How to be More Confident | 5 Ways to Increase Self-Confidence
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- Опубликовано: 8 июл 2024
- Oh hey guys. Just a video about how to be the more confident version of yourself. Can do a more specific video about confidence, just lemme know in the comments.
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Never heard someone say " I love myself" so casually before. Refreshing
ikr i had a bigger grin at that moment then when i saw boobs for the first time
This one. It never hurts to tell someone that they are beautiful :)
@@stefanpupaleski4090 lol 🤞
Stefan Pupaleski 💀💀
Yeah, because whenever someone hears you say that, they will say you're few steps to narcissism or selfish, That's why we live in a society where people would rather hear negative things than face positivity, because they "feel" that negativity is more realistic to them and positivity is "fake" and "plastic".
This is common in majority of the Philippines. Rather than be optimistic and resilient enough when adversity happens and adress them, they'd rather avoid it until it snowballs enough to affect the surroundings. Take our government for example.
1- Have Values and stick to them
2- choose the few people whom you care about their opinion
3- affirm yourself
4- have a purpose
5- act confident even of you are nervous
thx mustafa
This r solid advices noice.
Thanks 🙏🏼
666th like, oh man
Oh, thanks
"You're a secondary character in everyone else's lives."
Hearing that cured my anxiety. Not immediately, obviously. But given time I've certainly become a whole lot more self-assured.
I come to these videos with a notebook now. Keep up the great work and thanks for all the thoughtful info. Practical stuff everyone of us can apply.
Funny seeing you here LOL
Same lol
1) create and inculcate good values and stick to it
2) only take feedback from the ones who care about you
3) repeat affirmations at regular intervals
4) physiology influence psychology so make good posture and workout and act confident even when u r nervous
5) Have a purpose in life
Wasn't expecting that badass intro haha, very nice
Wasn’t expecting that badass comment haha, very nice
@@betterideas lol
@@betterideas The song is pretty cool, did you composed it or know who did? I'd love to hear more of that! Love your vids BTW man! Helped me a lot !
I've been suffering with really bad confidence and anxiety recently. I feel like I can really improve. Thank you for this video and your great advise keep up the great work! Thank you again
exercise, frequently.
if you watch porn, quit immediately. also avoid social media use at all costs.
Keep us updated man
good luck!
@@KENNETHTXMMA Because the label of what is "attractive" is detached from how you feel about yourself. And having sex and money and being hot aren't bad, but his point is that those things don't make anyone particularly fulfilled or happy in the long term. All backed by science: Human relationships make people happy, sex is just temporary pleasure. Being useful and contributing to ones community makes people happy, money is just temporary happiness and eventually your satisfaction will go away at every income level you achieve past $70k/year.
"You're going to produce the chemicals that make you feel like a beta male"
Me as a female watching this: Oh no!
Brooke Larsen loooool
yep, I've been feeling like a beta male my whole life.
Haha
I personally like that I'm a beta meta, don't try to change yourself just because society devalues some of your attributes.
Jamie R somebody doesn’t know the alphabet lol
"Your opinion of yourself is the cornerstone of confidence." Good one. Also, love your humor :)
Same! He's great!
That's why always feel like sht. I think I'm a failure sice I haven't done the things I'm supposed to do at my age according to society.
"Sacrifice what you want now for what you want most." Damn, that's my new motto! This video is so much more than about confidence, it's a real eye opener!
I learned of one the fastest ways to grow is being non-judgemental with yourself and be compassionate with yourself even if u mess up. still acknowledge what ever feelings come up if Angry etc. but then be more compassionate. u go back to focusing on a given task quicker which will make u more effective/productive and ultimately Accomplished.
you're genuine and actually a kind person which is really refreshing on youtube
Has anyone ever felt like ur scared of being confident? Like Everytime I try to stand confidently I'm scared of what I might have to go through being confident, I really don know how to explain it.
