How To Overcome Shyness And Social Anxiety

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  • Опубликовано: 20 дек 2024

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  • @acshow3491
    @acshow3491 4 года назад +1919

    I’m not shy. I’m confident. I can do this

  • @H76Pro
    @H76Pro 7 лет назад +2876

    OMG I was exactly like you in school. i told the teacher its ok to give me a zero as long as i didnt have to give a presentation

  • @fredblair8230
    @fredblair8230 8 лет назад +1892

    this guy gives me hope

  • @dajiahshai
    @dajiahshai 4 года назад +137

    I’m tired of being shy, wondering what others think, constantly stuttering, not making eye contact. I am able to overcome my shyness, and I will start today.

  • @AleksanderVitkin
    @AleksanderVitkin 8 лет назад +1828

    Shyness is related to our fears of the results. If we want to overcome shyness that means we have to overcome our fears. I believe that everything is in our mindset. If we manage to change our mindset we will be able to overcome shyness and fears.

    • @kc0967
      @kc0967 8 лет назад +41

      Very true! Great point.

  • @yeonlaed
    @yeonlaed 5 лет назад +391

    After so many people telling me that I'm strange and weird for not talking much this is exactly what I needed to hear

    • @firstyearstes5833
      @firstyearstes5833 5 лет назад +19

      someone i can finally relate to

    • @MJ-dz8dp
      @MJ-dz8dp 2 года назад +15

      Just remember you’re not weird for not speaking a lot if thats your personality. People will always have something negative to say.

  • @Angelika0325
    @Angelika0325 5 лет назад +389

    OMG! I thought I was the only one who skipped class to avoid giving a presentation due to shyness. Thank you so much for sharing this I now feel less alone

  • @unapologeticmoi
    @unapologeticmoi 8 лет назад +862

    I have different degrees of shyness and social anxiety but only in certain situations. Thank you for the tips

  • @deerhat7875
    @deerhat7875 4 года назад +128

    why do I feel like Im learning how to become human?

  • @jason.hayles
    @jason.hayles 8 лет назад +432

    Fitness helped me get over mine, I took up a sport which made me feel better myself physically and mentally, then I started getting compliments from everyone which build my confidence, it worked for me and if you follow your passion I expect it will work for you

  • @mr_tash3431
    @mr_tash3431 Год назад +15

    I'm not shy, I'm gonna do it.
    Hope you guys have a great day 😊

  • @leelongpre3044
    @leelongpre3044 8 лет назад +656

    Love this video. For me, I make it a game - see how many people I can talk to in a day and then try to beat my record.

  • @Viv8ldi
    @Viv8ldi 5 лет назад +156

    I love the term "analysis paralysis", that basically describes my whole life

  • @e-mune2145
    @e-mune2145 Год назад +7

    Dude i thought no one else was as shy as me until you brought up the family part. Such a big help this video

  • @hdberry1080p
    @hdberry1080p 5 лет назад +420

    if your reading this, all I have to say is that i feel blessed to have come across this video!!!! my anxiety is so bad that i have trouble with holding conversation and engaging in eye contact. This video really opened my eyes and got me excited to finally make a big change in my life. thank you Stephen.

    • @anthonykaps9174
      @anthonykaps9174 5 лет назад +7

      Yes!! Great job and now is the time to take action and do something about it !!

  • @Blossom44100
    @Blossom44100 8 лет назад +390

    I was a timid kid myself... still am...my overactive imagination was sorta my escape...

  • @abubakarelahi8511
    @abubakarelahi8511 5 месяцев назад +5

    From now on I will face my all fears, kill the negative thoughts and keep taking steps to socialize

  • @johngrinthal2902
    @johngrinthal2902 4 года назад +88

    I'm 19 and I've put off this fear for my whole life and it's really affected me. This video really described me haha but it's time to change it! Wish me luck!!

