Always remember, It's not the end of the world. You will survive! Thanks for watching! 𝗗𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 like and 𝘀𝘂𝗯𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗼𝘀. T𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 🥰
“The ideal is to pay attention to your performance at work and are always adding ideas and improvements for the company” is what human resources consultant Lúcia Barros says. “Professionals need to be attuned to their functions and always need to give results for the company”, advises the specialist.
Thank you for this Brigette. I walked away from a company after being there for 12 years due to some of these instances. It has been difficult to find a job where my worth and 16 years in the field is valued. I also feel a bit of ageism being utilized😩😩😩 I am feeling defeated to say the least. Because of circumstances at the last job, I no longer want to be in Emergency Medicine which is making it challenging to enter into a different career path within Healthcare. Being in my 40s, I feel like I am in need of a Coach after all these rejections despite my years of experience.
Hmmm real pain when all this happens on work. .... some might just feel to leave that work .... but anyhow some times it's better for what plans god has for you .... great video yet again #godblessyou
@@raphaeldechichi7501 No one can deliver to their best, if they are constantly harassed or undervalued..Will you like someone sitting on your head all the time and abusing you, under the pretext of mentoring or reviewing performance. When I questioned back about teh words used by my manager, she replied, 'you should take it as feedback positively and work upon it'. How can one take feedback as positive when all words in the review is negative? Its very easy to lecture others unless one faces it.
I was put on a PIP, met the goals and the ED made up something to still terminate me. It didn't feel good but my health improved with leaving the org. Thank you for your insights!
I was out on a PIP, met 95% of the goals and still my supervisor fired me and got her promotion instead. I still could not get over of this wrongdoing. how do you overcome this?
@@nattybaby2009I should have done that and I was giving my 200% to prove myself right in that wrong company. It's been 5 months, still cannot overcome with this.
Same thing happened to me. I got placed on a PIP that had unrealistic goals. My director said my performance was pitiful and that I needed more accountability. I was then given 2 job roles for the same pay, forced to work at a facility 90 miles away from home, and consistently getting chewed out by everyone because nothing was ever going right. It was a terrible feeling going into work. Motivated me to find a new job. Got an over 35% raise. Putting in my 2 weeks felt like such a relief. At the end of the day, the way my director and boss treated me and set me up, ended up helping me. No hard feelings, I'll hold no grudges or ill will toward anybody.
Being fired is not the end of the world. Accept it and move on. There so many opportunities for you, just be patient. Do not be tempted to have victim mentality.
If they would fire you immediately. Often they try to get you resign as they don't have to compensate you this way. And before that they will torture you and abuse you so you get enough and leave. Such folks should not be holding those high level positions. But unfortunately they do. People are adults and if you give them a reason as to why they need to go so fine. They often don't do it.
Thank you for including the statement about how cruel and ineffective PIPS (Performance Improvement Plan) are. I was put through one 20 years ago and of course it did not work. I was not performing due to a severe depression. The PIP made it even worse. It's very rare that someone is purposely exhibiting poor performance, sadly most companies still do not consider the mental health at the root cause.
@@TheJbk1976 I heard that, but I know people who passed. There's still issues within the department with your boss, like a retaliation. Therefore, it's best to plan your exit once put on a PIP.
@@Andrea.P. I ended up finding a new job and quitting before I could be fired ☺️ (but I knew it was coming). I moved to a new city for my new job, making almost double what I made at the last job and I’ve been promoted to senior!
Brilliant, thank you for this great video!!! After 13 years I went through many of those signs, including being moved to a different (worse) division, and felt so unhappy. But luckily 1 year later I found a new job and I am extremely glad. Good luck for all who are having difficulties!!
Thank you, Brigette. You are the finest. One thing is very much true. The business will always be as usual. There is no such thing as job security. We (all of us) tend to get comfortable in a workplace until the hard facts hit us about our peers, manager, and senior management; every single one is just there to mind their own good self and is ready to let you down whenever the sky gets grey. Being prepared, always being on our toes, and ready to jump is a "have to" attitude. If one, especially those you value, can't see your worth; it doesn't mean that you are unworthy !!.
You hit the nail on the head for me. I was placed on a pip. I never seemed to please my boss but I was being given positive feedback that I I was meeting the goals. Since I was a manager in two office clinics it was something that happened that was out of my control that got me laid off. I still remember that I had a meeting giving me the opportunity to sign a paper to say I was resigning and that it would not reflect my record or to accept that I was being fired. Of course I signed and was given a severance package too. But I can’t help to think it was not my fault. I went through a breakdown and my mental health was affected. It took me over a year to get over it. I can now say that I’m much happier now doing a job that I love. Thanks for your positive thoughts and seeing the upside of things.
Cool name. I'm also a Lizette so I'm always excited when I see another. :D I agree. I'm in this situation now where they're basically asking me to sign and move on. These companies don't seem to care how this stuff affects our mental health.
wow..same like me..I have been given a PIP..and at the end the management asked me to resign..I give 2 month notice but they say no need to come but they will pay me my 2 month salary..but I have work at the company for 2 years 3 month and I have been given PIP because my boss didn't like me..and now I am searching for other job..
I was supposed to be put on a PIP in my last job. My manager suggested that I take a few days off before I start the PIP. I did and, before I went back to work, I submitted my resignation. It was not the job I wanted, I was not growing professionally, and my pay was unsatisfactory to me. It is not that it wasn't a good fit; it was a terrible fit.
@@BrigetteHyacinth my husband a chartered accountant was in his best form until he had a manager who was toxic who he complainedpublicly humiliated him unfairly...he died suddenly at 45. I had told him to leave and was job searching....begged him to leave even without a job. Work related stress kills!
Every point is correct when a management decide to throw an employee out with the help of other team members , how even a extra space in an email gets documented against you. I faced it in person. one key point to remember , we should leave the toxic working environment and move on in life to live better. Simple.
Forward all the incriminating emails outside of the company because your work email can disappear any moment, courtesy of IT, and then you have no proof of anything that happened. Print the emails as well.
I work remotely and over the last month or so, I noticed my boss, the CEO, was ignoring/avoiding me. Turns out they were selling the company to another, and my position was going to be eliminated. Good thing I was already miserable and found another job before they laid me off.
