Why I've Been Minimising "Things" in My Life.
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- I remember a time when big fancy houses really did something for me. I chased after things. Material items.
What I learned was that all this stuff, never really made me happy, in fact I found it a drain on my energy thats when I realised that I would take experiences with amazing people over things every day of the week. 
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Been there, done that I built a custom design A frame, 3000 sq ft, all stone and glass. 3 acres, probably the nicest home in the county, all things considered. The happiest day of my life was when I sold it. I had 5 cars, and every day I was having one serviced, inspected, licensed, insured. I couldn't seem to get it all together in one lump. I never got to enjoy the home, the ponds, Jacuzzi, or creek, because I was working my ass off to hold it all together. I built that turkey for my daughter, (who moved away right after college).Within one year, both my parents died, my wife left to "pursue her career", Daughter left, I lost my job of 20 years. I sold everything I had, bought a boat, and dock it near my daughter in winter. I don't own a TV or car. I haven't worked in 15 years. I only wish I'd never worked. The fondest moments of my entire life are sleeping under a piece of old blue Walmart canvas, on a creek bank with my daughter, catching catfish, and canoeing down the rivers. She teaches college, and spends summers with me, sailing, biking, hiking, canoeing, kayaking, fishing, etc. I only wish I'd started50 years ago. I enjoy each day more than the entire 35 years i was in the rat race.
Love this story, thx for sharing it.
thanks for sharing
Thanks for sharing.
Grumpy old fart Thank you, VERY good read!
Wow. I needed to hear this. I'm a senior in high school and I'm about to attend college studying psychology. I want to become a therapist. All of my friends and family ask me, "why aren't you going into business, because that is where the money is made?" I realized a year or so ago that big homes and nice cars mean nothing. All that matters to me now is family, good food, and traveling. All I want is enough money to be comfortable.
Spending money you don't have for things you don't need to impress people you don't like.
My pastor always says this
Marisela Salvador Is your pastor Tyler Durden?
Totally agree u live at work rather than to pay for it and stay in dept
Tyler Durden!
Dave Ramsey says it best!
It is horrible to live your life to impress others. You speak the truth.
@@IlIamo The eternal George Carlin...
Never buy anything unless it fascinates yourself. Dressing to impress may turn some heads and that may be an experience.
Went to Thailand for first time with ol friend (75yr old), he told me it would change my life. Smartest thing I've ever done. Came home sold everything, and I mean everything, that would not fit in 3 suitcases and returned to Thailand. Now live in a nice furnished condo on the beach for about $300us a month.Getting rid of all that crap was the most uplifting liberating experience I've ever had. You don't own stuff, it owns you. Free your self, just do it....... me happy man now....
If you don't mind me asking, whereabouts are you in Thailand? Certainly not near Bangkok for $300 USD/month I wouldn't think? I'm probably about a decade away, but when I get enough money, I'm likely headed to SE Asia.
@@FaintAura lol he said the beach, bangkok is nowhere near the beach.
@@danielasselbergs8325 Most of the city is within 30 km of the Gulf, so thanks for your insightful comment attempting to argue semantics with me.
I've been battling with the decision to sell my car (that I just got in January). It's the first car I own. I want to get out of debt, but selling it would not cover all of it, but it would help. I remember what it was like when I didn't have a car. I would walk a lot with stuff and get back pain. If I hadn't made certain decisions, I would still be able to keep that car.
sailsomewhere08 , I’d like to hear more about your Thailand tips. How can we chat on a direct manner?
I became a minimalist after my divorce, the courts gave her everything and I still have to pay more. FM Forced minimalism
Same here (Netherlands). Worst thing, I did not want the divorce. She wanted it after we discovered (after 19 years marriage) that I have Aspergers. I cannot help that. I cannot change that. But still, I pay everything I have. I kept the small house, but I must be minimalist to stay alive in it.
Jamie - I'm with the IRS and just read your comment. Could you give me your last name and/or SS number and let's talk about how much taxes you owe from all those cash jobs. Lol...Joking of course! But if I were you I wouldn't post about that stuff online. Anyway, yeah it really sucks seeing all us men getting burned by doing what we thought was right. Getting a job, then marriage, then children (for some), and then the big damn divorce and paying for it afterwards. The marriage alone is such a big expense and divorce seems to cost much more. This "system" really sucks.
Your right dude. The "system" really sucks.
Yeah it sucks the money and life right out of us.
I'd rather fight a grizzly for food than support a woman. If you're living like a pauper anyway , pack up and go to another country, or get an old school buss and park it in the mountains. Let the bitch support herself. Do you really care what people think about you? Live for yourself. You don't owe anyone a damn thing. Eat what you want, when you want, sleep anytime you feel like it, piss in the yard, and wear the sloppiest clothes that are comfortable. Life can be very good if you don't answer to anyone.
I drive a 15 year old truck that is awesome for 2 huge reasons: It works perfect, and its paid for. I'd rather people think I'm broke that rich. Keeps moochers away
Same old single cab F150. Why give people a reason to be jealous or disingenuous?
I’ve drive a 2001 regular cab f150. It’s the oldest truck in my works parking lot and I know I make more than all those folks that are driving $80,000 Raptors.
I'm a real estate investor. I build multi-million dollar homes for clients and could afford one if I actually put my profits towards that instead of creating more assets with the wealth generated. I live in a small, comfortable, 2,500 sqft home and don't plan on moving.
I've learned that Richard, you're 100% right about all of this. I've never felt comfortable in mansions. They're too big and keep you too apart from your family and those you feel close to. Most people buying these homes can only barely afford them; hence the average joe cars (meanwhile I've got an E60 M5 with a 6-speed that I baby like crazy).
