This is why: These are all interchangeable: RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) = Social anxiety = Emotional Dysregulation = Complex Trauma = Toxic shame = After-effects of ACoA & ACE = After-effects of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse = Hypervigilance/hypovigilance = PureOCD = Unfavorable power dynamics = Trauma response = Trauma bonding = Neurodivergence = Spectrum, not binary thinking = Amygdala hijacking = Trauma triggers and flashbacks = being criticized for something you can't control = having high moral and ethical standards and enforcing them = someone random complains about our errors when we done superhuman efforts to avoid ALL mistakes which 98.5% percent of people never invest neither physically nor mentally = toxic person complaining and expecting us to know something for the first time without mistakes = Perfectionism = Protesting: someone toxic complaining without fair assessment and basing their protest on bias and prejudice and oversimplification = Protesting: trauma panic symptoms related in an attempt to express OUR OWN judgement and negative evaluation and holding criminals narcissists accountable for their crimes and hidden selfish agenda of exploiting others = Not conforming = Conforming (fawning) to unreasonable standards and neurotypical norms = Conforming to narcissistic abuser and psychopath who would punish us if we don't conform to their Coercive control, hidden agenda and manipulation and pathological lying = Being authentic true speaking the truth to fake people and toxic people who have hidden covert agenda to exploit others = being Agreeable (Big 5 personality trait) = being Open (Big 5 personality trait) = Being Neurotic (Big 5 personality trait) = being healthy, friendly and open to life and people = Attachment issues = Codependency = Listening to our gut feeling = Quiet BPD (PureBPD) = BPD Splitting = Inner critic = Imposter syndrome = Being exposed to Operant Conditioning of Negative reinforcement (rejection, cold shoulder) = Being exposed to Negative reinforcement Breadcrumbs hoping positive reinforcement will come instead = doing the best we can to avoid and mitigate negative reinforcement = Avoidance = Victim of false accusation and slander (overt or covert) = overcompensation and masking and making trauma and or abuse to be functional = being wounded and reacting to someone future faking our voids being fulfilled to hook us up to their lies = Self-referential thinking = identity being rooted in "I am not enough" instead of "I am enough" = Narcissistic Mortification = Sensory overload = Autistic shutdown = Pathological Demand Avoidance = The looking-glass self = mindread recursively / Recursive Thinking = mindreading = caring too much = Schizoid empty core "People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
@@alexxccccxbbb9952 Keep dissociating , suppressing and burying head in the sand - and you'll allow your trauma to guide your life. - Real liberation comes not from glossing over or repressing painful states of feeling, but only from experiencing them to the full. Carl Jung
@@alexxccccxbbb9952 "when did I say to gloss over any feeling?" Your ideology of dissociation leads to this: C.G. Jung - 'Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.'
Improving our relationships is improving our mental health. William Glasser Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships. Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs. WILLIAM GLASSER
Was watching some of Your gym videos, how long have you been lifting for? And I saw your bulking videos did you track your weight increase each week? if so what should I aim fkr
I've been lifting for around 5-6 years. When I was bulking super hard I didn't personally track my weight increase, as long as I saw it going up I was satisfied because it is so hard for me to gain weight, but if I were to put a number on it I'd try to be getting 0.5 - 1 pound / week IF you are doing a lean bulk.
“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” -Socrates There are many philosophies in life. Which one you choose to believe is up to you. Not everyone wants to improve for narcissistic reasons. We are all different, nothing wrong with wanting to see the best we are individually capable of achieving.
