"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- This is a rant about how much I hate the question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?". It's just a life rant, not about vtubing. Hope you enjoy.
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@KoziiChu
Hi, I'm Kozii, I yap about stuff. Check out my other channel, @KoziiChu !
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This is a different kind of content, but I hope you guys like it as much as my other yapping. Tell me what you think!
Also, an addition.. Hell, one of my exes went to school to be a teacher. He does actually love kids, and would actually have loved to work with them... But he found through that schooling and through internships with preschools that people would judge him FOR having that passion, and for loving that work. It made him entirely turn around and start fresh again, and now he works as a pretty accomplished chef.
Life is so weird, sometimes even when it IS something that you want more than anything to do, you might not be able to for one reason or the other. We should never think that one idea will be the thing that we'll do forever. We can do anything, at any time, and become anyone.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
"I want to be happy."
"Sorry, bud. Too unrealistic"
I completely agree!!!!
'in this economy!?!? sorry bud but hey if you get a job you love you'll never work a day in your life'
*My Dad is a corporate manager for a major car company. He is ALWAYS working. I asked him once if he likes his job. He told me no, but he Loves my Mother and I. I would never define my Father by his position or social status.*
*Rina and I graduated High School together with honors, right when the pandemic was starting. The economy was in shambles, so we enrolled in a community college and attended the courses online for the majority of our two year degrees.*
*We got retail jobs when the economy was opening up again. Our town is small and semi-rural. We are lucky we have a supporting community and everyone knows us practically. We became store managers in three years, and we got our house this year.*
*The amount of people calling us failures, because Rina and I work in retail, is awful. Rina and I are Happy and our parents are proud of us.*
*And that’s all that should matter. Happiness and Family. Rina is my BEST Friend and like my Sister. I will fight for her and I know she will always catch me if I fall. Don’t compare yourselves to others and live for your own happiness and peace. Make your own family, if the one you have is none existent or bad*
*Great Video* ❤
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I still don't understand why people make a big stink about retail. Retail is required in a commercialized society. People who actually know how to do customer service are rapidly declining. It's a skillset which is harder and harder to find as time goes on. So don't let anyone crap on your working retail; I did it for a long, long time and it's as valid of a career as any other career.
@@mompaca Rina and I live in Japan. We only partially grew up in the USA. It’s only Americans giving us crap for working retail.
I told Kozii when she was young that she could be anything she wanted to be.
Didn't expect her to become an anime alpaca girl on the internet, but you know, that's a solid choice.
Do what fuels you. Find your passion and make it work for you. Be who you are.
I'm still thousands of dollars in debt for a criminal justice degree I'll never use because at the time it felt like the thing I 'needed' to do and I never really stopped to think of what I 'wanted' to do...
With you there, mate. 🫂
I always wanted to be a world traveler and professional adventurer like Indiana Jones or Jason Bourne.
Highschool does not prepare you for a work life in the US. They let the market sort you out instead of funneling you/introducing you into a work field during high school.
dude, for reall. and then everyone gets mad at people in their 20s for trying to figure out what real life is.
I remember my mom being very angry at my elementary school over this. When I was in... I think first grade I brought home homework and she got confused. So she talked to my teacher about it and asked why I needed to do homework. And from what she tells me, this was the literal exchange.
"Why does he have to have homework?'
"Well, to prepare for middle school."
"Why does a middle schooler need homework?"
"To prepare for highschool."
"Why does a highschooler need homework?"
"To prepate for college."
"Well why the hell does a first grader need to prepate for college?"
Not only did I never have homework for the rest of elementary school, but I also had more homework in a single year of Highschool than my entire time in college. And this was the early 2000's. I hear its even worse now.
I am not sure if I am the target audience for this video. I'm old, and too old to fully deprogram: I am aware of how I've internalized the whole "gotta get a good job to have a good life" part of our culture, I feel like a complete failure of a human being every single day because I haven't been able to fulfill that.
Ever since graduating high school and college, I've never been able to hold a part time job for longer than a year, and I've never had a full time job that lasted more than few weeks. I'm not flaky. But I value my health, safety, and well-being - I do not see the sense in working at a job for 20 years only to get cancer from the chemicals there and die before I'm 60 - but the only kinds of jobs that I can get don't really enable me to maintain those values. I have no interest in going back to school or taking on some kind of learning program. That part of my life _stays_ behind me.
My point is, I guess, don't be like me. Don't let adults ruin your childhood and young adult life. Because you'll just end up miserable like me. Do what's fun and live your life to the fullest while you can. Work to support your hobbies and interests, just don't ever let work, or the idea you _need_ to work, rule over your life.