The experiences I've gained through living life with others and helping others succeed is far greater than anything an excessive home could provide. And, I'll be honest here, most of the time all that "crap" you're spending money on (fridge, stove, water heaters, crown molding, etc;) is all because the wife wants it.
If something doesn't directly impact your life and improve it in ways beyond your image, then it it isn't worth your time.
Great story man, although your profile description suggests otherwise.
Nick Schwarz It's because he's growing and improving, and making changes as he goes. Try it sometime, verses pointing out discrepancies, and talking shit.
Thank you for the video. My life. Married for 32 years. Wife divorced me 12 years ago. Sold or gave away everything, I do miss the Hatteras sometimes. Closed my business. Bought an older used motor home and now just travel. Met some others like me on the road so now we have a tribe. Life is better now..
The less time you spend worrying about the shit you don't really need, the more time you have to spend focusing on yourself
This would have been perfect but you ended it with.."the more time you have to spend on yourself." The real winning end to that sentence is..the more time you have to spend in service to others which will pay you back 100-fold.♥
MSL5 Point taken but can also be interpreted as you need to fix yourself before servicing others as when you fix yourself it all comes naturally to help others anyway and everything flows.... :-)
Andrew Mckay yes focus on the solution..not the problem..
The only thing that matters in life is having good health. If I am feeling perfect, I dont care if I am just sitting at the computer, I feel great and nothing else matters. Nothing beats feeling great due to perfect health. Nothing. I couldn't care less about new experiences or expensive things.
amen.
We got nothing without it.
yes you realize this when you haven't
i was born with nothing and still have most of it left. the less crap you own the less you have to worry about!
Dave H i hear ya man. doesnt matter how hard i work nowdays my position on the food chain will always be minimalist, i understand what this guy is sayin tho
thumbs up to you
The idea is not to be broke and have less shit. Its to have more money coming in than going out and to have more in your savings than your spending and finally to save up on a monthly basis a certain percentage of your monthly income. So if you were born with nothing have have less then your broke sir and that is not a good way to live.
I agree. I was born with wealth and all I do is worry how I am going to respect my father's legacy. He came from a poor family and spent his life building his fortune and a family with 4 children. I would love to live minimalistic but somehow I feel like I owe it to him and my country to do my part. I wish I could stop worrying and just be free. To be born in a place where you're free with plenty of opportunities: that's what matters.
this video will help a lot of people. I only want money so I can buy my freedom, i would be happy living in a 500 sqft home if it meant I didn't have to work for someone else
AMEN!
TDubsKid “Buy my freedom” perfect. Block of land, shipping container house, maybe some toy cars. That’s what I work for.
BOOM !!
and a 4 car "Car Barn" Then im set hahah
I spent 6 hrs hanging crystals, and I thought to myself "what the fuck I'm I doing?" lol....classic
Chandeliers are not the most masculine things! They are like jewelry for your house? I don't understand the purpose of them anyway! I can see Liberace needing a Chandelier but not a real man! Get a home controlled LED light and be done with it! My 2 cents! :-)
Get an rgb led chandelier. Best decision EVAR. I love mine.
Will James I love the way chandeliers look you don't need to fill your house with paintings and show pieces and accents all you need is one beautiful chandelier and it makes the room so beautiful
I think you do forget, women dream to live like a princes from they childhood so they want a big casale house so they could decorate it like a dolls house. It's so simple...
That's why now exist MGTOW
Hahahah, Good point. ^@@lotfikammoun4157
Buying those types of homes is living her dream not ours
Mike Hoont DAMN!
You're so fucking right. Funny as Fuck and the truth.
Yeah and sure as sh*t, she's not going to do anything to maintain it!!!
DAYUM !!!!!!!!!! REKT
You just cant get women off your mind
I'm a self employed electrician and I routinely do houses that have garages way bigger than my house. The worst is one I'm doing now for a guy about my age (28), and he was explaining to me how long term debt is so much less bad that short term debt. I had to play along since he was the one forking over the cash to me to live in a needlessly big house and be hamstrung for the rest of his life on a 500,000$ mortgage. Talking about furniture and cupboards and appliances is painful. So many people completely get sucked into this keeping up with the joneses lifestyle of accumulation and materialism. I give anyone reading full permission to shoot me if I am ever 500k in debt talking about quartz countertops and appliances with a stay at home wife that still trumps all of my opinions. Seriously. I'd rather be dead.
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This shows how lucky the rest of us are.
Agree, it's insanity, I like that ppl are waking up...
I would rather be dead too.
I have an ex remarried to a guy now they have 2 kids. They live in an almost 1/2 million dollar home. They barely making it and she is miserable
Great video. Studies have shown that life satisfaction does rise proportionally with income up until a cetrain point which is approximately 75.000$ a year. After this point there's no further increase in well-being. One of my goals in life is to make money. My intention though is to be care free, to have the ability to travel, to eat good food, to enjoy good vacation and to have fun with people I love. Money buys happiness to the point where it gives you freedom.
PaiNExoTiC how many people make much more then that though?
I make over 75K and I can honestly say once I hit about 70K I kinda felt any additional money I make past that is just extra. My lifestyle doesn't require 75K so I put thousands in savings every pay check only leaving enough in my checking to pay bills and make it to my next payday. But, on the other hand I tend to buy more toys now too. I just bought a new DSLR camera with two different lens, a new motorcycle, got my old lady a 2016 Jeep Cherokee, and various other things.