Thank you for this. I just went through all this list and got let go recently. I had a feeling something was happening and this validates my feelings. I am especially thankful for your encouragement at the end. I'm definitely going to check out freelancing and starting my own business. I'm tired of being at the mercy of these companies.
Im very sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how you feel, because I faced everyone of these challenges. What hurt me most was that I at the time I had been at the company for 33 years. I always go excellent performance reviews until I ended up with a HORRIBLE manager. It wasn’t me, it was her. She tried her best to get rid of me, but upper management stepped in and told her NO! They knew what she was doing was wrong. After 36 1/2 years I was able to retire.
I went thru similar experiences. I remember my boss greeting me in the afternoon one day asking me how I was doing and yet we had been working in the same room since morning. He had chosen to snub me for the better part of the day until he involuntarily greeted me. I think he forgot that they were supposed to ignore and give me the silent treatment. My last months and days in that company were very energy draining and mind exhausting! When I could take it no more, I allowed myself to let go off this job and disentangled myself from this yoke of bondage for the sanity of my mind. The passive aggression and those techniques they used to alienate me and distance themselves from me to my colleagues in the same project avoiding taking the same cab with me when going for the same external meetings were taking a toll on my mental health. The day I decided this is it, on my way to work, I bought an envelope at a shop and printed a resignation letter template that my friend had used to resign with too a few months earlier when we had both been accused of things we did not do and given warning letters and asked to apologize. Our jobs were threatened! About the resignation letter template, I had downloaded it on internet and sent a copy to my friend because we were prepared to resign than get fired. My friend refused to incriminate himself on things he did not do and chose to resign but then the naive me decided to apologize to keep my job. After arriving at work, I drew out the printed resignation letter, added my name and date to it then put it in the envelope and tendered it in while checking in for work that day. I felt very much relieved and free in my life thereafter. That day, in the evening I was able to eat well, relaxed and had a peace of mind that I had not had in a long time then had a good night sleep. The next morning, I was going to start waiting out my notice period for the next 30 days but after about 8 days when I had completed the handover, they told me to leave and told me that they will notify me when to come and collect my dues. I was glad they did that because my first semester exams for my MSc first year of study were taking place in about 2 weeks' time, so I had some time to prepare for my exams free from work and the things they were doing to get into my head and drive me to depression. Honestly, up to today, I never even understood what happened or what was driving the wedge between them and I but I left all that in the past and moved on.
In my current job, my ex boss, who fired me, is a regular customer. His sister and my sister are best friends.......so it's uncomfortable. I refuse to speak to him or his sister when they come into the store, even if it puts my job at risk. I told my sister to never have her and I at the same social functions. When you're fired from something, you want to move on from that company and those people, not constantly keep bumping into them.
Your sister needs to have loyalty to you. The way they did that to you is wrong. What the sister and the ex boss are doing now is psychological terrorism. Not cool.
This is all true & that’s why I have a very solid eeoc case ! I have been documenting for years and have more evidence then I can share . Put it this way , they are in trouble. So employers need to be careful when they decide to take this route . I’m not letting this go at all !
I was promoted 1.5 yrs ago and that manager left. The new manager from mth 1 was always complaining about my work, never satisfied, always the glass half empty, and the micromanagement, and the not so great quarterly reviews. I always felt she didn’t like me and I still don’t know why. We both got laid off a while ago. I still think she didn’t like me for some reason, and I’ll never know why. Point is, she is not my boss anymore and I’m glad! Too much! I need some peace and believe again on myself, recup my strength, pick up the pieces and move on with my head high bc I know like I know like I know I was a good employee and one of the best.
Brigette is just exceptional in her training on HR. It happened to me with a boss who was actually entrenching his personal selfish interest. He had ruined the whole function before HR would realize it. He got fired within shortest time anyway. No job is permanent you aptly said.
I had a job once where the boss (VP of the department) started giving me "extra" attention, as soon as I started. This made the Southern belles I worked with angry. So I had to deal with unwanted advances from the boss and hate from women jealous of my harassment. 🤦🏽♀ So much for 'Me Too.' At first, I got high praises for my work, but when he realized I wasn't going to give in to his advances, he set his right-hand lackey on me. I walked by the office of my direct manager one day and heard the VP's lackey asking him if he had any troubles with me. When my manager said, "No, she's doing a great job," the VP's lackey said, "Well just let us know if you have any problems with her." Soon after, we learned that the Executive VP (this is a huge international company), the VP's boss, was coming into town and wanted to speak with everyone in the department. The VP fired me early that morning before the meeting.
I had been given a PIP for my departments' work (and my bleak outlook), was also 90 days to "improve" but that they would work with me & they wouldn't let me fail, (I had started my job 2 weeks before things started closing down for Covid.) After the 90 days, I was given a glowing review about how I had managed to turn the department around. 3 months later I was terminated for no cause: they claimed I didn't fulfill my PIP, but everything was done to a T. I just don't get it.
In my case the objectives were intangible and vague... for example: improve your communication.... or they blamed me of lobbying only because during a meeting with other colleagues I made a question to an SVP, but what was astonishing was that all the team was against me and some of them put a lot of pressure on me, blaming for everything.... it was a tough period. But thanks God is over and I am a better person
These signs are all true, it's best to leave before been kicked out. Unfortunately, hanging on and withstanding the humiliation and all never ends well because the end goal is to sack.
Yes, just experienced this! LOL, I was told, "We are wondering how you are getting your clients?" God, spoke and informed me that morning,,, "They are going to fire you."
Been there, just like many others. I was suddenly put on a PIP, which I couldn't understand. 12 years with nothing other than good reviews. Eventually I was made redundant, even though I got a new position with more responsibility on a very high profile project as a Shift Leader. Then spent 18 months out of work. Got a new job where I was appreciated, but after 7 years tried to get a pay increase only to be told that I would not get anymore, and was told why don't I look for another job. At the age of 59, I told my manager that it was very unlikely. Anyway, I saw another job, closer to home, applied, had an interview and was offered the job later that same afternoon. So if you think you are too old, just go for it. You have nothing to lose, only things to gain. Although the money was not much better, I didn't have to travel 300 miles a week.
