HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE | LIKE THE ALPHA
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- Опубликовано: 6 дек 2017
- Find out how to be assertive like the alpha and use these simple tips to become more assertive in your everyday life. Becoming assertive is easier than you think, and you'll find that once you start improving your assertiveness, incredible things will happen in your life.
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*To be passive is to let others decide for you. To be aggressive is to decide for others. To be assertive is to decide for yourself. And to trust that there is enough, that you are enough.*
Beautiful
you're a poet
Love this! And your channel!
It's about justice. We have had enough of people walking all over us and getting away with it.
Facts
Dont say "girls will like you more for being assertive" doing things for yourself is more important.
Yes.
The only bad things about this channel is that it focuses a lot on getting acceptance from women.
@@malikeththeblackblade2675 thats true!
Yes, exactly!
Right. Although it could be said that it _does typically_ increase attraction from women, the more important message is that one is doing it for themselves.
If you're a nice passive guy always and then become assertive you quickly lose all your friends. Because they don't like the new you
What about being passergressive? Does that work? Be a hybrid man 😂
Luckily for me I have no friends, so nothing to lose by changing myself 💪🏽
They were never your friends to begin with. 🤷🏾♂️
@@jonvon2044 FACTS!!! 💯
Being assertive is telling your neighbors to stop the extreme moaning that gives you sleepless nights every freaking day. I will certainly try this one
+SmilesonFleek
A couple of years ago my girlfriend 's neighbors were going at it - instead of yelling the typical "Shut the F$%& up!" through the wall she yelled "Come quick, the neighbors are having sex - it's HILARIOUS!" after that - silence... Now, there's always the chance that could maybe make things awkward - but there is no anger in it. Hope this got a laugh.
I like to hear moaning. 😂
Be assertive and offer to help 😉
Record it
You must also stand up for yourself. "Hey! can I join?"
First step for being confident is maintaining eye contact when your talking to someone or someone is looking at you
I've noticed that too!
Bro i tried this several times, it just gets soooo awkward to look them in the eye for extended periods of time
@@edden8775 because you are not confident
@@amanthatthinks 💀
Be more assertive! Don't try to please everybody.
Project your voice a level higher like you are talking to someone across a room. Chin up!
Exactly what i needed. I was becoming way too passive or way too aggressive (but mostly passive) It felt like i was losing control over my life.
Making BOuND_Aries in our life is conscious decision
Same man. For me it felt like I was losing my identity as a man, but it’s these life “circumstances” that build you into a better man. The fact that you were aware of this shows progress. I hope you’re doing way better now tho
I'm a 29 year old women who is way too nice at work. I'm a manager and my employees are running all over me. So im here learning to be an Alpha Male. 🤣🤣🤣 no but seriously. Thanku for this.
You work at walmart?
Women can’t be alpha sorry
@@Kripzo She can't be an alpha male but she can still be an alpha
Alpha women it is
The Stanimal don’t disrespect her like that!
My girlfriend loves it when I am assertive and force her to clean the bedsheets after I wet the bed.
Matt Smith can't tell if that's assertive or abuse lol
Like he always says, it's all about balance
Matt Smith wtf
I laughed pretty hard at that comment haha
That's fucked up, brah.
This channel is saving my life right now, you are doing a great job
I like how he said there's a fine line between aggressiveness and passiveness and that being assertive is right in the middle he's talking about balance right there i heard a man say BALANCE is they 🔑 to life and i believe that balance is so very important
I know it's been long , you probably grew up and don't believe in alpha males anymore , but just let me tell you something we say in this situation .
" It's either peaceful or savage , there is no balance "
Yeah I think it's important to take baby steps, you can't just become assertive after one video. This is becoming a bigger in society today though, there use to be a right of passage to become a man and that no longer exists.
Great vid tho, I always admire how often you upload, I struggle with once a week.
Mitch Parker Based Zues says count down from 3 and after you reach 1 you do it so if I want to be assertive there is going to be 3 second countdown if i'm being shy
its always a tip if youre lost in life.
Mit
Great point about the right of passage
I was a bouncer for over 20 years and being assertive was part of my job, and the reason I did it for so long is most people when they see something offensive or what ever usually say nothing. You are sending out a good message. I am not talking about fighting, speak up and you will be heard.
How to be assertive.
Step 1: Be assertive
No kidding dumbass,
Santan dave
Beep beep
lol
No shit
Assertiveness is an art, very easy to come off complain about everything and being bitter and resentful. Make it a bit of humourful. But firm.
I get bully at school by my friends like they'll make a lot jokes about me and they think its funny and I try to keep a smile on my face but inside it hurts really bad to know my friends would do that to me and I'm going to be more assertive but I'm the smallest one out of my group of "friends" and they will sometimes use there power over me and will be aggressive so tje only thing I need to do is get physicly stronger. Sorry for such a long comment and love this channel and video
I feel more alpha just watching and listening about being Alpha. Then I act as if right after.
