How To Talk To Anyone | small talk, social anxiety, conversation tips!
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honestly the greatest thing that helped me with my social anxiety was learning to love people and be interested in them instead of seeing them as threats or someone that I need to impress. I used to overthink conversations and be scared of staying one on one with someone but ever since I genuinely took an interest in everyone around me I've been having the best time!
That‘s awesome!! Also I need to make that switch in my head but it‘s kinda hard because it‘s ingrained in my brain to see people as threats 😅
This is such a good mindset!! Same on the being alone with someone I'm not close with 💀 even if the vibes were nice in a group, I start to panic thinking I have to keep the convo and not disappoint them
awwe i love this! i'll remind myself of your comment the next time i get anxious around new people
Good point about not seeing people as threats or someone to impress. Especially the threat part... I need to reprogram my brain about that!
I love your tips! Thank you
my problem with "saying whatever comes to mind" is the fact that my mind goes completely blank during conversation 😭😭
The honesty of you feeling awkward or drawing a blank can make others feel comfortable. The fact that you are wanting to engage in a conversation means a lot. I like asking "Do you like Cheese?" This question is from a movie "She's the man" Where she's coaching a guy on how to have a conversation with a girl she likes. It's not the question but the fact that flow is flow. Which is one of the points in this video. It doesn't matter what was said but how we felt. So, I would still feel good knowing that you are choosing to have a conversation with me. 😊😊
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Finally someone who get it, it’s not that I don’t want to talk it’s I have nothing in mind to talk about, nothing
Oh same my mind also goes completely bank
Actually, it is pretty normal to experience these things during social anxiety. Since it's keeping you constantly on edge during socialising and the brain prioritizes getting away from scary things (that the it considers a potential danger), your mind focuses less on the conversation topics and coming up with answers than getting away from the situation.
So there's no problem with you, just social anxiety is getting in the way.
My main revelation regarding social anxiety which I learned in therapy was to go into social situations reminding myself that my worth as a person does not depend on someone else’s opinion of me. This is such a freeing thought because it releases you from the pressure to “perform” as you also mentioned. Even if a conversation didn’t go as planned or the person you are interacting with does not seem so interested or even bored, that doesn’t change your value as a person. No one is gonna go through life having amazing interactions 100% of the time, so allow yourself to talk freely and how you intuitively feel comfortable and if the other person doesn’t vibe with that, move on to someone else. At the end of the day, you are still worthy and loved ❤️
Noone has control over your sense of self worth except you
"Go into social situations reminding myself that my worth as a person does not depend on someone else’s opinion of me." >> Your brain tells you that, but your heart disagrees :D
Thank you for the Insight.
whenever someone attractive makes a video on how to socialize / deal with social anxiety, i immediately know its gonna be full of shit that wont work if someone unattractive tries it. good try though.
@@maaax573 Exactly, don't give anyone that mandate.
my favorite go-to question is to ask someone “what are you thinking about right now?” it’s a great open ended question that helps the other person realize that you are interested in hearing what is literally on their mind. another tip is that i truly believe that all people have at least 2 topics they cannot shut up about. so i always make it my mission to discover what one of those two topics are. this really helps me keep the convo going!
Both of these points are beautiful! Will try them out for myself. Thank you.
I feel like I would panic if someone asked what I am thinking about right now haha, I would be like, "nothing :/"
@@loomonda18 my little sister said the same thing. in this case, try to figure out what 2-3 topics you love to chat about / what topics you like to be asked about. that way, if someone asked you this, at least you have a few topics off the top of your head (it’s okay if it’s not what you were actually thinking about - no one needs to know ;)).
@@lidiyaz.7354 That's a good tip!!
that sounds really clever! thank you for sharing you wisdom
Guys. I DID IT. It took years of work but I did it. I no longer feel anxious every time I have to be alone in a room with someone. I can hold a conversation with almost anyone. I even have a gf now and I’ve never been so happy
Update: she cheated on me 🙃
Update again: I’m pushing thru this hard time and I’m gonna come out of this a bigger person 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
omggg that’s so great ❤️ i wanna be like this. do you have any more tips?
