Someone Needs a Bath
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
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My name is Jay Swanson - I'm an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they'll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I've learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.
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The definition of a great vlogger is one that you would watch bathe his dog!
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Cooper is such a good boy! You've done an excellent job raising him
Thank you! He's the best
Between yesterday's epic episode and today, all I can say is that your camera and editing skills are the best I've ever seen. You should be producing videos for clients and getting paid the big bucks for it. You are so talented!!!
Thank you! That's really kind =)
Love the Cooper footage. Nice ending, too. Thanks
Agree. I always like your filming style.
You know that is such a good point. But client work … is kind of the opposite of creative work in some ways. Still I agree, Jay could have the appartement of his dreams with probably one day a week doing video editing for commercials and whatnot.
Enjoying the dailies! Cooper is such a sweet boy!
He's the sweetest =D
Cooper was so well behaved during his shower!! I hope he got extra treats!
He IS a treat 🥰
protect your energy, and your joy. there is no need for any explanation.😊
Well said!
I‘m glad you are flogging in January. Your videos bring joy. Thx.
You are so welcome
all i can think about is the Cafe Richard van and their parking job. OMG, Cooper is such a good boy though
I almost put a little "yet another reason to avoid" caption under it but figured best not to haha
Saying no Jay is hard! think we're on the same page in life.
I have found, as I've hit my mid-40s, that the more I say no the easier it gets (yes, a recovering people pleaser here, too). You really do have to take the steps to protect yourself, and to keep your own cup full before you can be of any service to others.
Amen
You’ve done an amazing job with Cooper
Ideally, it shouldn’t be tough to take care of yourself but when there’s guilt attached to thinking about yourself, it can very hard.
Unfortunately yeah
I'll be there in February, I can bring you some Oreo thins. LOL I love them too! 🙂
You're too kind =D I need to broaden my search, clearly haha
Brilliant…as usual! Merci!!
De rien!
Loving these daily uploads and hoping to contribute to that last snag of Oreo thins. Veggies in Oreo form-- another ingenious raison d'etre, imo.😂😂
Thank you Jackie! I'll put it straight into the veggie fund 🥰
Great content. 🥇 A beautiful city, an adorable Boston Terrier, an intelligent and open gentleman. I can definitely relate with the self protection and self regulation challenges. Well wishes from me and my Bostons in Texas!
Well wishes right back at y'all ;D
I had a beagle, who went over the rainbow bridge. His attitude was you threw the ball, you go get it.
Cooper is such a cutie
Agreed!
Thank you. You have articulated something I have been trying to get to for such a long time----feeling safe & that you now have to take care of yourself in ways that allow you to feel safe. As an adult it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves in the ways our parents were unable to. OMG. Such a big piece of the puzzle. It has taken me the time it has taken me. I honestly didn't know what taking care of myself so that I could feel safe looked like. Sometimes it almost feels as if you are some sort of avatar ; - >
Thank you for the reminder about saying 'no.'
My pleasure!
Trusting yourself: If not now when
FACT! Love this
"...or any amount of time really." Haha.
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The cool thing about being an adult is taking care of yourself in the ways you need. And no judgment AT ALL on the oreos. One must always have emergency "emo snax" on hand during these times. Also at 6:25 - I'm listening to you, but also very invested in the parallel parking job in the background.
That parallel parking job will go down in history 😂 But yes - it's been hard to embrace, but there's a great joy in being able to take care of yourself the way you deserve once you let go of the ways you were failed in the first place =)
Cooper is such a good boy 🥹 My dog doesn't like to catch the ball either, he is more of a goal keeper type of dog 😂
Coop's got that in him if he can get to it - really cute to see him kick out with his lil leg
Wow, that's some NOSTALGIE with the banana shot man. Loving these reflective Jay drops. . feels like old days. One of the biggest takeaways I had from my coach training days that really shifted something in me was the notion that NO is always a yes in disguise. It became second nature for me to ask myself 'What is this no a yes to?' Which, is a simple way of reframing and refocusing my energy and perception on creating more of what I WANT in my life and also learning to be conscious of what I want. That was huge. Especially, as I know you are aware, when coming from the conditioning of not being allowed to say no. It was like pulling the scooby doo mask off to finally realize that there was always a yes hiding there anyway.
