my commitment of paying off debt. I get into contracts with cell providers, satelite service, car note and etc. They speak highly of me and want more of my business. Why would I get into a marriage contract where a woman benefits from breaking it hmmm? She just smiled and laughed and had nothing.
@@e.paradigm7415 I don’t get why men need to pay for women when nothing is guaranteed to the man after the date is over. She could block you the moment she gets home and you never see her again so I don’t get why foolish men fall for this outdated trope. You should always split the bill until you know she’s not using you
@@YourWingmam why would i want to look at a females view of the benifits of staying single, when i am the man actually living as the man ? Surely i would know what my own head and heart know whats right for me. 🙄
@@YourWingmam Is that solely focused on what a man must do to improve, or are we finally going to tell women what they need to do to be a good companion for a man? Because for decades it's been all about what a man needs to do....and we're tired of the BS, double-standards, unrealistic expectations and entitlement. Men are checking out and all I've heard is women complaining about "Where have all the good men gone?"
WE / THE BOTH PARTNERS, WE SHOULD COMPLIMENT, EACH OTHER'S WEAKNESSES? IF / OR WHEN I CAN'T ACHIEVE SOMETHING, THAN LET MY GAL / PARTNE RHELP ME OUT?? OR?! WHEN THINGS ARE, JUST ONE OF THOSE DAYS, THINGS DON'T COME TOGETHER? LET THTE GUY / PARTNER CHIP IN, AND HELP OUT HER??! THAT WILL COME OUT, TOT BE PRETTY GOOD?!! TAKE MY WORD FOR IT???!
@@TomTobin67 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
BINGO! I'm once divorced in my late 20s, rebuilt my life once. Now, 25 years later and I'm a homeowner without a mortgage, have a decent six-figure job, zero debt, seven-figure retirement investments. I quit dating in my late 40s, it's just not worth the risk and the disappointment with who I was meeting was non-stop. I'm set up for an early retirement by 60 at the latest, I won't risk that for ANYONE at this stage of life.
The fear of commitment was the biggest lie ever sold. Men don't fear commitment. Men are convinced that their commitment can and will be used against them in a court of law.
@@SheilaSchwartz-t6c I know good men whose wives divorced them and alienated the kids against them. Those men ended the same you describe, but also lost half their $ and their homes. On the other hand, I knew an old man who was friend of my Dad, never married, no kids, but my Dad, aunts, uncles, and us kids always visited him while he was old, and attended his funeral.
I was shopping in a supermarket when i went to pay, the cashier was a cute, young black girl who was expressing interest in me. I gave her my number, and we went to the beach for a date. While getting to know her I come to find out she has 2 kids(one 3 years, the other 8 months old) from 2 different men. I asked what happened to them and she said they don't want to be in the kids life. I was really put off by the whole situation and told her this won't workout, and she couldn't understand why. When I told her why she said" just because i have kids, that doesn't mean I don't want love". True, but I told her when there's kids in the mix of dating I learned I'll always come dead last in your priorities. So another one to add to your list is "men don't want to date single mothers".Especially if the men have no kids themselves
Its always been crazy to me how women just seem to think their past never matters. Tell them your a high school dropout working a minimum wage job living in your moms basement at 30 years of age and watch them get dryer than the Sahara Desert as they judge you for your past decisions that put you in your current position but don't you dare judge them for for their past decisions even if they lead to them becoming a high body count single mom.
Single mothers *can* be OK. It's just you have to mentally prepare yourself for the baggage that comes from the ex-husband, the children, any legal and financial issues that she has from her previous relationship, etc. It's not a cakewalk.
Men are okay with that... mostly. The issue is the WHY she is in that situation and the clear understanding of how that will go for you. She's been around. Frequently. And clearly wants to keep going around. And wants those guys' $ when she leaves. A real woman, good, caring... she's going to treat her new husband as he deserves and her child as they deserve. And a good man will love her kid as his own too. The key is WHY she has 2 kids from 2 men and is out looking.
Tom Leykis preached this about single mothers for DECADES and they vilified him for it. Single for life and no kids no way!!! Look at the state of our schools, teachers quiting and crying because of these same kids and failed parenting. Peace solitude and no drama or screaming in my home. Whew!
I am fit, 6'5", make over 6 figures in a good career and stable environment. The problems that I've experienced have been; I'm expected to pay for everything even if my GF at the time is also well employed. I paid for vacations, dinners, movies sometimes including her two kids (good kids but not the point). Also, I was expected to be the handyman, electrician, carpenter, mechanic (skills I don't have - I'm an IT guy). Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough. Finally after 3 years I had enough. I've dated a little in the intervening years but nothing serious. I crave a partner, intimacy and sex but it shouldn't be at the expense of my peace. The modern woman (I'm in my 40's) only look to see what a man can bring to the relationship but offer little to nothing in return. Sex is something you do a few times a week, its the partnership and the intimacy that most men want and that's what makes good sex great sex.
@liamcage7208 Read my reply and go to another country and find a Traditional woman who knows her biological female role in the relationship. You will get sex whenever you want. Expect to pay for mostly everything, because the Man has to be the leader and a man's Traditional role is to be the provider. If a woman sees you as weak, she'll lose respect and attraction, and then your out. With the loss of her respect for you her legs won't spread anymore. This is all about matter of biology. There is so much more for you to learn. Keep watching Red Pill channels.
@liamcage7208 I am in the same boat as you. I'm 6ft make over 100k a year with excellent benefits. I own my own house and drive a Cadillac and have other vehicles. The main thing I have come across is the same as yours, which comes to the point that these women don't show why we should pursue them outside of their looks.
Some do not understand the difference between alone and lonely. Some don't know how to handle doing things solo. I have no issues doing things such as lifting weights, going out to eat or travel alone. What can ultimately suck is feeling lonely in a crowded room.
A mixed group of friends were chatting over coffee one afternoon when one of the women began to complain about the difficulties in the dating scene. Both the guys and the gals seem to agree. However, when she said; "I want to have a husband." I asked; "Do you want to be a wife?" Her mood darkened like an oncoming prairie thunderstorm. She became highly argumentative. I remained cool, as I had no issues to grind. Afterwards, one of the men at the table, who had been quiet through most of the exchange, came over to me and thanked me. He kind of liked her and was planning to ask her out on a date. "I guess I escaped a bullet on that one", he said.
So in other words she sees wanting and having a husband as though a husband is a furniture piece? The man who was quiet at the table who thanked you kinda likes her. He should wise up and see how easily argumentative she became how much of a red flag that is. I'm guessing she has a very volatile personality. He should be careful about the kind of woman he takes a liking to.
@@SwitchFoot2007 Basically yes The average pathetic modern man with no values, moral compass and no spine has taught women that they can get married for all the benefits of having a husband, that is stability, shelter, "emotional security" etc and do whatever they want - sleep around and be hedonistic and generally morally reprehensible - regardless because there's no accountability, repercussions or consequences due to the aforementioned modern man The husband is there to provide her with necessities while she goes out and indulges
*Modern dating has definitely changed, and it’s clear why so many are taking a step back. Men are prioritizing self-respect, mental health, and quality over quantity. Walking away isn’t quitting - it’s making room for what truly matters.*
My last date was in 2017. She ended it abruptly when she discovered I didn't have a watch collection. Apparently she had an ex who had one that totaled over 20K and she had started to use that as a measurement of a man's finances, (how expensive were his hobbies) After a 15/20 second fit of screaming at me in a crowded restaurant she stormed out and I was left to finish dinner alone, and take her meal home for lunch the next day. After that I started seeing red flags everywhere and just stopped. I'm only a few birthdays from 50 and there's just nothing in it for me anymore. This mindset has sparked alot of anger in the women that have spoken to me since that revelation.
@stancooper5436 Cheap MFer, Broke Ass SOB, etc etc. After chatting with a few folks its about this time I heard the phrase "Don't pay full price for a used car." And I've stuck with that. I haven't "walked away" from dating it's just there is only so much work I'm going to put into it.
At least you got 2 meals out of it. I hope she ordered something good. There was a positive to this. Women like that are miserable and bitter.That guyShe was with probably found a younger and more attractive woman, and that's on her.
That's what modern dating looks like Delusional women with outlandish expectations who think they deserve the world, especially if they had a hot successful boyfriend Brutal, literally animal behavior
Yup! Got it. Gave up. I sleep like a baby. My brother, cousin and uncle have convinced me to not get involved. And they didn't have to say a word. The system stands against men. Never enter into a contract where the other party is rewarded for breach.
As a divorced man who had a wife who made him put down a $10,000 down payment on a house she kicked me out of a year later, yeah, I can vouch for that. The only reason I wouldn't delete that time of my life if given the chance is because of my 3 beautiful babies, as much crap as I went through, they made it worth it. Every time I see my daughters smile at me, and my son it reminds me why I'm alive. THEY ARE the reason I was put on this Earth, period.
@@BaronCadwa Count yourself lucky, many men end up being hated by their children due to the ex-wives feeding them lies and tries her best to remove his custody
I have seen too many guys that I served with get taken to the cleaners in divorce. These same men had possessions related to their service destroyed out of spite. I observed these situations and have seen how women behave on social media. I value my freedom. The key is to determine what you value and be mindful of resentment and anger. Keep up the good work!
last woman i dated said everything was great, she loved me, youre so good to me. then one morning, i get a text that mentions she wasnt being her "true self". basically lying to me. im tired of being used and lied to.
That means she STILL DESIRE the tyrones, the problem is you ain't a Tyrone. She was pretending to love you when in reality she is NOT attracted to you.
why my policy is I don't spend nay money on dates, it is all actually us being together, she cooks I cook either one but we sure as hell not going to a bar or some flashy joint, if she can't pass that first simple test then, well still just the sheep and dogs greeting me when I get home, and been 20 years, this been a slow simmering problem.
That's crazy, that happened to me as well, after one year she told me " i don't feel myself" even tho she said to me in the first Place " i like the way you are you will help me to change and be better"
Women's inconsistency (Outside of Dating) is really challenging. I opened a door at my office for a female only to be ridiculed as a Pervy Creep... So I stopped. Weeks later, another female complained that I was rude for not opening the door for her... When it comes to women, you're damned if you do... damned if you don't.🤦
I still open doors for women. Never been ridiculed. Reason seems to be that I'm more attractive than her and she knows that. So I cannot (or at least need not) be a perv nor a creep. But this mindset is really discriminating. To be honest though, I don't hold the door for ugly or fat women. I seem to second hand retaliate :-)
I'm 6'3", fit (run 2.5h/week), with good money. I'm attractive (women will inquire/ask me out). The last few years have been abysmal in the dating world and everytime I commit, a long list of expectations comes to play, with harsh judgements and lack of reciprocity and respect. A heart can only love so many times. I now focus on my work, travel the world, and am at peace. I really hope to build a loving and lasting relationship in the future, but this is more of a fantasy than a reality. Discipline over passion. “Your goal is not to find love, but to remove all barriers which are preventing you from receiving it.” - Rumi
"A heart can only love so many times." I'm 46 and have lost the ability to love women. It's sad too because loving someone can be a very beautiful thing. That part of me simply doesn't exist anymore.
@@roderickcortez138 28 and basically the same, I don't even see them as conscious human beings anymore They behave like children at their best, animals at their worst
Married twice and have had many girlfriends over the years. All I can tell younger men is when you get a good one, it's good. A bad one will destroy you. Choose wisely...
I would say better to younger men. choose wisely not to commit… And older men more successfully established…?!? ….never let one of them know anything, where you live, what you have…and even how you feel about them! Hide everything! That’s what I learned the hard way… a gal only respects a man when there are consequences… There is only the door…! Once they leave…they can’t come back! Make sure prior they don’t have a copy of the key! No marriage, no cohabitation and no legacy! Each one is a way women can legacy f$&k our lives up! clear and direct…and has few options! Any man who thinks there are good or bad ones doesn’t see the reality: all women will do women things… That has little to do with being bad or good… But just women! And society doesn’t let US know the hidden truth… They don’t have to play by our rulebook with the amount thirsty s!mps vouching for them!
Its really not about the superficial, hurt, healing or anything like that. Its way past that. Its about not allowing yourself to be destroyed any more. No one is taking my house away from me any more. No one is taking my pay check, retirement fund, my car or anything that I own, away from me again. No one is putting me in county prison again for false allegations. No one is going to harm my children again or destroy their lives a second time. Can you understand this.
I started seeing women's attitudes changing back in the 60's, and decade-by-decade it grew worse. Twenty years ago in a casual discussion w/friends, I blurted out, "I ain't asking for Heaven, I just don't want Hell to move in with me..." I got a lot of shocked looks..and a few very thoughful ones. A week ago I heard a slightly condensed version of my 'blurt' in a check-out line...and had to stifle a grin. Dang, I hate being right.
@@OliverT-qt1gn Straight up right. Went literally through the valley of the shadow of death with the wrong woman in my life. She is pissed I am alive and breathing. And no she is still not marriage material and neither am I apparently. Her damage is done.
I'm going through a divorce right now initiated by my wife of 12 years. I never saw it coming. I will NEVER get remarried without a prenuptial agreement.
Women file divorce a vast majority of the time. Just expect it at this point . They give two shits about vows they are just jokes to most American women
I feel your pain. I got divorced after 28 years so I paid dearly - 50 % of my net worth. But it’s better now after 7 years I’m doing so much better financially and otherwise. I won’t even tell you what the evil ho did. I feel bad for my daughters who know what their mom did. Best wishes to you!!