Ahh, it's alright, no need to worry about the target audience. I myself am in my 30s now, and I had no life goals to speak of all my life, I wouldn't even say I'm *currently* successful, very much the opposite of that really. I'm in a similar spot. But, I think it's an interesting topic either way, and a good one to present to people of all ages.
i lost my "what do you want to be" in my final year of high school. it was my guide in life and my motivation to endure my situation. i based my identity, my personality and my hobbies around it for a decade. the panic that set in as i lost my direction in life at such a young age was crushing. it wasn't until i lost it that i figured out what i really wanted out of life
people need to work to live. but the schooling system is designed to churn out professionals, it's not there to make you happy. in truth young people need to ask what they want out of life. your job is decided in relation to: health, wealth, status, relationships, location. schools aren't equipped to teach something so nuanced and sadly parents who can are few
I thought I was nuts whenever I felt put off when people asked me either "what do you want to do when you get older" or "what are you doing these days" as opposed to "how are you doing these days". I feel like it would be better if people implemented help in finding more suggestions that tie in with what the said person wants to do in their life if they're stuck instead of being made to feel bad. Thank you so much for touching on this subject. It's really liberating and instills hope. Cheers~
It sucks to be reduced down to what job you're doing as an indicator of you as a person. It's one thing if that's just brought up naturally, but it's always the first thing people go to. "What do you do for work these days?" being the first thing people care about sucks.
@@koziitwo Absolutely. This and being told to sell myself to make a good impression rubs me the wrong way as well. It always made me feel like I'm only viable with what I can provide to them as opposed to who I am as a person along with what I can do. The world is really silly...
that point on being conditioned into thinking there's only one thing they can do and if they fail, then they fail at that thing, then they fail as a person is exactly what I went through.
The only way that I saw myself as valuable growing up was through my grades and education. And I got very far that way, but the moment I pursued grad school that all changed. Things definitely started unravelling before that though.
Because I was so convinced that my only usefulness was academic in nature, I never even tried to develop basic life skills like cooking and what not. And after a while my stubbornness in seeing myself as incapable caught up with me. I can't fully blame myself because grad school was also a trough in my general health from something that doctors wouldn't figure out until this last year, but point being I hit a wall where I was no longer able to do the thing I chose as the thing I'd do, and it completely destroyed my self worth.
Luckily, I eventually picked myself and this last month went through surgical correction for what truly was my obstacle, but I've also accepted myself as being capable of damn near anything, as a point of spite to survive, but also by working to improve the things that need attention regardless of my efficacy. And sometimes simply just because I feel like it, but that's still a lot harder to do lmao.
I rambled too far off the path and no longer remember what I was gonna say to begin with, but thanks for this video. society stop pressuring children to treat life like this one monumental decision of a planned path, literally nobody gets life right on the first pass because life doesn't work that way anymore, boldly assuming it ever did in the first place. it's all a game of iterative improvement.
I had a similar experience too, and it’s great you are doing better now! And like you said, I am yet to develop essential skills such as cooking too, but right now preparing for my higher studies in what I am focused on right now, so sadly while I have to postpone it, I will still put the effort when the opportunity presents itself!
VTuber life lessons? I'm down for it lol.
In all seriousness, this is a good message and you've got an articulate voice for conveying it. Good video :)
These are topics I wish I could sit down with other adults in my area and discuss, but it feels like speaking a forgien language to them some times.
The concept of "not viewing your life as a tool" is a surprisingly difficult concept to get across to certain people.
That's actually part of the reason I decided to try out this kind of video! I like to discuss a lot of things, I think a lot about weird topics like this, I always have, but nobody really likes to discuss them all that much. So.. I'll just discuss them on my own, haha.
Glad you liked it!
I didn’t know what I wanted to do when I was 20, 10 years later I still felt very much lost, but I kept trying many different things, and eventually it clicked, unexpectedly. Keep trying things, it takes time but often you think you like something until you do it for a while, and sometimes you try something you thought wasn’t for you and you enjoy it very much. Experience is better than regret.
Sometimes, slowing up a bit and appreciating the simple blessings in life are key. The push to make sure youngins know what they want to be can come from wanting financial security for them. Theirs way more to life than this. Being a kid is important to enjoy and grow and to be individuals as adults.
It's definitely still important to teach kids the things they need to survive, and that they will have to work to live well. It'd just be nice if we could also teach them that what they do to survive doesn't have to be all that they are as a person. 🙏
Im not in college yet but got ZERO plans. I just want to hopefully grow my youtube channel because its almost alot of things im passionate about, art, editing, and youtube. Im pretty lazy but I hope to gain motivation from every single view I get from my videos. It'd be a dream but also a plan.