First, it's about habit. Excellence is a habit, so get used to feeling confident. Secondly, if things happens to the confident version of yourself, so be it. Having things happened, good or bad, is better than having nothing happen to you, because anything at all will only serves you to grow as a person, so that ultimately someday you can grow into someone who is genuinely confident
It's because you're not actually confident
I get you, I think. I feel like if I put myself out there, I'm going to get in over my head and end up worse off.
Well first, life isn’t about attraction and honestly life doesn’t have a definitive meaning-we as humans give it one. If you believe your meaning of life is attraction, then that’s you and you do you. Each person is different and have different meanings based on culture, religion, societal standards, etc. Sure telling the truth, sticking up for somebody, and being confident are attractive but most people don’t necessary do those things for the sole purpose of attraction-I guess attraction just comes with it if that makes any sense.
@@KENNETHTXMMA Idk what you mean by that or where you got that from. Again, telling the truth, sticking up for somebody, being confident (examples you said) are all attractive but people don't do those things with the intent to be attractive. Another example would be taking care of my health/physical features. Doing these things might make me more attractive but I don't do those things to solely become attractive--it's just a side effect. Showering, exercising, having a good looking body, etc can make me physically attractive but I don't boast or brag about doing these things because that is when it becomes unattractive.
Because of you I started inline skating again when I saw your “get out of your comfort zone” video. Skating has always been my fav thing to do but I have been down in the dumps for the past year. The repercussions of that skate day have been nothing but positive. Thank you so much for your amazingness 🌸🌸
I'm so glad I found your channel. I'm pursuing a music career, and it's so hard to develop healthy habits both physically and mentally and to have confidence (stable confidence that's not shaken by outside factors) when you're taking it day-by-day. But these have really helped me a lot. Keep it up!
Grats on 250k!!
Loving your sense of humor more and more with every video. I really like how much improv you keep in. It reminds me of me at my most socially successful -- this is the kind of humor and candor I try to go for. Really enjoying your content. :)
content you gather is quintessence and the way you pass it on is also spectacular
Something that helped me with my confidence is not hiding who I am, because when you hide who you are you’re basically saying you’re ashamed of the basic truths about yourself. That’s why I started telling people about my aspergers, and admitting when I don’t know what something is. And pretty much whenever I’m embarrassed about something I try to admit it so it doesn’t weigh me down.
honestly man. thank you for you. its really inspiring to see you talk in this stable, focused way. you make me feel calm and at home. i understand what you say on a spiritual level. its nice. sorry for my scrambled words. but really, thank you for being who you are, it helps me be me as well. keep on rocking brother!
I like that you put decent beats as background, im also appreciate that usually u get straight to the topic and explain things pretty fast. Keep up
😂 The comedic relief moments are hilarious! Your dry humor lightened my mood. You just earned a new subscriber!
You are actually the first person, where I have enabled notifications throughout all of my subscriptions. Thats because you are real, show your flaws and giving the life meaningful advice. Keep up the good work, your are helping me as well as other people.
Everytime I watch your videos it’s just reminds me how glad I am to have stumbled upon your channel one day and chose to actually listen as opposed to just scheming through videos on RUclips and not actually watching or listening ,I was always looking for that instant gratification dopamine hit from a video. But with your content.... Just by the way you introduce everything and discuss/breakdown is perfect. You’ve been helping me a lot through these troubling times, and I’m now allowing myself to reach my true potential when I thought I was getting close to what I “wanted” in life. Just really been opening my eyes a lot. For that I thank you. For real dude I genuinely mean that cause I don’t really comment shit like this on RUclips. But I always give thanks to someone who has helped me to a great extent.
These videos have great content!
''you are the product of people you surround yourself with" - i agree
The power pose is so true with raising confidence, i know from experience
You produce amazing videos, I was very surprised when I saw this had only 2k views. I would love to see a little summary and/or conclusion at the end of the video, other than that, great quality content!