@@chucke756 women initially win the divorce but lose on the back end, while men are the winners at the end. A 50 year old man that in decent shape and financially recovered has far higher smv that a 50 year old broke woman
Humanity. A relationship requires relating. Sharing stories, experiences, cares, struggles and joys, thoughts and feelings. Of 100 women I've spoken with or observed in community gatherings, 4% of them asked a man what's going on, what it's like, and how it is for him. Meanwhile, I watched about 80% of men showing genuine interest in how things are for a woman. Mutual awareness and companioning in life (relating) is not really a thing when men are treated as vending machines.
I don't know ANYWHERE that men are allowed to speak ... what's it's like for them, their "thoughts and feelings". You'd have to pay money to be allowed free speech.
Women only care if they are initially attracted, 4% of them probably asked a guy they thought looked hot But it's also possible they asked a guy the same question he asked them with 0 interest
If I went to test drive a car, and the salesman told me I had to fill the tank, and pay $500 for the ride, but could only do 35mph...yeah but also no. Then there is a chance the car wll get stolen but you have to keep filling the tank for 18 years and it will be a new guy driving it like he stole it each week....but I have to pay for the repairs...
Hold on, the initial sale left out that the car is in disrepair, needs initial repairs and had actually driven hundreds of thousands of miles and changed hands often
I remember sitting outside a local coffee shop circa 2001, minding my own business. Another regular customer, an attractive red-haired girl in her early twenties (I was seven or eight years older than her) looked at me and said, "I wouldn't go out with you because of that white patch you have on your right eyebrow." To which I replied, "Well, in the first place, I didn't ask. Secondly, since you brought it up, part of my eyebrow spontaneously turned white when I was fifteen. It's not like a fashion choice." My point is that women have always been like this. "Let me tell you what's wrong with you. Let me tell you why I don't like you." I'll pass. The red-haired girl became an unwed mother shortly thereafter, which taught her a little humility.
@JF-cd5hc She became much more civil. Maybe she was still thinking the same things, but she didn't say them; motherhood removed the barbs from her tongue.
lmao, women love to feel like they're the center of the universe and that their presence is a graceful blessing onto all onlookers Personally I would've just called her fat or made up some miniscule thing that could be plausible about her look to make her feel self conscious and left it at that as logic does not travel through their ear ducts well, which is why you have to treat them like children and not like normal people
My reasons for walking away: 1) dishonesty and manipulation 2) the current obsession with "boyfriend tests" that are absurd, irrational, and at times borderline sadistic 3) the disturbingly common belief that men need to be and provide everything while the woman just shows up (if and when she feels like it) 4) a complete lack of accountability for their own actions 5) the bizarre belief that their immediate emotional response is more valid than objective facts 6) the lack of loyalty 7) the way women seem offended when men have fun or relax 8) the abuse when you do exactly what they ask, just not exactly how/when they wanted it 9) the expectation for men to be their personal atm 10) the demand to be open and vulnerable and the lifetime punishment after doing so This is partially from experience, and partially from observing the way all 3 of my sisters have treated the men in their lives and the way they talk about/complain about the way they assume all men are and why their sh*tty behavior towards the men they encounter are the right thing to do.
1) That's how women gain power 2) Women are children, so childish games are their forte 3) They're fine providing if they think you're hot, men are providers for the purpose of safety and stability while they sleep around and fish for better partners (and fathers) 4) refer to 2) 5) refer to 2) 6) I don't know where this came from in their behavior, probably lack of impulse control (low intelligence, childishness again) coupled with free access to "dating" apps and evolution 7) refer to 2), they love being the center of attention, but will like you less if you actually treat them as such 8) refer to 2) 9) refer to 3) 10) refer to 1) and 3), modern women hate what they think are "weak" men, that is men who aren't stoic psychopaths/sociopaths and if she isn't into you it's a manipulation strategy (she'll like you less on top of that if it's possible)
Right now, my job is my top priority. It takes care of me, keeps me safe, and rewards my hard work. Why would I even think about dating someone who doesn’t need me, constantly demands my attention, and never shows me any appreciation? I don’t want to settle for someone who will replace me at the first sign of weakness. Oh, and by the way, they prefer to be with a bear instead of me…
Yes, multiple red flags. 1) Making sure you can support her expensive tastes. 2) Gathering all your life long collections and selling them for her expensive tastes... or just destroying your things to make room for hers. My house my rules, I'm not going to put up with selfish women ever again. Feel free to stop by but not stay.
i'm 36, was married for less than a year after being together for 5 total and even I feel like tapping out. I am 6'3, make multiiple 6 figures and how much my ex got out of me without us having any kids whatsoever will scar a man for life from getting involved. my freedom now is priceless and where i'm going will haunt any woman that said no to me.
@@JeremySRRT fk sry to hear. technically i lost $50K, but the investment went up substantially ie. I put 50K, she put 50K, and my own mother gifted us $160k so we could afford our own condo. it is now worth double of that price we got it at, meaning as when she sells, she will get $500K. the intention was always going to be half hers, half mine, so around $250K lost by getting involved, but out of pocket was $50
For richer or poorer; in sickness and in health; for better or for worse. These were obviously written by a man. For women, it’s merely an inspirational quote on their big day. Saw this somewhere and it resonated. Men are in love, women are in business.
Social media is ruining most single women. The endless attention women get all the time everywhere is so absurd and causes entitled arrogant attitudes that many men are fed up. Only becoming worse every year from my experiences.
This is the best comment on this whole page. Fucking spot on brother. There seems to be a ton of chauvinism going around on these that I refuse to partake in. But even relatively attractive women are getting INSANE amounts of attention online. This creates a perverse level of entitlement and inflated ego that men simply do NOT get the chance to achieve except as celebrities. I've said this before and I seriously think it's true. Hot women = male celebrities.
Nothing will ever convince me that dating isn't a complete waste of my time and money. For context, I'm a heterosexual male in my 30's with a fulltime job that leaves me with very little time and energy to devote to things that I actually care about. I'm willing to bet this also describes an overwhelming majority of people who feel the same way.
I have to state that i am older than the hills and tend to be blunt. So i will apologize if i offend anybody. It wasn't intentional. I believe the video is missing the single biggest reason men are walking away from dating. Over the last 20 years, there as been a huge cultural shift in the US and men who grew up in this era grew up being told men were evil, masculinity was toxic and if they showed these traits they might get themselves into big trouble. No wonder they are skittish and aren't quite sure how to deal with woman. Of course it's the nice guys and the shy ones who took this all the heart. I learned this from my sons, nephews, their friends and guys i used to coach. All you have to do is sit in a local watering hole and listen to them talk. It's sad. They all have stories (true or not) of guys being kicked of out of college because of an accusation by a woman. without even being asked for their side. Guys losing gym memberships because they were accused of 'leering'. One guy i know for a fact, lost his gym membership because his workout was too intense. Some woman posted on tiktok that he was body shaming and she felt uncomfortable. The guy was training for a tryout with a semi pro soccer team. We are talking about good guys around 30,, mostly college graduates with good jobs. Don't drink excessively or do drugs and would sell their souls to meet the right woman. They are brave, standup guys; aggressive on the sports fields and at work, building good careers but have this unhealthy almost overwhelming fear of single women. Where am I? Everywhere USA. If women understood this and learned how to make them feel comfortable, these guys would be theirs forever. Trust me.. Just my opinion.
I don't get Women today. "I'm a 10", what? I don't need a man...Who built this building, the roads you take to the mall, the Mall itself, the car you drive, the people that maintain that car...I find it personally insulting when a Woman says that. The reality is, MEN don't really need Women, Who wants to have to pay someone else's way, especially when they, 1. Don't appreciate it and 2. Often times, DEMAND it. Growing up, I was sold a different story. That a marriage was a partnership, I haven't found a Woman that wanted to be on MY team since the 80's!! Too bad that didn't work out, long story. Anywho, I don't even expect to find anyone compatible, anymore. Why should I work my ass off? For what? I am a simple man with simple needs and wants, which I can now, mostly, afford on my own, not working my ass off!! /rant
Amazing how cheap life is on your own. I ruled out marriage in this country in my early 30s because when i started crunching the numbers I realized I could be retired in my early to mid 40s. Consequently should I get married and end up divorced that would ensure I'm working into my 60s instead. Just not worth it, especially when early retirement could just lead to life in another country with a lower cost of living and where the women are raised with more traditional values.
64 years old, divorced twice. Both times thrown under the bus. Last one 4 years ago after 23 years. 10 years sexless. I'm done. The whole thing now bores me to tears.....
57 years old, I was work my wife 32 years, she too started trying to use sex to manipulate me my last 10 years was sexless and when I say sexless I mean sexless it finally broke me mentally and spiritually and I filed for the divorce and now she's playing the victim shocking and yeah I have no interest in pursuing any woman at all, I'm out
@thystaff742 agreed sir it's because of my religious beliefs that kept me from doing so until I finally realized that is a form of abuse which the Bible does not condone
@TheHillrat4wd It's a form of abuse, and she wasn't doing her duty as your wife. Wives are to submit to their husbands. That is their vow at marriage. When broken, then the marriage is over.
@thystaff742 agreed, it took me a long time to realize that. I loved her and still desired her tremendously but did not realize that it was abusive until it literally broke me mentally and spiritually and then I had no choice I had to get out
This is terribly important topic. Younger mean appear totally disheartened. Younger women seem to have embraced ridiculous standards based on the deception that "every woman is a 10, so every woman can expect to be with a 10." Women have been taught that business success makes them prime partners, when most men simply don't care about that. They want a woman who is compassionate, loving, and supportive -- qualities that elude many of the boss babe types. The disconnect between men and women has never been greater in my lifetime than it is right now. The social media echo chambers (e.g., "man or bear", "all woman are golddiggers", "all men are trash") is increasing the abyss between sexes. If we fried every device hooked to social media for a year, the rift between them would close significantly. If people had to deal with each other face-to-face without the asinine echo chambers attached to their brains, we'd be so much better off! (I lived that in my youth) Anna: I'd say you look lovely in the outfits of the day, but you're Anna -- you always look lovely. ;) Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/I think my dogs feel the intensity of this topic -- they are wrestling on the floor at the moment.
Absolutely, you nailed it! For young people especially, social media is more toxic than positive. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Scratch for the pooches when they finish playing lol
Tbh, in my experience, both younger men and women have absurd expectations driving their entitlement. Where younger men seem to think that they are owed virgin, fertile, bangmaids that are greatful to them bc they are doing the bare minimum.
@@memegazer Throughout history, that is what most men married. These days you got chubby 30 something year old single moms that would make you cringe if you knew their body counts thinking Prince Charming will come sweep them off their feet. I'm not here to tell everyone how they should be living or anything, but I'm not exactly surprised more men of my generation are saying no to marriage than previous generations have, and I'm also not surprised to see the passport bros thing gaining steam with my generation. What is expected of men to be a "good man" hasn't changed since my grandfathers generation, yet the quality of women has declined so much in that same time span the average female today would have been considered un-dateable trash a couple generations ago. When it comes to women, average of my grandparents generation is what most men would consider a unicorn today.
@@randomyoutuber308 If you have any way to prove your claim I invite you to try. I am willing to concede throughout history it has been a common male ideal, but not that it was ever a common reality.
"Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough" ~ mentioned by a gentleman in one of his comments. This is the core problem we face - lack of balance, too much entitlement and expectations by the partner lead to complete exhaustion for us.
@@zeenuf00 That's all women do at best....basically "I'm sorry you feel that way" mentality....it's sad, but is what it is. No wonder men are avoiding women today. Not worth the effort to get half-assed results!
@@YourWingmam Click, copy, paste --- glad you have so much invested in your comments....this is like the 5th time I've seen the same response from you.
Kindness? Loyalty? Reliability? I fell off my chair. Anna, I think you are the first woman I’ve heard uttering such qualities and suggesting that women seek such.
My quirky sense of humor bade me make use of the words "build" and "frame" in the two replies here and to trot out an old mountain sayin': "You cain't build good with rotten wood."
Because I’ve never been looked at, smiled at, spoken to. 65 and not sure how much longer I want to endure loneliness and being absolutely ignored by all women, my ENTIRE LIFE
It's extremely telling that all the comments I read on here are all from men and none from women. That says everything you need to know right there. The lady making this video means well, and I don't mean this sarcastically, but most of us men, (except for maybe the younger guys), already know what you are talking about here. It is women you need to convince of all these things, but unfortunately, that will fall on deaf ears and they don't want to hear it.
Re: “women want the same things men want” Based on several decades of harsh reality, I have found quite the opposite, meaning men and women want totally different things, despite some overlapping terminology. Ask the same questions to men, and women, and drill down into the answers, and be blown away. EG: What is; Love Respect Loyalty Kindness Dedication Compassion Sincerity Truth Success Failure Etc Virtually everyone would agree that love, or kindness, is good and to be part of relationships, but then consider what it looks like to each gender. Now watch the fur fly as disagreements about definition abound. We are looking for same things, only different. I’m so burned out it’s not even funny. It’s Tower of Babel confusion of tongues all over again.
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600I don't buy it. That is, that women want the same things men want. Women are hypergamous, not men. Women seek wealthier mates, men don't. But modern feminism has masculinized women. That is the root cause.