This!! I went through so many jobs I wanted to do thinking one little thing I enjoyed should be a job. Now I know what I wanna do at 24 and I’m so passionate about it, but everything before, felt like a big burden I’d have to *deal* with, not enjoy
Going up in a reserve located in a marsh area with dirt roads, and people burning garbage everyday, the bar was set low.
My mother was always just proud of me for not becoming an alcoholic, bad alcohol addiction and diabetes is pretty common in my family.
You can narrow this down to "the current economic system sucks" which is why people are desprate and got pushed into persuing profitable futures that would allow them to survive.
All we need now is to push for change so the next generation can actualy do the things they want, how that can be done however is quite radical
Nice talk. Agree with you too. Parents need to stop doing this to their children.
Parents are not exalcy to blame
The blame lies at root of out economic system
Not wrong on this. Parents push it so much because they want to see their children survive and thrive and, like I mentioned, probably want them to be comfortable enough to enjoy their adult years instead of struggling. If we were less concerned about figuring out work just to survive, we could focus a lot more on ourselves as people.
@@koziitwo Very true, I'm glad I see more people realzing that, I just hope people also take action at some point
Damn, didn’t think I would be listening to an anime girl saying something so deep and inspiring
Thank you, Kozii. I really think I needed to hear this today. ❤
My school consular hated me. I never bought into anything and made my own choices. My parents supported me. I just went to the Mil only one in a high school of 1k grads
I wanted to be a vet tech since middle school worked at an animal hospital for 4 years in high school witnessed everyone that was a vet tech struggling with bills despite being having more responsibilities and skills then workers in the human hospitals. It was a wake up call for me for a path change, i dropped out of college went into trades and i love it, i can rebuild presses fix and get odd job fabrication/machining here and there. It’s very rewarding and pays decent, and can pay extremely well if you get into the specialty field. College is not for everyone and is more of a scam to get you in debt. Im glad I didn’t hesitate to drop out when I did. I wish school has more trade programs and stopped pushing college for the future generations.
When i was a kid i had hobbies then one day i was told you either drop your hobbies for a job or make your hobbies a job.
100% agreed. And i think that the young people are more aware of this pressure than ever before. The cracks in the illusion of how the world is supposed to work are showing more and more. People tell you to get into college because that used to be a way to guarantee a good job and that's just not the case any more. It still gives you more options but skill and passion can be far more helpful for getting a good job. The world is changing fast, so the advices your folks share may just not be applicable any more.
I think the most important thing is to know yourself. Who you are and what you want. And then, learn how the world works, and where you got in it. Where you can really shine.
Making art my career at the expense of my passion for it... Finally, someone who gets it. My mother and grandmother, especially the latter, pressured me into using my drawings, but I didn't want to do that. My mom eventually backed off, but it took longer for my grandmother to, and she would once in a while tell me I'm "wasting my talent" by not profiting off of it. Between the hollow complements I got over the years and constantly being told to use my art to make money, I lost my drive to draw.
I've always had a thing for administration. After years, right now I'm aiming for HR management.
This is true, even for me today, as I struggle to find my path. Though I have made up my mind to first get a career and be stable enough to do other things, as most of the times, even our parents do jobs that they dont like, and would just project them to their Children.
Thank you for making this video!
@@aasishwarsaravana5748 True! Good to find work first once you're past school age so that you can support yourself and what you love when you DO find it.
I'm forty, and have firmly only answered that question to shut my mother up. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, but I do know what's bringing me joy. Think that's gone better.
@@koziitwo Its a but different in my case, as I have just finished my Medical Undergraduate, and currently preparing for Postgraduate studies. However the problem comes from the fact that my Parents expect me to abandon everything else just for the sake of studies alone, and being locked up in a single room in your house for many days kinda makes anybody go crazy! Its like I forgot the initial purpose of why I even got into the Medical field, but now I am just trying to get a Postgraduate somehow so that at least with a degree in hand and a secure job paying me for basic essentials, I can do something I may really want in the future.
And while this might seem a waste of time instead of doing something I would really want, its important to first secure oneself and being independent, so that you can build confidence in yourself more and take more risky endeavours in the future! Plus, instead of wasting time pondering over the cons of whatever you are about to do, its just sometimes better to do it and learn from it and see if you like it or not. If you like it, you can continue, if not, at least you are financially stable and independent and you can look for other opportunities.
