This last guy is 100% me! I was a foster child. Never felt like that affected me but not being nurtured from a young age significantly affects your development (I'm 33 now). In 2022 I had a girlfriend who I became overly attached to, so when she broke up with me, I fell deeply into depression, drinking alcohol to the point where last year I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks hooked up to IV drips and whatnot. Luckily because I served in the army, I have access to a veteran's mental health service where I will receive psycho-analytical counselling this month that will look into attachment/fostering. Although this man would of suffered, it's nice to see someone else who I can relate to.
I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and when that guy said “it hurts more when you have no hatred towards them” that clicked instantly. I just hope she’s alright.
@@notme8152 they seem more real tbh. Unlike those alpha sigma or whatever cringe men that preach on podcasts. Plus all of these guys also phrased their sentences well and to the point. So it felt more real to connect with them. Hope they doing good and found someone they deserve and who deserves them
They do try to warn us. But we were too young and naive to truly understand what they meant. But they also want us to be happy, so they let us have that relationship. It's just part of life. We all have to experience it. A good parent knows that.
@VincentStevenStudio my mo never warned me about shit my mom never talked to me about relation ships my dad did and my dad tried but I didn't koke so I didn't listen shit he said or wanted he was a dick and an ass hole so i just said for get what you say what you say tbh tbh
@Babigens there is supposed to be a first love I don't know what you're getting on bro there is supposed to be a first love and their always will be a first you may have be heart broken or some thing or you're assuming every first relation ship is going to work either way you're naive and ignorant for saying this either way or either way or naive and unintelligent I don't know I really don't know either way
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
@@HK00088amen brother! That’s blessing. The Satan, the Devil could is blamed but it’s our responsibility to nots sit there and do nothing which makes it worse and do something evil that makes it worse do it’s like it’s all good from here forward no looking back to that person who could change but obviously it’s costly emotionally and financially and spiritually to stay with or around them so leave . And for all these men here yep eating healthy being good and loving ourselves is good as we should because that’s why Jesus Christ said “Love your neighbor as much as you love yourself”
That’s just a stereotype with all due respect to your own perspective… but I as a female have experienced the exact same with first love and so did my female best friend … it took us a year at least to heal properly… from a few months long relationship… we loved with our hearts and souls … only to be moved on from almost on the spot … yet we were ready to go above and beyond if were given the chance… in fact having loved them too much is probably what made it all so short lived …I believe it’s not a gender based thing … rather a Loyalty/ Kindness/purity based thing…. Adding that to the fact that it becomes challenging and even feels Miraculous to ever be able to love again… I don’t know where one could be without the love of God to fill that void in one’s heart and even surpass it hopefully… Add to that the fact that girls tend to have a timeline when it comes to redeeming a chance at motherhood… while guys can be fathers literally whenever… It definitely hurts the most when you thought you were gonna spend your entire life with them …when in the midst of your intense pure love you get left out of nowhere… over text and over stuff one thing which have been very fixable….had the other person loved you as much as you loved them… even when it came to materialistic things in both situation Have seen females being the givers instead of the receivers… people are people most of them don’t appreciate things that come with ease … or get too impatient with challenges… or just simply don’t love enough those who love them alot… either gender can get too invested … and no one should be chasing anyone. Everyone is worthy.
@@KobeBean5xchampOne of the reasons it appears to be that way is because women are more prone to negative emotions especially developing sensitivity after puberty to protect children as the maternal instincts develop
Dated a girl for 4 months left me for another guy and only admitted it after I caught her. I said alright it’s cool best of luck. 3 months later she wanted to get back together. The other guy was typical abusive gym boy. I didn’t take her back. Never go back.
Congrats, it must have been hard 👏 Like I say, never go back with your ex before remembering why you left that person in the first place. You did well brother
@keepitsecret-dl1pr did they shower you with love and then turn into that other person? That's what mine did. She was an angel in the beginning, then became a monster trying to get me to leave... then when I did leave she tried to get me to come back. If these people ever make you feel like you're not enough, ditch them. Someone better is out there.
@@AndrewDaniele87I don't want to make assumptions but you basically described my last relationship, and my ex had BPD. def sounds like attachment issues
Notice how none of them, except one dude, were talking badly or with bitterness about their ex. Even though they know full well what they did, they still decide to be free of the bitterness. This is called being mature.
Not saying it always is, but that can be a self-protection strategy. She's not showing emotions or that she still cares about you because that would hurt too much. It's still cruel though. Love is painful.
@@foxtrotsierraproductions8626you don't know what goes through her mind, cuz they are a different person and have differnet coping mechanisms. Girls generally don't talk much about heartbreak as men do. They just suffer in silence
I used to think that... The worst pain is when the girl loves you, depends on you, listens to you, loves you more than even you can... Then she is forced into marriage due to situation and you can't do anything
Heartbreak hurts women too. I've seen cases where the girls committed suicide due to being unable to hold in the pain. So show some support to us girls as well
@@Ariadne4Girls are no strangers to getting emotional support from the people around them. This isn't something that is afforded to men most of the time. Heartbreak affects both genders; the difference is that women are allowed to speak out about their emotions while men are forced to sit there and let them rip them apart from the inside. Obviously girls deserve support, but just remember that they already get way more support in this regard than men ever have.
@@Josef_1186 you can pass me off as an outlier but when I vent my heartbreak to friends, there's always a point where I'm just sort of expected to not talk about it anymore.
To all men out there. I love you bros. Im off antidepressants. Going to gym. Enjoying life the best I can. I broke up in uni. Honestly, us men, we get heartbroken once in our lifetime, and then stop carrying.
Bruh is so lucky, most men don't even have time to talk about their feelings/ a period of heartbreak, we just bury that feeling. These guyz talking about their's is pure gold
It's not question of time man, it's question that we thing our feeling doesn't really matter and live have told us that our sentiment aren't respected at all. We never Ask a boy : "how do you feel ?" Because society don't Care of our feelings that's the.hard truth. Worst than that, telling its feelings as a guy is seen as weakness by women and create natural rejection feeling. I think girl don't search the feeling of a man. Keep bro' with you with one you can share it. Real bro' are same kind of Guy as you, they will understood how you really feel. A women can't, a women will make you feel better normaly, andnyou will make it feel her better, but you will never share your feeling with her because you will create rejection feeling in her. Keep your damn bro' near by guys.
Xavier, child, you have no clue what you're talking about. Men and women are the same inside. We need the same things. If a man is insecure and equates his worth with getting women, then that's a commonly male problem... But that's not biological. It's societal. Remember: a woman is the same inside as you are. Treat her accordingly. Be kind, be real, be considerate. Never treat her any way you wouldn't want your daughter to be treated.
My heartbreak comes from never being loved. I’m 55 and have never once been in a relationship. I would loved to have had a family but it’s too late now. I hate the thought of living my entire life and never experiencing something as basic as being loved by one special person.
But who says it's too late? People fall in love even at 70 Anyway first and foremost I would encourage to receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, the Bible tells us that He got time and seasons in His hands, He is not subject to time because He created time (Dan 2:21, Gen 1:14, Psalms 16:7, ). Therefore He can begin writing your chapter at 55yrs
Most of my friends have given up . We hit 30 and just stopped. I wanted a wife and children. I know I'll never have that. Now that I'm 50 , I have zero interest in sexual relations with women my age and they can't give me children so they offer nothing. "You steal my solitude, but offer no companionship." And from experience , women. Are less trustworthy than a used car salesman.
My ex cheated on me. he cheated on me throughout the entire duration of our relationship, which was five years. He married to the girl he used to tell me was his cousin. I loved him. I wanted to marry him and have kids and shower him with all the love I could. I too grew up in a dysfunctional family and wanted to build a better life and family for myself. But after I had just given up and walked away, he told every single one of his buddies that I had misbehaved with his family (I used to go to his house, tale care of them in his absence, cook, clean, give them medicines). That relationship broke me and it has been a decade, i have not recovered. So, never judge by listening to only one side of the story. It takes two to tango.
Lads, i’ve been in a relationship with a girl for 8 years. I’ve spent almost all my twenty’s with this girl. And this hearthbreak (one of others) learned me one thing. Do what you want to do in life. Work on yourself very hard. Be compassionate with yourself, feel what you gotta feel but never ever lose yourself in self pitty. Self pitty is the most worthless emotion there is.
That must've been very harsh and I couldn't imagine your heartbreak. My first heartbreak was devastating even though the relationship only lasted for 6 months. But my pain is nothing compared to yours. I'm not trying to patronize, but before diving into relationships, remember his advice, folks. Rejection is inevitable and that's fine. I pray and hope that all of you, myself included, are resilient towards rejection. GBU all.
im 31 and i just suffered from my first heartbreak back in early October of this year, and my God, it's a lot more painful than i ever imagined. it's been two months and i still feel sad. i never thought this would happen to me.
Man it’s gets easier after the third time. I had my heart broken many times. Now I have no heart for relationships. The good news is that you can have more as it’s only happened once. I had it happen too many times I gave up on true love. I hope the next one stays with you
Yep its a spiritual connection which is broken when one of the sexes or the same breaks the spiritual connection of course the only righteous relationship is one where it is a man and woman. Who respect each other and God. Man or woman who has sexual anything with another man or woman breaks the trust and bond immediately though you may not know it. I think a psychopath must feel it too. It’s not very easy on anyone. But that’s why you marry the opposite sex because it’s rational and common sense and real love if you love God especially. I’ve felt emotional anguish in my heart but never heartbroken nor cheated against.
That guy whose girl kissed him to see if there was still something there was incredibly cruel. Imagined if she egged him on and he thought they were getting back together again with those weird mixed signals. Wtf man.