I’ve walked away. Tired of the never ended ghosting, rejection and being ignored. I wanted a relationship but women have made it impossible for average guys. Now I have no interest. Good luck ladies keep chasing chads it’s working out so well for you😂😂
Only long term concern of mine being 59, no Gf or wife or kids is endgame of my estate, no longer worried about someone inheriting my government pension or future SS. But there's still the house, etc.
An incisive exploration of why many men are stepping away from the dating scene. One point that strikes me, though not explicitly addressed, is the impact of choice overload. In today’s world, swiping through endless profiles or constantly comparing potential partners creates a paradox of too much choice. This phenomenon not only fosters indecision but also diminishes satisfaction with any choice made. A man like ‘Jake’ might feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of options, compounded by the societal pressures and unrealistic expectations discussed here. Sometimes, it’s not just about whether the juice is worth the squeeze-it’s whether the orchard feels too vast to even bother picking. Perhaps the antidote lies in simplifying intentions: focusing less on external validation or meeting a checklist, and more on fostering authentic connections grounded in shared values. In a world of infinite scrolling, clarity of purpose might just be the rarest-and most valuable-trait of all
I honestly don't see any advantage of disturbing my peace that i have finally got back. A man who works his ass off and gets comfortable with his career and enjoys a simple life doesn't want to sacrifice what they have worked for, for so long. If a woman can't add to my peace, it's not worth it.
agreed, it may not be the worst thing that can ever happen to you but when you get ripped off it feels like the worst thing ever. I have had my house broken into before and my personal things stolen. Not saying all women are bad but I sure fear giving them a chance. people suck in general now days. society is a chuncky swirly.
One day, the woman who I was convinced was my soul mate, told me I was broke and fat, she didn't love me anymore, and she wanted a divorce. That kinda kicked a big ol' hole with jagged edges right in the middle of me. Sixteen years later and I still feel hollow inside. I know there are good women around, but I feel like I'm played out and have nothing left to offer.
Probably the best video I’ve seen on this issue. I am Jake!!! I’ve given up. I’m tired of being heartbroken and ghosted. I’m part of the invisible majority of men (older, not tall, not traditionally attractive) that gets no attention from women. I own my flaws and idiosyncrasies and work to improve myself daily. I’m loyal, love children and animals, am financially stable, funny, chivalrous and have so much love to give but it’s still not enough.
you still haven’t figured it out huh? hint: they *don’t respect* you soft “love”-worshipping types. stop treating them like you’re a Rom Com protagonist. stop being a weak nice guy
@@truthtelleranon hes not weak, hes just good that evil bitches perceives being good as a flaw - if they can use that everybody can use that again him - so hes "weak" not good fucking wolrd we live in... ffs
I've spent the last 6 months building a small off grid cabin on my property. Which had a lot of opportunity costs. No dating, no time for it. I believe I've made the right choice.
You have. Just make sure you also develop a relationship with the Lord. That’s gonna be real important in due time. It’s partly why things are the way they are. The times……..
The best first date i ever had was when she said im open to dinner at any place and i will pay for my meal. I chose a very nice place and enjoyed my meal and drinks fully, stress free and was able to focus on her. She showed me im not using you and im contributing to us getting to know each other. We are still together.
At 5:00, if a woman doesn’t need a man, but instead says that she only “wants” a man, then that relegates the man to being an accessory. Accessories get replaced, which explains why the spouse most likely to cast away their marriage is the woman.
Solution: Be Chad, Chad dates 2 to 5 women (spins plates) at a time enjoying all women have to offer without commitment. Never in any time in history have women so easily given up their Vjay’s & with this there is zero reason to ever commit to just one woman.
What you say is correct, the problem is that the female brain is highly defective and very similar in ways to the Democrap brain which is completely dysfunctional, delusional, and lacks anything remotely resembling reality.
@@Random-rt5ecyes of course what you say is spot on accurate and true, but we are dealing with a brain in the female skull that is lacking in so many ways that it's futile to attempt to mesh with this monster of a human being.
A couple of years ago, a family friend had passed away. She was a sweet woman, really great cook, great mother, pretty average looking and a bit of a church lady but she was a character. Anyway, the Pastor had said a few words about how she met her husband, who was with her until the day she died. She said she had just three criteria, and keep in mind, this was a list she had when she was in her 20s: 1) He can't be abusive (physically or emotionally) 2) He can't be an alcoholic (or into any other drugs for that matter) 3) He has to be a good Faithful man (ie. a good Christian and not a cheater) Every time I see a video about the average women is out there and their criteria lists, I keep thinking back to her very realistic and achievable list and think; my God how times have changed, and that these women is simply going to die alone. Think about the love and joy this woman gave, and how little some of these women really have to offer.
Its funny, as a guy, my list is 1. Don't be a drinker/smoker/drug user, 2. Body count you can count on one hand, 3. and the shallow one don't be fat and covered in trashy tattoos. Those are all things I'd fit the criteria of, but yet, I think I'm down to about 2% of the female population. Oh well...looks like I'll be single for life(or at least til I passport bro it in a couple more years) along with the women with 8000 criteria because the bar for women is literally this low and they still can't clear it.
If women only required those 3, they would all be happily married. I would also add "Someone you are attracted to and someone who you are generally compatible with"
I just discovered your channel a few days ago, Anna, and have been watching a lot of your videos. So enlightening and I appreciate you mixing in humor along with reality checks. Keep up the great work!
The lack of reciprocation is the one that bothers me the most. Also, on the dating apps it seems like the only reason women are on the dating apps is so they can reject men. Rejecting men is their HOBBY.
6 months ago at the age of 30, I decided to give up on dating and not make it a priority. The term “the juice is not worth the squeeze” will forever be absolutely true. I don’t use dumb dating apps, these are women that I meet in person and I still get ghosted even though they tell me they can’t wait to go out with me. I’m tall, handsome, dress and groom myself extremely well, treat others with respect, in the gym 5 days a week, making more money, doing fun hobbies, but no matter how much I put myself out there, I’m still completely invisible to women. It’s very discouraging to say the least. Dating unfortunately has become a game. The purpose of playing a game is to win so in my opinion, why bother playing a game you know you can’t win? I got so tired of putting so much effort into something and getting nothing out of it in return. From now on, I’m doing all of these things for me, not to impress women. This is not what I wanted. God had intended us to get married, have children and be upstanding citizens. Unfortunately today, myself and more people than ever before will die alone and never pass on their genes. Anna, you are so incredibly wonderful. I have always loved your videos. Your beauty, personality, kindness and wits always make for a delightful treat! Thank you for reading my comment ❤️
After fourteen years of marriage! I'm done with women for the rest of my life, and I'm doing what you're saying! I guess it's a natural response! Very interesting
@@scottlucas5313 - Me too. My 13 year marriage ended and my ex is sucking me dry. I’m paying over $4,000 / mo in child support and alimony. Never again. I’m never committing another cent to a woman.
Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and 85 percent are initiated by woman , wow that speaks volume. I had 2 relationships and were with only takers when I stop giving they moved on .
@@denisbelanger4473 Another disturbing statistic: A survey done a few years ago found that eighty percent of married women do not love their husbands. So even if she stays with a guy, she probably doesn't love him.
I don’t date anymore I have a house in Greece and Canada and I travel a lot , and meet many women but I don’t need a woman at all .. I will spend my money on myself …every woman I meet has exes still lingering around and full of emotional problems etc … no way , I’m happy and healthy
@@VoxWodler lots of Russian girls , Croatian girls and Ukrainian girls in Greece , that live and work … no problem with sex , now in Canada it a different storey …
I'm a guy and the most frustrating thing I've experienced several times is sudden, unexplained abandonment. The relationship seems to be going very well and a good connection seems to be forming. The relationship may even have moved on to physical intimacy. You have a passionate night with someone, ending with kind words and a hug and kiss in the morning. Then they immediately start ghosting you and you never hear from them again. I think a lot of women want a nice relationship with a good man, but past relationship trauma makes them too afraid to stay in the relationship they desperately want, and so they just have to bail out. I feel sorry for them, but I've been stung a few times this way and its extremely unpleasant.
Ahhh the result of one night stands …. Unfortunately we as men are paying for the sin of mankind from the beginning. Men are leaving broken women within the world when we don’t commit to them in marriage . Hard truth to hear but it’s almost like a catch 22. Women control access to sex , men enable the relationship potentially leading to marriage . Sad truth but the cycle repeats , but this time looks like the lesson will never be learned . Society is screwed . AI is coming for all ladies !
No matter how in love with you a woman is, all it takes for her to instantly lose all interest in you is for a tatted-up loser to drag a guitar past her. There's no loyalty, ever.
@@BLVCKPEPPER4Kmen are not the ones leaving marriages at high rates- it’s women. Change the marriage laws to be more equitable for men and I’m sure you’d see more guys signing up Outside of that- you have social media, dating apps, and a culture telling women to focus on their careers. They get free attention online, unlimited romantic partners on apps, and their hypergamy wont be satisfied for a larger pool of men once they begin making more money Society is upside down right now- it’s multi faceted. Not just on men not wanting to marry
I realised we no longer need each other. My ex wife did me a massive favour when she left for no obvious reason after a 17 year marriage. It made me realise that we no longer respect traditions or each other. So it doesn't really matter what anybody says because for me I'm out. I retired at 40 and I've been traveling the world ever since on my own oh and thoroughly enjoying it. I will never consider a serious relationship again.
She found somebody else, or she thought she did and he left her shortly after, or is now stuck in an abusive relationship Or maybe her "friends" or social media convinced her to move on Traditions don't exist, morality degrades and society decays Funniest thing is that men are the ones to blame, as we are the only ones with any real actual power in the physical world
I've seen a number of post like this and comments to them. Sounds like it all really boils down to two things: 1) Lack of appreciation and 2) High expectations. For men, if their efforts to please are never good enough or appreciated and their partner (dating or otherwise) sets unattainable goals for them, it's exhausting. It's not a surprise that many men are walking away.
You covered it all. Here is the modern-day dating situation (or conundrum, if you will) in a nutshell: men don't want to go through all the expectations of dating women and women do not want to date men unless they first accept all the expectations of dating them; it's a stalemate. The result? Untold numbers of men and women over 35 who are unmarried, childless and could care less. That's the reality of today's world brought on by social media's influence over everyone.
Nailed it. There are so many reasons that I gave up on dating and you summed it all up nicely. Overall, just too much trouble, and I never again want to be trapped in a relationship where everything I do is wrong and all my complaints or concerns are invalid.
There is nothing better than being single (or single dad) and decide to never ever date. It's so much easier to stay fit and build wealth/invest without a woman, and there is no drama, no drain, and just complete peace and freedom. Freedom to pursue projects, hobbies, hike or exercise, make music.... the list of opportunities that open up are endless. But it has to come from a decision to bring clarity. I don't dislike women, but today a quality woman is quite rare (entitlement, high body counts, feminism, argumentativeness, monkey branchers and gold diggers..., etc..), and the legal system etc. is also biased against men (whether it's custody issues or false allegations), so in this day and age it's simple better to be single. Stay well! Stay single!
Exactly, I got dochter from 10 years relationship so I don't have to look for anybody to have kids. Last year I bought small yacht and I have spent almost 5 months on water. This year I'm buying second to have also in different country 😊 Life is really peaceful and drama free without modern women.
This video hits a lot of really important points. But, even more important is how the legal courts treat men. When it comes to divorce for men it is a losing deal. Also, recently I discovered that in most states if a man's wife gets pregnant by another man, the husband is legally presumed to be the father! Forcing him to pay for raising a kid that isn't even HIS! And he can't do anything about it unless the real father agrees to legally acknowledge paternity! PATERNITY FRAUD!!! THIS IS CRIMINAL!!
@@YourWingmam Turning an innocent man into an indentured servant isn't what's best. It's unjust. Laws mandating DNA testing at birth before a man signs the birth certificate would go a long way to remedy this kind of thing. Simple and cheap to do these days.
@@ThorfinnSkullsplitter-fz7ff Do you wonder why some kids grow up in abusive homes, can you imagine a man forced by circumstances to take care of a seed that is not his..bad outcome.
I used to LOVE approaching women, even though most of the time it'd end in nothing more than a fun conversation. But these days, you're more likely to get told by management that they've gotten complaints about you than you are to get any actual interest. It's just not worth it.
@@jamescameron204 You can absolutely approach girls at the gym. But you need to be more clever and patient because you will see them again and again. Essentially you ask to work in with them, break the ice but make no advance. Then say hello next time you run into them basically developing platonic rapport. Then say there is a holiday weekend coming up. You could casually ask them if they have anything fun planned. If she's not into you she will say "Yeah, I'm doing X with my boyfriend" o.k. you have your answer. But if she's into you she might say "Well I wanted to go to ___ but I have no one to go with". Hint, hint! So you can explore a woman's interest level without actually getting rejected or being labeled a creep.
"Outlick" jeje! I just left a two year relationship. It's going for 2 weeks being single and let me say that it feels like I can actually breathe. I earn over six figures, stable, can cook, I'm a gentleman, house owner, cars, I invest and so on. All I was asking was a little bit of appreciation and respect.
In my experience there is one and only one reason that justifies the trouble of being with a woman and that is to have children. That I could not do alone. Since I have my children and do not have any energy left to have others, I do not see why I should ruin my life with another woman. That being said, I will allways be thankful to my ex for our children. And so we are clear, she is the one who initiated the divorce. I did not let her down.