@@devmaurello Otto F. Kernberg suggested that narcissistic disorders of character are foundation of most mental health problems. If we understand disturbances in narcissism we would probably find a theory of everything YT Richard Grannon & Prof. Sam Vaknin about Fantasy
Confidence is paradox. If you believe that you must fix yourself, if you believe that you must appear pleasant and nice to others and seek admiration and validation from other people - we will never be confident, because we will be afraid of showing our true colors. On the other hand - accepting ourselves as we are - we will be super confident, because other people's criticism and complaints will not bother us anymore, since we accept and love ourselves as we are. Idea that we must talk to people and go to bar which is alcoholic and only purpose is to mingle with strangers - this is called neurotypical mindset. Our goal in life as neurotypical person will be narcissistic : to depend on other people's impression of us as confident person. Our goals will be to be super confident and that we are smart - and this can only work if we have money. Without being rich, this is impossible task and waste of our energy and resources. Because it leads to hamster wheel, rat race. Instead of creating fake social mask that only leads to burnout- the mentally healthy path is to validate ourselves, understand our circumstances and encourage ourselves to be who we truly are. If we live in poverty, if we live in toxic ambient , in a shame culture country - talking to random people and making contact with others who are basically mentally ill psychopaths and sociopaths, will lead to pathological lying and abuse - and living in stress. When we feel social anxiety- this is not a sign of bad social skills. It is sign of trauma 1) in our developmental years when we were suppose to experience love and validation we experienced criticism and discipline and toxic shame 2) being in toxic contact with toxic people who are evil and mentally ill - that is where social anxiety stems from. From toxic people. That is why it is called social + anxiety. It means that anxiety stems from social element: toxic people. It is not called self anxiety. We are not afraid of ourselves or our symptoms. Symptoms of social anxiety occur only as triggers to toxic people and flashbacks - of trauma stuck in our body. - Young American explained why she left Croatia: "In Croatia people constantly express intrusive opinion about matters which are none of their business. The most irritating things were rude people." (poslovni hr) Young American explained why she escaped from Croatia: "Often I heard Croats intruding why am I eating something, or commenting about what I wore. There is no such thing in America, we allow people to be what they want to be." "Living in Croatia was like being in toxic relationship"
@@stephanyampolsky7187 Problem with your idea that social anxiety equals lack of confidence is that this is not true. Socially anxious were traumatized into social anxiety. Through sets of punishment, called operant conditioning. Social anxiety is not shyness. Shy people lack confidence. Social anxious need healing from trauma - big difference. When you explain to socially anxious that they lack confidence, their inner critic and toxic shame (unhealed trauma) will use this information to self abuse and self invalidate.
weird way to propose but yes
I like the practical advice man. Keep it up
Here someone who hasn't overcome social anxiety, thanks devin
This is why:
These are all interchangeable:
RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) = Social anxiety = Emotional Dysregulation = Complex Trauma = Toxic shame = After-effects of ACoA & ACE = After-effects of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse = Hypervigilance/hypovigilance = PureOCD = Unfavorable power dynamics = Trauma response = Trauma bonding = Neurodivergence = Spectrum, not binary thinking = Amygdala hijacking = Trauma triggers and flashbacks = being criticized for something you can't control = having high moral and ethical standards and enforcing them = someone random complains about our errors when we done superhuman efforts to avoid ALL mistakes which 98.5% percent of people never invest neither physically nor mentally = toxic person complaining and expecting us to know something for the first time without mistakes = Perfectionism = Protesting: someone toxic complaining without fair assessment and basing their protest on bias and prejudice and oversimplification = Protesting: trauma panic symptoms related in an attempt to express OUR OWN judgement and negative evaluation and holding criminals narcissists accountable for their crimes and hidden selfish agenda of exploiting others = Not conforming = Conforming (fawning) to unreasonable standards and neurotypical norms = Conforming to narcissistic abuser and psychopath who would punish us if we don't conform to their Coercive control, hidden agenda and manipulation and pathological lying = Being authentic true speaking the truth to fake people and toxic people who have hidden covert agenda to exploit others = being Agreeable (Big 5 personality trait) = being Open (Big 5 personality trait) = Being Neurotic (Big 5 personality trait) = being healthy, friendly and open to life and people = Attachment issues = Codependency = Listening to our gut feeling = Quiet BPD (PureBPD) = BPD Splitting = Inner critic = Imposter syndrome = Being exposed to Operant Conditioning of Negative reinforcement (rejection, cold shoulder) = Being exposed to Negative reinforcement Breadcrumbs hoping positive reinforcement will come instead = doing the best we can to avoid and mitigate negative reinforcement = Avoidance = Victim of false accusation and slander (overt or covert) = overcompensation and masking and making trauma and or abuse to be functional = being wounded and reacting to someone future faking our voids being fulfilled to hook us up to their lies = Self-referential thinking = identity being rooted in "I am not enough" instead of "I am enough" = Narcissistic Mortification = Sensory overload = Autistic shutdown = Pathological Demand Avoidance = The looking-glass self = mindread recursively / Recursive Thinking = mindreading = caring too much = Schizoid empty core
"People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosever believes in him shall have eternal life.”