When masculinity speaks!
Stay on your purpose. Women already know who you are if your committed to your purpose. They always seek you out.
Me watches video: GREAT TIME TO BE ASSERTIVE
6 ft 5 jacked up black dude cuts in front of me in the movie theatre
Me: ...
lol warrior what do you mean?
Wrong is wrong always approach people in a respectful manner if they dont listen they dont listen at least you didnt betray yourself
You don't have to fight him for the spot, but speak up
@@1osmit facts but i woukd still try clap his cheeks for disrespecting this alpha
What, is he trying to do the Harlem shake? Tell that cat there’s a dance hall for that
I feel you when you say sweat the little things. Those are the subtle things that make people comfortable with getting outta pocket
I get immense value from this, I just wanna talk to the man behind this account FaceTime or in person cuz this really does work, if you apply yourself. Thank you so much man sometimes I can't believe information this good is free to the public on youtube.
When you are new somewhere, people are trying you out. If you don’t have limits, this will be hard.
for one and a half years ago when i began college, i was the hardest and coldest mofo People that i met was probably stunned at my confidence and alpha behaviour. and i usually turn into this hunk when i know im going to meet a new large group of People. So school began, other guys
"challanged " me to test how alpha i was and also my abillity to stand up for myself. And i struck their challanges to the ground i was the hardest mofo in The group.
but as time passed, my alpha behaviour and feeling of beeing one slowly went away. because at this point i did not have to prove myself anymore. Thus nowadays im still respected by the People around me, because of their first impressions of me. But now... im small and dare i say weak? The person i was 2 years ago is a totally different human beeing! Nothing was impossible! I was the strongest man in The entire world (in my head and in my behaviour against People) girls rushed to talk to me and The guys looked up to me....
but now... what have i become....
i need to go back and find my ultimate self. THATS IT
Hey, these videos are really inspiring and helpful. And I’m pretty sure they hold a lot of truth to them. It’s time to act confident and attract other people and get what I want cause I’ve been slacking off on that aspect in life. I hope you guys out there feeling the same way can start achieving this also.
Yo the confident shit works my crush noticed😍😍
Shalome Shalome what happened??
Congratulations. Keep it up man
LBJTITAN23 He froze up and ruined his chances.
shouldn't do it for her, should do it for you.
Being assertive without shitting on someone is the way to go about things.
I try not to cross that line because then I always have things thrown in my face. Like the fact that I own my house and everything comes easy to me. Well it doesn't. If you pay attention to your own goals and reach them, you've done something right!
This is one of the most helpful and informative videos on this channel it is so underrated
it is all about balance, we all know both edges of the path but rather than finding a good balance we keep swinging from a point to another one and this makes us look back in front of yourselves, just find a balance between being a good guy and an assertive alpha...
Tip #2 is a secret for himself, he is really alpha-minded.
This is absolutely amazing! I am like the kind of person you described in the vid most of the time but I know that many people are even worse than me. Also I learnt now why I keep repeating my mistakes over and over again even though I realize what I should have done and record them on my diary, and when similar things happen I deal with them the same way as before and suffer grief but didn't know why, and I am so disappointed with myself. Now I know it's because my subconsciousness has recorded my action and I am doing things subconsciously. Especially when there are people around, as you mentioned, I tend to keep silent when there are people watching I feel so embarrassed to argue with anyone with people watching. Now I know how to address these problems now. Thank you.
To be assertive you need to know every detail of the battlefield so nobody tells you that you are wrong.
Thank you for your videos I used to be the guy all my friends would pick on but after watching your videos I stood up for myself and gained thief respect
Man, this channel always gives me goose bumps, by far my fav channel on RUclips
Real alphas know when to let it go as well
Currently have a boss that’s walking over me for no reason, my head boss and co workers all respect the work I do, and respect me, I love this job and want to grow with it but this one boss, which is the boss that hired me, is taking advantage of of me and it’s because I’m nice. He doesn’t schedule me for work because “there’s no work” yet my co workers always have work. I see I’m being manipulated and lied to when I’ve done nothing but be nice and it’s taking a toll and affecting my life. I’m done though. I have to start being assertive or I’ll just go nowhere in life and I also have to learn to not make myself the victim, which I tend to do.
We love you too bro. Thank you for sharing
Really nice....
Thank for sharing this great piece of information
Great video there's so much WISDOM in this video and WISDOM is the MOST important thing.WISDOM is using knowledge the right way CONSISTENTLY
Best thing i watched on youtube enough of my dreams
You sir are badass. Thanks for sharing
I know from experience that this is a tough concept for a lot of people to learn because they're trained to believe they don't have the right to stand up for themselves or speak their minds.
It's worth it to learn that we all have the ability and the right to speak our minds and be assertive when needed.
I have to watch this video daily
Me too
Honestly, I think that’s a good idea for me too.
How’s it been goin’ for y’all?
thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Thanks for another excellent video! This really helped me realize how I've been programming myself to be beta ever since childhood.