It is good to see someone out here trying to help us all despite how nearly hopeless this current time seems for relationships. God Bless You and I wish you great success.
Gotta also be careful not to fall for the "immigrant trap" (as i call it). Basically, a foreign woman uses you to gain citizenship in the U.S. with a marriage, then divorces you (and takes yer stuff). I've heard of horror stories like that happening. Tragic stuff.
Experienced every single one of these through my mid 20s and early 30s.. Many bad stories to go along with that. While not totally turning my back on a possible relationship. I have actually internalized my own list of requirements and maybe I'm just "old fashioned". But today's single women don't measure up.. Note I write single, because those who fit my requirements appear to have been snatched up early (or bat for the other team). And after 15 years struggling to rebuild my life and a ER scare. I find I just won't put up with the BS anymore and dating just feels so very toxic now. This is my philosophy of life, it humbles me and reminds me to stay centered. Walking your life's journey is a solitary endeavor. But doesn't have to be a lonely one. Self assurance and self love play a part in finding your center creating self reliance. But, should a partner or two cross paths. Enjoy the time together for however long it may last. And realize, this too shall end. Do not feel sorrow, revel in what you gained, not what you lost. Keep moving forward, keep walking along your journey. For when you stop, the story ends.
Dear Anna: Some men are not just walking away; they are running and hiding. It is terrible out there, and I personally do not blame them. I am one of the few who is still actively searching, and believe me, I am looking under the rocks. You hit the nail in the head as usual, some women are looking for Mr. Perfect, and albeit some of us come close(joke, I am not that arrogant) he does not exist. I believe too many women are so focused on what us men bring to the table, that they believe thay are just supposed to sit down and be served. That is all for now, my pretty pen-pal from Canada. I hope you are having an awesome weekend and your week just rocks to no end. You, as usual looked beautiful in both outfits. Hug and a peck on each cheek, sending you lots of love from Texas!!!
I got burned pretty bad in my divorce. Have I walked away? I can tell you I'm not going to bother dating until I'm down to my high school weight and I'm fully expecting to walk out on dates the moment she spills a red-flag out of her mouth. My own children (both boys) will grow up being wary of women, and they'll get cut out of the will if they marry without a prenup. I'd like to eventually find someone, but I refuse to lower my defenses at this point. And believe me, I'VE GOT MY DUKES UP.
I will say that I agree with what you are saying. The laws need changed first. Quite frankly, any monetary distribution should be based on the percentage of money earned and not some arbitrary amount. While there is consideration that a "stay at home mom" may do work around the house, there is zero consideration for the fact that the man may come home from work, do home repairs, yard work, etc. So, the women gets credit for a non-monetary guess, the man gets no credit for his non-monetary contributions. The bottom line is the laws need changed.
To be fair about it, for a SAH spouse, the "free" room and board far exceeds the value of doing a little cooking cleaning and housework. I do all that stuff for myself now and it isn't a big deal. If I had another adult I was doing it for it doesn't mean all that stuff takes twice the time. Cooking for example...I could just cook the same stuff I cook now just in bigger portions, and its almost no added time to what I already do. If I had kids and had to do that stuff for the kids...they're your kids, you'd still be taking care of them whether married or not lol. But yeah, your right, the laws need to change. If they don't its going to just keep going down the path we're on...women will continue to wreck men in divorces and less and less men will be willing to put a ring on it.
Where I live the woman would only be entitled to half the capital accumulated during the marriage. So if I guy married a woman without assets and was worth 200k but gets divorced 3 years later and their joint worth has grown to 300k she would be awarded 50k . It would also be the same for the man if the woman had the money when they married. This seems to me a reasonably fair system.
50 + yo man. Im lucky to have experienced true and powerful love. Its a beautiful force to behold with another. Ive been single for 5 year and have chosen not to live with a woman for almost 20 years. I will never let a woman live with me. Recent history has proven that its just not worth it for men. Women value to men has dissolved. Things i look for in a woman. Good posture. Healthy habits. A woman who understands animal husbandry. A woman who knows the season's and has homesteading skills. A woman who can make and repair her own clothes. A woman who can cook and preserve foods. Education is not as important as knowledge and common sense. I don't care at all how much money you have or how many degrees you have hanging on the wall. Oh no pearcings or tattoos
one big issue I am finding is that so many women are dating that shouldn't be. For one reason or another they aren't ready to date but still do. They waste your time leading you on just to go for a "better option" later.
Another thing about online dating is that are many women who are in a relationship but on the apps, to see if men still find them attractive. Also men are scared to be accused of all sorts things after the first date. If I do see a young a couple on a date they are both on their phones.
For me it's point nr.10 you mentioned. I value independence and the freedom to connect with who I want, whenever I want. Relationships often come with restrictions and limitations, which I'm not going to put myself through again. The single life is the best life👌🏼
Good episode. As someone who started writing a book on dating years ago, I cannot finish because I no longer believe dating is worth it. I still date, but mostly for learning purposes, and a sense of adventure, but the vast majority of women I meet seem to be detached from reality. I am really starting to empathize with the Men Go Their Own Way culture. I've been following you for years, so keep up the good work. I hope you try watching the Fiamango Report on RUclips and commenting on her and other honey badgers.
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Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
Will you ever give us advice about how to get action while single?
stop trying to Get us men to go back to women, we don't want to. There is absolutely no value in women whatsoever. Just leave us be..
I'm 56 introverted, never married, no kids, average looking, 20 years of being single. Smartphones have destroyed dating. Dating is dead. Women don't look or smile anymore. All on their stupid cell phones 24/7. No one talks face to face anymore. 80% of the women are trash. I've given up on women.
For most women, marriage is the goal. That is why they quit intimacy, become lazy, and get overweight. I know from experience. They will say and do anything to get the ring and after they do, you meet the real version of them.
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu Yup. Make money and rent lays! Best and easiest advice there is!
The biggest thing is entitlement. Women feel they deserve a man who meets the requirements they themselves fail to meet.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hypergamy !
@@gold3084 A kind of stepping stone
Spot on.
@@Obake4777 she couldn’t get out of you what she wanted. That’s why she canned you. It’s cowardly, but typical.
Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage when it is squarely against Men in every way possible. It just makes no sense.
It’s tough out there for sure
Have you found out how to get action without dating?
Lol, you are going to have to pay for it one way or another. Better off paying for an escort once a month and not bother with the hassle of dating.
I personally enjoy my independence after my last relationship the amount of time energy and effort wore me down the up keep was not worth it shame. Cause we knew each other for about 13years 3 of which we were involved. Even though we parted on good terms she's still single, she was always moody. Personally I can't deal with woman's mood swings. Majority of men want peace and no drama.
"Honestly, what's the point of dating and marriage..."
Children have brought me a fair amount of joy. In fact, the first time in my life I ever heard a person tell me that I was loved (and I believed it wholeheartedly without reservation) was when my son said "I love you" when he was about 6 years old. I don't think that could have happened for me without dating and getting married. So, for me, the point of dating and getting married was to experience human love and connection.
I gave up on dating years ago. It's just not worth the hassle.
Nobody cares.
@@tonyhorn2092 This!! It’s been almost 20 years since I have run across anyone I would even want to go out with.
@tonyhorn2092 saw the pych hack dude who said women never apologize for anything and expect every day to be better than the next and if not they'll go find a new dude because they literally have nothing to lose
@tonyhorn2092 I'm 41 and went on a date with a beautiful woman last night. After the date...I said to myself what's the point ...a life of paying half for everything and being told what to do
Over 6’ tall, six pack abs, amicably divorced, I have cash in the bank, a house, etc…I have ZERO interest in dating (seriously) or a long term relationship. Social media has broken women’s brains.
Then why’d you watch the video and feel the need to comment 😂
Narcissism is a powerful addiction for people. It's very unlikely to find a woman that's single, not consumed with it.
@@audioelitist3677yes
If you have the FIRE lifestyle dont risk losing it and having to go back to this corporate hell.
That may be it... it very well may be that it's the social media that has broken this. You are a princess, you deserve everything, you need to do nothing... when such convenient messages are flying from everywhere it's beyond hard to not listen to them.
One of my mates ended himself after his wife divorced him after she had a fling with Tyrone, this was about 10 years ago. I clearly remember is ex wife laughing with other women on how weak he was. The killer was, he found out his 7 year old daughter was not his, they were married for 15 years and he had no idea about the early marriage cheating. It was too much for him to take.
The daughter now 17, hates her mother for cheating on her Dad. I wish he was alive to hear that.
That's because breakups often hurt men more than women.
Women often easily move to the next orbiter fast after a breakup.
It's reminiscent of that famous line from Mission Impossible 2 :
Sean Ambrose: "You know women, mate. Like monkeys, they are - won't let go of one branch until they've got hold of the next."
Very true especially in today's times.
Damn, that's callous. Btw, stats show that men's self-deletion rate doubles after divorce, while women's doesn't change at all. Men's rate is already about 4x women's, but after divorce it rises to 8x. No surprise, once you realize how brutal divorce can be for men sometimes.
Got a grip on the next... Just finished watching MI2. So good! Especially the biocyte scene!
That’s quite unfortunate to hear I say to all men,no matter what, you are important…you matter and have control over things you can control. I also recommend if you need to leave a bad situation,then do so. We have options too,if someone is mistreating you aka taken advantage of you. You can leave that situation…that’s an option, we’re not obligated to stay understand that. If married explore all options first and then once that’s done. If any of those don’t work then work on an exit strategy to leave. If kids are involved, work out arrangements to co-parent if possible…but again no situation is worth your well being,mentally, physically, emotionally,financially etc etc and most definitely your life. We as men have been through a lot, but remember there is such a thing as rebirth,rebuilding,rediscovering,ourselves once we’ve left a bad situation.
@@jonathanwelke
Haha, with the John Woo doves. That said, top to bottom, a good movie. I recall seeing it in the theater.
I had a similar conversation with a coworker and she was telling me about another coworker who was complaining about men not paying for dates anymore and I responded to her by telling her that modern women want traditional men yet they themselves don’t want to be traditional.
You're absolutely right!
EXACTLEE - EEY?!!!! WOMWN DESPERATELY D O WAN'T TRADITIONAL MEN! ! ! YET?? = YET?! THEY THEMSELVES, REFUSE TO BE TRADITIONAL!!! THEY WANT TO BE LIBERAL WOMEN! O - O - OH NO DARLINGS?? IT' EITHER THIS WAY? OOR THE HIGH WAY!!!
Years ago, had a woman co-worker tell me I was afraid of commitment. I replied with "I disagree. I have excellent credit which is a testament to my commitment of paying off debt. I get into contracts with cell providers, satelite service, car note and etc. They speak highly of me and want more of my business. Why would I get into a marriage contract where a woman benefits from breaking it hmmm? She just smiled and laughed and had nothing.
@@e.paradigm7415 I don’t get why men need to pay for women when nothing is guaranteed to the man after the date is over. She could block you the moment she gets home and you never see her again so I don’t get why foolish men fall for this outdated trope. You should always split the bill until you know she’s not using you
@@YourWingmamalso American women eat… a lot. Feeding obese people adds up
Being single = PEACE + no drama AND you get to keep ALL your stuff!
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@@YourWingmam why would i want to look at a females view of the benifits of staying single, when i am the man actually living as the man ? Surely i would know what my own head and heart know whats right for me. 🙄
Sounds like after years Anna is understanding men's problem and given up on women as well.
Boring
“Better single than sorry.” Words to live by. Thank you, Anna 🙏🥰🇨🇦
@@douglasalan5783 The absolute truth 💯
Imperfect women rejecting men for failing to be perfect.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam Is that solely focused on what a man must do to improve, or are we finally going to tell women what they need to do to be a good companion for a man? Because for decades it's been all about what a man needs to do....and we're tired of the BS, double-standards, unrealistic expectations and entitlement. Men are checking out and all I've heard is women complaining about "Where have all the good men gone?"
its called hypocrisy.
WE / THE BOTH PARTNERS, WE SHOULD COMPLIMENT, EACH OTHER'S WEAKNESSES? IF / OR WHEN I CAN'T ACHIEVE SOMETHING, THAN LET MY GAL / PARTNE RHELP ME OUT?? OR?! WHEN THINGS ARE, JUST ONE OF THOSE DAYS, THINGS DON'T COME TOGETHER? LET THTE GUY / PARTNER CHIP IN, AND HELP OUT HER??! THAT WILL COME OUT, TOT BE PRETTY GOOD?!! TAKE MY WORD FOR IT???!
Egg Xact Ly!
I quit adding because of Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens.
Fair pount, I have encountered those. Even when they acted feminine around me I could not agree with that logic.
That's cognitive dissonance, not quantum superposition.
nice!
Good use of quantum mechanics.
Not fear of commitment, fear of divorce.
@@TomTobin67 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
BINGO!
I'm once divorced in my late 20s, rebuilt my life once. Now, 25 years later and I'm a homeowner without a mortgage, have a decent six-figure job, zero debt, seven-figure retirement investments. I quit dating in my late 40s, it's just not worth the risk and the disappointment with who I was meeting was non-stop. I'm set up for an early retirement by 60 at the latest, I won't risk that for ANYONE at this stage of life.
The fear of commitment was the biggest lie ever sold. Men don't fear commitment. Men are convinced that their commitment can and will be used against them in a court of law.
Exactly
Where is the unjust divorce laws that favour women
43, single, childless and debt free. Have no interest in changing things either.
