Happy Pride month!!!!! Sorry to hit y'all with a homophobia story right off the bat, but I promise we had lots of wholesome moments in here too 🥺 Let me know how you guys liked this!! We can make a little series out of it if y'all wanna see more hehe
I used to have this friend group in 6th grade there was 3 of us. In 6th grade one of them came out as bisexual, the other one was questioning. And then last year I found out I was bisexual and girlflux update I don't identify as girlflux anymore I go by nonbinary now
EXACTLY I met a new friend and they introduced me to all the people that were in their friend group, I had been sticking around my best friend who has been my best friend for 8 years and after like three months we all just kind of started coming out to eachother- And then my best friend came out to me as pan, so basically every single person in my new friend group is queer except for one person 😭
that conversation about parents shipping their kids was hilarious to me because my dad tried to hint to me (gay man) to try to get with my friend who identified as a lesbian at the time. Needless to say my friend and I had a good laugh at that one.
My mom made up a whole sad love story in her mind about me and a friend. She swore that he liked me and was just pretending to have a girlfriend because I said I was a lesbian. Yeah, I'm bi and had a gf at the time, he was never interested in me, his gf was real, and I ended up dating the OTHER friend, that she never paid attention to. So that whole story was a lot of wtf.
“My moms not generally homophobic” I can see what they’re getting there. One day, my family was watching this documentary with this trans kid in it. My sister then brought up the “I thought you were transphobic?” card, and as a closeted trans boy, this helped me figure out that my parents... ...liked lgbt+ people unless they knew them. Exact words were “were fine with them unless it concerns us”. Knowing that I concern them... it hurts me sometimes.
Is it possible that by “unless they concern us” they meant the kind of trans person that conservatives lie about existing? You say you interpreted it as being about who they know, but if that’s not their exact words it could potentially even be the opposite. [if you’d reply by saying they definitely meant they just don’t accept those in their personal lives, then the rest of this comment is more just about my experiences with a different variety of selective bigotry] I’ve had relatives who had “no problem with gay people, just homosexuals”. They said they only had an issue when people were preying on children and similar things, and were fine with normal gay men who “just acted normal”. The way they viewed gay people was still very homophobic and ignorant and they believed in a lot of hateful propaganda they’d been told, but they also recognised many gay people didn’t match with the homophobic lies. It led them to try and categorise gay people as different from homosexuals or “f slurs” or whatever. A man in my family has a gay son. The man was horribly homophobic to the point he’d been dangerous. His son didn’t want anything to do with him once he was grown, and so the father made efforts to try and be less homophobic so he could be in his son’s life. Except then he’d speak about his son like “he’s a normal guy. He’s hardworking, doesn’t wear dresses or think he’s a girl. That’s not the kind of homosexual I have an issue with”. So if I heard a family member say something like your parents did I’d think it’s possible they believe a lot of hateful propaganda about trans people while also recognising that there are trans people who don’t match the hateful stereotypes so don’t “concern” them. They’d probably direct transphobia at plenty of harmless trans people based on transphobic stereotypes they believe, but think there’s some distinction between the “good ones” who try to conform as much as possible, and the “bad ones” who stand out. Usually from my personal experience with my homophobic family members this brand of homophobe was more accepting of those in their personal lives. That’s not saying much though. The son from my anecdote earlier gave his father a chance, but no longer has much to do with him. Even if someone tries to be accepting of you as an individual, if they’re still actively targeting a community you’re a part of to do so then it’s just alienating. Like, while a homophobic relative views themselves as accepting because they’ve tried to grasp basics like that there is no “woman” in a relationship between two gay men, the community is _actually_ accepting and for many like a family. So, if their exact wording was what you said they might not have meant those in their personal lives were who concerned them. However, that doesn’t mean they’d be very accepting regardless. This comment originally put more emphasis on the fact this might not relate at all to your scenario so I’ll just add this statement here for emphasis. I’m not trying to say “this is what they meant” when you’d obviously know far better than me.
Personally, I think the "unless it concerns us" type can be more personally harmful but easier to fix. You kinda have to make them consider why they're only okay if it's not someone they know. I know from experience. My brother was like that. The sort of "I don't mind queer people, I just don't want'em around me" type, & when I came out as gay, we were still living in the same home, so he was forced to live under a roof with a homosexual & eventually came to terms with it & got over himself (some kind of exposure therapy ig). He even went on to marry & have kids with a bisexual woman
i see that as "im gonna casually say homophobic things without realizing they're homophobic but i dont mind gay people" because that's what my mom is like lol
Definitely my mum lolllll, I'm straight but even if I say hypothetical things in a conversation like "if I was a lesbian" she gets so defensive she's like "and you're CERTAINLY NOT!" :|
@Kurapika Kurta As a closeted omnisexual...My mum's exact words were..."I don't mind as long as they are not my children." Hurts every time I remember.
God I in HS I went to the mall with a fellow camp counselor friend and once my dad found out he was a guy he decided he had to come with me and my mom to drive me there (made me half an hour late) so that he could “meet” him. Que me frantically texting my very gay friend to please act straight for 10 minutes because I wasn't out and he texts back “theres no hope, I’m wearing short shorts”
Pissgate gets even more weird, turns out Ash never went to therapy and his mother covered that from the family, his mother also covered alot of things to keeep the family together all the while the family had no idea and where blaming OP for everything. Ash also didn't get fired he quit his job, and later we get a look into his childhood and realise due to severe bullying from his brothers he likes to pee as a form of anger, he also peed on one of the brother's daughters (who was young af I think 1) stuff and some are realising that he is only targeting woman which is scary. The family is dysfunctional with 9 boys, and a mother who's logic is boys will be boys.
OP's ex-husband was also a coward who decided it would be better FOR HER if they divorced, without actually asking her if that's what she wanted. But from the latest update, it seems OP is finally starting to move on from everything that happened and, honestly, good for her.
@@juliap5907 Relax, wow. I don't see how this is worth insulting him. Are you condemning a man because he feels his life and family are not good for his wife (admittedly they aren't) and he doesn't feel like he deserves being married to her because he's so ashamed? That's weak, okay, but it's so so cruel to insult people for weakness
@@TheDexCrafter Maybe actually read the posts. OP herself condemns him and thinks his actions were selfish. She pretty much says he took the easy way out and is very much still fairly upset with him.
My parents shipped me with a dude I was friends with after he came out as a trans guy. I think that at that point they were so desperate for me to end up with a nice Jewish man they didn't even care about the trans aspect (I was 15 lmao). Jokes on them, I turned out to be a trans guy too.
Literally same💀💀 I'm Ashkenazi + Turkish Jew and my parents Literally made me get together with one of my friends after he came out as trans💀 like literally after he came out, BOOM I get shipped with him.... he was an asshole and I'm a closeted lesbian sooo Yeah Jewish parents can be funny
We love trans-accepting Jewish parents who ship their kids. When I was in PRE SCHOOL, my parents convinced me that a boy in my class was my boyfriend, even though we were just buddies. Alas, I am now non-binary attracted to women and fellow enbies 😌 So naturally upon me coming out as lesbian (2 years before I came out as non-binary), my mom immediately asked who I have a crush on. …Transjewish? Maybe. Who’s to say?
I very casually dropped that I'm bi in front of my grandparents from my Dad's side and while it took forever for them to come around to being open to LGBTQ people (my uncle came out to them and my Dad explained how that was a whole thing where it took them a long time to come around) with me they're basically just "as long as they're Jewish" which I consider a win seeing as they are both in their 90s now.
The "Friend group is queer" level was lowered to highschool for our group. We came back from summer break, hung out during lunch, and it turned out that we were pretty much all queer. "If you find one queer, you might find them all."
Nah all of us knew we were some kind of fruity. Like when we first met we started talking about books and one of our friends brought up that their favorite genre was romance and then just about everyone came out at once. We gravitated to each other without even realizing it.