  • @younessofri5920
    @younessofri5920 8 лет назад +714

    What about this feeling that people are looking at you when you walk in the street? I get it most of the times :/

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  8 лет назад +315

      Awesome, they are probably admiring you and thinking "Wow, that person is good looking!" At least that's what I would believe :-)

    • @younessofri5920
      @younessofri5920 8 лет назад +74

      +Project Life Mastery Yeah, maybe. xd! And thanks alot for this video, it have really made me feel better after watching it. And i'm surely going to try the steps you've mentioned. Thanks again! ^_^

    • @SadisticKillerXx
      @SadisticKillerXx 4 года назад +8

      @@younessofri5920 How it went for you?

    • @methhho6481
      @methhho6481 4 года назад +5

      @@SadisticKillerXx i wonder

  • @anjolaxo3875
    @anjolaxo3875 5 лет назад +21

    Who ever bullied you must feel pretty terrible about themselves because look at you now, an attractive man who has not only improved his life but has gone out of his way to improve others lives too. I have really bad social anxiety and cannot thank you enough for this video. God bless you❤

  • @JonBeDoinThings
    @JonBeDoinThings 5 лет назад +95

    I honestly thought i was the only one who felt that way in high school, i'm still in high school but that's how i've been all my life and i'm trying to get over this

  • @benj344
    @benj344 5 лет назад +40

    Shyness my great weakness in my whole life..

  • @drloriTV
    @drloriTV 5 лет назад +74

    Becoming comfortable with discomfort and stepping into the thing that you fear is a key step! Thanks for sharing this!

  • @lendcynorman50
    @lendcynorman50 4 года назад +22

    My 13 year old son is extremely shy and definitely battles with social anxiety (can’t even order himself food without shutting down and getting triggered into a hostel mood because of it). People always thinks he madd in general or madd towards them because of his lack to be able to emotionally be open. By watching this content I can say my son has all these symptoms and defense mechanisms and it makes me feel very hopeful that there is guidance to help me help him ! Thank you so much.

  • @DJDavis844
    @DJDavis844 4 года назад +66

    This man just spoke straight to my childhood. This is definitely in my top 10 videos on youtube.
    Great job man!!

  • @lillian7947
    @lillian7947 5 лет назад +36

    Don’t comment much due to shyness, this is my first step! I got this! Woot woot!

  • @ronevlogstv
    @ronevlogstv 5 лет назад +45

    Man, I'm almost 26 and struggled with this. I wish i forced myself into situations like you did. All i do is sit in my room and game on my days off. I wanna become a better person and connect with others.

  • @Lalitamm
    @Lalitamm 5 лет назад +132

    Just watching you explaining this process is making my heart racing like crazy. Yet feeling the excitement for hope and knowing you can overcome it.

  • @manoranjanregmi6606
    @manoranjanregmi6606 5 лет назад +46

    Hey,
    I have taken a step against social anxiety by commenting here. Feels so good to hear how you did overcomed it.

    • @ok-kf3qk
      @ok-kf3qk 5 лет назад +3

      Same 😅 good luck with the process 💪❣️

  • @Account-yj8ez
    @Account-yj8ez 5 лет назад +146

    My problem is I will talk and take control if I know I am cooler/better higher up the leaderboards
    But when it comes to new people or cooler people then I am so quiet for example I could be playing football with the hardest kid in the year but if he is trash then I would call for the ball shout etc but if I'm sat next to him I wouldn't say a word so annoying

  • @ShotRyder
    @ShotRyder 5 лет назад +33

    You literally described your younger self like you were in my shoes! Thank you for being real, dude!

  • @zachcostenbader7641
    @zachcostenbader7641 5 лет назад +10

    I never thought someone else experienced social anxiety as bad as me. This is my first comment ever on youtube btw. I have a lot of social conditioning ahead of me and I trust it'll be worth it. Thanks for the valuable insight man!!!

  • @nikobobich9726
    @nikobobich9726 8 лет назад +392

    good job man im suffering from alot of social anxiety I need to take steps

    • @KG-kk3ef
      @KG-kk3ef 8 лет назад +7

      Same

    • @KG-kk3ef
      @KG-kk3ef 8 лет назад +2

      +Kelly Grumley 😔😔😔

    • @avalonandon
      @avalonandon 8 лет назад +6

      Me too.