Good for you! congratulations! mad respect
Y u here then
@@akritidawar to give people hope that they aren’t a lost cause
@@lilacfields
1- don’t be scared to fuck up A LOT in the start. I swear the amount of out of pocket socially off things I’ve said when I started really were so awkward but u have to accept that it’s gonna happen in the start
2- ask people questions and really be interested in what they have to say. Like example when u say “how was ur day” to someone and they respond “it was good” follow it up. Ask why it was good. If you don’t do that people assume u don’t care what they have to say.
3- don’t be so passive. Don’t be afraid for a debate with someone. Speak out. Have an interesting opinion and you will have interesting conversation.
4- confidence when u speak. That means even when u fuck up and u say something awkward don’t make it more awkward and start avoiding eye contact and then look away and try to end the conversation as fast as possible.
While I plan to put into practice and embrace every point in this video, I would also like to add that you don’t have to have anything in common with someone to socialize comfortably with them. You could focus on differences rather than scouring for shared commonalities. Being interested in how someone is different from you also adds many layers to conversations. It helps you learn about something you never knew of or never experienced and helps you get first hand account of new experiences. Isn’t that beautiful? So don’t be afraid to interact with people whom you perceive as different form you. There is always a new world to be discovered.
wow, that's a really good point!
Gr8 point
THIS!!!!
This fr, most of my friends have different interests compared to me and everytime I talk to them I learn something new and so do they
Thank you for this amazing comment !!
The fact that I’m watching so many videos to get the courage to talk to 1 singular person 😭
LITERALLY SAME 😭😭😭😭
I have both social anxiety and autism, so talking to anyone is an uphill battle. I decided today that I'm sick of being awkward and lonely: I'm going to get better at talking to people even if it kills me. Thank you so much for the video
how was it?
People really annoy me. I like dogs 🐕 cats 🐱 and other animals better than other intelligent beings who judge me and others
I’m autistic too and I relate so much to this haha. Sometimes I get sad about being alone and I try to get to know more people but… I don’t like them when I do
Good for you for working on it, even though it’s hard for you! Keep up the good work and never give up! ❤
Sameee
Small Talk is important to help people warm up and assess compatibility:
1. Ask Questions,
2. Determine topics that spark enthusiasm,
3. Actively listen to the conversation - How to win friends and influence people x Dale Carnegie,
4. Be honest and sincere about emotions and feelings.
Thank you 🙏
The first point u mentioned is something so many people can’t do
@@omotayosatuyi252 thar is so true
Nah wrong. Asking questions turns people off because they feel you ask too much. Textbook answer.
@@omotayosatuyi252não tenho mais ➕️ em relação ao assunto do email anterior que me propôs a fazer uma única coisa que não entendi muito sobre isso comigo 6:20
Ice breaker: “If you were to be thrown in jail, what would your closest friends or family assume you did?”
I ask this question when I can feel that the vibe is right - light, funny, overall relaxed maybe. I picked this up from one of my sisters, one of the most outgoing people I’ve ever known, and honestly it works every time
woww its so nice thank you so much :d
Thxxxx
Big shout out for your comment. I can actually how it works❤😂
This came at the right moment.. right when I was feeling horrible about my social anxiety. Thank you so much Jenn!! 💓💓💓
Same here!!!
same. this video made me feel a lot more encouraged!!
i have social anxiety, just rember, i also suffer
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Usually such a silent watcher but this topic is so so underrated and I'm ALL for this series. Please do more if you can Jenn! I love hearing you break things down and make it so easy to listen to and still seamlessly making so much sense.
I liked the segment about “being interested is interesting” because active listening is SO important to making people feel validated! I am currently dealing with someone (a family member) in my life who is a narcissist and all of our interactions are her taking advantage of the fact that I love listening to people and making them feel heard. 100% of the convo is her monologuing about herself, me asking her follow-up questions/relating it back to my life, but her never reciprocating asking me follow-up questions - she just continues to talk about herself. Currently we are both pregnant and the opportunities to converse/relate to each other are endless but she just doesn’t care. Id love to see a future video on tips for dealing with people like that, or at least how to handle one-sided conversations.