❤️ 🙏
Good for you. I'm 53 and same
@@Kristopher-ge7zc very lonely yourself. When old Will be worse
Selfish. Lonely. When old Who Will be with you 😢
@@SheilaSchwartz-t6c I know good men whose wives divorced them and alienated the kids against them. Those men ended the same you describe, but also lost half their $ and their homes. On the other hand, I knew an old man who was friend of my Dad, never married, no kids, but my Dad, aunts, uncles, and us kids always visited him while he was old, and attended his funeral.
I was shopping in a supermarket when i went to pay, the cashier was a cute, young black girl who was expressing interest in me. I gave her my number, and we went to the beach for a date. While getting to know her I come to find out she has 2 kids(one 3 years, the other 8 months old) from 2 different men. I asked what happened to them and she said they don't want to be in the kids life. I was really put off by the whole situation and told her this won't workout, and she couldn't understand why. When I told her why she said" just because i have kids, that doesn't mean I don't want love". True, but I told her when there's kids in the mix of dating I learned I'll always come dead last in your priorities. So another one to add to your list is "men don't want to date single mothers".Especially if the men have no kids themselves
Its always been crazy to me how women just seem to think their past never matters. Tell them your a high school dropout working a minimum wage job living in your moms basement at 30 years of age and watch them get dryer than the Sahara Desert as they judge you for your past decisions that put you in your current position but don't you dare judge them for for their past decisions even if they lead to them becoming a high body count single mom.
Single mothers *can* be OK. It's just you have to mentally prepare yourself for the baggage that comes from the ex-husband, the children, any legal and financial issues that she has from her previous relationship, etc. It's not a cakewalk.
Men are okay with that... mostly. The issue is the WHY she is in that situation and the clear understanding of how that will go for you. She's been around. Frequently. And clearly wants to keep going around. And wants those guys' $ when she leaves.
A real woman, good, caring... she's going to treat her new husband as he deserves and her child as they deserve. And a good man will love her kid as his own too. The key is WHY she has 2 kids from 2 men and is out looking.
She gave it away for free (at least twice) and wants you to pay.🤮
Tom Leykis preached this about single mothers for DECADES and they vilified him for it. Single for life and no kids no way!!! Look at the state of our schools, teachers quiting and crying because of these same kids and failed parenting. Peace solitude and no drama or screaming in my home. Whew!
I am fit, 6'5", make over 6 figures in a good career and stable environment. The problems that I've experienced have been; I'm expected to pay for everything even if my GF at the time is also well employed. I paid for vacations, dinners, movies sometimes including her two kids (good kids but not the point). Also, I was expected to be the handyman, electrician, carpenter, mechanic (skills I don't have - I'm an IT guy). Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough. Finally after 3 years I had enough. I've dated a little in the intervening years but nothing serious. I crave a partner, intimacy and sex but it shouldn't be at the expense of my peace. The modern woman (I'm in my 40's) only look to see what a man can bring to the relationship but offer little to nothing in return. Sex is something you do a few times a week, its the partnership and the intimacy that most men want and that's what makes good sex great sex.
@liamcage7208 Read my reply and go to another country and find a Traditional woman who knows her biological female role in the relationship. You will get sex whenever you want. Expect to pay for mostly everything, because the Man has to be the leader and a man's Traditional role is to be the provider. If a woman sees you as weak, she'll lose respect and attraction, and then your out. With the loss of her respect for you her legs won't spread anymore. This is all about matter of biology. There is so much more for you to learn. Keep watching Red Pill channels.
90% of women are not marriageable. They are good only for pumping and dumping. I suggest men them accordingly.
@liamcage7208 I am in the same boat as you. I'm 6ft make over 100k a year with excellent benefits. I own my own house and drive a Cadillac and have other vehicles. The main thing I have come across is the same as yours, which comes to the point that these women don't show why we should pursue them outside of their looks.
Maybe you should double your chances for a date on a Saturday night, and try dating a dude. Could solve all your problems.
Nobody held a gun to your head. You let your boundaries down. She ate you alive.
Some do not understand the difference between alone and lonely. Some don't know how to handle doing things solo. I have no issues doing things such as lifting weights, going out to eat or travel alone. What can ultimately suck is feeling lonely in a crowded room.
A mixed group of friends were chatting over coffee one afternoon when one of the women began to complain about the difficulties in the dating scene. Both the guys and the gals seem to agree. However, when she said; "I want to have a husband." I asked; "Do you want to be a wife?" Her mood darkened like an oncoming prairie thunderstorm. She became highly argumentative. I remained cool, as I had no issues to grind.
Afterwards, one of the men at the table, who had been quiet through most of the exchange, came over to me and thanked me. He kind of liked her and was planning to ask her out on a date. "I guess I escaped a bullet on that one", he said.
So in other words she sees wanting and having a husband as though a husband is a furniture piece? The man who was quiet at the table who thanked you kinda likes her. He should wise up and see how easily argumentative she became how much of a red flag that is. I'm guessing she has a very volatile personality. He should be careful about the kind of woman he takes a liking to.
She sounds like an ABC woman. Argumentative, Bossy, Combative. Enough said.
@@SwitchFoot2007 Basically yes
The average pathetic modern man with no values, moral compass and no spine has taught women that they can get married for all the benefits of having a husband, that is stability, shelter, "emotional security" etc and do whatever they want - sleep around and be hedonistic and generally morally reprehensible - regardless because there's no accountability, repercussions or consequences due to the aforementioned modern man
The husband is there to provide her with necessities while she goes out and indulges
*Modern dating has definitely changed, and it’s clear why so many are taking a step back. Men are prioritizing self-respect, mental health, and quality over quantity. Walking away isn’t quitting - it’s making room for what truly matters.*
"Asking" for 4 women in a lifetime should not a big ask, but it's proven to be one. Is 4 a big "quantity"?
@@SnabbKassadepends on how much of a pain in the ass is each of the 4 you're talking about.
@@ModernDatingMastery Absolutely
Quality over quantity??? Seriously, show me a quality woman.
@Tacamojoe2 They are rare and still here. Good men have never left either.
My last date was in 2017. She ended it abruptly when she discovered I didn't have a watch collection. Apparently she had an ex who had one that totaled over 20K and she had started to use that as a measurement of a man's finances, (how expensive were his hobbies) After a 15/20 second fit of screaming at me in a crowded restaurant she stormed out and I was left to finish dinner alone, and take her meal home for lunch the next day. After that I started seeing red flags everywhere and just stopped. I'm only a few birthdays from 50 and there's just nothing in it for me anymore. This mindset has sparked alot of anger in the women that have spoken to me since that revelation.
Better to live the life you want.
@stancooper5436 Cheap MFer, Broke Ass SOB, etc etc. After chatting with a few folks its about this time I heard the phrase "Don't pay full price for a used car." And I've stuck with that. I haven't "walked away" from dating it's just there is only so much work I'm going to put into it.
I am like you and now have peace in life with no entitled relashionship.OR BS.
At least you got 2 meals out of it. I hope she ordered something good. There was a positive to this. Women like that are miserable and bitter.That guyShe was with probably found a younger and more attractive woman, and that's on her.
That's what modern dating looks like
Delusional women with outlandish expectations who think they deserve the world, especially if they had a hot successful boyfriend
Brutal, literally animal behavior
Yup! Got it. Gave up. I sleep like a baby. My brother, cousin and uncle have convinced me to not get involved. And they didn't have to say a word. The system stands against men. Never enter into a contract where the other party is rewarded for breach.
Bravo 👏👏👏
Nailed it. One wouldn’t enter into such a contract with a “friend,” let alone a woman.
As a divorced man who had a wife who made him put down a $10,000 down payment on a house she kicked me out of a year later, yeah, I can vouch for that. The only reason I wouldn't delete that time of my life if given the chance is because of my 3 beautiful babies, as much crap as I went through, they made it worth it. Every time I see my daughters smile at me, and my son it reminds me why I'm alive. THEY ARE the reason I was put on this Earth, period.
Exactly right
@@BaronCadwa Count yourself lucky, many men end up being hated by their children due to the ex-wives feeding them lies and tries her best to remove his custody
SOME women think they’re doing you a favor by involving themselves with you,NO THANKS!!! 😓
Women swear their fish tacos hold that much valued 😆
The entitlement attitude of modern women is repulsive
@ my FORMER fiancé actually said… “l’m the best thing that’s ever happened to you!!!” and… “You need me!!!” 😤
@@skepticalsmurf There are plenty of smurfettes in the mushroom village... oh wait, there's only 1 because they're all the same anyway.
@ not quite,some other females do exist but most are spoken for,they prefer affluent smurfs 😉
I have seen too many guys that I served with get taken to the cleaners in divorce. These same men had possessions related to their service destroyed out of spite. I observed these situations and have seen how women behave on social media. I value my freedom. The key is to determine what you value and be mindful of resentment and anger. Keep up the good work!
I feel you. It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best ❤️ 🙏🏼
last woman i dated said everything was great, she loved me, youre so good to me. then one morning, i get a text that mentions she wasnt being her "true self". basically lying to me. im tired of being used and lied to.
She found a Chad that allowed her to be bad and toxic
How long did you date her?
That means she STILL DESIRE the tyrones, the problem is you ain't a Tyrone. She was pretending to love you when in reality she is NOT attracted to you.
why my policy is I don't spend nay money on dates, it is all actually us being together, she cooks I cook either one but we sure as hell not going to a bar or some flashy joint, if she can't pass that first simple test then, well still just the sheep and dogs greeting me when I get home, and been 20 years, this been a slow simmering problem.
That's crazy, that happened to me as well, after one year she told me " i don't feel myself" even tho she said to me in the first Place " i like the way you are you will help me to change and be better"
Women's inconsistency (Outside of Dating) is really challenging. I opened a door at my office for a female only to be ridiculed as a Pervy Creep... So I stopped. Weeks later, another female complained that I was rude for not opening the door for her...
When it comes to women, you're damned if you do... damned if you don't.🤦
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
The best thing to do is: don't.
I still open doors for women. Never been ridiculed. Reason seems to be that I'm more attractive than her and she knows that. So I cannot (or at least need not) be a perv nor a creep. But this mindset is really discriminating.
To be honest though, I don't hold the door for ugly or fat women. I seem to second hand retaliate :-)
@@spot997
Why do you open door for a woman?
Is she Boss?
I only open door for disabled person and children.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
I'm 6'3", fit (run 2.5h/week), with good money. I'm attractive (women will inquire/ask me out). The last few years have been abysmal in the dating world and everytime I commit, a long list of expectations comes to play, with harsh judgements and lack of reciprocity and respect. A heart can only love so many times. I now focus on my work, travel the world, and am at peace. I really hope to build a loving and lasting relationship in the future, but this is more of a fantasy than a reality. Discipline over passion.
“Your goal is not to find love, but to remove all barriers which are preventing you from receiving it.” - Rumi
"A heart can only love so many times."
I'm 46 and have lost the ability to love women. It's sad too because loving someone can be a very beautiful thing. That part of me simply doesn't exist anymore.
Treat her like a rag, she'll probably like it when you're assertive and dismissive
God forbid any long term commitment though, that's just for fun
@@roderickcortez138 28 and basically the same, I don't even see them as conscious human beings anymore
They behave like children at their best, animals at their worst
Married twice and have had many girlfriends over the years. All I can tell younger men is when you get a good one, it's good. A bad one will destroy you. Choose wisely...
Amen
I would say better to younger men. choose wisely not to commit…
And older men more successfully established…?!?
….never let one of them know anything, where you live, what you have…and even how you feel about them!
Hide everything!
That’s what I learned the hard way…
a gal only respects a man when there are consequences…
There is only the door…! Once they leave…they can’t come back! Make sure prior they don’t have a copy of the key!
No marriage, no cohabitation and no legacy!
Each one is a way women can legacy f$&k our lives up!
clear and direct…and has few options!
Any man who thinks there are good or bad ones doesn’t see the reality: all women will do women things…
That has little to do with being bad or good…
But just women!
And society doesn’t let US know the hidden truth…
They don’t have to play by our rulebook with the amount thirsty s!mps vouching for them!
My ex-wife destroyed my life. She was (is, I'm sure) awful
@@psyclotronxx3083 You…in fact no man…who gives a man commitment…deserves that!
@@psyclotronxx3083
I am sorry that you had to learn about women married to your then wife.
Its really not about the superficial, hurt, healing or anything like that. Its way past that. Its about not allowing yourself to be destroyed any more. No one is taking my house away from me any more. No one is taking my pay check, retirement fund, my car or anything that I own, away from me again. No one is putting me in county prison again for false allegations. No one is going to harm my children again or destroy their lives a second time. Can you understand this.
@@nickf2170 1000%
Preach brother
Stay away from women. They see men as nothing more than an ATM machine.
@@nickf2170 Don't chase women, chase excellence !
Keep your peace as much as possible 💯💯💯 !
I started seeing women's attitudes changing back in the 60's, and decade-by-decade it grew worse.
Twenty years ago in a casual discussion w/friends, I blurted out, "I ain't asking for Heaven, I just don't want Hell to move in with me..." I got a lot of shocked looks..and a few very thoughful ones.
A week ago I heard a slightly condensed version of my 'blurt' in a check-out line...and had to stifle a grin. Dang, I hate being right.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@OliverT-qt1gn Straight up right. Went literally through the valley of the shadow of death with the wrong woman in my life. She is pissed I am alive and breathing. And no she is still not marriage material and neither am I apparently. Her damage is done.