My take is that when you find something you really want to do, and your family and circumstances support it, do it regardless of what one might say, because in the end, as long as you have the passion and grit, it will succeed, or you might earn valuable connections and lessons you might make use in your next endeavour. For the others who are not so fortunate, it’s better to build from the base, even if you don’t like it, and once you are secure, do what you like in the future!
Thank you for making this video, it really allows for such conversations and may also help other people who are in a similar situation and might be looking for answers too!
In the first 1:18 I felt like you spoke to me directly, I've been up for a few nights just... thinking about this very topic and school and work. I'm obviously not through the video yet but do know you've earned a very invested supporter!
"Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't."
-Mary Schmich
I kinda wished my parents gave more guidance on how to decide on a career and not set it as either "do what you love" or "one that makes good money." There's benefits to both, but one could lead you into either not finding a job you want (my current position) and possibly hating that passion, or you end up stressing/worrying for so much of your young years for that high paying job only for it to keep on going. Because of one of those beliefs, i ended up railroaded into AP and honors classes that did nothing but stress me out and did nothing for my future prospects. And to this day Im still aimless cause I was never guided to something that could work for me. Stressing so much about what you want to do for the rest of my life only ends up making the feeling of not getting anywhere (where I'm at right now) so much worse. It is both a painful thought to invoke to someone so young but also beyond disheartening when goals aren't met. I'm still pretty aimless today but I have an idea in what I want to do now but I reckon I would tell people now to get good at something and make use of it. And also don't stress out so much if you're not where you want to be in life. Even if school didn't prep you for what you want to do, it's never too late till you're 6 feet under and there's always opportunities.
Great video, as a directionless 20 something that was always told from early on to figure out what I want to be I relate really hard to this.
Children are not newgame+!
wow, amazing. this is just amazing. we need more content like this in the vtubing sphere. great vid.
As an autistic who struggled **HARD** in school... I say amen to all of this. I don't know what else to say that isn't just me parroting the great points you bring up, but even at 23 (going on 24) I still don't really know what I wanna do with my life, but I honestly don't feel pressured to really fall up on that these days, and I'm okay with that.
Yeah I realized with pixel art that I enjoy it but I absolutely don't want it to become a job, I already did plenty of it to work on a passion project with a friend so I got it out of my system from a grind standpoint, now it's strictly something I do when I'm in the mood for it and have the time. It's really sad how every hobby you have will be boiled down to a job opportunity in their eyes, which often strips that passion away from that hobby to begin with.
This is a really great message! Thank you!
Relatable. And the worst part, is the constant episodes of unending 2nd guessing(or ruminating) that... ok it's not caused by school exclusively... but it sure is agonizing and more of a hassle than is necessary for every aspect of life, that triggers for almost every topic... making me loose sight of my own sense of self.
If I could redo my life, I would have never chosen a job (software engineer) in the same field as my passion (writing software code). The moment my passion became my job, I almost immediately lost that passion from having to deal with all the stress, deadlines, responsibilities, and other people's judgment for the sake of keeping my main source of income. In fact, I started to HATE the very passion that motivated me through high school and college. I got burnt out and depressed for a very long time.
Thankfully, I found a new passion which I'm loving everyday: cooking and baking! Although, I wish I had someone to cook for since cooking for myself, while fun, isn't as fulfilling if I can't share my creations with others lol.
@@RubixOne86 Yeah, I think this is true of anything that we make into our main income. We may be passionate for a time, but we can't be all the time. We need something else in our lives too, something that gives us more of a break from the thing we do just to survive every day. I'm glad you found something like that!!
@@koziitwo Thanks! I hope to share recipes and food with others someday! I can cook a mean pizza from scratch in many different ways lol! It's funny that I was going to make pizza for dinner today and then a vtuber I follow did a pizza making stream this morning (albeit too early in the morning for me to catch live). Gotta love neat little coincidences lol.
Honestly I’ve really needed to hear this because right now I’m currently in college and like throughout my life my parents sort of pushed me to learn to become a pharmacist and like I always thought that was always my only choice because that was for the sake of my family and well now that I’m in college and learning to become a pharmacist I feel really burdened by it and I feel that I need to just get through it and sort of sacrifice myself because I tried to tell my mom that I might wanna try something else and so she basically said we just wasted money. Now I feel really guilty about quitting and now I just feel that I have to sacrifice my soul and whatever fun things I have to become a pharmacist. The only reason I really woke up from this mentality of needing to do this and just stick to this path is because of vtubing and vtubers and now that I’ve learned about them I really want to try and become one but I’m really afraid that my parents would never ever support me and hate me for trying to choose this and so I’ve never ever told them about this because deep down it feels easier to just force myself through this path. This video is such a good message honestly and ngl when I was writing this I started to like cry my eyes out because of how this hit me in my heart and I’m trying hard to cry but not make a sound so my parents don’t ask me what’s wrong. I’m really sorry if this is long to whoever reads this I really needed to get this off my chest before I explode from the pressure of my parents.