That was not egging. She was checking if she still felt something with that kiss. You have not heard her version of why she broke up. Don't judge before you hear both sides of arguments.
@@bapparawal2457no, that’s a shitty thing to do. If you want to figure out if you love someone, you do some introspection to evaluate your feelings. You don’t initiate physical contact to decide if the chemistry is there. That’s not love. It’s lust. Most women don’t really know the difference though. Not every kiss is going to be magic. Look at people who have been married for a few decades. They’re not acting like horny teenagers. They’re taking care of each other because they recognize the value of what they share together. A kiss isn’t going to tell you if you’re in love with someone and if you’re too stupid to see that then you’re not really capable of love yet. She didn’t love him, but the kiss wasn’t the evidence of it. The fact that she’s put him through that without considering the effects that would have on him is.
@@spencerpetersen4092Man so true. Had half of guys here behave like h*rny sh*theads with me. Adult men included, not just young! Man something is wrong with guys here where I live
I still love my childhood sweetheart after breaking up 10 years ago. I still have dreams about her where we find each other again and try again but were happy and more mature this time. But when I wake up I have to accept the reality that it will never happen. Shes married with a kid now. I most likely dont even cross her mind. Im forgotten. They say time heals all wounds. While that is true, I still have the scars.
Yes, breaking up does leave scars on your heart and soul But you were not meant to be together. She was your first love and she was in your life to help teach you about love. Now it's time for you to take your life back and move on. Your soul mate is out there looking for You.
I found it more painful to realise I got treated very poorly and made a fool of by someone I loved. In my first relationship I still felt loved and valuable after we split up. We had grown apart, but we didn't regret the relationship and we stayed friends. After that I met a narcissist and only 2 months with him disintegrated me.
@@helgaioannidis9365thats what scares me for commiting again since just like you we split up knowing we still love each other after 3yrs of relationship, sometimes i just like to think that we've met the right person in the wrong time
Heartbreak made me a stronger person. I have more clarity on relationships and life in general, and more optimistic about how I’ll handle future relationships. Needless to say, I was devastated when it first happened. But there’s light at the end of the tunnel
The first heartbreak is the worst because afterwards you feel like you could have maybe handled things better and been less naive if you could just go back. Because the further on in life you go and the more experience you have it just seems like it’d be starting the game over on easy mode with the one you will always imagine an alternate future together with. But there’s no time Machine so you just have to accept it. And likely you’re not the only one learning from mistakes. She probably did too, wondering if she handled everything well or ruined what could have been good.
The dude at 2:12 def described me and what happened with my ex perfectly. I’m all in. Ready to settle down. She said even though she loves me and has never been treated so well in her entire life, she’s not emotionally ready for a relationship and has known since day 1. It’s been 1.5 months now and I feel completely destroyed. Hearing his story and how similar it sounded, gives me hope that my wife is out there somewhere. I hope I find her soon
She is at fault for certain as anyone else would be what’s!?? But you are responsible since you love yourself more than she who did not love you. Meaning you carry automatic responsibility to heal emotional and spiritual pain In your heart because most people who hurt us won’t come along and soften the very shots they fired at us almost all humans probably wouldn’t. That’s why Jesus Christ is there for you he still loved you which is strange to me even now but if you accept him over time you’ll feel filled with love as if you don’t need mommy and daddy and wife nor sibilings nor children. Of course you should do that 😅 get all the children you want procreate them into existence and ask God to give bless you with more fertility. But right now I feel at peace. I don’t need to please Anyone if they hate me I’ll please people who don’t hate me though sometimes it does soften hateful monegrino people’s hearts.
800 prophecies we’re completed in the Bible that’s a 1 x 10^895 possibility. It would take 10 Minutes to write the zeroes. If you died right now are you a 100% sure you’d go to Heaven? all people have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. What is sin? Sin is essentially any bad thing we've ever done. Have u sinned before? Because of sin the punishment is a burning hell. “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8 KJV Do u know the story of Jesus? (If yes skip next step) if not do next step. God came down to earth as a man. Lived for 33 and a half years. He never sinned his whole life. Eventually some people got jealous of him and got him convicted of phony charges. He got crucified on the cross. Died. Was buried for 3 days then he was resurrected by his own power. Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us? It’s because remember your sin is the problem why you can’t go to Heaven right? The only thing that can wash away your sin is the blood of Jesus Christ “But God shows his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 KJV God did all that to save us from hell "Much more than, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.” Romans 5:9 KJV Ephesians 2:8-9 “We’re saved by Grace through faith which is not of ourselves it is the gift of God not by works for fear any man should boast” Salvation is not by good works like “water baptism, attending church, any good thing you do” “For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.” 2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV To get saved, you need to repent as a sinner. Or, you need to be sorry for being a sinner. Are you sorry for being a sinner? “that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” Romans 10:9 KJV Do you believe everything you’ve heard in the gospel so far? All you have to do is say it to God in less than 15 seconds I’ll even help you say it to god all you have to do is repeat after me. I’m going to give you the words to repeat, but remember repeating this prayer doesn’t save you. You genuinely meaning the words from your heart does Dear god I repent as a sinner I believe Jesus is God who died buried and resurrected so his blood can wash away my sins. So I only trust in the blood alone to save me. Not my good works. To save me from hell in Jesus name. I pray amen So if you believe in him and what he did. You'll be justified by his blood and saved from hell and you'll get an eternity of Love, joy, and peace Then after that. Just read the King James Version Bible daily. As man does not by bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. It says like a newborn baby desire the pure milk of the word so that you can grow by it. And Jesus said, Sanctify them through your truth. Your word is truth. Essentially Jesus was saying. Make your believers holy through reading your word, and finally. If you continue in my word, then you are truly my disciples and you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
@@MeowNow494 she did lead me on. She told me from day 1 she wanted marriage and kids and all that. Then later on in the relationship, introduced me to her family. Was talking about getting engaged to me and having kids with me. Then one day says “I’m not IN love with you. I just love you. Also, I’m no longer sexually attracted to you and that’s your fault. You brought that to fruition by being vulnerable with me” so yeah…she lead me on and fucked me up when she left.
I really appreciate each and every man on this video for being honest, last guy talking, what a gem. So honest open and smart. Bless you all. I always tell my ladies there is no diffrence in a mans pain and womans pain. A broken heart is a broken heart. Lead with love, ALWAYS. I belive in my heart most men just hunger for real and honest love. Some times us women just don't understand. Let her know what the problem is. If she refuses to listen/compromise let go. But if you have a woman that does listen and compromise please don't take her for granted. Having an honest respectful partner is the most beautiful thing, not all of us are that lucky. Even when you two are having a shitty day, WORK THROUGHT IT if there is love respect and honesty. You will make it! ❤
I thought I'd marry this woman, it was effortless the way she took down all the walls I had built up around me. I was confident as a man and never really felt insecure about guy friends, so when she went to visit her guy friend's family I didn't fight about it. Even bought snacks and drinks for their 3 hr drive over. It'll be a year in a couple of weeks sonce we broke up, and it'll be a year since they've been together. Now I understand the fear of the guy friend "you don't meed to worry about."
Why would she go visit his family with him? Why didn't he take a girl who he's seeing or just go by himself? If you have a female friend who's in a relationship, you wouldn't invite her to go away with you to visit your family. Did you not see it coming?
Indeed one of the harder truths in life. People use trust as an excuse to backstab you when the need arises. Male/female friendship is bogus, specially if your girl is attractive.
0:55 You don’t need to ‘feel’ anything to love someone or be loved. True love isn’t a feeling at all. What we think is ‘nothing’ might just be the peace and safety that our body needs. And what we think is a spark might be anxiety that we’re not even aware of. Of course, there are exceptions, but people need to stop looking for a spark and start thinking more like: am I happy? Does this person respect and love me? Can I respect and love them? Etc
The worst thing to experience in a relationship is to remember how our loved ones used to be... and how they changed for the worse... and having to treat those loved ones with our full guard up so as to not get hurt again... and having to accept mentally that they aren't our loved anymore while looking at them ... It can literally feel like dying alone in cold is better than experiencing these moments...
We have to treat dead relationships sort of like deceased love ones.Bury them walk away and cherish the good times.They're gone but you'll live inspite of the grief.And instead of being bitter hope they're in a better place.Might not feel like it now but it's better than being in a one sided love affair.
Man I can relate to the one guy who said there was no cheating, hatred or animosity. They were just incompatible. The longest relationship I’ve ever been in ended in a similar way. We’re still somewhat good friends almost 10 years later but it took a very, very long time to come to terms with it because I didn’t really have any negative views of her to fall back on. I’m happy with the person I’m with now but I always wonder in the back of my head if she is because of that experience. Best of luck to all trying to make whatever relationship they are in work.
People often complain that men aren't emotional enough, and then criticize men who talk about heir heartbreak. Good on these brave men for talking about it!
It's men who criticize men for talking about feelings. Most women would love to hear men talk about what they feel . Not just in romance but even in other relationship men don't talk about their feelings to women.
@@bapparawal2457because if men are emotionally vulnerable with women then this is often used as ammunition later on during a rough patch It’s just one of those things you don’t do. It doesn’t do you any favours as a man
Gather round. Daddy is about to tell you a few secrets as someone who’s been on both sides of multiple breakups: It’s going to be okay. You are awesome. You will laugh again. You are enough. You needed this breakup to learn something about yourself. Don’t miss the lesson. Don’t follow them on social media. Matter of fact, get off the grid. Get sunshine. Don’t try to get revenge anything on them. Think higher of yourself. You have nothing to fear.
I hope every guy and girl here find the love they’re looking for. My now ex boyfriend just ghosted me out of nowhere, it’s been 2 months and I haven’t heard from him since. We were together for 5 years…all down the drain. Planning our wedding and then he just never spoke to me, would lead me on read and just ghosted me.