This is the best video I have ever watched on youtube. It is a milestone for me when I start to influence others from what I have learnt in this video. Thank you Joey very much
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Your videos are wayyy too good!⭐️ this vid is like the sixth one ive watched in a row. Thank u for the amazing content😄
Man, I just found about you and I'm completely addicted to your videos. You are definitely on your way to becoming real big real soon.
So I've come to realize why (in my opinion) you are the best RUclipsr in this "Space". You go against the grain with "self-help" RUclipsrs. Your not saying, "do x,y,z." Or pushing a product/service. Your simply documenting your process and sharing it. And that is Honorable. Thank you. You've helped me a lot. I started journaling as of last night and currently reading Carnegie's "how to win friends and influence people".
Hey I just wanted to say thank you for being so amazing and sharing your knowledge it really helps.
Also I love the camera zooms, the black and white filter, and the echo edits keep them up I’m literally crying 😂
I just found your channel and I'm loving your editing and videos in general! You've earned a new subscriber!
Your videos are helping a lot. I recently just transferred into a top Engineering school from community college .. and a lot of the things I thought about myself and my ways of doing things were shattered. I am really looking at everything and seeing where I can become my best self.
Thanks bro! I enjoy your work as you provide valuable ideas and try to live as you say. This video was great and useful for me as I’m working on living more balanced life right now. Keep it up!
Thanks for the comment! Glad you dig
Best thing to happen to me (so far) this year has been finding out this channel, and the fact that the fella is Canadian too is even more awesome 😂
I think the hardest part is not caring about opinions. I am devoloping confidence out of a depression i had and a few things you said really helped me befor. People like to think about them self as important to random people. When i'm sitting in the train no one cares about my close, no one cares about the way i sit. They all just think about themself, or what they are about to do. Another thing that helped really much, that you missed in youre Video is this. It is important not to compare youreself to often to others and if you do, dont just see the things youre bad in. I allways was looking at people, thinking about what they can and how useless i am compared to them, but i never watched the other way around. I'm maybe bad at the things i'm doing, but so many people, don't do anything at all, using there free time to watch Tv, compared to them i'm working at developing something. Building my own abilities.
Thank you! So fed up of "be happy by not caring what others think" it's a cop out where as this was perfectly worded!
Honestly they should have classes in school like this with you teaching it. I needed this
I like how you unwind and sometimes mess around in your actual videos. Its nice to see youtubers who are actually casual and not taking things too seriously
The awesome part is that he gives all that advice and in a really grounded and regular way.
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I loved the video and the way you proclaimed the context
Keep up the good work man!
glad u are back!
all of them are valuable tips! Especially the first one, being authentic and acting according to your values is key to be more confident. Because after any decision is taken you get the feeling that u did it right!
ps: the introduction was fire, crazy good!
As a guy who is getting into filmmaking can I ask what was your process to learn about shooting and editing? Did u take a course or only youtube university?
Hey Rodrigo, glad you enjoyed the video. I’ve been making videos all my life, so I’ve definitely picked up a few things along the way. Yes I’ve taken some courses but the majority of what I’ve learned has been trial, error, and FilmRiot.
@@betterideas Thanks man! I'm gonna check FilmRiot!
Keep going and love ur channel!
Working on intrinsic qualities first can make us a potent person rather than just focusing on imitating powerful postures!
Great video👍
What I do is I just do it. Like once I was nervous talking to a girl but I did it anyways and the next day I wasn’t nervous because I knew what was going to happen so just doing it can also be a good way to become confident
You’re a light bro ❤️
Great points! Keep up this level of work man. Love it
One of your videos every morning makes me have a kick ass day , thank you sir
I really needed this video :-) thank you! Just found your channel and subscribed! Keep doing more videos. ❤️
I love you man , i know I gonna meet you one day and this is gonna be conversation of the year buddy lol . Thank you for doing what you like , that helps me, a lot 🙏
Great video with amazing tips, learned a lot! Hope you have a wonderful 2019!