@@OliverT-qt1gn savage if you ask me.
The juice is not worth the squeeze. As a high value man, I have zero interest in tattoos, piercings, bad language, scantily-clad tarts
Agree!! I make good money but not into these modern ho’s!!
@@HunkyMan777 can you send send some of those stantally clad tarts my way? Jk
I’m an average man & I don’t like those qualities you mentioned 😂
As a high value man, congrats on your language too,
Tatoos and Piercings are a no-go.
I'm going through a divorce right now initiated by my wife of 12 years. I never saw it coming. I will NEVER get remarried without a prenuptial agreement.
Prenups are toilet paper
Women file divorce a vast majority of the time. Just expect it at this point . They give two shits about vows they are just jokes to most American women
iut's already something you even conceive the ethought of getting remarried.
I feel your pain. I got divorced after 28 years so I paid dearly - 50 % of my net worth. But it’s better now after 7 years I’m doing so much better financially and otherwise. I won’t even tell you what the evil ho did. I feel bad for my daughters who know what their mom did. Best wishes to you!!
@@chucke756 women initially win the divorce but lose on the back end, while men are the winners at the end. A 50 year old man that in decent shape and financially recovered has far higher smv that a 50 year old broke woman
Humanity. A relationship requires relating. Sharing stories, experiences, cares, struggles and joys, thoughts and feelings. Of 100 women I've spoken with or observed in community gatherings, 4% of them asked a man what's going on, what it's like, and how it is for him.
Meanwhile, I watched about 80% of men showing genuine interest in how things are for a woman.
Mutual awareness and companioning in life (relating) is not really a thing when men are treated as vending machines.
I don't know ANYWHERE that men are allowed to speak ... what's it's like for them, their "thoughts and feelings". You'd have to pay money to be allowed free speech.
Women only care if they are initially attracted, 4% of them probably asked a guy they thought looked hot
But it's also possible they asked a guy the same question he asked them with 0 interest
I sure as hell refuse to “buy” something others “rented”.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@boogitybear2283 a women’s sexual past makes you insecure?
@@guitart4909 tell me you are a simp without telling me you are a simp
@@ElSenorEls I’m not really interested in exchanging insults with strangers for validation. It’s not interesting or intelligent. But you do you buddy👍
@@guitart4909 no just disgusting and makes her untrustworthy as a partner if she gave her body away so freely and often to strangers
If I went to test drive a car, and the salesman told me I had to fill the tank, and pay $500 for the ride, but could only do 35mph...yeah but also no.
Then there is a chance the car wll get stolen but you have to keep filling the tank for 18 years and it will be a new guy driving it like he stole it each week....but I have to pay for the repairs...
A car guy with the perfect analogy.
Hold on, the initial sale left out that the car is in disrepair, needs initial repairs and had actually driven hundreds of thousands of miles and changed hands often
"Helping you decode modern women" turns to "helping you understanding men" - you are right, we want peace, not problems.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I remember sitting outside a local coffee shop circa 2001, minding my own business. Another regular customer, an attractive red-haired girl in her early twenties (I was seven or eight years older than her) looked at me and said, "I wouldn't go out with you because of that white patch you have on your right eyebrow." To which I replied, "Well, in the first place, I didn't ask. Secondly, since you brought it up, part of my eyebrow spontaneously turned white when I was fifteen. It's not like a fashion choice."
My point is that women have always been like this. "Let me tell you what's wrong with you. Let me tell you why I don't like you." I'll pass. The red-haired girl became an unwed mother shortly thereafter, which taught her a little humility.
I doubt that. Woman and humility just don't work together.
@JF-cd5hc She became much more civil. Maybe she was still thinking the same things, but she didn't say them; motherhood removed the barbs from her tongue.
lmao, women love to feel like they're the center of the universe and that their presence is a graceful blessing onto all onlookers
Personally I would've just called her fat or made up some miniscule thing that could be plausible about her look to make her feel self conscious and left it at that as logic does not travel through their ear ducts well, which is why you have to treat them like children and not like normal people
My reasons for walking away:
1) dishonesty and manipulation
2) the current obsession with "boyfriend tests" that are absurd, irrational, and at times borderline sadistic
3) the disturbingly common belief that men need to be and provide everything while the woman just shows up (if and when she feels like it)
4) a complete lack of accountability for their own actions
5) the bizarre belief that their immediate emotional response is more valid than objective facts
6) the lack of loyalty
7) the way women seem offended when men have fun or relax
8) the abuse when you do exactly what they ask, just not exactly how/when they wanted it
9) the expectation for men to be their personal atm
10) the demand to be open and vulnerable and the lifetime punishment after doing so
This is partially from experience, and partially from observing the way all 3 of my sisters have treated the men in their lives and the way they talk about/complain about the way they assume all men are and why their sh*tty behavior towards the men they encounter are the right thing to do.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Straight facts!
Thank you!
Once you understand she want you on the plantation, suddently every points make sense.
1) That's how women gain power
2) Women are children, so childish games are their forte
3) They're fine providing if they think you're hot, men are providers for the purpose of safety and stability while they sleep around and fish for better partners (and fathers)
4) refer to 2)
5) refer to 2)
6) I don't know where this came from in their behavior, probably lack of impulse control (low intelligence, childishness again) coupled with free access to "dating" apps and evolution
7) refer to 2), they love being the center of attention, but will like you less if you actually treat them as such
8) refer to 2)
9) refer to 3)
10) refer to 1) and 3), modern women hate what they think are "weak" men, that is men who aren't stoic psychopaths/sociopaths and if she isn't into you it's a manipulation strategy (she'll like you less on top of that if it's possible)
Right now, my job is my top priority. It takes care of me, keeps me safe, and rewards my hard work. Why would I even think about dating someone who doesn’t need me, constantly demands my attention, and never shows me any appreciation? I don’t want to settle for someone who will replace me at the first sign of weakness. Oh, and by the way, they prefer to be with a bear instead of me…
Yes, multiple red flags. 1) Making sure you can support her expensive tastes. 2) Gathering all your life long collections and selling them for her expensive tastes... or just destroying your things to make room for hers.
My house my rules, I'm not going to put up with selfish women ever again. Feel free to stop by but not stay.
It sounds like you’re on the right track!
I wouldn't date a woman that doesn't have her own home.
She stays in her house and I stay in mine.
@@Autonomous1969 …” dating “ as the guys knows it ….it DEAD .
😂😂 @@Autonomous1969
@@Autonomous1969 easier to say that done, but agreee
i'm 36, was married for less than a year after being together for 5 total and even I feel like tapping out. I am 6'3, make multiiple 6 figures and how much my ex got out of me without us having any kids whatsoever will scar a man for life from getting involved. my freedom now is priceless and where i'm going will haunt any woman that said no to me.
@@progvisions same thing happened to me. Dated 4 years, married 11 months and it was the worst 11 months of my life then lost 100k. Never again
@@JeremySRRT fk sry to hear. technically i lost $50K, but the investment went up substantially ie. I put 50K, she put 50K, and my own mother gifted us $160k so we could afford our own condo. it is now worth double of that price we got it at, meaning as when she sells, she will get $500K. the intention was always going to be half hers, half mine, so around $250K lost by getting involved, but out of pocket was $50
I was married less than 2 years -- cost me over $400k and that's with no kids. Tell me again why a man should get married today?
For richer or poorer; in sickness and in health; for better or for worse. These were obviously written by a man. For women, it’s merely an inspirational quote on their big day. Saw this somewhere and it resonated. Men are in love, women are in business.
Social media is ruining most single women. The endless attention women get all the time everywhere is so absurd and causes entitled arrogant attitudes that many men are fed up. Only becoming worse every year from my experiences.
This is the best comment on this whole page. Fucking spot on brother. There seems to be a ton of chauvinism going around on these that I refuse to partake in. But even relatively attractive women are getting INSANE amounts of attention online. This creates a perverse level of entitlement and inflated ego that men simply do NOT get the chance to achieve except as celebrities. I've said this before and I seriously think it's true. Hot women = male celebrities.
Nothing will ever convince me that dating isn't a complete waste of my time and money. For context, I'm a heterosexual male in my 30's with a fulltime job that leaves me with very little time and energy to devote to things that I actually care about. I'm willing to bet this also describes an overwhelming majority of people who feel the same way.
I have to state that i am older than the hills and tend to be blunt. So i will apologize if i offend anybody. It wasn't intentional. I believe the video is missing the single biggest reason men are walking away from dating. Over the last 20 years, there as been a huge cultural shift in the US and men who grew up in this era grew up being told men were evil, masculinity was toxic and if they showed these traits they might get themselves into big trouble. No wonder they are skittish and aren't quite sure how to deal with woman. Of course it's the nice guys and the shy ones who took this all the heart. I learned this from my sons, nephews, their friends and guys i used to coach. All you have to do is sit in a local watering hole and listen to them talk. It's sad. They all have stories (true or not) of guys being kicked of out of college because of an accusation by a woman. without even being asked for their side. Guys losing gym memberships because they were accused of 'leering'. One guy i know for a fact, lost his gym membership because his workout was too intense. Some woman posted on tiktok that he was body shaming and she felt uncomfortable. The guy was training for a tryout with a semi pro soccer team. We are talking about good guys around 30,, mostly college graduates with good jobs. Don't drink excessively or do drugs and would sell their souls to meet the right woman. They are brave, standup guys; aggressive on the sports fields and at work, building good careers but have this unhealthy almost overwhelming fear of single women. Where am I? Everywhere USA. If women understood this and learned how to make them feel comfortable, these guys would be theirs forever. Trust me.. Just my opinion.
"would sell their souls to meet the right woman" Found the problem. Pedestalising women means also being ok with all their crap.
I don't get Women today. "I'm a 10", what? I don't need a man...Who built this building, the roads you take to the mall, the Mall itself, the car you drive, the people that maintain that car...I find it personally insulting when a Woman says that. The reality is, MEN don't really need Women, Who wants to have to pay someone else's way, especially when they, 1. Don't appreciate it and 2. Often times, DEMAND it. Growing up, I was sold a different story. That a marriage was a partnership, I haven't found a Woman that wanted to be on MY team since the 80's!! Too bad that didn't work out, long story. Anywho, I don't even expect to find anyone compatible, anymore. Why should I work my ass off? For what? I am a simple man with simple needs and wants, which I can now, mostly, afford on my own, not working my ass off!! /rant
Amazing how cheap life is on your own. I ruled out marriage in this country in my early 30s because when i started crunching the numbers I realized I could be retired in my early to mid 40s. Consequently should I get married and end up divorced that would ensure I'm working into my 60s instead. Just not worth it, especially when early retirement could just lead to life in another country with a lower cost of living and where the women are raised with more traditional values.
64 years old, divorced twice. Both times thrown under the bus. Last one 4 years ago after 23 years. 10 years sexless.
I'm done. The whole thing now bores me to tears.....
57 years old, I was work my wife 32 years, she too started trying to use sex to manipulate me my last 10 years was sexless and when I say sexless I mean sexless it finally broke me mentally and spiritually and I filed for the divorce and now she's playing the victim shocking and yeah I have no interest in pursuing any woman at all, I'm out
10 years sexless? You should have divorced her 10 years ago, cause she had already stopped being your wife and became your roommate.
@thystaff742 agreed sir it's because of my religious beliefs that kept me from doing so until I finally realized that is a form of abuse which the Bible does not condone
@TheHillrat4wd It's a form of abuse, and she wasn't doing her duty as your wife. Wives are to submit to their husbands. That is their vow at marriage. When broken, then the marriage is over.
@thystaff742 agreed, it took me a long time to realize that. I loved her and still desired her tremendously but did not realize that it was abusive until it literally broke me mentally and spiritually and then I had no choice I had to get out
Simple: tired of the BS, the drama, and the manipulative games.
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This is terribly important topic. Younger mean appear totally disheartened. Younger women seem to have embraced ridiculous standards based on the deception that "every woman is a 10, so every woman can expect to be with a 10." Women have been taught that business success makes them prime partners, when most men simply don't care about that. They want a woman who is compassionate, loving, and supportive -- qualities that elude many of the boss babe types. The disconnect between men and women has never been greater in my lifetime than it is right now. The social media echo chambers (e.g., "man or bear", "all woman are golddiggers", "all men are trash") is increasing the abyss between sexes. If we fried every device hooked to social media for a year, the rift between them would close significantly. If people had to deal with each other face-to-face without the asinine echo chambers attached to their brains, we'd be so much better off! (I lived that in my youth) Anna: I'd say you look lovely in the outfits of the day, but you're Anna -- you always look lovely. ;) Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/I think my dogs feel the intensity of this topic -- they are wrestling on the floor at the moment.
Absolutely, you nailed it! For young people especially, social media is more toxic than positive. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Scratch for the pooches when they finish playing lol
Tbh, in my experience, both younger men and women have absurd expectations driving their entitlement.
Where younger men seem to think that they are owed virgin, fertile, bangmaids that are greatful to them bc they are doing the bare minimum.
remember when people thought *confidence was the answer* lol, so much for confidence. We mgtows warned yall.
@@memegazer Throughout history, that is what most men married. These days you got chubby 30 something year old single moms that would make you cringe if you knew their body counts thinking Prince Charming will come sweep them off their feet.