Athens finest Money can't buy love.........but it can rent it for an hour or 2.
I once went to an under developed country where they paid White men a $5 stud fee, just to enhance the population growth. I liked the country, but couldn't live on $5 a month.
Guy incognito I'm only grumpy when I'm horney.
I LOVE being a minimalist. It helped me be in a position to retire at 50 plus it allows me to focus on what's important to me in life -- relationships, truth, spiritual stuff and FREEDOM.
contentment in what you have is true wealth.
The truth
Most people don't get it....money, power, fame or fortune do not make you happy and fulfilled.
True happiness and joy only come from within, and not from external sources.
we live in a world where everyone is trying to keep up with the Joneses, and are miserable doing so.
I can attest that "stuff" doesn't bring happiness. I'm single and 34. I've owned 3 homes to date all of which were over $200k. I've owned more trucks, SUVs & dirt bikes than I can remember. There came a point about 3 years ago where I completely lost interest in all of it. I was a big time DIY automotive 4x4 truck and engine performance dude with all the big name tools to match. Now, I could care less. I didn't have anything happen to trigger this. It just subtly happened. Now I find it exceptionally hard to find any "thing" that excites me enough to buy or own. I frequent eBay, Amazon and Craigslist out of force of habit looking for something. But laughably I can't find anything that I haven't already owned or have any need for. So at this point it's all about travel and experiences... as well as massive downsizing. Red Pill Moment.
what triggered your loss of interest was you getting older and the fact that you tried it all.
I m a 54 year old American. And you are right you do not need all that fluff . In America people try to look like something there not. I have friends that have giant homes, nice cars and they are broke. I live my life tailored to my hobbies and that is where my money goes' I like to fish so I have a small Condo on a private lake. I have been a Musician for about 29 years yes I have a couple of nice amps and speaker cabs and choice guitars. I like hotrods so I have one. I like guns so I have a few. I do not have a 20 thousand dollar Crystal Chandelier nor would I want one LOL. And in the last couple of years I have been getting rid of things that just take up space. I only buy things that keep there value. Money does not buy happiness, but it gives you peace of mind. You have good insight brother, keep up the good vids.
I would imagine their are also Americans who live in old colonial houses with furniture, decor etc of the same time period, who when anyone walks into that house are totally blown away...this is perhaps Richards worst video...his personal tastes on this subject will be totally irrelevant to a lot of people...
Im not a car guy but I've been living my life minimalistic my entire life and love it. You basically used every line i preach. I am also filled with the Holy spirit and my joy comes from Christ without Him I'd be lost.
Werner Sunkel
Amen! 😇
Amén
As a women, I am enjoying your vlog. I love your honest perspective. I grew up in Malibu .Ca and had a high stakes life. Minimalism is so smart! Life enjoyment and sharing experiences with loved ones is really what it should be about!
Plus you're never really tied down. If you can pack up your stuff in 1 hour and move with one large suitcase it means you're probably really happy.
I bought my first house when I was 28 and had fun fixing it up and paying it down. Then I sold it to start my own business and adopted a comfortable but very streamlined lifestyle. I now invest in my personal development, business, and life experiences. My goal is to have incredible conversations with people for the rest of my life, and live a life of connection and contribution. I'd rather have more free time with the ones I love than "things." I'm enjoying everything you're sharing Richard. Just found your channel today! Take care.
thx
sounds like a good life. :-)
Great video. I can relate and apply this to my life. I was a 34 year old Bachelor with electrical career making close to 50K a year with no bills, debts or children children. I bought a 2016 Jeep Wrangler brand new in December of 2015. I like four-wheeling and camping but I thought this was cool to show off to people who really didn't care and I found out that after 2 years of payment $800 payment a month plus High insurance that out of the forced to cut out a lot of things out of my lifestyle. On RUclips I came across something being called a minimalist. it started this practice about a year ago to adjust to my expensive jeep that I got stuck with. Working so much I didn't even have time to go out off-roading etcetera. I hate it this minimalist lifestyle but the more I practice the more I started to like it. it wasn't too hard for me because I was raised in a below average middle-class family and we weren't materialistic. I did go to a lot of private schools that my mom paid to put me in an experience lot of things. Anyways I found out that this lifestyle I'm having less is really having so much more. Taking back your life. Have more money. Have more time. Have Better Health & Wealth. I have a friend that is materialistic with his family but lacks a lot of things like morals God and home quality time. Also lacks quality food because they have to cook fast food Style due to lack of time always working to pay all their bills.... Literally the payments on their stuff costs more than their house mortgage and they are slave to their possessions. they are so Twisted in all this stuff they can't even afford to have an intelligent conversation. I am still growing in this new concept of living and lifestyle but I highly recommend it. because as the Bible quotes naked i come in this world and naked I shall go. you can't take nothing with you when you die so spend it on experiences and helping people and you will enrich your life.
P.S. - if you become a Christian and give your life to Christ the reality is that the devil hides from you is that you become a trust fund baby and retirement is literally going to be out of this world.. that's why the Bible says do not labor to be rich for your heavenly father will take care of you and it has not even entered into the imagination of the man mine what he has prepared for us.
Amen
Im very fortunate and grateful that I realised all of this at 29. The more stuff I bought, the more stress it ultimately brought me knowing that it made me stuck and unable to be mobile. Owning a house especially is a major problem that adds to it. I don't own a house yet but I can see the benefits of simply renting in a small apartment versus having to worry about maintenance costs. People will of course shame you for not being a responsible adult and being a "man child". But I say screw it. Live and navigate your life freely and be happy.