One of my favourite “all my friends are queer” moments I’ve had was when I invited my entire friend group to an escape room (like 7 people) for my birthday and when we got to the second part of the room there was locked boxes and one of my buddies tried to open it with the wrong code (we thought it was the right code for 10 minutes) and they gave up, dropped the box then just declared: “ugh! This box is homophobic, do we have any straight people here??” Pure silence. We all looked around because no one was speaking up and had a good 3 minutes of sharing labels/pronouns we had a good laugh (I’ve been chuckling since) until FINALY one of my palls goes “uh yeah me, I’m straight” and tries to unlock the box themselves. After that predicament we slowly lost our sanity in that room and when we got out we asked if we could hold both success and fail signs for our picture. Best party I’ve ever had :D
my dad is the opposite of a NIMBY transphobe. it was always "those trans people are getting to be a big problem!" until i got the courage to come out to him, and then he changed his mind. glad he did so we could actually have a relationship
Mmm, the “parents not bring outwardly homophobic but are NIMBY homophobic” is super relatable. It also gets more complicated when your parents are immigrants and their second language is English… yeah I’m not gonna try explaining my whole deal to my parents anytime soon. Edit.) THE MAD SHATTER LMAOOO WHAT
I'm so glad I grew up with an open-minded mom. When I was 13 I started exploring my sexuality, and told her I was pansexual (rn I don't have any labels, as I'm not sure how I feel about specific body parts) and she just asked what it was compared to other sexualities. She, a Christian woman, just wanted to understand her child. She revealed 2 weeks after that she's bisexual and I convinced her to go on lesbian tinder :)
Wow, I also identify as non-binary, asexual, and panromantic. Low key giddy to find someone else who uses the same labels. I'm the idiot who tried to explain asexuality to my Asian parents... for some reason I thought they would be cool with it, because Asian parents are such prudes when it comes to talking about sex. I thought they would relish the knowledge that I won't be having sex, because it's one less thing for them to worry about (as in, no STDS or unexpected pregnancies). That's how my asexual brain thought anyways. My mom responded by saying there's something wrong with me, like there's something wrong with my head. Then she ranted at me for a long time. She tried to blame my health (saying that it's bad and that's why I don't want to have sex). She tried to blame the western education system, the western culture, and a bunch of other things. She was a NIMBY homophobe, but she went full homophobe on me at that time, saying stuff like how it goes against nature and all that other nonsense. My dad couldn't say much because my mom was already railing at me, but at the very end, he snuck in his two cents, which amounted to "it's just a phase." We never talked about my sexuality after that. They pretend like the conversation never happened, but I know they still remember, because they never asked me about a significant other ever since. Haha...
I’m in a similar situation as an aroace person. I can’t really explain that I’m ace/aro to my family because I know for a fact that they’d think it was some sort of condition. I still wanted to come out tho, so I just in general said I was queer. They assumed lesbian and I haven’t corrected them :/
Oh god, this is super relatable as an Asian aro-ace. I grew up in a Christian household (with all the 2nd gen trappings that come with it). At a young age I was like, "damn, I'm SO GOOD at the celibacy thing I must be the ultimate super-Christian" 🙃 WELP, turned out to be something else. When I told my mom she just said, "But you GOTTA have kids? It says in the Bible?? And our bloodline?" Like, DAMN do you want me to fuck or not? Or is not wanting to have sex only acceptable when it's imposed on you and you need to "suffer" for it?
Similar thing happened to me (also enby, ace and panro). I know mum is homophobic but I thought hey, maybe she wouldn't have an issue if I'm ace, right? So one day I tried to hint towards the fact that I don't experience sexual attraction. She started crying and saying that it's not normal. Needless to say. I am definitely not out yet and won't be until I'm stable and have a job/place to live.
@@TheNumnutRandomness yes, omg, it's so common in conservative Asian (and also other conservative) households that you don't really talk about sex because it's viewed as taboo and it's a silently forbidden subject to talk about but then there's also this concept of continuing the bloodline where it just assumes you must have a sexual relationship at some point (involving marriage and having kids with said partner you're married to), mostly before your thirties
Parents shipping kids can be very wrong, my mom did it with me when I was 6yo in a very vocal way and the damn boy believed her, it was a nightmare! (The full story I posted at my Twitter a time ago). I have very bad luck with parents, my father is bigoted with everything. Other day he was talking a lot of bullshit about nonbinary people and I was like "Oh, please, don't!" but I couldn't say anything because my life would be hell if I ever come full out of the closet. It's just awful. Just a little correction: this couple is not straight but straight-passing.
!! Thank you for the correction, I wasn’t sure how to phrase that and god I feel you so much, parents really need to stop shipping literal children 😭 I’m sorry you had to deal with that
@@ying_verse It's okay, sometimes terms slip out of our minds 😆 And yeah, it was a lot. Even my teacher at that time was involved in this shipping. It didn’t last long, fortunately, I had to switch classes.
@@soulsearcher7077 A straight couple is when both individuals identify as heterosexual. If one of them are queer (any label) is not a straight couple but straight-passing, because people will perceive them as straight but one or both are not straight.
@@aroacecreature Well it’s still a hetero relationship. Even if the people are not. If I date another girl it’d be a homosexual relationship because we’re both female. Even if I myself am bisexual
redditors really be like "my wife stole my credit card, tied me up in the basement, left with the kids, got a restraining order against me, and sent me to prison, so i sent her a letter saying that she's not very nice. AITA"
I loved my mom's response, when I outed myself as bi. So I brought my then-girlfriend home and we acted like we were only friends. After she left my mom told me, I should introduce her to my brother, because they would make a good match. When I told her, she already was in a relationship with me, she was like "Oh, nice. She's really cute" - although she thought I was hetero. Like it wasn't a big thing for her and when I asked her how she feels about my sexuality, she said "You have even more opportunities to find someone, who makes you happy. I don't care which person will bring you that happiness." I love her for this.
The thing I don't understand about my parents, especially my father, is that he made a lot of homophobic remarks (e.g. when two dudes were kissing on TV he was visually disgusted and stated it as well), but then later, when I came out, said they already "knew" and that they were completely fine with it. What logic is that?! Those remarks my dad said made me develop internalized homophobia towards myself. It's a lot better but sometimes I think back about that and feel an inkling of that again.
Hahaha I always love seeing these things happen, I'm not a NB Panro ace myself (I narrowed myself down to GQ Pan² demi/allo) but it's so sweet when folks who feel comfortable under the same flags meet by chance.
I came out as ace by including it on a list of things to mention when going for an autism diagnosis. I know not all aces are autistic and not all autistic people are ace (and that most actually aren’t), but I also knew it’d be helpful for getting a diagnosis and it was. The psychiatrist also suggested he could “fix” me though (the implication being by therapy) so I never went back.. I’m 26, ace and queer. I want to start dating again but I haven’t had much luck on that front so gave up a few years back. My mum will occasionally say something like “everyone needs somebody. Doesn’t matter if man or woman or whatever, but everyone needs someone.” And that used to feel kind of bad to hear back when I wasn’t sure if I’d ever find or want a partner. However, my mother eventually started saying things more like “everyone needs someone. Even if that’s not a boyfriend or girlfriend necessarily. So long as you’ve got someone there for you in your life”. I can also tell she’s choosing her words to be more accepting of my identity, which I know she doesn’t fully understand but it’s nice she accepts me regardless. I think I would like a partner though. Guess I’m going to have to try dating again..
the thing about highschool friend groups is so true! at my HS all friend groups had something obvious in common, like there was the popular kids, the sporty kids, the art kids, etc. my friend group seemingly didn't have anything in common and we were the "rejects" bc we just didn't seem to fit in anywhere else. well, years later I looked back on it and realized we were all some kind of flavor of fruity. there's only one of my old friends who was chill in HS but apparently now is a toxic mean girl type, and another one who dated me and was very enthusiastic about us dating and then tried to insist she actually was 100% straight after we broke up because her mom made her realize she "wasn't like that". tbh I still kind of doubt that even those two are 100% cishet, lol.
Me trying to explain to my peers that just because I have long hair does not mean I'm queer 👁👄👁 (I mean I am but not for that reason) Why do we all seem to have such similar experiences, weird lol Happy Pride Yall 🏳️🌈
Me but because i had short hair in highschool lmao, I got asked by someone over and over if i was a lesbian because i had short hair, which i had to explain that no, just because i have a hairstyle doesnt mean i like women, Lmao im way older now i am starting to think im a little queer lmao, but my short hair was not the reason haha
I totally relate to the whole queer and parents thing. I come from a generally quite homophobic country and im gay myself (that moment when the kid from the homophobic country turns gay lmao) and thankfully my dad is very supportive and hes no longer homophobic after i moved away from that country but my mum is still a little "eeeeehhh" Shes gotten a bit better but all the "maybe you'll change your mind someday" or "but i want grankids" comments was something she use to say. Im glad shes gotten better but shes still really sticks by gender stereotypes to the point that she doesnt want me to get both my ears pierced because "thats what women do" which is just kind of a bruh moment But anyways, great video - the "mad shatter" thing was hilarious lmaoooo and happy pride month to everyone! 🏳🌈🏳🌈
Not sure which country you come from, but according to my Chinese parents, if you're just piercing one ear... a guy piercing his left ear is cool, but if he pierces his right ear, that's gay. Lmao. Like who decided that? It might just be a regional thing, since I'm not sure if all of China thinks that.