I'm not here to tell everyone how they should be living or anything, but I'm not exactly surprised more men of my generation are saying no to marriage than previous generations have, and I'm also not surprised to see the passport bros thing gaining steam with my generation. What is expected of men to be a "good man" hasn't changed since my grandfathers generation, yet the quality of women has declined so much in that same time span the average female today would have been considered un-dateable trash a couple generations ago. When it comes to women, average of my grandparents generation is what most men would consider a unicorn today.
@@randomyoutuber308
If you have any way to prove your claim I invite you to try.
I am willing to concede throughout history it has been a common male ideal, but not that it was ever a common reality.
"Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough"
~ mentioned by a gentleman in one of his comments. This is the core problem we face - lack of balance, too much entitlement and expectations by the partner lead to complete exhaustion for us.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
@@YourWingmamyour generic responses are cringe
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
@@zeenuf00 That's all women do at best....basically "I'm sorry you feel that way" mentality....it's sad, but is what it is. No wonder men are avoiding women today. Not worth the effort to get half-assed results!
"Lastly, I tried but nothing I did was ever enough"
Because she wasn't into him and nothing short of a complete body metamorphosis could change that
I’m a man and I approve this message. Happily married to a woman that has 0 social media, carriers her own weight, and is a good cook! Love you babe ❤
This video was a refresher course on why Im never dating again
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam Click, copy, paste --- glad you have so much invested in your comments....this is like the 5th time I've seen the same response from you.
@YourWingmam and as a woman you have NO idea what is best for a man. Absolutely none 😂
Kindness?
Loyalty?
Reliability?
I fell off my chair. Anna, I think you are the first woman I’ve heard uttering such qualities and suggesting that women seek such.
To build a healthy relationship, you need to have a strong foundation
But leftie women would frame those things as archaic and hyper-traditionalist
@@SnabbKassa let all leftie women to go a world cruise for 4 ys
My quirky sense of humor bade me make use of the words "build" and "frame" in the two replies here and to trot out an old mountain sayin': "You cain't build good with rotten wood."
MY QUESTION IS, ARE ALWAYS, MOST OF THE WOMEN, AS WHAT THEY ARE ASKING FOR / DEMANDING??! = A C O I N H A S = 2 = S I D E S TO IT / STILL!!! * !!! =
Because I’ve never been looked at, smiled at, spoken to. 65 and not sure how much longer I want to endure loneliness and being absolutely ignored by all women, my ENTIRE LIFE
Yup
It's extremely telling that all the comments I read on here are all from men and none from women. That says everything you need to know right there. The lady making this video means well, and I don't mean this sarcastically, but most of us men, (except for maybe the younger guys), already know what you are talking about here. It is women you need to convince of all these things, but unfortunately, that will fall on deaf ears and they don't want to hear it.
@ We’re tired for very different reasons 🤣
Re: “women want the same things men want”
Based on several decades of harsh reality, I have found quite the opposite, meaning men and women want totally different things, despite some overlapping terminology.
Ask the same questions to men, and women, and drill down into the answers, and be blown away.
EG: What is;
Love
Respect
Loyalty
Kindness
Dedication
Compassion
Sincerity
Truth
Success
Failure
Etc
Virtually everyone would agree that love, or kindness, is good and to be part of relationships, but then consider what it looks like to each gender.
Now watch the fur fly as disagreements about definition abound.
We are looking for same things, only different. I’m so burned out it’s not even funny. It’s Tower of Babel confusion of tongues all over again.
She already knows that most wmn de$pi$e men. Women are just trying to keep as many men as possible on the slavery plantation. Stay away from women.
She already knows that most wmn de$pi$e men. Women are just trying to keep as many men on the slavery plantation as possible. Stay away from them.
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600I don't buy it. That is, that women want the same things men want. Women are hypergamous, not men. Women seek wealthier mates, men don't. But modern feminism has masculinized women. That is the root cause.
I’ve walked away. Tired of the never ended ghosting, rejection and being ignored. I wanted a relationship but women have made it impossible for average guys. Now I have no interest. Good luck ladies keep chasing chads it’s working out so well for you😂😂
The ridiculously high expectations of these women, stem from popular social media. Women need to wake up if they want a real man in their life
same, walking away. ghosting, ignored, bread crumbing and reject after reject. had my fair share, its time to just let go and walk away
Only long term concern of mine being 59, no Gf or wife or kids is endgame of my estate, no longer worried about someone inheriting my government pension or future SS. But there's still the house, etc.
a lot of so-called chads not interested in modern women either, not even pump and dump.
But what makes you think that you’re not below average and maybe you’re aiming out of your league?
An incisive exploration of why many men are stepping away from the dating scene. One point that strikes me, though not explicitly addressed, is the impact of choice overload. In today’s world, swiping through endless profiles or constantly comparing potential partners creates a paradox of too much choice. This phenomenon not only fosters indecision but also diminishes satisfaction with any choice made.
A man like ‘Jake’ might feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of options, compounded by the societal pressures and unrealistic expectations discussed here. Sometimes, it’s not just about whether the juice is worth the squeeze-it’s whether the orchard feels too vast to even bother picking.
Perhaps the antidote lies in simplifying intentions: focusing less on external validation or meeting a checklist, and more on fostering authentic connections grounded in shared values. In a world of infinite scrolling, clarity of purpose might just be the rarest-and most valuable-trait of all
There’s a ton of fruit in that orchard, unfortunately it’s all spoiled.
I honestly don't see any advantage of disturbing my peace that i have finally got back. A man who works his ass off and gets comfortable with his career and enjoys a simple life doesn't want to sacrifice what they have worked for, for so long. If a woman can't add to my peace, it's not worth it.
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agreed, it may not be the worst thing that can ever happen to you but when you get ripped off it feels like the worst thing ever. I have had my house broken into before and my personal things stolen. Not saying all women are bad but I sure fear giving them a chance. people suck in general now days. society is a chuncky swirly.
One day, the woman who I was convinced was my soul mate, told me I was broke and fat, she didn't love me anymore, and she wanted a divorce. That kinda kicked a big ol' hole with jagged edges right in the middle of me. Sixteen years later and I still feel hollow inside. I know there are good women around, but I feel like I'm played out and have nothing left to offer.
Rest assured SHE is now broke and fat after 16 years.
get a dog, take time to find one with a matching personality, you'll need little ells from then on out.
@Refertech101 His name is Goose. He's a deaf pitbull. Adopted him about 8 years ago.
@JosephCornelius-yg8rd : She doesn't love you anymore? Never has!
Dogs are better people than most humans.
I have given up on dating because it’s not worth it. Too much to lose.
Probably the best video I’ve seen on this issue.
I am Jake!!!
I’ve given up. I’m tired of being heartbroken and ghosted.
I’m part of the invisible majority of men (older, not tall, not traditionally attractive) that gets no attention from women.
I own my flaws and idiosyncrasies and work to improve myself daily. I’m loyal, love children and animals, am financially stable, funny, chivalrous and have so much love to give but it’s still not enough.
I pray that you receive the woman who is truly best for you, the woman God has for you 🙏
🐕🦺Why are Dog's more loyal than wives?🐾
you still haven’t figured it out huh? hint: they *don’t respect* you soft “love”-worshipping types. stop treating them like you’re a Rom Com protagonist. stop being a weak nice guy
@@truthtelleranon hes not weak, hes just good
that evil bitches perceives being good as a flaw - if they can use that everybody can use that again him - so hes "weak" not good
fucking wolrd we live in... ffs
Get a passport and go to one of former Soviet Bloc countries where women are still women
I've spent the last 6 months building a small off grid cabin on my property.
Which had a lot of opportunity costs.
No dating, no time for it.
I believe I've made the right choice.
You're focused and creating something. That's awesome!
Do you get casual action?
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu
Ain't even tried
You have. Just make sure you also develop a relationship with the Lord. That’s gonna be real important in due time. It’s partly why things are the way they are. The times……..
Need a roommate?
The best first date i ever had was when she said im open to dinner at any place and i will pay for my meal. I chose a very nice place and enjoyed my meal and drinks fully, stress free and was able to focus on her. She showed me im not using you and im contributing to us getting to know each other. We are still together.
At 5:00, if a woman doesn’t need a man, but instead says that she only “wants” a man, then that relegates the man to being an accessory. Accessories get replaced, which explains why the spouse most likely to cast away their marriage is the woman.
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Solution: Be Chad, Chad dates 2 to 5 women (spins plates) at a time enjoying all women have to offer without commitment. Never in any time in history have women so easily given up their Vjay’s & with this there is zero reason to ever commit to just one woman.
As soon as a man is not needed, but wanted, this turns off 99% of men. If a woman says that to me, it's the relationship kiss of death.
What you say is correct, the problem is that the female brain is highly defective and very similar in ways to the Democrap brain which is completely dysfunctional, delusional, and lacks anything remotely resembling reality.
@@Random-rt5ecyes of course what you say is spot on accurate and true, but we are dealing with a brain in the female skull that is lacking in so many ways that it's futile to attempt to mesh with this monster of a human being.
A couple of years ago, a family friend had passed away. She was a sweet woman, really great cook, great mother, pretty average looking and a bit of a church lady but she was a character. Anyway, the Pastor had said a few words about how she met her husband, who was with her until the day she died. She said she had just three criteria, and keep in mind, this was a list she had when she was in her 20s:
1) He can't be abusive (physically or emotionally)
2) He can't be an alcoholic (or into any other drugs for that matter)
3) He has to be a good Faithful man (ie. a good Christian and not a cheater)
Every time I see a video about the average women is out there and their criteria lists, I keep thinking back to her very realistic and achievable list and think; my God how times have changed, and that these women is simply going to die alone. Think about the love and joy this woman gave, and how little some of these women really have to offer.
Its funny, as a guy, my list is 1. Don't be a drinker/smoker/drug user, 2. Body count you can count on one hand, 3. and the shallow one don't be fat and covered in trashy tattoos. Those are all things I'd fit the criteria of, but yet, I think I'm down to about 2% of the female population. Oh well...looks like I'll be single for life(or at least til I passport bro it in a couple more years) along with the women with 8000 criteria because the bar for women is literally this low and they still can't clear it.
If women only required those 3, they would all be happily married. I would also add "Someone you are attracted to and someone who you are generally compatible with"
@@randomyoutuber308 2% is wildly inaccurate, you should try 2‰
I just discovered your channel a few days ago, Anna, and have been watching a lot of your videos. So enlightening and I appreciate you mixing in humor along with reality checks. Keep up the great work!
The lack of reciprocation is the one that bothers me the most.
Also, on the dating apps it seems like the only reason women are on the dating apps is so they can reject men. Rejecting men is their HOBBY.
We men can play that game too.
6 months ago at the age of 30, I decided to give up on dating and not make it a priority. The term “the juice is not worth the squeeze” will forever be absolutely true.
I don’t use dumb dating apps, these are women that I meet in person and I still get ghosted even though they tell me they can’t wait to go out with me.
I’m tall, handsome, dress and groom myself extremely well, treat others with respect, in the gym 5 days a week, making more money, doing fun hobbies, but no matter how much I put myself out there, I’m still completely invisible to women.
It’s very discouraging to say the least. Dating unfortunately has become a game. The purpose of playing a game is to win so in my opinion, why bother playing a game you know you can’t win?
I got so tired of putting so much effort into something and getting nothing out of it in return. From now on, I’m doing all of these things for me, not to impress women.
This is not what I wanted. God had intended us to get married, have children and be upstanding citizens. Unfortunately today, myself and more people than ever before will die alone and never pass on their genes.
Anna, you are so incredibly wonderful. I have always loved your videos. Your beauty, personality, kindness and wits always make for a delightful treat! Thank you for reading my comment ❤️
She was never yours just your turn. 😂😂😂😂 !!! Wait till that one hits home. STAY MGTOW
Very insightful. Thank you for posting this video.
After fourteen years of marriage! I'm done with women for the rest of my life, and I'm doing what you're saying! I guess it's a natural response! Very interesting
@@scottlucas5313 - Me too. My 13 year marriage ended and my ex is sucking me dry. I’m paying over $4,000 / mo in child support and alimony. Never again. I’m never committing another cent to a woman.
Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and 85 percent are initiated by woman , wow that speaks volume. I had 2 relationships and were with only takers when I stop giving they moved on .
@@denisbelanger4473 Another disturbing statistic: A survey done a few years ago found that eighty percent of married women do not love their husbands. So even if she stays with a guy, she probably doesn't love him.
JUST HELPING YOU MY FRIEND ; 61 % ! ! BY THE WAY, I SIMPATIZE WITH YOU.
Outstanding video! I have watched a lot of videos on dating and have never seen one that is better than this one!!
Thank you for the kind words, I'm glad you found it of value!
I don’t date anymore I have a house in Greece and Canada and I travel a lot , and meet many women but I don’t need a woman at all .. I will spend my money on myself …every woman I meet has exes still lingering around and full of emotional problems etc … no way , I’m happy and healthy
Nice, you have a house in Greece 🇬🇷.
@ yes I do on the island of Karpathos
What about sex? Porn really sucks.
@@VoxWodler lots of Russian girls , Croatian girls and Ukrainian girls in Greece , that live and work … no problem with sex , now in Canada it a different storey …
I'm a guy and the most frustrating thing I've experienced several times is sudden, unexplained abandonment. The relationship seems to be going very well and a good connection seems to be forming. The relationship may even have moved on to physical intimacy. You have a passionate night with someone, ending with kind words and a hug and kiss in the morning. Then they immediately start ghosting you and you never hear from them again. I think a lot of women want a nice relationship with a good man, but past relationship trauma makes them too afraid to stay in the relationship they desperately want, and so they just have to bail out. I feel sorry for them, but I've been stung a few times this way and its extremely unpleasant.