    • @nikobobich9726
      @nikobobich9726 8 лет назад +20

      Kelly Grumley we will get through it .. just work on speech class and do what he said just compliment people or ask them how their day is going somewhere like at home depot or the market.. stick with it and yull get more confidence.. not everybody is negative im learning.. ive been working on it lately

    • @avalonandon
      @avalonandon 8 лет назад +3

      :) that's very good that you're trying and finding people better than you expected.

  • @Sayonararuiz
    @Sayonararuiz 5 лет назад +61

    Not too far in. This video has already helped me feel relief after overthinking about a conversation I had earlier today. The overthinking was so draining, I wanted to take a nap. Even that was made difficult & woke up still overthinking.

  • @rebbeccapaton84
    @rebbeccapaton84 6 лет назад +66

    You have a super friendly and welcoming face, I find that really helps in these videos, thank you!

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  6 лет назад +6

      Thank you Rebbecca!
      Here is a great video you will love: ruclips.net/video/mVMN4JI8x3M/видео.html

  • @BjGodfrey
    @BjGodfrey 2 года назад +11

    The most genuine presentation I've heard so far in the 2 hours of listening to these various topics. Thank you.

  • @ziggyza5070
    @ziggyza5070 5 лет назад +59

    I'm only 1 minute into this video and I can relate so much. I'm definitely gonna watch this whole video and hopefully it'll help me overcome that (especially since I'm 19 now.)

  • @A-Pro100
    @A-Pro100 8 лет назад +150

    Great video! I have social anxiety. I can't even walk up to female receptionists. Random people on the street. My goal for this year to get rid of social anxiety. It'll be tough, but I'm gonna do it!!!! Thanks Stephan.

  • @vernon121
    @vernon121 8 лет назад +54

    PLEASE do more of these. I'm 20 and I have been facing social anxiety since middle school. I've come a long way since then, but I still have more social anxiety and shyness than the average person. I don't want to waste any more years being a recluse. I'm going to take your advice and start going out and put myself in these situations. Thank you Stefan.

  • @brookeandjustus4962
    @brookeandjustus4962 5 лет назад +27

    Wow, thank you so much for this video. My whole life I've been shy, and had anxiety, so I don't really talk to people. I have been homeschooled my entire life, and the thought of going to school has always frightened me, so I have never gone. But after what you said, I think I might face my fear, and go. I'm tired of never having any friends, and being afraid. To post this comment is even scaring me, but I wanted to say thank you.

  • @denverm3393
    @denverm3393 5 лет назад +35

    Great video. It's been my struggles aswell. I realize that being an introvert, I always wanna be the best at everything I do because i care so much about what other people think.

  • @emiliacurtis8640
    @emiliacurtis8640 4 года назад +2

    This is the first video that actually helped, and didn't just say things like "believe in yourself". It's a long and painful process, there was no sugarcoating it, and no false beliefs or expectations were created.

  • @mohamedbarre4433
    @mohamedbarre4433 5 лет назад +72

    I've never commented on a video before, but I will try it out and I hope I see a change in myself.Thank you

  • @nauroura
    @nauroura Год назад +2

    oh my god i actually can relate to you throughout this video, thank your for making me safe and sharing these good tips!

  • @jessicasteel696
    @jessicasteel696 4 года назад +12

    This was actually very helpful. I have to admit I didn’t think i was gonna learn anything but I was hooked on the very first thing you said. My shyness is not my identity!! I’ve been identified as that my whole life and I always hated it. It has tricked me to think this is who I actually am because this is how people perceive me all the time. I realize it’s froze me from being anything other than that, and I don’t want to be accused of “being something that I’m not.” (Micro managing at its finest) Theres a lot of great information here, thanks!

  • @shion3948
    @shion3948 3 года назад +3

    This video inspired me a lot. I'm only 15, but I've had social anxiety for almost four years now. I had missed so much of school social life. I want to change. I still have time, it's not too late. It's going to be hard, but I've already made some steps. If you're reading this, good luck, I believe in you, you can overcome this state.

  • @DukeSaragono
    @DukeSaragono 5 лет назад +9

    Wow out of all the overcoming shyness videos I saw, this is absolutely the best one!!!!