No need to be sorry, it's a really rough kind of pressure to deal with. Parents really just want the best for their children, and they want them to have the best life they can have. They want success for them, because if they can be successful, they know that their child will survive, and they can find happiness.
I think, once you hit this point, the best you can do is just get through it, and maybe find a career in the profession you've been studying, just to start getting some money and preparing yourself... But then, it might be worth it to also experiment with things as you work on that career.
Find what brings you joy, find something you can be passionate about. Just remember that, anything you decide to make into a job will still sometimes be hard. We won't always be happy with what we've chosen.. so make sure you keep some hobbies just for *you*, too.
It's a really hard balance to maintain it all, and I wish you a lot of luck with the stress of school. I'm glad that, at least, you could have a little bit of stress release from the video. 🫂
I agree with everything you said in the exact way you said it, no notes, perfect.
Not gonna like, we need more dark hair Kozii content
@@IngridVanSchoorl If I'm not careful, we might end up with these videos getting color coded to be different styles of content with different hair color.. 😂
If I'd just taken time away from schooling to really figure out what I wanted, then I would have known how much I love philosophy and design and I'd probably have gotten a degree. Instead, this road of self discovery was considered not to be an option for me, so I now have no degree and still have a student debt and I'm too smart to be employable where I live. Then I was encouraged to start a company, which I hoped would boost my resume, which it turns out it can't.
I ruined my life by doing what everyone said I should do and predict my future with no information.
Your life was basicly set for such an outcome, its not a fair or good system we live in
I tried going to college to be a computer engineer but the cost was too much and the academic advisor I had was not reliable when it came to responding to my emails nor was he someone who understood emotional hurdles that someone could face.
Needless to say, I dropped out of college and now work a deadend job just to be able to pay rent and survive. I felt like a total failure for dropping out because of the very mindset they drill into you as a kid that "One day you're gonna go to college and get a degree!" I've been judged by family for not having a solid career like they do because of my limitations both physically and psychologically. It sucks, dude.
Never thought I needed to hear this. I can freestyle my life? Wow…
It's a hard choice to put on a child. I'm still unsure.
I knew a guy in highschool, who was super programmed by his parents to be the best student, that in the future he needed to become the best doctor, etc; they banned many things from him, video games, comic books, anime and such. He also started attacking others that enjoyed video games, anime, and all that fun stuff. In the end, he became a substance 4ddict, and shortly after he started his medical career, he took his own life from an overdose.
Having and enjoying your childhood as you grow up, could actually save your life in the near future.
So true
i had to deal with that very same question when i was going to school and also from the elderly people around my grandparents age but a lot of the time i answered with "i don't know" just about *every single time* they would all ways pester me with "but there's gotta be something that you have thought" or something like that but i would notice when i gave my answer many seemed or well.. made the face of disappointment :(
it was so stressing when i had to already "know my future job/place" that i couldn't decide even for a work place and a career what i wanted to focus on after graduating from school :/
What a wonderfully put and insightful video! The pursuit of "the forever job" was extremely misguided for me - I've had a ton of jobs, and changed careers twice, turns out no matter how passionate I was about something the eventual life-takeover would run my health into the ground. Turns out all I ever wanted to be when I grew up was "to be healthy and just fxxking chill" - thankfully I saved up enough to where I can navigate through my life now, but I'm skipping over the details to emphasize that I'm no longer concerned about "forever" because /forever/ is an extremely long time!
My paradigm on work has changed completely, my focus is now on joining picket lines, unionizing, helping workers rights and improve working conditions in any meaningful way I can big or small, because it's time to end this cycle of desperation and make sure that instead of forcing kids to make colossal life decisions we instead have jobs that pay well and allow us peace of mind and precious time needed to enjoy the meaningful parts of our lives!
Young Holly was always told "Oh you'd be a great artist! Oh you'd be a great teacher!"
....but then they went nah you can't do that you won't make money. BITCH WHAT AM I A STOCK TRADE ON WALL STREET? So now it's "did I ever want to have a job in the arts?" which I know it is true but we're in such a place where hobbies are a hustle. The hustle starts in middle school and it never stops...until you put a stop to it. The story about your friend, ouch ouch ouch that hit close to home; it's the reason why I'm sick as I am even a decade later. It's so so so very poisonous to have that kind of stress on the body at that young of an age. When it screws you up at that age, it can be set for life.