Good video and thanks for timely reminder of minimalism. I am a 60 year old married man. When I look back, I simply realise that during the times I had little possessions, and single, I was happiest. Marriage brought lots of unwanted, unnecessary stuff, an undesired company, and utter loneliness with it. I cannot wait to get out and live again.
Yep, been divorced for a few years now. I live in 800 square ft. I spend my money eating well, keeping a YMCA membership, thankful for the 6 yrs I did in the Navy, I have free medical and a great dental plan because of my service. I love a big V8 engine but never have really needed a new car or the expense. Having free time to get out in the sun, meditate, take Epsom salts baths after workouts and basically take care of me, is what I care about. I was married twice. I paid child support to my ex, while raising another family. When I was done, I needed years of learning to live and make myself healthy in body mind and spirit. The best advice for young people is, whatever love you want, learn to give it to yourself. You can get sex and companionship from another human but love you must get from within. A woman can be in love with you and change her mind next year or decide she loves someone else at the same time as you. You find peace by loving yourself and only expecting from others what they can give you for as long as they can give it. I don't look outside myself for anything now, and I am much healthier. I got rid of everything that cluttered my life or didn't bring me joy. Very true what you said, your possessions own you, not the other way around.
David Harbuck
Superb comment.
More power to you.
David Harbuck He got sent to the cleaners by the ex-wife
Mohd Kamil
Actually, no, he didn't! His wife still does his taxes for free. I learned a long time ago that things are a stupid way to spend your money. A man really only needs good food and water, a lot of sunshine and exercise, shelter. All the rest is extra. If you think about your life. You may learn that some of the things you think you own, actually own you. Strive to have access to the things you enjoy. Like the native Americans believed. You can't own the land or anything else, when you don't even live as long as some trees or the larger turtle breeds. Anything you accumulate, then takes time and effort to protect. Whatever money(energy) I save I use for my freedom of movement and the freedom to say no when I don't feel like working or anything else. Money=freedom to me. It's not about status.
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I only try to buy things that add to my betterment - books, courses, programs, and organic food.
Absolutely. Health is wealth.
Same with me, when married working my ass off for good size house, high taxes and utilities. Divorced and gave it to her, bought myself a 1,000sq ft house, simple, low taxes etc, now i have alot my time and that's most important to me, i say live below your means..
When i say give her the house i mean i gave her the option to give me some cash and she can keep the house or sell and we split up the money, she got a loan and gave me some cash, a year and a half later she went into foreclosure! Lol..
There ya go.
"How Sweet It Is Alice."
Great video!
Boy, I had a modest 3+2 home with a 2 car garage, in ground swimming pool and sold it. I sold off and gave away many of the things I felt were just holding me back. I was divorced 14 years ago so I really didn't need all the space of my modest 1800 sq ft home anymore. I sold it off, paid off the 2nd mortgage and have no more property taxes either. I decided to squirrel away the profits and live a very modest life in an apartment and travel. I retired back in 2014 so my life is very simple now. No wife, no bills (except a very small rent amount) no property taxes, minimal utilities, no car payment, just me, my truck and my brand new Harley Davidson. There is still room to down size too. I maintain a small storage unit but I really need to get in there and do some sorting.
The quaking shakers have a saying "Tis a gift to be simple".
- OTL
So true....it wasn't UNTIL I had a house that I realized all the MAINTENANCE and TIME it took just to keep it up to par.....also the financial aspect.......then after work (business, job) you are too damn tired to go out anywhere.....then you get labeled a "homebody" and it's like "naw, I ain't a homebody, I'm just one tired S.O.B...
When I turned 26 years old I had that "what am I doing thought". I had my beautiful wife and newborn son, the nice house, the two new cars, the corvette, all the other bills that come along with that. I sat back with my wife and said we are literally killing ourselves at work everyday for "stuff" we don't even care about and for people that don't even like us. We have since changed our way of life and have started down the minimalist path. Financial freedom is so empowering...you'll enjoy your job more when you don't rely on it so much. Everything seems brighter. I couldn't be happier with our decision.
Yes, and if you cant get your wife to live beneath your means with you,bad choice in first place, its time for someone to leave for their sanity and health.
Bottom line is if you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty (demanding) woman your wife .... just be single...
Love that song
foamaxmore If you are not happy, you won't be even if you are single.
I am not married.Been divorced and consider my self single now after some 15 years.Learned a great deal since then...Cheers!
foamaxmore i believe that happiness doesn't come from external factors...if you are happy , it does not matter if you are single or married.
Yes agreed,
Basics are:You go into a relationship or a marriage as happy with your life, and hope to find you a loving companion that is also happy with their life.
But not to get married thinking that your companion will bring you happiness.(Co-dependence)No not in real world situations thats just life: make the best of what each of you have and strive to compliment each other if and when you decide to have a relationship.
Thank you for this video! Ive watched youtube for many years now and ive never read this far down the comments section. Ive been a minimalist by nature, way before the word became popular. I just always asked myself: "do i really need this?" Another thing ive started to realize lately, is that every person becomes happy in their own way: cars, girls, experiences, etc. No single path is correct. Some people maybe love big houses and just dont value new cars that much. At the end of the day, if that person inside that mansion, is happy with themselves, so be it. Im 35 yesrs old. I learn from people whom are older and more experienced than me. I still dont understand Real Estate 100% so I would never invest in a home or in something I dont understand. Me personally, i hate driving and i hate cars. I wont list all my lusts but I pay very close attention to my happiness levels. One of my students lives very nice with a Rolls Royce and Mercedez. He said that to be happy, you have to be with someone that really cares about you. I hear about all these divorces with bad experiences. We need to study the marriage laws before we marry. Well, everyone, pay attention to your happiness levels. Good luck to everyone. And someone please teach me real estate cus the investment doesnt make sense so far!