I'm ace and bi and my mum is generally okay, especially considering I'm from kind of homophobic country. But she doesn't understand the ace part. And she contributed it to my depression, which I did too when I started to realize that I'm ace, but now I know that's it's not that.
no because all of my friends are queer/questioning rn. its a .... thing. one of my favorite things has been helping a few of my questioning friends come into their identity. i have friends who struggle from the same levels of internalized homophobia i experienced when i first realized i was gay. for me, being attracted to the same gender was never the issue, it was just the absence of the other gender that was such a problem. i had thought i was bisexual but learned i was gay because of a friend, and because of her i am now doing so much better for myself. i wanna be that person for other people and i've already helped a few friends understand just how hard coming out and being confident can be
6:13 Something similar happened when I came out as non-binary. My mom was perfectly accepting of me being pansexual but not nonbinary. What confuses me even more is my Dad who was originally not as accepting was perfectly fine with it. They’ve both gotten better but it hurt to hear her say some key “I don’t accept you” phrases.
Happy pride month from a Chinese bisexual transwoman! I don't think I'll ever have that conversation with my parents or tell them that I'm trans, we didn't even talk about it when they found out I like men. My mom still want's me to marry a girl and have children though
My family used to ship me with my childhood friend who'd i'd known since i was 5, and since our older siblings were friends they thought it would be "cute" so to get them off my back I told my parents that he liked another one of our friends and told my siblings I was into girls... 9 years later and at least one of those turned out to be true 😳😳😳
the all my friends turned out to be queer story reminds me of my freshman year in hs. when the year first started, i was almost entirely alone with only a few (technically childhood friends) there with me. we knew each other from church, but i came out to two of them before the year and then the third one during the beginning. i hadn't had any classes with them, so for myself and my lonesome, i wanted to make more friends. there was a girl in my class who i thought was pretty cool, she had nice clothes, was getting along with people i wish i could, and so i decided to strike up a conversation. there was no actual conversation, but i complimented them and we started getting along. they ended up introducing me to their friends and i finally had people to talk to. since it was only the first few weeks of the year, the teacher had us make get to know me slides. they sat in front of me and as we worked on it, i saw a familiar flag color on the slide. they were pansexual! not to mention genderfluid as well. i quickly found out that the friends they introduced me to were also queer! many of them were trans, and as a transmasc myself, i felt very comfortable with them. it's a shame that we all ended up growing apart and not keeping touch though :(
All my friends after high school slowly came out one by one. It just kept going and despite being one of the only 'straight girls' in the group, I would not do ANY self reflection until after college. Anyway, I am queer, genderfluid, and super in love with my amazing partner.
I’m in my 30s and never been married. My mom has gotten to the point that she says she doesn’t care if I bring home an alien - she just desperately wants grandkids. I did date someone who had a child from a previous relationship and my mom spoiled the HECK out of the kid 🤣🤣
as a cis woman who didn't realise I was bi until I was engaged to a man (who is now my husband and has supported and even helped me accept/admit my own sexuality to myself), I don't ever plan to come out to my parents. one, because their first response would be "but you're married to Aaron" as if that meant I could only be straight, and two, because they've already shown to me (even super recently) how textbook nimby homophobic they are. and I kinda just don't need that tbh
the "mad shatter" story reminds me of how during my first year of university when i stayed in the dorms there was someone going around takin dumps both in the toilets and sometimes even ON the toilets (yes ON them) and never flushing them but also in the showers too. Not as bad as Ying's story but a bit uncanny this sort of thing has apparently happened to other ppl.
oh my god Ying I laughed so much over this clip. Great stories too all around. Also the Asian parents always shipping you with your friends was too real. I was like oh my god my parents did that too!
I tried explaining to my parents what an ‘Asexual’ is since I am a Asexual…and my mom goes “you know (my name), asexual only applies to animals who give birth without a male/female right?” 😭
this reminds me of when i was talking about some of the ships in genshin to my 6 year old cousin and his reply was just “why are there so many gay people” 💀💀💀🤚
Happy pride !!!! My parents have always been kinda homophobic and I remember they were discussing how they hate that there were so many lgbt + stuff on media out loud at buffet and that was during pride too …that was really embarrassing
10:24 Shipping failed horribly in my life because almost everyone shipped me with my one guy friend, who I’d known since kindergarten. It went from me telling people “no we aren’t dating” and then them asking if he’s gay (he carried himself very fashionably). Only for him to later cross my boundaries and us having a big falling out. I ended up with somebody nobody expected and am now in a very healthy relationship.
"Everybody...is some kind of queer!" yup, yeah. pretty much LOL like I was never really sure why our friend group consisted of the people it did but uh...yep
The queer group thing is SO true. My first friend group in high school, the girl was out as bisexual at the time already. The guy came out as gay around his 19th bday and I’ve come to terms with my sexuality at the beginning of last year. (I knew since I was like 12, but I denied it because of homophobia around me 🫠 anyways i’m good now!) In my second friend group from high school, one girl also swings more ways (idk if she’s bi or pan so she just ✨ swings ✨) and another is still figuring out their attraction (or rather lack of) Yay for gay! All my friends apart from 2 are queer lmao.
pissgate reminds me of when my family was living with my grandma and we got literally kicked out on immediate notice because her drunk husband had pissed in the closet of the computer room and she decided that actually my teenage brother did it, and when we suggested it might have just been the dogs she had because we hadnt known at the time what really happened, she yelled "NO, THATS MAN PISS". lol. lmfao. imagine having to stay in a hotel and find a house within a week because of Man Piss™ everything turned out fine, even though we ended up in a place we hated for years because of it, but looking back feels so like, lmao??????? hello??????????????????
Honestly it's amazing to see the kind of community you've created with your audience! I've never seen any creators chat unanimously agree on anything and vote it to a 100% and the fact that there wasn't a single hateful remark in the chat? Freaking amazing. You should be very proud of yourself.
No literally, queers just instinctively stick together or something, that's the only way I can explain it. Among my 10 closest friends, 7 are out and 2 are like...you sure you're not a little gae???
the ace discussion really got me, oof--i'm (she/her) arospec (maybe panromantic? idk haven't experience prolonged romantic attraction in like 5 years lol) ace and i don't know how to tell my parents that i'd rather be in a platonic life-partnership or queerplatonic relationship than get married, and i plan to avoid telling them for as long as possible. not sure about the not-having grandchildren part since i'm open to adopting with a platonic or qp partner but i'm def not gonna be having a bio kid and i'm not sure how they'll feel about that.
Since high school, 4/6 of my friend group now identify as bi/pan. My sister’s best friend came out as a trans woman, and multiple friends-of-friends from that time have since come out as gay or lesbian. I know being queer when you’re young can sometimes be an isolating experience but trust, we’re everywhere.
When one of my close friends came out to their dad there were so many fights. In one of those fight their dad actually refused to buy their insulin (they’re diabetic)
Additional info: he refused to buy it for around 2-3 weeks when they only had enough to last themselves around a week. Also their mom couldn’t buy it because their dad was in charge of their medical aid.