That’s super difficult. A way to look might be that you don’t have to do anything. It’s a lot of pressure on you to try and change someone’s core personality. How would it feel to know you’ll likely not get what you want, but let it wash over you and minimise the exposure to this person and get meaningful conversation from other people who let you flourish?
I know 2 people like this - 95% of conversations with them is just them talking about themselves. VERY rare for them to ask anything about you haha. Can be hard.
I'm experiencing a very similar thing with a friend! In several occasions, I would be the one who ask follow-up questions to keep a conversation about this friend going, But when I try sharing about what is going in my life, the conversation usually takes a full turn into me listening to her opinion or what I should do about my situation. I feel disappointed and dissatisfied since she doesn't spend enough time to listen to what I'm about to say and is quick to jump to conclusions. I guess some people are really not a good listener and conversationalist.
i think deciding whether you want to stay in a friendship that plays a part in making you feel less heard is an important step in healing from narcissists.
I feel you sis, I have cousin,the same as yours situation
I’m a flight attendant, so I meet new people all the time and have had my fair share of small talk! I love asking my coworkers what they did before flying when we’re cheek to cheek in the jump seat 😂 Then I’ll ask them what made the switch into the aviation industry! And just in general, I like asking people what they do, how they got into it, if they like what they do, what their job title entails, and so on!
Thanks for sharing，i learned a lot:
1. have a small talk
2. ask questions （tips：find sth in common ）
3. find a topic that sparks enthusiasms
4. be intersted to be intesting
5. deal with awkward pauses with share your feelings sincerely or talk about enviroment
6. no one remember what you said,they just remember how they feel（energy、vibe、tone）
Jen, you have completely read my mind and the feelings I have right now. I have felt so completely hopeless in this area recently. I am extremely introverted and reserved before I get comfortable with people (which takes a while for me), but love meeting new people and listening in on a group! It’s just if the common ground and interests of the group haven’t been established I just get so lost about what to talk about! It turns awkward super fast and I am completely useless when it comes to the art of small talk. This video helped so much!! Glad I’m not alone here. Thanks love 💖✨
ive watched you jenn over the years and really appreciate the introspective and insightful youtuber you've become! love the substance in your videos :)
something that also helped me with this (apart from therapy and believing more in me) is just putting myself out there. i made mistakes of oversharing, interrupting, talking on top of somebody, laughed at the wrong time or whatever but nobody really cared and as you do you learn. i used to be super insecure about talking to human beings, specially men (as a female) and when you start seeing others just as they are without putting them in a pedestal it becomes easier.
I think this would be a great series, especially since you studied communication! I am extremely introverted and dislike making plans to see anyone, but I'll have a great time and won't want to leave if it's with the few people I'm close to or having a great time with. My problem is that I constantly blank out and don't know how to keep a conversation going because I don't have that internal rolodex of topics to switch to when the current topic dies and it's time to change the subject. I can easily bat back with people who do this well, but it's agonizing and exhausting when I'm talking to another person who shares the same struggles, and it feels like the life is being absolutely squeezed out of the conversation lmao.
Something I'm struggling with right now is making small talk with coworkers twice my age at a new job in a line of work I've never been in before. I feel like the age and formality differences (because I'm in a semi-corporate part of the hotel industry) weigh on my mind extra heavily, so I'm never comfortable speaking up except to ask questions relating to my training. I tend to gauge my responses based on what I can tell from the other person, and so many of them have the professional fake awkward smile of cordiality that feels so unapproachable, and I have no idea how to move past that.. especially when it feels like everyone here is so busy, so there's not much time for actual conversation :/ Part of me worries I'm trying too hard, but the other more realistic part of me knows very well that I won't make any friends in the office if I don't try to talk to anyone and just keep my head down in my training/work, so I'm trying to figure out how to strike that balance.