Some years ago I had a $40,000 luxury SUV. The vehicle was constant stress because of how much I had spent on it. I found myself washing the vehicle at midnight because I was worried the hot sun and dirt would ruin the paint. If it got knicked in a parking lot it was a tragedy. I ended up reading a book call The Major Money Makeover and I realized how incredibly stupid it was for me to have a vehicle of that value when I wasn't even making 70K a year.
I now drive an old VW but when it's clean and taken care of its nice enough. In reality it's a Stereo with leather seats and 4 wheels that gets me to work and I never stress when a shopping cart hits it.
David B lol good points. I can relate to you.
One of the best moments of my young life was when I had to downsize due to taking a job overseas. I was a minimalist before people came up with a name for it, and the day I slimmed down to having all my possessions in a few boxes, I felt more free than I ever had before. Hell yeah for experiences!
GREAT ATTITUDE AND ADVICE.
I once saw a meme that showed a trailer park house with a Bugatti Veyron parked under a tarp next to it. And it said "this guy either has everything figured out nothing figured out."
A physically cluttered existence = An even more disheveled mind.
Orojugen True statement!
Yeah really gives you a sense of togetherness and organisation, the fewer things you own, I find. Definitely recommend doing this minimising thing.
Not unless you are organised and OCPD like me. I have heaps of "things" but there are well organised and cleaned...mind is clean as :P
I’ve spent a small fortune over the years buying shit I don’t need and always feel empty inside afterwards.
I enjoy your videos , maybe they’ll help me wake up.
Cheers,
Bear
Couldn't agree more... I downsized from a stupid house that overlooked the city to a small condo that is 3 times less. Car paid off... no debt... much much happier without that stress. Now I can work on my passion without worrying about stupid costs hindering me. Awesome vid.. just discovered you on You Tube... keep up the good work !
That's really valuable, I tend to feel that the experiences are what counts. I mean think about it when you're 90 you would not care about what house you own, you're most likely going to look back at your experiences and memories that's what matters. Do what makes you happy if it doesn't get rid of it
i'm a minimalist, besides cars
You can't judge people on what car they drive or how big their house is, it means nothing. People have money and don't spend it, equally people that don't have the money also manage to spend it...
This is why I told my self I'm not getting married. I'm 27 this year, and I can probably pick out a good looking girl to marry, but I don't believe in marriage, ever since Eve ate the apple, everything went down hill...
Marriage is way overrated I didn't get married or have children until I was in my 40's the best decision I could've made. We went to the courthouse and paid $48 I only did it because my wife really wanted to have my last name officially. To this day I still regret getting permission from the state but I did it for her so I took 1 for the team. We have 2 strong boys and life is good , my advice is make her wait for at least 5 years if she can put up with yo ass that long then consider marriage.
HipHopHead96 agreed
the apple is just a red pill.
Holy crap! That's good!!!
C Gonzalez why did you tell yourself you're not geting married? By "this" do you mean divorce? I'm sure you can pick out a "good looking" girl to marry, but will the good looking girl pick you? Do you only focus on looks? Perhaps consider other factors in her life and characteristics that would make her wife material.
Btw bible says Eve bit a fruit not an apple. We don't know which fruit...
Great video Rich. I got the idea of mimimizing by accident while backpacking across Europe. Two different times I shipped things back home. I then realized how little I really need. Ever since I got back i been been downsizing, I am moving into a 1 bed rental apartment I own and selling my huge 3 bedroom house. It's amazing how much stuff we have and don't need.
"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life ♫
Never make a pretty woman your wife"
They don't stay pretty long. Looks fade.
WOW!...
If she's causing you strife
Time to pick up that knife (jk)
Thank you bro for being honest. I was in the same exact situation now. My kids and I live in a 2500 sq. House and love it. Less stress and less to clean. And always humble.
I have been minimalising my life since May 2015. I got rid of soooo much stuff as a college student. Now that I am teacher I try very hard not to keep unwanted papers. At work, my desk is so empty that you would think no one uses it, unless I sit there. It took me 2 minutes to clear my drawers of the few items I had left in there for this school year. My coworkers had to get boxes, which were full to the brim and had to get assistance with dumping their stuff in the skip. I didn't have that burden to deal with because I decluttered little by little.
"the stuff we own, ends up owning us" -Tyler Durden
minimalizaton makes a man happy and free... I have no doubt about that...
The generosity approach is part of being wealthy. Believing there will always be enough. Living in a tiny Japanese apartment cured me of keeping what I do not absolutely love or need. Sometimes I'm happier giving things away to people than I was when I bought them. I got a friend in Japanese cutlery (it's a hobby) that way. He lived there too, and came to understand the care still taken in its creation. Simpler is better.
Im in a RV and I love it. A house is a financial prison.
Not if you have a lot of money.....
Not with a 30 year mortgage at 2.8%. Cost a lot more to rent here.
Not if you live in Alaska
I discovered my love of fewer things and smaller living spaces after spending two years living in an 800 sq ft apartment in Iceland. My current home (1600 sq ft) is actually a bit big for the 4 of us. I gave up the two car garage for an accessory apartment for my parents after my father suffered a stroke. At some point, I’ll rent out the house and use the apartment myself so I can spend more time traveling and living life and less time working to pay for “things” I don’t need. Great video. I hope more young men and women start out this way and avoid the stress of working to pay for their lives.