9:20 i also tried to explain aroace to my parents and just stopped because they wouldn't get it. I'm not saying they aren't accepting of the lgbtqia+ (they are), it's just tiresome. But hey! My sister gets it (never knew finding out that your sister is also queer could be such a strong sibling bonding moment) so i'm fine. But I do still get the occasional "when you marry" or "when you get a boyfriend or girlfriend" comment and i'll just look at my sister and laugh awkwardly like: yeah nooo😂
"i'm fine with lgbts just not if i know them" bullshit is my "mother" (in quotation marks for. a lot of horrific reasons but this is not a therapist office slkjsfjlk i just refuse to call her my mother) anyway she talks so much shit about how she would show up to pride parades and hug all the kids who's parents don't accept them. but in the same breath deadnamed me with no exception because it was "too hard :(" to call me by my name, conistantly said about aro and ace "you can't be nothing" (turns out im aroace whoopee), constantly objectified and pointed directly at my chest and said "why would you want to get rid of THOSE?", routinely denies my sister's bisexuality in a very racist way just because? she thinks asian men are attractive? (specifically "she doesn't like girls, she likes ASIAN boys" in that. very particular wasp woman tone. and my sister will go "no i like women too" and all that gets is "see, she likes asian boys"). also she's a terf and would routinely make my then a minor transfemme friend out to be some sort of dangerous predator while deadnaming her (because why would she respect someone? that's too hard :( ) and pointing out that because she didn't steal all my clothes and refuse me medical care she COULDN'T be a horrible mother lmao okay anyway i dont talk to her anymore but people who are very adamant about how not queerphobic they are. are queerphobic, usually
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Based on that info, I assume she has almost definitely said the paraphrasing of that line that so many shitty folks say to members of their bloodline. Family accepts, supports, and loves for who you are. That's not a mom, that's a birther. I hope you are doing well and have found folks that you can call your family by choice.
that whole "parents-shipping-queer-kids" reminded me how in my case it wasn't even my parents. it was my friends at the time shipping my ace arse and my (at the time unknown) gay friend 💀💀
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH YING! this is my first pride, and at my sheltered place with my very open and fun friend group, it is very fun wishing ppl happy pride month with said friends and seeing them in confusion I CANT STOP RELATING to the asian parents shipping me with my friends omg- i have rlly short hair, and i rlly like it, im always being shipped with my guy friends for being a "tomboy", which is so so awkward cuz generally in the non romantic and platonic sense i like girls, so- fr i hope everyone has a great month, and yr in general, and i hope one day all sexualities and identities are accepted all over! ,from, an aroace
Good lord I went online and read the entire Peegate story. All I can say is holy shit. Ted was like. I guess an enabling sort of asshole but he seems to be working to improve and everything so nice. Hope OP and Ted are doing well these days cause damn. Edit: there were more updates. F. still wishing OP the best
When I came out to my mom it had two parts. I started with the bisexual part. She was confused, but clarified I was still monogamous to my partner, which of course I could say yes (bc it's a common misconception that bi = polyam). She took it okay, and said something like 'well as long as you're not dating a woman'... second part was telling her that my partner is transmasculine........ she and my dad had a lot to adjust to LOL but they're much better about it now and still love my partner.
I’m so glad it wasn’t just my parents that shipped me with people. My brother’s never got shipped with anyone, I did though. My mother shipped me with someone I TOLD HER I REJECTED just because he was the first person to ask me out. Then the next time someone asked me out, I told her again, (I had a crush on this guy but I left that part out because I rejected him anyways) AND SHE DIDN’T SHIP ME WITH HIM EVEN THOUGH HE ASKED ME OUT MORE THAN ONCE! 😭 I wasn’t too sad because it got super annoying but it was still a little bit upset.
im really glad for my parents. i havent had the aroace conversation with them but i have had the "i dont want to have kids" conversation and i was relieved when they straight up said they dont expect it of me and dont mind.
"My mom's not generally homophobic" Yeah... I thought my parents were accepting when I came out to them as bisexual in November 2021 and they were not. They literally said "oh it's just a phase !!" and now they keep saying "boyfriend" when they're talking about me dating in the future. Currently happy and pansexual
everyone eventually came out in our high school anime club too, it’s amazing how we all end up finding each other before we even realised things about ourselves >. < (also AITA is my fave Reddit board to get lost in scrolling on, good stuff)
This was sooo entertaining to watch. Thanks Ying for brightening my day with your funny take on these AITA stories. I loved this video and hope that you would consider making this a series. Sending good vibes your way! 😊💗🌸☺️
Yes we love all this kind of stories as AITA, but since it is so popular I always think of the rather high possibilities that a lot of stories are just made up. Really kills the enjoyment for me knowing that it might be just a fan fiction :( Internet Karma still more relevant than anything.
Loved the video, I feel like these types of content open opportunity for the community to know you even better ❤. Also you're an amazing streamer/RUclipsr, it's fascinating how every kind of content is good content with you!
This video made me realise how lucky I’ve been to have such a supportive family who worked to understand all the gay stuff, talked with my therapist who explained stuff to them, helped me stand my ground when the school system was being shitty, and legally helped me change my name. Love you, mom and dad. You aren’t perfect, but you try hard enough that perfection doesn’t matter, just the love and work you put into trying to understand me
for me and my friends who grew up in a homophobic environment where dating the same sex being a school offense literally being in the school handbook, it was just some kind of an unspoken rule to be closeted unless proven outed. there's the case of diff degrees of being "outed" too, like how some parents are 'okay' w it as long as it doesnt cause them problems but might act up once it's been rubbed into their faces. that's why even if we know we're somewhat safe, we still want to make sure no one gets in trouble we could've avoided. it sucks to have to act this way, but it's better to safe than sorry bc it's someone else's safety that's on the line!
I’m out to friends and some coworkers but not to my family yet and omg so much of this was relatable. The mention about closeted queer kids finding each other is so true, my mom even asked “were you the only straight kid from your friend group?” So I tried avoiding the question by saying something like “ah they’re all lgbt+ yeah” OTL
I've heard peegate before. It gets SO MUCH WORSE. Remember when Ash said the cat was "probably marking his territory"? Ash had been stalking op for years, and thought peeing on her stuff would make her "his". That's what the update was. One of the other brothers had basically gone into ash's house to use the bathroom, the downstairs one was locked and the upstairs one was filled with pictures of op.
![Tee Grizzley - Detroit (Feat. 42 Dugg) [Official Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/aeKfTtt0x14/mqdefault.jpg)
Happy Pride month!!!!! Sorry to hit y'all with a homophobia story right off the bat, but I promise we had lots of wholesome moments in here too 🥺 Let me know how you guys liked this!! We can make a little series out of it if y'all wanna see more hehe
YES! WE NEED A SERIES BAHAHA THIS WAS TOO FUNNY I JUST WISH I WAS ONLINE AT THE TIME OF THE STREAM
Yes yes yes!
Happy Pride month Ying 🥳💜
Happy Pride Month everyone!
@@seraphina1113 YES PLEASE!
Queer kids are like magnets for each other it appears. Even if you don’t know it yet. Even if you’re closeted. We all just end up together.
True
I had a friend group of like 7 girls including me and one of us came out and we all just eventually agreed we were a little fruity too
I used to have this friend group in 6th grade there was 3 of us. In 6th grade one of them came out as bisexual, the other one was questioning. And then last year I found out I was bisexual and girlflux
update I don't identify as girlflux anymore I go by nonbinary now
Yup
EXACTLY
I met a new friend and they introduced me to all the people that were in their friend group, I had been sticking around my best friend who has been my best friend for 8 years and after like three months we all just kind of started coming out to eachother- And then my best friend came out to me as pan, so basically every single person in my new friend group is queer except for one person 😭
that conversation about parents shipping their kids was hilarious to me because my dad tried to hint to me (gay man) to try to get with my friend who identified as a lesbian at the time. Needless to say my friend and I had a good laugh at that one.
My parents did the opposite, both me and my friend were straight but they often ship us as a joke. Would have been funny if we were both gay
My mom is the opposite. She doesn't like the idea of me dating someone.
My mom made up a whole sad love story in her mind about me and a friend. She swore that he liked me and was just pretending to have a girlfriend because I said I was a lesbian.
Yeah, I'm bi and had a gf at the time, he was never interested in me, his gf was real, and I ended up dating the OTHER friend, that she never paid attention to. So that whole story was a lot of wtf.
@@naolucillerandom5280 same, literally the exact same
i'm a lesbian tho
SAME IM GAY AND I HAVE A LESBIAN BESTIE AND MY MUM SHIPS US (im closeted)
“My moms not generally homophobic” I can see what they’re getting there. One day, my family was watching this documentary with this trans kid in it. My sister then brought up the “I thought you were transphobic?” card, and as a closeted trans boy, this helped me figure out that my parents...
...liked lgbt+ people unless they knew them. Exact words were “were fine with them unless it concerns us”. Knowing that I concern them... it hurts me sometimes.