People say tough times and experiences makes a man stronger otherwise he would be sitting in his comfort zone vulnerable and weak all the time. Take this as a lesson and move on in life.
Pushing against the ideas of what men should be like hyper stoicism and only being able to express ourselves with anger. Men must police other men to change.
People who find their love are the luckiest in the world. my only girl cheats on me, we were together for 8 years. It took me a solid ten years to come out of the pain, heartbreak and the traumatic time each day brought upon me. I've never loved ever since. I even tried to end myself to avoid the pain. Worst thing to ever do to a man. Takes your sanity away.
She shattered not only my heart But shattered my soul,my body,my trust and everything She left me in pieces Im scared to ever love again thinking what if they do the same again and leave me again
Was with her for 6 years and we gradually drifted apart. I tried so hard to patch up the sinking ship but it just wasn’t working so the break up was really tough. Hang in there brothers! Dating a new woman now and she is fantastic so there is always something waiting for you out there. Break ups can free you for something better/healthier. 👊
How did you convince yourself to move on. Ive this amazing guy putting efforts and being there for me but i can’t reciprocate bc all i can think about is my ex.
Love seeing this side of men admitting how hard it was for them to move on from their ex's. This is needed in a society where we only get to see men bottling up their feelings.
Just got my heart-broken by the girl I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with. She says she still loves me, but wants to work on herself. I’m torn between trying to wait on her, or just trying to bear down and move on. It’s awful.
You will heal Let her be If she cared so much let her show it Not say it And if if she does Who knows if you will be there let alone better without her Your not alone my brother
Im in the exact same Situation as the first guy. Also daten for 15 months, thought he is my big love. After one month of trying to work it out I'm giving this up. There.are better people out there for us buddy!
“Usually it’s us women” - I think you might find that generalizations and expectations of men being emotional or not emotional, will stifle any emotional expression
If he were a Christian then he’d probably be incapable of introspection and reuse to believe anything he doesn’t want to believe, the way most Christians seem to be.
It’s actually pretty common It’s probably 85% of men. The 15% bad boy gym “alphas” are the ones who aren’t mature, but those are the guys women go for That’s why you think it’s rare when it really isn’t
3 days ago i went through a heartbreak, my very first one. Long distance relationship with a perfect girl ive been with for 3 years, we loved each other so deeply, we were in sync, inseperable and soul mates at one point. Thats how everything felt, it felt so PERFECT. No other word to describe it, it was mutual on both sides. We met each other at low points and helped each other up. She was my motivation to be better, she made bettering myself become exciting because i couldnt wait to put her in a big house and make her happy. She took care of me so well when i was broke and had nothing, held me down.. 3 days ago she broke it to me that she met another girl at pride , kissed her and had feelings for her, found out she was attracted to girls and not guys anymore. Lost all love and affection for me after that one kiss, all of our commitments officially meant nothing and she went numb towards me. She told me she just doesnt understand how shes feeling right now , but it destroyed me. Im broken. I have to celebrate my birthday in 11 days without her. I never got to pamper her the way I wanted, life was just getting good for me and was about to get better for the both of us, even though she thought it was at its peak before the kiss and was content with it, things was just starting to get so good............. Lord please help me. Im hurting and it hurts to live right now, its agonizing, my heart hurts and aches, why does this feel so painful, its cruel. Went from obsessing over each other and seeing each other in our future for years to come all the way to her not seeing me in her future at all after one kiss, in one day. How does love work like that? (Note: She did love me alot leading up to the kiss by the girl, everything just changed in that moment)
that sucks so badly, my girlfriend of 2 years just dumped me this morning and i have no idea what to do with my life now. really no clue where to go but i know life can only get better. i’m going through it too you’re not the only one❤️
Bro, if she lets you down that easily she aint worth it! I mean the very fact she "lost" All her Feelings towards you after practically cheating on you (even with the same gender??!) Shows how dishonest she was to you. Keep your Head up, set your Standards higher and you will get over it once you meet the right one. Until then, be sure you deserve way better.
the third one literally took the words out of my mouth. it hurts so much more when you can't be angry because all that's left is sadness and that feels worse.
I have been with my first boyfriend for 8 years and 6 months back he proposed, I was ecstatic. But a few weeks before the wedding, I came to know that he was living together with another girl for a year and a half. Had multiple relationships and many hookups, while I was waiting for him like a fool. Had to call off the wedding. He acted so much like a perfect gentleman to me that even now I wake up I get confused on whether it’s all real. I still can’t figure out why he would do that. And top it all off, I have to give exams and Im in medical school. It’s tough cause he was my emotional support system during med school. I don’t think I can trust anyone anymore. All I do is cry to sleep and wake up crying.
Don't do that. I mean the crying part. Don't waste tears for a person like that. You will find a better person. But don't waste your time with a person who doesn't commit.
I feel like more guys need to hear other guys talking about things they went through, especially when things turned out better after getting through the difficult decisions and the pain
Heartbreak its the worst shit because it really shakens the core instinct and need we have as living beings ! But its so necessary ! Heartbreak makes you stronger Just wish i wasnt so strong and more happy !
It hurts worse when you share children with this person and have to see them on a regular basis. And they are not sorry for their actions. I took accountability for mine but he didn't.
I appreciate these men sharing their stories. We all go through heartbreak in life and hopefully we can all learn from it and love ourselves first and heal before we move on. Like the one man said sometimes one relationship ends in heartbreak but we end up finding the love of our life after.
The worst thing about many women who don't love men back is that they keep those men around to boost their ego and use them for other benefits, asking them for favours etc. They don't let them go or move on and don't care about those men's feelings, how heartbreaking and painful it is. They might say "no" (but not always they do that) but still give some mixed signals giving some false hope just to keep them around.
@@MeowNow494 I'm not writing about these cases but about many cases I've heard about and some cases I've seen or experienced myself for a short time. It's better to see a you're not interested and stop seeing each other and if you do,. be careful about words and gestures you make because if someone is in love, doesn;'t think clearly and it's easy to give false hope to a person like that. And of course not to take advantage of that to make a guy or girl to make favours for you, if you need something and you know he/she will not refuse. I see it as basic human decency not to play with someone's feelings. Heartbreak hurts but it's way better than situation I described and happens too often unfortunately.
While that's true. Let's not forget that men are adults and often aware of what's going on (and that their hope is a delusion). If that kind of friend zone dynamic is allowed to keep going even if potentially damaging, the responsibility is not just on the woman. It's on both - consenting - adults.
@anousenic Men or women in that situation don't think rationally. They're more controlled by their feelings emotions. So it's just not fair to play with them for own and very shallow benefits.
My first love broke up with me a month ago. We've been together for a year but I've been loving her for 6 years prior to our relationship. I thought i would have spent the rest of my life with her. The first two weeks were really hard, but now i'm starting to feel better, I have a new mindset, i'm more optimistic, more open to whatever opportunity will come in my life, i'm less anxious and i'm starting to appreciate the present in every little aspect rather than getting worried about the future. She left me because she said she's getting depressed and doesn't feel like having someone around but that she still loves me, i'm 100% sure she didn't cheat because we literally spent every free moment of everyday together when we didn't work, but i'm getting into the fact that if you really love someone you just don't leave them so easily or at least you try to see if things can work out and you'd let the person you supposedly love to hold your hand and be there for you in your hard times. I still love her and probably will forever, but I feel i'm on the right way for acceptance and letting her go.
This last guy is 100% me! I was a foster child. Never felt like that affected me but not being nurtured from a young age significantly affects your development (I'm 33 now). In 2022 I had a girlfriend who I became overly attached to, so when she broke up with me, I fell deeply into depression, drinking alcohol to the point where last year I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks hooked up to IV drips and whatnot. Luckily because I served in the army, I have access to a veteran's mental health service where I will receive psycho-analytical counselling this month that will look into attachment/fostering. Although this man would of suffered, it's nice to see someone else who I can relate to.
I've never heard of abused ex's i've just been thru a really rough breakup, (well.. it's been 5 months and i still think of her day and night no matter how hard i try to move on. i'm cool, but i still think of her) i tried to have a conversation with her and not only thru texts.. i even saw her on the street couple of times but the way she ended things and shown me the immediate distance she needed from me. i didn't even approach. and i was scared i guess i didn't date much. but I'd never do anything to hurt her.
Been almost a year since my ex and I broke up. Unfortunately I’m really the one who ruined it, and now I’m the one stuck with hurt while she’s happy with someone else. Still hurts everyday, sometimes I still cry but I let it out and do my best to keep going. Stay strong fellas
My ex and I were together for ten years. Had a house that I paid for so that we could live near her family. One weekend, she sent me a text that simply said,"I dont love you anymore. Im moving out." She had packed all of her belongings and was gone less than two weeks later. I have no idea how Im still alive right now. That first night of being in a house alone after years and years and years of sharing it with somebody else...I wouldnt wish that on anybody. Silence becomes deafening.