I feel the same way. I work with so many people my age or around my age at my workplace yet I still find it difficult to make a connection. It’s a new job and I feel like everyone knows each other already and is all friends. I work 12 hour shifts and I am always tired feeling. Im also always in a blank state of mind, shy, or anxious feeling. If someone talks to me I am suddenly super nervous and i feel like i’m being so awkward :( and I’m also so tired mentally when i talk to someone because inside im panicking about what to ask them next…so i find it so difficult. I don’t know if I’m making sense but I’m just trying to say i hear you and i feel you 🥺
I can relate to this too, it’s so hard to completely be myself in the workplace and build that connection/relationship with people in my office. I’m always overthinking and feel so awkward when I do have a conversation! It’s such a struggle
I find it helpful to ask about other workers strengths in the company (I. Knowledge about the company, policy, brand, costumer engagement, etc). Then when engaging with said individual ask about the strength. Ideally you’ll learn more about the person that is answering the question and new info to ask the person that was asked about.
A moment of appreciation for that intro. This came at the right time. With this pandemic, my social anxiety has skyrocketed. Can barely look at people in the eyes without being conscious of it. Have not talked face to face with any friends in over a year😭
i totally feel you with the eye contact 😭
It will get better. You aren’t the only one who hasn’t seen many friends in a while. ❤️
I love this video! Thank you Jenn ☺️ Going back to work and social activities post pandemic has been a transition, so your tips come in perfect timing. We love seeing you grow and growing with you!!
This came at the right time. I'm going through a life change at the moment and I have to meet a lot of people because of it and I have always struggled with friends and socialising. I'll definitely be trying these tips.
I've been thinking kind of struggling with creating small talk with people and always admired others who could do it so easily. Thanks for these tips Jenn, they were super helpful and came at the right time. Please do more videos like this, I love hearing your advice
You’re a beam of light and your positivity really makes me look at my world with a new perspective. I had a difficult year, and I really really don’t have any friends to talk to because I bottled up my feelings. I relied on my parents and therapist to solve my problems and I became very antisocial and angry with myself. I honestly don’t know what to do until I listened to this video. I really need to actually listen and be interested in a person. Otherwise I don’t have any idea of what to say and probably will end up sounding rude or ignorant. My goal for the rest of the year is to be sincere and make genuine connections with someone from my college. And to avoid negativity in communicating with my family and friends.
Love this so much!! Feel myself much more introverted and socially anxious post pandemic. I used to love small talk and chatting up people but now draw a blank so many times so this was super helpful! ❤️
Omg thank you so much Jenn! I love this so much! School is just around the corner for me and I’ve been so excited for social interaction thank you so much ! I love this advice , I could really feel an understanding and I love how the video and what you were saying wasn’t drawn out ! Such an attention grabber ! ❤️❤️❤️
OMG Jenn thank you so much, no one on youtube has posted a video like this and I def think this was needed. I love how you talk about how we need to find our interests in each other because I think this method will be used in our everyday lives such as in work, school, and at home too. :)
i sorely needed this! i've been overthinking my interactions to the max these days, including my multiple work meetings that happen every week. so you can imagine just how down in the dumps i feel multiple times a week just for talking to people.... (sounds ridiculous now that i say it). the last quote you said, "no one remembers everything you say. they just remember how they feel" is truly a godsend. makes me feel a bit better and i will start to think about it from now on. thank you for putting out such valuable videos and being you!
Thank you so much Jenn! I'm going to highschool soon and I have been nervous about socializing, you have truly helped me! I hope you have the best life, love to you and your family :))
I needed to hear this. Social anxiety does not have to be the enemy. But navigating its rough waters is where strategy is necessary! I admire your vulnerability ❤❤
So trueee🥺
Each video of yours makes me feel so loved and understood, but also IN TUNE with MYSELF. Thank u so much Jenn!
Watching this really made me appreciate Jenn's mind and way of talking. Not only is she teaching you how to talk to anyone, she's talking to all of us ANYONE but doing it so wisely and entertaining! Love the video
Loved that last point you shared it's more important the energy and vibes a person shares , then the exact words you say.