No. 4, 5, 7, 10 exactly happened with me...My words were mispresented words..They said that I'm underperforming, but my quality was far better than half of the team. Yes..It's true my manager asked to put down everything on sheet what I do from the time I login till I logout. There was no provision of coaching. I was put on PIP, they weren't ready to allow me for exit, but were constantly threatening 'your matter will be taken to HR in the next level.' my manager told 'we want to give you another chance to perform better.' when I denied, my PIP was extended in the notice period too. I felt great relief after exiting from the company.. And the worse part is no HR communicated with me directly, before or after the exit...Though they mentioned exit process, just on mails. I don't think such HR even bother about employees at all
@K happened the same with me, I didn't have any communication with HR... My boss accused me of everything... even the number of questions that I did during the meetings...
I'd be building up a case in the tribunal, and it would help that I have a habit of keeping meticulous records from the first day. I would be able to pinpoint, to the day, hour and minute, when this workplace bullying begins; who is responsible; and what they are doing, including every violation of their own rules and regulations, along with evidence. Then leave early for a job that pays twice what they're offering.
I just got relocated to a different department. I can easily quit but I’ll stay a bit longer just to prove that the employees who targeted and sabotaged me, lied about my character and capabilities. They almost succeeded in getting me to quit but I remembered who I was and also try to look at things in a positive way. They needed numerous people to target me, one female. Most of these people were men. I never changed being kind to others and offering help to anyone who needed it, even when I knew what they were trying to do to me. I may be getting fired soon. I also have a good feeling that some people in this new department are either friends or family of those who got me in my current position so I am preparing myself for possible issues to build a better defense against their attempts. People have quit before me and still continue to do so. These people have experience taking out what they see as a potential threat even though my eagerness to learn was so that I could help everyone around me and I had no desire whatsoever to take anyones position. I hope I can one day start my own business and appreciate experiencing what workplace mobbing/bullying feels like so I can protect my future employees from it. Although I know it would probably be best for me to quit, I can’t. I’ve been bullied in school and hospitalized from it because of my introverted personality as well as being smarter than most people in my district. I can’t let them get away with what they’re doing so I need to expose them. I’m going to show how competent I am by learning one of the most difficult machines in the building after they moved me to this new department and hopefully the supervisors will see that I was telling the truth about being improperly trained by receiving false information to set myself up for failure for the last machine I was on that led to my relocating. How is it that I was capable of learning 8 machines in 3 months when it takes people 4-6 months to learn 1 if I was allegedly trained properly and still failed to run it efficiently? The harassment, rumors and targeting started when I got offered a higher position on my 3rd week of starting there. At first I kept hoping that our Heavenly Father would expose these people and how they all conspired with each other to target former/current employees but it hasn’t happened yet. After some thought and understanding that I don’t know what our fathers plan is, I believe this is continuing because I don’t belong there. I will not lose faith and allow these people to change the person I am. These people are testing my courage, perseverance, mental strength and morals so I have to keep fighting even if they think the odds are against me. I’m 32 years old and I have never experienced such toxicity at work like this in all my life. I will be a kind and understanding business owner because of these people. They don’t realize they’re helping me learn how to become successful with a healthy work environment for my future employees
@Terra Nova so I must say, this is COMMON for people like us. People like us? YES… people of faith, integrity and truth. I am highly introverted also, but have also learned to speak up more especially in meetings. However, in my field (medical information technology) I am always targeted by at least one person. Lots of non believers and narcissistic people I don’t play the games very well and hate politics. People that stay out of politics are also highly targeted for workplace bullying as well. Don’t let them wear you down. Keep hold of truth. Rely on God. I’m right there with you. I get it!
I have my dream job now, but how I wished a lot more managers were like you! I have worked for 11 years in laboratories. While working as a chemical analyst is nice, that workplace is toxic! Even a colleague of mine confirmed this last week. Which is why I'm glad I don't work in a lab anymore 😌
Even if more Managers were like that, unfortunately, there is only that much HR Managers can do. They can try to influence, train, and educate line managers and management on best practices and make suggestions, but it does not always work. Most HR Managers don't even try and just go along with it and execute.
I have been with the same company for 10 years and there is really no room to grow. I am tired of doing the same thing but I think that I have job security where I am. I want to start a new career but I have a level of fear when it comes to starting over and job security. Your videos are so helpful.
i was there, 7 years ago... but then decide starting over... perhaps after the pandemic has gone, there will be lots of better opportunities keep safe and survive...
I agree with you... unfortunately I went through all these stages... what really mad me sad was that several colleagues in the previous months were "disappeared", without saying hello, after I discovered that was practice of my previous company to pay 3 months in advance and ask you to resign. My hell lasted 4 months were I was blamed of everything... probably the most ridiculous was that when me and my boss were in a meeting people made questions to him, how if I could pilot the other people head to make questions to me, often questions related with the management of the team, so no my competences. However, these story made me very insecure...but slowly I am coming out.
I’ve had some pretty terrible lows in my career and felt super defeated for a while after. Wish I would have found your channel sooner - amazing content! Keep it up. :)
Thanks so much for the great advice Bridgette Hyacinth. Please will you do a video on how to deal with workplace bullying and/or discrimination in the workplace. Thanks again 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Oh my this video brought back some bad memories! I’ve been here and was asked to do this to employees also. Shady tactics that don’t need to be used because no one benefits. I love your positive message at the end!
Can u please please elaborate? Why employ these tactics? I was the Victim of this and don’t understand why? Like at what point does ur boss and team turn on u when ur work performance is no different? (Always had great feedback, until one day)
@@wenavi8289 The video explains this really well! I have been in situations where the manager did not do a good job managing or training their staff now they want that person gone but they want HR to help. Only a bad manager would want to use theses tactics to cover their own failure to manage.
In most cases the toxic co-workers are the reason, specifically those who has been in the company for many years .They basically resist against fresh people who are creative, sharp, and hardworking. The sad part of this story is that in the conflict between the new productive employee and the old bully employee , the company owner will fire the new talented employee.
I truly did not see it coming that I was losing my job. I wish I had so I could’ve started looking for a new job. I was truly devastated and heartbroken 💔
Colleen, for me it was denial. 7 years of excellent review. new boss and nitpicking. I was doing twice as much work then the other two people combined. Figured that could not get rid of me. Stupid me.