When your girl goes from " I'm lucky for having you, thanks for being on my life, I want to end up with you" to "you are great guy but not for me, i found the right people, i appreciate what you did for me, but...." Is just hard, so hard, being with her on her darkest time and watching her goes to other guys at her best, so heartbreaking, 10 months ago exactly i broke up with her, still i see her on dreams, in January she had birthday, i wished her, today is my birthday, she didn't, it makes me feel destroyed
Stop doing that bro. You need to know your worth. Gone is gone. Work on yourself, gym, travel, may be if you are religious, pray. Don't let anyone take advantage of yourself when they're low
Appreciate these men for opening up and honestly this is why I never want a relationship because of people getting cheated on and relationships ending sooner or later
(Long read) It definitely changes a man. Last year proves it for me. I was guarded before, and opened up to a woman I'd talked to for years. She accepted, and for a short while, I was the happiest I'd ever been. Then, bam, I'm told she doesn't feel anything and had moved on from potentially liking me months prior to my confession. Basically it seems the relationship was a test to her. And I often wondered how many times when she said "I love you" if she meant it, or if she was lying through her teeth. Let me tell you, before that breakup day, I never lent much thought to the idea that words can cause physical pain. But when it happened, at first I sat for two days in what could be likened to shell shock.Then, it felt like I'd been socked in the stomach, and my chest was tight. Clearly I was devastated, but I've been recovering. I dont think a man will ever truly forget his first love and what it was like. But it's a learning experience for sure. Have faith brothers.
My gf and I broke up a week ago. It hurts so much. During this time, I see my own mistakes and hers. I still want to get back together, but I must improve myself first. I hope she does the same as well. Maybe not for each other, but for themselves. I hope you are doing fine. Onward and upwards 💪🏻
1:08 thats so true and i relate with it, breaking up without any hatred or without anything wrong from each other hurts a lot more i feel like and especially when you still care about them and all i guess
As someone who has lost greatly I will say this. Whatever it is you have lost and can’t seem to get over remember to take care of yourself. Hit the gym when you don’t feel like it, save money when youd rather drink it away, talk to someone without limits. Keep moving forward
Worst feeling is when u yourself have to break up and cut off all contact from someone u loved and growed with for years because they betrayed u but they wont stop calling after months of u forcing yourself to ignore them
Mine dumped me last year and our wedding was this year.... it's painful especially since I know she's dating someone else now but I gotta just keep it moving and figure myself out again and hopefully I'll meet the right one.
@@belles7667 I never said that it wasn't mutual. My case was basically that for months until we couldn't be together because of circumstances. Also you just can't gatekeep what heartbreak is. If you felt it then that's all that matters.
@@MrCarguy2I don’t think he was gate keeping, and its true you can’t measure heartbreak. However you said *hurts the most* just generally speaking why would a relationship you never had hurt more than being with someone for a good amount of time and then being dumped?
I hope a lot of women see this video so they can finally understand that men also can be heartbroken and suffer when they are dump, throw away. Its just not only them who can or feel that way. No one is made of stone. We all have hearts and feelings.
I really like what the last gentleman had to share. "Breaking the generation curse" so many people come from broken families (me included) and it's so tough to change that cycle for future generations. Once you hurt or get tired of feeling so much hurt/pain, it's a bit easier to make or be the change you want to see. I want to show compassion and love!❤
I loved watching this! Thank you for posting. Sometimes society forgets that men have emotions and can get hurt by love too. It’s nice to see them express their feelings 💖
Men are the only ones hurt my love because they love unconditionally Women love upon conditions. That’s why they can move on so fast after a breakup. They never truly loved their man. They loved what he could provide for them
This is a very wise group of gentleman. Heartbreak is envitable if youre human. It hurts but it means you felt something meaningful and thats beautiful ♥️
Found a girl I wanted to marry. And I had no intention of getting married before her and she changed my mind. I went on deployment, we both did and her ship got back sooner than mine. She knew I wanted to marry her, and knew I got the ring. She let her friends talk her out of it and ghosted the relationship, esp after my deployment got extended. I haven’t been the same since. I’ve been a dog, diving deep into my self loving, narcissistic villain arc and I hate/love it. I miss her sometimes and I don’t think another woman will recieve the amount of love and effort I put into that relationship. Nothing has felt the same. I’m so numb
when i was a teenager my heart was absolutely broken by a girl who i loved so much even though we were just together for 2 months. Funny how that could change a person, as i never ever trusted a girl with all of my heart ever since. Even though i am married now with an absolutely amazing girl, it was never quite the same as my first. it seems like when you are with someone dont show or tell him/her that you wanna spend the rest of your life with him/her. it spoils everything. you gotta play the game, play the push and pull the giving and taking the ups and downs which is really really hard, because we tend to give our all way too early and it just doesnt work out because you gave everything right away and youve got nothing else to offer
I relate so much to the last guy in the sense I too came from a broken home. My parents were very toxic and me and my sisters all have had relationship issues at times. My sisters have definitely gotten through it better than me been single 4 years now. But I do love being alone and doing basically anything I want. Stay strong fellas I'm here right there with you.
The saddest part is we weren't even in a relationship but i loved her so fucking much and she said "you know this can't work out 🤌" will i ever love again
1:00 Exactly what I had been through. No cheating, no drama, just the accretion of arguments that led to the irreparable end of our relationship. We are still friends and still care about each other, but we both know when things will never be the same anymore. Things like this happen, and we just have to accept it and move on, life will get better I promise
the last man is amazingly self aware ! kuddos to him
Yes, love this!
The last is on point, attachment style plays a huge role . 😊
I felt so bad for him, he was on the verge of tears. But I’m also proud of him.
I definitely relate to him. I hope I can break the cycle too
This last guy is 100% me! I was a foster child. Never felt like that affected me but not being nurtured from a young age significantly affects your development (I'm 33 now). In 2022 I had a girlfriend who I became overly attached to, so when she broke up with me, I fell deeply into depression, drinking alcohol to the point where last year I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks hooked up to IV drips and whatnot. Luckily because I served in the army, I have access to a veteran's mental health service where I will receive psycho-analytical counselling this month that will look into attachment/fostering.
Although this man would of suffered, it's nice to see someone else who I can relate to.
I just got my heart broken by someone I’ve been with for 12 years. You don’t understand the pain god bless everyone dealing with that
Sending you so much love ♥️
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8 years here, engaged for 4, have a house. No kids. Couple weeks ago she said shes not in love with me anymore. Felt the rift from a while ago though
Walked in on the woman I was with for 12 years, my wife, on top of another man on my living room floor.
@me8751 that horrible. I’m so sorry.
I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and when that guy said “it hurts more when you have no hatred towards them” that clicked instantly. I just hope she’s alright.
Dude trust me she’s completely fine
@@CrazyPanda688 You don't know that!
@@someone3187
95% chance she had a new BF within a week. Most women move on immediately. It’s the man that stays heartbroken for months on end
@@someone3187 95% chance she had a new BF within a week
@@CrazyPanda688Yeah she is. But it doesn’t matter right now she lives her life as she wants
These young men are very articulate with their feelings. Good shit guys. Keep our heads up and find what we dream of.
I thought the same! I love men who are in contact with their feelings
@@notme8152 they seem more real tbh. Unlike those alpha sigma or whatever cringe men that preach on podcasts. Plus all of these guys also phrased their sentences well and to the point. So it felt more real to connect with them. Hope they doing good and found someone they deserve and who deserves them
They definitely did 👍🏾
Because heart broken men are some of the toughest men out there, once they overcome their loss they become warriors and become much more mature.
See the difference between men and women? The first ones are responsable
First love hurts the most. It is a phase everyone has to go through. Sadly, our parents never prepare us for this mentally.
They do try to warn us. But we were too young and naive to truly understand what they meant. But they also want us to be happy, so they let us have that relationship. It's just part of life. We all have to experience it. A good parent knows that.
@VincentStevenStudio my mo never warned me about shit my mom never talked to me about relation ships my dad did and my dad tried but I didn't koke so I didn't listen shit he said or wanted he was a dick and an ass hole so i just said for get what you say what you say tbh tbh
@@VincentStevenStudioyour mom is part of life
There is not suppose to be a first love in the first place.
@Babigens there is supposed to be a first love I don't know what you're getting on bro there is supposed to be a first love and their always will be a first you may have be heart broken or some thing or you're assuming every first relation ship is going to work either way you're naive and ignorant for saying this either way or either way or naive and unintelligent I don't know I really don't know either way
Bro flexed his ring sooo fast. You can tell he really love his wife. You can tell the maturity when he says im not here for the games...
Yeah. I love that he got a happy ending,when he said he married the woman of his dreams
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I reach him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help bring your ex back.
Thank you for this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and he seems impressive.
Lovely young men. All the best to them.
Thank you for this x
man each rejection was getting worse so i do not bother anymore
They will find better women get married and have a family someday
@@HK00088amen brother! That’s blessing.
The Satan, the Devil could is blamed but it’s our responsibility to nots sit there and do nothing which makes it worse and do something evil that makes it worse do it’s like it’s all good from here forward no looking back to that person who could change but obviously it’s costly emotionally and financially and spiritually to stay with or around them so leave . And for all these men here yep eating healthy being good and loving ourselves is good as we should because that’s why Jesus Christ said “Love your neighbor as much as you love yourself”
@@litzyreavaldez8309 im not a Christian …
The common lesson here is to learn to love yourself before you try to make room for someone else in your life
That’s just a stereotype with all due respect to your own perspective… but I as a female have experienced the exact same with first love and so did my female best friend … it took us a year at least to heal properly… from a few months long relationship… we loved with our hearts and souls … only to be moved on from almost on the spot … yet we were ready to go above and beyond if were given the chance… in fact having loved them too much is probably what made it all so short lived …I believe it’s not a gender based thing … rather a Loyalty/ Kindness/purity based thing…. Adding that to the fact that it becomes challenging and even feels Miraculous to ever be able to love again… I don’t know where one could be without the love of God to fill that void in one’s heart and even surpass it hopefully… Add to that the fact that girls tend to have a timeline when it comes to redeeming a chance at motherhood… while guys can be fathers literally whenever…
It definitely hurts the most when you thought you were gonna spend your entire life with them …when in the midst of your intense pure love you get left out of nowhere… over text and over stuff one thing which have been very fixable….had the other person loved you as much as you loved them… even when it came to materialistic things in both situation Have seen females being the givers instead of the receivers… people are people most of them don’t appreciate things that come with ease … or get too impatient with challenges… or just simply don’t love enough those who love them alot… either gender can get too invested … and no one should be chasing anyone.