  • @Spiritual_Hypnosis
    @Spiritual_Hypnosis 8 лет назад +207

    Wow, I had/have the same thing verbatim. Grew up with the exact same issues. I even dropped out of college because of required presentations... Great video...

  • @kheirahamad8224
    @kheirahamad8224 5 лет назад +13

    I will overcome my anxiety 💪 and show the world the real ME!!

  • @AITech185
    @AITech185 5 лет назад +4

    I'm really shy and socially anxious and I decide today that I'm going to change that and put myself out there

  • @jenniferlafferty9706
    @jenniferlafferty9706 3 года назад +7

    I have always been shy for as long as I’ve known, then transferred before entering high school. I loved high school and did really well with my social skills. I talked to everyone and anyone. Now I am 22, a senior in college and I am at the worst part of social anxiety yet. In the beginning of the year, I was always excited to present and to talk in front of the class. But now I dread it each time, get hot and shaky and then when I actually present, I start with a shortness in breath and keep it until I’m finished. I struggle immediately, as I give one or two word responses when I meet someone new. I struggle keeping eye contact and keeping the conversation. I for some reason always think the worst and think everyone is out to get me or doesn’t like me already. On top of that, I am also told I have a resting b face and in all seriousness, I do not mean to nor want to give off that thought. Thank you for this video, as I can relate and learn so much from it.

  • @damonbervoets1435
    @damonbervoets1435 5 лет назад +10

    Nice video. I thought I was going crazy at first, then learned that it was anxiety. Having a panic attack in a social situation is VERY unpleasant! It's cool to listen to other people who have anxiety and get some advice!

  • @lilyk1665
    @lilyk1665 4 года назад +3

    Hearing your past, made me 100% sure I had social anxiety. I will tell my mom why I am always so serious and quiet, with the help of this video... thank you

  • @ile8635
    @ile8635 4 года назад +5

    This video really helped me realize that I was in a state and that how i am right now is not who I am. It made me realize how social and anxiety free I was when I was younger. Thank you so much for this video , i am definitely going to change my state of mind positively.

  • @Anna-ls8ej
    @Anna-ls8ej 5 лет назад +95

    I have the same issue. I joined language course I have to speak to them , do group work and presentation. It's very hard for me but I keep attending classes.

  • @kizo.1
    @kizo.1 Год назад +2

    I already downloaded this video
    I will watch it over and over again
    It will help me a lot

  • @dpak2112
    @dpak2112 4 года назад +3

    Have been shy to an extent that even commenting on a youtube video hasitates me...
    But thats it, I have to be comfortable with my discomfort... So here it is.. my first comment

  • @callumrobertson2204
    @callumrobertson2204 2 года назад +2

    You've really inspired me! I'm deleting my video games, I'm signing up for toastmasters, and I'm going to head back to my group ski lessons that I've been avoiding due to fear for the past year. Thank you so much!

  • @belli9281
    @belli9281 5 лет назад +10

    omg thank you. i havent even gotten to the half of the vid but finally someone relates to my experience in school. made me feel much better

  • @qawsedrftgzhujik3460
    @qawsedrftgzhujik3460 Год назад +2

    I am very shy and having problem with social anxiety but i am trying to get out of that state and start living my life. Thank you, great video!
    (Leaving a comment was also my practice for today😄)

  • @jamesentertainment9030
    @jamesentertainment9030 5 лет назад +6

    I think that deciding to watch this video tonight changed my life. I know I can make the effort and face my fears. Outstanding video, well done.

  • @Lord0606
    @Lord0606 4 года назад +1

    It’s not about the quantity of friends, it’s about the quality of friends.

  • @josechacon7573
    @josechacon7573 4 года назад +3

    i have been living with shyness my whole life but now after watching this video i'll start working on it . The most difficult situation that happened to me was loosing my jobs on an interview eventhough having the experience and skills requiered for the job . shyness has been killing me but i will work on it.

  • @DaxWyvrn
    @DaxWyvrn 7 лет назад +2

    The person you describe yourself as in the first few minutes of this video is exactly what I've been going through in my life. I'm almost 23 now and this is really helping me understand myself better and improve. Just wanted to leave that here.