@@michaeljvirostko4437 It doesn't motivates me to try to please a new boss nitpicking at me. I will head up and start looking for a new job as soon as a new boss looms over. 🤔
I was put on PIP but luckily HR saw through it and stopped it from getting implemented and marring my employment record I (I was in a different department in the same company for 6 years, and barely one and a half year in another department before I opted out) saying my superiors did not communicate enough my tasks to me. I then confirmed my early hunch that they are setting me up for a spectacular failure so that they will have "legitimate" reasons to throw me under the bus. Thank God I resigned before the pandemic struck, I couldn't imagine getting stuck with such toxic people who don't know how to treat people right. This also reinforced my personal bias that expat bosses are more humane to treat their subordinates than locals do when they deal with their fellow locals...
1. According to the lesson in section 9 what's the consequences or failure to teach your replacement how to do your work? 2. Micro-managing the coaching process in other to make a case for yourself can it be helpful? 3. What is the role of HR with regard to the sudden drop in performance of a high flyer? 4. Seeking transfer to another department can it be a means to an end?
Saying something to HR could even cause you more problems cuz generally HR is helping that manager and coaching them to protect the company from legal suits. So that's not helpful. Sometimes, transferring to another department can be helpful if the new manager doesn't like the old one, and thinks they are protecting you. That's where personal relationships come in handy across departments.
Covid really cause massive stress on everyone !!!! But the sun will shine once it have people like you making these videos to teach us about life .... work ect!!!!
Thank you, this was spot on! I personally was "devolved" from a job several years ago. Of course, they were right in doing that. I was right in the middle of my own addiction.
Brigette, I have stumbled across your channel via Linkedin, and have been watching your series of videos regarding the interview process. I often find myself frustrated with some of the ridiculous questions that Interviewers haul out, and wishing that they would actually take a few minutes to review my profile/resume before they ask them, but unfortunately there is no avoiding these types of situations. Your videos provide invaluable assistance with this and so many other scenarios, and have value for anyone for any stage of their career by providing insight into the thought process (or sometimes the lack thereof, which nevertheless must be dealt with) behind these questions. I also really like how at the end of most of your videos you go out of your way to provide encouragement for those watching to keep their spirits up and to remember their self worth. Thank you so much for doing what you do!
I am feeling sick as to how a person can be treated. If I can go back in my younger years, I would chose something where I do not have to work for anyone. But the couintry i am living in, doesn't have many opportunities as you guys in the USA. I have been fired many times, it is very hard to deal with people who kiss up to boss , gossip behind you and make you look bad in front of the boss. I don't have this cunning nature in me
I don't have cunning nature either, i'm just an introverted 27 years old male who worked for three months for a company that i volunteered for 4 months i at least expected that i will be a full time employee after three months, and guess what? i was fired on my third month of 16 december now i have two last weeks of work and i' am not gonna come back to this social services center because i worked as as social worker. Guys i will tell you this do not lose hope just because someone fired you it is part of our adventure to find the real job we are after and for some, i guess creating bussiness is a better idea.
Thank you for sharing this! I am in this situation now, very painful and upsetting moment especially after 4 years of great reviews on my work, New boss, and just men “ united” against of a woman. I could not believe this thing is still possible till this happened to me.
Always remember, It's not the end of the world. You will survive! Thanks for watching! 𝗗𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 like and 𝘀𝘂𝗯𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗶𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗼𝘀. T𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂. 🥰
“The ideal is to pay attention to your performance at work and are always adding ideas and improvements for the company” is what human resources consultant Lúcia Barros says. “Professionals need to be attuned to their functions and always need to give results for the company”, advises the specialist.
Thank you for this Brigette. I walked away from a company after being there for 12 years due to some of these instances. It has been difficult to find a job where my worth and 16 years in the field is valued. I also feel a bit of ageism being utilized😩😩😩 I am feeling defeated to say the least. Because of circumstances at the last job, I no longer want to be in Emergency Medicine which is making it challenging to enter into a different career path within Healthcare. Being in my 40s, I feel like I am in need of a Coach after all these rejections despite my years of experience.
Love the intro 👌👌👌👌👌😍😍😍😍😍 great content as always!!!!!
Hmmm real pain when all this happens on work. .... some might just feel to leave that work .... but anyhow some times it's better for what plans god has for you .... great video yet again #godblessyou
@@raphaeldechichi7501 No one can deliver to their best, if they are constantly harassed or undervalued..Will you like someone sitting on your head all the time and abusing you, under the pretext of mentoring or reviewing performance. When I questioned back about teh words used by my manager, she replied, 'you should take it as feedback positively and work upon it'. How can one take feedback as positive when all words in the review is negative? Its very easy to lecture others unless one faces it.
I feel this is so illegal! Especially if you know you are not doing anything to warrant a termination. So tired of toxic environments.
Same here it should be laws to protect employees from toxic work place. Why is this allowed on 2021 employment laws needs to change
It's called (toxic) capitalism...
I was put on a PIP, met the goals and the ED made up something to still terminate me. It didn't feel good but my health improved with leaving the org. Thank you for your insights!
What is a PIP?
@@PerrySkyePhoenix “Performance improvement Plan”. I personally don’t think it’s nothing more than a notice that you’re on the chopping block soon.
Had a company try that pip. I left right away. Pips are not it
I was out on a PIP, met 95% of the goals and still my supervisor fired me and got her promotion instead. I still could not get over of this wrongdoing. how do you overcome this?
@@nattybaby2009I should have done that and I was giving my 200% to prove myself right in that wrong company. It's been 5 months, still cannot overcome with this.
Same thing happened to me. I got placed on a PIP that had unrealistic goals. My director said my performance was pitiful and that I needed more accountability. I was then given 2 job roles for the same pay, forced to work at a facility 90 miles away from home, and consistently getting chewed out by everyone because nothing was ever going right. It was a terrible feeling going into work. Motivated me to find a new job. Got an over 35% raise. Putting in my 2 weeks felt like such a relief. At the end of the day, the way my director and boss treated me and set me up, ended up helping me. No hard feelings, I'll hold no grudges or ill will toward anybody.
Being fired is not the end of the world. Accept it and move on. There so many opportunities for you, just be patient. Do not be tempted to have victim mentality.