Thanks for making me wanna be more social and comfortable with new young adults 💖👌
i always get so excited when you post a new video! thanks for this jen 💛
Love this video! As a nurse, small talk is a huge part of my day.. but somehow I still feel anxious in social situations 😂
I've found my self confidence increase since becoming a Mum, and also not drinking alcohol while socialising (still breastfeeding) has helped so much with the overthinking and anxiety after social interactions
Thanks for the advice Jenn
The last part is a great reminder. I always forget that people don't remember that you stuttered during a convo but rather, how the convo felt/what your vibe was. I sometimes get too fixated on small mistakes I make, then I get discouraged to talk to people again. But if the roles are reversed, I probably don't care/don't remember at all if someone said something wrong. That will ease my mind a little when I try to talk to people.
Love that you focused on this topic because I’ve had social anxiety since I was a preteen. Love that your channel is so versatile~
this was so helpful and you gave such amazing advice. You never cease to amaze me, Jen!
JENN!! I’m starting university offline tomorrow and this came just at the right time thank you 🤍 everyone in the comments are also very sweet and relatable I wish a good luck to you all!! You got this!
My favorite questions to ask people I’m meeting revolve around food. What is something good you ate recently or what is your favorite dessert? Almost everyone eats and this has been a great jumping off point that has led to some wholesome conversations.
Loving this content Jenn! I’ve been watching you for yeaaars but these self help content hit differently. Please keep them coming :)
this is so helpful! I've spent the last year being in mostly online classes and studying full time so I haven't had many opportunities to socialize with new people. I've been nervous to start my full-time job soon because I feel so out of practice with socializing but now I feel like I'm more prepared to meet new people
From a family therapist to you, Jenn, you would make a FANTASTIC therapist. Great points you gave. I can tell you are super mindful and stay in the present
It's been a few years since I've learned how to cope with my social anxiety to the point where it's no longer debilitating, but I still very much appreciate all the effort you put into these super informative videos! It honestly takes a lot of hard, consistent work to learn how to keep social anxiety at bay, and this video is sure to help alot of people that need it (:
Would highly recommend the book ‘How to be yourself’ by Ellen Hendriksen. She’s done a few podcasts too on the topic of social anxiety and introversion which are really good! I’ve searched for a while to find an author who seems to really understand it and she definitely does!
I’m going to look this up! Sounds like a good read. 🥰
Thanks for the recommandation !
THIS video is exactly what I needed. I’m going to watch it monthly. Thanks so much for your wisdom Jenn 🥰
Jen, I love every time when you do videos like this! I feel like you are my older sister & I admire you 🥺 thank you so much! Please keep making videos with this information because the way you explain is so perfect, can’t even explain it! Love this, love you! Thank you thank you! 🫶🏼💜
Real. I need to be more social.
I need to talk more with other peoples. I can’t home anymore, I need to socialize as much as can. But it’s hard to do it. I’ve been suffering about that. Even call or real conversation I can talk, I always say; I’m nervous, I can’t. And I leave😢
My go to icebreaker if I'm speaking with someone new is to ask what else they're doing that weekend. People love to talk about themselves, and it opens up new topics that are relevant to them. It also means you don't have to come up with topics - if you're doing some active listening hopefully they basically steer the conversation for you!
i absolutely love your energy, i personally LOVE talking to strangers but sometimes i get slightly shy and fearful that i'll end up looking creepy, so i don't do it all the time, but i really admire the ability to do that with everyone
this video is so inspiring and very realistic too. idk why, I took my pen and notebook and started to jot down some important takeaways from what you said. I tend to remember and absorb better when I write it down rather than just listening. thank you Jenn 😊💖
Some of my ice-breaker questions
same, i cant extend the small talk for like more than 40 seconds :(
I used to be very socially awkward because my only interaction with people were through video games as a teen. As I started working, I started to grow out of my shell especially when I met my husband. He loves engaging with others and he can hold a conversation very well. I learned that from him and I’ve became more confident in my self over these past years. Although after having my baby, my self awareness and confidence has really plummeted and talking to people really irks me. I made it point to seek therapy and read/write more and even start school so it’s been a journey. Being a good listener is also a quality I respect in others. Sometimes we just need someone to listen instead of always giving advice.
Thank you Jenn!!! Such words of wisdom ❤ This pandemic has changed my life so much... it took away my self confidence and self esteem. Seeing this was SO comforting and reassuring. ❤❤❤ Much needed.