I kind of agree. I think everyone is different and everyone will value different things. Getting a bigger house than you need is one thing. However, the idea of owning can be good as long as you can afford the home. Not everyone wants to "experience" stuff. Not everyone wants to travel all the time. Some people are just happy living and staying at home all the time and doing domestic activities like watching TV or being in the bathtub. Being at home can be an enjoyable experience too. The only thing is to watch out that you're not getting into an uncomfortable debt to buy that home. Too many people underestimate the true cost of owning a home. You have to avoid as much debt as you can.
This is great. The first two years into my marriage I spent so much on stuff that wasn't needed and now I don't ever spent a dime on that kind of stuff, makes me want to get rid of it all. It's all just baggage from seeking happiness
It is awesome listening to someone who observes the same things I do, when they drive around.
Great video. I was never really into things and looked at as an outsider by others but the contentment of not having things "own me" like Rich said in the video is simply awesome. It brings me total peace. We all choose our own paths but I believe people would be happier if they weren't chasing things. My sister lives in one of those huge 5000+ square foot homes and she's miserable. The inside of it is packed with things everywhere. Stepping inside that house brings me stress. That house and the junk in it owns her for sure!
You look like Kratos in the new God of War Game. Anyway awesome videos man, Keep up the good Work
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Great video. I completely agree. I was happiest living on 10 acres in a new but smallish mobile home and when I had a motorcycle.
I have a friend who's going though this realization with his 500K home, he seems so miserable.
Experiences and learning count for so much more.
I think everything is based on the lifestyle you're trying to live.
Based on the fact that you got a divorce, it wouldn't make sense to have such a huge house all to yourself, as (from my own personal perspective) if you're not using that space for something, ie. sharing it with family, running your business from, or have people frequently at the home, large houses can get quite lonely, and the space alone could drive you to the point of downsizing.
My personal perspective on that is for my first move, I want to live in an apartment/condo/small home with a view of the city lights, because that's what I want to experience now personally. When I have a family or have more people in my life to share my time with on a regular basis, upgrading to a larger house makes sense, as there would (hopefully) be more life around the home.
Progressively up- or down-grading to accommodate our everchanging needs and lifestyle requirements.
In regard to experience versus materials: I fully agree that experiences over material things is more important, but if you think about it, buying those material things and living in them/using them are also experiences in themselves, we sometimes forget this because over time, we become interested in other things and holding onto those old material things we have can sometimes slow us down from going after our next goal, but I wouldn't completely tarnish the idea of getting those large homes in the first place.
Just digging into your view on that a little: This isn't to be an attack or anything, but just a small observation - maybe the pain of the divorce & idea of living in the same place you both shared your time brings back memories you'd rather not experience again, and that notion generates a sort of... minor bitterness to the idea of living in large homes? I could be totally wrong here, but I kinda got the vibe that you didn't like that people were living in those large homes you drove by, possibly because it reminded you of your own negative experiences while living somewhere similar? I could be wrong, but ya never know...
Anyways, I feel like the biggest mistake people make is that they believe they'll feel happy once they acquire these material things, whereas, being happy in the now without those things first is where the focus should be, so that once you acquire those material things, you can enjoy them to their fullest without putting any pessimistic view on them after the honeymoon phase wears off.
Nothing wrong with wanting the fancy lifestyle with the nice toys, just don't rely solely on that lifestyle to keep you happy :)
I grew up pretty broke living on a canal barge in the UK. Now we have a smallholding in rural Italy. Its rustic, I drive a 1974 series land rover, and grow most of what we eat. We homeschool our kids, my wife is a wise, loyal and hard working woman. We are less reliant on the government and corporations, less affected by fuel prices or food shortages. We've got solar for electric, three wells for water and a few acres of woodland for winter heat. Now, I'd enjoy a spin in that McLaren of Richard's, but the older I get, the more I value the peace and security of my needs being met by what's in my back yard.
I HAD THE SAME EXACT ISSUE! It was insane, I got rid of most all my things, to reallly figure out what I needed, "inventory control" from revolutionary road, "What do you have, what do you need, and what can you do with out.... that... is inventory control," now extrapolate that to the mind as well. THE BIGGEST THING I noticed, women will act impressed initially, but you're really just attracting women who want free stuff.
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Hey man!!! Thanks for this video. I've lived the "luxury life" the same as you. And what I've found out - I'm happier with much less "stuff". I went from a $500,000.00 home to a senior citizen apartment complex. Now I have NO NOISES at night, no neighbor's german shepherd barking at 4:00AM to a much quieter life. My apartment is equivalent to a $3000.00/mo condo (all for less than $300.00/mo). My car (a '05 PT Cruiser) vs. my brand new BMW (in the past) gets me everywhere I need to go. Time to have some fun (experiences vs. monthly payments). Thanks again. You have really helped me see my CURRENT blessings. LESS IS BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
agreed 100% experiences are way more important
I really like this video, you have some great thoughts! My boyfriend and I are 23-year-old engineers and we have 5 cars between us. We've been minimizing our lives too make more room for more experiences and I'm glad to know we're not the only people who are downsizing and still keeping our awesome car collection!
Im gonna start by getting rid of cable.
Jojo Mack you can't because it's tied to the internet
Lili G buy a portable hotspot
I have inner net but no cable :-)
Jojo Mack Do it. I've never regretted it for a moment.
My mind state increased 30 fold when I stopped watching TV. You will find some demons to take care of. Promise you that.