Is it possible that by “unless they concern us” they meant the kind of trans person that conservatives lie about existing? You say you interpreted it as being about who they know, but if that’s not their exact words it could potentially even be the opposite. [if you’d reply by saying they definitely meant they just don’t accept those in their personal lives, then the rest of this comment is more just about my experiences with a different variety of selective bigotry]
I’ve had relatives who had “no problem with gay people, just homosexuals”. They said they only had an issue when people were preying on children and similar things, and were fine with normal gay men who “just acted normal”. The way they viewed gay people was still very homophobic and ignorant and they believed in a lot of hateful propaganda they’d been told, but they also recognised many gay people didn’t match with the homophobic lies. It led them to try and categorise gay people as different from homosexuals or “f slurs” or whatever. A man in my family has a gay son. The man was horribly homophobic to the point he’d been dangerous. His son didn’t want anything to do with him once he was grown, and so the father made efforts to try and be less homophobic so he could be in his son’s life. Except then he’d speak about his son like “he’s a normal guy. He’s hardworking, doesn’t wear dresses or think he’s a girl. That’s not the kind of homosexual I have an issue with”.
So if I heard a family member say something like your parents did I’d think it’s possible they believe a lot of hateful propaganda about trans people while also recognising that there are trans people who don’t match the hateful stereotypes so don’t “concern” them. They’d probably direct transphobia at plenty of harmless trans people based on transphobic stereotypes they believe, but think there’s some distinction between the “good ones” who try to conform as much as possible, and the “bad ones” who stand out.
Usually from my personal experience with my homophobic family members this brand of homophobe was more accepting of those in their personal lives. That’s not saying much though. The son from my anecdote earlier gave his father a chance, but no longer has much to do with him. Even if someone tries to be accepting of you as an individual, if they’re still actively targeting a community you’re a part of to do so then it’s just alienating. Like, while a homophobic relative views themselves as accepting because they’ve tried to grasp basics like that there is no “woman” in a relationship between two gay men, the community is _actually_ accepting and for many like a family.
So, if their exact wording was what you said they might not have meant those in their personal lives were who concerned them. However, that doesn’t mean they’d be very accepting regardless.
This comment originally put more emphasis on the fact this might not relate at all to your scenario so I’ll just add this statement here for emphasis. I’m not trying to say “this is what they meant” when you’d obviously know far better than me.
Personally, I think the "unless it concerns us" type can be more personally harmful but easier to fix. You kinda have to make them consider why they're only okay if it's not someone they know. I know from experience. My brother was like that. The sort of "I don't mind queer people, I just don't want'em around me" type, & when I came out as gay, we were still living in the same home, so he was forced to live under a roof with a homosexual & eventually came to terms with it & got over himself (some kind of exposure therapy ig). He even went on to marry & have kids with a bisexual woman
i see that as "im gonna casually say homophobic things without realizing they're homophobic but i dont mind gay people" because that's what my mom is like lol
Definitely my mum lolllll, I'm straight but even if I say hypothetical things in a conversation like "if I was a lesbian" she gets so defensive she's like "and you're CERTAINLY NOT!" :|
@Kurapika Kurta As a closeted omnisexual...My mum's exact words were..."I don't mind as long as they are not my children." Hurts every time I remember.
God I in HS I went to the mall with a fellow camp counselor friend and once my dad found out he was a guy he decided he had to come with me and my mom to drive me there (made me half an hour late) so that he could “meet” him. Que me frantically texting my very gay friend to please act straight for 10 minutes because I wasn't out and he texts back “theres no hope, I’m wearing short shorts”
THE BOOTY SHORTS LMFAO AFJAJFJAJMFFS
you butted homie
OH NO 😂😂😂😂
I am just so curious but how did it go?
And then.
How did it go ?
Pissgate gets even more weird, turns out Ash never went to therapy and his mother covered that from the family, his mother also covered alot of things to keeep the family together all the while the family had no idea and where blaming OP for everything. Ash also didn't get fired he quit his job, and later we get a look into his childhood and realise due to severe bullying from his brothers he likes to pee as a form of anger, he also peed on one of the brother's daughters (who was young af I think 1) stuff and some are realising that he is only targeting woman which is scary. The family is dysfunctional with 9 boys, and a mother who's logic is boys will be boys.
oh my god the SAGA CONTINUES
OP's ex-husband was also a coward who decided it would be better FOR HER if they divorced, without actually asking her if that's what she wanted. But from the latest update, it seems OP is finally starting to move on from everything that happened and, honestly, good for her.
Holy shit
@@juliap5907 Relax, wow. I don't see how this is worth insulting him. Are you condemning a man because he feels his life and family are not good for his wife (admittedly they aren't) and he doesn't feel like he deserves being married to her because he's so ashamed? That's weak, okay, but it's so so cruel to insult people for weakness
@@TheDexCrafter Maybe actually read the posts. OP herself condemns him and thinks his actions were selfish. She pretty much says he took the easy way out and is very much still fairly upset with him.
My parents shipped me with a dude I was friends with after he came out as a trans guy. I think that at that point they were so desperate for me to end up with a nice Jewish man they didn't even care about the trans aspect (I was 15 lmao). Jokes on them, I turned out to be a trans guy too.
Literally same💀💀 I'm Ashkenazi + Turkish Jew and my parents Literally made me get together with one of my friends after he came out as trans💀 like literally after he came out, BOOM I get shipped with him.... he was an asshole and I'm a closeted lesbian sooo
Yeah Jewish parents can be funny
We love trans-accepting Jewish parents who ship their kids. When I was in PRE SCHOOL, my parents convinced me that a boy in my class was my boyfriend, even though we were just buddies. Alas, I am now non-binary attracted to women and fellow enbies 😌
So naturally upon me coming out as lesbian (2 years before I came out as non-binary), my mom immediately asked who I have a crush on.
…Transjewish? Maybe. Who’s to say?
I very casually dropped that I'm bi in front of my grandparents from my Dad's side and while it took forever for them to come around to being open to LGBTQ people (my uncle came out to them and my Dad explained how that was a whole thing where it took them a long time to come around) with me they're basically just "as long as they're Jewish" which I consider a win seeing as they are both in their 90s now.
@@watwudbuffydo that's honestly such a big win lol
The "Friend group is queer" level was lowered to highschool for our group. We came back from summer break, hung out during lunch, and it turned out that we were pretty much all queer. "If you find one queer, you might find them all."
Seriously tho in grade 11 one of my friends came out and then slowly, over the next year almost all of us realized we were queer 😭
Nah all of us knew we were some kind of fruity. Like when we first met we started talking about books and one of our friends brought up that their favorite genre was romance and then just about everyone came out at once. We gravitated to each other without even realizing it.
hella relate to the slowly evolving opinion of my parents and some days I get nervous about trying to discuss it more at length
AYO Rin! 💖
One of my favourite “all my friends are queer” moments I’ve had was when I invited my entire friend group to an escape room (like 7 people) for my birthday and when we got to the second part of the room there was locked boxes and one of my buddies tried to open it with the wrong code (we thought it was the right code for 10 minutes) and they gave up, dropped the box then just declared: “ugh! This box is homophobic, do we have any straight people here??”
Pure silence.
We all looked around because no one was speaking up and had a good 3 minutes of sharing labels/pronouns we had a good laugh (I’ve been chuckling since) until FINALY one of my palls goes “uh yeah me, I’m straight” and tries to unlock the box themselves.
After that predicament we slowly lost our sanity in that room and when we got out we asked if we could hold both success and fail signs for our picture. Best party I’ve ever had :D
That sounds like a blast
that sounds like a core memory lmao
So I assume the straight friend couldn't get it either?😆
my dad is the opposite of a NIMBY transphobe. it was always "those trans people are getting to be a big problem!" until i got the courage to come out to him, and then he changed his mind. glad he did so we could actually have a relationship
"You realize, everybody is some kind of queer...." (Ying, 2022) adding it to my essay rn /j
Mmm, the “parents not bring outwardly homophobic but are NIMBY homophobic” is super relatable. It also gets more complicated when your parents are immigrants and their second language is English… yeah I’m not gonna try explaining my whole deal to my parents anytime soon.
Edit.) THE MAD SHATTER LMAOOO WHAT
I'm so glad I grew up with an open-minded mom. When I was 13 I started exploring my sexuality, and told her I was pansexual (rn I don't have any labels, as I'm not sure how I feel about specific body parts) and she just asked what it was compared to other sexualities. She, a Christian woman, just wanted to understand her child. She revealed 2 weeks after that she's bisexual and I convinced her to go on lesbian tinder :)
that's so wholesomeee
You are the first person I've ever seen encourage a parent to use a dating app. 😂 I love it.
Wow, I also identify as non-binary, asexual, and panromantic. Low key giddy to find someone else who uses the same labels.
I'm the idiot who tried to explain asexuality to my Asian parents... for some reason I thought they would be cool with it, because Asian parents are such prudes when it comes to talking about sex. I thought they would relish the knowledge that I won't be having sex, because it's one less thing for them to worry about (as in, no STDS or unexpected pregnancies). That's how my asexual brain thought anyways.