I know this video is catered towards men, but as a woman I found this very helpful. I’m recovering from codependency and social anxiety. I have to practice assertiveness every day because it doesn’t come naturally to me, and watching videos like this encourages the practice.
Thanks for the lesson on how to be assertive.
Best channel ever, your videos made me able to know who I want to be!
Great videos, please keep up the good work..
Being Assertive isn’t about being irate being assertive is about not allowing disrespect to seep in thru the cracks of your life
You are right I am right that's why there are a lot of COWARD'S that want to kill me right now today
5:15 "You don't want to be the guy who punches someone because they cut in front of them" Thank you for saying that, otherwise I was going to start punching those people ahahah
This makes a lot of sense, this is something I struggle with thanks for the vid
I respect you and the work you do! Keep it up!
Assertiveness is being balanced.
I’ve been watching all your videos recently and they are pretty good and thus helping me . One suggestion I’d like to add is at the end of the video or in the description, there should be a break down of every tip or points covered in the video . Now I do understand it might not attract people to watch the whole video making them read only description or go to end of video
U made my day bro.tanx.stay blessed.
Best video! Thank you for explaining it so easily.
I really liked the more personal vibe you had in this video. keep it up, man!
Your voice is nostalgic for the lowest moments of my life. I appreciate everything you make!
When I start doing this I keep losing my job.
Managers feel threatened in their authority because other colleages just obey and work as a slave.
I see the fear in the eyes of colleagues.
I know I should start my own business but circumstances do not allow me at this time.
If you are mistreated at work, its better to leave ASAP, i stayed in a job like that for 1.5 year and it took a toll on my confidence, professional-confidence, ruined my relationship and made me feel depressed. Worst of all, if you teach yourself to tolerate this kind of behaviour will make it more likely for you to experience it at the next job as well, people will get the wibe off you that they can walk over you. You're gonna quit such job sooner or later, do it sooner before the damage it done.
Being a " beta " is better for your life . Successful people today are people who wouldn't have survived the natural selection based on aggressiveness , kill or be kill and company .
@@1osmit Nobody talked about being mistreated at work . From what I understand it's a " normal " job , but he tried being an alpha male as if he was 14 .
@@shieldback6317 haha Jeff Bezos isn't a beta though
Whatcha mean.
I believe you need to stand for yourself. Not be a "welcome" wrag
Take This regarding your last sentence, how about now?
When I first found your videos I told myself “man I wish I could just download all of this information” but what I didn’t realize is what I was actually saying was “I wish it was easier to download all of this information” because the truth is I can download this information, it’s just taking time, just like how it takes a computer time to download information.
These videos are very helpful to me! I've been learning a lot from them! Every man should be watching these imo!
Most beneficial and needed information for any man indeed.
Best video yet.
Keep up the good work!
Love you too man. Good job!
I am assertive af and many people mistake me to be an asshole.. I have more people hating me rather than being my friend.. but its all worth it.. because I always stood up for myself and nothing makes me happier than standing up for myself instead of being a pushover just for the sake of friendship or anything else.. we all different in our own way and that's why most of the times we would rather disagree with someone's opinion rather than agree with it because we are different..
If you come off as an asshole then you are doing something wrong.
I know lots of mega-assertive guys and everyone thinks that they are great guys, because they have a balance between assertiveness and normal courtesy.
@@Peter_1986 the thing is not many people know what alpha's are because of our beta flooded society, alot of people will see a true alpha as a douchebag
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how did you read my life......????........
i......am speachless...........
u are really great....
ur videos changed my life within 30 mins
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one of the best videos i have ever seen on the subject
I'm glad I saw these videos thank you
Great video! Please keep 'em coming!
Thank You for changing my life!
This material is compelling. A similar book I read became a cornerstone in my life. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
Thx is is super helpful this will help me Chang from nice guy to confident guy
Who else is a woman trying to be assertive?🙋🏻♀️
Thank you for this great video. I really appreciate it.
Bloody oh mate I have needed that!
thank you man.. I needed this
Thank you, love you
You are the best guy I have ever seen on you tube
Thank u sir for this awesome work
Great vid
I love you too man Thanks !!! 😎
Thank you very much
Great Video helped me a lot, cannot thank you enough!
This guy really gets it!
Thank you ,, the stuff you make is really awesome and useful
Nice,
Thank you!
thank you.
Tip 5 "sweat the little things" was definatly interesting to hear
The subconscious angle is refreshing
One subscribed from Brazil ! :D
Sometimes there is assertiveness within being quite and taking peoples bull crap. Jist like that one pop song "sometimes the greatest thing to say to someone is to say nothing at all." Yet there is a fine line. Im learning this.
I'm not a guy, but I've been a pushover nice girl for too long. I'm taking this advice and turning into an assertive woman.
WoW video !!
I will keep this in mind
love you too bro
great wisdom
That was amazing!