Glad I came across this vid. The wife just split 2 weeks ago and I have a pretty good idea how hosed I am going to get. My house isn't that big but it was the place my younguns started their life and close to their school. After the wife removed her hoard, I cleaned up the place and realized just how much space there is here, too much. I've been agonizing about how I was going to continue to afford it but this gave me a bit of clarity. I either get a 2nd job which is only going to lead to even higher support payments, or cut the expense. I know of a neighbor a block away who is getting his home ready for sale; it is half the size but also half the price. Going to talk to him today.
I ridded myself of every possession from my past that has a vibration of negativity attached to it to permit myself the freedom to start completely over without reminders....it was suggested as a therapeutic process.
One of the best things I ever heard or pieces of advice I ever heard/applied when it comes to money or material possessions...
“People spend money they don’t have, to buy things they can’t afford, to impress people they don’t even like or know.”
I remember my father always said to me keep your life very simple
Totally agree with this video: things own you, experiences only you can really own, albeit not holding on to physically.. Cars kinda create the illusion to provide experience, however, it quickly fades as you get used to their features like acceleration, sound etc..
Possession is a two-sided beast, like a drug: gives you a short high and then just headache.
Thanks for watching, what do you think of living a more minimalist life?
Entrepreneurs in Cars I'm totally for the minimalist lifestyle. I see the benefits of having only what you need and no more or excess. Materialism is like a disease. People in the modern world emphasize having fancy items like expensive cars or large houses. Material happiness doesn't last. I'd rather not live in debt.
I'd rather invest my money and resources so I can do the things I like and spend time with the people I love.
Going minimalist has been one of the best decisions for me ever. I still enjoy life and like nice things, but I only get things I need or have a use for. I sell or give away what I don't need or want.
What's your definition of minimalism?
My father used to say "never work for compliments, You'll only end up working harder". Jesus, Gandhi, Buddha figured that out, even in the Bible, it says " The LOVE of money is the root of ALL evil". Forever MGTOW
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"The things you own, end up owning you." I think Chuck Palahniuk hit the nail on the head when portraying the issues of modern consumption in his book Fight Club from the nineties. How can you argue with a sentence like "Advertizing has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate, so we can buy shit, we don't need." What can I say? The minimalist lifestyle is the only style that suits me. It feels downright tailored.
I think living in a condo or a 5th wheel trailer would suit me. I'd like to pay less in taxes for space I don't use or need and save up money so that I can retire early. Going to be investing $1K a month for at least the next decade in hopes that I'll have a decent amount of money at that age and not necessarily need to work or work at a job I dislike for a boss I hate. I'll be 43 by that time.
One of the most underrated videos on your channel. For a lot of things we may think we want it but if we try to be with the people in those homes, we realize that they are slave to the possessions.
$5,000 cars, buses and 15 year old BMW's mean nothing when it comes to ones financial worth. Cars are the worst possible investment ever so unless one gets extreme joy from a car then driving an old one is wise. Seeing people in million dollar houses driving $5,000 cars makes more sense than driving a $70,000 car in an apartment for example.
Sam Walton was the richest man in the world and he drove a 12 year old beat up pick up truck when he was alive.
Me personally, I get zero joy from cars they just get me from point A to B so I always drive an older model used car. The money I save on cars I spend on travel. Experiences trump things and cars are things.
A few years ago I moved out of a large house I was renting on my own. I had filled it with soo much stuff from my (at the time) high paying job. I sold almost everything. All I kept was what I could carry on me in a backpack. I handed my keys to my landlord, quit my job and booked a one-way ticket to the other side of the world and started my own company.
I don't make as much money right now (working on it), but I am soo much happier with my life.
I love my new minimalist lifestyle now. I sold my 7000 sqaure foot home and now live in a modest 3000 square foot home. I'm practically Amish now.
You nailed it. I only buy things I need or things that make me better. I teach gunfight classes in Florida, I have spent thousands on training with other companies, ammo to practice with, and items I need to build the nylon gear that I sell. My couch is made of deck wood, I just bought a 1998 4Runner because I ran my last car into the ground, and I moved into a cheap trailer to be able to put everything I have into my business. Most other trainers will rarely take other people's classes.
lol... good on yeah... my place is around 5-600 square feet, and I'm completely content... I work in construction, for people with giant houses, and I know for a fact, wealth doesn't = happiness... and vice versa... happiness comes from appreciating what you have, imho...
Mike B dude... Why do you think guys spend all their money, on big houses, and fancy cars? :P :)
Mike B the messed up part is, even after these guys do all that, their girls still want a number like me, to fullfil their fantasies... I'm not incapable. I just learned, at a young age, to cut out the middle man... Lol
Mike B honestly bro... You don't need all that, to "get women"... Most times, all you have to do is listen.
Just to be perfectly honest, again... I live in a little Cabin in the Woods... Don't drive a big fancy car... And I could honestly give two shits, if I did... Worth, has nothing to do with all that...
Oh c'mon you guys! It's TOTALLY worth it to work a job you hate and spending all your hard earned money on useless shit to please a woman. I mean, after a few years of marriage you can actually get your wife to give up some sex once or twice per month!
You know what? You are so freaking right! I was supposed to look at a bigger home this weekend. U-turn! I will be getting rid of the stuff that’s choking me at home instead. Thanks, brother!
It's funny that regardless of a recession, the only real estate markets that survive are the ultra-cheap(Under -$200K) and the ultra luxurious( Above -$10M).