My mom responded by saying there's something wrong with me, like there's something wrong with my head. Then she ranted at me for a long time. She tried to blame my health (saying that it's bad and that's why I don't want to have sex). She tried to blame the western education system, the western culture, and a bunch of other things. She was a NIMBY homophobe, but she went full homophobe on me at that time, saying stuff like how it goes against nature and all that other nonsense.
My dad couldn't say much because my mom was already railing at me, but at the very end, he snuck in his two cents, which amounted to "it's just a phase."
We never talked about my sexuality after that. They pretend like the conversation never happened, but I know they still remember, because they never asked me about a significant other ever since. Haha...
I’m in a similar situation as an aroace person. I can’t really explain that I’m ace/aro to my family because I know for a fact that they’d think it was some sort of condition. I still wanted to come out tho, so I just in general said I was queer. They assumed lesbian and I haven’t corrected them :/
Oh god, this is super relatable as an Asian aro-ace. I grew up in a Christian household (with all the 2nd gen trappings that come with it). At a young age I was like, "damn, I'm SO GOOD at the celibacy thing I must be the ultimate super-Christian" 🙃 WELP, turned out to be something else.
When I told my mom she just said, "But you GOTTA have kids? It says in the Bible?? And our bloodline?"
Like, DAMN do you want me to fuck or not? Or is not wanting to have sex only acceptable when it's imposed on you and you need to "suffer" for it?
Similar thing happened to me (also enby, ace and panro). I know mum is homophobic but I thought hey, maybe she wouldn't have an issue if I'm ace, right? So one day I tried to hint towards the fact that I don't experience sexual attraction. She started crying and saying that it's not normal.
Needless to say. I am definitely not out yet and won't be until I'm stable and have a job/place to live.
@@TheNumnutRandomness yes, omg, it's so common in conservative Asian (and also other conservative) households that you don't really talk about sex because it's viewed as taboo and it's a silently forbidden subject to talk about but then there's also this concept of continuing the bloodline where it just assumes you must have a sexual relationship at some point (involving marriage and having kids with said partner you're married to), mostly before your thirties
I was told my hormones were wrong and that I should get checked by a doctor. So nope I'm never coming out
Parents shipping kids can be very wrong, my mom did it with me when I was 6yo in a very vocal way and the damn boy believed her, it was a nightmare! (The full story I posted at my Twitter a time ago).
I have very bad luck with parents, my father is bigoted with everything. Other day he was talking a lot of bullshit about nonbinary people and I was like "Oh, please, don't!" but I couldn't say anything because my life would be hell if I ever come full out of the closet.
It's just awful.
Just a little correction: this couple is not straight but straight-passing.
!! Thank you for the correction, I wasn’t sure how to phrase that
and god I feel you so much, parents really need to stop shipping literal children 😭 I’m sorry you had to deal with that
@@ying_verse It's okay, sometimes terms slip out of our minds 😆 And yeah, it was a lot. Even my teacher at that time was involved in this shipping. It didn’t last long, fortunately, I had to switch classes.
What do you mean straight passing? You mean two bi people who are opposite sex?
@@soulsearcher7077 A straight couple is when both individuals identify as heterosexual. If one of them are queer (any label) is not a straight couple but straight-passing, because people will perceive them as straight but one or both are not straight.
@@aroacecreature Well it’s still a hetero relationship. Even if the people are not. If I date another girl it’d be a homosexual relationship because we’re both female. Even if I myself am bisexual
God damnit the biphobic mom hurts to hear about, it took her ten seconds to go from caring about his fiancé to actively hating her
redditors really be like "my wife stole my credit card, tied me up in the basement, left with the kids, got a restraining order against me, and sent me to prison, so i sent her a letter saying that she's not very nice. AITA"
Seriously! These people all know they're not the asshole, it's an entertaining sub but more often than not there is no moral argument to be had there
I loved my mom's response, when I outed myself as bi. So I brought my then-girlfriend home and we acted like we were only friends. After she left my mom told me, I should introduce her to my brother, because they would make a good match. When I told her, she already was in a relationship with me, she was like "Oh, nice. She's really cute" - although she thought I was hetero. Like it wasn't a big thing for her and when I asked her how she feels about my sexuality, she said "You have even more opportunities to find someone, who makes you happy. I don't care which person will bring you that happiness."
I love her for this.
oh my god... NIMBY homophobic parents.. i felt that
isn't that kinda compromising? I don't mind. At least they respect my friends.
Same
@@sleepynotded The bar is so low it's in hell
@@ccasserole5267 facts😭
What is NIMBY homophobic?
My parents had “nothing against gay people”, but kicked me out and refused to call me their son lol
yo you still safe out there homie???
NIMBY Homophobic wow that’s a vocabulary Eureka
"vocabulary eureka" is a vocabulary eureka omg
The thing I don't understand about my parents, especially my father, is that he made a lot of homophobic remarks (e.g. when two dudes were kissing on TV he was visually disgusted and stated it as well), but then later, when I came out, said they already "knew" and that they were completely fine with it. What logic is that?! Those remarks my dad said made me develop internalized homophobia towards myself. It's a lot better but sometimes I think back about that and feel an inkling of that again.
happy pride from a fellow nonbinary panromantic ace!!! 🌈✨❤️
NONBINARY PANROMANTIC ACE SOLIDARITY LETS GOOOOOOO
@@ying_verse literallY the spider man meme SAME LABELS??? ✨👀
LESGOOO
Hahaha I always love seeing these things happen, I'm not a NB Panro ace myself (I narrowed myself down to GQ Pan² demi/allo) but it's so sweet when folks who feel comfortable under the same flags meet by chance.
I came out as ace by including it on a list of things to mention when going for an autism diagnosis. I know not all aces are autistic and not all autistic people are ace (and that most actually aren’t), but I also knew it’d be helpful for getting a diagnosis and it was. The psychiatrist also suggested he could “fix” me though (the implication being by therapy) so I never went back..
I’m 26, ace and queer. I want to start dating again but I haven’t had much luck on that front so gave up a few years back. My mum will occasionally say something like “everyone needs somebody. Doesn’t matter if man or woman or whatever, but everyone needs someone.” And that used to feel kind of bad to hear back when I wasn’t sure if I’d ever find or want a partner. However, my mother eventually started saying things more like “everyone needs someone. Even if that’s not a boyfriend or girlfriend necessarily. So long as you’ve got someone there for you in your life”. I can also tell she’s choosing her words to be more accepting of my identity, which I know she doesn’t fully understand but it’s nice she accepts me regardless. I think I would like a partner though. Guess I’m going to have to try dating again..
the thing about highschool friend groups is so true! at my HS all friend groups had something obvious in common, like there was the popular kids, the sporty kids, the art kids, etc. my friend group seemingly didn't have anything in common and we were the "rejects" bc we just didn't seem to fit in anywhere else. well, years later I looked back on it and realized we were all some kind of flavor of fruity. there's only one of my old friends who was chill in HS but apparently now is a toxic mean girl type, and another one who dated me and was very enthusiastic about us dating and then tried to insist she actually was 100% straight after we broke up because her mom made her realize she "wasn't like that". tbh I still kind of doubt that even those two are 100% cishet, lol.
Me trying to explain to my peers that just because I have long hair does not mean I'm queer 👁👄👁
(I mean I am but not for that reason)
Why do we all seem to have such similar experiences, weird lol
Happy Pride Yall 🏳️🌈
Me but because i had short hair in highschool lmao,
I got asked by someone over and over if i was a lesbian because i had short hair, which i had to explain that no, just because i have a hairstyle doesnt mean i like women,
Lmao im way older now i am starting to think im a little queer lmao, but my short hair was not the reason haha
I totally relate to the whole queer and parents thing. I come from a generally quite homophobic country and im gay myself (that moment when the kid from the homophobic country turns gay lmao) and thankfully my dad is very supportive and hes no longer homophobic after i moved away from that country but my mum is still a little "eeeeehhh" Shes gotten a bit better but all the "maybe you'll change your mind someday" or "but i want grankids" comments was something she use to say.
Im glad shes gotten better but shes still really sticks by gender stereotypes to the point that she doesnt want me to get both my ears pierced because "thats what women do" which is just kind of a bruh moment
But anyways, great video - the "mad shatter" thing was hilarious lmaoooo and happy pride month to everyone! 🏳🌈🏳🌈
Not sure which country you come from, but according to my Chinese parents, if you're just piercing one ear... a guy piercing his left ear is cool, but if he pierces his right ear, that's gay. Lmao. Like who decided that? It might just be a regional thing, since I'm not sure if all of China thinks that.