Finished the video! ♡ first video I've seen from you! Great tips!
Now... I would start working on these tips but for starters, I don't have a purpose or reason to get going.
So until then, I can't show confidence fully, lol.
But seriously, good tips.
I think a video on how to combat different 'styles' of negative self thought would be very useful. Like, if you have no problem telling yourself in the morning in your mind that you love yourself, but when you mess up you play a memory montage of every time you've ever messed up in your entire life, or have like a conversation with your employer in your mind about getting fired every morning, it's not as easy to correct, since it comes from an 'authoritative' source in your mind
Super glad I stumbled upon you! Great vids, you are amazing!
Loved this video man, keep up the good work!
Really Enjoy your content! it's very helpful and i hope you continue cause it's helps a lot. Thank you so much!!
I already use most of these "tips" in my everyday life (espacially the 1st and 3rd one, they really great) and its awesome. I never thought that these are some kind of tips and that there are videos bout this stuff, pretty dope
I'm wondering why don't you have more subs ! You deserve WAY more ! Great content 👏😍
I absolutely agree!
And voila, he has it.
Make good content first, keep at it... and the subs will come.
He's got 1M now and he so deserves it 😍
I like when he harshly reminds us that we are not special 😢😂😂
Your videos are ADORABLE. Thank you for being so authentic!!!
Sweet video, love the intro! Some great truths in here.
Thanks Jef! Great to see you in the comments.
What is the song name in that intro ❤
9:26 Anyone else instantly start sitting up straighter?
Same
@@KENNETHTXMMA There is no meaning to life: you choose the meaning you give it. I can't prove you wrong on the subjective meaning you gave your life. People don't need to be attractive to have money or have sex. Those traits you've mentioned are attractive to you. I don't think I'd have sex with any physician who has money, is learning a language, and is delaying gratification.
I've heard other people say the meaning of life is happiness, and I could reframe what you said by saying that learning a language, working out to keep in shape, being more confident, and anything else that puts me more in line with my values makes me happy
@@KENNETHTXMMA I didn't expect these thought provoking replies, thanks for that. I believe in what you're saying to an extent, I just don't believe we have the same definition of "attractive" or the same definition of "happiness," and both of these might be closer than we think. I just watched a really long video about Happiness by Will Schoder, and there are multiple theories on happiness. It seems you're thinking of the hedonistic definition, where happiness is pleasure, and a happy person is a person who has the most pleasure. To be happy, someone should then strive to have dopamine boosts like playing video games, having sex, etc., but these rarely bring long term happiness, and what you describe as being attractive might be what brings you long term happiness.
Now, I wasn't even saying in my previous comment that I think the meaning of life is happiness, I just thought it was subjective, and that for some, it was happiness. For others, it could be making the world a better place, even if you live an unhappy life, or an unattractive one. For others, it could be a nihilistic meaning to life, where there's no meaning, and you can do whatever you want, because it won't matter anyway.
Thanks for your replies, I'm glad you took the time to write this out, and I hope you have a good week!
Definitely thought I was watching an ad for coffee at first. ✨
Those videos have been like short sessions of therapy and English practicing, I'm loving it
This is brilliant and so practical. Thank you!
create strong values and live according to them, choose whose opinions you care about, affirm yourself, have a purpose, act confidence even if you are nervous: power posing.
Thanks for all the b-roll and discussion of coffee in the beginning!
Your channel and style are great. Keep it my guy
IMO:
You gotta recognize your strengths, your achievements even if nobody else does. You need to be proud of your victories, even if they are small in the grand scheme of things.
I love your sense of humor!!!