That's a really great way to reframe it - I'll do my best to see what I'm saying yes to with my no's as I go. I'm definitely making strides here. Glad the journey continues onward and upward (and thanks for sticking with me for so much of it too!)
I have been in your shoes Jay when it comes to learning to “protect yourself / saying no / not wanting to put up with certain people situations” it’s taken me years to be ok with “no, I’m not going to do this etc” I’ve always been a “yes” person and since turning 40 I’ve decided like you, to protect myself and that’s ok 👌🏽 good on you Jay!
Yes, saying no is so important. ❤
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Safety is super important! I’m glad you are honoring your safety. Cooper is the cutest!
I'm learning loads =)
I love your awareness of self, examining then implementing what is needed. Self care and trust is key to happiness. Continue on your path of learning and discovery, it is life.
Thank you 🥰
dude congrats on the consistency. Also i went to cayo today - was awesome. Is on my walk to work
Excellent ! Glad you enjoyed it. They're good peeps
Hey Jay, sorry to see you're feeling down. I think it's important to acknowledge and address your emotions. While an Oreo cookie might bring a momentary distraction, consider making small, positive choices for your well-being. Reflect what you needed as a younger version of yourself and strive to provide those comforts now. Sometimes, selfcare is the key to finding solace.
Will do =)
really really enjoyed this vlog... and yes, vegan oreos are defnitely a vegetable :)
Un gros câlin à Cooper !
Il le prend =D
I love how many videos we get from Jay, love it
Happy you're enjoying them!
Its really nice to get a daily thought/piece of your life again. In the mean time I relate all too well to parents not providing you with the safety you need and avoiding people that just dont feel comfortable. Ive left social circles for that exact reason. When you are with people that appreciate you and are good people it really brings into focus what you shouldnt have to tolerate.
Developing good, safe, stable friendships has provided so much of the context and contrast I could never have received any other way. I feel deeply blessed 🥰
Quote of the Day: “This counts as a vegetable, right?”
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Hello to sweet smelling Cooper! And congrats to you on setting boundaries. There was a toxic woman where I used to live in France. Staying away was difficult, but I did things for myself that brought me joy and kept me safe.
Being in smaller overlapping communities like when you're abroad can definitely make it tricky. Glad you stayed joyful and safe! (And boy does he smell better today haha)
WSU? I’m watching from the Seattle area now (Everett actually) My wife and I are visiting Paris for the first time next month ☺️ thanks for the videos
You're going to love it!
Wow, this is a great conversation because I feel the same way! It’s so hard to protect yourself and feel confident doing that! Self-trust is such a great term! But you got this! You’ve accomplished so much! Especially with your citizenship. I know it’s not official but so you are so close and it’s been an accomplishment to get to that point so far. So good for you! And, bathing Cooper too! 😂
As an introvert I rarely seem to have the problem of saying no but I perhaps “should” be more social 🤔. Or maybe not 😂.
I think the key is to do what you want, and what you think would be good for you. Otherwise, stay in 😂
Cooper is a good boy in the shower! I had beagle labs that struggled so hard I was afraid they would knock themselves out cold on the side of the tub 😀
Also, good for you taking care of yourself - that is bloody hard.
Thank you! Turns out taking care of ourselves is often the hardest part
Please, get a no whistle 😂
Great video! Your honesty is refreshing! xoxo
Bahaha I can't wear white either. I'm wearing a white shirt today and just put on a black fleece vest (blast shield) while I ate lunch. White = dirt magnet for me .