Everyone is worthy.
@@KobeBean5xchampOne of the reasons it appears to be that way is because women are more prone to negative emotions especially developing sensitivity after puberty to protect children as the maternal instincts develop
@@KobeBean5xchamp she was never yours , it’s only your turn
This is blatant politically correct crap LOL
@@Calculusofboobsshe is literally your property. It’s entirely your fault if you “let her go”.
Dated a girl for 4 months left me for another guy and only admitted it after I caught her. I said alright it’s cool best of luck. 3 months later she wanted to get back together. The other guy was typical abusive gym boy. I didn’t take her back. Never go back.
Good on you sir.
Good on you! Be true to yourself. You Deserve Better.
Congrats, it must have been hard 👏
Like I say, never go back with your ex before remembering why you left that person in the first place. You did well brother
Dude similar situation I’m thinking of just blocking her? What do u boys think
@@toeeater9672 dont allow to disrespect you, it can only go downhill from there. taking her back will lead to no respect for you.
Hardest part is when the favourite person changes and doesn't talk to you like he used to
@keepitsecret-dl1pr did they shower you with love and then turn into that other person? That's what mine did. She was an angel in the beginning, then became a monster trying to get me to leave... then when I did leave she tried to get me to come back.
If these people ever make you feel like you're not enough, ditch them. Someone better is out there.
@@AndrewDaniele87I don't want to make assumptions but you basically described my last relationship, and my ex had BPD. def sounds like attachment issues
they might need therapy and management for BPD
Or she used to. I know this all too well
Notice how none of them, except one dude, were talking badly or with bitterness about their ex. Even though they know full well what they did, they still decide to be free of the bitterness. This is called being mature.
May be they loved each other also.
Im pretty bitter dude. I dont like getting fucked with
I didn’t hear anyone talking bitterly about their ex
The worst pain is when the girl you loved shows you how much she doesn't care about you after the breakup.
Not saying it always is, but that can be a self-protection strategy. She's not showing emotions or that she still cares about you because that would hurt too much. It's still cruel though. Love is painful.
@@francookie9353 im 100% sure it was no self protection strategy because she fucked around after 2 Weeks of Breakup
@@foxtrotsierraproductions8626women like that are typically more fragile and heartbroken than the ones who don’t do that
The best way to get over it is to find some new pum pum.
@@foxtrotsierraproductions8626you don't know what goes through her mind, cuz they are a different person and have differnet coping mechanisms. Girls generally don't talk much about heartbreak as men do. They just suffer in silence
The worst pain is when you love a girl but she doesn't loves you back.
Sending you love
I used to think that... The worst pain is when the girl loves you, depends on you, listens to you, loves you more than even you can... Then she is forced into marriage due to situation and you can't do anything
@@troooooper100 What do you mean you can't do anything? Are you not her knight in shiny armour? Go free the princess so you can be with her - VAMOS!
You clearly haven’t went thru a breakup yet my boy lol
Yea, try you love her and she turns around to talk badly about you and invalidates everything you cherished…
Appreciate your honesty gents. Heartbreak hits us lads very, very hard. No shame in hurting.
Tbh it just goes to show how weak men are
There should never be shame in hurting and releasing the pain, it's like detoxing
Heartbreak hurts women too. I've seen cases where the girls committed suicide due to being unable to hold in the pain. So show some support to us girls as well
@@Ariadne4Girls are no strangers to getting emotional support from the people around them. This isn't something that is afforded to men most of the time.
Heartbreak affects both genders; the difference is that women are allowed to speak out about their emotions while men are forced to sit there and let them rip them apart from the inside.
Obviously girls deserve support, but just remember that they already get way more support in this regard than men ever have.
@@Josef_1186 you can pass me off as an outlier but when I vent my heartbreak to friends, there's always a point where I'm just sort of expected to not talk about it anymore.
“Break that generational curse”
Props to this man for having and applying such wisdom. Need to copy and paste him!
To all men out there. I love you bros. Im off antidepressants. Going to gym. Enjoying life the best I can. I broke up in uni. Honestly, us men, we get heartbroken once in our lifetime, and then stop carrying.
Took me 3 times..
Love this energy - keep doing you 🫡
@@me8751 right here too brother. 3rd time was the charm for me. I was done after.
😂😂😂 just one time…. Oh my Lord, What a sad life. I’m glad our ancestors weren’t ❄️ flakes
One time??? Oh buddy you're in for a trip...
Bruh is so lucky, most men don't even have time to talk about their feelings/ a period of heartbreak, we just bury that feeling. These guyz talking about their's is pure gold
It's not question of time man, it's question that we thing our feeling doesn't really matter and live have told us that our sentiment aren't respected at all.
We never Ask a boy : "how do you feel ?" Because society don't Care of our feelings that's the.hard truth.
Worst than that, telling its feelings as a guy is seen as weakness by women and create natural rejection feeling.
I think girl don't search the feeling of a man. Keep bro' with you with one you can share it. Real bro' are same kind of Guy as you, they will understood how you really feel. A women can't, a women will make you feel better normaly, andnyou will make it feel her better, but you will never share your feeling with her because you will create rejection feeling in her.
Keep your damn bro' near by guys.
Xavier, child, you have no clue what you're talking about. Men and women are the same inside. We need the same things. If a man is insecure and equates his worth with getting women, then that's a commonly male problem... But that's not biological. It's societal.
Remember: a woman is the same inside as you are. Treat her accordingly. Be kind, be real, be considerate. Never treat her any way you wouldn't want your daughter to be treated.
My heartbreak comes from never being loved. I’m 55 and have never once been in a relationship. I would loved to have had a family but it’s too late now. I hate the thought of living my entire life and never experiencing something as basic as being loved by one special person.
But who says it's too late?
People fall in love even at 70
Anyway first and foremost I would encourage to receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, the Bible tells us that He got time and seasons in His hands, He is not subject to time because He created time (Dan 2:21, Gen 1:14, Psalms 16:7, ). Therefore He can begin writing your chapter at 55yrs
Most of my friends have given up . We hit 30 and just stopped. I wanted a wife and children. I know I'll never have that.
Now that I'm 50 , I have zero interest in sexual relations with women my age and they can't give me children so they offer nothing.
"You steal my solitude, but offer no companionship." And from experience , women. Are less trustworthy than a used car salesman.
It's never too late to have a family don't let your past block your present and future
My dad had me at 55. It’s never too late in life
It’s overrated especially in this generation
My ex cheated on me. he cheated on me throughout the entire duration of our relationship, which was five years. He married to the girl he used to tell me was his cousin. I loved him. I wanted to marry him and have kids and shower him with all the love I could. I too grew up in a dysfunctional family and wanted to build a better life and family for myself. But after I had just given up and walked away, he told every single one of his buddies that I had misbehaved with his family (I used to go to his house, tale care of them in his absence, cook, clean, give them medicines). That relationship broke me and it has been a decade, i have not recovered. So, never judge by listening to only one side of the story. It takes two to tango.
Lads, i’ve been in a relationship with a girl for 8 years. I’ve spent almost all my twenty’s with this girl. And this hearthbreak (one of others) learned me one thing. Do what you want to do in life. Work on yourself very hard. Be compassionate with yourself, feel what you gotta feel but never ever lose yourself in self pitty. Self pitty is the most worthless emotion there is.
Thanks... I needed this
That must've been very harsh and I couldn't imagine your heartbreak. My first heartbreak was devastating even though the relationship only lasted for 6 months. But my pain is nothing compared to yours.
I'm not trying to patronize, but before diving into relationships, remember his advice, folks. Rejection is inevitable and that's fine. I pray and hope that all of you, myself included, are resilient towards rejection. GBU all.
im 31 and i just suffered from my first heartbreak back in early October of this year, and my God, it's a lot more painful than i ever imagined. it's been two months and i still feel sad. i never thought this would happen to me.
I had my first heartbreak at 15, 17, 18, 23,25, 30. After 30 I became a fuck boy!
Man it’s gets easier after the third time. I had my heart broken many times. Now I have no heart for relationships. The good news is that you can have more as it’s only happened once. I had it happen too many times I gave up on true love. I hope the next one stays with you
@@Stevo-klo45453 thanks man, but im done with relationships... FOREVER.
@@Stevo-klo45453tbh its rare to find true love outside of. Christ . I look at the anime girls and they’re really Not worth dating
Yep its a spiritual connection which is broken when one of the sexes or the same breaks the spiritual connection of course the only righteous relationship is one where it is a man and woman. Who respect each other and God. Man or woman who has sexual anything with another man or woman breaks the trust and bond immediately though you may not know it. I think a psychopath must feel it too. It’s not very easy on anyone. But that’s why you marry the opposite sex because it’s rational and common sense and real love if you love God especially. I’ve felt emotional anguish in my heart but never heartbroken nor cheated against.
That guy whose girl kissed him to see if there was still something there was incredibly cruel. Imagined if she egged him on and he thought they were getting back together again with those weird mixed signals. Wtf man.
That was not egging. She was checking if she still felt something with that kiss.
You have not heard her version of why she broke up.
Don't judge before you hear both sides of arguments.
@@bapparawal2457no, that’s a shitty thing to do. If you want to figure out if you love someone, you do some introspection to evaluate your feelings. You don’t initiate physical contact to decide if the chemistry is there. That’s not love. It’s lust. Most women don’t really know the difference though. Not every kiss is going to be magic. Look at people who have been married for a few decades. They’re not acting like horny teenagers. They’re taking care of each other because they recognize the value of what they share together. A kiss isn’t going to tell you if you’re in love with someone and if you’re too stupid to see that then you’re not really capable of love yet. She didn’t love him, but the kiss wasn’t the evidence of it. The fact that she’s put him through that without considering the effects that would have on him is.