Addict , logical, since the poor need cheap housing even in a crisis, and for the rich it doesnt mean much if they have $100M or $200M.
Thank you for the change of perspective. I always knew materialism won't satisfy me or make me happy but when you introduced a perspective of how we don't truly own things but things own us I've assimilated what that really meant. I've been watching your videos on basic advice and I really got to say, you have an excellent vocabulary which makes you a natural at explaining things. You've got a follower, keep up your helpful work
my dad is a millionare and he drives a 2000 ford explorer with like 180k miles on it. soooooo yea some people just dont like cars.
"everyone likes cars... of course, they dont care" ... way to contradict yourself in two sentences LMAO
That's why he is a millionaire. He is frugal.
Is ur dad free? Or does he have to spend his most limited resource "time" on taking care of his finances, properties, business? I know ppl who own tons of investment properties and businesses but spend all their time managing their money and their health takes a toll and they look like they will keep over any day ... and if they do their kids will be mulitmillionares but they would have exhausted their own life being nothing more than an accumulator of money.
Rich ppl often forget that money comes and goes (with taxes) and in the end have they made a positive long lasting influence on their family, community, society? Most just want to keep up with the Jones. The dad who drives a 30 year old pickup will often pay their kids ivy league tuition, buy them a nice car, give them a trust fund ... basically creating a parasitic kid. I've seen it so many times. All that work wasted when they truly dont practice what their preach when it comes to their kid.
peachees I have an aunt who spent her entire life being frugal and not enjoying her money or life. I never understood why. She was already well into her 70’s. In the end she died in a car accident. I think there should be a balance. We live in a modest home and drive modest cars and buy sale items but we get to travel and see the world. We have more free time to spend with our kids. I get to stay home with them. They never have to go to any childcare facilities.
Anddres Torres airbags are expired in that ford. Good luck with a future accident, hope he doesn’t get hurt. Millionaires that drive old cars......should probably upgrade a little, so they don’t die in the accident
Great message in this video. I was from my 20's a minimalist. I'm 36 now. Never understood why ppl make huge homes. I loved camping in woods and hated my corporate drilling engineer job and engineering degree. I now literally own 4 or 5 pieces of cloth and a small car. And teach my children even take a bath from a bucket instead of shower. Purpose of life should be Abrahamic Adventure in life like rising up to the level where God notices u. And chooses you to father a nation. I'm a muslim and I aspire to bring a change in my ppl. Peace from Bahrain.
Bathing with a bucket instead of a shower may be a little extreme...I'm a pretty cheap minimalist myself but even I have standards of living lol.
It feels so good to purge your life of clutter. I recommend reading Henry David Thoreau’s book “Walden.” It’s the original book on minimalism.
I was living by myself on a 3 bedroom apt, 147sqm... Cleaning it was a drag. Moved to a small 1 bed, with a big balcony where I keep my plants. Couldn't be happier and saves me a lot of dough so I was able to cut many many hours of work.
Damn you are exactly like me. I love driving nice cars, they simply bring me a lot of joy when I press the gas. But I don't care about big houses at all.
You have changed my life man! I am 21, started with nothing. Thought when i buy a nice car(you made a video on this topic) i would find friends & family somewhere through the 60 hours work a week, obviously didn't work. I went from a BMW 550i to a bmw 125i. Wish i can inspire people like you do. Blessings from SOuth Africa! Would love to meet you
My only goal in life right now is to grow as a professional and to have money for gas and tires. :D
I consider myself a minimalist in the same sense you described. The more shit you own, the unhappier you become. It becomes a burden to have all that stuff on your mind and to know that you paid so much money for something that means nothing in the end.
You're a man after my own heart, great videos. Done with big houses and all that, lessons learned. and I luv a good paid for machine (car), too! I purge on the regular.
"The borrower is slave to the lender".....( Dave Ramsey)
That's the Bible.. in Proverbs.. it also has a good thing about seduce women..saying beware bc the womans feet reach down to hell
Actually, he is quoting the bible there.
Great observations…I have broken things down similarly, for example, when thinking of purchasing real estate beyond primary residence: “It’s one thing for me to own it, it’s another for IT to own me”…..eg, maintenance, taxes, feeling the need to rent when not in use, feeling the need to use it more, snow plowing, landscaping, you name it. Thanks for your content….DISCIPLINE = FREEDOM
Good 8 minutes of my life. Thanks, Bro! Keep pushing!
As a 24 year old man preparing to go into business and life, this will probably shape and change my life for the rest of it as long as I'm alive. There is a weird correspondence that It is always the same rules, ethics, perspectives from the experienced most mature people and wise people in life in general. Their advices are mostly in some same line(even be it a monk, an entrepreneur, a pimp, or carcleaner). And this minimalism, non-attachment to properties is one of these. Thank you Richard, for waking up us from the bullshit lies and dreams society trying to sell us.
Wow it´s sooo true, you deserve a lot more views!!
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Love this video. I've been trying minimalism more in my life too. I use to be attracted to items that were desirable or had a prestige. Now my outlook is how does this improve my life. If the items I want or have do not improve my life I do not need them. I own a modest house, drive a 9 year old car and use 4 year old cell phone. I couldn't be happier. I have lots more money in the bank and I use it on experiences in my life. Part of what gives me pleasure now is chuckling at the overstretched people at work buying big homes and BMW's they can't afford because they believe these items will make them happy or give them status.
I heard this quote before and it has stuck with me. "People buy things they don't need, with money they don't have, to impress people they don't like."
so much wisdom and experience in 8 minutes, here take my like !!
You are exactly right. Living simple is the best way to go.