If they would fire you immediately. Often they try to get you resign as they don't have to compensate you this way. And before that they will torture you and abuse you so you get enough and leave. Such folks should not be holding those high level positions. But unfortunately they do. People are adults and if you give them a reason as to why they need to go so fine. They often don't do it.
Thank you for including the statement about how cruel and ineffective PIPS (Performance Improvement Plan) are. I was put through one 20 years ago and of course it did not work. I was not performing due to a severe depression. The PIP made it even worse. It's very rare that someone is purposely exhibiting poor performance, sadly most companies still do not consider the mental health at the root cause.
Same! I went on FMLA, took my 12 weeks, found another job and told them what to kiss!🤣
@@blackcoffee2002 A manager once told me, no one comes back from a PIP. It's a slow firing.
@@TheJbk1976 I heard that, but I know people who passed. There's still issues within the department with your boss, like a retaliation. Therefore, it's best to plan your exit once put on a PIP.
Exactly. PIPs are punishments. They are not about helping you at all!
Spot on. Exactly what I experienced under a toxic supervisor.
Currently on a PIP my anxiety skyrocket jets Sunday afternoon, thank you for the prayer!
How did it turn out?
@@Andrea.P. I ended up finding a new job and quitting before I could be fired ☺️ (but I knew it was coming). I moved to a new city for my new job, making almost double what I made at the last job and I’ve been promoted to senior!
You give lot of positivity to many people here and a reason to keep moving
It's all corporate politics no solution
Brilliant, thank you for this great video!!! After 13 years I went through many of those signs, including being moved to a different (worse) division, and felt so unhappy. But luckily 1 year later I found a new job and I am extremely glad. Good luck for all who are having difficulties!!
Thank you, Brigette. You are the finest.
One thing is very much true. The business will always be as usual. There is no such thing as job security. We (all of us) tend to get comfortable in a workplace until the hard facts hit us about our peers, manager, and senior management; every single one is just there to mind their own good self and is ready to let you down whenever the sky gets grey.
Being prepared, always being on our toes, and ready to jump is a "have to" attitude.
If one, especially those you value, can't see your worth; it doesn't mean that you are unworthy !!.
This is why it's always good to work for yourself.
I nearly lost my sanity to this. Now I never stay in a job more than 2 years
@@FULLMOON322 probably for the best
You hit the nail on the head for me. I was placed on a pip. I never seemed to please my boss but I was being given positive feedback that I I was meeting the goals. Since I was a manager in two office clinics it was something that happened that was out of my control that got me laid off. I still remember that I had a meeting giving me the opportunity to sign a paper to say I was resigning and that it would not reflect my record or to accept that I was being fired. Of course I signed and was given a severance package too. But I can’t help to think it was not my fault. I went through a breakdown and my mental health was affected. It took me over a year to get over it. I can now say that I’m much happier now doing a job that I love. Thanks for your positive thoughts and seeing the upside of things.
Cool name. I'm also a Lizette so I'm always excited when I see another. :D I agree. I'm in this situation now where they're basically asking me to sign and move on. These companies don't seem to care how this stuff affects our mental health.
Hi Lizette when you applied for another job and they asked for a reference from your previous employer what did you do?
wow..same like me..I have been given a PIP..and at the end the management asked me to resign..I give 2 month notice but they say no need to come but they will pay me my 2 month salary..but I have work at the company for 2 years 3 month and I have been given PIP because my boss didn't like me..and now I am searching for other job..
I was supposed to be put on a PIP in my last job. My manager suggested that I take a few days off before I start the PIP. I did and, before I went back to work, I submitted my resignation. It was not the job I wanted, I was not growing professionally, and my pay was unsatisfactory to me. It is not that it wasn't a good fit; it was a terrible fit.
Glad you are no longer there Sami. No amount of money is worth staying in a toxic environment.
@@BrigetteHyacinth my husband a chartered accountant was in his best form until he had a manager who was toxic who he complainedpublicly humiliated him unfairly...he died suddenly at 45.
I had told him to leave and was job searching....begged him to leave even without a job. Work related stress kills!
But Sami if you leave without another job or being fired then you won’t have any income .. why would I do that ? Although it’s hell and traumatizing
Every point is correct when a management decide to throw an employee out with the help of other team members , how even a extra space in an email gets documented against you. I faced it in person. one key point to remember , we should leave the toxic working environment and move on in life to live better. Simple.
Forward all the incriminating emails outside of the company because your work email can disappear any moment, courtesy of IT, and then you have no proof of anything that happened. Print the emails as well.
I work remotely and over the last month or so, I noticed my boss, the CEO, was ignoring/avoiding me. Turns out they were selling the company to another, and my position was going to be eliminated. Good thing I was already miserable and found another job before they laid me off.
Thank you for this. I just went through all this list and got let go recently. I had a feeling something was happening and this validates my feelings. I am especially thankful for your encouragement at the end. I'm definitely going to check out freelancing and starting my own business. I'm tired of being at the mercy of these companies.
Im very sorry this happened to you. I know exactly how you feel, because I faced everyone of these challenges. What hurt me most was that I at the time I had been at the company for 33 years. I always go excellent performance reviews until I ended up with a HORRIBLE manager. It wasn’t me, it was her. She tried her best to get rid of me, but upper management stepped in and told her NO! They knew what she was doing was wrong. After 36 1/2 years I was able to retire.
Thank you, need this... This is not the end..appreciate the positive support.
BEAUTIFUL sentiments and I love the inclusion of the Serenity Prayer!
You are right in the money. Most of this happened to me when I got a new boss.
I went thru similar experiences. I remember my boss greeting me in the afternoon one day asking me how I was doing and yet we had been working in the same room since morning. He had chosen to snub me for the better part of the day until he involuntarily greeted me. I think he forgot that they were supposed to ignore and give me the silent treatment.
My last months and days in that company were very energy draining and mind exhausting!
When I could take it no more, I allowed myself to let go off this job and disentangled myself from this yoke of bondage for the sanity of my mind. The passive aggression and those techniques they used to alienate me and distance themselves from me to my colleagues in the same project avoiding taking the same cab with me when going for the same external meetings were taking a toll on my mental health.
The day I decided this is it, on my way to work, I bought an envelope at a shop and printed a resignation letter template that my friend had used to resign with too a few months earlier when we had both been accused of things we did not do and given warning letters and asked to apologize. Our jobs were threatened!