We gotta let kids be kids. We gotta let people develop. When you find what you are meant to do, you will do it well. And if you do well then companies will flow better and do better. If you['re happier, you'll do more things for your well being or others. Everything is connected. Well being and happiness is never stuck in a bubble, it travels far. LOVE this video so much, love all the videos you've been putting out, Kozii.
I always told them when asked that "I don't know". Honestly i find all this a pain in the ass really as all i ever wanted to do is just simply exist nothing else mattered and the way society is it's really a pain in the ass to engage with yet one needs money to live
I've been working in my career for 12 years, and my schooling has been a stressor since junior year in HS. I never had any anxiety before then, and then I got a progress report that was showing my parents I was 'failing', Their solution? Take the doors off the hinges on my bedroom. I started to stress eat, sleep much less, and now I'm hypervigilant to the point where I'm having muscle spasms out of nowhere.
I wish I could go back 20 years ago and tell myself "fuck what they think, do you, learn to draw, learn to voice act, wear whatever you wanna wear, go into school for auto bodywork because your engineering career is going to kill your motivation." But now, I don't have the energy or attention span. I'll keep trying though.
Life is not without tangents. My first job out of college was as a taxman, my first job after a masters was in landscaping. Without that landscaping job I wouldn't have landed a dream job in accounting.
I've been a journeyman since I was 12 (doorman, cashier, bookkeeping, warehouses, etc), and you know what? Those life experiences helped me be better equipped for the challenges of uncertainty in adulthood. You don't have to choose a career and stick with it for the rest of your life.
Lick your wounds, reassess, but keep moving forward. Life will move on with or without you, and playing catch-up sucks
Also, you're sayinythe truth. It is so SAD to see people defining themselves as their professions. Thats an all consuming cycle that sucks the personality out of a person
Kozii: ITS NOT A PHASE MOM. joke aside I agree with your video because even now I still (kinda) don't know what I want to become. So keep going and be true to yourself.
Omg. 100 percent accurate. I got a degrees with a minor. And now I’m struggling getting a job. I’m 30 now. In debt no community to be a part of. Still living with parents. I don’t want to live anymore.
Just keep doing your best. It feels like it sucks now, but it's still worth it to have the fun little experiences of life. I understand the feeling, though, it's rough out here.
I’m actually glad that you touched upon this, given how it’s been something that’s been indirectly lurking in my head.
As a parent of a toddler, I’ve second guessing myself on things that I should or shouldn’t be doing.
And I’m glad that you took me back to my younger years and what affected me, even though it wasn’t my parents intentions to.
Appreciate this type of content as well as the VTubing segments and I think it was time that someone from this sphere also talked about these non kayfabe aspects.
Thanks 🫡
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Me? Actually... be proud of myself. Which is why I took it upon myself to start with content creation!
nice vid
i am in my 30s now and still feel nothing passion wise or at least enough to do it 9 to 5. I was pressed for a decision since a kid and settled on 'computers' because it was broad enough to still be indecisive but specific enough to get the adults off my back, i ended up taking classes i dont remember through 4 years of college and jobs that took highschoolers which proved there was no advantage to the degree. in this job it wasnt expected to grow or learn or even display skills with technology but to work on customer service skills and take notes of issues. it was miserable and to this day i have no hope for the future of my career but i have no other education or experience so starting from 30s into total career shake up is a recipe for homelessness i fear. currently i am working with local governemnt offices to get me tested for aptitudes and disabilities and its a slow burn that has offered little in the way of hope or confidence.
tldr theres nothing worth doing for a career, it will always optimize the enjoyment out of it no matter how hyped you were or werent as a kid
It's all very true.
A decade ago I was a fresh new teacher straight out of my bachelor's degree.
Present time: I'm a Vtuber.
oh jeez, what a time to get into teaching.. 😭
I feel like teaching and healthcare work have been some of the most mentally draining and hard to deal with jobs in the last decade, to the point where, I feel like even if I was REALLY passionate about it, I would've dipped too.
I hope you're having fun and enjoying what you're up to now!
im 13 and tbh i feel like i wasted my childhood and social life being an artist, i drew all day every day to the point where i almost failed multiple grades because i was so scared that if i didnt become an artist id end up being another salary worker that works until they die.
The fact that you can be 13 and already feel like you've 'wasted your childhood' is crazy already. Not blaming you for that, but, when I was 13, the only thing I felt like I'd wasted was time doing homework instead of grinding in MMOs.