  • @anastasijastanojevic2245
    @anastasijastanojevic2245 3 года назад +3

    I love this vid and I love connecting to people who face the same problems I face. Just feals so good knowing your not alone.

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  3 года назад

      If you struggle with fear, anxiety and worry, you're not alone. I suffered with anxiety and shyness for years, but I was able to overcome it and so can you. Watch this video to learn how you can shift away from fear and anxiety in 30 seconds or less - ruclips.net/video/mxl2l-QBD0s/видео.html

  • @necapeste1984
    @necapeste1984 4 года назад +1

    This guy is the best coach i've ever seen. I'm sure that i will overcome social anxiety as long as i follow his steps!

  • @iyanar4819
    @iyanar4819 5 лет назад +16

    This video is amazing ! So glad I found it.. I love how he’s not giving quick fixes like some of the other videos out there which suggests we take pills for anxiety which doesn’t even help with the actual problem. But what he’s talking about is making the actual changes, taking small steps towards your goal. Facing your fears. I loved this so much ❤️

  • @pksy1967
    @pksy1967 6 лет назад +11

    Thank you for the presentation! I wish I had seen this 30+ years ago! It was almost as if you were describing me. One of the things you said which blew me away was that being shy is not who I am.... That is a profound statement and got my full undivided attention.

  • @lilyleeson8005
    @lilyleeson8005 4 года назад +6

    I needed this.. I’m going to conquer this!
    I want to become the best version of myself that I can be and I really appreciate this video, thankyou!

  • @bigsippy-
    @bigsippy- 5 лет назад +24

    I've been like this for 2-3 years. It literally drives me crazy.

  • @VVVedic
    @VVVedic 3 года назад +5

    I also think a lot before communication,which make me feel anxious & not able to communite properly.

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  3 года назад +1

      Hey Raj! I completely understand. I too used to struggle a lot to find the words to communicate with anyone. I was able to find my voice and you can too! Check out this interview that I did with my vocal coach, Roger Love. He talks about how to master public speaking. I trust it will help you! - ruclips.net/video/BOiKOInznkI/видео.html

  • @gabrieldagne7399
    @gabrieldagne7399 3 года назад +2

    This literally explained everything that has happened to me, even in school also when he said that he overthinked. That related so much

  • @bradstevens8030
    @bradstevens8030 3 года назад +6

    Trying to get my social skills back after COVID. Great video!

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  3 года назад

      Try practicing this confidence ritual every day - ruclips.net/video/meGVqcdcU6g/видео.html

  • @EnvyTheKid420
    @EnvyTheKid420 5 лет назад +4

    This really helped me understand how to get over my fear of talking to people

  • @yingyang0122
    @yingyang0122 8 лет назад +54

    every time I'm feeling that way then I use alcohol which is usually once every week...I need to learn how to control it without the alcohol

  • @SairahMay
    @SairahMay 5 лет назад +13

    I think you can inspire many people with your story. Especially an introvert like myself. Keep up the good work and keep inspiring others!

  • @kimortega2312
    @kimortega2312 4 года назад +4

    So motivational! One of the biggest things I struggle with is getting out of my comfort zone, I’m so ready for change !

  • @davis6439
    @davis6439 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you so much. I was close to giving up and being depressed but this video has actually given me hope. I’m starting my first job ever tomorrow and even though I am nervous, I can’t wait to socialise and get out my comfort zone.

  • @chaosdarkmage
    @chaosdarkmage 5 лет назад +18

    This video was really life changing for me. Thank you so much for your tips, tricks, and insight for social anxiety!

  • @Vetriyas
    @Vetriyas 3 года назад +2

    You're really brave to have shared certain experiences with all with no fear of judgement. It feels so good and inspiring.. you sure have come a loong way. Good luck to you

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  3 года назад +1

      I appreciate your kind words, Sneha! Im grateful for all the lessons that Ive learned over the years and what Ive been able to overcome. In this recent video I talk about 5 ways that Ive overcome anxiety naturally over the years. Hope it helps you on your journey - ruclips.net/video/PWB6w9nyGII/видео.html

  • @Awaecnan
    @Awaecnan 5 лет назад +11

    You've made such a good point. At our core, what we tell ourselves will always resonate with our actions and processes. This is true even with identifying with being shy. So good! Thanks for sharing!