@@spencerpetersen4092 yeah man I couldn’t agree more.
@spencerpetersen4092 thank you
@@spencerpetersen4092Man so true. Had half of guys here behave like h*rny sh*theads with me. Adult men included, not just young! Man something is wrong with guys here where I live
I still love my childhood sweetheart after breaking up 10 years ago. I still have dreams about her where we find each other again and try again but were happy and more mature this time. But when I wake up I have to accept the reality that it will never happen. Shes married with a kid now. I most likely dont even cross her mind. Im forgotten. They say time heals all wounds. While that is true, I still have the scars.
We're sorry to hear this but thank you so much for sharing your story and your vulnerability ♥️
Yes, breaking up does leave scars on your heart and soul But you were not meant to be together. She was your first love and she was in your life to help teach you about love.
Now it's time for you to take your life back and move on. Your soul mate is out there looking for You.
Move on bro. Start talking to other women.
Worst pain is when you broke up but you both still love each other but are done
I found it more painful to realise I got treated very poorly and made a fool of by someone I loved.
In my first relationship I still felt loved and valuable after we split up. We had grown apart, but we didn't regret the relationship and we stayed friends.
After that I met a narcissist and only 2 months with him disintegrated me.
Then that’s not love
@@helgaioannidis9365thats what scares me for commiting again since just like you we split up knowing we still love each other after 3yrs of relationship, sometimes i just like to think that we've met the right person in the wrong time
Heartbreak made me a stronger person. I have more clarity on relationships and life in general, and more optimistic about how I’ll handle future relationships. Needless to say, I was devastated when it first happened. But there’s light at the end of the tunnel
Thank you for this ❤️
The first heartbreak is the worst because afterwards you feel like you could have maybe handled things better and been less naive if you could just go back. Because the further on in life you go and the more experience you have it just seems like it’d be starting the game over on easy mode with the one you will always imagine an alternate future together with. But there’s no time Machine so you just have to accept it. And likely you’re not the only one learning from mistakes. She probably did too, wondering if she handled everything well or ruined what could have been good.
Ditto. After the first puppy love is over you soon learn that there will always be more pum pum around the corner.
Haha I like that, very true@@oldsalt8011
@@Roboartist117Wonder if my ex feel the same. Tho I def wasn't his 1st gal, he was the 1st one for me
If you love yourself, it’s easier to love others. Wise words.
The dude at 2:12 def described me and what happened with my ex perfectly. I’m all in. Ready to settle down. She said even though she loves me and has never been treated so well in her entire life, she’s not emotionally ready for a relationship and has known since day 1. It’s been 1.5 months now and I feel completely destroyed. Hearing his story and how similar it sounded, gives me hope that my wife is out there somewhere. I hope I find her soon
So sorry to hear this - sending all the love ♥️
She is at fault for certain as anyone else would be what’s!?? But you are responsible since you love yourself more than she who did not love you. Meaning you carry automatic responsibility to heal emotional and spiritual pain In your heart because most people who hurt us won’t come along and soften the very shots they fired at us almost all humans probably wouldn’t. That’s why Jesus Christ is there for you he still loved you which is strange to me even now but if you accept him over time you’ll feel filled with love as if you don’t need mommy and daddy and wife nor sibilings nor children. Of course you should do that 😅 get all the children you want procreate them into existence and ask God to give bless you with more fertility. But right now I feel at peace. I don’t need to please Anyone if they hate me I’ll please people who don’t hate me though sometimes it does soften hateful monegrino people’s hearts.
800 prophecies we’re completed in the Bible that’s a 1 x 10^895 possibility. It would take 10
Minutes to write the zeroes.
If you died right now are you a 100% sure you’d go to Heaven?
all people have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
What is sin? Sin is essentially any bad thing we've ever done.
Have u sinned before?
Because of sin the punishment is a burning hell.
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
Revelation 21:8 KJV
Do u know the story of Jesus? (If yes skip next step) if not do next step. God came down to earth as a man. Lived for 33 and a half years. He never sinned his whole life. Eventually some people got jealous of him and got him convicted of phony charges. He got crucified on the cross. Died. Was buried for 3 days then he was resurrected by his own power.
Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us?
It’s because remember your sin is the problem why you can’t go to Heaven right?
The only thing that can wash away your sin is the blood of Jesus Christ
“But God shows his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
Romans 5:8 KJV
God did all that to save us from hell
"Much more than, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.”
Romans 5:9 KJV
Ephesians 2:8-9
“We’re saved by Grace through faith which is not of ourselves it is the gift of God not by works for fear any man should boast”
Salvation is not by good works like “water baptism, attending church, any good thing you do”
“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”
2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV
To get saved, you need to repent as a sinner. Or, you need to be sorry for being a sinner. Are you sorry for being a sinner?
“that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”
Romans 10:9 KJV
Do you believe everything you’ve heard in the gospel so far?
All you have to do is say it to God in less than 15 seconds
I’ll even help you say it to god all you have to do is repeat after me.
I’m going to give you the words to repeat, but remember repeating this prayer doesn’t save you. You genuinely meaning the words from your heart does
Dear god I repent as a sinner I believe Jesus is God who died buried and resurrected so his blood can wash away my sins. So I only trust in the blood alone to save me. Not my good works. To save me from hell in Jesus name. I pray amen
So if you believe in him and what he did. You'll be justified by his blood and saved from hell and you'll get an eternity of Love, joy, and peace
Then after that. Just read the King James Version Bible daily. As man does not by bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. It says like a newborn baby desire the pure milk of the word so that you can grow by it. And Jesus said, Sanctify them through your truth. Your word is truth. Essentially Jesus was saying. Make your believers holy through reading your word, and finally. If you continue in my word, then you are truly my disciples and you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
@@MeowNow494 she did lead me on. She told me from day 1 she wanted marriage and kids and all that. Then later on in the relationship, introduced me to her family. Was talking about getting engaged to me and having kids with me. Then one day says “I’m not IN love with you. I just love you. Also, I’m no longer sexually attracted to you and that’s your fault. You brought that to fruition by being vulnerable with me” so yeah…she lead me on and fucked me up when she left.
@@MeowNow494everything is about about them to women. Fuck your side homie. They don’t think about that. Or tak accountability
I really appreciate each and every man on this video for being honest, last guy talking, what a gem. So honest open and smart. Bless you all. I always tell my ladies there is no diffrence in a mans pain and womans pain. A broken heart is a broken heart. Lead with love, ALWAYS. I belive in my heart most men just hunger for real and honest love. Some times us women just don't understand. Let her know what the problem is. If she refuses to listen/compromise let go. But if you have a woman that does listen and compromise please don't take her for granted. Having an honest respectful partner is the most beautiful thing, not all of us are that lucky. Even when you two are having a shitty day, WORK THROUGHT IT if there is love respect and honesty. You will make it! ❤
Finding a good relationship is so important❤️
I thought I'd marry this woman, it was effortless the way she took down all the walls I had built up around me. I was confident as a man and never really felt insecure about guy friends, so when she went to visit her guy friend's family I didn't fight about it. Even bought snacks and drinks for their 3 hr drive over. It'll be a year in a couple of weeks sonce we broke up, and it'll be a year since they've been together. Now I understand the fear of the guy friend "you don't meed to worry about."
I'm trying to feel sad for you but the spelling mistakes in your comment are preventing me from feeling sympathy.
That's cold.
Why would she go visit his family with him? Why didn't he take a girl who he's seeing or just go by himself? If you have a female friend who's in a relationship, you wouldn't invite her to go away with you to visit your family. Did you not see it coming?
I’ll never date a woman with close guy friends
Absolutely not
Indeed one of the harder truths in life. People use trust as an excuse to backstab you when the need arises. Male/female friendship is bogus, specially if your girl is attractive.
0:55 You don’t need to ‘feel’ anything to love someone or be loved. True love isn’t a feeling at all. What we think is ‘nothing’ might just be the peace and safety that our body needs. And what we think is a spark might be anxiety that we’re not even aware of. Of course, there are exceptions, but people need to stop looking for a spark and start thinking more like: am I happy? Does this person respect and love me? Can I respect and love them? Etc
Going thru a tough break up. Im with you lads, your not alone. Stay strong boys.
The worst thing to experience in a relationship is to remember how our loved ones used to be... and how they changed for the worse... and having to treat those loved ones with our full guard up so as to not get hurt again... and having to accept mentally that they aren't our loved anymore while looking at them ...
It can literally feel like dying alone in cold is better than experiencing these moments...
We have to treat dead relationships sort of like deceased love ones.Bury them walk away and cherish the good times.They're gone but you'll live inspite of the grief.And instead of being bitter hope they're in a better place.Might not feel like it now but it's better than being in a one sided love affair.
Man I can relate to the one guy who said there was no cheating, hatred or animosity. They were just incompatible. The longest relationship I’ve ever been in ended in a similar way. We’re still somewhat good friends almost 10 years later but it took a very, very long time to come to terms with it because I didn’t really have any negative views of her to fall back on. I’m happy with the person I’m with now but I always wonder in the back of my head if she is because of that experience. Best of luck to all trying to make whatever relationship they are in work.
People often complain that men aren't emotional enough, and then criticize men who talk about heir heartbreak.
Good on these brave men for talking about it!
It's men who criticize men for talking about feelings. Most women would love to hear men talk about what they feel .
Not just in romance but even in other relationship men don't talk about their feelings to women.