I wish I had some good advice for you, but jobs are changing really quickly thanks to AI. Hopefully highschool goes well for you, try and join a club if you can, and just keep trying to learn new things and grow. In the end, hopefully it'll all end up alright.
@@koziitwo aww ty💞🫶 ive always had a skewed perspective on age since im an only child who was homeschooled and overall alone a lot of the time so that is probably partially to blame😭
I'm 33 and I have no idea what my life's gonna be like even next year. Almost nobody lives the protagonist like. "Isn't everything random? How is anyone even supposed to predict the future" -Paimon, Genshin Impact. Situations are constantly changing all the time. Teachers never think about the environment everyone needs to adapt to. All they know are theories because they usually never practice their knowledge in the real world
High school is a waste of the healthiest years of people's lives. Modern early 20s work ethics are are work avoidance exploiting businesses desperation for anyone and abusive targetted harassment of their only diligent workers pushing them to do the work of 3 active employees to compensate for every 2 quiet quitters. My God, nobody who preaches knows a person's life
No high schools anymore = like 1/4 less taxes to spend on schools. 4 years sooner taxes helps balance the government budgets. Age 15, 16, or 17 is an okay age to start someone's 1st job. Unskilled labor requires no skills
Pushups and squats ate excessively more beneficial for teenagers than high school anyways. Good health is still underhyped
I'm assuming schools were to stay at early 2000s' standards, not 2020s' standards
A little bit of venting.
I went to a charter school for middle and high school. Most of our work was online and I would not do a majority of it. I only completed things when the teachers specifically told me I had to. I did the bare minimum amounts of credits to graduate. I never understood college. Why would I pay for more school? I had lost interest in school when it stopped being fun AKA middle school. All of my friends just completely ditched me once we got into middle school. Not sure why they literally just stopped talking to me the first day. Made it even worse that around the same time I was also being gr//med online. I ended up with pretty severe depressed and other mental health issues. I used to want to be an animator and/or a voice actor but I just lost interest in anything I was once passionate about.
They always kept asking what I wanted to do after high school and I had no idea. Wasn't even sure if I was gonna be alive long enough. I'm still unsure what I want to do. I procrastinate all the time and never really do my hobbies anymore. I just feel like I already ruined my life and I'm still in my early 20s. The amount of stress that adds on as each year passes and worrying if it's too late. Will I be able to accomplish all or even any of the things that I want to do during my lifetime? If only I could just stop procrastinating but my mental health just makes it so difficult and I can't afford therapy. They always said you could be anything you wanted when you grow up. Then why am I so unsatisfied with my life?
I've felt a lot of this, especially stuff you mentioned in your second half here. I know it's rough, but as you learn more about yourself and grow, you will eventually find things that you care about, and that you're passionate enough about to work towards. But- I think the entire premise of a 'life's work' is flawed. We transition between phases of our lives so quickly... I think the most important thing is really just following how you feel in the moment. If you are satisfied with something, stick with it, keep going. If you're not, experiment with more. There's always more to learn, and always time to grow. You never have to stick to one thing like they imply you do. Just gotta keep goin.
And if you don't really feel like you're finding anything, even years down the line, that can be okay too. Sometimes, you may never find that THING that calls to you, that sparks your interest so high that you'll rush for it above all else. That kind of passion is rare, and fleeting. As long as you're learning, growing, and finding new ways to go through life, you *are* succeeding. And sometimes, you'll fail too. But those failures could lead to even greater success later on, or could teach you amazing lessons you never would have known otherwise, that shift your entire perspective.
Long rant, but basically, just keep going. I know that's an annoying thing to say, but it can all still be worth it.
For me, things got so bad that I tried to take my own life on multiple occasions because I thought my life would basically amount to nothing and that it would always be like that. It took 4 years of counseling and therapy for me to become emotionally stable again, and even then, I still feel that sense of worthlessness every now and then. School has made me hate doing work but has also made it so I can't be do nothing. Do you know how hard that is? sorry for the trauma dump
You're alright, no worries. It's a rough topic, so I know it'll bring out all sorts of people's darker thoughts in relation to it. Still, I'm glad that you did get therapy, and I'm glad that most of the time you can still push forward despite that hardship.
I bet a lot of kids said something like working for a big business for what they wanted to be when they grow up. Another a lot of people probably said they want to be internet famous
They're probably serving coffee or jobless now with double digit average social media content views
My only hope is that my civil servant job still forgive my currently 45k (in 10 years would get a ton of interest) with the PSLF program. If not, i have a fancy paper that I'm not really using
I studied engineering for two years before bombing it completely. Now I'm a software developer. r/pointlessstories
You gotta improvise, if for no other reason than it is impossible to tell how anything will turn out, ever. I'd say the worst kind of advice is any that lets you think you can rely on things turing out the way you expect ever.