Jenn I'm really thankful to you❤ you have been the best mentor to me😭♥️ I've been following you since covid when times were hard even after covid. N listening to your talks makes me realize I've been jus thinking too much and you're tips are the best!!! Love you Jenn💕
Thanks Jenn, much love from Salt Lake City. As someone with ADHD I heavily relate and thank you for this
having social anxiety is tough...this helped me so much to see things in another perspective, thank you! :)
please do more of these!! huhu communication, talking to anyone, how to have deep convo etc! i love this vid tysm!
I’ve been learning these lessons recently. I appreciate this video a lot! You really put everything better in words for me and gave me a lot of reassurance.
I personally think keeping expectations low is important - you don’t have to imagine the interaction.
How’s your life going?
Anything stand out in your life recently?
Has there been anything that’s made you smile?
You have any plans or goals that you’re working on?
Just simple questions that spark conversation :)
I actually felt embarrassed at the fact that I even had to search a video on how to socialize. I’m an introvert that has a newly found love with having conversations with people, but I just dread starting them. And because of lockdown and now not having any friends, starting and/or having and keeping a conversation has become one of the hardest things to learn (or relearn). This video was very helpful though. ❤
@@nyc4life448 I think it's an advantage that introverts have, we don't always look for aproval or the support of someone we are more independant and more likely to know how to deal with certain types of situation meanwhile some people who are talkative and extroverted look for contact and socialization, they can be easily hurt and not know how to deal with a situation if they find themselves alone. I heard that people that have a lot of friends are also the one that cry and get hurt the most.
This help Jen. I became super introverted & had major anxiety during the pandemic. Taking small steps to be out & conversational. Thank you for the tips! This was much needed ☺️
the timing omg !! i needed this so much right now 😭🥺💗
This is so useful, especially for someone who's more *introverted & analytical* like me... thanks! ♡
Jenn, I just want to let you know. I always watch this video before I go out to any social events. This helped me so much... Communicating with people and forming some great friendships. So, thank you so much for your videos 🫶
Hi Jenn I just wanted to say I appreciate this video so much, I absolutely despise one on one hangouts and overthink my ability to hold conversations and how I act all the time so this was super helpful and really comforting to listen to :) I love your energy so much
This video helped me realize I do have a social anxiety (like I think too much about conversation even before having it and scare myself out of talking to people I'm genuinely interested in). Thanks for the tips Jenn! Has definitely lower my fear factor
What a nice video! Even tho I haven't had social anxiety since like 2018, this was a kind & uplifting reminder of how to be social & reciprocate when meeting new people! Also very helpful for most of us since we are rusty after the pandemic! Love this video, Jenn!! :D
the way you talk and share your tips is just so adorable and easy to understand
I really needed this! I feel so disconnected recently and I really wish for something deeper. I don’t have a lot of friends because I’ve become more withdrawn as small talk gives me anxiety and I’d rather be a homebody, but really need the social connection I think. I also have been thinking to start therapy as well so this is a perfect video for me to see haha
Something that helped me to connect with my new classmates at school was talking about food. I think food is a good general topic to talk about because everyone has their own taste/ likes so it's quite easy to get someone! My new friends told me that my daily question "What did you have for lunch/ dinner yesterday" made them happy because they could always tell me about new & yummy meals they had and also plan our conversations that were coming up!!!
much needed video, appreciate this Jenn! would love to see more talks like this
Omg thank you for this! I was literally reflecting how its so hard for me now to socialize after being a mom. I love being a mom, it just feels like I lost myself a little.
Oh my god you have no idea how much I needed this haha!!! I've been having this discussion with my bestie about how my communication skills have taken a serious nose dive in the last two years 🙃 You're amazing Jenn!
The oven and microwave comparison 🤣🤣 sooo great!
My favorite icebreaker pre-pandemic was: what travel or vacation plans do you have this year?
That question is starting to be able to come back now that people are starting to travel more. It was always a good conversation starter because people are usually excited about it and I like to help plan so I offer my services there.