That intro was insanely satisfying. Lol
One thing that helped me was exposure therapy , and blending out the "noise" in public , meaning not being indifferent , but not caring and knowing that majority of people really are in their own "worlds" and not focused on you as much as your mind plays tricks on you. Also another thing is to approach people randomly for whatever reason, I was at the gym one day and the guy next to me in the locker room , I thought was an "ass" because of his "demeanor" , I then spoke to him and asked him if it would bother him if I took a selfie as it might include him, he laughed and said no go ahead , I then asked him if he would mind taking the pics and he asked if it was for keeping "Progress", I told him yeah it is , he then took several shots and we left on a "good vibe note" , Had I not done that, my thoughts about him wouldn´t of changed and I would´ve never known otherwise. The mind is a terrible place , if you let it, and by not letting it , you simply do the opposite even if it´s just to prove it wrong, if it does happen that it was right well then it´s not "i told you this would be the case" considering how could you have possibly known....
With that said, do I lack confidence? What defines confidence, is their a scale of measurement for it? These are more the questions I ask myself...
nice stuff, man. I've been through about six of yours. It's quality content.
That intro was really good ! Well done !!! I really like your videos!
Your videos are therapy for me, thanks 💪🏽
I have something to say about the "no-one's thinking about you" part.
I'm the type of person who kinda picks up on everything in an interaction. I guess you could say I'm observant. I notice every mistake, action, pronunciation, facial expression etc and it slightly influences how I see that person. I don't do it on purpose, I don't make it obvious and I never mention it but it's something that I naturally do. So it's kinda hard for me to think nobody else picks up on stuff like that. That's 1 reason why I'm not confident in interactions; I become extremely self-conscious.
Also, I ruminate over what I observed and my on actions, words and expressions long after the interaction. Not intentionally.
I guess those are things I'm gonna need to learn to get over.
i completely see you. i have that exact same problem, i think to myself that nobody picks up on that sort of stuff but i personally do and thats why i'm scared others will pick up on my mistakes. at the same time i really dont care about those mistakes. they calm me down in a way because obviously i'm not the only one who makes these "mistakes"
we'll get there though haha :))
Omg this video was so fkn fire. These are genuine and true tips from your own experience that you’ve cooked up just to share with us. Love it. The first one was actually a bit of a mind blower for me. Also, some feedback: mabye the video is a bit overedited with the zoom ins/outs all the time. Just my opinion.
Thank you for your amazing videos! You've helped me a lot.
Just brilliant! Thanks man!
Can't wait to see you hit Million Subscribers! Your videos are gems :)
This is one of the best channels on RUclips
So glad RUclips recommended your channel to me!
"have a purpose" something you do for you is an instant confidence booster, wonderful advice! Thank you :)
4 years ago, and still amazing tips. Tnx.
Thanks for this video. This is something I really need to hear.
Another way to boost your confidence is to take risks in social situations, if you're shy to talk to someone, just go and talk to them, even if it feels really awkward. You'll feel way more confident if you do that often.
Great video, would say that 1 and 4 are the big ones. Most people don't even decide what what would be best for them, and to really go for it.
Thanks man respect ❤️👊🏻 I feel confident after just watching this video.
you really have better ideas, I really wish you good luck for you're channel!
I just found your channel in Jan 2020 and I’m loving the videos
Your videos are so great man! Thanks.
Great stuff! Helped me today, keep it up
I've been straggeling with shyness, but I'm working on overcoming it. I know for sure I'll soon say: I did it.
How are you doing now? Have you made it? You still on some progress?
How are things now
It effects a little bit yes when you are around people who never learn something or go to the gym or do their needs in life .. but at the end what I discovered is that I do all everything and all my friends don’t do it at all , so that’s mean we are stronger than the society around us .
Thank you
You're editing style is on point
Wow - this video is amazing :) Thanks for the content, bro!
Advice number 2 I found the best and kinda eyes-opening, brother👍 thank u
Solid vid, raise your values and standards and your self-confidence follows. Welcome back, love your editing and what you have to say. Gonna hit you up for a collab once I get my subscribers up 💯
That b-roll footage of you making Chrystal Meth in the beginning was dope.
Great video! especially the purpose part is sooo powerful