About the resignation letter template, I had downloaded it on internet and sent a copy to my friend because we were prepared to resign than get fired.
My friend refused to incriminate himself on things he did not do and chose to resign but then the naive me decided to apologize to keep my job.
After arriving at work, I drew out the printed resignation letter, added my name and date to it then put it in the envelope and tendered it in while checking in for work that day.
I felt very much relieved and free in my life thereafter. That day, in the evening I was able to eat well, relaxed and had a peace of mind that I had not had in a long time then had a good night sleep.
The next morning, I was going to start waiting out my notice period for the next 30 days but after about 8 days when I had completed the handover, they told me to leave and told me that they will notify me when to come and collect my dues.
I was glad they did that because my first semester exams for my MSc first year of study were taking place in about 2 weeks' time, so I had some time to prepare for my exams free from work and the things they were doing to get into my head and drive me to depression. Honestly, up to today, I never even understood what happened or what was driving the wedge between them and I but I left all that in the past and moved on.
In my current job, my ex boss, who fired me, is a regular customer. His sister and my sister are best friends.......so it's uncomfortable. I refuse to speak to him or his sister when they come into the store, even if it puts my job at risk. I told my sister to never have her and I at the same social functions.
When you're fired from something, you want to move on from that company and those people, not constantly keep bumping into them.
So awkward. I wonder if you're ex-boss is aware that you're there. I'm gonna guess that they'll act like nothing ever happened.
Your sister needs to have loyalty to you. The way they did that to you is wrong. What the sister and the ex boss are doing now is psychological terrorism. Not cool.
Your advise is encouragement and your. encouragement is a strangth.
This is all true & that’s why I have a very solid eeoc case ! I have been documenting for years and have more evidence then I can share . Put it this way , they are in trouble. So employers need to be careful when they decide to take this route . I’m not letting this go at all !
I was promoted 1.5 yrs ago and that manager left. The new manager from mth 1 was always complaining about my work, never satisfied, always the glass half empty, and the micromanagement, and the not so great quarterly reviews. I always felt she didn’t like me and I still don’t know why. We both got laid off a while ago. I still think she didn’t like me for some reason, and I’ll never know why. Point is, she is not my boss anymore and I’m glad! Too much! I need some peace and believe again on myself, recup my strength, pick up the pieces and move on with my head high bc I know like I know like I know I was a good employee and one of the best.
Oh I love this intro; valuable content, thanks for sharing.
Amy G yes yes yes #greatintro
Brigette is just exceptional in her training on HR. It happened to me with a boss who was actually entrenching his personal selfish interest. He had ruined the whole function before HR would realize it. He got fired within shortest time anyway. No job is permanent you aptly said.
I came across this video at the right time. All the red flags are very clear.
I had a job once where the boss (VP of the department) started giving me "extra" attention, as soon as I started. This made the Southern belles I worked with angry. So I had to deal with unwanted advances from the boss and hate from women jealous of my harassment. 🤦🏽♀ So much for 'Me Too.' At first, I got high praises for my work, but when he realized I wasn't going to give in to his advances, he set his right-hand lackey on me. I walked by the office of my direct manager one day and heard the VP's lackey asking him if he had any troubles with me. When my manager said, "No, she's doing a great job," the VP's lackey said, "Well just let us know if you have any problems with her." Soon after, we learned that the Executive VP (this is a huge international company), the VP's boss, was coming into town and wanted to speak with everyone in the department. The VP fired me early that morning before the meeting.
A PIP is just another way of saying you're fired.
I consider PIP = hazing
Yes. If anyone gets put on one, find another job STAT. All they are is a legal way for them to CTOA- cover their own @$$.
I had a PIP where I was supposed to have 90 days to “improve,” but I was fired after 30.
That's sad you didn't even stand a chance.
Lord have mercy on them .... bosses . Better is coming your way #trustgod always
I had been given a PIP for my departments' work (and my bleak outlook), was also 90 days to "improve" but that they would work with me & they wouldn't let me fail, (I had started my job 2 weeks before things started closing down for Covid.) After the 90 days, I was given a glowing review about how I had managed to turn the department around. 3 months later I was terminated for no cause: they claimed I didn't fulfill my PIP, but everything was done to a T. I just don't get it.
PIP is being used as a way of getting rid of an employee. I am a victim as well.
In my case the objectives were intangible and vague... for example: improve your communication.... or they blamed me of lobbying only because during a meeting with other colleagues I made a question to an SVP, but what was astonishing was that all the team was against me and some of them put a lot of pressure on me, blaming for everything.... it was a tough period. But thanks God is over and I am a better person
The management should just come clean instead of building a case against you which only leads to negatively.
These signs are all true, it's best to leave before been kicked out. Unfortunately, hanging on and withstanding the humiliation and all never ends well because the end goal is to sack.
Yes, just experienced this! LOL, I was told, "We are wondering how you are getting your clients?" God, spoke and informed me that morning,,, "They are going to fire you."
So true!! Sickening and it sucks!
You hit the nail on the head
Very well Said @
Brigette Hyacinth
Been there, just like many others. I was suddenly put on a PIP, which I couldn't understand. 12 years with nothing other than good reviews. Eventually I was made redundant, even though I got a new position with more responsibility on a very high profile project as a Shift Leader. Then spent 18 months out of work. Got a new job where I was appreciated, but after 7 years tried to get a pay increase only to be told that I would not get anymore, and was told why don't I look for another job. At the age of 59, I told my manager that it was very unlikely. Anyway, I saw another job, closer to home, applied, had an interview and was offered the job later that same afternoon. So if you think you are too old, just go for it. You have nothing to lose, only things to gain. Although the money was not much better, I didn't have to travel 300 miles a week.
No. 4, 5, 7, 10 exactly happened with me...My words were mispresented words..They said that I'm underperforming, but my quality was far better than half of the team. Yes..It's true my manager asked to put down everything on sheet what I do from the time I login till I logout. There was no provision of coaching. I was put on PIP, they weren't ready to allow me for exit, but were constantly threatening 'your matter will be taken to HR in the next level.' my manager told 'we want to give you another chance to perform better.' when I denied, my PIP was extended in the notice period too. I felt great relief after exiting from the company.. And the worse part is no HR communicated with me directly, before or after the exit...Though they mentioned exit process, just on mails. I don't think such HR even bother about employees at all
@K happened the same with me, I didn't have any communication with HR... My boss accused me of everything... even the number of questions that I did during the meetings...