There was only one person ever who said they didn’t like to travel. So I had to come up with something else to talk to them about 😆
Thank you Jenn this video is so accurate and what I needed 💕. The way you say it is so chill and not overwhelming it feels easy and doable. Very motivating. Sending everyone so much love, we can do it 😉
Your energy is healing! Good luck🍀✨️
I feel extra awkward in social settings. I moved cities during the pandemic, and Im still working from home. Just the thought of meeting new people in a new city feels scary. Thank you for theese tips Jenn 😊 it gave me a push to go out there and try to converse with anyone.
thank you so much for this. since the pandemic I've become such a home body and lost a core group of friends. I am recently starting to socialize more and this gives me a lot of hope on how im not the only one who needed this information!! I guess my favorite question to ask people would have to be anything about music... play any instruments? go to any shows lately?
Thank you, Jenn! This is so helpful!😊
Thanks Jenn! This is truly helpful and had explained why I overthink all at time.
Omg thank you so much! I have a feeling that I will need this after summer, I might get a new job or get into situations where I need to be a good talker haha! I've been stuck in a bubble because of the pandemic and I just need to get back out there and talk to new people, this is perfect and so helpful! ☺❤🤩
i had crippling social anxiety since i was a toddler so it's something that was deeply rooted in my existence. sometimes i wonder how much better my life would have been if i wasn't the way i am..
bro is there any improvement since then ?
Love this video! 🤩 And ohmygosh Jenn, you are such a beautiful person 🙌 You spread light and kindness in a way that inspires people. Thank you ❤
My problem is i often don't know how to reply when doing small talks. I like asking something to get to know someone but when they started talking about something, i just lost words ☹️
Same😭
Great questions to ask are "why?" Questions. Another great one is asking them about their favourite aspect of a topic they brought up, it really diggs deeper and you get to know what they value.
Fun fact is that when I watch Jen's video, so positive is her energy that my eyes and my lips just smile along with her. Chill but amazing, concise video, Jen. I love uuu
your ideas about questions we can ask are so great ! I'll think about it in the future
I have autism and struggle so much with these kinds of things. I literally havent spoken to anyone outside of my family and uni tutors since feburary 2022. Even though im extremely introverted and awkward i desperately want to connect with people. A few of these tips gave me a new kinda perspective of other people in social interactions and im going to try to speak more in conversations because i think being silent sends a message that i dont want to be friends with someone. I have very awkward ways of interacting but people always comment on my vibe not my lack of eye contact or speech and i think that is a better indication that how often they try to talk to me. I do not understand social interactions on an intuitive or natural level but i have been learning how to make conversation without making other people uncomfortable or completely overwhelming myself.
Jenn! This video was freakin' awesome 💥 and super hilarious as well 😂
You are truly an amazing Content Creator!🥰
Thank you for educating us 🤗
Love, from South Africa 💌
semesters over and I can finally binge watch you without interruptions! keep thriving.
i love these videos sm, they actually always give me so much strength afterwards. keep up with this amazing work :3
You’re really good at this. It was quite helpful. I was always able to hold a conversation with new people when I was living in the states, but after moving to Japan it’s been hard. Japanese people (I’m not saying ALL of them) like to keep to themselves and I notice they find it troublesome to keep up a conversation. So a lot of the conversations start off with “Hello! The weather is blah blah blah today” and it’ll just end there. 🤣 I’ve been trying to extend the conversation from there, but there are definitely some boundaries here…
Really needed this! Thank you for sharing this!
My favorite questions:
1. Where are you originally from?
2. What's something interesting that you experienced this week?
3. What do you do for fun?
This video is amazing Jenn I feel like so many people need that more then we think.
I love this informative content about social communication Jenn! You sum it up so well! Would love to see more of this :)
I'm such an introvert. I needed this! 😭 Thank you Jenn! 💖
Small talk is like foreplay. Fantastic phrase. This analogy gave new meaning to a begrudging task for me.
Nice play on words using the term “foreplay”!!
Lol 😂
I’ve been in a ‘ ditch’ as they say. Just living through the days without taking control of it.
This video is encouraging me to pull it together. 💓