I'm ace and bi and my mum is generally okay, especially considering I'm from kind of homophobic country. But she doesn't understand the ace part. And she contributed it to my depression, which I did too when I started to realize that I'm ace, but now I know that's it's not that.
This is my first pride. I'm so proud to be a non binary bisexual disaster
Same
same but not enby
When I read this comment, I sat for a good 30 seconds because I relate to that, but Idk if I'm proud to be a disaster. 😂
no because all of my friends are queer/questioning rn. its a .... thing.
one of my favorite things has been helping a few of my questioning friends come into their identity. i have friends who struggle from the same levels of internalized homophobia i experienced when i first realized i was gay. for me, being attracted to the same gender was never the issue, it was just the absence of the other gender that was such a problem. i had thought i was bisexual but learned i was gay because of a friend, and because of her i am now doing so much better for myself. i wanna be that person for other people and i've already helped a few friends understand just how hard coming out and being confident can be
The mad shatter... HUUUHHHH???
That brother-in-law needs to be visited by The Mad Shatter. That is the only way to bring balance to the multiverse.
7 months later, I still endorse this solution.
Ying's laugh is so infectious that I laughed more with Ying than I did at the posts
this was a really fun visit, and your reading made the experience even better, thank you ying 😊😊
6:13
Something similar happened when I came out as non-binary. My mom was perfectly accepting of me being pansexual but not nonbinary.
What confuses me even more is my Dad who was originally not as accepting was perfectly fine with it.
They’ve both gotten better but it hurt to hear her say some key “I don’t accept you” phrases.
Happy pride month from a Chinese bisexual transwoman! I don't think I'll ever have that conversation with my parents or tell them that I'm trans, we didn't even talk about it when they found out I like men. My mom still want's me to marry a girl and have children though
My family used to ship me with my childhood friend who'd i'd known since i was 5, and since our older siblings were friends they thought it would be "cute" so to get them off my back I told my parents that he liked another one of our friends and told my siblings I was into girls... 9 years later and at least one of those turned out to be true 😳😳😳
the all my friends turned out to be queer story reminds me of my freshman year in hs. when the year first started, i was almost entirely alone with only a few (technically childhood friends) there with me. we knew each other from church, but i came out to two of them before the year and then the third one during the beginning. i hadn't had any classes with them, so for myself and my lonesome, i wanted to make more friends. there was a girl in my class who i thought was pretty cool, she had nice clothes, was getting along with people i wish i could, and so i decided to strike up a conversation. there was no actual conversation, but i complimented them and we started getting along. they ended up introducing me to their friends and i finally had people to talk to. since it was only the first few weeks of the year, the teacher had us make get to know me slides. they sat in front of me and as we worked on it, i saw a familiar flag color on the slide. they were pansexual! not to mention genderfluid as well. i quickly found out that the friends they introduced me to were also queer! many of them were trans, and as a transmasc myself, i felt very comfortable with them. it's a shame that we all ended up growing apart and not keeping touch though :(
All my friends after high school slowly came out one by one. It just kept going and despite being one of the only 'straight girls' in the group, I would not do ANY self reflection until after college. Anyway, I am queer, genderfluid, and super in love with my amazing partner.
I WENT THROUGH THE EXACT SAME THING HAHAHA happy for you!!!!!!
I’m in my 30s and never been married. My mom has gotten to the point that she says she doesn’t care if I bring home an alien - she just desperately wants grandkids. I did date someone who had a child from a previous relationship and my mom spoiled the HECK out of the kid 🤣🤣
as a cis woman who didn't realise I was bi until I was engaged to a man (who is now my husband and has supported and even helped me accept/admit my own sexuality to myself), I don't ever plan to come out to my parents. one, because their first response would be "but you're married to Aaron" as if that meant I could only be straight, and two, because they've already shown to me (even super recently) how textbook nimby homophobic they are. and I kinda just don't need that tbh
I lost my mind when I read "not generally homophobic" LMAOOO
the "mad shatter" story reminds me of how during my first year of university when i stayed in the dorms there was someone going around takin dumps both in the toilets and sometimes even ON the toilets (yes ON them) and never flushing them but also in the showers too. Not as bad as Ying's story but a bit uncanny this sort of thing has apparently happened to other ppl.
oh my god Ying I laughed so much over this clip. Great stories too all around. Also the Asian parents always shipping you with your friends was too real. I was like oh my god my parents did that too!
another edited banger by severus damnnnnn
WE STAN!! WE STAN AGGRESSIVELY
I tried explaining to my parents what an ‘Asexual’ is since I am a Asexual…and my mom goes “you know (my name), asexual only applies to animals who give birth without a male/female right?” 😭
I’d have backtalked her and said “Aren’t we animals too?” And I might insert a cheeky add. comment to her.
@@quitegauche I have pretty strict parents, so backtalking for me would not have been good
''The one thing I would never explain was like... asexuality.''
Me being an asexual aromantic agender putting off the conversation be like-
this reminds me of when i was talking about some of the ships in genshin to my 6 year old cousin and his reply was just “why are there so many gay people” 💀💀💀🤚
Happy pride !!!! My parents have always been kinda homophobic and I remember they were discussing how they hate that there were so many lgbt + stuff on media out loud at buffet and that was during pride too …that was really embarrassing
Same but my mom goes homophobic rants in the middle of stores all the time and it's embarrassing
This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and I am obsessed. I love the way you talk and am looking forward to binging your content.
I'm honored!!! hope you enjoy your stay :D
10:24
Shipping failed horribly in my life because almost everyone shipped me with my one guy friend, who I’d known since kindergarten. It went from me telling people “no we aren’t dating” and then them asking if he’s gay (he carried himself very fashionably).
Only for him to later cross my boundaries and us having a big falling out. I ended up with somebody nobody expected and am now in a very healthy relationship.
this was really entertaining omg i hope there are more to come in the future
I always find AITA stories very interesting and entertaining. I hope you do more of these 🙂
"Everybody...is some kind of queer!"
yup, yeah. pretty much LOL like I was never really sure why our friend group consisted of the people it did but uh...yep
The queer group thing is SO true. My first friend group in high school, the girl was out as bisexual at the time already. The guy came out as gay around his 19th bday and I’ve come to terms with my sexuality at the beginning of last year. (I knew since I was like 12, but I denied it because of homophobia around me 🫠 anyways i’m good now!)
In my second friend group from high school, one girl also swings more ways (idk if she’s bi or pan so she just ✨ swings ✨) and another is still figuring out their attraction (or rather lack of)
Yay for gay! All my friends apart from 2 are queer lmao.
pissgate reminds me of when my family was living with my grandma and we got literally kicked out on immediate notice because her drunk husband had pissed in the closet of the computer room and she decided that actually my teenage brother did it, and when we suggested it might have just been the dogs she had because we hadnt known at the time what really happened, she yelled "NO, THATS MAN PISS". lol. lmfao. imagine having to stay in a hotel and find a house within a week because of Man Piss™
everything turned out fine, even though we ended up in a place we hated for years because of it, but looking back feels so like, lmao??????? hello??????????????????
Honestly it's amazing to see the kind of community you've created with your audience! I've never seen any creators chat unanimously agree on anything and vote it to a 100% and the fact that there wasn't a single hateful remark in the chat? Freaking amazing. You should be very proud of yourself.
As a Reddit enjoyer this was a great laugh lmao happy pride month my fellow GSRM besties :D
- an AroAce :D))
Omg for the entire first story I literally forgot straight people existed 💀💀
I just assumed OP was a woman
THIS IS SUCH A MOOD LMFAOAOOASD;KFJALSK
No literally, queers just instinctively stick together or something, that's the only way I can explain it. Among my 10 closest friends, 7 are out and 2 are like...you sure you're not a little gae???
the ace discussion really got me, oof--i'm (she/her) arospec (maybe panromantic? idk haven't experience prolonged romantic attraction in like 5 years lol) ace and i don't know how to tell my parents that i'd rather be in a platonic life-partnership or queerplatonic relationship than get married, and i plan to avoid telling them for as long as possible. not sure about the not-having grandchildren part since i'm open to adopting with a platonic or qp partner but i'm def not gonna be having a bio kid and i'm not sure how they'll feel about that.
dam, aroace and NB, we both just went and told the universe "NO"
Casually skims over the part in the Peeman story that they forgive and forget (CAR STEALING…..etc etc)
Since high school, 4/6 of my friend group now identify as bi/pan. My sister’s best friend came out as a trans woman, and multiple friends-of-friends from that time have since come out as gay or lesbian. I know being queer when you’re young can sometimes be an isolating experience but trust, we’re everywhere.