Here's the thing though: if you don't prepare early enough, you're gonna have a rough time later on, and unfortunately, we don't live in some utopia where food and clean water just magically appears and no one has to work for anything. If you want something, you're gonna have to work for it, unless you're one of the few privileged people who get things handed to them just for existing.
Or think about it this way: kids in 3rd world countries don't have to answer "what do you want to be when you grow up," because they often don't have a choice, it's either work in the fields/mines/sweatshops/factories/etc, and few privileged ones get to "choose" what they'll do with their lives.
That's why partway through I was mentioning how we still need to push towards a future, so a better way to do that can be to watch over them and see what they ARE enjoying, and let kids know that there are things they could do to work that DO relate to their passions, or what kind of jobs DO exist, instead of just telling them constantly 'you need to figure your life out RIGHT NOW'.
After all, it's not really conducive to society to push children so far into a ditch of feeling like a failure because they don't have things figured out by the time they leave primary schooling. It's leaving physical scars on the body, it's doing traumatic damage to their future as adults. We can teach them what's important without hurting them.
Thanks for the video, it is good food for thought.
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In what ways was his body damaged? What damage specifically did the stress from doing the AP classes cause?
Google says “Cardiovascular disease, including heart disease, high blood pressure, abnormal heart rhythms, heart attacks, and strokes.”
Was it this?
I'd rather not go into somebody's in depth medical stuff, especially because it's not mine to share, and because I wasn't with him for his physical examinations. But he let people close enough to him know that he could probably never join the military after his evaluations, and he said that it was due to the effects of stress on the body.
Stress can cause a TON of pretty terrible stuff to the body, so it's not really all that surprising, and the largest source of his stress was definitely his classes at the time. Pretty rough.
@@koziitwo Ah okay sorry I guess that was too personal, I’m sorry for asking that.
I just didn’t realize stress can destroy your body so horribly. Makes me wonder how I’m still alive lol. Well my hair did prematurely start going gray lol
Make sense
Teachers are following the hustle culture trend still? I feel like 2019 was 5 years ago
Honestly, I can't even be angry at them, considering how hard it is to survive as the economy collapses further year over year, and as we go through a new industrial revolution dissolving more and more jobs every year... We're all thinking about the economy and survival so much, of course it gets pushed down into kids. I've got some highschool kids in my community that have talked about the fact that they have no time for anything but their schooling, it's gotten pretty dang bad in recent years.
@@koziitwoWill any of their schooling apply to their employment? I've only ever gotten into retail jobs with my bachelors degree in participation. I think psychology is the official term. I obeyed my parents and got a degree for nothing beyond the sake of itself. They hyped up having a mere degree will compell employers to pay more for nothing beyond a degree listed on the candidate's resume
My God, this was a massive mistake. I irreversibly regret going to college
@@philosopherkingzant2037why would private bussiness want to pay you well if they can extract ur labor for more profit?
The system is not on our side we need more people to start pushing for change
@@bluegamer4210 My parents are the shut-up-and-obey type. I doubted their claim but learned all my life to shut up and obey
Psychopaths somehow succeed in the business world. My last manager I worked for needs to get yeeted in prison. Thefts and assaults. She got promoted 2 months after I quit to escape. She lied to me remorselessly that she wasn't violent at all. Chasing and imprisonment
@@philosopherkingzant2037 That doesn't suprise me at all, I encourage every person that has been the victim of this system to push for change.
I do not know ur standing and I won't enforce my world view unless you'd like to hear it.
Where da streams at? 😢
Shhhh... Soon... 😂
Naw, Naw... let her Cook.
Welp! if that makes you money sure
Cliche, but, money can't buy happiness. And I think pressuring children to value money above all else is part of the reason we're now living in a climate where EVERYTHING is commercialized. Can't even hang out anywhere anymore without paying to be there.
@@koziitwo You make money to support your family, the problem is that nobody wants to make a family because people are scared of it
Nobody wants to make a family because a lot of people have 3 jobs right now just to pay their rent, gas, utility, and food costs for the month, man. 😂
@@koziitwo I really doubt that, money was never a problem before to this day poor people have more children than rich people
If I were you I would definitely check out some articles about the worldwide declining birth rate, especially in places like Japan and America!
incredibly unrelatable
Not everybody's got the same life experiences. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