@@bapparawal2457because if men are emotionally vulnerable with women then this is often used as ammunition later on during a rough patch
It’s just one of those things you don’t do. It doesn’t do you any favours as a man
@@bapparawal2457Women will claim they want emotional men and then turn around and insult you for acting that way.
@@Josef_1186 your projecting.
That last man, literally talked with his heart ❤️.
My alarm end all my relationship 😔
If it's literally, then his heart should be coming out of his chest and talk. Mind your words.
Gather round. Daddy is about to tell you a few secrets as someone who’s been on both sides of multiple breakups:
It’s going to be okay. You are awesome. You will laugh again. You are enough. You needed this breakup to learn something about yourself. Don’t miss the lesson. Don’t follow them on social media. Matter of fact, get off the grid. Get sunshine. Don’t try to get revenge anything on them. Think higher of yourself.
You have nothing to fear.
I hope every guy and girl here find the love they’re looking for. My now ex boyfriend just ghosted me out of nowhere, it’s been 2 months and I haven’t heard from him since. We were together for 5 years…all down the drain. Planning our wedding and then he just never spoke to me, would lead me on read and just ghosted me.
I'm so sorry ❤. I hope you're doing well.
Wow, Im just speechless. Wish the best for you, I hope you are doing well
Oh wow 😢
I feel that ghosting is wrong and a sign of serious weakness on his part. Stay strong, sounds like you did your best.
Had a relationship with a girl and was all in went through her phone was like oh yeah then ghosted the bitch always 2 sides to a story
People say tough times and experiences makes a man stronger otherwise he would be sitting in his comfort zone vulnerable and weak all the time. Take this as a lesson and move on in life.
this is enough to make a grown man cry
It feels that we men should also talk about our hardships in life
100 percent
We have so much to talk and we men definitely so much disadvantage in society and struggles.
Pushing against the ideas of what men should be like hyper stoicism and only being able to express ourselves with anger. Men must police other men to change.
I appreciate these men sharing these experiences
We're so glad!
People who find their love are the luckiest in the world. my only girl cheats on me, we were together for 8 years. It took me a solid ten years to come out of the pain, heartbreak and the traumatic time each day brought upon me. I've never loved ever since. I even tried to end myself to avoid the pain. Worst thing to ever do to a man. Takes your sanity away.
I cried every night for years. It was never ending 😭
@@TheOnlyDominatorU okay now?
She shattered not only my heart
But shattered my soul,my body,my trust and everything
She left me in pieces
Im scared to ever love again thinking what if they do the same again and leave me again
Go to therapy Please
Those men who mange to over come and those who are in the process. I love you all as your brother💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻.
Was with her for 6 years and we gradually drifted apart. I tried so hard to patch up the sinking ship but it just wasn’t working so the break up was really tough. Hang in there brothers! Dating a new woman now and she is fantastic so there is always something waiting for you out there. Break ups can free you for something better/healthier. 👊
How did you convince yourself to move on. Ive this amazing guy putting efforts and being there for me but i can’t reciprocate bc all i can think about is my ex.
@@shinjinigoyal5272 then you shouldn't be in a relationship yet
“I feel if you love yourself, it’s easy to love someone else” fuck bro
Time is a healer when you get your heart broken ,better days 😊
Love seeing this side of men admitting how hard it was for them to move on from their ex's. This is needed in a society where we only get to see men bottling up their feelings.
Just got my heart-broken by the girl I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with.
She says she still loves me, but wants to work on herself. I’m torn between trying to wait on her, or just trying to bear down and move on. It’s awful.
You will heal
Let her be
If she cared so much let her show it
Not say it
And if if she does
Who knows if you will be there let alone better without her
Your not alone my brother
Last guy spoke some truth . Break yo family’s curses starting with you !
Im in the exact same Situation as the first guy. Also daten for 15 months, thought he is my big love. After one month of trying to work it out I'm giving this up. There.are better people out there for us buddy!
Feels good hearing men express their feelings. Usually it’s us women but I love and respect their vulnerability.
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Oh hush
“Usually it’s us women” -
I think you might find that generalizations and expectations of men being emotional or not emotional, will stifle any emotional expression
@@chriswalsh7028they often tell on themselves
Especially loved the self reflection and growth of the last guy. Very admirable. He mentioned generational curses, I wonder if he's a Christian :)
Curious, what does it has to do with Christianity?
If he were a Christian then he’d probably be incapable of introspection and reuse to believe anything he doesn’t want to believe, the way most Christians seem to be.
It's a rare to find men so mature, self aware, introspective and emotionally intelligent
It’s actually pretty common
It’s probably 85% of men. The 15% bad boy gym “alphas” are the ones who aren’t mature, but those are the guys women go for
That’s why you think it’s rare when it really isn’t
Its not rare...its a lot common than u think...its just, people don't care to ask. Nobody cares what guys go through.
That man said it, " If you love yourself, it's easy to love others."
3 days ago i went through a heartbreak, my very first one. Long distance relationship with a perfect girl ive been with for 3 years, we loved each other so deeply, we were in sync, inseperable and soul mates at one point. Thats how everything felt, it felt so PERFECT. No other word to describe it, it was mutual on both sides. We met each other at low points and helped each other up. She was my motivation to be better, she made bettering myself become exciting because i couldnt wait to put her in a big house and make her happy. She took care of me so well when i was broke and had nothing, held me down..
3 days ago she broke it to me that she met another girl at pride , kissed her and had feelings for her, found out she was attracted to girls and not guys anymore. Lost all love and affection for me after that one kiss, all of our commitments officially meant nothing and she went numb towards me. She told me she just doesnt understand how shes feeling right now , but it destroyed me. Im broken. I have to celebrate my birthday in 11 days without her. I never got to pamper her the way I wanted, life was just getting good for me and was about to get better for the both of us, even though she thought it was at its peak before the kiss and was content with it, things was just starting to get so good............. Lord please help me. Im hurting and it hurts to live right now, its agonizing, my heart hurts and aches, why does this feel so painful, its cruel. Went from obsessing over each other and seeing each other in our future for years to come all the way to her not seeing me in her future at all after one kiss, in one day. How does love work like that?
(Note: She did love me alot leading up to the kiss by the girl, everything just changed in that moment)
that sucks so badly, my girlfriend of 2 years just dumped me this morning and i have no idea what to do with my life now. really no clue where to go but i know life can only get better. i’m going through it too you’re not the only one❤️
@@UNICORN_cr sending much hugs and love man. I pray you truly find that woman who tops the last all around
Litterally same thing happened to me a couple months ago safe to say im not the same guy that i once was
happened to me two days ago long distance same feelings everything
Bro, if she lets you down that easily she aint worth it! I mean the very fact she "lost" All her Feelings towards you after practically cheating on you (even with the same gender??!) Shows how dishonest she was to you. Keep your Head up, set your Standards higher and you will get over it once you meet the right one. Until then, be sure you deserve way better.
the third one literally took the words out of my mouth. it hurts so much more when you can't be angry because all that's left is sadness and that feels worse.
That last guy 😢 you can tell he has a good heart and wants to be loved and to love sooo freakin bad
That first Love is the sweetest but that first cut is the deepest.
-Drake
I have been with my first boyfriend for 8 years and 6 months back he proposed, I was ecstatic. But a few weeks before the wedding, I came to know that he was living together with another girl for a year and a half. Had multiple relationships and many hookups, while I was waiting for him like a fool. Had to call off the wedding. He acted so much like a perfect gentleman to me that even now I wake up I get confused on whether it’s all real. I still can’t figure out why he would do that. And top it all off, I have to give exams and Im in medical school. It’s tough cause he was my emotional support system during med school. I don’t think I can trust anyone anymore. All I do is cry to sleep and wake up crying.
Don't do that. I mean the crying part. Don't waste tears for a person like that. You will find a better person. But don't waste your time with a person who doesn't commit.
I feel like more guys need to hear other guys talking about things they went through, especially when things turned out better after getting through the difficult decisions and the pain
Heartbreak its the worst shit because it really shakens the core instinct and need we have as living beings ! But its so necessary ! Heartbreak makes you stronger Just wish i wasnt so strong and more happy !
Love this, thank you!
it’s so important for men to have spaces to be vulnerable about their feelings and experiences.
It hurts worse when you share children with this person and have to see them on a regular basis. And they are not sorry for their actions. I took accountability for mine but he didn't.
I feel for these guys it’s tough being emotionally invested in a girl then she’s just gone a void in your life
I appreciate these men sharing their stories. We all go through heartbreak in life and hopefully we can all learn from it and love ourselves first and heal before we move on. Like the one man said sometimes one relationship ends in heartbreak but we end up finding the love of our life after.
I love men opening up and talking about their feelings! Don't let anyone ever tell you it is not "manly" to do so
The worst thing about many women who don't love men back is that they keep those men around to boost their ego and use them for other benefits, asking them for favours etc. They don't let them go or move on and don't care about those men's feelings, how heartbreaking and painful it is. They might say "no" (but not always they do that) but still give some mixed signals giving some false hope just to keep them around.
@@MeowNow494
I'm not writing about these cases but about many cases I've heard about and some cases I've seen or experienced myself for a short time. It's better to see a you're not interested and stop seeing each other and if you do,. be careful about words and gestures you make because if someone is in love, doesn;'t think clearly and it's easy to give false hope to a person like that. And of course not to take advantage of that to make a guy or girl to make favours for you, if you need something and you know he/she will not refuse. I see it as basic human decency not to play with someone's feelings. Heartbreak hurts but it's way better than situation I described and happens too often unfortunately.
While that's true. Let's not forget that men are adults and often aware of what's going on (and that their hope is a delusion).