  • @usehsamson4274
    @usehsamson4274 9 месяцев назад +1

    I’m confident and I’m consciously making effort to better my communication

  • @erikmunoz4051
    @erikmunoz4051 4 года назад +4

    Remember fear is not real push

  • @tasonlp8168
    @tasonlp8168 4 года назад +1

    im only 3 minutes in and i expeirience the same thing right now this is already a great viseo thank you

  • @Hassan-sn1jz
    @Hassan-sn1jz 5 лет назад +9

    He exactly explains my life with shyness an anxiety!

  • @marekstepanek1214
    @marekstepanek1214 2 года назад +2

    Thank you man. One of the best videos on youtube!🌟

  • @sunlightglow5852
    @sunlightglow5852 5 лет назад +6

    The hardest things for you are the best things for you!

    • @anthonykaps9174
      @anthonykaps9174 5 лет назад

      Agree you learn a lot in high stress situations!

  • @rubin-healmysocialanxiety702
    @rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 3 года назад +2

    Wow Stefan very moving story. People used to say the exact same thing to me 'do you even talk?'. That really hit me when you mentioned that. Thanks for sharing!

  • @rebeccaboers350
    @rebeccaboers350 5 лет назад +12

    Wow this really moved me. I was so moved by what you were saying and everything was so relatable... I am going to really make a change and start believing this can get better. My social anxiety has ruined my life so far but I can fix this and I will make small changes everyday...
    Thank you so much for this video. You honestly are helping so many people.

  • @letsmakemoney281
    @letsmakemoney281 7 лет назад +2

    it's so nice to see videos like these where u have people you can relate to... I've been beating myself up about being shy and I am kinda happy that I'm not alone in this

  • @govindgk7
    @govindgk7 5 лет назад +3

    Thankyou for making this video!! I start to improve my life from now by writing my first ever RUclips comment !!!

  • @Shehatessno
    @Shehatessno 5 лет назад +1

    You manifest your own beliefs so just believe in yourself. ✌🏻

  • @sheril8739
    @sheril8739 3 года назад +7

    Thank you for this Stephan! Always so genuine! Sent this to my 19 year old son. Thanks for your inspiration

    • @ProjectLifeMastery
      @ProjectLifeMastery  3 года назад +2

      Youre so welcome! These are the 5 ways that I was able to overcome anxiety naturally and feel more grounded in my mind, body and soul. I hope these strategies help your son! - ruclips.net/video/PWB6w9nyGII/видео.html

    • @sheril8739
      @sheril8739 3 года назад +1

      @@ProjectLifeMastery 💕

  • @josueneria4785
    @josueneria4785 3 года назад +3

    Thanks a lot man. I like how you didn’t put any ads on this video. It shows that you really care about you audience ❤️

  • @britt8602
    @britt8602 5 лет назад +4

    He just described my whole life

  • @ryanmehta5369
    @ryanmehta5369 4 года назад +4

    Thank you for this man I feel this. I just started walking around and saying hi to strangers. Good luck to yall

  • @lpena332
    @lpena332 8 лет назад +15

    Yess! Please do a video on how to approach people and how to act in social situations!!

  • @Imespii
    @Imespii 4 года назад +1

    Making this comment is my first official step to growing my self confidence! One day I’ll look back at this and tell myself it wasn’t so bad after all!!! Btw this comment took me like 5 minutes because I was so afraid about what people were going to think about me but it’s not going to stop me any more! Cheers to the journey ahead of me!

  • @majidahmadi4424
    @majidahmadi4424 2 года назад +4

    Great tips... Thanks foق sharing your own experience honestly and sincerely

  • @Jamie_L_T
    @Jamie_L_T 5 лет назад +1

    How can anyone dislike this video. I have watched hundreds of similar videos and this one is by far the best! I can relate so much and thank you so much for taking your time to make such an amazing video.