And yet I must keep trying 🫠
Vitamin D and B1. 😊
Minimum benefits haha
It seems to me that alot of us adults are walking this earth developing strategies to recover from childhood 😏 Speaking for myself, you have to do you, before you can be there for others and that's okay 👍And I think white exists so we can make our own colours on it 😆 Cooper is an amazing dog, trained well by his dad 🥰
I'm grateful that we live in a time where the awareness of our need to heal is increasingly mainstream. If we can normalize it, I imagine it will only make it easier for everyone else who needs it too. 🥂
I’m an ambivert so I’m always in a flux about cancellation of plans and saying yes to random things.
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You should read When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith
Sounds interesting!
i'm the same - i won't go to a get-together if there's someone there who i don't want to be around. as much as i want to see the other guests, i know when an experience is going to have a net negative effect on me. i don't apologize for it and if asked why, i'll tell the truth. no judgement, not everyone's for everyone! side note: cooper is the perfect pup.
If you don't take care of yourself, who will? And thanks - he rules =)
How did you train Cooper to not attack the towel? Our past Bostons went nuts when we tried to dry them off. We have an 8 week old Boston now and I'm hoping she will be better but after a few rainy days I'm not so sure! Haha! I loved watching your training video, here is hoping our girl will be as well behaved as Cooper is! I know that was a lot of work, but you did such a good job!
1:05 My anxiety about white garments will always be high. I remember wearing white and beige (on different occasions) trousers when it was raining heavily and it was quite muddy. Idk how I survived.
Double-stuffed Oreos are DEFINITELY vegan, and by definition, healthy. Yes to buying back healthy, sanity, and safety with Oreos and beer. And eating all of those in one day is okay, too.
Hey Jay, maybe you can look into neurofeedback therapy; it’s doing wonders to my mental as well as (surprisingly) physical health
I'm definitely open. I'm going to be trying some new things out this year for sure - if anything I want to continue investing in myself and accelerating the process as much as is safe and healthy =)
What are you saying to Cooper in french when your'e drying him? (Couldn't figure it out...)
Gibberish mostly 😂 Don't think any French was in there haha
I’ve found that the older I get, the easier it is to say no, especially to general social gatherings. Folk who know you will understand
I think this is key - people who love you will support you, and the rest probably aren't thinking about you anyway.
@@JaySwanson absolutely
Are you responsible for cleaning up after Cooper or does the City have people that do that? I love that people in Paris can take dogs almost everywhere. (Drives my friend nuts but "oh well"). Warning, I almost stepped on a Maltese at Galerie Lafayette. It's owner wasn't paying attention and I had NO idea it was right behind me. Thank goodness it was "almost".
Since dogs CAN go everywhere, it's nice to think they have a bath now and then.
I was always a "pleaser" and have had issues saying "no" my entire life. I TOO am getting better at it. I have talked to my brothers about the fact is I wonder if I have EVER been deeply happy and I don't think so and I'm 78. It's interesting.
I love Paris, love being in Paris, and really enjoy seeing you go about your days.
I pick up every poo. Unfortunately not everyone does, so there are 'landmines' you'll want to watch out for 😂
@@JaySwanson I picked up after mine too. The LEAST exciting feature of walking our buddies. I DID see a woman pick up after her dog, on one of my trips and actually was surprised because I think that was right after an ordinance had been passed that people were supposed to pick the little crottes up. Love you stories. Happy New Year, may it bring you nothing but goodness.
Did you decide to go back ti daily vlogging?
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@@JaySwanson I do miss the characters! I have to say. I started watching you in like 2019 I think (at some point I sent you a dead cat for your mic but accidentally sent it from my law firm Amazon account lol). Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you inspired me to leave the U.S. originally I wanted to go to Paris but life took me to Berlin. Working on my channel but it’s a slow game as you know. Thanks for everything you do man. Really.
The person with the bad energy resonates with me . I have avoided such people as well . Dodging verbal bullets disguised as questions is not my cup of tea . But leaves me wondering what person it is ........ ?male or female ? Lol
I've found it effective when making the decision to move away from a person or a group of people that talking too much about it, or gossiping defeats the purpose. But I will always advocate for setting those boundaries!