@@avandroidandroid5055 thanks for sharing.. I can understand your pain.. as I have faced similar things..
I'd be building up a case in the tribunal, and it would help that I have a habit of keeping meticulous records from the first day. I would be able to pinpoint, to the day, hour and minute, when this workplace bullying begins; who is responsible; and what they are doing, including every violation of their own rules and regulations, along with evidence.
Then leave early for a job that pays twice what they're offering.
Thanks for the great advice Alex 🙏🏽
What's the point of documenting all thsi information then if you just end up leaving anyway?
Yes you allways talk the truth keep up the good work your advise is secont to none
Great conclusion. It’s not the end of the world. Sometimes, it’s the beginning of another great opportunity.
I just got relocated to a different department. I can easily quit but I’ll stay a bit longer just to prove that the employees who targeted and sabotaged me, lied about my character and capabilities.
They almost succeeded in getting me to quit but I remembered who I was and also try to look at things in a positive way.
They needed numerous people to target me, one female. Most of these people were men. I never changed being kind to others and offering help to anyone who needed it, even when I knew what they were trying to do to me.
I may be getting fired soon. I also have a good feeling that some people in this new department are either friends or family of those who got me in my current position so I am preparing myself for possible issues to build a better defense against their attempts.
People have quit before me and still continue to do so. These people have experience taking out what they see as a potential threat even though my eagerness to learn was so that I could help everyone around me and I had no desire whatsoever to take anyones position.
I hope I can one day start my own business and appreciate experiencing what workplace mobbing/bullying feels like so I can protect my future employees from it.
Although I know it would probably be best for me to quit, I can’t. I’ve been bullied in school and hospitalized from it because of my introverted personality as well as being smarter than most people in my district. I can’t let them get away with what they’re doing so I need to expose them. I’m going to show how competent I am by learning one of the most difficult machines in the building after they moved me to this new department and hopefully the supervisors will see that I was telling the truth about being improperly trained by receiving false information to set myself up for failure for the last machine I was on that led to my relocating. How is it that I was capable of learning 8 machines in 3 months when it takes people 4-6 months to learn 1 if I was allegedly trained properly and still failed to run it efficiently?
The harassment, rumors and targeting started when I got offered a higher position on my 3rd week of starting there. At first I kept hoping that our Heavenly Father would expose these people and how they all conspired with each other to target former/current employees but it hasn’t happened yet. After some thought and understanding that I don’t know what our fathers plan is, I believe this is continuing because I don’t belong there.
I will not lose faith and allow these people to change the person I am. These people are testing my courage, perseverance, mental strength and morals so I have to keep fighting even if they think the odds are against me.
I’m 32 years old and I have never experienced such toxicity at work like this in all my life.
I will be a kind and understanding business owner because of these people. They don’t realize they’re helping me learn how to become successful with a healthy work environment for my future employees
@Terra Nova so I must say, this is COMMON for people like us.
People like us? YES… people of faith, integrity and truth.
I am highly introverted also, but have also learned to speak up more especially in meetings.
However, in my field (medical information technology) I am always targeted by at least one person. Lots of non believers and narcissistic people
I don’t play the games very well and hate politics. People that stay out of politics are also highly targeted for workplace bullying as well.
Don’t let them wear you down. Keep hold of truth. Rely on God.
I’m right there with you. I get it!
I have my dream job now, but how I wished a lot more managers were like you!
I have worked for 11 years in laboratories. While working as a chemical analyst is nice, that workplace is toxic! Even a colleague of mine confirmed this last week. Which is why I'm glad I don't work in a lab anymore 😌
Even if more Managers were like that, unfortunately, there is only that much HR Managers can do. They can try to influence, train, and educate line managers and management on best practices and make suggestions, but it does not always work. Most HR Managers don't even try and just go along with it and execute.
I have been with the same company for 10 years and there is really no room to grow. I am tired of doing the same thing but I think that I have job security where I am. I want to start a new career but I have a level of fear when it comes to starting over and job security. Your videos are so helpful.
same same.
i was there, 7 years ago...
but then decide starting over...
perhaps after the pandemic has gone, there will be lots of better opportunities
keep safe and survive...
I agree with you... unfortunately I went through all these stages... what really mad me sad was that several colleagues in the previous months were "disappeared", without saying hello, after I discovered that was practice of my previous company to pay 3 months in advance and ask you to resign. My hell lasted 4 months were I was blamed of everything... probably the most ridiculous was that when me and my boss were in a meeting people made questions to him, how if I could pilot the other people head to make questions to me, often questions related with the management of the team, so no my competences.
However, these story made me very insecure...but slowly I am coming out.
Yes and the dying economy doesnt help
Number 7 is something you can call out if you're being asked to do it, but others on the team aren't...
I have anxiety and honestly this really click with me. Very discouraging for me. ☹ I wish I could have someone like you to help me.
The saying “you were looking for a job when you found this one” will get you through. Learn new skills and continue to grow and network
Same girl, same…we are going to get through it. I saw a quote that said “let go of things that have already let go of you.” Keep your head up!
I’ve had some pretty terrible lows in my career and felt super defeated for a while after. Wish I would have found your channel sooner - amazing content! Keep it up. :)
love and respect for you sister
Wow, this is truly enlightening. Thank you Ms Bridgette.
You were so on point with this Brigette!!!
Your video is on point Brigette.Thank You.
Thanks so much for the great advice Bridgette Hyacinth. Please will you do a video on how to deal with workplace bullying and/or discrimination in the workplace. Thanks again 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Oh my this video brought back some bad memories! I’ve been here and was asked to do this to employees also. Shady tactics that don’t need to be used because no one benefits. I love your positive message at the end!
Can u please please elaborate? Why employ these tactics? I was the Victim of this and don’t understand why? Like at what point does ur boss and team turn on u when ur work performance is no different? (Always had great feedback, until one day)
@@wenavi8289 The video explains this really well! I have been in situations where the manager did not do a good job managing or training their staff now they want that person gone but they want HR to help. Only a bad manager would want to use theses tactics to cover their own failure to manage.