@@joevignolor4u949 ..or you’re behaving in ways that are unattractive to them.
Needy, move too fast, bad lover, etc
Ahhh the result of one night stands …. Unfortunately we as men are paying for the sin of mankind from the beginning. Men are leaving broken women within the world when we don’t commit to them in marriage . Hard truth to hear but it’s almost like a catch 22. Women control access to sex , men enable the relationship potentially leading to marriage . Sad truth but the cycle repeats , but this time looks like the lesson will never be learned . Society is screwed . AI is coming for all ladies !
No matter how in love with you a woman is, all it takes for her to instantly lose all interest in you is for a tatted-up loser to drag a guitar past her. There's no loyalty, ever.
@@BLVCKPEPPER4Kmen are not the ones leaving marriages at high rates- it’s women. Change the marriage laws to be more equitable for men and I’m sure you’d see more guys signing up
Outside of that- you have social media, dating apps, and a culture telling women to focus on their careers. They get free attention online, unlimited romantic partners on apps, and their hypergamy wont be satisfied for a larger pool of men once they begin making more money
Society is upside down right now- it’s multi faceted. Not just on men not wanting to marry
you’ve got it all wrong 😂
I realised we no longer need each other. My ex wife did me a massive favour when she left for no obvious reason after a 17 year marriage. It made me realise that we no longer respect traditions or each other. So it doesn't really matter what anybody says because for me I'm out. I retired at 40 and I've been traveling the world ever since on my own oh and thoroughly enjoying it. I will never consider a serious relationship again.
She found somebody else, or she thought she did and he left her shortly after, or is now stuck in an abusive relationship
Or maybe her "friends" or social media convinced her to move on
Traditions don't exist, morality degrades and society decays
Funniest thing is that men are the ones to blame, as we are the only ones with any real actual power in the physical world
I've seen a number of post like this and comments to them. Sounds like it all really boils down to two things: 1) Lack of appreciation and 2) High expectations. For men, if their efforts to please are never good enough or appreciated and their partner (dating or otherwise) sets unattainable goals for them, it's exhausting. It's not a surprise that many men are walking away.
You covered it all. Here is the modern-day dating situation (or conundrum, if you will) in a nutshell: men don't want to go through all the expectations of dating women and women do not want to date men unless they first accept all the expectations of dating them; it's a stalemate. The result? Untold numbers of men and women over 35 who are unmarried, childless and could care less. That's the reality of today's world brought on by social media's influence over everyone.
Nailed it. There are so many reasons that I gave up on dating and you summed it all up nicely. Overall, just too much trouble, and I never again want to be trapped in a relationship where everything I do is wrong and all my complaints or concerns are invalid.
There is nothing better than being single (or single dad) and decide to never ever date. It's so much easier to stay fit and build wealth/invest without a woman, and there is no drama, no drain, and just complete peace and freedom. Freedom to pursue projects, hobbies, hike or exercise, make music.... the list of opportunities that open up are endless. But it has to come from a decision to bring clarity. I don't dislike women, but today a quality woman is quite rare (entitlement, high body counts, feminism, argumentativeness, monkey branchers and gold diggers..., etc..), and the legal system etc. is also biased against men (whether it's custody issues or false allegations), so in this day and age it's simple better to be single. Stay well! Stay single!
Well said!
@@jans724 agreed 100%.
Exactly, I got dochter from 10 years relationship so I don't have to look for anybody to have kids.
Last year I bought small yacht and I have spent almost 5 months on water. This year I'm buying second to have also in different country 😊
Life is really peaceful and drama free without modern women.
This video hits a lot of really important points. But, even more important is how the legal courts treat men. When it comes to divorce for men it is a losing deal. Also, recently I discovered that in most states if a man's wife gets pregnant by another man, the husband is legally presumed to be the father! Forcing him to pay for raising a kid that isn't even HIS! And he can't do anything about it unless the real father agrees to legally acknowledge paternity! PATERNITY FRAUD!!! THIS IS CRIMINAL!!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam Turning an innocent man into an indentured servant isn't what's best. It's unjust. Laws mandating DNA testing at birth before a man signs the birth certificate would go a long way to remedy this kind of thing. Simple and cheap to do these days.
@@ThorfinnSkullsplitter-fz7ff Do you wonder why some kids grow up in abusive homes, can you imagine a man forced by circumstances to take care of a seed that is not his..bad outcome.
Thank you and I think this was one of your best ever. Thanks for the care and understanding you show for men. ❤
I used to LOVE approaching women, even though most of the time it'd end in nothing more than a fun conversation. But these days, you're more likely to get told by management that they've gotten complaints about you than you are to get any actual interest. It's just not worth it.
Shouldn't really approach girls at work or gym. Public is fine as it's a free for all. Best place is events where there is a mutual understanding,,
@@jamescameron204 Wise words.
@@jamescameron204 You can absolutely approach girls at the gym. But you need to be more clever and patient because you will see them again and again. Essentially you ask to work in with them, break the ice but make no advance. Then say hello next time you run into them basically developing platonic rapport. Then say there is a holiday weekend coming up. You could casually ask them if they have anything fun planned. If she's not into you she will say "Yeah, I'm doing X with my boyfriend" o.k. you have your answer. But if she's into you she might say "Well I wanted to go to ___ but I have no one to go with". Hint, hint! So you can explore a woman's interest level without actually getting rejected or being labeled a creep.
@@bearclaw5115good advice
"Outlick" jeje! I just left a two year relationship. It's going for 2 weeks being single and let me say that it feels like I can actually breathe.
I earn over six figures, stable, can cook, I'm a gentleman, house owner, cars, I invest and so on.
All I was asking was a little bit of appreciation and respect.
And you got none... Cause they offer us nothing more than whatever they want us to do for them..
But how are your looks and personality??
Wow. It is so refreshing to hear a woman state this. Excellent video, thank you.
My pleasure ❤️
In my experience there is one and only one reason that justifies the trouble of being with a woman and that is to have children. That I could not do alone. Since I have my children and do not have any energy left to have others, I do not see why I should ruin my life with another woman. That being said, I will allways be thankful to my ex for our children. And so we are clear, she is the one who initiated the divorce. I did not let her down.
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
But I bet she claimed the victim aspect, am I right?!
Given the choice I would without question go back in time and adopt.
I said it many years ago. These women will serve as an example of what not to believe or do for the future generations of women.
If there are future generations.
Not sure, this problem goes back to ancient times all across the world. It's why patriarchy existed, our societies couldn't have existed otherwise.
It is good to see someone out here trying to help us all despite how nearly hopeless this current time seems for relationships. God Bless You and I wish you great success.
I took a trip to Brazil for a week, came back to the states and decided dating here it’s not worth it. Fellas go where your appreciated not tolerated
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. J o h n 3 :16
Gotta also be careful not to fall for the "immigrant trap" (as i call it). Basically, a foreign woman uses you to gain citizenship in the U.S. with a marriage, then divorces you (and takes yer stuff). I've heard of horror stories like that happening. Tragic stuff.
Experienced every single one of these through my mid 20s and early 30s.. Many bad stories to go along with that.
While not totally turning my back on a possible relationship. I have actually internalized my own list of requirements and maybe I'm just "old fashioned". But today's single women don't measure up.. Note I write single, because those who fit my requirements appear to have been snatched up early (or bat for the other team). And after 15 years struggling to rebuild my life and a ER scare. I find I just won't put up with the BS anymore and dating just feels so very toxic now.
This is my philosophy of life, it humbles me and reminds me to stay centered.
Walking your life's journey is a solitary endeavor. But doesn't have to be a lonely one.
Self assurance and self love play a part in finding your center creating self reliance.
But, should a partner or two cross paths. Enjoy the time together for however long it may last.
And realize, this too shall end.
Do not feel sorrow, revel in what you gained, not what you lost.
Keep moving forward, keep walking along your journey.
For when you stop, the story ends.
I love the philosophy of life. My main goal is to maximize the amount of joy in my life. This dovetails nicely.
I needed this.. thank you.. Merry Christmas and a Happier New Year..
Dear Anna:
Some men are not just walking away; they are running and hiding. It is terrible out there, and I personally do not blame them. I am one of the few who is still actively searching, and believe me, I am looking under the rocks. You hit the nail in the head as usual, some women are looking for Mr. Perfect, and albeit some of us come close(joke, I am not that arrogant) he does not exist. I believe too many women are so focused on what us men bring to the table, that they believe thay are just supposed to sit down and be served.
That is all for now, my pretty pen-pal from Canada. I hope you are having an awesome weekend and your week just rocks to no end. You, as usual looked beautiful in both outfits. Hug and a peck on each cheek, sending you lots of love from Texas!!!
I appreciate the compliments and I think you're right. There are a lot of women out there looking for a unicorn. :)) Texas ;)
Damn like this gal doesn’t get enough validation! Clean up the saliva when you walk out her channel!
@@YourWingmamI think they are all looking for a unicorn, the standards are so incredibly high now. As you stated, supply and demand. Crazy times. 😅
Still posting comments after what 5 years now? It's clear you aren't making any progress.
@@FactsBeFactsyou read his comment right? 😂😂😂
I got burned pretty bad in my divorce. Have I walked away? I can tell you I'm not going to bother dating until I'm down to my high school weight and I'm fully expecting to walk out on dates the moment she spills a red-flag out of her mouth. My own children (both boys) will grow up being wary of women, and they'll get cut out of the will if they marry without a prenup. I'd like to eventually find someone, but I refuse to lower my defenses at this point. And believe me, I'VE GOT MY DUKES UP.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
The only way to be. Protect yourself at all times, keep it above the belt. Lets make this a good, clean fight
@@YourWingmam So in other words, "Who hurt you?" 🤣
Well done, ma'am! Thanks.
My pleasure ❤️
Your channel is so important. Should be much much larger. Another comment for the algorithm.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much. I appreciate that 🙏
I will say that I agree with what you are saying. The laws need changed first. Quite frankly, any monetary distribution should be based on the percentage of money earned and not some arbitrary amount. While there is consideration that a "stay at home mom" may do work around the house, there is zero consideration for the fact that the man may come home from work, do home repairs, yard work, etc. So, the women gets credit for a non-monetary guess, the man gets no credit for his non-monetary contributions. The bottom line is the laws need changed.
To be fair about it, for a SAH spouse, the "free" room and board far exceeds the value of doing a little cooking cleaning and housework. I do all that stuff for myself now and it isn't a big deal. If I had another adult I was doing it for it doesn't mean all that stuff takes twice the time. Cooking for example...I could just cook the same stuff I cook now just in bigger portions, and its almost no added time to what I already do. If I had kids and had to do that stuff for the kids...they're your kids, you'd still be taking care of them whether married or not lol.
But yeah, your right, the laws need to change. If they don't its going to just keep going down the path we're on...women will continue to wreck men in divorces and less and less men will be willing to put a ring on it.
Where I live the woman would only be entitled to half the capital accumulated during the marriage. So if I guy married a woman without assets and was worth 200k but gets divorced 3 years later and their joint worth has grown to 300k she would be awarded 50k . It would also be the same for the man if the woman had the money when they married. This seems to me a reasonably fair system.
Great video! Due to its increasing rarity, common sense is so refreshing when you hear it these days.
50 + yo man.
Im lucky to have experienced true and powerful love.
Its a beautiful force to behold with another.
Ive been single for 5 year and have chosen not to live with a woman for almost 20 years.
I will never let a woman live with me. Recent history has proven that its just not worth it for men.
Women value to men has dissolved.
Things i look for in a woman.
Good posture.
Healthy habits.
A woman who understands animal husbandry.
A woman who knows the season's and has homesteading skills.
A woman who can make and repair her own clothes.
A woman who can cook and preserve foods.
Education is not as important as knowledge and common sense.
I don't care at all how much money you have or how many degrees you have hanging on the wall.
Oh no pearcings or tattoos
Finally, someone who at least appears to be listening.
Very nice insight. Thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
one big issue I am finding is that so many women are dating that shouldn't be. For one reason or another they aren't ready to date but still do. They waste your time leading you on just to go for a "better option" later.
Another thing about online dating is that are many women who are in a relationship but on the apps, to see if men still find them attractive. Also men are scared to be accused of all sorts things after the first date. If I do see a young a couple on a date they are both on their phones.
For me it's point nr.10 you mentioned.
I value independence and the freedom to connect with who I want, whenever I want. Relationships often come with restrictions and limitations, which I'm not going to put myself through again.
The single life is the best life👌🏼
Good episode. As someone who started writing a book on dating years ago, I cannot finish because I no longer believe dating is worth it. I still date, but mostly for learning purposes, and a sense of adventure, but the vast majority of women I meet seem to be detached from reality. I am really starting to empathize with the Men Go Their Own Way culture. I've been following you for years, so keep up the good work. I hope you try watching the Fiamango Report on RUclips and commenting on her and other honey badgers.
I’ll look for those channels, thank you for watching mine! Maybe you can write a book on staying single (?)
@@YourWingmamMen don't want to have relationships with women. Why would I sign up to lose my money and end up in financial ruin?
@@YourWingmam LOL, you know, I do know more now about staying single that dating. Thank you for the suggestion.