When one of my close friends came out to their dad there were so many fights. In one of those fight their dad actually refused to buy their insulin (they’re diabetic)
Additional info: he refused to buy it for around 2-3 weeks when they only had enough to last themselves around a week. Also their mom couldn’t buy it because their dad was in charge of their medical aid.
@@sidewalkchxlk this is literally threatening someone's life what the HECK
9:20 i also tried to explain aroace to my parents and just stopped because they wouldn't get it. I'm not saying they aren't accepting of the lgbtqia+ (they are), it's just tiresome. But hey! My sister gets it (never knew finding out that your sister is also queer could be such a strong sibling bonding moment) so i'm fine. But I do still get the occasional "when you marry" or "when you get a boyfriend or girlfriend" comment and i'll just look at my sister and laugh awkwardly like: yeah nooo😂
"i'm fine with lgbts just not if i know them" bullshit is my "mother" (in quotation marks for. a lot of horrific reasons but this is not a therapist office slkjsfjlk i just refuse to call her my mother)
anyway she talks so much shit about how she would show up to pride parades and hug all the kids who's parents don't accept them. but in the same breath deadnamed me with no exception because it was "too hard :(" to call me by my name, conistantly said about aro and ace "you can't be nothing" (turns out im aroace whoopee), constantly objectified and pointed directly at my chest and said "why would you want to get rid of THOSE?", routinely denies my sister's bisexuality in a very racist way just because? she thinks asian men are attractive? (specifically "she doesn't like girls, she likes ASIAN boys" in that. very particular wasp woman tone. and my sister will go "no i like women too" and all that gets is "see, she likes asian boys"). also she's a terf and would routinely make my then a minor transfemme friend out to be some sort of dangerous predator while deadnaming her (because why would she respect someone? that's too hard :( ) and pointing out that because she didn't steal all my clothes and refuse me medical care she COULDN'T be a horrible mother
lmao okay
anyway i dont talk to her anymore but people who are very adamant about how not queerphobic they are. are queerphobic, usually
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Based on that info, I assume she has almost definitely said the paraphrasing of that line that so many shitty folks say to members of their bloodline. Family accepts, supports, and loves for who you are. That's not a mom, that's a birther. I hope you are doing well and have found folks that you can call your family by choice.
that whole "parents-shipping-queer-kids" reminded me how in my case it wasn't even my parents. it was my friends at the time shipping my ace arse and my (at the time unknown) gay friend 💀💀
I'm glad this is one of the very first introductions to your content and what your channel is like. This was immensely entertaining. ❤️
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH YING! this is my first pride, and at my sheltered place with my very open and fun friend group, it is very fun wishing ppl happy pride month with said friends and seeing them in confusion
I CANT STOP RELATING to the asian parents shipping me with my friends omg-
i have rlly short hair, and i rlly like it, im always being shipped with my guy friends for being a "tomboy", which is so so awkward cuz generally in the non romantic and platonic sense i like girls, so-
fr i hope everyone has a great month, and yr in general, and i hope one day all sexualities and identities are accepted all over!
,from,
an aroace
Good lord I went online and read the entire Peegate story. All I can say is holy shit. Ted was like. I guess an enabling sort of asshole but he seems to be working to improve and everything so nice. Hope OP and Ted are doing well these days cause damn.
Edit: there were more updates. F. still wishing OP the best
the updates are a ROLLERCOASTER
4:50 I love watching you realize/process what you just read.
When I came out to my mom it had two parts. I started with the bisexual part. She was confused, but clarified I was still monogamous to my partner, which of course I could say yes (bc it's a common misconception that bi = polyam). She took it okay, and said something like 'well as long as you're not dating a woman'... second part was telling her that my partner is transmasculine........ she and my dad had a lot to adjust to LOL but they're much better about it now and still love my partner.
I’m so glad it wasn’t just my parents that shipped me with people. My brother’s never got shipped with anyone, I did though. My mother shipped me with someone I TOLD HER I REJECTED just because he was the first person to ask me out. Then the next time someone asked me out, I told her again, (I had a crush on this guy but I left that part out because I rejected him anyways) AND SHE DIDN’T SHIP ME WITH HIM EVEN THOUGH HE ASKED ME OUT MORE THAN ONCE! 😭
I wasn’t too sad because it got super annoying but it was still a little bit upset.
im really glad for my parents. i havent had the aroace conversation with them but i have had the "i dont want to have kids" conversation and i was relieved when they straight up said they dont expect it of me and dont mind.
"My mom's not generally homophobic" Yeah... I thought my parents were accepting when I came out to them as bisexual in November 2021 and they were not. They literally said "oh it's just a phase !!" and now they keep saying "boyfriend" when they're talking about me dating in the future. Currently happy and pansexual
everyone eventually came out in our high school anime club too, it’s amazing how we all end up finding each other before we even realised things about ourselves >. < (also AITA is my fave Reddit board to get lost in scrolling on, good stuff)
This was sooo entertaining to watch. Thanks Ying for brightening my day with your funny take on these AITA stories. I loved this video and hope that you would consider making this a series. Sending good vibes your way! 😊💗🌸☺️
Yes we love all this kind of stories as AITA, but since it is so popular I always think of the rather high possibilities that a lot of stories are just made up. Really kills the enjoyment for me knowing that it might be just a fan fiction :(
Internet Karma still more relevant than anything.
Loved the video, I feel like these types of content open opportunity for the community to know you even better ❤. Also you're an amazing streamer/RUclipsr, it's fascinating how every kind of content is good content with you!
Happy pride one year later! Congrats on being RUclips’s pride creators list!
happy pride!!!!!!! and thank you ; v;
This video made me realise how lucky I’ve been to have such a supportive family who worked to understand all the gay stuff, talked with my therapist who explained stuff to them, helped me stand my ground when the school system was being shitty, and legally helped me change my name. Love you, mom and dad. You aren’t perfect, but you try hard enough that perfection doesn’t matter, just the love and work you put into trying to understand me
not the mad shatter 😭😭
This was a blast, ying! I hope there will be more of this.
My mom thought being non-binary was the same thing as being a furry 😭
This. This is it. The most bizarre confusion I have ever heard of.
W H A T
for me and my friends who grew up in a homophobic environment where dating the same sex being a school offense literally being in the school handbook, it was just some kind of an unspoken rule to be closeted unless proven outed. there's the case of diff degrees of being "outed" too, like how some parents are 'okay' w it as long as it doesnt cause them problems but might act up once it's been rubbed into their faces. that's why even if we know we're somewhat safe, we still want to make sure no one gets in trouble we could've avoided. it sucks to have to act this way, but it's better to safe than sorry bc it's someone else's safety that's on the line!
Me trying to explain my trans guy friend to my parents when he still has long hair. 👁👄👁. it's a struggle
I’m out to friends and some coworkers but not to my family yet and omg so much of this was relatable. The mention about closeted queer kids finding each other is so true, my mom even asked “were you the only straight kid from your friend group?” So I tried avoiding the question by saying something like “ah they’re all lgbt+ yeah” OTL
I feel weird being this early, but this was so funny. Please do more like this on stream
I need more of this type of content
Iv'e just started subscribing to you and I love your energy ♡u♡ and I'll whatch whatever you upload
My parents are coming around on the trans thing but yeah they don't get the aroace thing. grandkids are a big thing for my mom, too 😬
Literally subbing because of how joyous your laugh is, I love it
2:04 Idk why that "Oh, dear." felt so relatable.🤣
Got randomly recommended this video and you're honestly such a delight. Going through your catalog now to watch more!
the long zoom after "carpet muncher" KILLED ME
I’ve never laughed this hard out loud while watching youtube omg
I've heard peegate before. It gets SO MUCH WORSE. Remember when Ash said the cat was "probably marking his territory"? Ash had been stalking op for years, and thought peeing on her stuff would make her "his". That's what the update was. One of the other brothers had basically gone into ash's house to use the bathroom, the downstairs one was locked and the upstairs one was filled with pictures of op.
"when you're hot, you're hot". I'm afraid I'm gonna have to steal this.