-John 3:16
You’re the man
All you bro 🤝🏻
You were shy.
You never had social anxiety.
Social anxiety stems from exposure to trauma in childhood - constant criticism and discipline.
Keep telling yourself that and you’ll never escape
@@alexxccccxbbb9952 Keep dissociating , suppressing and burying head in the sand - and you'll allow your trauma to guide your life.
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Real liberation comes not from glossing over or repressing painful states of feeling, but only from experiencing them to the full.
Carl Jung
@@ranc1977 when did I say to gloss over any feeling?
@@ranc1977 you’re not your thoughts or emotions
@@alexxccccxbbb9952 "when did I say to gloss over any feeling?"
Your ideology of dissociation leads to this:
C.G. Jung - 'Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.'
Nice Video G!
Improving our relationships is improving our mental health.
William Glasser
Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships.
Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs.
WILLIAM GLASSER
Was watching some of
Your gym videos, how long have you been lifting for? And I saw your bulking videos did you track your weight increase each week? if so what should I aim fkr
I've been lifting for around 5-6 years. When I was bulking super hard I didn't personally track my weight increase, as long as I saw it going up I was satisfied because it is so hard for me to gain weight, but if I were to put a number on it I'd try to be getting 0.5 - 1 pound / week IF you are doing a lean bulk.
The desire for self development stems from "narcissistic" desires, a tendency to self-aggrandizement and superiority over others.
Sigmund Freud
“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” -Socrates
There are many philosophies in life. Which one you choose to believe is up to you. Not everyone wants to improve for narcissistic reasons. We are all different, nothing wrong with wanting to see the best we are individually capable of achieving.
@@devmaurello Otto F. Kernberg suggested that narcissistic disorders of character are foundation of most mental health problems. If we understand disturbances in narcissism we would probably find a theory of everything
YT Richard Grannon & Prof. Sam Vaknin about Fantasy
Confidence is paradox.
If you believe that you must fix yourself, if you believe that you must appear pleasant and nice to others and seek admiration and validation from other people - we will never be confident, because we will be afraid of showing our true colors.
On the other hand - accepting ourselves as we are - we will be super confident, because other people's criticism and complaints will not bother us anymore, since we accept and love ourselves as we are.
Idea that we must talk to people and go to bar which is alcoholic and only purpose is to mingle with strangers - this is called neurotypical mindset. Our goal in life as neurotypical person will be narcissistic : to depend on other people's impression of us as confident person. Our goals will be to be super confident and that we are smart - and this can only work if we have money.
Without being rich, this is impossible task and waste of our energy and resources. Because it leads to hamster wheel, rat race.
Instead of creating fake social mask that only leads to burnout- the mentally healthy path is to validate ourselves, understand our circumstances and encourage ourselves to be who we truly are.
If we live in poverty, if we live in toxic ambient , in a shame culture country - talking to random people and making contact with others who are basically mentally ill psychopaths and sociopaths, will lead to pathological lying and abuse - and living in stress.
When we feel social anxiety- this is not a sign of bad social skills.
It is sign of trauma
1) in our developmental years when we were suppose to experience love and validation we experienced criticism and discipline and toxic shame
2) being in toxic contact with toxic people who are evil and mentally ill -
that is where social anxiety stems from.
From toxic people.
That is why it is called social + anxiety.
It means that anxiety stems from social element: toxic people.
It is not called self anxiety. We are not afraid of ourselves or our symptoms. Symptoms of social anxiety occur only as triggers to toxic people and flashbacks - of trauma stuck in our body.
-
Young American explained why she left Croatia:
"In Croatia people constantly express intrusive opinion about matters which are none of their business. The most irritating things were rude people."
(poslovni hr)
Young American explained why she escaped from Croatia:
"Often I heard Croats intruding why am I eating something, or commenting about what I wore. There is no such thing in America, we allow people to be what they want to be."
"Living in Croatia was like being in toxic relationship"
good info but i think you might be missing the point of the video
@@stephanyampolsky7187 Problem with your idea that social anxiety equals lack of confidence is that this is not true.
Socially anxious were traumatized into social anxiety. Through sets of punishment, called operant conditioning.
Social anxiety is not shyness.
Shy people lack confidence.
Social anxious need healing from trauma - big difference.
When you explain to socially anxious that they lack confidence, their inner critic and toxic shame (unhealed trauma) will use this information to self abuse and self invalidate.