Very nice intro as said before
How did I not know you were Trini til now?!???Love it and this. It’s 100% correct.
I was once asked to be put on PIP by a toxic manager. Even before she talk to HR about it, i put in my resignation letter. I am happier ever since.
In most cases the toxic co-workers are the reason, specifically those who has been in the company for many years .They basically resist against fresh people who are creative, sharp, and hardworking. The sad part of this story is that in the conflict between the new productive employee and the old bully employee , the company owner will fire the new talented employee.
I truly did not see it coming that I was losing my job. I wish I had so I could’ve started looking for a new job. I was truly devastated and heartbroken 💔
Colleen you Will get something much better .... if you ain't get it already .... hmmm #godblessyou
Colleen, for me it was denial. 7 years of excellent review. new boss and nitpicking. I was doing twice as much work then the other two people combined. Figured that could not get rid of me. Stupid me.
@@michaeljvirostko4437 It doesn't motivates me to try to please a new boss nitpicking at me. I will head up and start looking for a new job as soon as a new boss looms over. 🤔
I was put on PIP but luckily HR saw through it and stopped it from getting implemented and marring my employment record I (I was in a different department in the same company for 6 years, and barely one and a half year in another department before I opted out) saying my superiors did not communicate enough my tasks to me. I then confirmed my early hunch that they are setting me up for a spectacular failure so that they will have "legitimate" reasons to throw me under the bus.
Thank God I resigned before the pandemic struck, I couldn't imagine getting stuck with such toxic people who don't know how to treat people right. This also reinforced my personal bias that expat bosses are more humane to treat their subordinates than locals do when they deal with their fellow locals...
Was this in Japan?
No, this didn't happen in Japan.
Very good video... Last point makes again hope of new beginning....
God bless your Brigette, wonderful tips
1. According to the lesson in section 9 what's the consequences or failure to teach your replacement how to do your work?
2. Micro-managing the coaching process in other to make a case for yourself can it be helpful?
3. What is the role of HR with regard to the sudden drop in performance of a high flyer?
4. Seeking transfer to another department can it be a means to an end?
Saying something to HR could even cause you more problems cuz generally HR is helping that manager and coaching them to protect the company from legal suits. So that's not helpful. Sometimes, transferring to another department can be helpful if the new manager doesn't like the old one, and thinks they are protecting you. That's where personal relationships come in handy across departments.
I would have start looking for a new job with the first five signs.
Definitely happened to me! They were supposed to “coach” me that didn’t even last one month. They still let me go. I hate remote work
All these 10 happened to me
YES Forward is the way to go
Dot those 'i' and cross them T's .... best be doing that if you want to keep your job..... love the intro brig!!!
Thank you for this. Really encouraged me!!
Absolutely a PIP means you are about to be fired. Quit before that happens
No in many states you have to get fired in order to get unemployment
Exactly
Very insightful! Thanks for sharing ☺️
Covid really cause massive stress on everyone !!!! But the sun will shine once it have people like you making these videos to teach us about life .... work ect!!!!
I like the opening! Very creative!
After reciting the Serenity Prayer, leave.
Thank you, this was spot on! I personally was "devolved" from a job several years ago. Of course, they were right in doing that. I was right in the middle of my own addiction.
So much of this sounds like things happening to me. Almost since I started.
Thank you so much Brigette for this video.
Thank you so much for the insight Bridget 🙏
I love your accent, great content too
How this video is more than great thank you so much Brigette
I appreciate your words of wisdom. I will continue to keep watch.
This is what I'm currently going through.
I am so sorry to hear that. Going through this must be very difficult for you!! It is horrible.
@@TGWMPE this was mo tha ago. 🤣🤣I'm happily employed. 😊
@@ZiMiLa49 I am glad to hear. It is wonderful when you are happily employed. It is a great feeling!!
Hi God blessings to you my friend. Keep up the good work.
Brigette, I have stumbled across your channel via Linkedin, and have been watching your series of videos regarding the interview process. I often find myself frustrated with some of the ridiculous questions that Interviewers haul out, and wishing that they would actually take a few minutes to review my profile/resume before they ask them, but unfortunately there is no avoiding these types of situations. Your videos provide invaluable assistance with this and so many other scenarios, and have value for anyone for any stage of their career by providing insight into the thought process (or sometimes the lack thereof, which nevertheless must be dealt with) behind these questions. I also really like how at the end of most of your videos you go out of your way to provide encouragement for those watching to keep their spirits up and to remember their self worth. Thank you so much for doing what you do!
I am feeling sick as to how a person can be treated. If I can go back in my younger years, I would chose something where I do not have to work for anyone. But the couintry i am living in, doesn't have many opportunities as you guys in the USA. I have been fired many times, it is very hard to deal with people who kiss up to boss , gossip behind you and make you look bad in front of the boss. I don't have this cunning nature in me
I don't have cunning nature either, i'm just an introverted 27 years old male who worked for three months for a company that i volunteered for 4 months i at least expected that i will be a full time employee after three months, and guess what? i was fired on my third month of 16 december now i have two last weeks of work and i' am not gonna come back to this social services center because i worked as as social worker. Guys i will tell you this do not lose hope just because someone fired you it is part of our adventure to find the real job we are after and for some, i guess creating bussiness is a better idea.
Great stuff. Thanks Brigette
I like your video. Straight to the point! Regards from Slovenia!
I love you Bridgette! Thanks 🙏🏻
Hi Brigette, Thanks for your tips on how to identify when you are at risk to be fired. It is difficult when one is facing that situation.
As usual valuable content. I had to face some of them. After listing your lecture I always learn something new. Thanks for sharing.LOVE YOU
This is spot on
Love it especially the video production is amazing
New fresh in market can easily crack their interview by following Brigette advice.
Oh Lord this is exactly what happened !!
I got fired once and honestly didn’t like the job. I was in school too.
Very positive and encouraging in these times
Thank you for sharing this!
I am in this situation now, very painful and upsetting moment especially after 4 years of great reviews on my work,
New boss, and just men “ united” against of a woman. I could not believe this thing is still possible till this happened to me.
Hey sis, I’m here from LinkedIn a big Congrats to you🎉💕👑
Brigette, Just happened to me this past week. laid off. but no I am free to start my own business.....BE FREE>.........
Thanks so much......