If that kind of friend zone dynamic is allowed to keep going even if potentially damaging, the responsibility is not just on the woman. It's on both - consenting - adults.
@anousenic
Men or women in that situation don't think rationally. They're more controlled by their feelings emotions. So it's just not fair to play with them for own and very shallow benefits.
My first love broke up with me a month ago. We've been together for a year but I've been loving her for 6 years prior to our relationship. I thought i would have spent the rest of my life with her. The first two weeks were really hard, but now i'm starting to feel better, I have a new mindset, i'm more optimistic, more open to whatever opportunity will come in my life, i'm less anxious and i'm starting to appreciate the present in every little aspect rather than getting worried about the future.
She left me because she said she's getting depressed and doesn't feel like having someone around but that she still loves me, i'm 100% sure she didn't cheat because we literally spent every free moment of everyday together when we didn't work, but i'm getting into the fact that if you really love someone you just don't leave them so easily or at least you try to see if things can work out and you'd let the person you supposedly love to hold your hand and be there for you in your hard times. I still love her and probably will forever, but I feel i'm on the right way for acceptance and letting her go.
This last guy is 100% me! I was a foster child. Never felt like that affected me but not being nurtured from a young age significantly affects your development (I'm 33 now). In 2022 I had a girlfriend who I became overly attached to, so when she broke up with me, I fell deeply into depression, drinking alcohol to the point where last year I ended up in hospital for 2 weeks hooked up to IV drips and whatnot. Luckily because I served in the army, I have access to a veteran's mental health service where I will receive psycho-analytical counselling this month that will look into attachment/fostering.
Although this man would of suffered, it's nice to see someone else who I can relate to.
I love seeing guys being real and raw.
That's crazy cus im those things
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I like the fact that none of them abused their ex's
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This video was so pure fr...❤
Like they would expose themselves even if they did…
I've never heard of abused ex's i've just been thru a really rough breakup, (well.. it's been 5 months and i still think of her day and night no matter how hard i try to move on. i'm cool, but i still think of her) i tried to have a conversation with her and not only thru texts.. i even saw her on the street couple of times but the way she ended things and shown me the immediate distance she needed from me. i didn't even approach. and i was scared i guess i didn't date much. but I'd never do anything to hurt her.
Couples usually don't abuse each other. Those are only the extreme, toxic cases.
@@LPWWE06 you doing better now
@@fergokaoh my sweet summer child...
Been almost a year since my ex and I broke up. Unfortunately I’m really the one who ruined it, and now I’m the one stuck with hurt while she’s happy with someone else. Still hurts everyday, sometimes I still cry but I let it out and do my best to keep going. Stay strong fellas
I like the man who said it didn’t work out and Thrn he got married motivating
My ex and I were together for ten years. Had a house that I paid for so that we could live near her family.
One weekend, she sent me a text that simply said,"I dont love you anymore. Im moving out."
She had packed all of her belongings and was gone less than two weeks later.
I have no idea how Im still alive right now. That first night of being in a house alone after years and years and years of sharing it with somebody else...I wouldnt wish that on anybody.
Silence becomes deafening.
I feel the fourth guy❤️🩹 True heartbreak does feel like you want to die, but when you come out on the other side you're strong as hell ❤️🔥🫶
When your girl goes from " I'm lucky for having you, thanks for being on my life, I want to end up with you" to "you are great guy but not for me, i found the right people, i appreciate what you did for me, but...." Is just hard, so hard, being with her on her darkest time and watching her goes to other guys at her best, so heartbreaking, 10 months ago exactly i broke up with her, still i see her on dreams, in January she had birthday, i wished her, today is my birthday, she didn't, it makes me feel destroyed
Stop doing that bro. You need to know your worth. Gone is gone. Work on yourself, gym, travel, may be if you are religious, pray. Don't let anyone take advantage of yourself when they're low
Appreciate these men for opening up and honestly this is why I never want a relationship because of people getting cheated on and relationships ending sooner or later
(Long read)
It definitely changes a man. Last year proves it for me.
I was guarded before, and opened up to a woman I'd talked to for years. She accepted, and for a short while, I was the happiest I'd ever been. Then, bam, I'm told she doesn't feel anything and had moved on from potentially liking me months prior to my confession. Basically it seems the relationship was a test to her. And I often wondered how many times when she said "I love you" if she meant it, or if she was lying through her teeth.
Let me tell you, before that breakup day, I never lent much thought to the idea that words can cause physical pain. But when it happened, at first I sat for two days in what could be likened to shell shock.Then, it felt like I'd been socked in the stomach, and my chest was tight.
Clearly I was devastated, but I've been recovering. I dont think a man will ever truly forget his first love and what it was like. But it's a learning experience for sure. Have faith brothers.
how are you doing now? all good?
@@abdjahdoiahdoai I'd be a liar if I said I don't still think of it sometimes, but I'm way better than I was
My gf and I broke up a week ago. It hurts so much. During this time, I see my own mistakes and hers. I still want to get back together, but I must improve myself first. I hope she does the same as well. Maybe not for each other, but for themselves. I hope you are doing fine. Onward and upwards 💪🏻
Aw the last guy was so sweet and strong. Break that generational curse baby!!! ❤ hell yeah
1:08 thats so true and i relate with it, breaking up without any hatred or without anything wrong from each other hurts a lot more i feel like and especially when you still care about them and all i guess
I relate to the last guy, love when he said he gonna break the "generation curse" so true with my family...
Even though I've not gone through love, I'm heartbroken with my life. No one cares about my loyalty 💔
God does seek Him and you will find Him. He will bring great ppl that love you into your life.
@@manuelm5744 Hope
It’s not the same kind of pain
As someone who has lost greatly I will say this. Whatever it is you have lost and can’t seem to get over remember to take care of yourself. Hit the gym when you don’t feel like it, save money when youd rather drink it away, talk to someone without limits. Keep moving forward
Worst feeling is when u yourself have to break up and cut off all contact from someone u loved and growed with for years because they betrayed u but they wont stop calling after months of u forcing yourself to ignore them
Mine dumped me last year and our wedding was this year.... it's painful especially since I know she's dating someone else now but I gotta just keep it moving and figure myself out again and hopefully I'll meet the right one.
You will that I can promise you!
"The most important aspect of love isn't in the giving or the receiving, its in the being" Ram Dass
Men speaking their pain so beautiful and sad at the same time. They were very elaborate! I enjoyed this video very much.
You don't know what hurts most? The relationship that never starts.
You are so so mistaken. That's infatuation not genuine love. Just wait until you're in a mutual relationship and experience true heartbreak
@@belles7667 I never said that it wasn't mutual. My case was basically that for months until we couldn't be together because of circumstances. Also you just can't gatekeep what heartbreak is. If you felt it then that's all that matters.
@@MrCarguy2I don’t think he was gate keeping, and its true you can’t measure heartbreak.
However you said *hurts the most* just generally speaking why would a relationship you never had hurt more than being with someone for a good amount of time and then being dumped?
I hope a lot of women see this video so they can finally understand that men also can be heartbroken and suffer when they are dump, throw away. Its just not only them who can or feel that way. No one is made of stone. We all have hearts and feelings.
the worst thing is to know that she is already with someone else after 1 month after a 3 years relationship... So painful...
I really like what the last gentleman had to share. "Breaking the generation curse" so many people come from broken families (me included) and it's so tough to change that cycle for future generations. Once you hurt or get tired of feeling so much hurt/pain, it's a bit easier to make or be the change you want to see. I want to show compassion and love!❤
I loved watching this! Thank you for posting. Sometimes society forgets that men have emotions and can get hurt by love too. It’s nice to see them express their feelings 💖
Men are the only ones hurt my love because they love unconditionally
Women love upon conditions. That’s why they can move on so fast after a breakup. They never truly loved their man. They loved what he could provide for them
@@portia547 I feel like there’s more to that story because men rarely leave women
This is a very wise group of gentleman. Heartbreak is envitable if youre human. It hurts but it means you felt something meaningful and thats beautiful ♥️
Found a girl I wanted to marry. And I had no intention of getting married before her and she changed my mind. I went on deployment, we both did and her ship got back sooner than mine. She knew I wanted to marry her, and knew I got the ring. She let her friends talk her out of it and ghosted the relationship, esp after my deployment got extended. I haven’t been the same since. I’ve been a dog, diving deep into my self loving, narcissistic villain arc and I hate/love it. I miss her sometimes and I don’t think another woman will recieve the amount of love and effort I put into that relationship. Nothing has felt the same. I’m so numb
It’s always their friends
Misery loves company
when i was a teenager my heart was absolutely broken by a girl who i loved so much even though we were just together for 2 months. Funny how that could change a person, as i never ever trusted a girl with all of my heart ever since. Even though i am married now with an absolutely amazing girl, it was never quite the same as my first. it seems like when you are with someone dont show or tell him/her that you wanna spend the rest of your life with him/her. it spoils everything. you gotta play the game, play the push and pull the giving and taking the ups and downs which is really really hard, because we tend to give our all way too early and it just doesnt work out because you gave everything right away and youve got nothing else to offer
I relate so much to the last guy in the sense I too came from a broken home. My parents were very toxic and me and my sisters all have had relationship issues at times. My sisters have definitely gotten through it better than me been single 4 years now. But I do love being alone and doing basically anything I want. Stay strong fellas I'm here right there with you.
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The saddest part is we weren't even in a relationship but i loved her so fucking much and she said "you know this can't work out 🤌" will i ever love again
1:00 Exactly what I had been through. No cheating, no drama, just the accretion of arguments that led to the irreparable end of our relationship. We are still friends and still care about each other, but we both know when things will never be the same anymore. Things like this happen, and we just have to accept it and move on, life will get better I promise